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Speaker 1: Buckle up and hold on time. We got it on

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Speaker 1: your thank you alright subject. It is so good I

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Speaker 1: can't even think straight. Dear Stephen Shirley. Hopefully not this way,

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Speaker 1: Dear Stephen Shirley. I need some I don't know what

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Speaker 1: about that right here? Good lord, Well it's a little different, alright.

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Speaker 1: I I need some real advice here. I've been married

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Speaker 1: for a year and my wife recently started a new job.

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Speaker 1: She was enjoying her job, and everything seemed to be

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Speaker 1: going in the right direction. One weekend, when we were

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Speaker 1: is falling for a man at her new job. I

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Speaker 1: never suspected anything, and I was shocked that she admitted it.

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Speaker 1: I was very hurt, but she begged me to be

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Speaker 1: patient and help her work through this. She was truthful

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Speaker 1: about everything and seemed to be genuinely sorry, so I

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Speaker 1: said I. I told her we could move past it.

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Speaker 1: She said she was going to avoid him at work

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Speaker 1: and it would all be fine. Well. A later, she

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Speaker 1: are in love with each other. She told me that

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Speaker 1: he lives with his girlfriend, though, so that's keeping them

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Speaker 1: from being together. I found his girlfriend and met up

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Speaker 1: with her. She already knew everything and she was not

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Speaker 1: leaving her man now here. I am all confused because

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Speaker 1: my wife is still doing her wifely duties at home,

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Speaker 1: like cooking, cleaning, giving me regular foot massages, and making

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Speaker 1: but I can't shake the feeling that she's only here

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Speaker 1: because she can't be with her coworker boyfriend. I don't

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Speaker 1: play house with me. Should I give her an ultimatum?

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Speaker 1: Or should I wait for this to blow over? Maybe

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Speaker 1: it's just a workplace fling. I can't even think straight.

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Speaker 1: What do you think? You know what? I'm gonna be

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Speaker 1: honest with you. I really thought you were gonna say

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Speaker 1: that after you contacted his girlfriend, uh, you know, and

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Speaker 1: you met up with her. You hooked up with her.

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Speaker 1: I thought that's what you were gonna say, honestly, But

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Speaker 1: to my surprise, you didn't. So right there, let me

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Speaker 1: know that you're a good man, You love and you

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Speaker 1: want your wife you want your wife to yourself at home. Uh.

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Speaker 1: You you've shown her that by sticking by her after

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Speaker 1: she told you that she had feelings and she was

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Speaker 1: in love with her coworker. You stuck by her. The

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Speaker 1: problem is she's not honoring herself, you or this marriage

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Speaker 1: or the marriage vows, or she's not sticking with you. Uh.

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Speaker 1: This is not blowing over like you say. You say

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Speaker 1: you should wait for this to blow over. This is

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Speaker 1: getting worse. They're getting deeper involved. She's allowing this man

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Speaker 1: who already has a woman, who you've met, and she

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Speaker 1: says she's not leaving him. She's allowed this man to

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Speaker 1: and you're going along with it? You know, I say

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Speaker 1: definitely yes, give her an ultimatum. Tell her it's either

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Speaker 1: you or him or you're out. She's playing and your

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Speaker 1: marriage is not a game. See Shirley. Yes, yes, I

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Speaker 1: can't me and me and you on two different pages

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Speaker 1: with these letters this week. That's a good thing. Yes,

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Speaker 1: it's a beautiful thing. I'm and I appreciate the perspective

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Speaker 1: you took. You took a wholesome You talked about the

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Speaker 1: marriage and talked about commitment. You talked about honesty. What

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Speaker 1: is what are we talking about? Let me let me

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Speaker 1: get you that this letter. It started a new job.

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Speaker 1: One weekend, we're chilling at home, and my wife confessed

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Speaker 1: that falling for a man at her job. She came

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Speaker 1: in and told list to who right there? See that

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Speaker 1: the opening of this whole letter. My wife confessed that

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Speaker 1: never suspected anything, and I was shocked that she admitted it.

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Speaker 1: I was very hurt, but she begged me to be

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Speaker 1: patient and help her work through this. What help your

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Speaker 1: work through what? You're falling in love with a man

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Speaker 1: but you won't me to help you work through it.

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Speaker 1: We're not working through a damn thing. I'm gonna try

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Speaker 1: to be patient before I get to the violence of

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Speaker 1: this letter. But let's try to move on. She says

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Speaker 1: she was truthful about everything, genuinely sorry, so I told

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Speaker 1: her we can move past Steve. See well, Steve, um, Yeah,

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Speaker 1: all right, we're in the middle of this Strawberry letter.

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Speaker 1: I think we may have lost connection with Steven. We'll

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Speaker 1: get him back, of course, like we always do. The

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Speaker 1: And uh, Steven saying there's no way that this woman

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Speaker 1: And absolutely, I think we're in agreement here. We're just saying, yeah,

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Speaker 1: I mean we definitely said my thing cut off, y'all

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Speaker 1: this unbelievable ass let him go back. It was very hurt,

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Speaker 1: and she begged me to be patient and work help

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Speaker 1: her work through this. Then she said, be truth about everything.

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Speaker 1: Seeing Junior. I told her we could move past this.

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Speaker 1: Who wrote this letter? What man? You know wrote this

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Speaker 1: damn letter? We come back. I'm a destroy this whole letter.

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Speaker 1: But right now, come on, Steve, with part two of

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Speaker 1: your response to today's Strawberry letter. You yeah, subject, you forgot,

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Speaker 1: you forgot what something. It's so good, I can't even

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Speaker 1: think straight. This is he's calling it. It's so good,

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Speaker 1: I can't even think at the end of this man,

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Speaker 1: I'm on the mike. This man. This man has a

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Speaker 1: wife that came to him one weekend. They're chilling at

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Speaker 1: her new job. Not right off the dribble, she told

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Speaker 1: this to who It's why I'm confused, because you're you

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Speaker 1: falling for a man on a new job. He said,

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Speaker 1: I was shocked. I never suspected anything, and she admitted

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Speaker 1: patient and help her work through this. What huge. She

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Speaker 1: was truthful about everything. It seemed to be generally sorry.

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Speaker 1: So I told her we could move past it. She

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Speaker 1: gonna be fine here in the crazy part. Well, a

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Speaker 1: month later she come to me and she told me

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Speaker 1: she and the guy couldn't avoid each other at work,

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Speaker 1: and now they are in love with each other whole house.

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Speaker 1: Is you telling this in in her house? Now? What? No? No, no,

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Speaker 1: no no no no no shulling, No, no, no, I'm sitting.

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Speaker 1: Don't give it that nothing off. You're not coming in

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Speaker 1: what you're telling me is bigger than the information I

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Speaker 1: got in here. That's not happening. Ship. I'm sorry. You

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Speaker 1: to her house. Hell, she told me that. She told

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Speaker 1: me that he lives with his girl friend though, so

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Speaker 1: that's keeping them from being together. So now this woman

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Speaker 1: girlfriend is the only reason. That's the only thing stopping

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Speaker 1: us from being together. Damn you, the marriage, the vials

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Speaker 1: all this week got. What's stopping us from being together

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Speaker 1: is his girlfriend. But how the hell she keeps feeling

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Speaker 1: comfortable enough to tell this to you? My wife not

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Speaker 1: that comfortable. And you want me to tell you why

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Speaker 1: because my wife, No, she can't bring nothing to me

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Speaker 1: that sounds that he because I didn't do something. M

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Speaker 1: I'm gonna do something. Now, let me tell you what

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Speaker 1: I ain't gonna do. What this dude wouldn't did. I

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Speaker 1: found his girlfriend. This is the husband found this man.

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Speaker 1: That's in over this. I found his girlfriend and met

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Speaker 1: up with her. She said she already knew everything and

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Speaker 1: she was not leaving him. So now here I am confused.

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Speaker 1: Who was this punk ass? Who is this as dude?

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Speaker 1: The set up here called this man girlfriend? You want

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Speaker 1: all this meeting and talking, but you ain't going to

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Speaker 1: the sauce of the problem partner. How you ain't had

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Speaker 1: this conversation with this dude? You're sleeping with my wife? Man?

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Speaker 1: What what? But she comfortable enough to tell my punk ass?

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Speaker 1: I wish my wife would get that damn comfortable. I'll

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Speaker 1: tell you right now. We're gonna be all over t

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Speaker 1: m Z. I swear to god we're on TMZ. Come

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Speaker 1: in here telling about what she gonna do with somebody

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Speaker 1: When you're gonna somebody asking this left? Come on, boys,

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Speaker 1: give me regular foot massagery and making good love to me.

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Speaker 1: still want to be with me, But I can't shake

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Speaker 1: I'm so damn mad this here, boys, she practicing on

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Speaker 1: you for What's she's gonna do with the man that

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Speaker 1: share with you? What kind mad you got? I don't

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Speaker 1: know what kind of man you are. I don't know

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Speaker 1: where you're from. I don't know who your daddy was.

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Speaker 1: you don't tell me what's sat Calm it down, Thank you,

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Speaker 1: This didn't happen to you. She's only here because she

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Speaker 1: can't be with her coworker boyfriend. I don't want to

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Speaker 1: Well you've been on through the whole lot of while

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Speaker 1: you wait until we get to the end and let it.

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Speaker 1: Thank you don't want to be a fool? Should I

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Speaker 1: to blow over? Blow over? Blow over? Did you say blow? Oh?

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Speaker 1: But when you think there's going Pardner, this ain't a storm?

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Speaker 1: Then he he come again with his podcast. Maybe it's

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Speaker 1: I can't even think straight. What do you think somebody

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Speaker 1: think you the dude, because he's still got the girlfriend

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Speaker 1: and your woman and ain't nobody attacking him? Get out

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