WEBVTT - Brag about a colleague

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<v Speaker 1>Welcome to Before Breakfast, a production of I Heart Radio.

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<v Speaker 1>Good Morning. This is Laura. Welcome to the Before Breakfast podcast.

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<v Speaker 1>Today's tip is to brag about a colligue. When you

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<v Speaker 1>tell others about a co worker's accomplishments, you will not

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<v Speaker 1>only boost that person's confidence, you will be seen as

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<v Speaker 1>a person who is near great things that are happening.

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<v Speaker 1>For many of us, this focus on others feels a

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<v Speaker 1>lot more authentic and doable than talking about ourselves, but

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<v Speaker 1>it does reflect well on us. Two Today's tip, like

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<v Speaker 1>another this week, comes from Daisy Dowling, founder and CEO

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<v Speaker 1>of work Parent, a coaching and consulting firm focused on

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<v Speaker 1>working parents and their employers. She is also the author

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<v Speaker 1>of the book work Parent, The Complete Guide to Succeeding

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<v Speaker 1>on the job, staying true to yourself, and raising happy kids.

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<v Speaker 1>Dowling was a guest on the podcast Women at Work,

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<v Speaker 1>and this tip comes from that podcast. Many of us,

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<v Speaker 1>particularly women, have heard the advice that we need to

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<v Speaker 1>talk more about our own accomplishments. People do not just

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<v Speaker 1>know the good work you are doing because everyone lives

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<v Speaker 1>in their own little worlds. However, I and I am

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<v Speaker 1>sure many other people have trouble with this advice because

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<v Speaker 1>it can feel really unseemly to talk about yourself. You know,

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<v Speaker 1>I know it's business, but we are all still human

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<v Speaker 1>and it often doesn't sit right. Dowling's advice to brag

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<v Speaker 1>about a colleague is useful for people who want others

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<v Speaker 1>to notice the good things that are happening all around them,

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<v Speaker 1>but don't want to brag about themselves. Sharing your colleagues

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<v Speaker 1>and direct reports successes calls attention to the great work

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<v Speaker 1>that is happening in your orbit. When you celebrate the

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<v Speaker 1>good work that someone else is doing, you communicate that

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<v Speaker 1>you were, as Dowling puts it, part of a winning team.

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<v Speaker 1>In other words, even though you are shining a light

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<v Speaker 1>on someone else's great work or outcomes, you get some

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<v Speaker 1>of the glow through your connection to that person. So

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<v Speaker 1>be on the lookout for others accomplishments that you can highlight.

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<v Speaker 1>Do you have a direct report who has chosen for

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<v Speaker 1>a professional development workshop for emerging leaders or who earns

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<v Speaker 1>a credential in using new software include an announcement in

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<v Speaker 1>the company newsletter with her permission, of course, or maybe

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<v Speaker 1>a junior staffer steps in to lead a project while

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<v Speaker 1>his boss is on maternity leave, and he does a

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<v Speaker 1>great job. You can let the senior lead a ship

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<v Speaker 1>of your organization. Know this. When you're reporting on news

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<v Speaker 1>from your division, your colleagues will surely realize that his

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<v Speaker 1>success covering this role was due at least in part

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<v Speaker 1>to your mentorship. Introductions are another great time to talk

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<v Speaker 1>up your team's accomplishments. When you are introducing a colleague

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<v Speaker 1>to a client or to someone from another department, make

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<v Speaker 1>sure you make space for a little bragging. Joe is

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<v Speaker 1>our development associate. When the auditors said all our fundraising

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<v Speaker 1>records for the year were in perfect order, he is

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<v Speaker 1>the person I think now. Obviously, all of this has

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<v Speaker 1>to be authentic. You can't make up good things. And

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<v Speaker 1>if you praise things in a way that is over

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<v Speaker 1>the top pointing towards you or doesn't reflect the other

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<v Speaker 1>person in the way they wish to be seen, then

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<v Speaker 1>you won't really score any points by doing this. But

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<v Speaker 1>when you brag about a colleague, you get to make

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<v Speaker 1>someone else feel good, share good news, and make it

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<v Speaker 1>clear that good things are happening all around you. It's

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<v Speaker 1>a lot of upside for something that tends to come

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<v Speaker 1>across as nice rather than grating, as bragging about oneself

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<v Speaker 1>tends to do, so why not give it a try.

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<v Speaker 1>In the meantime, this is Laura. Thanks for listening, and

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