WEBVTT - Something to talk about 

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<v Speaker 1>Welcome to Before Breakfast, a production of I Heart Radio.

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<v Speaker 1>Good Morning. This is Laura. Welcome to the Before Breakfast podcast.

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<v Speaker 1>Today's tip is to find a hobby. Not only is

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<v Speaker 1>a hobby fun, it makes you a much more interesting

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<v Speaker 1>person should anyone wind up talking to you. Certain things

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<v Speaker 1>we do because we have to work assignments, caring for

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<v Speaker 1>family members. Hobbies, on the other hand, are done solely

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<v Speaker 1>for fun. Whittling, playing an instrument as an adult, gardening,

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<v Speaker 1>scrap booking puzzles. Usually they involve a little bit of

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<v Speaker 1>skill and so can wind up putting you in a

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<v Speaker 1>state of flow, that magical place where things are difficult

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<v Speaker 1>but doable, and so time can seem to stand still.

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<v Speaker 1>This is an apparently fun and if time diary studies

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<v Speaker 1>are to be believed, a lot more fun than passively

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<v Speaker 1>sure like watching TV. But beyond that, hobbies solve a

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<v Speaker 1>common problem. We all wind up needing to make small talk.

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<v Speaker 1>From time to time we talk about the weather, We

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<v Speaker 1>inevitably asked what people have been up to, and that's

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<v Speaker 1>when the conversation often stops because the answer is often

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<v Speaker 1>nothing much. What do you do with that? Okay, I

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<v Speaker 1>guess I've been up to nothing much too, but a

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<v Speaker 1>hobby gives you something a little different to talk about.

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<v Speaker 1>So my friend and I have been building a vegetable

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<v Speaker 1>garden in my backyard, or my husband and I are

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<v Speaker 1>taking an online photography class, or I just learned how

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<v Speaker 1>to play Happy Birthday on the ukulele. These all offer

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<v Speaker 1>opportunities for back and forth. You report on how you've

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<v Speaker 1>been learning Spanish on a language app, and your conversation

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<v Speaker 1>partner can then talk about her family's trip two years

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<v Speaker 1>ago to Spain, or how her and started a Spanish

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<v Speaker 1>language tutoring business. There are just so many more possible

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<v Speaker 1>avenues then not much, which is the conversational equivalent of

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<v Speaker 1>a dead end. So think about how you'd like to

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<v Speaker 1>answer the question of what have you been up to?

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<v Speaker 1>My guess is that you already have some ideas of

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<v Speaker 1>fun things you'd like to pick back up. But if not, well,

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<v Speaker 1>time to start experimenting. Ask around, what do friends and

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<v Speaker 1>family do in their spare time? Bird watching, embroidery, who knows?

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<v Speaker 1>Scroll through lists of online classes. You might find a

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<v Speaker 1>new kind of craft or music, or an activity like

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<v Speaker 1>magic tricks that you hadn't considered it before. Peruse any

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<v Speaker 1>listings on bulletin boards at your library or community center

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<v Speaker 1>or house of worship. Maybe there's a group for edgy

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<v Speaker 1>quilters that meets by zoom on Tuesday nights and can

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<v Speaker 1>recommend how to get started and the best places for materials.

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<v Speaker 1>Go ahead and crowdsource on social media. What do other

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<v Speaker 1>people like? I wound up buying a knife throwing set

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<v Speaker 1>for my thirteen year old and me so we can

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<v Speaker 1>improve our knife throwing skills after a blog reader suggested it.

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<v Speaker 1>You never know when we might get drafted into the

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<v Speaker 1>Hunger Games. In general, the less stuff your hobby requires,

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<v Speaker 1>the better convenience. Trump's most things in life. And it

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<v Speaker 1>is easier to pull out cross stitching than uneasil, a

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<v Speaker 1>canvas and some oil paints. If the hobby can be

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<v Speaker 1>done in bits of time, even better. That's why a

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<v Speaker 1>lot of people are taking up foreign languages with duo

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<v Speaker 1>Lingo or Rosetta Stone. All those little bits of practice

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<v Speaker 1>add up. But in any case, all this time at

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<v Speaker 1>home not doing much is starting to make people feel

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<v Speaker 1>not just bored, but boring. And I don't want people

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<v Speaker 1>to be boring. I want you to have something to

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<v Speaker 1>talk about when you've got those awkward five minutes before

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<v Speaker 1>your zoom meeting officially starts. When you've got a hobby

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<v Speaker 1>that you're really into, well, the question what you've done

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<v Speaker 1>lately won't stump you at all, and you know you'll

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<v Speaker 1>have a lot of fun in the meantime. This is Laura.

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<v Speaker 1>Thanks for listening, and here's to making the most of

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