Speaker 1: I first heard about a Man Decludes during the pandemic
Speaker 1: because she was always in the news and on social
Speaker 1: about this awful thing that was happening with her husband
Speaker 1: and how she sat by his side and ultimately unfortunately
Speaker 1: lost him. But she has such a positive force and attitude.
Speaker 1: I so admire her how she has been in the
Speaker 1: public eye and really helped people who are going through
Speaker 1: things in their lives that I'm really excited to talk
Speaker 1: to her. And here just how she does it, and
Speaker 1: here about her little son and all her cool projects.
Speaker 1: So here is my conversation with the man Decludes. Hello, Hi,
Speaker 1: how are you. Hi? I'm glad are you I'm good?
Speaker 1: Nice to me too, Yes, it's nice to meet you too.
Speaker 1: Thanks for having me. Where where am I catching you?
Speaker 1: I'm in l A. We just finished filming the talk today,
Speaker 1: so I'm just wrapping it up starting the second half
Speaker 1: of my day. I always think of like the talk
Speaker 1: is the first part of my day, and then and
Speaker 1: then everything else after that. What time What time do
Speaker 1: you start your day? You know, we we start work
Speaker 1: at eight thirty, that's like when our first zoom is
Speaker 1: and then usually done by you know noon, unless we
Speaker 1: have things that we're doing afterwards. But you know, my
Speaker 1: little boy gets me up around six thirty seven, so
Speaker 1: so no, that's why I was asking because I've always
Speaker 1: been a working mom. So you know, what time do
Speaker 1: you start your day? Do you get up before your
Speaker 1: son gets up? Do you get up with him? No, Bobby,
Speaker 1: what's happening these days is he sleeps with me at
Speaker 1: the moment, And because I love the kids so much
Speaker 1: and I love cuddling with him so much, I don't
Speaker 1: even care, so I'm like, sure, it comes sleep with me.
Speaker 1: And the second I even try to like wiggle myself
Speaker 1: out of bed, even just to use the bathroom, it's
Speaker 1: like his seventh cents kicks in and he's like he
Speaker 1: wakes up immediately Mom is gone and there's a freak out.
Speaker 1: So I really have to like gently wake him up
Speaker 1: and give him kisses and be like I'm gonna go
Speaker 1: to the bathroom, and then he usually says I come
Speaker 1: to Well. I am totally totally smiling because I raised
Speaker 1: three sons. Oh I remember, I do, and I was.
Speaker 1: I never listened to anyone and I don't know how
Speaker 1: I got pregnant the second or the third time, because
Speaker 1: they always slept with us, you know, but yeah, it
Speaker 1: goes Honestly, it goes fast. And I just had my
Speaker 1: first grandkids, so it's like it's just crazy. And so
Speaker 1: I get it and and take every minute of what
Speaker 1: you got of him. So of all the cuddles, right,
Speaker 1: I know, like we've and we've gone through stages of
Speaker 1: him sleeping in his crib and and and not, and
Speaker 1: this is sort of again a new stage of him
Speaker 1: being back in bed with me. And I'm like, I
Speaker 1: don't have anyone else in my bed, So come on,
Speaker 1: how are you doing in general? All? You know, I mean,
Speaker 1: since it's been two years since Nick passed. Yeah, two years. Um,
Speaker 1: you know, I'm not gonna lie. I had a really
Speaker 1: hard September for some reason, I mean not for some reason.
Speaker 1: It was our anniversary, it's his birthday. September always feels
Speaker 1: like a new start to me, Like you know this,
Speaker 1: it feels more to me like a new year than January. Um,
Speaker 1: and I think like with all those events that are important,
Speaker 1: you know, and Elvis going to school and and uh,
Speaker 1: it was a hard It was a hard month. I've
Speaker 1: I've felt off recently. Um. And Elvis is starting to
Speaker 1: ask me questions about Nick and where he is, and
Speaker 1: so I feel like that part of brief is going
Speaker 1: to start happening. Um, where I have to now face
Speaker 1: his grief after you know, dealing with mine for the
Speaker 1: last two years and under you know, helping Elvis understand
Speaker 1: in at this young age, you know where Dad is,
Speaker 1: why Dad doesn't live with us, you know what happened
Speaker 1: to Dad. And it's been really really, really hard, and
Speaker 1: even just at this year, like his age, and he
Speaker 1: doesn't want me to leave the house, he doesn't want
Speaker 1: babysitters to come over. So find a balance of a
Speaker 1: working mom and trying to also maybe go on a
Speaker 1: date here there isn't is really hard and you feel
Speaker 1: guilty every time you leave the house and he's crying. Um,
Speaker 1: so yeah, it's it's actually been really hard lately. I've
Speaker 1: had a lot of nights where I've cried and this
Speaker 1: isn't fair and life isn't fair and I shouldn't be
Speaker 1: in this position. I've had a lot of like, yeah,
Speaker 1: and it's normal. I know it's normal and I have
Speaker 1: no reason to be woe is me, But I've I've
Speaker 1: been a little boe is me lately and it's I
Speaker 1: hate it. I actually don't like how it feels. But
Speaker 1: I'm just being honest. But you're You're allowed to feel
Speaker 1: what you feel, and you know it's important. And you know,
Speaker 1: I'm not a shrink. I'm a makeup artist, which is
Speaker 1: something like a shrink. But you know, you've you've got
Speaker 1: to go through what you have to go through, and
Speaker 1: you know, how lucky and yeah, everything does suck, but
Speaker 1: how lucky you have this little boy who was able to, like,
Speaker 1: you know, fill you fill you up? Does he remember
Speaker 1: his dad? You know? He says that he does, which
Speaker 1: is crazy because I don't know if that's because I
Speaker 1: we watched so many videos together of Nick um or
Speaker 1: if I talk because I talk about Nick so much,
Speaker 1: but he does. He does say that, and I love it,
Speaker 1: but it makes me wonder because I have no memories
Speaker 1: from two or three years old or actually I'm sorry,
Speaker 1: the only memories he would have with Nick are for
Speaker 1: zero to ten months. I don't remember anything from those times,
Speaker 1: so I don't I don't know, but you know, he'll
Speaker 1: say things that he does, so I'm just I'm going
Speaker 1: with it, you know, And how are you like? What
Speaker 1: do you tell him where dad is? Oh, we just
Speaker 1: had to start this conversation. So I have said that
Speaker 1: Dada lives in heaven with Jesus and UM, but he's
Speaker 1: all around us all the time, and we can always
Speaker 1: talk to him, and we can listen to him saying
Speaker 1: and UM, and he's watching over us all the time.
Speaker 1: That's what I That's what I've said so far. Okay,
Speaker 1: Well it's yeah, it's it's a it's a journey. But
Speaker 1: you seem I don't know you, but what I've read
Speaker 1: and when I seem you seem like a very positive,
Speaker 1: upbeat person by nature, and and that you know that
Speaker 1: could only help in the long term. Well, first of all,
Speaker 1: you're so freaking pretty. I just have to tell you
Speaker 1: that's very kind of you. Thank you. The least important
Speaker 1: thing out there. But I just had to get it
Speaker 1: out of the way. Did you model? Oh? I mean
Speaker 1: I did some commercial modeling when I first moved to
Speaker 1: New York when I was going to school at eighteen.
Speaker 1: But um, but that was it because I do remember
Speaker 1: uh going to I think it was Spared and they
Speaker 1: a modeling meeting and they said you could do it
Speaker 1: a turtle, but you'd have to lose forty pounds and
Speaker 1: uh yeah, and I was like, well what Tommy, more
Speaker 1: about commercial print but forty pounds but you've never But
Speaker 1: that wasn't you being overweight. That was you just being normal.
Speaker 1: That was me being normal. Yes, yeah, oh my gosh, okay,
Speaker 1: well it's a good thing you didn't do that. And
Speaker 1: what did you study in college? Musical theater. I went
Speaker 1: to a musical theater conservatory in New York City. And
Speaker 1: so you started your career as a dancer, dancer, actor, singer. Yes, yeah,
Speaker 1: I I went to school for all three of those things,
Speaker 1: a musical theater conservatory. I was mostly a dancer. Um,
Speaker 1: but you know, to be on Broadway you have to
Speaker 1: act and sing. So I rounded myself out at school
Speaker 1: and then um started performing in musicals. Uh and and
Speaker 1: how does that? And then what about being on the talk?
Speaker 1: How does how did those skills serve you? And what
Speaker 1: did you have to do differently? Oh my, well the
Speaker 1: talk came out of nowhere? I mean that was when
Speaker 1: you know, I moved to l A. I just so
Speaker 1: I did Broadway for sixteen years and then and started
Speaker 1: my own fitness business. So left Broadway, started my own business,
Speaker 1: became a female entrepreneur, loved it, moved to Los Angeles
Speaker 1: with Nick Uh. He was doing a show here in
Speaker 1: Want to Pursue Music here, and I was only running
Speaker 1: my fitness company. And then everything happened with the pandemic
Speaker 1: and the casting. UH woman here at the talk was
Speaker 1: following the story, and UM. Once Nick passed and they
Speaker 1: were back up and running, they asked me to come
Speaker 1: on and guest co host. And I think, you know,
Speaker 1: Broadway teaches you everything, every skill possible in life, UM
Speaker 1: and so, and then you know, in doing my own
Speaker 1: fitness business, I had done so many morning television shows
Speaker 1: and and interviews, etcetera, etcetera. So this kind of you know,
Speaker 1: platform wasn't unfamiliar to me, but it was definitely was like, okay,
Speaker 1: let's go on, Let's go on the talk and see
Speaker 1: how I like co hosting. And I loved it. I
Speaker 1: loved it so U. It felt very much like right
Speaker 1: at home. And luckily they thought so too, and then
Speaker 1: they hired Ah that's so cool. So tell me about
Speaker 1: the fitness business. The fitness business, UM, I started when
Speaker 1: I was thirty two. I had been performing on Broadway
Speaker 1: and television and movies for sixteen years and I kind
Speaker 1: of at the point where I just was done because
Speaker 1: it's a very hard life. I mean, you're constantly in
Speaker 1: and out of work. You're constantly being told when and
Speaker 1: how long and what you can do. Um. And I
Speaker 1: was thirty two years old and I was in a
Speaker 1: Broadway show, and I thought it was just going to
Speaker 1: be a show that would run for years and I
Speaker 1: would be able to have babies and buy a house
Speaker 1: one day. And then everything sort of erupted. I was
Speaker 1: going I went through a divorce with my first husband
Speaker 1: after seven years of marriage. He was in a show
Speaker 1: that was touring at the time, so we were never
Speaker 1: seeing each other. And then this Broadway show that I
Speaker 1: thought would be kind of like my saving grace for
Speaker 1: a while, this unexpectedly closed after a couple of months.
Speaker 1: So I was it was bullets over bullets over Broadway,
Speaker 1: and it was what happened, you know, it was it
Speaker 1: was a beautiful show, but it was in the midst
Speaker 1: and the height of the Woody Allen, you know, scandal
Speaker 1: and uh and in the show got bad reviews and
Speaker 1: we ended up closing and it was devastating, and so
Speaker 1: I found myself unemployed thirty two, going through divorce and
Speaker 1: I just looked at my life and I was like,
Speaker 1: I need to take control of my life. I can't
Speaker 1: be living this in and out of show life if
Speaker 1: I want a family and if I want a home
Speaker 1: one day, and I need to be able to support
Speaker 1: myself now that I don't have a husband that supported
Speaker 1: helping to support me. And so I was like, you
Speaker 1: know what, I'm just going to take a chance and
Speaker 1: start a business. I had an idea for a jumper
Speaker 1: of class, and um, I was like, you know what
Speaker 1: I'm gonna I'm a trained clients privately and start making
Speaker 1: money that way, and then hopefully launched this jumper class
Speaker 1: and that's what I did. Cool and and it still exists, right,
Speaker 1: It still exists and now is basically all um digital.
Speaker 1: I have an app that I run and everything through
Speaker 1: the app. I still teach over zoom once a week, um,
Speaker 1: just to keep up with live teaching because I love that.
Speaker 1: And I get hired to teach fitness events here and there,
Speaker 1: but it's mostly online now through my app, and uh yeah,
Speaker 1: it's my baby. It's the it's I love that business
Speaker 1: so much. It means the world to me. It it
Speaker 1: helped me find myself again, and um, I'm so I'm
Speaker 1: just so proud of it. And I'm I'm so proud
Speaker 1: of the underlying message of my fitness business and and
Speaker 1: what that means and just how important moving your body
Speaker 1: is every day. It's you know, it's it's so important
Speaker 1: to me that message. So I I yeah, I love
Speaker 1: my fitness business. And how what motivation do you have
Speaker 1: for people listening saying oh, I really want to try,
Speaker 1: but I don't know where to start. I mean, I
Speaker 1: work out all the time, so I know how important
Speaker 1: it is. But what about the people that are kind
Speaker 1: of sitting on their couch saying, oh, you know, I'd say,
Speaker 1: first of all, get up and walk while you're listening
Speaker 1: to the podcast. What's your what's your motivation? Yeah, my motivation, Um,
Speaker 1: it was always this, but then the pandemic amplified it. Um.
Speaker 1: My motivation is that we are so lucky to be
Speaker 1: able to move our bodies, Like I think we take
Speaker 1: it for granted on a daily basis because we're tired
Speaker 1: or cold outside, or I don't have a membership to
Speaker 1: a gym, I don't have a trainer, and just not
Speaker 1: in the mood, and I feel like We are so
Speaker 1: lucky to be able to wake up and to stand
Speaker 1: on two feet, and to be able to walk, and
Speaker 1: to be able to jump, to be able to smile
Speaker 1: while doing it and enjoy it, and be able to
Speaker 1: treat our bodies in a way that only strengthens our
Speaker 1: mind and our soul and our our purpose and life.
Speaker 1: And I don't think it should ever be taken for granted.
Speaker 1: Working out isn't a chore, it is a privilege. And
Speaker 1: you know, for nine days I sat beside my husband
Speaker 1: and he could not move, He could not move his body,
Speaker 1: he could not stand up. And I know from knowing
Speaker 1: him that all he I mean, if if if he
Speaker 1: could have even just sat up, Bobby, he couldn't even
Speaker 1: he didn't have the strength to sit up, let alone
Speaker 1: open his eyes. And we are are so lucky to
Speaker 1: be able to do it every day, and yet we'll
Speaker 1: complain about it and we take it for granted. And
Speaker 1: it's just fitness, to me, is not about a gene size.
Speaker 1: It's about that, it's about strengthening your body, your mind.
Speaker 1: It is about relieving stress and anxiety, and it's about
Speaker 1: not taking it for granted the fact that we're able
Speaker 1: to move and if you have five minutes or fifty
Speaker 1: five minutes, you do it every single day. Because it's
Speaker 1: so you're you're you you can't because you can't, well
Speaker 1: you're you're saying it's jump rope based. My That's how
Speaker 1: I started my company with a jump rope, and then
Speaker 1: I ended up creating a jump rope, and now I
Speaker 1: sal a jump rope, but I have workouts on my
Speaker 1: app from dance fitness then to full body training, little
Speaker 1: to know um equipment so that you can really do
Speaker 1: it anywhere at any time. You know, so much of
Speaker 1: your story is so shared with the public. I mean,
Speaker 1: you know, I I followed along or you know, during
Speaker 1: the pandemic. I I didn't know you, but I was hooked.
Speaker 1: I mean I couldn't imagine what you were going through
Speaker 1: and how you were you know, sharing this with people.
Speaker 1: Do you think this has like helped you personally? I
Speaker 1: know it's helped a lot of people to be part
Speaker 1: of the journey. Yes, you know, absolutely, I think. Um.
Speaker 1: You know, I was in therapy after everything that happened,
Speaker 1: and I asked my therapist that question. I said, you
Speaker 1: know why, I said, you know, people would ask me
Speaker 1: all the time you know, you don't have to keep
Speaker 1: updating everybody on Instagram, Like, isn't this just like exhausting?
Speaker 1: Like how are you doing this day in and day out?
Speaker 1: And I said to him, I said, why I'm asking
Speaker 1: you as a therapist. Why did that make me feel better?
Speaker 1: Because all I can tell you is I would be
Speaker 1: having a horrible day and then I would get on
Speaker 1: Instagram and I would do a live or I would
Speaker 1: sing nick song and I was joined by a lot
Speaker 1: of people, and I would talk to you know, this
Speaker 1: audience that was not talking back to me. It was
Speaker 1: just me talking to somebody. And I said it would
Speaker 1: make me feel better. And he goes, you really don't
Speaker 1: know why? And I said no, and he goes, Amanda,
Speaker 1: because you weren't doing it alone. You're a community, he said.
Speaker 1: Any time we try to do something ourselves, it's so
Speaker 1: much harder. He was, like, you were already living basically alone,
Speaker 1: going through something almost basically alone your day in and
Speaker 1: day out. You're you know, we're all trapped in our houses,
Speaker 1: he said, But you weren't. You had you built this
Speaker 1: community around you to support you and to love you
Speaker 1: and to give you advice and to share things with is,
Speaker 1: and of course it made you feel better. You had
Speaker 1: a community. So it was that for me and I've
Speaker 1: learned so much from that that the more we share
Speaker 1: our stories, however hard it is to do so, you
Speaker 1: end up feeling better because you've gotten it out of
Speaker 1: your body and you've shared it with somebody. And when
Speaker 1: I hear people's stories now, it helps me. Like whenever
Speaker 1: I hear somebody you know, a lot of people now
Speaker 1: come to me with their stories about you know, losing
Speaker 1: somebody to you know, COVID related things, or just any anything.
Speaker 1: And whenever I hear somebody else's story, it helps me too.
Speaker 1: It helps me feel us alone. So I just I
Speaker 1: really feel like the more we share, the more we learn,
Speaker 1: and the more it helps us to grow and and
Speaker 1: and change, you know, and heal. I could imagine, like
Speaker 1: your choice would be to not get off the couch
Speaker 1: or the bed or to get up and do this.
Speaker 1: You you you know, you're very very brave and you know,
Speaker 1: and you you seem like you're doing as well as
Speaker 1: you know could be expected. Are you dating? Is that
Speaker 1: even something that's you know, entering your mind. Yeah, No,
Speaker 1: I have been dating. Um, I've I've been dating for
Speaker 1: a little while now. Um. I it's funny though that
Speaker 1: you asked, because I think I'm going to go on
Speaker 1: a little dating hiatus at the moment. It's been, it's been.
Speaker 1: It's been very hard, um. And I not only finding
Speaker 1: the time being a single mom with a lot of jobs, um,
Speaker 1: but also it's just um for me right now, I'm
Speaker 1: just I'm not finding anybody that I really connect with.
Speaker 1: And so I'll go on a date and and I'll
Speaker 1: have had a wonderful time and the person across to
Speaker 1: me is wonder full and we have a great conversation,
Speaker 1: but for but for me, that connection isn't there. And
Speaker 1: so then I end up leaving the date and I
Speaker 1: end up feeling a little bit um like sad, you know,
Speaker 1: like sad that like I wonder if I'm gonna find
Speaker 1: somebody again. I wonder if I'm gonna find that connection
Speaker 1: that I, you know, have had in my life before.
Speaker 1: And so I end up feeling like a little like
Speaker 1: I'm gonna go out there, I'm gonna stay depressed a
Speaker 1: little bit about it. And so I've just noticed in
Speaker 1: these last couple of weeks of of really dating and
Speaker 1: like I'm I'm really trying. I'm like going to meet
Speaker 1: a coffee here, have a tea here, a glass of
Speaker 1: wine here, a dinner there, and and like I said,
Speaker 1: everybody has been really great, but it's just it's left
Speaker 1: me sort of in in um feeling a little bit depressed.
Speaker 1: And so I kind of stepped back recently the last
Speaker 1: couple of days, and I've just been like, you know what,
Speaker 1: maybe I need to take a pause, um and and
Speaker 1: and not do this right now because I don't think
Speaker 1: it's serving um, it's not serving me well. So UM,
Speaker 1: so I'm gonna I'm gonna take a little dating break
Speaker 1: at the moment, focus on my son. But have these
Speaker 1: been fixed ups or a little bit of both. I'm
Speaker 1: on an app, so a lot of a lot of
Speaker 1: meeting people through an app and then also um, also
Speaker 1: fixing up through friends. I have no doubt you will
Speaker 1: find who you're supposed to be with. But you've you've
Speaker 1: been so incredible sharing your story. I know you wrote
Speaker 1: a book during um, you know, after after your experiences.
Speaker 1: What was the name of your book, again, Live your Life?
Speaker 1: And yeah, it was a memoir about you know, everything
Speaker 1: that happened, but also the love story between Nick and
Speaker 1: I and and how that happened and everything that happened
Speaker 1: with yes, with COVID and also you're an author. Now
Speaker 1: you have a children's book. Yeah, the children's book, um
Speaker 1: will come out next year. And UM, so crazy it was.
Speaker 1: It was honestly a dream of mine. UM back when
Speaker 1: when I when Elvis first was born. UM, I don't
Speaker 1: know if you found this, but I found that I
Speaker 1: was like so inspired by Elvis in so many different ways,
Speaker 1: especially being a new mom. Um. And one of the
Speaker 1: things that really happened, you know, right away, was I
Speaker 1: had all these ideas for children's books, and so I
Speaker 1: wrote it on my vision board back in twenty nineteen
Speaker 1: that I, you know, wanted to do children's books. So
Speaker 1: to actually haven't materialized now is sort of crazy. Um
Speaker 1: and it and it's very sweet. It came out of
Speaker 1: UM just our Elvis and I. We have a nightly
Speaker 1: routine when I put him to bed. This is when
Speaker 1: he was sleeping in his career. Because I told you
Speaker 1: before he's not anymore. He's now sleeping with Mama, but
Speaker 1: but we still do the tradition. But I rocked him
Speaker 1: and I started asking him, do you want me to
Speaker 1: tell you your dreams, and he started interacting him by
Speaker 1: and saying yes. And so then I just each night
Speaker 1: would make up this fantastical dream about what he was
Speaker 1: gonna do and where he was going to go. And
Speaker 1: because I really tried to incorporate Nick and a lot
Speaker 1: of things that we do, I would always incorporate Nick
Speaker 1: in the dream that you know, he would meet meet
Speaker 1: up with Dada and they'd go on and adventure together,
Speaker 1: and then Dada would bring him back home and put
Speaker 1: him back in his crib and kiss him good night.
Speaker 1: And then in the morning, Mama would come into your
Speaker 1: room and wake you up and ask you all about
Speaker 1: what happened with your dream. And so I started doing
Speaker 1: this every night. It was just like our routine. And
Speaker 1: after a while I I thought, you know, gosh, maybe
Speaker 1: this is a children's book. And so I pitched it
Speaker 1: to HarperCollins, who had done Live Your Life with me,
Speaker 1: and they loved it and they were like absolutely, and
Speaker 1: so I got I got to write my first children's book,
Speaker 1: and it'll be out this year and I and I
Speaker 1: are this next year, and um I I love it
Speaker 1: because it's it's, you know, something that just happened out
Speaker 1: of our our natural rhythm of life. Um and also
Speaker 1: just trying to incorporate those we've lost. And I think
Speaker 1: that you know, anyone can relate, you know, any parents
Speaker 1: reading their child of book. You know, it could be
Speaker 1: a grandparent, it could be a parent, it could be
Speaker 1: a brother or a sister. But you can encourage your
Speaker 1: children that you know, anyone can come visit them and
Speaker 1: their dreams, and in their dreams, anything can happen. And
Speaker 1: I'm a huge dreamer and believing in dreams and going
Speaker 1: for your dreams. So I really love this. I love
Speaker 1: this book and story. Well, well this is clearly one
Speaker 1: of the reasons why Elvis thinks he remembers his dad. So,
Speaker 1: you know, it's kind of gave me the chills thinking
Speaker 1: about it. I don't know how you find time and
Speaker 1: energy to do everything. You also have a makeup company,
Speaker 1: so tell me about your beauty brand? Oh I did, wait,
Speaker 1: what which one? Which do you in? Sand I even
Speaker 1: I have a T shirt company with my sister. You
Speaker 1: have a T shirt company? Tell me about because I
Speaker 1: was like, well maybe wait, maybe you do have a
Speaker 1: makeup brand you don't know about. Sometimes I'm like, wait,
Speaker 1: do I do I ask something going on UM. I
Speaker 1: have a T shirt company with my little sister Anna,
Speaker 1: who also helped Live Your Life with me. Uh. We
Speaker 1: love collaborating on things. We are very creatively intertwined. And
Speaker 1: we started this during the pandemic and it's called her
Speaker 1: Rate four and it celebrates all the things that we
Speaker 1: love about life and um. Each month we debut a
Speaker 1: different design, so UM it started with Hooray for life
Speaker 1: and Hooray for health heroes. And we donate proceeds of
Speaker 1: the T shirts to charities each month so that um,
Speaker 1: we're giving back but also spreading positivity. I you know,
Speaker 1: it's just a simple T shirt with a simple message.
Speaker 1: But I love wearing my Hooray for t shirts because
Speaker 1: you know, inevitably people stop you on the street. You know,
Speaker 1: one of my favorites is Hooray for Coffee and people
Speaker 1: are like, oh man, it's such a great shirt. You're like, yeah,
Speaker 1: because you know what coffee is something that needs to
Speaker 1: be celebrated and how do you take your coffee? Because
Speaker 1: I want to get into like some of your health
Speaker 1: and well, oh no, this is the least healthy thing
Speaker 1: about me. Um And I'm ashamed to say it, but
Speaker 1: we all have our vices. I love coffee, mate, hazelnut creamer,
Speaker 1: and it is terrible for you, I know it is.
Speaker 1: But I have two cups of coffee in the morning
Speaker 1: and I I love, I love a couple of squirts
Speaker 1: of coffee made hazel night creamer in there. Oh my god,
Speaker 1: So are you from the South? No, I from Ohio
Speaker 1: and I'm good West girl. I guess that's upliving on that.
Speaker 1: I don't know. It's terrible. Oh my god. Have you
Speaker 1: ever ride like like like rich regular cream and a
Speaker 1: little bit of hazelnut flavoring? Yes, I have. I'll do
Speaker 1: I'll do a happen half at a restaurant. I'll do
Speaker 1: even you know, tried the oak milk creamers, the almond
Speaker 1: milk creamers, the healthy versions of creamers. And the thing is,
Speaker 1: it's literally like I don't smoke, I don't drink a lot,
Speaker 1: I don't do drugs. It literally is my one vice.
Speaker 1: It's fine. And what about your diet? Are you someone
Speaker 1: that follows a certain plan or are you? Could you
Speaker 1: eat whatever you want? You know? I I am a
Speaker 1: person and you know, pregnancy did this to me. I
Speaker 1: I used to be very um, you know, super conscious
Speaker 1: of everything. That I was putting into my body. Um.
Speaker 1: And then you know, you get pregnant and you have
Speaker 1: this like kind of freedom where you feel like, you
Speaker 1: know what, I'm gonna eat pizza anytime I want because
Speaker 1: my baby's craving it. You know, I don't know. And
Speaker 1: then after you have your baby, you you you really are.
Speaker 1: So I was at least so in awe of what
Speaker 1: a female body can do, that we can grow another
Speaker 1: human inside of us and then take care of that
Speaker 1: human afterwards, that I think it allows so much grace
Speaker 1: and you start at least I started to be like, wow,
Speaker 1: you know, I appreciate my body in such a different way. Um,
Speaker 1: I I love what it can do instead of trying
Speaker 1: to think of, you know, how I can restrict it,
Speaker 1: you know. So um, it really taught me to eat
Speaker 1: in moderation. Uh. You know, if I want the spaghetti,
Speaker 1: you know, in the middle of the afternoon, eat the spaghetti.
Speaker 1: But I also love eating healthy. I am a person
Speaker 1: that will choose innately. I will choose a really good
Speaker 1: healthy salad over you know, something like an in and
Speaker 1: out burger. Like that's just me, not to say I
Speaker 1: won't have the in and out burger. On a random occasion,
Speaker 1: if I'm craving it, I will, But I tend to
Speaker 1: crave healthy food, um, more than junk food. I'm not
Speaker 1: a snacker. Um. I I love eating healthy. I love
Speaker 1: what how it makes me feel. UM. So I'll treat
Speaker 1: myself if I want it. But I think innately, I
Speaker 1: just want I and I want and I create healthy things. Okay.
Speaker 1: And what about your your your clothes side when you're
Speaker 1: not working, you're not on TV, are you you know?
Speaker 1: Do you wear sweats? Do you wear jeans? Do you
Speaker 1: wear what do you wear? I would say I'm definitely
Speaker 1: your blue jean, white T shirt kind of girl with converse.
Speaker 1: That's like my go to look. I have way too
Speaker 1: many pairs of jeans and way too many white T
Speaker 1: shirts and tanks to them to the fact where if
Speaker 1: I'm not dressed for the talk and if I'm not
Speaker 1: in a workout outfit or sweatpants and I have to
Speaker 1: like go meet friends for dinner, I'm always like, wow,
Speaker 1: I really only have white T shirts and jeans, So
Speaker 1: I guess that's what I'm wearing it again, But like,
Speaker 1: I don't know, I love it. I'm comfortable in it.
Speaker 1: I feel good in it, So that's kind of like
Speaker 1: my would say my go to outfit. But you know,
Speaker 1: I love I love. I live in Laurel Canyon, so
Speaker 1: I love a very Laurel Canyon sixties hippie vibe. But
Speaker 1: you know, right now I'm in leather hide knee boots
Speaker 1: and a leather skirt, so I mix it up. I
Speaker 1: love playing with fashion and playing with how it can
Speaker 1: change your personality. I think that's fun. And who's your
Speaker 1: favorite T shirt designer and your favorite jeans? Oh, that's
Speaker 1: a good question. Um. I would say a great go
Speaker 1: to T shirt right now is a brand called Wesley.
Speaker 1: It's available at Ban Deer. I also like dragon Bone,
Speaker 1: and my new favorite pair of jeans is a pair
Speaker 1: from Our thirteen. They're very like low slung boyfriend d
Speaker 1: uh laxed kind of gene, which I have. I have
Speaker 1: a couple of those, which my guy friends tell me
Speaker 1: never to wear on dates. But I'm like, hey, listen,
Speaker 1: they are a little more especially at my age with
Speaker 1: you know, after you're having three kids. But I wear
Speaker 1: them with a nice sweater. They're they're really good legs.
Speaker 1: I know they're cute, right, I like, I think it's
Speaker 1: all about what makes you feel good and comfortable. You
Speaker 1: know what I mean, Well, your your positivity is infectious.
Speaker 1: And I asked the same question of everyone. If people
Speaker 1: listening could listen to one piece of advice that you
Speaker 1: have for them that could change the course of their life,
Speaker 1: what would it be, Gosh, you know, Um, I think
Speaker 1: that it would be to start your day with a
Speaker 1: positive message. I started doing this about seven years ago,
Speaker 1: and I really do think that it starts It kicks
Speaker 1: off your day in a great way. I start my
Speaker 1: day off with a positive message and I play music.
Speaker 1: I don't turn on the television. I don't put on
Speaker 1: the news, not right away. I started with music and
Speaker 1: a positive quote, and I find myself smiling and dancing
Speaker 1: around my kitchen while drinking coffee instead of anxious and
Speaker 1: uh stressed about what I'm seeing on the television. So um,
Speaker 1: I think that the more that we can control our
Speaker 1: minds first thing in the morning, first thing that we
Speaker 1: have when we wake up before everything else starts infiltrating it,
Speaker 1: I think that it really does help to uh change
Speaker 1: your mood and your day every day. I love that
Speaker 1: advice I start with. I start with the news so
Speaker 1: I might have to start with some music. So you
Speaker 1: know what, start with music. I'm telling you. This morning
Speaker 1: I put on uh uh James Brown and I was dancing. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I was dancing around the tuity fruity and I'm like,
Speaker 1: you know what, like this is great, like and my
Speaker 1: coffee and Elvis was dancing. I was like, what a
Speaker 1: great way to start the day, you know what I mean? Like,
Speaker 1: even if it's just for one song, just start started
Speaker 1: with music, then turned on the news and see how
Speaker 1: it changes your day. I love that. I'll let you
Speaker 1: know how it goes. Okay. Yeah, so nice to talk
Speaker 1: to you, so nice to me. Thanks for having me,
Speaker 1: Yeah you too. All right, good luck with all your projects.
Speaker 1: Thank you, Thank you, bye, Bobby. Thanks for listening. Follow
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