WEBVTT - Haters gon' Hate

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<v Speaker 1>The Blaze is going to playte is going to hate

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<v Speaker 1>going to.

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<v Speaker 2>The Mother's going to ball. I don't mind what people

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<v Speaker 2>say you do, but I don't mind what do you

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<v Speaker 2>believe to you?

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<v Speaker 3>Are you leave on getting your mother? Because what they do,

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<v Speaker 3>what they do ain't nothing to do play. They don't

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<v Speaker 3>playing and hate ball shot coming, Welcome back.

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<v Speaker 2>This is good mom's bad choices. I'm Erica and I'm Nila,

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<v Speaker 2>and we're back.

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<v Speaker 3>I feel like we've took her two weeks off. I

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<v Speaker 3>feel like this has been a while. Well, be recorded. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 3>that's what I mean. Yeah, take two weeks off. We're prerecorded. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 3>it wasn't as a like before. It wasn't like VAKA

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<v Speaker 3>like on vacation. You're right, yeah, yeah, is that girl?

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<v Speaker 3>What did it do? I think there's a plane passing.

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<v Speaker 3>There's always a plane passing. Can you hear like the crickets?

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<v Speaker 3>Like the outdoors.

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<v Speaker 2>I wonder have you ever have you ever listened to

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<v Speaker 2>Oprah's Super Soul Sunday podcast or watched it on the

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<v Speaker 2>own networks. She's always outside in her garden, like drinking lemonade.

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<v Speaker 2>There's like the birds like yeah, so I kind of we.

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<v Speaker 3>Know we're doing our own version of the Super Soul

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<v Speaker 3>Sunday Good Monster. That's I was thinking. Maybe it's like

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<v Speaker 3>we're camping.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, basically odd. We were out there and there was

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<v Speaker 2>a rat that was Yeah, there's crickets. My backyard is

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<v Speaker 2>very active.

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<v Speaker 3>Why did we take oh, because why did we take

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<v Speaker 3>two weeks off? Oh? You went to Jersey. I went

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<v Speaker 3>to Jersey and you went to Florida. I went to Florida.

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<v Speaker 3>We said, it's like fucking every week because I mean

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<v Speaker 3>I went, like, I feel like I'm in Florida. A

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<v Speaker 3>lot that's going on. I was Florida. It was cool,

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<v Speaker 3>you know. We we were doing work out there and ts. No,

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<v Speaker 3>I'm done with Tinder.

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<v Speaker 2>Although you know.

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<v Speaker 3>I was going to hang out with Jasmine je sitting Jasmine.

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<v Speaker 3>Oh we didn't. We didn't. I didn't have time. We didn't.

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<v Speaker 3>We haven't made it happen. We're gonna hang out.

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<v Speaker 2>Hopefully the next time I go out there and chill,

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<v Speaker 2>maybe I'll get some fetish trainings.

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<v Speaker 3>Oh that would be nice. You could come.

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<v Speaker 2>Sure, that'd be really nice because I always kink it

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<v Speaker 2>up a little more, always step up my game.

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<v Speaker 3>I'm always into like tips and tricks. If you guys

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<v Speaker 3>have any tips and tricks, you please also don't tell

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<v Speaker 3>me those.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, I think all women continues some act like speaking

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<v Speaker 2>of tips and tricks, can you please send us your

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<v Speaker 2>horries book service announcement.

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<v Speaker 3>We're gonna start with us at the top.

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<v Speaker 2>We're trying to do like a fun, hoary Halloween episodes,

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<v Speaker 2>so we need like all the top horries.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah, we need all your hotels, scary scary horror stories,

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<v Speaker 4>juicy ones, ones you wish you never that never happened, embarrassing.

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<v Speaker 3>We need an effer an episode, which is I know

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<v Speaker 3>it's asking a lot. We need on enough for well,

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<v Speaker 3>we need at least like six good ones. Yeah, but

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<v Speaker 3>yeah six to ten.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh my god, I fucking just you could pick me

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<v Speaker 2>up from like the crab Shack or whatever the fuck

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<v Speaker 2>b by Crabby crab on fan eyes right across from

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<v Speaker 2>the thatches that.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 2>I love crab and ship and like the eating pill.

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<v Speaker 2>But I fucking smell like occasion. You do you actually

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<v Speaker 2>smell like I still smell the kids spurt? Is that

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<v Speaker 2>what it is?

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<v Speaker 3>Spicy peppery? She got in my car and I thought

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<v Speaker 3>she had food with her and she was like, no,

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<v Speaker 3>it's me, but listen, the thing is like I love it,

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<v Speaker 3>but every time I go, I'm like, do I don't

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<v Speaker 3>have anything to do tonight?

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<v Speaker 2>And I was like, you can't do it.

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<v Speaker 3>No, you ain't going. You better not go try to

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<v Speaker 3>go to house. No like that.

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<v Speaker 2>Goddamn sure, No, you need like a two day details.

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<v Speaker 2>You didn't like sit in Vinegar like it's so strong.

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<v Speaker 2>I couldn't live in New Orleans. That would just be

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<v Speaker 2>a occasions. Okay, anyway, sorry I took myself off the beat.

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<v Speaker 3>How was journey? Okay? So yeah, Florida was cool?

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<v Speaker 2>How kinks and tricks? Speaking of kinks and tricks, oh Flora? Okay, okay, okay,

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<v Speaker 2>I say you actually have a kink or a trick?

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<v Speaker 3>Oh? Do I have a king trip? Yeah? A kinky trick? Yeah,

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<v Speaker 3>like any tips or kinky tricks?

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<v Speaker 2>Like to add, I'm always into what other women's kinky

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<v Speaker 2>trips like chips are because then you can implement them

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<v Speaker 2>in your bedroom and like spice of that maybe something

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<v Speaker 2>you didn't know about.

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<v Speaker 3>Are you asking me what of mine right now? Currently?

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<v Speaker 5>Oh?

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<v Speaker 3>My god, put the spot.

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<v Speaker 2>I just want to know if you're some shit I

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<v Speaker 2>don't I'm not doing and if anybody else has any,

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<v Speaker 2>I mean we should share them, right because they you like,

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<v Speaker 2>step up everybody's secks. Games is like a community situation.

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<v Speaker 3>I mean, I always like, I think role play is

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<v Speaker 3>really fun. I like to role play. Some people are

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<v Speaker 3>I'm down for it. Some people are you gotta feel

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<v Speaker 3>it out.

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<v Speaker 2>I am into role play too, but I feel like

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<v Speaker 2>that that sad suggestion kind of scares people and they can.

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<v Speaker 3>Come off so I know, what do you mean, come

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<v Speaker 3>off wrong? Not come off wrong? Like I don't think.

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<v Speaker 3>I like, I don't think everybody can get into it,

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<v Speaker 3>and of course not.

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<v Speaker 2>They're not an a star actress, action, a working actor,

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<v Speaker 2>an active actor.

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<v Speaker 3>You're not an active actor. You may not want to

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<v Speaker 3>be engaged in such.

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<v Speaker 2>A we literally someone recently, an actor, said that they're

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<v Speaker 2>an active actor and I was dead, like, what do

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<v Speaker 2>you mean.

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<v Speaker 3>An active okay?

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<v Speaker 2>Anyway, okay, because there was a time like I was

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<v Speaker 2>in a relationship and I was like, oh, like that's

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<v Speaker 2>role play.

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<v Speaker 3>Like halfway through he was like, all right, like I

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<v Speaker 3>don't want to but I want to fuck you. This

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<v Speaker 3>is like he couldn't.

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<v Speaker 2>He couldn't like, yeah, yeah, I think role play is

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<v Speaker 2>like Okay, maybe this isn't a good kink trick because

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<v Speaker 2>it's more for I feel like, for me, I do

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<v Speaker 2>a deeper in relationship, like it's not like straight off

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<v Speaker 2>the bat day one. But maybe maybe if you did,

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<v Speaker 2>maybe if you did, it would like, you know, open

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<v Speaker 2>up the relationship to be like more like it would

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<v Speaker 2>be a broader, open relationship earlier, because.

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<v Speaker 3>Why do we wait till to de fan to do

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<v Speaker 3>kinky ship. You're right, maybe I need to step up

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<v Speaker 3>my role play again with happy Bay.

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<v Speaker 2>But then I also would be scared to just like

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<v Speaker 2>go out to character and hope that the first catch

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<v Speaker 2>catches alone. You know, Okay, you know what I think

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<v Speaker 2>would be a good way intro love. I've never known this,

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<v Speaker 2>but I've always wanted to intro level role play, Like

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<v Speaker 2>I meant to do this fuck and like get a

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<v Speaker 2>hotel and then maybe like you go down to the

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<v Speaker 2>bar first, or like he goes or meet somewhere and

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<v Speaker 2>just schedule the meet and then.

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<v Speaker 3>Act like you're, oh, like you're new, You're like like

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<v Speaker 3>you're like a couple, a stranger. That's like level one, right, Yeah,

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<v Speaker 3>it makes it easier.

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<v Speaker 2>I think you kind of give a idea just like

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<v Speaker 2>an idea for like a married couple a relationship for

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<v Speaker 2>a long time time to spice it up. Speaking of this,

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<v Speaker 2>I have a hair dressesdn't tell me this crazy story

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<v Speaker 2>that she was at the buzz stop and this this

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<v Speaker 2>woman pulled up on.

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<v Speaker 3>Her and was like, oh did that like like I

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<v Speaker 3>have you so beautiful?

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<v Speaker 2>Like I have a guy friend that is single, and

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<v Speaker 2>I think you guys like some weard shit like this

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<v Speaker 2>she got. She goes back and forth with this woman,

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<v Speaker 2>texting they made up at a bar her in this

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<v Speaker 2>guy meets stuff and she's like, it's obvious that they

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<v Speaker 2>are married have a relationship.

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<v Speaker 3>And then if she's just steady playing and this is

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<v Speaker 3>this friend that she's trying to like pass her on,

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<v Speaker 3>took her up with and it's just a screaky crazy

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<v Speaker 3>so she wanted her to suck her man, but she

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<v Speaker 3>kept saying she said they kept sucking up and saying like, babe,

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<v Speaker 3>did she did?

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<v Speaker 2>Wait? Did the wife or girlfriend end up wanting to

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<v Speaker 2>be a part of it? I need to like get

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<v Speaker 2>this girl because this is a random haare dresser told

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<v Speaker 2>me the story, but there's not going to but she

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<v Speaker 2>I forgot. I think she finally was like, you know,

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<v Speaker 2>I know what's up.

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<v Speaker 3>I know what you're trying to do. Like I can

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<v Speaker 3>tell that you guys.

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<v Speaker 2>Know each otherday, like you guys are sucking and I

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<v Speaker 2>think that they're like finally admitted that, like yeah, they're

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<v Speaker 2>just like trying to open up.

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<v Speaker 3>But I thought, wow, what you went to level of

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<v Speaker 3>ten and that's kind of hot, Like who knows to what?

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<v Speaker 3>Like to what extreme will you keep your your sex

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<v Speaker 3>life active?

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<v Speaker 2>It's coming soon topic, yeah, maybe to any extreme because

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<v Speaker 2>then it's you know, it's kind of like that kinky

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<v Speaker 2>little secret just between you guys.

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<v Speaker 3>You know what's going on. And actually she kind of

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<v Speaker 3>got preyed upon for sure.

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<v Speaker 2>Yes, that's very yeah, I want to do that. That's

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<v Speaker 2>kind of like that's sexy about it's sexy for them

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<v Speaker 2>for that. For her, it's like girl, like I like

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<v Speaker 2>turned on by like.

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<v Speaker 3>My partner.

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<v Speaker 2>How far shall we go together? We're of your predators,

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<v Speaker 2>let's get But I was like, damn, that's what I'm

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<v Speaker 2>thought about about the couple. Oh my god, Oh but

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<v Speaker 2>that's what that's what I mean. Okay, obviously they went

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<v Speaker 2>to Great lumps Cape their marriage popping, but that's what

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<v Speaker 2>I mean.

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<v Speaker 3>Like, that's why we should share with you. What's your

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<v Speaker 3>trick tip?

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<v Speaker 2>Oh tip, I told you what I think level like

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<v Speaker 2>a nice entry level. Well no, but else is that

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<v Speaker 2>you know that's gone wrong for me? I kind of

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<v Speaker 2>did that sort of in my last relationship. I rented

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<v Speaker 2>a hotel. It wasn't like a secret like that, but

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<v Speaker 2>it was like I went to a hotel room. I

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<v Speaker 2>like got all these sexy games we could play, like spice.

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<v Speaker 3>It up, and it did not go well. Why he

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<v Speaker 3>was like offended? Guys are stupid. It was off immediately.

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<v Speaker 2>Huh you cut that off immediately? No, okay, it was

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<v Speaker 2>it was a rough patch offended. Yeah, I mean no,

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<v Speaker 2>you shouldn't be offended. She actually offended. I'm trying.

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<v Speaker 3>That was a sign. Yeah, I don't know why I

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<v Speaker 3>see it earlier.

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<v Speaker 2>I think like sex ships just like a surprise pussy wax,

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<v Speaker 2>if you don't always do that, like hey, look what

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<v Speaker 2>I've done today, you know, look at this or like that,

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<v Speaker 2>or like if you were like an outfit that you

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<v Speaker 2>can't tell or something sexy underneath and then like let

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<v Speaker 2>that person in.

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<v Speaker 3>Just even like that.

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<v Speaker 2>It's a little bit sexy if you've been in like

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<v Speaker 2>a like a you know, same old same, to give

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<v Speaker 2>them those panties that vibrant you got to go to dinner.

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<v Speaker 3>What you seen those? Give yourself the panties and you

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<v Speaker 3>give them to your partner so you're out with people.

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<v Speaker 3>He can press the bike.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh oh yeah, I control the vibration. No, oh my god,

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<v Speaker 2>that's sounds fun. Right where you get those? Oh okay,

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<v Speaker 2>that's interesting.

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<v Speaker 3>But I feel like you can be like vibrating.

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<v Speaker 2>Loud, polightly pull them down. I think I saw that

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<v Speaker 2>in the movie Clear Any real person have this experience,

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<v Speaker 2>But it sounds like a grind. Its sound a good idea.

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<v Speaker 2>I think I'm going to do that, even like we're

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<v Speaker 2>pulling out a video camera.

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<v Speaker 3>It can be kind of sexy.

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<v Speaker 2>I definitely you have to really trust that person, though,

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<v Speaker 2>well you know what. I did it at Dang Bay

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<v Speaker 2>and Jersey speaking of my trip, and he did it

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<v Speaker 2>on my phone and I was like, this seems incriminating.

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<v Speaker 3>He's like, it's your phone and I was like, proceeds

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<v Speaker 3>to put an extra work, open the secret drop box

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<v Speaker 3>right for blackmail. I'll get you, mecga.

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<v Speaker 2>You want revenge porn? Totally kidding. Happened, Yeah, I found

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<v Speaker 2>myself before, but I have to like for hours. It

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<v Speaker 2>was like a regular thing that place your ship. Oh

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<v Speaker 2>yeah yeah, but that was a lot of information. Sorry,

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<v Speaker 2>I did it all.

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<v Speaker 3>Every time. Call me coverport, just call me kid. This one,

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<v Speaker 3>this one is from the part.

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<v Speaker 2>Well hence that if you guys never heard this, this

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<v Speaker 2>one episode where I tell Horry where my dad turned

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<v Speaker 2>on my computer that was connected to my TV. This

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<v Speaker 2>is like the most embarrassing episode. And literally the thing is,

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<v Speaker 2>it's all the way across the screen and my head

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<v Speaker 2>is caught to the side, full thing, full throttle up

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<v Speaker 2>and down on it, and my dad's like steady tenntion

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<v Speaker 2>in computer off and he can't and I'm just going

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<v Speaker 2>to town.

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<v Speaker 3>It's like my face, closest flock, the biggest fun on.

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<v Speaker 2>The TV and a penis and that's like my favorite

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<v Speaker 2>hor Almost I forgot about that, but okay, so that's

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<v Speaker 2>maybe that's not a good kink chure.

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<v Speaker 3>Don't fuck no if you're gonna record.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh, I know one we ever observed to killing it,

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<v Speaker 2>but I'm sure we're thinking about the one we needed

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<v Speaker 2>submission And I think it's a sexy if you're a guy,

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<v Speaker 2>is like at work or like not with you or

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<v Speaker 2>send them out a video playing with yourself.

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<v Speaker 3>Oh yeah, that's like you do that all the time.

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<v Speaker 3>I've done it.

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<v Speaker 5>Yeah yeah, yeah, Oh my god, we're high. Obviously I'm crying.

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<v Speaker 3>I'm crying. Okay, I'm gonta make.

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<v Speaker 2>Up of this.

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<v Speaker 3>Jesus Christ. Okay, wow, okay, anyway, I don't know if

0:13:39.120 --> 0:13:48.000
<v Speaker 3>you guys that's funny, but yeah, okay. Oh oh, so

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<v Speaker 3>I went to Jersey. We scheduled to have uh therapy.

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<v Speaker 3>She said, do what you want to go?

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, screwity is some screty. No, I'm anyway, whatever fu it.

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<v Speaker 3>We did Molly therapy. We got a hotel room and

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<v Speaker 3>we did Molly therapy. Well that was what we called it.

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<v Speaker 3>We just did. When when you told me that, I

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<v Speaker 3>was was.

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<v Speaker 2>I was really curious how that was gonna go. Because

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<v Speaker 2>I don't feel like Molly's the drug to have therapy.

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<v Speaker 3>I think it is. I think mushrooms more. Really have

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<v Speaker 3>you ever done mushrooms?

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<v Speaker 2>I have, but yeah, Molly's more like it doesn't make

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<v Speaker 2>you tell like a lot of your true feelings. Molly,

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<v Speaker 2>I think, yeah, I think it's just immense love, which

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<v Speaker 2>which yes you I mean that, which if you're someone

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<v Speaker 2>you love and it's amazing. But I feel like it's

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<v Speaker 2>it's like one of those like one trick pony drugs.

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<v Speaker 2>It's like always a mense love or it's like you're small,

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<v Speaker 2>you're in a bad it's that bad. Yeah, I mean

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<v Speaker 2>it was actually a pretty lightweight.

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<v Speaker 3>Wow, it was fine.

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<v Speaker 2>It's that you want to go out, you want to yeah, exactly,

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<v Speaker 2>trying to therapy, Yeah, yeah, fun. Yeah, we've been like

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<v Speaker 2>even tell me everything. Let's talk about that dancing, yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>because I think it hit like a little bit before

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<v Speaker 2>we left and we were.

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<v Speaker 3>Just like dancing a little bit, like alright, but to

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<v Speaker 3>go okay, kissing, to go to dinner and.

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<v Speaker 6>Ate not.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm not why did we even come, but you know what,

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<v Speaker 2>we like walked It was like ocean like I don't

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<v Speaker 2>know how you say, like New Jersey like uh, edge

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<v Speaker 2>water or not Edgewater like you know, prank cross with

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<v Speaker 2>the fucking cityre no, like yeah yeah yeah, and we

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<v Speaker 2>like walked along the water. It was a brisk fall weather,

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<v Speaker 2>the moon was shining. That was like a bit therapeutic

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<v Speaker 2>for like the ten minutes there, and that was nice.

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<v Speaker 2>It was fun.

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<v Speaker 3>We drank and smoked whatever. You know, bad choice is shit.

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<v Speaker 2>But I didn't have my kid diverybing now because my

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<v Speaker 2>kid was not Molly therapy.

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<v Speaker 3>So like you me, Yeah, that's pretty much it.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh and oh this.

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<v Speaker 3>Weekend, you're gonna talk about a weekend? Oh yeah, this

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<v Speaker 3>weekend I went to my friend.

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<v Speaker 2>My girlfriend was having a huge runway show during LA

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<v Speaker 2>Fashion Week.

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<v Speaker 3>Shout out to the Model Experience.

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<v Speaker 2>Anybody who's aspiring to be a model in somewhere, you

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<v Speaker 2>should definitely go. Yeah, her, her company is legit. If

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<v Speaker 2>you're trying to be a model, get experience. You don't

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<v Speaker 2>know where to start. You need runway experience. You need headshots,

0:16:44.000 --> 0:16:46.360
<v Speaker 2>you need to look fly a ship, you want cute

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<v Speaker 2>Instagram photos.

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<v Speaker 3>At the Model Experience.

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<v Speaker 2>Anyway, I was one of her shows and h Happy

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<v Speaker 2>Bay was there. Oh oh, I didn't know that he

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<v Speaker 2>was teaching.

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<v Speaker 3>Oh he did. Yeah, Oh, I didn't know that we

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<v Speaker 3>had like five shows that day. He d all all

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<v Speaker 3>shows and uh yeah. So we went there and then

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<v Speaker 3>we were gonna go.

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<v Speaker 2>We were like all we were talking about, like what

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<v Speaker 2>we're gonna do after the celebrates, like someone of her

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<v Speaker 2>biggest shows's ever done. Three hundred models blah blah blah.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm like, okay, we gotta go Sam's because you know,

0:17:18.640 --> 0:17:21.520
<v Speaker 2>a bitch love Sam's. We've talked about not Sam's Club,

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<v Speaker 2>the supermarket, but sam right, just in case anyone thinks

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<v Speaker 2>like rim and they were not talking about Samson Market.

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<v Speaker 2>Were We're talking about Sam's. The strip cluff that's local

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<v Speaker 2>downtown in LN. Yeah, the Sam's hoff b Yeah, it's

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<v Speaker 2>a strip club that I don't frequent, but when I go,

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<v Speaker 2>I go in it's like.

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<v Speaker 3>A monthst the better ones in La went. It's like

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<v Speaker 3>the only one that crazy girls, crazy girls. I hate

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<v Speaker 3>people even say that one so bad. Yeah, there's back downtown.

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<v Speaker 3>I had LA ship clubs. I've never remember Rhino, have you.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, it's just like classy because they don't have like State.

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<v Speaker 2>I don't like classic, like cheatah, I like, well, I

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<v Speaker 2>like classy, right, I like classy ratchet. Yeah, La sucks

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<v Speaker 2>for ship clubs. It's not like if I'm gonna go,

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<v Speaker 2>I guess I go to Sam's.

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<v Speaker 3>But but yeah, So we got out of that and

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<v Speaker 3>then we pulled into Oh. I told Jamila to come

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<v Speaker 3>meet me. I was like, come meet me at like

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<v Speaker 3>two o'clock. That afternoon, We're going to Sam. I was like, yeah,

0:18:21.760 --> 0:18:28.760
<v Speaker 3>it must find Sam. What's going down? So then she

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<v Speaker 3>she's coming. I'd like to ask for all day. She's coming.

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<v Speaker 3>She's like, gabbage, I'm coming. Okay.

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<v Speaker 2>So I pull into Sam's with the happy Bay, who

0:18:39.280 --> 0:18:44.880
<v Speaker 2>is amazing still, and then with Ashley and who else

0:18:45.359 --> 0:18:48.720
<v Speaker 2>my diffriend Ashley and I pull in and the first

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<v Speaker 2>thing I see is my baby Daddy's jeep in the

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<v Speaker 2>parking lot at the strip club.

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<v Speaker 3>And immediately I'm just like, fuck, like I have happy

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<v Speaker 3>with me, Like he doesn't.

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<v Speaker 2>I mean, obviously I'm single, but like he's never really

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<v Speaker 2>we don't talk about me dating. I'm sure he knows

0:19:09.840 --> 0:19:13.560
<v Speaker 2>that I'm dating, obviously, he doesn't inquire, He's never said

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<v Speaker 2>anything about it. And it just felt like immediately I

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<v Speaker 2>felt anxiety. I was like, I don't want to be here.

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<v Speaker 3>This is awkward. Me and him are, you know, on

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<v Speaker 3>and off in a weird place.

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<v Speaker 2>And I just didn't think that the strip club was

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<v Speaker 2>like the right opportunity is that the first time him

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<v Speaker 2>meeting someone in dating, especially him drinking him I know

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<v Speaker 2>you've been drinking.

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<v Speaker 3>I know, it's just not going to be weird. It

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<v Speaker 3>wasn't going to be good. It's just very weird.

0:19:41.440 --> 0:19:44.680
<v Speaker 2>And that was like that first time that like I've

0:19:44.720 --> 0:19:48.320
<v Speaker 2>been encountered with that, with that dilemma. I guess it's

0:19:48.359 --> 0:19:50.159
<v Speaker 2>not a dilemma. It's just like a real life thing

0:19:50.240 --> 0:19:52.480
<v Speaker 2>that's bound to happen. But I'm going to be dating

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<v Speaker 2>someone and at some point my ex is going to

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<v Speaker 2>meet him in some in either a planned capacity or

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<v Speaker 2>an out of the blue one.

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<v Speaker 3>But I just didn't feel like the strip club was

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<v Speaker 3>the appropriate you.

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<v Speaker 2>I mean, at first, I was annoyed because I'm not

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<v Speaker 2>gonna lie like I can only at the house to

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<v Speaker 2>go to strip up and I meant to text you

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<v Speaker 2>and I left and we were just talking about I mean,

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<v Speaker 2>after first.

0:20:15.680 --> 0:20:18.080
<v Speaker 3>I was like, I wouldn't have wanted to defend me.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm so glad that you weren't alone, though I thought

0:20:20.400 --> 0:20:22.280
<v Speaker 2>was like are you yeah, You're lied to be like wait,

0:20:22.320 --> 0:20:22.800
<v Speaker 2>are you alone?

0:20:22.880 --> 0:20:28.720
<v Speaker 3>I'm like, no, yes, baby, baby, I'll be there in

0:20:28.800 --> 0:20:33.399
<v Speaker 3>a second. Okay. Anyway, it was just it was just

0:20:34.720 --> 0:20:36.600
<v Speaker 3>it was weird. It was weird, and.

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<v Speaker 2>It's like, you know, after after we left, Happy Bay

0:20:44.480 --> 0:20:47.040
<v Speaker 2>asked me like, did you not go in there because

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<v Speaker 2>of me like, like it's it because she's like, what

0:20:51.359 --> 0:20:53.520
<v Speaker 2>was that? I'm just curious, and I I could tell

0:20:53.560 --> 0:20:56.080
<v Speaker 2>he was like I feel a little concern, maybe a

0:20:56.119 --> 0:20:59.480
<v Speaker 2>little insecure, but like you know, And then I was like, no,

0:20:59.680 --> 0:21:02.240
<v Speaker 2>it's not not really, it didn't. It doesn't really have

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<v Speaker 2>anything to do with him per se, but it does

0:21:04.640 --> 0:21:07.240
<v Speaker 2>in a way. It's not really him, it's it's what

0:21:07.359 --> 0:21:12.680
<v Speaker 2>he represents like new relationship new, like this is something new,

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<v Speaker 2>you know what I mean.

0:21:13.440 --> 0:21:15.000
<v Speaker 3>It's has nothing to do with him. He is great.

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<v Speaker 2>He would approach a situation in the best way possible.

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<v Speaker 2>He's so loving and great, you know what I mean.

0:21:21.160 --> 0:21:23.760
<v Speaker 3>It's not that, it's just that I also have so

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<v Speaker 3>much respect for him.

0:21:24.800 --> 0:21:27.399
<v Speaker 2>I didn't he doesn't deserve to for this encounter, this

0:21:27.520 --> 0:21:30.520
<v Speaker 2>first encounter with male testosterone and all that, to be

0:21:30.720 --> 0:21:35.040
<v Speaker 2>in a strip club tennes Yeah. Yeah. And baby Daddy

0:21:35.040 --> 0:21:37.040
<v Speaker 2>spent a lot of time in that strip club prior

0:21:37.200 --> 0:21:40.119
<v Speaker 2>to this moment, so he, you know, he is very

0:21:40.200 --> 0:21:42.000
<v Speaker 2>comfortable in there. And I just didn't feel like it

0:21:42.160 --> 0:21:45.760
<v Speaker 2>was like even a fair playing ground of even like

0:21:45.800 --> 0:21:46.920
<v Speaker 2>an introduction to something.

0:21:47.720 --> 0:21:51.399
<v Speaker 3>So that was weird. And now I'm like, what the

0:21:51.480 --> 0:21:53.200
<v Speaker 3>fuck does this look like, like how does this?

0:21:54.040 --> 0:21:54.200
<v Speaker 2>How?

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<v Speaker 3>What is the appropriate time and play to do?

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<v Speaker 2>Because when you said it and me think like, damn,

0:22:00.040 --> 0:22:02.399
<v Speaker 2>will there ever be in time? Well, obviously eventually at

0:22:02.440 --> 0:22:04.879
<v Speaker 2>some point where we're gonna have to be around our

0:22:05.000 --> 0:22:07.359
<v Speaker 2>new dud. Well, he knows you have a dude, I know,

0:22:07.520 --> 0:22:09.600
<v Speaker 2>but like, well, because he lives out of town, the

0:22:10.080 --> 0:22:14.480
<v Speaker 2>likeliness of him ever meeting him is is very slim,

0:22:15.000 --> 0:22:17.320
<v Speaker 2>especially because it's not No, it's not because he'll come

0:22:17.400 --> 0:22:21.200
<v Speaker 2>out here and I know I'm not gonna let you purposely, Yeah,

0:22:21.320 --> 0:22:23.680
<v Speaker 2>why not though he's your man? Like you couldn't just

0:22:23.800 --> 0:22:26.400
<v Speaker 2>like maybe you're dropping Luna off to go to take him.

0:22:26.760 --> 0:22:28.840
<v Speaker 2>Were he wunna come in and stand in the car? Yeah,

0:22:28.920 --> 0:22:29.600
<v Speaker 2>but if he came.

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<v Speaker 3>Outside, you know what I mean? Like you can only

0:22:32.400 --> 0:22:34.040
<v Speaker 3>hide in that situation for song. You shouldn't.

0:22:34.119 --> 0:22:37.479
<v Speaker 2>You shouldn't, Oh my god, seeking this okay? So perfect

0:22:37.520 --> 0:22:39.679
<v Speaker 2>example actually, but not perfect because it's not a thing.

0:22:39.960 --> 0:22:41.480
<v Speaker 2>So obviously I was in Jersey, I had to like,

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<v Speaker 2>you know, I'm facetiming Lou and usually I do. I

0:22:45.000 --> 0:22:46.879
<v Speaker 2>avoid it, like I watch till him alone, and I

0:22:47.000 --> 0:22:49.560
<v Speaker 2>did wait till I was long, But like he started

0:22:49.720 --> 0:22:51.800
<v Speaker 2>coming back up like up the stairs. Well was on

0:22:51.840 --> 0:22:54.320
<v Speaker 2>the phone, wasn't gonna like but I knew be D

0:22:54.520 --> 0:22:56.600
<v Speaker 2>was holding the phone from how because I can actually

0:22:56.600 --> 0:23:00.600
<v Speaker 2>see your face because three year old told a FaceTime

0:23:01.280 --> 0:23:03.960
<v Speaker 2>it's fucking like what is it called a.

0:23:05.760 --> 0:23:12.320
<v Speaker 3>Yeah? So he comes in the camera and he's like, hello,

0:23:12.720 --> 0:23:15.000
<v Speaker 3>what she doing? Hang her out like talking to her.

0:23:15.040 --> 0:23:16.720
<v Speaker 3>And I didn't want to be like no, no, get

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<v Speaker 3>out the.

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<v Speaker 2>Camera, but I was just like I just let it ride,

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<v Speaker 2>and I like sack like moments later, like I waited

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<v Speaker 2>like fifteen seconds for it, and then the phone hung

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<v Speaker 2>up mysteriously and he said this phone night.

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<v Speaker 3>But I know that it was just like he could

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<v Speaker 3>see him. It was awkward.

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<v Speaker 2>That's a preview what that's gonna look like, right, Well,

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<v Speaker 2>I mean he's so mature, That's why I would like, he.

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<v Speaker 3>Probably wouldn't do shit. He probably so quiet. If you

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<v Speaker 3>met Anthony, you probably wouldn't do shit. He wouldn't. He's

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<v Speaker 3>not gonna do shit. But I'm just I just know

0:23:45.080 --> 0:23:46.600
<v Speaker 3>it would be awkward. I mean, I just I can

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<v Speaker 3>totally understand where you're coming from.

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<v Speaker 2>Not wanting to give in that situation in any way

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<v Speaker 2>shape form or fashion, especially.

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<v Speaker 3>At a ship club.

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<v Speaker 2>And it's not like it's not like in passing you're

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<v Speaker 2>about to leave. You just up in there, chilling, sitting

0:23:58.119 --> 0:24:00.920
<v Speaker 2>Sharon looking at it, pissy and drink drinks.

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<v Speaker 3>Like I just have a feeling had I went in

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<v Speaker 3>there like he would have like.

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<v Speaker 1>Went hard with girls in front of me because it's

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<v Speaker 1>hurt right, well yeah, probably yeah, And it's not that

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<v Speaker 1>I it's not that I'm like romantically even have I

0:24:19.760 --> 0:24:22.960
<v Speaker 1>don't have romantic feelings for him anymore really, but just

0:24:23.080 --> 0:24:24.080
<v Speaker 1>I don't need that visual.

0:24:24.720 --> 0:24:26.600
<v Speaker 3>No, nobody wants that visual.

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<v Speaker 2>And you know what, it's not like fresh and new. However,

0:24:31.680 --> 0:24:34.120
<v Speaker 2>you haven't had to see that, right, that is fresh

0:24:34.119 --> 0:24:35.920
<v Speaker 2>and new. That is fresh and new, yeah.

0:24:35.960 --> 0:24:39.359
<v Speaker 3>And yeah, and not that it might not even ever happen.

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<v Speaker 2>That's just like what I was what I didn't want

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<v Speaker 2>to have to be. I didn't want to have to

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<v Speaker 2>see that and experience that with I didn't want him

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<v Speaker 2>to feel my energy shift, right and change. And he

0:24:50.760 --> 0:24:52.880
<v Speaker 2>did anyway, he felt my energy shift when we left,

0:24:52.920 --> 0:24:55.280
<v Speaker 2>and he was like, are you okay? And he was like,

0:24:55.440 --> 0:24:57.639
<v Speaker 2>I want you to know, like if you want to

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<v Speaker 2>go in there like and I don't want me to

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<v Speaker 2>stop you and your friends.

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<v Speaker 3>From having a good time. I was like, me and

0:25:03.760 --> 0:25:04.920
<v Speaker 3>my friends are not gonna have a good time to

0:25:05.000 --> 0:25:06.800
<v Speaker 3>go on because I don't want to be there.

0:25:06.840 --> 0:25:09.280
<v Speaker 2>I would rather I would much rather go somewhere else

0:25:09.920 --> 0:25:13.000
<v Speaker 2>together together, yeah, or just not go at all.

0:25:13.480 --> 0:25:17.040
<v Speaker 3>Right, But anyway, that was interesting. I just it's like

0:25:17.119 --> 0:25:18.520
<v Speaker 3>the first time that that's happened.

0:25:18.600 --> 0:25:22.560
<v Speaker 2>I'm sure like that's happened to many people before, probably

0:25:22.600 --> 0:25:24.360
<v Speaker 2>some of our listeners and stuff. If you have any

0:25:24.400 --> 0:25:30.320
<v Speaker 2>advice as to how you introduce introduce your insignificant other

0:25:31.280 --> 0:25:36.440
<v Speaker 2>or even just someone you're dating to your baby daddy smoothly,

0:25:37.240 --> 0:25:39.440
<v Speaker 2>let me know, right well.

0:25:39.440 --> 0:25:40.920
<v Speaker 3>Then me try to make it seem like it's cool.

0:25:40.960 --> 0:25:43.040
<v Speaker 3>You know, it's so good, Like you know that's that

0:25:43.400 --> 0:25:44.160
<v Speaker 3>I give a fuck.

0:25:45.320 --> 0:25:47.200
<v Speaker 2>You know it's so good, like you'll never have to

0:25:47.320 --> 0:25:49.200
<v Speaker 2>worry about you know, it would be weird a friend

0:25:49.200 --> 0:25:50.200
<v Speaker 2>of like your friend.

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<v Speaker 3>I'm like, I guess anyway, awkward, but it is awkward anyway.

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<v Speaker 3>This weekend we also got our first hater. Yeah we did.

0:26:07.119 --> 0:26:09.280
<v Speaker 3>We got like a friend. We've got a hater. We've

0:26:09.320 --> 0:26:13.080
<v Speaker 3>had a hater before, not like this, though. The other one. Yeah,

0:26:13.119 --> 0:26:14.639
<v Speaker 3>we have like a hater before, but like it was

0:26:14.720 --> 0:26:20.200
<v Speaker 3>my fuck up. Oh wait oh yeah yeah that hard. Yeah, yeah,

0:26:20.440 --> 0:26:23.960
<v Speaker 3>is that what you're talking about? Yeah, you're talking about Yeah,

0:26:24.600 --> 0:26:29.480
<v Speaker 3>when I talk about we're like in high school.

0:26:29.520 --> 0:26:40.800
<v Speaker 6>Yeah, at least, well we got a thread of ship

0:26:40.960 --> 0:26:42.960
<v Speaker 6>talking basically about.

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<v Speaker 3>I think it's it's kind of it tickles me a little.

0:26:47.400 --> 0:26:51.560
<v Speaker 2>About us basically talking too freely and openly about sex

0:26:51.600 --> 0:26:52.440
<v Speaker 2>in front of our kids.

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<v Speaker 3>M h. I think that we've been doing this for

0:27:03.160 --> 0:27:06.240
<v Speaker 3>eight months and we've gotten so much love that I'm like,

0:27:08.080 --> 0:27:10.080
<v Speaker 3>I mean, this is the thing, is that I feel

0:27:10.119 --> 0:27:11.600
<v Speaker 3>like I'm careful about what I say in front of

0:27:11.600 --> 0:27:13.960
<v Speaker 3>my daughter, you know, like nobody's gonna be more conscious

0:27:14.080 --> 0:27:16.320
<v Speaker 3>than us, Like of course my daughter is.

0:27:16.720 --> 0:27:18.879
<v Speaker 2>Of course maybe well maybe to some people, I am

0:27:18.960 --> 0:27:20.240
<v Speaker 2>too free with her, you know what I mean, And

0:27:20.320 --> 0:27:23.879
<v Speaker 2>that's fine, But I know what I feel. I know

0:27:24.040 --> 0:27:26.360
<v Speaker 2>that I have good boundaries, and I know that I'm

0:27:26.520 --> 0:27:31.040
<v Speaker 2>teaching her, you know, about sex, body parts and all

0:27:31.119 --> 0:27:34.120
<v Speaker 2>those things, so that it's it shouldn't be an awkward conversation.

0:27:34.280 --> 0:27:35.920
<v Speaker 3>It shouldn't be like some secret conversation.

0:27:35.960 --> 0:27:37.719
<v Speaker 2>Of course I'm not having like like I don't want

0:27:37.760 --> 0:27:39.520
<v Speaker 2>her to be in the room I'm talking about, Like,

0:27:39.960 --> 0:27:41.400
<v Speaker 2>I don't want her to be listening to me talking

0:27:41.440 --> 0:27:43.680
<v Speaker 2>about my like nastiest horror story.

0:27:43.960 --> 0:27:48.880
<v Speaker 3>No, not really, I don't. And how about this, you guys,

0:27:49.480 --> 0:27:50.120
<v Speaker 3>you're not here?

0:27:51.119 --> 0:27:53.240
<v Speaker 2>Yeah? Ho about you're not here? And we pause, we

0:27:53.480 --> 0:27:58.159
<v Speaker 2>edit this shit sometimes. So yeah, it just kind of

0:27:58.280 --> 0:28:01.359
<v Speaker 2>like opened up this conversation. It's bigger conversation for me

0:28:02.080 --> 0:28:05.680
<v Speaker 2>about just how people judge people as parents because and

0:28:05.720 --> 0:28:08.160
<v Speaker 2>I was telling Jamilla this, like I feel like everyone's

0:28:08.680 --> 0:28:11.280
<v Speaker 2>everyone's experience as a parent is so based off of

0:28:11.359 --> 0:28:14.520
<v Speaker 2>whatever they experience growing up, and everyone's experience is unique.

0:28:14.640 --> 0:28:17.439
<v Speaker 2>Every experience is different, and so when you base your

0:28:17.520 --> 0:28:20.440
<v Speaker 2>parenting off of the way you grew up or what

0:28:20.560 --> 0:28:22.960
<v Speaker 2>you saw and you wish you had more of, you know,

0:28:23.320 --> 0:28:26.920
<v Speaker 2>every experience is gonna be tailored and curated differently.

0:28:27.119 --> 0:28:28.800
<v Speaker 3>How about this, who the fuck are you?

0:28:29.440 --> 0:28:32.560
<v Speaker 2>No, there's that too, more like this Chris girl was

0:28:32.600 --> 0:28:36.040
<v Speaker 2>so disrespectful though, Like she was talking about our kids, like, yeah,

0:28:36.160 --> 0:28:38.920
<v Speaker 2>I mean, and of course we put ourselves out there, Okay,

0:28:39.240 --> 0:28:41.840
<v Speaker 2>we do have I mean, yeah, we're very transparent, and

0:28:41.920 --> 0:28:43.959
<v Speaker 2>that's a part of the whole reason why we did

0:28:44.000 --> 0:28:45.720
<v Speaker 2>this is like we're going to do it and be

0:28:45.840 --> 0:28:50.840
<v Speaker 2>honest or not do it, and we obviously our kids

0:28:50.880 --> 0:28:54.080
<v Speaker 2>are a part of it because we're moms and that's inevitable.

0:28:54.240 --> 0:28:56.880
<v Speaker 2>So I'm not like, you know, people like put theirselves

0:28:56.920 --> 0:28:58.720
<v Speaker 2>out there and then I'm surprised and they get criticism.

0:28:59.160 --> 0:29:01.960
<v Speaker 2>I'm not surprised your shocks. People are gonna have their opinions.

0:29:02.040 --> 0:29:05.040
<v Speaker 2>But yeah, like worry about yourself and your parenting, Like.

0:29:05.080 --> 0:29:07.240
<v Speaker 3>That's just the bottom you know, Like that's the bottom line.

0:29:07.440 --> 0:29:10.400
<v Speaker 3>Like who if you felt real concerned.

0:29:10.520 --> 0:29:12.680
<v Speaker 2>This is the funny part is that the this this

0:29:13.080 --> 0:29:17.200
<v Speaker 2>blog that had this stream of comments, The woman who

0:29:17.240 --> 0:29:20.200
<v Speaker 2>wrote the blog post kept commenting like when of the

0:29:20.200 --> 0:29:23.240
<v Speaker 2>people would comment, but like respond, this woman had listened

0:29:23.280 --> 0:29:25.440
<v Speaker 2>to like almost all of our episodes. She's like she

0:29:25.600 --> 0:29:29.080
<v Speaker 2>was like referring to the titles and the names and

0:29:29.120 --> 0:29:31.920
<v Speaker 2>the different guests we had, and I'm like, here's my thing.

0:29:32.000 --> 0:29:35.000
<v Speaker 2>If you have such a problem with my podcast, why

0:29:35.040 --> 0:29:37.480
<v Speaker 2>the fuck are you listening to every single episode?

0:29:38.080 --> 0:29:40.320
<v Speaker 3>If it's such a problem, Right, you like it? Yeah?

0:29:40.320 --> 0:29:41.600
<v Speaker 2>You like just you like it?

0:29:41.960 --> 0:29:43.960
<v Speaker 3>I like it. You're right, just like it because I

0:29:44.080 --> 0:29:46.640
<v Speaker 3>listened to like twenty minutes old podcast. She tried to say,

0:29:46.720 --> 0:29:48.840
<v Speaker 3>like she tried to like, that's why I don't like

0:29:48.920 --> 0:29:50.800
<v Speaker 3>what You're gonna just hate. They just hate. Don't like

0:29:50.920 --> 0:29:53.000
<v Speaker 3>try to be nice and then hate. Like she was like, oh,

0:29:53.080 --> 0:29:57.080
<v Speaker 3>you know, they seem really smart, but like, that's what

0:29:57.160 --> 0:29:59.440
<v Speaker 3>do you take that's how kids turn out fast?

0:30:00.560 --> 0:30:03.000
<v Speaker 2>Actually, dude, kids tearing out fast because the moms are

0:30:03.040 --> 0:30:06.640
<v Speaker 2>not having the conversation. It's completely avoided. They're not educated

0:30:06.680 --> 0:30:09.920
<v Speaker 2>in those manners. They're basically the fuck oblivious. But one

0:30:10.000 --> 0:30:11.520
<v Speaker 2>thing is for sure, and few things. I'm sorry we're

0:30:11.560 --> 0:30:14.120
<v Speaker 2>not talking about it to our three year olds about specifics,

0:30:14.280 --> 0:30:17.200
<v Speaker 2>but they're definitely gonna be exposed and they're definitely gonna

0:30:17.240 --> 0:30:19.200
<v Speaker 2>be knowledgeable and educated, and it's not going to be

0:30:19.280 --> 0:30:20.480
<v Speaker 2>some taboo conversation.

0:30:21.200 --> 0:30:26.640
<v Speaker 3>So you know, I was just really good the whole thing.

0:30:26.880 --> 0:30:28.680
<v Speaker 3>The funny part is like we got a comment that

0:30:28.840 --> 0:30:32.280
<v Speaker 3>referred to like this this some some blog that we've

0:30:32.360 --> 0:30:34.040
<v Speaker 3>never we've never been on. So I'm like, what does

0:30:34.080 --> 0:30:35.760
<v Speaker 3>this comment? What does this mean? I call her like

0:30:35.880 --> 0:30:36.920
<v Speaker 3>do you see this? What does this mean?

0:30:37.000 --> 0:30:38.960
<v Speaker 2>She's like what? I was like, what is this?

0:30:39.400 --> 0:30:40.160
<v Speaker 3>So I come over.

0:30:40.240 --> 0:30:42.320
<v Speaker 2>We're like trying to go on the internet and figure

0:30:42.360 --> 0:30:45.000
<v Speaker 2>it out. And if you can see us to school, Like,

0:30:45.200 --> 0:30:45.640
<v Speaker 2>just like, how do.

0:30:45.640 --> 0:30:48.480
<v Speaker 3>You work it? What shopping? We gotta sign up for

0:30:48.560 --> 0:30:50.560
<v Speaker 3>a membership. Yeah, we have to sign up for a memory.

0:30:50.720 --> 0:30:53.160
<v Speaker 2>So people signed up for a membership to get talk

0:30:53.240 --> 0:30:55.600
<v Speaker 2>share about other people. Yeah you go, you can through

0:30:55.680 --> 0:30:58.040
<v Speaker 2>great lens to just talk some shit.

0:30:59.240 --> 0:31:02.880
<v Speaker 3>Just call your home the fuck Like it's like a member.

0:31:02.960 --> 0:31:05.160
<v Speaker 2>She had to get approved. I don't think I ever

0:31:05.200 --> 0:31:08.520
<v Speaker 2>got approved. I was probably a waiting list calling people

0:31:08.560 --> 0:31:09.880
<v Speaker 2>like you got an account at him?

0:31:10.440 --> 0:31:14.200
<v Speaker 3>Okay. I'm like, maybe if we put it on the Google.

0:31:16.000 --> 0:31:19.320
<v Speaker 2>Googling this shit bag, I'm a pictures two hundred and

0:31:19.440 --> 0:31:21.560
<v Speaker 2>sixty three pages and one topic.

0:31:21.960 --> 0:31:24.320
<v Speaker 3>How will we ever find it? Oh my god, let

0:31:24.400 --> 0:31:27.680
<v Speaker 3>me find it? Like we found it. I was like, what, Okay,

0:31:28.040 --> 0:31:29.880
<v Speaker 3>So the girl who whatever. I don't spend too much

0:31:29.880 --> 0:31:33.440
<v Speaker 3>time on this woman because she is trying pictures. She's trash.

0:31:33.880 --> 0:31:36.520
<v Speaker 2>But that's not even not she didn't even I'm talking

0:31:36.520 --> 0:31:38.920
<v Speaker 2>about the girl. I'm talking about the girl who made

0:31:39.000 --> 0:31:41.400
<v Speaker 2>us aware of this, Like the girl who wrote the

0:31:41.440 --> 0:31:43.200
<v Speaker 2>post on the blog.

0:31:43.160 --> 0:31:45.480
<v Speaker 3>She was she was a hater too, But the one

0:31:45.480 --> 0:31:48.160
<v Speaker 3>who made it aware, made us aware of this. She's

0:31:48.400 --> 0:31:49.480
<v Speaker 3>really the she.

0:31:49.680 --> 0:31:52.520
<v Speaker 2>Was the one who started all of this. She told

0:31:52.640 --> 0:31:54.920
<v Speaker 2>us about it because she wanted to get us round up.

0:31:55.320 --> 0:31:56.920
<v Speaker 2>That's what you know, Like it's those people that like

0:31:57.000 --> 0:31:58.960
<v Speaker 2>plant little seeds if this what was her point of

0:31:59.440 --> 0:32:01.200
<v Speaker 2>She wanted to to know that people were talking about

0:32:01.240 --> 0:32:03.040
<v Speaker 2>us and that she agreed with them, but she likes

0:32:03.120 --> 0:32:03.480
<v Speaker 2>us too.

0:32:03.720 --> 0:32:06.440
<v Speaker 3>Why thank you to that girl? I thank you? Sher

0:32:06.480 --> 0:32:09.240
<v Speaker 3>mom is still listening now, I know she is. Father's

0:32:09.240 --> 0:32:12.840
<v Speaker 3>still listening now. Guess what. It's crash.

0:32:13.120 --> 0:32:17.160
<v Speaker 2>But it's actually, honestly very flattering. I think it's very flattering,

0:32:17.320 --> 0:32:21.640
<v Speaker 2>Like you're listening? Are you went all into our Instagram

0:32:21.720 --> 0:32:24.520
<v Speaker 2>and found this and then proceeded to write long paragraphs

0:32:24.680 --> 0:32:28.680
<v Speaker 2>talking mad Ship in detail because I told her to. Second, Dick,

0:32:29.760 --> 0:32:32.280
<v Speaker 2>I did because I just gonnat believe like all the

0:32:32.320 --> 0:32:35.560
<v Speaker 2>things she said about like Luna and just I can't.

0:32:35.720 --> 0:32:37.880
<v Speaker 3>I just can't believe it. You know, she sounded like

0:32:37.920 --> 0:32:41.320
<v Speaker 3>someone doesn't have a kid. Mommy, I don't want my past.

0:32:42.160 --> 0:32:44.960
<v Speaker 3>It's still in my bulletdouts. I don't want it. Oh

0:32:45.080 --> 0:32:46.800
<v Speaker 3>so you were Is that what you're telling me? Because

0:32:46.800 --> 0:32:48.680
<v Speaker 3>you just told me that you ate it, and I

0:32:48.760 --> 0:32:54.440
<v Speaker 3>was gonna find out that you did it. Okay, we'll

0:32:54.440 --> 0:32:56.240
<v Speaker 3>go get a snack. There's one, there's you know where

0:32:56.240 --> 0:33:01.280
<v Speaker 3>they are. Anyway, it was just it just the whole situation.

0:33:02.720 --> 0:33:05.120
<v Speaker 3>It made me angry at first, and then it made

0:33:05.160 --> 0:33:07.000
<v Speaker 3>me laugh and then I was like, well, you know what,

0:33:07.160 --> 0:33:09.440
<v Speaker 3>we're doing something right, because if you don't have any haters,

0:33:09.440 --> 0:33:12.080
<v Speaker 3>they're not doing nothing. You need a few haters, you

0:33:12.160 --> 0:33:15.320
<v Speaker 3>need a lot of them. So and we now with success,

0:33:15.800 --> 0:33:21.800
<v Speaker 3>the haters come. It's called balance, baby, you know. And

0:33:22.280 --> 0:33:23.120
<v Speaker 3>I think it's great.

0:33:24.280 --> 0:33:29.320
<v Speaker 2>But it just made me realize, like maybe really think about, yeah,

0:33:29.480 --> 0:33:32.920
<v Speaker 2>just how we as women judge each other and judge

0:33:33.080 --> 0:33:37.400
<v Speaker 2>judge other mothers. Mothers judge mothers, baby baby, Okay, you

0:33:37.520 --> 0:33:39.000
<v Speaker 2>have the chicks close the door a little bit. Okay,

0:33:39.160 --> 0:33:41.560
<v Speaker 2>just a little bit, thank you, a little bit more,

0:33:41.640 --> 0:33:42.200
<v Speaker 2>a little.

0:33:41.960 --> 0:33:42.360
<v Speaker 3>Bit more.

0:33:45.040 --> 0:33:51.280
<v Speaker 2>Perfect, perfect, that's great. Just how mothers judge judge other mothers.

0:33:51.560 --> 0:33:53.440
<v Speaker 2>People who aren't mothers judge mothers.

0:33:53.240 --> 0:33:56.600
<v Speaker 3>Because they think that everyone has this idea and the

0:33:56.720 --> 0:33:59.360
<v Speaker 3>type of mother they're going to be. And then you're

0:33:59.360 --> 0:34:00.680
<v Speaker 3>a mother and they are like.

0:34:02.320 --> 0:34:05.640
<v Speaker 2>All my conversations, like you're not going to filter every conversation,

0:34:06.000 --> 0:34:08.800
<v Speaker 2>like something like there's just all these my plans you

0:34:08.920 --> 0:34:11.520
<v Speaker 2>had for motherhood go out the window, and then you

0:34:11.760 --> 0:34:15.279
<v Speaker 2>just do what just comes naturally, and you know, and

0:34:15.520 --> 0:34:18.360
<v Speaker 2>and and like I said, based based off of experience

0:34:18.840 --> 0:34:21.759
<v Speaker 2>from your past and things that you either repeat or

0:34:21.880 --> 0:34:22.320
<v Speaker 2>you want.

0:34:22.239 --> 0:34:25.239
<v Speaker 3>To change or are just habit because of that, you

0:34:25.280 --> 0:34:27.480
<v Speaker 3>know what I mean. So I don't know.

0:34:27.680 --> 0:34:30.439
<v Speaker 2>I just was like all these women in this little

0:34:30.520 --> 0:34:34.200
<v Speaker 2>chat room talking and I'm like, this is like such

0:34:34.320 --> 0:34:37.160
<v Speaker 2>like a microcosm of like what what really happens though,

0:34:37.200 --> 0:34:40.080
<v Speaker 2>because so many women are are these women involves but

0:34:40.160 --> 0:34:42.239
<v Speaker 2>in real life just judging women at the grocery store,

0:34:42.400 --> 0:34:46.759
<v Speaker 2>judging you know, the single mom dropping the kid off

0:34:46.840 --> 0:34:50.120
<v Speaker 2>the scroll. But you know, it's just it's just it's

0:34:50.160 --> 0:34:55.000
<v Speaker 2>just sad and it's crazy because we're I mean, there's

0:34:55.239 --> 0:34:58.400
<v Speaker 2>I've definitely judged mothers too, I've judged people, I've judged parenting.

0:34:58.600 --> 0:35:02.080
<v Speaker 2>I do it now, but I think then from that situation,

0:35:02.320 --> 0:35:05.960
<v Speaker 2>so it made me a little bit more since like

0:35:06.040 --> 0:35:08.719
<v Speaker 2>sensitive about the only the same shot too. Yeah, I

0:35:08.760 --> 0:35:10.759
<v Speaker 2>think that's true. I think that's honest. I definitely have

0:35:10.880 --> 0:35:13.400
<v Speaker 2>been like I have friends and I mean Okay, this

0:35:13.520 --> 0:35:16.440
<v Speaker 2>is another thing for this person. Oh the whatever the

0:35:16.520 --> 0:35:19.680
<v Speaker 2>comments began with. I have friends who have kids who

0:35:19.680 --> 0:35:21.960
<v Speaker 2>are like older and maybe like I know my kid, like,

0:35:22.560 --> 0:35:26.000
<v Speaker 2>my kid's smart and they obviously understand specifics. Probably not

0:35:26.200 --> 0:35:27.839
<v Speaker 2>because these are not words for teaching them or they're

0:35:27.880 --> 0:35:30.200
<v Speaker 2>hearing often, but like, I've been around friends who have

0:35:30.360 --> 0:35:31.320
<v Speaker 2>much older kids.

0:35:31.120 --> 0:35:33.680
<v Speaker 3>Like I have a girlfriend and she's crazy, and she's.

0:35:33.560 --> 0:35:35.520
<v Speaker 2>Like a ten year old boy and she's like, yeah, yeah,

0:35:35.560 --> 0:35:38.239
<v Speaker 2>not sex this month. I'm like, yo, I'm not having

0:35:38.239 --> 0:35:40.360
<v Speaker 2>a conversation with you in front of him, but she

0:35:40.440 --> 0:35:42.560
<v Speaker 2>knows what you're saying. I tell her, like in front

0:35:42.560 --> 0:35:44.400
<v Speaker 2>of him, like, girl, stop, are you really going to

0:35:44.440 --> 0:35:46.000
<v Speaker 2>talk like this right now? And then the fact that

0:35:46.040 --> 0:35:48.120
<v Speaker 2>I'm conscious in front of her kid. I know I'm

0:35:48.160 --> 0:35:49.160
<v Speaker 2>conscious in front of mine.

0:35:49.239 --> 0:35:54.239
<v Speaker 3>You know what I'm saying. Well, I'm gonna kid her. Well,

0:35:54.280 --> 0:35:55.920
<v Speaker 3>I cous in front of my kid, which is not good.

0:35:56.480 --> 0:35:58.640
<v Speaker 3>But my kid is also the cousin police. She tells

0:35:58.680 --> 0:36:01.520
<v Speaker 3>me not to. I mean a Christopher of Iry too.

0:36:01.640 --> 0:36:04.440
<v Speaker 3>I try, I try, I try. It's three years old.

0:36:04.440 --> 0:36:07.040
<v Speaker 2>No, no, no, I mean honestly, Okay, let's think honestly.

0:36:07.320 --> 0:36:09.440
<v Speaker 2>Do you recall any conversations from when you were three,

0:36:09.520 --> 0:36:11.759
<v Speaker 2>or do you call feelings and energy and things that

0:36:11.840 --> 0:36:12.320
<v Speaker 2>were happening.

0:36:12.400 --> 0:36:13.480
<v Speaker 3>I don't recall conversation.

0:36:13.520 --> 0:36:16.520
<v Speaker 2>I can't recall necessarily conversations with feelings and energy that

0:36:16.560 --> 0:36:18.320
<v Speaker 2>we're behind the conversations I do.

0:36:19.680 --> 0:36:21.520
<v Speaker 3>Do you know what I mean? Honestly? If I'm saying

0:36:21.600 --> 0:36:24.279
<v Speaker 3>d I c K in front of her, like she's

0:36:24.320 --> 0:36:25.759
<v Speaker 3>not going to know what that means?

0:36:25.920 --> 0:36:26.200
<v Speaker 2>What I mean?

0:36:26.440 --> 0:36:27.680
<v Speaker 3>I think if you don't even know what that means,

0:36:27.719 --> 0:36:30.640
<v Speaker 3>because I call it the real thing exactly. I mean too,

0:36:30.800 --> 0:36:32.480
<v Speaker 3>like if we're referring to it in real life. If

0:36:32.480 --> 0:36:35.080
<v Speaker 3>I'm showing, like telling you because it's it's it's it's

0:36:35.120 --> 0:36:39.640
<v Speaker 3>a penis, this whole conversation is stupid, This whole thing

0:36:39.760 --> 0:36:40.160
<v Speaker 3>is No.

0:36:40.320 --> 0:36:42.279
<v Speaker 2>I don't think it's stupid though, because so many women

0:36:42.680 --> 0:36:45.000
<v Speaker 2>like don't understand it, And there's probably women right now

0:36:45.160 --> 0:36:47.719
<v Speaker 2>listening to this right now that are like you are

0:36:47.840 --> 0:36:50.400
<v Speaker 2>judging or saying like no, I don't have those conversations,

0:36:50.480 --> 0:36:53.040
<v Speaker 2>or maybe thinking like huh, maybe I should have those conversations.

0:36:53.080 --> 0:36:56.080
<v Speaker 3>Yeah, not have those not like purposely like I'm going

0:36:56.160 --> 0:36:59.120
<v Speaker 3>to talk about pens What a freak I am you know,

0:36:59.640 --> 0:37:02.840
<v Speaker 3>And I was kidding like you know, but no.

0:37:03.520 --> 0:37:06.439
<v Speaker 2>But there's gonna be a realistic approach about the ship

0:37:06.640 --> 0:37:08.480
<v Speaker 2>because guess what if it's not me, it's gonna be

0:37:08.520 --> 0:37:09.080
<v Speaker 2>your homegirl.

0:37:09.600 --> 0:37:16.640
<v Speaker 3>Okay, just stabbed. It's probably the underwi. We're gonna see

0:37:16.640 --> 0:37:20.840
<v Speaker 3>your Victoria's secret. Hate the hate your products, hate your products,

0:37:23.200 --> 0:37:26.000
<v Speaker 3>anyway you can rude yourself. I've ever been ventory secret

0:37:26.040 --> 0:37:30.520
<v Speaker 3>mode the wings. I don't want to be Maybe I

0:37:30.600 --> 0:37:32.880
<v Speaker 3>do with this pony. I know that Pony's given me

0:37:33.000 --> 0:37:34.000
<v Speaker 3>Contreia secret red.

0:37:35.520 --> 0:37:40.480
<v Speaker 2>Erica shout out to Vivia Vivica Fox hair stenter is

0:37:40.520 --> 0:37:41.480
<v Speaker 2>a beautiful ponytail.

0:37:41.520 --> 0:37:45.560
<v Speaker 3>I'm about to what do you remember what waves this is?

0:37:46.200 --> 0:37:49.120
<v Speaker 3>I don't, but it's it doesn't natural hair. It kind

0:37:49.120 --> 0:37:51.160
<v Speaker 3>of does. Yeah, it's as closest I was gonna get.

0:37:51.160 --> 0:37:57.759
<v Speaker 3>It's proffin. I'm gonna go anyway. Uh yeah, So I

0:37:57.800 --> 0:38:00.440
<v Speaker 3>don't know. I just feel like I want to be

0:38:00.480 --> 0:38:01.239
<v Speaker 3>more conscious of it.

0:38:01.320 --> 0:38:04.400
<v Speaker 2>I do think, though, that there are bad parents. I

0:38:04.440 --> 0:38:07.080
<v Speaker 2>think that there are parents that you know, could be better.

0:38:07.239 --> 0:38:09.000
<v Speaker 2>I think even me, I'm sure it could be better

0:38:09.040 --> 0:38:09.600
<v Speaker 2>in certain ways.

0:38:09.600 --> 0:38:10.520
<v Speaker 3>I'm not the perfect parent.

0:38:10.840 --> 0:38:13.600
<v Speaker 2>That's why I started this podcast to begin with because

0:38:13.719 --> 0:38:16.839
<v Speaker 2>of these conversations and like I do my self self

0:38:16.920 --> 0:38:20.640
<v Speaker 2>realizations I've had in like the past thirty two episodes

0:38:20.680 --> 0:38:22.800
<v Speaker 2>we've recorded, you know what I mean, things that I

0:38:22.880 --> 0:38:24.880
<v Speaker 2>realized I could be better at. Things I can realize

0:38:24.880 --> 0:38:26.839
<v Speaker 2>I can loosen up on, you know what I mean,

0:38:26.920 --> 0:38:29.759
<v Speaker 2>that I overthink. And that's why I started this that

0:38:29.840 --> 0:38:34.799
<v Speaker 2>we started this podcast because I because my perspective has

0:38:35.000 --> 0:38:37.960
<v Speaker 2>changed on things. You know, I do feel more liberal

0:38:38.040 --> 0:38:40.120
<v Speaker 2>about things, and I also and then I do feel

0:38:40.239 --> 0:38:43.560
<v Speaker 2>more like educated about things and will make more informed

0:38:43.640 --> 0:38:46.560
<v Speaker 2>choices for me and my child, you know, just having

0:38:46.640 --> 0:38:51.520
<v Speaker 2>conversations with like Jessica about like talking about sex.

0:38:51.400 --> 0:38:54.600
<v Speaker 3>And try and like you know, body parts. And there's

0:38:54.640 --> 0:38:55.600
<v Speaker 3>so many conversations we.

0:38:55.640 --> 0:38:59.400
<v Speaker 2>Have with like like with Jasmine and King, you know

0:38:59.440 --> 0:39:02.920
<v Speaker 2>what I mean, These all these different situations, and this

0:39:03.120 --> 0:39:07.160
<v Speaker 2>journey of podcasting is definitely and is teaching me and

0:39:07.360 --> 0:39:11.000
<v Speaker 2>is changing my perspective or solidifying my perspective. And this

0:39:11.120 --> 0:39:13.719
<v Speaker 2>is why we're here because maybe you'll have the opportunity

0:39:13.800 --> 0:39:16.160
<v Speaker 2>to actually listen and understand where're coming from and change

0:39:16.160 --> 0:39:18.960
<v Speaker 2>your perspective. And also even as if you're listening as

0:39:19.000 --> 0:39:22.520
<v Speaker 2>a mom, change your own expectation of yourself, like not

0:39:22.640 --> 0:39:25.000
<v Speaker 2>to say not to hold yourself to this high standard,

0:39:25.320 --> 0:39:28.080
<v Speaker 2>but don't hold yourself to this very limited.

0:39:28.200 --> 0:39:31.680
<v Speaker 3>Like square of only what it looks like to be

0:39:31.800 --> 0:39:32.160
<v Speaker 3>a mom.

0:39:32.640 --> 0:39:36.080
<v Speaker 2>Because as women as people were human life, there's there's

0:39:36.080 --> 0:39:38.520
<v Speaker 2>such a there's such a huge spectrum of all the

0:39:38.600 --> 0:39:40.800
<v Speaker 2>things being body as parents, and we all do it differently.

0:39:41.120 --> 0:39:43.960
<v Speaker 2>And you know another thing like from women to women

0:39:44.120 --> 0:39:52.960
<v Speaker 2>doing it like you said, hella dads rappers, gang rappers, why.

0:39:52.800 --> 0:39:58.719
<v Speaker 3>Are you talking about my baby daddy? That was very

0:39:58.800 --> 0:40:03.360
<v Speaker 3>FuG raps. You know, like we don't hear people criticizing

0:40:03.480 --> 0:40:06.920
<v Speaker 3>fucking your baby daddy. Because I was on the store too.

0:40:07.320 --> 0:40:10.279
<v Speaker 3>I saw her on baby daddy snapchat. She seemed like

0:40:10.360 --> 0:40:14.239
<v Speaker 3>a good mom. Then oh all fifteen seconds of the snapitch,

0:40:14.440 --> 0:40:17.840
<v Speaker 3>I seemed like a good mom. Oh yeah, she seemed

0:40:17.880 --> 0:40:18.480
<v Speaker 3>like a good mom.

0:40:18.560 --> 0:40:21.120
<v Speaker 2>But you know, typical, like they were going in on me,

0:40:21.600 --> 0:40:24.120
<v Speaker 2>but nobody but brought me all types of names. I

0:40:24.280 --> 0:40:27.600
<v Speaker 2>was like, what nobody says shit about him being a

0:40:27.640 --> 0:40:29.440
<v Speaker 2>good or bad dad based on his lyrics?

0:40:29.760 --> 0:40:31.520
<v Speaker 3>When she gets six, you're gonna be able to google

0:40:31.560 --> 0:40:32.720
<v Speaker 3>it or his music videos.

0:40:32.800 --> 0:40:34.880
<v Speaker 2>And I'm not trying to put him out there like

0:40:34.920 --> 0:40:37.720
<v Speaker 2>that him. I'm just saying, in gender in general, men, yeah.

0:40:37.760 --> 0:40:40.480
<v Speaker 3>Men don't don't have this high Like no one's like,

0:40:40.560 --> 0:40:42.680
<v Speaker 3>oh you know what. I'm just saying, like.

0:40:42.719 --> 0:40:44.640
<v Speaker 2>It's just not met and high to hell to a

0:40:44.640 --> 0:40:47.560
<v Speaker 2>different standard and for her equal parents. I mean, obviously

0:40:47.600 --> 0:40:49.600
<v Speaker 2>the mother is the mother, but it's everything. Women always

0:40:49.600 --> 0:40:51.360
<v Speaker 2>carry the burden of everything. We're not allowed to have

0:40:51.520 --> 0:40:54.640
<v Speaker 2>more sex because we're we haven't we take we take

0:40:54.960 --> 0:40:58.879
<v Speaker 2>things internally, right right, We're not allowed to have fun

0:40:58.920 --> 0:41:01.120
<v Speaker 2>because suddenly we're like these people that like we're just

0:41:01.239 --> 0:41:02.279
<v Speaker 2>mothers and we have.

0:41:02.920 --> 0:41:05.640
<v Speaker 3>Like three more three more, three people were house after five,

0:41:05.880 --> 0:41:10.920
<v Speaker 3>you're done, not eligible for marriage? Like oh you guys?

0:41:10.960 --> 0:41:13.520
<v Speaker 3>About how many people Nope? Cancel? Yeah like that.

0:41:13.640 --> 0:41:14.040
<v Speaker 2>I like you.

0:41:14.800 --> 0:41:18.279
<v Speaker 3>Yeah, so that's true. That's true. That's true.

0:41:18.560 --> 0:41:21.360
<v Speaker 2>It was all women. I mean, this this site is

0:41:21.400 --> 0:41:23.040
<v Speaker 2>mostly women. I feel like it would be with women

0:41:23.120 --> 0:41:23.520
<v Speaker 2>and gay men.

0:41:23.880 --> 0:41:27.480
<v Speaker 3>Yeah. Well I hope I hope that nobody has time

0:41:27.520 --> 0:41:29.480
<v Speaker 3>for this ship. Clearly they have a lot of time.

0:41:29.800 --> 0:41:32.239
<v Speaker 2>Site is popping for years, a lot of a lot

0:41:32.239 --> 0:41:34.239
<v Speaker 2>of the talk about a lot of podcasts on this

0:41:34.360 --> 0:41:36.359
<v Speaker 2>site specifically, and the site's been around for a really

0:41:36.400 --> 0:41:38.920
<v Speaker 2>long time. I'm not saying the site because I'm sure

0:41:38.960 --> 0:41:40.759
<v Speaker 2>when the money'll I'll figure it out anyway through.

0:41:40.760 --> 0:41:42.880
<v Speaker 3>Black But like, I just don't want to.

0:41:43.160 --> 0:41:44.920
<v Speaker 2>I don't want to encourage people to go look up

0:41:45.000 --> 0:41:47.239
<v Speaker 2>not just our stuff, but just all the negativity that

0:41:47.760 --> 0:41:51.520
<v Speaker 2>is on there. It's just really sad, Like it's just

0:41:51.640 --> 0:41:53.680
<v Speaker 2>I mean, it's like any social media properm I guess,

0:41:53.719 --> 0:41:55.400
<v Speaker 2>like Twitter, It's just this is like the one that

0:41:55.560 --> 0:41:59.719
<v Speaker 2>is literally dedicated to like gossip. Instagram is like I

0:41:59.880 --> 0:42:02.360
<v Speaker 2>was say, like seventy gossip.

0:42:03.520 --> 0:42:05.160
<v Speaker 3>I would say, if you have enough time to go

0:42:05.320 --> 0:42:09.360
<v Speaker 3>visit a site to read up about in in.

0:42:09.600 --> 0:42:12.560
<v Speaker 2>Use your name, make comments, and read up about two

0:42:12.760 --> 0:42:15.680
<v Speaker 2>perfectly strangers that are nice enough to tell you their

0:42:15.719 --> 0:42:23.160
<v Speaker 2>hoary stories on the internet interweb, then you could probably

0:42:23.480 --> 0:42:25.360
<v Speaker 2>invest your time doing something more productive.

0:42:25.760 --> 0:42:29.719
<v Speaker 3>Why don't you start your own vanilla podcast? I can't

0:42:29.760 --> 0:42:30.399
<v Speaker 3>kind of talk shit.

0:42:30.680 --> 0:42:36.120
<v Speaker 2>Yeah okay, okay, I copy, We'll be sure to tune

0:42:36.160 --> 0:42:40.240
<v Speaker 2>in and comment of it. I will leave that Apple

0:42:40.320 --> 0:42:42.919
<v Speaker 2>podcast review. I was like, I wond I'm just gonna

0:42:42.920 --> 0:42:44.760
<v Speaker 2>go and like try to like leave a bad review.

0:42:44.880 --> 0:42:46.880
<v Speaker 2>We don't really have any only for bad thing anyone's

0:42:46.880 --> 0:42:49.359
<v Speaker 2>ever said is that our kids are annoying and maybe

0:42:49.400 --> 0:42:50.240
<v Speaker 2>they need something.

0:42:53.320 --> 0:42:56.680
<v Speaker 3>Once. You know, it's not for everybody. We're not for

0:42:56.760 --> 0:42:58.840
<v Speaker 3>everybody in that's cool, you know what I mean. I

0:42:59.040 --> 0:43:00.920
<v Speaker 3>love the community that have I love the people that

0:43:01.000 --> 0:43:02.680
<v Speaker 3>we talk to. I love that we have moms.

0:43:02.719 --> 0:43:04.879
<v Speaker 2>I love that we have people who don't have kids yet,

0:43:05.040 --> 0:43:06.959
<v Speaker 2>but like you know, feel like they can still relate

0:43:07.000 --> 0:43:08.399
<v Speaker 2>to us because at the end of the day, we're

0:43:08.440 --> 0:43:10.520
<v Speaker 2>just women and we're just people, and we're we have

0:43:10.680 --> 0:43:14.640
<v Speaker 2>we're having these like real experiences, and you know, some

0:43:14.760 --> 0:43:17.200
<v Speaker 2>people just don't feel comfortable sharing those type of things,

0:43:17.760 --> 0:43:20.640
<v Speaker 2>you know, publicly said some by don't I don't share

0:43:20.680 --> 0:43:21.640
<v Speaker 2>everything about my life.

0:43:21.680 --> 0:43:23.640
<v Speaker 3>I'm just saying I don't some things I just can't.

0:43:23.880 --> 0:43:25.680
<v Speaker 3>If you know how something we.

0:43:26.000 --> 0:43:30.080
<v Speaker 2>I mean to let things play out first internally each

0:43:30.400 --> 0:43:34.520
<v Speaker 2>so before I expose. But for the for for everybody else,

0:43:34.680 --> 0:43:37.960
<v Speaker 2>I hope that a big ship. Honestly, being honest on

0:43:38.080 --> 0:43:40.520
<v Speaker 2>the interweb has made me more open and honest with

0:43:40.640 --> 0:43:43.759
<v Speaker 2>myself and honestly like liberated, like you know, this is

0:43:43.920 --> 0:43:46.320
<v Speaker 2>this is my life, this is my all, this is

0:43:46.520 --> 0:43:47.120
<v Speaker 2>my alt.

0:43:47.440 --> 0:43:51.279
<v Speaker 3>Yeah, honestly, I forget what I say me too.

0:43:51.840 --> 0:43:54.200
<v Speaker 2>We just upload these while we put the music on,

0:43:54.520 --> 0:43:56.520
<v Speaker 2>and then I do a little editing, but I don't

0:43:56.600 --> 0:43:58.200
<v Speaker 2>ever really listen to it. I just look for the

0:43:58.280 --> 0:44:00.239
<v Speaker 2>breaks where I need to put like elevator music where

0:44:00.280 --> 0:44:03.920
<v Speaker 2>like my child is chomping on chips, like right now, you.

0:44:03.960 --> 0:44:05.440
<v Speaker 3>Can't You're not gonna be a little to buzz this

0:44:05.520 --> 0:44:06.640
<v Speaker 3>out and oh baby.

0:44:07.040 --> 0:44:12.960
<v Speaker 2>I'm all you could eat marsham on us. And I.

0:44:16.040 --> 0:44:16.719
<v Speaker 3>Don't really listen.

0:44:16.760 --> 0:44:18.680
<v Speaker 2>I just uploaded so like even the other day, like

0:44:18.800 --> 0:44:20.560
<v Speaker 2>my friend called me and was like, yo, I just

0:44:20.600 --> 0:44:21.400
<v Speaker 2>lied to you episode.

0:44:21.480 --> 0:44:23.800
<v Speaker 3>He's like, you are like wild and I was like,

0:44:23.840 --> 0:44:28.120
<v Speaker 3>what did I say? And he was talking about that's long, slim, long,

0:44:28.239 --> 0:44:29.160
<v Speaker 3>thick episode we did.

0:44:29.360 --> 0:44:32.239
<v Speaker 2>I got some damn And I was like, guys wanted

0:44:32.239 --> 0:44:35.040
<v Speaker 2>to know what we were saying about their dongs? I know.

0:44:35.320 --> 0:44:36.880
<v Speaker 2>He was like, I was like, did I say your name?

0:44:36.920 --> 0:44:38.360
<v Speaker 2>He's like, I don't know where you talking about me.

0:44:38.440 --> 0:44:41.239
<v Speaker 2>I was like I don't know, but I was like, yeah,

0:44:41.239 --> 0:44:42.719
<v Speaker 2>I don't even remember what that. I had to go

0:44:42.800 --> 0:44:44.600
<v Speaker 2>back and relisten and I was like, oh, yeah, that

0:44:44.680 --> 0:44:53.200
<v Speaker 2>was funny, but anyway, yeah, okay, have you ever had

0:44:53.360 --> 0:44:56.120
<v Speaker 2>other than this are fifteen minutes.

0:44:55.920 --> 0:44:57.960
<v Speaker 3>The same have you ever had?

0:44:59.760 --> 0:45:02.080
<v Speaker 2>So I want to be this is too Well, someone

0:45:02.280 --> 0:45:07.920
<v Speaker 2>judge you based on your parenting outside of this, judge me, Yeah,

0:45:07.960 --> 0:45:09.160
<v Speaker 2>like made a common.

0:45:09.239 --> 0:45:14.400
<v Speaker 3>Yeah my own's family member. Yeah yeah, I'm just be

0:45:14.480 --> 0:45:15.319
<v Speaker 3>talking all the time.

0:45:15.360 --> 0:45:17.279
<v Speaker 2>But I feel like family members moms will do that

0:45:17.400 --> 0:45:21.080
<v Speaker 2>because moms, you know, like they like, yeah, they like

0:45:21.239 --> 0:45:22.759
<v Speaker 2>I mean, of course, and you know what I take

0:45:22.760 --> 0:45:23.400
<v Speaker 2>into consideration.

0:45:23.520 --> 0:45:25.799
<v Speaker 3>My mom's because she's a mom, that she has been

0:45:25.800 --> 0:45:26.600
<v Speaker 3>a mom longer than me.

0:45:27.040 --> 0:45:29.000
<v Speaker 2>And but if there's certain things that I'm just like, well,

0:45:29.080 --> 0:45:30.400
<v Speaker 2>you know, I don't want to do it like that,

0:45:30.719 --> 0:45:32.160
<v Speaker 2>you know, like I don't want to do it how

0:45:32.200 --> 0:45:32.600
<v Speaker 2>you did it.

0:45:33.000 --> 0:45:35.480
<v Speaker 3>I didn't like that, I mean, but then there's other

0:45:35.520 --> 0:45:37.920
<v Speaker 3>things where I'm like, I should listen to this, you know.

0:45:38.480 --> 0:45:40.680
<v Speaker 3>And it's also an approach. Everybody knows parenting is a

0:45:40.760 --> 0:45:42.480
<v Speaker 3>very touchy subject. It's very personal.

0:45:43.200 --> 0:45:46.440
<v Speaker 2>Tak it very personally, and if you really genuinely care

0:45:46.480 --> 0:45:48.359
<v Speaker 2>about someone, you're going to be very I mean.

0:45:48.320 --> 0:45:50.320
<v Speaker 3>Not that I expect I don't gonna just care about.

0:45:50.080 --> 0:45:53.000
<v Speaker 2>Our feelings or whatever, but just like you're just like, hey, sis,

0:45:53.400 --> 0:45:56.080
<v Speaker 2>you know, study show that if you say d I

0:45:56.200 --> 0:46:01.120
<v Speaker 2>c K fifty times, right, they've repeated, even though I'm

0:46:01.120 --> 0:46:02.239
<v Speaker 2>sure there's those studies.

0:46:01.960 --> 0:46:03.000
<v Speaker 3>That she and iriate like that.

0:46:03.160 --> 0:46:11.440
<v Speaker 2>Oh no, it's true. I mean, irin stop, either sit

0:46:11.520 --> 0:46:21.000
<v Speaker 2>down or go in another room. I think that I

0:46:21.120 --> 0:46:23.560
<v Speaker 2>actually recently had a situation.

0:46:24.120 --> 0:46:25.680
<v Speaker 3>Well it was, it was, it was.

0:46:25.960 --> 0:46:28.440
<v Speaker 2>It wasn't like she was so basically I was at

0:46:28.440 --> 0:46:31.480
<v Speaker 2>a football game. Irie got mad at my mom for

0:46:31.840 --> 0:46:32.440
<v Speaker 2>like I was at my.

0:46:32.480 --> 0:46:34.680
<v Speaker 3>Brother's football game. I got mad at my mom for

0:46:34.800 --> 0:46:39.120
<v Speaker 3>like taking something from her, and she like got in

0:46:39.200 --> 0:46:43.600
<v Speaker 3>her face and was like hey, and I was like what. No.

0:46:44.480 --> 0:46:45.800
<v Speaker 3>I was like you need to say I'm sorry. And

0:46:45.880 --> 0:46:49.920
<v Speaker 3>she refused to say I'm sorry, like refused and was

0:46:50.000 --> 0:46:52.080
<v Speaker 3>like a thing. And so I was pissed because I

0:46:52.160 --> 0:46:53.680
<v Speaker 3>was like, no, you need to say you're sorry.

0:46:54.239 --> 0:46:58.400
<v Speaker 2>And I think it's so she was crying, and she

0:46:58.520 --> 0:47:00.640
<v Speaker 2>was crying and I was like this is so stupid.

0:47:00.880 --> 0:47:03.359
<v Speaker 2>Like so then you know my grandma, I was, yeah,

0:47:03.920 --> 0:47:06.440
<v Speaker 2>so my mom, my grandma. She can't handle when I

0:47:06.480 --> 0:47:10.359
<v Speaker 2>research crent like the moment, like like what happened. She's

0:47:10.400 --> 0:47:11.080
<v Speaker 2>like stressing out.

0:47:11.120 --> 0:47:12.399
<v Speaker 3>Oh my god, my god, oh my god.

0:47:12.880 --> 0:47:19.920
<v Speaker 2>And because she's like she's that like maternal person in

0:47:20.320 --> 0:47:23.080
<v Speaker 2>her life. That's she just gives her whatever she wants

0:47:23.080 --> 0:47:23.840
<v Speaker 2>at any time.

0:47:23.760 --> 0:47:24.359
<v Speaker 3>You know what I mean.

0:47:24.800 --> 0:47:28.240
<v Speaker 2>And so anyway, my mom's friend saw what was happening,

0:47:28.400 --> 0:47:31.239
<v Speaker 2>and she was like, oh, Erica, stop being mean to her.

0:47:31.440 --> 0:47:33.600
<v Speaker 2>Just let her have the let her have the cupcake.

0:47:34.360 --> 0:47:36.600
<v Speaker 2>And I looked at her and I said, excuse me,

0:47:36.680 --> 0:47:39.120
<v Speaker 2>I'm teaching my daughter a lesson. Please don't undermind my

0:47:39.200 --> 0:47:42.560
<v Speaker 2>parenting seriously, and like it just like came out of me,

0:47:42.880 --> 0:47:44.520
<v Speaker 2>like I said it in the most respectful way.

0:47:44.560 --> 0:47:47.600
<v Speaker 3>But I was like, ah, don't fuck me, don't interrupt

0:47:47.640 --> 0:47:49.600
<v Speaker 3>what I'm doing right here. Yeah, and then too, and

0:47:49.680 --> 0:47:51.479
<v Speaker 3>then like she was like ooh and then.

0:47:51.440 --> 0:47:55.120
<v Speaker 2>So like Iri finally chilled out. She apologized, and then

0:47:55.280 --> 0:47:57.600
<v Speaker 2>I was like I was low key like fuming inside.

0:47:57.640 --> 0:48:00.359
<v Speaker 3>I was like so annoyed, right, and it was your

0:48:00.360 --> 0:48:01.759
<v Speaker 3>mom's friend. This is my mom's friend. And then so

0:48:01.880 --> 0:48:03.920
<v Speaker 3>then I was like, okay, I need to be respectful.

0:48:04.880 --> 0:48:07.040
<v Speaker 3>Did your mom saything? No, she's saying, I mean, you

0:48:07.160 --> 0:48:07.920
<v Speaker 3>was really respectful.

0:48:07.920 --> 0:48:10.000
<v Speaker 2>So I turned around to her and I said, look,

0:48:10.040 --> 0:48:13.680
<v Speaker 2>I apologize, But I was like, I have a bunch

0:48:13.719 --> 0:48:15.960
<v Speaker 2>of women around that don't let don't that. Do not

0:48:16.160 --> 0:48:19.520
<v Speaker 2>let me discipline my child. And I'm the one that

0:48:19.600 --> 0:48:20.840
<v Speaker 2>has to go home with her at the end of

0:48:20.880 --> 0:48:22.800
<v Speaker 2>the night and deal with all of the all this

0:48:22.920 --> 0:48:26.480
<v Speaker 2>mixed messaging. And she was like, it's cool you checked me,

0:48:26.680 --> 0:48:28.200
<v Speaker 2>and I was like, no, I really didn't check you.

0:48:28.280 --> 0:48:31.480
<v Speaker 2>But I this is this is my job and my experience,

0:48:31.680 --> 0:48:33.200
<v Speaker 2>and I need to make sure that my daughter is

0:48:34.120 --> 0:48:38.360
<v Speaker 2>my daughter is a respectful young woman one day and

0:48:38.480 --> 0:48:40.320
<v Speaker 2>this is not okay, it's this is when it starts,

0:48:40.640 --> 0:48:43.760
<v Speaker 2>you know what I mean. And so when she left,

0:48:44.800 --> 0:48:47.320
<v Speaker 2>she got up at like twin ten minutes later, I

0:48:48.560 --> 0:48:51.640
<v Speaker 2>was like, Mom, I was like, was I was that rude?

0:48:52.200 --> 0:48:53.040
<v Speaker 3>Was I disrespectful?

0:48:53.080 --> 0:48:55.400
<v Speaker 2>My mom was like, absolutely not. And I was actually

0:48:55.440 --> 0:48:59.080
<v Speaker 2>surprised that she took my side because sometimes, you know,

0:48:59.160 --> 0:49:02.280
<v Speaker 2>my mom don't agree on certain things, and even.

0:49:02.080 --> 0:49:04.759
<v Speaker 3>She sometimes can look at me as a child, right,

0:49:04.840 --> 0:49:05.440
<v Speaker 3>you know what I mean?

0:49:05.520 --> 0:49:07.440
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, and you have to Yeah, I think within that

0:49:07.600 --> 0:49:10.239
<v Speaker 2>moment she she really she like tered me as an

0:49:10.239 --> 0:49:13.279
<v Speaker 2>adult a parent, and she was like, no, absolutely, I

0:49:13.360 --> 0:49:17.400
<v Speaker 2>really needs to learn and that's not Lee's place. And

0:49:17.560 --> 0:49:21.240
<v Speaker 2>then okay, yeah, I mean and I agree, and sometimes

0:49:21.320 --> 0:49:24.880
<v Speaker 2>even yeah, and then sometimes because even with the like

0:49:25.360 --> 0:49:25.560
<v Speaker 2>like you.

0:49:25.560 --> 0:49:29.160
<v Speaker 3>Said, like, well grandparents, you know, there's this this spoiler

0:49:29.400 --> 0:49:31.680
<v Speaker 3>spoil you come. I come home from a trip and

0:49:31.800 --> 0:49:35.000
<v Speaker 3>she's been with them, and she's like acting all I'm like,

0:49:35.160 --> 0:49:36.400
<v Speaker 3>ah no, no, no, no.

0:49:36.520 --> 0:49:41.319
<v Speaker 2>No, no, let's reprogramm the brain because you don't get

0:49:41.360 --> 0:49:43.759
<v Speaker 2>whatever you want whenever you cry, right, you know.

0:49:44.239 --> 0:49:46.239
<v Speaker 3>No. That irritates the shit on me too, And I think,

0:49:46.280 --> 0:49:49.360
<v Speaker 3>I mean, yeah, I think that was appropriate.

0:49:50.280 --> 0:49:56.120
<v Speaker 2>But that's what I'm saying, like interfering with parenting, judging parenting.

0:49:56.280 --> 0:49:58.600
<v Speaker 2>I think sometimes there's been place. There's been times though,

0:49:58.640 --> 0:50:01.279
<v Speaker 2>when I've seen parents that I felt borderline abusive and

0:50:01.360 --> 0:50:06.160
<v Speaker 2>I felt inclined to interfere like friends, no, not friends,

0:50:06.160 --> 0:50:08.919
<v Speaker 2>but like in public, like oh yeah. And then even

0:50:08.960 --> 0:50:10.880
<v Speaker 2>then you're like, yeah, can I over set up boundaries?

0:50:11.600 --> 0:50:13.440
<v Speaker 2>So I've seen kids that I wanted to like pull this.

0:50:13.680 --> 0:50:15.759
<v Speaker 2>I have before I've been like, yo, what what are

0:50:15.800 --> 0:50:16.080
<v Speaker 2>you doing?

0:50:17.280 --> 0:50:20.879
<v Speaker 3>Okay? Yeah? Really yeah, Well.

0:50:20.840 --> 0:50:22.759
<v Speaker 7>There's there was one time this kid, this this woman

0:50:22.880 --> 0:50:25.040
<v Speaker 7>was screaming at her kid in the parking line, just

0:50:25.080 --> 0:50:28.480
<v Speaker 7>like he was like crying and walking away, and she

0:50:28.640 --> 0:50:33.360
<v Speaker 7>just kept screaming, maybe like five me yesterday.

0:50:35.239 --> 0:50:36.280
<v Speaker 3>Oh it's beautiful.

0:50:37.360 --> 0:50:37.680
<v Speaker 2>Thank you.

0:50:37.960 --> 0:50:43.440
<v Speaker 3>When when you asked the lady, are you okay? She

0:50:43.600 --> 0:50:46.960
<v Speaker 3>was like mind mind, and I was like, oh damn,

0:50:47.080 --> 0:50:48.759
<v Speaker 3>a five year old. Yeah, it was a bit.

0:50:48.840 --> 0:50:51.600
<v Speaker 2>It was and I would never like, it has to

0:50:51.680 --> 0:50:53.520
<v Speaker 2>be really bad for me to interfere with me. But

0:50:53.640 --> 0:50:55.160
<v Speaker 2>I was low key when I left there. I felt

0:50:55.239 --> 0:50:57.000
<v Speaker 2>sad for that kid. I was like, what does this

0:50:57.120 --> 0:50:59.400
<v Speaker 2>kid deal with daily? And then I know, like iuse,

0:50:59.440 --> 0:51:01.000
<v Speaker 2>I know, like some times all yell at irin, you

0:51:01.040 --> 0:51:01.440
<v Speaker 2>know what I mean.

0:51:01.480 --> 0:51:03.920
<v Speaker 3>I try not to. I try to really like just

0:51:04.480 --> 0:51:08.000
<v Speaker 3>like enforce, you know. I try to like her to

0:51:08.120 --> 0:51:13.080
<v Speaker 3>know what my like voices, you know, like no right,

0:51:13.480 --> 0:51:15.080
<v Speaker 3>you know when I get like that, she knows I

0:51:15.080 --> 0:51:15.719
<v Speaker 3>shouldn't have to.

0:51:15.760 --> 0:51:19.160
<v Speaker 2>Just been very few times, I like, it's usually because

0:51:19.200 --> 0:51:22.800
<v Speaker 2>I'm tired or I don't know. I think like the

0:51:22.880 --> 0:51:24.800
<v Speaker 2>first time I ever went crazy.

0:51:25.960 --> 0:51:29.400
<v Speaker 3>Was when she was like first starting school and she was.

0:51:29.480 --> 0:51:31.960
<v Speaker 2>Just acting a crazy fool every time I would take

0:51:31.960 --> 0:51:34.239
<v Speaker 2>her to school, crying hysterically.

0:51:35.960 --> 0:51:37.799
<v Speaker 3>I know it is not getting in her car seat.

0:51:37.840 --> 0:51:39.760
<v Speaker 3>Like remember once I were fighting, I was like fighting

0:51:39.840 --> 0:51:42.160
<v Speaker 3>her in her car seat. She would not get into

0:51:42.200 --> 0:51:46.360
<v Speaker 3>the car seat. Oh my goodness you me. Yeah, you

0:51:46.360 --> 0:51:48.319
<v Speaker 3>wouldn't get in your car seat. Remember when you used

0:51:48.320 --> 0:51:51.359
<v Speaker 3>to cry and went to school? Why'd you cry?

0:51:52.800 --> 0:51:53.240
<v Speaker 2>Nice?

0:51:54.440 --> 0:51:56.600
<v Speaker 3>Because what you say I wanted.

0:51:57.360 --> 0:51:59.279
<v Speaker 2>I know, I always want you too, But you got

0:51:59.360 --> 0:52:03.520
<v Speaker 2>to learn we all went to school, and your school's

0:52:03.560 --> 0:52:04.000
<v Speaker 2>really cool.

0:52:05.480 --> 0:52:11.680
<v Speaker 3>Still, mom, of course I did, did I know, hold

0:52:11.719 --> 0:52:16.800
<v Speaker 3>on baby one second? But yeah, you know, but I

0:52:17.040 --> 0:52:21.719
<v Speaker 3>but I do realize how personal it is. But even

0:52:21.800 --> 0:52:22.680
<v Speaker 3>you yelling.

0:52:22.600 --> 0:52:25.280
<v Speaker 2>Said, you know, saying something to a parent doesn't necessarily

0:52:25.440 --> 0:52:26.080
<v Speaker 2>change anything.

0:52:26.200 --> 0:52:28.440
<v Speaker 3>That's still that's the thing, Like.

0:52:32.640 --> 0:52:34.640
<v Speaker 2>That's what I realized, Like, okay, me yelling at this

0:52:34.719 --> 0:52:38.400
<v Speaker 2>woman about her kid, like maybe it'll help her like

0:52:38.480 --> 0:52:42.080
<v Speaker 2>snap out of her like rage of anger. But ultimately,

0:52:42.280 --> 0:52:44.440
<v Speaker 2>like that's what makes me maybe.

0:52:44.360 --> 0:52:47.799
<v Speaker 3>Sad, is like she's gonna go home with this kid

0:52:47.960 --> 0:52:49.719
<v Speaker 3>and who knows what, who knows what she does.

0:52:50.160 --> 0:52:51.840
<v Speaker 2>But maybe she was just having a moment, you know,

0:52:52.080 --> 0:52:54.800
<v Speaker 2>like who knows. You know, as parents, we have moments

0:52:54.840 --> 0:52:56.960
<v Speaker 2>where that we're not proud of. You know, I've had

0:52:57.040 --> 0:53:01.120
<v Speaker 2>moments where I've had sam sorry, yeah yeah, And I

0:53:01.200 --> 0:53:02.280
<v Speaker 2>think that's where.

0:53:03.640 --> 0:53:04.000
<v Speaker 3>Parents.

0:53:05.400 --> 0:53:08.120
<v Speaker 2>A lot of parents have a problem apologizing to their children.

0:53:08.960 --> 0:53:12.040
<v Speaker 2>You know, I know my moms. She's gotten better as

0:53:12.080 --> 0:53:12.600
<v Speaker 2>I've gotten.

0:53:12.440 --> 0:53:15.759
<v Speaker 3>Older, but she never would apologize when she would do

0:53:15.960 --> 0:53:18.680
<v Speaker 3>what I felt was like to going too far, not

0:53:18.840 --> 0:53:21.200
<v Speaker 3>going too far like physically anything, but just like she

0:53:21.400 --> 0:53:25.720
<v Speaker 3>was wrong, you know what I mean, right, but that happened.

0:53:25.800 --> 0:53:27.719
<v Speaker 3>I mean the human like just.

0:53:27.800 --> 0:53:29.359
<v Speaker 2>Like having a roommate or a friend that she lived

0:53:29.360 --> 0:53:32.239
<v Speaker 2>with twenty for seven forever and at no point you're

0:53:32.239 --> 0:53:36.600
<v Speaker 2>gonna like be ignited and being in a feeling and

0:53:36.680 --> 0:53:43.759
<v Speaker 2>then later say I apologize, Like that's human nature. Yeah,

0:53:45.760 --> 0:53:49.600
<v Speaker 2>but our children are just so precious, but they're so smart,

0:53:50.160 --> 0:53:54.719
<v Speaker 2>and they're so they just mean so much to us.

0:53:55.080 --> 0:53:59.080
<v Speaker 2>As I'm sure mothers listening know that when someone tells

0:53:59.120 --> 0:54:03.000
<v Speaker 2>you like you or like questions your love for them.

0:54:03.040 --> 0:54:06.040
<v Speaker 2>As a parent, who parent, where we whether they're well being,

0:54:06.440 --> 0:54:09.239
<v Speaker 2>or who they're going to be, Because that's all I

0:54:09.320 --> 0:54:12.480
<v Speaker 2>think about as a parent is who I'm like shaving

0:54:12.640 --> 0:54:15.280
<v Speaker 2>my child to be. I mean, of course I'm shaping.

0:54:15.480 --> 0:54:17.600
<v Speaker 2>I'm like I'm putting out some sort of blueprint. But

0:54:17.640 --> 0:54:19.960
<v Speaker 2>she's gonna, you know, follow whatever she wants to do.

0:54:20.480 --> 0:54:22.920
<v Speaker 2>But I do know that what I do greatly influences that,

0:54:23.080 --> 0:54:24.879
<v Speaker 2>and those are things I think about all the time.

0:54:25.280 --> 0:54:27.200
<v Speaker 2>So for someone to like come out who doesn't know

0:54:27.280 --> 0:54:29.080
<v Speaker 2>me and try to make me feel that way, I

0:54:29.200 --> 0:54:31.880
<v Speaker 2>was like, damn, how many women experience this Like this

0:54:32.040 --> 0:54:35.240
<v Speaker 2>isn't I'm so we're so early in our parenting journey

0:54:35.760 --> 0:54:38.680
<v Speaker 2>like this is this is gonna happen so many more times? Yeah,

0:54:39.480 --> 0:54:40.719
<v Speaker 2>you know, and like so how do I deal with

0:54:40.760 --> 0:54:42.680
<v Speaker 2>this where it doesn't Oh, I don't let it enrage me.

0:54:42.960 --> 0:54:44.640
<v Speaker 2>Oh yeah, that's why I had to think about it,

0:54:44.880 --> 0:54:48.759
<v Speaker 2>like I'm not taking this ship personally. Bitch, isn't be bored?

0:54:50.600 --> 0:54:52.879
<v Speaker 2>I said, I'm not taking shit personally, bitch, just be bored.

0:54:53.920 --> 0:55:01.160
<v Speaker 2>You know clearly you're bored. So I'm happy I'm in

0:55:01.239 --> 0:55:06.160
<v Speaker 2>a place in my life in general where like there's

0:55:06.239 --> 0:55:07.800
<v Speaker 2>not much that could really fuck with me.

0:55:08.480 --> 0:55:11.120
<v Speaker 3>Do you feel that way? Yeah, Like it's not someone's

0:55:11.160 --> 0:55:14.839
<v Speaker 3>opinion of me. I mean, of course sometimes shot of course,

0:55:14.880 --> 0:55:17.440
<v Speaker 3>shit you think about it, but like from a stranger,

0:55:17.719 --> 0:55:24.279
<v Speaker 3>like I'm no, not really. Yeah, it definitely annoyed me.

0:55:24.840 --> 0:55:28.040
<v Speaker 3>It annoyed me, but like I said, like I expect it,

0:55:28.560 --> 0:55:30.400
<v Speaker 3>and it's gonna just be more. It's gonna be just

0:55:30.480 --> 0:55:30.719
<v Speaker 3>be more.

0:55:30.800 --> 0:55:34.680
<v Speaker 2>And I like there was comments made about Luna, Like

0:55:36.600 --> 0:55:40.240
<v Speaker 2>and first of all, if you're if you're so ignorant

0:55:40.320 --> 0:55:44.680
<v Speaker 2>to talk about a child, you're not on my level

0:55:44.760 --> 0:55:47.240
<v Speaker 2>to begin with. I just feel like also like throwing

0:55:47.440 --> 0:55:50.920
<v Speaker 2>insults about your physical like about your body and like

0:55:51.600 --> 0:55:54.399
<v Speaker 2>the way you look, it's just like what else?

0:55:54.400 --> 0:55:55.040
<v Speaker 3>Who does that?

0:55:55.719 --> 0:55:59.080
<v Speaker 2>Like like like it's like some high school really is

0:55:59.320 --> 0:56:01.239
<v Speaker 2>it was like some h yeah, but you know what,

0:56:02.640 --> 0:56:05.160
<v Speaker 2>I can't even remember like the last time I got

0:56:05.200 --> 0:56:08.360
<v Speaker 2>in a fight and someone talked about my body, Like

0:56:08.560 --> 0:56:10.040
<v Speaker 2>I just feel like, I mean, I know what happens.

0:56:10.120 --> 0:56:13.320
<v Speaker 2>Body shaming is a real thing, but like like I

0:56:13.360 --> 0:56:16.040
<v Speaker 2>don't know, it just seemed like so yeah.

0:56:16.760 --> 0:56:19.840
<v Speaker 3>It's obviously juvenile. It's crazy, and first of all, like

0:56:21.280 --> 0:56:23.160
<v Speaker 3>I do, yeah, I do. That's sad.

0:56:23.760 --> 0:56:26.560
<v Speaker 2>Well you're just a child hereby it probably is a

0:56:26.640 --> 0:56:28.360
<v Speaker 2>kid really like someone young and stupid.

0:56:29.960 --> 0:56:32.719
<v Speaker 3>I don't even physically it's not I know, a look

0:56:32.800 --> 0:56:34.320
<v Speaker 3>good Like I'm.

0:56:34.200 --> 0:56:38.160
<v Speaker 2>Not like none of that really like bothers me shit

0:56:38.280 --> 0:56:41.960
<v Speaker 2>like that because I already went to high school, Like

0:56:41.960 --> 0:56:42.440
<v Speaker 2>I already did.

0:56:42.520 --> 0:56:43.360
<v Speaker 3>I've been there, done that.

0:56:43.560 --> 0:56:44.960
<v Speaker 2>Like there's a place in your life and you're like,

0:56:45.480 --> 0:56:47.600
<v Speaker 2>first of all, there's nothing you can't tell me about.

0:56:47.440 --> 0:56:49.840
<v Speaker 3>Me that I obviously I'm not aware of. I have

0:56:49.960 --> 0:56:52.840
<v Speaker 3>this body my whole life, so I'm just like not

0:56:53.000 --> 0:56:56.640
<v Speaker 3>placed by it at all. But yeah, I don't know.

0:56:56.800 --> 0:57:00.960
<v Speaker 3>Bullying is a real thing. Bullying bullying adults is a

0:57:01.040 --> 0:57:05.160
<v Speaker 3>real thing, like Haschal lives on.

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<v Speaker 2>This is when I say now that I think about

0:57:08.280 --> 0:57:10.520
<v Speaker 2>when I think about bullying adults, I think about Kanye

0:57:10.680 --> 0:57:11.680
<v Speaker 2>being honest and now being like.

0:57:11.719 --> 0:57:14.960
<v Speaker 3>They were trying to bully me backstage. They trying to

0:57:15.000 --> 0:57:18.040
<v Speaker 3>wear this hat, bullying me. They trying to get me

0:57:18.080 --> 0:57:20.160
<v Speaker 3>not to wear my hat. They're bullying.

0:57:22.840 --> 0:57:23.880
<v Speaker 2>It was it was my.

0:57:44.680 --> 0:57:48.320
<v Speaker 3>Anyway, that was a travesty. Sorry about that.

0:57:49.200 --> 0:57:50.600
<v Speaker 2>I don't know if you know, but I have an

0:57:50.680 --> 0:58:00.200
<v Speaker 2>extreme fear, like like extreme fear of bugs. And I

0:58:00.240 --> 0:58:03.000
<v Speaker 2>thought I thought of Jamilla thought something landed on her shoulder.

0:58:03.560 --> 0:58:04.320
<v Speaker 2>I thought I saw it.

0:58:04.480 --> 0:58:06.320
<v Speaker 3>I bumped my daughter's head on the table.

0:58:06.560 --> 0:58:10.160
<v Speaker 2>As I'm talking about like being trying to be I

0:58:10.240 --> 0:58:12.920
<v Speaker 2>am like we talk, was gonna have a lump on

0:58:13.000 --> 0:58:14.320
<v Speaker 2>her head because.

0:58:14.040 --> 0:58:19.280
<v Speaker 3>I'm afraid of bugs. To self for bugs here, not

0:58:19.440 --> 0:58:25.000
<v Speaker 3>to self serve and protect your child anyway, What are

0:58:25.040 --> 0:58:30.760
<v Speaker 3>you saying, Kanye West? Is that Oh Kanye saying that

0:58:32.120 --> 0:58:34.160
<v Speaker 3>was bullying him. Oh yeah, I was saying it.

0:58:34.240 --> 0:58:37.480
<v Speaker 2>That me, Like that's how I feel when I say,

0:58:37.560 --> 0:58:41.000
<v Speaker 2>like I'm being bullied as an adult, but like an asshole.

0:58:41.600 --> 0:58:46.200
<v Speaker 3>Yeah, but it's a real thing. I mean it's so

0:58:46.360 --> 0:58:50.120
<v Speaker 3>it's so minute right now, but like I'm colding me.

0:58:50.200 --> 0:58:51.080
<v Speaker 2>Kiss it, kiss it.

0:58:55.120 --> 0:58:59.080
<v Speaker 3>Did we talk about Kanye meeting with Trump? No, that's

0:58:59.200 --> 0:59:03.000
<v Speaker 3>just so he's so over for me. I'm done with him.

0:59:03.000 --> 0:59:06.000
<v Speaker 2>I don't care what people try to spend his his

0:59:06.200 --> 0:59:12.880
<v Speaker 2>cause as down a minute, We're almost got down, promise.

0:59:13.400 --> 0:59:17.400
<v Speaker 3>He's pretty terrible. Someone said he was a freedom writer,

0:59:18.480 --> 0:59:20.320
<v Speaker 3>that he's like what is he like a genius? He's

0:59:20.360 --> 0:59:22.720
<v Speaker 3>getting good with the Trump and that he's gonna change

0:59:22.760 --> 0:59:23.040
<v Speaker 3>the world.

0:59:23.160 --> 0:59:23.720
<v Speaker 2>Is that what people?

0:59:23.800 --> 0:59:25.880
<v Speaker 3>Is? That what people think the girl? They think he's

0:59:25.960 --> 0:59:30.000
<v Speaker 3>that that intelligent, that way his own plot and scheme

0:59:30.080 --> 0:59:32.320
<v Speaker 3>to get in. That's what I was thinking. I was like,

0:59:32.360 --> 0:59:33.160
<v Speaker 3>whonder people think that?

0:59:33.400 --> 0:59:36.880
<v Speaker 2>Like they think that he's actually scheming and plotting and

0:59:37.000 --> 0:59:41.200
<v Speaker 2>this isn't all like a narcissists like playground, like he's.

0:59:41.120 --> 0:59:43.760
<v Speaker 3>Like infiltrating on the Yeah.

0:59:44.240 --> 0:59:45.080
<v Speaker 6>No, he's just.

0:59:46.560 --> 0:59:51.360
<v Speaker 3>No for himself for theeasy government. In his own brainy

0:59:54.560 --> 0:59:57.360
<v Speaker 3>I kind of feel bad for Kim. I feel bad too.

0:59:57.520 --> 1:00:00.160
<v Speaker 3>You know that she's probably a little bit miserable. She

1:00:00.280 --> 1:00:01.760
<v Speaker 3>has to deal with that crazy.

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<v Speaker 2>Every day talk to have him talk about crazy Now,

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<v Speaker 2>how amazing he is all the time.

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<v Speaker 8>Don't Like, I'm not doubting his genius. I'm not doubting

1:00:11.040 --> 1:00:15.040
<v Speaker 8>his innovative ideas. I'm not doubting that he can create musings.

1:00:15.400 --> 1:00:18.320
<v Speaker 8>But there's there's something, there's that other side of him

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<v Speaker 8>at Gemini that just can't help but kind.

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<v Speaker 2>Of sabotage all that for himself, Like his it gets

1:00:26.400 --> 1:00:28.200
<v Speaker 2>in the way all of that greatness.

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<v Speaker 3>He gets in the way of it by just opening

1:00:31.640 --> 1:00:32.080
<v Speaker 3>his mouth.

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<v Speaker 2>I just can't get with the Like, if you can't

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<v Speaker 2>intelligently communicate these very top secret ideas that everyone keeps

1:00:41.120 --> 1:00:42.919
<v Speaker 2>suggesting he has, then.

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<v Speaker 3>I can't take him seriously. Have you seen that three

1:00:45.920 --> 1:00:49.080
<v Speaker 3>D thing? Have you ever watched any of his stories? Yeah,

1:00:49.160 --> 1:00:51.760
<v Speaker 3>like the hologram that's just crazy? Is that real? I

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<v Speaker 3>think so?

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah?

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<v Speaker 3>I think so too. I Mean they're not maybe not

1:00:54.560 --> 1:00:56.760
<v Speaker 3>necessarily his ideas, but he's in some way part of it.

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<v Speaker 3>And like that's what I'm saying, Like he has just

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<v Speaker 3>a new phone. Is it a new phone? The new iPhone?

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<v Speaker 3>Is it? I said to her, Oh, maybe not if

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<v Speaker 3>he's out. No, let me loosen it a little bit.

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<v Speaker 3>I don't know, dude. No, I'm not gonna take it off.

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<v Speaker 3>I'm just gonna losten it because it's I don't want

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<v Speaker 3>your hair to be this tight when you go to sleep.

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<v Speaker 3>I don't know, like him talking about.

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<v Speaker 2>Him being in the Kardashian family, there's a lot of

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<v Speaker 2>there's not a lot of male energy, so he could

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<v Speaker 2>relate to Donald Trump's campaign more than Hillary's. Clinton's I'm coming. No,

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<v Speaker 2>I just feel bad for him. But I feel bad

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<v Speaker 2>for him yet I know she's she's probably like he's

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<v Speaker 2>bad ship.

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<v Speaker 3>I'm telling your knew what she was.

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<v Speaker 2>I mean, she didn't care what she was getting herself into.

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<v Speaker 2>She she loved him, sure she sure that probably still does.

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<v Speaker 2>But also it was all about he was the coolest

1:01:50.080 --> 1:01:52.120
<v Speaker 2>rapper at the time, you know, and that was what

1:01:52.200 --> 1:01:54.680
<v Speaker 2>it was him for him too. She's the finest girl, right,

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<v Speaker 2>And that's what happens when you are both narcissists and

1:01:57.400 --> 1:02:00.360
<v Speaker 2>you marry each other, you know what I mean, Something's

1:02:00.400 --> 1:02:01.320
<v Speaker 2>bound to go wrong.

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<v Speaker 3>And one of y'all gonna be crazier than the other.

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<v Speaker 3>And obviously we know who that is, poor baby or

1:02:08.600 --> 1:02:11.280
<v Speaker 3>Boo boo. But I don't know how I got it. Oh,

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<v Speaker 3>I was just I don't know how I got it, Kanye,

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<v Speaker 3>But I guess I was talking about bullying. Yes, baby,

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<v Speaker 3>should we do our advice? Oh?

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah. So we got a message from one of our listeners, Anonymous,

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<v Speaker 2>and actually it was a good one.

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<v Speaker 3>I think it's one that needs to be talked about.

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<v Speaker 3>What is it, ladies, Anonymous?

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<v Speaker 2>Please, this is a long This is a long story,

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<v Speaker 2>but backstory is important, I think before you can answer

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<v Speaker 2>or give advice. In two thousand and nine, I met

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<v Speaker 2>a guy at work. I was an admin at the

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<v Speaker 2>hospital and he was sort of a custodian. Immediately, I

1:02:45.600 --> 1:02:47.560
<v Speaker 2>was not attracted to him on a dating level, but

1:02:47.640 --> 1:02:49.280
<v Speaker 2>he was always pleasant, et cetera.

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<v Speaker 3>Eventually we exchange numbers.

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<v Speaker 2>I learned that he had multiple kids and multiple women,

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<v Speaker 2>and it was kind of a turn with multiple women

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<v Speaker 2>and it was kind of a turnoff. However, we remained

1:02:58.520 --> 1:03:01.600
<v Speaker 2>friends and kept chatting. After about nine months, we started

1:03:01.640 --> 1:03:04.240
<v Speaker 2>to chill and flirt, and that led us to sleeping together.

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<v Speaker 2>He was in your average low life with a low paying,

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<v Speaker 2>debt end job and multiple baby mothers. He began school

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<v Speaker 2>when we met, and I encourage and also helped with

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<v Speaker 2>late night homework, etc.

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<v Speaker 3>He was also a.

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<v Speaker 2>Phenomenal father to all of his kids, and there was

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<v Speaker 2>zero baby mama drama. So between those things his charm

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<v Speaker 2>and consistency in life. So between those things, his charm

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<v Speaker 2>and consistency in life, we began a relationship.

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<v Speaker 3>We moved in together after a few months, and not

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<v Speaker 3>even a year had gone by before one of his

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<v Speaker 3>sons moved in with us. We lived decent as a

1:03:38.240 --> 1:03:41.200
<v Speaker 3>blended family. He finished school, he came home daily at

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<v Speaker 3>a decent hour from work. We cooked together, discussed marriage

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<v Speaker 3>at one point. His career after school began to take off.

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<v Speaker 2>After five years of cohabitating, the relationship began to feel

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<v Speaker 2>tense and rocky.

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<v Speaker 3>There was never any suspicion in the.

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<v Speaker 2>Cheating, however, you could tell we're both visibly and happy

1:03:55.320 --> 1:03:58.439
<v Speaker 2>and merely settling for our current relationship. With the state

1:03:58.520 --> 1:04:02.080
<v Speaker 2>of it, however, ung in there without doing anything to

1:04:02.240 --> 1:04:04.880
<v Speaker 2>really rectify or even acknowledge that there was an issue

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<v Speaker 2>with the relationship.

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<v Speaker 3>But you could just feel in the air.

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<v Speaker 2>Our sessions became fewer and far between, meaning sex sex,

1:04:11.320 --> 1:04:14.880
<v Speaker 2>but still often enough that no one got the itch

1:04:14.960 --> 1:04:17.360
<v Speaker 2>for outside sex. The last year of the relationship, we

1:04:17.440 --> 1:04:20.800
<v Speaker 2>discussed moving into separate places. While he suggested this, I

1:04:20.880 --> 1:04:22.920
<v Speaker 2>felt like it was a step backwards in the relationship,

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<v Speaker 2>and he said, why move and still stay together? We

1:04:25.120 --> 1:04:27.960
<v Speaker 2>should slip. At first, it was tough. We've gotten a

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<v Speaker 2>lot of arguments over petty stuff. He even told me

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<v Speaker 2>at one point go get tested, which, because I had

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<v Speaker 2>never suspected any I mean none cheating, I felt he

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<v Speaker 2>was being an asshole and was fewy mean words to

1:04:41.200 --> 1:04:43.920
<v Speaker 2>hurt me anyway. After lots of back and forth, and

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<v Speaker 2>despite my reluctancy, we remained friends and spent together and

1:04:47.800 --> 1:04:49.840
<v Speaker 2>spent time together as a family with the kids, but

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<v Speaker 2>as friends. We had a total of three sexual encounters

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<v Speaker 2>after the fact, all which he led, all which he

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<v Speaker 2>led me to believe that he was so desperate that

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<v Speaker 2>he wasn't with anyone else. I hadn't been with anyone

1:05:02.080 --> 1:05:05.160
<v Speaker 2>anyone but him the whole time, so, needless to say,

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<v Speaker 2>we didn't use protection. Months later, at my GYN visit,

1:05:08.480 --> 1:05:11.560
<v Speaker 2>I was made aware that I had chlamydia, which it

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<v Speaker 2>had been at least six months since we had slept together,

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<v Speaker 2>and truthfully, I couldn't tell you at which point I

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<v Speaker 2>contracted it from him before or after the move.

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<v Speaker 3>It would mean he either cheated on me or still

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<v Speaker 3>put me.

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<v Speaker 2>At Han's risk by knowingly sleeping with me raw after

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<v Speaker 2>being with some other girl raw. Either way, I was

1:05:27.640 --> 1:05:30.880
<v Speaker 2>crushed and cried, and I got the news nonetheless, Nonetheless,

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<v Speaker 2>I got treated. I called him immediately, which at this

1:05:33.520 --> 1:05:36.360
<v Speaker 2>point our communication had been tapering off a lot. I

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<v Speaker 2>let him know the deal, and he swore he had

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<v Speaker 2>just been to the doctors and was good, which made

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<v Speaker 2>me wonder if when he told me months back to

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<v Speaker 2>go get tested he was telling me something then, which

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<v Speaker 2>would mean he had this while we were still living together. Anyway,

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<v Speaker 2>I cursed him out, told him to get the girl

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<v Speaker 2>tested and stay out of my life.

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<v Speaker 3>Four months later, I miss him. I'm not mad anymore.

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<v Speaker 2>I thought no communication at all, he would at least

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<v Speaker 2>call to apologize, make an effort, but he hasn't.

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<v Speaker 3>I know.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm silly for even wanting to reach out, send an email,

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<v Speaker 2>et cetera. But this is someone I spent practically a

1:06:11.080 --> 1:06:13.920
<v Speaker 2>decade with while I have been on tender and met

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<v Speaker 2>random sorry pause for fish already need sext me feel well.

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<v Speaker 2>I have been on Tinder and met randoms, none of

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<v Speaker 2>them the quality, d family, orientation, et cetera. Things that

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<v Speaker 2>I loved about him. I also I also realized part

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<v Speaker 2>of the disinterest may have been me weight gain, my

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<v Speaker 2>career remained at a standstill while his grew no longer

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<v Speaker 2>trying to be cute or sexy. I realized these things

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<v Speaker 2>now after the fact, and when I brought them to

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<v Speaker 2>him months before the results were uncovered, he would swear

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<v Speaker 2>that wasn't it. He just wanted to focus on him

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<v Speaker 2>and his growth, and that they were no longer and

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<v Speaker 2>that we were no longer.

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<v Speaker 3>Growing as a couple. Any advice for me? I know

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<v Speaker 3>this is dumb, stupid, long, but I really need your

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<v Speaker 3>advice because that was long. Girl.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh y'all still tune in. Basically, she was with a

1:07:06.280 --> 1:07:09.120
<v Speaker 2>guy she wasn't even interested in. They you know, they

1:07:09.200 --> 1:07:14.120
<v Speaker 2>ended up getting together, cohabitating with their kids or his kid,

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<v Speaker 2>and naturally their relationships started to kind of dissipate, and

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<v Speaker 2>eventually he suggested.

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<v Speaker 3>That they move out.

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<v Speaker 2>She didn't really want to break up, but they did anyway,

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<v Speaker 2>And in spite of their breakup, he had said that

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<v Speaker 2>she should get tested.

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<v Speaker 3>She thought he was just being rude.

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<v Speaker 2>Find out later, like six months later, after they've had

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<v Speaker 2>sex a few times randomly, that she has an STD.

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<v Speaker 2>Now she was angry, months have gone by, she's not

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<v Speaker 2>angry anymore, and now she misses him, and it's wondering

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<v Speaker 2>if it's her fault essentially in some way, or if

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<v Speaker 2>she's crazy for wanting to get back together with him.

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<v Speaker 3>And that's basically what this is in the summary. I

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<v Speaker 3>told her first of all, she wasn't even interested to

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<v Speaker 3>begin with. It kind of like grew on her.

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<v Speaker 2>And it got comfortable. Comfortable love isn't the love to chase.

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<v Speaker 2>It's very easy to get comfortable with people because they're there,

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<v Speaker 2>because it's easy, because it's it's routine. And if he

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<v Speaker 2>suggested that they move separately, he wasn't really focused on

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<v Speaker 2>growing the relationship to begin with.

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<v Speaker 3>He obviously was out of sex. That's someone outside of it,

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<v Speaker 3>which means it doesn't respect her. He certainly didn't respect

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<v Speaker 3>her health enough to give her to protect her.

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<v Speaker 2>And and your female intuition is telling you that he

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<v Speaker 2>said that get tested stuff early on, then you're probably right.

1:08:50.080 --> 1:08:52.040
<v Speaker 3>Honestly, that just.

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<v Speaker 2>Seems a bit random, especially when there's no suspicion at all,

1:08:56.920 --> 1:08:57.599
<v Speaker 2>Like what the fuck?

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah he knew and I get okay, I hate a woman?

1:09:07.840 --> 1:09:08.519
<v Speaker 3>Why didn't we do this?

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<v Speaker 2>Like?

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<v Speaker 3>Oh, was it me? What could I have done? I

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<v Speaker 3>could have been dressing sexier? I should.

1:09:13.000 --> 1:09:15.040
<v Speaker 2>All these things are dun all about stuff reflecting and

1:09:15.800 --> 1:09:18.520
<v Speaker 2>taking accountability because there's always two parts in a relationship.

1:09:19.280 --> 1:09:21.360
<v Speaker 2>But even in that I told her, there's a way

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<v Speaker 2>to communicate to your partner. There's a way to make

1:09:23.439 --> 1:09:25.840
<v Speaker 2>you feel sexy. There's there's like when there's someone who's

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<v Speaker 2>really invested in the relationship winning and I know after

1:09:28.520 --> 1:09:31.320
<v Speaker 2>time sometimes this shit is more difficult. But if you're

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<v Speaker 2>really conscious about an adamant about, like wanting your partner

1:09:35.520 --> 1:09:37.280
<v Speaker 2>to be your partner, you're gonna be like, that's go

1:09:37.400 --> 1:09:39.599
<v Speaker 2>to the gym together, bag, Why don't you start playing

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<v Speaker 2>for these jobs?

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<v Speaker 3>To look at these things as friends?

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<v Speaker 2>We do that So if you're not he wasn't committed

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<v Speaker 2>to a relationship, the SCD was definitely the killed and

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<v Speaker 2>the fact that he hasn't called him four months since

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<v Speaker 2>that's happened.

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<v Speaker 3>Is even more really like obvious that that's that he

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<v Speaker 3>did that it was him.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, he's a shame to call you. He's not a

1:09:59.400 --> 1:10:01.800
<v Speaker 2>calling to a power dies because he he's like, damn,

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<v Speaker 2>she hasn't called. Oh I'm off Scott Free. We don't

1:10:03.720 --> 1:10:05.360
<v Speaker 2>got to talk about it. No, men don't want to

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<v Speaker 2>talk about nothing. They'd rather did not talk about it

1:10:08.160 --> 1:10:10.040
<v Speaker 2>and never talk to you again. We're just gonna have

1:10:10.120 --> 1:10:13.040
<v Speaker 2>to acknowledge it and be like, yeah, maybe it was me, right,

1:10:13.280 --> 1:10:15.360
<v Speaker 2>I mean, not that I want to be with any Yeah.

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<v Speaker 2>Do you think if you had a guy give you

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<v Speaker 2>an STD, could.

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<v Speaker 3>You like get back together with him?

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah?

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<v Speaker 3>Mom? You you.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh with it?

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<v Speaker 3>I mean, hey, we all have been in situations they're like,

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<v Speaker 3>I would never do that. I was late? Is that

1:10:35.560 --> 1:10:36.800
<v Speaker 3>so I will never go back to him?

1:10:37.880 --> 1:10:38.439
<v Speaker 2>And you do?

1:10:39.680 --> 1:10:39.720
<v Speaker 4>That?

1:10:39.840 --> 1:10:46.920
<v Speaker 3>Bends to dumbership, honestly, And I'm not judging anybody, but

1:10:47.720 --> 1:10:49.400
<v Speaker 3>do we deserve that? Fuck now?

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<v Speaker 2>But I think that's the problem even in this case,

1:10:51.720 --> 1:10:54.280
<v Speaker 2>is that we don't realize that we deserve better. And

1:10:54.680 --> 1:10:57.080
<v Speaker 2>the moral of the stood is they're just dishonesty. There's

1:10:57.120 --> 1:11:00.479
<v Speaker 2>no respect for ship your life because it's eventually like

1:11:00.520 --> 1:11:02.760
<v Speaker 2>when you're fucking multiple people are all you're does what

1:11:02.880 --> 1:11:05.719
<v Speaker 2>you're risky and you know who knows what You're fucking

1:11:06.360 --> 1:11:08.880
<v Speaker 2>whole ass just transmitting and if you like give a

1:11:08.880 --> 1:11:10.560
<v Speaker 2>fuck about somebody, at the very least, she'll throw in

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<v Speaker 2>a rubber.

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<v Speaker 3>I think it's super selfish.

1:11:14.280 --> 1:11:17.799
<v Speaker 2>And I think you feeling that way out of comfort

1:11:18.240 --> 1:11:21.320
<v Speaker 2>and wanting companion, you know, cuffing seasons coming is probably

1:11:21.320 --> 1:11:24.720
<v Speaker 2>getting cold, and you just thinking you're thinking crazy, girl,

1:11:24.720 --> 1:11:25.479
<v Speaker 2>You're thinking crazy.

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<v Speaker 3>So I feel you. I feel you in the cuff

1:11:28.040 --> 1:11:30.320
<v Speaker 3>and season. Just get some hot tea and some blankets.

1:11:30.360 --> 1:11:34.920
<v Speaker 3>It'll be fine Netflix and show alone. Yeah, definitely, he's

1:11:34.960 --> 1:11:37.479
<v Speaker 3>not worth your time and I am. And she says

1:11:37.479 --> 1:11:41.519
<v Speaker 3>we spent a decade together and fuck that too. Oh

1:11:41.640 --> 1:11:43.840
<v Speaker 3>and he also was one of the first people she

1:11:43.920 --> 1:11:49.200
<v Speaker 3>has a She has like a crippling like insecurity about

1:11:49.360 --> 1:11:49.800
<v Speaker 3>her feet.

1:11:49.880 --> 1:11:52.920
<v Speaker 2>We've talked about her on another episode, and she has

1:11:52.960 --> 1:11:55.719
<v Speaker 2>a crippling insecurity about her feet where she like wears socks,

1:11:55.800 --> 1:11:58.200
<v Speaker 2>like doesn't ever let guys see her feet. And this

1:11:58.360 --> 1:12:00.920
<v Speaker 2>person never ever stands even if a she or socks

1:12:01.240 --> 1:12:05.000
<v Speaker 2>like she wouldn't, so he has seen he's seen all

1:12:05.080 --> 1:12:07.800
<v Speaker 2>of her, seen her feet, and she feels buld. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>and he touched and so I get that that he has.

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<v Speaker 3>She feels like she can be totally vulnerable. But I

1:12:13.479 --> 1:12:15.639
<v Speaker 3>guess that, babe, you can be that with someone else.

1:12:15.680 --> 1:12:17.320
<v Speaker 3>If you can do that with him, you can do

1:12:17.439 --> 1:12:20.040
<v Speaker 3>it again. You really can't. I know you might not

1:12:20.160 --> 1:12:22.479
<v Speaker 3>want to do it again, but just because of that

1:12:22.720 --> 1:12:23.519
<v Speaker 3>is not a reason.

1:12:24.080 --> 1:12:24.280
<v Speaker 2>I know.

1:12:24.360 --> 1:12:25.000
<v Speaker 3>It's not just that.

1:12:25.080 --> 1:12:27.439
<v Speaker 2>I know that there's it's deeper than that, but that

1:12:27.600 --> 1:12:31.439
<v Speaker 2>shouldn't even play a factor in this decision. Like this

1:12:31.840 --> 1:12:34.680
<v Speaker 2>dude told you he wanted to move out basically so

1:12:34.840 --> 1:12:36.880
<v Speaker 2>you can go be with other women, whether or not

1:12:37.000 --> 1:12:37.400
<v Speaker 2>you want.

1:12:37.240 --> 1:12:37.840
<v Speaker 3>To admit that or not.

1:12:37.880 --> 1:12:41.960
<v Speaker 2>If that's basically what's happening here, then told you to

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<v Speaker 2>get it tested because low ki, he probably knew something

1:12:44.840 --> 1:12:49.000
<v Speaker 2>was fishy with him. Then you got you got what

1:12:49.160 --> 1:12:54.479
<v Speaker 2>was it called the smack clap this smack I even

1:12:54.560 --> 1:12:55.719
<v Speaker 2>wanting to use that term forever.

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<v Speaker 3>I was like, I know I can't.

1:13:00.200 --> 1:13:06.000
<v Speaker 2>You're glad, yes, And and hasn't called you, So that

1:13:06.200 --> 1:13:09.479
<v Speaker 2>tells you right there, like if he hasn't called you,

1:13:09.920 --> 1:13:14.040
<v Speaker 2>like he's trying to shame you. Too, and so making

1:13:14.120 --> 1:13:17.160
<v Speaker 2>you feel crazy like you suddenly came up with this

1:13:17.600 --> 1:13:20.519
<v Speaker 2>out of nowhere, you magically gained.

1:13:20.360 --> 1:13:23.360
<v Speaker 3>Yourself an STD. Right. No, I've only been with you,

1:13:24.080 --> 1:13:27.920
<v Speaker 3>you know, so somebody else. There's better guys out there,

1:13:28.479 --> 1:13:32.320
<v Speaker 3>there are, they do exist, and they're beautiful. I've seen you.

1:13:32.960 --> 1:13:36.840
<v Speaker 2>I felt your energy, like you you can do you can,

1:13:37.240 --> 1:13:39.760
<v Speaker 2>you can and you will do better. You can will

1:13:39.800 --> 1:13:40.080
<v Speaker 2>do better.

1:13:40.360 --> 1:13:42.280
<v Speaker 3>But first you gotta like remember that ship.

1:13:42.479 --> 1:13:44.840
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, and and like you brought up your weight and

1:13:45.320 --> 1:13:48.880
<v Speaker 2>and like your career being at a standstill and all

1:13:48.920 --> 1:13:51.200
<v Speaker 2>these things that you know could have possibly been that

1:13:51.280 --> 1:13:54.599
<v Speaker 2>you're taking accountability for. But even I said, I told

1:13:54.640 --> 1:13:56.600
<v Speaker 2>you what I emailed you, Like, if that's how you

1:13:56.680 --> 1:14:00.439
<v Speaker 2>feel about you, Like, if you're not feeling sexy for yourself,

1:14:00.520 --> 1:14:02.280
<v Speaker 2>you're not feeling like you're in the best shape, then

1:14:02.439 --> 1:14:03.760
<v Speaker 2>take this time and focus.

1:14:03.479 --> 1:14:05.400
<v Speaker 3>On you don't really feel good, you know, like so

1:14:05.880 --> 1:14:08.240
<v Speaker 3>and take this into your next relationship. Maybe you could

1:14:08.280 --> 1:14:10.920
<v Speaker 3>be like, you know, more conscious of you know, like stay,

1:14:11.360 --> 1:14:13.360
<v Speaker 3>I'm all about keeping shit sexy.

1:14:13.520 --> 1:14:15.080
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, but as one when we always want to put

1:14:15.120 --> 1:14:16.600
<v Speaker 2>the blame on ourselves when it comes to that, I

1:14:16.760 --> 1:14:19.160
<v Speaker 2>used to I did that like I felt like after

1:14:19.479 --> 1:14:21.000
<v Speaker 2>I had like irie, like I.

1:14:21.040 --> 1:14:22.320
<v Speaker 3>Just need it to be more sexy.

1:14:22.400 --> 1:14:24.600
<v Speaker 2>That's why I bleach my hair blonde, because I was

1:14:24.640 --> 1:14:26.840
<v Speaker 2>trying to be like this other vert like this new

1:14:26.920 --> 1:14:29.360
<v Speaker 2>I'm fun mom, I'm still sexy, Like I still got it.

1:14:29.400 --> 1:14:31.680
<v Speaker 3>I could change it up and be like wild, you

1:14:31.760 --> 1:14:35.040
<v Speaker 3>know what I mean. And it's not.

1:14:37.160 --> 1:14:39.559
<v Speaker 2>It's it's not your fault. It's not your fault. If

1:14:39.600 --> 1:14:42.000
<v Speaker 2>you gained weight, it's not your fault. Maybe it's your

1:14:42.040 --> 1:14:43.880
<v Speaker 2>fault with your career is at a sandstill. But guess what,

1:14:44.120 --> 1:14:46.320
<v Speaker 2>Like that's what relationships. Your relationship is going.

1:14:46.320 --> 1:14:47.320
<v Speaker 3>To go through that and push it.

1:14:47.720 --> 1:14:50.080
<v Speaker 2>You can't And if they can't see that, and if

1:14:50.120 --> 1:14:52.680
<v Speaker 2>you can't be if you're going to use that and

1:14:52.960 --> 1:14:57.840
<v Speaker 2>as a as a reason to justify like the endings of.

1:14:57.840 --> 1:14:59.919
<v Speaker 3>Your relationship, then you don't need to be in a relationship.

1:15:00.640 --> 1:15:03.080
<v Speaker 3>And I mean not yet. You got some work to do,

1:15:03.320 --> 1:15:06.920
<v Speaker 3>and you discussed in the beginning he was the custodian.

1:15:07.080 --> 1:15:08.760
<v Speaker 3>Did you put you read that? Yeah, at the place

1:15:08.840 --> 1:15:11.320
<v Speaker 3>you worked, so obviously you were more than willing to

1:15:11.400 --> 1:15:12.960
<v Speaker 3>stick with him and be.

1:15:13.000 --> 1:15:15.240
<v Speaker 2>There when he needed help studying and all these late

1:15:15.360 --> 1:15:17.640
<v Speaker 2>night things and you know he was, and he was,

1:15:17.800 --> 1:15:21.160
<v Speaker 2>you know, bettering himself, and shit, give yourself some credit.

1:15:21.200 --> 1:15:23.400
<v Speaker 3>A lot of pictures wouldn't do that, a lot.

1:15:23.320 --> 1:15:25.360
<v Speaker 2>Of which wouldn't have been interested when to say he

1:15:25.439 --> 1:15:28.599
<v Speaker 2>has multiple baby mamas there, you know you you had your.

1:15:28.600 --> 1:15:30.920
<v Speaker 3>Own reservations and you stuck through him with that. You

1:15:31.040 --> 1:15:32.960
<v Speaker 3>saw him get better in bro, you helped aid that.

1:15:33.560 --> 1:15:35.479
<v Speaker 2>And the fact that he hasn't I mean, even if

1:15:35.600 --> 1:15:37.639
<v Speaker 2>if that's the case, hasn't aided you in the same

1:15:37.720 --> 1:15:41.320
<v Speaker 2>way and push you, then fuck him because a good

1:15:41.520 --> 1:15:44.400
<v Speaker 2>person is going to be like, you know, hey, babe,

1:15:44.560 --> 1:15:46.240
<v Speaker 2>how are we gonna make this better for us?

1:15:46.400 --> 1:15:49.080
<v Speaker 3>What do you think we could do better next time?

1:15:49.120 --> 1:15:51.920
<v Speaker 2>You know what I'm saying, Like, I just and I

1:15:52.040 --> 1:15:54.800
<v Speaker 2>only say that because I'm now for the first time

1:15:54.960 --> 1:15:58.519
<v Speaker 2>in like a situationship with somebody who is like that,

1:15:58.760 --> 1:16:01.360
<v Speaker 2>and it's different, you know, and I like it. You

1:16:01.439 --> 1:16:07.280
<v Speaker 2>know that someone is I'm so once to wants to

1:16:07.560 --> 1:16:10.240
<v Speaker 2>push me to be the better version of myself that.

1:16:10.280 --> 1:16:15.719
<v Speaker 3>Sometimes we forget it's true. It's true anyway.

1:16:15.960 --> 1:16:20.679
<v Speaker 2>I uh, I'm wishing you luck, girlfriend, and I hope

1:16:20.720 --> 1:16:22.080
<v Speaker 2>that you have not emailed him.

1:16:24.000 --> 1:16:28.519
<v Speaker 3>Delete the emails. Don't pick up the phone, don't do it,

1:16:30.880 --> 1:16:33.439
<v Speaker 3>but uh anything else.

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<v Speaker 2>No, we are working on merch and we're gonna have

1:16:42.920 --> 1:16:47.200
<v Speaker 2>that merch up on the site soonersh Jia is looking at.

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<v Speaker 3>Me like we are don't say date, don't launch date,

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<v Speaker 3>no very soon, And so our merch is gonna be

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<v Speaker 3>so cute, guys would be so cute. And not that normal,

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<v Speaker 3>not that normal merch, not that normal podcast merger. Nobody

1:17:00.720 --> 1:17:03.679
<v Speaker 3>wants to wear pod podcast on it. No one wants

1:17:03.680 --> 1:17:08.960
<v Speaker 3>to wear a shirt that says podcast. No, absolutely not.

1:17:09.800 --> 1:17:10.120
<v Speaker 2>I don't.

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<v Speaker 3>I don't, even if you're my bestest friend. I mean no,

1:17:15.280 --> 1:17:17.559
<v Speaker 3>we just do something now. Yeah, it's actually cute.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, and make sure you follow Mela at Mila's Mobile spa.

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<v Speaker 3>Area or.

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<v Speaker 2>Microblading or facials all your spandates, she travels to you

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<v Speaker 2>in the comfort of your own go onto her Instagram

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<v Speaker 2>because you'll see.

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<v Speaker 3>All of her transformations.

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<v Speaker 2>One second, she's gonna do my lashes for mar d Day,

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<v Speaker 2>so I'll be her next model.

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<v Speaker 3>And yeah, that's it. We'll catch you next week. Make

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<v Speaker 3>sure to follow us on at Good Mom's Underscore Bad

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<v Speaker 3>choices if you have any, like you said, course stories,

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<v Speaker 3>you can d m us, or you can email us,

1:18:03.840 --> 1:18:05.320
<v Speaker 3>or you can actually can go our web.

1:18:05.760 --> 1:18:07.479
<v Speaker 2>That's not only where we get all our message. Oh yeah,

1:18:07.520 --> 1:18:09.479
<v Speaker 2>we gotta go to our website, Good Bumps, Bad Choices

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<v Speaker 2>dot com. And then you can just write on our

1:18:12.360 --> 1:18:14.759
<v Speaker 2>contact sheet or you can d m us whatever's easier,

1:18:15.120 --> 1:18:20.000
<v Speaker 2>like just reach out, send a pigeon, send us some

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<v Speaker 2>pictures or something.

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<v Speaker 3>You know, keep it fun, keep it fun, Send we

1:18:26.720 --> 1:18:33.439
<v Speaker 3>love news. Oh no, oh no, we're so bad our

1:18:33.520 --> 1:18:42.200
<v Speaker 3>same boo. Anyway, we just show our boobs. Okay, I

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<v Speaker 3>guess that's good night, night by bye, follows dude began,

1:19:05.040 --> 1:19:06.439
<v Speaker 3>that's the way it is.

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<v Speaker 2>Playing say play fun play.

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<v Speaker 3>He didn't think shot it ou