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Standard message and data rates may apply. 11 00:00:28,320 --> 00:00:30,840 Speaker 2: All thanks to Live Nation. I want to know eight five, five, 12 00:00:30,920 --> 00:00:32,680 Speaker 2: five nine one one oh three five You can call 13 00:00:32,720 --> 00:00:35,159 Speaker 2: it text the same number either when you were a 14 00:00:35,280 --> 00:00:38,640 Speaker 2: kid or does your kid have an attachment to something 15 00:00:39,720 --> 00:00:43,760 Speaker 2: kind of ridiculous? I mean, I get you know, a 16 00:00:43,800 --> 00:00:47,360 Speaker 2: bear or like a blanket. You know that's kind of common, right, 17 00:00:47,560 --> 00:00:51,800 Speaker 2: But Calen's friend as a kid with an attachment too. 18 00:00:52,600 --> 00:00:56,800 Speaker 3: Yeah, so d literally literally so shout out to my 19 00:00:56,920 --> 00:01:00,440 Speaker 3: friend Ashley. She's an amazing mom, and she's really really 20 00:01:00,440 --> 00:01:02,880 Speaker 3: good at picking and choosing her battles, and sometimes it's 21 00:01:02,920 --> 00:01:05,319 Speaker 3: just not worth it, worth her mental health, worth her piece. 22 00:01:05,600 --> 00:01:07,039 Speaker 4: So they were out shopping, and I don't know if 23 00:01:07,040 --> 00:01:07,280 Speaker 4: they were. 24 00:01:07,319 --> 00:01:08,880 Speaker 3: I think they were at like a vintage shore, like 25 00:01:08,920 --> 00:01:11,840 Speaker 3: they were thrifting or something. And her daughter got very 26 00:01:11,880 --> 00:01:17,080 Speaker 3: attached to use so vintage a lingerie like Teddy okay, 27 00:01:17,480 --> 00:01:21,080 Speaker 3: and she keeps calling it her princess dress. Unfortunately, she 28 00:01:21,120 --> 00:01:23,280 Speaker 3: got very attached to it and she bought it for 29 00:01:23,319 --> 00:01:25,760 Speaker 3: her and now she runs her around Teddy. 30 00:01:26,120 --> 00:01:29,400 Speaker 4: Yeah. So also, like, why are we searching our lingerie? 31 00:01:29,440 --> 00:01:31,080 Speaker 1: I don't think I want to thrift? 32 00:01:31,280 --> 00:01:35,000 Speaker 3: Teddy correct like a little ninety and it's lace and 33 00:01:35,040 --> 00:01:35,600 Speaker 3: see you through. 34 00:01:35,800 --> 00:01:37,840 Speaker 4: And she's literally rocking it every day. 35 00:01:37,880 --> 00:01:39,600 Speaker 3: So every day I get videos and she's like there 36 00:01:39,640 --> 00:01:41,160 Speaker 3: she goes in her used lingerie. 37 00:01:41,160 --> 00:01:42,880 Speaker 4: But like I could not fight her. She was gonna 38 00:01:42,880 --> 00:01:43,520 Speaker 4: have a meltdown. 39 00:01:43,880 --> 00:01:46,320 Speaker 3: And so we wear the lingerie every day and maybe 40 00:01:46,360 --> 00:01:47,560 Speaker 3: it'll be a funny story later. 41 00:01:48,080 --> 00:01:50,520 Speaker 1: Wow, did you guys have any attachments anything? I had 42 00:01:50,520 --> 00:01:53,760 Speaker 1: a blanket until I was like twenty four, did you Yeah. 43 00:01:53,880 --> 00:01:57,400 Speaker 5: I had a barney, like a stuffed animal barney. Yeah, 44 00:01:57,480 --> 00:02:00,600 Speaker 5: now that I had to have. But and I had 45 00:02:00,600 --> 00:02:01,960 Speaker 5: a pacifier for a long time. 46 00:02:02,360 --> 00:02:02,760 Speaker 4: How long? 47 00:02:02,840 --> 00:02:05,160 Speaker 1: Yeah, like a couple of years ago. They took it away. 48 00:02:05,760 --> 00:02:08,080 Speaker 5: No, not that kind of weird stuff, but like, I 49 00:02:08,080 --> 00:02:10,520 Speaker 5: don't know. My parents just said I wanted it all 50 00:02:10,560 --> 00:02:10,919 Speaker 5: the time. 51 00:02:11,000 --> 00:02:14,080 Speaker 2: So did you, Paulina, I feel like you would have 52 00:02:14,080 --> 00:02:15,520 Speaker 2: had an attachment to something. 53 00:02:15,480 --> 00:02:16,360 Speaker 4: Rough hot dogs. 54 00:02:16,680 --> 00:02:19,600 Speaker 1: Yeah, I did love my raw hot dog Mama Martin 55 00:02:19,639 --> 00:02:21,760 Speaker 1: Mack because these are questions I'd like to ask her 56 00:02:21,840 --> 00:02:23,800 Speaker 1: because I think she'd tell the truth undred percent. 57 00:02:23,840 --> 00:02:24,640 Speaker 4: I just don't remember. 58 00:02:24,680 --> 00:02:27,000 Speaker 6: I mean, my memory is terrible from yesterday, so I 59 00:02:27,000 --> 00:02:28,839 Speaker 6: don't know if I could remember thirty three years ago. 60 00:02:28,880 --> 00:02:30,440 Speaker 6: But I know that I used to have a doll too, 61 00:02:30,480 --> 00:02:32,600 Speaker 6: but she was like life size, and she was like 62 00:02:33,080 --> 00:02:35,160 Speaker 6: a cloth doll, like it wasn't like a big barbie 63 00:02:35,240 --> 00:02:38,160 Speaker 6: or something. But my daughter she goes through she's two, 64 00:02:38,520 --> 00:02:40,760 Speaker 6: and she goes through a new attachment every day. 65 00:02:40,840 --> 00:02:43,480 Speaker 4: So luckily it's not like the lingerie where it's just ongoing. 66 00:02:43,760 --> 00:02:45,560 Speaker 4: It's something new every day because we're in the what's 67 00:02:45,639 --> 00:02:47,240 Speaker 4: that phase? Okay, what's that? 68 00:02:47,280 --> 00:02:48,919 Speaker 6: And it was really cute after to just say, yesterday 69 00:02:48,960 --> 00:02:50,520 Speaker 6: she was asking me what her birthmark was. 70 00:02:50,520 --> 00:02:52,040 Speaker 4: She was pointing to it on her arm and she goes, 71 00:02:52,040 --> 00:02:52,880 Speaker 4: what's that, mommy? 72 00:02:53,160 --> 00:02:55,600 Speaker 6: It was really cute anyway, Yesterda's attachment was a zucchini 73 00:02:56,760 --> 00:02:59,200 Speaker 6: within that was cooking and she sits with me and 74 00:02:59,200 --> 00:03:00,000 Speaker 6: she grabbs zucchini. 75 00:03:00,240 --> 00:03:00,560 Speaker 4: What's that? 76 00:03:00,960 --> 00:03:02,720 Speaker 6: And I couldn't cut it? So she went to go 77 00:03:02,720 --> 00:03:04,520 Speaker 6: play with a zucchini. Okay, yep. 78 00:03:04,560 --> 00:03:06,280 Speaker 4: So it's probably somewhere in my living room, all those 79 00:03:06,280 --> 00:03:08,320 Speaker 4: toys and she wants to play with a zucchini. 80 00:03:08,440 --> 00:03:10,160 Speaker 5: Yeah, sometimes you just got to give it, like just 81 00:03:10,160 --> 00:03:12,160 Speaker 5: give up, like you know, a kid, take it were 82 00:03:12,240 --> 00:03:16,080 Speaker 5: your teddy, right, So. 83 00:03:16,120 --> 00:03:18,280 Speaker 1: Would like she grabbed a zucchini and she wouldn't let go. 84 00:03:18,400 --> 00:03:20,080 Speaker 6: She wouldn't like got go a bit. I'm like, mo, I'm like, 85 00:03:20,080 --> 00:03:22,160 Speaker 6: you know, baby, I'm gonna cut this whatever. Mom's gonna 86 00:03:22,200 --> 00:03:23,720 Speaker 6: do this, and I gotta make you know, dinner. And 87 00:03:23,760 --> 00:03:25,600 Speaker 6: she said no, and she would walk away, and she 88 00:03:25,639 --> 00:03:27,440 Speaker 6: took it to her little kitchen. She got her own 89 00:03:27,440 --> 00:03:30,400 Speaker 6: little set, and the zucchini just was there. I'm sure, 90 00:03:30,560 --> 00:03:32,680 Speaker 6: I'm sure it's still there. Like that's the part, that's 91 00:03:32,800 --> 00:03:36,120 Speaker 6: just she needed it for something. She was just playing 92 00:03:36,120 --> 00:03:37,120 Speaker 6: with a piece of zucchini. 93 00:03:37,200 --> 00:03:40,160 Speaker 3: My friend's son loves to clean, so he has they 94 00:03:40,160 --> 00:03:43,240 Speaker 3: got him a little vacuum that he vacuums everywhere. I 95 00:03:43,360 --> 00:03:45,280 Speaker 3: love that he's like a little duster and like he 96 00:03:45,320 --> 00:03:47,040 Speaker 3: actually cleans. 97 00:03:46,840 --> 00:03:48,360 Speaker 4: That's he looks like a little man. 98 00:03:48,600 --> 00:03:50,960 Speaker 2: Like if you're gonna get your kid like that kind 99 00:03:51,000 --> 00:03:53,040 Speaker 2: of stuff, yes, you know, it's like a kid wants 100 00:03:53,040 --> 00:03:54,680 Speaker 2: to pretend to vacuum, then you may as well get 101 00:03:54,720 --> 00:03:56,920 Speaker 2: one that works, you know what I mean. Like if 102 00:03:56,920 --> 00:03:58,880 Speaker 2: you're just gonna pretend to vacuum, I mean, let's plug 103 00:03:58,920 --> 00:03:59,320 Speaker 2: that thing in. 104 00:03:59,400 --> 00:03:59,760 Speaker 4: He doesn't. 105 00:03:59,800 --> 00:04:02,200 Speaker 2: Let's let's yeah, let's suck some stuff up with it, 106 00:04:02,320 --> 00:04:04,080 Speaker 2: you know what I mean? Like, Yeah, that's less work 107 00:04:04,080 --> 00:04:04,640 Speaker 2: I have to do. 108 00:04:06,040 --> 00:04:06,240 Speaker 1: Yeah. 109 00:04:06,440 --> 00:04:09,320 Speaker 2: Online, I was looking and it was stuff that people 110 00:04:09,320 --> 00:04:11,840 Speaker 2: found in their kids' rooms that they couldn't believe that 111 00:04:11,880 --> 00:04:15,839 Speaker 2: they had a dead raccoon in their kids room. 112 00:04:17,240 --> 00:04:19,919 Speaker 4: It's giving like Edgeen serial killer vibes. 113 00:04:19,760 --> 00:04:22,880 Speaker 2: Like a pentagram on a piece of paper with my 114 00:04:23,040 --> 00:04:28,520 Speaker 2: name scrolled next to it. That's not good. 115 00:04:28,640 --> 00:04:29,280 Speaker 1: Let me see here. 116 00:04:29,440 --> 00:04:31,719 Speaker 2: My daughter, for about six months became very attached to 117 00:04:31,839 --> 00:04:34,640 Speaker 2: a broccoli toy that was part of a produce set. 118 00:04:34,720 --> 00:04:36,840 Speaker 2: She carried it everywhere. She would hug it and kiss it. 119 00:04:37,240 --> 00:04:40,680 Speaker 2: We call it her emotional support broccoli. She still loves it, 120 00:04:40,880 --> 00:04:43,280 Speaker 2: but it sits in its produce basket. Now it's also 121 00:04:43,320 --> 00:04:45,240 Speaker 2: the reason that she eats green vege. Well, there you go, 122 00:04:45,640 --> 00:04:51,560 Speaker 2: that's a sweet story. Let me see here. I love 123 00:04:51,680 --> 00:04:54,120 Speaker 2: the feeling of my mom's satin nightgown. I used to 124 00:04:54,120 --> 00:04:57,279 Speaker 2: bring it to the store with me to the store. Yeah, 125 00:04:57,320 --> 00:04:58,720 Speaker 2: I still I'm with you. I want to know why 126 00:04:58,760 --> 00:05:01,240 Speaker 2: there's a thrift, Like why are we thrifting? 127 00:05:01,440 --> 00:05:02,039 Speaker 1: Lan Gerie? 128 00:05:03,200 --> 00:05:04,480 Speaker 4: Yeah, it's weird. 129 00:05:04,720 --> 00:05:07,720 Speaker 3: I don't know, but it's hysterical And she puts heels 130 00:05:07,720 --> 00:05:08,480 Speaker 3: on and walks run. 131 00:05:10,279 --> 00:05:12,239 Speaker 1: My kid wouldn't let go of a nickelback CD. 132 00:05:13,560 --> 00:05:13,839 Speaker 4: Rice. 133 00:05:14,000 --> 00:05:16,320 Speaker 2: My six year old son was hiding rice in his closet. 134 00:05:16,480 --> 00:05:20,640 Speaker 2: Sounds right, Hey, Ricky, how you doing pretty good? 135 00:05:20,680 --> 00:05:20,920 Speaker 7: Friend? 136 00:05:20,920 --> 00:05:22,000 Speaker 1: How about yourself doing all right? 137 00:05:22,080 --> 00:05:22,200 Speaker 4: Man? 138 00:05:22,360 --> 00:05:24,080 Speaker 1: This is your child that's obsessed with what. 139 00:05:25,760 --> 00:05:28,960 Speaker 7: Boxes? So every time we go to ald, he comes 140 00:05:28,960 --> 00:05:31,239 Speaker 7: home with a cart full of boxes. 141 00:05:32,080 --> 00:05:33,800 Speaker 1: Like where are the box like boxes? 142 00:05:33,920 --> 00:05:38,880 Speaker 7: What? Just empty boxes? If he builds four, he does 143 00:05:38,920 --> 00:05:41,679 Speaker 7: cut out. He does all kinds of like really cool 144 00:05:41,720 --> 00:05:43,680 Speaker 7: stuff with him. But he loves going to all the 145 00:05:43,960 --> 00:05:46,640 Speaker 7: and just taking out a car full of boxes. 146 00:05:46,680 --> 00:05:48,440 Speaker 1: All right, I mean, at least he's creative. 147 00:05:48,520 --> 00:05:51,839 Speaker 2: Maybe he'll become like an architecture, you know, the next Frankloid, right, 148 00:05:51,880 --> 00:05:53,520 Speaker 2: and you can make some money off this kid, you know, 149 00:05:55,120 --> 00:05:56,039 Speaker 2: Oh all right, Ricky. 150 00:05:56,080 --> 00:05:57,479 Speaker 1: Thanks. 151 00:05:57,880 --> 00:05:59,880 Speaker 2: I love when it call her wraps up their own segment, 152 00:06:00,080 --> 00:06:06,479 Speaker 2: you know, just all good. My little man carried this 153 00:06:06,520 --> 00:06:08,080 Speaker 2: is actually a friend of mine that texted this. My 154 00:06:08,120 --> 00:06:11,480 Speaker 2: little man carried this place Spatula around for like a year. 155 00:06:12,120 --> 00:06:14,640 Speaker 2: Whereas oh, yeah, there it is place Spatula. 156 00:06:14,880 --> 00:06:20,080 Speaker 1: Yeah, gotta gotta have it. You gotta gottah. Hey, Jamie, 157 00:06:20,120 --> 00:06:22,440 Speaker 1: how you doing, Hey good? 158 00:06:22,480 --> 00:06:23,320 Speaker 8: How are you hi? 159 00:06:23,680 --> 00:06:25,440 Speaker 1: So what is it that your kid wouldn't let go of. 160 00:06:27,279 --> 00:06:28,040 Speaker 4: For months? 161 00:06:28,080 --> 00:06:30,800 Speaker 8: He carried around, you know, like the brand Annie's. 162 00:06:31,720 --> 00:06:32,400 Speaker 1: He's obsessed. 163 00:06:32,480 --> 00:06:35,880 Speaker 8: He's obsessed, obsessed with Spidey and like his amazing friends 164 00:06:36,279 --> 00:06:40,120 Speaker 8: and they had a spidy like mac and cheese, and 165 00:06:40,240 --> 00:06:42,560 Speaker 8: he carried around a box of spidy mac and cheese 166 00:06:42,560 --> 00:06:44,920 Speaker 8: with him. And it had to be like the exact 167 00:06:44,920 --> 00:06:48,000 Speaker 8: saying like beaten up box or he literally would like 168 00:06:48,080 --> 00:06:51,800 Speaker 8: scream wow everywhere, Like he brought it to school. He's 169 00:06:51,880 --> 00:06:54,039 Speaker 8: two and a half, but he like brought it to school. 170 00:06:54,200 --> 00:06:59,480 Speaker 8: He brought it to like the grocery store, I mean everywhere. 171 00:06:59,680 --> 00:07:02,320 Speaker 1: Wasn't us that the box or was it the full box? 172 00:07:02,960 --> 00:07:05,880 Speaker 8: Oh? No, it was full. 173 00:07:06,839 --> 00:07:07,880 Speaker 1: Had to have it everywhere. 174 00:07:10,000 --> 00:07:12,320 Speaker 8: His emotional support. Mac and cheese, that's what we used 175 00:07:12,320 --> 00:07:12,760 Speaker 8: to call it. 176 00:07:14,040 --> 00:07:16,600 Speaker 1: Fair enough, fair enough. Yeah, you find a picture, sent 177 00:07:16,720 --> 00:07:17,160 Speaker 1: it to us. 178 00:07:17,200 --> 00:07:17,480 Speaker 9: Please? 179 00:07:17,560 --> 00:07:18,480 Speaker 4: How did they decide? 180 00:07:18,600 --> 00:07:21,520 Speaker 1: I will thank you, Jamie, have a good day. Yeah, 181 00:07:21,600 --> 00:07:23,200 Speaker 1: you guys too, thank you for listening. 182 00:07:23,760 --> 00:07:26,000 Speaker 2: Right, Like, how do you become attached to a spatulo 183 00:07:26,120 --> 00:07:29,920 Speaker 2: or mac and cheese or whatever? Hey, Emily, Yeah, okay, 184 00:07:29,920 --> 00:07:31,960 Speaker 2: I'm gonna say your son is obsessed with vacuums. And 185 00:07:32,000 --> 00:07:33,600 Speaker 2: this is what we were talking about. Like, I hope 186 00:07:33,640 --> 00:07:35,880 Speaker 2: you got him a real like dison or something to 187 00:07:35,920 --> 00:07:36,520 Speaker 2: push around. 188 00:07:37,920 --> 00:07:40,400 Speaker 10: Oh, we have five vacuum cleaners at our house. 189 00:07:41,280 --> 00:07:44,440 Speaker 1: Where do you think this obsession came from? Obsessed with vacuums? 190 00:07:46,480 --> 00:07:49,640 Speaker 10: We literally have no idea. Like he started when he 191 00:07:49,800 --> 00:07:53,960 Speaker 10: was eighteen months old and now he's four and he's 192 00:07:54,000 --> 00:07:54,600 Speaker 10: still upset. 193 00:07:55,840 --> 00:07:59,800 Speaker 2: Interesting, okay, one, all right, Well, I mean of all things, 194 00:07:59,880 --> 00:08:01,520 Speaker 2: I guess you know, at some point maybe you could 195 00:08:01,560 --> 00:08:03,800 Speaker 2: get him to be obsessed with the lines of the 196 00:08:03,840 --> 00:08:06,400 Speaker 2: carpet and the you know, cleaning things, and then and 197 00:08:06,440 --> 00:08:07,160 Speaker 2: then it's useful. 198 00:08:09,440 --> 00:08:11,400 Speaker 10: Yeah, and even when we go to my friend's house. 199 00:08:11,400 --> 00:08:13,400 Speaker 10: He's always like, can I use their vacuum? 200 00:08:13,920 --> 00:08:15,720 Speaker 1: Oh that's amazing. 201 00:08:15,920 --> 00:08:16,760 Speaker 4: I'll show him right where. 202 00:08:17,120 --> 00:08:20,920 Speaker 1: It's so fun. Yeah, I don't know where that would 203 00:08:20,960 --> 00:08:21,320 Speaker 1: come from. 204 00:08:21,760 --> 00:08:22,360 Speaker 10: Everywhere. 205 00:08:22,440 --> 00:08:25,840 Speaker 1: Well, thank you, Emily. Have a good day you two. 206 00:08:26,480 --> 00:08:29,360 Speaker 1: Some of this stuff is this is stuff that people found, 207 00:08:29,880 --> 00:08:30,520 Speaker 1: Like this is. 208 00:08:30,440 --> 00:08:31,920 Speaker 4: A fly swatter. 209 00:08:32,040 --> 00:08:34,840 Speaker 5: Someone said, it's so odd because the kids know the 210 00:08:34,880 --> 00:08:38,200 Speaker 5: difference too, Like, say they lose that spatula, They're not 211 00:08:38,200 --> 00:08:39,760 Speaker 5: going to take a replacement spatula. 212 00:08:39,880 --> 00:08:42,080 Speaker 4: No, they're going to have a full meltdown there. They 213 00:08:42,160 --> 00:08:42,800 Speaker 4: know original. 214 00:08:42,880 --> 00:08:44,240 Speaker 1: Yeah, you can't watch the blanky. 215 00:08:44,360 --> 00:08:44,920 Speaker 4: You can't. 216 00:08:45,240 --> 00:08:46,680 Speaker 1: It's like, how do you know that? 217 00:08:46,880 --> 00:08:48,480 Speaker 2: My sister will love me for this? But she had 218 00:08:48,520 --> 00:08:51,880 Speaker 2: a little square blanket. It was probably like a foot 219 00:08:51,880 --> 00:08:54,080 Speaker 2: by a foot square, and it had a little tag 220 00:08:54,120 --> 00:08:55,880 Speaker 2: on the corner of it and she'd stick her finger 221 00:08:56,200 --> 00:08:57,480 Speaker 2: and then she'd put her finger in her. 222 00:08:57,400 --> 00:08:59,840 Speaker 1: Mouth when she was very little. Actually this was last year. 223 00:09:00,120 --> 00:09:03,480 Speaker 2: But because you like, we get all slobbered all over 224 00:09:03,520 --> 00:09:06,120 Speaker 2: this thing. It was called soggy and soggy had to 225 00:09:06,160 --> 00:09:08,040 Speaker 2: go everywhere, and it was this little pink blanket and 226 00:09:08,080 --> 00:09:11,839 Speaker 2: my mom had like ten soggies New ones like ready 227 00:09:11,960 --> 00:09:14,160 Speaker 2: to go in case this thing was ever lost. But 228 00:09:14,280 --> 00:09:16,000 Speaker 2: you know, the one that she liked the most was 229 00:09:16,000 --> 00:09:19,160 Speaker 2: the one that was super worn out, and she knew 230 00:09:19,360 --> 00:09:22,959 Speaker 2: like one time Soggy went missing and so we quickly 231 00:09:23,000 --> 00:09:24,800 Speaker 2: pull a fast one and then they were like off 232 00:09:24,840 --> 00:09:27,959 Speaker 2: brand soggyes. But like we couldn't use that because she 233 00:09:28,040 --> 00:09:29,880 Speaker 2: knew the off brand one. She's like, this is not, 234 00:09:30,080 --> 00:09:33,040 Speaker 2: you know, the whatever, This isn't the main brand blanket. 235 00:09:33,120 --> 00:09:33,920 Speaker 4: They know the difference. 236 00:09:34,000 --> 00:09:34,920 Speaker 1: Yeah, it was a. 237 00:09:34,679 --> 00:09:38,440 Speaker 2: Catastrophe, like it had to be the one or we 238 00:09:38,480 --> 00:09:39,840 Speaker 2: had a big problem. 239 00:09:40,080 --> 00:09:41,160 Speaker 1: Yeah, let me see. 240 00:09:42,640 --> 00:09:46,160 Speaker 2: My daughter carries around a creepy plastic Halloween rat. 241 00:09:46,600 --> 00:09:48,440 Speaker 11: Oh no, I. 242 00:09:50,880 --> 00:09:51,920 Speaker 4: Brought your kids watch. 243 00:09:53,840 --> 00:10:01,040 Speaker 1: That one. Something like that happens, you know, like something 244 00:10:01,040 --> 00:10:01,840 Speaker 1: Barros happens. 245 00:10:02,200 --> 00:10:05,440 Speaker 2: And then they're like, here's a gift certificate to come 246 00:10:05,440 --> 00:10:08,800 Speaker 2: back to this place this particularly. 247 00:10:08,280 --> 00:10:11,000 Speaker 1: Like oh get more hair, yes, Or they're like we'll 248 00:10:11,000 --> 00:10:15,320 Speaker 1: bring you another one food. Yeah, I don't know. 249 00:10:15,320 --> 00:10:17,640 Speaker 2: It's's like do I want like I had a bad experience, 250 00:10:17,640 --> 00:10:19,720 Speaker 2: Do I want more of that again? 251 00:10:19,880 --> 00:10:22,240 Speaker 1: Yeah? Running back, run it back exactly. 252 00:10:23,400 --> 00:10:27,280 Speaker 3: I'm I'm trying to like move past things easier. 253 00:10:27,760 --> 00:10:29,160 Speaker 1: These things really really good. 254 00:10:29,240 --> 00:10:29,839 Speaker 4: Do you like that? 255 00:10:30,080 --> 00:10:31,480 Speaker 1: That's really I'm so proud of you. 256 00:10:31,720 --> 00:10:34,079 Speaker 4: A little bit like more light on my loafers these days. 257 00:10:35,040 --> 00:10:42,440 Speaker 1: No, but you know show No said. Maybe maybe you're 258 00:10:42,440 --> 00:10:44,600 Speaker 1: a little lighter in the loafers now, I think. 259 00:10:44,480 --> 00:10:45,760 Speaker 4: So making an active effort. 260 00:10:46,720 --> 00:10:47,640 Speaker 1: Have you noticed it in me? 261 00:10:48,320 --> 00:10:50,040 Speaker 4: Listen? If something bad happens. 262 00:10:49,679 --> 00:10:52,400 Speaker 1: I don't skipping over there happens. 263 00:10:52,040 --> 00:10:53,360 Speaker 4: I go, hey, I haven't noticed. 264 00:10:53,880 --> 00:10:55,360 Speaker 1: You don't think I'm a middle you don't think i'm 265 00:10:55,400 --> 00:10:58,120 Speaker 1: a little bit I do act versus twenty twenty five. 266 00:10:58,559 --> 00:11:01,320 Speaker 5: Oh yeah, baby, we've yes, we are. We were in 267 00:11:01,320 --> 00:11:03,040 Speaker 5: the woods, yeah, out of the woods. 268 00:11:03,120 --> 00:11:05,400 Speaker 4: Yeah, we were in the trenches. I'm proud of you. 269 00:11:05,520 --> 00:11:07,520 Speaker 1: Somebody around here has to be high strung, and it's me. 270 00:11:08,000 --> 00:11:08,800 Speaker 4: I'm proud of you, you know. 271 00:11:10,080 --> 00:11:15,920 Speaker 1: Man, Hey, Kara, how you doing? Kiki? What are you 272 00:11:16,000 --> 00:11:16,599 Speaker 1: taking a picture on? 273 00:11:16,920 --> 00:11:18,000 Speaker 4: I'm doing the best I can. 274 00:11:18,080 --> 00:11:19,439 Speaker 1: Okay, what are you taking pictures of? 275 00:11:19,600 --> 00:11:22,360 Speaker 5: Somebody mess with my camera settings today? I'm very upset. 276 00:11:22,520 --> 00:11:24,800 Speaker 5: So she's fighting her life, Carol. 277 00:11:24,800 --> 00:11:26,560 Speaker 2: Why do they come in here and mess with our stuffle? 278 00:11:26,600 --> 00:11:28,679 Speaker 2: We're not here, you know. It's not nice of them. 279 00:11:28,720 --> 00:11:29,800 Speaker 2: And then we come in here at. 280 00:11:29,640 --> 00:11:31,280 Speaker 1: Five o'clock in the morning and we got to figure 281 00:11:31,280 --> 00:11:32,920 Speaker 1: out how to fix it. 282 00:11:33,080 --> 00:11:36,720 Speaker 2: Ridiculous. This place is a simulation. Kara, Hi, good morning, 283 00:11:36,760 --> 00:11:37,559 Speaker 2: Welcome to the show. 284 00:11:38,600 --> 00:11:39,560 Speaker 4: Thanks for having me. 285 00:11:40,200 --> 00:11:40,880 Speaker 1: What's going on? 286 00:11:41,040 --> 00:11:43,680 Speaker 2: I need to understand your relationship drama here because we 287 00:11:43,679 --> 00:11:44,920 Speaker 2: get a lot of emails, We get a lot of 288 00:11:44,880 --> 00:11:48,760 Speaker 2: the dms and stuff Fridshire Radio on Instagram, all the 289 00:11:48,760 --> 00:11:51,280 Speaker 2: different socials, Freatship radio dot com, and people want us 290 00:11:51,320 --> 00:11:53,920 Speaker 2: to take their situation on the air. They want validation. Okay, 291 00:11:53,920 --> 00:11:56,440 Speaker 2: that's fine, But what's going on with your boyfriend? 292 00:11:57,840 --> 00:12:02,280 Speaker 9: So we Jeff moved into after like two years of dating, 293 00:12:03,280 --> 00:12:06,480 Speaker 9: So that's exciting, yeah, or you know, I thought it was, 294 00:12:07,640 --> 00:12:12,160 Speaker 9: And I honestly like I felt like our relationship was 295 00:12:12,240 --> 00:12:15,760 Speaker 9: so perfect and then the second we started living together, 296 00:12:16,000 --> 00:12:17,960 Speaker 9: that's when like everything changed. 297 00:12:19,040 --> 00:12:21,800 Speaker 1: Okay, what started you change? 298 00:12:22,120 --> 00:12:22,400 Speaker 7: Well? 299 00:12:22,600 --> 00:12:27,199 Speaker 9: He like, I feel like he completely stopped trying, like instantly, 300 00:12:27,600 --> 00:12:30,480 Speaker 9: Like there was no more dates, no more cute texts. 301 00:12:30,160 --> 00:12:32,800 Speaker 4: Throughout the day. Like it just felt like all of 302 00:12:32,840 --> 00:12:35,840 Speaker 4: the romance is kind of gone. 303 00:12:36,320 --> 00:12:36,760 Speaker 5: In a way. 304 00:12:37,040 --> 00:12:42,520 Speaker 9: Okay, and like so yeah, I did talk to him 305 00:12:42,559 --> 00:12:46,400 Speaker 9: about this and he was like, oh but babe, like 306 00:12:46,679 --> 00:12:48,559 Speaker 9: we're just comfortable with each other now and. 307 00:12:48,520 --> 00:12:49,319 Speaker 4: Like it's a good thing. 308 00:12:49,360 --> 00:12:51,200 Speaker 9: It's a good thing. And he kept like trying to 309 00:12:51,240 --> 00:12:52,720 Speaker 9: tell me that this was a good thing. 310 00:12:52,960 --> 00:12:56,040 Speaker 2: I love people impersonate their significant other in the course 311 00:12:56,080 --> 00:12:58,120 Speaker 2: of a story. It always gets a little like a 312 00:12:58,120 --> 00:13:01,600 Speaker 2: little exasperated and a little like like from the stomach. 313 00:13:01,640 --> 00:13:03,280 Speaker 1: You know, it's like boom. 314 00:13:05,120 --> 00:13:05,200 Speaker 8: No. 315 00:13:05,280 --> 00:13:06,600 Speaker 1: But okay, so he's boom boob. 316 00:13:08,080 --> 00:13:10,600 Speaker 2: But so he's trying to justify He's like, hey, but 317 00:13:10,640 --> 00:13:12,680 Speaker 2: we hang out all the time now, like we lived together. 318 00:13:12,679 --> 00:13:14,880 Speaker 2: We see each other all the time. So he's sort 319 00:13:14,920 --> 00:13:16,959 Speaker 2: of not doing the thing like where he plans date 320 00:13:17,080 --> 00:13:19,240 Speaker 2: nights or is romantic or get you a gift or 321 00:13:19,240 --> 00:13:21,400 Speaker 2: buys you flowers or like that kind of stuff is 322 00:13:21,440 --> 00:13:22,320 Speaker 2: gone by the wayside. 323 00:13:22,360 --> 00:13:26,840 Speaker 9: You're saying yeah, because he's like claiming like, oh, like 324 00:13:26,880 --> 00:13:29,200 Speaker 9: why would why should I have to text you if 325 00:13:29,240 --> 00:13:31,160 Speaker 9: I'm going to see you at home? And like, you know, 326 00:13:31,200 --> 00:13:32,720 Speaker 9: we don't have to go out on a ton of 327 00:13:32,760 --> 00:13:35,080 Speaker 9: dates because I see you twenty four to seven, like 328 00:13:35,600 --> 00:13:39,199 Speaker 9: you know, but to me, that is not the same 329 00:13:39,760 --> 00:13:41,720 Speaker 9: Hanging out at home is not the same as like 330 00:13:41,920 --> 00:13:46,920 Speaker 9: quality time because we barely do anything besides like watching TV. 331 00:13:47,200 --> 00:13:49,120 Speaker 4: And if it's not watching TV. 332 00:13:49,000 --> 00:13:52,000 Speaker 9: Together, he's like playing video games or off with his friends. 333 00:13:53,080 --> 00:13:55,440 Speaker 2: Yeah, because I guess before when you lived apart, like 334 00:13:55,480 --> 00:13:58,480 Speaker 2: you kind of had to plan events or thin like 335 00:13:58,480 --> 00:14:00,360 Speaker 2: hey come over, we'll do this, or hey, i'll take 336 00:14:00,400 --> 00:14:03,080 Speaker 2: you here because you lived in different places, so you 337 00:14:03,120 --> 00:14:04,960 Speaker 2: had to kind of schedule these dates. But now you 338 00:14:05,000 --> 00:14:07,440 Speaker 2: live together, so it's like, well, I don't know, we 339 00:14:07,440 --> 00:14:09,160 Speaker 2: can make dinner together. We can sit here on the 340 00:14:09,160 --> 00:14:10,680 Speaker 2: couch kids, Like, what do I have to plan a date? 341 00:14:10,720 --> 00:14:13,880 Speaker 2: You know, I get it, I get it. 342 00:14:14,400 --> 00:14:16,400 Speaker 1: No, what do you wanted to do? 343 00:14:16,520 --> 00:14:17,559 Speaker 4: It's like very different. 344 00:14:17,920 --> 00:14:21,080 Speaker 9: I just want him to be like the same kind 345 00:14:21,080 --> 00:14:23,000 Speaker 9: of guy, you know, Like, I. 346 00:14:22,880 --> 00:14:24,880 Speaker 4: Mean, I get it, I get what you're saying. 347 00:14:25,400 --> 00:14:28,160 Speaker 2: But oh, I'm not justifying it. No, no, no, I'm 348 00:14:28,160 --> 00:14:31,120 Speaker 2: not justifying it. Yeah, you still have to try. Yeah, 349 00:14:31,280 --> 00:14:34,760 Speaker 2: you still have to try. And but I guess it's 350 00:14:34,760 --> 00:14:37,440 Speaker 2: one of those things where how do you you go 351 00:14:37,520 --> 00:14:39,240 Speaker 2: to him and you have to tell him to try, 352 00:14:39,360 --> 00:14:42,080 Speaker 2: and like that's no fun. You know, Hey, I want you, 353 00:14:42,400 --> 00:14:44,000 Speaker 2: I need you to ask me out to dinner. And 354 00:14:44,000 --> 00:14:45,800 Speaker 2: then he's like, okay, let's go to dinner. It's like 355 00:14:45,800 --> 00:14:48,600 Speaker 2: that's not very validating, right. 356 00:14:48,480 --> 00:14:50,760 Speaker 9: I'm like, you know, I know he still feels the 357 00:14:50,760 --> 00:14:54,920 Speaker 9: same about me, but you know, I don't know the 358 00:14:55,080 --> 00:14:58,280 Speaker 9: not trying, Like nothing's changed since I've spoken to him, 359 00:14:58,320 --> 00:15:00,120 Speaker 9: and like it's starting to see. 360 00:15:00,000 --> 00:15:00,480 Speaker 10: Feel like. 361 00:15:01,920 --> 00:15:04,360 Speaker 4: This is our new normal and I don't. 362 00:15:04,160 --> 00:15:04,880 Speaker 1: Really love it. 363 00:15:05,480 --> 00:15:07,400 Speaker 2: See, I think this is what happens, Kara, Like I 364 00:15:07,480 --> 00:15:10,680 Speaker 2: always ask the question when people are dating for a 365 00:15:10,680 --> 00:15:12,720 Speaker 2: long time and then maybe they live together for a 366 00:15:12,760 --> 00:15:15,240 Speaker 2: long time, even before they get married, and then people 367 00:15:15,320 --> 00:15:17,560 Speaker 2: get married and everything falls apart, and I always ask 368 00:15:17,600 --> 00:15:19,160 Speaker 2: the question, like, how does that happen? 369 00:15:19,440 --> 00:15:21,040 Speaker 1: Like nothing actually changed. 370 00:15:21,120 --> 00:15:24,200 Speaker 2: I would understand if you didn't live together and then 371 00:15:24,240 --> 00:15:26,000 Speaker 2: you get engaged and married and then you move in 372 00:15:26,000 --> 00:15:27,760 Speaker 2: together and you realize, oh my god, this is I 373 00:15:27,800 --> 00:15:31,200 Speaker 2: can't live with this person, or like something fundamentally changes. 374 00:15:31,360 --> 00:15:33,520 Speaker 2: But it's the people like you, guys who you dated 375 00:15:33,520 --> 00:15:35,400 Speaker 2: for a while and everything's great, you move in together 376 00:15:35,480 --> 00:15:37,680 Speaker 2: and everything's okay, and then you get married, and I 377 00:15:37,680 --> 00:15:39,520 Speaker 2: think that's what it is. I think it's complacency. I 378 00:15:39,560 --> 00:15:43,000 Speaker 2: think people just stop trying and they stop dating. And 379 00:15:43,040 --> 00:15:44,960 Speaker 2: I hate to be like the relationship coach here because 380 00:15:44,960 --> 00:15:46,720 Speaker 2: I'm in no position to give any kind of advice, 381 00:15:46,760 --> 00:15:48,440 Speaker 2: But I do hear people say all the time that 382 00:15:48,480 --> 00:15:51,680 Speaker 2: you should never stop dating because like in the dating phase, 383 00:15:51,760 --> 00:15:54,240 Speaker 2: everybody's trying real hard. And I think when you get 384 00:15:54,280 --> 00:15:57,720 Speaker 2: together and you're together every day and that the idea 385 00:15:57,800 --> 00:16:00,880 Speaker 2: is you're not going anywhere because you can't really unless 386 00:16:00,920 --> 00:16:02,840 Speaker 2: you move out and break up with me, I don't 387 00:16:02,840 --> 00:16:05,440 Speaker 2: have to try as hard. And then having to remind 388 00:16:05,520 --> 00:16:08,040 Speaker 2: someone or encourage them to try hard, well, that's no fun. 389 00:16:08,520 --> 00:16:09,680 Speaker 1: So I don't know what you do. I mean, I 390 00:16:09,720 --> 00:16:10,720 Speaker 1: guess you have to say. 391 00:16:10,560 --> 00:16:12,560 Speaker 2: Something, but I also don't know how many times you 392 00:16:12,560 --> 00:16:14,720 Speaker 2: say something before you're like, dude, this guy's just lazy 393 00:16:15,640 --> 00:16:16,920 Speaker 2: and he's going to have to try harder. 394 00:16:18,000 --> 00:16:19,440 Speaker 4: I know, right, Look, do you want to tell him 395 00:16:19,440 --> 00:16:20,320 Speaker 4: that sounded pretty good? 396 00:16:21,080 --> 00:16:22,840 Speaker 1: Not rightly? I mean I kind of just did. 397 00:16:23,000 --> 00:16:24,800 Speaker 2: I don't know if he's listening, But let me take 398 00:16:24,840 --> 00:16:26,240 Speaker 2: some phone calls on this, because I'd love to know 399 00:16:26,280 --> 00:16:29,040 Speaker 2: what I know other people have been in this situation before, 400 00:16:29,320 --> 00:16:31,000 Speaker 2: and I wonder if it changes. I wonder if you 401 00:16:31,080 --> 00:16:33,280 Speaker 2: just give him a little reminder, like hey, it would 402 00:16:33,320 --> 00:16:34,600 Speaker 2: mean a lot to me if you would do this, 403 00:16:35,560 --> 00:16:37,360 Speaker 2: And then you walk away and maybe that's like a 404 00:16:37,440 --> 00:16:39,520 Speaker 2: light bulb moment for him where he can go, Okay, 405 00:16:39,600 --> 00:16:41,640 Speaker 2: I need to Oh wow, I've really gotten away from 406 00:16:41,640 --> 00:16:45,440 Speaker 2: that stuff. Or maybe he's like, I don't intend to change, 407 00:16:45,480 --> 00:16:46,680 Speaker 2: and then if he doesn't. 408 00:16:46,360 --> 00:16:48,120 Speaker 1: Then you go on a date with another man. 409 00:16:48,600 --> 00:16:51,960 Speaker 2: Well that's maybe not the best advice, but I yes, sure, 410 00:16:52,080 --> 00:16:55,560 Speaker 2: why not, Cara? But keep the radio on to the 411 00:16:55,560 --> 00:16:57,320 Speaker 2: iHeart app or whatever, and we're gonna take some phone calls. 412 00:16:57,360 --> 00:16:59,000 Speaker 2: We'll see what happens. I have a good day, and 413 00:16:59,040 --> 00:16:59,760 Speaker 2: thanks for sharing. 414 00:17:00,720 --> 00:17:01,440 Speaker 4: Thank you too. 415 00:17:01,600 --> 00:17:03,720 Speaker 2: Yeah, what do you do if you're in Kara's position? 416 00:17:04,200 --> 00:17:06,160 Speaker 2: You know, you date for a while, everyone's trying hard. 417 00:17:06,200 --> 00:17:08,480 Speaker 2: You move in together, and the effort seems to stop, 418 00:17:08,560 --> 00:17:10,320 Speaker 2: and you don't want to have to be the person 419 00:17:10,359 --> 00:17:11,680 Speaker 2: who's like, hey, can you try hard? 420 00:17:11,720 --> 00:17:12,080 Speaker 1: Please? 421 00:17:12,320 --> 00:17:14,200 Speaker 5: You have to though you can't. You know, you can't 422 00:17:14,240 --> 00:17:16,280 Speaker 5: expect your partner to read your mind. You have to 423 00:17:16,280 --> 00:17:19,240 Speaker 5: communicate clearly what you're feeling and give them the opportunity 424 00:17:19,280 --> 00:17:22,480 Speaker 5: to change. Once that opportunity is given, if they don't change, 425 00:17:22,480 --> 00:17:24,119 Speaker 5: then you have a decision to make. Either you're going 426 00:17:24,200 --> 00:17:26,080 Speaker 5: to deal with what you what you have? Are you 427 00:17:26,080 --> 00:17:27,520 Speaker 5: going to go out and find you a new man. 428 00:17:27,800 --> 00:17:30,400 Speaker 1: Well, hey, Victoria, how you doing? 429 00:17:31,800 --> 00:17:31,960 Speaker 5: Hi? 430 00:17:32,040 --> 00:17:32,359 Speaker 1: Guys? 431 00:17:32,760 --> 00:17:35,879 Speaker 2: Hi you heard the story of what it? Can you 432 00:17:35,920 --> 00:17:37,720 Speaker 2: relate to this? I mean, is this something you've been through? 433 00:17:39,080 --> 00:17:39,280 Speaker 1: Yeah? 434 00:17:39,400 --> 00:17:42,000 Speaker 12: Yeah, About two years ago, I moved in with my 435 00:17:42,080 --> 00:17:45,760 Speaker 12: now fiance previously then boyfriend and kind of same thing. 436 00:17:46,359 --> 00:17:49,240 Speaker 12: Things just changed immediately. It was to the point that 437 00:17:49,320 --> 00:17:52,520 Speaker 12: I was like, holy cow, did we make a mistake? 438 00:17:52,800 --> 00:17:57,000 Speaker 12: Like should we have moved in together? But then I 439 00:17:57,040 --> 00:17:59,760 Speaker 12: also think, and this is a bit of a generalization, 440 00:17:59,840 --> 00:18:02,240 Speaker 12: I think men just kind of default to like when 441 00:18:02,280 --> 00:18:05,199 Speaker 12: they see their partner and like it's outside of you know, 442 00:18:05,520 --> 00:18:08,159 Speaker 12: their house and they're just dating. And then when you 443 00:18:08,240 --> 00:18:11,159 Speaker 12: move in together, it like defaults to roommates again, and 444 00:18:11,200 --> 00:18:13,000 Speaker 12: then you just have to kind of reset that and 445 00:18:13,040 --> 00:18:16,199 Speaker 12: then also like a little bit of like resetting my 446 00:18:16,240 --> 00:18:19,440 Speaker 12: own expectations, because yeah, like I do love a good date. 447 00:18:19,560 --> 00:18:21,160 Speaker 4: I do love like. 448 00:18:21,680 --> 00:18:24,760 Speaker 12: Intentional time together, but that also has gone down because 449 00:18:25,080 --> 00:18:27,480 Speaker 12: you know, like the frequency of that has gone down too, 450 00:18:27,560 --> 00:18:30,280 Speaker 12: because like it's just not feasiful all the time because 451 00:18:30,320 --> 00:18:32,960 Speaker 12: now there's more dishes to do, there's more chores to do. 452 00:18:33,040 --> 00:18:35,360 Speaker 12: But we make it fun together anyways, and now we're 453 00:18:35,600 --> 00:18:38,240 Speaker 12: engaged and like, he's my best friend and we figured 454 00:18:38,240 --> 00:18:38,520 Speaker 12: it out. 455 00:18:38,720 --> 00:18:39,760 Speaker 1: Well, congratulations. 456 00:18:39,800 --> 00:18:42,840 Speaker 2: And I think it's probably unfair to think that it 457 00:18:42,880 --> 00:18:45,280 Speaker 2: will always be like it was in the beginning, right, 458 00:18:45,280 --> 00:18:47,760 Speaker 2: But I mean, I don't think it's unfair to want 459 00:18:47,880 --> 00:18:50,840 Speaker 2: some of that, you know, day in and day out, 460 00:18:51,200 --> 00:18:54,800 Speaker 2: or some some regular effort. But yeah, okay, thank you, Victoria. 461 00:18:54,800 --> 00:18:57,399 Speaker 2: I have a good day. Yeah glad. You call a 462 00:18:57,440 --> 00:18:59,879 Speaker 2: lot of people saying go and and I don't know 463 00:19:00,040 --> 00:19:02,679 Speaker 2: about that. I went, Kiki, Yeah, I mean before you 464 00:19:02,720 --> 00:19:04,160 Speaker 2: go out and cheat. I mean, let's have it. Let's 465 00:19:04,160 --> 00:19:04,920 Speaker 2: have a conversation. 466 00:19:05,119 --> 00:19:06,200 Speaker 4: You know, I'm just kidding. 467 00:19:06,320 --> 00:19:09,840 Speaker 3: Yeah, I mean, like dates are expensive, obviously, and so 468 00:19:09,840 --> 00:19:11,760 Speaker 3: it doesn't have to be that. But like those good 469 00:19:11,800 --> 00:19:13,520 Speaker 3: morning texts or like text in the middle of the 470 00:19:13,560 --> 00:19:15,840 Speaker 3: day or you know, when she comes home, maybe have 471 00:19:16,480 --> 00:19:18,960 Speaker 3: dinner made or something like other ways it doesn't have 472 00:19:19,080 --> 00:19:20,840 Speaker 3: because I know date nights can be a little much, 473 00:19:20,880 --> 00:19:22,720 Speaker 3: and if you live together, it's like, okay, well there 474 00:19:22,760 --> 00:19:23,360 Speaker 3: you are, but. 475 00:19:25,000 --> 00:19:28,480 Speaker 4: You are again every time I open that damn door. 476 00:19:28,880 --> 00:19:30,960 Speaker 1: Nicole, how you doing. You've been in a situation? 477 00:19:32,200 --> 00:19:35,440 Speaker 11: Yes, I have good morning guys, So I think she's 478 00:19:35,480 --> 00:19:38,399 Speaker 11: doing right things. She has to keep communicating. And for 479 00:19:38,520 --> 00:19:40,600 Speaker 11: the first situation I was in, I kept. 480 00:19:40,440 --> 00:19:42,040 Speaker 13: Saying it over and over and over and over, and 481 00:19:42,040 --> 00:19:44,040 Speaker 13: eventually I just got sick of it and broke up 482 00:19:44,080 --> 00:19:47,399 Speaker 13: with him because he wasn't listening. So you just have 483 00:19:47,440 --> 00:19:49,199 Speaker 13: to be open to that as well, Like you might 484 00:19:49,240 --> 00:19:51,399 Speaker 13: get so sick of the same conversation over and over 485 00:19:51,440 --> 00:19:53,680 Speaker 13: and over that you just got to do it for you. 486 00:19:54,720 --> 00:19:56,840 Speaker 11: And then the second time it happened again, I'm. 487 00:19:56,720 --> 00:19:59,280 Speaker 13: Different guy obviously, but you know, kind of doing the 488 00:19:59,280 --> 00:20:00,000 Speaker 13: whole same com. 489 00:20:00,000 --> 00:20:00,719 Speaker 11: Pasion over and over. 490 00:20:00,840 --> 00:20:04,520 Speaker 13: The differences he listened, So it can change with different 491 00:20:04,560 --> 00:20:06,920 Speaker 13: people as long as you guys are like both trying 492 00:20:06,960 --> 00:20:08,440 Speaker 13: and both communicating. 493 00:20:08,600 --> 00:20:10,560 Speaker 2: So yeah, I just don't know how many times I 494 00:20:10,600 --> 00:20:13,320 Speaker 2: would ask before. It's like depending on what you're you 495 00:20:13,320 --> 00:20:15,840 Speaker 2: got to be fair about your expectations to everyone else's 496 00:20:15,840 --> 00:20:18,359 Speaker 2: point here. But at the same time, like, I'm not 497 00:20:18,359 --> 00:20:20,520 Speaker 2: going to ask you one hundred times to like try 498 00:20:20,560 --> 00:20:22,640 Speaker 2: to be in a relationship with me before it's like, Okay, 499 00:20:22,920 --> 00:20:25,160 Speaker 2: this is not a priority to you, So I don't 500 00:20:25,160 --> 00:20:27,119 Speaker 2: want to ask because that's no fun when you have 501 00:20:27,160 --> 00:20:28,520 Speaker 2: to ask you. 502 00:20:29,440 --> 00:20:33,439 Speaker 5: Eventually, you guys that you're asking the wrong person. 503 00:20:34,040 --> 00:20:36,119 Speaker 1: You know, we got to be fair. I do think 504 00:20:36,160 --> 00:20:37,480 Speaker 1: you have I do think you have to be You 505 00:20:37,480 --> 00:20:38,159 Speaker 1: got to be reaching. 506 00:20:38,320 --> 00:20:41,680 Speaker 4: Change the man, changed the man. Hello, that was right. 507 00:20:42,800 --> 00:20:44,160 Speaker 1: I sat here on this radio. 508 00:20:44,200 --> 00:20:46,120 Speaker 2: And so if you can't change the woman, change the woman, 509 00:20:46,720 --> 00:20:53,120 Speaker 2: people picketing downstairs and protesting not saying that, Hey, sonya, 510 00:20:53,160 --> 00:20:53,720 Speaker 2: how you doing? 511 00:20:54,840 --> 00:20:55,439 Speaker 4: I'm great? 512 00:20:55,480 --> 00:20:57,160 Speaker 1: How are you guys? Sonya? Good morning. 513 00:20:57,160 --> 00:20:58,879 Speaker 2: You're on the same wavelength here where you got to 514 00:20:58,960 --> 00:20:59,520 Speaker 2: keep dating? 515 00:21:01,000 --> 00:21:01,200 Speaker 1: Right? 516 00:21:01,600 --> 00:21:03,520 Speaker 6: Well, First of all, I want to say, how fast 517 00:21:03,520 --> 00:21:06,280 Speaker 6: does the mess come off when they're comfortable and they 518 00:21:06,320 --> 00:21:07,280 Speaker 6: know they got you right? 519 00:21:07,920 --> 00:21:09,040 Speaker 1: Like, this is who he is. 520 00:21:09,200 --> 00:21:10,960 Speaker 4: He's showing who he is. Believe him, girl. 521 00:21:11,480 --> 00:21:13,919 Speaker 11: But I might comment to yea, even married. 522 00:21:13,680 --> 00:21:17,040 Speaker 13: People should still be dating, having day sights. 523 00:21:16,800 --> 00:21:19,600 Speaker 7: Like they're just moving in and she's deemed like this, 524 00:21:19,600 --> 00:21:20,200 Speaker 7: this is scary. 525 00:21:20,520 --> 00:21:22,480 Speaker 2: Yeah, I mean I don't. Yeah, I don't think the 526 00:21:22,480 --> 00:21:24,760 Speaker 2: future is looking bright. If this is already where we are, 527 00:21:24,840 --> 00:21:27,360 Speaker 2: I mean, I would think it would almost reignite the relationship. 528 00:21:27,560 --> 00:21:29,440 Speaker 2: When you first move in together, it's like you're playing 529 00:21:29,480 --> 00:21:31,480 Speaker 2: housing now, It's like everything's new and fresh and fun. 530 00:21:31,480 --> 00:21:33,720 Speaker 2: If he's already not trying, then what do you expect 531 00:21:33,760 --> 00:21:35,960 Speaker 2: when when you're you know, put a ring on it 532 00:21:36,000 --> 00:21:37,040 Speaker 2: and you actually get married. 533 00:21:37,160 --> 00:21:37,520 Speaker 1: Then what. 534 00:21:39,119 --> 00:21:40,800 Speaker 4: Totally entitled relaxed. 535 00:21:40,880 --> 00:21:43,040 Speaker 1: Yeah, all right, sonya, thank you, have a good day. 536 00:21:43,920 --> 00:21:44,919 Speaker 11: He took at you. 537 00:21:44,960 --> 00:21:47,240 Speaker 1: Guys. Can't change the man. Change the man.