1 00:00:06,000 --> 00:00:09,680 Speaker 1: Hello, gorgeous. It is La La Keent. Welcome back to 2 00:00:09,720 --> 00:00:11,680 Speaker 1: the Give Them La La Podcast. 3 00:00:12,440 --> 00:00:16,479 Speaker 2: I am dying because I went on the GRAM and 4 00:00:16,520 --> 00:00:19,440 Speaker 2: I asked, y'all, what do you want to talk about? 5 00:00:19,720 --> 00:00:22,880 Speaker 2: Let's talk about it all and today I don't know 6 00:00:22,920 --> 00:00:24,520 Speaker 2: what y'all are on, but you. 7 00:00:24,680 --> 00:00:27,400 Speaker 1: Had the best questions. 8 00:00:28,120 --> 00:00:28,960 Speaker 3: They came through. 9 00:00:29,400 --> 00:00:30,200 Speaker 1: They did come through. 10 00:00:30,320 --> 00:00:32,440 Speaker 2: Usually, like I know the drill, it's usually going to 11 00:00:32,479 --> 00:00:35,960 Speaker 2: be about my relationship with the cast, talk about Mandi 12 00:00:36,000 --> 00:00:36,640 Speaker 2: Pump Rules. 13 00:00:37,000 --> 00:00:39,000 Speaker 1: I got it. I love talking about that shit. 14 00:00:39,080 --> 00:00:42,080 Speaker 2: But there's a lot of questions today where I was 15 00:00:42,159 --> 00:00:43,159 Speaker 2: reading them going. 16 00:00:43,800 --> 00:00:45,320 Speaker 1: First of all, this is awesome. 17 00:00:45,920 --> 00:00:48,040 Speaker 2: Second of all, I love that you're turning to me 18 00:00:49,360 --> 00:00:50,559 Speaker 2: to get advice on this. 19 00:00:51,080 --> 00:00:53,199 Speaker 3: I'm so excited to hear these questions. I haven't heard 20 00:00:53,240 --> 00:00:53,760 Speaker 3: of Orsino. 21 00:00:54,280 --> 00:00:57,800 Speaker 1: I They're good. Yeah, yeah, they're really good. Did you 22 00:00:57,800 --> 00:00:58,800 Speaker 1: have a good weekend, Jess? 23 00:00:59,360 --> 00:01:03,160 Speaker 3: I did. I had a relaxing weekend, saying some karaoke 24 00:01:04,240 --> 00:01:06,160 Speaker 3: with myself, did some cleaning. 25 00:01:06,360 --> 00:01:08,920 Speaker 2: I saw that on your Instagram. Yeah, you were supposed 26 00:01:08,959 --> 00:01:09,920 Speaker 2: to be folding laundry. 27 00:01:09,959 --> 00:01:12,320 Speaker 3: I was, but I needed to do that first and 28 00:01:12,360 --> 00:01:13,960 Speaker 3: I got it out of the way. One song, easy 29 00:01:14,000 --> 00:01:16,760 Speaker 3: breezy and then moved on to folding laundry. Went to 30 00:01:16,840 --> 00:01:19,640 Speaker 3: Santa Monica for breakfast, just like little things like that. 31 00:01:19,680 --> 00:01:23,000 Speaker 3: How about you, though, because I saw you attended a 32 00:01:23,160 --> 00:01:25,040 Speaker 3: gorgeous baby shower. 33 00:01:25,240 --> 00:01:25,479 Speaker 1: Yeah. 34 00:01:25,520 --> 00:01:29,040 Speaker 2: I had my two best friends since childhood, Madison and 35 00:01:29,120 --> 00:01:33,680 Speaker 2: Danielle there. We recorded a podcast that will come out 36 00:01:33,720 --> 00:01:36,480 Speaker 2: next week. I loved having them. I got to see 37 00:01:36,520 --> 00:01:39,720 Speaker 2: Danielle's baby for the first time in person. 38 00:01:39,959 --> 00:01:43,000 Speaker 1: He's so unbelievably gorgeous. 39 00:01:43,400 --> 00:01:45,200 Speaker 3: He's so gorgeous. 40 00:01:45,360 --> 00:01:49,040 Speaker 1: He's like the most perfect little human. I was like, 41 00:01:49,120 --> 00:01:52,280 Speaker 1: I have to say, besides my own baby, because we 42 00:01:52,320 --> 00:01:54,920 Speaker 1: all feel that way obviously, this is the most gorgeous 43 00:01:54,920 --> 00:01:55,760 Speaker 1: baby I've ever seen. 44 00:01:56,160 --> 00:01:57,600 Speaker 3: Was Ocean? How was Ocean with. 45 00:01:57,680 --> 00:01:59,120 Speaker 1: Him completely obsessed? 46 00:01:59,160 --> 00:02:01,639 Speaker 2: Would wake up in the morning and it's so cute 47 00:02:01,640 --> 00:02:04,520 Speaker 2: now because I think because Ocean's been hanging out with 48 00:02:04,560 --> 00:02:08,440 Speaker 2: Summer Moon a lot. Ocean usually calls me mama, but 49 00:02:08,840 --> 00:02:12,560 Speaker 2: Summer Moon calls her mom mommy. So now Ocean has 50 00:02:12,600 --> 00:02:15,120 Speaker 2: started calling me mommy and she screams it at the 51 00:02:15,160 --> 00:02:22,720 Speaker 2: top of her lungs in the morning, Mommy, momy. It's 52 00:02:22,800 --> 00:02:27,800 Speaker 2: the cutest thing, like from her crib yep yep. So 53 00:02:27,840 --> 00:02:29,919 Speaker 2: I would go in there, Oh it's eleven eleven, make 54 00:02:29,960 --> 00:02:30,960 Speaker 2: a wish, my loves. 55 00:02:31,880 --> 00:02:34,520 Speaker 1: But I go in there. And the second I would 56 00:02:34,520 --> 00:02:34,799 Speaker 1: go in. 57 00:02:34,760 --> 00:02:38,240 Speaker 3: There, she go, baby, baby, baby. 58 00:02:37,919 --> 00:02:39,600 Speaker 2: And I'm like, yes, we're gonna go see the baby. 59 00:02:40,280 --> 00:02:45,680 Speaker 2: Danielle let Ocean holds Rome. She was just in heaven 60 00:02:45,720 --> 00:02:47,280 Speaker 2: and I asked her. I said, do you want mama to. 61 00:02:47,240 --> 00:02:47,800 Speaker 3: Have a baby? 62 00:02:48,000 --> 00:02:51,200 Speaker 1: Yeah? Oh yeah, I said boy or a girl? It 63 00:02:51,360 --> 00:02:51,880 Speaker 1: was girl. 64 00:02:52,560 --> 00:02:54,080 Speaker 3: I was like, oh, she said girl. 65 00:02:54,240 --> 00:02:57,760 Speaker 1: She did say girl. Interesting, isn't that Yeah. I don't 66 00:02:57,760 --> 00:03:00,120 Speaker 1: even think she knows. She just wanted the because so 67 00:03:00,200 --> 00:03:00,880 Speaker 1: she doesn't care. 68 00:03:01,919 --> 00:03:06,200 Speaker 2: Okay, I'm working with Ocean on cause she can say yeah. 69 00:03:06,560 --> 00:03:08,799 Speaker 2: And We've been watching Miss Rachel a lot. But I'm 70 00:03:08,840 --> 00:03:11,680 Speaker 2: trying to get her to understand when I ask a question, 71 00:03:12,600 --> 00:03:14,720 Speaker 2: to not not have it be yes or no. 72 00:03:15,400 --> 00:03:18,799 Speaker 3: Okay, okay, you ask a question. 73 00:03:18,919 --> 00:03:23,560 Speaker 1: Like do you want asparagus or spinach? 74 00:03:23,600 --> 00:03:26,320 Speaker 2: And even if she just points like, I need her 75 00:03:26,360 --> 00:03:28,400 Speaker 2: to understand, like I'm asking you a question on these two, 76 00:03:28,480 --> 00:03:29,280 Speaker 2: it's not yes or no. 77 00:03:29,639 --> 00:03:29,839 Speaker 3: Oh. 78 00:03:30,000 --> 00:03:33,239 Speaker 2: Sometimes she'll say yes or no. She always says yeah, 79 00:03:33,280 --> 00:03:36,320 Speaker 2: and I'm like, but which one this or this? 80 00:03:37,360 --> 00:03:40,760 Speaker 3: But her yeah, yeah, mind you. Every time I see her, 81 00:03:40,840 --> 00:03:42,680 Speaker 3: because I'll go like maybe a week without seeing her 82 00:03:42,680 --> 00:03:46,000 Speaker 3: because I'll be working from the office. She's like all 83 00:03:46,080 --> 00:03:48,800 Speaker 3: these new words are added to her vocabulary. So I'll 84 00:03:48,800 --> 00:03:51,280 Speaker 3: see her and I'll say things like like the last 85 00:03:51,320 --> 00:03:53,120 Speaker 3: time I saw her at the office, I was like, 86 00:03:54,240 --> 00:03:56,240 Speaker 3: I think I said. She was like pointing to the door, 87 00:03:56,280 --> 00:03:58,240 Speaker 3: and I was like, what do you want? What do 88 00:03:58,280 --> 00:04:01,720 Speaker 3: you want? And I think she said something like open, yeah, open, and. 89 00:04:01,680 --> 00:04:04,800 Speaker 1: I was like, yeah, shocked. It's so cute. 90 00:04:05,280 --> 00:04:08,000 Speaker 2: So we had a full house this weekend, which is 91 00:04:08,040 --> 00:04:10,840 Speaker 2: not hard to fill a house that's not a house 92 00:04:10,880 --> 00:04:11,680 Speaker 2: and it's an apartment. 93 00:04:12,120 --> 00:04:14,840 Speaker 3: Yeah, but hey, it's like you love that, right. 94 00:04:15,080 --> 00:04:17,200 Speaker 2: I love people on top of each other. Yeah, it's 95 00:04:17,240 --> 00:04:20,279 Speaker 2: my most favorite thing. So Maddie and Danny came into town, 96 00:04:20,279 --> 00:04:23,880 Speaker 2: and they came because Christina Kelly is having a. 97 00:04:23,760 --> 00:04:24,680 Speaker 1: Baby in March. 98 00:04:24,800 --> 00:04:28,480 Speaker 2: Her due day is one day after Oceans, which is amazing. 99 00:04:29,320 --> 00:04:32,640 Speaker 2: I'm secretly hoping that it falls right on Ocean's birthday. 100 00:04:32,640 --> 00:04:36,320 Speaker 2: I hope it's March fifteenth. And she was like, she goes, 101 00:04:36,360 --> 00:04:38,520 Speaker 2: I don't want it to be March fifteenth because I 102 00:04:38,520 --> 00:04:40,919 Speaker 2: don't want, you know, that's Ocean's birthday, and I go. 103 00:04:41,040 --> 00:04:43,360 Speaker 1: But then we can like split the cost of birthday parties. 104 00:04:43,400 --> 00:04:45,320 Speaker 1: I'm just gonna say, be awesome. 105 00:04:45,520 --> 00:04:47,880 Speaker 3: And also when you I feel like when you're a 106 00:04:47,960 --> 00:04:52,600 Speaker 3: little girl or little whatever, when you're a child, you 107 00:04:52,960 --> 00:04:55,960 Speaker 3: enjoy sharing a birthday with your friend until I think, 108 00:04:56,040 --> 00:04:58,480 Speaker 3: until you get to like sixteen, and even then, do 109 00:04:58,520 --> 00:05:00,919 Speaker 3: you remember I remember being so oh excited if I 110 00:05:00,960 --> 00:05:03,680 Speaker 3: heard someone had my same birthday and being like, we 111 00:05:03,680 --> 00:05:06,000 Speaker 3: should have a birthday party together and all those things. 112 00:05:06,400 --> 00:05:09,160 Speaker 2: I just like sharing things. I've always been that way, 113 00:05:09,200 --> 00:05:10,560 Speaker 2: Like I don't care if you get the same outfit 114 00:05:10,560 --> 00:05:13,120 Speaker 2: as me. I don't care if you get the same shoes, bag, whatever, 115 00:05:13,240 --> 00:05:14,600 Speaker 2: Like I really don't care. I don't care if you 116 00:05:14,640 --> 00:05:18,159 Speaker 2: share my birthday. And I like people that have my 117 00:05:18,240 --> 00:05:21,520 Speaker 2: same birthday because yes, even if it's around the same time, 118 00:05:21,560 --> 00:05:23,400 Speaker 2: we can share a birthday party. 119 00:05:23,760 --> 00:05:25,560 Speaker 1: And then if no one shows up, it's like, well 120 00:05:25,600 --> 00:05:27,159 Speaker 1: they didn't like you. They don't like you either. 121 00:05:30,720 --> 00:05:34,000 Speaker 3: That's so true. Well, Caessa, you don't have any friends. 122 00:05:34,080 --> 00:05:36,400 Speaker 2: Eat, you don't have any friends with me. I love 123 00:05:36,839 --> 00:05:39,679 Speaker 2: being miserable with someone. 124 00:05:39,880 --> 00:05:42,680 Speaker 3: There you go and you have each other. So then 125 00:05:42,720 --> 00:05:44,200 Speaker 3: you're both weirdos. 126 00:05:44,240 --> 00:05:46,120 Speaker 1: If no one shows up, totally, I just like a 127 00:05:46,160 --> 00:05:47,520 Speaker 1: little partner in crime. 128 00:05:47,680 --> 00:05:48,360 Speaker 3: That's funny. 129 00:05:48,600 --> 00:05:53,000 Speaker 2: So the baby shower was absolutely beautiful. I loved it 130 00:05:53,080 --> 00:05:54,760 Speaker 2: because there were no games. 131 00:05:55,440 --> 00:05:56,920 Speaker 3: Oh you like that? 132 00:05:57,279 --> 00:05:58,839 Speaker 1: Yeah, I mean, all play games. 133 00:05:59,120 --> 00:06:01,039 Speaker 2: I'm down for it. But it was just like a 134 00:06:01,080 --> 00:06:04,720 Speaker 2: group of and it was men and chicks. 135 00:06:04,960 --> 00:06:06,600 Speaker 3: Okay, is that how it usually is? 136 00:06:06,920 --> 00:06:09,800 Speaker 1: I feel like Britney's boys came towards the end. 137 00:06:10,040 --> 00:06:11,119 Speaker 3: Okay, it with all women. 138 00:06:11,640 --> 00:06:12,960 Speaker 1: Yeah, this was. 139 00:06:12,960 --> 00:06:15,680 Speaker 2: You know, Christina and Max gave a really sweet and 140 00:06:15,720 --> 00:06:18,040 Speaker 2: heartfelt speech. But other than that, it was like there 141 00:06:18,120 --> 00:06:21,560 Speaker 2: wasn't opening gifts in front of the group, which is 142 00:06:21,600 --> 00:06:24,520 Speaker 2: great for us because I really don't care. 143 00:06:24,640 --> 00:06:27,800 Speaker 1: What you got. Yeah, I hate to be that person. 144 00:06:27,880 --> 00:06:29,000 Speaker 1: I really don't give a shit. 145 00:06:29,279 --> 00:06:31,520 Speaker 3: This is great because I think a lot of people 146 00:06:31,520 --> 00:06:34,159 Speaker 3: throw these parties like me planning like a bridal shower, 147 00:06:34,160 --> 00:06:36,159 Speaker 3: and I'm like, what did people like I don't don't 148 00:06:36,200 --> 00:06:37,440 Speaker 3: okay in front of gifts? 149 00:06:37,720 --> 00:06:38,040 Speaker 1: Okay. 150 00:06:38,440 --> 00:06:41,799 Speaker 2: And then, but more importantly, the person that the baby 151 00:06:41,800 --> 00:06:43,800 Speaker 2: shower is for doesn't have to sit there. 152 00:06:43,640 --> 00:06:46,520 Speaker 1: And put on some like oh my gosh, I saw 153 00:06:46,720 --> 00:06:50,240 Speaker 1: it for fucking twenty five hundred hours. 154 00:06:50,320 --> 00:06:52,800 Speaker 3: Yeah, and if someone gave you the same gift, like 155 00:06:52,880 --> 00:06:56,919 Speaker 3: the oh my god, it's okay, like or whatever, because 156 00:06:56,920 --> 00:06:58,800 Speaker 3: I can keep this one in the car and. 157 00:06:58,720 --> 00:07:02,480 Speaker 1: I can put this one. It's like, it's just exhausting. Yeah, 158 00:07:02,680 --> 00:07:03,760 Speaker 1: I hate that. 159 00:07:03,960 --> 00:07:04,640 Speaker 3: Did you do that? 160 00:07:04,960 --> 00:07:06,120 Speaker 1: I never had a baby shower. 161 00:07:06,200 --> 00:07:07,120 Speaker 3: You didn't know. 162 00:07:07,400 --> 00:07:10,200 Speaker 2: So that's what's so amazing is if I have a 163 00:07:10,240 --> 00:07:15,880 Speaker 2: future partner and we like decide to have a commitment ceremony, 164 00:07:15,960 --> 00:07:17,440 Speaker 2: I've never had a bridal shower. 165 00:07:17,800 --> 00:07:21,239 Speaker 1: I've never had a bachelorette party. I've never been married, 166 00:07:21,720 --> 00:07:23,040 Speaker 1: never had a baby shower. 167 00:07:23,120 --> 00:07:25,679 Speaker 3: Like, I've never had any of it. That's great. Yeah, 168 00:07:25,720 --> 00:07:27,200 Speaker 3: that's amazing. You get to do them all for the 169 00:07:27,240 --> 00:07:27,640 Speaker 3: first time. 170 00:07:27,680 --> 00:07:29,280 Speaker 1: I get to do them all for the first time, 171 00:07:29,320 --> 00:07:32,600 Speaker 1: which is so great for me. Yeah, yeah, that's cool. 172 00:07:37,280 --> 00:07:40,080 Speaker 2: Let's get to the questions real quick because I can't 173 00:07:40,120 --> 00:07:41,080 Speaker 2: stop thinking about them. 174 00:07:41,080 --> 00:07:43,440 Speaker 1: And I'm going to put the best one at the beginning. 175 00:07:44,920 --> 00:07:48,120 Speaker 2: Pooping in a small apartment you live in with your boyfriend. 176 00:07:48,320 --> 00:07:50,000 Speaker 1: How to get confidence with it. 177 00:07:51,720 --> 00:07:55,760 Speaker 2: We just talked about this literally minutes ago. 178 00:07:55,840 --> 00:07:59,280 Speaker 1: Okay, this is going to be a TMI. This question 179 00:07:59,520 --> 00:08:00,400 Speaker 1: and what happened. 180 00:08:00,920 --> 00:08:04,880 Speaker 2: There's something very satisfying about going to the bathroom. And 181 00:08:04,960 --> 00:08:08,440 Speaker 2: I've been there where like I've gone to boyfriend's homes 182 00:08:08,920 --> 00:08:10,280 Speaker 2: and I'm like, oh my gosh, I'm there for the 183 00:08:10,400 --> 00:08:13,880 Speaker 2: entire weekend. How am I going to like not take 184 00:08:13,920 --> 00:08:16,080 Speaker 2: a shit'. 185 00:08:15,120 --> 00:08:15,960 Speaker 1: Just call it what it is. 186 00:08:17,280 --> 00:08:21,440 Speaker 2: My mom always said, everyone does it. I think opening 187 00:08:21,480 --> 00:08:24,520 Speaker 2: the conversation. I feel like that's why I'm so open 188 00:08:24,560 --> 00:08:26,920 Speaker 2: about talking about things, because shit gets awkward sometimes, and 189 00:08:26,920 --> 00:08:29,200 Speaker 2: if we just break the ice by like talking about it, 190 00:08:30,080 --> 00:08:35,360 Speaker 2: things are way less awkward, right, Yeah, And like, guess what, 191 00:08:35,640 --> 00:08:37,320 Speaker 2: your boyfriend's going to take a shit too, and it's 192 00:08:37,320 --> 00:08:38,440 Speaker 2: probably not gonna smell. 193 00:08:38,240 --> 00:08:39,800 Speaker 3: Great, and probably more shits. 194 00:08:40,080 --> 00:08:41,240 Speaker 1: There's gonna be a lot. 195 00:08:41,440 --> 00:08:44,480 Speaker 2: You're gonna eat funky food sometimes that taste delicious but 196 00:08:44,640 --> 00:08:45,800 Speaker 2: is funny on the bowls. 197 00:08:46,559 --> 00:08:47,680 Speaker 1: Just rip off the band aid. 198 00:08:48,040 --> 00:08:50,680 Speaker 2: By the way, Pooperrie is also great. I keep yeah 199 00:08:50,800 --> 00:08:55,839 Speaker 2: that travel poopri Yeah, just spray that. My favorite thing 200 00:08:55,880 --> 00:08:58,240 Speaker 2: to break the ice is after you go potty, just 201 00:08:58,280 --> 00:09:00,200 Speaker 2: like roll out to your man and be like I 202 00:09:00,200 --> 00:09:03,240 Speaker 2: would avoid that area for just a sec and then 203 00:09:03,240 --> 00:09:07,640 Speaker 2: it's like, Okay, yeah, she took a poop and I'm 204 00:09:07,679 --> 00:09:09,800 Speaker 2: going to sum at some point take a poop too, and. 205 00:09:09,720 --> 00:09:11,800 Speaker 3: It's not weird. We all do it. 206 00:09:12,320 --> 00:09:15,720 Speaker 2: Question, even Beyonce is taking massive shits sometimes. 207 00:09:15,760 --> 00:09:21,000 Speaker 3: Well, I don't know about the question if you're in 208 00:09:21,200 --> 00:09:23,640 Speaker 3: a because I hate this, but I know a lot 209 00:09:23,679 --> 00:09:26,920 Speaker 3: of people love it. If you're in a long term relationship, 210 00:09:27,080 --> 00:09:29,000 Speaker 3: do you ever get to a point where you take 211 00:09:29,040 --> 00:09:31,600 Speaker 3: a shit while your man is in the bathroom? 212 00:09:32,160 --> 00:09:37,560 Speaker 2: I think you got to keep that part private, you know, 213 00:09:37,679 --> 00:09:39,599 Speaker 2: because during sex and things like that, you want to 214 00:09:39,679 --> 00:09:42,680 Speaker 2: keep it spicy and you just don't want to think 215 00:09:42,720 --> 00:09:44,320 Speaker 2: about the gross stuff. 216 00:09:44,480 --> 00:09:48,280 Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, that's it, I think. 217 00:09:48,760 --> 00:09:49,480 Speaker 1: Don't you agree? 218 00:09:49,640 --> 00:09:52,439 Speaker 3: No? I agree. I'm not one which people are shocked 219 00:09:52,440 --> 00:09:54,440 Speaker 3: about because Kyle and I are so open with each 220 00:09:54,440 --> 00:09:56,640 Speaker 3: other when it cut and I live in a one bed, 221 00:09:56,679 --> 00:09:59,840 Speaker 3: one bath when it comes to bathroom stuff off limits. 222 00:10:00,080 --> 00:10:02,600 Speaker 3: If he like I've been, don't want to hear about it? No, 223 00:10:02,679 --> 00:10:05,000 Speaker 3: I don't want to. I mean he is, like he's 224 00:10:05,880 --> 00:10:08,280 Speaker 3: a man and typical with the bathroom stuff, so like 225 00:10:08,360 --> 00:10:11,240 Speaker 3: sometimes it's fine, but like if I'm doing my hair 226 00:10:11,360 --> 00:10:13,320 Speaker 3: in the bathroom and he comes in to even go pee, 227 00:10:13,360 --> 00:10:15,400 Speaker 3: I'm like, oh, do you okay? Do you need me 228 00:10:15,440 --> 00:10:17,400 Speaker 3: to excuse you for a moment, and he's like yeah, 229 00:10:17,440 --> 00:10:21,040 Speaker 3: and I'll get out shut the door. Never And if 230 00:10:21,040 --> 00:10:24,200 Speaker 3: he like goes takes a shit in the bathroom, I'll say, 231 00:10:24,240 --> 00:10:26,439 Speaker 3: like did you spray? And like how long should I 232 00:10:26,480 --> 00:10:28,800 Speaker 3: avoid the area? I'm just not a bathroom person, so 233 00:10:28,880 --> 00:10:32,560 Speaker 3: like bathroom humor or whatever. So for me, if i 234 00:10:32,640 --> 00:10:36,240 Speaker 3: have to go, I'll go in. I'll spray. I always 235 00:10:36,280 --> 00:10:40,440 Speaker 3: spray and use the poopery and then I'm usually quick 236 00:10:40,720 --> 00:10:42,839 Speaker 3: like a few minutes and then I'll leave. And if 237 00:10:42,880 --> 00:10:45,280 Speaker 3: it like is really bad in there, I'll say something 238 00:10:45,360 --> 00:10:48,800 Speaker 3: like my tummies a little off, maybe avoid the bathroom 239 00:10:48,840 --> 00:10:51,000 Speaker 3: for like a few minutes. And he'll make jokes about it. 240 00:10:51,000 --> 00:10:53,439 Speaker 3: But yeah, I've never been like I've never been one 241 00:10:53,520 --> 00:10:55,040 Speaker 3: to like take a shit in front of my man 242 00:10:55,040 --> 00:10:56,440 Speaker 3: while he's brushing his teeth. 243 00:10:56,480 --> 00:10:58,200 Speaker 1: Oh no, you do that? 244 00:10:58,800 --> 00:11:01,360 Speaker 3: Get the fuck out, or like even when they're in 245 00:11:01,360 --> 00:11:03,760 Speaker 3: the shower. I'm like a lot of my girlfriend's, like 246 00:11:03,800 --> 00:11:06,160 Speaker 3: my one friend from home, she's like, you don't use 247 00:11:06,160 --> 00:11:08,120 Speaker 3: a bathroom when your man's in the shower. What if 248 00:11:08,120 --> 00:11:09,480 Speaker 3: you got to go? I'm like, well then I got 249 00:11:09,520 --> 00:11:12,400 Speaker 3: to hold it, And she's like no, I'm always in there. 250 00:11:12,520 --> 00:11:15,080 Speaker 2: See, my mind just goes to like there's nothing worth 251 00:11:15,200 --> 00:11:18,640 Speaker 2: Like if I'm brushing my teeth, I'm picturing like it's 252 00:11:18,679 --> 00:11:22,480 Speaker 2: going in my mouth. Or if I'm taking a really warm, 253 00:11:23,080 --> 00:11:25,920 Speaker 2: yummy shower and you're taking shit, steamy shit, I don't 254 00:11:25,960 --> 00:11:26,959 Speaker 2: want to, please, don't. 255 00:11:27,080 --> 00:11:29,559 Speaker 3: I can't smell that along with my like gorgeous shampoo 256 00:11:29,679 --> 00:11:30,080 Speaker 3: or something. 257 00:11:30,240 --> 00:11:31,920 Speaker 1: No, No, that's. 258 00:11:31,760 --> 00:11:33,840 Speaker 2: Why I think just the little thing of hey, just 259 00:11:33,880 --> 00:11:35,400 Speaker 2: like stay out of there for a sec. 260 00:11:35,840 --> 00:11:36,480 Speaker 3: I like that. 261 00:11:36,640 --> 00:11:40,040 Speaker 1: Yeah, you know yeeps, I poop. 262 00:11:42,480 --> 00:11:42,720 Speaker 3: Yeah. 263 00:11:43,480 --> 00:11:45,040 Speaker 1: I get more afraid of gas. 264 00:11:45,240 --> 00:11:46,959 Speaker 3: Granted, if you are someone who sits in front of 265 00:11:46,960 --> 00:11:48,640 Speaker 3: your boyfriend and he's fine or your man or your 266 00:11:48,679 --> 00:11:51,120 Speaker 3: girlfriend whatever, and they're fine with it, more power too you, 267 00:11:51,120 --> 00:11:54,560 Speaker 3: More power to you. I just personally, I don't know 268 00:11:54,559 --> 00:11:56,120 Speaker 3: what it was. If it was something in my child, 269 00:11:56,160 --> 00:11:58,080 Speaker 3: who knows, But I'm just not one of those people 270 00:11:59,200 --> 00:12:05,080 Speaker 3: like gas, you're like farting. Yeah, I mean that I 271 00:12:05,120 --> 00:12:05,480 Speaker 3: agree with. 272 00:12:05,559 --> 00:12:06,360 Speaker 1: How do you do that? 273 00:12:06,440 --> 00:12:10,439 Speaker 2: Like if you are in the bed with Kyle and 274 00:12:09,600 --> 00:12:13,240 Speaker 2: your tummies acting funky, what do he well? If you 275 00:12:13,320 --> 00:12:13,960 Speaker 2: just let her rip? 276 00:12:14,280 --> 00:12:16,880 Speaker 3: Easy for me, because he'll go He goes to bed 277 00:12:16,880 --> 00:12:19,880 Speaker 3: at like eight pm. So I'll it's wild to think, 278 00:12:19,960 --> 00:12:22,360 Speaker 3: but I kind of still hold it. And we've been 279 00:12:22,400 --> 00:12:23,680 Speaker 3: together for almost seven years. 280 00:12:23,920 --> 00:12:26,360 Speaker 1: You hold it well, so not all night. 281 00:12:26,440 --> 00:12:28,160 Speaker 3: I hold it until he goes to sleep, and then 282 00:12:28,200 --> 00:12:33,800 Speaker 3: I slowly release. But like Kyle, I mean, we've had 283 00:12:33,840 --> 00:12:36,480 Speaker 3: talks about this. I'm like, you have to go to 284 00:12:36,559 --> 00:12:39,160 Speaker 3: the doctors. You fart too much. And he's like, I'm like, 285 00:12:39,200 --> 00:12:39,959 Speaker 3: you gotta like. 286 00:12:40,559 --> 00:12:41,280 Speaker 1: Get it together. 287 00:12:41,400 --> 00:12:45,520 Speaker 3: You get it together. He farts constantly and laughs about it, 288 00:12:45,800 --> 00:12:48,520 Speaker 3: but he's respectful too. He's like, I'm trying, like I'm trying, 289 00:12:48,520 --> 00:12:49,800 Speaker 3: but sometimes it just slips out. 290 00:12:50,080 --> 00:12:53,679 Speaker 1: But me, I feel like it's really unhealthy to hold it. Jess, 291 00:12:53,960 --> 00:12:54,600 Speaker 1: I know, but. 292 00:12:54,600 --> 00:12:56,480 Speaker 3: I don't hold it for long or if I really 293 00:12:56,720 --> 00:13:00,360 Speaker 3: have bad like gas, I'll walk into the bathroom and 294 00:13:00,400 --> 00:13:02,000 Speaker 3: he's like laying in bed and I'm like, ooh, this 295 00:13:02,040 --> 00:13:03,720 Speaker 3: is gonna be bad. I can't hold it. I walk 296 00:13:03,720 --> 00:13:08,240 Speaker 3: into the bathroom, let it go, and then walk back 297 00:13:08,280 --> 00:13:10,680 Speaker 3: into the bedroom. But he goes to bed at like 298 00:13:10,720 --> 00:13:12,760 Speaker 3: eight PM, and I don't go go to bed until 299 00:13:12,760 --> 00:13:13,480 Speaker 3: like ten or eleven. 300 00:13:13,600 --> 00:13:16,280 Speaker 1: So, oh see, some stank will wake me right up? 301 00:13:16,600 --> 00:13:19,800 Speaker 3: Really? Oh yeah, me too, though, Do you hold around 302 00:13:19,840 --> 00:13:22,840 Speaker 3: your what previous partners do you just let a rip 303 00:13:23,480 --> 00:13:28,240 Speaker 3: like sound and all. 304 00:13:27,080 --> 00:13:29,319 Speaker 1: Well, I mean previous No. 305 00:13:29,960 --> 00:13:32,760 Speaker 2: That's why I can speak on it being uncomfortable, because 306 00:13:33,120 --> 00:13:35,000 Speaker 2: it's like you hold it and then it's like now 307 00:13:35,040 --> 00:13:35,640 Speaker 2: I just need. 308 00:13:35,520 --> 00:13:39,440 Speaker 1: To throw up. Yeah, because I'm so sick. My stomach 309 00:13:39,559 --> 00:13:40,360 Speaker 1: is just air right now. 310 00:13:40,720 --> 00:13:44,120 Speaker 3: Really. Yeah, I don't even find it like disgusting. Like 311 00:13:44,160 --> 00:13:46,320 Speaker 3: my she won't hate me for saying this, but like 312 00:13:46,360 --> 00:13:48,880 Speaker 3: my sister and my best friend constantly letting it rip 313 00:13:48,880 --> 00:13:50,760 Speaker 3: around me, and I think it's funny and like, but 314 00:13:50,800 --> 00:13:54,480 Speaker 3: there's something about me, am I saying them, Yes, that's 315 00:13:54,520 --> 00:13:56,320 Speaker 3: what it is. I'm not having sex with them, and 316 00:13:56,360 --> 00:13:58,560 Speaker 3: it's just something about it that I'm like, I don't know, 317 00:13:58,600 --> 00:14:00,400 Speaker 3: I hold it in. But then he doesn't care. 318 00:14:00,559 --> 00:14:04,880 Speaker 2: Because he's a trainer. And I've noticed people that are 319 00:14:04,920 --> 00:14:08,719 Speaker 2: into fitness and health. Yeah, they think about it as like. 320 00:14:09,360 --> 00:14:11,600 Speaker 1: You can't hold it, you got to get it out, Yes, 321 00:14:11,760 --> 00:14:13,920 Speaker 1: because it does this, that and the other to the body. 322 00:14:13,960 --> 00:14:15,720 Speaker 1: And when this, that and the other happens to the body, 323 00:14:15,720 --> 00:14:17,800 Speaker 1: your muscles do this, and your blah blah blah does that. 324 00:14:18,240 --> 00:14:21,480 Speaker 2: Yeah, that's what I've noticed, So note to self I'm 325 00:14:21,480 --> 00:14:24,200 Speaker 2: gonna go for someone who's in the health industry because 326 00:14:24,240 --> 00:14:27,360 Speaker 2: then they're gonna want to hear about that stuff and they're. 327 00:14:27,200 --> 00:14:29,480 Speaker 1: Gonna be like, good for you. I'm so happy for you. 328 00:14:29,720 --> 00:14:32,200 Speaker 3: Yes. And that's the thing is that he talks to 329 00:14:32,240 --> 00:14:34,000 Speaker 3: his clients, and since I'm a client of his, he 330 00:14:34,040 --> 00:14:35,960 Speaker 3: had to talk to me. He shows a chart of 331 00:14:36,040 --> 00:14:39,080 Speaker 3: poops between one and ten and he'll say, point, what 332 00:14:39,120 --> 00:14:41,960 Speaker 3: does your poop usually look like? So he's very and 333 00:14:42,000 --> 00:14:43,760 Speaker 3: you have to point, and he tells you if it's 334 00:14:43,760 --> 00:14:46,200 Speaker 3: healthy or not. He talks to women about periods, so it. 335 00:14:46,200 --> 00:14:51,480 Speaker 1: Is very like scientific. Yeah, I'm technical. Amazing question. 336 00:14:51,680 --> 00:14:53,760 Speaker 2: I hope that you and your partner get to a 337 00:14:53,800 --> 00:14:56,680 Speaker 2: place where you can poop in the same space. Yeah, 338 00:14:56,880 --> 00:15:02,400 Speaker 2: not together, but in the same small apartment. Yeah. This 339 00:15:02,440 --> 00:15:05,280 Speaker 2: person says, how do you not let the unknowns take 340 00:15:05,320 --> 00:15:07,760 Speaker 2: over your mind? We talked about this, I think last week. 341 00:15:08,720 --> 00:15:13,080 Speaker 2: Keeping your head where your feet are because I constantly 342 00:15:13,160 --> 00:15:14,160 Speaker 2: sit in the what ifs? 343 00:15:14,960 --> 00:15:15,200 Speaker 4: You do? 344 00:15:15,360 --> 00:15:17,280 Speaker 3: What do you elaborate on that? 345 00:15:18,240 --> 00:15:21,960 Speaker 2: I think about things one hundred years from now. But 346 00:15:22,040 --> 00:15:24,400 Speaker 2: what if this happens, then this is gonna happen, and 347 00:15:24,440 --> 00:15:28,000 Speaker 2: then if that happens this will happen, and thirty seconds 348 00:15:28,000 --> 00:15:30,840 Speaker 2: has passed and I've already talked myself into the deepest, 349 00:15:30,920 --> 00:15:32,400 Speaker 2: darkest hole you could possibly be in. 350 00:15:32,640 --> 00:15:35,000 Speaker 3: Right, we did talk about this because it's anxiety, and 351 00:15:35,040 --> 00:15:37,440 Speaker 3: it's the worrying twice. If it's gonna happen, it's gonna happen. 352 00:15:37,440 --> 00:15:39,240 Speaker 3: Why not worry about it when it happens. 353 00:15:38,960 --> 00:15:42,440 Speaker 2: Versus exactly, don't cross bridges that you don't have to 354 00:15:42,480 --> 00:15:45,520 Speaker 2: cross yet. So when that happens and you start going 355 00:15:45,560 --> 00:15:49,040 Speaker 2: into that place. This is why I constantly am preaching 356 00:15:49,040 --> 00:15:52,440 Speaker 2: to people to have a higher power, no matter what 357 00:15:52,520 --> 00:15:52,760 Speaker 2: it is. 358 00:15:52,840 --> 00:15:55,080 Speaker 1: I don't give a shit that you can. 359 00:15:55,360 --> 00:15:58,480 Speaker 2: When you feel yourself looping and spiraling into that place, 360 00:16:00,080 --> 00:16:03,880 Speaker 2: you immediately have the tools to sit down, take your 361 00:16:03,880 --> 00:16:08,200 Speaker 2: deep breaths, punt it to something greater than you, remember 362 00:16:08,240 --> 00:16:11,600 Speaker 2: where you are, look around you and see where you are, 363 00:16:11,640 --> 00:16:14,520 Speaker 2: and become connected with that space. Like Okay, right now, 364 00:16:14,840 --> 00:16:18,720 Speaker 2: I'm sitting down, I'm doing a podcast, I'm keeping my 365 00:16:18,840 --> 00:16:21,400 Speaker 2: head where my feet are, and we're not moving from 366 00:16:21,440 --> 00:16:25,440 Speaker 2: this space right mentally, you got it, Like connect your 367 00:16:25,440 --> 00:16:26,200 Speaker 2: feet to your brain. 368 00:16:26,960 --> 00:16:29,000 Speaker 1: That's what I have to do. When the unknowns start 369 00:16:29,000 --> 00:16:29,680 Speaker 1: taking over. 370 00:16:29,840 --> 00:16:32,880 Speaker 3: Yeah, and you who taught you that again said like 371 00:16:33,320 --> 00:16:35,200 Speaker 3: you say, you shouted them out last week, but I 372 00:16:35,280 --> 00:16:37,040 Speaker 3: just they said that to you and it seemed like 373 00:16:37,080 --> 00:16:39,560 Speaker 3: it really changed your perspective of lawyer. Head where your 374 00:16:39,560 --> 00:16:39,920 Speaker 3: feet are? 375 00:16:40,000 --> 00:16:43,160 Speaker 2: Yes, yes, because when I entered this new phase of 376 00:16:43,200 --> 00:16:46,520 Speaker 2: life and what I was going into, I was constantly 377 00:16:46,600 --> 00:16:52,280 Speaker 2: thinking about the what ifs and that will take you out. 378 00:16:52,760 --> 00:16:56,320 Speaker 3: Yeah, that'll take days off your life or your Yeah, 379 00:16:56,560 --> 00:17:00,480 Speaker 3: and the anxiety and the stress and they I think 380 00:17:00,600 --> 00:17:02,680 Speaker 3: keeping your head where your feet are it sounds so simple, 381 00:17:02,720 --> 00:17:03,640 Speaker 3: but it's like, yes. 382 00:17:03,560 --> 00:17:07,480 Speaker 2: No, it's extremely difficult. And that's why I think everything 383 00:17:07,560 --> 00:17:10,800 Speaker 2: has to work in tandem, the punting it to a 384 00:17:10,880 --> 00:17:14,120 Speaker 2: higher power take over. It's becoming too much. Now I'm 385 00:17:14,119 --> 00:17:17,000 Speaker 2: going to do what I have control of, which is 386 00:17:17,280 --> 00:17:20,119 Speaker 2: mentally getting myself to be exactly where I am and 387 00:17:20,160 --> 00:17:23,280 Speaker 2: focusing on right now. And when I get to the 388 00:17:23,280 --> 00:17:26,080 Speaker 2: place where I have to cross a bridge, we'll deal 389 00:17:26,119 --> 00:17:28,520 Speaker 2: with it then. But I ain't crossing bridges I don't 390 00:17:28,520 --> 00:17:31,040 Speaker 2: need to cross because someone could burn that bridge. 391 00:17:31,800 --> 00:17:36,320 Speaker 1: Yes, How am I going to cross a burn bridge? 392 00:17:36,640 --> 00:17:37,199 Speaker 1: You don't? 393 00:17:37,640 --> 00:17:40,880 Speaker 3: That's so true? Did Chris Medina say the burning bridges? 394 00:17:41,000 --> 00:17:42,920 Speaker 3: Was for you in twenty twenty four or was that 395 00:17:42,960 --> 00:17:43,919 Speaker 3: for you at the moment? 396 00:17:44,359 --> 00:17:46,879 Speaker 1: No, he said when did I mean it was in 397 00:17:46,920 --> 00:17:49,600 Speaker 1: twenty twenty two? He said? This is the year of 398 00:17:49,640 --> 00:17:50,360 Speaker 1: burning bridges. 399 00:17:50,440 --> 00:17:52,600 Speaker 3: Okay, and we have that on an episode. 400 00:17:52,680 --> 00:17:54,879 Speaker 1: Right, No, I haven't had him. We should get him 401 00:17:54,920 --> 00:17:55,560 Speaker 1: back on the podcast. 402 00:17:55,560 --> 00:17:57,840 Speaker 3: And now everyone will DM and be like, when's he coming? 403 00:17:57,960 --> 00:17:59,679 Speaker 1: Let's have him back on. I'm gonna reach out to him. 404 00:18:00,000 --> 00:18:04,080 Speaker 2: Okay, this person wants to know, are you keen on 405 00:18:04,200 --> 00:18:06,159 Speaker 2: doing IVF to have another baby? 406 00:18:06,520 --> 00:18:07,960 Speaker 3: Ooh, good question. 407 00:18:08,880 --> 00:18:12,160 Speaker 1: I'm not opposed to it. Did I say that right? 408 00:18:12,200 --> 00:18:12,879 Speaker 1: Opposed to it? 409 00:18:12,960 --> 00:18:13,800 Speaker 3: I'm not opposed to it? 410 00:18:13,880 --> 00:18:14,600 Speaker 1: Yeah, whoa? 411 00:18:14,680 --> 00:18:17,360 Speaker 2: That sounded really weird, really kind of Do you ever 412 00:18:17,400 --> 00:18:19,080 Speaker 2: say things and you're like that makes zero sense all 413 00:18:19,119 --> 00:18:19,440 Speaker 2: the time? 414 00:18:19,760 --> 00:18:21,639 Speaker 3: Yeah, And I question it and I spell things and 415 00:18:21,680 --> 00:18:22,960 Speaker 3: I'm like, well that's not how you spell it, and 416 00:18:23,000 --> 00:18:29,080 Speaker 3: it is weird. You're not opposed to it? Is IVF 417 00:18:29,200 --> 00:18:31,160 Speaker 3: after you freeze your eggs or is that something? 418 00:18:31,400 --> 00:18:31,560 Speaker 1: Yes? 419 00:18:31,640 --> 00:18:35,159 Speaker 2: IVF is you take your eggs out, take the sperm, 420 00:18:35,200 --> 00:18:38,040 Speaker 2: and create an embryo and then they insert it. 421 00:18:38,400 --> 00:18:42,000 Speaker 3: Interesting, So this is IVF is one of several techniques 422 00:18:42,040 --> 00:18:44,520 Speaker 3: available blah blah blah to help people during IVF, and 423 00:18:44,640 --> 00:18:47,560 Speaker 3: egg is removed from the woman's ovaries and fertilized with 424 00:18:47,680 --> 00:18:50,840 Speaker 3: sperm in a laboratory. The fertilized egg, called an embryo, 425 00:18:51,000 --> 00:18:53,199 Speaker 3: is then returned to the woman's wombs. So maybe it 426 00:18:53,200 --> 00:18:54,600 Speaker 3: don't freeze it first, or do you. 427 00:18:55,359 --> 00:19:00,920 Speaker 2: I think most people that decide to do IVF, they're 428 00:19:00,960 --> 00:19:05,000 Speaker 2: not freezing their eggs. Okay, they're like taking it's when 429 00:19:05,000 --> 00:19:08,760 Speaker 2: you're really struggling to get pregnant, they take the eggs 430 00:19:08,840 --> 00:19:11,840 Speaker 2: if you if you haven't met a partner. People, it's 431 00:19:11,880 --> 00:19:14,560 Speaker 2: really like insurance on being able to have a baby. 432 00:19:14,640 --> 00:19:16,840 Speaker 2: You freeze your eggs, whether you're the one that carries 433 00:19:16,880 --> 00:19:20,040 Speaker 2: the baby or a surrogate carries the baby. You're just 434 00:19:20,080 --> 00:19:21,600 Speaker 2: taking the eggs before. 435 00:19:21,320 --> 00:19:23,959 Speaker 1: You get to the point where like there's no eggs 436 00:19:24,160 --> 00:19:27,000 Speaker 1: or the your numbers drop. 437 00:19:27,520 --> 00:19:30,560 Speaker 2: Okay, so I'm not at that point yet. I went 438 00:19:30,800 --> 00:19:32,600 Speaker 2: into a fertility specialist. 439 00:19:32,760 --> 00:19:34,480 Speaker 1: He said that I. 440 00:19:34,440 --> 00:19:39,760 Speaker 2: Could be an egg donor. Okay, yes, but he said everything. 441 00:19:39,840 --> 00:19:41,879 Speaker 2: This is when I was, you know, weighing my options 442 00:19:41,880 --> 00:19:45,680 Speaker 2: for a sperm donor, which I'm still thinking about. 443 00:19:45,760 --> 00:19:47,159 Speaker 1: That is not out of the question. 444 00:19:47,280 --> 00:19:49,560 Speaker 2: So I just wanted to make sure everything was good 445 00:19:49,600 --> 00:19:51,440 Speaker 2: and right and tied up there it is. 446 00:19:51,760 --> 00:19:54,320 Speaker 1: I'm not a posed IVF I will do. I know. 447 00:19:54,400 --> 00:19:57,159 Speaker 2: I want another baby, So whatever I need to do 448 00:19:57,240 --> 00:19:59,560 Speaker 2: to make that happen, whether it's meeting a partner, even 449 00:19:59,600 --> 00:20:03,520 Speaker 2: though that freaks me the fuck out to have a 450 00:20:03,560 --> 00:20:10,520 Speaker 2: baby with somebody, or IVF, sperm donor IUI type deal, 451 00:20:10,800 --> 00:20:12,960 Speaker 2: any of it, any of it. I just want Ocean 452 00:20:12,960 --> 00:20:15,440 Speaker 2: to have a sibling and I want to experience being 453 00:20:15,480 --> 00:20:16,080 Speaker 2: pregnant again. 454 00:20:16,240 --> 00:20:19,639 Speaker 3: Yeah. Yeah, it's all wild, like the egg freezing and 455 00:20:19,720 --> 00:20:23,600 Speaker 3: all of it is like so it's very I've I've 456 00:20:23,880 --> 00:20:25,600 Speaker 3: you know, I know, we talked about this a little 457 00:20:25,640 --> 00:20:28,240 Speaker 3: bit a few episodes ago. I don't know if it's all, 458 00:20:28,320 --> 00:20:32,040 Speaker 3: but a lot of it seems like privileged stuff to do. 459 00:20:32,080 --> 00:20:34,119 Speaker 3: I don't know how much IVF costs. 460 00:20:33,800 --> 00:20:38,120 Speaker 1: It's you it's expensive. Yeah, it's extremely expensive. 461 00:20:38,160 --> 00:20:41,040 Speaker 3: Okay, so it's all it's like with same with egg freezing, 462 00:20:41,080 --> 00:20:43,719 Speaker 3: and like a lot of all stuff is so expensive 463 00:20:43,760 --> 00:20:46,840 Speaker 3: and it's like just you know, good for any of 464 00:20:46,840 --> 00:20:49,160 Speaker 3: the women who can do it and who can afford it, 465 00:20:49,320 --> 00:20:51,880 Speaker 3: and if you can't, it's like a ton of us 466 00:20:51,920 --> 00:20:54,920 Speaker 3: other women. It's like maybe something you think about down 467 00:20:54,960 --> 00:20:57,080 Speaker 3: the line, and if not, then it's just something you 468 00:20:57,720 --> 00:21:00,399 Speaker 3: sort of pass up. It's very interesting. I'm I'm still 469 00:21:00,440 --> 00:21:02,399 Speaker 3: obviously learning a lot about all of it, because I 470 00:21:02,520 --> 00:21:03,760 Speaker 3: just asked what IBF is. 471 00:21:04,080 --> 00:21:04,199 Speaker 1: Well. 472 00:21:04,280 --> 00:21:07,320 Speaker 2: I have friends who, from the time they were like 473 00:21:07,440 --> 00:21:12,160 Speaker 2: little kids, have just been incredible with children, right, they 474 00:21:12,280 --> 00:21:14,880 Speaker 2: just have had this like motherly instinct from the time 475 00:21:14,920 --> 00:21:18,640 Speaker 2: they were little tots. Yeah, and they struggle to get pregnant. 476 00:21:19,000 --> 00:21:22,920 Speaker 2: And I went through this guilt thing calling my friends 477 00:21:22,920 --> 00:21:26,600 Speaker 2: who are going through this journey and saying like, I'm 478 00:21:26,640 --> 00:21:30,800 Speaker 2: pregnant sixty days after I removed my IUD you know. 479 00:21:30,840 --> 00:21:32,879 Speaker 2: And I still struggle with it where these people have 480 00:21:32,920 --> 00:21:36,240 Speaker 2: incredible marriages and incredible lives and I'm sitting here with 481 00:21:36,280 --> 00:21:39,959 Speaker 2: a baby, and my world essentially has like that's all 482 00:21:40,000 --> 00:21:41,639 Speaker 2: they want in life is a baby, and here I 483 00:21:41,680 --> 00:21:45,520 Speaker 2: have the baby with like kind of a messed up situation. 484 00:21:46,760 --> 00:21:49,440 Speaker 1: So that fucks with my mind. Sometimes I'm not even 485 00:21:49,480 --> 00:21:52,320 Speaker 1: opposed to adoption. I just want a baby. However the 486 00:21:52,320 --> 00:21:54,480 Speaker 1: baby gets here, wherever the baby. 487 00:21:54,160 --> 00:21:57,359 Speaker 2: Comes from, I just know I would like another child. Yeah, 488 00:21:57,440 --> 00:21:58,400 Speaker 2: So that's where I'm at. 489 00:22:01,359 --> 00:22:03,320 Speaker 1: Are the questions good today, Judy are really good. 490 00:22:03,400 --> 00:22:04,919 Speaker 3: These are great. 491 00:22:05,400 --> 00:22:08,879 Speaker 2: Oh, this one's funny and well not funny, kind of 492 00:22:08,920 --> 00:22:11,680 Speaker 2: like dark but also. 493 00:22:13,200 --> 00:22:15,680 Speaker 1: It'll be quick. What would be your last meal on Earth? 494 00:22:16,840 --> 00:22:20,119 Speaker 1: So if you were to it's your last day and 495 00:22:20,160 --> 00:22:23,640 Speaker 1: then you're getting taken out, do you know yours? Yeah? 496 00:22:23,680 --> 00:22:25,000 Speaker 1: I know exactly what mine would be. 497 00:22:25,200 --> 00:22:28,000 Speaker 3: I it's weird because I think, like, if it's my 498 00:22:28,119 --> 00:22:30,320 Speaker 3: last day and a meteor's coming, I would just be 499 00:22:30,400 --> 00:22:32,679 Speaker 3: like I wouldn't necessarily be thinking about food, and I 500 00:22:32,720 --> 00:22:36,880 Speaker 3: was sitting with my loved ones. But if I had to. Oh, 501 00:22:37,680 --> 00:22:42,359 Speaker 3: I hate to say this, but I think I think 502 00:22:42,520 --> 00:22:45,000 Speaker 3: steak and potatoes. And I hate to say this because 503 00:22:45,040 --> 00:22:47,200 Speaker 3: I know we're on our journeys right now. 504 00:22:47,400 --> 00:22:52,960 Speaker 2: Well after we yeah, after we went to the sanctuary. Yeah, 505 00:22:53,680 --> 00:22:56,359 Speaker 2: like now I really want to give up the meat. Yeah, 506 00:22:56,400 --> 00:22:58,360 Speaker 2: but I'm not judging you. This is your last day 507 00:22:58,400 --> 00:23:01,080 Speaker 2: on Earth. Yeah, it would do a steak, any sauce. 508 00:23:01,160 --> 00:23:03,440 Speaker 3: I would do a steak, no sauce, just a nice 509 00:23:03,680 --> 00:23:06,920 Speaker 3: mediumware steak. Oh my god, garlic butter, I guess would 510 00:23:06,920 --> 00:23:09,960 Speaker 3: be the sauce. Then I have my garlic mashed potatoes 511 00:23:10,000 --> 00:23:15,000 Speaker 3: and then broccoli done. Yum, that's what I'm eating. That's 512 00:23:15,040 --> 00:23:16,560 Speaker 3: just what I'm eating. What about you? 513 00:23:17,280 --> 00:23:22,320 Speaker 1: I would have and I've actually cut this out of 514 00:23:22,320 --> 00:23:25,080 Speaker 1: my diet, like long before we even visited the sanctuary. Okay, 515 00:23:26,040 --> 00:23:31,040 Speaker 1: a lambio. I know it's horrible, but it is the 516 00:23:31,080 --> 00:23:35,160 Speaker 1: best thing on earth. I would have Bokleva for my dessert. 517 00:23:35,680 --> 00:23:36,960 Speaker 3: Okay, good. 518 00:23:37,240 --> 00:23:39,160 Speaker 1: And to be honest, if it's my last day, we're 519 00:23:39,160 --> 00:23:40,879 Speaker 1: going out with the bang, I'm having a jack and 520 00:23:40,920 --> 00:23:43,080 Speaker 1: coke and I'm gonna wash that down with a vodka soda. 521 00:23:43,720 --> 00:23:45,320 Speaker 1: We're fucking shit up. 522 00:23:45,520 --> 00:23:48,199 Speaker 3: A jack and coke first. So I always thought your 523 00:23:48,280 --> 00:23:50,200 Speaker 3: drink of choice when you were drinking was vodka soda. 524 00:23:50,240 --> 00:23:51,040 Speaker 3: Why jack and coke? 525 00:23:51,119 --> 00:23:51,520 Speaker 1: That is that? 526 00:23:51,600 --> 00:23:51,679 Speaker 3: Like? 527 00:23:51,720 --> 00:23:54,159 Speaker 1: I just I just liked to jack and coke with 528 00:23:54,200 --> 00:23:55,480 Speaker 1: a meal, youkay? 529 00:23:55,680 --> 00:23:56,360 Speaker 3: Yeah? 530 00:23:56,520 --> 00:24:00,560 Speaker 1: And I loved to shoot honey jack Oh my god. See. 531 00:24:00,560 --> 00:24:03,120 Speaker 3: And that's another thing too, that's interesting. I've talked about 532 00:24:03,119 --> 00:24:06,800 Speaker 3: this before with Kyle and said, if let's say we 533 00:24:06,880 --> 00:24:08,840 Speaker 3: knew a meteor was coming and we haven't, we had 534 00:24:08,880 --> 00:24:11,000 Speaker 3: a few hours left to live, I would want to 535 00:24:11,000 --> 00:24:13,879 Speaker 3: get hammered. And someone like Kyle said he was like, 536 00:24:14,000 --> 00:24:16,760 Speaker 3: absolutely not. I would want to be completely sober, like 537 00:24:17,320 --> 00:24:19,800 Speaker 3: I wanted, like take in those moments with you, those 538 00:24:19,920 --> 00:24:22,800 Speaker 3: these last moments on Earth. I am going to be 539 00:24:23,480 --> 00:24:24,200 Speaker 3: so drunk. 540 00:24:24,520 --> 00:24:27,160 Speaker 2: Let's be real, if it's my last day on Earth, 541 00:24:27,200 --> 00:24:30,240 Speaker 2: for real, I don't have an appetite. I'm vomiting, and 542 00:24:30,400 --> 00:24:36,920 Speaker 2: I'm extremely upset exactly. That's why it's just like, it's 543 00:24:36,960 --> 00:24:39,640 Speaker 2: an easy question. Don't think about it too much. Yeah, 544 00:24:39,720 --> 00:24:41,560 Speaker 2: because it let's be real, if any of us had 545 00:24:41,560 --> 00:24:43,080 Speaker 2: our last day on Earth and we knew it was 546 00:24:43,080 --> 00:24:46,560 Speaker 2: our last day, yeah, devastating. 547 00:24:46,040 --> 00:24:50,080 Speaker 3: Devastating, devastating. So I'm getting hammered. I'm not like, because 548 00:24:50,160 --> 00:24:52,159 Speaker 3: I talked about this with him too, I'm not trying 549 00:24:52,160 --> 00:24:54,919 Speaker 3: any new drugs like I'm not because some people are like, 550 00:24:54,920 --> 00:24:56,720 Speaker 3: oh my god, then I'm gonna do mushrooms. 551 00:24:56,760 --> 00:24:58,639 Speaker 1: It's like no, no, no, no, I'm sticking to what 552 00:24:58,720 --> 00:24:59,880 Speaker 1: I know, the drink. 553 00:25:00,040 --> 00:25:02,760 Speaker 3: Sticking to what I know. I'm getting hammered. Yeah, maybe 554 00:25:02,800 --> 00:25:05,200 Speaker 3: if I can stomach a steak. I'm eating the steak. 555 00:25:05,320 --> 00:25:08,720 Speaker 3: But I'm really just focusing on time with my friends 556 00:25:08,760 --> 00:25:10,680 Speaker 3: and family, and I get list. 557 00:25:12,720 --> 00:25:14,560 Speaker 1: I really want to spend a lot of time with 558 00:25:14,600 --> 00:25:16,280 Speaker 1: my friends and family, and I want to give Kyle 559 00:25:16,400 --> 00:25:18,240 Speaker 1: a bloodless big kiss. 560 00:25:18,760 --> 00:25:23,199 Speaker 4: Oh my god, it's not really happening. Let's keep its 561 00:25:23,240 --> 00:25:26,160 Speaker 4: surface level because if we go there, it's gonna take 562 00:25:26,280 --> 00:25:29,520 Speaker 4: me out if I start going to like ocean's face 563 00:25:29,760 --> 00:25:31,200 Speaker 4: and like no, my god. 564 00:25:31,080 --> 00:25:33,240 Speaker 3: No you can't do that. Did you not hear the 565 00:25:33,359 --> 00:25:37,000 Speaker 3: Jim Carrey story. It was Jim Carrey. I believe. If 566 00:25:37,000 --> 00:25:38,920 Speaker 3: I'm wrong, then I'm wrong. But it was a celebrity. 567 00:25:38,920 --> 00:25:41,040 Speaker 3: I think it was Jim Carrey. He was on Hawaii 568 00:25:41,400 --> 00:25:43,199 Speaker 3: and he was with his assistant, and I think he 569 00:25:43,240 --> 00:25:43,760 Speaker 3: has a child. 570 00:25:43,840 --> 00:25:46,800 Speaker 1: You say he was on Hawaii Island. 571 00:25:46,960 --> 00:25:51,520 Speaker 3: He was in Hawaii. He was in Hawaii. They get 572 00:25:51,640 --> 00:25:54,040 Speaker 3: he gets a text from his assistant or there's an 573 00:25:54,080 --> 00:25:58,080 Speaker 3: alert that says there's a missile coming. You have like 574 00:25:58,119 --> 00:26:01,879 Speaker 3: an hour to live. Basically, take cover. You're about to die, 575 00:26:02,080 --> 00:26:05,080 Speaker 3: like literally. Their textsas that he's talking to his assistant 576 00:26:05,359 --> 00:26:07,280 Speaker 3: and they're like what do we do? And hiss. He 577 00:26:07,359 --> 00:26:09,000 Speaker 3: basically is like I don't want to die in a 578 00:26:09,040 --> 00:26:12,120 Speaker 3: car like trying to get off this island. So I'm 579 00:26:12,160 --> 00:26:14,720 Speaker 3: just gonna have to accept my fate. So he either 580 00:26:14,760 --> 00:26:16,199 Speaker 3: I don't know if he has a kid or not, 581 00:26:16,280 --> 00:26:18,760 Speaker 3: but he ends up being on the beach and sitting 582 00:26:18,840 --> 00:26:21,040 Speaker 3: there and he's like, Okay, this is it. And in 583 00:26:21,080 --> 00:26:24,919 Speaker 3: this moment, he said he and you can google this, 584 00:26:25,040 --> 00:26:28,680 Speaker 3: he like accepted his fate and like thought about all 585 00:26:28,680 --> 00:26:31,720 Speaker 3: these different things and it was like a true moment 586 00:26:31,760 --> 00:26:34,280 Speaker 3: of just like accepting his fate. And I think he 587 00:26:34,320 --> 00:26:37,200 Speaker 3: called it a beautiful moment. But and then they get 588 00:26:37,240 --> 00:26:40,040 Speaker 3: a caller text that like that was a April fool 589 00:26:40,480 --> 00:26:43,280 Speaker 3: and he was furious, but like, which I would be too, but. 590 00:26:43,440 --> 00:26:44,560 Speaker 1: I'd be furious too. 591 00:26:45,080 --> 00:26:45,520 Speaker 3: Wild. 592 00:26:46,680 --> 00:26:50,720 Speaker 2: Yeah, but that I feel like, who knows, Maybe you 593 00:26:50,800 --> 00:26:53,920 Speaker 2: do tap into something where it's like, Okay, this is happening, 594 00:26:53,960 --> 00:26:55,760 Speaker 2: and I now I'm going to see what the other 595 00:26:55,960 --> 00:26:57,520 Speaker 2: side may or may not be. 596 00:26:58,200 --> 00:27:01,359 Speaker 1: Damn, this just got deep. I know, I really enjoyed 597 00:27:01,359 --> 00:27:03,480 Speaker 1: your simple question of what my last meal would be 598 00:27:03,720 --> 00:27:06,000 Speaker 1: a yarro with blac lablah. Let's just leave it at that. 599 00:27:07,080 --> 00:27:11,320 Speaker 2: At that, Okay, how do you manage to keep your 600 00:27:11,320 --> 00:27:13,720 Speaker 2: cool and not talk about all the things that are 601 00:27:13,760 --> 00:27:14,159 Speaker 2: going on? 602 00:27:14,720 --> 00:27:16,520 Speaker 3: I actually wonder that about you all the time. 603 00:27:16,840 --> 00:27:22,000 Speaker 2: It is the hardest thing in the world, it really is, 604 00:27:22,960 --> 00:27:26,000 Speaker 2: to not just like get on my story and be like. 605 00:27:26,440 --> 00:27:29,000 Speaker 1: Here it all is here. 606 00:27:29,040 --> 00:27:33,720 Speaker 2: It all is an out every single person who's participated 607 00:27:33,800 --> 00:27:34,359 Speaker 2: in the shit. 608 00:27:35,280 --> 00:27:39,840 Speaker 3: The self control that you have is astounding. Just so 609 00:27:40,280 --> 00:27:44,000 Speaker 3: people you know, your friends on here. No, the amount 610 00:27:44,000 --> 00:27:47,000 Speaker 3: of times I've told Lalla like it's time get on, 611 00:27:47,440 --> 00:27:50,159 Speaker 3: you know, make a video and time to tell the 612 00:27:50,240 --> 00:27:53,080 Speaker 3: truth and we're gonna release it, and she's just like 613 00:27:53,240 --> 00:27:56,760 Speaker 3: so another caliber and is like, Nope, it's not what 614 00:27:56,800 --> 00:28:00,240 Speaker 3: we're gonna do. I just got to control myself, got 615 00:28:00,240 --> 00:28:02,600 Speaker 3: to keep moving forward. So I don't know how you 616 00:28:02,640 --> 00:28:04,720 Speaker 3: do it. I would have been, well. 617 00:28:04,880 --> 00:28:06,880 Speaker 1: Firstly, I think about Ocean. 618 00:28:07,000 --> 00:28:10,040 Speaker 2: M hm, yeah, you know, it's I feel like I'm 619 00:28:10,080 --> 00:28:12,560 Speaker 2: playing a game of chess, which is I'm not used 620 00:28:12,600 --> 00:28:18,439 Speaker 2: to that at all, you know, but when someone is 621 00:28:18,760 --> 00:28:22,240 Speaker 2: when someone fights with fire, then I have no choice 622 00:28:22,359 --> 00:28:26,720 Speaker 2: but to fight with fire as well. But it's I 623 00:28:26,760 --> 00:28:29,680 Speaker 2: think about her first, and then I also going back 624 00:28:29,720 --> 00:28:33,040 Speaker 2: to how do you let the unknown not take over? 625 00:28:34,080 --> 00:28:36,200 Speaker 2: When I get to that place, I have to remember 626 00:28:36,280 --> 00:28:37,479 Speaker 2: to keep my head where my feet are. 627 00:28:37,520 --> 00:28:38,560 Speaker 1: And we're not doing that. 628 00:28:38,640 --> 00:28:42,080 Speaker 2: This is we have to like I believe in the universe, 629 00:28:42,080 --> 00:28:44,160 Speaker 2: and the universe has a plan and God has a plan, 630 00:28:44,200 --> 00:28:47,160 Speaker 2: and everyone is held accountable at some point. 631 00:28:47,320 --> 00:28:48,920 Speaker 1: Okay, even Tom. 632 00:28:48,720 --> 00:28:53,000 Speaker 2: Girardi at the ripe old age of almost eighty had 633 00:28:53,040 --> 00:28:54,040 Speaker 2: to answer. 634 00:28:53,720 --> 00:28:54,640 Speaker 1: For what he did. 635 00:28:55,520 --> 00:29:00,360 Speaker 2: Yeah, we're all going to have that day come, and 636 00:29:01,280 --> 00:29:06,400 Speaker 2: I just kind of lean into that. Now will there 637 00:29:06,440 --> 00:29:08,680 Speaker 2: may be be a day where I say it's it's time, 638 00:29:08,880 --> 00:29:12,840 Speaker 2: I'm fucking done. There may be that day where it's like, 639 00:29:13,280 --> 00:29:17,720 Speaker 2: bring the fucking dogs out now I've had enough. Yeah, 640 00:29:18,160 --> 00:29:18,880 Speaker 2: not time yet. 641 00:29:19,520 --> 00:29:21,719 Speaker 3: Yeah, And thinking about yeah, I can tell. I mean 642 00:29:21,760 --> 00:29:23,880 Speaker 3: I see it in you. Every day you think about ocean, 643 00:29:23,880 --> 00:29:28,000 Speaker 3: and then you have your faith that like that what's 644 00:29:28,320 --> 00:29:29,720 Speaker 3: done in the dark will come to light, like you 645 00:29:29,760 --> 00:29:31,720 Speaker 3: always say, so, I just have to. 646 00:29:31,920 --> 00:29:37,000 Speaker 1: Because it's all about ocean. It's all about ocean. Yeah, 647 00:29:37,440 --> 00:29:41,240 Speaker 1: so I have to, like and protecting her. 648 00:29:41,800 --> 00:29:44,880 Speaker 3: How wild is that that literally two and a half 649 00:29:45,000 --> 00:29:49,720 Speaker 3: three years ago, it was probably about you, not that 650 00:29:49,800 --> 00:29:52,120 Speaker 3: saying your self is Persian. But for me, most of 651 00:29:52,360 --> 00:29:54,360 Speaker 3: most things are about me right now I don't have 652 00:29:54,440 --> 00:29:57,280 Speaker 3: someone to go and then all of a sudden, in 653 00:29:57,360 --> 00:30:01,080 Speaker 3: within nine months, it's not about you. You would literally 654 00:30:01,680 --> 00:30:04,959 Speaker 3: put your life on the line for this being in 655 00:30:05,000 --> 00:30:05,360 Speaker 3: the world. 656 00:30:05,920 --> 00:30:08,240 Speaker 1: Yeah, absolutely, I think. 657 00:30:08,400 --> 00:30:10,320 Speaker 3: I mean it's just incredible, like I think about it 658 00:30:10,320 --> 00:30:14,200 Speaker 3: with moms and dads, and I'm like, well, it's. 659 00:30:13,640 --> 00:30:17,400 Speaker 2: A very animalistic thing that happens. You know, you see 660 00:30:17,440 --> 00:30:20,600 Speaker 2: it in the wild with bears. You come for a 661 00:30:20,600 --> 00:30:24,800 Speaker 2: bear's clubs like that mama bear is clawing you to death. 662 00:30:25,200 --> 00:30:28,040 Speaker 1: That's how I feel about ocean. Yeah, so there's that 663 00:30:28,960 --> 00:30:30,800 Speaker 1: look at me. I'm wired. I'm like, maybe I. 664 00:30:30,720 --> 00:30:34,520 Speaker 3: Can go live right now. And like when it comes 665 00:30:34,600 --> 00:30:37,440 Speaker 3: to that shit, I am not the best assistant because 666 00:30:37,440 --> 00:30:40,160 Speaker 3: I'm like, yeah, here we go, it's time. I'm like 667 00:30:40,200 --> 00:30:43,960 Speaker 3: setting the lights up, relax, not time. 668 00:30:45,320 --> 00:30:49,480 Speaker 2: The relationship changes within the vander Pump Rules Cast. 669 00:30:49,840 --> 00:30:52,200 Speaker 3: How does it, oh, like, how does it change his season? 670 00:30:52,640 --> 00:30:52,880 Speaker 4: Well? 671 00:30:52,920 --> 00:30:56,280 Speaker 2: I okay, so it says the Vanner Pump Rules Cast former, 672 00:30:56,400 --> 00:30:59,440 Speaker 2: so maybe the former cast. Well with both, I mean 673 00:30:59,440 --> 00:31:01,480 Speaker 2: there's so much that happens where a passionate group, the 674 00:31:01,520 --> 00:31:04,680 Speaker 2: littlest things set us off. That's why we have a 675 00:31:04,720 --> 00:31:07,760 Speaker 2: show on the air. Yeah, because it's not normal most 676 00:31:07,760 --> 00:31:10,360 Speaker 2: people that can shake things off, like our group maybe 677 00:31:10,360 --> 00:31:12,440 Speaker 2: has a little bit of a tougher time. Things that 678 00:31:12,520 --> 00:31:16,240 Speaker 2: happened four, five, six years ago that like most people 679 00:31:16,280 --> 00:31:17,760 Speaker 2: would be like that happened a really long time ago 680 00:31:17,800 --> 00:31:22,040 Speaker 2: and people change. Our cast is like nope, holding you accountable. 681 00:31:21,480 --> 00:31:24,840 Speaker 1: Still for that. It's a lot. 682 00:31:25,400 --> 00:31:31,200 Speaker 2: Yeah, and the former cast, like some of them want 683 00:31:31,360 --> 00:31:35,280 Speaker 2: nothing to do with vander talk, so we leave that 684 00:31:35,520 --> 00:31:40,000 Speaker 2: in the background, and other people like Dody I feel 685 00:31:40,040 --> 00:31:41,719 Speaker 2: like she's pretty open to hearing about it. 686 00:31:42,080 --> 00:31:43,880 Speaker 3: Yeah, and she talks about it. She talked about it 687 00:31:43,920 --> 00:31:47,000 Speaker 3: on your podcast when she was a guest. Yeah. 688 00:31:47,360 --> 00:31:47,719 Speaker 1: Yeah. 689 00:31:47,800 --> 00:31:48,160 Speaker 3: Yeah. 690 00:31:48,200 --> 00:31:51,960 Speaker 2: There's something about the former cast when they can say like, hey, 691 00:31:52,160 --> 00:31:54,240 Speaker 2: I don't like talking about this because it affects me 692 00:31:54,280 --> 00:31:57,400 Speaker 2: in this way that I'm like, I just love honesty 693 00:31:57,480 --> 00:31:57,920 Speaker 2: so much. 694 00:31:59,280 --> 00:32:00,920 Speaker 1: You do when you can tell me. 695 00:32:00,920 --> 00:32:03,280 Speaker 2: Like, hey, by the way this affects me, it kind 696 00:32:03,280 --> 00:32:04,280 Speaker 2: of ruffles my feathers. 697 00:32:04,400 --> 00:32:06,920 Speaker 1: I don't want to talk about it. Great. Yeah, I'm 698 00:32:06,920 --> 00:32:07,800 Speaker 1: not a mind reader. 699 00:32:08,320 --> 00:32:10,960 Speaker 3: It's the dirt. I just think you love director, tell 700 00:32:11,000 --> 00:32:12,880 Speaker 3: me what you want so then I can go in 701 00:32:12,920 --> 00:32:15,400 Speaker 3: that d It's so simple and so many people don't 702 00:32:15,440 --> 00:32:17,440 Speaker 3: do it. You don't want me to do this anymore, 703 00:32:17,480 --> 00:32:20,040 Speaker 3: and it makes sense. Okay, great, not going to say it, 704 00:32:20,120 --> 00:32:23,000 Speaker 3: not going to do it. It's the tiptoeing and like 705 00:32:23,280 --> 00:32:25,400 Speaker 3: oh you did this, and like, well, I didn't know 706 00:32:25,560 --> 00:32:26,080 Speaker 3: not to do that. 707 00:32:26,080 --> 00:32:27,920 Speaker 2: I don't know it's true or the coming from an 708 00:32:27,920 --> 00:32:33,280 Speaker 2: angle of like really like you let it fester and 709 00:32:33,320 --> 00:32:36,400 Speaker 2: then you hit a breaking point. And it's like we 710 00:32:36,440 --> 00:32:39,120 Speaker 2: all do that where we try to shove things down 711 00:32:39,200 --> 00:32:41,760 Speaker 2: where communication is something like the thought of it is 712 00:32:41,800 --> 00:32:45,200 Speaker 2: so easy, like just express yourself, but it's like that 713 00:32:45,280 --> 00:32:46,040 Speaker 2: shit is hard. 714 00:32:46,280 --> 00:32:47,760 Speaker 3: Yeah, no, it is hard. 715 00:32:47,880 --> 00:32:48,880 Speaker 1: It's really hard. 716 00:32:49,120 --> 00:32:53,440 Speaker 2: It's hard to come from a place of vulnerability instead 717 00:32:53,480 --> 00:32:55,640 Speaker 2: of like this affects me and the only way I 718 00:32:55,680 --> 00:32:59,360 Speaker 2: know how to deal with these feelings is to immediately 719 00:32:59,400 --> 00:33:01,800 Speaker 2: go into defense mode and aggression. 720 00:33:02,520 --> 00:33:06,360 Speaker 3: Do you ever because this is thinking about you and like, 721 00:33:06,360 --> 00:33:08,720 Speaker 3: because I do this all the time. Not all the time, 722 00:33:08,720 --> 00:33:11,040 Speaker 3: but I used to. Do you ever find yourself in 723 00:33:11,080 --> 00:33:13,560 Speaker 3: an argument or in a battle in midway through you 724 00:33:13,600 --> 00:33:15,640 Speaker 3: realize like, oh shit, I'm on the wrong end, but 725 00:33:15,680 --> 00:33:17,720 Speaker 3: now I can't back down. I gotta keep going or 726 00:33:17,760 --> 00:33:19,800 Speaker 3: do you never You're like, if I'm about to go 727 00:33:19,880 --> 00:33:22,880 Speaker 3: into an argument, I know I'm I'm probably right. 728 00:33:24,160 --> 00:33:26,560 Speaker 2: No, I go into arguments all the time. I mean 729 00:33:26,600 --> 00:33:30,200 Speaker 2: it's a rare occasion. Like our producer the other day, 730 00:33:30,200 --> 00:33:32,840 Speaker 2: he was like, it's so crazy, Lalla, because like you 731 00:33:32,880 --> 00:33:36,200 Speaker 2: go into an argument one hundred and eighty percent right 732 00:33:36,880 --> 00:33:40,160 Speaker 2: and like you may be completely wrong. 733 00:33:40,160 --> 00:33:43,720 Speaker 1: But by the end of the conversation it's like, wait 734 00:33:43,760 --> 00:33:45,920 Speaker 1: a minute, maybe she's right. 735 00:33:47,160 --> 00:33:50,080 Speaker 3: You, and every went around you is like good points, 736 00:33:50,520 --> 00:33:51,600 Speaker 3: you're right, law. 737 00:33:51,640 --> 00:33:54,240 Speaker 1: But I think I think too much on the details. 738 00:33:54,760 --> 00:33:55,800 Speaker 1: I don't know what it is. 739 00:33:56,720 --> 00:33:57,520 Speaker 3: It's interesting. 740 00:33:57,800 --> 00:33:59,959 Speaker 2: But if you make a valid point, I have no 741 00:34:00,080 --> 00:34:02,200 Speaker 2: problem being like, you know what, that makes all the 742 00:34:02,240 --> 00:34:03,840 Speaker 2: sense and I completely understand what you mean. 743 00:34:03,880 --> 00:34:05,520 Speaker 1: Now, Yeah I fucked up. 744 00:34:05,800 --> 00:34:07,800 Speaker 3: Oh okay, I'm backing down. 745 00:34:07,960 --> 00:34:11,600 Speaker 1: Yeah I can back down in two seconds. Yeah, I just, 746 00:34:11,960 --> 00:34:13,400 Speaker 1: in my mind make a lot of sense. 747 00:34:14,880 --> 00:34:17,480 Speaker 3: I mean, you do. You argue with the best of them. 748 00:34:17,840 --> 00:34:20,680 Speaker 2: The hardest part is is I can't argue with someone 749 00:34:20,680 --> 00:34:25,080 Speaker 2: who wants to hold me accountable for things that happened 750 00:34:25,120 --> 00:34:29,560 Speaker 2: a really long time ago that we've already talked about. Yeah, 751 00:34:29,600 --> 00:34:33,000 Speaker 2: and that's what happens with the show a lot of 752 00:34:33,040 --> 00:34:36,839 Speaker 2: the time. Yeah, is they want to bring I don't 753 00:34:36,840 --> 00:34:39,000 Speaker 2: want to say they, because not all of them do this, 754 00:34:39,680 --> 00:34:44,640 Speaker 2: but a specific person loves to go back to what 755 00:34:44,719 --> 00:34:47,879 Speaker 2: I did when I first entered the show or when 756 00:34:47,880 --> 00:34:51,239 Speaker 2: I was drinking, and it's like we've talked about it. 757 00:34:52,040 --> 00:34:58,040 Speaker 2: We already talked about this. Yeah, I live in today. Yes, 758 00:34:58,880 --> 00:35:02,960 Speaker 2: and it's also hard when you have people who want 759 00:35:02,960 --> 00:35:03,920 Speaker 2: to hold you accountable. 760 00:35:03,960 --> 00:35:05,279 Speaker 1: But it's like, who the fuck are you? 761 00:35:06,320 --> 00:35:06,520 Speaker 3: Right? 762 00:35:06,680 --> 00:35:09,000 Speaker 2: I got people to hold me accountable, all right, I live, 763 00:35:09,400 --> 00:35:12,799 Speaker 2: My mama lived with me, bro, my mama can put 764 00:35:12,840 --> 00:35:15,120 Speaker 2: me in check. I got a sponsor to put me 765 00:35:15,120 --> 00:35:17,160 Speaker 2: in check. Like, who the fuck do you think you 766 00:35:17,280 --> 00:35:21,040 Speaker 2: are that you're gonna be schooling me on life? Yeah, 767 00:35:21,120 --> 00:35:23,720 Speaker 2: once you become Bethany Frankel, then yeah, you can school 768 00:35:23,760 --> 00:35:26,000 Speaker 2: me on a lot of shit. Until then, shut the 769 00:35:26,000 --> 00:35:26,480 Speaker 2: fuck up. 770 00:35:27,080 --> 00:35:30,520 Speaker 3: Yeah, that's why only a select few I believe can 771 00:35:30,560 --> 00:35:33,840 Speaker 3: do it and they stay on TV. And that's you guys, 772 00:35:34,280 --> 00:35:36,600 Speaker 3: because I'm like not sure how, but. 773 00:35:36,600 --> 00:35:39,480 Speaker 1: I just want to keep making positive changes in my life. 774 00:35:40,160 --> 00:35:43,239 Speaker 3: I mean, yeah, we have. It's like I am not 775 00:35:43,320 --> 00:35:45,560 Speaker 3: the same person I was last week, and I enjoy 776 00:35:45,640 --> 00:35:47,920 Speaker 3: that you are not the same person you were who 777 00:35:47,960 --> 00:35:51,200 Speaker 3: knows yesterday last year? Definitely not when you were drinking. 778 00:35:51,480 --> 00:35:54,160 Speaker 3: So it's just like wild to me when people bring 779 00:35:54,280 --> 00:35:58,320 Speaker 3: up things that you did when you were drinking or whatever, 780 00:35:58,400 --> 00:36:01,040 Speaker 3: even last year. It's like, that's not me anymore. 781 00:36:01,440 --> 00:36:03,799 Speaker 2: Well, because a lot has changed. I made a lot 782 00:36:03,840 --> 00:36:07,120 Speaker 2: of decisions during my drinking days or even take the 783 00:36:07,200 --> 00:36:10,120 Speaker 2: drinking out when I was young that like I look 784 00:36:10,200 --> 00:36:14,720 Speaker 2: back and go, I don't recognize that person. But without 785 00:36:14,760 --> 00:36:20,120 Speaker 2: that moment, I wouldn't be here right now. And you know, 786 00:36:20,200 --> 00:36:23,359 Speaker 2: I saw the first episode of vander Pump. Oh my god, yes, 787 00:36:24,000 --> 00:36:25,080 Speaker 2: they sent it to us. 788 00:36:25,200 --> 00:36:25,880 Speaker 3: How do you feel? 789 00:36:26,400 --> 00:36:27,720 Speaker 1: I think it's great. Okay. 790 00:36:28,120 --> 00:36:32,520 Speaker 2: I think my past and things that I have said 791 00:36:32,800 --> 00:36:35,680 Speaker 2: and done are going to clyde with the person I 792 00:36:35,719 --> 00:36:37,719 Speaker 2: am now. And there's going to be a lot of 793 00:36:37,760 --> 00:36:40,120 Speaker 2: people who call me a hypocrite and want to hang 794 00:36:40,120 --> 00:36:41,200 Speaker 2: on to that person that I. 795 00:36:41,280 --> 00:36:41,759 Speaker 1: Used to be. 796 00:36:43,120 --> 00:36:46,840 Speaker 2: And there's going to be people who say, like, Okay, 797 00:36:46,920 --> 00:36:49,280 Speaker 2: she's come really far. And I have to be okay 798 00:36:49,280 --> 00:36:52,600 Speaker 2: with those people who call me out right, And this 799 00:36:52,640 --> 00:36:56,200 Speaker 2: is where I have to practice the separating reality from reality. 800 00:36:56,640 --> 00:36:58,719 Speaker 3: What do you have to say? Like, let's say, though 801 00:36:59,080 --> 00:37:02,399 Speaker 3: right here, someone said you're someone just viewed watched the 802 00:37:02,560 --> 00:37:06,120 Speaker 3: first episode of season ten and they said, oh my god, Lala, 803 00:37:06,160 --> 00:37:08,000 Speaker 3: you're such a hypocrite. What do you have to say 804 00:37:08,000 --> 00:37:09,080 Speaker 3: to that those people? 805 00:37:09,239 --> 00:37:09,600 Speaker 1: Nothing? 806 00:37:09,880 --> 00:37:13,280 Speaker 2: Oh my breath is so precious and my time and energy. 807 00:37:13,880 --> 00:37:16,920 Speaker 2: I don't need to convince you of anything. Who the 808 00:37:16,960 --> 00:37:18,799 Speaker 2: fuck do you think you are that I that I 809 00:37:18,840 --> 00:37:21,040 Speaker 2: need to sit here and explain. 810 00:37:21,239 --> 00:37:24,600 Speaker 1: My case to you. I don't have to. I think 811 00:37:24,600 --> 00:37:26,720 Speaker 1: that's what's so nice about this. 812 00:37:26,600 --> 00:37:29,560 Speaker 2: Is we we know when we're filming the reunion already, 813 00:37:30,719 --> 00:37:34,200 Speaker 2: and I just there's gonna be certain things where I'm like, 814 00:37:34,200 --> 00:37:38,319 Speaker 2: I'm not arguing about this. Yeah, yes, sometimes I say 815 00:37:38,320 --> 00:37:39,799 Speaker 2: stupid shit, and I'm okay with that. 816 00:37:40,520 --> 00:37:42,920 Speaker 3: Moving on, Yeah, I'm okay with that. 817 00:37:43,680 --> 00:37:46,520 Speaker 1: We all do. The difference is mine's documented for all 818 00:37:46,520 --> 00:37:47,480 Speaker 1: of you to fucking. 819 00:37:47,280 --> 00:37:49,680 Speaker 3: Judge me exactly exactly. 820 00:37:51,080 --> 00:37:53,840 Speaker 2: There is a scene though, where I'm like, oh my god, 821 00:37:54,000 --> 00:37:58,120 Speaker 2: episode one. In episode one, okay, I'm like, I am 822 00:37:58,280 --> 00:38:01,480 Speaker 2: just like, I don't who is that person? 823 00:38:01,840 --> 00:38:02,240 Speaker 3: Really? 824 00:38:03,040 --> 00:38:07,080 Speaker 1: Yeah? Like a throwback scene, Oh okay, like a flashback okay, 825 00:38:07,320 --> 00:38:11,760 Speaker 1: and I'm looking at myself going crawl into a fucking hole. 826 00:38:11,880 --> 00:38:12,720 Speaker 1: What are you doing? 827 00:38:13,440 --> 00:38:17,440 Speaker 2: But again, that moment is like, it's things like that 828 00:38:17,719 --> 00:38:20,600 Speaker 2: where I sat down the day that I got sober 829 00:38:20,600 --> 00:38:25,120 Speaker 2: and said, these are the reasons why I've got to 830 00:38:25,160 --> 00:38:28,000 Speaker 2: stop drinking. Not that I was drunk in the scene, 831 00:38:28,440 --> 00:38:31,840 Speaker 2: but I was still in my alcoholic mind where you 832 00:38:32,080 --> 00:38:35,720 Speaker 2: just don't think. And even now today, I have many 833 00:38:35,760 --> 00:38:39,680 Speaker 2: moments where I'm a dry drunk where I have to say, 834 00:38:39,719 --> 00:38:41,240 Speaker 2: you know what, it's time to pick up the fucking 835 00:38:41,280 --> 00:38:43,400 Speaker 2: big book and do better dry drunk. 836 00:38:43,440 --> 00:38:46,319 Speaker 3: That's interesting. I bet a lot of people deal with that, 837 00:38:46,480 --> 00:38:48,600 Speaker 3: and I don't know of a single person. I'm sure 838 00:38:48,600 --> 00:38:50,080 Speaker 3: there are some out there, but I don't know of 839 00:38:50,080 --> 00:38:53,920 Speaker 3: a single person that doesn't have a moment or for me, 840 00:38:54,680 --> 00:38:56,960 Speaker 3: millions of moments in my life where I could I 841 00:38:56,960 --> 00:38:59,680 Speaker 3: could be shown on a screen and I would just 842 00:38:59,800 --> 00:39:05,359 Speaker 3: be so humiliated's so disappointed, so disgusted. I just I 843 00:39:05,400 --> 00:39:07,359 Speaker 3: don't know of I'm sure there are the people out 844 00:39:07,360 --> 00:39:09,360 Speaker 3: there who are like oh, but I just don't know 845 00:39:09,400 --> 00:39:09,799 Speaker 3: of many. 846 00:39:10,360 --> 00:39:11,759 Speaker 1: I'm not at the place where I can go back 847 00:39:11,760 --> 00:39:14,880 Speaker 1: and watch old school vander Pump. Yeah, I still cringe 848 00:39:14,920 --> 00:39:18,080 Speaker 1: and get embarrassed. And next year I'm gonna look back 849 00:39:18,160 --> 00:39:21,360 Speaker 1: on this on season ten and cringe and be embarrassed. 850 00:39:21,400 --> 00:39:23,279 Speaker 1: I don't know that that will ever change. I think 851 00:39:23,320 --> 00:39:27,120 Speaker 1: it'll change when the show is over and I'm like 852 00:39:27,160 --> 00:39:30,239 Speaker 1: an old woman with grandkids walking around where I'm like, 853 00:39:30,239 --> 00:39:32,239 Speaker 1: you know what, you guys are old enough, let's see 854 00:39:32,280 --> 00:39:34,200 Speaker 1: what Graham was like back in the day. 855 00:39:34,160 --> 00:39:35,880 Speaker 3: And then you can laugh and be like, oh, she 856 00:39:36,040 --> 00:39:36,879 Speaker 3: was wild. 857 00:39:36,600 --> 00:39:38,440 Speaker 1: She was wild. I'm not there yet. 858 00:39:38,560 --> 00:39:42,000 Speaker 2: Yeah, I still look at myself and go, wow, we 859 00:39:42,080 --> 00:39:44,279 Speaker 2: got it. We got some work to do, but. 860 00:39:44,320 --> 00:39:47,719 Speaker 3: That's on fucking growth. And I hope and pray that 861 00:39:47,800 --> 00:39:49,200 Speaker 3: in a year from now, I'll look back at some 862 00:39:49,280 --> 00:39:51,120 Speaker 3: things I rode in my fucking journal and be like, 863 00:39:51,160 --> 00:39:53,120 Speaker 3: oh my god, what a silly girl. She had no idea, 864 00:39:53,239 --> 00:39:55,759 Speaker 3: or like things that I'm like, oh, thank god, I 865 00:39:55,800 --> 00:39:59,680 Speaker 3: don't think that way anymore because I'm growing, right, which 866 00:39:59,719 --> 00:40:02,359 Speaker 3: is like, congrats. I hope a lot of us are 867 00:40:02,480 --> 00:40:04,359 Speaker 3: like that, right, So I think that's great. 868 00:40:04,800 --> 00:40:06,560 Speaker 2: So I think we all just need to be easy 869 00:40:06,560 --> 00:40:09,760 Speaker 2: on ourselves. Yeah, you're gonna be a different person tomorrow 870 00:40:09,760 --> 00:40:11,920 Speaker 2: than you are today. You're gonna fuck up tomorrow and 871 00:40:12,000 --> 00:40:15,080 Speaker 2: learn from that. It's just like you just roll with it. 872 00:40:16,200 --> 00:40:18,320 Speaker 2: You know, none of us are ever going to be perfect. 873 00:40:18,880 --> 00:40:21,040 Speaker 2: We're gonna say things that we wish we didn't say, 874 00:40:21,080 --> 00:40:22,160 Speaker 2: and tomorrow we're. 875 00:40:22,080 --> 00:40:24,760 Speaker 1: Gonna say things we wish we didn't say. We'll fuck 876 00:40:24,800 --> 00:40:27,279 Speaker 1: it whatever. I don't give a fuck. 877 00:40:28,080 --> 00:40:29,240 Speaker 3: That's okay. 878 00:40:29,480 --> 00:40:30,080 Speaker 1: That's life. 879 00:40:30,080 --> 00:40:32,640 Speaker 2: I'm gonna take this moment. I'm gonna have it be 880 00:40:32,719 --> 00:40:35,560 Speaker 2: a teachable moment for me. I'm gonna hopefully do better, 881 00:40:35,719 --> 00:40:38,280 Speaker 2: and I'm okay with the mistakes that I'm gonna make tomorrow. 882 00:40:38,880 --> 00:40:43,120 Speaker 3: Bravo, Right, Bravo, Yes, give me a sound bite of that. 883 00:40:43,600 --> 00:40:45,600 Speaker 1: I mean, it's just a lot of work to be 884 00:40:45,640 --> 00:40:47,759 Speaker 1: a living, breathing human. 885 00:40:47,680 --> 00:40:52,359 Speaker 3: It really is. And congrats for everyone who's you know, 886 00:40:52,760 --> 00:40:53,760 Speaker 3: trudging through. 887 00:40:53,560 --> 00:40:55,720 Speaker 1: Life and making it work. 888 00:40:55,960 --> 00:40:59,120 Speaker 3: Yeah, you woke up this morning, Good for you. Celebrate that. 889 00:40:59,400 --> 00:41:01,160 Speaker 1: I'm just like proud of all of us to be 890 00:41:01,160 --> 00:41:05,480 Speaker 1: all of us too. So there's that. There's my uplifting speech. 891 00:41:06,840 --> 00:41:08,840 Speaker 1: I love you guys so much. Thank you for tuning 892 00:41:08,880 --> 00:41:11,680 Speaker 1: in to another chaotic episode of the Give 893 00:41:11,719 --> 00:41:15,520 Speaker 2: Them Lalla Podcast, and I can't wait to talk to 894 00:41:15,560 --> 00:41:16,600 Speaker 2: you guys next week.