WEBVTT - Forever Dirty Dancing with Lisa Swayze 0:00:03.320 --> 0:00:06.480 Hey there, everybody, Welcome to another episode of Amy and 0:00:06.600 --> 0:00:10.479 TJ Robes. We not too terribly long ago, we found 0:00:10.480 --> 0:00:14.280 ourselves at a wedding, and the fact that we were 0:00:14.320 --> 0:00:17.799 at a wedding ended up making headlines because we were 0:00:18.160 --> 0:00:21.479 accused of some particular behavior at that wedding. Do you 0:00:21.520 --> 0:00:22.880 remember what I'm talking about here? 0:00:23.880 --> 0:00:24.119 Oh? 0:00:24.239 --> 0:00:26.439 Yes, yes, my good friend JK. 0:00:26.600 --> 0:00:26.840 Long. 0:00:27.000 --> 0:00:28.080 Yes, her wedding, She. 0:00:28.040 --> 0:00:30.560 Got married and we had it was a great wedding. 0:00:30.640 --> 0:00:34.120 We had a really actually a really really good time 0:00:34.600 --> 0:00:38.960 that night. But the following day we got messages from 0:00:38.960 --> 0:00:41.479 people and we got some alerts and people kind of 0:00:41.479 --> 0:00:44.839 making fun because of several headlines that were out there 0:00:44.880 --> 0:00:46.839 about our behavior. Now, when I say I behavior, we 0:00:46.880 --> 0:00:47.839 need to be more specific. 0:00:47.960 --> 0:00:53.400 Yes, it was we were accused of dancing a particular 0:00:53.479 --> 0:00:56.440 way on the dance floor. And yes, the dance floor 0:00:56.560 --> 0:01:00.600 was full and I was on it, but you were 0:01:00.680 --> 0:01:03.480 more notably not on the dance floor. You were just 0:01:03.880 --> 0:01:05.160 cheering me on, so to speak. 0:01:05.240 --> 0:01:06.800 That's not what the article said. 0:01:06.959 --> 0:01:09.760 That's not what the article said that we were dirty 0:01:10.120 --> 0:01:14.319 dancing in front of a hundred people or so on 0:01:14.360 --> 0:01:17.960 a dance floor, just showing a lot of PDA, and frankly, 0:01:18.040 --> 0:01:20.480 I guess the implication was that we were inappropriate. 0:01:20.720 --> 0:01:23.000 Now, I don't mind the PDA. You and I are. 0:01:23.080 --> 0:01:25.440 We hold hands a lot. I mean we just naturally 0:01:25.480 --> 0:01:27.160 are that way. That's one thing. But that's not what 0:01:27.200 --> 0:01:30.080 this was suggested. It was suggested that something untoward was 0:01:30.080 --> 0:01:32.680 taking place and inappropriate on the dance floor in front 0:01:32.680 --> 0:01:36.800 of all these folks. The funniest part of that is 0:01:36.840 --> 0:01:39.640 that I have been going to weddings, of course, my 0:01:39.640 --> 0:01:42.480 whole life. There's only been one wedding in life that 0:01:42.560 --> 0:01:44.040 I did not dance. 0:01:43.800 --> 0:01:46.480 At, and that was at Jk's wedding. 0:01:46.520 --> 0:01:48.480 Didn't I get on the dance floor single time. And 0:01:48.520 --> 0:01:49.760 there's a very good reason. 0:01:49.480 --> 0:01:52.639 For that, that's right, because this was actually a themed wedding, 0:01:53.000 --> 0:01:57.880 and the theme of the wedding was yatrac And if 0:01:57.920 --> 0:02:01.000 you've listened to the podcast, you know, oh that TJ 0:02:01.240 --> 0:02:04.480 is not a fan of yacht rock, namely because I 0:02:04.520 --> 0:02:07.080 think you have said this, I don't see how y'all 0:02:07.160 --> 0:02:07.919 dance to that. 0:02:07.840 --> 0:02:10.120 Okay, and I think some would agree, But some of 0:02:10.120 --> 0:02:12.760 the things, at least you hear me or you play 0:02:12.800 --> 0:02:15.519 for me, I don't. I don't like them. Is one thing, 0:02:15.560 --> 0:02:17.840 but I find them difficult to dance to. And one 0:02:17.960 --> 0:02:20.799 of the most famous examples is your favorite maybe your 0:02:20.840 --> 0:02:23.960 favorite song, if not in the top three, at least 0:02:24.240 --> 0:02:28.760 is sailing right, Yes, Christopher Cross, go ahead, give. 0:02:28.240 --> 0:02:32.400 The people, takes me away to where I'm going. 0:02:32.919 --> 0:02:36.160 I'm trying to snap and sway now and can't get it. 0:02:36.840 --> 0:02:40.880 You can't dance to it, you just sway or you're 0:02:40.880 --> 0:02:42.919 just supposed to listen, right, It's not supposed to dance. 0:02:43.280 --> 0:02:46.920 Just let your body move to the rhythm. 0:02:47.280 --> 0:02:47.800 That's dancing. 0:02:48.040 --> 0:02:51.680 Yeah, but I find there to be a rhythm and swaying. 0:02:51.800 --> 0:02:54.639 Swaying is moving, swang is dancing. The point being we 0:02:54.639 --> 0:02:59.400 were not draating. We were doing the opposite. We weren't 0:02:59.440 --> 0:03:03.600 even we actually weren't even on the dance dance floor. 0:03:03.760 --> 0:03:08.040 When you hear dirty dancing, the first thing that comes 0:03:08.080 --> 0:03:09.359 to anybody's mind. 0:03:09.200 --> 0:03:13.440 Has to be that movie that man Patrick Swayze, Patrick Swayze, 0:03:13.480 --> 0:03:16.600 Jennifer Gray. Nobody puts baby in a corner. I mean, 0:03:16.639 --> 0:03:18.880 how many times do you hear that a week? I mean, 0:03:18.919 --> 0:03:20.720 I think I said it. I think I said it 0:03:20.840 --> 0:03:23.320 twice already. This week there was a knitsa where a 0:03:23.360 --> 0:03:25.400 guy was in the corner. I'm like, nobody puts baby 0:03:25.400 --> 0:03:25.919 in a corner. 0:03:26.000 --> 0:03:28.880 You said it, I did night guy was just trying 0:03:28.880 --> 0:03:31.840 to hold the door open for us. He got tucked 0:03:31.880 --> 0:03:34.160 in a little bit behind the door, and you said, 0:03:34.280 --> 0:03:36.280 nobody puts baby in the corner. 0:03:36.600 --> 0:03:39.640 I mean, it's such a great line delivered by Yes, 0:03:39.720 --> 0:03:43.040 the one and only Patrick Swayze. And uh, I mean, 0:03:43.800 --> 0:03:46.080 I don't think even if the right music came on, babe, 0:03:46.160 --> 0:03:48.800 we could ever do it. Well, we just couldn't even 0:03:48.840 --> 0:03:51.080 I don't. I can't even imagine us ever even attempting 0:03:51.080 --> 0:03:51.760 dirty dancing. 0:03:53.120 --> 0:03:56.120 Look, doing the Cupid shuffle with he was difficult enough, 0:03:56.200 --> 0:03:58.920 SOPHI will leave it to thank you Sidney. She gets it. 0:04:01.080 --> 0:04:05.280 But you think about Patrick Swayze, it certainly ghost might 0:04:05.280 --> 0:04:07.240 be I don't know, dirty dancing a ghostes when the 0:04:07.280 --> 0:04:10.080 first two will come to mind. But also Roadhouse I loved, 0:04:10.560 --> 0:04:12.680 and then point break might be my favorite point. It 0:04:12.720 --> 0:04:14.080 was a brilliant movie. 0:04:14.440 --> 0:04:17.960 It was Oh my goodness, I think for me it's 0:04:18.080 --> 0:04:20.200 ghost first and dirty Dancing second. 0:04:20.720 --> 0:04:23.320 Oh wow, okay, that makes sense, that makes sense. And 0:04:23.360 --> 0:04:25.719 we ended up watching a little bit of Roadhouse. We 0:04:25.800 --> 0:04:28.680 had it on because we were getting set to talk 0:04:28.720 --> 0:04:32.120 to you. Look, he's been gone now fifteen they have 0:04:32.200 --> 0:04:36.960 the years, right, fifteen years. And his wife Lisa, who 0:04:38.360 --> 0:04:41.320 who's married to for thirty four years, thirty four years, right, 0:04:41.880 --> 0:04:44.960 She has continued since his passing to carry on his 0:04:45.080 --> 0:04:49.320 legacy by making sure she fights to get funding for 0:04:49.440 --> 0:04:54.520 research pancreatic cancer, which he lost his life after twenty months, 0:04:54.560 --> 0:04:55.080 twenty two. 0:04:54.920 --> 0:04:55.760 Months, twenty two months. 0:04:55.800 --> 0:04:58.560 I believe and deally with that. But she has carried on. 0:04:58.760 --> 0:05:02.120 But she's carried on not just as a woman missing 0:05:02.160 --> 0:05:04.960 her husband that we all know their love story, but 0:05:05.040 --> 0:05:07.880 she has her own new love story now, which makes 0:05:08.839 --> 0:05:11.440 which makes her I guess in a lot of ways. 0:05:11.560 --> 0:05:13.640 For some people, they look and they want to only 0:05:13.680 --> 0:05:15.960 think about her with Patrick Swayzey. But a lot of 0:05:16.040 --> 0:05:17.599 us can look at it and not think. Many people 0:05:17.680 --> 0:05:20.839 do like another chance at love, another chance at life, 0:05:20.880 --> 0:05:24.040 and just this woman who didn't have to give up 0:05:24.080 --> 0:05:28.840 anything in her relationship with Patrick Swayzey to continue the 0:05:28.880 --> 0:05:33.159 life that she now leads, Lisa Niemi swayze But it 0:05:33.240 --> 0:05:35.520 described the dance that you were just talking. 0:05:35.640 --> 0:05:39.440 Oh my goodness, I was googling Lisa and Patrick and 0:05:39.520 --> 0:05:43.919 I came upon this beautiful dance they did together. I 0:05:44.000 --> 0:05:47.440 believe it was in the nineties, and the two of 0:05:47.480 --> 0:05:51.640 you were on stage, and obviously you're both beautiful dancers, 0:05:51.640 --> 0:05:54.359 but to see two people who love each other so 0:05:54.480 --> 0:05:57.440 beautifully dancing in that way on stage in front of everyone, 0:05:57.640 --> 0:06:01.520 I was swept away. Looks like you're getting a little teary, 0:06:02.200 --> 0:06:05.800 because I'm sure those are. That's a beautiful memory, I'm sure. 0:06:05.800 --> 0:06:07.520 But can you take us back to that moment of 0:06:07.560 --> 0:06:09.480 being on stage with Patrick And I mean the two 0:06:09.520 --> 0:06:10.840 of you met dancing. 0:06:11.680 --> 0:06:16.960 Well, yes we did. I my first dance teacher was 0:06:17.000 --> 0:06:21.960 his mom, So that's how we met. And yeah, so 0:06:22.200 --> 0:06:25.000 we'd be he was my first dance partner. And I 0:06:25.080 --> 0:06:26.919 tell you what, the first time we ever danced on 0:06:27.000 --> 0:06:30.719 stage together, we did this Romonda padda and you know, 0:06:30.760 --> 0:06:35.279 when something clicks, and it was very classical, and he 0:06:35.320 --> 0:06:37.919 presents his hand to me and the lights were on. 0:06:38.000 --> 0:06:40.960 It was like a high school auditorium or something, and 0:06:41.000 --> 0:06:43.040 he presents his hand. I put my hand in his, 0:06:43.440 --> 0:06:47.680 and we looked in each other's eyes and was like, yes, 0:06:48.960 --> 0:06:53.919 this incredible magic happened at that moment. So we pretty 0:06:54.000 --> 0:06:56.520 much stayed dance partners for the next thirty four years. 0:06:56.680 --> 0:06:58.640 You know how much we talked about the one we 0:06:58.720 --> 0:07:00.960 just saw. We saw it on video, We saw you 0:07:01.000 --> 0:07:03.640 all in the public eye. But all of us, all couples, 0:07:03.720 --> 0:07:05.360 I mean, Robot and I, we do it. We dance 0:07:05.400 --> 0:07:08.400 around the house sometimes. But you all as trained and 0:07:08.720 --> 0:07:11.960 very good dancers. Did you all play around the house 0:07:12.000 --> 0:07:14.480 and were you just dancing around in private a lot 0:07:14.520 --> 0:07:14.880 as well? 0:07:15.840 --> 0:07:18.760 Oh? You know, of course, you know there's some great 0:07:18.880 --> 0:07:21.200 music going on and you kind of get in the 0:07:21.240 --> 0:07:23.640 group and book it a little bit. But I tell 0:07:23.640 --> 0:07:26.040 you what, it would never dance with me on in 0:07:26.120 --> 0:07:30.560 public because everybody would be sitting around, going, what's he 0:07:30.640 --> 0:07:34.720 going to do next? That's an underglass. So I just 0:07:34.800 --> 0:07:36.800 usually out on the floor by myself or dancing with 0:07:36.840 --> 0:07:39.480 the girls. So that's funny, that's funny. 0:07:40.440 --> 0:07:43.240 I just love though, hearing about that moment you two 0:07:43.360 --> 0:07:46.119 first locked eyes and you said it was magic. People 0:07:46.160 --> 0:07:48.640 talk about love at first sight, but that sounded like 0:07:48.680 --> 0:07:51.120 what you were describing it was. 0:07:51.200 --> 0:07:56.320 It was. It was really interesting because we were had 0:07:56.360 --> 0:08:00.040 a little contential start because each of us he I 0:08:00.080 --> 0:08:03.120 had kind of a reputation as Castanova, I had a 0:08:03.160 --> 0:08:06.080 reputation as a bad girl, and we were supposed to 0:08:06.120 --> 0:08:09.920 stay away from each other. But it's really funny with 0:08:10.120 --> 0:08:14.760 some people know and I knew. I knew before we 0:08:14.760 --> 0:08:17.520 were done that something was going to happen between us 0:08:17.920 --> 0:08:21.680 that was significant, and I just I had every confidence 0:08:21.800 --> 0:08:23.600 in every bone in my body that that was what 0:08:23.720 --> 0:08:26.320 was going to happen. I didn't know and culminate in 0:08:26.360 --> 0:08:30.000 a very long term marriage. But I was suddenly like 0:08:30.080 --> 0:08:33.720 sixteen at that time, so I wasn't exactly marrying myself 0:08:33.720 --> 0:08:34.560 off just yet. 0:08:34.720 --> 0:08:37.600 Well I'm looking at you here now and hearing your voice, 0:08:37.760 --> 0:08:40.720 and nothing about you necessarily would say bad girl to me. 0:08:41.200 --> 0:08:43.640 I know that was a long time ago, but did 0:08:43.640 --> 0:08:45.559 you deserve that reputation at the time. 0:08:46.280 --> 0:08:49.360 Absolutely not. Oh, okay, you know, I hung around with 0:08:49.080 --> 0:08:52.240 the kind of bad cool people because I didn't really 0:08:52.240 --> 0:08:55.040 fit in, you know how that is. So I hung 0:08:55.080 --> 0:08:57.800 around with the people who didn't fit in either, And 0:08:58.120 --> 0:09:02.200 but I was underneath it all as like I was. 0:09:02.360 --> 0:09:06.040 I was pretty conservative and cautious. So but I was 0:09:06.080 --> 0:09:08.400 so quiet that nobody ever knew what was going on 0:09:08.480 --> 0:09:11.480 with me. And when somebody sat quiet and I didn't 0:09:11.480 --> 0:09:13.840 know how to make small small talk. You could see 0:09:13.840 --> 0:09:18.800 I got over that the the uh, you can kind 0:09:18.800 --> 0:09:21.560 of read into that person whatever you want to because 0:09:21.600 --> 0:09:23.920 they're not giving any giving you any signals. 0:09:24.600 --> 0:09:27.600 Well, from what you know now of what you got 0:09:27.640 --> 0:09:30.800 to know about him, did he deserve the reputation of 0:09:30.840 --> 0:09:34.840 being a castanoakle Oh oh uh. 0:09:34.760 --> 0:09:38.840 No, he he had. He had quite a significant amount 0:09:38.840 --> 0:09:43.160 of girlfriends and uh. Of course he was very handsome 0:09:43.320 --> 0:09:46.839 and sought after, but he I think he was looking 0:09:46.880 --> 0:09:52.440 for something more than just fooling around. So uh. And 0:09:52.480 --> 0:09:55.080 it wasn't that he was such, It wasn't he wasn't 0:09:55.080 --> 0:09:58.360 a womanizer. He was very gentleman. Link In fact, I 0:09:58.480 --> 0:09:59.959 was like he'd opened the door for me, and I'm 0:10:00.400 --> 0:10:02.000 kind of freak out about that. It's like I could 0:10:02.000 --> 0:10:06.480 own on my own door. Awesome. He actually liked that 0:10:09.160 --> 0:10:11.880 because he was going places and gonna be doing things, 0:10:11.920 --> 0:10:13.840 and he wanted somebody to come along that could do 0:10:13.880 --> 0:10:15.920 it with them. You know, I'm not just sitting and 0:10:16.120 --> 0:10:20.240 keep file their nails. But he did have come up 0:10:20.280 --> 0:10:25.520 with a come off with a bizarrely huge amount of confidence, 0:10:26.120 --> 0:10:29.720 and he held himself really upright, and he was just 0:10:29.800 --> 0:10:35.360 so all American, handsome, talenteded everything that It just kind 0:10:35.360 --> 0:10:40.560 of made you sick. And a lot of people didn't 0:10:40.679 --> 0:10:42.640 like them because of that. He was like too perfect. 0:10:43.400 --> 0:10:46.240 He was so perfect, he didn't he didn't fit in either. 0:10:46.880 --> 0:10:50.200 Wow. You know, it's amazing because you all got married. 0:10:50.400 --> 0:10:53.240 I believe you were nineteen, he was twenty three, is 0:10:53.280 --> 0:10:54.040 that correct? 0:10:54.200 --> 0:10:56.200 Yeah, eighteen twenty three, eighteen twenty three. 0:10:56.240 --> 0:10:59.480 Wow, So not only did you get married young, but 0:10:59.640 --> 0:11:04.000 now you're in the spotlight. And Patrick Sweezey was, as 0:11:04.040 --> 0:11:07.920 you mentioned, America's all American, you know, just the guy 0:11:08.000 --> 0:11:11.280 every girl wanted to be with. Everyone remembers Dirty Dancing. 0:11:11.320 --> 0:11:14.920 My daughters love that movie. They love Patrick Swayzey. We 0:11:14.960 --> 0:11:19.560 were just watching rewatching Roadhouse this morning, just reminiscing. You know, 0:11:19.600 --> 0:11:23.280 it's such a part of coming up and Patrick was 0:11:23.280 --> 0:11:26.320 such a big part of that. How I mean, you 0:11:26.360 --> 0:11:28.120 can love someone, you can have love at first sight, 0:11:28.200 --> 0:11:31.000 but so many marriages feel that aren't in the spotlight. 0:11:31.800 --> 0:11:34.960 And to have the love story you had, was there 0:11:35.040 --> 0:11:38.520 ever a moment where it got tough or you worried 0:11:38.520 --> 0:11:40.920 about it? Sounds like you all were rock solid from 0:11:41.000 --> 0:11:43.760 start to finish, and that's just a remarkable thing, and 0:11:43.840 --> 0:11:46.400 I'm curious, how did that happen? 0:11:47.559 --> 0:11:50.520 Well, you know it's I love that term rock solid, 0:11:50.559 --> 0:11:55.600 and I always felt that way, and you know, things 0:11:55.600 --> 0:11:59.840 would get really tough, but we we fight it out. 0:12:00.120 --> 0:12:05.280 We had great, great fights, but we always hung in there, 0:12:05.280 --> 0:12:07.960 and our fights were about hanging in there. And I 0:12:07.960 --> 0:12:10.760 think for me when you brought brought up about the 0:12:10.760 --> 0:12:14.560 fame and how difficult that could be, and he's we're 0:12:14.760 --> 0:12:19.720 both being pulled in so many different places. He always 0:12:19.760 --> 0:12:22.000 made me feel like I was the most important person 0:12:22.040 --> 0:12:26.400 in the world. And he would never let like we'd 0:12:26.440 --> 0:12:29.640 be going in someplace and we'd have bodyguards and occasionally 0:12:29.640 --> 0:12:33.640 the bodyguard would like cut me out. It's like and 0:12:33.679 --> 0:12:35.240 he's first all, He's just like, you don't do that 0:12:35.280 --> 0:12:40.199 to my wife, you know, Lisa come here, and or 0:12:40.320 --> 0:12:42.840 somebody leaning over and actually had a coat put on 0:12:42.840 --> 0:12:45.959 my head once because they wanted to talk to him, 0:12:46.600 --> 0:12:49.240 and he just wasn't going to have that behavior. He 0:12:49.679 --> 0:12:53.240 insisted that everyone paid me the same respect that was 0:12:53.280 --> 0:12:57.200 given him and always made me feel important. 0:12:56.840 --> 0:13:01.040 And loved what was his relationship with. Some people are 0:13:01.120 --> 0:13:03.640 run into they love it, some people loathe it. Some 0:13:03.679 --> 0:13:06.839 people just tolerated. What what did he like or not 0:13:07.080 --> 0:13:09.200 like about being as big of a star and the 0:13:09.240 --> 0:13:10.480 fame and things that came with it. 0:13:13.000 --> 0:13:17.040 Wow, I you know, that's kind of a that's it. 0:13:17.160 --> 0:13:23.000 That's kind of an interesting question for Patrick because he 0:13:23.120 --> 0:13:26.160 used to always say, I'm a contradiction and that's okay, 0:13:27.240 --> 0:13:31.160 and because he had he had contradicting sides to that, 0:13:31.880 --> 0:13:38.160 because he definitely embraced fame. He was just from the 0:13:38.240 --> 0:13:40.439 time I ever knew, from the time I knew him, 0:13:40.559 --> 0:13:43.720 he was like, I am going to be successful and 0:13:44.160 --> 0:13:48.960 you will notice me and you will pay attention, and 0:13:48.960 --> 0:13:50.800 and then there's the other part of me. It's like 0:13:51.120 --> 0:13:54.839 of him, that's uh. You know, we had we stayed 0:13:54.880 --> 0:13:57.000 on our little horse ranch and didn't go any place 0:13:57.040 --> 0:14:01.120 because we didn't want to be bothered by anybody, and so, 0:14:01.960 --> 0:14:04.200 you know, we isolated a lot, but we had our 0:14:04.200 --> 0:14:06.760 horses and our dogs and our cats and our friends, 0:14:06.800 --> 0:14:09.040 and so we didn't suffer. 0:14:10.559 --> 0:14:12.959 Where if he had an option, where would he prefer 0:14:13.040 --> 0:14:15.720 to be on the ranch, you know, on the couch, 0:14:15.800 --> 0:14:19.080 hanging out somewhere, or walking a red carpet and rubbing 0:14:19.120 --> 0:14:20.680 elbows on our. 0:14:20.640 --> 0:14:24.880 Ranch in New Mexico hunder percent. In fact, you know, 0:14:24.920 --> 0:14:27.560 we were both pilots and we had our own plane, 0:14:27.600 --> 0:14:30.600 so we fly back and forth, and sometimes it's like 0:14:30.960 --> 0:14:32.800 I could hardly get him to go back to La 0:14:32.920 --> 0:14:35.760 He just didn't want to leave. Well, I said, at 0:14:35.800 --> 0:14:37.720 one time, I said, hey, you know what, you don't 0:14:37.720 --> 0:14:40.000 have to do this anymore. We can go on a 0:14:40.000 --> 0:14:44.360 mountaintop do carpentry. And he said, you know, you don't 0:14:44.400 --> 0:14:46.320 have to do this pressure and everything, because he was 0:14:46.400 --> 0:14:49.480 at that time he was very frustrated with some of 0:14:49.520 --> 0:14:52.400 his career choices and what he was and wasn't getting. 0:14:53.040 --> 0:14:55.520 And when I told him that you don't have to 0:14:55.560 --> 0:14:58.240 do this anymore, let's go do a carpentry on a mountaintop, 0:14:58.560 --> 0:15:04.560 he looked at me with are you crazy? Where we 0:15:04.680 --> 0:15:06.040 know where he stood on that one. 0:15:07.280 --> 0:15:11.000 It sounds like both of you would have said, no 0:15:11.000 --> 0:15:12.920 matter what, the thing you were most proud of was 0:15:12.960 --> 0:15:17.560 your relationship and just your love story is one of 0:15:17.600 --> 0:15:20.160 the biggest legacies he leaves behind. But was there something 0:15:20.200 --> 0:15:23.560 he was most proud of professionally? And you mentioned his frustrations, 0:15:24.200 --> 0:15:25.760 but I'm curious what he was most proud of and 0:15:25.800 --> 0:15:27.440 maybe what he was most frustrated by. 0:15:28.880 --> 0:15:33.920 Oh gosh, well, you know, especially when he got sick, 0:15:34.040 --> 0:15:40.680 he really questioned his legacy and he was concerned about 0:15:40.760 --> 0:15:43.920 how he would be remembered. And I have to say 0:15:44.040 --> 0:15:48.160 he needn't worry at all. You know, he's still very 0:15:48.240 --> 0:15:52.920 much of people's minds. And for every movie that he did, 0:15:53.080 --> 0:15:57.040 there's a different thing that he liked about it and 0:15:58.120 --> 0:16:01.400 or didn't like it. Well, actually he didn't. I don't 0:16:01.400 --> 0:16:03.840 think he ever didn't like it one of his movies. 0:16:03.840 --> 0:16:07.680 But it's just like City of Joy was very fulfilling 0:16:07.720 --> 0:16:10.640 for him. He was working with a great director and 0:16:11.200 --> 0:16:15.320 he was doing great work. And of course, uh, dirty dancing. 0:16:15.400 --> 0:16:18.080 He liked a pooh pooh dirty dancing. You know, it's like, yeah, 0:16:18.200 --> 0:16:20.840 blew the lid off my life and blah blah blah. 0:16:20.880 --> 0:16:25.080 But you know, as the decades went on, and just 0:16:25.120 --> 0:16:28.800 like you mentioned your daughters loving the movie, you know, 0:16:29.160 --> 0:16:31.200 he was still alive when he was on his third 0:16:31.280 --> 0:16:35.560 or fourth generation of fans. It's crazy, it's like super crazy. 0:16:36.240 --> 0:16:38.560 You know, these women coming up to him, from women 0:16:38.600 --> 0:16:42.040 coming up that weren't even born when the movie came out, 0:16:42.800 --> 0:16:47.000 So that's astonishing. And you know, he loved ghost point. 0:16:47.360 --> 0:16:50.640 It was just like an amazing ride for him. And 0:16:50.680 --> 0:16:52.560 I love it that he stands in the doorway of 0:16:52.560 --> 0:16:56.800 that airplane he says, Ostillo, God, I can't believe I 0:16:56.840 --> 0:16:59.920 don't remember bye bye or whatever. 0:17:04.680 --> 0:17:08.639 You mentioned. He had thoughts about his the legacy, what 0:17:08.720 --> 0:17:11.160 did he was there more so a concern about if 0:17:11.160 --> 0:17:14.040 he'd be remembered or how he'd be remembered. 0:17:14.920 --> 0:17:18.639 I think both. I think both in fact, and I 0:17:18.680 --> 0:17:21.600 wish I could remember. But there's a line that Toman says, 0:17:21.600 --> 0:17:26.040 and whatever Movi it was, I don't I'm terrible at 0:17:26.119 --> 0:17:29.720 names today. Were they going to get the kid out 0:17:29.760 --> 0:17:32.200 of the war because the boys have died? 0:17:33.000 --> 0:17:33.280 Ryan? 0:17:34.119 --> 0:17:39.960 There we go, thank you. But he has a line 0:17:39.960 --> 0:17:44.960 that basically says what makes a man? And and how 0:17:45.000 --> 0:17:47.320 will he be remembered when all of a sudden died 0:17:48.000 --> 0:17:52.920 And he, you know, he knew that he was had 0:17:53.119 --> 0:17:57.239 achieved great fame. He also knew that you know, at 0:17:57.280 --> 0:18:01.000 times he could be difficult, but I you what, most 0:18:01.040 --> 0:18:03.720 of the most of the people around him never saw 0:18:03.760 --> 0:18:09.159 that difficult side and absolutely adored him. And he was 0:18:09.280 --> 0:18:13.560 very generous with this time and very sweet and caring. 0:18:14.400 --> 0:18:18.800 So I don't think he needn't have worried. I guess no. 0:18:19.880 --> 0:18:22.240 I mean, because whole life, you know, he was really 0:18:22.480 --> 0:18:25.119 he was really made to do this job that he 0:18:25.240 --> 0:18:27.800 ended up doing. From the time he was very young. 0:18:28.400 --> 0:18:31.080 He was trained by his mom. He was in the theater, 0:18:31.240 --> 0:18:34.359 he was a dancer, and so this is his whole 0:18:34.440 --> 0:18:39.960 life was geared towards this kind of career. And you 0:18:40.040 --> 0:18:42.400 have to take a step back and look back and go, 0:18:43.000 --> 0:18:43.560 how did I do? 0:18:45.200 --> 0:18:47.560 He was doing so much all the time, and fifty 0:18:47.600 --> 0:18:51.159 seven is far too young to leave this world and 0:18:51.200 --> 0:18:54.960 to leave this life. Did he have unfinished business? Did 0:18:54.960 --> 0:18:56.919 he have things he really wanted to do that he 0:18:56.960 --> 0:18:58.280 didn't get a chance to do? 0:18:59.720 --> 0:19:02.000 Well. I think he would have wanted to go camping 0:19:02.000 --> 0:19:08.280 one last time, you know, he he Uh. We were 0:19:08.280 --> 0:19:10.399 on our rent to New Mexico and we were walking 0:19:10.440 --> 0:19:13.919 outside one day and uh, it's a beautiful day. The 0:19:14.000 --> 0:19:16.800 horses were around, and and actually he did want to 0:19:16.840 --> 0:19:20.239 go camping. And I was like, oh my god, how 0:19:20.240 --> 0:19:22.320 am I going to do this? Because you know, at 0:19:22.320 --> 0:19:26.040 that time, he was getting a lot of medication and 0:19:26.760 --> 0:19:29.360 he was getting some pain stuff, and we there are 0:19:29.400 --> 0:19:32.439 bags at things, and and I thought to myself, he 0:19:32.480 --> 0:19:34.560 wants to go camping. I have to find out find 0:19:34.600 --> 0:19:36.080 a way to do it. We're just going to go 0:19:36.119 --> 0:19:38.960 and do it. We're going to take all that s 0:19:39.119 --> 0:19:42.120 h I t with us. We have to. But anyway, 0:19:42.240 --> 0:19:45.040 we're we're walking along. It's a beautiful day. And he 0:19:45.119 --> 0:19:47.240 looked at me with tears in his eyes. He said, 0:19:47.240 --> 0:19:52.480 I want to live. Yeah. It was really Yeah, that's 0:19:52.480 --> 0:19:54.480 what he wanted to do more than anything else. He 0:19:54.640 --> 0:19:57.679 just wanted to go with And it's a shame that, 0:19:57.880 --> 0:20:01.280 you know, h You know, when he first found out 0:20:01.359 --> 0:20:05.360 he had pancreatic cancer, he turned to me and he said, 0:20:05.400 --> 0:20:09.680 I'm a dead man because I didn't know much about 0:20:09.680 --> 0:20:13.840 pancreatic cancer, but he did. And from what he knew, 0:20:13.880 --> 0:20:18.040 anytime you heard someone did have Patrick acreated cancer, it 0:20:18.160 --> 0:20:21.560 was like, well he's out of here. And uh and 0:20:21.640 --> 0:20:23.919 sure enough, the doctor said, you know, you could go 0:20:23.960 --> 0:20:26.280 ahead and treat it and be as aggressive as you want, 0:20:27.000 --> 0:20:30.320 but do you think about getting your affairs in order 0:20:30.400 --> 0:20:32.920 sooner rather than later. That's a that's a tough thing 0:20:32.920 --> 0:20:33.240 to hear. 0:20:33.760 --> 0:20:37.199 He heard that immediately after the diagnosis. 0:20:38.400 --> 0:20:43.440 Yes, yes, wow, yeah, because we it'd have been confirmed. Uh, 0:20:43.760 --> 0:20:49.560 he had a h orthoscopic into scopic thing that confirmed it, 0:20:50.440 --> 0:20:54.359 and he was pretty knocked out, and because he was 0:20:54.359 --> 0:20:57.080 in a lot of pain after that, and I couldn't 0:20:57.080 --> 0:20:59.240 tell him when he was like woozy, you know what 0:20:59.320 --> 0:21:02.679 a thing? That tell him? Huh, you got back granded cancer. 0:21:03.960 --> 0:21:06.520 So slept in the room with him in the hospital, 0:21:07.280 --> 0:21:09.560 and when I woke up, the doctor was sitting across 0:21:09.600 --> 0:21:12.359 from him and he was in the bed, and I 0:21:12.400 --> 0:21:16.080 knew that the doctor had just told him. So that's 0:21:16.080 --> 0:21:16.840 how we found out. 0:21:17.040 --> 0:21:30.480 Yeah, Lisa, that's his first reaction to hearing that diagnosis. 0:21:30.520 --> 0:21:32.480 What was yours. 0:21:34.520 --> 0:21:38.840 Mine? The first thing I I, well, my first action 0:21:39.040 --> 0:21:42.040 was I called my sister in law, who's a brilliant 0:21:42.080 --> 0:21:47.320 oncologist in Houston, Texas, Yes or US, and uh, you 0:21:47.359 --> 0:21:49.280 know she's like when I told her the news, she 0:21:49.359 --> 0:21:53.359 was like, oh no, And she says, Lisa, we have 0:21:53.440 --> 0:21:56.760 to get this together. We need to find a pinacal 0:21:56.840 --> 0:21:59.800 trial for him. And I don't want you to delay. 0:22:00.080 --> 0:22:03.000 I want you to have him in treatment within a 0:22:03.040 --> 0:22:07.120