Speaker 1: Second data day. If this is a cute girl and
Speaker 1: she's on a dating app, okay, you can imagine she's
Speaker 1: probably being hit on by what a hundred guys a day? Oh,
Speaker 1: two hundred guys a day. Yeah, even just not a
Speaker 1: dating app. If you're like on social media and you're cute, yeah,
Speaker 1: you probably have a d or just two hundred ms
Speaker 1: from Jose alone. You see it. You know what's gonna
Speaker 1: be a lot And Jose, I mean, in your experience,
Speaker 1: how do you cut through to make yourself stand out
Speaker 1: from all the other guys? Like what do you say?
Speaker 1: Do you say like, oh, I think I found your wallet? No,
Speaker 1: that's actually a good idea. Yet like that something the work?
Speaker 1: You're really basic. I have a blue check mark. So
Speaker 1: people just tend to be like, oh, who are you?
Speaker 1: I don't know who I am. You can just say hi,
Speaker 1: look at my blue check work. No, I just like hi,
Speaker 1: this Onn't you know? You're beautiful? And then most girls
Speaker 1: will go, thanks, leave me alone. Okay, so it's working. Yeah, well,
Speaker 1: they respond. Apparently something worked on one of our listeners
Speaker 1: that made a guy stand out to her, and now
Speaker 1: she's on the phone with us looking to get back
Speaker 1: in touch with him. Her name's Ashley. Ashley, how you doing? Heyam,
Speaker 1: I'm good. How are you? I think I found your wallet?
Speaker 1: By the way, would you like it back? You can
Speaker 1: keep it. I'm so curious with this guy saying to
Speaker 1: get your attention, what's his name? His name is Benjamin
Speaker 1: to ask, Well, I didn't meet him like on to me,
Speaker 1: I meant him. I met him on a dating app,
Speaker 1: that's rights. So what did what did he do to
Speaker 1: stand out from everybody else? So basically he was talking
Speaker 1: about how like, oh I'm so beautiful, there's no ambryo,
Speaker 1: like you got to be a catfish, and so we
Speaker 1: face times like immediately it's like it's like reverse psychology. Yeah,
Speaker 1: like and then you want to prove to him, no,
Speaker 1: I am real. See look at my boot. Yeah that's
Speaker 1: pretty stereotypical guy. Yeah, feeling kind of negging you and
Speaker 1: and bating you into I don't know, basically talking day. Yeah,
Speaker 1: it's almost like being like I don't even want you
Speaker 1: to reply to this. Yeah, yeah, I guess I'm too competitive.
Speaker 1: So I was immediately like I would challenge accepted. Okay,
Speaker 1: guy's crazy that you FaceTime? Yeah, what did he look like,
Speaker 1: he's really cute, he's cold, he's got dark hair, blue eyes,
Speaker 1: like all the things I'm into. Okay, okay, so that's good,
Speaker 1: and you know he's real too. What do you guys
Speaker 1: do for a date? We decided to go to a bar.
Speaker 1: All right. Yeah, it was great. We had a good time,
Speaker 1: but so one thing happened. It was like kind of embarrassing,
Speaker 1: but I don't think he was really upset by it.
Speaker 1: But we're sitting there talking like we've been on the
Speaker 1: date for thirty minutes at this point, and one of
Speaker 1: my girlfriends came into the bar and she came over
Speaker 1: to say hi, and I completely forgot his name. Oh no, oh,
Speaker 1: And it's like happens when you're mid sentence, this is
Speaker 1: oh my god, and you oh man, he must have
Speaker 1: just been mortified, Like what what was his reaction? Well?
Speaker 1: I felt terrible and I was super embarrassed that he
Speaker 1: kind of laughed it off and was cool about it,
Speaker 1: and then we just like kept going and had a
Speaker 1: really good night. That's a he was able to brush
Speaker 1: it off. You guys, he's only thirty minutes into a date. Yeah,
Speaker 1: but still it's just a shot to the ego. I know,
Speaker 1: like I totally gioved, but honestly, like he's the one
Speaker 1: that brought it up later in the date, like joking around. Okay,
Speaker 1: everyone was like he wait, what's your name? Again? Not
Speaker 1: passive aggressive, like two really old people at breakfast, like
Speaker 1: what's your name? Who are you? He's serious, He's like, no,
Speaker 1: what time is it? I don't know. I guess that's
Speaker 1: romantic in away? Is that how you felt about it?
Speaker 1: I was really embarrassed at birth, but then like he
Speaker 1: made me feel more comfortable and he, like I said,
Speaker 1: he poked on at it later in the date, and
Speaker 1: so I felt like it was fine. Thinken like I know,
Speaker 1: like I know, the rest of the date went well
Speaker 1: because after the day we left and we walked around
Speaker 1: for a little bit and then he called an uber
Speaker 1: for me, and like literally right as I was like
Speaker 1: welcome to the super and like this is gonna sound
Speaker 1: so corny and so cheesy, and I know it, but
Speaker 1: I swear it happened. I was looking up and it's
Speaker 1: like the clouds was just kind of cleared away and
Speaker 1: like you could see like the stars. So it was
Speaker 1: like super sweet and romantic, and like right then is
Speaker 1: when he went in and kissed me good night, oh buddy,
Speaker 1: and you like thanks Dylan. Oh my god. Well thank
Speaker 1: god I didn't call him that name, like that would
Speaker 1: have been even more embarrat thing. All right, that's sweet.
Speaker 1: I mean, like you have this sweet moment, you already
Speaker 1: have an inside joke together. Like you sound connected. I'm
Speaker 1: guessing you were totally expecting to call back from him. Yeah,
Speaker 1: And so like we've been texting and like I've been
Speaker 1: very slurty with my text and like obviously like dropping
Speaker 1: his tense. Hey, I'm definitely interested, but like he hasn't
Speaker 1: been as kind of talkative back with his text and
Speaker 1: he hasn't called me or asked me for another date.
Speaker 1: And it's been a week now. Are you missing any
Speaker 1: teeth he could have felt with his tongue while he
Speaker 1: was in there and he wouldn't notice that earlier. Well,
Speaker 1: it could be in the back brook, Okay, Yeah, I
Speaker 1: mean I thought you were a catfish. You didn't have
Speaker 1: any teeth. I have all of my teeth, thank you. Okay,
Speaker 1: we got to the bottom of that mystery. I think
Speaker 1: he may have met somebody else or something. Maybe it
Speaker 1: was Ashley's friend that she was introduced to. Oh my god,
Speaker 1: I'm spoken to her. Dude, I definitely want to get
Speaker 1: that tea if that's the case. Yeah, let's find down.
Speaker 1: I'm going to play a song, will come back. We're
Speaker 1: gonna call Benjamin for you, and we'll try and get
Speaker 1: your second date update. All right, Okay, thank you. Hold
Speaker 1: on second if you're just joining us. We're talking with
Speaker 1: one of our listeners, Ashley, who's worried that maybe her
Speaker 1: date Benjamin is ghosting her because she accidentally blanked on
Speaker 1: his name thirty minutes into their first and Ashley, I
Speaker 1: know that makes you feel bad and probably kind of embarrassed,
Speaker 1: but if it's any consolation, Brooke has gone to bed
Speaker 1: with hundreds of men without ever knowing their names, So
Speaker 1: you're in really good company right now. Ash I just
Speaker 1: didn't think it was that important, but yeah, I mean,
Speaker 1: that's not why I was there. Save that for more
Speaker 1: useful information. Anyway, Benjamin was a really good sport about it,
Speaker 1: and they even had a kiss at the very end
Speaker 1: of the night as the clouds parted and the stars
Speaker 1: came out, which is why it's such a mystery why
Speaker 1: Benjamin has been kind of avoiding her, still texting but
Speaker 1: not asking her out on another date. So we're going
Speaker 1: to help figure out the reason why that would be awesome. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I mean, I'm just worried that. I mean, he just
Speaker 1: almost sounds like too smooth. Like that's why I think
Speaker 1: that maybe there's somebody I always talking to a few
Speaker 1: girls exactly like it's just like it's too good. We'll see.
Speaker 1: I'm gonna dial Benjamin's number right now, though, and we're
Speaker 1: going to try and get you your second date update.
Speaker 1: Are you ready? Oh gosh, I don't know. Yes, okay, yes,
Speaker 1: I'm right, you're ready. You're ready? This will be good? Okay,
Speaker 1: are you sure? Because we don't have to do this? No?
Speaker 1: No, no no it okay, just like all right before all
Speaker 1: here we go. I'm down on the number right now. Hello, Hey,
Speaker 1: is this Benjamin? This Benjaman? Who's this? My name is
Speaker 1: jeff from the radio show Brook and Jeffrey in the Morning.
Speaker 1: What are you talking about? Radio? It's a form of
Speaker 1: entertainment that a lot of people listen to and we
Speaker 1: do a morning show on it. And one thing that
Speaker 1: we do on our show is this segment called a
Speaker 1: second date Update. Oh oh yeah, y'all like a podcast? Right? Yeah?
Speaker 1: If that makes it easier for you to understand than sure. Yeah,
Speaker 1: it's a radio by But something that we do on
Speaker 1: this radio podcasts, yeah, is we help our listeners reach
Speaker 1: out to people that they've been on a date with
Speaker 1: when they can't get back in touch with them. Okay,
Speaker 1: and you went out with a woman recently, Ashley. Yeah, Ashley, Ashley.
Speaker 1: That sounds like a good memory that just popped into
Speaker 1: your head of Ashley. We spoke to Ashley about you,
Speaker 1: and there were some pretty positive reviews. She says you're
Speaker 1: a really nice guy, attractive and kind of a smooth talker. Yeah.
Speaker 1: I could be a ladies killer. Oh yeah, did you
Speaker 1: like Ashley a lot um? In the words of Shakespeare,
Speaker 1: I would say it was the best of times and
Speaker 1: the worst of times. Oh I don't think that was. Yeah,
Speaker 1: that was a far reach killer. But you ended up
Speaker 1: going out. You must have had a good time on
Speaker 1: the date then, right if I a doubt, man, I
Speaker 1: had a blast. You know, even I even loved to
Speaker 1: put where she almost forgot my name like thirty minutes
Speaker 1: into the date. That really didn't bother you, No, I mean, hey, like,
Speaker 1: you know, just were meeting people. It's not like how
Speaker 1: it used to be. It's like speed dating on steroids.
Speaker 1: Very chill. Yeah, the vibe is very chill. You seem
Speaker 1: very positive about everything. So I guess I'm a little
Speaker 1: bit confused why you're not talking to Ashley anymore. All Right,
Speaker 1: So here's the worst of times. Okay. So she let
Speaker 1: me know where she worked at. Okay, So two days
Speaker 1: after I was like, you know what, I'm gonna pop
Speaker 1: up on her with some roses at work. So when
Speaker 1: I went to her office talk to the receptionist. She said, yeah,
Speaker 1: are you Dave? And I'm like, no, I am not Dave.
Speaker 1: Wait is this a joke that she's playing because she
Speaker 1: got through the wrong name on your date too, But
Speaker 1: it was a receptionist, I said this. So then then
Speaker 1: she went to go check and then she said, oh yeah,
Speaker 1: she already went to lunch with Dave already. Oh wow,
Speaker 1: So she had a lunch date with Dave. Yeah, And
Speaker 1: then the reception this had this weird look on her face,
Speaker 1: like kind of like she didn't want to tell me that. Well,
Speaker 1: obviously you're like standing there holding flowers, but you're not
Speaker 1: in a relationship, Like you're both open and free to
Speaker 1: date right now. After a completely amazing date like that,
Speaker 1: she's the only woman on my mind. I can't, like,
Speaker 1: you know, for twenty four hours later she's on another
Speaker 1: date with another Do you that, Like, Yeah, that's crazy
Speaker 1: to me. Yeah, I mean I don't know, Like it's
Speaker 1: like she could have had it planned way before. You
Speaker 1: don't usually it sounds like a boyfriend thing to take
Speaker 1: up to lunch them. Dude, you think it's a boyfriend.
Speaker 1: I think it sounds like she just had another lunch date.
Speaker 1: She's like dating right now. Well let's just ask her then,
Speaker 1: because Benjamin, I gotta let you know that Ashley has
Speaker 1: been on the other line listening this entire time. She
Speaker 1: wants to talk to you. What, Yeah, Ashley, you there.
Speaker 1: Oh I'm so embarrassed. Oh why are you embarrassed? Oh
Speaker 1: my gosh, I'm so sorry. And to them, like, I
Speaker 1: just want you to know that I did feel the
Speaker 1: same way, like Acardy, you were the only man on
Speaker 1: my mind too. So so who's Dave? Yeah, Like he's
Speaker 1: not my boyfriend, there's nothing serious. He's just a guy.
Speaker 1: Like I just I wish you would have told me
Speaker 1: that you were coming, Ashley, to be honest, that's not
Speaker 1: good enough, man, and you gotta be a little bit
Speaker 1: more honest and upfront if you know you want to
Speaker 1: move forward or hang out with me. I mean, actually
Speaker 1: you're saying two different things. You're saying after the date,
Speaker 1: I had no other guy in mind, and then literally
Speaker 1: the next day you're with another guy twenty four hours later.
Speaker 1: I am sorry, all you need to get off of
Speaker 1: her back. Okay, when I met my husband, I was
Speaker 1: like seeing other dudes. I was hanging out with an excuse,
Speaker 1: I had another date on the side, and like your husband,
Speaker 1: you're the only guy that I'm thinking about right now
Speaker 1: on the very first date. No, I wasn't telling him that. Brook.
Speaker 1: She's saying that to us right now. She's saying that
Speaker 1: Benjamin is the only person that I want to see,
Speaker 1: but I also want to see Dave. Yeah, but you
Speaker 1: can actually be out on the date with Dave and
Speaker 1: still be thinking about Benjamin, like maybe it was already planned. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I mean you could be right. The only way to
Speaker 1: know is by asking Ashley, Hey, who is Dave? What
Speaker 1: is his relationship? See just another guy that you're also
Speaker 1: seeing or is there something more? Have you guys hooked up?
Speaker 1: You don't have to get that far. But is it romantic?
Speaker 1: You know what? I don't want to go into all
Speaker 1: kind of details about I will just tell you this
Speaker 1: and like seas, do not overreact. But he's just my
Speaker 1: sugar daddy. Like what that's all good? Okay, now it
Speaker 1: makes sense. I was worried this was a big deal. Yeah, okay,
Speaker 1: so we're fine. Okay, but listen, okay, Benjamin, Like please
Speaker 1: just listening for a second. Like I feel like y'all
Speaker 1: are not getting right image of what this is. Like
Speaker 1: he takes nady to like stuff like that, like nothing else.
Speaker 1: That's literally the extent of our relationship. Like you know
Speaker 1: more about me in the one date that we have
Speaker 1: than he does, and we have like you and I
Speaker 1: have a real connection, all right, so the like so
Speaker 1: he does all that nice stuff for you, and but
Speaker 1: do y'all do anything more than it or any more stuff?
Speaker 1: I just I feel like we're getting really far away
Speaker 1: from it. And the point is that like I care
Speaker 1: about you. Oh I want an answer to that, Well
Speaker 1: you don't. We don't need an answer, sugar daddy for free.
Speaker 1: But you can stop the sugar daddy and can't you
Speaker 1: can't you just like cut her off. I'm saying, letstic
Speaker 1: like she could just end that and then she could
Speaker 1: be into relationship with you, Benjamin. She made a mistake
Speaker 1: going to a no sugar dating diet. You guys are
Speaker 1: making such a huge deal of this, and it's like
Speaker 1: it's not a big deal. All of my friends have these,
Speaker 1: and like it's expensive being a single woman paying bread
Speaker 1: is women can't have it all. It's not like you can,
Speaker 1: like we can have somebody that we care about, and
Speaker 1: we can have somebody that pays our bills. God, I
Speaker 1: wish I could have that. Okay, So what you would
Speaker 1: keep the sugar daddy and you would get you'd have
Speaker 1: it all. I mean, yah, we can do that. Well,
Speaker 1: what do you think about the idea of Benjamin giving
Speaker 1: you both just splitting them into two people. Benjamin can
Speaker 1: be the guy that gives you things and is also
Speaker 1: romantically connected to you at the same time like a boyfriend.
Speaker 1: Let's not get too crazy. Can you do that? Like
Speaker 1: that's a lot for one person? What do you think?
Speaker 1: I just think for me, I feel like it's her loss.
Speaker 1: You know why, because for one, I make good money,
Speaker 1: I'm a millionaire. Oh no. The second point is that
Speaker 1: the first gesture, I did anything nice to you to
Speaker 1: show my my romance or my positive affirmations towards you.
Speaker 1: I come to your job, you with a whole another
Speaker 1: dude I learned on this phone call. That's your sugar daddy.
Speaker 1: I'm okay, it's a lot. All I heard was that
Speaker 1: he's a millionaire, and then my eyes went completely blank.
Speaker 1: And I don't know how Ashley feels about it. Ashley,
Speaker 1: what do you think now, knowing that he is an
Speaker 1: extremely successful, extremely rich guy that's also of smooth talker,
Speaker 1: would you want to see him again? And we would
Speaker 1: pay for that date. I mean, I just feel like
Speaker 1: that like solves all of our problems. Like I feel
Speaker 1: like we don't really have a problem here, Like, oh
Speaker 1: now she has a friend. Actually, I think, I think
Speaker 1: a good paying job for yourself and being an independent
Speaker 1: you can disgust, you can be your help at the
Speaker 1: end of the day, Benjamin, we had a really good
Speaker 1: time together. Like, I don't see why they has to stop.
Speaker 1: I could stop. It's called trust. I mean, look, Benjamin,
Speaker 1: I think she's seeing the air of her ways here.
Speaker 1: Obviously I could see this relationship working out, especially if
Speaker 1: you're willing to pay a little bit more money on
Speaker 1: your dates, and you won't even have to on this
Speaker 1: first one because we're gonna pay for it. Come on, Benjamin,
Speaker 1: one more chance. Might as well take the frame. Yell,
Speaker 1: come on, it'll be fine now we're gonna have with
Speaker 1: all your money. Remember, you're the only one that she's
Speaker 1: been thinking about since your dates. Those are her words.
Speaker 1: I'm gonna say, I'm okay, I'm not, I'm not, I'm
Speaker 1: good on the second date. Yeah, I don't know. I
Speaker 1: just feel like all are really judging me really hard
Speaker 1: right now. Oh I'm not ask your daddy if you
Speaker 1: wants two babies. Broke and Jeffrey in the morning.