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Speaker 1: The Blaze is going to playte is going to hate

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Speaker 2: The Mother's going to ball. I don't mind what people

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Speaker 2: say you do, but I don't mind what do you

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Speaker 2: believe to you?

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Speaker 3: Are you leave on getting your mother? Because what they do,

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Speaker 3: what they do ain't nothing to do play. They don't

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Speaker 3: playing and hate ball shot coming, Welcome back.

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Speaker 2: This is good mom's bad choices. I'm Erica and I'm Nila,

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Speaker 2: and we're back.

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Speaker 3: I feel like we've took her two weeks off. I

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Speaker 3: feel like this has been a while. Well, be recorded. Yeah,

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Speaker 3: that's what I mean. Yeah, take two weeks off. We're prerecorded. Yeah,

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Speaker 3: it wasn't as a like before. It wasn't like VAKA

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Speaker 3: like on vacation. You're right, yeah, yeah, is that girl?

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Speaker 3: What did it do? I think there's a plane passing.

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Speaker 3: There's always a plane passing. Can you hear like the crickets?

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Speaker 3: Like the outdoors.

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Speaker 2: I wonder have you ever have you ever listened to

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Speaker 2: Oprah's Super Soul Sunday podcast or watched it on the

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Speaker 2: own networks. She's always outside in her garden, like drinking lemonade.

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Speaker 2: There's like the birds like yeah, so I kind of we.

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Speaker 3: Know we're doing our own version of the Super Soul

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Speaker 3: Sunday Good Monster. That's I was thinking. Maybe it's like

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Speaker 3: we're camping.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, basically odd. We were out there and there was

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Speaker 2: a rat that was Yeah, there's crickets. My backyard is

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Speaker 3: Why did we take oh, because why did we take

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Speaker 3: two weeks off? Oh? You went to Jersey. I went

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Speaker 3: to Jersey and you went to Florida. I went to Florida.

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Speaker 3: We said, it's like fucking every week because I mean

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Speaker 3: I went, like, I feel like I'm in Florida. A

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Speaker 3: lot that's going on. I was Florida. It was cool,

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Speaker 3: you know. We we were doing work out there and ts. No,

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Speaker 3: I'm done with Tinder.

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Speaker 2: Although you know.

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Speaker 3: I was going to hang out with Jasmine je sitting Jasmine.

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Speaker 3: Oh we didn't. We didn't. I didn't have time. We didn't.

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Speaker 3: We haven't made it happen. We're gonna hang out.

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Speaker 2: Hopefully the next time I go out there and chill,

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Speaker 2: maybe I'll get some fetish trainings.

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Speaker 3: Oh that would be nice. You could come.

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Speaker 2: Sure, that'd be really nice because I always kink it

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Speaker 2: up a little more, always step up my game.

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Speaker 3: I'm always into like tips and tricks. If you guys

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Speaker 3: have any tips and tricks, you please also don't tell

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Speaker 3: me those.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I think all women continues some act like speaking

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Speaker 2: of tips and tricks, can you please send us your

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Speaker 2: horries book service announcement.

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Speaker 3: We're gonna start with us at the top.

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Speaker 2: We're trying to do like a fun, hoary Halloween episodes,

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Speaker 2: so we need like all the top horries.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, we need all your hotels, scary scary horror stories,

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Speaker 4: juicy ones, ones you wish you never that never happened, embarrassing.

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Speaker 3: We need an effer an episode, which is I know

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Speaker 3: it's asking a lot. We need on enough for well,

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Speaker 3: we need at least like six good ones. Yeah, but

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Speaker 3: yeah six to ten.

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Speaker 2: Oh my god, I fucking just you could pick me

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Speaker 2: up from like the crab Shack or whatever the fuck

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Speaker 2: b by Crabby crab on fan eyes right across from

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Speaker 2: the thatches that.

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Speaker 3: Yeah.

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Speaker 2: I love crab and ship and like the eating pill.

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Speaker 2: But I fucking smell like occasion. You do you actually

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Speaker 2: smell like I still smell the kids spurt? Is that

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Speaker 3: Spicy peppery? She got in my car and I thought

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Speaker 3: she had food with her and she was like, no,

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Speaker 3: but every time I go, I'm like, do I don't

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Speaker 2: And I was like, you can't do it.

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Speaker 3: No, you ain't going. You better not go try to

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Speaker 3: go to house. No like that.

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Speaker 2: Goddamn sure, No, you need like a two day details.

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Speaker 2: You didn't like sit in Vinegar like it's so strong.

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Speaker 2: I couldn't live in New Orleans. That would just be

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Speaker 2: a occasions. Okay, anyway, sorry I took myself off the beat.

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Speaker 3: How was journey? Okay? So yeah, Florida was cool?

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Speaker 2: How kinks and tricks? Speaking of kinks and tricks, oh Flora? Okay, okay, okay,

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Speaker 2: I say you actually have a kink or a trick?

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Speaker 3: Oh? Do I have a king trip? Yeah? A kinky trick? Yeah,

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Speaker 3: like any tips or kinky tricks?

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Speaker 2: Like to add, I'm always into what other women's kinky

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Speaker 2: trips like chips are because then you can implement them

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Speaker 2: in your bedroom and like spice of that maybe something

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Speaker 3: Are you asking me what of mine right now? Currently?

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Speaker 5: Oh?

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Speaker 3: My god, put the spot.

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Speaker 2: I just want to know if you're some shit I

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Speaker 2: don't I'm not doing and if anybody else has any,

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Speaker 2: I mean we should share them, right because they you like,

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Speaker 2: step up everybody's secks. Games is like a community situation.

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Speaker 3: I mean, I always like, I think role play is

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Speaker 2: I am into role play too, but I feel like

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Speaker 3: Come off so I know, what do you mean, come

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Speaker 3: I like, I don't think everybody can get into it,

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Speaker 2: They're not an a star actress, action, a working actor,

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Speaker 2: an active actor.

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Speaker 3: You're not an active actor. You may not want to

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Speaker 2: A we literally someone recently, an actor, said that they're

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Speaker 2: an active actor and I was dead, like, what do

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Speaker 2: Anyway, okay, because there was a time like I was

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Speaker 3: Like halfway through he was like, all right, like I

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Speaker 3: don't want to but I want to fuck you. This

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Speaker 2: He couldn't like, yeah, yeah, I think role play is

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Speaker 2: it's more for I feel like, for me, I do

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Speaker 2: the bat day one. But maybe maybe if you did,

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Speaker 2: maybe if you did, it would like, you know, open

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Speaker 3: Why do we wait till to de fan to do

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Speaker 3: kinky ship. You're right, maybe I need to step up

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Speaker 3: my role play again with happy Bay.

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Speaker 2: But then I also would be scared to just like

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Speaker 2: would be a good way intro love. I've never known this,

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Speaker 2: but I've always wanted to intro level role play, Like

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Speaker 2: I meant to do this fuck and like get a

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Speaker 3: Act like you're, oh, like you're new, You're like like

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Speaker 3: you're like a couple, a stranger. That's like level one, right, Yeah,

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Speaker 3: it makes it easier.

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Speaker 2: I think you kind of give a idea just like

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Speaker 2: an idea for like a married couple a relationship for

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Speaker 2: a long time time to spice it up. Speaking of this,

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Speaker 2: I have a hair dressesdn't tell me this crazy story

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Speaker 3: Her and was like, oh did that like like I

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Speaker 2: Like I have a guy friend that is single, and

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Speaker 2: I think you guys like some weard shit like this

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Speaker 2: she got. She goes back and forth with this woman,

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Speaker 3: And then if she's just steady playing and this is

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Speaker 3: so she wanted her to suck her man, but she

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Speaker 3: kept saying she said they kept sucking up and saying like, babe,

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Speaker 2: Wait? Did the wife or girlfriend end up wanting to

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Speaker 2: this girl because this is a random haare dresser told

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Speaker 2: I forgot. I think she finally was like, you know,

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Speaker 3: I know what you're trying to do. Like I can

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Speaker 2: Know each otherday, like you guys are sucking and I

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Speaker 2: think that they're like finally admitted that, like yeah, they're

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Speaker 3: But I thought, wow, what you went to level of

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Speaker 3: ten and that's kind of hot, Like who knows to what?

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Speaker 3: Like to what extreme will you keep your your sex

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Speaker 2: It's coming soon topic, yeah, maybe to any extreme because

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Speaker 2: then it's you know, it's kind of like that kinky

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Speaker 3: You know what's going on. And actually she kind of

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Speaker 2: Yes, that's very yeah, I want to do that. That's

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Speaker 2: How far shall we go together? We're of your predators,

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Speaker 2: let's get But I was like, damn, that's what I'm

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Speaker 2: thought about about the couple. Oh my god, Oh but

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Speaker 2: that's what that's what I mean. Okay, obviously they went

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Speaker 3: Like, that's why we should share with you. What's your

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Speaker 2: Oh tip, I told you what I think level like

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Speaker 2: a nice entry level. Well no, but else is that

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Speaker 2: you know that's gone wrong for me? I kind of

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Speaker 2: did that sort of in my last relationship. I rented

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Speaker 2: it was like I went to a hotel room. I

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Speaker 2: like got all these sexy games we could play, like spice.

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Speaker 3: It up, and it did not go well. Why he

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Speaker 2: Huh you cut that off immediately? No, okay, it was

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Speaker 2: it was a rough patch offended. Yeah, I mean no,

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Speaker 2: you shouldn't be offended. She actually offended. I'm trying.

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Speaker 3: That was a sign. Yeah, I don't know why I

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Speaker 2: I think like sex ships just like a surprise pussy wax,

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Speaker 2: if you don't always do that, like hey, look what

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Speaker 2: or like if you were like an outfit that you

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Speaker 3: Just even like that.

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Speaker 2: It's a little bit sexy if you've been in like

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Speaker 3: It's like my face, closest flock, the biggest fun on.

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Speaker 3: Jesus Christ. Okay, wow, okay, anyway, I don't know if

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Speaker 3: I went to Jersey. We scheduled to have uh therapy.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, screwity is some screty. No, I'm anyway, whatever fu it.

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Speaker 3: Just like dancing a little bit, like alright, but to

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Speaker 2: I'm not why did we even come, but you know what,

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Speaker 3: We drank and smoked whatever. You know, bad choice is shit.

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Speaker 2: But I didn't have my kid diverybing now because my

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Speaker 3: So like you me, Yeah, that's pretty much it.

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Speaker 3: Weekend, you're gonna talk about a weekend? Oh yeah, this

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Speaker 2: My girlfriend was having a huge runway show during LA

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Speaker 3: Shout out to the Model Experience.

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Speaker 2: Anybody who's aspiring to be a model in somewhere, you

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Speaker 2: Anyway, I was one of her shows and h Happy

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Speaker 3: Oh he did. Yeah, Oh, I didn't know that we

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Speaker 2: I'm like, okay, we gotta go Sam's because you know,

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Speaker 2: Were We're talking about Sam's. The strip cluff that's local

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Speaker 3: A monthst the better ones in La went. It's like

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Speaker 3: But but yeah, So we got out of that and

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Speaker 3: She's like, gabbage, I'm coming. Okay.

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Speaker 2: So I pull into Sam's with the happy Bay, who

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Speaker 3: And immediately I'm just like, fuck, like I have happy

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Speaker 3: This is awkward. Me and him are, you know, on

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Speaker 2: And I just didn't think that the strip club was

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Speaker 2: And that was like that first time that like I've

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Speaker 3: But I just didn't feel like the strip club was

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Speaker 2: I mean, at first, I was annoyed because I'm not

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Speaker 2: It's like, you know, after after we left, Happy Bay

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Speaker 2: it's not not really, it didn't. It doesn't really have

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Speaker 3: It's has nothing to do with him. He is great.

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Speaker 2: He would approach a situation in the best way possible.

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Speaker 3: It's not that, it's just that I also have so

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Speaker 2: I didn't he doesn't deserve to for this encounter, this

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Speaker 3: So that was weird. And now I'm like, what the

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Speaker 2: How?

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Speaker 2: especially because it's not No, it's not because he'll come

440
00:22:17,400 --> 00:22:21,200
Speaker 2: out here and I know I'm not gonna let you purposely, Yeah,

441
00:22:21,320 --> 00:22:23,680
Speaker 2: why not though he's your man? Like you couldn't just

442
00:22:23,800 --> 00:22:26,400
Speaker 2: like maybe you're dropping Luna off to go to take him.

443
00:22:26,760 --> 00:22:28,840
Speaker 2: Were he wunna come in and stand in the car? Yeah,

444
00:22:28,920 --> 00:22:29,600
Speaker 2: but if he came.

445
00:22:29,520 --> 00:22:32,320
Speaker 3: Outside, you know what I mean? Like you can only

446
00:22:32,400 --> 00:22:34,040
Speaker 3: hide in that situation for song. You shouldn't.

447
00:22:34,119 --> 00:22:37,479
Speaker 2: You shouldn't, Oh my god, seeking this okay? So perfect

448
00:22:37,520 --> 00:22:39,679
Speaker 2: example actually, but not perfect because it's not a thing.

449
00:22:39,960 --> 00:22:41,480
Speaker 2: So obviously I was in Jersey, I had to like,

450
00:22:41,720 --> 00:22:44,920
Speaker 2: you know, I'm facetiming Lou and usually I do. I

451
00:22:45,000 --> 00:22:46,879
Speaker 2: avoid it, like I watch till him alone, and I

452
00:22:47,000 --> 00:22:49,560
Speaker 2: did wait till I was long, But like he started

453
00:22:49,720 --> 00:22:51,800
Speaker 2: coming back up like up the stairs. Well was on

454
00:22:51,840 --> 00:22:54,320
Speaker 2: the phone, wasn't gonna like but I knew be D

455
00:22:54,520 --> 00:22:56,600
Speaker 2: was holding the phone from how because I can actually

456
00:22:56,600 --> 00:23:00,600
Speaker 2: see your face because three year old told a FaceTime

457
00:23:01,280 --> 00:23:03,960
Speaker 2: it's fucking like what is it called a.

458
00:23:05,760 --> 00:23:12,320
Speaker 3: Yeah? So he comes in the camera and he's like, hello,

459
00:23:12,720 --> 00:23:15,000
Speaker 3: what she doing? Hang her out like talking to her.

460
00:23:15,040 --> 00:23:16,720
Speaker 3: And I didn't want to be like no, no, get

461
00:23:16,720 --> 00:23:16,960
Speaker 3: out the.

462
00:23:17,000 --> 00:23:19,840
Speaker 2: Camera, but I was just like I just let it ride,

463
00:23:20,000 --> 00:23:23,639
Speaker 2: and I like sack like moments later, like I waited

464
00:23:23,800 --> 00:23:27,000
Speaker 2: like fifteen seconds for it, and then the phone hung

465
00:23:27,119 --> 00:23:29,240
Speaker 2: up mysteriously and he said this phone night.

466
00:23:29,560 --> 00:23:31,960
Speaker 3: But I know that it was just like he could

467
00:23:32,040 --> 00:23:33,280
Speaker 3: see him. It was awkward.

468
00:23:33,320 --> 00:23:35,560
Speaker 2: That's a preview what that's gonna look like, right, Well,

469
00:23:35,640 --> 00:23:38,480
Speaker 2: I mean he's so mature, That's why I would like, he.

470
00:23:38,480 --> 00:23:40,680
Speaker 3: Probably wouldn't do shit. He probably so quiet. If you

471
00:23:40,760 --> 00:23:43,199
Speaker 3: met Anthony, you probably wouldn't do shit. He wouldn't. He's

472
00:23:43,200 --> 00:23:45,080
Speaker 3: not gonna do shit. But I'm just I just know

473
00:23:45,080 --> 00:23:46,600
Speaker 3: it would be awkward. I mean, I just I can

474
00:23:46,800 --> 00:23:49,240
Speaker 3: totally understand where you're coming from.

475
00:23:49,320 --> 00:23:51,000
Speaker 2: Not wanting to give in that situation in any way

476
00:23:51,040 --> 00:23:53,080
Speaker 2: shape form or fashion, especially.

477
00:23:52,720 --> 00:23:53,280
Speaker 3: At a ship club.

478
00:23:53,280 --> 00:23:54,880
Speaker 2: And it's not like it's not like in passing you're

479
00:23:54,880 --> 00:23:57,600
Speaker 2: about to leave. You just up in there, chilling, sitting

480
00:23:58,119 --> 00:24:00,920
Speaker 2: Sharon looking at it, pissy and drink drinks.

481
00:24:00,760 --> 00:24:03,280
Speaker 3: Like I just have a feeling had I went in

482
00:24:03,400 --> 00:24:05,000
Speaker 3: there like he would have like.

483
00:24:06,840 --> 00:24:09,440
Speaker 1: Went hard with girls in front of me because it's

484
00:24:09,520 --> 00:24:15,359
Speaker 1: hurt right, well yeah, probably yeah, And it's not that

485
00:24:15,480 --> 00:24:19,720
Speaker 1: I it's not that I'm like romantically even have I

486
00:24:19,760 --> 00:24:22,960
Speaker 1: don't have romantic feelings for him anymore really, but just

487
00:24:23,080 --> 00:24:24,080
Speaker 1: I don't need that visual.

488
00:24:24,720 --> 00:24:26,600
Speaker 3: No, nobody wants that visual.

489
00:24:27,560 --> 00:24:30,919
Speaker 2: And you know what, it's not like fresh and new. However,

490
00:24:31,680 --> 00:24:34,120
Speaker 2: you haven't had to see that, right, that is fresh

491
00:24:34,119 --> 00:24:35,920
Speaker 2: and new. That is fresh and new, yeah.

492
00:24:35,960 --> 00:24:39,359
Speaker 3: And yeah, and not that it might not even ever happen.

493
00:24:39,680 --> 00:24:42,160
Speaker 2: That's just like what I was what I didn't want

494
00:24:42,200 --> 00:24:43,399
Speaker 2: to have to be. I didn't want to have to

495
00:24:43,640 --> 00:24:48,000
Speaker 2: see that and experience that with I didn't want him

496
00:24:48,000 --> 00:24:50,680
Speaker 2: to feel my energy shift, right and change. And he

497
00:24:50,760 --> 00:24:52,880
Speaker 2: did anyway, he felt my energy shift when we left,

498
00:24:52,920 --> 00:24:55,280
Speaker 2: and he was like, are you okay? And he was like,

499
00:24:55,440 --> 00:24:57,639
Speaker 2: I want you to know, like if you want to

500
00:24:57,680 --> 00:25:00,680
Speaker 2: go in there like and I don't want me to

501
00:25:00,800 --> 00:25:02,120
Speaker 2: stop you and your friends.

502
00:25:01,960 --> 00:25:03,720
Speaker 3: From having a good time. I was like, me and

503
00:25:03,760 --> 00:25:04,920
Speaker 3: my friends are not gonna have a good time to

504
00:25:05,000 --> 00:25:06,800
Speaker 3: go on because I don't want to be there.

505
00:25:06,840 --> 00:25:09,280
Speaker 2: I would rather I would much rather go somewhere else

506
00:25:09,920 --> 00:25:13,000
Speaker 2: together together, yeah, or just not go at all.

507
00:25:13,480 --> 00:25:17,040
Speaker 3: Right, But anyway, that was interesting. I just it's like

508
00:25:17,119 --> 00:25:18,520
Speaker 3: the first time that that's happened.

509
00:25:18,600 --> 00:25:22,560
Speaker 2: I'm sure like that's happened to many people before, probably

510
00:25:22,600 --> 00:25:24,360
Speaker 2: some of our listeners and stuff. If you have any

511
00:25:24,400 --> 00:25:30,320
Speaker 2: advice as to how you introduce introduce your insignificant other

512
00:25:31,280 --> 00:25:36,440
Speaker 2: or even just someone you're dating to your baby daddy smoothly,

513
00:25:37,240 --> 00:25:39,440
Speaker 2: let me know, right well.

514
00:25:39,440 --> 00:25:40,920
Speaker 3: Then me try to make it seem like it's cool.

515
00:25:40,960 --> 00:25:43,040
Speaker 3: You know, it's so good, Like you know that's that

516
00:25:43,400 --> 00:25:44,160
Speaker 3: I give a fuck.

517
00:25:45,320 --> 00:25:47,200
Speaker 2: You know it's so good, like you'll never have to

518
00:25:47,320 --> 00:25:49,200
Speaker 2: worry about you know, it would be weird a friend

519
00:25:49,200 --> 00:25:50,200
Speaker 2: of like your friend.

520
00:25:51,040 --> 00:26:01,679
Speaker 3: I'm like, I guess anyway, awkward, but it is awkward anyway.

521
00:26:01,760 --> 00:26:05,680
Speaker 3: This weekend we also got our first hater. Yeah we did.

522
00:26:07,119 --> 00:26:09,280
Speaker 3: We got like a friend. We've got a hater. We've

523
00:26:09,320 --> 00:26:13,080
Speaker 3: had a hater before, not like this, though. The other one. Yeah,

524
00:26:13,119 --> 00:26:14,639
Speaker 3: we have like a hater before, but like it was

525
00:26:14,720 --> 00:26:20,200
Speaker 3: my fuck up. Oh wait oh yeah yeah that hard. Yeah, yeah,

526
00:26:20,440 --> 00:26:23,960
Speaker 3: is that what you're talking about? Yeah, you're talking about Yeah,

527
00:26:24,600 --> 00:26:29,480
Speaker 3: when I talk about we're like in high school.

528
00:26:29,520 --> 00:26:40,800
Speaker 6: Yeah, at least, well we got a thread of ship

529
00:26:40,960 --> 00:26:42,960
Speaker 6: talking basically about.

530
00:26:44,160 --> 00:26:47,080
Speaker 3: I think it's it's kind of it tickles me a little.

531
00:26:47,400 --> 00:26:51,560
Speaker 2: About us basically talking too freely and openly about sex

532
00:26:51,600 --> 00:26:52,440
Speaker 2: in front of our kids.

533
00:26:57,359 --> 00:27:03,080
Speaker 3: M h. I think that we've been doing this for

534
00:27:03,160 --> 00:27:06,240
Speaker 3: eight months and we've gotten so much love that I'm like,

535
00:27:08,080 --> 00:27:10,080
Speaker 3: I mean, this is the thing, is that I feel

536
00:27:10,119 --> 00:27:11,600
Speaker 3: like I'm careful about what I say in front of

537
00:27:11,600 --> 00:27:13,960
Speaker 3: my daughter, you know, like nobody's gonna be more conscious

538
00:27:14,080 --> 00:27:16,320
Speaker 3: than us, Like of course my daughter is.

539
00:27:16,720 --> 00:27:18,879
Speaker 2: Of course maybe well maybe to some people, I am

540
00:27:18,960 --> 00:27:20,240
Speaker 2: too free with her, you know what I mean, And

541
00:27:20,320 --> 00:27:23,879
Speaker 2: that's fine, But I know what I feel. I know

542
00:27:24,040 --> 00:27:26,360
Speaker 2: that I have good boundaries, and I know that I'm

543
00:27:26,520 --> 00:27:31,040
Speaker 2: teaching her, you know, about sex, body parts and all

544
00:27:31,119 --> 00:27:34,120
Speaker 2: those things, so that it's it shouldn't be an awkward conversation.

545
00:27:34,280 --> 00:27:35,920
Speaker 3: It shouldn't be like some secret conversation.

546
00:27:35,960 --> 00:27:37,719
Speaker 2: Of course I'm not having like like I don't want

547
00:27:37,760 --> 00:27:39,520
Speaker 2: her to be in the room I'm talking about, Like,

548
00:27:39,960 --> 00:27:41,400
Speaker 2: I don't want her to be listening to me talking

549
00:27:41,440 --> 00:27:43,680
Speaker 2: about my like nastiest horror story.

550
00:27:43,960 --> 00:27:48,880
Speaker 3: No, not really, I don't. And how about this, you guys,

551
00:27:49,480 --> 00:27:50,120
Speaker 3: you're not here?

552
00:27:51,119 --> 00:27:53,240
Speaker 2: Yeah? Ho about you're not here? And we pause, we

553
00:27:53,480 --> 00:27:58,159
Speaker 2: edit this shit sometimes. So yeah, it just kind of

554
00:27:58,280 --> 00:28:01,359
Speaker 2: like opened up this conversation. It's bigger conversation for me

555
00:28:02,080 --> 00:28:05,680
Speaker 2: about just how people judge people as parents because and

556
00:28:05,720 --> 00:28:08,160
Speaker 2: I was telling Jamilla this, like I feel like everyone's

557
00:28:08,680 --> 00:28:11,280
Speaker 2: everyone's experience as a parent is so based off of

558
00:28:11,359 --> 00:28:14,520
Speaker 2: whatever they experience growing up, and everyone's experience is unique.

559
00:28:14,640 --> 00:28:17,439
Speaker 2: Every experience is different, and so when you base your

560
00:28:17,520 --> 00:28:20,440
Speaker 2: parenting off of the way you grew up or what

561
00:28:20,560 --> 00:28:22,960
Speaker 2: you saw and you wish you had more of, you know,

562
00:28:23,320 --> 00:28:26,920
Speaker 2: every experience is gonna be tailored and curated differently.

563
00:28:27,119 --> 00:28:28,800
Speaker 3: How about this, who the fuck are you?

564
00:28:29,440 --> 00:28:32,560
Speaker 2: No, there's that too, more like this Chris girl was

565
00:28:32,600 --> 00:28:36,040
Speaker 2: so disrespectful though, Like she was talking about our kids, like, yeah,

566
00:28:36,160 --> 00:28:38,920
Speaker 2: I mean, and of course we put ourselves out there, Okay,

567
00:28:39,240 --> 00:28:41,840
Speaker 2: we do have I mean, yeah, we're very transparent, and

568
00:28:41,920 --> 00:28:43,959
Speaker 2: that's a part of the whole reason why we did

569
00:28:44,000 --> 00:28:45,720
Speaker 2: this is like we're going to do it and be

570
00:28:45,840 --> 00:28:50,840
Speaker 2: honest or not do it, and we obviously our kids

571
00:28:50,880 --> 00:28:54,080
Speaker 2: are a part of it because we're moms and that's inevitable.

572
00:28:54,240 --> 00:28:56,880
Speaker 2: So I'm not like, you know, people like put theirselves

573
00:28:56,920 --> 00:28:58,720
Speaker 2: out there and then I'm surprised and they get criticism.

574
00:28:59,160 --> 00:29:01,960
Speaker 2: I'm not surprised your shocks. People are gonna have their opinions.

575
00:29:02,040 --> 00:29:05,040
Speaker 2: But yeah, like worry about yourself and your parenting, Like.

576
00:29:05,080 --> 00:29:07,240
Speaker 3: That's just the bottom you know, Like that's the bottom line.

577
00:29:07,440 --> 00:29:10,400
Speaker 3: Like who if you felt real concerned.

578
00:29:10,520 --> 00:29:12,680
Speaker 2: This is the funny part is that the this this

579
00:29:13,080 --> 00:29:17,200
Speaker 2: blog that had this stream of comments, The woman who

580
00:29:17,240 --> 00:29:20,200
Speaker 2: wrote the blog post kept commenting like when of the

581
00:29:20,200 --> 00:29:23,240
Speaker 2: people would comment, but like respond, this woman had listened

582
00:29:23,280 --> 00:29:25,440
Speaker 2: to like almost all of our episodes. She's like she

583
00:29:25,600 --> 00:29:29,080
Speaker 2: was like referring to the titles and the names and

584
00:29:29,120 --> 00:29:31,920
Speaker 2: the different guests we had, and I'm like, here's my thing.

585
00:29:32,000 --> 00:29:35,000
Speaker 2: If you have such a problem with my podcast, why

586
00:29:35,040 --> 00:29:37,480
Speaker 2: the fuck are you listening to every single episode?

587
00:29:38,080 --> 00:29:40,320
Speaker 3: If it's such a problem, Right, you like it? Yeah?

588
00:29:40,320 --> 00:29:41,600
Speaker 2: You like just you like it?

589
00:29:41,960 --> 00:29:43,960
Speaker 3: I like it. You're right, just like it because I

590
00:29:44,080 --> 00:29:46,640
Speaker 3: listened to like twenty minutes old podcast. She tried to say,

591
00:29:46,720 --> 00:29:48,840
Speaker 3: like she tried to like, that's why I don't like

592
00:29:48,920 --> 00:29:50,800
Speaker 3: what You're gonna just hate. They just hate. Don't like

593
00:29:50,920 --> 00:29:53,000
Speaker 3: try to be nice and then hate. Like she was like, oh,

594
00:29:53,080 --> 00:29:57,080
Speaker 3: you know, they seem really smart, but like, that's what

595
00:29:57,160 --> 00:29:59,440
Speaker 3: do you take that's how kids turn out fast?

596
00:30:00,560 --> 00:30:03,000
Speaker 2: Actually, dude, kids tearing out fast because the moms are

597
00:30:03,040 --> 00:30:06,640
Speaker 2: not having the conversation. It's completely avoided. They're not educated

598
00:30:06,680 --> 00:30:09,920
Speaker 2: in those manners. They're basically the fuck oblivious. But one

599
00:30:10,000 --> 00:30:11,520
Speaker 2: thing is for sure, and few things. I'm sorry we're

600
00:30:11,560 --> 00:30:14,120
Speaker 2: not talking about it to our three year olds about specifics,

601
00:30:14,280 --> 00:30:17,200
Speaker 2: but they're definitely gonna be exposed and they're definitely gonna

602
00:30:17,240 --> 00:30:19,200
Speaker 2: be knowledgeable and educated, and it's not going to be

603
00:30:19,280 --> 00:30:20,480
Speaker 2: some taboo conversation.

604
00:30:21,200 --> 00:30:26,640
Speaker 3: So you know, I was just really good the whole thing.

605
00:30:26,880 --> 00:30:28,680
Speaker 3: The funny part is like we got a comment that

606
00:30:28,840 --> 00:30:32,280
Speaker 3: referred to like this this some some blog that we've

607
00:30:32,360 --> 00:30:34,040
Speaker 3: never we've never been on. So I'm like, what does

608
00:30:34,080 --> 00:30:35,760
Speaker 3: this comment? What does this mean? I call her like

609
00:30:35,880 --> 00:30:36,920
Speaker 3: do you see this? What does this mean?

610
00:30:37,000 --> 00:30:38,960
Speaker 2: She's like what? I was like, what is this?

611
00:30:39,400 --> 00:30:40,160
Speaker 3: So I come over.

612
00:30:40,240 --> 00:30:42,320
Speaker 2: We're like trying to go on the internet and figure

613
00:30:42,360 --> 00:30:45,000
Speaker 2: it out. And if you can see us to school, Like,

614
00:30:45,200 --> 00:30:45,640
Speaker 2: just like, how do.

615
00:30:45,640 --> 00:30:48,480
Speaker 3: You work it? What shopping? We gotta sign up for

616
00:30:48,560 --> 00:30:50,560
Speaker 3: a membership. Yeah, we have to sign up for a memory.

617
00:30:50,720 --> 00:30:53,160
Speaker 2: So people signed up for a membership to get talk

618
00:30:53,240 --> 00:30:55,600
Speaker 2: share about other people. Yeah you go, you can through

619
00:30:55,680 --> 00:30:58,040
Speaker 2: great lens to just talk some shit.

620
00:30:59,240 --> 00:31:02,880
Speaker 3: Just call your home the fuck Like it's like a member.

621
00:31:02,960 --> 00:31:05,160
Speaker 2: She had to get approved. I don't think I ever

622
00:31:05,200 --> 00:31:08,520
Speaker 2: got approved. I was probably a waiting list calling people

623
00:31:08,560 --> 00:31:09,880
Speaker 2: like you got an account at him?

624
00:31:10,440 --> 00:31:14,200
Speaker 3: Okay. I'm like, maybe if we put it on the Google.

625
00:31:16,000 --> 00:31:19,320
Speaker 2: Googling this shit bag, I'm a pictures two hundred and

626
00:31:19,440 --> 00:31:21,560
Speaker 2: sixty three pages and one topic.

627
00:31:21,960 --> 00:31:24,320
Speaker 3: How will we ever find it? Oh my god, let

628
00:31:24,400 --> 00:31:27,680
Speaker 3: me find it? Like we found it. I was like, what, Okay,

629
00:31:28,040 --> 00:31:29,880
Speaker 3: So the girl who whatever. I don't spend too much

630
00:31:29,880 --> 00:31:33,440
Speaker 3: time on this woman because she is trying pictures. She's trash.

631
00:31:33,880 --> 00:31:36,520
Speaker 2: But that's not even not she didn't even I'm talking

632
00:31:36,520 --> 00:31:38,920
Speaker 2: about the girl. I'm talking about the girl who made

633
00:31:39,000 --> 00:31:41,400
Speaker 2: us aware of this, Like the girl who wrote the

634
00:31:41,440 --> 00:31:43,200
Speaker 2: post on the blog.

635
00:31:43,160 --> 00:31:45,480
Speaker 3: She was she was a hater too, But the one

636
00:31:45,480 --> 00:31:48,160
Speaker 3: who made it aware, made us aware of this. She's

637
00:31:48,400 --> 00:31:49,480
Speaker 3: really the she.

638
00:31:49,680 --> 00:31:52,520
Speaker 2: Was the one who started all of this. She told

639
00:31:52,640 --> 00:31:54,920
Speaker 2: us about it because she wanted to get us round up.

640
00:31:55,320 --> 00:31:56,920
Speaker 2: That's what you know, Like it's those people that like

641
00:31:57,000 --> 00:31:58,960
Speaker 2: plant little seeds if this what was her point of

642
00:31:59,440 --> 00:32:01,200
Speaker 2: She wanted to to know that people were talking about

643
00:32:01,240 --> 00:32:03,040
Speaker 2: us and that she agreed with them, but she likes

644
00:32:03,120 --> 00:32:03,480
Speaker 2: us too.

645
00:32:03,720 --> 00:32:06,440
Speaker 3: Why thank you to that girl? I thank you? Sher

646
00:32:06,480 --> 00:32:09,240
Speaker 3: mom is still listening now, I know she is. Father's

647
00:32:09,240 --> 00:32:12,840
Speaker 3: still listening now. Guess what. It's crash.

648
00:32:13,120 --> 00:32:17,160
Speaker 2: But it's actually, honestly very flattering. I think it's very flattering,

649
00:32:17,320 --> 00:32:21,640
Speaker 2: Like you're listening? Are you went all into our Instagram

650
00:32:21,720 --> 00:32:24,520
Speaker 2: and found this and then proceeded to write long paragraphs

651
00:32:24,680 --> 00:32:28,680
Speaker 2: talking mad Ship in detail because I told her to. Second, Dick,

652
00:32:29,760 --> 00:32:32,280
Speaker 2: I did because I just gonnat believe like all the

653
00:32:32,320 --> 00:32:35,560
Speaker 2: things she said about like Luna and just I can't.

654
00:32:35,720 --> 00:32:37,880
Speaker 3: I just can't believe it. You know, she sounded like

655
00:32:37,920 --> 00:32:41,320
Speaker 3: someone doesn't have a kid. Mommy, I don't want my past.

656
00:32:42,160 --> 00:32:44,960
Speaker 3: It's still in my bulletdouts. I don't want it. Oh

657
00:32:45,080 --> 00:32:46,800
Speaker 3: so you were Is that what you're telling me? Because

658
00:32:46,800 --> 00:32:48,680
Speaker 3: you just told me that you ate it, and I

659
00:32:48,760 --> 00:32:54,440
Speaker 3: was gonna find out that you did it. Okay, we'll

660
00:32:54,440 --> 00:32:56,240
Speaker 3: go get a snack. There's one, there's you know where

661
00:32:56,240 --> 00:33:01,280
Speaker 3: they are. Anyway, it was just it just the whole situation.

662
00:33:02,720 --> 00:33:05,120
Speaker 3: It made me angry at first, and then it made

663
00:33:05,160 --> 00:33:07,000
Speaker 3: me laugh and then I was like, well, you know what,

664
00:33:07,160 --> 00:33:09,440
Speaker 3: we're doing something right, because if you don't have any haters,

665
00:33:09,440 --> 00:33:12,080
Speaker 3: they're not doing nothing. You need a few haters, you

666
00:33:12,160 --> 00:33:15,320
Speaker 3: need a lot of them. So and we now with success,

667
00:33:15,800 --> 00:33:21,800
Speaker 3: the haters come. It's called balance, baby, you know. And

668
00:33:22,280 --> 00:33:23,120
Speaker 3: I think it's great.

669
00:33:24,280 --> 00:33:29,320
Speaker 2: But it just made me realize, like maybe really think about, yeah,

670
00:33:29,480 --> 00:33:32,920
Speaker 2: just how we as women judge each other and judge

671
00:33:33,080 --> 00:33:37,400
Speaker 2: judge other mothers. Mothers judge mothers, baby baby, Okay, you

672
00:33:37,520 --> 00:33:39,000
Speaker 2: have the chicks close the door a little bit. Okay,

673
00:33:39,160 --> 00:33:41,560
Speaker 2: just a little bit, thank you, a little bit more,

674
00:33:41,640 --> 00:33:42,200
Speaker 2: a little.

675
00:33:41,960 --> 00:33:42,360
Speaker 3: Bit more.

676
00:33:45,040 --> 00:33:51,280
Speaker 2: Perfect, perfect, that's great. Just how mothers judge judge other mothers.

677
00:33:51,560 --> 00:33:53,440
Speaker 2: People who aren't mothers judge mothers.

678
00:33:53,240 --> 00:33:56,600
Speaker 3: Because they think that everyone has this idea and the

679
00:33:56,720 --> 00:33:59,360
Speaker 3: type of mother they're going to be. And then you're

680
00:33:59,360 --> 00:34:00,680
Speaker 3: a mother and they are like.

681
00:34:02,320 --> 00:34:05,640
Speaker 2: All my conversations, like you're not going to filter every conversation,

682
00:34:06,000 --> 00:34:08,800
Speaker 2: like something like there's just all these my plans you

683
00:34:08,920 --> 00:34:11,520
Speaker 2: had for motherhood go out the window, and then you

684
00:34:11,760 --> 00:34:15,279
Speaker 2: just do what just comes naturally, and you know, and

685
00:34:15,520 --> 00:34:18,360
Speaker 2: and and like I said, based based off of experience

686
00:34:18,840 --> 00:34:21,759
Speaker 2: from your past and things that you either repeat or

687
00:34:21,880 --> 00:34:22,320
Speaker 2: you want.

688
00:34:22,239 --> 00:34:25,239
Speaker 3: To change or are just habit because of that, you

689
00:34:25,280 --> 00:34:27,480
Speaker 3: know what I mean. So I don't know.

690
00:34:27,680 --> 00:34:30,439
Speaker 2: I just was like all these women in this little

691
00:34:30,520 --> 00:34:34,200
Speaker 2: chat room talking and I'm like, this is like such

692
00:34:34,320 --> 00:34:37,160
Speaker 2: like a microcosm of like what what really happens though,

693
00:34:37,200 --> 00:34:40,080
Speaker 2: because so many women are are these women involves but

694
00:34:40,160 --> 00:34:42,239
Speaker 2: in real life just judging women at the grocery store,

695
00:34:42,400 --> 00:34:46,759
Speaker 2: judging you know, the single mom dropping the kid off

696
00:34:46,840 --> 00:34:50,120
Speaker 2: the scroll. But you know, it's just it's just it's

697
00:34:50,160 --> 00:34:55,000
Speaker 2: just sad and it's crazy because we're I mean, there's

698
00:34:55,239 --> 00:34:58,400
Speaker 2: I've definitely judged mothers too, I've judged people, I've judged parenting.

699
00:34:58,600 --> 00:35:02,080
Speaker 2: I do it now, but I think then from that situation,

700
00:35:02,320 --> 00:35:05,960
Speaker 2: so it made me a little bit more since like

701
00:35:06,040 --> 00:35:08,719
Speaker 2: sensitive about the only the same shot too. Yeah, I

702
00:35:08,760 --> 00:35:10,759
Speaker 2: think that's true. I think that's honest. I definitely have

703
00:35:10,880 --> 00:35:13,400
Speaker 2: been like I have friends and I mean Okay, this

704
00:35:13,520 --> 00:35:16,440
Speaker 2: is another thing for this person. Oh the whatever the

705
00:35:16,520 --> 00:35:19,680
Speaker 2: comments began with. I have friends who have kids who

706
00:35:19,680 --> 00:35:21,960
Speaker 2: are like older and maybe like I know my kid, like,

707
00:35:22,560 --> 00:35:26,000
Speaker 2: my kid's smart and they obviously understand specifics. Probably not

708
00:35:26,200 --> 00:35:27,839
Speaker 2: because these are not words for teaching them or they're

709
00:35:27,880 --> 00:35:30,200
Speaker 2: hearing often, but like, I've been around friends who have

710
00:35:30,360 --> 00:35:31,320
Speaker 2: much older kids.

711
00:35:31,120 --> 00:35:33,680
Speaker 3: Like I have a girlfriend and she's crazy, and she's.

712
00:35:33,560 --> 00:35:35,520
Speaker 2: Like a ten year old boy and she's like, yeah, yeah,

713
00:35:35,560 --> 00:35:38,239
Speaker 2: not sex this month. I'm like, yo, I'm not having

714
00:35:38,239 --> 00:35:40,360
Speaker 2: a conversation with you in front of him, but she

715
00:35:40,440 --> 00:35:42,560
Speaker 2: knows what you're saying. I tell her, like in front

716
00:35:42,560 --> 00:35:44,400
Speaker 2: of him, like, girl, stop, are you really going to

717
00:35:44,440 --> 00:35:46,000
Speaker 2: talk like this right now? And then the fact that

718
00:35:46,040 --> 00:35:48,120
Speaker 2: I'm conscious in front of her kid. I know I'm

719
00:35:48,160 --> 00:35:49,160
Speaker 2: conscious in front of mine.

720
00:35:49,239 --> 00:35:54,239
Speaker 3: You know what I'm saying. Well, I'm gonna kid her. Well,

721
00:35:54,280 --> 00:35:55,920
Speaker 3: I cous in front of my kid, which is not good.

722
00:35:56,480 --> 00:35:58,640
Speaker 3: But my kid is also the cousin police. She tells

723
00:35:58,680 --> 00:36:01,520
Speaker 3: me not to. I mean a Christopher of Iry too.

724
00:36:01,640 --> 00:36:04,440
Speaker 3: I try, I try, I try. It's three years old.

725
00:36:04,440 --> 00:36:07,040
Speaker 2: No, no, no, I mean honestly, Okay, let's think honestly.

726
00:36:07,320 --> 00:36:09,440
Speaker 2: Do you recall any conversations from when you were three,

727
00:36:09,520 --> 00:36:11,759
Speaker 2: or do you call feelings and energy and things that

728
00:36:11,840 --> 00:36:12,320
Speaker 2: were happening.

729
00:36:12,400 --> 00:36:13,480
Speaker 3: I don't recall conversation.

730
00:36:13,520 --> 00:36:16,520
Speaker 2: I can't recall necessarily conversations with feelings and energy that

731
00:36:16,560 --> 00:36:18,320
Speaker 2: we're behind the conversations I do.

732
00:36:19,680 --> 00:36:21,520
Speaker 3: Do you know what I mean? Honestly? If I'm saying

733
00:36:21,600 --> 00:36:24,279
Speaker 3: d I c K in front of her, like she's

734
00:36:24,320 --> 00:36:25,759
Speaker 3: not going to know what that means?

735
00:36:25,920 --> 00:36:26,200
Speaker 2: What I mean?

736
00:36:26,440 --> 00:36:27,680
Speaker 3: I think if you don't even know what that means,

737
00:36:27,719 --> 00:36:30,640
Speaker 3: because I call it the real thing exactly. I mean too,

738
00:36:30,800 --> 00:36:32,480
Speaker 3: like if we're referring to it in real life. If

739
00:36:32,480 --> 00:36:35,080
Speaker 3: I'm showing, like telling you because it's it's it's it's

740
00:36:35,120 --> 00:36:39,640
Speaker 3: a penis, this whole conversation is stupid, This whole thing

741
00:36:39,760 --> 00:36:40,160
Speaker 3: is No.

742
00:36:40,320 --> 00:36:42,279
Speaker 2: I don't think it's stupid though, because so many women

743
00:36:42,680 --> 00:36:45,000
Speaker 2: like don't understand it, And there's probably women right now

744
00:36:45,160 --> 00:36:47,719
Speaker 2: listening to this right now that are like you are

745
00:36:47,840 --> 00:36:50,400
Speaker 2: judging or saying like no, I don't have those conversations,

746
00:36:50,480 --> 00:36:53,040
Speaker 2: or maybe thinking like huh, maybe I should have those conversations.

747
00:36:53,080 --> 00:36:56,080
Speaker 3: Yeah, not have those not like purposely like I'm going

748
00:36:56,160 --> 00:36:59,120
Speaker 3: to talk about pens What a freak I am you know,

749
00:36:59,640 --> 00:37:02,840
Speaker 3: And I was kidding like you know, but no.

750
00:37:03,520 --> 00:37:06,439
Speaker 2: But there's gonna be a realistic approach about the ship

751
00:37:06,640 --> 00:37:08,480
Speaker 2: because guess what if it's not me, it's gonna be

752
00:37:08,520 --> 00:37:09,080
Speaker 2: your homegirl.

753
00:37:09,600 --> 00:37:16,640
Speaker 3: Okay, just stabbed. It's probably the underwi. We're gonna see

754
00:37:16,640 --> 00:37:20,840
Speaker 3: your Victoria's secret. Hate the hate your products, hate your products,

755
00:37:23,200 --> 00:37:26,000
Speaker 3: anyway you can rude yourself. I've ever been ventory secret

756
00:37:26,040 --> 00:37:30,520
Speaker 3: mode the wings. I don't want to be Maybe I

757
00:37:30,600 --> 00:37:32,880
Speaker 3: do with this pony. I know that Pony's given me

758
00:37:33,000 --> 00:37:34,000
Speaker 3: Contreia secret red.

759
00:37:35,520 --> 00:37:40,480
Speaker 2: Erica shout out to Vivia Vivica Fox hair stenter is

760
00:37:40,520 --> 00:37:41,480
Speaker 2: a beautiful ponytail.

761
00:37:41,520 --> 00:37:45,560
Speaker 3: I'm about to what do you remember what waves this is?

762
00:37:46,200 --> 00:37:49,120
Speaker 3: I don't, but it's it doesn't natural hair. It kind

763
00:37:49,120 --> 00:37:51,160
Speaker 3: of does. Yeah, it's as closest I was gonna get.

764
00:37:51,160 --> 00:37:57,759
Speaker 3: It's proffin. I'm gonna go anyway. Uh yeah, So I

765
00:37:57,800 --> 00:38:00,440
Speaker 3: don't know. I just feel like I want to be

766
00:38:00,480 --> 00:38:01,239
Speaker 3: more conscious of it.

767
00:38:01,320 --> 00:38:04,400
Speaker 2: I do think, though, that there are bad parents. I

768
00:38:04,440 --> 00:38:07,080
Speaker 2: think that there are parents that you know, could be better.

769
00:38:07,239 --> 00:38:09,000
Speaker 2: I think even me, I'm sure it could be better

770
00:38:09,040 --> 00:38:09,600
Speaker 2: in certain ways.

771
00:38:09,600 --> 00:38:10,520
Speaker 3: I'm not the perfect parent.

772
00:38:10,840 --> 00:38:13,600
Speaker 2: That's why I started this podcast to begin with because

773
00:38:13,719 --> 00:38:16,839
Speaker 2: of these conversations and like I do my self self

774
00:38:16,920 --> 00:38:20,640
Speaker 2: realizations I've had in like the past thirty two episodes

775
00:38:20,680 --> 00:38:22,800
Speaker 2: we've recorded, you know what I mean, things that I

776
00:38:22,880 --> 00:38:24,880
Speaker 2: realized I could be better at. Things I can realize

777
00:38:24,880 --> 00:38:26,839
Speaker 2: I can loosen up on, you know what I mean,

778
00:38:26,920 --> 00:38:29,759
Speaker 2: that I overthink. And that's why I started this that

779
00:38:29,840 --> 00:38:34,799
Speaker 2: we started this podcast because I because my perspective has

780
00:38:35,000 --> 00:38:37,960
Speaker 2: changed on things. You know, I do feel more liberal

781
00:38:38,040 --> 00:38:40,120
Speaker 2: about things, and I also and then I do feel

782
00:38:40,239 --> 00:38:43,560
Speaker 2: more like educated about things and will make more informed

783
00:38:43,640 --> 00:38:46,560
Speaker 2: choices for me and my child, you know, just having

784
00:38:46,640 --> 00:38:51,520
Speaker 2: conversations with like Jessica about like talking about sex.

785
00:38:51,400 --> 00:38:54,600
Speaker 3: And try and like you know, body parts. And there's

786
00:38:54,640 --> 00:38:55,600
Speaker 3: so many conversations we.

787
00:38:55,640 --> 00:38:59,400
Speaker 2: Have with like like with Jasmine and King, you know

788
00:38:59,440 --> 00:39:02,920
Speaker 2: what I mean, These all these different situations, and this

789
00:39:03,120 --> 00:39:07,160
Speaker 2: journey of podcasting is definitely and is teaching me and

790
00:39:07,360 --> 00:39:11,000
Speaker 2: is changing my perspective or solidifying my perspective. And this

791
00:39:11,120 --> 00:39:13,719
Speaker 2: is why we're here because maybe you'll have the opportunity

792
00:39:13,800 --> 00:39:16,160
Speaker 2: to actually listen and understand where're coming from and change

793
00:39:16,160 --> 00:39:18,960
Speaker 2: your perspective. And also even as if you're listening as

794
00:39:19,000 --> 00:39:22,520
Speaker 2: a mom, change your own expectation of yourself, like not

795
00:39:22,640 --> 00:39:25,000
Speaker 2: to say not to hold yourself to this high standard,

796
00:39:25,320 --> 00:39:28,080
Speaker 2: but don't hold yourself to this very limited.

797
00:39:28,200 --> 00:39:31,680
Speaker 3: Like square of only what it looks like to be

798
00:39:31,800 --> 00:39:32,160
Speaker 3: a mom.

799
00:39:32,640 --> 00:39:36,080
Speaker 2: Because as women as people were human life, there's there's

800
00:39:36,080 --> 00:39:38,520
Speaker 2: such a there's such a huge spectrum of all the

801
00:39:38,600 --> 00:39:40,800
Speaker 2: things being body as parents, and we all do it differently.

802
00:39:41,120 --> 00:39:43,960
Speaker 2: And you know another thing like from women to women

803
00:39:44,120 --> 00:39:52,960
Speaker 2: doing it like you said, hella dads rappers, gang rappers, why.

804
00:39:52,800 --> 00:39:58,719
Speaker 3: Are you talking about my baby daddy? That was very

805
00:39:58,800 --> 00:40:03,360
Speaker 3: FuG raps. You know, like we don't hear people criticizing

806
00:40:03,480 --> 00:40:06,920
Speaker 3: fucking your baby daddy. Because I was on the store too.

807
00:40:07,320 --> 00:40:10,279
Speaker 3: I saw her on baby daddy snapchat. She seemed like

808
00:40:10,360 --> 00:40:14,239
Speaker 3: a good mom. Then oh all fifteen seconds of the snapitch,

809
00:40:14,440 --> 00:40:17,840
Speaker 3: I seemed like a good mom. Oh yeah, she seemed

810
00:40:17,880 --> 00:40:18,480
Speaker 3: like a good mom.

811
00:40:18,560 --> 00:40:21,120
Speaker 2: But you know, typical, like they were going in on me,

812
00:40:21,600 --> 00:40:24,120
Speaker 2: but nobody but brought me all types of names. I

813
00:40:24,280 --> 00:40:27,600
Speaker 2: was like, what nobody says shit about him being a

814
00:40:27,640 --> 00:40:29,440
Speaker 2: good or bad dad based on his lyrics?

815
00:40:29,760 --> 00:40:31,520
Speaker 3: When she gets six, you're gonna be able to google

816
00:40:31,560 --> 00:40:32,720
Speaker 3: it or his music videos.

817
00:40:32,800 --> 00:40:34,880
Speaker 2: And I'm not trying to put him out there like

818
00:40:34,920 --> 00:40:37,720
Speaker 2: that him. I'm just saying, in gender in general, men, yeah.

819
00:40:37,760 --> 00:40:40,480
Speaker 3: Men don't don't have this high Like no one's like,

820
00:40:40,560 --> 00:40:42,680
Speaker 3: oh you know what. I'm just saying, like.

821
00:40:42,719 --> 00:40:44,640
Speaker 2: It's just not met and high to hell to a

822
00:40:44,640 --> 00:40:47,560
Speaker 2: different standard and for her equal parents. I mean, obviously

823
00:40:47,600 --> 00:40:49,600
Speaker 2: the mother is the mother, but it's everything. Women always

824
00:40:49,600 --> 00:40:51,360
Speaker 2: carry the burden of everything. We're not allowed to have

825
00:40:51,520 --> 00:40:54,640
Speaker 2: more sex because we're we haven't we take we take

826
00:40:54,960 --> 00:40:58,879
Speaker 2: things internally, right right, We're not allowed to have fun

827
00:40:58,920 --> 00:41:01,120
Speaker 2: because suddenly we're like these people that like we're just

828
00:41:01,239 --> 00:41:02,279
Speaker 2: mothers and we have.

829
00:41:02,920 --> 00:41:05,640
Speaker 3: Like three more three more, three people were house after five,

830
00:41:05,880 --> 00:41:10,920
Speaker 3: you're done, not eligible for marriage? Like oh you guys?

831
00:41:10,960 --> 00:41:13,520
Speaker 3: About how many people Nope? Cancel? Yeah like that.

832
00:41:13,640 --> 00:41:14,040
Speaker 2: I like you.

833
00:41:14,800 --> 00:41:18,279
Speaker 3: Yeah, so that's true. That's true. That's true.

834
00:41:18,560 --> 00:41:21,360
Speaker 2: It was all women. I mean, this this site is

835
00:41:21,400 --> 00:41:23,040
Speaker 2: mostly women. I feel like it would be with women

836
00:41:23,120 --> 00:41:23,520
Speaker 2: and gay men.

837
00:41:23,880 --> 00:41:27,480
Speaker 3: Yeah. Well I hope I hope that nobody has time

838
00:41:27,520 --> 00:41:29,480
Speaker 3: for this ship. Clearly they have a lot of time.

839
00:41:29,800 --> 00:41:32,239
Speaker 2: Site is popping for years, a lot of a lot

840
00:41:32,239 --> 00:41:34,239
Speaker 2: of the talk about a lot of podcasts on this

841
00:41:34,360 --> 00:41:36,359
Speaker 2: site specifically, and the site's been around for a really

842
00:41:36,400 --> 00:41:38,920
Speaker 2: long time. I'm not saying the site because I'm sure

843
00:41:38,960 --> 00:41:40,759
Speaker 2: when the money'll I'll figure it out anyway through.

844
00:41:40,760 --> 00:41:42,880
Speaker 3: Black But like, I just don't want to.

845
00:41:43,160 --> 00:41:44,920
Speaker 2: I don't want to encourage people to go look up

846
00:41:45,000 --> 00:41:47,239
Speaker 2: not just our stuff, but just all the negativity that

847
00:41:47,760 --> 00:41:51,520
Speaker 2: is on there. It's just really sad, Like it's just

848
00:41:51,640 --> 00:41:53,680
Speaker 2: I mean, it's like any social media properm I guess,

849
00:41:53,719 --> 00:41:55,400
Speaker 2: like Twitter, It's just this is like the one that

850
00:41:55,560 --> 00:41:59,719
Speaker 2: is literally dedicated to like gossip. Instagram is like I

851
00:41:59,880 --> 00:42:02,360
Speaker 2: was say, like seventy gossip.

852
00:42:03,520 --> 00:42:05,160
Speaker 3: I would say, if you have enough time to go

853
00:42:05,320 --> 00:42:09,360
Speaker 3: visit a site to read up about in in.

854
00:42:09,600 --> 00:42:12,560
Speaker 2: Use your name, make comments, and read up about two

855
00:42:12,760 --> 00:42:15,680
Speaker 2: perfectly strangers that are nice enough to tell you their

856
00:42:15,719 --> 00:42:23,160
Speaker 2: hoary stories on the internet interweb, then you could probably

857
00:42:23,480 --> 00:42:25,360
Speaker 2: invest your time doing something more productive.

858
00:42:25,760 --> 00:42:29,719
Speaker 3: Why don't you start your own vanilla podcast? I can't

859
00:42:29,760 --> 00:42:30,399
Speaker 3: kind of talk shit.

860
00:42:30,680 --> 00:42:36,120
Speaker 2: Yeah okay, okay, I copy, We'll be sure to tune

861
00:42:36,160 --> 00:42:40,240
Speaker 2: in and comment of it. I will leave that Apple

862
00:42:40,320 --> 00:42:42,919
Speaker 2: podcast review. I was like, I wond I'm just gonna

863
00:42:42,920 --> 00:42:44,760
Speaker 2: go and like try to like leave a bad review.

864
00:42:44,880 --> 00:42:46,880
Speaker 2: We don't really have any only for bad thing anyone's

865
00:42:46,880 --> 00:42:49,359
Speaker 2: ever said is that our kids are annoying and maybe

866
00:42:49,400 --> 00:42:50,240
Speaker 2: they need something.

867
00:42:53,320 --> 00:42:56,680
Speaker 3: Once. You know, it's not for everybody. We're not for

868
00:42:56,760 --> 00:42:58,840
Speaker 3: everybody in that's cool, you know what I mean. I

869
00:42:59,040 --> 00:43:00,920
Speaker 3: love the community that have I love the people that

870
00:43:01,000 --> 00:43:02,680
Speaker 3: we talk to. I love that we have moms.

871
00:43:02,719 --> 00:43:04,879
Speaker 2: I love that we have people who don't have kids yet,

872
00:43:05,040 --> 00:43:06,959
Speaker 2: but like you know, feel like they can still relate

873
00:43:07,000 --> 00:43:08,399
Speaker 2: to us because at the end of the day, we're

874
00:43:08,440 --> 00:43:10,520
Speaker 2: just women and we're just people, and we're we have

875
00:43:10,680 --> 00:43:14,640
Speaker 2: we're having these like real experiences, and you know, some

876
00:43:14,760 --> 00:43:17,200
Speaker 2: people just don't feel comfortable sharing those type of things,

877
00:43:17,760 --> 00:43:20,640
Speaker 2: you know, publicly said some by don't I don't share

878
00:43:20,680 --> 00:43:21,640
Speaker 2: everything about my life.

879
00:43:21,680 --> 00:43:23,640
Speaker 3: I'm just saying I don't some things I just can't.

880
00:43:23,880 --> 00:43:25,680
Speaker 3: If you know how something we.

881
00:43:26,000 --> 00:43:30,080
Speaker 2: I mean to let things play out first internally each

882
00:43:30,400 --> 00:43:34,520
Speaker 2: so before I expose. But for the for for everybody else,

883
00:43:34,680 --> 00:43:37,960
Speaker 2: I hope that a big ship. Honestly, being honest on

884
00:43:38,080 --> 00:43:40,520
Speaker 2: the interweb has made me more open and honest with

885
00:43:40,640 --> 00:43:43,759
Speaker 2: myself and honestly like liberated, like you know, this is

886
00:43:43,920 --> 00:43:46,320
Speaker 2: this is my life, this is my all, this is

887
00:43:46,520 --> 00:43:47,120
Speaker 2: my alt.

888
00:43:47,440 --> 00:43:51,279
Speaker 3: Yeah, honestly, I forget what I say me too.

889
00:43:51,840 --> 00:43:54,200
Speaker 2: We just upload these while we put the music on,

890
00:43:54,520 --> 00:43:56,520
Speaker 2: and then I do a little editing, but I don't

891
00:43:56,600 --> 00:43:58,200
Speaker 2: ever really listen to it. I just look for the

892
00:43:58,280 --> 00:44:00,239
Speaker 2: breaks where I need to put like elevator music where

893
00:44:00,280 --> 00:44:03,920
Speaker 2: like my child is chomping on chips, like right now, you.

894
00:44:03,960 --> 00:44:05,440
Speaker 3: Can't You're not gonna be a little to buzz this

895
00:44:05,520 --> 00:44:06,640
Speaker 3: out and oh baby.

896
00:44:07,040 --> 00:44:12,960
Speaker 2: I'm all you could eat marsham on us. And I.

897
00:44:16,040 --> 00:44:16,719
Speaker 3: Don't really listen.

898
00:44:16,760 --> 00:44:18,680
Speaker 2: I just uploaded so like even the other day, like

899
00:44:18,800 --> 00:44:20,560
Speaker 2: my friend called me and was like, yo, I just

900
00:44:20,600 --> 00:44:21,400
Speaker 2: lied to you episode.

901
00:44:21,480 --> 00:44:23,800
Speaker 3: He's like, you are like wild and I was like,

902
00:44:23,840 --> 00:44:28,120
Speaker 3: what did I say? And he was talking about that's long, slim, long,

903
00:44:28,239 --> 00:44:29,160
Speaker 3: thick episode we did.

904
00:44:29,360 --> 00:44:32,239
Speaker 2: I got some damn And I was like, guys wanted

905
00:44:32,239 --> 00:44:35,040
Speaker 2: to know what we were saying about their dongs? I know.

906
00:44:35,320 --> 00:44:36,880
Speaker 2: He was like, I was like, did I say your name?

907
00:44:36,920 --> 00:44:38,360
Speaker 2: He's like, I don't know where you talking about me.

908
00:44:38,440 --> 00:44:41,239
Speaker 2: I was like I don't know, but I was like, yeah,

909
00:44:41,239 --> 00:44:42,719
Speaker 2: I don't even remember what that. I had to go

910
00:44:42,800 --> 00:44:44,600
Speaker 2: back and relisten and I was like, oh, yeah, that

911
00:44:44,680 --> 00:44:53,200
Speaker 2: was funny, but anyway, yeah, okay, have you ever had

912
00:44:53,360 --> 00:44:56,120
Speaker 2: other than this are fifteen minutes.

913
00:44:55,920 --> 00:44:57,960
Speaker 3: The same have you ever had?

914
00:44:59,760 --> 00:45:02,080
Speaker 2: So I want to be this is too Well, someone

915
00:45:02,280 --> 00:45:07,920
Speaker 2: judge you based on your parenting outside of this, judge me, Yeah,

916
00:45:07,960 --> 00:45:09,160
Speaker 2: like made a common.

917
00:45:09,239 --> 00:45:14,400
Speaker 3: Yeah my own's family member. Yeah yeah, I'm just be

918
00:45:14,480 --> 00:45:15,319
Speaker 3: talking all the time.

919
00:45:15,360 --> 00:45:17,279
Speaker 2: But I feel like family members moms will do that

920
00:45:17,400 --> 00:45:21,080
Speaker 2: because moms, you know, like they like, yeah, they like

921
00:45:21,239 --> 00:45:22,759
Speaker 2: I mean, of course, and you know what I take

922
00:45:22,760 --> 00:45:23,400
Speaker 2: into consideration.

923
00:45:23,520 --> 00:45:25,799
Speaker 3: My mom's because she's a mom, that she has been

924
00:45:25,800 --> 00:45:26,600
Speaker 3: a mom longer than me.

925
00:45:27,040 --> 00:45:29,000
Speaker 2: And but if there's certain things that I'm just like, well,

926
00:45:29,080 --> 00:45:30,400
Speaker 2: you know, I don't want to do it like that,

927
00:45:30,719 --> 00:45:32,160
Speaker 2: you know, like I don't want to do it how

928
00:45:32,200 --> 00:45:32,600
Speaker 2: you did it.

929
00:45:33,000 --> 00:45:35,480
Speaker 3: I didn't like that, I mean, but then there's other

930
00:45:35,520 --> 00:45:37,920
Speaker 3: things where I'm like, I should listen to this, you know.

931
00:45:38,480 --> 00:45:40,680
Speaker 3: And it's also an approach. Everybody knows parenting is a

932
00:45:40,760 --> 00:45:42,480
Speaker 3: very touchy subject. It's very personal.

933
00:45:43,200 --> 00:45:46,440
Speaker 2: Tak it very personally, and if you really genuinely care

934
00:45:46,480 --> 00:45:48,359
Speaker 2: about someone, you're going to be very I mean.

935
00:45:48,320 --> 00:45:50,320
Speaker 3: Not that I expect I don't gonna just care about.

936
00:45:50,080 --> 00:45:53,000
Speaker 2: Our feelings or whatever, but just like you're just like, hey, sis,

937
00:45:53,400 --> 00:45:56,080
Speaker 2: you know, study show that if you say d I

938
00:45:56,200 --> 00:46:01,120
Speaker 2: c K fifty times, right, they've repeated, even though I'm

939
00:46:01,120 --> 00:46:02,239
Speaker 2: sure there's those studies.

940
00:46:01,960 --> 00:46:03,000
Speaker 3: That she and iriate like that.

941
00:46:03,160 --> 00:46:11,440
Speaker 2: Oh no, it's true. I mean, irin stop, either sit

942
00:46:11,520 --> 00:46:21,000
Speaker 2: down or go in another room. I think that I

943
00:46:21,120 --> 00:46:23,560
Speaker 2: actually recently had a situation.

944
00:46:24,120 --> 00:46:25,680
Speaker 3: Well it was, it was, it was.

945
00:46:25,960 --> 00:46:28,440
Speaker 2: It wasn't like she was so basically I was at

946
00:46:28,440 --> 00:46:31,480
Speaker 2: a football game. Irie got mad at my mom for

947
00:46:31,840 --> 00:46:32,440
Speaker 2: like I was at my.

948
00:46:32,480 --> 00:46:34,680
Speaker 3: Brother's football game. I got mad at my mom for

949
00:46:34,800 --> 00:46:39,120
Speaker 3: like taking something from her, and she like got in

950
00:46:39,200 --> 00:46:43,600
Speaker 3: her face and was like hey, and I was like what. No.

951
00:46:44,480 --> 00:46:45,800
Speaker 3: I was like you need to say I'm sorry. And

952
00:46:45,880 --> 00:46:49,920
Speaker 3: she refused to say I'm sorry, like refused and was

953
00:46:50,000 --> 00:46:52,080
Speaker 3: like a thing. And so I was pissed because I

954
00:46:52,160 --> 00:46:53,680
Speaker 3: was like, no, you need to say you're sorry.

955
00:46:54,239 --> 00:46:58,400
Speaker 2: And I think it's so she was crying, and she

956
00:46:58,520 --> 00:47:00,640
Speaker 2: was crying and I was like this is so stupid.

957
00:47:00,880 --> 00:47:03,359
Speaker 2: Like so then you know my grandma, I was, yeah,

958
00:47:03,920 --> 00:47:06,440
Speaker 2: so my mom, my grandma. She can't handle when I

959
00:47:06,480 --> 00:47:10,359
Speaker 2: research crent like the moment, like like what happened. She's

960
00:47:10,400 --> 00:47:11,080
Speaker 2: like stressing out.

961
00:47:11,120 --> 00:47:12,399
Speaker 3: Oh my god, my god, oh my god.

962
00:47:12,880 --> 00:47:19,920
Speaker 2: And because she's like she's that like maternal person in

963
00:47:20,320 --> 00:47:23,080
Speaker 2: her life. That's she just gives her whatever she wants

964
00:47:23,080 --> 00:47:23,840
Speaker 2: at any time.

965
00:47:23,760 --> 00:47:24,359
Speaker 3: You know what I mean.

966
00:47:24,800 --> 00:47:28,240
Speaker 2: And so anyway, my mom's friend saw what was happening,

967
00:47:28,400 --> 00:47:31,239
Speaker 2: and she was like, oh, Erica, stop being mean to her.

968
00:47:31,440 --> 00:47:33,600
Speaker 2: Just let her have the let her have the cupcake.

969
00:47:34,360 --> 00:47:36,600
Speaker 2: And I looked at her and I said, excuse me,

970
00:47:36,680 --> 00:47:39,120
Speaker 2: I'm teaching my daughter a lesson. Please don't undermind my

971
00:47:39,200 --> 00:47:42,560
Speaker 2: parenting seriously, and like it just like came out of me,

972
00:47:42,880 --> 00:47:44,520
Speaker 2: like I said it in the most respectful way.

973
00:47:44,560 --> 00:47:47,600
Speaker 3: But I was like, ah, don't fuck me, don't interrupt

974
00:47:47,640 --> 00:47:49,600
Speaker 3: what I'm doing right here. Yeah, and then too, and

975
00:47:49,680 --> 00:47:51,479
Speaker 3: then like she was like ooh and then.

976
00:47:51,440 --> 00:47:55,120
Speaker 2: So like Iri finally chilled out. She apologized, and then

977
00:47:55,280 --> 00:47:57,600
Speaker 2: I was like I was low key like fuming inside.

978
00:47:57,640 --> 00:48:00,359
Speaker 3: I was like so annoyed, right, and it was your

979
00:48:00,360 --> 00:48:01,759
Speaker 3: mom's friend. This is my mom's friend. And then so

980
00:48:01,880 --> 00:48:03,920
Speaker 3: then I was like, okay, I need to be respectful.

981
00:48:04,880 --> 00:48:07,040
Speaker 3: Did your mom saything? No, she's saying, I mean, you

982
00:48:07,160 --> 00:48:07,920
Speaker 3: was really respectful.

983
00:48:07,920 --> 00:48:10,000
Speaker 2: So I turned around to her and I said, look,

984
00:48:10,040 --> 00:48:13,680
Speaker 2: I apologize, But I was like, I have a bunch

985
00:48:13,719 --> 00:48:15,960
Speaker 2: of women around that don't let don't that. Do not

986
00:48:16,160 --> 00:48:19,520
Speaker 2: let me discipline my child. And I'm the one that

987
00:48:19,600 --> 00:48:20,840
Speaker 2: has to go home with her at the end of

988
00:48:20,880 --> 00:48:22,800
Speaker 2: the night and deal with all of the all this

989
00:48:22,920 --> 00:48:26,480
Speaker 2: mixed messaging. And she was like, it's cool you checked me,

990
00:48:26,680 --> 00:48:28,200
Speaker 2: and I was like, no, I really didn't check you.

991
00:48:28,280 --> 00:48:31,480
Speaker 2: But I this is this is my job and my experience,

992
00:48:31,680 --> 00:48:33,200
Speaker 2: and I need to make sure that my daughter is

993
00:48:34,120 --> 00:48:38,360
Speaker 2: my daughter is a respectful young woman one day and

994
00:48:38,480 --> 00:48:40,320
Speaker 2: this is not okay, it's this is when it starts,

995
00:48:40,640 --> 00:48:43,760
Speaker 2: you know what I mean. And so when she left,

996
00:48:44,800 --> 00:48:47,320
Speaker 2: she got up at like twin ten minutes later, I

997
00:48:48,560 --> 00:48:51,640
Speaker 2: was like, Mom, I was like, was I was that rude?

998
00:48:52,200 --> 00:48:53,040
Speaker 3: Was I disrespectful?

999
00:48:53,080 --> 00:48:55,400
Speaker 2: My mom was like, absolutely not. And I was actually

1000
00:48:55,440 --> 00:48:59,080
Speaker 2: surprised that she took my side because sometimes, you know,

1001
00:48:59,160 --> 00:49:02,280
Speaker 2: my mom don't agree on certain things, and even.

1002
00:49:02,080 --> 00:49:04,759
Speaker 3: She sometimes can look at me as a child, right,

1003
00:49:04,840 --> 00:49:05,440
Speaker 3: you know what I mean?

1004
00:49:05,520 --> 00:49:07,440
Speaker 2: Yeah, and you have to Yeah, I think within that

1005
00:49:07,600 --> 00:49:10,239
Speaker 2: moment she she really she like tered me as an

1006
00:49:10,239 --> 00:49:13,279
Speaker 2: adult a parent, and she was like, no, absolutely, I

1007
00:49:13,360 --> 00:49:17,400
Speaker 2: really needs to learn and that's not Lee's place. And

1008
00:49:17,560 --> 00:49:21,240
Speaker 2: then okay, yeah, I mean and I agree, and sometimes

1009
00:49:21,320 --> 00:49:24,880
Speaker 2: even yeah, and then sometimes because even with the like

1010
00:49:25,360 --> 00:49:25,560
Speaker 2: like you.

1011
00:49:25,560 --> 00:49:29,160
Speaker 3: Said, like, well grandparents, you know, there's this this spoiler

1012
00:49:29,400 --> 00:49:31,680
Speaker 3: spoil you come. I come home from a trip and

1013
00:49:31,800 --> 00:49:35,000
Speaker 3: she's been with them, and she's like acting all I'm like,

1014
00:49:35,160 --> 00:49:36,400
Speaker 3: ah no, no, no, no.

1015
00:49:36,520 --> 00:49:41,319
Speaker 2: No, no, let's reprogramm the brain because you don't get

1016
00:49:41,360 --> 00:49:43,759
Speaker 2: whatever you want whenever you cry, right, you know.

1017
00:49:44,239 --> 00:49:46,239
Speaker 3: No. That irritates the shit on me too, And I think,

1018
00:49:46,280 --> 00:49:49,360
Speaker 3: I mean, yeah, I think that was appropriate.

1019
00:49:50,280 --> 00:49:56,120
Speaker 2: But that's what I'm saying, like interfering with parenting, judging parenting.

1020
00:49:56,280 --> 00:49:58,600
Speaker 2: I think sometimes there's been place. There's been times though,

1021
00:49:58,640 --> 00:50:01,279
Speaker 2: when I've seen parents that I felt borderline abusive and

1022
00:50:01,360 --> 00:50:06,160
Speaker 2: I felt inclined to interfere like friends, no, not friends,

1023
00:50:06,160 --> 00:50:08,919
Speaker 2: but like in public, like oh yeah. And then even

1024
00:50:08,960 --> 00:50:10,880
Speaker 2: then you're like, yeah, can I over set up boundaries?

1025
00:50:11,600 --> 00:50:13,440
Speaker 2: So I've seen kids that I wanted to like pull this.

1026
00:50:13,680 --> 00:50:15,759
Speaker 2: I have before I've been like, yo, what what are

1027
00:50:15,800 --> 00:50:16,080
Speaker 2: you doing?

1028
00:50:17,280 --> 00:50:20,879
Speaker 3: Okay? Yeah? Really yeah, Well.

1029
00:50:20,840 --> 00:50:22,759
Speaker 7: There's there was one time this kid, this this woman

1030
00:50:22,880 --> 00:50:25,040
Speaker 7: was screaming at her kid in the parking line, just

1031
00:50:25,080 --> 00:50:28,480
Speaker 7: like he was like crying and walking away, and she

1032
00:50:28,640 --> 00:50:33,360
Speaker 7: just kept screaming, maybe like five me yesterday.

1033
00:50:35,239 --> 00:50:36,280
Speaker 3: Oh it's beautiful.

1034
00:50:37,360 --> 00:50:37,680
Speaker 2: Thank you.

1035
00:50:37,960 --> 00:50:43,440
Speaker 3: When when you asked the lady, are you okay? She

1036
00:50:43,600 --> 00:50:46,960
Speaker 3: was like mind mind, and I was like, oh damn,

1037
00:50:47,080 --> 00:50:48,759
Speaker 3: a five year old. Yeah, it was a bit.

1038
00:50:48,840 --> 00:50:51,600
Speaker 2: It was and I would never like, it has to

1039
00:50:51,680 --> 00:50:53,520
Speaker 2: be really bad for me to interfere with me. But

1040
00:50:53,640 --> 00:50:55,160
Speaker 2: I was low key when I left there. I felt

1041
00:50:55,239 --> 00:50:57,000
Speaker 2: sad for that kid. I was like, what does this

1042
00:50:57,120 --> 00:50:59,400
Speaker 2: kid deal with daily? And then I know, like iuse,

1043
00:50:59,440 --> 00:51:01,000
Speaker 2: I know, like some times all yell at irin, you

1044
00:51:01,040 --> 00:51:01,440
Speaker 2: know what I mean.

1045
00:51:01,480 --> 00:51:03,920
Speaker 3: I try not to. I try to really like just

1046
00:51:04,480 --> 00:51:08,000
Speaker 3: like enforce, you know. I try to like her to

1047
00:51:08,120 --> 00:51:13,080
Speaker 3: know what my like voices, you know, like no right,

1048
00:51:13,480 --> 00:51:15,080
Speaker 3: you know when I get like that, she knows I

1049
00:51:15,080 --> 00:51:15,719
Speaker 3: shouldn't have to.

1050
00:51:15,760 --> 00:51:19,160
Speaker 2: Just been very few times, I like, it's usually because

1051
00:51:19,200 --> 00:51:22,800
Speaker 2: I'm tired or I don't know. I think like the

1052
00:51:22,880 --> 00:51:24,800
Speaker 2: first time I ever went crazy.

1053
00:51:25,960 --> 00:51:29,400
Speaker 3: Was when she was like first starting school and she was.

1054
00:51:29,480 --> 00:51:31,960
Speaker 2: Just acting a crazy fool every time I would take

1055
00:51:31,960 --> 00:51:34,239
Speaker 2: her to school, crying hysterically.

1056
00:51:35,960 --> 00:51:37,799
Speaker 3: I know it is not getting in her car seat.

1057
00:51:37,840 --> 00:51:39,760
Speaker 3: Like remember once I were fighting, I was like fighting

1058
00:51:39,840 --> 00:51:42,160
Speaker 3: her in her car seat. She would not get into

1059
00:51:42,200 --> 00:51:46,360
Speaker 3: the car seat. Oh my goodness you me. Yeah, you

1060
00:51:46,360 --> 00:51:48,319
Speaker 3: wouldn't get in your car seat. Remember when you used

1061
00:51:48,320 --> 00:51:51,359
Speaker 3: to cry and went to school? Why'd you cry?

1062
00:51:52,800 --> 00:51:53,240
Speaker 2: Nice?

1063
00:51:54,440 --> 00:51:56,600
Speaker 3: Because what you say I wanted.

1064
00:51:57,360 --> 00:51:59,279
Speaker 2: I know, I always want you too, But you got

1065
00:51:59,360 --> 00:52:03,520
Speaker 2: to learn we all went to school, and your school's

1066
00:52:03,560 --> 00:52:04,000
Speaker 2: really cool.

1067
00:52:05,480 --> 00:52:11,680
Speaker 3: Still, mom, of course I did, did I know, hold

1068
00:52:11,719 --> 00:52:16,800
Speaker 3: on baby one second? But yeah, you know, but I

1069
00:52:17,040 --> 00:52:21,719
Speaker 3: but I do realize how personal it is. But even

1070
00:52:21,800 --> 00:52:22,680
Speaker 3: you yelling.

1071
00:52:22,600 --> 00:52:25,280
Speaker 2: Said, you know, saying something to a parent doesn't necessarily

1072
00:52:25,440 --> 00:52:26,080
Speaker 2: change anything.

1073
00:52:26,200 --> 00:52:28,440
Speaker 3: That's still that's the thing, Like.

1074
00:52:32,640 --> 00:52:34,640
Speaker 2: That's what I realized, Like, okay, me yelling at this

1075
00:52:34,719 --> 00:52:38,400
Speaker 2: woman about her kid, like maybe it'll help her like

1076
00:52:38,480 --> 00:52:42,080
Speaker 2: snap out of her like rage of anger. But ultimately,

1077
00:52:42,280 --> 00:52:44,440
Speaker 2: like that's what makes me maybe.

1078
00:52:44,360 --> 00:52:47,799
Speaker 3: Sad, is like she's gonna go home with this kid

1079
00:52:47,960 --> 00:52:49,719
Speaker 3: and who knows what, who knows what she does.

1080
00:52:50,160 --> 00:52:51,840
Speaker 2: But maybe she was just having a moment, you know,

1081
00:52:52,080 --> 00:52:54,800
Speaker 2: like who knows. You know, as parents, we have moments

1082
00:52:54,840 --> 00:52:56,960
Speaker 2: where that we're not proud of. You know, I've had

1083
00:52:57,040 --> 00:53:01,120
Speaker 2: moments where I've had sam sorry, yeah yeah, And I

1084
00:53:01,200 --> 00:53:02,280
Speaker 2: think that's where.

1085
00:53:03,640 --> 00:53:04,000
Speaker 3: Parents.

1086
00:53:05,400 --> 00:53:08,120
Speaker 2: A lot of parents have a problem apologizing to their children.

1087
00:53:08,960 --> 00:53:12,040
Speaker 2: You know, I know my moms. She's gotten better as

1088
00:53:12,080 --> 00:53:12,600
Speaker 2: I've gotten.

1089
00:53:12,440 --> 00:53:15,759
Speaker 3: Older, but she never would apologize when she would do

1090
00:53:15,960 --> 00:53:18,680
Speaker 3: what I felt was like to going too far, not

1091
00:53:18,840 --> 00:53:21,200
Speaker 3: going too far like physically anything, but just like she

1092
00:53:21,400 --> 00:53:25,720
Speaker 3: was wrong, you know what I mean, right, but that happened.

1093
00:53:25,800 --> 00:53:27,719
Speaker 3: I mean the human like just.

1094
00:53:27,800 --> 00:53:29,359
Speaker 2: Like having a roommate or a friend that she lived

1095
00:53:29,360 --> 00:53:32,239
Speaker 2: with twenty for seven forever and at no point you're

1096
00:53:32,239 --> 00:53:36,600
Speaker 2: gonna like be ignited and being in a feeling and

1097
00:53:36,680 --> 00:53:43,759
Speaker 2: then later say I apologize, Like that's human nature. Yeah,

1098
00:53:45,760 --> 00:53:49,600
Speaker 2: but our children are just so precious, but they're so smart,

1099
00:53:50,160 --> 00:53:54,719
Speaker 2: and they're so they just mean so much to us.

1100
00:53:55,080 --> 00:53:59,080
Speaker 2: As I'm sure mothers listening know that when someone tells

1101
00:53:59,120 --> 00:54:03,000
Speaker 2: you like you or like questions your love for them.

1102
00:54:03,040 --> 00:54:06,040
Speaker 2: As a parent, who parent, where we whether they're well being,

1103
00:54:06,440 --> 00:54:09,239
Speaker 2: or who they're going to be, Because that's all I

1104
00:54:09,320 --> 00:54:12,480
Speaker 2: think about as a parent is who I'm like shaving

1105
00:54:12,640 --> 00:54:15,280
Speaker 2: my child to be. I mean, of course I'm shaping.

1106
00:54:15,480 --> 00:54:17,600
Speaker 2: I'm like I'm putting out some sort of blueprint. But

1107
00:54:17,640 --> 00:54:19,960
Speaker 2: she's gonna, you know, follow whatever she wants to do.

1108
00:54:20,480 --> 00:54:22,920
Speaker 2: But I do know that what I do greatly influences that,

1109
00:54:23,080 --> 00:54:24,879
Speaker 2: and those are things I think about all the time.

1110
00:54:25,280 --> 00:54:27,200
Speaker 2: So for someone to like come out who doesn't know

1111
00:54:27,280 --> 00:54:29,080
Speaker 2: me and try to make me feel that way, I

1112
00:54:29,200 --> 00:54:31,880
Speaker 2: was like, damn, how many women experience this Like this

1113
00:54:32,040 --> 00:54:35,240
Speaker 2: isn't I'm so we're so early in our parenting journey

1114
00:54:35,760 --> 00:54:38,680
Speaker 2: like this is this is gonna happen so many more times? Yeah,

1115
00:54:39,480 --> 00:54:40,719
Speaker 2: you know, and like so how do I deal with

1116
00:54:40,760 --> 00:54:42,680
Speaker 2: this where it doesn't Oh, I don't let it enrage me.

1117
00:54:42,960 --> 00:54:44,640
Speaker 2: Oh yeah, that's why I had to think about it,

1118
00:54:44,880 --> 00:54:48,759
Speaker 2: like I'm not taking this ship personally. Bitch, isn't be bored?

1119
00:54:50,600 --> 00:54:52,879
Speaker 2: I said, I'm not taking shit personally, bitch, just be bored.

1120
00:54:53,920 --> 00:55:01,160
Speaker 2: You know clearly you're bored. So I'm happy I'm in

1121
00:55:01,239 --> 00:55:06,160
Speaker 2: a place in my life in general where like there's

1122
00:55:06,239 --> 00:55:07,800
Speaker 2: not much that could really fuck with me.

1123
00:55:08,480 --> 00:55:11,120
Speaker 3: Do you feel that way? Yeah, Like it's not someone's

1124
00:55:11,160 --> 00:55:14,839
Speaker 3: opinion of me. I mean, of course sometimes shot of course,

1125
00:55:14,880 --> 00:55:17,440
Speaker 3: shit you think about it, but like from a stranger,

1126
00:55:17,719 --> 00:55:24,279
Speaker 3: like I'm no, not really. Yeah, it definitely annoyed me.

1127
00:55:24,840 --> 00:55:28,040
Speaker 3: It annoyed me, but like I said, like I expect it,

1128
00:55:28,560 --> 00:55:30,400
Speaker 3: and it's gonna just be more. It's gonna be just

1129
00:55:30,480 --> 00:55:30,719
Speaker 3: be more.

1130
00:55:30,800 --> 00:55:34,680
Speaker 2: And I like there was comments made about Luna, Like

1131
00:55:36,600 --> 00:55:40,240
Speaker 2: and first of all, if you're if you're so ignorant

1132
00:55:40,320 --> 00:55:44,680
Speaker 2: to talk about a child, you're not on my level

1133
00:55:44,760 --> 00:55:47,240
Speaker 2: to begin with. I just feel like also like throwing

1134
00:55:47,440 --> 00:55:50,920
Speaker 2: insults about your physical like about your body and like

1135
00:55:51,600 --> 00:55:54,399
Speaker 2: the way you look, it's just like what else?

1136
00:55:54,400 --> 00:55:55,040
Speaker 3: Who does that?

1137
00:55:55,719 --> 00:55:59,080
Speaker 2: Like like like it's like some high school really is

1138
00:55:59,320 --> 00:56:01,239
Speaker 2: it was like some h yeah, but you know what,

1139
00:56:02,640 --> 00:56:05,160
Speaker 2: I can't even remember like the last time I got

1140
00:56:05,200 --> 00:56:08,360
Speaker 2: in a fight and someone talked about my body, Like

1141
00:56:08,560 --> 00:56:10,040
Speaker 2: I just feel like, I mean, I know what happens.

1142
00:56:10,120 --> 00:56:13,320
Speaker 2: Body shaming is a real thing, but like like I

1143
00:56:13,360 --> 00:56:16,040
Speaker 2: don't know, it just seemed like so yeah.

1144
00:56:16,760 --> 00:56:19,840
Speaker 3: It's obviously juvenile. It's crazy, and first of all, like

1145
00:56:21,280 --> 00:56:23,160
Speaker 3: I do, yeah, I do. That's sad.

1146
00:56:23,760 --> 00:56:26,560
Speaker 2: Well you're just a child hereby it probably is a

1147
00:56:26,640 --> 00:56:28,360
Speaker 2: kid really like someone young and stupid.

1148
00:56:29,960 --> 00:56:32,719
Speaker 3: I don't even physically it's not I know, a look

1149
00:56:32,800 --> 00:56:34,320
Speaker 3: good Like I'm.

1150
00:56:34,200 --> 00:56:38,160
Speaker 2: Not like none of that really like bothers me shit

1151
00:56:38,280 --> 00:56:41,960
Speaker 2: like that because I already went to high school, Like

1152
00:56:41,960 --> 00:56:42,440
Speaker 2: I already did.

1153
00:56:42,520 --> 00:56:43,360
Speaker 3: I've been there, done that.

1154
00:56:43,560 --> 00:56:44,960
Speaker 2: Like there's a place in your life and you're like,

1155
00:56:45,480 --> 00:56:47,600
Speaker 2: first of all, there's nothing you can't tell me about.

1156
00:56:47,440 --> 00:56:49,840
Speaker 3: Me that I obviously I'm not aware of. I have

1157
00:56:49,960 --> 00:56:52,840
Speaker 3: this body my whole life, so I'm just like not

1158
00:56:53,000 --> 00:56:56,640
Speaker 3: placed by it at all. But yeah, I don't know.

1159
00:56:56,800 --> 00:57:00,960
Speaker 3: Bullying is a real thing. Bullying bullying adults is a

1160
00:57:01,040 --> 00:57:05,160
Speaker 3: real thing, like Haschal lives on.

1161
00:57:06,200 --> 00:57:08,239
Speaker 2: This is when I say now that I think about

1162
00:57:08,280 --> 00:57:10,520
Speaker 2: when I think about bullying adults, I think about Kanye

1163
00:57:10,680 --> 00:57:11,680
Speaker 2: being honest and now being like.

1164
00:57:11,719 --> 00:57:14,960
Speaker 3: They were trying to bully me backstage. They trying to

1165
00:57:15,000 --> 00:57:18,040
Speaker 3: wear this hat, bullying me. They trying to get me

1166
00:57:18,080 --> 00:57:20,160
Speaker 3: not to wear my hat. They're bullying.

1167
00:57:22,840 --> 00:57:23,880
Speaker 2: It was it was my.

1168
00:57:44,680 --> 00:57:48,320
Speaker 3: Anyway, that was a travesty. Sorry about that.

1169
00:57:49,200 --> 00:57:50,600
Speaker 2: I don't know if you know, but I have an

1170
00:57:50,680 --> 00:58:00,200
Speaker 2: extreme fear, like like extreme fear of bugs. And I

1171
00:58:00,240 --> 00:58:03,000
Speaker 2: thought I thought of Jamilla thought something landed on her shoulder.

1172
00:58:03,560 --> 00:58:04,320
Speaker 2: I thought I saw it.

1173
00:58:04,480 --> 00:58:06,320
Speaker 3: I bumped my daughter's head on the table.

1174
00:58:06,560 --> 00:58:10,160
Speaker 2: As I'm talking about like being trying to be I

1175
00:58:10,240 --> 00:58:12,920
Speaker 2: am like we talk, was gonna have a lump on

1176
00:58:13,000 --> 00:58:14,320
Speaker 2: her head because.

1177
00:58:14,040 --> 00:58:19,280
Speaker 3: I'm afraid of bugs. To self for bugs here, not

1178
00:58:19,440 --> 00:58:25,000
Speaker 3: to self serve and protect your child anyway, What are

1179
00:58:25,040 --> 00:58:30,760
Speaker 3: you saying, Kanye West? Is that Oh Kanye saying that

1180
00:58:32,120 --> 00:58:34,160
Speaker 3: was bullying him. Oh yeah, I was saying it.

1181
00:58:34,240 --> 00:58:37,480
Speaker 2: That me, Like that's how I feel when I say,

1182
00:58:37,560 --> 00:58:41,000
Speaker 2: like I'm being bullied as an adult, but like an asshole.

1183
00:58:41,600 --> 00:58:46,200
Speaker 3: Yeah, but it's a real thing. I mean it's so

1184
00:58:46,360 --> 00:58:50,120
Speaker 3: it's so minute right now, but like I'm colding me.

1185
00:58:50,200 --> 00:58:51,080
Speaker 2: Kiss it, kiss it.

1186
00:58:55,120 --> 00:58:59,080
Speaker 3: Did we talk about Kanye meeting with Trump? No, that's

1187
00:58:59,200 --> 00:59:03,000
Speaker 3: just so he's so over for me. I'm done with him.

1188
00:59:03,000 --> 00:59:06,000
Speaker 2: I don't care what people try to spend his his

1189
00:59:06,200 --> 00:59:12,880
Speaker 2: cause as down a minute, We're almost got down, promise.

1190
00:59:13,400 --> 00:59:17,400
Speaker 3: He's pretty terrible. Someone said he was a freedom writer,

1191
00:59:18,480 --> 00:59:20,320
Speaker 3: that he's like what is he like a genius? He's

1192
00:59:20,360 --> 00:59:22,720
Speaker 3: getting good with the Trump and that he's gonna change

1193
00:59:22,760 --> 00:59:23,040
Speaker 3: the world.

1194
00:59:23,160 --> 00:59:23,720
Speaker 2: Is that what people?

1195
00:59:23,800 --> 00:59:25,880
Speaker 3: Is? That what people think the girl? They think he's

1196
00:59:25,960 --> 00:59:30,000
Speaker 3: that that intelligent, that way his own plot and scheme

1197
00:59:30,080 --> 00:59:32,320
Speaker 3: to get in. That's what I was thinking. I was like,

1198
00:59:32,360 --> 00:59:33,160
Speaker 3: whonder people think that?

1199
00:59:33,400 --> 00:59:36,880
Speaker 2: Like they think that he's actually scheming and plotting and

1200
00:59:37,000 --> 00:59:41,200
Speaker 2: this isn't all like a narcissists like playground, like he's.

1201
00:59:41,120 --> 00:59:43,760
Speaker 3: Like infiltrating on the Yeah.

1202
00:59:44,240 --> 00:59:45,080
Speaker 6: No, he's just.

1203
00:59:46,560 --> 00:59:51,360
Speaker 3: No for himself for theeasy government. In his own brainy

1204
00:59:54,560 --> 00:59:57,360
Speaker 3: I kind of feel bad for Kim. I feel bad too.

1205
00:59:57,520 --> 01:00:00,160
Speaker 3: You know that she's probably a little bit miserable. She

1206
01:00:00,280 --> 01:00:01,760
Speaker 3: has to deal with that crazy.

1207
01:00:01,520 --> 01:00:05,320
Speaker 2: Every day talk to have him talk about crazy Now,

1208
01:00:05,360 --> 01:00:07,200
Speaker 2: how amazing he is all the time.

1209
01:00:07,560 --> 01:00:11,000
Speaker 8: Don't Like, I'm not doubting his genius. I'm not doubting

1210
01:00:11,040 --> 01:00:15,040
Speaker 8: his innovative ideas. I'm not doubting that he can create musings.

1211
01:00:15,400 --> 01:00:18,320
Speaker 8: But there's there's something, there's that other side of him

1212
01:00:18,640 --> 01:00:22,280
Speaker 8: at Gemini that just can't help but kind.

1213
01:00:22,160 --> 01:00:26,320
Speaker 2: Of sabotage all that for himself, Like his it gets

1214
01:00:26,400 --> 01:00:28,200
Speaker 2: in the way all of that greatness.

1215
01:00:28,760 --> 01:00:31,600
Speaker 3: He gets in the way of it by just opening

1216
01:00:31,640 --> 01:00:32,080
Speaker 3: his mouth.

1217
01:00:32,920 --> 01:00:35,720
Speaker 2: I just can't get with the Like, if you can't

1218
01:00:35,720 --> 01:00:41,080
Speaker 2: intelligently communicate these very top secret ideas that everyone keeps

1219
01:00:41,120 --> 01:00:42,919
Speaker 2: suggesting he has, then.

1220
01:00:42,880 --> 01:00:45,840
Speaker 3: I can't take him seriously. Have you seen that three

1221
01:00:45,920 --> 01:00:49,080
Speaker 3: D thing? Have you ever watched any of his stories? Yeah,

1222
01:00:49,160 --> 01:00:51,760
Speaker 3: like the hologram that's just crazy? Is that real? I

1223
01:00:51,840 --> 01:00:52,160
Speaker 3: think so?

1224
01:00:52,280 --> 01:00:52,480
Speaker 2: Yeah?

1225
01:00:52,480 --> 01:00:54,480
Speaker 3: I think so too. I Mean they're not maybe not

1226
01:00:54,560 --> 01:00:56,760
Speaker 3: necessarily his ideas, but he's in some way part of it.

1227
01:00:57,080 --> 01:00:58,680
Speaker 3: And like that's what I'm saying, Like he has just

1228
01:00:58,760 --> 01:01:01,800
Speaker 3: a new phone. Is it a new phone? The new iPhone?

1229
01:01:02,120 --> 01:01:04,720
Speaker 3: Is it? I said to her, Oh, maybe not if

1230
01:01:04,760 --> 01:01:09,720
Speaker 3: he's out. No, let me loosen it a little bit.

1231
01:01:11,400 --> 01:01:14,280
Speaker 3: I don't know, dude. No, I'm not gonna take it off.

1232
01:01:14,280 --> 01:01:15,760
Speaker 3: I'm just gonna losten it because it's I don't want

1233
01:01:15,760 --> 01:01:17,240
Speaker 3: your hair to be this tight when you go to sleep.

1234
01:01:17,920 --> 01:01:19,880
Speaker 3: I don't know, like him talking about.

1235
01:01:21,520 --> 01:01:23,720
Speaker 2: Him being in the Kardashian family, there's a lot of

1236
01:01:24,040 --> 01:01:27,040
Speaker 2: there's not a lot of male energy, so he could

1237
01:01:27,120 --> 01:01:34,400
Speaker 2: relate to Donald Trump's campaign more than Hillary's. Clinton's I'm coming. No,

1238
01:01:35,200 --> 01:01:37,680
Speaker 2: I just feel bad for him. But I feel bad

1239
01:01:37,680 --> 01:01:40,600
Speaker 2: for him yet I know she's she's probably like he's

1240
01:01:40,680 --> 01:01:41,120
Speaker 2: bad ship.

1241
01:01:41,480 --> 01:01:42,600
Speaker 3: I'm telling your knew what she was.

1242
01:01:42,720 --> 01:01:45,120
Speaker 2: I mean, she didn't care what she was getting herself into.

1243
01:01:45,240 --> 01:01:47,920
Speaker 2: She she loved him, sure she sure that probably still does.

1244
01:01:48,120 --> 01:01:50,000
Speaker 2: But also it was all about he was the coolest

1245
01:01:50,080 --> 01:01:52,120
Speaker 2: rapper at the time, you know, and that was what

1246
01:01:52,200 --> 01:01:54,680
Speaker 2: it was him for him too. She's the finest girl, right,

1247
01:01:55,000 --> 01:01:57,320
Speaker 2: And that's what happens when you are both narcissists and

1248
01:01:57,400 --> 01:02:00,360
Speaker 2: you marry each other, you know what I mean, Something's

1249
01:02:00,400 --> 01:02:01,320
Speaker 2: bound to go wrong.

1250
01:02:02,200 --> 01:02:04,120
Speaker 3: And one of y'all gonna be crazier than the other.

1251
01:02:04,520 --> 01:02:08,560
Speaker 3: And obviously we know who that is, poor baby or

1252
01:02:08,600 --> 01:02:11,280
Speaker 3: Boo boo. But I don't know how I got it. Oh,

1253
01:02:11,320 --> 01:02:12,760
Speaker 3: I was just I don't know how I got it, Kanye,

1254
01:02:12,880 --> 01:02:15,520
Speaker 3: But I guess I was talking about bullying. Yes, baby,

1255
01:02:16,480 --> 01:02:18,360
Speaker 3: should we do our advice? Oh?

1256
01:02:18,440 --> 01:02:23,600
Speaker 2: Yeah. So we got a message from one of our listeners, Anonymous,

1257
01:02:24,680 --> 01:02:26,960
Speaker 2: and actually it was a good one.

1258
01:02:26,960 --> 01:02:28,920
Speaker 3: I think it's one that needs to be talked about.

1259
01:02:31,600 --> 01:02:33,800
Speaker 3: What is it, ladies, Anonymous?

1260
01:02:33,840 --> 01:02:36,160
Speaker 2: Please, this is a long This is a long story,

1261
01:02:36,240 --> 01:02:38,760
Speaker 2: but backstory is important, I think before you can answer

1262
01:02:38,800 --> 01:02:40,960
Speaker 2: or give advice. In two thousand and nine, I met

1263
01:02:41,000 --> 01:02:42,640
Speaker 2: a guy at work. I was an admin at the

1264
01:02:42,680 --> 01:02:45,480
Speaker 2: hospital and he was sort of a custodian. Immediately, I

1265
01:02:45,600 --> 01:02:47,560
Speaker 2: was not attracted to him on a dating level, but

1266
01:02:47,640 --> 01:02:49,280
Speaker 2: he was always pleasant, et cetera.

1267
01:02:49,680 --> 01:02:51,080
Speaker 3: Eventually we exchange numbers.

1268
01:02:51,120 --> 01:02:53,360
Speaker 2: I learned that he had multiple kids and multiple women,

1269
01:02:53,840 --> 01:02:56,040
Speaker 2: and it was kind of a turn with multiple women

1270
01:02:56,080 --> 01:02:58,480
Speaker 2: and it was kind of a turnoff. However, we remained

1271
01:02:58,520 --> 01:03:01,600
Speaker 2: friends and kept chatting. After about nine months, we started

1272
01:03:01,640 --> 01:03:04,240
Speaker 2: to chill and flirt, and that led us to sleeping together.

1273
01:03:04,680 --> 01:03:07,280
Speaker 2: He was in your average low life with a low paying,

1274
01:03:07,360 --> 01:03:10,120
Speaker 2: debt end job and multiple baby mothers. He began school

1275
01:03:10,200 --> 01:03:12,560
Speaker 2: when we met, and I encourage and also helped with

1276
01:03:12,800 --> 01:03:14,320
Speaker 2: late night homework, etc.

1277
01:03:14,920 --> 01:03:15,560
Speaker 3: He was also a.

1278
01:03:15,600 --> 01:03:17,800
Speaker 2: Phenomenal father to all of his kids, and there was

1279
01:03:17,920 --> 01:03:21,520
Speaker 2: zero baby mama drama. So between those things his charm

1280
01:03:21,640 --> 01:03:25,960
Speaker 2: and consistency in life. So between those things, his charm

1281
01:03:26,120 --> 01:03:29,800
Speaker 2: and consistency in life, we began a relationship.

1282
01:03:30,120 --> 01:03:32,280
Speaker 3: We moved in together after a few months, and not

1283
01:03:32,440 --> 01:03:35,080
Speaker 3: even a year had gone by before one of his

1284
01:03:35,200 --> 01:03:38,200
Speaker 3: sons moved in with us. We lived decent as a

1285
01:03:38,240 --> 01:03:41,200
Speaker 3: blended family. He finished school, he came home daily at

1286
01:03:41,200 --> 01:03:43,720
Speaker 3: a decent hour from work. We cooked together, discussed marriage

1287
01:03:43,720 --> 01:03:46,280
Speaker 3: at one point. His career after school began to take off.

1288
01:03:46,400 --> 01:03:49,560
Speaker 2: After five years of cohabitating, the relationship began to feel

1289
01:03:49,640 --> 01:03:50,440
Speaker 2: tense and rocky.

1290
01:03:50,800 --> 01:03:52,320
Speaker 3: There was never any suspicion in the.

1291
01:03:52,400 --> 01:03:55,240
Speaker 2: Cheating, however, you could tell we're both visibly and happy

1292
01:03:55,320 --> 01:03:58,439
Speaker 2: and merely settling for our current relationship. With the state

1293
01:03:58,520 --> 01:04:02,080
Speaker 2: of it, however, ung in there without doing anything to

1294
01:04:02,240 --> 01:04:04,880
Speaker 2: really rectify or even acknowledge that there was an issue

1295
01:04:04,920 --> 01:04:05,560
Speaker 2: with the relationship.

1296
01:04:05,600 --> 01:04:06,680
Speaker 3: But you could just feel in the air.

1297
01:04:07,360 --> 01:04:10,920
Speaker 2: Our sessions became fewer and far between, meaning sex sex,

1298
01:04:11,320 --> 01:04:14,880
Speaker 2: but still often enough that no one got the itch

1299
01:04:14,960 --> 01:04:17,360
Speaker 2: for outside sex. The last year of the relationship, we

1300
01:04:17,440 --> 01:04:20,800
Speaker 2: discussed moving into separate places. While he suggested this, I

1301
01:04:20,880 --> 01:04:22,920
Speaker 2: felt like it was a step backwards in the relationship,

1302
01:04:23,000 --> 01:04:25,120
Speaker 2: and he said, why move and still stay together? We

1303
01:04:25,120 --> 01:04:27,960
Speaker 2: should slip. At first, it was tough. We've gotten a

1304
01:04:27,960 --> 01:04:31,080
Speaker 2: lot of arguments over petty stuff. He even told me

1305
01:04:31,120 --> 01:04:34,600
Speaker 2: at one point go get tested, which, because I had

1306
01:04:34,720 --> 01:04:38,640
Speaker 2: never suspected any I mean none cheating, I felt he

1307
01:04:38,800 --> 01:04:41,080
Speaker 2: was being an asshole and was fewy mean words to

1308
01:04:41,200 --> 01:04:43,920
Speaker 2: hurt me anyway. After lots of back and forth, and

1309
01:04:43,960 --> 01:04:47,720
Speaker 2: despite my reluctancy, we remained friends and spent together and

1310
01:04:47,800 --> 01:04:49,840
Speaker 2: spent time together as a family with the kids, but

1311
01:04:50,000 --> 01:04:52,760
Speaker 2: as friends. We had a total of three sexual encounters

1312
01:04:52,840 --> 01:04:55,600
Speaker 2: after the fact, all which he led, all which he

1313
01:04:55,720 --> 01:04:57,920
Speaker 2: led me to believe that he was so desperate that

1314
01:04:58,000 --> 01:05:01,200
Speaker 2: he wasn't with anyone else. I hadn't been with anyone

1315
01:05:02,080 --> 01:05:05,160
Speaker 2: anyone but him the whole time, so, needless to say,

1316
01:05:05,280 --> 01:05:08,400
Speaker 2: we didn't use protection. Months later, at my GYN visit,

1317
01:05:08,480 --> 01:05:11,560
Speaker 2: I was made aware that I had chlamydia, which it

1318
01:05:11,680 --> 01:05:13,840
Speaker 2: had been at least six months since we had slept together,

1319
01:05:13,880 --> 01:05:15,840
Speaker 2: and truthfully, I couldn't tell you at which point I

1320
01:05:15,920 --> 01:05:18,880
Speaker 2: contracted it from him before or after the move.

1321
01:05:19,360 --> 01:05:21,520
Speaker 3: It would mean he either cheated on me or still

1322
01:05:21,600 --> 01:05:21,960
Speaker 3: put me.

1323
01:05:22,000 --> 01:05:25,040
Speaker 2: At Han's risk by knowingly sleeping with me raw after

1324
01:05:25,240 --> 01:05:27,560
Speaker 2: being with some other girl raw. Either way, I was

1325
01:05:27,640 --> 01:05:30,880
Speaker 2: crushed and cried, and I got the news nonetheless, Nonetheless,

1326
01:05:31,000 --> 01:05:33,360
Speaker 2: I got treated. I called him immediately, which at this

1327
01:05:33,520 --> 01:05:36,360
Speaker 2: point our communication had been tapering off a lot. I

1328
01:05:36,480 --> 01:05:38,560
Speaker 2: let him know the deal, and he swore he had

1329
01:05:38,680 --> 01:05:41,080
Speaker 2: just been to the doctors and was good, which made

1330
01:05:41,120 --> 01:05:43,240
Speaker 2: me wonder if when he told me months back to

1331
01:05:43,280 --> 01:05:46,360
Speaker 2: go get tested he was telling me something then, which

1332
01:05:46,400 --> 01:05:51,200
Speaker 2: would mean he had this while we were still living together. Anyway,

1333
01:05:51,280 --> 01:05:53,439
Speaker 2: I cursed him out, told him to get the girl

1334
01:05:53,600 --> 01:05:55,439
Speaker 2: tested and stay out of my life.

1335
01:05:55,600 --> 01:05:59,000
Speaker 3: Four months later, I miss him. I'm not mad anymore.

1336
01:05:59,560 --> 01:06:01,960
Speaker 2: I thought no communication at all, he would at least

1337
01:06:02,040 --> 01:06:04,640
Speaker 2: call to apologize, make an effort, but he hasn't.

1338
01:06:04,880 --> 01:06:05,080
Speaker 3: I know.

1339
01:06:05,160 --> 01:06:08,320
Speaker 2: I'm silly for even wanting to reach out, send an email,

1340
01:06:08,400 --> 01:06:10,960
Speaker 2: et cetera. But this is someone I spent practically a

1341
01:06:11,080 --> 01:06:13,920
Speaker 2: decade with while I have been on tender and met

1342
01:06:14,000 --> 01:06:21,320
Speaker 2: random sorry pause for fish already need sext me feel well.

1343
01:06:21,360 --> 01:06:23,840
Speaker 2: I have been on Tinder and met randoms, none of

1344
01:06:23,920 --> 01:06:28,000
Speaker 2: them the quality, d family, orientation, et cetera. Things that

1345
01:06:28,080 --> 01:06:31,240
Speaker 2: I loved about him. I also I also realized part

1346
01:06:31,280 --> 01:06:35,280
Speaker 2: of the disinterest may have been me weight gain, my

1347
01:06:35,440 --> 01:06:38,560
Speaker 2: career remained at a standstill while his grew no longer

1348
01:06:38,640 --> 01:06:41,600
Speaker 2: trying to be cute or sexy. I realized these things

1349
01:06:41,720 --> 01:06:44,400
Speaker 2: now after the fact, and when I brought them to

1350
01:06:44,520 --> 01:06:47,400
Speaker 2: him months before the results were uncovered, he would swear

1351
01:06:47,480 --> 01:06:49,760
Speaker 2: that wasn't it. He just wanted to focus on him

1352
01:06:49,880 --> 01:06:52,600
Speaker 2: and his growth, and that they were no longer and

1353
01:06:52,680 --> 01:06:53,640
Speaker 2: that we were no longer.

1354
01:06:53,480 --> 01:06:56,040
Speaker 3: Growing as a couple. Any advice for me? I know

1355
01:06:56,160 --> 01:06:59,040
Speaker 3: this is dumb, stupid, long, but I really need your

1356
01:06:59,040 --> 01:07:00,840
Speaker 3: advice because that was long. Girl.

1357
01:07:02,480 --> 01:07:06,200
Speaker 2: Oh y'all still tune in. Basically, she was with a

1358
01:07:06,280 --> 01:07:09,120
Speaker 2: guy she wasn't even interested in. They you know, they

1359
01:07:09,200 --> 01:07:14,120
Speaker 2: ended up getting together, cohabitating with their kids or his kid,

1360
01:07:14,880 --> 01:07:19,640
Speaker 2: and naturally their relationships started to kind of dissipate, and

1361
01:07:20,240 --> 01:07:21,960
Speaker 2: eventually he suggested.

1362
01:07:21,480 --> 01:07:22,400
Speaker 3: That they move out.

1363
01:07:22,560 --> 01:07:25,040
Speaker 2: She didn't really want to break up, but they did anyway,

1364
01:07:25,800 --> 01:07:28,320
Speaker 2: And in spite of their breakup, he had said that

1365
01:07:28,480 --> 01:07:29,400
Speaker 2: she should get tested.

1366
01:07:29,520 --> 01:07:31,160
Speaker 3: She thought he was just being rude.

1367
01:07:31,800 --> 01:07:34,480
Speaker 2: Find out later, like six months later, after they've had

1368
01:07:34,560 --> 01:07:37,920
Speaker 2: sex a few times randomly, that she has an STD.

1369
01:07:38,640 --> 01:07:42,320
Speaker 2: Now she was angry, months have gone by, she's not

1370
01:07:42,400 --> 01:07:45,520
Speaker 2: angry anymore, and now she misses him, and it's wondering

1371
01:07:46,200 --> 01:07:50,840
Speaker 2: if it's her fault essentially in some way, or if

1372
01:07:50,880 --> 01:07:52,960
Speaker 2: she's crazy for wanting to get back together with him.

1373
01:07:54,240 --> 01:07:59,120
Speaker 3: And that's basically what this is in the summary. I

1374
01:07:59,240 --> 01:08:02,600
Speaker 3: told her first of all, she wasn't even interested to

1375
01:08:02,680 --> 01:08:06,080
Speaker 3: begin with. It kind of like grew on her.

1376
01:08:07,680 --> 01:08:17,040
Speaker 2: And it got comfortable. Comfortable love isn't the love to chase.

1377
01:08:17,920 --> 01:08:23,160
Speaker 2: It's very easy to get comfortable with people because they're there,

1378
01:08:23,360 --> 01:08:28,280
Speaker 2: because it's easy, because it's it's routine. And if he

1379
01:08:28,320 --> 01:08:32,200
Speaker 2: suggested that they move separately, he wasn't really focused on

1380
01:08:32,240 --> 01:08:33,400
Speaker 2: growing the relationship to begin with.

1381
01:08:33,840 --> 01:08:36,120
Speaker 3: He obviously was out of sex. That's someone outside of it,

1382
01:08:36,160 --> 01:08:38,759
Speaker 3: which means it doesn't respect her. He certainly didn't respect

1383
01:08:38,800 --> 01:08:41,960
Speaker 3: her health enough to give her to protect her.

1384
01:08:42,840 --> 01:08:45,439
Speaker 2: And and your female intuition is telling you that he

1385
01:08:45,560 --> 01:08:49,040
Speaker 2: said that get tested stuff early on, then you're probably right.

1386
01:08:50,080 --> 01:08:52,040
Speaker 3: Honestly, that just.

1387
01:08:52,040 --> 01:08:55,960
Speaker 2: Seems a bit random, especially when there's no suspicion at all,

1388
01:08:56,920 --> 01:08:57,599
Speaker 2: Like what the fuck?

1389
01:08:57,720 --> 01:09:07,760
Speaker 3: Yeah he knew and I get okay, I hate a woman?

1390
01:09:07,840 --> 01:09:08,519
Speaker 3: Why didn't we do this?

1391
01:09:08,720 --> 01:09:08,760
Speaker 2: Like?

1392
01:09:08,960 --> 01:09:10,920
Speaker 3: Oh, was it me? What could I have done? I

1393
01:09:10,960 --> 01:09:12,639
Speaker 3: could have been dressing sexier? I should.

1394
01:09:13,000 --> 01:09:15,040
Speaker 2: All these things are dun all about stuff reflecting and

1395
01:09:15,800 --> 01:09:18,520
Speaker 2: taking accountability because there's always two parts in a relationship.

1396
01:09:19,280 --> 01:09:21,360
Speaker 2: But even in that I told her, there's a way

1397
01:09:21,360 --> 01:09:23,400
Speaker 2: to communicate to your partner. There's a way to make

1398
01:09:23,439 --> 01:09:25,840
Speaker 2: you feel sexy. There's there's like when there's someone who's

1399
01:09:25,920 --> 01:09:28,439
Speaker 2: really invested in the relationship winning and I know after

1400
01:09:28,520 --> 01:09:31,320
Speaker 2: time sometimes this shit is more difficult. But if you're

1401
01:09:31,320 --> 01:09:35,519
Speaker 2: really conscious about an adamant about, like wanting your partner

1402
01:09:35,520 --> 01:09:37,280
Speaker 2: to be your partner, you're gonna be like, that's go

1403
01:09:37,400 --> 01:09:39,599
Speaker 2: to the gym together, bag, Why don't you start playing

1404
01:09:39,640 --> 01:09:40,160
Speaker 2: for these jobs?

1405
01:09:40,160 --> 01:09:41,559
Speaker 3: To look at these things as friends?

1406
01:09:41,640 --> 01:09:45,280
Speaker 2: We do that So if you're not he wasn't committed

1407
01:09:45,280 --> 01:09:49,360
Speaker 2: to a relationship, the SCD was definitely the killed and

1408
01:09:49,479 --> 01:09:51,599
Speaker 2: the fact that he hasn't called him four months since

1409
01:09:51,640 --> 01:09:52,240
Speaker 2: that's happened.

1410
01:09:52,720 --> 01:09:56,040
Speaker 3: Is even more really like obvious that that's that he

1411
01:09:56,160 --> 01:09:57,040
Speaker 3: did that it was him.

1412
01:09:57,360 --> 01:09:59,320
Speaker 2: Yeah, he's a shame to call you. He's not a

1413
01:09:59,400 --> 01:10:01,800
Speaker 2: calling to a power dies because he he's like, damn,

1414
01:10:01,840 --> 01:10:03,720
Speaker 2: she hasn't called. Oh I'm off Scott Free. We don't

1415
01:10:03,720 --> 01:10:05,360
Speaker 2: got to talk about it. No, men don't want to

1416
01:10:05,360 --> 01:10:08,040
Speaker 2: talk about nothing. They'd rather did not talk about it

1417
01:10:08,160 --> 01:10:10,040
Speaker 2: and never talk to you again. We're just gonna have

1418
01:10:10,120 --> 01:10:13,040
Speaker 2: to acknowledge it and be like, yeah, maybe it was me, right,

1419
01:10:13,280 --> 01:10:15,360
Speaker 2: I mean, not that I want to be with any Yeah.

1420
01:10:16,160 --> 01:10:17,880
Speaker 2: Do you think if you had a guy give you

1421
01:10:17,880 --> 01:10:18,879
Speaker 2: an STD, could.

1422
01:10:18,680 --> 01:10:20,080
Speaker 3: You like get back together with him?

1423
01:10:21,680 --> 01:10:21,880
Speaker 2: Yeah?

1424
01:10:22,520 --> 01:10:25,320
Speaker 3: Mom? You you.

1425
01:10:27,479 --> 01:10:27,920
Speaker 2: Oh with it?

1426
01:10:29,680 --> 01:10:33,800
Speaker 3: I mean, hey, we all have been in situations they're like,

1427
01:10:33,840 --> 01:10:35,439
Speaker 3: I would never do that. I was late? Is that

1428
01:10:35,560 --> 01:10:36,800
Speaker 3: so I will never go back to him?

1429
01:10:37,880 --> 01:10:38,439
Speaker 2: And you do?

1430
01:10:39,680 --> 01:10:39,720
Speaker 4: That?

1431
01:10:39,840 --> 01:10:46,920
Speaker 3: Bends to dumbership, honestly, And I'm not judging anybody, but

1432
01:10:47,720 --> 01:10:49,400
Speaker 3: do we deserve that? Fuck now?

1433
01:10:49,880 --> 01:10:51,639
Speaker 2: But I think that's the problem even in this case,

1434
01:10:51,720 --> 01:10:54,280
Speaker 2: is that we don't realize that we deserve better. And

1435
01:10:54,680 --> 01:10:57,080
Speaker 2: the moral of the stood is they're just dishonesty. There's

1436
01:10:57,120 --> 01:11:00,479
Speaker 2: no respect for ship your life because it's eventually like

1437
01:11:00,520 --> 01:11:02,760
Speaker 2: when you're fucking multiple people are all you're does what

1438
01:11:02,880 --> 01:11:05,719
Speaker 2: you're risky and you know who knows what You're fucking

1439
01:11:06,360 --> 01:11:08,880
Speaker 2: whole ass just transmitting and if you like give a

1440
01:11:08,880 --> 01:11:10,560
Speaker 2: fuck about somebody, at the very least, she'll throw in

1441
01:11:10,600 --> 01:11:11,000
Speaker 2: a rubber.

1442
01:11:12,800 --> 01:11:13,960
Speaker 3: I think it's super selfish.

1443
01:11:14,280 --> 01:11:17,799
Speaker 2: And I think you feeling that way out of comfort

1444
01:11:18,240 --> 01:11:21,320
Speaker 2: and wanting companion, you know, cuffing seasons coming is probably

1445
01:11:21,320 --> 01:11:24,720
Speaker 2: getting cold, and you just thinking you're thinking crazy, girl,

1446
01:11:24,720 --> 01:11:25,479
Speaker 2: You're thinking crazy.

1447
01:11:25,920 --> 01:11:28,000
Speaker 3: So I feel you. I feel you in the cuff

1448
01:11:28,040 --> 01:11:30,320
Speaker 3: and season. Just get some hot tea and some blankets.

1449
01:11:30,360 --> 01:11:34,920
Speaker 3: It'll be fine Netflix and show alone. Yeah, definitely, he's

1450
01:11:34,960 --> 01:11:37,479
Speaker 3: not worth your time and I am. And she says

1451
01:11:37,479 --> 01:11:41,519
Speaker 3: we spent a decade together and fuck that too. Oh

1452
01:11:41,640 --> 01:11:43,840
Speaker 3: and he also was one of the first people she

1453
01:11:43,920 --> 01:11:49,200
Speaker 3: has a She has like a crippling like insecurity about

1454
01:11:49,360 --> 01:11:49,800
Speaker 3: her feet.

1455
01:11:49,880 --> 01:11:52,920
Speaker 2: We've talked about her on another episode, and she has

1456
01:11:52,960 --> 01:11:55,719
Speaker 2: a crippling insecurity about her feet where she like wears socks,

1457
01:11:55,800 --> 01:11:58,200
Speaker 2: like doesn't ever let guys see her feet. And this

1458
01:11:58,360 --> 01:12:00,920
Speaker 2: person never ever stands even if a she or socks

1459
01:12:01,240 --> 01:12:05,000
Speaker 2: like she wouldn't, so he has seen he's seen all

1460
01:12:05,080 --> 01:12:07,800
Speaker 2: of her, seen her feet, and she feels buld. Yeah,

1461
01:12:07,800 --> 01:12:11,240
Speaker 2: and he touched and so I get that that he has.

1462
01:12:11,640 --> 01:12:13,479
Speaker 3: She feels like she can be totally vulnerable. But I

1463
01:12:13,479 --> 01:12:15,639
Speaker 3: guess that, babe, you can be that with someone else.

1464
01:12:15,680 --> 01:12:17,320
Speaker 3: If you can do that with him, you can do

1465
01:12:17,439 --> 01:12:20,040
Speaker 3: it again. You really can't. I know you might not

1466
01:12:20,160 --> 01:12:22,479
Speaker 3: want to do it again, but just because of that

1467
01:12:22,720 --> 01:12:23,519
Speaker 3: is not a reason.

1468
01:12:24,080 --> 01:12:24,280
Speaker 2: I know.

1469
01:12:24,360 --> 01:12:25,000
Speaker 3: It's not just that.

1470
01:12:25,080 --> 01:12:27,439
Speaker 2: I know that there's it's deeper than that, but that

1471
01:12:27,600 --> 01:12:31,439
Speaker 2: shouldn't even play a factor in this decision. Like this

1472
01:12:31,840 --> 01:12:34,680
Speaker 2: dude told you he wanted to move out basically so

1473
01:12:34,840 --> 01:12:36,880
Speaker 2: you can go be with other women, whether or not

1474
01:12:37,000 --> 01:12:37,400
Speaker 2: you want.

1475
01:12:37,240 --> 01:12:37,840
Speaker 3: To admit that or not.

1476
01:12:37,880 --> 01:12:41,960
Speaker 2: If that's basically what's happening here, then told you to

1477
01:12:42,000 --> 01:12:44,719
Speaker 2: get it tested because low ki, he probably knew something

1478
01:12:44,840 --> 01:12:49,000
Speaker 2: was fishy with him. Then you got you got what

1479
01:12:49,160 --> 01:12:54,479
Speaker 2: was it called the smack clap this smack I even

1480
01:12:54,560 --> 01:12:55,719
Speaker 2: wanting to use that term forever.

1481
01:12:55,840 --> 01:12:57,760
Speaker 3: I was like, I know I can't.

1482
01:13:00,200 --> 01:13:06,000
Speaker 2: You're glad, yes, And and hasn't called you, So that

1483
01:13:06,200 --> 01:13:09,479
Speaker 2: tells you right there, like if he hasn't called you,

1484
01:13:09,920 --> 01:13:14,040
Speaker 2: like he's trying to shame you. Too, and so making

1485
01:13:14,120 --> 01:13:17,160
Speaker 2: you feel crazy like you suddenly came up with this

1486
01:13:17,600 --> 01:13:20,519
Speaker 2: out of nowhere, you magically gained.

1487
01:13:20,360 --> 01:13:23,360
Speaker 3: Yourself an STD. Right. No, I've only been with you,

1488
01:13:24,080 --> 01:13:27,920
Speaker 3: you know, so somebody else. There's better guys out there,

1489
01:13:28,479 --> 01:13:32,320
Speaker 3: there are, they do exist, and they're beautiful. I've seen you.

1490
01:13:32,960 --> 01:13:36,840
Speaker 2: I felt your energy, like you you can do you can,

1491
01:13:37,240 --> 01:13:39,760
Speaker 2: you can and you will do better. You can will

1492
01:13:39,800 --> 01:13:40,080
Speaker 2: do better.

1493
01:13:40,360 --> 01:13:42,280
Speaker 3: But first you gotta like remember that ship.

1494
01:13:42,479 --> 01:13:44,840
Speaker 2: Yeah, and and like you brought up your weight and

1495
01:13:45,320 --> 01:13:48,880
Speaker 2: and like your career being at a standstill and all

1496
01:13:48,920 --> 01:13:51,200
Speaker 2: these things that you know could have possibly been that

1497
01:13:51,280 --> 01:13:54,599
Speaker 2: you're taking accountability for. But even I said, I told

1498
01:13:54,640 --> 01:13:56,600
Speaker 2: you what I emailed you, Like, if that's how you

1499
01:13:56,680 --> 01:14:00,439
Speaker 2: feel about you, Like, if you're not feeling sexy for yourself,

1500
01:14:00,520 --> 01:14:02,280
Speaker 2: you're not feeling like you're in the best shape, then

1501
01:14:02,439 --> 01:14:03,760
Speaker 2: take this time and focus.

1502
01:14:03,479 --> 01:14:05,400
Speaker 3: On you don't really feel good, you know, like so

1503
01:14:05,880 --> 01:14:08,240
Speaker 3: and take this into your next relationship. Maybe you could

1504
01:14:08,280 --> 01:14:10,920
Speaker 3: be like, you know, more conscious of you know, like stay,

1505
01:14:11,360 --> 01:14:13,360
Speaker 3: I'm all about keeping shit sexy.

1506
01:14:13,520 --> 01:14:15,080
Speaker 2: Yeah, but as one when we always want to put

1507
01:14:15,120 --> 01:14:16,600
Speaker 2: the blame on ourselves when it comes to that, I

1508
01:14:16,760 --> 01:14:19,160
Speaker 2: used to I did that like I felt like after

1509
01:14:19,479 --> 01:14:21,000
Speaker 2: I had like irie, like I.

1510
01:14:21,040 --> 01:14:22,320
Speaker 3: Just need it to be more sexy.

1511
01:14:22,400 --> 01:14:24,600
Speaker 2: That's why I bleach my hair blonde, because I was

1512
01:14:24,640 --> 01:14:26,840
Speaker 2: trying to be like this other vert like this new

1513
01:14:26,920 --> 01:14:29,360
Speaker 2: I'm fun mom, I'm still sexy, Like I still got it.

1514
01:14:29,400 --> 01:14:31,680
Speaker 3: I could change it up and be like wild, you

1515
01:14:31,760 --> 01:14:35,040
Speaker 3: know what I mean. And it's not.

1516
01:14:37,160 --> 01:14:39,559
Speaker 2: It's it's not your fault. It's not your fault. If

1517
01:14:39,600 --> 01:14:42,000
Speaker 2: you gained weight, it's not your fault. Maybe it's your

1518
01:14:42,040 --> 01:14:43,880
Speaker 2: fault with your career is at a sandstill. But guess what,

1519
01:14:44,120 --> 01:14:46,320
Speaker 2: Like that's what relationships. Your relationship is going.

1520
01:14:46,320 --> 01:14:47,320
Speaker 3: To go through that and push it.

1521
01:14:47,720 --> 01:14:50,080
Speaker 2: You can't And if they can't see that, and if

1522
01:14:50,120 --> 01:14:52,680
Speaker 2: you can't be if you're going to use that and

1523
01:14:52,960 --> 01:14:57,840
Speaker 2: as a as a reason to justify like the endings of.

1524
01:14:57,840 --> 01:14:59,919
Speaker 3: Your relationship, then you don't need to be in a relationship.

1525
01:15:00,640 --> 01:15:03,080
Speaker 3: And I mean not yet. You got some work to do,

1526
01:15:03,320 --> 01:15:06,920
Speaker 3: and you discussed in the beginning he was the custodian.

1527
01:15:07,080 --> 01:15:08,760
Speaker 3: Did you put you read that? Yeah, at the place

1528
01:15:08,840 --> 01:15:11,320
Speaker 3: you worked, so obviously you were more than willing to

1529
01:15:11,400 --> 01:15:12,960
Speaker 3: stick with him and be.

1530
01:15:13,000 --> 01:15:15,240
Speaker 2: There when he needed help studying and all these late

1531
01:15:15,360 --> 01:15:17,640
Speaker 2: night things and you know he was, and he was,

1532
01:15:17,800 --> 01:15:21,160
Speaker 2: you know, bettering himself, and shit, give yourself some credit.

1533
01:15:21,200 --> 01:15:23,400
Speaker 3: A lot of pictures wouldn't do that, a lot.

1534
01:15:23,320 --> 01:15:25,360
Speaker 2: Of which wouldn't have been interested when to say he

1535
01:15:25,439 --> 01:15:28,599
Speaker 2: has multiple baby mamas there, you know you you had your.

1536
01:15:28,600 --> 01:15:30,920
Speaker 3: Own reservations and you stuck through him with that. You

1537
01:15:31,040 --> 01:15:32,960
Speaker 3: saw him get better in bro, you helped aid that.

1538
01:15:33,560 --> 01:15:35,479
Speaker 2: And the fact that he hasn't I mean, even if

1539
01:15:35,600 --> 01:15:37,639
Speaker 2: if that's the case, hasn't aided you in the same

1540
01:15:37,720 --> 01:15:41,320
Speaker 2: way and push you, then fuck him because a good

1541
01:15:41,520 --> 01:15:44,400
Speaker 2: person is going to be like, you know, hey, babe,

1542
01:15:44,560 --> 01:15:46,240
Speaker 2: how are we gonna make this better for us?

1543
01:15:46,400 --> 01:15:49,080
Speaker 3: What do you think we could do better next time?

1544
01:15:49,120 --> 01:15:51,920
Speaker 2: You know what I'm saying, Like, I just and I

1545
01:15:52,040 --> 01:15:54,800
Speaker 2: only say that because I'm now for the first time

1546
01:15:54,960 --> 01:15:58,519
Speaker 2: in like a situationship with somebody who is like that,

1547
01:15:58,760 --> 01:16:01,360
Speaker 2: and it's different, you know, and I like it. You

1548
01:16:01,439 --> 01:16:07,280
Speaker 2: know that someone is I'm so once to wants to

1549
01:16:07,560 --> 01:16:10,240
Speaker 2: push me to be the better version of myself that.

1550
01:16:10,280 --> 01:16:15,719
Speaker 3: Sometimes we forget it's true. It's true anyway.

1551
01:16:15,960 --> 01:16:20,679
Speaker 2: I uh, I'm wishing you luck, girlfriend, and I hope

1552
01:16:20,720 --> 01:16:22,080
Speaker 2: that you have not emailed him.

1553
01:16:24,000 --> 01:16:28,519
Speaker 3: Delete the emails. Don't pick up the phone, don't do it,

1554
01:16:30,880 --> 01:16:33,439
Speaker 3: but uh anything else.

1555
01:16:35,960 --> 01:16:42,880
Speaker 2: No, we are working on merch and we're gonna have

1556
01:16:42,920 --> 01:16:47,200
Speaker 2: that merch up on the site soonersh Jia is looking at.

1557
01:16:47,160 --> 01:16:51,280
Speaker 3: Me like we are don't say date, don't launch date,

1558
01:16:51,720 --> 01:16:54,160
Speaker 3: no very soon, And so our merch is gonna be

1559
01:16:54,280 --> 01:16:57,479
Speaker 3: so cute, guys would be so cute. And not that normal,

1560
01:16:57,640 --> 01:17:00,719
Speaker 3: not that normal merch, not that normal podcast merger. Nobody

1561
01:17:00,720 --> 01:17:03,679
Speaker 3: wants to wear pod podcast on it. No one wants

1562
01:17:03,680 --> 01:17:08,960
Speaker 3: to wear a shirt that says podcast. No, absolutely not.

1563
01:17:09,800 --> 01:17:10,120
Speaker 2: I don't.

1564
01:17:10,400 --> 01:17:14,320
Speaker 3: I don't, even if you're my bestest friend. I mean no,

1565
01:17:15,280 --> 01:17:17,559
Speaker 3: we just do something now. Yeah, it's actually cute.

1566
01:17:17,600 --> 01:17:24,120
Speaker 2: Yeah, and make sure you follow Mela at Mila's Mobile spa.

1567
01:17:24,360 --> 01:17:27,639
Speaker 2: If you guys need any lash extensions in the LA.

1568
01:17:27,640 --> 01:17:28,960
Speaker 3: Area or.

1569
01:17:31,000 --> 01:17:34,960
Speaker 2: Microblading or facials all your spandates, she travels to you

1570
01:17:35,120 --> 01:17:37,639
Speaker 2: in the comfort of your own go onto her Instagram

1571
01:17:37,680 --> 01:17:38,439
Speaker 2: because you'll see.

1572
01:17:38,240 --> 01:17:39,480
Speaker 3: All of her transformations.

1573
01:17:41,400 --> 01:17:45,040
Speaker 2: One second, she's gonna do my lashes for mar d Day,

1574
01:17:45,760 --> 01:17:47,240
Speaker 2: so I'll be her next model.

1575
01:17:48,920 --> 01:17:54,640
Speaker 3: And yeah, that's it. We'll catch you next week. Make

1576
01:17:54,640 --> 01:17:57,080
Speaker 3: sure to follow us on at Good Mom's Underscore Bad

1577
01:17:57,200 --> 01:18:00,360
Speaker 3: choices if you have any, like you said, course stories,

1578
01:18:00,439 --> 01:18:03,479
Speaker 3: you can d m us, or you can email us,

1579
01:18:03,840 --> 01:18:05,320
Speaker 3: or you can actually can go our web.

1580
01:18:05,760 --> 01:18:07,479
Speaker 2: That's not only where we get all our message. Oh yeah,

1581
01:18:07,520 --> 01:18:09,479
Speaker 2: we gotta go to our website, Good Bumps, Bad Choices

1582
01:18:09,520 --> 01:18:12,280
Speaker 2: dot com. And then you can just write on our

1583
01:18:12,360 --> 01:18:14,759
Speaker 2: contact sheet or you can d m us whatever's easier,

1584
01:18:15,120 --> 01:18:20,000
Speaker 2: like just reach out, send a pigeon, send us some

1585
01:18:20,080 --> 01:18:20,960
Speaker 2: pictures or something.

1586
01:18:21,680 --> 01:18:26,519
Speaker 3: You know, keep it fun, keep it fun, Send we

1587
01:18:26,720 --> 01:18:33,439
Speaker 3: love news. Oh no, oh no, we're so bad our

1588
01:18:33,520 --> 01:18:42,200
Speaker 3: same boo. Anyway, we just show our boobs. Okay, I

1589
01:18:42,280 --> 01:19:02,599
Speaker 3: guess that's good night, night by bye, follows dude began,

1590
01:19:05,040 --> 01:19:06,439
Speaker 3: that's the way it is.

1591
01:19:08,600 --> 01:19:10,760
Speaker 2: Playing say play fun play.

1592
01:19:10,880 --> 01:19:15,519
Speaker 3: He didn't think shot it ou