Speaker 1: I think with men, right, when when we go out
Speaker 1: and and and cheat, or when we're doing our stuff
Speaker 1: like that, I think it's because of something wrong with us.
Speaker 1: Men will lie convinced themselves something is wrong with you
Speaker 1: to make themselves feel better. It's been a long time
Speaker 1: since we had a fucking engineer. Yeah you ran him off.
Speaker 1: He went that, kids said, he said, yeah, I'm not
Speaker 1: coming back. Really he got something else going on where
Speaker 1: he just uh, he was busy. But that's how I felt.
Speaker 1: I don't think he gave us an f you. I
Speaker 1: just together the stuff to do. But what's crazy, right
Speaker 1: is um, you get spoiled by having certain people. And
Speaker 1: I was spoiled by having him. But when we did
Speaker 1: the episode about Satan and uh and and God, I
Speaker 1: noticed how destored it it sounded. So it's good having
Speaker 1: to say it here to do the ship say getting
Speaker 1: engineer and everything, saying the and all that. And finally,
Speaker 1: the person we wanted to start the podcast with. We
Speaker 1: always said she was gonna be like a monthly guest
Speaker 1: because exactly it was like to have her come in
Speaker 1: as a monthly you know, a voice, because you know
Speaker 1: I would love her every week. But that's just not realistic.
Speaker 1: So a monthly voice, you know, and as a sister
Speaker 1: is dope because she's a therapist, all kind of fly
Speaker 1: ship like that. So my dog Glenna from the beach man,
Speaker 1: I'm sorry, hold up your professional named professional doctor. I know,
Speaker 1: Glenna the loke. Let me telling people my secrets. Dot,
Speaker 1: I sound like you got a low rider. Do the
Speaker 1: loke and the dog? No sillings feel mede it? You
Speaker 1: know we're gonna figure it out. Yeah, it is all good.
Speaker 1: We got time, um now fitnish telling me? So what
Speaker 1: exactly do you know about the Bill Gates ship in bezos? Like?
Speaker 1: What what's the rumor? Like? So obviously you ain't thank you, honey,
Speaker 1: even though you white and he white. Naturally, you know,
Speaker 1: we all think y'all know each other, which is racist,
Speaker 1: but in simple you know, arithmetic based you know, population charts,
Speaker 1: were a bit of a larger community, so it's harder
Speaker 1: than know everybody. And when they have a team of
Speaker 1: security as thick as those two gentlemen, it's very hard
Speaker 1: to you know, intermingle. Would you hang with them if
Speaker 1: you're could? I couldn't tell you. I don't know anything
Speaker 1: about them, probably not Bill. Why would you not with
Speaker 1: Bill game? I think Bill's um bizarre personality, uh Bezels.
Speaker 1: I think it's just a monster, not in a bad way.
Speaker 1: He he's, like we were saying a second, he he
Speaker 1: is a driven economic mind, mastermind. He's He's not a
Speaker 1: guy who's stuck in an abstract world of code nerd
Speaker 1: recluse type guy like Bill. He seems like a guy
Speaker 1: who might be tiring to hang out with a long
Speaker 1: time age, sleeps about seven minutes a week, but he's
Speaker 1: probably pretty cool guy basil status beils. So what do
Speaker 1: you know about the whole situation? Very little? I mean
Speaker 1: from what you read, because I wouldn't read about From
Speaker 1: what I understand, there was some cheating involved that got
Speaker 1: to the point where it was time to go for
Speaker 1: the wives, and I would be willing to bet that
Speaker 1: the way the first one went probably gave the impetus
Speaker 1: for the second one to go. Mm hm did you
Speaker 1: read about that? Just about the same that you know.
Speaker 1: It's a whole lot of money, a whole lot of
Speaker 1: assets being split up behind some cheating that they were
Speaker 1: finally like, I'm not gonna do this anymore. And I
Speaker 1: don't know really what the prenup situation was with Bill
Speaker 1: because they got married. He had billions of dollars. He
Speaker 1: didn't have a hundred, but he had like ten, which
Speaker 1: is enough significant. So if somebody got a billion dollars, though,
Speaker 1: wouldn't you expect them to have some bitches? Honestly, I
Speaker 1: know that's that's a hard place to put you in
Speaker 1: the corner, and I don't want to put you in
Speaker 1: that corner. I'm just being honest. If somebody got billions
Speaker 1: of dollars, you would think they would have women like
Speaker 1: they would have some women. No, they don't. Even women
Speaker 1: don't believe that. I don't even know that. It's that
Speaker 1: we don't believe it. I think maybe even after a while.
Speaker 1: I don't know how long either of them were married,
Speaker 1: but it wasn't a quick marriage, right something right, So
Speaker 1: I think even after a while, it's like I'm still alive.
Speaker 1: So I could be forty fifty sixty and I might
Speaker 1: have another twenty thirty forty years ahead of me where
Speaker 1: I don't have to wonder, are you out somewhere? Are
Speaker 1: you gonna embarrass me? Are you gonna get caught up?
Speaker 1: Is one of these women that you're messing with? Gonna
Speaker 1: like go public and just embarrass the mess out of me,
Speaker 1: So let me cut my houses in. So women, really
Speaker 1: it's about embarrassments, you know. That's one that's especially one fact,
Speaker 1: and I don't want to speak for them. Would it
Speaker 1: be worth something though, if you were specifically, say Bill
Speaker 1: Gates's wife, to know that you had the luxury of
Speaker 1: sitting back and having him sleep with women besides you
Speaker 1: so that you didn't have to deal with it. It
Speaker 1: depends on why you got married and why you're still married,
Speaker 1: because if you got married for fidelity, that's not a luxury,
Speaker 1: that's an insult, true. So it just it just depends,
Speaker 1: you know, if if if you got married for love,
Speaker 1: then you don't care about any of this. Split this up,
Speaker 1: I don't care about any of it. But if you
Speaker 1: got married as part of a transactional arrange meant well
Speaker 1: then by all means you live your life. I'm gonna
Speaker 1: live mine. Oh. I just would think if a dude
Speaker 1: had a billions of dollars, and as a woman, I
Speaker 1: would think like he probably got some women. I'd like
Speaker 1: to think if you had those kind of resources, you
Speaker 1: could suppress the news quote unquote, I mean you got
Speaker 1: more money than King Henry the eighth, and there weren't
Speaker 1: a lot of mistresses causing a lot of problems in
Speaker 1: the kingdom during his reign. I mean you probably could,
Speaker 1: you know, manipulate the media, manipulate the women. I like,
Speaker 1: for example, Donald Trump had the contract with the with
Speaker 1: the porn star. She came out whatever she had to
Speaker 1: pay him. She's gonna die poor, Like she's gonna be
Speaker 1: paying paying pieces of lawyer fees for the next forty years.
Speaker 1: Over that, we were just talking about Trump being the beast.
Speaker 1: Trump is a beast, that's like real beast. Trump is
Speaker 1: such a beast, is scary. He has metabolized the caffeine
Speaker 1: and diet coke with the trans fats and McDonald's hamburgers
Speaker 1: and harnessed like cold fusion. It's unbelievable. That toxicity is
Speaker 1: just the next level. Man. I love that dude, man like,
Speaker 1: and it's not I genuinely love him, but I'm such
Speaker 1: a fan of the tyrant he is because I'm a
Speaker 1: tyrant myself. So to see it done at the highest levels,
Speaker 1: like without a funk giving like he's the stingiest motherfucker
Speaker 1: ever because he genuinely doesn't give a fuck, Like he
Speaker 1: won't give one fuck. He come out with that fucked
Speaker 1: up to pay at tire suit and be popping it
Speaker 1: like he's the freshest nig out on the scene. Oh yeah,
Speaker 1: his and his old lady be looking at me like
Speaker 1: she like he looked at her like you know, like
Speaker 1: his attitude is always like I never really thought he
Speaker 1: was like a racist. I thought he was like a
Speaker 1: mob boss. He always came across like a mob boss,
Speaker 1: like I'm not gonna explain nothing to you. Who are you.
Speaker 1: I remember the time he was with his old lady
Speaker 1: and and uh, I think he was supposed to hold
Speaker 1: the door. He even hold the dude. I just just like, bro,
Speaker 1: this dude is like the real deal. He doesn't have
Speaker 1: time for that ship. It's like yo, walking the door,
Speaker 1: your arms work. But see not even that when we're
Speaker 1: talking about like, well he got money, So she stays,
Speaker 1: I wouldn't be surprised if one day she was like, yeah,
Speaker 1: I'm out, Well, there's already a proof of a proof
Speaker 1: of concept with that in the form of us first wife,
Speaker 1: who the media is sprinted to to get any sort
Speaker 1: of dirt on him. And she was like No, it's great.
Speaker 1: She was a player. She's got nothing to winner of
Speaker 1: that years removed. But but I don't think he's just okay,
Speaker 1: that's fun to be a lie. I ain't got tell
Speaker 1: that lie. Um. I don't think he dogs her. I
Speaker 1: think she loves the fact he's a tyrant. Well that's
Speaker 1: that's what I'm saying. It depends on, like what was
Speaker 1: the foundation of your marriage. If you like his money,
Speaker 1: you like his power, you like the fact that he
Speaker 1: come out with that trash to pay and he don't
Speaker 1: care about nobody, and that's attractive to you, then by
Speaker 1: all means open your own doors and live your life.
Speaker 1: Doesn't that kind of confident have to be attractive? Like
Speaker 1: it's like a rooster. It's like five in the morning,
Speaker 1: you know, everybody, Actually that's a great call because his
Speaker 1: hair looks like the top of a rooster. And even
Speaker 1: the slightest of breezes, like like it's like a rooster.
Speaker 1: You're crawling at five in the morning. Like if you
Speaker 1: ever see a rooster crow, like at five four in
Speaker 1: the morning, it's the most confident thing you ever see.
Speaker 1: It's like they clear, they throat, they position themselves and
Speaker 1: they just like and they just let the whole fall
Speaker 1: arm know what it is, and then they just stepped
Speaker 1: down like, yeah, I did that. I like that kind
Speaker 1: of confidence, and I think that you know what, But again, like,
Speaker 1: what's the foundation of why you got married? If you
Speaker 1: got married because you wanted a certain lifestyle, but then
Speaker 1: you're not so concerned about whether or not he's sweet
Speaker 1: to you or hold your hand or holds the umbrella
Speaker 1: over you. Some women don't care about that exactly, So
Speaker 1: what's the basis? Whereas if you got married because you
Speaker 1: want a companion or you want to be in love
Speaker 1: with your best friend, but then you can keep all
Speaker 1: that money. What happens behind closed doors means more to
Speaker 1: me than your rooster crowing at five in the morning,
Speaker 1: Yeah for sure. But like it's it's also personality and compatibility.
Speaker 1: Like I feel like a lot of times women want
Speaker 1: the guy who's hard and soft simultaneously, Who's that's what
Speaker 1: this and that never turned off heavy and light women want.
Speaker 1: I always say this marriage and theory should be like
Speaker 1: a fairis will. Somehow women want to turn it into
Speaker 1: a roller coaster. That's they like, that's what they do.
Speaker 1: I know, Glenna is true. Maybe you you want to
Speaker 1: do maybe not you. But women marriage should be like
Speaker 1: a fairest will should be like a don't say maybe
Speaker 1: not you. There's not a woman on earth that doesn't
Speaker 1: apply to it whatever in real life. So I'm gonna
Speaker 1: need you to be like roller coasters sense like roller coasters. No,
Speaker 1: no more, I don't go old. Make this makes sense
Speaker 1: because marriage should be smooth and steady, consistent to monorail
Speaker 1: if not the fairest wi a fairest will. But because
Speaker 1: as you get older, right, that fairs will. So when
Speaker 1: you're a kid, right when you're a kid, the fairest
Speaker 1: will is like the greatest ride in the world when
Speaker 1: you're a little kid. Then when you kind of start
Speaker 1: coming into like you know, teenage and ship like that,
Speaker 1: that motherfucker is horrible. That it's the slowest ship in
Speaker 1: the world. And then you become like your four flashed
Speaker 1: teenager you're young adult, that motherfucker is dreadful. You only
Speaker 1: find some solid cynic when you're like on a hot
Speaker 1: date for me and you got a girl, and you
Speaker 1: know that's when you're doing it. But it also so
Speaker 1: it gets boring as you go through all your adult years.
Speaker 1: But as you get older, you know, you start seeing
Speaker 1: like older people in the fifties and sixties, they own
Speaker 1: that motherfucker and it is the time of their life.
Speaker 1: So I think that's how marriage. I think marriage starts
Speaker 1: off as it's super exciting because you like learning somebody right,
Speaker 1: and you just it's just this thing and you just
Speaker 1: keep it going and eventually it gets born. You know,
Speaker 1: you're like yeah, And for us, I think we look
Speaker 1: at it like that, so we just okay with it.
Speaker 1: Somehow women want to turn that motherfucker into a roller coaster.
Speaker 1: As you think that, we insert certain things to create
Speaker 1: it's citement subconsciously in the form of problems. Yeah, subconsciously.
Speaker 1: There's a book that talks about that concept called The
Speaker 1: Big Leap. It talks about the idea of people having
Speaker 1: a hard time with stuff just being okay or just
Speaker 1: really being happy and sabotaging and creating scenarios and non
Speaker 1: certain type of issues and not happy content because happy
Speaker 1: is so personal, you mean, content like things are going
Speaker 1: good and women will be like, let me throw a
Speaker 1: wrench in the mechanics. Is it fair to say that,
Speaker 1: like for men in a relationship, it's about the interpersonal
Speaker 1: relationship is for women in the relationship. It's about the
Speaker 1: lifestyle dynamic of the relationship, all right. So okay, so
Speaker 1: some of it has in my opinion, personal opinion, some
Speaker 1: of it has to do with everybody's attachment style, so
Speaker 1: there's four different types of attachment styles. And then some
Speaker 1: of it has to do with Masslow's hierarchy of needs. Right,
Speaker 1: so your basic needs, food, clothing, shelter. Everybody has the
Speaker 1: basic need for it, and you can't go beyond that
Speaker 1: until your basic needs are met, Which is funny. I
Speaker 1: told Pete this is how like in our community, because
Speaker 1: we grew up so fragile and messed up in so
Speaker 1: many years of oppression fracturesses. The concept of saving twenty
Speaker 1: dollars a week to create true wealth in the long
Speaker 1: term doesn't even seem realistic because the basic needs are not. Mad.
Speaker 1: It's so hard, but go ahead, I'm sorry, but so
Speaker 1: that's that's exactly it. Trying to make sure that I
Speaker 1: got like, I mean, you know, some hood stuff. It's like,
Speaker 1: all right, I got a car, but I don't have
Speaker 1: no gas money, and you can stay home and take
Speaker 1: care of my kids. So we're gonna piece up you know,
Speaker 1: you give me this, and then you give me that,
Speaker 1: and we're gonna piece up and we're gonna make it work. Right,
Speaker 1: So we're just trying to meet our basic food, clothing,
Speaker 1: and shelter needs. If you grew up trying to meet
Speaker 1: those needs, when you get become of age, like saying
Speaker 1: your twenties, you try to enter into a relationship, you're
Speaker 1: still trying to meet those basic needs. So if I'm
Speaker 1: a woman and I'm trying to get my basic needs met,
Speaker 1: then yes, a man with money is going to seem appealing. Yes,
Speaker 1: it's like, oh my goodness, he gonna take care of me.
Speaker 1: He got this, he got that, And I'm like, okay, great,
Speaker 1: I'm gonna gravitate towards him. So that might work for
Speaker 1: a period of time, but after a while, it's no
Speaker 1: longer going to be enough. It's no longer about just
Speaker 1: lifestyle as I started, because as you move up Maslow's hierarchy,
Speaker 1: self actualization comes a couple of levels up. So once
Speaker 1: we do stabilize, and I was like, well, wait, I
Speaker 1: need this, I need affection, I need companionship. But I
Speaker 1: didn't secure that I hear somebody that's gonna give me
Speaker 1: a house. They just added ship on the list, but
Speaker 1: I didn't. I have some stuff, you know what I mean,
Speaker 1: Like just as a woman, it's like, oh, I didn't
Speaker 1: even think to look at that because I was still
Speaker 1: in crisis mode so much realize and then I wanted
Speaker 1: so much of that. I didn't realize that I needed
Speaker 1: the ship after that. That speaks to women's they're insatiable.
Speaker 1: That's not fair. It's true, it may not be fair.
Speaker 1: Factual women are insatiable. Was a strong word. But all right, sure,
Speaker 1: that's that is a strong word. I have ran it
Speaker 1: a good Yeah, I have ran into too many situations
Speaker 1: where that is valid. I've never not mother, stepmother, grandmother, aunties,
Speaker 1: big home girls, one in the room, ever heard of
Speaker 1: a woman who didn't want something more at any given time. No,
Speaker 1: it's always something more, see something or something I think
Speaker 1: us we want something. Women want something more like. And
Speaker 1: I don't mean because it's not negative or positive, right,
Speaker 1: it's just creation. Yeah, I mean, and I probably could
Speaker 1: figure out what it is, you know, based off of
Speaker 1: how we were created and purpose. But sure you did
Speaker 1: remember that. But okay, so but to that point, right,
Speaker 1: so would you agree that women consistently want something more.
Speaker 1: I have a hard time with it being just women,
Speaker 1: Like we could have this conversation that we can focus
Speaker 1: on women, but the reality is it's men too, Like there,
Speaker 1: I've heard of plenty of men that have either left
Speaker 1: their wives or just not been content with the relationship
Speaker 1: because it's like, yo, like, let's grow this relationship, let's
Speaker 1: grow a business, let's take it to the next level.
Speaker 1: And she's like, I thought we were good, Like I
Speaker 1: married you because this is what you said you wanted,
Speaker 1: So bet, this is what we're gonna live on. So
Speaker 1: I don't don't man has left for woman because he
Speaker 1: didn't want to start a business with her because he
Speaker 1: wanted to start Well, just I'm just using that as
Speaker 1: an example, but yes, that actual example has happened. I've
Speaker 1: heard of men being like, yo, she's not affectionate, Like dude, No, well,
Speaker 1: I mean that's something. Are those anomalous? What do you mean?
Speaker 1: Are we attempting to just sidestep the reality of the
Speaker 1: conversation by pointing out anomalous occurrences and defining the rule
Speaker 1: by the exception. No, I wouldn't go as far as
Speaker 1: to say that, and that's fair to even ask that
Speaker 1: I wouldn't go as far as to say that, I
Speaker 1: just don't think I'm not in all women all men
Speaker 1: person just off top to begin with. So I'm never
Speaker 1: going to say like, yes, all women are like this.
Speaker 1: But we mean so when we say, oh, right, were
Speaker 1: always referring to majority preponderance of I mean not not
Speaker 1: seven out of ten, because you start going into other
Speaker 1: things to figure out the other three. And then there's
Speaker 1: the anomally the bell curve, everything that sticks up above
Speaker 1: the first couple inches in the bell. That's what we're
Speaker 1: talking about. So back to the digress. Right, So as
Speaker 1: far as men how they see women, right, that's the thing, right, Um,
Speaker 1: marriage should be like affair as well. Right, you enjoy
Speaker 1: it when you first get on it, then you haven't
Speaker 1: been on it long enough so it gets boring. Then
Speaker 1: you find moments that you enjoy about it. Then as
Speaker 1: you get older, you're glad you're on it. You won't
Speaker 1: even think about a roller coaster. I mean that's not
Speaker 1: even a possibility. At times you know you want to
Speaker 1: abandon it. Um, So you're saying that you feel like
Speaker 1: men are always content, like once they get into a relationship,
Speaker 1: they're content um, if they're not emotionally stupid and getting
Speaker 1: into the relationship in the first place. There's a lot
Speaker 1: of men who are trying to get into a relationship
Speaker 1: to appease temporary void or whatever. So they get into
Speaker 1: a relationship because they just need a relationship, and when
Speaker 1: the dust cells, they figure out this wasn't the right one. Um.
Speaker 1: And that's true both directions. But that's that's I don't
Speaker 1: I don't think that it's just women that all of
Speaker 1: a sudden want to roller coaster. I think men make
Speaker 1: that decision to That's what I was gonna say about
Speaker 1: attachment style, About your attachment style when you come into
Speaker 1: a relationship. There's four types of attachment healthy, avoidant, ambiguous,
Speaker 1: and anxious and so depending on But I don't think
Speaker 1: manly Ferris wheels for roller coasters. You don't think men
Speaker 1: don't get into the relationship and realize, oh, I mean
Speaker 1: I'm involving and realizing that I just want so much more.
Speaker 1: It's like they go, fun, this isn't what I thought
Speaker 1: it was gonna be. I know what I want, This
Speaker 1: isn't it. And then and then they sneak off the
Speaker 1: roller coaster. The Ferris wheel and go ride a roller
Speaker 1: coaster and on the marriage side with the ferris wheel parallel.
Speaker 1: I think marriage the lifestyle should be something like, at
Speaker 1: least as adults. I don't want to go sit on
Speaker 1: the ferris wheel by myself. I don't enjoy the ferris
Speaker 1: wheel by myself, but sitting on the ferris wheel with
Speaker 1: you makes it an enjoyable experience. So it's not quite
Speaker 1: so much about the ferris wheel as it is about
Speaker 1: the cooperative experience of the ferrest will where women need
Speaker 1: the fucking experience and you're just there. I agree. What's
Speaker 1: funny is I said that like a great marriage is
Speaker 1: seven out of ten times is a woman trying to
Speaker 1: discover who she is and finding a man that's gonna
Speaker 1: hold the flashlight. And I know that sounds crazy because
Speaker 1: men become like women are are ever evolving, right, there
Speaker 1: always changing looks, right, They're always changing ideas. They want
Speaker 1: a marriage to be exciting. I think we know it's
Speaker 1: not exciting. I don't think men demanded to be exciting,
Speaker 1: like and they may go find excitement, but the reality
Speaker 1: is their wife could never present the excitement that they're
Speaker 1: looking for because it's not really about excitement. It's about
Speaker 1: things that's missing in themselves. What's the what's the difference.
Speaker 1: So you're saying that women are ever evolving and they're
Speaker 1: always looking for something else, right, So they're looking for
Speaker 1: their husband to shine the lights so that they can
Speaker 1: help them on their journey, whereas men like, Okay, I'm
Speaker 1: okay until I'm not okay, and then I'll go ride
Speaker 1: the roller coaster. Remember that the ferrest will is solid.
Speaker 1: So what's the difference? Well, I think uh, I just
Speaker 1: say that's a great point. The difference is man. When
Speaker 1: men want something, it's like, Okay, I want something more.
Speaker 1: I'm gonna go get something more. Women go, I want
Speaker 1: something more, you go get me something more. Which one is, yeah,
Speaker 1: what what is that wrong? They both say, we're all
Speaker 1: saying that it depends on what the more is. I
Speaker 1: don't genuinely think men want something more. I'm saying like more,
Speaker 1: not like more like another woman. I mean like no,
Speaker 1: I'm saying even in the sense of another woman, it's
Speaker 1: not something his wife is not doing right, That's not
Speaker 1: why he cheats. Like that was something man Lenna talked about.
Speaker 1: Men don't cheat because like if a man has convinced
Speaker 1: himself he's cheating because his wife is not giving him head.
Speaker 1: That's how he goes and get hit. That's not why
Speaker 1: he's cheating, right, It's it's something that's going on side
Speaker 1: your mind that makes you demand hit that you're not
Speaker 1: addressing the same reasons you cheat on a woman. Excuse me,
Speaker 1: the same reasons you sleep with women single is the
Speaker 1: same reason you sleep with women married. Whatever that is.
Speaker 1: That doesn't change because you're married, it doesn't. That part
Speaker 1: doesn't change, But that don't change. You've already chosen affairs. Well,
Speaker 1: you got problems within yourself. I think it's been you know,
Speaker 1: men cheat based off insecurities, and women forever have been
Speaker 1: sense of security for us, even though it's a false
Speaker 1: sense of security, except your old lady, but women, for
Speaker 1: the most part, it is a false instance security. Like
Speaker 1: every time you sleep, I got some ship. Right, look
Speaker 1: say look, look look, Peta. You ever noticed when you
Speaker 1: feel a knock down a new woman, right the first
Speaker 1: time you ever had sex? Is this belief like you
Speaker 1: know when you wanted to it's this thing like I
Speaker 1: can't believe she's letting me. She can't feel you know this,
Speaker 1: She's not Fenna, let me do this, and why are
Speaker 1: you in the motherfucking pussy You're like, oh, I cannot
Speaker 1: believe she's letting me do this? And right, and that
Speaker 1: is like this feeling you get the first time you
Speaker 1: get something you want from a woman. Right, Not because
Speaker 1: my ship is different. Somebody wanted something from me. I
Speaker 1: didn't even think about it. But the first time I
Speaker 1: wanted it, it was that feeling, right, And I noticed.
Speaker 1: I asked most dudes, and they feel that way. Even true,
Speaker 1: the first time that I had sex, the first time
Speaker 1: I had sex with each subsequent woman there after, no
Speaker 1: even then, it lasts even order. It just it goes
Speaker 1: from being long to shorter. You almost cannot believe she's
Speaker 1: going for this. No, pet like she she's supposed to
Speaker 1: go for this. I will wait. I will wait a
Speaker 1: woman out til she dies. I'm not gonna go. I'm
Speaker 1: not gonna go make a pass at you. I'm gonna
Speaker 1: sit here and either go home or you cannot. But
Speaker 1: I'm not gonna be surprised when you come over here.
Speaker 1: It's not it's not a surprise, right, it's it's a
Speaker 1: it's so, Pete, you're white, so it may be a
Speaker 1: little different for you. It's always a sense of unworthiness.
Speaker 1: Maybe for me, I'll just speak for myself. It's always
Speaker 1: know what you're saying. Where he's like, that's probably way
Speaker 1: more white men than black men. No, white guy's weak.
Speaker 1: It's a pussy buying large on the aggregate. It's like
Speaker 1: only fucking ship. I can't even though how I pulled
Speaker 1: the shut off, but you feel like that. But he's
Speaker 1: saying him personally. I see what he said. But because
Speaker 1: people's confidence is another Women have no game at all.
Speaker 1: There's no plan, there's no scheme, there's nothing. It's just happenstance.
Speaker 1: And when it happens to work and there was enough
Speaker 1: alcohol but not too much alcohol that someone fell asleep,
Speaker 1: then it's just it's just fantastic. It's incredible. Everyone's surprised.
Speaker 1: People wake up, a share of themselves sticking out of windows.
Speaker 1: They don't know what is going on. By oh shit.
Speaker 1: So I'm saying though, right, it don't have nothing to
Speaker 1: do with the woman, like, it's not it's not something
Speaker 1: she's not giving you. You know, women women demand that
Speaker 1: from a man. Yeah, I mean men, Well, I gotta partner, right,
Speaker 1: And he was mad as old lady wasn't sucking as
Speaker 1: dick anymore, right, And he was like hyped up about it.
Speaker 1: He was man, gee, this this won't suck my dick.
Speaker 1: You feel blah blah blah blah. And I'm like, bro, like,
Speaker 1: why is that so important to you? Well? She do it,
Speaker 1: and I like it. She used to do that, like it.
Speaker 1: I'm like, well, I mean what do you like about it?
Speaker 1: It feels good? Well, does pussy feel good? Yeah? But
Speaker 1: it feels different. I'm like, what's the point of And
Speaker 1: I keep asking the questions and he gets so frustrated.
Speaker 1: He's like, man, with you, what's the point you're trying
Speaker 1: to make. I'm like, bro, it is something else upstairs
Speaker 1: in your mind that's convincing you why head is important?
Speaker 1: And I said, there's probably some issues. What you feeling
Speaker 1: like you don't have control over the situation or you're
Speaker 1: not dominating her? Man, that sounds crazy. Do you always
Speaker 1: on some bullshit? And I'm like, I feel you. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I mean I know it sounds crazy, but it's true. Like,
Speaker 1: and you find men who find ways, right, because I've
Speaker 1: heard hormies who said they cheated on the old ladies. Well,
Speaker 1: I want the fuck her and ask, and she wouldn't
Speaker 1: let me, Bro, she probably shouldn't let you. Well, if
Speaker 1: she's mine, she's supposed to give me everything. That's not
Speaker 1: what that means, you know what I mean, That's not
Speaker 1: what that means, Champ, Like I feel you. But that's
Speaker 1: only true in the reverse regarding finance exactly. But but
Speaker 1: I'm saying, I'm saying I think with men, right when
Speaker 1: when we go out and and and cheat, or when
Speaker 1: we're doing our stuff like that, I think it's because
Speaker 1: of something wrong with us. Men will lie convince themselves
Speaker 1: something is wrong with you to make themselves feel better. Really,
Speaker 1: there's nothing wrong with you. If a man says to
Speaker 1: a woman or you let yourself go because I've heard
Speaker 1: that you were married, you let yourself go, Bro, I
Speaker 1: don't give a fuck. I ain't never seen a woman
Speaker 1: in my life who are not down. A couple of
Speaker 1: times that didn't come down a peg or two or
Speaker 1: three or four or five because you had had sex
Speaker 1: with her, or because she let herself go afterwards. No,
Speaker 1: because once you once you deflower them, right right, some
Speaker 1: of the lustrous lost on that avenue, like some of
Speaker 1: the secret is revealed, no matter how fire it is,
Speaker 1: it's still like it's always this look of superiority, like, yeah,
Speaker 1: I had that. So when somebody is saying like, oh
Speaker 1: well maybe it's me, I genuinely believe if you show
Speaker 1: me somebody every every guy want to sleep with, it's
Speaker 1: somebody tired of sleeping with her. Genuinely, I think even
Speaker 1: that goes beyond just like adultery, right, Like, I think
Speaker 1: whatever your go to is, that's gonna be your go to. Like,
Speaker 1: I don't care how stressed out I've been, right, crack
Speaker 1: ain't never been my go to. Right, So if that's
Speaker 1: part of something that's in your repertoire of what you're
Speaker 1: gonna do when you reach your peak, whether you stress
Speaker 1: because you're not getting what you want, or I feel
Speaker 1: good about something, so this is my go to. So
Speaker 1: some of it has to do we talked about it
Speaker 1: a little while ago. Has some of it has to
Speaker 1: do with who you were before you got married, the discipline,
Speaker 1: the habits that you had before you got married, and
Speaker 1: what you allowed yourself to do if you allowed yourself
Speaker 1: to You know, when I get to a certain point,
Speaker 1: whether I feel bad or good, I dip out and
Speaker 1: I deal with a woman then that's just a part
Speaker 1: of what's in your repertoire, what you're capable of. M M.
Speaker 1: But that goes back YEA, that goes back to the
Speaker 1: same point I was saying. The person you are single
Speaker 1: is the same person you are exactly. I mean, you evolved,
Speaker 1: I mean your woman can help you mature. But if
Speaker 1: you like fucking girl single, if that's your ship, you're
Speaker 1: probably gonna like that, Mary, or if you don't address.
Speaker 1: If you don't if your desire is to be in
Speaker 1: a long term anogamous relationship and you are out here
Speaker 1: doing a whole lot of stuff, then at some point,
Speaker 1: whether it's in the beginning of that relationship or before,
Speaker 1: you're gonna have to train yourself to be like I
Speaker 1: can't engage in those behaviors. I have to make a
Speaker 1: conscious decision that if I want to be in a
Speaker 1: monogamous relationship with this person, then I need to address
Speaker 1: what has me out here on some polyamorous stuff. But
Speaker 1: I think you but that's the point. I think those
Speaker 1: are things you gotta fix as a single man, not
Speaker 1: as a man in a relationship. If you just pop
Speaker 1: up today you give with somebody and try to address
Speaker 1: the issues It's like if you're smoking crack right and
Speaker 1: then you get a job, or you can't smoke crack
Speaker 1: and you didn't deal with crack before you got the job.
Speaker 1: If you didn't deal with smoking crack before you got
Speaker 1: the job, it's gonna be tough for the job to
Speaker 1: be the reason you stopped smoking, Chris. Sometimes the reality
Speaker 1: is that sometimes you get that thing and you realize
Speaker 1: the value of it, and it's like, I didn't even
Speaker 1: realize I had this thing inside of me until I
Speaker 1: have something special that I valued. Like people say, hell,
Speaker 1: before you have kids, so you don't play out your trauma.
Speaker 1: We sometimes you don't even know what trauma you had
Speaker 1: until your child is looking back at you, reflecting your
Speaker 1: behavior in your face. Then you're like, oh my god,
Speaker 1: I didn't even realize that. I was like that, let
Speaker 1: me go to my corner and address it. So in
Speaker 1: the perfect world, absolutely everybody would, you know, deal with
Speaker 1: their vices and their demons before they anchored themselves with
Speaker 1: somebody else. But we have to admit that their vices.
Speaker 1: And that's what I'm saying. Single, Well, what I'm saying
Speaker 1: is I agree with you. I'm saying that, and I
Speaker 1: think that there's times where you don't even really they
Speaker 1: don't even come up because it's dope to bust broads
Speaker 1: the whole time. The man with the broads is the man.
Speaker 1: This is true. Women don't want to admit it, but
Speaker 1: they want to be with the man that every woman wants.
Speaker 1: They want to believe that he every woman wants him,
Speaker 1: but he only wants me. That's like the dumbest ship
Speaker 1: in the world to even concede. Yeah, I mean, like
Speaker 1: that's something they really believe, Like they can see that.
Speaker 1: They won't concede. Excuse me, they won't conceive that thought,
Speaker 1: like he and all the girls want him, but he
Speaker 1: wants me. But then even that has to do with
Speaker 1: like what's what happened you know what I'm saying, Like
Speaker 1: in childhood, whether you had an absentee father or you know, abandonment. Yeah,
Speaker 1: like where did you fall in the birth order? All
Speaker 1: of that? So I now I gotta need to be chosen.
Speaker 1: So if he choose me over all of y'all, now
Speaker 1: I finally feel special. And that's dangerous because it may not. Yeah,
Speaker 1: so but so didn't by that same standard, then why
Speaker 1: in our society? Well, and that would be the woman
Speaker 1: the chiefs because she needs something to that happens to
Speaker 1: stimulate feeling special. That happens to ye. But I'm gonna
Speaker 1: get another degree. But that's for me. It's like I'm
Speaker 1: meant to I find things. I'm gonna make me a
Speaker 1: song like. But I also was working on who I
Speaker 1: was us. I've been working on who I was as
Speaker 1: a single man for years. Like I've had a ton
Speaker 1: of opportunities to do like very ho radish things with
Speaker 1: my friends, like I mean, like unbelievably shit. Like I've
Speaker 1: had some opportunities. Man, when I tell you I've had
Speaker 1: opportunities to have five women at once, six women at once,
Speaker 1: it's girls who have got mad because I don't want
Speaker 1: to put Penis and aid Anes as girls who want
Speaker 1: to meet is. I know a girl who wanted me
Speaker 1: to nut in her hair and rub it in like shampoo,
Speaker 1: and that was probably the hardest thing to not do.
Speaker 1: I genuinely wanted to nut in her scalt because that's
Speaker 1: what she wanted me to do. Like growing up, I
Speaker 1: wur hear right, the biggie just seem like an entrapment
Speaker 1: mechanism for a woman who needed new hair because that
Speaker 1: reeks of a pretty transparent scheme to me, We'll do
Speaker 1: a lot for three yo the right anyway. So she
Speaker 1: wants me to come in her hair and rub it
Speaker 1: in her skin. She wanted me to rub it in
Speaker 1: her skin. She wanted me to massage her scout with
Speaker 1: it like shampoo. She told me this, I swear was
Speaker 1: that arogenus or was that like like a conditioner that
Speaker 1: we just don't know about. I don't know, but it
Speaker 1: was so powerful. And that's the thing, like, because my
Speaker 1: natural being is so tyrannical, Like I am very much
Speaker 1: a tyrant, so I know it. So I checked myself
Speaker 1: on moments where too much power is come in my
Speaker 1: way because I already know the kind of ruler I am,
Speaker 1: and I would be with more power, so I reject
Speaker 1: power out a lot of it. I'd be like, yo, no,
Speaker 1: like no, I'm not gonna nott. And she was like, yo,
Speaker 1: nott in my face, rub it like lotion. I want
Speaker 1: you to rub it into my pores. I swear on Olivia,
Speaker 1: this has happened to me. Rub it in my scalp
Speaker 1: like shampoo. That was turning her on. And I was like, yo,
Speaker 1: that's too much. No one man should have all this
Speaker 1: power and I and I so I For years, I've
Speaker 1: always rejected things that came across way too dominant and
Speaker 1: powerful because I'm going to run it into the ground.
Speaker 1: But that takes a high level of self awareness that
Speaker 1: a lot of people don't operate with. No, I get it.
Speaker 1: I agree, and and and and and it's not something
Speaker 1: I think I'm proud of as much as I'm grateful
Speaker 1: because it gives me a chance to control myself and
Speaker 1: it's let me like I noticed probably a like, yo,
Speaker 1: you kind of have a really different attitude, you know
Speaker 1: what I mean. So you gotta be careful when these
Speaker 1: women trying to because they will make you feel entirely
Speaker 1: too powerful with no intentions to be the person who
Speaker 1: who permanently want you to rule over them. Like they'll
Speaker 1: be like they'll give you a whip and then call
Speaker 1: the police. Want you hit them with it because they
Speaker 1: may think they want this, but they don't want this.
Speaker 1: They just want to feel they think this is what
Speaker 1: you want. I mean, don't get me wrong, it is
Speaker 1: some women that want you to do that. I'm just saying.
Speaker 1: They'll still call the police. Are here some of them
Speaker 1: for sure. One I mean some women like, yeah, you
Speaker 1: could do some ship to them and they're like, yes,
Speaker 1: this is I'm back for more. You mean, but you
Speaker 1: also got to know something's up with them, Like that
Speaker 1: ship really kind of made me look at her and
Speaker 1: feel different, like like damn, like you want me to
Speaker 1: nut in your hair and massage it into your scalp
Speaker 1: like shampoo. That was like deep. I mean, I thought
Speaker 1: the five sums or the six sums was something I thought.
Speaker 1: A girl telling me like, oh man, well fuck me
Speaker 1: in the ass was something I thought. A girl trying
Speaker 1: to give me her sister with something I thought, A
Speaker 1: man trying to give me his wife was something. I thought.
Speaker 1: All of these things, like I've had some ship happened
Speaker 1: to me in his music ship because of fame and
Speaker 1: having you know, uh an extra sense of economics than
Speaker 1: the most average person. You feel me, opportunities have been
Speaker 1: presented to me. Like I've had a girl who said, like, yo,
Speaker 1: she like she worked that subway and she wanted to
Speaker 1: give me head in subway on her lunch break. She
Speaker 1: was working there by herself, her manager was going out
Speaker 1: to get lunch and she and I'm like, she's just
Speaker 1: like that was her thing. She wanted to give me
Speaker 1: head at subway in her subway uniform. And I just
Speaker 1: thought that was like I did that one. But I'm
Speaker 1: being honest, I ain't gonna lie. I know you love
Speaker 1: subway every time I go. I figured, hey, sponsors, we
Speaker 1: got to replace course. So I got a question. So
Speaker 1: then with that kind of mentality, like and again it
Speaker 1: takes a high level of self awareness for you at
Speaker 1: you said five started catching yourself starting I just starting, yeah,
Speaker 1: and then you spent some time addressing it and like Okay,
Speaker 1: I can do this, but I can't do that. Like
Speaker 1: I could do the subway, but I can't do the
Speaker 1: little conditioner here, Like I can't I can't do that. Right,
Speaker 1: So in terms of married men, what do they do,
Speaker 1: Like is it like okay, well I'm gonna tip out
Speaker 1: a little bit, but I'm not gonna I'm not gonna
Speaker 1: have a whole another family. Well, when we're talking about
Speaker 1: men that step out, and we're talking about adulters hands
Speaker 1: on a person they were single. If you didn't address
Speaker 1: the problem the first off, you have to believe it's
Speaker 1: a problem. And in our community it's not believed to
Speaker 1: be a problem. Like we don't see it as a problem.
Speaker 1: We don't. We don't look at when you single meeting
Speaker 1: girls at the club knocking them down as a problem.
Speaker 1: You're actually women, y'all get it tough, Like if women
Speaker 1: sleep with dudes every night at the club, as much
Speaker 1: as even y'all are cool to each other, your friend
Speaker 1: is gonna tell somebody else so she's a whole right
Speaker 1: if I like, if we walk in somewhere, if you right,
Speaker 1: and Mo and and somebody else walk into a spot
Speaker 1: and you whisper the moment I had ten of these dudes,
Speaker 1: MO is not going to envy you because she is
Speaker 1: your sister. She may say, for real, well how was
Speaker 1: they like? In her mind, she is thinking, my sister
Speaker 1: is all too much. Even if she's trying to be
Speaker 1: damn with you, she's just going to be like, for
Speaker 1: the record, my sister would not say my sister would
Speaker 1: be like you what like? But I completely if I
Speaker 1: walked in somewhere and if it's me and Pete and
Speaker 1: we're sliving, so where me Pete saying I'm like I
Speaker 1: had tempty in yesterday, I'm the man. They're gonna buy
Speaker 1: me lunch that day. Lord knows if I walk up
Speaker 1: and hug them all like I'm like, I'm the King
Speaker 1: of Rancho Chuck a monk at that point, that is,
Speaker 1: where's that? So I'm saying, I think it comes to
Speaker 1: dealing with it because even if somebody got beings of
Speaker 1: dollars and they can't keep their old lady, you know,
Speaker 1: obviously money can't keep no women. Obviously maybe they're not
Speaker 1: even I doubt them women even found out they cheated
Speaker 1: like that. I think it'd be tough to find out
Speaker 1: Bill Gates's cheating. But in those specific situations because they
Speaker 1: were married for so long, even if there wasn't cheating, like,
Speaker 1: I'm still of the bundset that there's some other things
Speaker 1: going on in their relational dynamic that the cheating was
Speaker 1: just like, Okay, it can't be this is well this
Speaker 1: was something like Ship said, there's stuff going around about
Speaker 1: you know he was you know Epstein Island right here,
Speaker 1: I mean, and was he there was a a hot
Speaker 1: text message that got leaked to a relative. They got
Speaker 1: leaked to the inquirer for some money, and they've probably
Speaker 1: been a like that text message couldn't compare to the
Speaker 1: text message I get, And he got beings of dollars.
Speaker 1: But I bet you she didn't tell him. Not in
Speaker 1: my scalp that rubbing it in like shampoo or conditioning. Well,
Speaker 1: I don't know. They'd be on some may on some
Speaker 1: other stuff. No, at best, somebody probably told bezos, like
Speaker 1: I put a fist up you. She definitely didn't tell him.
Speaker 1: It was just simply an acknowledgement that it was happening.
Speaker 1: That was all yeah, like like that was so good
Speaker 1: last night, you know what I mean? Like, so at
Speaker 1: that level is different. So but even again just there's adultery,
Speaker 1: But then there's also the relational dynamics in the marriage.
Speaker 1: You know, why did you get married? What are your
Speaker 1: emotional needs? Like, you know, financial needs at that point
Speaker 1: with that kind of money, that's a whole different. Yeah,
Speaker 1: it ain't even that, you know, but what are your
Speaker 1: emotional needs, Like how do you spend the holidays? How
Speaker 1: do you resolve arguments? Where do you sleep? Like we
Speaker 1: had a conversation earlier where Pete was like, I'm gonna
Speaker 1: need to sleep on this part of the bid and
Speaker 1: I'm sleeping in a separate address. Let's be clear, I'm
Speaker 1: not sleeping at the same fucking address as anybody. He's like, no, man,
Speaker 1: what we had? Man? I was coming, like I told
Speaker 1: you this, I was coming back from Vegas and girl
Speaker 1: want to see me. I said, I'll come, I'll want
Speaker 1: to stay over. I'll stay over. I was like, I
Speaker 1: don't want to stay over because I don't want I
Speaker 1: want to sleep by myself. She says, I will sleep
Speaker 1: on the couch and you can sleep in my bed.
Speaker 1: I go, okay, then I will come over under those circumstances.
Speaker 1: I get in the bed. She gets in the bed.
Speaker 1: Of course, she was, don't bait and switch me, because
Speaker 1: I'll bait and switch back and leave at three in
Speaker 1: the morning like I did, got there two in the morning. Again.
Speaker 1: Relational dynamics side point, though there's no relational dance. I
Speaker 1: don't relationship but for women where monogamy is very important.
Speaker 1: And then you get with a guy and want want
Speaker 1: to be with him, like we're in relationship with this guy,
Speaker 1: blah bla blah blah, and you know this guy runs
Speaker 1: through women by the dozen. But no, he wants to
Speaker 1: be with me. He's never gonna do that again. Why
Speaker 1: is that so common? I can't tell how many one
Speaker 1: of my guy friends are in like the Thousand Club
Speaker 1: and they got some girl and they're engaged and then
Speaker 1: they go fux six girls and she finds out about
Speaker 1: it and its heartbroken. Like really your heart broken? What?
Speaker 1: What were your brain broken? The first six months? What happened?
Speaker 1: He could have not proposed there was He could have
Speaker 1: just stayed in these streets. He didn't have to get
Speaker 1: rid of illusion that he also wanted a monogamous relationship.
Speaker 1: But that's another usually oppressed done to it. I don't
Speaker 1: think we ever say we want a monogamous relationship. I
Speaker 1: think we say we want you. Yeah, I want you,
Speaker 1: you want a monogamous relationship. She said I want you
Speaker 1: to come over. You said I want to sleep by myself,
Speaker 1: and then it was bait and switch. So she could
Speaker 1: be interpreting I want you as I want you and
Speaker 1: only you in the context of a monogamous relationship, or
Speaker 1: she could be setting her boundary the same way that
Speaker 1: you did and to say, if you want me, this
Speaker 1: is the conditions that you can have me under the
Speaker 1: conditions of a monogamous relationship. If that don't work for you,
Speaker 1: my guy, move around. I understand that. Like if this
Speaker 1: was like what's the metal of the man because you're
Speaker 1: now it not becomes a question not of definition but
Speaker 1: of deviation. So I want you, Okay, well you can
Speaker 1: have me, but it has to be on these terms.
Speaker 1: And then in the moment you think, okay, sure of
Speaker 1: course I can have you on these terms because I
Speaker 1: want you that bad, and you, as the person setting
Speaker 1: those terms, are gonna tell me the straight faced way
Speaker 1: you thought that this fucking guy was gonna hold that
Speaker 1: water for longer than thirty seconds? Are you out of
Speaker 1: your mind? I get what you're saying in terms of
Speaker 1: like looking at his history, the quality of the man,
Speaker 1: so on and so forth. It's like when you go
Speaker 1: to get a loan for a car, they're like, let
Speaker 1: me look at your history. If you paid every car
Speaker 1: note and you you know, just scores a seven seventy,
Speaker 1: They're like, you know, you can have this car for
Speaker 1: zero point nine percent interest rate. You know we're saving.
Speaker 1: You don't need to give us any money down. Women
Speaker 1: will give that same loan to a nigga with four thirty.
Speaker 1: That's I think the problem is with a lot of
Speaker 1: relationships is there isn't a fair concept of interest rates,
Speaker 1: because what would the interest rate be that the guy
Speaker 1: like okay, well, I mean this is high. I'll give
Speaker 1: you this card annual. What what would I have to
Speaker 1: give to you to make it so that when I'm
Speaker 1: late every single goddamn month without exception on that bill,
Speaker 1: that you don't come and fucking report a car. That's fair.
Speaker 1: I mean this. There's a sense of responsibility on both sides,
Speaker 1: like being able to look at who you're selecting who
Speaker 1: you say you want to look at his track record
Speaker 1: and be like, okay, the likelihood And then do you
Speaker 1: have a certain level of self awareness? Have you gone
Speaker 1: to your corner and done the work on yourself before
Speaker 1: you try to say that you're not who you were
Speaker 1: you know, two years ago. But but it's never been
Speaker 1: a problem to be who you were. The only time
Speaker 1: it becomes a problem is when somebody else wants you
Speaker 1: to be with them. Well no, no, no, no. What
Speaker 1: I'm saying is if we're looking at somebody's track record, right, like,
Speaker 1: say I'm dating to dude and he's been a holy
Speaker 1: entire time, but that's not what so not him being
Speaker 1: in a relationship him. See, if you're not down a
Speaker 1: hundred braws and you're single, you're not a hope as
Speaker 1: we're not a whole ever, So I'm saying, because your
Speaker 1: credit score, he's saying, if you was, if you're Hugh Heffner,
Speaker 1: if it's your lifestyle, it's it's it's it is your
Speaker 1: and this person wants to be with you. It's nothing like,
Speaker 1: it's nothing wrong with him. He this is his natural
Speaker 1: feelings towards you. It's up to you to be like, Yo,
Speaker 1: you're Hugh Hefner. That's that's what I'm saying. I'm saying,
Speaker 1: it's it's part of my responsibility to do my due
Speaker 1: diligence and to look at the reality of the person
Speaker 1: that I'm selecting. And the reality is, oh, he's Hugh Heffner,
Speaker 1: like he about that life. And so before I get
Speaker 1: into a relationship, it's doesn't have the likelihood of actually
Speaker 1: giving me the type of monogamy that I really want, right, Yes,
Speaker 1: And I have another question and when when you know,
Speaker 1: when we were talking about credit, I mean, if if
Speaker 1: I have bad credit, I can get the car. I
Speaker 1: just gotta pay through the ears over it. So what then,
Speaker 1: what what's the where's the give and take exchange on risk?
Speaker 1: That was my the other half is there it's there's
Speaker 1: some level of accountability and responsibility on a woman on
Speaker 1: who she's selecting, But then there's also some level of
Speaker 1: accountability on a man. If you know you who have hefner,
Speaker 1: Why are you dating somebody that wants, you know, to
Speaker 1: be in a monogamous place where she's not dating someone
Speaker 1: who wants to he's dating someone he wants to be
Speaker 1: with you. No, no no, But this is what I'm saying
Speaker 1: when you can frame it that way. But the reality
Speaker 1: is the one that you chose, like you if you
Speaker 1: got you got seven kids, but you're trying to buy
Speaker 1: a miyata like you. It's it's partly on you. If
Speaker 1: you know that you're not about that one person for
Speaker 1: the rest of your life, or for even for six
Speaker 1: months life, why are you entertaining her? Why don't you
Speaker 1: just go out to the pool of women that are
Speaker 1: open to polyamorous relationships and live your best life because
Speaker 1: you don't want them, But you hear you're not hearing it,
Speaker 1: like if you want to live like that, you want
Speaker 1: to be able to have the freedom and move like
Speaker 1: So for example, you know, if you think men, don't
Speaker 1: think that way. When you think men, I think they're
Speaker 1: gonna stop smoking the crack when you get the job.
Speaker 1: I want this job so bad because I'm gonna change
Speaker 1: my whole life. I'm gonna change my life. I think
Speaker 1: they think that for a minute, and I think the
Speaker 1: rest of the time they think, yeah, I want her,
Speaker 1: and yeah she's not this way. But and then some
Speaker 1: sort of rationalization or they think I want her and
Speaker 1: they see her as something that she's not, And the
Speaker 1: reality is it's like I love this, this, this about you.
Speaker 1: I need you to be all of these things. I
Speaker 1: like this, this and this so damn much that I
Speaker 1: just think it's my own head now irrationally that you
Speaker 1: are all of those things. I'm gonna turn a blind
Speaker 1: eye to what you're not so that I can put
Speaker 1: on rose colored glasses and make it look like what
Speaker 1: I need you to be. So that's what I'm I'm saying.
Speaker 1: There's equal accountability, Like, Okay, don't expect him to be
Speaker 1: something that he's not, but stop expecting her to be something.
Speaker 1: You knew that she wanted you to sleep in a
Speaker 1: bed when you went over there, you thought maybe she
Speaker 1: was gonna sleep, but I sleeping on the couch at
Speaker 1: my own You knew what she wanted. No, because she
Speaker 1: knows me, and she knows I don't sunk around, but
Speaker 1: you know me, she still tried it. She's still trying.
Speaker 1: She still trying. She woke up when the sun came
Speaker 1: up in an empty apartment. I'm not disagreeing. I'm saying
Speaker 1: you have the accountability for even going over there because
Speaker 1: you know what she wants exactly. Why are you dealing
Speaker 1: with a woman I want to curl up in the bed.
Speaker 1: Why don't you just look for another woman that's going
Speaker 1: to kick you out with? That might be your dream woman. Listen,
Speaker 1: I'm trying to told you you get to that last point.
Speaker 1: She's alright, now, what you're about to do, no way.
Speaker 1: I'm gathering my clothes. I think that might be your
Speaker 1: dream woman, A woman you meet I want. I want
Speaker 1: to skip the relationships and go straight into the marriage.
Speaker 1: And I don't want to be in a regular marriage.
Speaker 1: I want to skip girlfriend, fiance, and wife and go
Speaker 1: straight to a strange wife. Oh my god,