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Speaker 2: Dear Sam, such it has since we started the Okay

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Speaker 2: Storyteme podcast.

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Speaker 3: Yes, and I have a message for you, a delicious

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Speaker 1: Sincerely Sam. But for that thine divine two minute outbreak

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Speaker 1: must happen, I bid thee farewell, see you in two minutes.

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Speaker 1: My friend banned me from her bridal weekend.

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Speaker 2: Doesn't it sound like she's your friend?

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Speaker 1: The bride and I have been on and off friends

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Speaker 1: you use your gold coffee, and if you want to

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Speaker 1: Storytime suburn it. I'm Dakota, I'm Riley, and I'm Keon

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Speaker 1: and we already give you good advice, Googly, but we

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Speaker 1: us know in the comments. As Op says, I reconnected

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Speaker 3: You know, dude, she's just a mean girl and she

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Speaker 1: I don't know what it is. I would be just

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Speaker 1: You got a highly contageous disease.

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Speaker 1: Sharing is caring, I think. Don't share your hand foot

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Speaker 1: How you feel? How you feel? How you feel?

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Speaker 1: Handfoot and mouth is incredibly contagious. It's not personal that

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Speaker 1: Go stay, we don't care now we do make up

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Speaker 1: your mind already. Another comment says, not that this is

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Speaker 1: Everyone sucks here and you are taking things way too personally.

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Speaker 1: As someone who works with children, handfoot mouth is extremely

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Speaker 6: What we got into the.

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Speaker 3: This is like the first three movies of Star Wars

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Speaker 2: That's okay, what else would it been then, Keon.

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Speaker 4: It's more so Anakin's story over Luke's story. But Luke's

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Speaker 6: All love to you, Keon, all up to you? And

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Speaker 3: month we spent our Finally, last month, we sent out

437
00:21:05,119 --> 00:21:08,719
Speaker 3: our invitations. My mom wanted RSVP sent back to her

438
00:21:08,800 --> 00:21:13,200
Speaker 3: since she's responsible for the financial handcom My mom wanted

439
00:21:13,240 --> 00:21:16,280
Speaker 3: the RSVP sent back to her since she was responsible

440
00:21:16,320 --> 00:21:19,080
Speaker 3: for the final head count. My Grandpa, Garrett, and Darla

441
00:21:19,119 --> 00:21:23,240
Speaker 3: received their invitations, and not long after, Darla texted my

442
00:21:23,320 --> 00:21:26,199
Speaker 3: mom she asked if we were planning to invite Albert

443
00:21:26,680 --> 00:21:29,200
Speaker 3: and his fiance and you'll never.

444
00:21:29,119 --> 00:21:30,520
Speaker 5: Guess who it is.

445
00:21:31,200 --> 00:21:35,080
Speaker 3: Yep, the paramedic he cheated on with his wife to

446
00:21:35,160 --> 00:21:41,720
Speaker 3: the wedding. Oh h e double hockey sticks. No, oh

447
00:21:41,800 --> 00:21:45,359
Speaker 3: my gosh. Okay, if you do cheat, stay with the

448
00:21:45,359 --> 00:21:48,240
Speaker 3: person you cheated with, you think, oh yeah, really, if you're.

449
00:21:48,119 --> 00:21:50,560
Speaker 2: Gonna commit, commit, they'll just half commit.

450
00:21:50,880 --> 00:21:51,080
Speaker 4: Yeah.

451
00:21:51,200 --> 00:21:53,280
Speaker 6: At least they can save each other from cheating on

452
00:21:53,320 --> 00:21:54,280
Speaker 6: other people. World.

453
00:21:54,359 --> 00:21:56,480
Speaker 3: Yeah, once cheater always jeters. So stay with the person

454
00:21:56,520 --> 00:21:58,760
Speaker 3: you cheated with, or stay with the Stay with the

455
00:21:58,760 --> 00:21:59,840
Speaker 3: person you cheated.

456
00:21:59,520 --> 00:22:01,240
Speaker 6: On, and then we just have like an open relationship.

457
00:22:01,280 --> 00:22:04,119
Speaker 3: Wait, stay with the person you were with as you

458
00:22:04,200 --> 00:22:05,040
Speaker 3: cheated on someone.

459
00:22:05,760 --> 00:22:07,119
Speaker 6: Sure that works.

460
00:22:09,480 --> 00:22:12,320
Speaker 3: My mom responded back, telling Darla we didn't plan on

461
00:22:12,359 --> 00:22:15,119
Speaker 3: inviting them. My mom didn't get a response. Instead of

462
00:22:15,160 --> 00:22:17,359
Speaker 3: my grandpa, Garrett showed up to my parents' house and

463
00:22:17,400 --> 00:22:20,679
Speaker 3: told them that Darla is very upset. We're not inviting

464
00:22:20,720 --> 00:22:24,040
Speaker 3: Albert to the wedding. My parents try to explain the

465
00:22:24,080 --> 00:22:28,000
Speaker 3: situation to him, and while Garrett understands, he also understands

466
00:22:28,000 --> 00:22:31,560
Speaker 3: where Darla is coming from, since Albert is her biological son.

467
00:22:32,359 --> 00:22:36,800
Speaker 3: We refused the budge, telling Garrett that after everything Albert

468
00:22:36,800 --> 00:22:39,480
Speaker 3: has done, he doesn't deserve to be a part of

469
00:22:39,520 --> 00:22:43,520
Speaker 3: this day, especially since it's my wedding and I've never.

470
00:22:43,400 --> 00:22:45,000
Speaker 2: Been close with him to begin with.

471
00:22:45,600 --> 00:22:49,199
Speaker 3: Instead of telling us herself, Darla then proceeds to have

472
00:22:49,200 --> 00:22:52,040
Speaker 3: Garrett tell my parents that she's thinking of not going

473
00:22:52,040 --> 00:22:53,000
Speaker 3: to the wedding either.

474
00:22:53,359 --> 00:22:56,320
Speaker 6: Oh okay, maybe we didn't want you.

475
00:22:57,320 --> 00:22:59,959
Speaker 5: No, we want Darla. We love Darla.

476
00:23:00,680 --> 00:23:01,879
Speaker 2: Fellaws, just make it a stand.

477
00:23:02,280 --> 00:23:06,520
Speaker 6: Ah, Darla, Hey, how well you are to your family?

478
00:23:06,920 --> 00:23:07,160
Speaker 3: Yeah?

479
00:23:07,359 --> 00:23:10,080
Speaker 2: Ah, she got like, come on, you can't.

480
00:23:10,119 --> 00:23:13,000
Speaker 3: You can't just keep trashhocking a person that's going through PTSD.

481
00:23:13,320 --> 00:23:16,160
Speaker 6: Yeah, dude, I like, you really got to understand why

482
00:23:16,560 --> 00:23:19,280
Speaker 6: we're doing that and why we're not inviting Albert, Like

483
00:23:19,480 --> 00:23:23,520
Speaker 6: he's just had been so so insanely disrespectful and we

484
00:23:23,560 --> 00:23:25,200
Speaker 6: just don't want him around on such a happy day.

485
00:23:25,680 --> 00:23:27,359
Speaker 6: But we want you around because you're not.

486
00:23:27,560 --> 00:23:30,080
Speaker 3: Yeah, Darla, we love you. We just don't love that dude. Yeah,

487
00:23:30,200 --> 00:23:31,080
Speaker 3: it's paramedic.

488
00:23:31,720 --> 00:23:32,679
Speaker 6: Please understand.

489
00:23:32,880 --> 00:23:35,520
Speaker 3: At first, we were thinking she just was upset and

490
00:23:35,560 --> 00:23:38,320
Speaker 3: needs time, but she persisted.

491
00:23:38,480 --> 00:23:39,400
Speaker 5: This was last week.

492
00:23:39,840 --> 00:23:41,760
Speaker 3: Today, it went out for dinner with my mom and

493
00:23:42,000 --> 00:23:45,560
Speaker 3: got some updates and needless to say, I am livid.

494
00:23:45,720 --> 00:23:46,000
Speaker 5: I guess.

495
00:23:46,040 --> 00:23:48,320
Speaker 3: Garrett tried to explain his situation where we were all

496
00:23:48,320 --> 00:23:51,920
Speaker 3: coming from to Darla, who apparently had no idea any

497
00:23:51,960 --> 00:23:55,920
Speaker 3: of this happened and was shocked. She asked Albert about it,

498
00:23:56,080 --> 00:23:59,119
Speaker 3: and of course he denied it all, claiming innocence. My

499
00:23:59,200 --> 00:24:01,879
Speaker 3: dad was really up about Darla potentially not coming to

500
00:24:01,920 --> 00:24:05,000
Speaker 3: the wedding, so he reluctantly came up with an idea.

501
00:24:05,680 --> 00:24:10,199
Speaker 3: He decided to extend an olive branch, telling Darla that

502
00:24:10,240 --> 00:24:12,800
Speaker 3: he'd be willing to sit down with Albert, John, and

503
00:24:12,840 --> 00:24:15,960
Speaker 3: Garrett and talk it all out. All agreed, but when

504
00:24:16,000 --> 00:24:18,720
Speaker 3: she reached out to Albert, he refused. He told her

505
00:24:18,720 --> 00:24:21,040
Speaker 3: that he never wanted to speak to John again and

506
00:24:21,080 --> 00:24:24,800
Speaker 3: that if he saw my dad he'd have trouble holding

507
00:24:24,840 --> 00:24:26,920
Speaker 3: back everything he wanted to say to him.

508
00:24:27,080 --> 00:24:31,400
Speaker 6: Bruh, Least leave the town alone, guys, Albert, what's your

509
00:24:31,440 --> 00:24:32,119
Speaker 6: freaking deal?

510
00:24:32,400 --> 00:24:33,280
Speaker 2: He's kind of smart, though.

511
00:24:33,400 --> 00:24:37,560
Speaker 6: Why I just don't get why Albert is like, has

512
00:24:37,560 --> 00:24:39,760
Speaker 6: so much beef with that guy. I don't get it.

513
00:24:40,280 --> 00:24:41,280
Speaker 6: I don't get it at all.

514
00:24:41,359 --> 00:24:44,360
Speaker 3: So sad he had secrets about my dad that he'd

515
00:24:44,359 --> 00:24:47,800
Speaker 3: tell Garrett. My dad told Garrett that he knows all

516
00:24:47,840 --> 00:24:50,119
Speaker 3: the secrets and wouldn't care as long as they figured

517
00:24:50,160 --> 00:24:54,399
Speaker 3: out something, but Albert refused to talk about it. Despite this,

518
00:24:54,520 --> 00:24:57,399
Speaker 3: Darla is still threatening Night to come to the wedding. Frankly,

519
00:24:57,840 --> 00:25:00,000
Speaker 3: even if my dad did talk it out with Albert,

520
00:25:00,160 --> 00:25:02,720
Speaker 3: I still want to want him there, which is my decision.

521
00:25:03,119 --> 00:25:06,280
Speaker 3: Dargla hasn't said anything to me at all about any

522
00:25:06,320 --> 00:25:08,160
Speaker 3: of this. I haven't spoken to her since sending out

523
00:25:08,160 --> 00:25:11,199
Speaker 3: the invites, but I know she's upset and thinks my

524
00:25:11,320 --> 00:25:14,000
Speaker 3: mom and I are wrong for not inviting her only

525
00:25:14,040 --> 00:25:18,080
Speaker 3: biological son. My dad told Darla that if she doesn't

526
00:25:18,080 --> 00:25:21,399
Speaker 3: come to the wedding, he's cutting her off. This whole

527
00:25:21,520 --> 00:25:25,600
Speaker 3: situation upsets me and is stressing everyone out. I don't

528
00:25:25,640 --> 00:25:27,959
Speaker 3: know what to do, but I know I'm not inviting

529
00:25:28,000 --> 00:25:30,359
Speaker 3: that man to my wedding. So am I the a hole?

530
00:25:30,400 --> 00:25:33,000
Speaker 3: I understand where Darley's coming from, but I think she

531
00:25:33,160 --> 00:25:36,600
Speaker 3: actually knew the truth about Albert's shenanigans.

532
00:25:37,119 --> 00:25:38,760
Speaker 2: Can Reagan say something right?

533
00:25:40,280 --> 00:25:40,480
Speaker 1: Question?

534
00:25:40,880 --> 00:25:44,320
Speaker 6: Someone has got to get through to Albert that, you know,

535
00:25:44,600 --> 00:25:46,639
Speaker 6: Can that Albert will actually listen to?

536
00:25:46,800 --> 00:25:47,000
Speaker 7: Yeah?

537
00:25:47,040 --> 00:25:49,200
Speaker 3: I don't think Albert, like we already know. Albert's out

538
00:25:49,280 --> 00:25:52,159
Speaker 3: is just like convincing Darla. Now, yeah, I guess so,

539
00:25:52,440 --> 00:25:54,040
Speaker 3: And that's the end of the story. We're going on

540
00:25:54,080 --> 00:25:55,679
Speaker 3: to the next one.

541
00:25:55,920 --> 00:25:59,720
Speaker 6: My friend married the guy I secretly loved, and then

542
00:26:00,000 --> 00:26:02,880
Speaker 6: she earned our friends against me. Did she know that

543
00:26:02,960 --> 00:26:05,960
Speaker 6: you loved him? I Female thirty three became friends with

544
00:26:06,000 --> 00:26:08,479
Speaker 6: the girls school whom I don't remember at all before

545
00:26:08,640 --> 00:26:10,800
Speaker 6: the seventh or eighth grade. That was the time when

546
00:26:10,920 --> 00:26:13,679
Speaker 6: I broke up with my previous best friend. Our paths

547
00:26:13,760 --> 00:26:17,400
Speaker 6: naturally faded due to our growing differences, and I started

548
00:26:17,440 --> 00:26:19,360
Speaker 6: hanging out with other girls. By the way, this comes

549
00:26:19,359 --> 00:26:21,720
Speaker 6: from available line seventy four, And if you want to

550
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Speaker 6: submit your own stories, go to the r slash Okay,

551
00:26:24,520 --> 00:26:28,000
Speaker 6: storytime is separate it and I am Agie Sophia, and

552
00:26:28,160 --> 00:26:30,840
Speaker 6: we're here to give good advice goofully, But we don't

553
00:26:30,880 --> 00:26:33,159
Speaker 6: have all the answers, so we're just gonna guess what

554
00:26:33,160 --> 00:26:34,840
Speaker 6: we would do in this situation. Let us know what

555
00:26:34,880 --> 00:26:37,840
Speaker 6: you do in the comments. So oh p says this

556
00:26:37,920 --> 00:26:41,199
Speaker 6: girl uh Manana, female thirty three, Now as well, she

557
00:26:41,480 --> 00:26:44,480
Speaker 6: was a friend of another friend. I don't remember her

558
00:26:44,520 --> 00:26:47,600
Speaker 6: from class at all, she was invisible. I can't explain

559
00:26:47,680 --> 00:26:51,399
Speaker 6: why we naturally became a group of girlfriends, best friends,

560
00:26:51,520 --> 00:26:54,960
Speaker 6: and as she claimed later sold me. In ninth grade,

561
00:26:55,240 --> 00:26:58,520
Speaker 6: our class merged with another and many new boys arrived.

562
00:26:58,640 --> 00:27:02,359
Speaker 6: There was Timo Male, a boy who immediately said he

563
00:27:02,520 --> 00:27:05,960
Speaker 6: liked him Manana. He explained that she was everything he

564
00:27:06,000 --> 00:27:09,240
Speaker 6: had always been looking for. She had straight teeth, white skin,

565
00:27:09,440 --> 00:27:14,720
Speaker 6: and met local beauty standards. I was heartbroken and intimidated inside,

566
00:27:14,760 --> 00:27:17,719
Speaker 6: mainly because I was insecure about my imperfect teeth. I

567
00:27:17,720 --> 00:27:20,040
Speaker 6: had been to the dentist. But it wasn't mother nature

568
00:27:20,040 --> 00:27:23,440
Speaker 6: who created this problem for me. I wasn't upset with Mananna.

569
00:27:23,480 --> 00:27:26,000
Speaker 6: It wasn't her fault that she was more beautiful than me.

570
00:27:26,320 --> 00:27:29,199
Speaker 6: It was just a matter of time before I solved

571
00:27:29,200 --> 00:27:32,760
Speaker 6: this issue. Also, I cared more about intellectual matters, and

572
00:27:32,800 --> 00:27:34,719
Speaker 6: I didn't mind if I didn't have a boyfriend at

573
00:27:34,720 --> 00:27:38,920
Speaker 6: that age. So naturally, boys were a Manana's subject, while

574
00:27:39,040 --> 00:27:42,760
Speaker 6: intellect and study were my freedom enjoy. Temo wanted to

575
00:27:42,800 --> 00:27:46,080
Speaker 6: get closer to Manana, so over time he also became

576
00:27:46,119 --> 00:27:49,159
Speaker 6: my best friend. At first, he wanted information from me,

577
00:27:49,400 --> 00:27:52,520
Speaker 6: but we ended up having a lot in common. Shared

578
00:27:52,560 --> 00:27:56,359
Speaker 6: funny moments and exchanged intellectual ideas. I was concerned about

579
00:27:56,440 --> 00:27:59,600
Speaker 6: him and was trying to sort out my feelings. One day,

580
00:27:59,800 --> 00:28:03,120
Speaker 6: when Temo made his last move towards Manana, he told

581
00:28:03,160 --> 00:28:04,879
Speaker 6: me it would be the last time he tried and

582
00:28:05,000 --> 00:28:07,800
Speaker 6: he was going to give up. Afterwards, we were just

583
00:28:07,880 --> 00:28:10,840
Speaker 6: girls together. I asked Manana how she felt, and she

584
00:28:11,080 --> 00:28:14,840
Speaker 6: refused again. Then I stepped up and said, maybe there's

585
00:28:14,880 --> 00:28:18,000
Speaker 6: another girl who's also interested in him. I said this

586
00:28:18,080 --> 00:28:21,240
Speaker 6: with a girly smile and admiration, as I saw it

587
00:28:21,280 --> 00:28:23,960
Speaker 6: as a free opportunity to express my feelings, but I

588
00:28:24,000 --> 00:28:28,040
Speaker 6: didn't directly say it was me. The next day, Nana

589
00:28:28,119 --> 00:28:29,880
Speaker 6: came to us and said that she wanted to give

590
00:28:29,880 --> 00:28:32,840
Speaker 6: it another try and didn't want to lose Temo. It

591
00:28:32,920 --> 00:28:35,640
Speaker 6: was kind of sad for me. I knew deep down

592
00:28:35,640 --> 00:28:37,480
Speaker 6: that she did this because of my expression, but I

593
00:28:37,520 --> 00:28:42,040
Speaker 6: also thought that anyway. But I also thought that anyway,

594
00:28:43,000 --> 00:28:45,320
Speaker 6: Tamo was her choice and I would just step away.

595
00:28:45,840 --> 00:28:48,479
Speaker 6: I never expressed my feelings and simply started supporting their

596
00:28:48,520 --> 00:28:51,720
Speaker 6: new relationship. Over the following years that Manana was not

597
00:28:51,920 --> 00:28:55,840
Speaker 6: into Temo at all. She was dating many boys behind

598
00:28:55,880 --> 00:28:58,360
Speaker 6: his back and I was confused about what to do,

599
00:28:58,480 --> 00:29:00,920
Speaker 6: as both of them remained my We used to be

600
00:29:00,960 --> 00:29:03,120
Speaker 6: together almost twenty four to seven as a group. It

601
00:29:03,240 --> 00:29:05,840
Speaker 6: messed up my moral system and I wanted to break

602
00:29:05,880 --> 00:29:09,240
Speaker 6: away from this relationship. However, it was my mom who

603
00:29:09,240 --> 00:29:12,240
Speaker 6: stopped me from making that decision. I also felt guilty

604
00:29:12,280 --> 00:29:14,560
Speaker 6: in front of Temo for the secrets that I was keeping.

605
00:29:14,600 --> 00:29:17,320
Speaker 6: I have to mention how mothering and caring I was

606
00:29:17,360 --> 00:29:20,320
Speaker 6: towards this girl over the years. She was in deep depression,

607
00:29:20,520 --> 00:29:23,720
Speaker 6: crying all the time. I was available twenty four to

608
00:29:23,720 --> 00:29:26,320
Speaker 6: seven for her calls, supporting her mental health. I even

609
00:29:26,360 --> 00:29:28,840
Speaker 6: told Temo to bring her to a psychologist and it

610
00:29:28,920 --> 00:29:32,160
Speaker 6: worked a bit. I also helped her participate in an

611
00:29:32,160 --> 00:29:34,800
Speaker 6: exchange program. I used to travel a lot during that time,

612
00:29:34,800 --> 00:29:36,800
Speaker 6: as I was involved in many projects and was quite

613
00:29:36,800 --> 00:29:39,200
Speaker 6: satisfied with my life. It's hard to track how many

614
00:29:39,240 --> 00:29:42,000
Speaker 6: times she took my intellectual ideas and passed them off

615
00:29:42,040 --> 00:29:44,800
Speaker 6: as her own. I allowed it to happen because I

616
00:29:44,840 --> 00:29:48,760
Speaker 6: had already developed unconditional mothering energy for her, and I

617
00:29:48,840 --> 00:29:51,440
Speaker 6: was confident in myself to produce more ideas if needed.

618
00:29:52,320 --> 00:29:54,800
Speaker 6: Years passed and I met a foreign guy who was

619
00:29:54,880 --> 00:29:58,440
Speaker 6: extremely good looking. We were twenty four at this time,

620
00:29:58,560 --> 00:30:01,000
Speaker 6: and I remember once showing the picture of the guide

621
00:30:01,040 --> 00:30:04,600
Speaker 6: to the girl group. All of them jumped with happiness

622
00:30:04,600 --> 00:30:08,560
Speaker 6: for me, but Mananna didn't say anything. She just put

623
00:30:08,600 --> 00:30:12,880
Speaker 6: her head into her mobile and started intensely chatting. But

624
00:30:12,960 --> 00:30:16,160
Speaker 6: this happened several times when something big happened in my life.

625
00:30:16,240 --> 00:30:18,440
Speaker 6: I knew she was jealous, but I didn't blame her.

626
00:30:18,720 --> 00:30:21,800
Speaker 6: I saw her limitations and naturally forgave her because we

627
00:30:21,800 --> 00:30:24,640
Speaker 6: were childhood friends and that was more important to me.

628
00:30:25,320 --> 00:30:28,360
Speaker 6: My relationship didn't turn out well. It ended up being

629
00:30:28,400 --> 00:30:32,160
Speaker 6: the worst relationship I've ever had, filled with betrayals, lies, cheating.

630
00:30:32,240 --> 00:30:35,480
Speaker 6: In more, Manana knew about all of this. I also

631
00:30:35,600 --> 00:30:38,080
Speaker 6: have to mention that in my community, it's not common

632
00:30:38,120 --> 00:30:40,600
Speaker 6: to have an intimate relationship with a boy before marriage.

633
00:30:40,640 --> 00:30:43,360
Speaker 6: So I openly shared my intimate experiences as I felt

634
00:30:43,400 --> 00:30:46,720
Speaker 6: like a leader of my community. She's like, I'm representing

635
00:30:46,800 --> 00:30:47,960
Speaker 6: the shuthers.

636
00:30:48,640 --> 00:30:51,960
Speaker 7: Wait, I'm sorry, She's like, so it's She's like, not

637
00:30:52,000 --> 00:30:53,760
Speaker 7: a lot of people would do it. So I went

638
00:30:53,840 --> 00:30:58,600
Speaker 7: around as it, It's okay, guys, it's.

639
00:30:58,440 --> 00:31:02,520
Speaker 6: Okay you can do if I can do it. We

640
00:31:02,600 --> 00:31:06,040
Speaker 6: all can do it. Rise up against the chains of

641
00:31:06,080 --> 00:31:08,160
Speaker 6: your society.

642
00:31:07,680 --> 00:31:12,960
Speaker 7: Exactly and for sure, rise up against the chains of

643
00:31:13,000 --> 00:31:17,320
Speaker 7: your chastity, and choose their own destiny.

644
00:31:17,920 --> 00:31:20,240
Speaker 6: At this point, I found out that Manonna had been

645
00:31:20,240 --> 00:31:23,440
Speaker 6: having an intimate relationship with Temo, which she was hiding.

646
00:31:23,920 --> 00:31:26,280
Speaker 6: I think this was the source of her depression from

647
00:31:26,280 --> 00:31:30,120
Speaker 6: my current perspective, but she never mentioned it. Finally, I

648
00:31:30,160 --> 00:31:34,080
Speaker 6: had a terrible breakup in October twenty eighteen. Until the

649
00:31:34,120 --> 00:31:37,040
Speaker 6: last day of my breakup, Manana was questioning her relationship

650
00:31:37,040 --> 00:31:40,080
Speaker 6: with Temo. The day of my breakup literally became the

651
00:31:40,160 --> 00:31:43,520
Speaker 6: day that she announced how terribly she loved Temo and

652
00:31:43,640 --> 00:31:47,120
Speaker 6: posted a long message about her feelings on Facebook. I

653
00:31:47,240 --> 00:31:50,360
Speaker 6: felt disgusted and angry at the same time, and from

654
00:31:50,360 --> 00:31:54,520
Speaker 6: there my emotional turmoil regarding her and the whole experience started.

655
00:31:55,160 --> 00:31:59,360
Speaker 6: They announced their wedding the day after my birthday, which

656
00:31:59,400 --> 00:32:00,560
Speaker 6: is February very ninth.

657
00:32:00,640 --> 00:32:04,280
Speaker 7: Dude, we need to like cut these friends off because okay,

658
00:32:04,320 --> 00:32:08,080
Speaker 7: well one, I think your way too involved in their relationship. Like,

659
00:32:08,160 --> 00:32:10,040
Speaker 7: we don't need to be worried about a boy that

660
00:32:10,040 --> 00:32:13,160
Speaker 7: you had to crush on in what in eighth grade? Yeah,

661
00:32:13,200 --> 00:32:14,800
Speaker 7: we don't need to be worried about that. We shouldn't

662
00:32:14,840 --> 00:32:17,320
Speaker 7: be worried about that anymore. I think you maybe you

663
00:32:17,400 --> 00:32:18,080
Speaker 7: need the sick.

664
00:32:17,960 --> 00:32:20,000
Speaker 2: Allg just they're doing the spicy tango.

665
00:32:20,480 --> 00:32:23,320
Speaker 7: Yeah, like clearly they have their own relationship that you

666
00:32:23,400 --> 00:32:24,440
Speaker 7: knew that they were doing that.

667
00:32:24,920 --> 00:32:26,880
Speaker 6: Yeah, and then she wasn't confused bout that, because after

668
00:32:26,880 --> 00:32:28,360
Speaker 6: reading it again, I was like, there's no way that

669
00:32:28,400 --> 00:32:29,480
Speaker 6: we could misunderstand.

670
00:32:29,560 --> 00:32:33,120
Speaker 7: Yeah, she's there having a spicy relationship. We already knew

671
00:32:33,120 --> 00:32:36,000
Speaker 7: that they were in a relationship. Yeah, she confesses online

672
00:32:36,000 --> 00:32:38,360
Speaker 7: that she loves him or says online that she loves them,

673
00:32:38,400 --> 00:32:41,760
Speaker 7: and then they're getting married. You're their relationship, even if

674
00:32:41,760 --> 00:32:44,320
Speaker 7: it's like because it does seem like they are maybe

675
00:32:44,560 --> 00:32:48,640
Speaker 7: kind of trying to involve aping all this drama with

676
00:32:48,720 --> 00:32:50,560
Speaker 7: all the date stuff. But like I think at this

677
00:32:50,600 --> 00:32:52,040
Speaker 7: point you just got to be like, you know what,

678
00:32:52,160 --> 00:32:55,479
Speaker 7: they're in a relationship whatever, I'm going to distance myself

679
00:32:55,480 --> 00:32:59,080
Speaker 7: from them. It's twenty four now, Yeah, twenty it's been

680
00:32:59,160 --> 00:33:03,200
Speaker 7: literally so oh long. Yeah since you first had a

681
00:33:03,200 --> 00:33:06,040
Speaker 7: crush on this guy. Like, who cares about them anymore?

682
00:33:06,120 --> 00:33:11,120
Speaker 6: Yeah, dude, Yeah, you're nearing your like ten year high

683
00:33:11,120 --> 00:33:15,080
Speaker 6: school anniversary. Yeah, I was in depression after my breakup

684
00:33:15,120 --> 00:33:17,160
Speaker 6: and had tried once to tell her that I needed

685
00:33:17,160 --> 00:33:20,640
Speaker 6: her emotional support. I was going through a very hard time,

686
00:33:20,760 --> 00:33:24,480
Speaker 6: but she vanished from the picture. She stopped communicating at all.

687
00:33:24,960 --> 00:33:27,640
Speaker 6: I understood, though, thinking that she was busy with her

688
00:33:27,640 --> 00:33:30,640
Speaker 6: wedding planning and didn't want to add drama. I had

689
00:33:30,680 --> 00:33:33,640
Speaker 6: two other girls to release my emotions from time to time,

690
00:33:34,240 --> 00:33:37,440
Speaker 6: But meanwhile I lived in the capital of my country

691
00:33:37,440 --> 00:33:39,840
Speaker 6: and my childhood friends lived in the small town where

692
00:33:39,880 --> 00:33:44,120
Speaker 6: I graduated from school. Mananna needed to make a shopping

693
00:33:44,200 --> 00:33:47,280
Speaker 6: trip to my city. She planned this trip without even

694
00:33:47,320 --> 00:33:50,520
Speaker 6: communicating to me. She felt entitled to stay at my place,

695
00:33:50,640 --> 00:33:55,120
Speaker 6: which she successfully did. I feel stupid now. Secretly, I

696
00:33:55,200 --> 00:33:57,080
Speaker 6: was hoping that this would be an opportunity to talk

697
00:33:57,120 --> 00:34:00,400
Speaker 6: about my ongoing emotional struggles and she would support the

698
00:34:00,400 --> 00:34:03,680
Speaker 6: way that I had supported her throughout our relationship. Instead,

699
00:34:03,840 --> 00:34:06,360
Speaker 6: she kept changing the subject every time I mentioned my

700
00:34:06,440 --> 00:34:08,520
Speaker 6: ex boyfriend, with the idea that we didn't need to

701
00:34:08,520 --> 00:34:12,600
Speaker 6: focus on negativity. This happened probably in December, one and

702
00:34:12,600 --> 00:34:16,960
Speaker 6: a half months after my breakup. Before their wedding, Temo

703
00:34:17,120 --> 00:34:19,560
Speaker 6: asked me to go on one last friendly trip to

704
00:34:19,600 --> 00:34:22,839
Speaker 6: my village. I reluctantly agreed, with the condition that we

705
00:34:22,880 --> 00:34:25,839
Speaker 6: would clear everything up before leaving. We divided up some

706
00:34:25,920 --> 00:34:30,080
Speaker 6: tasks when we arrived. She some cooked, others made the

707
00:34:30,080 --> 00:34:33,080
Speaker 6: fire and so on. I noticed them, and Anna took

708
00:34:33,080 --> 00:34:38,880
Speaker 6: responsibility for doing nothing. So I announced loudly, it's okay,

709
00:34:39,040 --> 00:34:42,080
Speaker 6: she can rest, but she will do the dishes tomorrow instead.

710
00:34:42,280 --> 00:34:45,279
Speaker 6: So I said, I have never dated two boys at

711
00:34:45,320 --> 00:34:48,880
Speaker 6: the same time. Surprisingly, Temo was the one who told

712
00:34:48,920 --> 00:34:51,320
Speaker 6: Manana to drink, as he knew that she had dated

713
00:34:51,320 --> 00:34:54,920
Speaker 6: many boys. You don't know, you don't know anything about

714
00:34:54,960 --> 00:34:58,440
Speaker 6: their relationship. Yeah, I'm assuming they had time apart since

715
00:34:58,480 --> 00:35:00,920
Speaker 6: all those times in high school, but like still kept

716
00:35:00,960 --> 00:35:03,239
Speaker 6: in touch or something, and that maybe that's why she

717
00:35:03,400 --> 00:35:05,320
Speaker 6: was like, oh, I found out that they're yeah, dating,

718
00:35:05,440 --> 00:35:08,160
Speaker 6: that makes sense. At that moment, I realized I wasn't

719
00:35:08,200 --> 00:35:11,839
Speaker 6: necessary between these people anymore. The next day, Manana washed

720
00:35:11,880 --> 00:35:14,360
Speaker 6: part of the dishes with Temo, and after she finished,

721
00:35:14,400 --> 00:35:17,000
Speaker 6: she closed the door. I checked if everything was closed

722
00:35:17,000 --> 00:35:19,400
Speaker 6: in the house it's a resort house of my family,

723
00:35:20,280 --> 00:35:24,480
Speaker 6: and found that the dishes were still untouched. I was shocked.

724
00:35:24,920 --> 00:35:27,520
Speaker 6: There are millions of these small details that I had

725
00:35:27,600 --> 00:35:30,839
Speaker 6: kept quiet about, but I couldn't take it anymore. I

726
00:35:30,960 --> 00:35:34,160
Speaker 6: was furious that these people were planning to create family

727
00:35:34,400 --> 00:35:37,600
Speaker 6: but day by day. To make a long story short,

728
00:35:37,680 --> 00:35:40,200
Speaker 6: Manana wanted to celebrate her bridal party at a club

729
00:35:40,280 --> 00:35:43,000
Speaker 6: on my birthday night, which I refused to attend. I

730
00:35:43,040 --> 00:35:46,640
Speaker 6: had other plans to spend my birthday with meditation and

731
00:35:47,160 --> 00:35:50,160
Speaker 6: calmer energy rather than being in a club. I attended

732
00:35:50,160 --> 00:35:53,520
Speaker 6: their wedding, which was okay. I was beautiful, but I

733
00:35:53,680 --> 00:35:56,080
Speaker 6: had both good and sad feelings at the same time

734
00:35:56,480 --> 00:35:59,040
Speaker 6: as I knew I was letting go of part of

735
00:35:59,040 --> 00:36:02,040
Speaker 6: my life. It was a hit mine anymore. Mananna wrote

736
00:36:02,080 --> 00:36:04,800
Speaker 6: to me in March twenty nineteen, saying she was pregnant

737
00:36:04,880 --> 00:36:07,880
Speaker 6: and blaming me for things. What creating more drama?

738
00:36:07,960 --> 00:36:12,160
Speaker 7: Girl, Just cut them off, cut them off. This friendship

739
00:36:12,239 --> 00:36:13,160
Speaker 7: is exhausting.

740
00:36:13,640 --> 00:36:16,560
Speaker 6: Yeah, I feel like you've noticed it. Yeah too, But

741
00:36:16,640 --> 00:36:19,600
Speaker 6: it's like staying. I mean, she hasn't liked Manana for

742
00:36:19,640 --> 00:36:21,400
Speaker 6: a while. That's what it feels like.

743
00:36:21,400 --> 00:36:23,960
Speaker 7: And I'm not saying that Manana isn't, you know, obviously,

744
00:36:24,040 --> 00:36:25,920
Speaker 7: to blame for a lot of these things. She is

745
00:36:26,000 --> 00:36:28,879
Speaker 7: definitely creating drama too, oh for sure. But like when

746
00:36:28,920 --> 00:36:32,680
Speaker 7: we notice we have a friend who's always creating drama,

747
00:36:32,760 --> 00:36:35,239
Speaker 7: who's always trying to pull us back into it.

748
00:36:36,440 --> 00:36:39,880
Speaker 6: Let's let's let's distance herself from this. Yeah, it's okay

749
00:36:40,000 --> 00:36:42,600
Speaker 6: to walk away. Even if you were friends before. Some

750
00:36:42,760 --> 00:36:44,759
Speaker 6: friends from seventh and eighth grade aren't gonna be friends

751
00:36:44,800 --> 00:36:47,200
Speaker 6: for a lifetime. Yeah, that so exactly. I couldn't take

752
00:36:47,200 --> 00:36:49,240
Speaker 6: it anymore. So I told her she was the reason

753
00:36:49,239 --> 00:36:51,800
Speaker 6: for my distance and rudely told her to get lost.

754
00:36:52,040 --> 00:36:54,640
Speaker 6: It was enough for me to be patient all the time,

755
00:36:55,040 --> 00:36:58,320
Speaker 6: due to her depression, her wedding, or her pregnancy, the

756
00:36:58,400 --> 00:37:02,319
Speaker 6: excuses never did. She ran to speak to other girls

757
00:37:02,320 --> 00:37:04,840
Speaker 6: about how rude I was, but didn't show them the messages.

758
00:37:05,239 --> 00:37:08,240
Speaker 6: She said that she deleted them. People believed her tears.

759
00:37:08,480 --> 00:37:11,240
Speaker 6: I stayed outside of the group and they stopped inviting

760
00:37:11,280 --> 00:37:14,560
Speaker 6: you know, upcoming events like the baby gender reveal and

761
00:37:14,800 --> 00:37:17,880
Speaker 6: even a friend. And even a friend didn't invite me

762
00:37:17,960 --> 00:37:19,719
Speaker 6: to his wedding. There is a little bit more to

763
00:37:19,760 --> 00:37:20,320
Speaker 6: the story.

764
00:37:20,120 --> 00:37:22,520
Speaker 7: But I mean, Opie, my advice for you at the

765
00:37:22,600 --> 00:37:25,640
Speaker 7: end of the day, Yeah, cut off this friend right,

766
00:37:25,800 --> 00:37:28,040
Speaker 7: caught off any of the friends signing with her that

767
00:37:28,080 --> 00:37:31,200
Speaker 7: are creating drama, and take comfort in the fact that

768
00:37:31,280 --> 00:37:33,840
Speaker 7: she started a relationship with a guy that she didn't

769
00:37:33,920 --> 00:37:37,200
Speaker 7: like and continued it because she wanted to piss you off.

770
00:37:37,440 --> 00:37:40,279
Speaker 6: Yeah exactly, Yeah, and move on. I feel like you

771
00:37:40,280 --> 00:37:43,000
Speaker 6: shouldn't be upset by not being invited to the gender

772
00:37:43,120 --> 00:37:45,560
Speaker 6: reveal party. Oh, I feel like that's totally fine if

773
00:37:45,560 --> 00:37:48,680
Speaker 6: you don't like her anymore. Yeah, why would we go there? Yeah,

774
00:37:48,680 --> 00:37:51,000
Speaker 6: Like it might be disappointing if your friends, you know,

775
00:37:51,080 --> 00:37:53,799
Speaker 6: don't do that, but like maybe if it means that much,

776
00:37:53,840 --> 00:37:55,400
Speaker 6: she even reach out to your friends and try to

777
00:37:55,440 --> 00:37:58,239
Speaker 6: explain it to them. Yeah, you've got the text. Like again,

778
00:37:58,280 --> 00:38:01,680
Speaker 6: I know she deleted them, but here's or like, you know,

779
00:38:01,760 --> 00:38:04,239
Speaker 6: if they're if your friends are doing this, then maybe

780
00:38:04,280 --> 00:38:07,359
Speaker 6: it's just not maybe these are friends either. Yeah. Yeah,

781
00:38:07,400 --> 00:38:09,280
Speaker 6: but there is a little bit more into the story. Meanwhile,

782
00:38:09,400 --> 00:38:12,680
Speaker 6: Tema called me once he was on his traveling trip.

783
00:38:12,840 --> 00:38:16,000
Speaker 6: He was a sailor. I still held back from telling

784
00:38:16,040 --> 00:38:18,760
Speaker 6: him the full truth, but after some time I couldn't

785
00:38:18,800 --> 00:38:22,240
Speaker 6: handle it anymore. So I wrote to him, not directly,

786
00:38:22,320 --> 00:38:24,560
Speaker 6: but to give the idea that I had positive feelings

787
00:38:24,600 --> 00:38:28,720
Speaker 6: towards him once Manana reserved him. I put myself aside,

788
00:38:28,800 --> 00:38:34,480
Speaker 6: regretting not being bolder. I think you still like TIMU. Well,

789
00:38:34,520 --> 00:38:37,759
Speaker 6: apparently if she's admitting all of this to him, well,

790
00:38:37,800 --> 00:38:40,000
Speaker 6: I think she was saying, like I did like you

791
00:38:40,040 --> 00:38:40,759
Speaker 6: and then I.

792
00:38:40,960 --> 00:38:43,080
Speaker 7: Well, oh yeah, but I mean unless she's saying that

793
00:38:43,120 --> 00:38:45,279
Speaker 7: she likes him now, which I was gonna say, I

794
00:38:45,320 --> 00:38:47,319
Speaker 7: think that's true. Anyway, Well, yeah, she's not saying it,

795
00:38:47,360 --> 00:38:49,719
Speaker 7: but like I feel like just her active say, yeah,

796
00:38:49,719 --> 00:38:53,000
Speaker 7: this is totally like, yeah, she totally loves to I mean,

797
00:38:53,040 --> 00:38:56,359
Speaker 7: like all of her actions leading up to now, it's

798
00:38:56,680 --> 00:38:58,919
Speaker 7: pretty clear that she's still in love with this guy.

799
00:38:59,239 --> 00:39:01,560
Speaker 6: I will make sure to express myself fully in the

800
00:39:01,560 --> 00:39:04,920
Speaker 6: future to avoid this kind of misunderstanding. He didn't respond.

801
00:39:05,320 --> 00:39:07,440
Speaker 6: I'm not sure if he got the point. They seem

802
00:39:07,480 --> 00:39:09,640
Speaker 6: to have a happy family, at least on social media,

803
00:39:09,760 --> 00:39:13,600
Speaker 6: with two children. I'm still healing from my past relationships

804
00:39:13,600 --> 00:39:16,320
Speaker 6: and experiences. I'm single and have no idea if I

805
00:39:16,360 --> 00:39:18,680
Speaker 6: will ever have a family, which has always been my dream.

806
00:39:18,960 --> 00:39:19,839
Speaker 5: You're like twenty four.

807
00:39:19,960 --> 00:39:22,000
Speaker 6: Oh yeah, you're a good girl. You're twenty four time.

808
00:39:22,120 --> 00:39:24,319
Speaker 6: Am I an a hole for expressing my feelings to

809
00:39:24,400 --> 00:39:28,960
Speaker 6: deemo after all of this time. Eh, yeah, yeah, honestly,

810
00:39:29,760 --> 00:39:31,000
Speaker 6: yeah kinda.

811
00:39:31,120 --> 00:39:33,719
Speaker 7: He's married with two kids, and you reached out to

812
00:39:33,760 --> 00:39:36,000
Speaker 7: him to tell him that you still have feelings for him.

813
00:39:36,239 --> 00:39:39,040
Speaker 6: Yeah, you're a bit of an ale, I think. Yeah.

814
00:39:39,160 --> 00:39:40,960
Speaker 6: And that's the end of the story. We're gonna go

815
00:39:41,000 --> 00:39:41,759
Speaker 6: on to the next one.

816
00:39:42,880 --> 00:39:44,759
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Speaker 6: My father disowned me over a birthday cake, probably very

820
00:39:51,480 --> 00:39:53,600
Speaker 6: delicious birthday cake, and I'd probably do the same thing.

821
00:39:53,920 --> 00:39:55,200
Speaker 6: I'm a twenty eight year old.

822
00:39:55,080 --> 00:39:58,160
Speaker 7: Woman who just had my birthday on September fifteenth. Before

823
00:39:58,320 --> 00:40:01,800
Speaker 7: my birthday, I was feeling pretty down because negative things

824
00:40:01,880 --> 00:40:05,920
Speaker 7: always seem to happen around it. Relatives passing away, pets,

825
00:40:05,960 --> 00:40:08,680
Speaker 7: passing away, my ex cheating on me, and leaving me

826
00:40:08,719 --> 00:40:11,480
Speaker 7: on my birthday. By the way, this comes from katatoo,

827
00:40:11,760 --> 00:40:13,400
Speaker 7: And if you want to sumit your own stories, go

828
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Speaker 7: to the r slash. Okay, storytime suppered it. I'm Sophia,

829
00:40:15,840 --> 00:40:17,880
Speaker 7: and I'm Angie, I'm Riley, and we're here to give

830
00:40:17,920 --> 00:40:18,359
Speaker 7: you good advice.

831
00:40:18,440 --> 00:40:20,080
Speaker 6: Goofy, But we don't have all the answers.

832
00:40:20,239 --> 00:40:21,880
Speaker 7: We only know what we do, so let us know

833
00:40:21,920 --> 00:40:24,319
Speaker 7: what you would do in the comments, and OP says

834
00:40:24,640 --> 00:40:27,480
Speaker 7: my family was always very poor when I was a child,

835
00:40:28,000 --> 00:40:32,239
Speaker 7: and we never really celebrated birthdays. As life improved, I

836
00:40:32,239 --> 00:40:35,520
Speaker 7: got a cake once during my adolescence and later a

837
00:40:35,600 --> 00:40:38,880
Speaker 7: ten to twenty dollars gift. Since then, that's been my

838
00:40:38,920 --> 00:40:41,920
Speaker 7: birthday experience. My parents ask me what I want.

839
00:40:42,040 --> 00:40:44,840
Speaker 6: Something inexpensive, and I get it. That's enough for me.

840
00:40:45,640 --> 00:40:47,719
Speaker 7: About a year and a half ago, I was diagnosed

841
00:40:47,719 --> 00:40:51,120
Speaker 7: with diabetes. Since then, it has been a huge struggle.

842
00:40:51,440 --> 00:40:54,520
Speaker 7: My parents have neglected my health, both mental and physical.

843
00:40:54,640 --> 00:40:57,480
Speaker 7: They never cared about my late autism diagnosis, but I

844
00:40:57,520 --> 00:41:00,200
Speaker 7: thought it would be different regarding my body. Since my

845
00:41:00,239 --> 00:41:04,480
Speaker 7: diabetes diagnosis, they've offered me foods I can't eat. I've

846
00:41:04,520 --> 00:41:07,800
Speaker 7: almost passed away going to hospitals. My vision is blurry

847
00:41:07,920 --> 00:41:10,480
Speaker 7: due to the late diagnosis, and I've almost passed away

848
00:41:10,520 --> 00:41:11,640
Speaker 7: from hypoglycemia.

849
00:41:11,880 --> 00:41:13,680
Speaker 6: They don't care. I've asked them not.

850
00:41:13,640 --> 00:41:16,960
Speaker 7: To give me sweets. A few days before my birthday,

851
00:41:17,000 --> 00:41:19,279
Speaker 7: we went to a fair. My dad gave me a

852
00:41:19,280 --> 00:41:22,560
Speaker 7: beautiful feather earring. The funny thing is my dad was

853
00:41:22,560 --> 00:41:25,520
Speaker 7: making jokes about my brother. He made an analogy like,

854
00:41:25,600 --> 00:41:28,680
Speaker 7: imagine someone you've given you a delicious scandy you can't eat.

855
00:41:29,000 --> 00:41:34,279
Speaker 7: That's extremely disrespectful. I agreed. When we got home from

856
00:41:34,280 --> 00:41:36,640
Speaker 7: the fair, there was a cake. I asked if the

857
00:41:36,680 --> 00:41:40,000
Speaker 7: cake was normal. They said yes, and they started filming

858
00:41:40,040 --> 00:41:43,680
Speaker 7: me receiving the cake. I wasn't really comfortable. I told

859
00:41:43,680 --> 00:41:45,399
Speaker 7: my dad and he said, do you know how much

860
00:41:45,440 --> 00:41:48,160
Speaker 7: I paid for this cake? It was expensive? This is

861
00:41:48,200 --> 00:41:51,720
Speaker 7: your present. That was extremely stupid because I can't eat

862
00:41:51,800 --> 00:41:54,440
Speaker 7: that cake, and they didn't give me the chance to

863
00:41:54,480 --> 00:41:57,560
Speaker 7: request something like every year. I calmly left and wrote

864
00:41:57,600 --> 00:42:00,719
Speaker 7: a message telling him it was very disrespectful, asking him

865
00:42:00,760 --> 00:42:03,680
Speaker 7: to delete the video. I explained I was already anxious

866
00:42:03,719 --> 00:42:08,480
Speaker 7: about my birthday and this made everything worse. Of course,

867
00:42:08,520 --> 00:42:12,440
Speaker 7: he didn't respond. I cried, and my boyfriend was my salvation.

868
00:42:13,320 --> 00:42:16,000
Speaker 7: I had shown both my family and my boyfriend a

869
00:42:16,000 --> 00:42:18,400
Speaker 7: place that sold a cake for diabetics at a cheaper

870
00:42:18,440 --> 00:42:22,200
Speaker 7: price than the cake my parents had bought. Only Jacob,

871
00:42:22,239 --> 00:42:25,200
Speaker 7: my boyfriend, bought it for me and even got me flowers.

872
00:42:25,360 --> 00:42:27,640
Speaker 7: My parents seemed a bit upset, and the next day

873
00:42:27,719 --> 00:42:30,640
Speaker 7: my mom seemed remorseful, saying she wasn't used to my

874
00:42:30,719 --> 00:42:32,799
Speaker 7: health situation, even though it had been a year. I

875
00:42:32,840 --> 00:42:34,800
Speaker 7: decided I would go to a hair salon for the

876
00:42:34,840 --> 00:42:36,759
Speaker 7: first time and ask for a little money from them.

877
00:42:36,880 --> 00:42:39,279
Speaker 7: My dad didn't say anything. I hate it when my

878
00:42:39,360 --> 00:42:43,720
Speaker 7: family doesn't apologize or acknowledge their mistakes. Two days later,

879
00:42:43,840 --> 00:42:46,280
Speaker 7: I thought everything was fine because I made an effort

880
00:42:46,280 --> 00:42:49,200
Speaker 7: to talk normally with my parents, but my dad sent

881
00:42:49,239 --> 00:42:51,239
Speaker 7: my boyfriend and me the video I had asked him

882
00:42:51,280 --> 00:42:55,600
Speaker 7: to delete, edited with happy, cheerful music. That made me

883
00:42:56,360 --> 00:43:01,880
Speaker 7: even angrier. I was extremely upset. Everything seemed fine, and

884
00:43:01,880 --> 00:43:04,759
Speaker 7: now you send me this. It's been a week and

885
00:43:04,840 --> 00:43:08,680
Speaker 7: he still hasn't apologized. Sometimes I wonder if I overreacted,

886
00:43:08,719 --> 00:43:11,640
Speaker 7: but I'm still very upset about it. No, No, you

887
00:43:11,680 --> 00:43:15,040
Speaker 7: did not overreact. You told your family your you know,

888
00:43:15,320 --> 00:43:18,160
Speaker 7: your medical needs. They chose to ignore it and then

889
00:43:18,200 --> 00:43:19,120
Speaker 7: get mad at you for them.

890
00:43:19,239 --> 00:43:24,719
Speaker 6: Yeah. Absolutely, Yeah, you are just explaining the situation to them.

891
00:43:24,880 --> 00:43:28,800
Speaker 6: They're so close to getting it and then they don't.

892
00:43:28,920 --> 00:43:33,000
Speaker 6: So so No, your reaction is it was natural and

893
00:43:33,000 --> 00:43:35,359
Speaker 6: it was genuine, so it's valid. Yeah.

894
00:43:35,400 --> 00:43:37,480
Speaker 7: Seanna says it's type two if she had it since

895
00:43:37,520 --> 00:43:39,640
Speaker 7: birth they would have figured it out. Not necessarily, you

896
00:43:39,640 --> 00:43:42,839
Speaker 7: can get diagnosed later with type one. A lot of

897
00:43:42,880 --> 00:43:48,080
Speaker 7: my aunts got diagnosed later, so it just depends. But

898
00:43:48,200 --> 00:43:50,840
Speaker 7: type one can. You can get diagnosed later in life,

899
00:43:51,600 --> 00:43:55,279
Speaker 7: but usually like teens, it's not like that much later.

900
00:43:55,360 --> 00:43:57,360
Speaker 6: But yeah, yeah, yeah, I have.

901
00:43:57,560 --> 00:44:01,160
Speaker 7: I have some aunts who got diagnosed when they were young,

902
00:44:01,360 --> 00:44:06,279
Speaker 7: and then some that got diagnosed like much much later

903
00:44:06,320 --> 00:44:06,560
Speaker 7: in life.

904
00:44:06,680 --> 00:44:07,080
Speaker 6: Update.

905
00:44:07,200 --> 00:44:09,680
Speaker 7: Yesterday, I asked my dad to come with me as

906
00:44:09,680 --> 00:44:12,680
Speaker 7: a passenger because I'm still a new driver. But then

907
00:44:12,800 --> 00:44:15,919
Speaker 7: another fight started and it all ended up going back

908
00:44:15,960 --> 00:44:17,080
Speaker 7: to the cake story again.

909
00:44:18,040 --> 00:44:18,919
Speaker 6: It began with.

910
00:44:18,880 --> 00:44:22,120
Speaker 7: Me feeling upset because my sister lied to my dad

911
00:44:22,120 --> 00:44:25,520
Speaker 7: about something and he came to confront me. He always

912
00:44:25,640 --> 00:44:28,880
Speaker 7: takes her aside, and since I was already feeling sensitive,

913
00:44:29,320 --> 00:44:31,920
Speaker 7: I started bringing up all the serious things my sister

914
00:44:31,960 --> 00:44:34,280
Speaker 7: has done to me that he never talked to her about.

915
00:44:34,320 --> 00:44:37,040
Speaker 7: And then my dad stooped real low. He told me

916
00:44:37,080 --> 00:44:40,759
Speaker 7: to f off, refused to listen, and kept talking over me.

917
00:44:41,400 --> 00:44:43,239
Speaker 7: By the time he got to the parking lot, I

918
00:44:43,360 --> 00:44:46,879
Speaker 7: was crying, mostly out of anger. He kept going and

919
00:44:46,960 --> 00:44:49,040
Speaker 7: he was the one who brought up the cake situation.

920
00:44:49,400 --> 00:44:49,760
Speaker 6: Again.

921
00:44:50,560 --> 00:44:53,080
Speaker 7: That really shocked me, because I thought my family would

922
00:44:53,120 --> 00:44:57,799
Speaker 7: realize they had done wrong, maybe apologize or try to

923
00:44:57,800 --> 00:45:01,840
Speaker 7: make it right. Instead, my dad started yelling, saying he

924
00:45:01,880 --> 00:45:04,640
Speaker 7: had disowned me, that I was passed away to him,

925
00:45:04,840 --> 00:45:07,239
Speaker 7: that I had done the worst thing possible to him,

926
00:45:07,480 --> 00:45:10,720
Speaker 7: and that he would remember this humiliation until his passing breath.

927
00:45:10,800 --> 00:45:13,560
Speaker 7: He even said the cake my boyfriend gave me was aful,

928
00:45:13,840 --> 00:45:16,000
Speaker 7: that his cake was the good one. There was no

929
00:45:16,040 --> 00:45:19,439
Speaker 7: way to have a real conversation. He wouldn't listen, kept

930
00:45:19,480 --> 00:45:22,000
Speaker 7: interrupting me and said a lot of really cruel things.

931
00:45:22,800 --> 00:45:25,439
Speaker 7: I told him it wasn't fair to drag Jacob into

932
00:45:25,440 --> 00:45:28,440
Speaker 7: this conversation, but then he accused me of dragging him

933
00:45:28,440 --> 00:45:31,680
Speaker 7: into it, of twisting the story, of making my family

934
00:45:31,719 --> 00:45:34,880
Speaker 7: look like monsters, and he told both me and Jacob

935
00:45:34,960 --> 00:45:37,840
Speaker 7: to f off. So I asked him for I received

936
00:45:37,840 --> 00:45:40,640
Speaker 7: the cake. I had asked you not to give me sweets.

937
00:45:41,040 --> 00:45:43,080
Speaker 7: After I got the cake, I sent you a message

938
00:45:43,120 --> 00:45:45,359
Speaker 7: thanking you, but I told you it hurt me and

939
00:45:45,360 --> 00:45:48,080
Speaker 7: that I wanted you to delete the video. So why

940
00:45:48,160 --> 00:45:50,800
Speaker 7: after all that did you send me the video Again?

941
00:45:51,640 --> 00:45:53,799
Speaker 7: He answered that he had hoped I would open my

942
00:45:53,840 --> 00:45:56,000
Speaker 7: eyes and see the mess I was making of things.

943
00:45:56,080 --> 00:45:59,080
Speaker 7: My parents put themselves in a position that honestly discussed

944
00:45:59,120 --> 00:46:03,600
Speaker 7: me claim parents always come first, must be respected no

945
00:46:03,640 --> 00:46:05,920
Speaker 7: matter what, but they don't have to respect me back.

946
00:46:06,640 --> 00:46:09,279
Speaker 7: Before getting out of the car at the market, I

947
00:46:09,400 --> 00:46:13,840
Speaker 7: decided to say something that made him uh done to

948
00:46:13,920 --> 00:46:16,640
Speaker 7: me too. I told him about a picture we once

949
00:46:16,680 --> 00:46:19,880
Speaker 7: took together. He interrupted me, saying he could just delete it.

950
00:46:19,920 --> 00:46:23,360
Speaker 7: He didn't care, but I continued and said I really

951
00:46:23,440 --> 00:46:26,040
Speaker 7: liked that picture, but back then you cut me out

952
00:46:26,080 --> 00:46:28,560
Speaker 7: of it and use the crop picture on your Tinder

953
00:46:28,600 --> 00:46:30,880
Speaker 7: to cheat on Mom. That was the moment you were

954
00:46:30,920 --> 00:46:35,239
Speaker 7: done to me. WHOA, Yeah, I mean your dad has

955
00:46:35,320 --> 00:46:36,239
Speaker 7: never been a good guy.

956
00:46:36,800 --> 00:46:42,600
Speaker 6: Seems like he was like people's dude. That's crazy, But

957
00:46:42,640 --> 00:46:44,720
Speaker 6: that's honestly like a good comeback.

958
00:46:45,560 --> 00:46:48,200
Speaker 7: So oh, oh, you're just owning me. I disowned you

959
00:46:48,239 --> 00:46:51,000
Speaker 7: ages ago when you cheated on Mom. Yeah, exactly. You

960
00:46:51,040 --> 00:46:53,239
Speaker 7: want to talk about pictures, we like.

961
00:46:53,400 --> 00:46:55,840
Speaker 6: You want to talk about picture. You want to talk

962
00:46:55,880 --> 00:46:59,640
Speaker 6: about pictures like hopefully that will open up your mind,

963
00:47:00,200 --> 00:47:02,440
Speaker 6: like what my goodness?

964
00:47:02,800 --> 00:47:06,200
Speaker 7: Of course, he acted innocent and denied everything, but I

965
00:47:06,280 --> 00:47:09,520
Speaker 7: just closed the car door and went inside. When I

966
00:47:09,560 --> 00:47:12,399
Speaker 7: came back, the ride home was silent. I wonder what

967
00:47:12,400 --> 00:47:14,360
Speaker 7: my mom thought about all of this. Part of me

968
00:47:14,520 --> 00:47:17,239
Speaker 7: thought maybe she regretted what happened, because the day of

969
00:47:17,239 --> 00:47:19,000
Speaker 7: the cake things first happened.

970
00:47:19,040 --> 00:47:20,280
Speaker 6: She seemed a little regretful.

971
00:47:20,920 --> 00:47:22,840
Speaker 7: But today I saw her at the gate and I

972
00:47:22,880 --> 00:47:25,440
Speaker 7: took the chance to ask what she thinks. She was

973
00:47:25,480 --> 00:47:28,280
Speaker 7: a bit rude, and it seemed she feels the same

974
00:47:28,360 --> 00:47:32,960
Speaker 7: way as my dad. Our conversation was confusing. Instead of

975
00:47:33,040 --> 00:47:37,040
Speaker 7: solving things, they changed the subject point fingers enlist what

976
00:47:37,080 --> 00:47:40,160
Speaker 7: they think are my mistakes. She even said some really

977
00:47:40,239 --> 00:47:44,400
Speaker 7: hurtful things like that what I think doesn't matter. The

978
00:47:44,440 --> 00:47:47,120
Speaker 7: truth is when I first got the cake, I smiled,

979
00:47:47,800 --> 00:47:51,279
Speaker 7: thanked my parents, and acted happy. Only later did I

980
00:47:51,360 --> 00:47:54,480
Speaker 7: calmly send a message saying I didn't like it and

981
00:47:54,480 --> 00:47:57,400
Speaker 7: that I wanted the video deleted. I only lost my

982
00:47:57,480 --> 00:48:00,959
Speaker 7: patience after he resent the video to me. My mom

983
00:48:01,040 --> 00:48:03,600
Speaker 7: told me she wouldn't stand by someone who's been messing

984
00:48:03,680 --> 00:48:06,319
Speaker 7: up lately, that I've been doing horrible things, that I

985
00:48:06,360 --> 00:48:09,239
Speaker 7: twist stories to my boyfriend and his family, And when

986
00:48:09,280 --> 00:48:11,239
Speaker 7: I asked her what she was basing that on, she

987
00:48:11,480 --> 00:48:14,560
Speaker 7: admitted it was just a feeling feeling. She's like, I

988
00:48:14,600 --> 00:48:18,400
Speaker 7: just feel like you're telling them dirty, dirty lies. He's like,

989
00:48:18,600 --> 00:48:20,359
Speaker 7: so I told them that you did this?

990
00:48:20,680 --> 00:48:24,960
Speaker 6: Is that true? And the Mom's like, well, yes, trust

991
00:48:25,000 --> 00:48:27,799
Speaker 6: my gut. B I don't know. I just I just

992
00:48:27,920 --> 00:48:31,600
Speaker 6: have a sense. Yeah, I gotta trust my gut over everything,

993
00:48:31,760 --> 00:48:33,400
Speaker 6: especially when I find out the truth.

994
00:48:33,560 --> 00:48:35,920
Speaker 5: Ooh, but she'll stand by her cheating husband.

995
00:48:36,120 --> 00:48:37,919
Speaker 6: Yeah, dude, I don't know if she knows she did.

996
00:48:38,320 --> 00:48:40,040
Speaker 2: I mean, I think she needs a gut check.

997
00:48:40,280 --> 00:48:42,640
Speaker 6: Yeah, why doesn't her tell her that he cheated?

998
00:48:43,200 --> 00:48:43,399
Speaker 5: Right?

999
00:48:43,520 --> 00:48:46,000
Speaker 7: She even said that if I hadn't cried to my boyfriend,

1000
00:48:46,160 --> 00:48:48,640
Speaker 7: he wouldn't have bought the cake or done any of

1001
00:48:48,640 --> 00:48:50,960
Speaker 7: those things for me, as if I shouldn't even have

1002
00:48:51,080 --> 00:48:53,720
Speaker 7: told Jacob what happened. For a moment, I even wondered

1003
00:48:53,719 --> 00:48:56,440
Speaker 7: if I really was wrong because they were so insistent.

1004
00:48:57,040 --> 00:48:59,319
Speaker 7: But when I went back and reread the messages I

1005
00:48:59,360 --> 00:49:02,640
Speaker 7: sent them, I realized I wasn't disrespectful at all in

1006
00:49:02,680 --> 00:49:05,640
Speaker 7: the video. I didn't curse anyone. I stayed polite, just

1007
00:49:05,640 --> 00:49:08,920
Speaker 7: said I wasn't comfortable. So now I don't think I'm wrong.

1008
00:49:09,400 --> 00:49:12,160
Speaker 7: I actually am furious because I thinks it because I

1009
00:49:12,160 --> 00:49:16,080
Speaker 7: think it takes so much audacity to be in the wrong,

1010
00:49:16,520 --> 00:49:21,120
Speaker 7: insist on staying wrong, play the victim, insult the people

1011
00:49:21,160 --> 00:49:24,240
Speaker 7: you hurt, and then ignore their feelings when they try

1012
00:49:24,280 --> 00:49:27,759
Speaker 7: to explain. Yesterday, in the car, I even pressed my

1013
00:49:27,880 --> 00:49:30,680
Speaker 7: dad to answer me, and he said what I feel

1014
00:49:30,719 --> 00:49:33,920
Speaker 7: doesn't matter, that I could shove my feelings up my butt.

1015
00:49:34,000 --> 00:49:36,759
Speaker 7: I vented about all this to a dear friend, and

1016
00:49:36,840 --> 00:49:39,640
Speaker 7: she thinks maybe my parents feel inferior to me because

1017
00:49:39,680 --> 00:49:43,040
Speaker 7: my boyfriend is American and I'm Brazilian. And he gives

1018
00:49:43,040 --> 00:49:46,400
Speaker 7: me things my parents never did, not just gifts. He

1019
00:49:46,480 --> 00:49:49,719
Speaker 7: gives me attention, He's kind. He buys me things I

1020
00:49:49,719 --> 00:49:52,960
Speaker 7: can actually eat, like the cake, while my parents got

1021
00:49:53,000 --> 00:49:54,279
Speaker 7: me something I couldn't eat.

1022
00:49:54,800 --> 00:49:55,719
Speaker 6: On top of that, my.

1023
00:49:55,680 --> 00:49:57,640
Speaker 7: Boyfriend wants me to move to the US, and my

1024
00:49:57,719 --> 00:50:00,880
Speaker 7: parents are against it. Even I I have mixed feelings

1025
00:50:00,880 --> 00:50:02,800
Speaker 7: about it because I worked very hard to get my

1026
00:50:02,880 --> 00:50:05,560
Speaker 7: house in my car, and I see them not just

1027
00:50:05,640 --> 00:50:08,839
Speaker 7: as material possessions, but as proof of everything I went

1028
00:50:08,880 --> 00:50:09,640
Speaker 7: through to get here.

1029
00:50:10,320 --> 00:50:11,839
Speaker 6: But I've noticed that every.

1030
00:50:11,560 --> 00:50:14,640
Speaker 7: Time Jacob comes to visit me in Brazil, my parents

1031
00:50:14,680 --> 00:50:17,920
Speaker 7: start picking fights with me over ridiculous things. My sister

1032
00:50:18,000 --> 00:50:20,839
Speaker 7: does the same, so I don't think it's just about

1033
00:50:20,840 --> 00:50:24,080
Speaker 7: the cake. I think they feel inferior somehow and take

1034
00:50:24,120 --> 00:50:24,719
Speaker 7: it out on me.

1035
00:50:25,120 --> 00:50:27,439
Speaker 6: There is a little bit left to this story. How

1036
00:50:27,480 --> 00:50:28,080
Speaker 6: old is op?

1037
00:50:28,760 --> 00:50:31,880
Speaker 3: I got you because I thought he was like a teenager.

1038
00:50:33,440 --> 00:50:36,399
Speaker 6: Okay, maybe it might be eight. Maybe it is type two.

1039
00:50:36,400 --> 00:50:38,560
Speaker 6: I don't know, but they said late diagnosis, so maybe

1040
00:50:38,560 --> 00:50:40,319
Speaker 6: it's type one. Well, but maybe it's like it was

1041
00:50:40,360 --> 00:50:44,080
Speaker 6: developed and then like it wasn't diagnosed as soon as

1042
00:50:44,080 --> 00:50:44,560
Speaker 6: it developed.

1043
00:50:44,719 --> 00:50:45,960
Speaker 7: I know he did say she had a lot of

1044
00:50:46,000 --> 00:50:49,040
Speaker 7: health health problems because they didn't diagnose it.

1045
00:50:49,080 --> 00:50:52,160
Speaker 6: So maybe it is true one. So we don't know.

1046
00:50:52,360 --> 00:50:55,319
Speaker 7: We don't know which type it is. It doesn't really

1047
00:50:55,400 --> 00:50:57,920
Speaker 7: matter because at the end of the day, your family

1048
00:50:57,960 --> 00:50:59,279
Speaker 7: doesn't believe that your.

1049
00:50:59,200 --> 00:51:02,960
Speaker 6: Diagnosis is Yeah, and I mean, I think it's good

1050
00:51:02,960 --> 00:51:05,160
Speaker 6: to have other support systems. So obviously, you know, keep

1051
00:51:05,200 --> 00:51:07,719
Speaker 6: on feeling out for more friends and stuff. But I'm

1052
00:51:07,800 --> 00:51:11,960
Speaker 6: so glad that your boyfriend is good to you and

1053
00:51:12,000 --> 00:51:16,080
Speaker 6: he cares about you and all that. I'm very disappointing

1054
00:51:16,080 --> 00:51:17,520
Speaker 6: that your family doesn't seem to do that.

1055
00:51:17,719 --> 00:51:20,200
Speaker 7: Yeah, I think I think take your time, don't rush

1056
00:51:20,239 --> 00:51:22,400
Speaker 7: into a decision about like moving to America if you

1057
00:51:22,400 --> 00:51:24,239
Speaker 7: want to, if you want to keep this life that

1058
00:51:24,280 --> 00:51:24,960
Speaker 7: you built.

1059
00:51:24,760 --> 00:51:26,920
Speaker 6: But also be open, you know, if.

1060
00:51:27,000 --> 00:51:28,960
Speaker 7: If you've had this long, if you've had like depending

1061
00:51:28,960 --> 00:51:31,960
Speaker 7: on how long the relationship with your boyfriend is, you know,

1062
00:51:32,080 --> 00:51:34,200
Speaker 7: maybe if it's like one year, maybe see how that

1063
00:51:34,280 --> 00:51:37,360
Speaker 7: extra goes and then make that decision, or like you

1064
00:51:37,400 --> 00:51:39,319
Speaker 7: don't have to make it right now, you can say, hey,

1065
00:51:39,840 --> 00:51:40,960
Speaker 7: let me think about it. Yeah.

1066
00:51:41,000 --> 00:51:43,480
Speaker 6: I think if you're hesitating, I think that just means

1067
00:51:43,480 --> 00:51:45,600
Speaker 6: you shouldn't do it yet. I agree, maybe not never,

1068
00:51:45,760 --> 00:51:48,799
Speaker 6: but you know, you definitely wait before you're you wait

1069
00:51:48,880 --> 00:51:51,759
Speaker 6: until you're sure. Yeah, because it's a big decision on

1070
00:51:52,120 --> 00:51:54,520
Speaker 6: your terms too. Yeah, and on like you know, I mean,

1071
00:51:54,920 --> 00:51:56,839
Speaker 6: I'm sure your boyfriend's fine, but like just in case

1072
00:51:56,880 --> 00:51:59,400
Speaker 6: he you know, convinces you or something like that, I

1073
00:51:59,400 --> 00:52:02,200
Speaker 6: don't think he would do it in like a I

1074
00:52:02,200 --> 00:52:04,680
Speaker 6: don't know, malicious way. Yeah, but just just to keep

1075
00:52:04,719 --> 00:52:06,480
Speaker 6: an eye out for that, and also go.

1076
00:52:06,600 --> 00:52:10,479
Speaker 7: Like limited contact with your or whatever conduct do you want,

1077
00:52:10,880 --> 00:52:14,479
Speaker 7: Just go less with your parents a little less. Yeah,

1078
00:52:14,800 --> 00:52:17,719
Speaker 7: I think about that amount of contact and reduce it,

1079
00:52:17,800 --> 00:52:18,680
Speaker 7: reduce it a little bit more.

1080
00:52:18,800 --> 00:52:20,960
Speaker 6: Yeah, but there is a little bit left.

1081
00:52:20,960 --> 00:52:21,560
Speaker 2: Oh wow, left.

1082
00:52:21,800 --> 00:52:24,040
Speaker 6: I thought that was the end, so sorry, would you

1083
00:52:24,120 --> 00:52:24,560
Speaker 6: look at that?

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Speaker 7: So that's where I'm at for now. I don't plan

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00:52:26,640 --> 00:52:29,319
Speaker 7: to give in. I honestly didn't want things to turn

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00:52:29,360 --> 00:52:31,919
Speaker 7: out like this. I would like my parents to take

1087
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Speaker 7: care of my plants while I'm abroad, and I do

1088
00:52:34,280 --> 00:52:37,160
Speaker 7: wish I could have relationship with them, but it's really

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Speaker 7: hard to have any kind of relationship when things escalate

1090
00:52:40,800 --> 00:52:43,640
Speaker 7: to this level. When I try to express myself and

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00:52:43,680 --> 00:52:46,160
Speaker 7: they don't listen, and when they finally do, they act

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00:52:46,200 --> 00:52:48,840
Speaker 7: like my feelings don't matter at all. It feels like

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Speaker 7: poison in my chest. And that's the end of that story.

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Speaker 6: My cousin's kept ruining everything, but I'm always the one

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00:53:01,400 --> 00:53:05,040
Speaker 6: getting blamed. Oh my fault. I'm eighteen and gender fluid,

1099
00:53:05,080 --> 00:53:07,080
Speaker 6: but I was newly seventeen at the time that this

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Speaker 6: took place. I was supposed to be helping set up

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00:53:09,480 --> 00:53:11,839
Speaker 6: my aunt's baby shower, but it was a Friday night

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Speaker 6: and I had work due at eleven fifty nine pm,

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00:53:14,840 --> 00:53:17,160
Speaker 6: so I couldn't help. I was a junior in high

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00:53:17,160 --> 00:53:19,960
Speaker 6: school bringing up my grades to avoid summer school. It

1105
00:53:20,040 --> 00:53:22,600
Speaker 6: was early May and I couldn't risk not getting my

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00:53:22,640 --> 00:53:25,319
Speaker 6: work in on time. My mom refused to tell me

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00:53:25,360 --> 00:53:27,919
Speaker 6: about dinner plans, so I heated apasta so I could

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00:53:27,960 --> 00:53:29,919
Speaker 6: work on my assignment. By the way, this comes from

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Speaker 6: a sleepy sheep, And if you want to submit your

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Speaker 6: it and I'm Angie, I'm Sophia.

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Speaker 5: I'm Riley.

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Speaker 6: We're here to give good advice goofily, but we don't

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00:53:39,239 --> 00:53:41,000
Speaker 6: have all the answers. We're just gonna guess what we

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00:53:41,000 --> 00:53:42,680
Speaker 6: would do in this situation. So let us know what

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00:53:42,719 --> 00:53:45,200
Speaker 6: you would do in the comment. But uh op says.

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00:53:45,239 --> 00:53:47,439
Speaker 6: When I heard one of my aunts was coming over

1118
00:53:47,480 --> 00:53:49,720
Speaker 6: to set up and my grandma was coming, I asked

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00:53:49,719 --> 00:53:52,400
Speaker 6: if my cousins were coming. My mom said, let it

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00:53:52,440 --> 00:53:55,000
Speaker 6: be a surprise. When I told her how important it

1121
00:53:55,080 --> 00:53:58,399
Speaker 6: was to know, she got mad and repeated, it's going

1122
00:53:58,400 --> 00:54:01,920
Speaker 6: to be a surprise. I was frustrated because if I

1123
00:54:02,000 --> 00:54:04,960
Speaker 6: don't know they're coming that night, I can't prepare myself

1124
00:54:04,960 --> 00:54:08,439
Speaker 6: for their chaos. This part was on me. I kept

1125
00:54:08,640 --> 00:54:11,239
Speaker 6: birthday gifts out so I could take photos of them.

1126
00:54:11,680 --> 00:54:15,320
Speaker 6: This consisted of a photo copy of my Melanie Martinez

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00:54:15,360 --> 00:54:20,840
Speaker 6: ticket confirmation, some bracelets, my Sanrio cinnamon roll blanket, perfume,

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00:54:21,000 --> 00:54:24,960
Speaker 6: and one hundred dollars. In twenties, I had a dollhouse

1129
00:54:25,000 --> 00:54:28,520
Speaker 6: for storage that held my bathroom, body works products and

1130
00:54:28,600 --> 00:54:32,080
Speaker 6: expensive perfumes. My school chromebook was at my desks, charging

1131
00:54:32,160 --> 00:54:35,520
Speaker 6: with paperwork for all my assignments next to it when

1132
00:54:35,719 --> 00:54:38,040
Speaker 6: I was When I was in the bathroom, I heard

1133
00:54:38,040 --> 00:54:41,080
Speaker 6: the chaos of all three of my cousins. I'll referred

1134
00:54:41,080 --> 00:54:45,280
Speaker 6: to them as cousin B cousin A fifteen, B nine,

1135
00:54:45,360 --> 00:54:49,360
Speaker 6: and C six. The first thing I heard was Conlin screaming.

1136
00:54:50,160 --> 00:54:52,839
Speaker 6: Betty was trying to get through the baby gait. So

1137
00:54:52,880 --> 00:54:56,040
Speaker 6: my first response was to finish using the bathroom and

1138
00:54:56,320 --> 00:54:59,160
Speaker 6: run to barricade my door since my dad took the

1139
00:54:59,200 --> 00:55:01,080
Speaker 6: lock off. As as I got to my room, I

1140
00:55:01,120 --> 00:55:03,600
Speaker 6: heard Betty break the baby game. He knocked it over,

1141
00:55:03,719 --> 00:55:07,319
Speaker 6: letting the dogs run up and down the stairs. Uh, Abby,

1142
00:55:07,960 --> 00:55:10,400
Speaker 6: what's it? What's a gender neutral name for it? Was? Annie?

1143
00:55:10,440 --> 00:55:14,040
Speaker 6: Alex went sprinting up the stairs screaming my name. I

1144
00:55:14,320 --> 00:55:17,200
Speaker 6: tried my best to block the door. Since Alex is

1145
00:55:17,239 --> 00:55:20,680
Speaker 6: freerishly strong, he managed to push it open, causing me

1146
00:55:20,800 --> 00:55:25,400
Speaker 6: to get rugburn on my legs. Yikes Behind him followed

1147
00:55:25,400 --> 00:55:28,760
Speaker 6: his two siblings. While Alex lifted me from the ground

1148
00:55:28,800 --> 00:55:31,879
Speaker 6: to squeeze me tightly, his siblings ran around trashing my room.

1149
00:55:32,719 --> 00:55:37,719
Speaker 6: Uh Conlin, Conlin tried to steal my earrings and bracelets.

1150
00:55:38,000 --> 00:55:42,200
Speaker 6: Barry okay, yeah, while Barry started stomping around. Within less

1151
00:55:42,239 --> 00:55:45,399
Speaker 6: than five minutes, my room looked like a disaster. By

1152
00:55:45,480 --> 00:55:48,160
Speaker 6: the time I broke free of Alex, I was running

1153
00:55:48,160 --> 00:55:50,680
Speaker 6: to Barry to stop him. If I didn't grab him

1154
00:55:50,680 --> 00:55:52,920
Speaker 6: and snatch my chromeboke with all my work saved on it,

1155
00:55:53,000 --> 00:55:55,840
Speaker 6: Barry would have thrown that laptop down the stairs to

1156
00:55:55,920 --> 00:56:00,720
Speaker 6: the hardwood floors. Alex stepped on and destroyed the confor photo.

1157
00:56:01,080 --> 00:56:03,359
Speaker 6: He was trying to steal my one hundred dollars, which

1158
00:56:03,440 --> 00:56:05,359
Speaker 6: led to me wrestling him to get my money back.

1159
00:56:05,840 --> 00:56:07,880
Speaker 6: As soon as I got my money, I had to

1160
00:56:07,920 --> 00:56:11,040
Speaker 6: fight with Conlin to get my jewelry back, which led

1161
00:56:11,080 --> 00:56:15,480
Speaker 6: to her screaming and fake crying. She then tried to

1162
00:56:15,520 --> 00:56:19,040
Speaker 6: steal my perfume and sprayed a bunch on herself. I

1163
00:56:19,080 --> 00:56:21,880
Speaker 6: took it from her before she could get the expensive bottles,

1164
00:56:21,880 --> 00:56:25,440
Speaker 6: which led to her crying real tears. While she's crying,

1165
00:56:25,560 --> 00:56:28,000
Speaker 6: I'm taking all my earrings from her pockets. She had

1166
00:56:28,040 --> 00:56:31,000
Speaker 6: about twenty different earrings in each pocket. Alex ran over

1167
00:56:31,040 --> 00:56:33,520
Speaker 6: to stop me, while Barry ran to my closet and

1168
00:56:33,600 --> 00:56:36,400
Speaker 6: started tearing down all my clothes. By the time I

1169
00:56:36,440 --> 00:56:38,800
Speaker 6: got to him, half my closet was on the ground.

1170
00:56:39,280 --> 00:56:42,040
Speaker 6: I was trying to get him out, and Alex started

1171
00:56:42,040 --> 00:56:45,160
Speaker 6: throwing my schoolwork in the air. So about ten fully

1172
00:56:45,200 --> 00:56:49,600
Speaker 6: completed assignments for each different classes were our Eight different

1173
00:56:49,600 --> 00:56:52,480
Speaker 6: classes were now out of order. Conlin decided she was

1174
00:56:52,560 --> 00:56:54,279
Speaker 6: mad at me, so she was going to tell her

1175
00:56:54,320 --> 00:56:57,640
Speaker 6: mom and my mom that she was going to tell

1176
00:56:57,640 --> 00:57:00,360
Speaker 6: her mom and my mom that I was bullying her.

1177
00:57:01,520 --> 00:57:05,279
Speaker 6: Barry left, but not before jumping on my freshly made bed,

1178
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Speaker 6: breaking part of my box. Frank, who are these children?

1179
00:57:09,560 --> 00:57:13,200
Speaker 6: Is this a freaking Tasmanian devil? That's what it seems

1180
00:57:13,200 --> 00:57:17,480
Speaker 6: like there. This is three kids stacked in Tren's coat,

1181
00:57:17,760 --> 00:57:20,400
Speaker 6: and that's whoa this is.

1182
00:57:20,440 --> 00:57:23,640
Speaker 7: These are the little kids in Brave Brothers in Brave

1183
00:57:24,320 --> 00:57:27,000
Speaker 7: These That's exactly what I was thinking about.

1184
00:57:27,000 --> 00:57:29,600
Speaker 6: I just watched Brave Nice I was trying to remember.

1185
00:57:30,560 --> 00:57:33,600
Speaker 6: So she says, who's raising these kids? Bears good question,

1186
00:57:33,720 --> 00:57:38,320
Speaker 6: bears raiser. Honestly, that left us with Alex, who was

1187
00:57:38,400 --> 00:57:41,400
Speaker 6: laying on my bean bag and being loud and obnoxious,

1188
00:57:41,440 --> 00:57:45,400
Speaker 6: refusing to leave my room. Looked like a disaster. I

1189
00:57:45,480 --> 00:57:47,560
Speaker 6: was fed up, and I decided to tell my mom.

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00:57:48,040 --> 00:57:50,600
Speaker 6: By the time I got downstairs, my aunt, her fiance,

1191
00:57:50,920 --> 00:57:53,560
Speaker 6: my mom, and my dad were nowhere to be found.

1192
00:57:54,280 --> 00:57:56,920
Speaker 6: I then saw Barry trying to go for a swim

1193
00:57:57,040 --> 00:58:01,560
Speaker 6: alone in my backyard. I it was fifty degrees outside

1194
00:58:01,600 --> 00:58:03,960
Speaker 6: and my cousin didn't have a life jacket on, nor

1195
00:58:04,160 --> 00:58:06,280
Speaker 6: could he swim. Howmory, he's drowning.

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Speaker 7: Dude, your cousin's drowning in the backyard, and you're like,

1197
00:58:09,680 --> 00:58:10,760
Speaker 7: he wanted to go first, ma'am.

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Speaker 6: This is truly that babysitter trying to take care of

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Speaker 6: baby jack Jack. Yeah, teleporting places.

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00:58:17,800 --> 00:58:24,920
Speaker 7: Yeah, and at the end it's just her being like, yeah, exactly.

1201
00:58:26,440 --> 00:58:29,440
Speaker 6: With the fire extinguishers. Yeah, yeah, oh my god, there

1202
00:58:29,480 --> 00:58:29,800
Speaker 6: we go.

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Speaker 1: And that is.

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Speaker 7: Another thank you Purple Trader for the twenty hours old Trader.

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Speaker 6: There you go.

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Speaker 7: I was I was expecting that that fifteen that was

1207
00:58:37,800 --> 00:58:39,560
Speaker 7: already added in my mind, in your brain.

1208
00:58:39,720 --> 00:58:43,440
Speaker 6: Yeah, I just tried to not look at the time. Yeah.

1209
00:58:43,440 --> 00:58:47,240
Speaker 6: His sister, Conlin was trying to follow along. The six

1210
00:58:47,360 --> 00:58:49,040
Speaker 6: year old was trying to follow along in the in

1211
00:58:49,080 --> 00:58:52,560
Speaker 6: the pool, unattended by the way. I started screaming at

1212
00:58:52,560 --> 00:58:55,920
Speaker 6: them while I dragged them both back inside. Alex was

1213
00:58:55,960 --> 00:58:59,840
Speaker 6: downstairs watching me struggle with his siblings, eating pizza, not helping.

1214
00:59:00,440 --> 00:59:03,280
Speaker 6: I started begging my cousin to handle his siblings, but

1215
00:59:03,360 --> 00:59:06,000
Speaker 6: he refused. I was running on low energy, trying to

1216
00:59:06,040 --> 00:59:08,600
Speaker 6: keep all my cousins alive while also trying to avoid

1217
00:59:08,640 --> 00:59:14,520
Speaker 6: summer school. Eventually got cut. I got Barry and Conlin

1218
00:59:14,680 --> 00:59:17,480
Speaker 6: back into the house and told Alex to watch his siblings,

1219
00:59:17,720 --> 00:59:20,880
Speaker 6: which was a mistake. I ended up finding my parents,

1220
00:59:20,960 --> 00:59:24,200
Speaker 6: my aunt and her fiance. I was telling them while

1221
00:59:24,240 --> 00:59:28,120
Speaker 6: I was upset what happened. I pretty much said, I'm

1222
00:59:28,160 --> 00:59:30,720
Speaker 6: not a babysitter. I have important work to do and

1223
00:59:30,800 --> 00:59:34,120
Speaker 6: I can't watch them. They are getting on my last nerves.

1224
00:59:34,520 --> 00:59:37,280
Speaker 6: My mom told me to watch my mouth. My mom

1225
00:59:37,320 --> 00:59:39,680
Speaker 6: told me to stop bullying my cousins and to spend

1226
00:59:39,720 --> 00:59:42,080
Speaker 6: time with them, since I rarely see them. I went

1227
00:59:42,120 --> 00:59:44,520
Speaker 6: back into the house to find Barry almost at his

1228
00:59:44,720 --> 00:59:48,120
Speaker 6: torso in the pool. I ran back outside to drag

1229
00:59:48,160 --> 00:59:50,480
Speaker 6: him back inside, and then I locked the door. I

1230
00:59:50,600 --> 00:59:53,080
Speaker 6: yelled at him and he told me shut the hat gut.

1231
00:59:53,680 --> 00:59:56,560
Speaker 6: At this point, they had been there for no longer

1232
00:59:56,600 --> 00:59:59,840
Speaker 6: than thirty minutes. What were the adults doing. They were

1233
00:59:59,840 --> 01:00:03,960
Speaker 6: in my garage chatting, drinking, and partying while setting up.

1234
01:00:04,680 --> 01:00:06,960
Speaker 6: I decided to go to my room to take a breather.

1235
01:00:07,120 --> 01:00:10,320
Speaker 6: They decided to go upstairs after me. About fifteen minutes later,

1236
01:00:10,400 --> 01:00:13,160
Speaker 6: they started yelling and banging on the door. I was

1237
01:00:13,200 --> 01:00:16,600
Speaker 6: frantically working, but there were probably twenty devices on my WiFi,

1238
01:00:16,840 --> 01:00:20,919
Speaker 6: making worktime impossible. My cousins ended up coming into my room,

1239
01:00:21,000 --> 01:00:24,080
Speaker 6: throwing papers around again, then yelling at each other. I

1240
01:00:24,160 --> 01:00:27,200
Speaker 6: turned to them and snapped by screaming at them. I

1241
01:00:27,240 --> 01:00:29,840
Speaker 6: grabbed Barry and Conlin by the arm and dragged them out.

1242
01:00:30,280 --> 01:00:33,200
Speaker 6: Alex followed behind because he found it funny. When I

1243
01:00:33,200 --> 01:00:36,120
Speaker 6: got mad, I yelled at them and pretty much told

1244
01:00:36,160 --> 01:00:38,960
Speaker 6: them to shut up, sit down, and watch TV. I

1245
01:00:39,040 --> 01:00:42,800
Speaker 6: turned on poptrol the movie and left them downstairs. I

1246
01:00:42,880 --> 01:00:44,960
Speaker 6: managed to get all my work together, but missed one

1247
01:00:44,960 --> 01:00:48,040
Speaker 6: assignment because canvas crashed on me a minute before eleven

1248
01:00:48,120 --> 01:00:50,880
Speaker 6: fifty nine pm. That I cried a lot too because

1249
01:00:50,880 --> 01:00:54,080
Speaker 6: I felt guilty. Maybe just email teacher and say, hey,

1250
01:00:54,080 --> 01:00:57,680
Speaker 6: canvas crashed. Yeah, right, hopefully other people were having that

1251
01:00:57,720 --> 01:00:58,280
Speaker 6: same problem.

1252
01:00:58,320 --> 01:01:01,360
Speaker 7: Yeah, I always say I ever have canvas problems. You

1253
01:01:01,440 --> 01:01:04,400
Speaker 7: just emailed the assignment directly to the teacher that works too,

1254
01:01:04,480 --> 01:01:05,880
Speaker 7: and then you could be like, I know, I see,

1255
01:01:05,880 --> 01:01:07,480
Speaker 7: I emailed it at this time.

1256
01:01:07,720 --> 01:01:10,240
Speaker 6: Yeah, yeah, I see. At the same time, I was

1257
01:01:10,320 --> 01:01:15,400
Speaker 6: stressed out. I had credit recovery, upcoming summer school, bridesmaid's duties,

1258
01:01:16,000 --> 01:01:19,480
Speaker 6: and too much work to do. The next day was

1259
01:01:19,560 --> 01:01:22,000
Speaker 6: more chaos. The next day was more chaos. I was

1260
01:01:22,000 --> 01:01:24,520
Speaker 6: heavily scolded by my mom for how I treated my family.

1261
01:01:24,680 --> 01:01:26,560
Speaker 6: My grandma told me that I needed to be nicer

1262
01:01:26,600 --> 01:01:28,720
Speaker 6: to my mom and cousins because my cousins were just

1263
01:01:28,800 --> 01:01:31,840
Speaker 6: excited to see me, and my mom is really stressed out.

1264
01:01:31,920 --> 01:01:34,360
Speaker 6: She's hearing only my mom and my cousin's side of

1265
01:01:34,360 --> 01:01:36,760
Speaker 6: the story and not my own. Thanks to her, I

1266
01:01:36,800 --> 01:01:39,840
Speaker 6: started questioning my judgment. So Reddit to am id a

1267
01:01:39,920 --> 01:01:42,280
Speaker 6: hole for snapping on my cousins and booting them out

1268
01:01:42,280 --> 01:01:43,880
Speaker 6: of my room. And we do have an update, but

1269
01:01:44,160 --> 01:01:46,360
Speaker 6: absolutely weird. I don't know they left you in charge

1270
01:01:46,400 --> 01:01:50,640
Speaker 6: of three crazy kids. Yeah, exactly, literally insane kids. Yeah.

1271
01:01:50,680 --> 01:01:53,320
Speaker 6: I think if this happens again. You got a one

1272
01:01:53,560 --> 01:01:56,240
Speaker 6: video camera out. See what they're doing to my room.

1273
01:01:56,280 --> 01:01:58,400
Speaker 6: I'm trying to tell them to stop. It's not working. Two.

1274
01:01:58,680 --> 01:02:00,280
Speaker 6: If you're taking them out of a room, you're bringing

1275
01:02:00,320 --> 01:02:02,960
Speaker 6: them somewhere. Bring them into the garage, DUDEYEA like, hey,

1276
01:02:03,280 --> 01:02:10,840
Speaker 6: I catch your kids. They're sneezing it all over. I

1277
01:02:10,880 --> 01:02:13,440
Speaker 6: can't day you anymore. Can't wick me allergies and I

1278
01:02:13,440 --> 01:02:16,760
Speaker 6: can't I'm a lergic. Yeah, deal with We have an

1279
01:02:16,800 --> 01:02:20,840
Speaker 6: update people. By morning, I was exhausted. I blocked and

1280
01:02:20,840 --> 01:02:23,720
Speaker 6: barricaded my door so my cousins couldn't enter while I

1281
01:02:23,760 --> 01:02:27,000
Speaker 6: was asleep. Conlin likes to steal, and I could not

1282
01:02:27,160 --> 01:02:29,720
Speaker 6: risk any of my valuables being stolen while I slept.

1283
01:02:30,160 --> 01:02:32,200
Speaker 6: One of my aunts tried to get into my room

1284
01:02:32,240 --> 01:02:34,520
Speaker 6: by morning, but realized that my door was stuck, So

1285
01:02:34,600 --> 01:02:36,920
Speaker 6: at six or seven in the morning, she's pounding on

1286
01:02:36,960 --> 01:02:39,120
Speaker 6: the door to wake me up. I'll refer to the

1287
01:02:39,160 --> 01:02:43,960
Speaker 6: aunts as Auntie, Alisa, Auntie Bee, and Auntie Carly. Okay,

1288
01:02:43,960 --> 01:02:47,600
Speaker 6: we're just gonna say Alisa, b and Carly Okay. I

1289
01:02:47,600 --> 01:02:50,280
Speaker 6: don't want to say Auntie all those times or Auntie.

1290
01:02:50,320 --> 01:02:52,920
Speaker 6: I guess I always flipped back and forth. Nowadays I'm

1291
01:02:52,920 --> 01:02:55,200
Speaker 6: an Auntie Cow. I was always Auntie, and then since

1292
01:02:55,200 --> 01:02:58,200
Speaker 6: being here, I've become self conscious about it. I just

1293
01:02:58,200 --> 01:03:01,040
Speaker 6: say because my mom is it. Sometimes I hear how

1294
01:03:01,200 --> 01:03:03,000
Speaker 6: it sounds, and I'm like, that is kind of annoying

1295
01:03:03,040 --> 01:03:05,320
Speaker 6: saying Auntie all the time. But I have like, like

1296
01:03:05,400 --> 01:03:06,200
Speaker 6: my Auntie Kelly.

1297
01:03:06,280 --> 01:03:09,160
Speaker 7: This is just I don't know, American.

1298
01:03:09,280 --> 01:03:12,320
Speaker 6: What are you? You should ask the You should ask

1299
01:03:12,320 --> 01:03:14,520
Speaker 6: my nieces and nephews who can barely speak.

1300
01:03:14,600 --> 01:03:17,080
Speaker 7: I think aunt is more American, and then aunt is

1301
01:03:17,080 --> 01:03:19,360
Speaker 7: typically more like, okay, Australian.

1302
01:03:19,520 --> 01:03:21,960
Speaker 3: Yeah, I'm gonna go to your littlest nephew and be like, yo,

1303
01:03:22,080 --> 01:03:22,960
Speaker 3: what's her name.

1304
01:03:24,560 --> 01:03:28,080
Speaker 6: That he's like three months old? By the way, her name?

1305
01:03:29,480 --> 01:03:31,960
Speaker 3: Come on, man, give me an answer, dude.

1306
01:03:32,800 --> 01:03:35,000
Speaker 2: I'm having family time with Angie's family.

1307
01:03:35,280 --> 01:03:38,640
Speaker 6: That's fun. This week, It'll be very fun. See all

1308
01:03:38,640 --> 01:03:43,000
Speaker 6: my nieces and nephews. One of my nephews he's turning one. Whoa,

1309
01:03:43,120 --> 01:03:45,400
Speaker 6: I know, it's crazy. We'll see what he calls you,

1310
01:03:45,760 --> 01:03:49,640
Speaker 6: I guess. So anyway, Auntie Alisa was there to wake

1311
01:03:49,640 --> 01:03:51,680
Speaker 6: me up to get breakfast with me. I had ten

1312
01:03:51,760 --> 01:03:54,080
Speaker 6: minutes to get dressed, be in the car and had

1313
01:03:54,120 --> 01:03:58,000
Speaker 6: to McDonald's. Alex and Barry were still asleep, and Conlin

1314
01:03:58,160 --> 01:04:00,840
Speaker 6: was wide awake in the car. My mom scolded me

1315
01:04:00,880 --> 01:04:03,200
Speaker 6: for wearing my clothes from the day before and shamed

1316
01:04:03,200 --> 01:04:06,560
Speaker 6: me for my behavior. Oh my god. I mostly tuned

1317
01:04:06,640 --> 01:04:08,960
Speaker 6: out my mom because I was tired and ready to

1318
01:04:08,960 --> 01:04:12,520
Speaker 6: celebrate my aunt's first born. For context, this is my

1319
01:04:12,560 --> 01:04:15,480
Speaker 6: aunt's rainbow baby, so this baby is meaningful to us.

1320
01:04:15,720 --> 01:04:18,120
Speaker 6: We get to McDonald's and I quickly order food because

1321
01:04:18,120 --> 01:04:20,080
Speaker 6: I still need to take a shower and pick out

1322
01:04:20,120 --> 01:04:22,560
Speaker 6: an outfit as well as do makeup. Everyone with us

1323
01:04:22,640 --> 01:04:26,440
Speaker 6: that morning was Auntie Lisa, Auntie Carly, Grandma, my mom,

1324
01:04:26,600 --> 01:04:31,120
Speaker 6: and Conlin. We all order food and Conlin starts crying

1325
01:04:31,200 --> 01:04:35,640
Speaker 6: loudly because she wants to play on the indoor playground.

1326
01:04:35,840 --> 01:04:38,640
Speaker 6: So my grandma says, oh, pee, go watch your cousin

1327
01:04:38,680 --> 01:04:40,840
Speaker 6: in the playground and this time be nice to her.

1328
01:04:41,400 --> 01:04:43,600
Speaker 6: So I follow my cousin into the playplace just to

1329
01:04:43,680 --> 01:04:46,800
Speaker 6: stand there. I can't enter the playground because I'm too tall.

1330
01:04:47,200 --> 01:04:49,800
Speaker 6: My cousin starts throwing a tantrum because I won't get

1331
01:04:50,160 --> 01:04:53,000
Speaker 6: on the steps and chase after her. She scatters off

1332
01:04:53,000 --> 01:04:55,400
Speaker 6: somewhere into the playground, and my mom scolds me for

1333
01:04:55,480 --> 01:04:58,160
Speaker 6: losing her. Right before we eat Girl, we get the food,

1334
01:04:58,320 --> 01:05:01,240
Speaker 6: and suddenly my cousin is dea from the playground and

1335
01:05:01,320 --> 01:05:04,080
Speaker 6: sprinting towards the food just to sit and complain because

1336
01:05:04,080 --> 01:05:06,000
Speaker 6: she doesn't like the food that she got. Well, that's

1337
01:05:06,040 --> 01:05:09,080
Speaker 6: six year olds for you. Then she started crying because

1338
01:05:09,120 --> 01:05:12,560
Speaker 6: she's hungry and doesn't have any food, So her mom

1339
01:05:12,720 --> 01:05:15,960
Speaker 6: gets up and orders more food, while Conlin smiles on

1340
01:05:16,080 --> 01:05:18,680
Speaker 6: me and runs back into the playground. By the time

1341
01:05:18,720 --> 01:05:23,040
Speaker 6: that Aunti Lisa's back, Conlin isn't hungry anymore. Within that timeframe,

1342
01:05:23,160 --> 01:05:25,480
Speaker 6: my mom talks to me about how I broke our

1343
01:05:25,520 --> 01:05:28,120
Speaker 6: side gate and how I owe her money. This is

1344
01:05:28,240 --> 01:05:31,200
Speaker 6: right after she took my one hundred dollars to transfer

1345
01:05:31,200 --> 01:05:35,200
Speaker 6: it into my bank account. Before we left, Barry called

1346
01:05:35,240 --> 01:05:38,920
Speaker 6: Aunti Lisa from his iPad demanding food. He's a throwing

1347
01:05:38,960 --> 01:05:43,120
Speaker 6: around demand such as bring me pancakes right now, or no,

1348
01:05:43,320 --> 01:05:45,200
Speaker 6: I don't want milk, I want orange juice.

1349
01:05:45,280 --> 01:05:45,360
Speaker 5: No.

1350
01:05:45,840 --> 01:05:48,240
Speaker 6: My grandma had to jump in telling him to watch

1351
01:05:48,240 --> 01:05:50,840
Speaker 6: his tone. Eventually, we get in the car and leave

1352
01:05:51,480 --> 01:05:53,600
Speaker 6: or two leaf My mom stayed back to grab the

1353
01:05:53,640 --> 01:05:56,760
Speaker 6: cake and salad. But by the time we got halfway there,

1354
01:05:56,800 --> 01:06:00,240
Speaker 6: I checked my bank account and the money hadn't been transferred.

1355
01:06:00,440 --> 01:06:03,240
Speaker 6: When I mentioned it to my aunt's and grandma, they said,

1356
01:06:03,600 --> 01:06:05,960
Speaker 6: looks like your mom stole your money again. My mom

1357
01:06:06,160 --> 01:06:09,320
Speaker 6: eventually transferred all the one hundred dollars. So once I

1358
01:06:09,360 --> 01:06:12,120
Speaker 6: got home, my cousins Alex and Barry ate pizza for

1359
01:06:12,160 --> 01:06:14,720
Speaker 6: breakfast and their dad was getting out of the shower

1360
01:06:14,880 --> 01:06:17,520
Speaker 6: of my shower. I hopped into the shower just to

1361
01:06:17,520 --> 01:06:20,400
Speaker 6: find that they used my bars of soap. Both were

1362
01:06:20,480 --> 01:06:25,400
Speaker 6: significantly used. I was upset. I'm very specific with cleanliness

1363
01:06:25,400 --> 01:06:27,680
Speaker 6: and soap. I threw them both in the trash with

1364
01:06:27,760 --> 01:06:30,720
Speaker 6: gloves on and had to use two new bars. Well

1365
01:06:31,320 --> 01:06:33,760
Speaker 6: it's a little excessive, but.

1366
01:06:33,560 --> 01:06:36,840
Speaker 7: Maybe maybe we don't know. There could be some sort

1367
01:06:36,880 --> 01:06:37,960
Speaker 7: of germophobia.

1368
01:06:38,040 --> 01:06:41,360
Speaker 6: Sure, sure it could be reason it was so little Ryley,

1369
01:06:41,360 --> 01:06:43,760
Speaker 6: could you be a dear and love maim?

1370
01:06:43,960 --> 01:06:49,320
Speaker 7: But personally, personally, I wrestling mom says, who shares bar soap? Honestly,

1371
01:06:50,200 --> 01:06:53,360
Speaker 7: I don't really feel that weird about sharing bar soap.

1372
01:06:53,360 --> 01:06:54,800
Speaker 7: I mean you should, like as long as you're not

1373
01:06:54,840 --> 01:06:58,720
Speaker 7: like usually when I use bar soap it's like a lather, yeah,

1374
01:06:58,840 --> 01:07:01,080
Speaker 7: or like I use a like I have, like a

1375
01:07:01,120 --> 01:07:02,840
Speaker 7: the African Net thing.

1376
01:07:02,880 --> 01:07:05,800
Speaker 6: Like alofa kind of thing. Yeah. That so I actually

1377
01:07:05,840 --> 01:07:08,280
Speaker 6: don't really feel that weird about sharing bar soape, right,

1378
01:07:08,360 --> 01:07:10,000
Speaker 6: But yeah, I guess I guess I would understand, like

1379
01:07:10,040 --> 01:07:12,360
Speaker 6: if it's someone, if it's some like older man that

1380
01:07:12,520 --> 01:07:15,240
Speaker 6: you like, sure, if you don't know family and they're

1381
01:07:15,280 --> 01:07:17,400
Speaker 6: like rubbing it directly on you or you don't know,

1382
01:07:17,720 --> 01:07:19,160
Speaker 6: then like, yeah, I get.

1383
01:07:21,000 --> 01:07:23,280
Speaker 7: So much of it, Like yeah, but like I wouldn't

1384
01:07:23,320 --> 01:07:24,440
Speaker 7: wait it was that it was an old man.

1385
01:07:24,480 --> 01:07:25,920
Speaker 6: I thought it was it was a man. Oh I

1386
01:07:25,920 --> 01:07:28,160
Speaker 6: thought it was a kid. It was No, it was

1387
01:07:28,960 --> 01:07:31,640
Speaker 6: their cousin. It was their uncle. Is their cousin's dad,

1388
01:07:32,120 --> 01:07:35,480
Speaker 6: Oh yeah, well she knows him. No, Well, I mean

1389
01:07:35,520 --> 01:07:38,880
Speaker 6: I guess, but still it was like my uncle if

1390
01:07:38,880 --> 01:07:42,080
Speaker 6: my uncle, well, no strangers are in her in their house. Honestly,

1391
01:07:42,120 --> 01:07:45,720
Speaker 6: even if I guess it's a gender fluid, I forget.

1392
01:07:45,920 --> 01:07:48,960
Speaker 6: But I'm not pronouns so we didn't get pronounced. We

1393
01:07:49,000 --> 01:07:51,400
Speaker 6: did not get pronounced. Oh, he's got gender fluid. I

1394
01:07:51,440 --> 01:07:53,960
Speaker 6: had to leave because my aunt needed my bathroom to

1395
01:07:54,000 --> 01:07:58,320
Speaker 6: do to do Conlin's hair. Thankfully, I was done getting dressed,

1396
01:07:58,320 --> 01:08:00,160
Speaker 6: but I needed to do my makeup, so I had

1397
01:08:00,200 --> 01:08:03,000
Speaker 6: to go downstairs to my parents' room. I actually met

1398
01:08:03,000 --> 01:08:06,560
Speaker 6: Auntie Bay, Auntie Bee's future mother in law, for the

1399
01:08:06,600 --> 01:08:09,640
Speaker 6: first time, and she seems kind, even gives me compliments

1400
01:08:09,640 --> 01:08:12,560
Speaker 6: on my outfit and eyes. I walked into my parents'

1401
01:08:12,640 --> 01:08:15,560
Speaker 6: room feeling good. As soon as I entered my parents' bathroom,

1402
01:08:15,680 --> 01:08:18,040
Speaker 6: my mom said my shirt was ugly and then maybe

1403
01:08:18,120 --> 01:08:22,320
Speaker 6: change shirts cool. Then my mom said, rudely, don't put

1404
01:08:22,360 --> 01:08:25,800
Speaker 6: all that makeup on, otherwise you'll look trashy. So I

1405
01:08:25,840 --> 01:08:28,800
Speaker 6: altered my makeup to So I altered my makeup look

1406
01:08:28,920 --> 01:08:30,960
Speaker 6: to make my mom happy. By the time I finished

1407
01:08:31,000 --> 01:08:34,320
Speaker 6: getting ready, the party was just starting. Conlin asked if

1408
01:08:34,320 --> 01:08:37,320
Speaker 6: she could have some if she could have a cupcake, and,

1409
01:08:37,360 --> 01:08:40,000
Speaker 6: of course, as my mom would do for her favorite

1410
01:08:40,080 --> 01:08:43,000
Speaker 6: niece at the time, she gave my cousin a cupcake

1411
01:08:43,120 --> 01:08:47,200
Speaker 6: for context. There were three towers of ten cupcakes and

1412
01:08:47,360 --> 01:08:50,800
Speaker 6: a cake. About forty people showed up. Within twenty to

1413
01:08:50,840 --> 01:08:55,920
Speaker 6: thirty minutes. Conlin ate a whole tower of cupcakes started

1414
01:08:55,960 --> 01:08:59,000
Speaker 6: eating the cupcakes on the second tower. When my dad noticed,

1415
01:08:59,000 --> 01:09:02,120
Speaker 6: he told my cousin's no more cupcakes. Conlin started to

1416
01:09:02,200 --> 01:09:05,719
Speaker 6: drink a bunch of sprite instead. I'm talking a two

1417
01:09:05,880 --> 01:09:09,599
Speaker 6: leater bottless frite. Me and Alex decided to play roadblocks together.

1418
01:09:10,040 --> 01:09:13,280
Speaker 6: Barry asked to join, and we said yes when we asked.

1419
01:09:13,720 --> 01:09:16,040
Speaker 6: When we asked Conlin to join us, she said no.

1420
01:09:16,800 --> 01:09:18,960
Speaker 6: We were playing for a few minutes when I saw

1421
01:09:19,040 --> 01:09:22,200
Speaker 6: Conlin start to steal two cupcakes from the second cupcake tower.

1422
01:09:22,640 --> 01:09:24,559
Speaker 6: I went over to her, got down to her level

1423
01:09:24,600 --> 01:09:27,080
Speaker 6: and said, Conlin, did you hear what my dad said

1424
01:09:27,080 --> 01:09:30,360
Speaker 6: to you earlier? He said, no more cupcakes, Let's wait

1425
01:09:30,400 --> 01:09:33,360
Speaker 6: for cake. Okay, there won't be enough for everyone else

1426
01:09:33,400 --> 01:09:37,320
Speaker 6: at the party. Well, Conlin didn't like being told no,

1427
01:09:37,880 --> 01:09:40,800
Speaker 6: so she placed the cupcakes down, and as soon as

1428
01:09:40,880 --> 01:09:44,960
Speaker 6: I sat down, she started crying. She cried so loudly

1429
01:09:45,000 --> 01:09:48,960
Speaker 6: that everyone came running from the other room. My Grandma's

1430
01:09:48,960 --> 01:09:51,960
Speaker 6: first response was, now, what did you three do to Conlin?

1431
01:09:52,560 --> 01:09:54,599
Speaker 6: As soon as I got up to explain, I said,

1432
01:09:54,960 --> 01:09:57,559
Speaker 6: my dad said no more cupcakes to us, and Conlin

1433
01:09:57,640 --> 01:10:00,560
Speaker 6: had gotten up to take a cupcake, and before I

1434
01:10:00,560 --> 01:10:04,080
Speaker 6: could finish, my grandma cut me off. She loudly said,

1435
01:10:04,120 --> 01:10:06,320
Speaker 6: in front of the whole front of all the guests,

1436
01:10:06,600 --> 01:10:09,559
Speaker 6: so you took the cupcakes out of your cousin's hand

1437
01:10:09,600 --> 01:10:10,679
Speaker 6: and put it back.

1438
01:10:10,920 --> 01:10:14,120
Speaker 7: Well, one, no, but even if she had done that, Yeah,

1439
01:10:14,160 --> 01:10:15,439
Speaker 7: it would have been a good thing.

1440
01:10:15,520 --> 01:10:17,280
Speaker 1: This kid's have like twenty cupcakes.

1441
01:10:17,360 --> 01:10:20,080
Speaker 6: Yes, Jesus, my parents sack.

1442
01:10:20,360 --> 01:10:20,680
Speaker 2: I know.

1443
01:10:21,040 --> 01:10:23,960
Speaker 6: I was embarrassed and started defending myself by saying no,

1444
01:10:24,080 --> 01:10:25,680
Speaker 6: I told her to put it back and explain that

1445
01:10:25,720 --> 01:10:27,519
Speaker 6: we can wait for Kate. My mom came to my

1446
01:10:27,560 --> 01:10:30,400
Speaker 6: defense and even started arguing with my grandma about how

1447
01:10:30,439 --> 01:10:33,400
Speaker 6: my cousin didn't listen or doesn't listen. My grandma didn't

1448
01:10:33,439 --> 01:10:36,479
Speaker 6: apologize to me, and instead gave my cousin another cupcake.

1449
01:10:36,600 --> 01:10:39,840
Speaker 6: She smirked, I'm throwing a cupcake at someone. Yeah, now

1450
01:10:39,880 --> 01:10:43,400
Speaker 6: we go, I'm going side, And then.

1451
01:10:43,280 --> 01:10:48,280
Speaker 7: Everyone grabs spaghetti, grabs a food, niper cupcake at grandma.

1452
01:10:48,560 --> 01:10:51,639
Speaker 6: Boom, right people right here. People just start grabbing food

1453
01:10:51,680 --> 01:10:54,240
Speaker 6: that didn't even know was there. She got like a

1454
01:10:54,240 --> 01:10:57,080
Speaker 6: full steak and like, yeah, spaghetti, I've got, I've got

1455
01:10:57,080 --> 01:11:03,959
Speaker 6: master a spoon, Yeah exactly, potato guns Yeah, yeah, exactly exactly.

1456
01:11:04,120 --> 01:11:07,040
Speaker 6: You're done. Conlin then started throwing a tantrum because we

1457
01:11:07,120 --> 01:11:09,559
Speaker 6: played rope Blocks without her and wouldn't let her join.

1458
01:11:09,640 --> 01:11:11,439
Speaker 6: We explained that she has to wait for us all

1459
01:11:11,439 --> 01:11:14,080
Speaker 6: to leave because the game won't let her join. We

1460
01:11:14,160 --> 01:11:16,120
Speaker 6: just ignored her until we were ready to let her

1461
01:11:16,200 --> 01:11:19,519
Speaker 6: join us, but by then she started playing dressed to impress.

1462
01:11:20,240 --> 01:11:24,200
Speaker 6: Within an hour or two, Alex and Barry started fighting great.

1463
01:11:24,360 --> 01:11:28,519
Speaker 6: I think Alex punched Barry. I think Alex hit Berry,

1464
01:11:28,680 --> 01:11:33,200
Speaker 6: so Barry was crying. Soon after, it was cake time.

1465
01:11:33,880 --> 01:11:37,479
Speaker 6: Codlin just wanted more cupcakes, but fell asleep on the couch.

1466
01:11:37,600 --> 01:11:41,679
Speaker 6: Everyone wanted to take photos with Auntie Bay and the cake.

1467
01:11:42,160 --> 01:11:45,120
Speaker 6: It was themed Wilderness with animals all over the cake.

1468
01:11:45,479 --> 01:11:48,080
Speaker 6: Because my aunt was due a few weeks later, everyone

1469
01:11:48,160 --> 01:11:50,040
Speaker 6: made sure to get a photo of her and her

1470
01:11:50,080 --> 01:11:53,839
Speaker 6: bump and the cake. Auntie Alissa got tired of waiting

1471
01:11:53,960 --> 01:11:56,320
Speaker 6: after getting her photo with the cake and proceeded to

1472
01:11:56,320 --> 01:11:58,559
Speaker 6: cut the cake. Auntie Lissa took the knife out of

1473
01:11:58,560 --> 01:12:01,960
Speaker 6: Auntie Bee's hands and cut the cake to serve herself

1474
01:12:02,000 --> 01:12:05,680
Speaker 6: and others cutting the photos short. I felt bad. It's

1475
01:12:05,720 --> 01:12:08,120
Speaker 6: a day about Auntie Bee and her soon to be

1476
01:12:08,240 --> 01:12:10,960
Speaker 6: born daughter, and everyone around her was making parts of

1477
01:12:11,000 --> 01:12:14,320
Speaker 6: it about themselves. Eventually, it's present time and me and

1478
01:12:14,360 --> 01:12:18,840
Speaker 6: my grandma are sitting together. Cousin Conlin is getting rocked

1479
01:12:18,880 --> 01:12:21,479
Speaker 6: by Grandma because she's tired. I get up to get

1480
01:12:21,520 --> 01:12:25,080
Speaker 6: a drink and accidentally woke up Conlin, who started crying loudly.

1481
01:12:25,720 --> 01:12:28,120
Speaker 6: Conlin had wet herself in her sleep, and me and

1482
01:12:28,160 --> 01:12:30,200
Speaker 6: my grandma didn't even notice until they got up. She

1483
01:12:30,320 --> 01:12:33,280
Speaker 6: had wet. She was wet from the back of the

1484
01:12:33,320 --> 01:12:36,479
Speaker 6: couch and it had slowly spread to the front of

1485
01:12:36,479 --> 01:12:39,280
Speaker 6: the couch. Oh, my aunt stopped opening gifts so that

1486
01:12:39,360 --> 01:12:41,200
Speaker 6: my cousin could get changed. And there is a little

1487
01:12:41,200 --> 01:12:43,880
Speaker 6: bit more to the story. But family sucks. I'm exhausted

1488
01:12:43,960 --> 01:12:47,320
Speaker 6: just reading all of Wow, I babysit and Babysa had

1489
01:12:47,320 --> 01:12:49,519
Speaker 6: a lot of kids, Yeah, and that baby's had a

1490
01:12:49,560 --> 01:12:52,559
Speaker 6: lot of crazy kids. Yeah. These kids take the cupcake.

1491
01:12:53,640 --> 01:12:57,000
Speaker 6: Yeah they steal quite a yeah, quite a lot of them. Yeah,

1492
01:12:57,000 --> 01:13:00,120
Speaker 6: I think the people the parents are not doing any

1493
01:13:00,439 --> 01:13:03,200
Speaker 6: because it's also just the grandma and yeah, that's like

1494
01:13:03,280 --> 01:13:03,800
Speaker 6: doing things.

1495
01:13:03,800 --> 01:13:07,759
Speaker 7: It's not even like uh the Karens. No, the parents

1496
01:13:07,760 --> 01:13:11,120
Speaker 7: are am I A doing something. Grandma's the only one

1497
01:13:11,160 --> 01:13:14,960
Speaker 7: involved and she's making more trouble. Yeah, well he's the

1498
01:13:15,000 --> 01:13:16,919
Speaker 7: only one trying to parent these kids. My goodness.

1499
01:13:16,920 --> 01:13:20,759
Speaker 6: Well maybe the grandma got peed on from theb So

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01:13:20,840 --> 01:13:22,800
Speaker 6: by the time my grandma got back, there were a

1501
01:13:22,800 --> 01:13:25,840
Speaker 6: few more gifts and Conlin started crying again. She wanted

1502
01:13:25,880 --> 01:13:28,360
Speaker 6: to open presents too, and was upset seeing that there

1503
01:13:28,360 --> 01:13:32,719
Speaker 6: weren't any presents for her. So Auntie b told Conlin

1504
01:13:32,800 --> 01:13:35,400
Speaker 6: to come help her open presence and tears were gone immediately.

1505
01:13:36,040 --> 01:13:39,320
Speaker 6: It was such a long day. I also don't recall

1506
01:13:39,360 --> 01:13:41,840
Speaker 6: when this was mentioned, but someone from my side of

1507
01:13:41,840 --> 01:13:44,000
Speaker 6: the family at some point in the party made a

1508
01:13:44,040 --> 01:13:48,960
Speaker 6: comment about wondering about the baby's appearance, making references to race. Oh.

1509
01:13:49,200 --> 01:13:51,240
Speaker 6: I don't recall who, but it was definitely one of

1510
01:13:51,240 --> 01:13:54,680
Speaker 6: the aunts. For context, my family is black and Auntiebe's

1511
01:13:54,720 --> 01:13:58,360
Speaker 6: fiance is white. The day was a mix of family

1512
01:13:58,439 --> 01:14:02,360
Speaker 6: dynamics and chaos. Auntie Harley is currently pregnant and her

1513
01:14:02,439 --> 01:14:06,000
Speaker 6: baby shower is coming up soon. This time my family

1514
01:14:06,040 --> 01:14:08,960
Speaker 6: isn't hosting, but I know there will be challenges. At

1515
01:14:09,040 --> 01:14:11,080
Speaker 6: least now I have a better understanding of how to

1516
01:14:11,120 --> 01:14:14,040
Speaker 6: handle these situations and set boundaries when needed. And that's

1517
01:14:14,080 --> 01:14:14,840
Speaker 6: the anavesteroy.

1518
01:14:14,880 --> 01:14:17,400
Speaker 7: But I need to like go limited contact once you

1519
01:14:17,520 --> 01:14:18,960
Speaker 7: turn eighteen, honestly.

1520
01:14:18,760 --> 01:14:24,200
Speaker 6: Dude, Yeah, oh my god, that was crazy. Ai yai

1521
01:14:24,360 --> 01:14:28,439
Speaker 6: yai yai yai. I mean, kids are exhausting. I'm the

1522
01:14:28,479 --> 01:14:31,439
Speaker 6: youngest of all my siblings and all my cousins, so

1523
01:14:31,479 --> 01:14:34,120
Speaker 6: I never had to deal with like annoying younger people

1524
01:14:34,280 --> 01:14:37,640
Speaker 6: around who I was the annoying younger person. So I

1525
01:14:38,120 --> 01:14:40,200
Speaker 6: feel like from what it seems like, it's like that

1526
01:14:40,280 --> 01:14:44,040
Speaker 6: seems like how it just must be with children like

1527
01:14:44,080 --> 01:14:47,400
Speaker 6: that around, And it's annoying because the same people that

1528
01:14:47,439 --> 01:14:49,639
Speaker 6: are parenting you are parenting them. And even though there's

1529
01:14:49,760 --> 01:14:52,479
Speaker 6: a huge age difference, it's still like you see the

1530
01:14:53,360 --> 01:14:58,519
Speaker 6: you know, the inequality of I don't know that behavior,

1531
01:14:58,600 --> 01:15:00,000
Speaker 6: and so that must be very frustrated.

1532
01:15:00,439 --> 01:15:02,639
Speaker 7: Yeah, I mean, I'm kind of middle of the road

1533
01:15:02,680 --> 01:15:05,599
Speaker 7: in terms of ages, Like I have a lot older

1534
01:15:05,760 --> 01:15:08,240
Speaker 7: cousins and then I have cousins around my age, and

1535
01:15:08,240 --> 01:15:12,679
Speaker 7: then I have much younger cousins well like my cousins kids.

1536
01:15:12,920 --> 01:15:14,519
Speaker 6: Yeah, you know, basically my cousins.

1537
01:15:15,240 --> 01:15:18,479
Speaker 7: And I'm usually the babysitter, kind of the de facto

1538
01:15:18,760 --> 01:15:20,200
Speaker 7: just because I like to hang out with the kids

1539
01:15:20,280 --> 01:15:21,240
Speaker 7: and playing with them.

1540
01:15:21,320 --> 01:15:22,599
Speaker 6: You choose, yeah, like.

1541
01:15:22,560 --> 01:15:24,639
Speaker 7: Sam and I usually choose to go play with kids

1542
01:15:24,640 --> 01:15:28,799
Speaker 7: so nice and never had these experiences. Yeah yeah, yeah,

1543
01:15:28,800 --> 01:15:30,680
Speaker 7: like those kids are crazy, but like just because they

1544
01:15:30,680 --> 01:15:32,200
Speaker 7: want to keep playing and I'm like, oh my god,

1545
01:15:32,200 --> 01:15:32,720
Speaker 7: I'm so tired.

1546
01:15:32,720 --> 01:15:34,400
Speaker 6: I want to sit down, right or right, They're not

1547
01:15:34,479 --> 01:15:35,920
Speaker 6: like eating towers of cupcakes.