WEBVTT - I'm Where She's At, But He's Where I Wanna Be 0:00:00.200 --> 0:00:03.159 Welcome to Can't Flee Reckless, the production of iHeart Radio 0:00:03.279 --> 0:00:16.560 and the Black Effects, And just like that, we're back 0:00:16.560 --> 0:00:19.000 with yet another carefully reckless episode with your girl Jess. 0:00:19.040 --> 0:00:19.439 Hilarious. 0:00:19.480 --> 0:00:20.840 So what I be doing, i'd be fixed and mess. 0:00:20.880 --> 0:00:22.639 So we're gonna jump straight into it. I'm here with 0:00:22.680 --> 0:00:23.280 my girl. 0:00:23.120 --> 0:00:26.200 Taylor, say hey, hey, hey, and she's not gonna be reading. 0:00:26.200 --> 0:00:27.800 We're gonna give our a little break, but she's definitely 0:00:27.800 --> 0:00:30.640 gonna help me with some insight on this mess. Give 0:00:30.680 --> 0:00:33.159 you all some insight on this messh O, here we go. 0:00:33.159 --> 0:00:35.919 Good morning to Jess. Hope all is going well and 0:00:35.960 --> 0:00:38.080 I continue to wish you nothing but blessings. 0:00:38.200 --> 0:00:38.800 Let's dive in. 0:00:39.479 --> 0:00:41.479 I was together with my ex for about two years. 0:00:41.600 --> 0:00:44.960 We met our senior year in college and instantly became inseparable. 0:00:45.400 --> 0:00:47.440 Things were so perfect at the time, and I just 0:00:47.520 --> 0:00:49.800 knew he was the perfect man for me. We made 0:00:49.880 --> 0:00:54.400 investments together, like buying land okay, to build our own house, 0:00:54.800 --> 0:00:56.080 and we even shared. 0:00:55.800 --> 0:00:59.560 A fur baby. What's up pet? Oh my god, Okay, 0:00:59.600 --> 0:01:03.200 that's nice. Okay. I was so for sure knew I 0:01:03.240 --> 0:01:04.399 was gonna marry this man. 0:01:04.400 --> 0:01:06.200 Oh yeah, this nigga got you're talking crazy, because that 0:01:06.240 --> 0:01:07.520 was the crazy sentence listening. 0:01:07.680 --> 0:01:10.280 I was so for sure knew I was gonna marry 0:01:10.319 --> 0:01:10.840 this man. 0:01:11.360 --> 0:01:13.440 Maybe she meant that I was so for sure knew 0:01:14.840 --> 0:01:16.319 all right now. 0:01:16.360 --> 0:01:19.000 A little later down the road, things began to unravel. 0:01:19.240 --> 0:01:22.640 We started arguing about the dumbest things, stopped going on dates, 0:01:22.720 --> 0:01:24.520 and it even got so bad we had to give 0:01:24.560 --> 0:01:25.520 away out of her baby. 0:01:25.640 --> 0:01:26.000 Damn. 0:01:26.440 --> 0:01:28.920 We just grew apart and wanted different things, so we 0:01:29.000 --> 0:01:33.080 decided to call it quits, which affected us both pretty deep. 0:01:33.720 --> 0:01:36.280 This was all four years ago. Right now I'm engaged, 0:01:36.560 --> 0:01:39.160 and not to a man but a woman. Now, Okay, 0:01:39.160 --> 0:01:42.800 congratulations for crossing over. She'd been showing me everything I've 0:01:42.840 --> 0:01:46.440 been missing in Jess. Things are just so different and refreshing. 0:01:46.760 --> 0:01:50.120 I really feel I found my soulmate. So here's the hiccup, though. 0:01:50.400 --> 0:01:53.000 The other day I ran into the X at a dealership. 0:01:53.360 --> 0:01:55.840 I haven't saw him since we decided to split, so 0:01:55.880 --> 0:01:58.640 it was kind of weird at first. Girl, When this 0:01:58.720 --> 0:02:01.360 man noticed it was me, his eyes got big as fuck, 0:02:01.560 --> 0:02:04.000 and he started to walk over and gave me the 0:02:04.120 --> 0:02:07.200 tightest hug and asked how I've been. I wasn't expecting 0:02:07.240 --> 0:02:10.200 that because shit, I wasn't about the hugging back. But 0:02:10.360 --> 0:02:13.079 all right, I guess hello, els girl, you hugged that 0:02:13.160 --> 0:02:15.120 nigga the fuck like and it beten and I had 0:02:15.120 --> 0:02:18.639 been no Meghan good Michael Eely moment to be it 0:02:18.720 --> 0:02:20.640 bet not lift you off your motherfucker feet and spin 0:02:20.720 --> 0:02:24.160 your round. Anyways, we were chit chat and catching up 0:02:24.200 --> 0:02:27.000 for about thirty minutes while waiting for service. I know, 0:02:27.080 --> 0:02:30.040 thirty minutes is like forever until one of us got helped. 0:02:30.120 --> 0:02:33.160 It was a cool, genuine conversation and he even congratulated 0:02:33.200 --> 0:02:36.400 me on my engagement. Conversation came to an end, we 0:02:36.480 --> 0:02:38.600 both said it was good running into each other and 0:02:38.600 --> 0:02:40.360 gave each other another big heart. 0:02:41.080 --> 0:02:42.160 You made another big hug. 0:02:42.840 --> 0:02:45.400 I know this may sound wrong, but ever since that happened, 0:02:45.440 --> 0:02:47.560 I've been sort of thinking about him. Yeah, alright, new 0:02:47.680 --> 0:02:49.320 track like you ain't wanna how gum bet you already 0:02:49.360 --> 0:02:53.120 know what's up? I know you won't dick You're It's like, 0:02:53.160 --> 0:02:55.520 now I'm fucking with you because you are happy right now. 0:02:55.919 --> 0:02:58.800 I would never do anything that jeopardize my relationship, but 0:02:58.840 --> 0:03:01.040 thoughts do come to mind, like what if we did 0:03:01.120 --> 0:03:02.800 make it or what if we worked out and just 0:03:02.840 --> 0:03:05.720 try it again? Oh man, I know this sounds terrible 0:03:05.840 --> 0:03:08.240 and I don't even know why I'm thinking like this 0:03:08.320 --> 0:03:10.560 because I love my fiance Jess, I swear I do. 0:03:10.880 --> 0:03:13.000 I ain't the one you got to convince baby. I 0:03:13.040 --> 0:03:15.640 really want to get him out of my mind. And 0:03:15.680 --> 0:03:18.280 I don't know how you think time will pass? Well, 0:03:18.280 --> 0:03:21.800 time definitely gonna pass. See y'all not asking the right 0:03:21.880 --> 0:03:24.440 questions because she said you think time will pass. 0:03:25.040 --> 0:03:26.280 The time won't always pass. 0:03:26.760 --> 0:03:29.320 But I think like she's trying to ask me, do 0:03:29.360 --> 0:03:31.079 you think it'll get better with time where I just 0:03:31.120 --> 0:03:35.000 won't think about him anymore eventually? Okay? Or this may 0:03:35.080 --> 0:03:39.640 mean something else, silly thinking. Just help me, Okay, what. 0:03:42.240 --> 0:03:42.800 Is dealing with? 0:03:46.120 --> 0:03:49.120 She trej into a lesbid relationship? 0:03:49.160 --> 0:03:49.720 But you know what? 0:03:49.760 --> 0:03:52.640 That but you know what, you know what, this is 0:03:52.680 --> 0:03:54.520 the thing, because let's just take it all the way back. 0:03:55.240 --> 0:03:57.960 Is he the reason you went gay? Why did you 0:03:58.040 --> 0:04:02.120 decide to turn to women? Though maybe okay, yeah she 0:04:02.160 --> 0:04:05.400 didn't she didn't state that, but yeah, you know what, 0:04:05.920 --> 0:04:08.200 that's my question also to women who can just like 0:04:08.520 --> 0:04:11.480 break gay out the gate right where you always having 0:04:11.480 --> 0:04:13.920 these feelings of women for women, you just didn't know 0:04:13.960 --> 0:04:15.960 how to convey them or express them, or you didn't 0:04:15.960 --> 0:04:17.240 know what it was. Because a lot of people be 0:04:17.240 --> 0:04:19.320 gaying don't even realize what it is, and so they 0:04:19.360 --> 0:04:21.400 get older, you know what I'm saying. So I don't 0:04:21.400 --> 0:04:24.880 know if she was bisexual or not. However, I know 0:04:25.000 --> 0:04:28.599 a lot of women like to try something totally different, 0:04:28.640 --> 0:04:31.880 try to opposite sex because of a really bad breakup 0:04:31.960 --> 0:04:34.360 or because one guy hurt them so badly that they 0:04:34.400 --> 0:04:35.760 can't give another guy a chance. 0:04:35.880 --> 0:04:37.320 That's crazy, Yeah, And. 0:04:37.279 --> 0:04:40.120 That's what it sounds like here, because if all it 0:04:40.200 --> 0:04:42.880 took was for you to see him again four years 0:04:42.960 --> 0:04:45.120 later and you start having butterflies, because I know what 0:04:45.120 --> 0:04:45.919 that description is. 0:04:45.920 --> 0:04:46.080 Now. 0:04:46.120 --> 0:04:49.840 She did not say butterflies, but baby, that's exactly what 0:04:49.880 --> 0:04:53.920 she meant, Like butterflies came to you know, she got 0:04:53.960 --> 0:04:55.839 a row, She got excited that nigga hug that he 0:04:55.880 --> 0:04:59.440 was probably kind of like you know, some Gucci or 0:04:59.520 --> 0:05:03.039 some them what is it, what's one of them clones? 0:05:03.440 --> 0:05:06.440 He was probably smelling like Creed or Gucci or something 0:05:06.520 --> 0:05:10.120 like that. And your ass got all, you know, all 0:05:10.200 --> 0:05:13.119 bashful again, and you just took a trip down memory Lane. 0:05:13.120 --> 0:05:15.160 Now I know you. I'm not saying you don't love 0:05:16.000 --> 0:05:19.760 your fiance. I'm not saying that. However, it just seems 0:05:19.760 --> 0:05:23.479 like unfinished business with this man. She didn't they like 0:05:23.560 --> 0:05:26.040 they just broke up because they were just Yeah, she said, 0:05:27.200 --> 0:05:29.000 I was together with my ex for about two years. 0:05:29.040 --> 0:05:31.960 We met our senior year in college and instantly became inseparable. 0:05:32.000 --> 0:05:34.320 Those things were so perfect at that time. And I 0:05:34.360 --> 0:05:37.039 just knew he remember, she said, I just knew he 0:05:37.200 --> 0:05:38.279 was the one for sure. 0:05:38.480 --> 0:05:40.640 She said, I was so for sured I was going 0:05:40.640 --> 0:05:43.599 to marry this man. So if you got to that 0:05:43.680 --> 0:05:45.800 point with him, you know what I mean. 0:05:45.960 --> 0:05:49.840 But she probably has also maybe fear too, because she's engaged. 0:05:49.880 --> 0:05:52.280 So you're saying that she thought was going to marry him. 0:05:52.680 --> 0:05:54.320 So now it's like, oh shit, Like. 0:05:54.240 --> 0:05:56.000 Because how many people do you get that feeling about? 0:05:56.040 --> 0:05:58.920 How many people in your life actually, like, how many 0:05:58.960 --> 0:06:01.200 relationships do you actually go through in life where you 0:06:01.240 --> 0:06:03.599 actually feel that way like, no, I'm gonna marry this 0:06:03.640 --> 0:06:05.400 man or I'm gonna marry this woman. You know what 0:06:05.440 --> 0:06:09.680 I'm saying. I've never had that until me being with Chris. Now, 0:06:09.760 --> 0:06:11.839 I'm gonna be completely honest with you. Yeah, when I 0:06:11.880 --> 0:06:14.320 was with like I was with Wayne, Wayne, and listen, 0:06:14.640 --> 0:06:16.560 I remember I recall people asked me, what's the best 0:06:16.600 --> 0:06:18.719 relationship you've been and I used to say Wayne, But 0:06:18.760 --> 0:06:20.600 I was saying Wayne for all the wrong reasons. I 0:06:20.760 --> 0:06:23.719 got tired of taking care of niggas and actually just 0:06:23.760 --> 0:06:26.159 being the breadwinner and always having to pay for everything. 0:06:26.200 --> 0:06:28.880 And when Wayne came along and he was doing all 0:06:28.880 --> 0:06:32.400 those things for me, I fell for that more so 0:06:32.520 --> 0:06:35.840 than falling for him. I just loved being taken care 0:06:35.880 --> 0:06:38.679 of and being splurged on and being able to say, 0:06:38.800 --> 0:06:40.440 oh I want this and I'll get it, or I'll 0:06:40.440 --> 0:06:43.080 get it without even asking. Now, Chris is all that 0:06:43.200 --> 0:06:45.839 and more for me. You know, it's actually part a 0:06:45.920 --> 0:06:48.719 partnership now, you know, because the problem with Wayne is 0:06:48.720 --> 0:06:52.120 Wayne was always in competition with me. Really good guy, 0:06:52.240 --> 0:06:54.839 good friend, you know what I'm saying. Like, but I 0:06:54.920 --> 0:06:56.840 always say this, and I'll say it again. We would 0:06:56.839 --> 0:06:59.440 have made great friends and great business partners, but not 0:06:59.560 --> 0:07:01.800 a couple, you get what I'm saying. But yeah, like 0:07:02.160 --> 0:07:04.679 I actually, this is the first time that I actually 0:07:04.720 --> 0:07:06.039 felt like I want to spend the rest of my 0:07:06.160 --> 0:07:08.520 life with the person that I'm with now, you. 0:07:08.480 --> 0:07:09.119 Know what I'm saying. 0:07:09.240 --> 0:07:13.480 So to her story, you only feel like that a 0:07:13.520 --> 0:07:17.320 few like maybe once or twice about a person, you 0:07:17.360 --> 0:07:20.880 know what I mean, Like with this other girl. Though, 0:07:20.920 --> 0:07:22.800 Hold up, hold up, I know this shit getting good, 0:07:22.840 --> 0:07:25.160 But listen to just a couple seconds of a commercial. 0:07:25.160 --> 0:07:27.720 If you love me, you'll listen, all right. The first 0:07:27.760 --> 0:07:31.160 relationship was two years she said she met her. 0:07:31.520 --> 0:07:33.080 Let me say, let me say. Anyways, we were chit 0:07:33.160 --> 0:07:35.920 chatting it up. Okay, Okay, she's showing. 0:07:35.600 --> 0:07:37.800 Me so so she said, this was all four years ago. 0:07:37.880 --> 0:07:40.040 Right now, I'm engaged. She doesn't even really give me 0:07:40.240 --> 0:07:44.080 any context about her goddamn fiance. Now, it's just she's 0:07:44.080 --> 0:07:46.720 been showing me everything I've been missing, and just things 0:07:46.760 --> 0:07:49.160 are just so different and refreshing. 0:07:50.000 --> 0:07:50.400 Yeah. 0:07:50.600 --> 0:07:52.400 Yeah, she said she really felt like she found her 0:07:52.400 --> 0:07:55.960 sold me. Okay, cool, And she really didn't give us 0:07:56.000 --> 0:07:57.400 a reason why she broke up with the boyfriend. 0:07:57.480 --> 0:07:57.920 She just said. 0:07:58.000 --> 0:07:58.160 Now. 0:07:58.160 --> 0:08:01.040 A little later down the line, that begins to unravel. 0:08:01.080 --> 0:08:03.840 We started arguing about the dumbest things, stopped going on dates, 0:08:03.880 --> 0:08:06.040 and it even got so bad we had to give 0:08:06.040 --> 0:08:07.040 away our fur baby. 0:08:07.480 --> 0:08:09.680 We know, y'all, ain't white, because ain't nobody white giving away. 0:08:09.680 --> 0:08:11.840 No goddamn dogs, y'all just gonna cool parent the best 0:08:11.840 --> 0:08:13.320 way y'all can shit. 0:08:13.520 --> 0:08:15.320 But yeah, I mean, so I don't know. 0:08:15.440 --> 0:08:18.120 She said they just grew apart and wanted different things, 0:08:18.320 --> 0:08:19.640 so they decided to call it quit. 0:08:19.720 --> 0:08:20.800 So that was a recial. 0:08:20.520 --> 0:08:22.559 Breakoupor memory lane. 0:08:22.600 --> 0:08:25.360 And yeah, like because any other time you probably wasn't 0:08:25.360 --> 0:08:27.320 thinking about him, So like that's really what mattered. If 0:08:27.360 --> 0:08:30.080 you were thinking of him throughout the four years and 0:08:30.360 --> 0:08:33.319 even into this new relationship, and that's different. But like 0:08:34.160 --> 0:08:36.200 that you don't you don't really think it's much there 0:08:36.360 --> 0:08:40.839 because it was just a moment. Yeah, if I say, 0:08:40.880 --> 0:08:44.360 an action from four years ago today feeling. 0:08:44.200 --> 0:08:46.920 I'm not, I'm not that's the thing. That's what It 0:08:47.040 --> 0:08:49.679 just still seems like it's a little bit more. They're 0:08:49.679 --> 0:08:52.439 not saying that she been doubling back or checking on 0:08:52.520 --> 0:08:54.280 him throughout those four years or anything like that, like 0:08:54.320 --> 0:08:56.080 they've been talking or anything. I think that it all 0:08:56.120 --> 0:08:58.120 came back when she saw him and the fact that 0:08:58.320 --> 0:09:02.240 he was probably still supportive of her new relationship or whatever, 0:09:02.280 --> 0:09:05.319 because she did say he even said he congratulated me 0:09:05.679 --> 0:09:09.040 on what I'm you know, my engagement now and there 0:09:09.160 --> 0:09:13.960 was no beef, no bad blood like you just yeah, yeah, 0:09:14.400 --> 0:09:17.000 I gotta be fucked up if you got wife and 0:09:17.080 --> 0:09:19.720 she's sitting at home thinking about leaving her fucking fiance 0:09:20.320 --> 0:09:22.360 for him again, and he's like, oh no, but you're worried. 0:09:22.360 --> 0:09:24.800 That's why I was happy to see you, because it's like, oh, 0:09:25.320 --> 0:09:27.720 you know, we both moved on, we're both doing well. 0:09:28.160 --> 0:09:32.840 Or what if he gave oh my bitch the fucking possibilities. 0:09:33.440 --> 0:09:38.240 Mmm, he's sucking it up. But the girl girl, all right, 0:09:38.440 --> 0:09:39.880 So who's the question. 0:09:40.320 --> 0:09:43.120 Does she think that those feelings are gonna last? And 0:09:43.960 --> 0:09:46.240 I don't think they should unless you keep harping on it. 0:09:47.800 --> 0:09:49.520 Just how well she coming to me to ask me 0:09:49.559 --> 0:09:52.280 for my help. This is a little lot you actually 0:09:52.360 --> 0:09:56.080 writing me about this. It's been on your mind, this 0:09:56.120 --> 0:09:57.280 has been on your mind. And then I don't know 0:09:57.360 --> 0:09:58.960 when she wrote this to me. I think I got 0:09:58.960 --> 0:10:01.400 this story like two weeks ago. I don't know how 0:10:01.440 --> 0:10:04.439 you know nothing against you know, let's be in relationships. 0:10:04.480 --> 0:10:08.040 But if you had to dick before, you. 0:10:08.000 --> 0:10:11.480 Know what the fuck is giving, especially when you you know, 0:10:11.600 --> 0:10:15.320 when you're riding, you know there's only so much you 0:10:15.320 --> 0:10:19.400 could do to little deal though, you know. Yeah, So 0:10:19.920 --> 0:10:24.960 I don't know, y'all, but I think, honestly, before you 0:10:25.000 --> 0:10:28.079 actually sit down and have a conversation with your fiance, 0:10:28.200 --> 0:10:29.760 because that's just what it's gonna have to come down 0:10:29.760 --> 0:10:29.959 to it. 0:10:30.559 --> 0:10:33.120 Because she missed her man, she missed her ex. 0:10:34.160 --> 0:10:36.600 I don't know, because if she, like I said, if 0:10:36.640 --> 0:10:41.280 she wasn't thinking about him before, yeah, just seeing him today, 0:10:41.360 --> 0:10:43.719 maybe just maybe something's going on with her relationship with. 0:10:44.720 --> 0:10:46.640 Right right, it's like a little rocky a little bit 0:10:46.720 --> 0:10:49.720 in the first sign of you know, somebody else that 0:10:49.800 --> 0:10:52.240 she sees or whatever she did, because people do overthink things, 0:10:52.240 --> 0:10:55.200 and it could be a situation where she's like just 0:10:55.520 --> 0:10:56.559 really overthinking. 0:10:57.160 --> 0:10:57.800 I'm not sure. 0:10:57.960 --> 0:11:02.679 I don't know, but I I feel like it's more 0:11:02.720 --> 0:11:04.839 than that, because I do want to know what that 0:11:05.679 --> 0:11:10.160 period of time was between when she saw him in 0:11:10.280 --> 0:11:12.880 her writing me, because if that was like, what if 0:11:12.880 --> 0:11:14.120 that was like a week? What if that's too you 0:11:14.160 --> 0:11:15.720 won't think about this nigga for two weeks and you 0:11:15.760 --> 0:11:19.760 write writing somebody about him. So that's why I say, 0:11:19.880 --> 0:11:21.880 you're gonna have to sit down. You don't think it's 0:11:21.880 --> 0:11:24.160 worth to even bring up to the fiance, because then 0:11:24.160 --> 0:11:25.520 that's going to bring up securities. 0:11:25.640 --> 0:11:26.680 I think things happen. 0:11:26.800 --> 0:11:29.160 I mean, you even take I guess she could probably 0:11:29.200 --> 0:11:31.839 take she's seen him again as a sign, but I 0:11:31.880 --> 0:11:35.240 don't think so. I think move on with your next relation. 0:11:35.400 --> 0:11:36.920 Yeah, definitely just just move on. 0:11:37.520 --> 0:11:40.360 Okay, well I should, Taylor think you should just move on. 0:11:40.720 --> 0:11:43.040 Just do not even bring it up to your fiance. 0:11:44.400 --> 0:11:49.000 I think you should see what his situation is before 0:11:49.559 --> 0:11:52.040 like making your decision. 0:11:52.600 --> 0:11:55.880 It just seems like she just she stuck. She suck. 0:11:55.960 --> 0:11:59.640 Maybe she like she's rethinking things, so I don't know, 0:11:59.840 --> 0:12:02.319 but it just it definitely seemed like she's stuck. 0:12:02.640 --> 0:12:03.720 I think you should figure. 0:12:03.520 --> 0:12:06.840 Out where he at, like what he's doing, and did 0:12:06.840 --> 0:12:10.480 he even give you any type of signs like damn, 0:12:10.520 --> 0:12:12.880 I want you back or you know what I'm saying, 0:12:12.920 --> 0:12:14.640 because he like, like we said, he could just be 0:12:14.679 --> 0:12:17.040 so fucking happy because he also moved on and there's 0:12:17.040 --> 0:12:20.520 no bad blood. It ain't nothing like being like friends, 0:12:20.520 --> 0:12:22.520 which acts being cool, Like that's how me and rom are, 0:12:22.559 --> 0:12:24.920 Like we're cool. Now, mind you, he's the only ex 0:12:25.000 --> 0:12:26.440 that I actually was still called. 0:12:26.480 --> 0:12:28.800 Do you think if you guys didn't have a child together, 0:12:28.840 --> 0:12:30.120 that it would be like that though. 0:12:30.120 --> 0:12:30.600 Me and Rome. 0:12:31.000 --> 0:12:35.640 Hell no, damn, I've been Actually no, no, I actually 0:12:36.080 --> 0:12:39.240 don't think so, because even on Rome side, I think 0:12:39.280 --> 0:12:41.800 if I never had his child, Rome wouldn't respect me. 0:12:41.920 --> 0:12:42.440 Rome is not. 0:12:42.920 --> 0:12:47.120 Rome is not that guy who like totally respects women. 0:12:47.320 --> 0:12:50.080 Like it's something about his mom dying at such a 0:12:50.120 --> 0:12:52.480 young age and him not being able to figure that out, 0:12:53.640 --> 0:12:57.200 figure out why she left him, or you know, it's 0:12:57.240 --> 0:12:59.480 still that little boy inside of him that didn't that 0:12:59.679 --> 0:13:02.840 you know, that didn't grow up past ten because he 0:13:02.960 --> 0:13:04.600 lost his mom at such a young age and she 0:13:04.679 --> 0:13:08.080 was his primary parent. Like that's who he ate with, 0:13:08.320 --> 0:13:11.360 slept with, breathe with, shit with. So I mean his 0:13:11.440 --> 0:13:14.319 dad was, he was there, but he wasn't. I think 0:13:14.360 --> 0:13:16.280 that plays a lot on how Rome is with women. 0:13:16.440 --> 0:13:21.319 And like every other baby mother, I'm rome favorite baby mother, 0:13:21.400 --> 0:13:24.000 Like I'm rome best friend, not even just saying baby mother, 0:13:24.160 --> 0:13:29.000 like I'm Rome's confidant, I'm his mentor that's my guy, 0:13:29.200 --> 0:13:31.280 Like we like best friends, you know what I'm saying. 0:13:31.320 --> 0:13:32.400 And I don't think. 0:13:32.400 --> 0:13:36.320 Our relationship would be like that or our friendship would 0:13:36.320 --> 0:13:39.280 be like that. If it wasn't for our son, because 0:13:39.320 --> 0:13:42.120 we had to change up the way that we did 0:13:42.160 --> 0:13:45.480 everything for our son, so Rome wouldn't really have any 0:13:45.559 --> 0:13:47.760 motivation to respect me. 0:13:48.000 --> 0:13:50.000 If it wasn't for our son. That's how I feel, 0:13:50.000 --> 0:13:51.160 and that actually goes deeper. 0:13:51.160 --> 0:13:54.199 But that's another conversation for another day because baby Daddy's 0:13:54.280 --> 0:13:57.240 be tripping. But now we got a commercial, and if 0:13:57.240 --> 0:13:59.360 you click off this podcast, I swear I'm an beat 0:13:59.360 --> 0:13:59.800 your ass. 0:14:00.160 --> 0:14:00.520 Listen. 0:14:02.080 --> 0:14:04.040 Yeah, I think you should see what your exes acts, 0:14:04.000 --> 0:14:06.280 see where his head is that, and then you come 0:14:06.320 --> 0:14:09.360 back and you update me. But as far as you 0:14:09.640 --> 0:14:13.840 just jumping out there telling your your fiance, I think 0:14:14.200 --> 0:14:16.559 after you you figure out where your excess head is that, 0:14:16.600 --> 0:14:18.720 even if you want to, I mean, because you might 0:14:18.760 --> 0:14:21.600 want to explore that, you know it's unfinished business. 0:14:21.640 --> 0:14:22.080 Obviously. 0:14:22.280 --> 0:14:25.480 After you figure that out, then you have to figure 0:14:25.480 --> 0:14:29.120 out if it is if it's worth leaving something that 0:14:29.160 --> 0:14:31.720 makes you so happy right now because they didn't break 0:14:31.800 --> 0:14:34.440 up bad, nobody cheated. I mean, unless you're just leaving 0:14:34.440 --> 0:14:36.640 that part out, y'all, you left some meat off the bones. 0:14:36.680 --> 0:14:39.800 I mean, I don't know four years ago, four years ago, 0:14:40.120 --> 0:14:42.520 I'm just still on that. The reason why is this 0:14:42.600 --> 0:14:45.080 from my own personal experience, Like I don't think. I 0:14:45.120 --> 0:14:49.120 think let things be where they were. Have you ever 0:14:49.120 --> 0:14:51.720 been in a situation like this, not necessarily. 0:14:51.200 --> 0:14:54.560 Like that, but like where there was a guy that 0:14:54.760 --> 0:14:57.120 like was always a what if, like that was like 0:14:57.240 --> 0:14:59.440 my best friend at the end of the day and 0:14:59.520 --> 0:15:03.720 then we but then now come to find out he 0:15:03.840 --> 0:15:06.280 was playing me the entire time in a sense, like 0:15:06.320 --> 0:15:08.080 he was like one of them guys that kind of 0:15:08.200 --> 0:15:13.360 said things to make a woman feel good. That yeah, 0:15:13.400 --> 0:15:16.840 he was absolutely so once I figured that out, like 0:15:17.160 --> 0:15:18.960 we tried to give it a chance, and I started 0:15:18.960 --> 0:15:22.720 seeing certain flaws with him and just seeing how he's 0:15:22.880 --> 0:15:24.600 been trying to manipulate mm hmmm. 0:15:25.080 --> 0:15:27.720 And plus his girl called me and then we had 0:15:27.720 --> 0:15:28.600 a nice conversation. 0:15:28.720 --> 0:15:29.160 Oh wow. 0:15:30.040 --> 0:15:32.000 Yeah, so he was your friend or he was somebody 0:15:32.000 --> 0:15:35.200 that was yeah, like he was at the end of 0:15:35.200 --> 0:15:37.080 the day, he was my friend first. So for him 0:15:37.080 --> 0:15:38.800 to lie to me and everything else like that, it 0:15:38.840 --> 0:15:41.160 was crazy. That messes up the foundation of the friendship. 0:15:41.240 --> 0:15:42.960 Like we can never go back to that because you 0:15:43.080 --> 0:15:45.720 lied to me friends only you can't be me real 0:15:45.760 --> 0:15:46.000 with me. 0:15:46.120 --> 0:15:48.960 We ain't even together yet. Yeah, so he could go 0:15:49.000 --> 0:15:51.920 to hell. Yeah, okay, damn you putting them there? 0:15:52.160 --> 0:15:53.680 No that like the time. 0:15:54.360 --> 0:15:58.120 Don't like once you css because he was something like 0:15:58.160 --> 0:16:00.240 I really like confined. 0:16:02.840 --> 0:16:07.160 Across that and you pay trust. Yeah okay, yeah. 0:16:06.760 --> 0:16:08.640 I mean they don't have that situation when I'm just 0:16:08.680 --> 0:16:12.840 saying even still, I just feel like love past stuff 0:16:12.920 --> 0:16:17.440 kind of yeah, leave it alone because scenario scenario, she 0:16:17.480 --> 0:16:20.040 could go back to this man and then the same 0:16:20.080 --> 0:16:22.040 shit could happen. And now you just let the love 0:16:22.080 --> 0:16:24.280 of your life walk out of your life, because yeah, 0:16:24.400 --> 0:16:25.440 I've done that. 0:16:26.080 --> 0:16:29.040 Chance, I've done that, and I actually did that with Rome. 0:16:29.200 --> 0:16:32.440 I remember Ash was about two years old and no, 0:16:32.520 --> 0:16:35.400 he was one one year old and I I was 0:16:35.440 --> 0:16:37.280 with somebody else. Now I think Ash was two one 0:16:37.360 --> 0:16:39.640 or two and I was with somebody else and Rome 0:16:40.160 --> 0:16:41.960 was calling me telling me he wanted his family back, 0:16:42.000 --> 0:16:43.680 and I wanted my family when I was younger. That's 0:16:43.720 --> 0:16:45.160 just what you want, you know, you want a y'all 0:16:45.200 --> 0:16:46.680 to be in the same household or just to know 0:16:46.720 --> 0:16:48.440 their mom and dad to be together, because that's the 0:16:48.440 --> 0:16:50.040 household I grew up in. My mom and my dad 0:16:50.080 --> 0:16:53.120 was together, and shit, I broke up with the nigga 0:16:53.120 --> 0:16:54.960 because Rome and confessed to me they was never gonna 0:16:54.960 --> 0:16:56.560 do it no more. He confessed everything that he did 0:16:56.800 --> 0:16:58.200 and everything, and I'm sorry. 0:16:58.200 --> 0:16:59.160 You know, I want my family. 0:16:59.200 --> 0:17:01.240 And I was a little boy and we were still 0:17:01.280 --> 0:17:04.159 fucking twenty one twenty two at the time, but I 0:17:04.200 --> 0:17:08.760 felt for that shit being young and that nigga cheated 0:17:08.840 --> 0:17:12.520 on me not even twenty four hours after I got 0:17:12.520 --> 0:17:15.400 back with him after leaving somebody who was great for me, 0:17:15.720 --> 0:17:16.760 great for Ashton. 0:17:17.000 --> 0:17:20.240 And he was the older guy, too, older guy, like he. 0:17:20.320 --> 0:17:23.840 Just he didn't have no kids, he wasn't married before, 0:17:24.040 --> 0:17:27.439 like like this was like a great like a create 0:17:27.520 --> 0:17:28.480 player type nigga. 0:17:29.080 --> 0:17:30.879 Like if you could make your nigga that that was 0:17:30.880 --> 0:17:31.240 the one. 0:17:31.320 --> 0:17:32.120 I don't kill them. 0:17:32.160 --> 0:17:34.800 He worked out and everything like girl and then wrong 0:17:34.840 --> 0:17:36.960 nigga wrong and shit, no, I you know, I just 0:17:36.960 --> 0:17:39.520 want my family. I went back that nigga cheated on 0:17:39.520 --> 0:17:41.159 me dead. Why the fuck my dumb man try to 0:17:41.200 --> 0:17:42.840 run back to the guy like you know what, psych 0:17:43.680 --> 0:17:44.320 He was like, Oh. 0:17:44.280 --> 0:17:47.639 No, bitch, I ain't fucking with you. Fuck dad, I 0:17:47.640 --> 0:17:51.160