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Speaker 1: Time now for today's Strawberry Letter. And if you need

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Speaker 1: It's for you, Jay, and you never know, it could

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Speaker 1: be yours. It could be your letter. You never know.

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Speaker 1: Buckle up and hold on type. We got it for you.

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Speaker 1: Here it is Gaulberry Letter. Thank you nephew. Subject my

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Speaker 1: husband is scared to come home. Dear Stephen Shirley. I've

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Speaker 1: been married for the past six years to a man

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Speaker 1: that my older sister introduced me to. They met at

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Speaker 1: dated for two years and he asked me to marry him,

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Speaker 1: and he promised me the world. We had a small

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Speaker 1: wedding and we went on a cruise for a honeymoon,

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Speaker 1: and he insisted that my sister go with us. She

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Speaker 1: was supposed to bring the guy she was dating, but

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Speaker 1: he couldn't go at the last minute. We had a

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Speaker 1: guest room of our suite. This was a bit uncomfortable

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Speaker 1: for me because I wanted to be alone with my man.

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Speaker 1: There are early risers, they're very early risers, so I

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Speaker 1: would get up and they would already have been up,

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Speaker 1: had their coffee, and would be sitting outside chatting. I

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Speaker 1: was very jealous of his relationship with my sister. I

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Speaker 1: told her to give my husband some space, and she

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Speaker 1: She just started hiding it from me. I went to

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Speaker 1: her office a few days ago and my husband's fedora

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Speaker 1: was on a chair in her office. She said he

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Speaker 1: and it started raining. I had no idea they went out,

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Speaker 1: and she said it's nothing to report because it's like

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Speaker 1: I walked over to my husband's desk and told him

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Speaker 1: I needed to talk to him about my sister. He said,

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Speaker 1: we talk when he came home. That was four days ago.

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Speaker 1: He has not been home since that day. He's staying

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Speaker 1: with his brother and when I call, he gets off

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Speaker 1: the phone saying that he doesn't want to argue. I

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Speaker 1: think he realized that he married the wrong sister. Why

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Speaker 1: else is he scared to come home? Is he romantically

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Speaker 1: involved in my sister? With my sister and my sister

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Speaker 1: you already know the answer to that. You already know, yeah, both,

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Speaker 1: you already know the answer to that. I mean, the

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Speaker 1: whole letter says it. The whole letter says it. Yes,

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Speaker 1: he's involved with your sister. So much for your husband

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Speaker 1: not being her type. Punch. She said that early on

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Speaker 1: to throw you off, I guess, But I just don't

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Speaker 1: understand why you've stood by this long and let this happen.

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Speaker 1: They she went on your honeymoon cruise with you. No,

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Speaker 1: she stayed in your cabin with you, and you're sweet

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Speaker 1: with you. No. I mean those two just should have

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Speaker 1: and just left you alone. Okay. I just wouldn't want

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Speaker 1: her stink behind for my sister. She's dead wrong for this,

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Speaker 1: you know it. And your husband is dead wrong too.

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Speaker 1: I think the two of them deserve each other. Your

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Speaker 1: husband's ridiculous running off to his brother's house not talking

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Speaker 1: to you. I mean, just a punk. I mean, come on,

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Speaker 1: he knows he's wrong, and he won't be man enough

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Speaker 1: to even talk to you. He doesn't deserve you. I say,

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Speaker 1: let him go and do it now. Just let him go.

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Speaker 1: Let them have each other. This is crazy. Fight for

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Speaker 1: your marriage. You don't have a marriage here, so let

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Speaker 1: let him go. He has him at home, he's running. No,

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Speaker 1: they're they're secretly cheating behind your back. This is crazy.

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Speaker 1: She doesn't have to tell you because it's just like

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Speaker 1: can't she tell you? Yeah, they're sleeping together. Jay, Oh

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Speaker 1: my god. These people in these letters, why do they right?

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Speaker 1: It is so simple, it's right there the man. The

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Speaker 1: man said, Shelly, could you read that part? Find that

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Speaker 1: yet four days. Why you? Why are you hassling the man?

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Speaker 1: He home? He said he would talk about it. He's

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Speaker 1: needs some time to get in stuff together. Read it again, Shelly,

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Speaker 1: What did he say? He said? What? Okay, I'm gonna

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Speaker 1: read it I'm gonna read it a line Before that,

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Speaker 1: I walked to every my husband's desk and told him

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Speaker 1: we talked when he came home. That was four days ago,

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Speaker 1: full for the four days fifty five days? Who give that?

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Speaker 1: He said? We would talk about this when I get home.

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Speaker 1: Why are you calling me, I'm not at home. I'm

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Speaker 1: uncomfortable talking about this at my brother's house. I'm gonna

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Speaker 1: when I'm home. I'm not at home. We want more time.

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Speaker 1: Then I gotta go, he said. We talked when he

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Speaker 1: came home. Yeah home, Yeah, yes, so stupid. It's not

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Speaker 1: a home. Damn. Let it go go ahead, Timmy, I

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Speaker 1: can't believe my culture an expert earlier, Listen to me,

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Speaker 1: young lady. Wherever a man lays his hat, it's where

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Speaker 1: he lays everything else. Okay, wherever lays his hat is

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Speaker 1: where he lays everything else. Okay. Now, what you got

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Speaker 1: to understand Your husband won't and he's probably already had

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Speaker 1: your sister. Do you know why he put do you

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Speaker 1: know why she was in the suite with y'all so

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Speaker 1: she could hear him. Yes, so when the love making

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Speaker 1: gets going, guess what she's curious now, Yeah, she can

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Speaker 1: feel it. She won't it, it's there. It's a desire.

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Speaker 1: You got to understand that, baby, all right. He talks

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Speaker 1: to her, He drinks with her. You don't know what

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Speaker 1: having food. They started drinking coffee on that shield. They

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Speaker 1: always afterwards. You do know that. Don't get it in first.

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Speaker 1: Everything he does is for the sister. It's not for you.

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Speaker 1: You're just okay, hang on, we'll be back with part

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Speaker 1: two of the Strawberry Letter, the subject my husband is

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Speaker 1: scared to come home? Coming back at twenty three minutes

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Speaker 1: after the hour right after this you're listening show, all right,

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Speaker 1: we're gonna recap today's Strawberry letter, subject my husband is

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Speaker 1: scared to come home? All right. This is by a

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Speaker 1: a man that her older sister introduced her to. Now

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Speaker 1: her older sister and this man worked together. Why didn't

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Speaker 1: the older sister get with this man because the older

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Speaker 1: sister said, this man is not her type. So the

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Speaker 1: man married the younger sister. They've been married for six years.

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Speaker 1: Like I said, they dated for two. Then he popped

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Speaker 1: her the world. They went on a honeymoon on a cruise.

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Speaker 1: Guess what. The older sister was there right in the

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Speaker 1: The lady that wrote the letter is very uncomfortable with this,

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Speaker 1: the guys. And she said there was nothing to report, okay.

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Speaker 1: So then the wife went up to the husband's job,

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Speaker 1: needed to talk to him, and he said they were

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Speaker 1: talking when he got home. Well, she hasn't seen him

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Speaker 1: in four days. He hasn't been home. Jay so eloquently

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Speaker 1: pointed that out about a million times. So he's staying

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Speaker 1: this is a mistake, and the woman is calling I

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Speaker 1: mean is writing asking us, do we think that her

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Speaker 1: husband is romantically involved with his sister? All right, Tommy,

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Speaker 1: you wanted to finish your response. All I want to

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Speaker 1: finish up is let's go to the Book of Temptations.

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Speaker 1: It says Papa was a rolling stone. And then what

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Speaker 1: he's saying, Papa was a rolling stone? What is the

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Speaker 1: next version? The next version? Where ever he laid his hat?

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Speaker 1: What hit home? You go back to the letter. Where

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Speaker 1: was the hat? Go back? The hat was in the office. Okay,

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Speaker 1: the chill he laid his head? What his home? He

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Speaker 1: has made a home with your sister. Do you understand

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Speaker 1: that from was a rolling stone? Wherever he laid his

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Speaker 1: hat was his home. So he has a home with you,

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Speaker 1: and he has a home with your sister as well

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Speaker 1: trying to decide where he's gonna make his final home. Junior,

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Speaker 1: if your hood, yeah came out. Yeah, my husband is

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Speaker 1: this about this letter because this video. I don't know

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Speaker 1: why you wrote us just the time, you know the

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Speaker 1: answers to everything going on. All I know is is

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Speaker 1: I'm not married, nor have I been married. I don't

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Speaker 1: know that, but from relationship experience, I know this. You

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Speaker 1: can't keep having one name keep coming up. I know that, O.

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Speaker 1: I know that. Did you keep saying I know sisters

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Speaker 1: in this letter? Nine times I counted that sister, sister, sister.

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Speaker 1: Then you say your husband, sister, sister, sister husband, sisters.

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Speaker 1: See right there, I know them too, were talking to

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Speaker 1: each other. I know that. That's what I do know.

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Speaker 1: I don't can't be laid a hat on the chair.

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Speaker 1: I know you can't go the honeymoon. Sweet. I ain't

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Speaker 1: never been on a honeymoon. I ain't never been mad.

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Speaker 1: But I know you ain't full be three people in there.

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Speaker 1: I know that. That's what I do know. Yeah, I

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Speaker 1: know that's a show. But your sisters name keep coming up.

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Speaker 1: out why your husb wanta come home, I would just

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Speaker 1: look at sister when he when he said he was

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Speaker 1: at his brother's house, he wasn't. Now he called from

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Speaker 1: I know one name can't keep coming up by two people.

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Speaker 1: I know that I've been there, hit the same name. No,

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Speaker 1: that's that's that's very true. Yeah, So here's the class

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Speaker 1: for you guys. Why didn't the sister just marry the

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Speaker 1: man anyway? The older sister, why didn't she just hear him?

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Speaker 1: She said he was He didn't know he liked her

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Speaker 1: that much when they first met. Yeah, he had just said.

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Speaker 1: And the thing about the hat, Tommy, you don't always

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Speaker 1: I've worked with a hat on, Yeah, worked with it.

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Speaker 1: Oh yeah, I don't had it on back with sideways

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Speaker 1: cock to the side. I don't want hat. Yeah. If

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Speaker 1: if it get better, if it get better, you can

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Speaker 1: put the hat on. Huh. You know what I'm saying. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: we all him. Now you wear hat now you had

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Speaker 1: her back. It's like a comment table just says your right. Yeah. Yeah.

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Speaker 1: Would she allow her sister to come and stay in

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Speaker 1: their honeymoon? Sweet? Why was she come on? Okay, here's

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Speaker 1: the other question. Does the older sister remember she they

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Speaker 1: were all planned to go on the honeymoon together, but her,

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Speaker 1: the older sister's date, backed out at the last minute.

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Speaker 1: it is when you hear it and you just physically

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Speaker 1: to I want to sound like that. How do I

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Speaker 1: get in there? All right, we get it, we get it. Uh.

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