1 00:00:00,080 --> 00:00:04,520 Speaker 1: All right, bug, hold on ti Strawberry letter. All right, 2 00:00:04,600 --> 00:00:08,039 Speaker 1: subjects she's doing too much on the gram dis Steven Shirley. 3 00:00:08,280 --> 00:00:11,360 Speaker 1: I have an issue with my wife's image on social media. 4 00:00:11,520 --> 00:00:14,000 Speaker 1: My wife has an Instagram account, and I feel like 5 00:00:14,040 --> 00:00:17,240 Speaker 1: the pictures she posts are inappropriate for a married woman. 6 00:00:17,600 --> 00:00:20,759 Speaker 1: I don't have an Instagram account, so for a long 7 00:00:20,840 --> 00:00:24,120 Speaker 1: time I had no idea what she was posting on 8 00:00:24,160 --> 00:00:27,520 Speaker 1: her page. One day I asked to I asked her 9 00:00:27,560 --> 00:00:30,080 Speaker 1: to see her Instagram page, and as I was as 10 00:00:30,120 --> 00:00:32,920 Speaker 1: I started flipping through the pics, I was so shocked 11 00:00:32,960 --> 00:00:36,760 Speaker 1: by what I saw. My wife, the mother of our children, 12 00:00:37,000 --> 00:00:41,080 Speaker 1: had some very revealing pictures posted for the world to see. 13 00:00:41,440 --> 00:00:44,479 Speaker 1: I am from the old school of thought, where your 14 00:00:44,479 --> 00:00:47,040 Speaker 1: wife is supposed to keep covered in public and only 15 00:00:47,080 --> 00:00:50,040 Speaker 1: show those types of things to her husband. I told 16 00:00:50,080 --> 00:00:54,280 Speaker 1: her the classy women don't post swimsuit picks, butt picks 17 00:00:54,280 --> 00:00:58,480 Speaker 1: and suggestive poses on the internet. My wife told me 18 00:00:58,560 --> 00:01:00,960 Speaker 1: that every woman does it now and I should just 19 00:01:01,040 --> 00:01:05,200 Speaker 1: relax and stop being so oh fashioned. I honestly think 20 00:01:05,200 --> 00:01:08,240 Speaker 1: she uses Instagram to boost her ego. You should see 21 00:01:08,240 --> 00:01:11,440 Speaker 1: the comments she gets random guys and her girlfriends about 22 00:01:11,440 --> 00:01:14,160 Speaker 1: how she looks This really upsets me. I don't want 23 00:01:14,200 --> 00:01:16,640 Speaker 1: my wife showing the world the special things that are 24 00:01:16,680 --> 00:01:18,520 Speaker 1: from my eyes only. How do I get her to 25 00:01:18,600 --> 00:01:21,280 Speaker 1: understand that the pictures are not appropriate? Or should I 26 00:01:21,360 --> 00:01:24,360 Speaker 1: just loosen up? You know what? I'm in total agreement 27 00:01:24,400 --> 00:01:27,360 Speaker 1: with you. Husband. You have the right to feel the 28 00:01:27,360 --> 00:01:31,080 Speaker 1: way you feel about about your wife showing her stuff 29 00:01:31,120 --> 00:01:33,200 Speaker 1: for the world to see. As you say on social media, 30 00:01:33,480 --> 00:01:36,160 Speaker 1: I don't think it's appropriate either. I mean, in a second, 31 00:01:36,200 --> 00:01:40,039 Speaker 1: in any self respecting married or even single woman for 32 00:01:40,080 --> 00:01:44,200 Speaker 1: that matter, should refrain from that type of behavior. Is 33 00:01:44,200 --> 00:01:48,920 Speaker 1: it gonna happen? Probably not, But I think any husband 34 00:01:49,000 --> 00:01:52,440 Speaker 1: or real man is going to want his wife to 35 00:01:52,480 --> 00:01:56,240 Speaker 1: stop it because it looks like the wife is inviting 36 00:01:56,360 --> 00:01:59,240 Speaker 1: other men to come check her out, to see her goods, 37 00:01:59,360 --> 00:02:02,360 Speaker 1: you know, and then you know, men are gonna think 38 00:02:02,360 --> 00:02:05,840 Speaker 1: they have a chance with you, you know, of getting something. 39 00:02:06,240 --> 00:02:08,440 Speaker 1: You know, That's what it looks like when you post 40 00:02:08,480 --> 00:02:10,400 Speaker 1: pictures like that. I just think you should tell your 41 00:02:10,400 --> 00:02:13,080 Speaker 1: wife that she's a beautiful, sexy woman. Helped build her 42 00:02:13,080 --> 00:02:16,600 Speaker 1: self confidence, her self esteem because maybe she is lacking 43 00:02:16,880 --> 00:02:20,200 Speaker 1: in that department, and just because you see other women 44 00:02:20,280 --> 00:02:21,919 Speaker 1: do it, it doesn't mean you could do it. There's 45 00:02:21,919 --> 00:02:25,040 Speaker 1: a way to post beautiful pictures on the site if 46 00:02:25,080 --> 00:02:27,400 Speaker 1: you want to do that, classy pictures, like you say, 47 00:02:27,680 --> 00:02:29,880 Speaker 1: you don't have to be on the web showing your 48 00:02:29,960 --> 00:02:32,640 Speaker 1: bud and all of that. You're someone's wife. Come on, 49 00:02:32,800 --> 00:02:35,400 Speaker 1: and you have children. Do you want your children to 50 00:02:35,440 --> 00:02:37,919 Speaker 1: follow in your example? I don't think you do, so 51 00:02:38,040 --> 00:02:44,280 Speaker 1: you should cut this out right now. Steve totally disagree 52 00:02:44,320 --> 00:02:48,480 Speaker 1: with you, because this why this guy wrote this letter, 53 00:02:48,520 --> 00:02:51,720 Speaker 1: and if you listen to him carefully, there's some red 54 00:02:52,240 --> 00:02:56,160 Speaker 1: flags that pop up in his letter. My wife has 55 00:02:56,200 --> 00:02:58,959 Speaker 1: an Instagram account. I feel like the pictures she posts 56 00:02:58,960 --> 00:03:03,560 Speaker 1: are inappropriate for a married woman. I don't have Instagram, 57 00:03:03,960 --> 00:03:05,679 Speaker 1: so for a long time I had no idea what 58 00:03:05,800 --> 00:03:07,919 Speaker 1: she was posting on her page. One day I asked 59 00:03:07,919 --> 00:03:10,680 Speaker 1: her to see her Instagram page. I started flipping through 60 00:03:10,720 --> 00:03:12,760 Speaker 1: the pics. I was so shocked by what I saw. 61 00:03:13,200 --> 00:03:15,839 Speaker 1: My wife, the mother of our children, has some very 62 00:03:15,840 --> 00:03:19,240 Speaker 1: revealing pictures posted for the world to see. Here is 63 00:03:19,280 --> 00:03:22,160 Speaker 1: the red flag. I am from the old school of thought, 64 00:03:23,120 --> 00:03:26,400 Speaker 1: where your wife is supposed to keep covered in public 65 00:03:26,880 --> 00:03:29,480 Speaker 1: and only show those types of things to her husband. 66 00:03:29,680 --> 00:03:31,880 Speaker 1: He said, he old school. When we come back, we're 67 00:03:31,880 --> 00:03:36,680 Speaker 1: gonna find out how old he is, How old is 68 00:03:36,760 --> 00:03:41,200 Speaker 1: old school, How revealing is the pictures she's sending it? 69 00:03:41,520 --> 00:03:44,640 Speaker 1: How is he the one determining what should be posted? 70 00:03:44,960 --> 00:03:48,000 Speaker 1: And why is she having to get attention from other 71 00:03:48,080 --> 00:03:51,920 Speaker 1: men in the first place? All of this when well 72 00:03:52,720 --> 00:03:55,920 Speaker 1: she doing too much on the gram. Now we went 73 00:03:55,920 --> 00:03:58,360 Speaker 1: over this this The married woman got an Instagram account, 74 00:03:58,400 --> 00:04:01,760 Speaker 1: He don't. He found out that she had one. She 75 00:04:01,840 --> 00:04:04,640 Speaker 1: saw a flipping through the pages. He discovered that he 76 00:04:04,680 --> 00:04:08,080 Speaker 1: thought that was shocked by what she saw. The mother 77 00:04:08,120 --> 00:04:10,720 Speaker 1: of our children has some very revealing posted for the 78 00:04:10,720 --> 00:04:15,160 Speaker 1: world to see. Here's where the red flags begin. I 79 00:04:15,280 --> 00:04:19,480 Speaker 1: am from the old school of thought, of thought where 80 00:04:19,480 --> 00:04:21,679 Speaker 1: our wife, where your wife is supposed to be covered 81 00:04:21,720 --> 00:04:24,360 Speaker 1: in public and only show those types of things to her. 82 00:04:24,440 --> 00:04:28,520 Speaker 1: Hust Now let's talk about from old school of thought. 83 00:04:29,800 --> 00:04:34,560 Speaker 1: Are you from an Arabic nation? M I don't know, 84 00:04:36,839 --> 00:04:40,239 Speaker 1: But if that's the case, you'd have a valid point 85 00:04:41,560 --> 00:04:46,520 Speaker 1: because that's their custom. This ain't your custom, bro, So 86 00:04:46,560 --> 00:04:49,360 Speaker 1: what you think is revealing may not be revealing all. 87 00:04:49,480 --> 00:04:58,200 Speaker 1: The woman probably ain't naked. She might have on swimsuit. Huh, 88 00:04:58,600 --> 00:05:01,280 Speaker 1: You are you. If you see a woman, you're gonna 89 00:05:01,279 --> 00:05:05,680 Speaker 1: see her, but you're now she ain't got her whole 90 00:05:05,720 --> 00:05:10,640 Speaker 1: but out naked. It's on Instagram. She then turned around 91 00:05:11,200 --> 00:05:14,359 Speaker 1: and look back over her shoulder at it. That's a 92 00:05:14,440 --> 00:05:18,640 Speaker 1: butt pick that look good. But let's talk to this. Wow, 93 00:05:19,720 --> 00:05:23,839 Speaker 1: why do you think she's doing it? She should? You 94 00:05:23,880 --> 00:05:26,479 Speaker 1: should see the comments she gets from random guys and 95 00:05:26,600 --> 00:05:31,000 Speaker 1: her girlfriends about how good she looks. Now, let's talk 96 00:05:31,000 --> 00:05:33,760 Speaker 1: about why she's putting it on the page anyway. Could 97 00:05:33,760 --> 00:05:36,280 Speaker 1: it be mister old school that you ain't paying your 98 00:05:36,279 --> 00:05:39,400 Speaker 1: wife no attention? Could it be mister old school that 99 00:05:39,480 --> 00:05:42,520 Speaker 1: you don't compliment your wife or how beautiful she is 100 00:05:42,560 --> 00:05:44,800 Speaker 1: because you probably think that all just between you and 101 00:05:44,880 --> 00:05:48,840 Speaker 1: her too. So maybe she's not feeling her femininity around 102 00:05:48,880 --> 00:05:50,880 Speaker 1: you no more because she didn't have them kids and 103 00:05:51,000 --> 00:05:54,360 Speaker 1: you old old ass school and you don't compliment your 104 00:05:54,360 --> 00:05:57,080 Speaker 1: wife no more. You don't tell her she beautiful because 105 00:05:57,080 --> 00:06:00,719 Speaker 1: you think that's just between you and her. So now 106 00:06:00,960 --> 00:06:05,159 Speaker 1: the woman needs attention that you're not giving her. She 107 00:06:05,200 --> 00:06:08,320 Speaker 1: ain't getting it from you, so now some other people 108 00:06:08,320 --> 00:06:12,400 Speaker 1: are complimenting her. I don't know, really how scantly dressed 109 00:06:12,480 --> 00:06:15,760 Speaker 1: your wife is, and I doubt that she's that scantly dressed. 110 00:06:16,839 --> 00:06:19,400 Speaker 1: It's just you don't like it. You're so old, but 111 00:06:19,480 --> 00:06:22,560 Speaker 1: you stuck in your ways, and now this woman trapped 112 00:06:23,279 --> 00:06:27,800 Speaker 1: in your life, the one you created for them. You 113 00:06:28,040 --> 00:06:34,240 Speaker 1: cannot determine for another person, especially a woman, what is 114 00:06:34,240 --> 00:06:38,440 Speaker 1: and what can't be. Now, you can have a discussion 115 00:06:38,480 --> 00:06:41,599 Speaker 1: with her and y'all can come to some conclusions, but 116 00:06:41,720 --> 00:06:44,800 Speaker 1: you can't just tell her what she can't do because 117 00:06:44,880 --> 00:06:50,800 Speaker 1: she doing it, and who are you? Let's see, she 118 00:06:50,960 --> 00:06:53,840 Speaker 1: not the only one making a mistake in this relationship. 119 00:06:54,400 --> 00:06:57,000 Speaker 1: I bet you you'd made a bunch of mistakes in 120 00:06:58,440 --> 00:07:00,320 Speaker 1: Shirley said something we would do. It be because she 121 00:07:00,360 --> 00:07:02,599 Speaker 1: has low self esteem and stuff like that. That could 122 00:07:02,720 --> 00:07:06,239 Speaker 1: be true, but you get low self esteem from people 123 00:07:06,320 --> 00:07:09,039 Speaker 1: not around you, not building you up and helping you 124 00:07:09,080 --> 00:07:14,000 Speaker 1: with your confidence, and that's your husband's job. So I 125 00:07:14,000 --> 00:07:17,000 Speaker 1: don't really see nothing wrong with it. I think the 126 00:07:17,040 --> 00:07:20,080 Speaker 1: real prominence letter and the fact that this man wrote 127 00:07:20,200 --> 00:07:24,760 Speaker 1: in it's something else going on with him. He think 128 00:07:24,840 --> 00:07:30,520 Speaker 1: it's inappropriate. He owed, see I like, yeah, can we 129 00:07:30,560 --> 00:07:38,280 Speaker 1: see the oh see? Fair? I mean that's that letter. 130 00:07:39,200 --> 00:07:41,560 Speaker 1: You have to go by what he said butt picks. 131 00:07:41,840 --> 00:07:48,120 Speaker 1: Did they sit in her accountany surely you got butt 132 00:07:48,120 --> 00:07:53,920 Speaker 1: picks on yours? Yes? You No, I do not. I'm 133 00:07:53,960 --> 00:07:57,520 Speaker 1: pulling your instagram right now. I don't have pis on there. 134 00:07:57,640 --> 00:07:59,720 Speaker 1: You ain't got a picture? Your button nowhere on him? 135 00:08:00,400 --> 00:08:04,000 Speaker 1: Do that you take a picture? You think your bud 136 00:08:04,040 --> 00:08:13,160 Speaker 1: ain't there? Huh my girl, Shirley. Right there, Look on 137 00:08:13,200 --> 00:08:17,440 Speaker 1: the second row. Look on the second row of Shirley's instagram. 138 00:08:17,920 --> 00:08:22,200 Speaker 1: Right now, two rolls down. What do you see, Tommy 139 00:08:22,520 --> 00:08:27,280 Speaker 1: Jed d. Brown is killed? And look at Jay looking 140 00:08:27,360 --> 00:08:33,240 Speaker 1: at it? Crazy? No, I'm not crazy, Shirley. What go 141 00:08:33,360 --> 00:08:36,280 Speaker 1: look at your instagram. I'm looking. I know what's on 142 00:08:36,320 --> 00:08:40,560 Speaker 1: my instagram, Steve. Okay, count from the left top one, two, three, 143 00:08:41,080 --> 00:08:44,840 Speaker 1: go back to the left. Five six pictures, second picture 144 00:08:45,080 --> 00:08:49,880 Speaker 1: on the rock now blue jeans. Come on, Tommy is 145 00:08:50,440 --> 00:08:57,079 Speaker 1: a butt shot? Guys, I'm walking away, That's all that is. 146 00:08:58,280 --> 00:09:02,000 Speaker 1: But is showing and look at Jay looking egg yeah 147 00:09:03,080 --> 00:09:12,600 Speaker 1: bottom Jesus blood shoes, But we make blood. Yeah, doll, 148 00:09:15,280 --> 00:09:20,520 Speaker 1: it was a dollar on the ground, Steve. But shots 149 00:09:20,559 --> 00:09:27,560 Speaker 1: are your actual but okay, yeah, okay, what is your point? 150 00:09:27,720 --> 00:09:30,319 Speaker 1: What is your point? Oh my god, she didn't drug 151 00:09:30,400 --> 00:09:33,120 Speaker 1: me into this. Oh no, they'll go a butt shot. 152 00:09:33,200 --> 00:09:35,080 Speaker 1: Oh my god. Now go down there and look at 153 00:09:35,080 --> 00:09:39,120 Speaker 1: the picture of her on my show. He is all right, Look, 154 00:09:39,200 --> 00:09:42,400 Speaker 1: we gotta get out of here. Email us or Instagram. 155 00:09:42,440 --> 00:09:45,240 Speaker 1: That's your thoughts. Go to go to my instagram at 156 00:09:45,320 --> 00:09:50,240 Speaker 1: my girls Shirley. Okay, yes, you're already there. You're listening 157 00:09:50,480 --> 00:09:52,360 Speaker 1: to Steve Harvey Morning Show.