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Speaker 1: My husband said I cheated and our biracial baby isn't his.

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Speaker 2: Then somehow it got even worse.

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Speaker 3: I'm always just like concerned with how it could get worse,

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Speaker 3: But somehow they always get worse.

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Speaker 1: My boyfriend asks for a paternity chest of our child.

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Speaker 1: As soon as the results come and show that he

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Speaker 1: is the father, I'm leaving him.

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Speaker 3: Damn, ro you just got his carmel back.

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Speaker 2: Now.

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Speaker 1: I'm a new mob to a baby boy who is

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Speaker 1: my pride and joy. And though it's been a roller

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Speaker 1: coaster adjusting to taking care of a baby, the past

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Speaker 1: few months have been great, tiring, but great. I have

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Speaker 1: a boyfriend of three years who is the first person

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Speaker 1: relationship wise that I've ever loved. And I thought that

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Speaker 1: we were doing great as new parents and also as partners.

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Speaker 3: You thought you were doing great by those first two sons, says,

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Speaker 3: might be a little hiccup.

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Speaker 1: On Friday, he came home and just straight up asked

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Speaker 1: me for a paternity test to prove the baby is his.

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Speaker 3: Why did he suddenly ask that there must be a

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Speaker 3: reason right just.

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Speaker 1: Like that, It was completely out of the blue. I

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Speaker 1: was putting dishes away, he asked for one like he

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Speaker 1: was asking me what was for dinner?

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Speaker 2: Babe, babe, do you mind?

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Speaker 3: You know, like after you're then stack of the dishwasher

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Speaker 3: getting a thirty tests.

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Speaker 1: I'm imagining it. It's like it's like he's like he's

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Speaker 1: giving an order. He's like, hey, maybe we could get

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Speaker 1: some Kalamari, some tempora and a paternity test.

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Speaker 2: Like what do you what do you think?

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Speaker 1: I'm a different race from him, But our child, apart

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Speaker 1: from the skin tone, is literally the mirror image from

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Speaker 1: pictures I've seen of him when he was a baby.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, look at your freakin family history right now, come on,

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Speaker 3: open up that scrap book. Look at your damnself, look

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Speaker 3: at yourself in the mirror.

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Speaker 1: I was stunned when he asked, and his reasons were

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Speaker 1: that he said he had to be sure he was

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Speaker 1: the father and he had to have certainty.

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Speaker 3: It's such a breach of trust, Like, all right, if

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Speaker 3: you're actually worried about cheating and like that's been a thing,

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Speaker 3: I understand that if the trust is there, you're kind

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Speaker 3: of like by asking, you're kind of breaking some trust

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Speaker 3: in the relationship.

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Speaker 2: I think we're only hearing op side of the story

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Speaker 2: so far, but from what we have seen.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, unless there's cheating. If there's cheating, then I understand.

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Speaker 3: If there hasn't been that I don't like if.

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Speaker 1: You walk in and your child's mother is a boeing it, okay,

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Speaker 1: well now we have some cause or whatever. Also, his

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Speaker 1: answer was like why because I had to have certainty.

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Speaker 1: It's like, why do you want to see the movies?

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Speaker 1: Like because I want to watch moving pictures on a screen.

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Speaker 1: It's like, that's not an answer. All I remember as

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Speaker 1: he was speaking is just immediately feeling pain. The man

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Speaker 1: I love doesn't trust me. He would actually believe that

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Speaker 1: I would do it with someone else, cheat on him,

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Speaker 1: and then try to pass off another man's baby as his.

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Speaker 1: I have never ever given him a reason to think

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Speaker 1: that I would cheat on him. I've tried to be

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Speaker 1: transparent and communicated, and it wasn't enough.

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Speaker 2: I feel for UOP. I feel for Uop.

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Speaker 3: It feels so hard just watching these relationships fall apart

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Speaker 3: in real time.

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Speaker 1: He told me that he would give me time to

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Speaker 1: think about this, that he wouldn't go behind my back

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Speaker 1: and do this test, but for our relationship to move forward,

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Speaker 1: he needs to be one hundred percent sure. This guy

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Speaker 1: just like he just keeps repeating the thing that is

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Speaker 1: like the worst thing to say to the stab. He

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Speaker 1: repeated this because he, in his words, needed me to

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Speaker 1: realize how serious he was.

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Speaker 2: I think we get it.

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Speaker 3: I think we get how serious you are.

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Speaker 2: Duty do you want a paternity test? Is that what

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Speaker 2: you're saying? Because I'm unclear.

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Speaker 1: After thinking for a couple of days, I'm going to

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Speaker 1: allow him this paternity test because I have nothing to hide.

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Speaker 1: I've never cheated and would never have cheated on him.

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Speaker 1: Once it's proven that he's the father, I'm ending it,

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Speaker 1: leaving the same day, and I'm going to try my

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Speaker 1: best to be a cooperative co parent with him.

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Speaker 2: It's done. She's made up her mind. Bro.

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Speaker 1: In the meantime, I'm coming up with my exit plan,

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Speaker 1: a place to live, a lawyer to work out a

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Speaker 1: custody arrangement in court, et cetera. I can't even tell

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Speaker 1: my family or friends right now because it would go nuclear,

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Speaker 1: and my first priority is our child. I'm not asking

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Speaker 1: for advice or reassurance or to explain aside. I'm just

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Speaker 1: realizing this part of my life is now over. What

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Speaker 1: a way to start the new year. Huh, God, damn.

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Speaker 3: I understand though, Like you know, once the trust in

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Speaker 3: the relationship is broken, like it's hard to get that back,

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Speaker 3: and obviously he doesn't trust.

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Speaker 2: Her and it all seems for nothing.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I guess you must have suspicions of their cheating,

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Speaker 3: but like he didn't even give any good reason.

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Speaker 2: He'd give any reason, no.

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Speaker 1: Good reasons, no good reason. He's like, I want it

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Speaker 1: because I want it.

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Speaker 3: I totally get where Ope's coming from. That.

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Speaker 2: Damn, there's enough date. Give it to me. A final update.

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Speaker 2: It's short and sweet.

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Speaker 1: I left, things have gone downhill and under advisement, I

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Speaker 1: can't really discuss it until things are settled in court.

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Speaker 1: I guess I'm really a cautionary tale on what can

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Speaker 1: go wrong. Please, if you have any concerns with your partner,

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Speaker 1: discuss things beforehand, especially before you have a child. Thank

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Speaker 1: you all again for your different perspectives. Hoping to have

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Speaker 1: everything settled eventually.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, have all those conversations beforehand, but damn, opfeel for you,

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Speaker 3: feel for you? Wait John, so like really quick, doctor

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Speaker 3: okop before in another episode where like every birth should

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Speaker 3: come with a paternity test, like automatically, do you remember

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Speaker 3: what we said that?

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Speaker 1: Yeah, that's what a ton of people say on these

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Speaker 1: stories too.

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Speaker 3: So with that being on the record as something that

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Speaker 3: we both have said, is it truly a big deal

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Speaker 3: to ask for a paternity test? And why do you

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Speaker 3: think of this context this time is different?

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Speaker 1: Here's the thing the situation with like I think we

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Speaker 1: were talking about it in the context of like literally

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Speaker 1: like when you go to a hospital and like you

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Speaker 1: have a baby, they do all these procedures, they clean

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Speaker 1: it's done there in that process.

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Speaker 3: So John's saying you shouldn't even have to ask for

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Speaker 3: it be already given to you.

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Speaker 1: I think it's probably a good idea to where it's

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Speaker 1: like confirmed every every time.

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Speaker 3: Okay, So then I ask you, so obviously this is

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Speaker 3: this is that different relationship. But do you think if

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Speaker 3: you were to have a child with your significant other

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Speaker 3: that you would want the default to be them giving

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Speaker 3: you a paternity test.

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Speaker 1: I don't want the default of them giving me the

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Speaker 1: paternity test. It could be a good idea, yeah, for

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Speaker 1: the people who have had their partners cheated right in

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Speaker 1: the hospital for that to happen where there's like no

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Speaker 1: finger pointing.

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Speaker 2: But the truth is revealed.

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Speaker 3: You don't want to have to start the revolution. You

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Speaker 3: want the revolution to have already started and it just

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Speaker 3: already be benefiting.

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Speaker 1: I just think, like just reading of all the stories

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Speaker 1: of people who did have a child with another person,

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Speaker 1: I never even consider this ever before we started the show,

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Speaker 1: not once. But I'm like, damn, this is crazy. So

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Speaker 1: you're asking me, would I ever ask my partner for

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Speaker 1: a paternity test?

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Speaker 2: Hell? No, I would never.

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Speaker 1: I would never do that unless there's some super curious evidence,

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Speaker 1: super serious evidence.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, if there's something sus Yeah, there's something super suss.

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Speaker 1: Other than that, like, I have no I have no

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Speaker 1: reason for me to ask my partner. That's the problem

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Speaker 1: with this scenario is because Opie's partner literally completely destroyed

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Speaker 1: the trust of the relationship by asking for the paternity test.

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Speaker 3: Because what he's really saying, he's not asking for a

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Speaker 3: paternity test. He's saying, I think you cheated.

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Speaker 2: I think you cheated. That's the problem. It's it's low key.

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Speaker 1: I don't know if I'll say good, but like this

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Speaker 1: kind of revealed the giant red flag that like if

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Speaker 1: he literally doesn't trust you with that and has the

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Speaker 1: goal to go and ask you for it.

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Speaker 3: Like like and do what he did. He's not a keeper,

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Speaker 3: not a keeper exactly. So to summarize, John wants everyone

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Speaker 3: to get a paternity test. He wishes that was the norm,

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Speaker 3: because it is not the norm. Because he trusts his partner,

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Speaker 3: he's not going to ask for it himself. We need

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Speaker 3: to literally have you know, those T shirt cannons. We

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Speaker 3: literally need to fund a program shooting paternity tests in

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Speaker 3: like people's windows are on their Like, you get a

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Speaker 3: patarditya di st, you get a paternity test, and you're

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Speaker 3: gonna patter any.

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Speaker 2: Tests Oprah paternity tests.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, bro, that's that's what okay op show will become