1 00:00:00,200 --> 00:00:03,159 Speaker 1: Welcome to Can't Flee Reckless, the production of iHeart Radio 2 00:00:03,279 --> 00:00:16,560 Speaker 1: and the Black Effects, And just like that, we're back 3 00:00:16,560 --> 00:00:19,000 Speaker 1: with yet another carefully reckless episode with your girl Jess. 4 00:00:19,040 --> 00:00:19,439 Speaker 2: Hilarious. 5 00:00:19,480 --> 00:00:20,840 Speaker 1: So what I be doing, i'd be fixed and mess. 6 00:00:20,880 --> 00:00:22,639 Speaker 1: So we're gonna jump straight into it. I'm here with 7 00:00:22,680 --> 00:00:23,280 Speaker 1: my girl. 8 00:00:23,120 --> 00:00:26,200 Speaker 2: Taylor, say hey, hey, hey, and she's not gonna be reading. 9 00:00:26,200 --> 00:00:27,800 Speaker 1: We're gonna give our a little break, but she's definitely 10 00:00:27,800 --> 00:00:30,640 Speaker 1: gonna help me with some insight on this mess. Give 11 00:00:30,680 --> 00:00:33,159 Speaker 1: you all some insight on this messh O, here we go. 12 00:00:33,159 --> 00:00:35,919 Speaker 1: Good morning to Jess. Hope all is going well and 13 00:00:35,960 --> 00:00:38,080 Speaker 1: I continue to wish you nothing but blessings. 14 00:00:38,200 --> 00:00:38,800 Speaker 2: Let's dive in. 15 00:00:39,479 --> 00:00:41,479 Speaker 1: I was together with my ex for about two years. 16 00:00:41,600 --> 00:00:44,960 Speaker 1: We met our senior year in college and instantly became inseparable. 17 00:00:45,400 --> 00:00:47,440 Speaker 1: Things were so perfect at the time, and I just 18 00:00:47,520 --> 00:00:49,800 Speaker 1: knew he was the perfect man for me. We made 19 00:00:49,880 --> 00:00:54,400 Speaker 1: investments together, like buying land okay, to build our own house, 20 00:00:54,800 --> 00:00:56,080 Speaker 1: and we even shared. 21 00:00:55,800 --> 00:00:59,560 Speaker 2: A fur baby. What's up pet? Oh my god, Okay, 22 00:00:59,600 --> 00:01:03,200 Speaker 2: that's nice. Okay. I was so for sure knew I 23 00:01:03,240 --> 00:01:04,399 Speaker 2: was gonna marry this man. 24 00:01:04,400 --> 00:01:06,200 Speaker 1: Oh yeah, this nigga got you're talking crazy, because that 25 00:01:06,240 --> 00:01:07,520 Speaker 1: was the crazy sentence listening. 26 00:01:07,680 --> 00:01:10,280 Speaker 2: I was so for sure knew I was gonna marry 27 00:01:10,319 --> 00:01:10,840 Speaker 2: this man. 28 00:01:11,360 --> 00:01:13,440 Speaker 1: Maybe she meant that I was so for sure knew 29 00:01:14,840 --> 00:01:16,319 Speaker 1: all right now. 30 00:01:16,360 --> 00:01:19,000 Speaker 2: A little later down the road, things began to unravel. 31 00:01:19,240 --> 00:01:22,640 Speaker 1: We started arguing about the dumbest things, stopped going on dates, 32 00:01:22,720 --> 00:01:24,520 Speaker 1: and it even got so bad we had to give 33 00:01:24,560 --> 00:01:25,520 Speaker 1: away out of her baby. 34 00:01:25,640 --> 00:01:26,000 Speaker 2: Damn. 35 00:01:26,440 --> 00:01:28,920 Speaker 1: We just grew apart and wanted different things, so we 36 00:01:29,000 --> 00:01:33,080 Speaker 1: decided to call it quits, which affected us both pretty deep. 37 00:01:33,720 --> 00:01:36,280 Speaker 1: This was all four years ago. Right now I'm engaged, 38 00:01:36,560 --> 00:01:39,160 Speaker 1: and not to a man but a woman. Now, Okay, 39 00:01:39,160 --> 00:01:42,800 Speaker 1: congratulations for crossing over. She'd been showing me everything I've 40 00:01:42,840 --> 00:01:46,440 Speaker 1: been missing in Jess. Things are just so different and refreshing. 41 00:01:46,760 --> 00:01:50,120 Speaker 1: I really feel I found my soulmate. So here's the hiccup, though. 42 00:01:50,400 --> 00:01:53,000 Speaker 1: The other day I ran into the X at a dealership. 43 00:01:53,360 --> 00:01:55,840 Speaker 1: I haven't saw him since we decided to split, so 44 00:01:55,880 --> 00:01:58,640 Speaker 1: it was kind of weird at first. Girl, When this 45 00:01:58,720 --> 00:02:01,360 Speaker 1: man noticed it was me, his eyes got big as fuck, 46 00:02:01,560 --> 00:02:04,000 Speaker 1: and he started to walk over and gave me the 47 00:02:04,120 --> 00:02:07,200 Speaker 1: tightest hug and asked how I've been. I wasn't expecting 48 00:02:07,240 --> 00:02:10,200 Speaker 1: that because shit, I wasn't about the hugging back. But 49 00:02:10,360 --> 00:02:13,079 Speaker 1: all right, I guess hello, els girl, you hugged that 50 00:02:13,160 --> 00:02:15,120 Speaker 1: nigga the fuck like and it beten and I had 51 00:02:15,120 --> 00:02:18,639 Speaker 1: been no Meghan good Michael Eely moment to be it 52 00:02:18,720 --> 00:02:20,640 Speaker 1: bet not lift you off your motherfucker feet and spin 53 00:02:20,720 --> 00:02:24,160 Speaker 1: your round. Anyways, we were chit chat and catching up 54 00:02:24,200 --> 00:02:27,000 Speaker 1: for about thirty minutes while waiting for service. I know, 55 00:02:27,080 --> 00:02:30,040 Speaker 1: thirty minutes is like forever until one of us got helped. 56 00:02:30,120 --> 00:02:33,160 Speaker 1: It was a cool, genuine conversation and he even congratulated 57 00:02:33,200 --> 00:02:36,400 Speaker 1: me on my engagement. Conversation came to an end, we 58 00:02:36,480 --> 00:02:38,600 Speaker 1: both said it was good running into each other and 59 00:02:38,600 --> 00:02:40,360 Speaker 1: gave each other another big heart. 60 00:02:41,080 --> 00:02:42,160 Speaker 2: You made another big hug. 61 00:02:42,840 --> 00:02:45,400 Speaker 1: I know this may sound wrong, but ever since that happened, 62 00:02:45,440 --> 00:02:47,560 Speaker 1: I've been sort of thinking about him. Yeah, alright, new 63 00:02:47,680 --> 00:02:49,320 Speaker 1: track like you ain't wanna how gum bet you already 64 00:02:49,360 --> 00:02:53,120 Speaker 1: know what's up? I know you won't dick You're It's like, 65 00:02:53,160 --> 00:02:55,520 Speaker 1: now I'm fucking with you because you are happy right now. 66 00:02:55,919 --> 00:02:58,800 Speaker 1: I would never do anything that jeopardize my relationship, but 67 00:02:58,840 --> 00:03:01,040 Speaker 1: thoughts do come to mind, like what if we did 68 00:03:01,120 --> 00:03:02,800 Speaker 1: make it or what if we worked out and just 69 00:03:02,840 --> 00:03:05,720 Speaker 1: try it again? Oh man, I know this sounds terrible 70 00:03:05,840 --> 00:03:08,240 Speaker 1: and I don't even know why I'm thinking like this 71 00:03:08,320 --> 00:03:10,560 Speaker 1: because I love my fiance Jess, I swear I do. 72 00:03:10,880 --> 00:03:13,000 Speaker 1: I ain't the one you got to convince baby. I 73 00:03:13,040 --> 00:03:15,640 Speaker 1: really want to get him out of my mind. And 74 00:03:15,680 --> 00:03:18,280 Speaker 1: I don't know how you think time will pass? Well, 75 00:03:18,280 --> 00:03:21,800 Speaker 1: time definitely gonna pass. See y'all not asking the right 76 00:03:21,880 --> 00:03:24,440 Speaker 1: questions because she said you think time will pass. 77 00:03:25,040 --> 00:03:26,280 Speaker 2: The time won't always pass. 78 00:03:26,760 --> 00:03:29,320 Speaker 1: But I think like she's trying to ask me, do 79 00:03:29,360 --> 00:03:31,079 Speaker 1: you think it'll get better with time where I just 80 00:03:31,120 --> 00:03:35,000 Speaker 1: won't think about him anymore eventually? Okay? Or this may 81 00:03:35,080 --> 00:03:39,640 Speaker 1: mean something else, silly thinking. Just help me, Okay, what. 82 00:03:42,240 --> 00:03:42,800 Speaker 2: Is dealing with? 83 00:03:46,120 --> 00:03:49,120 Speaker 3: She trej into a lesbid relationship? 84 00:03:49,160 --> 00:03:49,720 Speaker 1: But you know what? 85 00:03:49,760 --> 00:03:52,640 Speaker 2: That but you know what, you know what, this is 86 00:03:52,680 --> 00:03:54,520 Speaker 2: the thing, because let's just take it all the way back. 87 00:03:55,240 --> 00:03:57,960 Speaker 1: Is he the reason you went gay? Why did you 88 00:03:58,040 --> 00:04:02,120 Speaker 1: decide to turn to women? Though maybe okay, yeah she 89 00:04:02,160 --> 00:04:05,400 Speaker 1: didn't she didn't state that, but yeah, you know what, 90 00:04:05,920 --> 00:04:08,200 Speaker 1: that's my question also to women who can just like 91 00:04:08,520 --> 00:04:11,480 Speaker 1: break gay out the gate right where you always having 92 00:04:11,480 --> 00:04:13,920 Speaker 1: these feelings of women for women, you just didn't know 93 00:04:13,960 --> 00:04:15,960 Speaker 1: how to convey them or express them, or you didn't 94 00:04:15,960 --> 00:04:17,240 Speaker 1: know what it was. Because a lot of people be 95 00:04:17,240 --> 00:04:19,320 Speaker 1: gaying don't even realize what it is, and so they 96 00:04:19,360 --> 00:04:21,400 Speaker 1: get older, you know what I'm saying. So I don't 97 00:04:21,400 --> 00:04:24,880 Speaker 1: know if she was bisexual or not. However, I know 98 00:04:25,000 --> 00:04:28,599 Speaker 1: a lot of women like to try something totally different, 99 00:04:28,640 --> 00:04:31,880 Speaker 1: try to opposite sex because of a really bad breakup 100 00:04:31,960 --> 00:04:34,360 Speaker 1: or because one guy hurt them so badly that they 101 00:04:34,400 --> 00:04:35,760 Speaker 1: can't give another guy a chance. 102 00:04:35,880 --> 00:04:37,320 Speaker 2: That's crazy, Yeah, And. 103 00:04:37,279 --> 00:04:40,120 Speaker 1: That's what it sounds like here, because if all it 104 00:04:40,200 --> 00:04:42,880 Speaker 1: took was for you to see him again four years 105 00:04:42,960 --> 00:04:45,120 Speaker 1: later and you start having butterflies, because I know what 106 00:04:45,120 --> 00:04:45,919 Speaker 1: that description is. 107 00:04:45,920 --> 00:04:46,080 Speaker 2: Now. 108 00:04:46,120 --> 00:04:49,840 Speaker 1: She did not say butterflies, but baby, that's exactly what 109 00:04:49,880 --> 00:04:53,920 Speaker 1: she meant, Like butterflies came to you know, she got 110 00:04:53,960 --> 00:04:55,839 Speaker 1: a row, She got excited that nigga hug that he 111 00:04:55,880 --> 00:04:59,440 Speaker 1: was probably kind of like you know, some Gucci or 112 00:04:59,520 --> 00:05:03,039 Speaker 1: some them what is it, what's one of them clones? 113 00:05:03,440 --> 00:05:06,440 Speaker 1: He was probably smelling like Creed or Gucci or something 114 00:05:06,520 --> 00:05:10,120 Speaker 1: like that. And your ass got all, you know, all 115 00:05:10,200 --> 00:05:13,119 Speaker 1: bashful again, and you just took a trip down memory Lane. 116 00:05:13,120 --> 00:05:15,160 Speaker 1: Now I know you. I'm not saying you don't love 117 00:05:16,000 --> 00:05:19,760 Speaker 1: your fiance. I'm not saying that. However, it just seems 118 00:05:19,760 --> 00:05:23,479 Speaker 1: like unfinished business with this man. She didn't they like 119 00:05:23,560 --> 00:05:26,040 Speaker 1: they just broke up because they were just Yeah, she said, 120 00:05:27,200 --> 00:05:29,000 Speaker 1: I was together with my ex for about two years. 121 00:05:29,040 --> 00:05:31,960 Speaker 1: We met our senior year in college and instantly became inseparable. 122 00:05:32,000 --> 00:05:34,320 Speaker 1: Those things were so perfect at that time. And I 123 00:05:34,360 --> 00:05:37,039 Speaker 1: just knew he remember, she said, I just knew he 124 00:05:37,200 --> 00:05:38,279 Speaker 1: was the one for sure. 125 00:05:38,480 --> 00:05:40,640 Speaker 2: She said, I was so for sured I was going 126 00:05:40,640 --> 00:05:43,599 Speaker 2: to marry this man. So if you got to that 127 00:05:43,680 --> 00:05:45,800 Speaker 2: point with him, you know what I mean. 128 00:05:45,960 --> 00:05:49,840 Speaker 4: But she probably has also maybe fear too, because she's engaged. 129 00:05:49,880 --> 00:05:52,280 Speaker 4: So you're saying that she thought was going to marry him. 130 00:05:52,680 --> 00:05:54,320 Speaker 4: So now it's like, oh shit, Like. 131 00:05:54,240 --> 00:05:56,000 Speaker 1: Because how many people do you get that feeling about? 132 00:05:56,040 --> 00:05:58,920 Speaker 1: How many people in your life actually, like, how many 133 00:05:58,960 --> 00:06:01,200 Speaker 1: relationships do you actually go through in life where you 134 00:06:01,240 --> 00:06:03,599 Speaker 1: actually feel that way like, no, I'm gonna marry this 135 00:06:03,640 --> 00:06:05,400 Speaker 1: man or I'm gonna marry this woman. You know what 136 00:06:05,440 --> 00:06:09,680 Speaker 1: I'm saying. I've never had that until me being with Chris. Now, 137 00:06:09,760 --> 00:06:11,839 Speaker 1: I'm gonna be completely honest with you. Yeah, when I 138 00:06:11,880 --> 00:06:14,320 Speaker 1: was with like I was with Wayne, Wayne, and listen, 139 00:06:14,640 --> 00:06:16,560 Speaker 1: I remember I recall people asked me, what's the best 140 00:06:16,600 --> 00:06:18,719 Speaker 1: relationship you've been and I used to say Wayne, But 141 00:06:18,760 --> 00:06:20,600 Speaker 1: I was saying Wayne for all the wrong reasons. I 142 00:06:20,760 --> 00:06:23,719 Speaker 1: got tired of taking care of niggas and actually just 143 00:06:23,760 --> 00:06:26,159 Speaker 1: being the breadwinner and always having to pay for everything. 144 00:06:26,200 --> 00:06:28,880 Speaker 1: And when Wayne came along and he was doing all 145 00:06:28,880 --> 00:06:32,400 Speaker 1: those things for me, I fell for that more so 146 00:06:32,520 --> 00:06:35,840 Speaker 1: than falling for him. I just loved being taken care 147 00:06:35,880 --> 00:06:38,679 Speaker 1: of and being splurged on and being able to say, 148 00:06:38,800 --> 00:06:40,440 Speaker 1: oh I want this and I'll get it, or I'll 149 00:06:40,440 --> 00:06:43,080 Speaker 1: get it without even asking. Now, Chris is all that 150 00:06:43,200 --> 00:06:45,839 Speaker 1: and more for me. You know, it's actually part a 151 00:06:45,920 --> 00:06:48,719 Speaker 1: partnership now, you know, because the problem with Wayne is 152 00:06:48,720 --> 00:06:52,120 Speaker 1: Wayne was always in competition with me. Really good guy, 153 00:06:52,240 --> 00:06:54,839 Speaker 1: good friend, you know what I'm saying. Like, but I 154 00:06:54,920 --> 00:06:56,840 Speaker 1: always say this, and I'll say it again. We would 155 00:06:56,839 --> 00:06:59,440 Speaker 1: have made great friends and great business partners, but not 156 00:06:59,560 --> 00:07:01,800 Speaker 1: a couple, you get what I'm saying. But yeah, like 157 00:07:02,160 --> 00:07:04,679 Speaker 1: I actually, this is the first time that I actually 158 00:07:04,720 --> 00:07:06,039 Speaker 1: felt like I want to spend the rest of my 159 00:07:06,160 --> 00:07:08,520 Speaker 1: life with the person that I'm with now, you. 160 00:07:08,480 --> 00:07:09,119 Speaker 2: Know what I'm saying. 161 00:07:09,240 --> 00:07:13,480 Speaker 1: So to her story, you only feel like that a 162 00:07:13,520 --> 00:07:17,320 Speaker 1: few like maybe once or twice about a person, you 163 00:07:17,360 --> 00:07:20,880 Speaker 1: know what I mean, Like with this other girl. Though, 164 00:07:20,920 --> 00:07:22,800 Speaker 1: Hold up, hold up, I know this shit getting good, 165 00:07:22,840 --> 00:07:25,160 Speaker 1: But listen to just a couple seconds of a commercial. 166 00:07:25,160 --> 00:07:27,720 Speaker 1: If you love me, you'll listen, all right. The first 167 00:07:27,760 --> 00:07:31,160 Speaker 1: relationship was two years she said she met her. 168 00:07:31,520 --> 00:07:33,080 Speaker 2: Let me say, let me say. Anyways, we were chit 169 00:07:33,160 --> 00:07:35,920 Speaker 2: chatting it up. Okay, Okay, she's showing. 170 00:07:35,600 --> 00:07:37,800 Speaker 1: Me so so she said, this was all four years ago. 171 00:07:37,880 --> 00:07:40,040 Speaker 1: Right now, I'm engaged. She doesn't even really give me 172 00:07:40,240 --> 00:07:44,080 Speaker 1: any context about her goddamn fiance. Now, it's just she's 173 00:07:44,080 --> 00:07:46,720 Speaker 1: been showing me everything I've been missing, and just things 174 00:07:46,760 --> 00:07:49,160 Speaker 1: are just so different and refreshing. 175 00:07:50,000 --> 00:07:50,400 Speaker 2: Yeah. 176 00:07:50,600 --> 00:07:52,400 Speaker 1: Yeah, she said she really felt like she found her 177 00:07:52,400 --> 00:07:55,960 Speaker 1: sold me. Okay, cool, And she really didn't give us 178 00:07:56,000 --> 00:07:57,400 Speaker 1: a reason why she broke up with the boyfriend. 179 00:07:57,480 --> 00:07:57,920 Speaker 2: She just said. 180 00:07:58,000 --> 00:07:58,160 Speaker 3: Now. 181 00:07:58,160 --> 00:08:01,040 Speaker 1: A little later down the line, that begins to unravel. 182 00:08:01,080 --> 00:08:03,840 Speaker 1: We started arguing about the dumbest things, stopped going on dates, 183 00:08:03,880 --> 00:08:06,040 Speaker 1: and it even got so bad we had to give 184 00:08:06,040 --> 00:08:07,040 Speaker 1: away our fur baby. 185 00:08:07,480 --> 00:08:09,680 Speaker 2: We know, y'all, ain't white, because ain't nobody white giving away. 186 00:08:09,680 --> 00:08:11,840 Speaker 1: No goddamn dogs, y'all just gonna cool parent the best 187 00:08:11,840 --> 00:08:13,320 Speaker 1: way y'all can shit. 188 00:08:13,520 --> 00:08:15,320 Speaker 2: But yeah, I mean, so I don't know. 189 00:08:15,440 --> 00:08:18,120 Speaker 1: She said they just grew apart and wanted different things, 190 00:08:18,320 --> 00:08:19,640 Speaker 1: so they decided to call it quit. 191 00:08:19,720 --> 00:08:20,800 Speaker 2: So that was a recial. 192 00:08:20,520 --> 00:08:22,559 Speaker 3: Breakoupor memory lane. 193 00:08:22,600 --> 00:08:25,360 Speaker 4: And yeah, like because any other time you probably wasn't 194 00:08:25,360 --> 00:08:27,320 Speaker 4: thinking about him, So like that's really what mattered. If 195 00:08:27,360 --> 00:08:30,080 Speaker 4: you were thinking of him throughout the four years and 196 00:08:30,360 --> 00:08:33,319 Speaker 4: even into this new relationship, and that's different. But like 197 00:08:34,160 --> 00:08:36,200 Speaker 4: that you don't you don't really think it's much there 198 00:08:36,360 --> 00:08:40,839 Speaker 4: because it was just a moment. Yeah, if I say, 199 00:08:40,880 --> 00:08:44,360 Speaker 4: an action from four years ago today feeling. 200 00:08:44,200 --> 00:08:46,920 Speaker 1: I'm not, I'm not that's the thing. That's what It 201 00:08:47,040 --> 00:08:49,679 Speaker 1: just still seems like it's a little bit more. They're 202 00:08:49,679 --> 00:08:52,439 Speaker 1: not saying that she been doubling back or checking on 203 00:08:52,520 --> 00:08:54,280 Speaker 1: him throughout those four years or anything like that, like 204 00:08:54,320 --> 00:08:56,080 Speaker 1: they've been talking or anything. I think that it all 205 00:08:56,120 --> 00:08:58,120 Speaker 1: came back when she saw him and the fact that 206 00:08:58,320 --> 00:09:02,240 Speaker 1: he was probably still supportive of her new relationship or whatever, 207 00:09:02,280 --> 00:09:05,319 Speaker 1: because she did say he even said he congratulated me 208 00:09:05,679 --> 00:09:09,040 Speaker 1: on what I'm you know, my engagement now and there 209 00:09:09,160 --> 00:09:13,960 Speaker 1: was no beef, no bad blood like you just yeah, yeah, 210 00:09:14,400 --> 00:09:17,000 Speaker 1: I gotta be fucked up if you got wife and 211 00:09:17,080 --> 00:09:19,720 Speaker 1: she's sitting at home thinking about leaving her fucking fiance 212 00:09:20,320 --> 00:09:22,360 Speaker 1: for him again, and he's like, oh no, but you're worried. 213 00:09:22,360 --> 00:09:24,800 Speaker 1: That's why I was happy to see you, because it's like, oh, 214 00:09:25,320 --> 00:09:27,720 Speaker 1: you know, we both moved on, we're both doing well. 215 00:09:28,160 --> 00:09:32,840 Speaker 1: Or what if he gave oh my bitch the fucking possibilities. 216 00:09:33,440 --> 00:09:38,240 Speaker 2: Mmm, he's sucking it up. But the girl girl, all right, 217 00:09:38,440 --> 00:09:39,880 Speaker 2: So who's the question. 218 00:09:40,320 --> 00:09:43,120 Speaker 4: Does she think that those feelings are gonna last? And 219 00:09:43,960 --> 00:09:46,240 Speaker 4: I don't think they should unless you keep harping on it. 220 00:09:47,800 --> 00:09:49,520 Speaker 1: Just how well she coming to me to ask me 221 00:09:49,559 --> 00:09:52,280 Speaker 1: for my help. This is a little lot you actually 222 00:09:52,360 --> 00:09:56,080 Speaker 1: writing me about this. It's been on your mind, this 223 00:09:56,120 --> 00:09:57,280 Speaker 1: has been on your mind. And then I don't know 224 00:09:57,360 --> 00:09:58,960 Speaker 1: when she wrote this to me. I think I got 225 00:09:58,960 --> 00:10:01,400 Speaker 1: this story like two weeks ago. I don't know how 226 00:10:01,440 --> 00:10:04,439 Speaker 1: you know nothing against you know, let's be in relationships. 227 00:10:04,480 --> 00:10:08,040 Speaker 3: But if you had to dick before, you. 228 00:10:08,000 --> 00:10:11,480 Speaker 1: Know what the fuck is giving, especially when you you know, 229 00:10:11,600 --> 00:10:15,320 Speaker 1: when you're riding, you know there's only so much you 230 00:10:15,320 --> 00:10:19,400 Speaker 1: could do to little deal though, you know. Yeah, So 231 00:10:19,920 --> 00:10:24,960 Speaker 1: I don't know, y'all, but I think, honestly, before you 232 00:10:25,000 --> 00:10:28,079 Speaker 1: actually sit down and have a conversation with your fiance, 233 00:10:28,200 --> 00:10:29,760 Speaker 1: because that's just what it's gonna have to come down 234 00:10:29,760 --> 00:10:29,959 Speaker 1: to it. 235 00:10:30,559 --> 00:10:33,120 Speaker 2: Because she missed her man, she missed her ex. 236 00:10:34,160 --> 00:10:36,600 Speaker 4: I don't know, because if she, like I said, if 237 00:10:36,640 --> 00:10:41,280 Speaker 4: she wasn't thinking about him before, yeah, just seeing him today, 238 00:10:41,360 --> 00:10:43,719 Speaker 4: maybe just maybe something's going on with her relationship with. 239 00:10:44,720 --> 00:10:46,640 Speaker 1: Right right, it's like a little rocky a little bit 240 00:10:46,720 --> 00:10:49,720 Speaker 1: in the first sign of you know, somebody else that 241 00:10:49,800 --> 00:10:52,240 Speaker 1: she sees or whatever she did, because people do overthink things, 242 00:10:52,240 --> 00:10:55,200 Speaker 1: and it could be a situation where she's like just 243 00:10:55,520 --> 00:10:56,559 Speaker 1: really overthinking. 244 00:10:57,160 --> 00:10:57,800 Speaker 2: I'm not sure. 245 00:10:57,960 --> 00:11:02,679 Speaker 1: I don't know, but I I feel like it's more 246 00:11:02,720 --> 00:11:04,839 Speaker 1: than that, because I do want to know what that 247 00:11:05,679 --> 00:11:10,160 Speaker 1: period of time was between when she saw him in 248 00:11:10,280 --> 00:11:12,880 Speaker 1: her writing me, because if that was like, what if 249 00:11:12,880 --> 00:11:14,120 Speaker 1: that was like a week? What if that's too you 250 00:11:14,160 --> 00:11:15,720 Speaker 1: won't think about this nigga for two weeks and you 251 00:11:15,760 --> 00:11:19,760 Speaker 1: write writing somebody about him. So that's why I say, 252 00:11:19,880 --> 00:11:21,880 Speaker 1: you're gonna have to sit down. You don't think it's 253 00:11:21,880 --> 00:11:24,160 Speaker 1: worth to even bring up to the fiance, because then 254 00:11:24,160 --> 00:11:25,520 Speaker 1: that's going to bring up securities. 255 00:11:25,640 --> 00:11:26,680 Speaker 3: I think things happen. 256 00:11:26,800 --> 00:11:29,160 Speaker 4: I mean, you even take I guess she could probably 257 00:11:29,200 --> 00:11:31,839 Speaker 4: take she's seen him again as a sign, but I 258 00:11:31,880 --> 00:11:35,240 Speaker 4: don't think so. I think move on with your next relation. 259 00:11:35,400 --> 00:11:36,920 Speaker 2: Yeah, definitely just just move on. 260 00:11:37,520 --> 00:11:40,360 Speaker 1: Okay, well I should, Taylor think you should just move on. 261 00:11:40,720 --> 00:11:43,040 Speaker 1: Just do not even bring it up to your fiance. 262 00:11:44,400 --> 00:11:49,000 Speaker 1: I think you should see what his situation is before 263 00:11:49,559 --> 00:11:52,040 Speaker 1: like making your decision. 264 00:11:52,600 --> 00:11:55,880 Speaker 2: It just seems like she just she stuck. She suck. 265 00:11:55,960 --> 00:11:59,640 Speaker 1: Maybe she like she's rethinking things, so I don't know, 266 00:11:59,840 --> 00:12:02,319 Speaker 1: but it just it definitely seemed like she's stuck. 267 00:12:02,640 --> 00:12:03,720 Speaker 2: I think you should figure. 268 00:12:03,520 --> 00:12:06,840 Speaker 1: Out where he at, like what he's doing, and did 269 00:12:06,840 --> 00:12:10,480 Speaker 1: he even give you any type of signs like damn, 270 00:12:10,520 --> 00:12:12,880 Speaker 1: I want you back or you know what I'm saying, 271 00:12:12,920 --> 00:12:14,640 Speaker 1: because he like, like we said, he could just be 272 00:12:14,679 --> 00:12:17,040 Speaker 1: so fucking happy because he also moved on and there's 273 00:12:17,040 --> 00:12:20,520 Speaker 1: no bad blood. It ain't nothing like being like friends, 274 00:12:20,520 --> 00:12:22,520 Speaker 1: which acts being cool, Like that's how me and rom are, 275 00:12:22,559 --> 00:12:24,920 Speaker 1: Like we're cool. Now, mind you, he's the only ex 276 00:12:25,000 --> 00:12:26,440 Speaker 1: that I actually was still called. 277 00:12:26,480 --> 00:12:28,800 Speaker 3: Do you think if you guys didn't have a child together, 278 00:12:28,840 --> 00:12:30,120 Speaker 3: that it would be like that though. 279 00:12:30,120 --> 00:12:30,600 Speaker 2: Me and Rome. 280 00:12:31,000 --> 00:12:35,640 Speaker 1: Hell no, damn, I've been Actually no, no, I actually 281 00:12:36,080 --> 00:12:39,240 Speaker 1: don't think so, because even on Rome side, I think 282 00:12:39,280 --> 00:12:41,800 Speaker 1: if I never had his child, Rome wouldn't respect me. 283 00:12:41,920 --> 00:12:42,440 Speaker 2: Rome is not. 284 00:12:42,920 --> 00:12:47,120 Speaker 1: Rome is not that guy who like totally respects women. 285 00:12:47,320 --> 00:12:50,080 Speaker 1: Like it's something about his mom dying at such a 286 00:12:50,120 --> 00:12:52,480 Speaker 1: young age and him not being able to figure that out, 287 00:12:53,640 --> 00:12:57,200 Speaker 1: figure out why she left him, or you know, it's 288 00:12:57,240 --> 00:12:59,480 Speaker 1: still that little boy inside of him that didn't that 289 00:12:59,679 --> 00:13:02,840 Speaker 1: you know, that didn't grow up past ten because he 290 00:13:02,960 --> 00:13:04,600 Speaker 1: lost his mom at such a young age and she 291 00:13:04,679 --> 00:13:08,080 Speaker 1: was his primary parent. Like that's who he ate with, 292 00:13:08,320 --> 00:13:11,360 Speaker 1: slept with, breathe with, shit with. So I mean his 293 00:13:11,440 --> 00:13:14,319 Speaker 1: dad was, he was there, but he wasn't. I think 294 00:13:14,360 --> 00:13:16,280 Speaker 1: that plays a lot on how Rome is with women. 295 00:13:16,440 --> 00:13:21,319 Speaker 1: And like every other baby mother, I'm rome favorite baby mother, 296 00:13:21,400 --> 00:13:24,000 Speaker 1: Like I'm rome best friend, not even just saying baby mother, 297 00:13:24,160 --> 00:13:29,000 Speaker 1: like I'm Rome's confidant, I'm his mentor that's my guy, 298 00:13:29,200 --> 00:13:31,280 Speaker 1: Like we like best friends, you know what I'm saying. 299 00:13:31,320 --> 00:13:32,400 Speaker 2: And I don't think. 300 00:13:32,400 --> 00:13:36,320 Speaker 1: Our relationship would be like that or our friendship would 301 00:13:36,320 --> 00:13:39,280 Speaker 1: be like that. If it wasn't for our son, because 302 00:13:39,320 --> 00:13:42,120 Speaker 1: we had to change up the way that we did 303 00:13:42,160 --> 00:13:45,480 Speaker 1: everything for our son, so Rome wouldn't really have any 304 00:13:45,559 --> 00:13:47,760 Speaker 1: motivation to respect me. 305 00:13:48,000 --> 00:13:50,000 Speaker 2: If it wasn't for our son. That's how I feel, 306 00:13:50,000 --> 00:13:51,160 Speaker 2: and that actually goes deeper. 307 00:13:51,160 --> 00:13:54,199 Speaker 1: But that's another conversation for another day because baby Daddy's 308 00:13:54,280 --> 00:13:57,240 Speaker 1: be tripping. But now we got a commercial, and if 309 00:13:57,240 --> 00:13:59,360 Speaker 1: you click off this podcast, I swear I'm an beat 310 00:13:59,360 --> 00:13:59,800 Speaker 1: your ass. 311 00:14:00,160 --> 00:14:00,520 Speaker 2: Listen. 312 00:14:02,080 --> 00:14:04,040 Speaker 1: Yeah, I think you should see what your exes acts, 313 00:14:04,000 --> 00:14:06,280 Speaker 1: see where his head is that, and then you come 314 00:14:06,320 --> 00:14:09,360 Speaker 1: back and you update me. But as far as you 315 00:14:09,640 --> 00:14:13,840 Speaker 1: just jumping out there telling your your fiance, I think 316 00:14:14,200 --> 00:14:16,559 Speaker 1: after you you figure out where your excess head is that, 317 00:14:16,600 --> 00:14:18,720 Speaker 1: even if you want to, I mean, because you might 318 00:14:18,760 --> 00:14:21,600 Speaker 1: want to explore that, you know it's unfinished business. 319 00:14:21,640 --> 00:14:22,080 Speaker 2: Obviously. 320 00:14:22,280 --> 00:14:25,480 Speaker 1: After you figure that out, then you have to figure 321 00:14:25,480 --> 00:14:29,120 Speaker 1: out if it is if it's worth leaving something that 322 00:14:29,160 --> 00:14:31,720 Speaker 1: makes you so happy right now because they didn't break 323 00:14:31,800 --> 00:14:34,440 Speaker 1: up bad, nobody cheated. I mean, unless you're just leaving 324 00:14:34,440 --> 00:14:36,640 Speaker 1: that part out, y'all, you left some meat off the bones. 325 00:14:36,680 --> 00:14:39,800 Speaker 1: I mean, I don't know four years ago, four years ago, 326 00:14:40,120 --> 00:14:42,520 Speaker 1: I'm just still on that. The reason why is this 327 00:14:42,600 --> 00:14:45,080 Speaker 1: from my own personal experience, Like I don't think. I 328 00:14:45,120 --> 00:14:49,120 Speaker 1: think let things be where they were. Have you ever 329 00:14:49,120 --> 00:14:51,720 Speaker 1: been in a situation like this, not necessarily. 330 00:14:51,200 --> 00:14:54,560 Speaker 4: Like that, but like where there was a guy that 331 00:14:54,760 --> 00:14:57,120 Speaker 4: like was always a what if, like that was like 332 00:14:57,240 --> 00:14:59,440 Speaker 4: my best friend at the end of the day and 333 00:14:59,520 --> 00:15:03,720 Speaker 4: then we but then now come to find out he 334 00:15:03,840 --> 00:15:06,280 Speaker 4: was playing me the entire time in a sense, like 335 00:15:06,320 --> 00:15:08,080 Speaker 4: he was like one of them guys that kind of 336 00:15:08,200 --> 00:15:13,360 Speaker 4: said things to make a woman feel good. That yeah, 337 00:15:13,400 --> 00:15:16,840 Speaker 4: he was absolutely so once I figured that out, like 338 00:15:17,160 --> 00:15:18,960 Speaker 4: we tried to give it a chance, and I started 339 00:15:18,960 --> 00:15:22,720 Speaker 4: seeing certain flaws with him and just seeing how he's 340 00:15:22,880 --> 00:15:24,600 Speaker 4: been trying to manipulate mm hmmm. 341 00:15:25,080 --> 00:15:27,720 Speaker 3: And plus his girl called me and then we had 342 00:15:27,720 --> 00:15:28,600 Speaker 3: a nice conversation. 343 00:15:28,720 --> 00:15:29,160 Speaker 2: Oh wow. 344 00:15:30,040 --> 00:15:32,000 Speaker 4: Yeah, so he was your friend or he was somebody 345 00:15:32,000 --> 00:15:35,200 Speaker 4: that was yeah, like he was at the end of 346 00:15:35,200 --> 00:15:37,080 Speaker 4: the day, he was my friend first. So for him 347 00:15:37,080 --> 00:15:38,800 Speaker 4: to lie to me and everything else like that, it 348 00:15:38,840 --> 00:15:41,160 Speaker 4: was crazy. That messes up the foundation of the friendship. 349 00:15:41,240 --> 00:15:42,960 Speaker 4: Like we can never go back to that because you 350 00:15:43,080 --> 00:15:45,720 Speaker 4: lied to me friends only you can't be me real 351 00:15:45,760 --> 00:15:46,000 Speaker 4: with me. 352 00:15:46,120 --> 00:15:48,960 Speaker 2: We ain't even together yet. Yeah, so he could go 353 00:15:49,000 --> 00:15:51,920 Speaker 2: to hell. Yeah, okay, damn you putting them there? 354 00:15:52,160 --> 00:15:53,680 Speaker 3: No that like the time. 355 00:15:54,360 --> 00:15:58,120 Speaker 4: Don't like once you css because he was something like 356 00:15:58,160 --> 00:16:00,240 Speaker 4: I really like confined. 357 00:16:02,840 --> 00:16:07,160 Speaker 2: Across that and you pay trust. Yeah okay, yeah. 358 00:16:06,760 --> 00:16:08,640 Speaker 4: I mean they don't have that situation when I'm just 359 00:16:08,680 --> 00:16:12,840 Speaker 4: saying even still, I just feel like love past stuff 360 00:16:12,920 --> 00:16:17,440 Speaker 4: kind of yeah, leave it alone because scenario scenario, she 361 00:16:17,480 --> 00:16:20,040 Speaker 4: could go back to this man and then the same 362 00:16:20,080 --> 00:16:22,040 Speaker 4: shit could happen. And now you just let the love 363 00:16:22,080 --> 00:16:24,280 Speaker 4: of your life walk out of your life, because yeah, 364 00:16:24,400 --> 00:16:25,440 Speaker 4: I've done that. 365 00:16:26,080 --> 00:16:29,040 Speaker 1: Chance, I've done that, and I actually did that with Rome. 366 00:16:29,200 --> 00:16:32,440 Speaker 1: I remember Ash was about two years old and no, 367 00:16:32,520 --> 00:16:35,400 Speaker 1: he was one one year old and I I was 368 00:16:35,440 --> 00:16:37,280 Speaker 1: with somebody else. Now I think Ash was two one 369 00:16:37,360 --> 00:16:39,640 Speaker 1: or two and I was with somebody else and Rome 370 00:16:40,160 --> 00:16:41,960 Speaker 1: was calling me telling me he wanted his family back, 371 00:16:42,000 --> 00:16:43,680 Speaker 1: and I wanted my family when I was younger. That's 372 00:16:43,720 --> 00:16:45,160 Speaker 1: just what you want, you know, you want a y'all 373 00:16:45,200 --> 00:16:46,680 Speaker 1: to be in the same household or just to know 374 00:16:46,720 --> 00:16:48,440 Speaker 1: their mom and dad to be together, because that's the 375 00:16:48,440 --> 00:16:50,040 Speaker 1: household I grew up in. My mom and my dad 376 00:16:50,080 --> 00:16:53,120 Speaker 1: was together, and shit, I broke up with the nigga 377 00:16:53,120 --> 00:16:54,960 Speaker 1: because Rome and confessed to me they was never gonna 378 00:16:54,960 --> 00:16:56,560 Speaker 1: do it no more. He confessed everything that he did 379 00:16:56,800 --> 00:16:58,200 Speaker 1: and everything, and I'm sorry. 380 00:16:58,200 --> 00:16:59,160 Speaker 2: You know, I want my family. 381 00:16:59,200 --> 00:17:01,240 Speaker 1: And I was a little boy and we were still 382 00:17:01,280 --> 00:17:04,159 Speaker 1: fucking twenty one twenty two at the time, but I 383 00:17:04,200 --> 00:17:08,760 Speaker 1: felt for that shit being young and that nigga cheated 384 00:17:08,840 --> 00:17:12,520 Speaker 1: on me not even twenty four hours after I got 385 00:17:12,520 --> 00:17:15,400 Speaker 1: back with him after leaving somebody who was great for me, 386 00:17:15,720 --> 00:17:16,760 Speaker 1: great for Ashton. 387 00:17:17,000 --> 00:17:20,240 Speaker 2: And he was the older guy, too, older guy, like he. 388 00:17:20,320 --> 00:17:23,840 Speaker 1: Just he didn't have no kids, he wasn't married before, 389 00:17:24,040 --> 00:17:27,439 Speaker 1: like like this was like a great like a create 390 00:17:27,520 --> 00:17:28,480 Speaker 1: player type nigga. 391 00:17:29,080 --> 00:17:30,879 Speaker 2: Like if you could make your nigga that that was 392 00:17:30,880 --> 00:17:31,240 Speaker 2: the one. 393 00:17:31,320 --> 00:17:32,120 Speaker 3: I don't kill them. 394 00:17:32,160 --> 00:17:34,800 Speaker 1: He worked out and everything like girl and then wrong 395 00:17:34,840 --> 00:17:36,960 Speaker 1: nigga wrong and shit, no, I you know, I just 396 00:17:36,960 --> 00:17:39,520 Speaker 1: want my family. I went back that nigga cheated on 397 00:17:39,520 --> 00:17:41,159 Speaker 1: me dead. Why the fuck my dumb man try to 398 00:17:41,200 --> 00:17:42,840 Speaker 1: run back to the guy like you know what, psych 399 00:17:43,680 --> 00:17:44,320 Speaker 1: He was like, Oh. 400 00:17:44,280 --> 00:17:47,639 Speaker 2: No, bitch, I ain't fucking with you. Fuck dad, I 401 00:17:47,640 --> 00:17:51,160 Speaker 2: ain't fucking with you. Take over your little clowns baby. 402 00:17:51,280 --> 00:17:53,840 Speaker 1: For Yeah, I went over there like it was a 403 00:17:53,920 --> 00:17:58,320 Speaker 1: pranky like bitch no to this day, girl, to this day. 404 00:17:58,760 --> 00:18:01,239 Speaker 2: But now he's I'm a drugs in jail and all 405 00:18:01,240 --> 00:18:01,760 Speaker 2: that type of shit. 406 00:18:01,840 --> 00:18:05,080 Speaker 1: So fucked up his life, that guy, that guy, So 407 00:18:05,200 --> 00:18:06,600 Speaker 1: that's what a good for not taking me back? The 408 00:18:06,600 --> 00:18:10,000 Speaker 1: fuck sorry, fuck wrong with you, nigga. You could have 409 00:18:10,080 --> 00:18:11,600 Speaker 1: had a life. You could have been with me now. 410 00:18:11,680 --> 00:18:14,480 Speaker 1: But because I left you from a baby fall for 411 00:18:14,480 --> 00:18:16,160 Speaker 1: for one twenty four hour period. 412 00:18:16,520 --> 00:18:19,560 Speaker 2: Oh now, let you alone. That's on your shit. Now. 413 00:18:19,640 --> 00:18:23,840 Speaker 1: Look, that's all right. We've come to the end of 414 00:18:23,920 --> 00:18:25,880 Speaker 1: yet another carefully Reckless episode with your girl. 415 00:18:25,920 --> 00:18:26,399 Speaker 2: Just hilarious. 416 00:18:26,400 --> 00:18:28,320 Speaker 1: I'm here on my girl, Taylor, say thank you, Taylor. 417 00:18:28,320 --> 00:18:32,719 Speaker 1: Don't say nothing, Taylor. 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