WEBVTT - Possum Don’t Stop ‘Em: Episode 88 with Joe Gatto and Steve Byrne 0:00:00.080 --> 0:00:02.360 Hey everybody, thanks for watching this week's episode. We want 0:00:02.360 --> 0:00:04.280 to promote where you can see us. For tickets, go 0:00:04.280 --> 0:00:07.640 to Joe gattoofficial dot com and see all my door dates. 0:00:07.960 --> 0:00:13.399 For Steve's go to punch Up dot Live backslash Steve 0:00:13.800 --> 0:00:14.680 hyphen Burn. 0:00:14.800 --> 0:00:17.800 That's beat. Why r I need? He makes it so 0:00:18.040 --> 0:00:21.280 easy to find him. And now onto the episode. 0:00:23.680 --> 0:00:29.520 There was a problem wear a ticket. 0:00:31.920 --> 0:00:32.800 Two one. 0:00:33.960 --> 0:00:38.320 Oh we are we are moms. 0:00:38.400 --> 0:00:40.600 Baby, we did it, We did it. I am Joe Gatto, 0:00:40.760 --> 0:00:42.640 I'm Steve Burn, and we are so excited to be 0:00:42.720 --> 0:00:43.800 here for multiple reasons. 0:00:43.960 --> 0:00:47.280 Yes, happy, happy, blated holidays, Happy late holidays everybody. 0:00:47.280 --> 0:00:48.440 I hope everybody is good. 0:00:48.479 --> 0:00:50.880 And yeah, no in law problems. Did you have any 0:00:51.120 --> 0:00:54.560 in law props? No, I'm just bloated. No, but I 0:00:54.600 --> 0:01:00.240 mean that's all the time the holidays. Uh, in law No, 0:01:00.280 --> 0:01:02.120 I don't. I don't ever have issues with the in laws. 0:01:02.120 --> 0:01:03.560 The inlaws are pretty cool. It's great. So it was 0:01:03.600 --> 0:01:06.760 all good. Everything was great. Everybody's happy, healthy, kids like 0:01:06.800 --> 0:01:10.280 good kids, liked everything they got. Everybody was happy about it. 0:01:10.360 --> 0:01:13.720 Yeah, my son, it's weird, my son got my I 0:01:13.720 --> 0:01:16.720 gave my son fifty dollars, and I said, just get 0:01:16.760 --> 0:01:18.960 your get your sister anything in the mall. 0:01:19.160 --> 0:01:19.640 I love that. 0:01:19.680 --> 0:01:22.760 You know what he got her, Uh, fifty dollars gift 0:01:22.760 --> 0:01:24.560 card to Victoria's secret. No, he did it. 0:01:25.319 --> 0:01:30.399 That's so crazy, Steve, you're telling jokes now. I was 0:01:30.440 --> 0:01:33.560 on I started. That started such a sweet, wholesome story 0:01:34.080 --> 0:01:38.520 because I just got if you winner, if you picked 0:01:38.560 --> 0:01:39.760 out the brawl your son. 0:01:41.120 --> 0:01:44.440 I had my sisters, my mom. I don't know if 0:01:44.480 --> 0:01:45.720 you had this growing up. When I was growing up. 0:01:45.720 --> 0:01:47.080 My mom worked at our school that we went to 0:01:47.120 --> 0:01:50.240 Santa Dwwertz shout Out, and she was the secretary, so 0:01:50.280 --> 0:01:52.440 she would help set up the holiday fair, which is 0:01:52.440 --> 0:01:53.880 basically just other people's garbage. 0:01:53.920 --> 0:01:54.960 It was like all homemade. 0:01:54.960 --> 0:01:57.800 Crazy went and bought like an ashtray that said number 0:01:57.800 --> 0:02:01.240 one dad on itything right your butt here, like stuff 0:02:01.280 --> 0:02:03.760 like all this stupid junk right, and they would go 0:02:03.760 --> 0:02:04.320 and it would give you. 0:02:04.320 --> 0:02:06.120 I remember my mom was like, Okay, here's ten dollars. 0:02:06.120 --> 0:02:08.079 You could go spend whatever you want and get whatever 0:02:08.080 --> 0:02:08.280 you want. 0:02:08.320 --> 0:02:10.120 Inevitably, you know, you'd spend the ten and you go 0:02:10.120 --> 0:02:11.480 back to hit it back up and I'm like, mom, 0:02:11.520 --> 0:02:12.600 I really want. 0:02:12.680 --> 0:02:14.160 This paper mache Santa Cla. 0:02:14.440 --> 0:02:17.720 My grandma like, yeah, So my kids had this fair 0:02:17.840 --> 0:02:22.360 at their school and they my daughter said, no, I'd. 0:02:22.320 --> 0:02:24.720 Rather go to I'd rather go to a real store because. 0:02:24.440 --> 0:02:26.639 She wanted to go shopping right, right, instead of the 0:02:26.680 --> 0:02:28.840 things supporting the yeah local. 0:02:28.600 --> 0:02:30.919 Businesses, right, yeah, they shouldn't want to go to the hendmates. 0:02:31.080 --> 0:02:32.200 But did you have like some one of those weird 0:02:32.200 --> 0:02:32.880 fairs growing up? 0:02:33.919 --> 0:02:37.760 I don't remember us going to fairs. I The only 0:02:37.800 --> 0:02:41.799 thing I remember is like my my an uncle from Korea. 0:02:41.840 --> 0:02:44.359 They they set up a thing every Sunday. 0:02:44.040 --> 0:02:46.560 At a flea market in New Jersey, so we'd always 0:02:46.560 --> 0:02:48.919 go to the flea marke and we go support them. 0:02:48.960 --> 0:02:51.200 But then us kids would just walk around the flea 0:02:51.240 --> 0:02:53.200 market and hang on by candy and stuff like that. 0:02:53.240 --> 0:02:53.639 But nice. 0:02:53.760 --> 0:02:55.640 But in terms of like a Christmas village or anything, 0:02:55.680 --> 0:02:57.560 I don't I don't really recall doing that. 0:02:57.639 --> 0:02:58.359 And pitch two things. 0:02:58.440 --> 0:03:01.040 I love love a good Christmas village, yeah, but it 0:03:01.040 --> 0:03:03.760 gets a little cold, yes, And a walking hot cocoa. 0:03:04.680 --> 0:03:08.040 I love walking hot coco. I don't do a marshmallow 0:03:08.040 --> 0:03:09.400 and it don don't get the store. Do you remember 0:03:09.400 --> 0:03:10.799 where your favorite hot Coco's. 0:03:10.520 --> 0:03:15.400 From no I remember when my favorite hot goes because 0:03:15.400 --> 0:03:16.119 of my mouth. 0:03:18.880 --> 0:03:22.799 From no I do remember some legendary cocoas. Here's one 0:03:22.800 --> 0:03:24.399 for you. Okay, down on Union. 0:03:24.200 --> 0:03:26.640 Square they have a great outdoor holiday village. Bessie had 0:03:26.680 --> 0:03:28.240 first moved here. We're living on Wall Street. 0:03:28.360 --> 0:03:30.280 I see. We gotta check out this holiday village. Okay, 0:03:30.280 --> 0:03:32.560 this is one hundred century story. Yeah, holiday village. You 0:03:32.600 --> 0:03:34.880 gotta come right. This is very, very similar to something 0:03:34.920 --> 0:03:36.440 that happened to you. We go down to the Holliday 0:03:36.480 --> 0:03:38.680 Village Junion Square. Awesome, bubbah blah, we're going there or whatever. 0:03:38.720 --> 0:03:41.800 We're hanging out. We get the hot cocoa walking around. Oh, 0:03:41.800 --> 0:03:43.440 look at this. How much is this stupid painting of 0:03:43.480 --> 0:03:45.400 the Empire State Building? The one hundred and fifty dollars? 0:03:45.440 --> 0:03:45.840 No, thank you? 0:03:45.760 --> 0:03:47.320 You know all this stuff. We're looking all this trash. 0:03:47.560 --> 0:03:49.160 And then we we'll go and there's this woman that 0:03:49.240 --> 0:03:51.560 she's sitting in the back of Union Square Park and 0:03:51.560 --> 0:03:54.200 she's guys just like a couple of scarves and she's 0:03:54.240 --> 0:03:57.160 patting a cat right and so bes She's like, oh cat, 0:03:57.200 --> 0:03:58.840 and she walks up and it ended up being it 0:03:58.880 --> 0:04:01.160 was just a homeless woman their clothes. 0:04:03.480 --> 0:04:05.280 And wait for the kicker. 0:04:05.840 --> 0:04:10.720 She was petting the possum, pet possum. 0:04:10.960 --> 0:04:13.960 Bessie screamed and made me take her home. 0:04:14.680 --> 0:04:22.359 Unbelievable right rocket up, Oh my god, that she was 0:04:22.440 --> 0:04:23.440 scarving a possum. 0:04:23.480 --> 0:04:25.520 Don't stop on possible, don't stop. 0:04:25.480 --> 0:04:26.920 Right in the middle of the right in the middle, 0:04:26.920 --> 0:04:30.200 like it was like chochk ornaments possome. 0:04:30.640 --> 0:04:32.800 Not a good looking at him. It was no, not 0:04:32.960 --> 0:04:37.200 keep people domestic, domesticate. It's weird, that's weird. But they're 0:04:37.200 --> 0:04:40.599 good for I guess ticks. They eat ticks summertime, which 0:04:40.640 --> 0:04:40.880 is good. 0:04:41.000 --> 0:04:42.960 Well, that's why we need them. They're moresupials. But you 0:04:42.960 --> 0:04:45.440 don't get a lot of over on this continent. Australia's 0:04:45.480 --> 0:04:46.800 got the big Joe. 0:04:46.920 --> 0:04:48.159 Australia's got a lot of learning. 0:04:48.320 --> 0:04:52.000 Yeah, Australia's got the Australia's got the copyright on marsupials. 0:04:52.320 --> 0:04:54.760 Well look, you know Australia, it's like it's deadly. 0:04:54.920 --> 0:04:57.040 Yeah, everything could kill you in Australia. Everything. 0:04:57.160 --> 0:04:59.279 That's why, that's why they try to keep people away 0:04:59.320 --> 0:05:01.520 and watching the there like this is you come visit. 0:05:01.880 --> 0:05:03.320 It's fine, but you're gonna die here. 0:05:03.480 --> 0:05:04.279 Did you? You? 0:05:04.279 --> 0:05:05.359 You just toured in Australia. 0:05:05.640 --> 0:05:07.360 Just tour in Australia a little while. Yeah, it was 0:05:07.400 --> 0:05:10.200 so fun. I would always It was on my bucket 0:05:10.240 --> 0:05:11.160 list forever since I. 0:05:11.120 --> 0:05:12.040 Was like fourteen years old. 0:05:12.080 --> 0:05:13.120 It was your first time there. 0:05:12.960 --> 0:05:14.640 My first time. There was so much fun. I loved it. 0:05:14.720 --> 0:05:15.159 I loved it. 0:05:15.160 --> 0:05:16.400 I went me and uh. 0:05:16.680 --> 0:05:19.359 Our producer Marchi guardian Jiggy. There's just the two of 0:05:19.440 --> 0:05:21.880 us on like our honeymoon, which was so fun. 0:05:22.640 --> 0:05:23.560 Wait, wait, did. 0:05:23.360 --> 0:05:25.760 He because before he was telling me about how he's 0:05:25.760 --> 0:05:26.400 gonna fly there. 0:05:27.000 --> 0:05:27.919 Did he go coach? 0:05:28.080 --> 0:05:28.400 He did? 0:05:28.600 --> 0:05:30.440 He did go coach? He did. But he ended up 0:05:30.480 --> 0:05:32.240 getting a whole row that he was able to lay down, 0:05:32.520 --> 0:05:34.200 but not on the way back. On the way back, you. 0:05:34.200 --> 0:05:36.040 Got wow, you get a row international. 0:05:36.080 --> 0:05:36.440 That's rare. 0:05:36.520 --> 0:05:38.240 Yeah, because we was like a Tuesday or something with something, 0:05:38.560 --> 0:05:40.480 but on the way back it was like Saturday. 0:05:40.600 --> 0:05:42.560 He didn't spring for it. Huh, he didn't spring for it. Now, no, 0:05:42.640 --> 0:05:46.320 Jiggy t Rexalms. Yeah, he's not here to defend himself either. 0:05:46.400 --> 0:05:47.520 Thank god. Let's talk about it. 0:05:47.640 --> 0:05:50.599 You guys, know, when's the. 0:05:50.600 --> 0:05:57.279 Last time he bought you a coffee. It's not fair 0:05:57.279 --> 0:05:59.040 to talk about about him when he's not here. Let's 0:05:59.080 --> 0:06:00.000 only talk I all about him. 0:05:59.880 --> 0:06:02.440 When okay, sure, talk about his wife. 0:06:03.040 --> 0:06:06.040 Did you well, lovely woman, great woman? Did you ever 0:06:07.000 --> 0:06:07.360 did you. 0:06:07.320 --> 0:06:09.760 Ever interact with like a while down a wild beastaid 0:06:09.760 --> 0:06:11.280 you had to capture on your own, in your yard 0:06:11.400 --> 0:06:12.080 or at your house. 0:06:12.640 --> 0:06:13.480 Like I'll tell you this. 0:06:14.160 --> 0:06:21.320 My daughter's guinea pig passed away and it was in 0:06:21.440 --> 0:06:24.320 the garage for a good week because I was on 0:06:24.320 --> 0:06:27.200 the road. And then they're like, well, somebody bury it. 0:06:27.240 --> 0:06:27.400 You know. 0:06:27.600 --> 0:06:29.880 It basically means dad, will you bury it? So I 0:06:30.000 --> 0:06:31.719 buried the guinea pig. 0:06:33.040 --> 0:06:36.799 A new one group now have a guinea picture. 0:06:39.560 --> 0:06:43.440 And then literally, like I guess, two weeks later or 0:06:43.480 --> 0:06:45.400 a week and a half later, I was on the 0:06:45.480 --> 0:06:50.479 road and our cat got out overnight and everybody forgot 0:06:50.480 --> 0:06:53.400 the cat was out. And then my daughter wakes up 0:06:53.440 --> 0:06:57.680 and is going to the bus and the guinea pigs 0:06:57.800 --> 0:07:02.479 in the driveway like bombad because the cat smelled it 0:07:02.520 --> 0:07:04.920 and dug it out and pulled it out and left 0:07:04.920 --> 0:07:05.280 it in the. 0:07:05.240 --> 0:07:08.960 Drive gave it CPR was like clear. 0:07:15.440 --> 0:07:18.880 But that was I don't know in terms of wild animal. 0:07:19.080 --> 0:07:22.920 No have you you're younger. You must deal with island 0:07:22.920 --> 0:07:24.480 Staten Island. I lived next to the woods. We were 0:07:24.640 --> 0:07:25.960 running over with possum. 0:07:26.160 --> 0:07:28.120 Yeah, there was a there was an angry possum. When 0:07:28.160 --> 0:07:30.880 after my sister and Nino, my brother in law, Nino 0:07:30.920 --> 0:07:32.880 and my sister Gina, came back from the date my 0:07:33.360 --> 0:07:36.640 they yell from their driveway and my father comes down. 0:07:36.680 --> 0:07:39.800 And I was collecting weapons at the time, and my father, Yeah, 0:07:39.880 --> 0:07:41.880 you know, I collected weapons. I talked about this when 0:07:41.880 --> 0:07:43.680 I pretended I was a ninja around the neighborhood. I 0:07:43.680 --> 0:07:45.200 had a wall of weapons. I used to go see 0:07:45.200 --> 0:07:46.560 the guy the Big Apple Bazar. You should listen to 0:07:46.600 --> 0:07:47.720 our podcast. It's really great. 0:07:48.280 --> 0:07:51.480 So I went, you used to like an eighth grade 0:07:51.560 --> 0:07:52.000 John Wick. 0:07:52.120 --> 0:07:52.920 Yeah, exactly right. 0:07:53.000 --> 0:07:55.000 Yeah, so yeah, it was just he was talking about 0:07:55.000 --> 0:07:56.840 this day the Big Apple Bazaar had this old Asian 0:07:56.880 --> 0:07:59.280 gentleman who looked like, exactly. 0:07:59.120 --> 0:08:00.800 Why didn't you take a breath after you said that? 0:08:00.840 --> 0:08:02.680 And looked at me like you caught What does that 0:08:02.720 --> 0:08:03.320 mean that. 0:08:03.240 --> 0:08:04.600 You're Asian old gentleman? 0:08:06.360 --> 0:08:11.320 He looked like, but those are just listening to his 0:08:11.400 --> 0:08:14.640 pointed right, and Stee's face he he looked like he 0:08:14.640 --> 0:08:15.040 looked like the. 0:08:15.000 --> 0:08:16.760 Guy that sold the magua and gremblins, like he was 0:08:16.760 --> 0:08:17.360 one of those. 0:08:19.560 --> 0:08:21.440 And he was used to just some of all these weapons. 0:08:21.480 --> 0:08:22.640 And I had all these things hanging on my wall. 0:08:22.680 --> 0:08:24.600 I had a crossbowl, a blow gun. I had a 0:08:24.600 --> 0:08:25.640 bb gun out. 0:08:25.680 --> 0:08:28.760 You know, uh, what were you most adept with? Bone? 0:08:28.920 --> 0:08:30.240 Arrow? What? 0:08:30.480 --> 0:08:31.360 Bone? Arrow? Bow? 0:08:31.400 --> 0:08:32.000 An arrow? 0:08:32.280 --> 0:08:32.559 Archer? 0:08:33.160 --> 0:08:33.400 Really? 0:08:33.480 --> 0:08:33.680 Yeah? 0:08:33.679 --> 0:08:35.679 Hold hold egg I used to my neighbors used to 0:08:35.679 --> 0:08:37.840 hold the eggplants in their hands from the garden. 0:08:37.880 --> 0:08:38.720 I iced to shoot them out. 0:08:40.400 --> 0:08:41.160 Yeah, yeah, no. 0:08:42.640 --> 0:08:44.000 Way an eggplant, eggplant? 0:08:44.000 --> 0:08:47.320 You know, an apple is like it's like girth. An 0:08:47.320 --> 0:08:48.559 egg plant is no. 0:08:48.360 --> 0:08:50.120 No, an egg full leg plant? 0:08:50.360 --> 0:08:53.800 Oh you're working with yeah, full plant. 0:08:54.480 --> 0:08:57.640 So anyway, I would so so Nino and Gina picture it. 0:08:57.679 --> 0:08:59.800 They come home. It's it's late at night. A light 0:09:00.280 --> 0:09:01.440 is rolling through Statn Island. 0:09:01.600 --> 0:09:06.440 Okay, they locked the door and the car I mean 0:09:06.480 --> 0:09:09.800 he flashing its scarce the possum that was in the 0:09:09.840 --> 0:09:11.959 corner of the driveway and it ran up the top 0:09:12.000 --> 0:09:12.439 of the pole. 0:09:12.800 --> 0:09:15.160 And my sister didn't notice, and she walks by and 0:09:15.280 --> 0:09:18.400 it goes right in her ear, like oh sh They 0:09:18.480 --> 0:09:20.120 scream and run they come in. My father wants out. 0:09:20.240 --> 0:09:21.600 He goes, what's the matter, and she's like, this's a 0:09:21.600 --> 0:09:23.760 possum and we see it's sitting there staring at it, 0:09:23.960 --> 0:09:26.000 giving this the beloka. It's given us the bad looks. 0:09:26.000 --> 0:09:29.320 And my father goes, go get the cross and I 0:09:29.360 --> 0:09:30.280 went upstairs. 0:09:30.559 --> 0:09:31.160 This is the time. 0:09:31.240 --> 0:09:33.920 This is such a moment of my life, a young 0:09:33.960 --> 0:09:36.840 boy protecting my sister. Yeah. I come downstairs with a crossbow. 0:09:37.040 --> 0:09:40.240 I take aim and the crossbow fires early and far 0:09:40.440 --> 0:09:40.880 is over that. 0:09:41.559 --> 0:09:43.280 I was so upset, so I said to my dad, 0:09:43.280 --> 0:09:44.440 I said, let me go get another one. 0:09:44.480 --> 0:09:45.040 And he was like no. 0:09:45.320 --> 0:09:46.480 He's like, well, I have to take care of this, 0:09:46.559 --> 0:09:48.360 like men hand to hand cot that. 0:09:48.480 --> 0:09:50.559 And he got his shovel and we had no way 0:09:50.600 --> 0:09:51.000 take it out. 0:09:51.080 --> 0:09:53.520 Yeah, because it was like getting very aggressive near the house, 0:09:53.559 --> 0:09:55.319 so we just want to hear of it. So then 0:09:55.640 --> 0:09:58.600 he gives it the old dog, you know, and he 0:09:58.640 --> 0:10:01.360 puts his arm around me and he has it. 0:10:01.480 --> 0:10:02.000 He's holding it. 0:10:02.080 --> 0:10:04.920 He's like, now he's holding the shovel and he goes 0:10:05.160 --> 0:10:06.840 now a few words. 0:10:08.720 --> 0:10:10.760 And he gave me eulogy for the bottom. That's one 0:10:10.800 --> 0:10:15.320 of the funniest things ever. And I was like fourteen 0:10:15.360 --> 0:10:17.560 and then we went and buried it. That is that's 0:10:17.600 --> 0:10:20.160 great memory. Yeah, that is hilarious. Yeah it was, uh 0:10:20.440 --> 0:10:21.000 it was on again. 0:10:21.080 --> 0:10:22.640 But in Staten Island, I lived by the woods, so 0:10:22.679 --> 0:10:24.600 we always had like things around. 0:10:25.120 --> 0:10:28.080 Ye had our neighborhood. Now it's just deer and deer 0:10:28.120 --> 0:10:31.679 out there, and and Medillo. I see you Medillo all 0:10:31.720 --> 0:10:32.160 the time, and you. 0:10:32.200 --> 0:10:33.400 Got all Medillo's rolling around. 0:10:33.520 --> 0:10:34.800 Yeah, how cool? 0:10:34.880 --> 0:10:36.920 Is that pretty cool? I've never seen a dealer in 0:10:36.960 --> 0:10:37.440 real life. 0:10:37.480 --> 0:10:39.400 Really, it's like a cool turtle. 0:10:41.120 --> 0:10:42.600 Is like a badass turtle, right. 0:10:42.559 --> 0:10:44.800 Yeah, it's like, uh, well it's like a possum with 0:10:46.040 --> 0:10:46.840 like rhino skin. 0:10:47.520 --> 0:10:48.400 Oh there's no shell. 0:10:48.640 --> 0:10:51.160 Dilo is shellless. It's it's a shell, but it's. 0:10:51.040 --> 0:10:53.280 Like, oh it's like skinny though it's not like it's 0:10:53.280 --> 0:10:54.160 not like a turtle shell. 0:10:54.360 --> 0:10:56.719 It's like they curl up in a ball. Get out 0:10:56.720 --> 0:10:56.920 of here. 0:10:57.040 --> 0:10:58.760 Yeah, like the hedgehog. 0:10:59.559 --> 0:11:01.360 Yeah, percent swear to god. 0:11:01.600 --> 0:11:04.000 Yeah there actually kind of cute. 0:11:03.840 --> 0:11:08.839 Because possums are disgusting looking. Yeah, Armadillo's look pettible. Possums don't. 0:11:09.679 --> 0:11:12.640 No possum is like possum's got that faces a finger. 0:11:13.000 --> 0:11:15.840 Yeah, I wouldn't do that. Even the Chinese don't eat them. Yeah, 0:11:15.880 --> 0:11:19.120 that's how awful they are. Sorry you could say that, though, 0:11:19.760 --> 0:11:20.280 I gat. 0:11:23.320 --> 0:11:23.959 Again I'm pointing. 0:11:24.120 --> 0:11:26.559 Have you ever heard of Kilwin's By the way, Killin's chocolate. 0:11:28.080 --> 0:11:30.080 That's the best hot chocolate ever heard of? You guys heard. 0:11:30.480 --> 0:11:32.680 That's the literally, the hands down, the best hot chalk 0:11:32.760 --> 0:11:35.240 I've ever had, really, hands out, because you. 0:11:35.200 --> 0:11:39.160 Know why they use cocoa. 0:11:38.840 --> 0:11:43.680 Milk oh wa water? No? I never used water, dude. 0:11:43.720 --> 0:11:46.680 Come on, that's every Christmas village in the water. 0:11:47.520 --> 0:11:49.840 It quick for discount and. 0:11:49.760 --> 0:11:50.320 They charge you. 0:11:50.480 --> 0:11:52.880 That's right. Would you do? Many marshmallows and yours? No 0:11:53.040 --> 0:11:58.280 cinnamon stick, no straight cocoa. I'm a straight man. Yeah, 0:11:58.280 --> 0:11:59.920 me too. I don't. I don't. I don't mess with 0:11:59.920 --> 0:12:00.800 the marshmallows. 0:12:00.800 --> 0:12:04.520 Always congregate together and form one jumbo marshmallow that wants 0:12:04.520 --> 0:12:06.640 to joke you the job. You know that they get 0:12:06.679 --> 0:12:08.600 hot and the coagulate and then you just have this 0:12:08.720 --> 0:12:09.880 fat marshmallow cup. 0:12:10.400 --> 0:12:12.120 Terrible, terrible. 0:12:19.480 --> 0:12:22.079 Hold up you, that's the one thing you would love 0:12:22.559 --> 0:12:23.040 a marshall. 0:12:23.080 --> 0:12:25.720 I've eat with you, I go out. You're all about desserts, 0:12:25.720 --> 0:12:28.120 You're all about marshmallow. You'll get a dessert before the meal. 0:12:28.280 --> 0:12:30.280 Marshmallows on my list of top six things I hate 0:12:32.000 --> 0:12:33.080 food wise, can. 0:12:32.960 --> 0:12:33.800 I list the next one? 0:12:34.440 --> 0:12:39.400 So, marsh marshmallow you outgrow I think? 0:12:39.880 --> 0:12:42.199 Is that for he to say you will grollo you 0:12:42.480 --> 0:12:43.959 grollo marshmallow? Yeah? I agree. 0:12:44.040 --> 0:12:47.920 I outgrew marshmallows, I think in maybe high school. 0:12:47.960 --> 0:12:50.200 Okay, now I'm going to ask you pop quiz. Spell 0:12:50.200 --> 0:12:52.679 marshmallow and can I please have us fact check it? 0:12:53.080 --> 0:12:57.400 Spell marshmallow m A R s h M E l 0:12:57.600 --> 0:12:59.120 l O W. Wow. 0:12:59.280 --> 0:13:02.920 That couldn't be more are incorrect? The W on the end, 0:13:03.559 --> 0:13:07.280 m A R s h m A l l O. 0:13:08.400 --> 0:13:10.400 That's all right, Oh. 0:13:10.280 --> 0:13:12.880 You're right, we got it right. 0:13:12.960 --> 0:13:13.400 Point to me. 0:13:15.960 --> 0:13:18.920 M A R he said, m E l l O 0:13:19.200 --> 0:13:22.400 W whatever. It's m A R s h m A 0:13:22.840 --> 0:13:24.480 l l m A W. 0:13:25.080 --> 0:13:29.360 M A not not mellow mallow, marsh malls. 0:13:29.920 --> 0:13:30.720 All right, Well you were close. 0:13:31.400 --> 0:13:33.960 I was not very good at it. That's weird. How 0:13:34.000 --> 0:13:36.840 did the mini The mini is only used in two ingredients. 0:13:36.840 --> 0:13:39.360 It's used as a sprinkle on top of a uh 0:13:39.640 --> 0:13:44.600 sweet potato uh you know, sweet potato mash during the holidays. 0:13:44.720 --> 0:13:47.480 That that rolls in and then in the hat Coco. 0:13:48.120 --> 0:13:50.280 Then the mini marshmallow serves no other purpose. 0:13:50.720 --> 0:13:53.880 Really, honestly, you're right. What else what a small market 0:13:55.559 --> 0:13:57.760 hold on ice cream Sunday? 0:13:57.920 --> 0:14:01.360 Yeah, you're right those people reading a cold marshmallow is 0:14:01.400 --> 0:14:02.360 worse than a hot mellow. 0:14:02.960 --> 0:14:05.800 Hot metals congragulate together. The hard ones that just you 0:14:05.920 --> 0:14:08.240 chomping on it's like a chicklate. Those are the worst. 0:14:08.760 --> 0:14:09.920 I hate marshmallows. 0:14:11.360 --> 0:14:13.199 When's the last time we had Oneores? 0:14:13.440 --> 0:14:16.080 I'll dude, smalles not for me? 0:14:16.440 --> 0:14:16.720 Really? 0:14:16.800 --> 0:14:20.320 Yeah, messy that it's like a crab, like a kid. 0:14:20.440 --> 0:14:20.840 You don't like? 0:14:20.920 --> 0:14:22.120 No, no, did. 0:14:21.920 --> 0:14:23.560 You ever have? So? 0:14:23.680 --> 0:14:25.520 I had the marshmallow my son made me try when 0:14:25.520 --> 0:14:28.120 when we met last mate smores this last fall, we're 0:14:28.160 --> 0:14:29.360 doing a fire pet and he's like, Dad, you have 0:14:29.400 --> 0:14:31.120 to try, remember me try because I make him try 0:14:31.160 --> 0:14:33.360 everything and he hates everything. I sorry, I'll try it again. 0:14:33.400 --> 0:14:34.600 I haven't tried it in a while, and I tried 0:14:34.640 --> 0:14:38.320 and instantly hated it. I don't like the consistency. 0:14:38.880 --> 0:14:39.280 There's no. 0:14:41.360 --> 0:14:43.840 It's either or you still get the thing in the 0:14:43.840 --> 0:14:45.120 middle that didn't melt yet. 0:14:45.600 --> 0:14:46.560 Oh do you burn you? 0:14:46.560 --> 0:14:47.000 You burn them? 0:14:47.080 --> 0:14:49.080 Right? Because that's the problem. Yeah, that's tough. 0:14:49.160 --> 0:14:51.800 I like, I like a nice little when you're doing it, 0:14:51.880 --> 0:14:53.280 when you're doing around, could. 0:14:53.040 --> 0:14:55.200 You make a fire? Could I make a fire right 0:14:55.200 --> 0:14:55.440 now here? 0:14:55.480 --> 0:14:57.120 And I get lost in the woods, I'm dead. 0:14:57.400 --> 0:14:58.800 I'm dead in seventy two hours. 0:14:59.240 --> 0:15:04.800 Wow, we're being trum seriously, two cold moms, dead moms. 0:15:05.080 --> 0:15:08.320 You you wouldn't be able to walk more than two miles. 0:15:08.640 --> 0:15:11.640 What are you pointed to me for? Because you couldn't. 0:15:12.240 --> 0:15:16.440 I could walk, I complain, you would complain, you would 0:15:16.520 --> 0:15:17.520 gass out so quick? 0:15:17.640 --> 0:15:18.240 Is it uphill? 0:15:19.640 --> 0:15:22.080 Even if it's a flat plane, if it's just slow, 0:15:22.240 --> 0:15:24.320 I'll tell you what, if it was downhill, you'd still 0:15:24.320 --> 0:15:25.400 be like fucking done. 0:15:25.400 --> 0:15:27.280 I can't know, because the problem is if I'm going 0:15:27.280 --> 0:15:29.120 to downhill, I have to lean back on. 0:15:29.080 --> 0:15:30.720 It like fat Joe. Because I can't. 0:15:31.760 --> 0:15:34.400 I have to this equilibrium you don't deal with as 0:15:34.440 --> 0:15:35.600 a portly gentleman. 0:15:35.880 --> 0:15:38.320 I need to lean I have to be perpendicular to 0:15:38.360 --> 0:15:40.160 the ground. So if it's this, I gotta lean back 0:15:40.200 --> 0:15:40.480 on it. 0:15:41.000 --> 0:15:43.680 But when you go for okay, if I'm going forward downhill, 0:15:43.720 --> 0:15:44.320 I gotta lean back. 0:15:44.320 --> 0:15:46.680 If I'm going uphill, I have to lean forward. Yeah, 0:15:46.480 --> 0:15:49.960 Oh that's tough. Flat's the only way I could do it. Honestly, 0:15:50.000 --> 0:15:51.800 When is the last time you like it? Just took 0:15:51.800 --> 0:15:53.840 a walk when I was with you when we came 0:15:53.840 --> 0:15:54.400 from lunch. 0:15:57.080 --> 0:15:59.280 But you know, you never are like stressed out. You're like, 0:15:59.360 --> 0:16:00.000 I should take a while. 0:16:00.240 --> 0:16:01.600 I don't walk when I'm stressed out. 0:16:02.080 --> 0:16:02.520 What do you do? 0:16:02.920 --> 0:16:04.840 Bake passa month? 0:16:07.600 --> 0:16:07.680 No? 0:16:07.800 --> 0:16:09.640 I uh, let me see you do I have. 0:16:10.080 --> 0:16:11.320 I'll tell you where I like to go for a walk. 0:16:11.320 --> 0:16:12.520 I like to go for a walk when it's like 0:16:12.520 --> 0:16:14.680 a nature trailing kind of thing. Okay, I'll do that, 0:16:14.720 --> 0:16:17.240 like when we go for like the New Year's House. 0:16:17.280 --> 0:16:18.520 I rent the house at New Year's and we'll go 0:16:18.600 --> 0:16:19.480 like the kids are. 0:16:19.440 --> 0:16:20.840 Like, let's go for a nature walk and we'll walk 0:16:20.880 --> 0:16:21.800 through the woods. I'll do that. 0:16:22.040 --> 0:16:24.080 Like there are things you know, like when when when 0:16:24.160 --> 0:16:27.800 Jim Carrey and Jeff Dane's go to go to Colorado 0:16:28.320 --> 0:16:30.160 and dumb and Dumber and they get the cowboy gear 0:16:30.160 --> 0:16:33.520 on like that, You dressing up in hiking gear would 0:16:33.520 --> 0:16:34.040 make me laugh. 0:16:34.080 --> 0:16:36.240 Oh my god, forget it. Could you never imagine me? 0:16:36.600 --> 0:16:40.160 Could you imagine me free climbing like trying to rock 0:16:40.240 --> 0:16:42.440 climb like free bo called that free Bason. What is that? 0:16:42.520 --> 0:16:45.040 The free banks with drugs? What is that freel there's 0:16:45.040 --> 0:16:47.280 a free climbs, free climb. Yeah, and I'm just out. 0:16:47.280 --> 0:16:49.560 Could you imagine me like with the chalk, I'm. 0:16:49.400 --> 0:16:52.560 Like, let's go up never and I boy shorts. 0:16:52.800 --> 0:16:55.360 It would be powdered sugar on my hands. I'd be like, 0:16:55.480 --> 0:16:55.920 let's go. 0:16:56.320 --> 0:16:57.440 You just lick and stick to it. 0:16:58.400 --> 0:17:02.760 I'd be like Spider Man every buddy. I did try 0:17:02.760 --> 0:17:04.320 one of those rock climbing walls. 0:17:05.640 --> 0:17:10.160 Once and in my mind I thought it was gonna 0:17:10.440 --> 0:17:10.800 I'm just. 0:17:10.760 --> 0:17:13.720 Picturing eight year olds dusting you. Yeah, they're like move 0:17:13.760 --> 0:17:14.240 old man. 0:17:15.040 --> 0:17:15.240 Yeah. 0:17:15.280 --> 0:17:16.960 I tried to. My daughter loves them. Is really good 0:17:17.000 --> 0:17:20.040 that my my kids do ninja like American Ninja Warrior. 0:17:20.280 --> 0:17:20.720 They do that. 0:17:20.720 --> 0:17:23.240 That's one of their activities on Mondays ago to do 0:17:23.320 --> 0:17:23.920 a ninja camp. 0:17:23.920 --> 0:17:25.240 I wish we had that when we were kids, because 0:17:25.240 --> 0:17:28.399 we too us it was double dare right. That's as 0:17:28.440 --> 0:17:31.560 close as you got what American Ninja Warrior is. It 0:17:31.680 --> 0:17:33.480 is a lot of fun to wash so much better. 0:17:33.520 --> 0:17:36.359 But it started out as Japanese game shows where people 0:17:36.400 --> 0:17:40.400 get fuck really oh Japanese like wipe out yo. Yeah, yeah, 0:17:40.440 --> 0:17:44.200 like wipe out on TBS is like a totally neutered version. 0:17:44.320 --> 0:17:46.159 I mean, these Japanese people are getting. 0:17:46.080 --> 0:17:48.520 Really whooped, really fresh ones. 0:17:49.040 --> 0:17:49.880 I gotta check that out. 0:17:49.920 --> 0:17:52.000 Whype not I never I never trust because they always 0:17:52.000 --> 0:17:53.399 just have things that you don't even see coming. 0:17:53.440 --> 0:17:55.119 Like the wall all of a sudden separates and just 0:17:55.160 --> 0:17:58.639 a big fucking fish comes down and it's so dumb. 0:17:59.840 --> 0:18:00.640 I h yeah. 0:18:00.680 --> 0:18:04.760 I think if we've raced up a wall, how many 0:18:04.760 --> 0:18:07.119 minutes do you think you beat me by pretty quickly? 0:18:07.600 --> 0:18:08.000 Climbing? 0:18:08.240 --> 0:18:11.399 I'm talking vertical vertical rock climbing wall, mean you go 0:18:11.440 --> 0:18:15.120 to rock? What wall? Climbing gym? Sure? Side by side? Okay, ready, 0:18:15.119 --> 0:18:19.000 steady go boom, We're going up. Yeap. It takes me. 0:18:19.359 --> 0:18:21.879 You finished two minutes before me, four minutes before me. 0:18:21.920 --> 0:18:25.680 What do you think at least three to four to four? Yeah, 0:18:25.800 --> 0:18:30.840 I say, being generous, I think you finish. Yeah. 0:18:31.000 --> 0:18:31.280 Yeah. 0:18:31.320 --> 0:18:32.880 Well I have tennis elbow right now, so I can't 0:18:32.880 --> 0:18:33.400 do it right now. 0:18:33.400 --> 0:18:35.959 But if I was in if I were pristine condition, 0:18:37.600 --> 0:18:42.040 maybe well, but you're in pretty good shape now, yes 0:18:42.160 --> 0:18:46.440 wait wise yeah, but not muscle wise. Yeah, my muscle 0:18:46.640 --> 0:18:48.560 I don't have muscle memory. 0:18:49.080 --> 0:18:56.400 I have the opposite of that memory memory muscles. When 0:18:56.480 --> 0:18:58.200 is it? When's last when you played a sport? 0:18:58.640 --> 0:18:59.280 Uh? 0:18:59.480 --> 0:19:00.000 With my body? 0:19:01.840 --> 0:19:03.120 I talk about like a video game. 0:19:03.200 --> 0:19:06.359 Yeah, but uh sport? Let me see, Oh I play 0:19:06.560 --> 0:19:07.240 during the summer. 0:19:07.440 --> 0:19:09.720 Last summer, I play ultimate frisbee at my family reunion 0:19:10.480 --> 0:19:13.080 and I scored the winning touchdown by diving and catching it. 0:19:13.240 --> 0:19:14.000 Did you really Yes? 0:19:14.040 --> 0:19:17.600 Everybody was like, what the because my nephews went crazy. 0:19:17.640 --> 0:19:21.080 This is this is very It's meant to be a compliment. 0:19:21.720 --> 0:19:24.520 No, no, no, no, no, it is a combent. You're you 0:19:24.560 --> 0:19:28.040 can be very competitive, and so I'm shocked you you 0:19:28.440 --> 0:19:29.680 never got more into sports. 0:19:29.840 --> 0:19:33.520 Yeah, because I have the mind for it, not the body. 0:19:34.119 --> 0:19:35.480 I have the attitude for it. I didn't have the 0:19:35.520 --> 0:19:41.960 body for it, you know, never never really all right, yeah, 0:19:42.240 --> 0:19:44.520 well that makes sense. I have the mind for the body. 0:19:44.560 --> 0:19:47.120 Well, but if you could compete in one. 0:19:46.960 --> 0:19:50.879 Sport basketball, oh well, we take a bowling off the table. 0:19:51.960 --> 0:19:55.600 By the way, we've talked about this. I'd love to 0:19:55.600 --> 0:19:56.280 see you now right now. 0:19:56.320 --> 0:20:01.520 I have tennis prime condition. I would probably say volleyball. 0:20:02.119 --> 0:20:07.199 I was always competitive in volleyball. Okay, ultimate frisbee. So 0:20:07.320 --> 0:20:08.440 no three or four? 0:20:08.960 --> 0:20:12.240 No football? I was okay. I always tried out of football. 0:20:12.280 --> 0:20:13.360 I'll get hit by a car. 0:20:14.520 --> 0:20:17.520 Jesus was like, it's not for you. 0:20:18.960 --> 0:20:20.879 They're like, Jesus, could you please get riggs? Hold on, 0:20:20.880 --> 0:20:23.480 I gotta take care of something. Step there we go. 0:20:23.560 --> 0:20:24.040 What do you need? 0:20:27.119 --> 0:20:29.159 Yeah? So all right, well you know that's it. But 0:20:29.240 --> 0:20:30.440 you played hockey. That's hockey? 0:20:30.480 --> 0:20:30.960 Was your jam? 0:20:31.720 --> 0:20:34.199 Still right? You still pretend that you're in shape. Excuse me, 0:20:34.480 --> 0:20:34.919 you still. 0:20:34.800 --> 0:20:35.840 Pretend that you're athletics. 0:20:35.840 --> 0:20:38.800 The first question, first question, you're coming in hot, Andrew, 0:20:38.800 --> 0:20:40.600 bring us in and just say hello to everybody. 0:20:40.640 --> 0:20:43.919 First, everybody, yes, andrews Andrew Ye. Mark couldn't make it, 0:20:43.920 --> 0:20:46.240 so we uh we brought on the big guns. Oh shoot, 0:20:47.760 --> 0:20:48.440 nice to be here. 0:20:49.160 --> 0:20:49.480 Okay. 0:20:49.520 --> 0:20:50.760 So this one comes from Steven. 0:20:50.800 --> 0:20:53.359 It says, hey, too cool, moms, could you give me 0:20:53.400 --> 0:20:56.320 some pointers on how and why women are blocking me? 0:20:56.760 --> 0:20:59.200 I've had the worst luck this year with over ten 0:20:59.280 --> 0:21:02.760 women block me, just randomly, all giving me reasons like 0:21:02.840 --> 0:21:06.160 my boyfriend asked me to or I don't feel comfortable 0:21:06.200 --> 0:21:09.120 around you, and without an explanation as to why. I've 0:21:09.200 --> 0:21:12.639 also had other women tell me that I'm too much 0:21:14.480 --> 0:21:17.800 and that I can come off strong. Any tips on 0:21:17.880 --> 0:21:20.560 how to know why women are blocking me and how 0:21:20.600 --> 0:21:21.560 I can fix this. 0:21:21.560 --> 0:21:24.360 This is the first time where it's like, it's not you, 0:21:24.560 --> 0:21:27.960 it is me. I think really applies. Yeah, it does 0:21:28.000 --> 0:21:28.760 sound like it's him. 0:21:28.840 --> 0:21:31.679 Yeah, holy cow. Yeah that people have blatantly told you 0:21:31.680 --> 0:21:32.320 what the problem was. 0:21:32.320 --> 0:21:33.040 A though you're too much. 0:21:33.080 --> 0:21:34.200 I guess. I guess he doesn't. 0:21:34.320 --> 0:21:36.359 I guess the question comes from why is he being 0:21:36.400 --> 0:21:38.399 too much? Okay, so let's let's break it down a 0:21:38.400 --> 0:21:41.320 little bit. If you're making people uncomfortable enough that they 0:21:41.320 --> 0:21:43.119 have to block you, Look, the boyfriend one goes out 0:21:43.160 --> 0:21:45.600 the window because the boyfriend just wants you blocks you blocks. 0:21:45.640 --> 0:21:47.480 That's it. Don't even worry about that one. You can't 0:21:47.480 --> 0:21:49.120 think of out that. The other ones we need. 0:21:49.000 --> 0:21:51.720 To focus on are you're too much or I don't 0:21:51.720 --> 0:21:53.040 feel comfortable around you. 0:21:53.200 --> 0:21:58.399 Right, let's workshop those being too much. 0:21:58.200 --> 0:22:03.960 Could be herbreted it as you're posting too much or 0:22:04.240 --> 0:22:06.879 going because we're talking about online only, right, So if 0:22:06.920 --> 0:22:09.480 you're getting blocked online, you're probably maybe dming too much, 0:22:09.760 --> 0:22:12.560 posting too much, liking too much things like that, or 0:22:12.560 --> 0:22:15.440 making comments they don't aren't comfortable with underneath. 0:22:14.960 --> 0:22:16.920 Like, Wow, that's a sassy bikini. 0:22:17.560 --> 0:22:21.560 I can't believe you pulled it off haha lol shark emoji, Like, 0:22:21.600 --> 0:22:23.960 I don't know, I would block you there, Like it 0:22:23.960 --> 0:22:26.639 could be something like that that you're making them uncomfortable 0:22:26.640 --> 0:22:28.320 with the comments. So I would say the first thing 0:22:28.359 --> 0:22:31.520 you could probably do is take your online don't comment, 0:22:31.560 --> 0:22:33.760 don't DM for a month and see what happens, just 0:22:34.359 --> 0:22:36.760 like if you'd like, I would say that might be 0:22:36.800 --> 0:22:39.359 a good see what the problem is. Are your comments 0:22:39.359 --> 0:22:42.359 coming across too much or you're dming too much? That 0:22:42.400 --> 0:22:43.800 would probably be a good way to do it. 0:22:44.440 --> 0:22:46.480 Yeah, I don't think it's a bad idea to kind 0:22:46.480 --> 0:22:49.679 of take some time off and take stock. But I 0:22:49.680 --> 0:22:53.000 think anytime it's too much, it usually it stems from 0:22:53.200 --> 0:22:56.199 some sense of insecurity. Right, So it's like maybe in 0:22:56.240 --> 0:22:58.919 the time off, you take stock of the things you 0:22:58.960 --> 0:23:03.040 appreciate about yourself and feel confidence in it. I think 0:23:03.040 --> 0:23:06.480 when you're confident in things, like you don't go you're. 0:23:06.359 --> 0:23:08.120 Not pushy, right, yes, too much? 0:23:08.280 --> 0:23:11.080 Like like if you go to like a like a 0:23:11.520 --> 0:23:13.240 like like if some drives a Lamborghini, it's like, oh, 0:23:13.240 --> 0:23:15.120 it's a Lamborghini. But if it's like somebody's like, oh 0:23:15.160 --> 0:23:18.560 I got this, you know, uh CRV, but it's got 0:23:18.560 --> 0:23:21.800 a six dis change ac it's got the mood. It's 0:23:21.800 --> 0:23:23.560 like it's a fucking CRV. It's a piece of shit. 0:23:24.280 --> 0:23:26.119 But if you're you know, it's like, yeah, it's a 0:23:26.119 --> 0:23:26.720 cyber truck. 0:23:26.760 --> 0:23:27.200 It's cool. 0:23:27.320 --> 0:23:30.560 It's it's neat, you know. I mean, people aren't bragging 0:23:30.600 --> 0:23:32.400 about this. So I think I just like, I think 0:23:32.400 --> 0:23:35.280 it's almost like you got to just maybe take a 0:23:35.320 --> 0:23:37.720 little bit of time to yourself, right and appreciate the 0:23:37.760 --> 0:23:40.720 things that you do like about yourself and maybe build 0:23:40.800 --> 0:23:42.359 off of those. But you don't need to take a 0:23:42.440 --> 0:23:44.199 victory lap or anything like that. But I think it 0:23:44.320 --> 0:23:46.679 just it always comes down to I hear stuff like that. 0:23:46.720 --> 0:23:49.160 It just sounds like this sounds like somebody who's insecure 0:23:49.760 --> 0:23:52.000 that just needs to just relax a second. 0:23:52.160 --> 0:23:54.600 Cool your jets. You're good enough, right, right. 0:23:54.600 --> 0:24:00.199 You're appreciated, but well we don't know them true, Like 0:24:00.240 --> 0:24:02.400 you could be like this, yeah, like stare at people. 0:24:02.440 --> 0:24:04.000 It's just like, you know, it's too much. 0:24:04.040 --> 0:24:06.080 It's like, yeah, you can't help how you you know, 0:24:06.480 --> 0:24:08.280 stare or something like that. But I don't know. I 0:24:08.280 --> 0:24:10.879 think actions speak loud of the words yeah, and it's 0:24:10.960 --> 0:24:13.199 just your actions are coming off for me. 0:24:13.280 --> 0:24:18.800 I would pick up some sort of reading about social cues, 0:24:19.200 --> 0:24:21.200 because you're clearly not picking up some social cues and 0:24:21.200 --> 0:24:23.159 people feel uncomfortable about you because a lot of people 0:24:23.920 --> 0:24:25.800 I've been in many a room and it's really hard 0:24:25.800 --> 0:24:29.560 to make me uncomfortable, very hard, you know. So if 0:24:29.560 --> 0:24:33.280 you do it, you're really really socially awkward or something 0:24:33.400 --> 0:24:35.919 is up with you, you know. So if that happens, 0:24:35.960 --> 0:24:39.480 I'll always notice these people don't have the right distance 0:24:39.560 --> 0:24:42.399 social distancing, knowing when not to ask something or to 0:24:42.440 --> 0:24:45.359 ask something, staring at people, are looking at people a 0:24:45.359 --> 0:24:48.000 certain way, smelling their hair, like I've been in these 0:24:48.000 --> 0:24:48.640 all sort. 0:24:48.480 --> 0:24:49.399 Of weird situations. 0:24:49.400 --> 0:24:51.119 I was an elevator at once and this guy smelled 0:24:51.160 --> 0:24:52.800 this girl's hair and she was like. 0:24:53.160 --> 0:24:54.960 His name was President, and he was like, what do 0:24:55.000 --> 0:24:55.720 you and she was. 0:24:55.800 --> 0:24:57.040 She's like oh, She's like oh, and he goes, no, 0:24:57.119 --> 0:24:57.920 it just smells nice. 0:24:58.440 --> 0:25:00.199 And he's like, I'm giving you a compliment and and 0:25:00.200 --> 0:25:03.240 she was like yeah, but that was but he wasn't 0:25:03.320 --> 0:25:05.520 being like he was just he thought that was right, 0:25:05.640 --> 0:25:06.760 like you know what I mean, It wasn't in a 0:25:07.000 --> 0:25:08.760 sexual or creepy way. He was just like, oh, oh 0:25:08.840 --> 0:25:10.960 you're shampoo's nice, right, And I was like, well you 0:25:11.000 --> 0:25:12.400 just sniffed ahead, dude, Like, don't. 0:25:12.240 --> 0:25:15.320 Do that, you know, so you can't stiff people's heads. 0:25:15.359 --> 0:25:17.440 I think that might help definitely, because I think you're 0:25:17.480 --> 0:25:20.040 not picking up on social cues. If you make people uncomfortable, 0:25:20.280 --> 0:25:22.600 it doesn't know, it's automatically default to. It could be this, 0:25:22.720 --> 0:25:26.480 but it doesn't default for me that you're being creepy. Yeah, 0:25:26.560 --> 0:25:28.480 it could just be that you're just making them uncomfortable 0:25:28.480 --> 0:25:31.520 because the way you present yourself and whatever. 0:25:31.560 --> 0:25:31.760 You know. 0:25:31.840 --> 0:25:35.840 Well, here's the great thing though, self awareness to to 0:25:35.880 --> 0:25:39.400 your point is that but he does have some self 0:25:39.400 --> 0:25:43.040 awareness because he's acknowledging the fact that he's receiving this information. 0:25:43.160 --> 0:25:44.960 Yeah, but he's not putting he's not looking in the mirror. 0:25:44.960 --> 0:25:47.280 It doesn't sound like make that change. Yeah, you've gotta 0:25:47.320 --> 0:25:48.679 he's got to look at that man in the mirror. 0:25:48.840 --> 0:25:54.320 Make that change. I mean, who's got it, who's gotta 0:25:54.359 --> 0:25:57.639 who's gotta do it? He's got it, He's got I 0:25:57.640 --> 0:25:58.960 think that's a big part of it. I think you 0:25:59.000 --> 0:26:01.400 got to say. He's like, I don't know why people 0:26:01.440 --> 0:26:04.000 are blocking me, and then he lists reasons why. So 0:26:04.320 --> 0:26:06.080 our friend Steven, he's gotta do that. 0:26:06.160 --> 0:26:10.200 This is I know you've dealt with this probably every 0:26:10.240 --> 0:26:14.040 day in your life. But there's like after shows. Every time, 0:26:14.040 --> 0:26:16.280 after show, there's always somebody's like, hey, do you want 0:26:16.280 --> 0:26:16.800 to hear a joke? 0:26:16.840 --> 0:26:19.080 And I'm like, okay, oh he doesn't want to hear 0:26:19.119 --> 0:26:19.400 a joke. 0:26:19.480 --> 0:26:21.359 Now he doesn't want to hear It's like there's always 0:26:21.359 --> 0:26:26.000 that person that like is so unaware of the optics 0:26:26.000 --> 0:26:28.359 of the room or under it, just like yeah, I 0:26:28.680 --> 0:26:31.080 don't know you I just talk for an hour. 0:26:31.200 --> 0:26:32.960 I want to go home and cry like in a 0:26:32.960 --> 0:26:34.000 hot shower. 0:26:34.160 --> 0:26:36.800 And yeah, I mean, just I don't know. There's always 0:26:37.680 --> 0:26:39.920 I was the only reason I brought up because I 0:26:40.400 --> 0:26:42.600 had that experience this weekend where was another one of 0:26:42.640 --> 0:26:45.080 those people where it's like there's five people you meet 0:26:45.119 --> 0:26:50.000 after every show, right, somebody's gracious, somebody's too nervous, somebody 0:26:50.119 --> 0:26:53.840 is way too boisterous, and then somebody who's so insecure 0:26:54.560 --> 0:26:55.399 that they flip it on you. 0:26:55.440 --> 0:27:01.919 Would you say a beat? Okay, do that to me. 0:27:02.000 --> 0:27:05.439 But here's your reaction. Ready, So there's the person that 0:27:05.480 --> 0:27:06.080 does the thing. 0:27:10.160 --> 0:27:13.360 You write it down, Mark, you gotta write it down. 0:27:13.359 --> 0:27:14.160 I gotta take it down. 0:27:14.240 --> 0:27:15.520 I gotta take it out. 0:27:15.880 --> 0:27:20.560 There's some self massaging that you'll do. Can that be 0:27:20.600 --> 0:27:28.160 the name of episode self massaging? No? 0:27:23.200 --> 0:27:36.320 No, but yes, Steve, good luck to you. 0:27:36.359 --> 0:27:37.840 So no that what you were saying was like those 0:27:37.840 --> 0:27:39.760 people that come up they don't be able to read 0:27:39.800 --> 0:27:41.840 the room is huge, that is being. 0:27:41.680 --> 0:27:44.160 Able to but some people just don't have it. Yeah, right, 0:27:44.720 --> 0:27:48.399 could you learn it? Because I'll say I didn't. 0:27:48.920 --> 0:27:50.600 Well, I think, well, you're also I'm dealing with like 0:27:50.600 --> 0:27:52.240 I'm talking about, like coming out adolescence. 0:27:52.240 --> 0:27:54.320 I think if you're an adult, you might be setting 0:27:54.320 --> 0:27:55.040 your ways a little bit. 0:27:55.040 --> 0:28:01.280 But I remember being too witty and mean with my 0:28:01.359 --> 0:28:03.920 comedy and saying things that were would make other people 0:28:03.960 --> 0:28:05.360 feel bad to get everybody else to laugh. 0:28:05.359 --> 0:28:06.879 And remember I remember the moment I was like, oh, 0:28:06.920 --> 0:28:08.000 I got to stop doing that. 0:28:08.760 --> 0:28:11.359 And everybody should be laughing, not laughing at somebody that 0:28:11.400 --> 0:28:12.639 whole thing and having like a little bit of an 0:28:12.680 --> 0:28:15.160 awakening that way. You know, my mom's saying that stuff 0:28:15.200 --> 0:28:16.879 to me, you know, just to drill it in because 0:28:16.920 --> 0:28:20.840 she recognized it too. But I I think I learned that. 0:28:21.400 --> 0:28:24.360 But do you think that people could learn to read 0:28:24.400 --> 0:28:26.959 a room. I guess maybe by experience, by being around 0:28:26.960 --> 0:28:30.000 people more because there are all people out intervers and 0:28:30.000 --> 0:28:31.240 that you put them in a mix and they're like, 0:28:31.320 --> 0:28:32.440 ooh yeah. 0:28:32.600 --> 0:28:34.439 It just comes down to reading the social cues, right, 0:28:34.960 --> 0:28:38.320 Like literally just read the clues, dude, Like no one 0:28:38.440 --> 0:28:40.680 wants to hear the story, no one. People are not 0:28:40.760 --> 0:28:45.040 even making eye contact or you know, just it's it's interesting, 0:28:45.120 --> 0:28:48.440 like the social dynamic, just all the cues people give off. 0:28:48.680 --> 0:28:51.800 I just pick up after shows sometimes where like you'll 0:28:51.840 --> 0:28:54.600 be having a conversation and somebody's just like standing there 0:28:55.160 --> 0:28:57.640 and they're not even like it's like you can see 0:28:57.680 --> 0:29:00.920 I'm talking to and I won't even acknowledge you now 0:29:01.000 --> 0:29:04.480 because I'm here, I'm like doubling down right on talking 0:29:04.480 --> 0:29:07.120 to this person, giving them all my attention because you 0:29:07.240 --> 0:29:10.040 keep being intrusive to the space and you're also being 0:29:10.120 --> 0:29:12.440 rude to this individual, so I don't know it, just 0:29:12.480 --> 0:29:16.280 like that person isn't reading any of it, and it's like, 0:29:16.320 --> 0:29:20.120 how do you get that person understand that? And it 0:29:20.160 --> 0:29:23.160 comes down to like a person like you, because I've 0:29:23.160 --> 0:29:24.640 seen you you'd be like, I'm talking to. 0:29:24.600 --> 0:29:26.320 This because you go back this up right now, give 0:29:26.320 --> 0:29:26.720 me a minute. 0:29:26.920 --> 0:29:31.000 Given that, I mean you, you literally have a great 0:29:31.040 --> 0:29:33.640 peripheral and I've seen you pick up on things and 0:29:33.680 --> 0:29:38.640 you're very You're very kind, you're very patient, but you're 0:29:38.640 --> 0:29:42.360 also very honest. And there's times you've been honest with people. 0:29:42.440 --> 0:29:44.040 Where I'm like, well, I wish I could do that. 0:29:45.080 --> 0:29:46.480 I really like I truly. 0:29:46.480 --> 0:29:48.080 Well, that's why we hang out together because you'd make 0:29:48.080 --> 0:29:51.160 me do it for you. You just give me, You'll 0:29:51.200 --> 0:29:53.760 give me an old like next or something. I think 0:29:53.800 --> 0:29:54.280 it comes down to that. 0:29:54.320 --> 0:29:55.880 I think it comes down to maybe pick up a 0:29:55.880 --> 0:29:58.840 book or something about reading into like social cues and 0:29:58.880 --> 0:30:00.160 being able to manage. 0:30:00.240 --> 0:30:02.120 What people the energy people are given off to you. 0:30:02.200 --> 0:30:03.000 Yeah. 0:30:03.040 --> 0:30:04.080 Good luck to you, though, buddy. 0:30:04.840 --> 0:30:07.440 But the first step is the fact that he's reaching out. 0:30:07.520 --> 0:30:09.320 He understands Yeah, which is great. 0:30:09.400 --> 0:30:11.920 Yeah, And I would say definitely that thing about social media. 0:30:11.960 --> 0:30:15.040 Take a beat from that, all right. 0:30:15.040 --> 0:30:16.400 This next one comes from Karen. 0:30:16.960 --> 0:30:19.320 She asks what is the advice that you were given, 0:30:19.640 --> 0:30:24.800 asked for or not that you are happy you ignored Oh. 0:30:24.120 --> 0:30:28.400 Karen got a good one there. So somebody forced advice 0:30:28.440 --> 0:30:32.440 on you and you're happy you didn't follow it. Wow, 0:30:32.560 --> 0:30:34.720 that's a good one. That's a good question. Let's see. 0:30:34.760 --> 0:30:35.400 Let's see. 0:30:35.640 --> 0:30:38.600 I'm trying to think about because I've got I've gotten 0:30:38.640 --> 0:30:43.000 advice from my parents, and I haven't listened to all 0:30:43.000 --> 0:30:44.400 of it, but I remember a lot of it being good. 0:30:44.760 --> 0:30:47.560 But I'm sure there's got to be I was told. 0:30:47.320 --> 0:30:49.400 I should do a podcast, m. 0:30:51.680 --> 0:30:52.280 You shouldn't have. 0:30:52.760 --> 0:30:54.080 Are you talking about the other ones that you tried 0:30:54.120 --> 0:30:54.440 and failed? 0:30:54.760 --> 0:30:56.280 This one? Oh? You mean this one? 0:30:56.960 --> 0:30:58.320 You talk about the three other ones you tried that 0:30:58.320 --> 0:30:59.960 didn't work, and then this one we got on IHR 0:31:00.160 --> 0:31:03.640 podcast Network. I'm sorry he's talk about the three other 0:31:03.640 --> 0:31:06.440 ones that had seven listens across the board you're talking 0:31:06.480 --> 0:31:07.320 about I don't know. 0:31:07.320 --> 0:31:07.960 I just wanted you. 0:31:07.920 --> 0:31:09.840 To be clear for the listeners that are all tuned 0:31:09.840 --> 0:31:14.160 in listening to this I podcast network, a major conglomerate 0:31:14.160 --> 0:31:15.000 that we're on right now. 0:31:15.200 --> 0:31:17.680 I wasn't just be clear to the people. Are we 0:31:17.800 --> 0:31:18.560 talking about the. 0:31:18.440 --> 0:31:23.800 One that you filmed with with a selfie cam in 0:31:23.880 --> 0:31:28.280 your home office talking about stand up comedy and dissecting 0:31:28.320 --> 0:31:28.880 it Oh. 0:31:29.000 --> 0:31:30.880 The nine people that listened to that loved it. 0:31:32.520 --> 0:31:39.440 I love you Wow, that cut deep. Hey listen my 0:31:39.480 --> 0:31:42.080 first podcast suck too. Now we found each other. 0:31:42.480 --> 0:31:44.360 What was the first one? Two cool moths? 0:31:47.480 --> 0:31:48.800 My first one I did was my first one I 0:31:48.840 --> 0:31:51.360 did was is called You Seem Cool? And it was 0:31:51.440 --> 0:31:53.760 during COVID when I was finding people online and they 0:31:53.760 --> 0:31:55.440 were really cool and I just wanted to interview them. 0:31:55.480 --> 0:31:57.400 So it's like a fifteen minute short podcast. It was fun. 0:31:57.440 --> 0:31:57.800 It wasn't. 0:31:57.840 --> 0:31:59.360 Yeah, but it wasn't. I don't think it was on 0:31:59.480 --> 0:32:01.959 that I could would have sustained this format. I love 0:32:02.000 --> 0:32:03.920 and I love you Stevie. This is I love you too. 0:32:04.000 --> 0:32:04.480 This is great. 0:32:04.480 --> 0:32:07.080 But what what was there something? Obviously it goes back 0:32:07.120 --> 0:32:08.560 to profession I'm sure that there were. 0:32:08.640 --> 0:32:10.520 Oh well, I mean I got one that pops off 0:32:10.560 --> 0:32:12.040 right away. Our agent told us that we were too 0:32:12.080 --> 0:32:14.680 old for TV. Really, that we should give up on it. 0:32:14.920 --> 0:32:17.760 We should have sold to the format instead of trying 0:32:17.760 --> 0:32:19.440 to do jokers because we were too old for TV. 0:32:20.440 --> 0:32:23.520 That funny? Really? Yeah, yeah, so that's bad, Ben advice. 0:32:23.520 --> 0:32:25.720 I didn't you were mid thirties at that point. I 0:32:25.760 --> 0:32:27.800 mean that's I was young to mid I was like, yeah, 0:32:27.800 --> 0:32:28.800 thirty yeah, thirty fourth. 0:32:29.200 --> 0:32:31.800 It's crazy to say that to somebody that, yeah. 0:32:31.640 --> 0:32:33.320 That had a good show on their hands too, which 0:32:33.360 --> 0:32:35.400 is crazy. Yeah, so that's definitely that's number one bad 0:32:35.440 --> 0:32:36.440 advice that I didn't take. 0:32:37.480 --> 0:32:43.840 Wow, what din't anyways? Hey horrible? Sorry it's had an opinion? 0:32:43.960 --> 0:32:46.240 No, who is the first had an opinion? 0:32:47.040 --> 0:32:50.400 Yeah, there's always people that will tell you though, I had. 0:32:50.520 --> 0:32:54.440 I had one guy when I first moved here. I 0:32:54.480 --> 0:32:56.160 came out of Kent and I was I was starting 0:32:56.160 --> 0:32:58.640 to dabble and stand up, but I had a theater degree. 0:32:58.720 --> 0:33:01.239 And so there was this off off Broadway show that 0:33:01.280 --> 0:33:03.200 was going on and they needed somebody last minute, right, 0:33:03.760 --> 0:33:07.880 So I filled in for somebody and I actually I 0:33:07.880 --> 0:33:10.320 remember this. I worked my ass off for forty eight 0:33:10.360 --> 0:33:13.080 hours because it was premiering on Monday, and this person 0:33:13.200 --> 0:33:14.440 dropped off and he needed. 0:33:14.200 --> 0:33:16.200 Like an Asian person, right. So it was about the 0:33:16.320 --> 0:33:17.600 Chinese Cultural Revolution. 0:33:17.720 --> 0:33:21.800 So I watched the videotape, but I watched it in 0:33:21.840 --> 0:33:25.200 a mirror because I was like, I put my TV 0:33:25.240 --> 0:33:26.440 and I put a mirror because I. 0:33:26.600 --> 0:33:28.400 Did get the blocking right woh. 0:33:28.560 --> 0:33:29.880 So I even put in the mirror and I was 0:33:29.920 --> 0:33:32.040 like memorizing the blocking, and I was memorizing the lines 0:33:32.280 --> 0:33:35.600 and memorized everything. And then we went out for a 0:33:35.600 --> 0:33:41.400 cast party afterwards, and this guy said congratulations to everybody. 0:33:41.840 --> 0:33:44.960 He's like, it's so good to work with, you know, performers. 0:33:45.280 --> 0:33:47.920 And then he looked at me and he said, you know, 0:33:48.640 --> 0:33:51.800 even though some people maybe he shouldn't be doing this, 0:33:52.040 --> 0:33:54.760 oh wow, And I was like, whoa, what the Like? 0:33:54.840 --> 0:33:58.479 I put all this work in, all the beats and everything. 0:33:58.520 --> 0:34:02.960 And then like two weeks after the run was over, 0:34:04.240 --> 0:34:06.280 he said something along the lines of like this is 0:34:06.320 --> 0:34:08.239 not for you, yeah, and. 0:34:08.520 --> 0:34:11.239 Trying to partake it, partake some wisdom to you. Yeah, 0:34:11.239 --> 0:34:12.840 look kid, you're all right, but this isn't for you 0:34:13.000 --> 0:34:13.799 kind of thing. Yeah. 0:34:13.880 --> 0:34:15.560 It was just like, wow, that's kind of like a 0:34:15.920 --> 0:34:18.120 yeah that was that was one of your first roles too, 0:34:18.120 --> 0:34:19.719 Because then you say, you made it in a theater 0:34:19.760 --> 0:34:21.360 and you never performed at your college, right, you were 0:34:21.360 --> 0:34:21.960 always behind? 0:34:22.440 --> 0:34:23.640 Right? So was that right? Yeah? 0:34:23.760 --> 0:34:25.480 Was no? But no, I mean that then you made 0:34:25.520 --> 0:34:26.399 your job, is what I'm saying. 0:34:26.400 --> 0:34:29.799 Then I come to pass this thing and it ran 0:34:29.840 --> 0:34:31.640 for two weeks and I got like nice write ups 0:34:31.680 --> 0:34:35.359 and and I It's funny because I never worked in Kent, 0:34:35.960 --> 0:34:38.080 but I always did stuff for the Cleveland Playhouse and 0:34:38.120 --> 0:34:41.200 I did stuff like like legit professional stuff. So it 0:34:41.280 --> 0:34:43.799 was like weird that like I couldn't work at Kent, 0:34:43.880 --> 0:34:46.560 but I could go and make actual money with real 0:34:46.640 --> 0:34:49.399 working actors in the area and get that. And then 0:34:49.520 --> 0:34:51.360 to get that it was always like, I don't know 0:34:51.400 --> 0:34:54.000 with acting, and I'm sure you you deal with it 0:34:54.040 --> 0:34:56.440 too in terms of like jokers, but as a comic 0:34:56.520 --> 0:34:59.000 it's like you're give an opportunity to do things sometimes 0:34:59.040 --> 0:35:00.399 and acting wise, but uh. 0:35:00.880 --> 0:35:01.640 Yeah, I don't know. 0:35:02.040 --> 0:35:06.080 I think the I think in our industry especially, you'll 0:35:06.120 --> 0:35:10.040 get advice from people unwarranted a lot. 0:35:09.480 --> 0:35:12.360 Because people, especially like if people you're respected and have 0:35:12.400 --> 0:35:15.120 gone up high or whatever, it's unsolicited. Most of the time. 0:35:15.120 --> 0:35:17.520 They just it comes from place they're trying to help you. 0:35:17.800 --> 0:35:20.040 But everybody forgets that the way that people get to 0:35:20.040 --> 0:35:22.600 where they are is never, ever, ever the same. Not 0:35:22.680 --> 0:35:26.480 every actor that's on screen studied acting right, took an audition, 0:35:26.960 --> 0:35:28.919 got it, had a hit movie like. 0:35:28.880 --> 0:35:31.359 That doesn't happen right. Everybody gets to a different place 0:35:31.360 --> 0:35:31.919 in a different way. 0:35:32.360 --> 0:35:34.640 So I think in our industry people are like always 0:35:34.680 --> 0:35:36.279 just try to share their story of how they did 0:35:36.360 --> 0:35:38.480 it and like oh maybe blah blah blah, and it 0:35:38.480 --> 0:35:40.840 doesn't apply to you, and you still get to the 0:35:40.880 --> 0:35:42.279 same place, you know what I mean. 0:35:42.480 --> 0:35:45.120 Yeah, it's interesting, Like even when we did Sullivan and Sun, 0:35:45.200 --> 0:35:47.040 you just brought up a memory for some reason. But 0:35:47.320 --> 0:35:50.800 because I was the lead, right, and so I'm always 0:35:50.840 --> 0:35:51.680 there behind the bar. 0:35:52.719 --> 0:35:53.680 If there was a great. 0:35:53.480 --> 0:35:54.960 Line about like it's a good line, should give that 0:35:55.000 --> 0:35:57.040 to Brian. It's like, but it's true. Aligned, it's like 0:35:57.320 --> 0:35:59.800 I'm behind the desk, like I'm always here. I'll always 0:35:59.880 --> 0:36:03.560 have facilitate stuff. But but I remember this one day 0:36:03.600 --> 0:36:06.800 we were doing a scene and it was like longer 0:36:06.840 --> 0:36:10.440 in the day and Christine ever Saw had a question 0:36:11.160 --> 0:36:14.000 about something in the script. Now, granted this is like 0:36:14.040 --> 0:36:18.560 a summer sitcom, it's silly, but she still is like 0:36:19.040 --> 0:36:21.400 in tune in, giving it her best and being before 0:36:21.680 --> 0:36:23.600 and she's just like it's just not making sense to me, 0:36:23.640 --> 0:36:27.080 and so like motivationally based, like being like figure out 0:36:28.200 --> 0:36:31.720 she could write and and there was a moment where 0:36:33.200 --> 0:36:36.359 people were getting frustrated because it's like it's five it's 0:36:36.400 --> 0:36:37.359 five thirty. 0:36:37.080 --> 0:36:39.160 Can we fucking go home? It's a sitcom. 0:36:39.920 --> 0:36:44.440 And and I remember Guardell telling me all roads lead 0:36:44.440 --> 0:36:48.280 through you. However you behave will have a ripple effect 0:36:48.520 --> 0:36:52.360 on the whole thing. So one of the actors taps 0:36:52.400 --> 0:36:54.600 me on the shoulder, goes, Jesus Christ, Right, I go. 0:36:55.560 --> 0:36:57.000 You got to respect her process. 0:36:57.239 --> 0:36:59.880 You have a process and she has a process, so 0:37:00.200 --> 0:37:03.440 respect the process. And I think that kind of like 0:37:04.280 --> 0:37:04.920 settled it. 0:37:04.960 --> 0:37:06.120 But it's to your point. 0:37:06.160 --> 0:37:06.560 It's like. 0:37:08.400 --> 0:37:10.920 Everybody is going to get there differently. Everybody's going to 0:37:11.000 --> 0:37:12.839 work in a different way as well. When you when 0:37:12.880 --> 0:37:14.560 you do get there right, And I think you just 0:37:14.600 --> 0:37:18.759 have to appreciate people's journey because and what people are 0:37:18.800 --> 0:37:20.160 dealing with on a daily basis too. 0:37:20.200 --> 0:37:25.120 You just don't know, you know. Everybody thinks, yeah, all right. 0:37:25.719 --> 0:37:26.719 About that one. 0:37:34.920 --> 0:37:37.280 One more all right? This one comes from Amy. 0:37:37.880 --> 0:37:39.600 Amy is from Australia. 0:37:39.800 --> 0:37:45.960 Oh it all comes. 0:37:44.040 --> 0:37:46.680 Oh she's a marsupial, get me my crossbow. 0:37:48.160 --> 0:37:49.160 She loves your show. 0:37:50.200 --> 0:37:52.120 I listen to you guys every week and hope you 0:37:52.120 --> 0:37:54.080 can help me. I have a lot of anxiety and 0:37:54.120 --> 0:37:57.000 get overwhelmed by the smallest of things all the time. 0:37:57.320 --> 0:37:59.839 Do you have any advice on how to help over. 0:38:00.640 --> 0:38:04.480 Thank you, did you try not being anxious? 0:38:04.200 --> 0:38:09.880 That's the easiest thing. Just stop being anxious. Yeah, just 0:38:09.920 --> 0:38:10.399 go to sleep. 0:38:12.160 --> 0:38:13.800 Oh my god, it's. 0:38:13.680 --> 0:38:15.200 Not gonna it didn't happen. To be fine. 0:38:15.800 --> 0:38:19.960 Watch The Aviator with Leonardo Dicaprill. It's about Howard hughes 0:38:20.000 --> 0:38:20.799 and go at. 0:38:20.800 --> 0:38:22.879 Least I'm not that bad. Yes, for sure, you feel 0:38:22.880 --> 0:38:24.719 a lot better about anxiety. 0:38:24.760 --> 0:38:26.600 Is very tricky for me because I don't consider myself 0:38:26.600 --> 0:38:32.319 an anxious person. I don't necessarily understand anxiety, and I 0:38:32.360 --> 0:38:35.200 do I'm a firm believer in most of the stuff 0:38:35.200 --> 0:38:37.520 you worry about is it going to happen anyway, So 0:38:37.600 --> 0:38:39.839 you're wasting energy worrying about it and then not even 0:38:39.880 --> 0:38:42.600 have to deal with it. So for me, I think 0:38:42.680 --> 0:38:45.759 you should probably and with most most anxious people, and 0:38:45.800 --> 0:38:48.800 my wife is pretty anxious. So identifying triggers is a 0:38:48.800 --> 0:38:51.319 big thing. Like if you find yourself going down the 0:38:51.360 --> 0:38:54.120 rabbit hole and start thinking about stuff too much, like 0:38:54.160 --> 0:38:55.920 you have to try to derail your and distract your 0:38:55.920 --> 0:38:56.560 thought process. 0:38:56.560 --> 0:38:58.239 I think that's a big part. So like if you 0:38:58.239 --> 0:38:58.640 could just. 0:38:58.600 --> 0:39:02.839 Either start on a podcast and listen to us, or 0:39:03.000 --> 0:39:04.960 you know, you know, watch out, put on music, watch 0:39:04.960 --> 0:39:07.200 a TV, do something that stops you from sitting there 0:39:07.239 --> 0:39:08.200 and getting going. 0:39:08.320 --> 0:39:09.759 I know the hardest part is at night, when you're 0:39:09.800 --> 0:39:10.960 laying in bed. That's an anxiety. 0:39:11.040 --> 0:39:14.400 Yeah, comes firing up the most for people you know, 0:39:14.560 --> 0:39:17.000 or social anxiety if they're coming out into a crowd. 0:39:17.239 --> 0:39:20.279 But I would just say, know your triggers, try to 0:39:20.320 --> 0:39:22.560 identify them and try to find your your ways to 0:39:22.560 --> 0:39:24.120 deal with them and relinquish them. 0:39:24.680 --> 0:39:27.359 But to your point, it's like, what what does not 0:39:27.440 --> 0:39:28.080 make you anxious? 0:39:28.200 --> 0:39:28.560 Right right? 0:39:28.600 --> 0:39:30.960 Where do you find solace? Like? 0:39:31.320 --> 0:39:33.520 And then examine that? It's like, why don't I feel 0:39:33.520 --> 0:39:38.799 anxiety with X y Z, but ABC does give me anxiety? 0:39:38.840 --> 0:39:41.400 And it's like I think if you can almost like 0:39:41.480 --> 0:39:44.399 reverse engineer it and go to it and go why 0:39:44.440 --> 0:39:45.359 am I not with this? 0:39:46.040 --> 0:39:48.680 But with this social tick, perhaps I am right? 0:39:48.719 --> 0:39:51.879 And I think if you can examine that and kick 0:39:51.960 --> 0:39:54.880 kind of granular with it, I think you could. 0:39:54.640 --> 0:39:56.400 Find the answers within yourself. 0:39:57.080 --> 0:40:00.319 Or to your point as well, it's like I don't 0:40:00.360 --> 0:40:04.320 get anxious when I'm cooking, but I do get anxious 0:40:04.719 --> 0:40:07.759 when I'm focusing on my bills. Yes, well, then maybe 0:40:07.800 --> 0:40:10.560 you could focus on your bills while you're cooking, you know, 0:40:10.800 --> 0:40:13.719 I don't know, just like finding some middle ground. That's 0:40:13.760 --> 0:40:16.719 a great tweet of behavior trait where you don't have it, 0:40:17.719 --> 0:40:20.239 and and and maybe kind of offset or off put 0:40:20.280 --> 0:40:21.399 it in a healthy way. 0:40:21.480 --> 0:40:23.480 That's great. That's a really good advice. There. 0:40:23.640 --> 0:40:26.239 God, I did it. I did it. It should be 0:40:26.280 --> 0:40:30.640 called Steve and another cool mom. I have all the answers. 0:40:30.719 --> 0:40:35.920 I'm the best. I really am. 0:40:34.480 --> 0:40:35.640 The best at this. 0:40:36.760 --> 0:40:37.279 Give me more. 0:40:37.320 --> 0:40:41.200 Can we put up a quick tally? Yeah, just good advice. 0:40:41.800 --> 0:40:44.759 Good advice Joe, which is chacking, and good advice Steve. 0:40:44.800 --> 0:40:45.920 And let's see where we end up. 0:40:46.040 --> 0:40:48.440 All the people that took my advice that are major 0:40:48.480 --> 0:40:51.640 successes that you know, scrub Daddy could talk to me, 0:40:52.040 --> 0:40:53.160 got him situated. 0:40:53.239 --> 0:40:54.920 We want to hear from you guys. Okay, listen, this 0:40:54.960 --> 0:40:55.840 is what we're going to ask you to do. 0:40:55.880 --> 0:40:58.120 The last person Joe talked to was the kid? 0:40:58.280 --> 0:41:01.000 Was it? Luis g Mangio? Op it. We gotta have 0:41:01.000 --> 0:41:01.799 to cut that too. 0:41:01.920 --> 0:41:04.000 What I'm not gonna say that I talked to a 0:41:04.000 --> 0:41:05.120 guy who killed someone. 0:41:05.440 --> 0:41:09.960 You don't you gave him advice? 0:41:10.400 --> 0:41:11.880 He said on my neck cart it's like, this is 0:41:11.880 --> 0:41:14.240 what you gotta do. That's I saw you guys. 0:41:14.280 --> 0:41:16.600 Okay, I'm the as Yeah you are okay, but I 0:41:16.600 --> 0:41:21.239 still love you. The thing to remember is I don't 0:41:21.280 --> 0:41:26.799 have muscle memory. I have muscle amnesia. Listens, cool moms, Uh, 0:41:26.840 --> 0:41:28.640 this is it. 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