WEBVTT - We All Wrote Memoirs (with Anna Konkle) 0:00:04.800 --> 0:00:06.720 Welcome back to Artists on Artists on Artists on Artists. 0:00:06.760 --> 0:00:08.039 This week on the show, we have a bunch of 0:00:08.080 --> 0:00:09.640 people who wrote memoirs. 0:00:09.880 --> 0:00:13.840 Memoirs the story and book of a life of a person. 0:00:14.160 --> 0:00:17.280 But what happens if all of those people wrote a 0:00:17.320 --> 0:00:21.640 memoir kind of surrounding the same thing. Today we sit 0:00:21.760 --> 0:00:25.440 down with five different people promoting their own memoirs, each 0:00:26.120 --> 0:00:28.040 that have crossed over in each other's lives. 0:00:28.680 --> 0:00:33.040 Now, take out your individual POV and your kindle and 0:00:33.120 --> 0:00:33.800 let's listen in. 0:00:38.680 --> 0:00:44.800 Hi, Hi, Sorry, I didn't know we were one. You'll 0:00:44.800 --> 0:00:46.880 always do that and start earlier than when I'm ready. 0:00:46.920 --> 0:00:49.240 But yeah, forever, since I read. 0:00:49.120 --> 0:00:52.800 Too, there wasn't any sort of clue that you were ready, 0:00:52.920 --> 0:00:54.360 you know, if we were waiting for you to be ready. 0:00:54.400 --> 0:00:55.440 I think we did never forget anything. 0:00:56.000 --> 0:00:57.760 That is so true middle school. 0:01:00.040 --> 0:01:01.400 I'm going to take a deep breath. 0:01:01.520 --> 0:01:06.319 Sorry, okay, hi. 0:01:06.920 --> 0:01:09.720 Hi, she was talking, She was talking. 0:01:10.240 --> 0:01:15.360 Well, I was going to just simply apologize for turning 0:01:15.360 --> 0:01:17.840 the heat up. I know that some of you prefer 0:01:17.920 --> 0:01:23.160 it cold as an iceberg, but I would like for 0:01:24.360 --> 0:01:27.119 you know, I want this to be an okay experience 0:01:27.160 --> 0:01:29.959 for everyone. I want everyone to be comfortable. Is everyone comfortable? 0:01:30.959 --> 0:01:32.800 I'm comfortable. I'm really I felt like a threat. 0:01:32.800 --> 0:01:34.560 It felt like you asked me to be comfortable instead 0:01:34.560 --> 0:01:36.320 of asking me if I am comfortable. 0:01:36.440 --> 0:01:39.200 Well, simply, I wanted to know if you're If you're comfortable, 0:01:39.240 --> 0:01:39.600 that's it. 0:01:39.680 --> 0:01:40.720 I'm great, I'm right, it's rain. 0:01:40.880 --> 0:01:41.960 Okay, then comfortable. 0:01:42.959 --> 0:01:43.600 It's all in here. 0:01:43.720 --> 0:01:45.479 My comfort level is all in here. 0:01:45.640 --> 0:01:46.800 Okay, this is mine? 0:01:47.720 --> 0:01:48.960 Well, then oh that's yours. 0:01:49.720 --> 0:01:52.400 This is mine as well, my different book and memoir. Yeah, 0:01:52.400 --> 0:01:53.400 it's interesting, that's mine. 0:01:53.760 --> 0:01:54.400 Really interesting. 0:01:54.480 --> 0:01:58.720 I guess we're all here to promote our memoirs. We're 0:01:58.720 --> 0:02:01.680 all uh grew up together in one way or another, 0:02:02.280 --> 0:02:04.200 kind of one big family. I guess you could say 0:02:04.760 --> 0:02:08.839 each with a different perspective on or you do say 0:02:09.680 --> 0:02:10.800 I think I do say. 0:02:10.600 --> 0:02:11.079 In this sense. 0:02:12.320 --> 0:02:14.200 I'm just curious what I am to you if we're 0:02:14.200 --> 0:02:17.280 going to do this. We all have a bunch of 0:02:17.320 --> 0:02:20.320 books to promote, okay, And it feels like if we 0:02:20.360 --> 0:02:23.480 start doing this, it feels like we'll never get to 0:02:23.520 --> 0:02:23.960 the books. 0:02:24.040 --> 0:02:28.680 And I'm here not for this, I'm here forday. 0:02:29.320 --> 0:02:32.120 Okay, right, Why don't we just say our name and 0:02:32.200 --> 0:02:34.880 our memoir and the relationship to this group. 0:02:35.080 --> 0:02:38.360 You can go first, Mommy, you first, mom. 0:02:40.400 --> 0:02:46.120 Well, okay, I. 0:02:48.280 --> 0:02:52.360 Am going to start, because I am always willing to 0:02:52.400 --> 0:02:54.320 fall on the sword for this family. 0:02:55.240 --> 0:03:03.360 I will go first. My name is a niece murder. 0:03:03.440 --> 0:03:08.040 Mmmm Ibu family. That's what we are. 0:03:08.360 --> 0:03:10.000 She changed our name, of course when we were in 0:03:10.000 --> 0:03:13.000 the she changed your name at it. 0:03:13.960 --> 0:03:16.520 I changed my name to what I feel like all 0:03:16.560 --> 0:03:19.240 the time. I changed my name to what I feel 0:03:19.280 --> 0:03:21.799 like all the time. And now you all carry this name, 0:03:21.840 --> 0:03:25.240 and so you're welcome, Denise Martyr. I wrote a story 0:03:25.440 --> 0:03:30.400 called The Sacrificial lamb Uh. It's a story about a 0:03:30.440 --> 0:03:34.640 woman who gives everything she has to a family who 0:03:35.320 --> 0:03:41.080 doesn't seem to, you know, uh, give back. 0:03:40.840 --> 0:03:41.560 In the same way. 0:03:41.600 --> 0:03:44.280 And it's about, of course, our dealings as a as 0:03:44.320 --> 0:03:48.680 a family band traveling across the country. And we we 0:03:48.720 --> 0:03:53.520 traveled across we were well what would you call it, dear? 0:03:54.520 --> 0:03:56.600 I would call it a family band because I thought 0:03:56.600 --> 0:04:01.600 we were making music. No, I'm getting to intense. I'm 0:04:01.640 --> 0:04:04.120 going to reel it back. I love everyone in this. 0:04:04.160 --> 0:04:06.920 Room, I really do. And I wouldn't have spent so. 0:04:06.880 --> 0:04:09.640 Many years raising you, conducting you in the family band 0:04:09.840 --> 0:04:11.680 if I did not feel the same way. And I 0:04:12.200 --> 0:04:16.040 think this book the Sacrificial Lamb, available in Barnes and 0:04:16.200 --> 0:04:25.120 Noble exclusively. I don't want anyone else having it. I 0:04:25.200 --> 0:04:27.880 believe that this book will we'll shed some light on 0:04:27.920 --> 0:04:30.200 some things that the public may be curious about. 0:04:30.800 --> 0:04:32.919 So that's me. And it's nice to be in a 0:04:32.960 --> 0:04:33.480 room with all. 0:04:33.400 --> 0:04:36.560 Of you again, you too, mommy, And I'm glad we 0:04:36.560 --> 0:04:40.360 could finally make this happen. My memoir, of course, is 0:04:40.400 --> 0:04:43.800 called to me, to me, and. 0:04:46.200 --> 0:04:48.159 I'm laughing at and that's so you. 0:04:48.640 --> 0:04:51.000 I think I'm literally laughing at a movie I watched 0:04:51.040 --> 0:04:51.480 last night. 0:04:52.080 --> 0:04:54.039 Well, if you could be present with us right now 0:04:54.240 --> 0:04:57.360 instead of back in your entertainment then in the man caves, 0:04:57.920 --> 0:04:59.360 that'd be really I didn't. 0:04:59.160 --> 0:05:00.599 Think about hilario films. 0:05:00.640 --> 0:05:03.720 I watched, Thank You, Thank you, Sara. Apology wasn't a 0:05:03.760 --> 0:05:04.400 real apology? 0:05:04.480 --> 0:05:07.040 Go ahead to me, to me, I can't to me, 0:05:07.200 --> 0:05:09.600 to me, No, you wanted me to be upset, Go ahead, 0:05:09.880 --> 0:05:10.320 I didn't. 0:05:10.400 --> 0:05:13.400 But we can talk about this in another twenty years 0:05:13.400 --> 0:05:15.400 when I sit in the same fucking room with you again. 0:05:15.600 --> 0:05:20.040 Another chapter anyway, Mommy, So like you see like. 0:05:20.040 --> 0:05:24.520 This, you just have to tune him out, him out, 0:05:25.360 --> 0:05:26.279 tune him out. 0:05:26.520 --> 0:05:37.320 I gave you tune him out to the tune. 0:05:37.480 --> 0:05:41.000 Guys, guys, guys, we have to get through this. 0:05:41.680 --> 0:05:44.040 We have to please continue your introduce. 0:05:44.640 --> 0:05:45.960 Apologize like that. 0:05:46.120 --> 0:05:49.800 Just the good thing that I think we've found as 0:05:49.839 --> 0:05:53.200 a family is that art is sort of or trauma 0:05:53.360 --> 0:05:56.760 or abuse or you know, whatever it may be. It's 0:05:56.760 --> 0:06:00.840 sort of an intro to our art. And Mommy has 0:06:00.880 --> 0:06:07.359 always been a real benefactor of art and trauma with art. 0:06:08.360 --> 0:06:12.359 And sorry, okay, And I think what's been interesting about 0:06:12.360 --> 0:06:15.440 my You're still in another place you're not thinking about 0:06:15.520 --> 0:06:16.360 right here, right now. 0:06:17.160 --> 0:06:20.080 Let him let him, don't let him do this. 0:06:20.279 --> 0:06:23.080 You don't let him trigger you don't. 0:06:23.120 --> 0:06:25.600 He's laying a landmine for you to walk through. 0:06:25.839 --> 0:06:26.400 You can't. 0:06:27.000 --> 0:06:28.520 You can't allow him to do that. 0:06:29.160 --> 0:06:32.440 Literally, not A big part of the climax of my 0:06:32.520 --> 0:06:35.400 memoir is just a memory of your I know you 0:06:35.440 --> 0:06:38.880 haven't read it yet, smile laughing at me when I 0:06:38.920 --> 0:06:42.320 broke a bone. And that's sort of something that I 0:06:42.360 --> 0:06:45.400 explore here. And it seems mundane, but it obviously isn't. 0:06:48.160 --> 0:06:49.480 It's good to be in the same room with all 0:06:49.480 --> 0:06:52.719 of you again. And you know, I hope we can 0:06:52.880 --> 0:06:55.880 finally get our kids together. Definitely going to read your book. 0:06:57.160 --> 0:07:00.279 Wo, Melendus is high. 0:07:01.480 --> 0:07:02.799 I didn't know you had a Melinda. 0:07:02.880 --> 0:07:05.919 But hire just forgetting my kid's names. 0:07:06.360 --> 0:07:07.840 Okay, you want to introduce yourself. 0:07:08.000 --> 0:07:09.400 Okay, sorry, I. 0:07:12.040 --> 0:07:13.080 Here comes the tears again. 0:07:13.160 --> 0:07:13.480 Okay. 0:07:14.280 --> 0:07:14.880 Here it is. 0:07:16.920 --> 0:07:22.600 Being with my siblings makes me act out in the 0:07:22.640 --> 0:07:24.920 way that I don't like. 0:07:28.200 --> 0:07:28.360 Hi. 0:07:28.320 --> 0:07:31.040 My name is Tilt. 0:07:33.040 --> 0:07:39.200 And my memoir is called Cry Baby Cry in the 0:07:39.280 --> 0:07:40.360 River of Love. 0:07:42.960 --> 0:07:46.440 I'm the youngest. I grew up in a family band. 0:07:47.600 --> 0:07:51.040 And what's so funny is I finally found my voice. 0:07:50.720 --> 0:07:52.240 Even though I've been singing since I. 0:07:52.240 --> 0:07:52.720 Was a kid. 0:07:55.200 --> 0:08:00.760 Well, Tilly, Billy, it's nice to have you here. 0:08:01.560 --> 0:08:04.080 It's good to see everyone. Even though it's hard for 0:08:04.080 --> 0:08:05.720 me to say that it is good to see everyone. 0:08:06.320 --> 0:08:08.680 It's hard for me to be in this environment. Mom 0:08:09.080 --> 0:08:12.960 mm hmmm, sis mm hmm. But I'm glad i'm here. 0:08:13.800 --> 0:08:15.320 Your hair pink. 0:08:16.160 --> 0:08:19.640 I like it, and it's good for the book, for 0:08:19.720 --> 0:08:21.840 us all to be here together. For the books plural 0:08:22.200 --> 0:08:25.720 mainly to me to me by Shandy Redhorn, which is 0:08:25.760 --> 0:08:29.360 my name, Shandy danger name to me to me, Well, 0:08:29.400 --> 0:08:33.320 Shandy Martyr was a little uh, you're. 0:08:33.200 --> 0:08:33.960 Right, a bad name. 0:08:34.360 --> 0:08:36.520 Well, I liked Shandy Martyr. I thought it was a 0:08:36.559 --> 0:08:37.120 nice name. 0:08:37.200 --> 0:08:39.560 Planning for when we named you. 0:08:39.640 --> 0:08:41.400 So why did you name me Shandy Marder? 0:08:41.520 --> 0:08:46.679 Mommy, Well, Shandy is well, it's the name of an 0:08:46.679 --> 0:08:48.679 alcohol that your father and I used to drink. 0:08:48.840 --> 0:08:58.480 Oh, mixed of brandy the name. 0:08:58.360 --> 0:09:01.280 Of a drink, so it's a special It was a 0:09:01.480 --> 0:09:03.800 proprietary mixture that we would mix together. 0:09:03.920 --> 0:09:05.640 It is, of course, sherry and Brandon. 0:09:05.679 --> 0:09:07.040 We gotta stop doing this. 0:09:09.120 --> 0:09:10.280 We gotta get through this. 0:09:13.080 --> 0:09:14.760 Why didn't you introduce yoursel ahead? 0:09:14.960 --> 0:09:17.319 You go ahead, you go ahead. 0:09:17.679 --> 0:09:18.440 I'm shutting down. 0:09:18.840 --> 0:09:23.559 Sorry, do you want us to wait for you? 0:09:24.040 --> 0:09:24.559 Okay? 0:09:25.480 --> 0:09:25.800 Thank you. 0:09:27.160 --> 0:09:31.240 My name is Don Murder. I am the father of 0:09:31.280 --> 0:09:37.520 these three beautiful kids and the ex husband of the 0:09:37.559 --> 0:09:38.360 wonderful woman. 0:09:38.200 --> 0:09:40.640 Over there Jesus Christ. 0:09:43.000 --> 0:09:47.079 Say what if I said, when you say wonderful woman, 0:09:47.160 --> 0:09:48.000 I know what you mean. 0:09:48.480 --> 0:09:50.920 I mean you're a wonderful woman and I miss you 0:09:51.000 --> 0:09:53.240 every day. When you left in the middle of the night, 0:09:54.360 --> 0:09:57.360 I said, don't leave, don't come back. And somehow the 0:09:57.400 --> 0:09:59.920 narrative has shifted that I said for you to go. 0:10:01.040 --> 0:10:05.360 My book is called Hey you Make a Better Door 0:10:05.400 --> 0:10:06.040 than a window. 0:10:07.480 --> 0:10:10.720 A wacky Dad's life to raise in three musical children 0:10:11.880 --> 0:10:12.800 and don't for. 0:10:12.880 --> 0:10:17.280 The listener at home. Musical has quotes on it. You 0:10:17.320 --> 0:10:19.200 saw the title of the book, right, it's just for 0:10:19.280 --> 0:10:20.280 my musical children. 0:10:20.440 --> 0:10:24.600 Yeah, you know what I don't appreciate, And maybe I 0:10:24.600 --> 0:10:28.199 should save this for the discussion, for I don't appreciate 0:10:28.240 --> 0:10:31.000 our lives turned into pums and jokes. 0:10:32.320 --> 0:10:35.240 I wanted to write a lighthearted bathroom read about how 0:10:35.320 --> 0:10:38.079 much fun I had with your family, with my family, 0:10:38.480 --> 0:10:41.240 That's what I wrote. I just wrote about the silly 0:10:41.280 --> 0:10:45.000 times when you wore underwear on your head and you 0:10:45.040 --> 0:10:49.520 were running around. You were saying, I'm the underwear monster. Dad. 0:10:49.520 --> 0:10:51.520 They're selling your book at Urban Outfitters because it's a 0:10:51.559 --> 0:10:52.559 bathroom one liner. 0:10:52.600 --> 0:10:53.720 You can't call that a memoir. 0:10:54.360 --> 0:10:56.360 Well, it's about you, guys, and how much joy you 0:10:56.360 --> 0:10:59.079 brought me, and how funny it was to be a dad, and. 0:10:59.040 --> 0:11:01.520 How silly it was a arguments we got into having. 0:11:01.679 --> 0:11:03.800 You were out of town for the weekend because you 0:11:03.840 --> 0:11:06.280 were taking the two of them for that duet that 0:11:06.320 --> 0:11:08.480 they were doing at the Disney Opera House in LA 0:11:08.760 --> 0:11:10.559 and I had to be with util and I had 0:11:10.559 --> 0:11:12.280 to teach you how to use a feminine pad. 0:11:13.040 --> 0:11:14.560 Remember that crazy story. 0:11:15.960 --> 0:11:17.760 It's in my book book. 0:11:19.920 --> 0:11:22.280 You guys, when you guys were dad had to teach 0:11:22.320 --> 0:11:23.440 me how to use a pad. You wrote it in 0:11:23.440 --> 0:11:25.800 your book, my book, you guys. 0:11:25.679 --> 0:11:31.880 Weren't there, thought, well, a different perspective. 0:11:32.679 --> 0:11:35.000 My dad taught me how to use a pad. 0:11:35.520 --> 0:11:37.440 And you were out of town singing at the Disney 0:11:37.520 --> 0:11:38.160 Opera House. 0:11:38.400 --> 0:11:41.040 Well, in my book, I was there, Remember I I was. 0:11:41.120 --> 0:11:44.280 I was late for your musical when you were Lord Oklahoma, 0:11:44.640 --> 0:11:47.200 and I came in on your solo and I and 0:11:47.240 --> 0:11:51.480 I stood and yeah, and everyone gave you a standing 0:11:51.480 --> 0:11:53.800 ovation because they thought that I was standing for you 0:11:54.040 --> 0:11:55.520 and I had just arrived and I. 0:11:55.520 --> 0:11:57.840 Gave you a standing ovation. You know that was just 0:11:57.880 --> 0:11:58.600 a funny moment. 0:11:59.480 --> 0:12:01.839 What's funny. It's in my book as my daddy gave 0:12:01.880 --> 0:12:06.040 me a standing ovation. I didn't know. You just walked in. 0:12:08.000 --> 0:12:09.520 But there'll be a second print and. 0:12:11.080 --> 0:12:12.040 You're going to revise it. 0:12:12.120 --> 0:12:13.719 I just don't understand. 0:12:13.200 --> 0:12:14.960 Why are we here if it's not for revisions. 0:12:15.360 --> 0:12:19.959 I mean, honestly, retweet. 0:12:21.679 --> 0:12:22.120 Thank you. 0:12:22.440 --> 0:12:25.520 I've never seen someone cry. We'll say retweet that was crazy. 0:12:25.720 --> 0:12:29.280 I'm sorry, everybody. I am happy to be here. I 0:12:29.320 --> 0:12:31.120 only realized when I walked in and saw all of 0:12:31.160 --> 0:12:36.040 your covers that I'm maybe not a positive influence in 0:12:36.080 --> 0:12:39.720 these books. So I'm kind of dealing with that. But 0:12:39.800 --> 0:12:43.240 I don't want to take over the conversation here. I'd 0:12:43.240 --> 0:12:49.640 love for my wonderful, wonderful third child to introduce themselves. 0:12:51.040 --> 0:12:56.120 Hi. My name is Otto Martyr. I wrote the book 0:12:57.040 --> 0:13:04.360 Skateboarding Through Life, series of short stories and ideas about 0:13:05.120 --> 0:13:10.320 how guys can just chill. Yeah. You might remember me 0:13:10.360 --> 0:13:11.719 as a little Otto. 0:13:12.720 --> 0:13:18.400 The monkey boy of the family, always doing his monkey 0:13:18.520 --> 0:13:26.000 little tricks. 0:13:20.440 --> 0:13:26.640 M it's not. 0:13:26.640 --> 0:13:31.120 Funny to me. Yeah, it's trauma. 0:13:31.440 --> 0:13:33.679 Can ask you a question, brother, Trauma. I know, I know, 0:13:33.720 --> 0:13:33.960 I know. 0:13:34.240 --> 0:13:34.720 Go ahead. 0:13:34.800 --> 0:13:38.240 We're in your book about skateboarding is when dad taught 0:13:38.280 --> 0:13:43.480 me how to use a pad like I'd like for 0:13:43.520 --> 0:13:45.760 you to read it because I think that's not your 0:13:45.840 --> 0:13:48.400 story to tell, so I'd like to hear your stories. 0:13:48.440 --> 0:13:50.360 It's also it's it's advice. 0:13:50.720 --> 0:13:53.400 It's it's I've gleamed advice through my life. 0:13:54.880 --> 0:13:55.400 Mm hmm. 0:13:56.760 --> 0:14:00.520 This is a chapter called Red, White and Pad. 0:14:02.720 --> 0:14:03.600 So that's where it is. 0:14:06.160 --> 0:14:13.680 It's a full chapter chapter in my skateboarding and life advice. 0:14:15.720 --> 0:14:19.480 Sometimes you complete a trick, and sometimes a trick completes you. 0:14:19.640 --> 0:14:22.600 Sometimes a trick takes years and years and years of 0:14:22.600 --> 0:14:25.520 hard work and dedication to figure out. And that trick 0:14:25.720 --> 0:14:29.320 is the greatest trick of all the women's biology, the 0:14:29.440 --> 0:14:33.440 trick that God played on every woman. Men, if you're listening, 0:14:34.040 --> 0:14:36.560 be kind to your woman during this month. She doesn't 0:14:36.600 --> 0:14:38.680 know what she's up against, and you don't either. 0:14:39.480 --> 0:14:40.480 During this month. 0:14:42.560 --> 0:14:43.480 Men, if you're listening. 0:14:43.760 --> 0:14:48.200 Men, because I have an audiobook recorded, I wrote it 0:14:48.040 --> 0:14:49.480 for the audiobook. 0:14:50.160 --> 0:14:52.360 Maybe in the second print you can just make that 0:14:52.360 --> 0:14:52.800 a little bit. 0:14:52.800 --> 0:14:55.600 I'm not changing my word. I'm not changing it. 0:14:55.720 --> 0:14:58.240 Well okay, yeah, everyone's memory is different. 0:14:58.720 --> 0:15:01.320 Women, listen up. Be kind to your guide during your 0:15:01.360 --> 0:15:04.040 time too. You don't know what's happening. It's all hormonal. 0:15:20.320 --> 0:15:21.600 You don't know what's happening. 0:15:22.160 --> 0:15:28.840 Are all hormonal? Taught him that, I'm giving did you? 0:15:29.880 --> 0:15:32.120 Where did they come from? I did teach you when 0:15:32.120 --> 0:15:34.240 they got the bloody reds again, they're being. 0:15:34.040 --> 0:15:35.119 Cuckoo, cuckoo. 0:15:35.480 --> 0:15:37.520 I did teach them that because it's important to know 0:15:38.040 --> 0:15:39.760 for men to know why we're crazy. 0:15:40.040 --> 0:15:42.120 Yes, it's important for men to know. 0:15:42.720 --> 0:15:44.920 Why why these things happen. 0:15:45.920 --> 0:15:46.120 You know. 0:15:46.440 --> 0:15:48.720 I'd like to read my section of this book because 0:15:48.720 --> 0:15:50.360 I think I think you'll find it interesting. 0:15:51.200 --> 0:15:53.400 Who's the best selling one of everyone? That's the really 0:15:53.440 --> 0:16:01.240 question me, I think, okay, I think so, just wondering. 0:16:01.720 --> 0:16:03.120 Yes, I mean, I'm not proud of it. 0:16:03.240 --> 0:16:10.640 Chapter fourteen, betrayal, betrayal, betrayal. My daughter couldn't wait until 0:16:10.680 --> 0:16:16.680 I was back in town to have her period. A 0:16:16.720 --> 0:16:18.800 period is supposed to be something for a mother and 0:16:18.840 --> 0:16:23.080 a daughter to share. I was so excited. I've planned 0:16:23.080 --> 0:16:24.960 a party for the day I thought it would be. 0:16:25.840 --> 0:16:28.280 But she didn't have a period on that day. Oh 0:16:28.360 --> 0:16:31.520 my god, she had it early when I was out 0:16:31.560 --> 0:16:35.080 of town. This is just one of many problems I have. 0:16:35.560 --> 0:16:36.480 How dare you? 0:16:37.080 --> 0:16:37.800 The full chapter? 0:16:39.400 --> 0:16:42.320 So that wasn't call it how dare you? 0:16:42.800 --> 0:16:45.000 I will say, I will say, honey, I do love 0:16:45.040 --> 0:16:46.440 how you in all your chapters. 0:16:46.520 --> 0:16:48.920 And by the way, that's not the end of it. 0:16:49.000 --> 0:16:51.320 And then you say with another chapter you always go, 0:16:51.440 --> 0:16:52.680 this is one of many problems. 0:16:52.800 --> 0:16:54.720 Oh, and there's so much more. I love the way 0:16:54.720 --> 0:16:54.840 you do. 0:16:54.920 --> 0:16:56.360 You worry people are gonna think that's the end of 0:16:56.360 --> 0:16:59.800 the book because the chapter's ending. I think it's important 0:16:59.840 --> 0:17:01.200 to to communicate with people. 0:17:01.320 --> 0:17:02.000 I'm just sorry. 0:17:02.120 --> 0:17:04.560 You know, my period isn't quite over yet. I'm sorry 0:17:04.560 --> 0:17:07.320 my period couldn't be on a perfect timer for you, mom. 0:17:07.760 --> 0:17:10.360 And I'm sorry my older sister was a little bit 0:17:10.400 --> 0:17:11.480 more perfect for you. 0:17:11.840 --> 0:17:14.760 I'm just saying that her period landed perfectly on her 0:17:14.760 --> 0:17:15.480 period party. 0:17:15.680 --> 0:17:17.480 And didn't you remember your period party? 0:17:17.560 --> 0:17:19.000 Wasn't it so fun? 0:17:19.040 --> 0:17:23.200 We got a ferris wheel and and face paint and 0:17:23.280 --> 0:17:23.840 a clown. 0:17:24.119 --> 0:17:27.280 Yeah. Yeah, we had a fairis wheel and that clown. 0:17:27.359 --> 0:17:28.760 And you loved it, didn't you. 0:17:29.520 --> 0:17:32.320 I felt really crazy. I felt really embarrassed. 0:17:32.880 --> 0:17:37.560 Woady read the exact because you wrote about the period 0:17:37.600 --> 0:17:38.760 party in your memoir. 0:17:38.800 --> 0:17:45.840 You read mind courses. Thanks brother. Absolutely see. I've memorized 0:17:45.840 --> 0:17:47.879 the page because that's the one that really keeps me 0:17:47.960 --> 0:17:54.560 up at night. Chapter twenty six, interesting chapter Mommy, what nothing? 0:17:55.680 --> 0:17:58.879 Mommy looked at me today again, and she's always thinking 0:17:58.880 --> 0:18:04.000 about my sister. What's your name? My name is tilt, 0:18:04.040 --> 0:18:11.680 you bitch? Tilt Tilt? Okay, tilt my name? Sorry, I forgot. 0:18:14.080 --> 0:18:15.639 Mommy was always looking at. 0:18:17.680 --> 0:18:18.159 Just changed it. 0:18:20.720 --> 0:18:23.440 I looked at mommy, and the fairest we was spinning 0:18:23.640 --> 0:18:28.520 wild behind her head. She didn't know how badly this 0:18:28.560 --> 0:18:31.359 party had made me feel. Daddy was gone with the 0:18:31.400 --> 0:18:35.800 band again, Brother and Tilt were nowhere to be found. 0:18:35.960 --> 0:18:39.560 As always, there was popcorn, candy and all of my friends. 0:18:39.720 --> 0:18:41.600 They love me so much. They look at me like 0:18:41.640 --> 0:18:45.880 an idol. I got my period today and my mom said, congratulations, 0:18:45.920 --> 0:18:49.119 you're a woman. I said, you're the real woman, Mommy. 0:18:49.160 --> 0:18:51.320 I love you, and I'm sorry my family's so weird. 0:18:51.680 --> 0:18:55.000 I'm sorry they're not here. And then all of a sudden, 0:18:56.320 --> 0:18:58.359 I looked up and I knew in that moment that 0:18:58.480 --> 0:19:01.760 despite all of the things, the ferris wheel and all 0:19:01.760 --> 0:19:04.760 of the celebration and being the star child wouldn't make 0:19:04.880 --> 0:19:07.840 up for how little my other family, who wasn't here, 0:19:07.920 --> 0:19:11.679 thought of me. That was the most sad day of 0:19:11.720 --> 0:19:13.480 my entire life. 0:19:13.520 --> 0:19:16.600 Yes, beautiful, and I just want to commend you for, 0:19:17.080 --> 0:19:18.919 you know, for putting it all out there and be 0:19:19.000 --> 0:19:22.080 so honest about about where the pain comes from. It's 0:19:22.280 --> 0:19:24.520 it's you know, it's it's tough to open your eyes 0:19:24.520 --> 0:19:27.680 sometimes to see yourself in print. But this is I'm 0:19:27.760 --> 0:19:29.439 really proud of you for taking this step. 0:19:29.520 --> 0:19:32.040 Thank you. Sometimes the parties, it's not clear where the 0:19:32.040 --> 0:19:34.679 pain is, and the pain can be in the biggest 0:19:34.680 --> 0:19:36.679 party that's been thrown for you for all time, and 0:19:36.720 --> 0:19:38.440 it can still be the worst day of your life. 0:19:38.560 --> 0:19:40.240 Can I be honest with you something? 0:19:40.320 --> 0:19:40.520 Sure? 0:19:40.560 --> 0:19:45.760 You guys don't know. Your mother wouldn't let me see 0:19:45.760 --> 0:19:50.920 you when you were on your periods. Well, I said, 0:19:51.520 --> 0:19:58.280 she said, she's I know, she said, the rad monster 0:19:58.400 --> 0:20:01.240 they will get you. She's she describes you as monsters. 0:20:01.440 --> 0:20:07.720 Wait, Daddy, so you were there all the time. 0:20:07.720 --> 0:20:10.080 You were going to war for a quick week. 0:20:10.280 --> 0:20:12.800 Yeah, that was fake. I was staying at the Ramada 0:20:12.800 --> 0:20:13.480 Inn downtown. 0:20:13.880 --> 0:20:15.040 You were lying about war. 0:20:15.720 --> 0:20:17.879 Well, like I wasn't lying to you. I could see you. 0:20:17.920 --> 0:20:19.800 We would go to the skatepark and Brad taught you 0:20:19.840 --> 0:20:20.720 how to do a wheelie. 0:20:21.200 --> 0:20:22.600 Yeah, I remember how you taught me how to do 0:20:22.640 --> 0:20:24.639 a whel on a skateboard. It doesn't even make sense. 0:20:24.680 --> 0:20:26.719 No one's ever done it before. It's my own thing 0:20:26.760 --> 0:20:27.320 I figured out. 0:20:27.400 --> 0:20:29.920 I'm sorry I wouldn't let you see our daughters when 0:20:29.920 --> 0:20:31.440 they were on their periods. 0:20:31.800 --> 0:20:33.520 I have something I want to share from my book. 0:20:33.840 --> 0:20:35.119 I do want to hear a little bit of a 0:20:35.240 --> 0:20:36.240 justification real quick. 0:20:36.320 --> 0:20:37.080 Yes. 0:20:37.240 --> 0:20:45.600 And the reason, of course, is because because of our heritage. 0:20:47.040 --> 0:20:51.359 Have you heard the legend in our village, Your great 0:20:51.400 --> 0:20:54.440 great great great great great grandmother lived in a village 0:20:54.480 --> 0:20:58.120 that believed a period monster would come into the night 0:20:58.240 --> 0:21:04.359 and steal the families finances. I wanted to protect us. 0:21:04.960 --> 0:21:07.199 And if you were logging in and out of the 0:21:07.240 --> 0:21:10.680 bank account during the time of the month that our 0:21:10.800 --> 0:21:16.480