WEBVTT - Introducing: Across Generations with Tiffany Cross

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<v Speaker 1>I saw the women in my life having to struggle

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<v Speaker 1>in fight and be independent and take care of themselves.

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<v Speaker 1>And I'm looking around, like where are the men. I

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<v Speaker 1>am your host of a cross generations, Tiffany D. Cross,

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<v Speaker 1>and this is the only place where you will hear

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<v Speaker 1>three different perspectives from three distinct generations of black women.

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<v Speaker 1>And I'm so thrilled to invite you to this conversation.

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<v Speaker 1>What is it that you would say to women? This

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<v Speaker 1>is what I'm bringing to the table.

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<v Speaker 2>I bring a lot to the table.

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<v Speaker 1>You don't cook or clean.

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<v Speaker 2>My education, my network, my organizational.

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<v Speaker 1>Skills, that's what you bring to the table. I think

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<v Speaker 1>in a professional capacity. And he's older than you, so

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<v Speaker 1>he's not looking at you for your network. He's built

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<v Speaker 1>his network.

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<v Speaker 2>It takes more than cooking and cleaning to build a life.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, to raise children and to support the success of

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<v Speaker 1>your partner. You want to be a project manager in

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<v Speaker 1>your house, the CEO of the household.

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<v Speaker 2>I can do that.

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<v Speaker 1>We have joining us, the amazing Miss Dion Worick. Did

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<v Speaker 1>you ever feel like you were dimming your light to

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<v Speaker 1>make him feel better?

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<v Speaker 3>Well? Stuck and tried to make them as comfortable as

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<v Speaker 3>I possibly could oh this Dion Wood know there's missus.

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<v Speaker 1>Jelliet Mandy Bee.

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<v Speaker 2>I got an abortion when I was sixteen years old.

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<v Speaker 2>I didn't feel a thing. It's nothing I regret.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm also pro choice. It wasn't even legal though.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, you was never a wow.

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<v Speaker 1>If we don't tell our stories, who will? We're all

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<v Speaker 1>we have. We are unique, We contain stories. Only we understand.

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<v Speaker 1>Only we know our secrets.

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<v Speaker 2>I was in my early twenties when I lost my mother.

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<v Speaker 2>You have to be in control because nobody is going

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<v Speaker 2>to make you feel better. You gotta do it yourself.

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<v Speaker 1>Do you have white friends?

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<v Speaker 3>No?

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<v Speaker 1>Why they don't serve me?

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<v Speaker 3>Right?

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<v Speaker 1>They well, our friendship supposed to serve you. Yeah, okay,

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<v Speaker 1>God is good, you say all the time, all the time,

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<v Speaker 1>God is good. I'm questioning both, y'all, black heart. On

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<v Speaker 1>this journey to dating, do you care about who was

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<v Speaker 1>paying for these activity when it comes to paying. If

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<v Speaker 1>it's a question, it's probably not a person I'm going

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<v Speaker 1>to date.

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<v Speaker 3>I've been dating for like ten or fifteen years.

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<v Speaker 1>Why not get married?

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<v Speaker 3>Oh no, no, no, I was married too much trauma. Really,

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<v Speaker 3>the cheating doesn't stop in marriage. They teach you how

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<v Speaker 3>to cheat.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't necessarily believe that someone could be with one person.

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<v Speaker 2>For their entire life.

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<v Speaker 1>Monotymy is something that you can adjust to, yea, Natasha Brown.

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<v Speaker 2>This superhuman kind of context actually keeps us as a disadvantage.

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<v Speaker 2>The world treats us as if our humanity is not right.

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<v Speaker 2>If black men and black women ever were able to

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<v Speaker 2>move beyond to this next stage, to be able to

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<v Speaker 2>love each other, love ourselves, and love ourselves deeply, ain't

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<v Speaker 2>nobody gonna be able to stop us.

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<v Speaker 3>I don't think these young men who are and I

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<v Speaker 3>don't even know the name Whosine and all that they

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<v Speaker 3>want to call themselves, they are angry not with their daughters.

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<v Speaker 3>I think they're angry with the spouse.

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<v Speaker 1>Nyla Simone.

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<v Speaker 2>We might look alike, but because we all live such

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<v Speaker 2>different lives, it's hard to get on the same page. Sometime.

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<v Speaker 1>I think it's time that we come together black women

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<v Speaker 1>and have this conversation where we go the world follows.

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<v Speaker 1>This is a cross generations where black women's voices unite

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<v Speaker 1>and together, you know how we do we create magic.

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