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Speaker 1: Hi, this is Joel and Victoria. Thanks for listening to

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Speaker 1: our podcast and thanks for supporting the ministry. If you

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Speaker 1: enjoy today's message, why don't you be a blessing and

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Speaker 1: share it with a friend, reappreciate you and pray for

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Speaker 1: God's very best in your life. God's bless you. It's

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Speaker 1: great to be with you today, and I hope you

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Speaker 1: stay connected with us during the week through our daily podcast,

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Speaker 1: our YouTube channel, social media, and you can come visit

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Speaker 1: us in person. We'd love to have you be a

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Speaker 1: part of one of our services. And I'd like to

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Speaker 1: start with something funny. I heard about these three sons

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Speaker 1: that left home and went out and prospered. They got

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Speaker 1: back together to talk about the gifts they'd gotten their

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Speaker 1: elderly mother. The first son said, I built mom a

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Speaker 1: big house. The second son said, I bought her a

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Speaker 1: fancy car. The third one said, since mom loves to

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Speaker 1: read the Bible but can barely see, I got her

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Speaker 1: a specially trained parent that can quote the entire Bible.

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Speaker 1: A few weeks later, they received a letter from their

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Speaker 1: mother said, Milton, the house you built me way too big.

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Speaker 1: my dearest Donald, Your simple gift is my favorite. The

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Speaker 1: chicken was delicious. Say it like you mean it. This

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Speaker 1: is my Bible. I am what it says I am.

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Speaker 1: I have what it says I have. I can do

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Speaker 1: what it says I can do. Today I will be

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Speaker 1: taught the word of God. I boldly confess. My mind

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Speaker 1: the same. In Jesus' name, God bless you. I want

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Speaker 1: to talk to you today about breaking control. It's easy

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Speaker 1: to go through life doing things out of guilt and pressure.

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Speaker 1: A relative will get upset if we don't show up

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Speaker 1: every time they want. A friend expects us to meet

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Speaker 1: every demand or they'll get their feelings hurt. People use

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Speaker 1: control and manipulation to get their way, and it doesn't

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Speaker 1: mean they're a bad person. Sometimes they don't even know

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Speaker 1: they're doing it. They expect us to perform, be there

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Speaker 1: every time they call, put our life on hold and

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Speaker 1: make sure that they're taken care of. If not, they

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Speaker 1: get sour, try to make you feel guilty, why weren't

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Speaker 1: you here? And if we're not careful, we'll take on

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Speaker 1: this false sense of responsibility, thinking that it's our job

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Speaker 1: to keep them fixed. We have to keep them happy,

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Speaker 1: You are not responsible for other people's happiness. You are

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Speaker 1: responsible for your own happiness. Take that pressure off. Some

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Speaker 1: people don't want to be happy. They won't deal with

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Speaker 1: their issues, they won't forgive, they won't keep a good attitude.

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Speaker 1: It's much easier for them to rely on you. If

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Speaker 1: you continue giving in, you'll not only not have the

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Speaker 1: time and energy for your dreams, but you're enabling their dysfunction.

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Speaker 1: As long as they have you, they don't have to change.

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Speaker 1: You have to set some boundaries. You can be nice,

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Speaker 1: you can be loving, but you have to be strong

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Speaker 1: enough to say no. I can't come running every time

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Speaker 1: Here's the biggest one. I'm not gonna feel guilty if

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Speaker 1: I can't meet all your demands. Not gonna live down

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Speaker 1: Without healthy boundaries, we won't have healthy relationships. Well, Joel,

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Speaker 1: what if they get their feelings hurt? What if you

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Speaker 1: miss your destiny. What if they get upset and don't

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Speaker 1: thank you Jesus. Seriously, life is too short to go

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Speaker 1: through it being controlled, doing things out of guilt, thinking

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Speaker 1: That's not a friendship. That's manipulation. They're not interested in you,

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Speaker 1: don't try to pressure you and make you feel guilty,

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Speaker 1: so you do what they want. When my father passed

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Speaker 1: learning how to minister, who was taking all my time

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Speaker 1: to him. If you're being controlled, it's not the other

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Speaker 1: that's not your problem. Don't take on that false sense

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Speaker 1: keep them in courage. You're not their savior. We already

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Speaker 1: Take the pressure off. Be respectful, be nice, but be firm.

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Speaker 1: Learn to say no, I can't do that. Quit letting

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Speaker 1: all their problems. You have enough problems. Next time they call.

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Speaker 1: That's why God created voicemail. If they can't get you

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Speaker 1: a few times, maybe they'll go to God God. Maybe

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Speaker 1: the savior. But as long as you come running every time,

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Speaker 1: going to limit your potential, but it's keeping them from

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Speaker 1: when they have bitterness, hunger, and insecurity, often that pain

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Speaker 1: She used all this guilt, shame, and fear to control

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Speaker 1: Forty years later, this daughter is still being controlled. She

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Speaker 1: didn't know any better. She lived her whole life with

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Speaker 1: for their happiness. This daughter was so distraught and so confused,

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Speaker 1: affecting her mental health and her reasoning. The enemy loves

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Speaker 1: destroy your self worth and your sense of value, make

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Speaker 1: made in the image of God. You are a masterpiece, healthy, whole, beautiful, talented,

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Speaker 1: up boundaries to keep yourself healthy and whome. She decided

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Speaker 1: in the past. The mother got upset and went off

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Speaker 1: from these lies, from this dysfunction. You are not supposed

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Speaker 1: day where those controlling, manipulating spirits are being broken. That

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Speaker 1: That's what this daughter did. She told me how she

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Speaker 1: felt all this pressure lift off of her, all this heaviness.

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Speaker 1: be happy. You have this false sense of responsibility that

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Speaker 1: your job. Your first priority is to take care of you,

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Speaker 1: keep yourself healthy, whole and free. And this is especially

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Speaker 1: hard when it's someone close to you, someone you love,

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Speaker 1: a family member, a relative. Always be kind, but you

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Speaker 1: have to be strong. If this daughter had not made

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Speaker 1: because when you don't do what you've been doing, what

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Speaker 1: could you not be there for them? Don't buy into that.

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Speaker 1: You have a destiny to fulfill. God has given you

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Speaker 1: an assignment. The enemy will use control, manipulation, guilt, shame,

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Speaker 1: break free. You have to put your foot down and say,

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Speaker 1: I love you, but I'm not going to let you

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Speaker 1: not being selfish, that's being responsible with the gift God

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Speaker 1: has given you. He didn't create you to be controlled. Yes,

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