Speaker 1: Well, first of all, we're very open with our daughter.
Speaker 2: When we first decided to go open, we sat down
Speaker 2: and talked to her about it. And then when we
Speaker 2: decided to go Polly, we sat down and talked to
Speaker 2: her about But.
Speaker 3: Your wife's boyfriend and your girlfriend, yeah, and they met
Speaker 3: each other.
Speaker 2: I have a crazy backstory now, been shot, set on fire, kidnapped,
Speaker 2: all this type of shit, and it's all at fourteen.
Speaker 2: If a woman fucks with a lot of people, she's
Speaker 2: a whole. And if God doing he's just like being
Speaker 2: the guys man.
Speaker 1: That shit is stupid.
Speaker 2: So my wife, I'm a boy. I love watching people,
Speaker 2: I love being watched.
Speaker 1: I love that shit. Right, it was different with her boyfriend.
Speaker 3: Okay, welcome to decisions decisions. I don't think you should
Speaker 3: say decisions decisions. It sounded like you was talking to Kirsten.
Speaker 3: You used definitely say to welcome, welcome to the new podcast.
Speaker 3: You want to say together the decisions decisions. Hey, guys,
Speaker 3: welcome to another episode of This is the Owns.
Speaker 4: This is the Owns.
Speaker 1: I'm your girl man.
Speaker 3: D b aka peg the Sign aka Peggy Bundy aka
Speaker 3: Peggan Marco aka that Beach.
Speaker 4: What's good y'all, I'm weazy. Welcome back to another episode.
Speaker 5: We have a guest in the building today, and I'm
Speaker 5: so excited because me and my mama be standing this
Speaker 5: nigg First of all, I just call you the light
Speaker 5: skinned nigga with the nose ring my mom be.
Speaker 4: Like the freckle nigga. We always be confused. And then
Speaker 4: finally one day you were like, follow.
Speaker 1: Me on my igs here.
Speaker 4: I was like, shout out to comedian.
Speaker 5: And podcaster and all of the things that I'm not
Speaker 5: reading in this bio yet to hear my.
Speaker 1: I appreciate it.
Speaker 3: I'm very excited to be here and where we haven't like,
Speaker 3: I haven't got to see you live.
Speaker 1: You are highly spoken up.
Speaker 3: We have a mutual friend and so I'm just glad
Speaker 3: that we're super able to finally make this happened.
Speaker 1: Shout out to Io. By the way, if.
Speaker 3: Y'all are on Patreon, there is a whole lesson that
Speaker 3: Chef Io did with us where she taught us how
Speaker 3: to cook God damn Ruth Chris stuff chicken.
Speaker 4: Didn't they do well?
Speaker 3: No, no, no, it was so fucking good. And I
Speaker 3: was like, hey, bro, this is my ship.
Speaker 1: Now. Mind you when you go.
Speaker 3: To a steakhouse, yes, normally it's really black and uncultured
Speaker 3: to order chicken. Yes, but Ruth christ is the only
Speaker 3: goddamn steakhouse exception.
Speaker 1: Hey, brother, goddamn chicken. I haven't had the chicken there.
Speaker 1: You haven't I had chicken.
Speaker 3: Just know you won't be looked at like it's chicken
Speaker 3: at the steakhouse.
Speaker 1: It is the chicken, but he's the.
Speaker 2: Thing if you order it, like you're like, hey, we
Speaker 2: ordered a lot of stuff, Just order for the table.
Speaker 1: That's how you can get around it.
Speaker 3: Okay that when you can't, that is the known one.
Speaker 5: But I'd be like every time I get to a steakhouse,
Speaker 5: I'll be like, chicken, you know that sounds good. I'll
Speaker 5: take the food.
Speaker 1: Listen, I get the I love.
Speaker 5: You need to be eating with a lot of people,
Speaker 5: because you see when these people online started being like
Speaker 5: how do you spant the check? That bro to me,
Speaker 5: that's my time to be glutting, like I be oh,
Speaker 5: I literally have a dinner tonight. It was me and
Speaker 5: a home girl was like, make it a girl game.
Speaker 1: Let's invite more bitches because I.
Speaker 4: Didn't three mean you, I won't And it's only two
Speaker 4: of them.
Speaker 3: Now, what I tell you, I just it's funny because
Speaker 3: in terms of uh organizing, everyone wanted me to have
Speaker 3: a birthday dinner this year, right, And I was just like, no,
Speaker 3: I said, first off, this year has been rough for.
Speaker 1: A lot of people.
Speaker 3: Yes, so literally even being out here in LA there
Speaker 3: was a friend that was supposed to join us, and
Speaker 3: she literally had to tell my friend on the side, like,
Speaker 3: I'm probably just gonna have water because it's a little rough.
Speaker 1: And when I call out, bitch, I like, have y'all.
Speaker 1: I like the stakes.
Speaker 3: I like the things that are priced to impe and so.
Speaker 4: When I'm like this period supermarket.
Speaker 3: So the idea of a big group dinner where also
Speaker 3: everyone has different ways of spend their money. Sometimes food
Speaker 3: ain't it for somebody. And at the age I.
Speaker 5: Think where we can have a birthday dinner where people
Speaker 5: got to pay off, it ain't even like we should
Speaker 5: be hosting it.
Speaker 1: And like, and that's another reason you think on my birthday,
Speaker 1: I want to you neat a whole bunch of brokies. Yeah, everybody. Everyone.
Speaker 2: For my birthday, we had Piece of Hood absolutely go crazy.
Speaker 2: But I got a two hundred fifty dollars for but
Speaker 2: the idea of.
Speaker 3: Also like wanting to celebrate myself, but I'm paying for
Speaker 3: the dinner.
Speaker 4: I'm paying for y'all to eat with me for my birthday.
Speaker 1: I feel both sides of it. I feel both sides
Speaker 1: of it because.
Speaker 2: It's like, Okay, give us if we're again, if we're
Speaker 2: going to a place that's affordable, and it ain't no
Speaker 2: big thing like bowling or something like that, and I'm
Speaker 2: gonna order the absence all of y'all.
Speaker 1: Just take care of y'all. Yeah, but I'll take care
Speaker 1: of the bowling and I'll take care of the apps.
Speaker 2: If y'all whatever, drink y'all want, y'all get yourself, Okay,
Speaker 2: But if we're going to like my favorite steakhouse is
Speaker 2: place called Bourbon Steak in Glendale, California, stay up in there.
Speaker 1: No, that's steak Boulevard.
Speaker 2: I like, though me and my wife are gone there
Speaker 2: a number of times and the two of.
Speaker 1: Us have racked up seven hundred dollars.
Speaker 3: That's what I'm saying for two people, bro, I ain't
Speaker 3: doing what I This is why we need to be.
Speaker 5: Picking the birthday places. Like my thirty fifth birthday is coming, huh.
Speaker 5: I'm gonna do it in La because my dad is here.
Speaker 5: He's not as mobile, and I'm like, you know what,
Speaker 5: all I want is my close friend and I.
Speaker 4: Want to take everybody out.
Speaker 1: Where are we gonna go? Bitch?
Speaker 4: I shut down with a cheesecake factory. I already have
Speaker 4: it on the hold.
Speaker 5: Hey, I said, y'all niggas got an ox court. I
Speaker 5: like playing this out, but I was like, you know what, cheescarea.
Speaker 5: In my brain, I'm like, what would I be willing
Speaker 5: to spend to have this moment with my friends and
Speaker 5: my family because it's a party essentially, It's probably gonna
Speaker 5: be about fifteen dollars. Right there's eight of us at
Speaker 5: a cheesecake factory. I doubt it he'll get there. However,
Speaker 5: my nigga bettery be taking me to get some fucking
Speaker 5: MP that next.
Speaker 1: And listen, I listen. I don't know your level of friends.
Speaker 2: Like even when keV like takes us all out, I
Speaker 2: still pull them to side, like, yo, let.
Speaker 1: Me put something on it.
Speaker 2: Put someone like no, nigga, I got it, like I
Speaker 2: gotta spend it or else sinst like he does it
Speaker 2: as a tax right now. But I always offer because
Speaker 2: I know it can get expense. Let me take care
Speaker 2: of the tip, just eight of us. Let me take
Speaker 2: care of the tip or something like that, just so
Speaker 2: I can put some on it. But I understand both sides.
Speaker 4: Yeah, any taken.
Speaker 1: He's let me take care of the tip a couple
Speaker 1: of times. That's nice.
Speaker 2: Yeah, And I know he don't need it, and I
Speaker 2: do need I do need it, right, but I be.
Speaker 1: Holding the niggas ain't no every time there whoa ship.
Speaker 1: I thought that he took a little while. I thought
Speaker 1: was gonna say yes so that one.
Speaker 2: But but I just don't want him to ever feel
Speaker 2: like I'm taking it for granted or it's expected, like
Speaker 2: I will always.
Speaker 1: Pay my own way. But if you treat nigga, you know,
Speaker 1: I want to block.
Speaker 4: Have you heard a Chipriani? You have or you heard
Speaker 4: a Chipriani in New York?
Speaker 1: What was that Chipriani?
Speaker 4: Chiprioni? So it's just like Italian Italian high end restaurant.
Speaker 5: And recently I went with a friend in quest Love
Speaker 5: and he's bet in my life and family for a
Speaker 5: few years now and always.
Speaker 1: Takes us out.
Speaker 5: So I said, let me take you to dinner. I
Speaker 5: never take you to dinner and I'm not saying I
Speaker 5: didn't mean it. I just didn't think he'd be like
Speaker 5: that's so sweet.
Speaker 2: Yeah yeah, And I was like, and now you got to.
Speaker 1: Go to a good place because you don't want to
Speaker 1: insult him.
Speaker 4: Now, No, we were already there.
Speaker 1: Oh shit, so now take the wrong place.
Speaker 4: My Homegirl's like, oh my god, I think I'm gonna
Speaker 4: have another rest ersion.
Speaker 1: We would have me to grace to God.
Speaker 4: All told this nigga to his face. I said, this
Speaker 4: best day of my life.
Speaker 5: We get the check and the guy comes over and said,
Speaker 5: it's actually already been taken care of.
Speaker 4: Someone over there is a huge fan of you. Wow,
Speaker 4: you changed my life. You changed my like I.
Speaker 1: Said, thank you, thank you, And that's amazing.
Speaker 4: Dog. You know what I have?
Speaker 1: Yes, fa Fair, Hello, fain Fair. Now I'm gonna intentionally.
Speaker 3: Do it and like I found this really cool indeed
Speaker 3: Jamaican spot.
Speaker 1: You want to know, I'm gonna do some shit like that.
Speaker 3: It's so funny because I listen, I'll be I'll be patty,
Speaker 3: I'll be like, I got it a happy hour.
Speaker 1: You just get the next spot.
Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, okay, I'll be like, let's let's do this.
Speaker 3: Let's do this, So we got some questions for you, Okay,
Speaker 3: age sex location, would love to know that before we
Speaker 3: get into your relationship. I like to do a little
Speaker 3: starter just like the a OL screen game, because that's
Speaker 3: all right.
Speaker 2: Yeah, okay, I'm forty one, I am straight mail, and
Speaker 2: I live in all La La right now.
Speaker 4: And so your dad, do you have one kid?
Speaker 1: To just one? Actually birthday is yesterday. She just turned
Speaker 1: twenty Ollie.
Speaker 3: You excited about the twenty one age is there?
Speaker 1: Yeah? I don't know. I'm excited for her to get out.
Speaker 1: Oh she's still living out there? Yeah? Yeah, she living
Speaker 1: at home. She ain't going to school. What's the count? Gamer?
Speaker 1: I don't know.
Speaker 2: You know, I'm trying to be like I moved out
Speaker 2: at fourteen, So I'm it's like the way I was
Speaker 2: brought up on her. But at the same time, I'm like, Nigga,
Speaker 2: you gotta do something grown adults.
Speaker 3: Is she able to bring boys to the house.
Speaker 1: Is that she has friends over? No, nigga been over
Speaker 1: the carib.
Speaker 4: Yeahdoll no, you gonna do like what they do and
Speaker 4: the bad boys?
Speaker 1: No, no, no, I ain't gonna. I ain't gonna do
Speaker 1: all of that.
Speaker 2: And I mean you'll know I'm crazy though, Like if
Speaker 2: he came over, it'd be guz out.
Speaker 1: But I ain't gonna like put no on. I just
Speaker 1: playing the dume, Like what's someone you're good?
Speaker 4: No, she don't have good guys.
Speaker 1: She's a gamer.
Speaker 2: Yeah yeah, yeah, yeah, I mean, but I mean the
Speaker 2: gamers be weird too, not even talking to each other.
Speaker 1: No, no, they're serial killers on that training training might
Speaker 1: be better. Yeah, oh what I mean? Listen, listen, listen.
Speaker 1: She ain't.
Speaker 2: Thankfully, My daughter is still very much like a kid.
Speaker 2: Like she likes hanging with us, She likes watching movies
Speaker 2: with us. She don't like she hangs rough fee every
Speaker 2: now and then. But she's like the mother hen which
Speaker 2: she hangs withever. Wow, he's wanting to make sure everybody
Speaker 2: drink water and stuff, like she doesn't drink, she don't
Speaker 2: smoke every now and there. She'll do it edible with
Speaker 2: us with her Yeah yeah, because I know she would
Speaker 2: need money now and she gets all the money for
Speaker 2: me now.
Speaker 3: One of the reasons why are you sure wanted you
Speaker 3: on the show so much? And what I love is
Speaker 3: because we never able are really to have this conversation
Speaker 3: fully with men you've got couples on and things like that,
Speaker 3: but you're in the.
Speaker 1: Lifestyle, lifestyle, and so I would love to know if.
Speaker 3: You could share even your introduction to lifestyle and how
Speaker 3: you're able to navigate it in.
Speaker 1: A marriage an older daughter too. Yeah. Yeah, Well, first
Speaker 1: of all, we're very open with our daughter.
Speaker 2: When we first decided to go open, we sat down
Speaker 2: and talked to her about it. And then when we
Speaker 2: decided to go Polly, we sat down and talked to
Speaker 2: her about waiting open.
Speaker 1: And Polly, we're two different conversations.
Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, yeah, explain that, okay, because when we went open,
Speaker 2: it was like just it. It was just a physical thing,
Speaker 2: like we weren't looking for anything with the people that
Speaker 2: we might play with. We weren't keeping anything going like that.
Speaker 2: So you know, like, hey, I might become my own lady.
Speaker 2: Me and mommy have decided to you know, try this out.
Speaker 2: Blah blah blah, this overdoor policy. You can come talk
Speaker 2: to us at any time about it. You have any questions,
Speaker 2: like we went into detail with her. But you know
Speaker 2: a second yeah, uh, this was twenty five, so she
Speaker 2: might have been like eleven, and that's just because.
Speaker 4: An eleven year old.
Speaker 5: Hold on, wait, wait, wait, this is really interesting to
Speaker 5: me because a lot of people act like this should
Speaker 5: be reserved for like an older kid. Yeah, so you
Speaker 5: told an eleven year old and expecting her to understand,
Speaker 5: and like how did you say it?
Speaker 2: Well, we didn't go into like the details of like yeah,
Speaker 2: I'm fucking bitches out here right, but like you know,
Speaker 2: because my thing is like with me being in entertainment
Speaker 2: and then embracing the lifestyle. If somebody snaps a picture
Speaker 2: of like yo, us have to hear out with another
Speaker 2: person and my daughter at that time, she wasn't on
Speaker 2: social media as much, but it was still around, like
Speaker 2: if it's floating around, I don't want her to see
Speaker 2: some shit and then she's like the last found out
Speaker 2: about it. So it's more so like like hey, listen,
Speaker 2: this is what me and Mammy are doing. We're doing
Speaker 2: this because of this. This is a decision that we
Speaker 2: both made. So if you hear anything, see anything, then
Speaker 2: feel free to come to us.
Speaker 1: Ask Sumer questions like that.
Speaker 4: I love that.
Speaker 3: And then at what point did you go from open
Speaker 3: to polly and how was the conversation different?
Speaker 2: So when we went Polly, it was probably like twenty twenty,
Speaker 2: twenty twenty one, and it was a it was a
Speaker 2: more mature conversation.
Speaker 1: Hey, me and mommy are deciding to do this.
Speaker 2: We're looking for Initially we were looking for a third
Speaker 2: and then we ended up just having our own partners.
Speaker 2: And so we told her because she had met both
Speaker 2: the partners already at that time.
Speaker 1: So it was the.
Speaker 3: Daughter met your wife's boyfriend and your girlfriend. Yeah, and
Speaker 3: they met each other. Yeah, we vacation together. We spend
Speaker 3: them there that the New year's all over here. That
Speaker 3: be our whole drive. You get to travel as husband
Speaker 3: and wife with both of your partners.
Speaker 5: Are y'all swapping or are swapping, you're just vacationing.
Speaker 1: So what's the polly? What is that considered?
Speaker 3: Because right now I'm solo poly, But what is that
Speaker 3: poly considered?
Speaker 2: Well, I mean it depends on like your arrangement to
Speaker 2: you know, that's hierarchy and that's non hierarchical.
Speaker 1: So you know, non hierarchical is everybody's on the same
Speaker 1: everyone's on the same plane. Yeah.
Speaker 2: So anytime you make a life decision or you're planning
Speaker 2: on making a major life decision like getting the car moving,
Speaker 2: investing in something like, you know, you bring it to
Speaker 2: the table so everyone can weigh in because it could
Speaker 2: affect everyone. So it's it's just a lot of communication,
Speaker 2: a lot of communication. And it's not to say like
Speaker 2: niggas don't get jealous, Like niggas still get jealous.
Speaker 1: And it's just about.
Speaker 2: Being able to have the capacity to have the conversation
Speaker 2: and converse about what the insecurities are rising. Jealousy and anger,
Speaker 2: those are all both secondary emotions, so it's starting for
Speaker 2: something else. So like, what is what is steering up
Speaker 2: this insecurity? What's the steering enough this jealousy? What's stinger
Speaker 2: steering up this this anger? But you have to be
Speaker 2: in a place to be able to have that conversation. Listen,
Speaker 2: got married, am nigga was not like I was a
Speaker 2: shut down type. We have a conversation. I associated conversation
Speaker 2: immediately with conflict because of the way I was raised
Speaker 2: and I grew up in a very violent household.
Speaker 1: My mom was beat by my sister's dad.
Speaker 2: Anytime she questioned or the conversation got too heated, he
Speaker 2: would just you know, he would he beat me too.
Speaker 2: So I just seen that and then my uncles all
Speaker 2: of them fighting and fighting with their old ladies. Anytime
Speaker 2: like a conversation got heated or she would raise her voice,
Speaker 2: I would shut down. I would either leave or just
Speaker 2: walk off the room. And then it's tense in the
Speaker 2: house for a week. And I was like, I don't
Speaker 2: I don't like this.
Speaker 3: I go, did you guys take this? Did you do
Speaker 3: therapy by yourself first, or did you both?
Speaker 2: I had to get the therapy, and I tried, like
Speaker 2: I had. I had tried two different therapists. None of
Speaker 2: them was working. Like I have a crazy backstory, you know,
Speaker 2: been shot, set on fire, kidnapped, all this type of shit,
Speaker 2: and it's all at fourteen and so I'm telling the
Speaker 2: first therapists about this and we're doing it virtually, and
Speaker 2: I see her go right at right, and I was
Speaker 2: just like, it's not gonna work. So I already know,
Speaker 2: like this ship is shocking you like.
Speaker 1: This, this is just the intro.
Speaker 2: This this is right after the ford after somebody do
Speaker 2: the forward, Like this is on the first page and
Speaker 2: you're doing damn right now, Nah, to culturally different therapists.
Speaker 3: You have to get before you felt like you could
Speaker 3: go from sharing your backstory to getting to your conflict resolution.
Speaker 1: My third one is really good.
Speaker 2: And uh this is after the first two, like I
Speaker 2: canceled them like within like a month and a half.
Speaker 4: Did you have an idea of like man woman black?
Speaker 2: I wanted a woman just because I think I feel
Speaker 2: more comforable women. I was raised by women, and also,
Speaker 2: like you know, I'm a Pisces, I was raising the hood.
Speaker 2: But I also have like a lot of sensitive quality,
Speaker 2: So I wanted someone that would understand that but also
Speaker 2: acknowledge it too, Like you know, it takes. It takes
Speaker 2: a lot of strength of like y'all, I'm scared, I'm insecure,
Speaker 2: or I don't know how to talk about this or whatever.
Speaker 1: And sometimes I feel like women are.
Speaker 2: More encouraging and comforting and nourishing to build you up
Speaker 2: and strengthen that muscle so you feel more confident in
Speaker 2: doing it.
Speaker 5: I feel like it's so hard to even like go
Speaker 5: back to sex, you know, when someone start saying somebody
Speaker 5: like I've.
Speaker 4: Been shot onself, Like, okay, so about the sucking day.
Speaker 5: I also have a question that's on my line Pisces
Speaker 5: and Pisces now because jealousy arises, but sometimes jealousy is
Speaker 5: sexy yeah, you as a straight man. What were your
Speaker 5: homeboy saying when you said your wife had a boyfriend?
Speaker 5: And I think I want to ask this really in
Speaker 5: depth and you tell us a lot about it because
Speaker 5: so many women are watching. Yeah maybe in dynamics where
Speaker 5: their boyfriend won't let them.
Speaker 1: Have a boyfriend.
Speaker 5: Yeah, absolutely, I could get some plassy sometimes but you
Speaker 5: can't or whatever, like, and we see that so much,
Speaker 5: and we see that it's so hard for them to
Speaker 5: have those conversations.
Speaker 4: I would love to hear, like, who was judging you?
Speaker 1: And what was that like?
Speaker 2: I'm sure a lot of niggas failed the way. Uh
Speaker 2: you know, they hit you with that that old black saying.
Speaker 2: I mean, hey, nigga, if you like it, I look
Speaker 2: and honestly, a lot of times you have to just
Speaker 2: move with that, you know what I mean? Like, honestly,
Speaker 2: the people that did have something to say, I felt
Speaker 2: a weaight, Like none of the niggas paid bills in
Speaker 2: my house, period, not not a single one of them.
Speaker 2: So you can feel how what the fuck you want
Speaker 2: to feel? But we're good over here. Every bill is paid.
Speaker 2: We got cars, we got groceries, flipping switch slices, Come on, nigga.
Speaker 1: We chilling.
Speaker 2: How you feel about it, it's cool. But also I'm
Speaker 2: not trying to push it off on you. I'm not recruiting.
Speaker 2: We're sharing, right right. I'm sure some shit that you
Speaker 2: eat that I don't fuck with and I don't I
Speaker 2: ain't finna like you don't make me ship. Yeah, so
Speaker 2: I'm not tripping off of that. When it comes to
Speaker 2: like how I got to this point is we I
Speaker 2: don't know. I've always been like a it's an equal
Speaker 2: person like you. I mean, yeah, I always been, always
Speaker 2: been free. But why is it okay for me to
Speaker 2: do it and you not to do it?
Speaker 1: That's how I feel.
Speaker 2: That's how we perpetuate the stereotype of a woman fucks
Speaker 2: with a lot of people, she's a hoe, and if
Speaker 2: a god does, he's just like being the guys man.
Speaker 1: That shit is stupid to me.
Speaker 5: How did table jealousy or not even table jealousy, but
Speaker 5: more so know that you could handle it?
Speaker 1: What's festers did you guys have?
Speaker 3: Was?
Speaker 5: Were you starting with certain lifestyle parties or did it.
Speaker 2: I think just trial, not trialing error, but like just
Speaker 2: knowing what you think you may be comfortable with and
Speaker 2: trying that texting me is.
Speaker 1: I mean, it's different types of sex.
Speaker 2: It's quick little fuck right now. I just want to
Speaker 2: get the ship off. It's an exchanging energy. They are
Speaker 2: really feeling this person. I like your vibe.
Speaker 1: The energy is good.
Speaker 2: Were connected right here. I want to see what this
Speaker 2: like on a different level. And then there's like the
Speaker 2: more intimate sex. Right if it's just sex right here,
Speaker 2: don't give a fuck about that, don't care. I don't
Speaker 2: give I don't give a fuck about that. Matter of fact,
Speaker 2: Like I never understood when they had the I think
Speaker 2: the muzzles.
Speaker 1: Like when they do the suicide, they go to Heaven,
Speaker 1: they get.
Speaker 2: Forty virgis nigga, Who the fucking that was?
Speaker 1: Like the promise land, you get.
Speaker 3: The promised Land is forty virgins. That doesn't even sound
Speaker 3: like fun. It's the trained forty people. That actually sounds
Speaker 3: like a what I want.
Speaker 1: Somebody want some training. I wouldn't want forty new dicks
Speaker 1: that ain't.
Speaker 2: Never know no, no, no, go trying to rod and.
Speaker 4: Cause niggas really don't want a virgin. They just want
Speaker 4: you to have like three faux by.
Speaker 1: Yeah, they don't want they don't want to run into
Speaker 1: somebody that she for.
Speaker 4: Right, we'll be getting into that.
Speaker 2: I got her now, Like, why you're shaping you fun, nigga,
Speaker 2: So why does it matter? Like, well, I had it well, nigga,
Speaker 2: thank you for you know, you know, teaching or whatever
Speaker 2: you told her.
Speaker 1: But here we are now, nigga, She's she's flourishing with me.
Speaker 1: I don't know what the fun happen with y'all.
Speaker 3: I'm curious to know because it's different with everybody. I'm
Speaker 3: finding out my boundaries now with my boyfriends, and I like,
Speaker 3: it's actually also my boyfriends and when we have sex
Speaker 3: with other people, how we need to move because I
Speaker 3: also bring my friends in. It's also boundaries with my
Speaker 3: friends who joined me in the bedroom. Like, but I
Speaker 3: want to know what boundary. You didn't know you had
Speaker 3: it happened and you were like, oh shit, I need
Speaker 3: to communicate that this is a boundary. And I found
Speaker 3: out real time that it's a boundary.
Speaker 2: Right, So, my wife, I'm a voyeur. I love watching people.
Speaker 2: I love being watched. I love that ship.
Speaker 6: Right.
Speaker 1: Uh, it was different with her boyfriend. I couldn't be a.
Speaker 2: Voyd with her in him, Okay, And I think it
Speaker 2: was because there was an emotional connection. It was more
Speaker 2: than just the physicality of it, right. Uh with other people,
Speaker 2: I could, you know, keep being but like you're like, no,
Speaker 2: when the nigga says oh shit, hey, I'm like, I
Speaker 2: just think I mean it.
Speaker 1: But when you learned it in real time.
Speaker 2: It had to be like yeah, having in real time, Yeah, okay,
Speaker 2: so and that school. But she still likes to watch me,
Speaker 2: you know, like okay still, and that's something that I
Speaker 2: admire about her, Like she really gets off seeing me
Speaker 2: being pleased, and that is that's a special trait.
Speaker 1: Like I again, if it was a funk off, I.
Speaker 2: Could see that, right, But like, because it's it's so
Speaker 2: much love. Like when she started dating him, I was
Speaker 2: like this nigga love and I know he was because
Speaker 2: she's that she had. Motherfucker, you're not gonna fuck with
Speaker 2: my wife on the first date.
Speaker 1: I guarantee. If y'all on that type of date and
Speaker 1: that type of time, you're gonna want a second day immediately. Nigga,
Speaker 1: I love this.
Speaker 2: It's impossible to not fall in love for it. She's
Speaker 2: one of the dopest people in the world, like.
Speaker 4: Hansak Just so, how was it when you and him
Speaker 4: have a conversation. What is that like? Had you did
Speaker 4: you guys have a conversation as it moved further?
Speaker 2: Yeah, I mean there were tons of conversations. The crazy
Speaker 2: part is I knew him before she even moved out here.
Speaker 2: I had met him through a friend. He was a
Speaker 2: brother of a friend. We had worked together on some
Speaker 2: projects and stuff like that, and he came to one
Speaker 2: of my parties.
Speaker 1: I used to throw parties at this this bar.
Speaker 2: Regular parties, and he asked about a shirt she had on,
Speaker 2: and that's how the conversation started. So that actually the
Speaker 2: first time they hung out we were all together, uh anyway,
Speaker 2: so you know it was it was it was cool.
Speaker 2: We we we talked, but I think she wanted it
Speaker 2: to move faster than it was, and I was just like,
Speaker 2: I can't make that happen like I like it with him, Yeah,
Speaker 2: because it wasn't something like we hung out prior to regularly,
Speaker 2: Like we worked together and we knew of each other,
Speaker 2: We spoke when we saw each other with gorgeously like that.
Speaker 2: But he wasn't the vice and I call yo niggas
Speaker 2: a drink something like that, So like it still had
Speaker 2: to take his natural progression. I wasn't gonna rush it
Speaker 2: because it just I felt like it would have felt phony.
Speaker 3: Is she friends with your girlfriend? Okay, talk about you? No,
Speaker 3: he said, I mean, ain't mind me.
Speaker 1: I ain't perfect, nigga. Fuck up. I'm sure she'll call
Speaker 1: them like this, nigga.
Speaker 4: That's what I mean. I'm really like just being facetious.
Speaker 5: But I'm saying, like you get in an argument or
Speaker 5: not even like a real deep and some shit, it's like,
Speaker 5: are they gonna vent to each other?
Speaker 4: Because technically but we're.
Speaker 5: Ran honest here, Yeah, when we talk about disagreements and
Speaker 5: sharing it outside to me in that polycule that is
Speaker 5: our relationship, Like I would rather you vent to my
Speaker 5: boyfriend about something, so you guys can kind of like.
Speaker 1: Yeah, work it out, target out, you know, I mean
Speaker 1: they have to. Like we've we've been in a.
Speaker 2: Situation where the three of us were talking and my
Speaker 2: wife brought up the situation and my girlfriend was like, no,
Speaker 2: I I totally see why he did that, Like I
Speaker 2: would have did that time. I love that, And it's
Speaker 2: like that was comforting for me because it was like
Speaker 2: that I knew she wasn't doing it to like just
Speaker 2: support me that was her true feend of it, but
Speaker 2: it also showed that like she's moving, was still with
Speaker 2: like the soulo on mind of like, no, in my case,
Speaker 2: in my situation, this is what I would have did.
Speaker 2: She wasn't saying something just to appease my wife and
Speaker 2: get on her good side and get points. She was like, no,
Speaker 2: we like you said, we all on the same level,
Speaker 2: so I can give my honest opinion like I would
Speaker 2: have did the same thing.
Speaker 1: And this wasn't something big.
Speaker 2: This was just like a situation where I think I
Speaker 2: said something or did something and she was like, no,
Speaker 2: did that?
Speaker 5: Does does your daughter like have presence with all four
Speaker 5: of you together? And what does that dynamic feel like?
Speaker 1: Only like if we.
Speaker 2: Do something at the house, like we have like dinners
Speaker 2: at the house or something like that.
Speaker 1: Because my girlfriend.
Speaker 2: Doesn't live here, she's out of she's out of state,
Speaker 2: so when she's in town, she'll come, she'll come with
Speaker 2: see the kid or something like that. But typically I
Speaker 2: go out of town to see her. It's just easier
Speaker 2: that way.
Speaker 4: And one of the questions did she have for you,
Speaker 4: like as a quick as.
Speaker 2: A kid, she really didn't have much because she had
Speaker 2: already seen it. She knows relationship. She is perceptive as hell,
Speaker 2: and like she would see me on the phone with her,
Speaker 2: uh my girlfriend or my wife on the phone with
Speaker 2: her boyfriend, and like she so she knew.
Speaker 3: Like all so crazy too, like everything is so much
Speaker 3: more open now, like in terms of what we see
Speaker 3: on television, what's available on these phone devices, like where
Speaker 3: we think kids are.
Speaker 1: Way more green and unaware. Yeah, they really aren't. They
Speaker 1: know they are gone. Also, they know what's going on
Speaker 1: my daughter game. She she already part of. Yeah, yeah,
Speaker 1: well you know what. At first, I wasn't.
Speaker 2: Going to say anything because I couldn't remember if she
Speaker 2: had like said it on anything. But we've talked about
Speaker 2: her on other podcasts, so I even wanted to Yeah, yeah,
Speaker 2: I love that.
Speaker 4: In the house.
Speaker 1: Relat got to know what she's start wearing jeans.
Speaker 5: I was like a little bit right, Okay, I had
Speaker 5: at a moment when I was a kid, and I
Speaker 5: remember he was looking at you and he was thinking
Speaker 5: getting this from her friends.
Speaker 3: An we got truth or there okay, but it's truth
Speaker 3: and there you know you gotta do.
Speaker 1: Okay, this is a wild show. Can I drink on
Speaker 1: the show?
Speaker 4: You got.
Speaker 1: I don't want to put it. I didn't want to play.
Speaker 1: I didn't want to It's well, it was behind the
Speaker 1: water bottle. I was trying to be respectful.
Speaker 3: Okay, okay, okay, I'm just trying to be respectful.
Speaker 1: I want to be invited back. I'm having a great
Speaker 1: time to so truth. Well, now I feel like it's
Speaker 1: too basic. What's the weirdest thing that turns you on?
Speaker 2: Weirdest thing that turns me on? Uh oh fuck? I
Speaker 2: like peticue.
Speaker 1: Okay, yeah, it's relaxing. It's soothing and.
Speaker 2: It don't make me hard. It makes me relax. And
Speaker 2: if I'm relaxed, I can fuck out of you. Like
Speaker 2: so that just puts me in a good state to
Speaker 2: like get ready to knock some walls down. Like a
Speaker 2: good pedicure, yeah, man like, but not like like because
Speaker 2: I go get pedicures and manicures regularly at hammer and now.
Speaker 2: But like somebody just rib like just like I had
Speaker 2: it ship one time, like just pampered me. She put
Speaker 2: my foot in the soaking thing. I ain't have one
Speaker 2: of that. I would normally, but no, I got he
Speaker 2: had to calm down my ship. My ship tomorrow be
Speaker 2: on the road on the road, so I'm not ship
Speaker 2: tomorrow before I go to San Diego.
Speaker 1: But yeah, I think that, and and a good hair
Speaker 1: rub too.
Speaker 3: I don't think i've heard the head of rum makes sense,
Speaker 3: but getting horny for like a pedicure being Alfred Zak,
Speaker 3: I don't think I've ever heard that.
Speaker 1: That one time that like pampered me.
Speaker 2: Put my footing in the thing and she massaged it,
Speaker 2: and she like she ordered up and then she clipped
Speaker 2: it and everything like that.
Speaker 1: She was nasty. So after she wants this, I could
Speaker 1: think of his hammer, like.
Speaker 2: Didn't have it there all right, just just for the record,
Speaker 2: I ain't trying to get them sucked up and did
Speaker 2: not have her.
Speaker 1: Okay, there was no happy ending with the dog and the.
Speaker 2: Private in home padic Yeah this is somebody invited me
Speaker 2: over and it was like y'all want to slip.
Speaker 1: The nails and then sucked both toes. Okay, when you
Speaker 1: say it like that, you sound like you I'm not
Speaker 1: you know what yo? You know it's crazy?
Speaker 3: No, no, no, I say it in a way because
Speaker 3: recently one of my old boodes we're still friends, and
Speaker 3: he got he got a new like he got a bitch.
Speaker 3: He got a new bitch, recently divorced, so, but he
Speaker 3: has a girlfriend and we were supposed to go get
Speaker 3: drinks one night and he said, so I had to
Speaker 3: stay in and I said why, Nigga. He showed me
Speaker 3: that this bitch like had rose petals on the bed,
Speaker 3: lit candles everywhere. And I was like, oh, bitches that
Speaker 3: I heard. Wait, that's not the thing that men have.
Speaker 4: To do for women.
Speaker 3: I said, wait, there's women doing the cameras destroyed these
Speaker 3: gender counts. No, bitch, it was just it was like
Speaker 3: a Wednesday. There was there was no birthday, there was
Speaker 3: nothing that happened. And I was just like and I
Speaker 3: was just like, oh, she wanted to make sure you
Speaker 3: ain't going out.
Speaker 1: She was trying to keep you in from me. Maybe
Speaker 1: maybe she maybe maybe you.
Speaker 4: Know what he did?
Speaker 1: He did reverse that.
Speaker 5: Nigga said, you see how you bitch just be sitting
Speaker 5: in mother fucking Oh. I got this from my other niggas.
Speaker 1: What the fun?
Speaker 3: He's well, I'm not weird, not that I'm saying like that.
Speaker 3: We ain't there, but he's gonna say that. But I
Speaker 3: wanted to respond to you and saying, oh, you judge
Speaker 3: it not. There's just been certain things that I've heard
Speaker 3: that women, Oh but y'all gotta step my love.
Speaker 1: You know what, I love an assertive woman.
Speaker 2: I'm very attractive to women who do what they say
Speaker 2: they're gonna do, who are motivated, who are uh innovative
Speaker 2: with whatever they got going on, especially if you're on
Speaker 2: an entrepreneur space, Like I like motherfuckers that do that
Speaker 2: ship like that assertiveness. That's leadership that entrepreneurs spear. That'shits
Speaker 2: sexiest fuck when you do what the fuck you say
Speaker 2: you won't do.
Speaker 1: No, I know.
Speaker 4: When I say so, just hearing like when women like
Speaker 4: really be be on.
Speaker 3: Some ship that I haven't done, I'm like, oh, ship,
Speaker 3: I gotta do it. It's crazy because my boyfriend recently
Speaker 3: we were talking about having a threesome and he got
Speaker 3: I said, but I want to do it with like
Speaker 3: a nasty bitch. Don't put all the pressure on me
Speaker 3: to bring a friend because I've already done that. It
Speaker 3: gets complicated. So he's like, Ooh, I got this like
Speaker 3: freak bitch in Miami, like you would like her. She
Speaker 3: got big titties da da da, and she'd be sending
Speaker 3: me mad videos of her sucking dick, And I said,
Speaker 3: I feel like that was your way of telling me
Speaker 3: I'm slipping because he enjoys watching me with my other boy,
Speaker 3: like he enjoys videos.
Speaker 1: Seeing and watch it.
Speaker 3: Hey, he said all these emo emo. He's like, just
Speaker 3: a little bit, I want more videos. And I'm telling you, no,
Speaker 3: you don't even understand.
Speaker 1: I'm in my listen, I'm in my phone.
Speaker 4: Going back to twenty eighteen, you said, I wish I
Speaker 4: liked it.
Speaker 1: I wish I liked him more.
Speaker 2: Here we go, I what fucking liked it? You know
Speaker 2: what it is? I don't you like it a lot?
Speaker 2: Because of that, I often look at it as a
Speaker 2: chol for the person that's doing it, because they got
Speaker 2: to be down there a long.
Speaker 1: Time, right, and because I'm a people pleaser, and I.
Speaker 2: Didn't find out to like I'm talking about, maybe maybe
Speaker 2: like eight years ago, that there are women that actually enjoy.
Speaker 1: Giving a head. I had no idea. I just always
Speaker 1: feel guilty.
Speaker 2: I was like, you're gonna die down there, you might
Speaker 2: as afford your meal to my penis, because that's what
Speaker 2: you're finna be till you die.
Speaker 5: I ain't never gonna I ain't at forty one to
Speaker 5: tell a woman that she's like and that's because you
Speaker 5: ain't have me, and you think they do.
Speaker 1: That, they do that. I'm saying that for that, and
Speaker 1: I'm like, bitch, no.
Speaker 3: No, no, this is it's a reverse psychology that men will
Speaker 3: be like, I ain't never come off and to convince
Speaker 3: us to try to be down there till they can.
Speaker 2: It's not me, bitch, I will be doing a docal puzzle.
Speaker 2: I've fallen asleep in the head before, Like I want
Speaker 2: to come second.
Speaker 1: You fell asleep on.
Speaker 2: A psychological shit, I think, well, no, no, no. So
Speaker 2: originally it was because, like I said, I was raised
Speaker 2: by all women, right, and initially all of my my.
Speaker 1: Cousin i'ngers like, yeah, it's been something did this something
Speaker 1: I did?
Speaker 2: And it was kind of like it sounded the grading
Speaker 2: when it's about me, and most women are doing it
Speaker 2: on their knees. They're already in a subservient position, right,
Speaker 2: And I got some bad head where bitch used too
Speaker 2: much teeth and I'm just like, gonn to squeeze my
Speaker 2: ass sheets together, like I just want to come I
Speaker 2: just want to blow this bitch in off, right, And
Speaker 2: so because of those bad experiences and the like the
Speaker 2: subconscious mind and then me never arriving.
Speaker 1: I'm just like, I'm over it. Okay, I will go
Speaker 1: down on you. I go crazy. I live down there.
Speaker 1: Let me inside your busy. I want to put my
Speaker 1: face inso my entire head. You stand up.
Speaker 2: It just shoulders from the rest of my body. I
Speaker 2: love you, boss, right when to come ahead? I be
Speaker 2: I'd be sold.
Speaker 5: You know, pussy though, it's like you almost gotta earn
Speaker 5: the wetness, like you gotta wait. Don't get me wrong,
Speaker 5: it's free com sure, but like what pussy like.
Speaker 4: Oh, it's more, it's just like a lot.
Speaker 1: I mean that you probably have something. It's like it's
Speaker 1: like a sucker that changes flavor. Yeah, applesuckers. They start
Speaker 1: with the co horme on then against to the apple port,
Speaker 1: the ltle green pot right there. That's how supposed to
Speaker 1: because when you got the the.
Speaker 3: Good shirt, yeah, like like literally you don't like the
Speaker 3: good shirts when literally it's just like it tastes by
Speaker 3: plastic little I like, we don't know why we like it.
Speaker 1: But when it burst, then it's like, oh there.
Speaker 2: Go to good stuff. Hey listen, good shirt. My first
Speaker 2: squirterer did not tell me she was a squirdl and oh,
Speaker 2: I ain't know she was that type of squirl like
Speaker 2: I had seen it on porners, but I had never
Speaker 2: had water that Listen, I almost drowned. I can't swim.
Speaker 2: I'm almost drowned in the shower this bit. You're very black.
Speaker 2: I can't swim.
Speaker 1: I can't swim. I know how to not drown.
Speaker 2: I do not know how to swim because I be
Speaker 2: doing know how to swim shit like I didn't. I
Speaker 2: was on a Vand's warped tour. We went to this
Speaker 2: gorge and I jump off this fucking forty foot cliff
Speaker 2: into the water. I've been snorkeling, I've done all type
Speaker 2: of swim shit.
Speaker 1: I ain't swim. I know how to not drown. You.
Speaker 4: You are a vacation nigga. This is vacation swimming.
Speaker 1: Yeah.
Speaker 4: I went my homeboy. We've been to like so many
Speaker 4: different countries.
Speaker 1: Yeah.
Speaker 4: And then finally I'm like, oh shit, i' think I'm
Speaker 4: gonna be at the pool today.
Speaker 1: You're gonna come, oh on, swim.
Speaker 4: I'm like, nigga, we was jumping off, yeah that shit off.
Speaker 2: Yeah, absolutely, I didn't jump into water in Mexico off
Speaker 2: of the catamarans and all that.
Speaker 1: Absolutely I need that ship. And you're still here with us.
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Speaker 3: to hear more?
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Speaker 5: So the hole Tree is our segment where we basically
Speaker 5: are going to be reading you a song lyric that
Speaker 5: you know.
Speaker 4: However, we're gonna be reading it like poetry.
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, now I.
Speaker 5: Got to because I think you may get this one
Speaker 5: too soon. Okay, I'm gonna do my best to make
Speaker 5: it not sound. I'm gonna be real and say what's
Speaker 5: on my heart to hear.
Speaker 1: Let's take it.
Speaker 3: Can't be added words in it, because then it makes it.
Speaker 3: I always said his name.
Speaker 5: Let's take this chance and make this love feel relevant.
Speaker 5: Didn't you know I loved you from the start. When
Speaker 5: I think about all the years we put in this relationship.
Speaker 5: Who we knew we'd make it, who knew we'd make
Speaker 5: it this far? And then I think about where I
Speaker 5: would be if we were to just fall apart, and
Speaker 5: I can't stand the thought of losing you.
Speaker 1: At the altar. I've just asked jag Edge, that's okay?
Speaker 1: Whoa okay? I was gonna say, because I don't know
Speaker 1: all the verse. I know the beginning because I was like,
Speaker 1: I thought you first of all, but I fuck literally,
Speaker 1: I know literally.
Speaker 3: Because I'm like like, I was like, damn, she added,
Speaker 3: worried she don't remove Okay, okay, so you about it
Speaker 3: to a game night, see what she gonna do.
Speaker 5: Yesterday we filming with Harry Hall, and my first words were, uh,
Speaker 5: keep me up all night, and she was like, give
Speaker 5: me up by night, take it out.
Speaker 1: And I was like, god, damn, I get you. I
Speaker 1: get you.
Speaker 6: You have to.
Speaker 2: I'm not mad at it, but I was. I was questioning,
Speaker 2: but but but if you had a card game, that's
Speaker 2: not what it would do. Give you the damn words.
Speaker 2: But you know what, Let's keep it a pup which
Speaker 2: one of us plays by the complete box rules of
Speaker 2: a card game.
Speaker 1: We don't do that. We don't do that. Well, no,
Speaker 1: we don't do that with Spade. We don't do that
Speaker 1: with talk.
Speaker 3: So know, so that's what we have to do. Hey, guys,
Speaker 3: we created this game and we changed it. Now we cheat,
Speaker 3: we make it harder for you. We created the house rules. Yeah,
Speaker 3: but but see there was no house rules given. You know,
Speaker 3: when I was just ready, you know, when we see
Speaker 3: it play spades and we're doing juice side jokers involved,
Speaker 3: I'm like.
Speaker 1: Can you over books? But here's the thing. Here's the thing.
Speaker 2: There's no possibility of us fighting from this game. Space
Speaker 2: is something different space, my grandma, because you were.
Speaker 1: Like if hey, I guess not.
Speaker 5: We know there's fights a game night, I realized I
Speaker 5: have black people living next door to me, because so
Speaker 5: I don't really live at this Cribbon La too often, right,
Speaker 5: but I feel like I'm hearing like violence.
Speaker 1: Now, I'm like, yo, is this domestic? What the fuck
Speaker 1: is going on? Called out on one?
Speaker 3: So I called downstairs. My mom and I got apartments
Speaker 3: downstairs with each other. I said, wow, isn't a woman
Speaker 3: next door? I feel like somebody beeping there, Like it's
Speaker 3: two people in their screaming.
Speaker 4: No, they're so sweet they have a game night every Friday.
Speaker 4: I said, oh them niggas.
Speaker 3: I brought a game night to my house recently in
Speaker 3: Atlanta and boy boy boy. Now, just like every neighbor
Speaker 3: I walked by, I had something to say, and I said,
Speaker 3: next time, I'm just gonna let y'all know when I
Speaker 3: do this again, because it.
Speaker 1: Got like really loud, and it was it was charades.
Speaker 3: It was you know, charade you ain't get put out
Speaker 3: show raids and it was like this one like when
Speaker 3: you're like, hands up here we go when I tell
Speaker 3: you video, I said, I said, because it records you
Speaker 3: on the app. And I was good, I'll show you guys,
Speaker 3: but literally took out the trash.
Speaker 1: I think what to go.
Speaker 3: Like when it got the mail, I ran into like
Speaker 3: two or three neighbors that this is the first time.
Speaker 3: They all spoke to me and said that last night
Speaker 3: was fine, you had a good and I was like,
Speaker 3: every one of the dame.
Speaker 1: It's like, we didn't call the cops, but we heard
Speaker 1: if you're gonna do it like that, at least inviting it.
Speaker 4: One of your favorites.
Speaker 3: No one of my neighbors did you know, what's crazy?
Speaker 3: So I moved into like this lost building and it's
Speaker 3: so like ch like, it's unlike. Basically I thought it
Speaker 3: was arts enough to where no black people would live
Speaker 3: in it, even though it's in Atlanta.
Speaker 1: I was like, this's got to be full of white people,
Speaker 1: and I bought it from white people. Well, i'm leasing
Speaker 1: it for white people. I'm running it from white people.
Speaker 3: Me and my friend went in there and I was like, bitch,
Speaker 3: all my neighbors are black, and we had to really
Speaker 3: remind them why we live in Atlanta.
Speaker 1: Them all the niggas that thought the same thing, all
Speaker 1: them niggas.
Speaker 3: Well, No, even the doper thing about it is I'm
Speaker 3: the only one renting. Everyone in the building owns it.
Speaker 3: So the h o A, everyone in the building, you
Speaker 3: really are am.
Speaker 1: No, you said you're rented from white people.
Speaker 3: No, and they moved out. So I'm now the only
Speaker 3: one renting in this building and all the owners now
Speaker 3: they might have someone else. They need to give what
Speaker 3: we have to make it fair. Long, it's like, and
Speaker 3: she's not niggas giving them way, they said, she's well no,
Speaker 3: I had to like when I first moved there, apparently
Speaker 3: like there was a rapper that used to live in
Speaker 3: the building. So when I moved there, she was like, girl,
Speaker 3: think you living in such and such old place. I
Speaker 3: ain't no running to live in the club. He did
Speaker 3: used to live in my building, and I was like, oh, wow, yeah,
Speaker 3: so he must have sold it.
Speaker 5: But regardless, I was like that man, he's trying to
Speaker 5: tell y'all she got a nice apartment because.
Speaker 1: I hadn't wait, I shot in the elevator.
Speaker 5: I want to bitches to now just saying listen, when
Speaker 5: you could say something like oh I was having dinner
Speaker 5: and so and so was there.
Speaker 4: Oh I was on my flight and so and so
Speaker 4: it was right behind me, I'll be like, yeah, don't
Speaker 4: get money.
Speaker 1: That's just a little this, a little flex.
Speaker 2: But when you can say, yeah, I'm staying in uhl
Speaker 2: a spot right now by the way. But that was
Speaker 2: te I little run through it. Listen, a lot of niggas,
Speaker 2: I know they got a little run throughs right over
Speaker 2: here right.
Speaker 3: I'm not rich enough yet, but I want one. I
Speaker 3: want a bashful path. I want I want to hold
Speaker 3: I can see this space, I can I do, but
Speaker 3: I want to get one. But right now, it's like
Speaker 3: I can be open and free in the.
Speaker 1: Game now this clip.
Speaker 4: I feel like we're all gonna have the same opinion,
Speaker 4: but it's so crazy and wow to me.
Speaker 1: No, I don't know we have the same opinion. Oh okay,
Speaker 1: I wanted to know her list of who I need.
Speaker 1: I want to know. I needed to know, Oh my god.
Speaker 1: And I'm gonna tell you why though.
Speaker 6: I want to know because before I sit up here
Speaker 6: and really keep moving and elevating our relationship, I want
Speaker 6: to know who got one up on me and if
Speaker 6: I'm willing to take on that burden. Because why, I
Speaker 6: want to know if you had any type of relationship
Speaker 6: intimacy experiences with people that I really know.
Speaker 1: I need to know that I'm old that because if
Speaker 1: you don't give me that, you got me. Hey, y'all,
Speaker 1: this my girl, and you got somebody over there in
Speaker 1: that collar like nigga, that's our girl though, Been there,
Speaker 1: done that?
Speaker 4: I don't what if a.
Speaker 5: Woman asked you, let's say that you're dating someone who's
Speaker 5: a select bigger celebrity than you.
Speaker 1: Yeah, and she's like, I need a list, I'll give
Speaker 1: it that list. I ain't gonna make no difference. I'll
Speaker 1: give it that list. Here's the thing for me. One
Speaker 1: thing my wife.
Speaker 2: We did run into an issue with like as a comic,
Speaker 2: like I, you know, I had knocked a couple of
Speaker 2: people down for and sometimes they would still pull up
Speaker 2: to a show. She'd be like, I need to know
Speaker 2: if somebody's in the room to that be with me,
Speaker 2: that that makes right. And initially I didn't. I didn't
Speaker 2: get that, but then I understood, like you know, having
Speaker 2: like if she's engaging with this chicken, like she's being
Speaker 2: forthcoming and chilling shit like that, and this bitch has
Speaker 2: out to your motives, you know what I mean, Like
Speaker 2: I'm not gonna let her fuck with it like that,
Speaker 2: but like where he's coming from the point until he said,
Speaker 2: if you've been with somebody I know, I was just
Speaker 2: like nigga for what, Like I don't.
Speaker 1: I don't give a fuck who you been with.
Speaker 2: Right, Like, I don't unless it's somebody I know, somebody
Speaker 2: I'm gonna be interacting or if we're in the same
Speaker 2: space with that person, let me know, give me to his.
Speaker 3: The clip was also cut off early. He goes further
Speaker 3: to say, now, if I know, then that's fine. However,
Speaker 3: if we are close and I have to see this
Speaker 3: person often doesn't matter how beautiful, how much I like you,
Speaker 3: I would have had to let you go because this
Speaker 3: person is gonna continue being around. So it's not even
Speaker 3: that like it's someone like casual, like okay, of course
Speaker 3: I'm gonna But he literally says too, like if it
Speaker 3: was one of my teammates, and this that I get,
Speaker 3: but for context to y'all, this was Cam Newton on
Speaker 3: his podcast with Parker McKenna. But he goes further, like
Speaker 3: he does go further to say it, now, we had
Speaker 3: a recent you got decisions where to me if I
Speaker 3: get with a partner who asks for my list, but
Speaker 3: I've vowed with someone else that this is something we
Speaker 3: keeping secret that you not gonna tell nobody.
Speaker 1: I ain't gonna tell nobody. I don't what are you
Speaker 1: doing that? Hold on? You know what I mean?
Speaker 4: Yeah, And I say that.
Speaker 3: I say that only because I say that because there
Speaker 3: have been two men, there have been two two in
Speaker 3: my life where I've literally became upset because it was
Speaker 3: something to where bro. One of them we engaged with
Speaker 3: an interactive multiple times, had threesomes, all those things. He
Speaker 3: ended up getting married who he got married to. I've
Speaker 3: shared rooms and spaces with and I don't be weird.
Speaker 3: Me and him did not engage after he got married,
Speaker 3: and he was like, oh, well she already knows about
Speaker 3: you and I, and I was I was upset because
Speaker 3: I'm like, bro, who why why wouldn't that be a
Speaker 3: conversation with me? Because now I've seen her out, we've
Speaker 3: been in spaces, and essentially in that sense, she has
Speaker 3: one up on me. You completely disrespected me, and we
Speaker 3: said we wasn't gonna talk to share about it now.
Speaker 3: The other person who did this we fucked once. I
Speaker 3: ended up years later and I talked about this person
Speaker 3: on the pod. I ended up dealing with his brother's homeboy.
Speaker 3: We ended up really like each other.
Speaker 1: That's right. That means wrong what you.
Speaker 6: No?
Speaker 1: No, you really like that?
Speaker 6: No?
Speaker 1: Wrong? I really liked him and then we leave No,
Speaker 1: like like really liked him.
Speaker 4: Like then we both ended up going into like the
Speaker 4: same career path.
Speaker 3: Oh shut up, okay, No, No, what's crazy is actually
Speaker 3: you actually want to know the crazy party about this?
Speaker 1: Fuck the whore hide. He came to a d C show.
Speaker 3: He literally a bitch came up to him at the
Speaker 3: bar because I don't tell it was like you here
Speaker 3: from man d ain't you And he was like, you're
Speaker 3: your fans are wild and I was like, the fuck
Speaker 3: bitches anyway, you know, I had the way to put.
Speaker 4: Up that's happen with my nigga and I wasn't around him.
Speaker 1: Yeah, feel weazy. I feel like now like you would
Speaker 1: know her and I. But I didn't like that.
Speaker 3: I didn't like that anyways, this friend, I didn't say
Speaker 3: nothing because it happened once.
Speaker 1: That's it.
Speaker 3: He ended up not only telling this person because we
Speaker 3: ended up. We were fucking with each other for years,
Speaker 3: Like y'all, i've heard him.
Speaker 1: His name is DC. I think I used to call
Speaker 1: him DC on the pod.
Speaker 3: Not only did he tell this nigga, and this nigga
Speaker 3: completely went to a I really like you, but I
Speaker 3: could never marry you because he would be at the
Speaker 3: wedding and I can't have a nigga that fucked my
Speaker 3: wife at the wedding. Not only did he do that,
Speaker 3: he started fucking with my best friend's best friend.
Speaker 1: So the best the best removed. The best friend was removed. No,
Speaker 1: so the best friend cuts out my homegirl, like why you.
Speaker 3: Ain't tell me Mandy Funck so and so, and it
Speaker 3: just became like a and then not only fuck, he said,
Speaker 3: we dated, so now we just made it a thing.
Speaker 1: And I was like, bro, I ain't tell when it
Speaker 1: was bad. That made it even worse. I don't even
Speaker 1: count this, nigga.
Speaker 3: It was I literally didn't count even that whole like
Speaker 3: dat like put the trying to have pumps in one position,
Speaker 3: I do not count it. So like for me in
Speaker 3: terms of hearing this, a person coming in just expecting
Speaker 3: a whole list of everyone I fucked. If there's prior
Speaker 3: conversations that I've had for this isn't something we both
Speaker 3: even are explaining to people.
Speaker 1: That's what makes it tricky.
Speaker 2: The tree time you're in a lifestyle, anytime you meant
Speaker 2: something that's non traditional, there are less less beaten paths
Speaker 2: to go down of things that you should do.
Speaker 1: So in this type of situation like it is, it
Speaker 1: is very sticky because do.
Speaker 2: You honor your new partner or do you honor the
Speaker 2: arrangement and agreement that you have with this previous person? Right,
Speaker 2: And so I think if you choose to honor your partner,
Speaker 2: then at that very time, like after you have the
Speaker 2: conversation with your partner, you need to have that conversation
Speaker 2: with the person and like, hey, listen, things got serious
Speaker 2: with this person. I wasn't expecting to get this this person,
Speaker 2: but we wanted to put it all on the table,
Speaker 2: so I mentioned you, right, so at least they have
Speaker 2: the hiss up. So me not having a heads up
Speaker 2: with Yeah, that's that's the part that's to me. Even
Speaker 2: a lifestyle though too. If we're in play or we're
Speaker 2: out of place, like you know, don't bring up like
Speaker 2: my ex did it, which was felt completely violating. Don't
Speaker 2: bring someone to play that y'all have something that I'm
Speaker 2: unaware of.
Speaker 1: Yeah, you know what I mean.
Speaker 2: So I guess now being in lifestyle, there's just bring
Speaker 2: her in and be like, hey, there's been something on
Speaker 2: tuesdays from the bat we would like to not.
Speaker 1: I agree, I agree to let it be in the
Speaker 1: club because it's startsday. Wait did this just happen like
Speaker 1: two days ago? Okay? Yeah?
Speaker 3: But I think for me though, being more in lifestyle,
Speaker 3: being able to just communicate more allows me to understand
Speaker 3: everyone's feelings the most mine being violated and how I
Speaker 3: would have liked to be thought of or considered in
Speaker 3: different levels of commun udication with what I'm having with partners,
Speaker 3: previous partners, promises, honorings. If I'm in a place, how
Speaker 3: people are gonna perceive that, I just would like that.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I mean lifestyle permits itself to all different stages
Speaker 2: of learning on the curve. Yes, because a lot of
Speaker 2: the shit, like again, we're not doing traditional lifestyle things,
Speaker 2: so the conversations are a lot of times you don't
Speaker 2: know you need to happen until you need to have
Speaker 2: it right, so you'll find out shit on the fly,
Speaker 2: like oh shit, I feel like I might be violating
Speaker 2: a boundary or parameter to somebody said, let me talk
Speaker 2: to this person to see if they're okay with this whatever,
Speaker 2: And a.
Speaker 1: Lot of it is using.
Speaker 2: I want to say, common sense is like treat people
Speaker 2: how you want to be treated right, right, but which
Speaker 2: is fucked up because sometimes some people don't give fuck
Speaker 2: like I fuck with you, that don't give fuck fuck
Speaker 2: me the homeboy and all types of shit, and you
Speaker 2: don't tell nobody should just move like that that's just
Speaker 2: her thing. So I would say that give people the
Speaker 2: opportunity to say an a don't rob somebody of the
Speaker 2: opportunity to make a decision or.
Speaker 1: A lifestyle list.
Speaker 3: When you you and your wife decided that you could
Speaker 3: each have partners outside of the marriage, were there any
Speaker 3: stipulations of what those partners could or couldn't be, or
Speaker 3: who they could or couldn't be, or what they could
Speaker 3: or couldn't do, Like, were there no friends? Oh, it
Speaker 3: couldn't be any of your friends, anybody. You couldn't date
Speaker 3: any of her Yeah, that was the only that was.
Speaker 2: That was the main one right there, besides specific people,
Speaker 2: but not the smile.
Speaker 1: It was it was some people. She was like, not
Speaker 1: this bitch. Well, I think that the veto this bitch
Speaker 1: is not I'm not bad at that.
Speaker 5: So a lot of people don't discuss what the veto
Speaker 5: looks like and basically that not this bitch and listen.
Speaker 5: So I have that in my dynamic where if it's
Speaker 5: if I'm uncomfortable and there's no questions that like I'm
Speaker 5: just done with it. But that to me is something
Speaker 5: that's so important because that's when open relationships are weird.
Speaker 5: I got to go back and forth with you about
Speaker 5: somebody with the fun if we got a boundary, we
Speaker 5: got a line.
Speaker 1: Like not yeah, and that's the thing, like my friends
Speaker 1: and not this bitch. Yeah yeah, yeah, but even with that,
Speaker 1: like it's okay.
Speaker 2: If somebody does ain't not this bit, it's like ask
Speaker 2: why because like sometimes like I'm the person, don't just
Speaker 2: don't tell me what the fuck to do. I need
Speaker 2: to know the reason why. Otherwise it's like I don't like, yeah,
Speaker 2: I'll bread out, I'll bread out. It's a bit about you,
Speaker 2: the Louis Purse.
Speaker 1: One not about you, like I bread out right, but
Speaker 1: I needed to know now.
Speaker 2: I need to know why because sometimes it helps me
Speaker 2: understand like she's too close, or I feel like she's messy,
Speaker 2: or she's gonna move too loud, or I watched her,
Speaker 2: I don't like the way she interacts, or she's loose
Speaker 2: at the mouth, she's gonna whatever it is, coming back
Speaker 2: and forth.
Speaker 1: I love that you're just like it's not because I
Speaker 1: said so. Yeah.
Speaker 3: If if it's a no, not this person, I'm not,
Speaker 3: you say, oh why should be followed?
Speaker 1: Yeah? Yeah, yeah, I know. I peop don't even know why,
Speaker 1: Like like they're telling me just because I said so,
Speaker 1: like which I'm not seven, I'm not I'm not a kid.
Speaker 2: Don't tell me to go to big because you said so,
Speaker 2: Like why the fuck. I gotta go to bed right now,
Speaker 2: right right. So that's that's all it is to me.
Speaker 2: I need to understanding and their clarity, and that also
Speaker 2: makes me be more empathetic to your needs and your
Speaker 2: wants and your and your wills because like, all right,
Speaker 2: I'm gonna take on which you.
Speaker 1: Have going on because you're my partner.
Speaker 2: So if you say this and you give me the
Speaker 2: reason for like all right, well it just fuck this
Speaker 2: Mitch Favor then So now now now we're riding together,
Speaker 2: but that don's getting me.
Speaker 4: No, it's like forever now as we're nearing the end
Speaker 4: of this episode is actually is.
Speaker 1: Not that council? Whoever? Next three hour episodes, I got
Speaker 1: to change the clothes, im Finn, pull my shaw.
Speaker 5: I tell you that point a thing that you would
Speaker 5: love people to know that are thinking about getting an
Speaker 5: open relationships because you've been doing it. Okay, yeah, so
Speaker 5: tell us like the biggest lesson learned and something that
Speaker 5: you wish you knew in the beginning.
Speaker 1: If you don't know how to communicate, don't do it.
Speaker 1: I agree with that. We it's full over here, it's Atlanta.
Speaker 1: We don't even know new niggas over here. Like, don't don't,
Speaker 1: don't do it.
Speaker 2: It's not gonna save your your relationship, it's not gonna
Speaker 2: save your marriage if you haven't done the the adequate
Speaker 2: and appropriate work.
Speaker 6: Uh.
Speaker 1: It is not a band age for anything. It is
Speaker 1: about but it's about whatever you make it about.
Speaker 2: But it should be about the experience, the lifestyle of
Speaker 2: having that transparency and that freedom with your partner.
Speaker 1: But you cannot have any of that if you don't
Speaker 1: have adequate communication.
Speaker 2: If you're not if you're somebody that's docile and you
Speaker 2: don't speak up for yourself, you don't question, you don't
Speaker 2: ask why not this bitch, then you're not ready for it.
Speaker 2: I like that because it's you're gonna get, like I said,
Speaker 2: so many on the fly situations where you have to
Speaker 2: adapt really quickly, and the only thing that can save
Speaker 2: it is going to be communication. And if you're not
Speaker 2: good at communicating, if you can't converse with someone without
Speaker 2: getting up in arms and storming out and cursing and
Speaker 2: all that shit, you're not ready for this. Because there
Speaker 2: are be a lot of times where your your your patience,
Speaker 2: your jealousy, your your morals, all of that shit may
Speaker 2: be conflicted at some point and if you can't conduct
Speaker 2: yourself in a manner and I'm not saying like you
Speaker 2: got to be prompting and proper every time, but you
Speaker 2: have to be able to at least have the capacity.
Speaker 1: To be like, hey, this has been bothering me. Can
Speaker 1: we have a conversation about it?
Speaker 2: And allow that person the space to say, yeah, does
Speaker 2: this day work or can we do it later? Because
Speaker 2: just because it's important to you and it's been on
Speaker 2: your mind for the past four days, this person might
Speaker 2: not have been thinking the shit about it, so you
Speaker 2: bombarding them like, yo, I need to talk to you
Speaker 2: right now. Hey, you know what they in the middle
Speaker 2: of what they got going on. They might be dealing
Speaker 2: with something they just haven't shared with you yet. Like
Speaker 2: allow them the space to create a safe place to
Speaker 2: listen to you, not defensively, but like listen to you
Speaker 2: and be open to why they said they did what
Speaker 2: they did or said what they said, and try to
Speaker 2: do it from a place of understanding. Because if you're
Speaker 2: doing it, if you're going in it completely defensively, right
Speaker 2: and you're just this, you did this, you did this,
Speaker 2: you did this, and whatever they say, it's not gonna matter.
Speaker 2: Because you just you're hurt at that point, so you're
Speaker 2: not in a place of truly understanding them and trying
Speaker 2: to get some resolve to the situation.
Speaker 1: You're just gonna be mad. So if you're gonna do it,
Speaker 1: do it for the right reasons. Relationship with for y'all,
Speaker 1: thank you to here. That was so fucking good.
Speaker 4: We need a part two because now I feel like
Speaker 4: I gotta follow up.
Speaker 1: Hey man, I did a part too after dark. I'm
Speaker 1: gonna way launder I got this shut out.
Speaker 3: Can I also say real quick too before we leave
Speaker 3: the knowing that you have a robe, fency rope whatever.
Speaker 3: That has been the one thing I've hated about sex
Speaker 3: clubs down South. They don't dress as like I don't
Speaker 3: want to see. I do not want to see a
Speaker 3: man in basketball shorts, a white beater and Jordan's slides
Speaker 3: with socks.
Speaker 1: I'm gonna show when we get out of param I'm
Speaker 1: gonna show you my outfit. I'm gonna show you my outfit.
Speaker 2: For the last party I went to, I was dressed
Speaker 2: like a centaur, so I had like furry like I
Speaker 2: had furry chaps on with with the ass out at
Speaker 2: the Horns.
Speaker 1: I had the horness on. Uh yeah it was. It
Speaker 1: was a whole like I dressed no no, no no.
Speaker 1: I actually I need a picture of you. I got you.
Speaker 1: I just need a picture. I got you. I got here.
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