Speaker 1: Hell I Suck at Dating with the Nonglert and Dared
Speaker 1: Haven and I heard radio podcast What's Up? Everyone, Welcome
Speaker 1: to an all new episode of Help I Suck At Dating?
Speaker 1: And you know, as it's kind of becoming a bit
Speaker 1: of a trend lately, Jared is not here because he's
Speaker 1: got bigger and better fish to be frying in his
Speaker 1: cafe out there in Rhode Island. So I went out
Speaker 1: and did something even better for you guys. I got
Speaker 1: Eastern and Hannah to want to jump on the podcast.
Speaker 1: And let me tell you what, it took some major
Speaker 1: convincing to get them to be on board with this idea. UM,
Speaker 1: We've got a great episode for you guys this week.
Speaker 1: We're gonna keep it pretty light, pretty lighthearted. UM. Once
Speaker 1: Jared gets here, we'll just kind of be caught up
Speaker 1: with him and what he's doing with his um with
Speaker 1: his cafe out there in Rhode Island. We're not gonna
Speaker 1: have any guests this week, so we'll just talk about
Speaker 1: some hot topics. But we got some juicy emails that
Speaker 1: we want to get to later. UM. I guess I
Speaker 1: would be remiss if I didn't take the time to
Speaker 1: update all of the listeners on my life, so I'm
Speaker 1: sure if you follow along on Instagram, Caitlin and I
Speaker 1: just had to put down Pappy the past this past
Speaker 1: week and Eastern r Hahanna. Have you guys ever had
Speaker 1: to put a dog down before? Yeah, I put I
Speaker 1: put my childhood dog down, Um this Passatoon, So I
Speaker 1: know how you're feeling and how hard it is. Yeah,
Speaker 1: Eastern have you? Yeah, A long time ago, and it
Speaker 1: was a it was a very old dog. So I
Speaker 1: was like emotionally ready for it. Um, but you never are,
Speaker 1: you know, You're never fully ready to say goodbye. I'll
Speaker 1: be honest with you, guys. It was one of the
Speaker 1: hardest things I've ever done in my entire life. I
Speaker 1: believe it was like it was because it's it's just
Speaker 1: so weird. When it's a dog, it's like you're the
Speaker 1: one making the decisions for it. You're like just something
Speaker 1: about making a decision of being like, you know what,
Speaker 1: I think it's time for you to go, you know,
Speaker 1: and like obviously you do it for its best interests.
Speaker 1: Like Pappy, for instance, he was diagnosed with like a
Speaker 1: brain tumor three months ago. And it's crazy even looking
Speaker 1: back when we made like our little videos for him
Speaker 1: to like you know, commemorate him or whatever. As recent
Speaker 1: as like August of this year, he was like running around,
Speaker 1: hopping around, jumping on stuff, like smiling wagon his tail.
Speaker 1: And then up until the end, he like never left
Speaker 1: his bed, didn't eat his food, like, hated leaving the
Speaker 1: house like all these things. So um, even with all that,
Speaker 1: it was like one of the it was so hard
Speaker 1: because you know, the the hospice comes to your house,
Speaker 1: they you know, they give your heads up on what's
Speaker 1: gonna happen. Um, they give two doses. The first doses
Speaker 1: to like calm him down and get them ready. In
Speaker 1: the second dose is the one that actually does the deed.
Speaker 1: And the first one's going in and he's like Pappy's
Speaker 1: like reacting and he's like barking and he's like shriek,
Speaker 1: gig and pain, and in the back of your head,
Speaker 1: like all I could think about was like, is this
Speaker 1: Pappy telling us that he's like not ready to cross
Speaker 1: over the Golden Rainbow road or whatever it is. So
Speaker 1: it was, it was it was tough. And then like
Speaker 1: obviously the aftermath of having an empty house, I think,
Speaker 1: what we're gonna do next, because we are going to
Speaker 1: foster and adoptive senior dog again because of the light
Speaker 1: that he brought into our lives. But I think what
Speaker 1: I want us to do next is get two dogs.
Speaker 1: That way, inevitably, when one passes over, we'll at least
Speaker 1: have a second dog, UM to tie us over. Because
Speaker 1: the past five days, I guess this air is on
Speaker 1: a Sunday, but we're recording on a Friday. We uh,
Speaker 1: we haven't slept at home. We've slept at a hotel
Speaker 1: every single night because we just can't bear being home.
Speaker 1: We've like barely eaten. We uh, we have barely been
Speaker 1: like drinking water. And I feel like such a drama
Speaker 1: queen about all this stuff. But it's it's like, honestly,
Speaker 1: been super super hard. But everyone has been so nice,
Speaker 1: Like you guys all reached out and said very nice things.
Speaker 1: I really appreciate that, UM, and that honestly has made
Speaker 1: a big difference. But it's been a lot harder than
Speaker 1: I expected it to be. Uh. First of all, I'm
Speaker 1: so sorry for your loss, Brouh. Pappy was an incredible dog,
Speaker 1: and I just like I think about Lois and I
Speaker 1: think about how dogs are truly a part of the family,
Speaker 1: and it's just really sad. And Patty was an incredible
Speaker 1: dog and what you guys did form towards the end, uh,
Speaker 1: and giving him the life that he ad. I mean
Speaker 1: you you made his life better and you gave him
Speaker 1: so much love. And I guess that's all we can
Speaker 1: do for our pets, but it never makes it easy. So, dude,
Speaker 1: I just wanted to say, I'm so sorry for your
Speaker 1: loss and it sucks. As weird is this to say.
Speaker 1: I thought about you a little bit, uh over the
Speaker 1: past week, just because I know you had mentioned a
Speaker 1: couple of weeks ago on a podcast that you had
Speaker 1: to put your childhood dock down at one point and
Speaker 1: how difficult that was. And I know how attached you
Speaker 1: are to your dogs too, so I was like, I
Speaker 1: don't know why, I just I kept thinking about that
Speaker 1: for something. Yeah, man, I mean dogs, they're part of
Speaker 1: the family. Brow and we put our family dog down. Brady.
Speaker 1: He was always known as the fat one. He was
Speaker 1: always a little overweight, and he's like he had trouble
Speaker 1: breathing towards the end, and he was like snorting, so
Speaker 1: he sounded like a pig. So it was very cute.
Speaker 1: But yeah, man, dude, Lois, I like, well, I'm at
Speaker 1: the coffee shop right now and we have a blown
Speaker 1: up you know, poster or Lois on the wall. That's
Speaker 1: how much we love our dogs. So I, uh, you know,
Speaker 1: I know it's not easy. So I wish you and
Speaker 1: Cale and I send you guys all my loves and uh,
Speaker 1: it's hard, it's really hard. We're off to get some
Speaker 1: peppy tattoos today where you guys gonna get them. I'm
Speaker 1: gonna get it right about my sock lines, so as
Speaker 1: little years are poking right about my socks whenever I
Speaker 1: wear socks. And as much as a mistake as that
Speaker 1: might be to get a tattoo for a dead dog
Speaker 1: that you have, um, it just feels right, you know,
Speaker 1: So why would that be a mistake. I don't know.
Speaker 1: It just seems like a weird thing. Like if you
Speaker 1: get a tattoo for everything you miss in life, you're
Speaker 1: gonna have a body full of random tattoos, which I
Speaker 1: guess I already have. But it just seems like a
Speaker 1: weird thing to do. And I'll tell you, the Pappy
Speaker 1: tattoo is far better than the Instagram one, So you're
Speaker 1: already improving your tattoo game. I'll tell you what. Secretly,
Speaker 1: one of the reasons I got the Instagram tattoo is
Speaker 1: that way every time I got a tattoo, after the fact,
Speaker 1: I could always be like, well, it's not my worst tattoo.
Speaker 1: You know, that's actually not the dumbest thing I've ever heard. Yeah,
Speaker 1: it's only like the third dobest thing. By the way, Dean,
Speaker 1: you also got a haircut. I did. Yeah, so the
Speaker 1: listeners won't be able to see, but um, I got
Speaker 1: a haircut. I was. That's that's how um that's how
Speaker 1: hard I took the death. I just needed to change.
Speaker 1: I didn't want to have hair anymore. I had to.
Speaker 1: I had to start fresh and begin a new um. So,
Speaker 1: for the listeners out there, I've got my old stupid
Speaker 1: little u F boy poof on the top of my
Speaker 1: old Dean's back. And part of it, too, was you
Speaker 1: were saying, you know, Dean, back when you tried, you
Speaker 1: were one of the most handsome guys I knew, and
Speaker 1: I was like, man, he's he said that way too
Speaker 1: many times not to actually really mean it. Um So,
Speaker 1: I just I want Calin to be able to tell
Speaker 1: me how handsome she thinks I am, and actually mean it,
Speaker 1: because she always tells me even when I have long hair,
Speaker 1: But I always sense a little bit of a of
Speaker 1: a lie. So now I know when she says that,
Speaker 1: she actually means she liked long or short hair better.
Speaker 1: She uh, she claims she likes both, but I know
Speaker 1: for a fact she likes the short hair better. And
Speaker 1: also she's kind of been starved of the short hair, Dean,
Speaker 1: you know what I mean, Like when we first started dating,
Speaker 1: at the long hair, at the mustache, and then I
Speaker 1: went baald at one point, and then I just kind
Speaker 1: of grew it all back at once instead of ever
Speaker 1: getting styled. So she's never had the full luxury of
Speaker 1: being my girlfriend with the short hair. But also the
Speaker 1: short hair is like tied to uh, you know, my
Speaker 1: f boy days. So I guess condolences to her because
Speaker 1: she might have no. No, no, that's not true. That's
Speaker 1: not how this is going down. Come back, it's going back.
Speaker 1: It's all gonna go downhill. As soon as he cuts
Speaker 1: his hair, Dean's life just falls into shambles. Dude, it's
Speaker 1: so nice having short hair, like you just jump in
Speaker 1: the shower it's clean real quick. You don't have to
Speaker 1: wear a hat. Seven. Like, as much as I love
Speaker 1: my long hair, and I still find myself like grabbing
Speaker 1: for my locks behind my behind my neck sometimes and
Speaker 1: like being like, oh, yeah, I don't have hair anymore. Um,
Speaker 1: and I do still I don't know. I guess I
Speaker 1: still kind of wish I had long hair, but it's
Speaker 1: just the convenience of having short hair so nice, you know,
Speaker 1: you know a thousand percent. I cut my hair so
Speaker 1: I can wear a hat because my hair is such
Speaker 1: where it when it's long, it's so large and expansive.
Speaker 1: I put a hat on just go r and falls off.
Speaker 1: Even a beanie, well what about like a what about
Speaker 1: like a cat like a cap, like a baseball hat. Yeah,
Speaker 1: like they will not stay on. It's like it's so
Speaker 1: annoying because it's like it just gets like so expansive,
Speaker 1: it just grows and grows. Uh. So I got my
Speaker 1: hair cut so I could wear a hat again. Like recently,
Speaker 1: I'm I I wear hats all the time because I
Speaker 1: have long hair, and I'm very excited to cut my hair,
Speaker 1: so I stopped wearing hats. I agree and relate to
Speaker 1: Dean because I'm I'm definitely gonna lose my hair. The
Speaker 1: amount of times I wear hats because my hair just
Speaker 1: falls on my face, it's impossible, Like now I will
Speaker 1: be balding right Well, that's my big fear too, is
Speaker 1: you cut your hair. There's gonna be one time where
Speaker 1: you cut your hair and it never fully grows back.
Speaker 1: You know what I mean? Oh thou, that's what I'm
Speaker 1: terrified to cut my hair. I'm like, is it has
Speaker 1: it receded in the past two years? I don't even know.
Speaker 1: Am I gonna have bald spots? Why don't I just
Speaker 1: keep it long and deceive everyone? And that's the thing
Speaker 1: is we're getting We're getting to that stage of life
Speaker 1: I would say in your thirties is when you really
Speaker 1: have to start worrying about that kind of stuff. So,
Speaker 1: I mean, if my hair starts falling out, I'll get
Speaker 1: like hair plugs or something. Is we we have the
Speaker 1: you know, like I talked to my friends about it
Speaker 1: every onceince while. I not every once in a while,
Speaker 1: but I've talked to my friends about it before. Like
Speaker 1: they can't really grow their hair out because you know,
Speaker 1: they got to go their office job, they got to
Speaker 1: work at the five. You can't really wear a hat
Speaker 1: in the office, right, But like you and I in Easton,
Speaker 1: and Hannah already already has long hair, so I guess
Speaker 1: she's exempt from this conversation. But like you can get
Speaker 1: away with wearing a hat every single day, you know
Speaker 1: what I mean. So it's kind of yeah, yeah, but
Speaker 1: I don't think we need to talk about hair all day. Um,
Speaker 1: I don't know, it's kind of fun. You missed the
Speaker 1: rundown a little bit, so we don't have any guests
Speaker 1: this week, be us talking about uh, just whatever we
Speaker 1: want to talk about. And then we've got some emails. Um,
Speaker 1: how is everything going at the cafe over there? Uh? Great,
Speaker 1: it's really busy. We had our grand opening last night.
Speaker 1: It was absolutely slammed. There was a line. There's probably
Speaker 1: like fifty people waiting outside to get in. It was, uh,
Speaker 1: and then like a hundred people inside. So and this
Speaker 1: was consistent for like three hours, and so it was great.
Speaker 1: It was overwhelming. I'm actually here right now. I've been
Speaker 1: working sixteen hours a day for the past week. Uh.
Speaker 1: You know, it's just starting a new business life in
Speaker 1: the NFL. So if I have to, like, I hope
Speaker 1: you guys don't mind if I have to like pop
Speaker 1: in and out of the podcast, I promise, because it's
Speaker 1: like I'm already getting knocks on the door. They're overwhelmed.
Speaker 1: We're busy. We've gotta make sandwiches, people need drinks, and
Speaker 1: it's just like it's great, it's overwhelming. But like I
Speaker 1: just came back from the store. I spent like hundreds
Speaker 1: of dollars because we're running out of everything. You know, hey,
Speaker 1: life running a business, what is it, Cathay Like at
Speaker 1: night it's a lounge. So we have couches and chairs
Speaker 1: and to fireplaces going and very intimate lighting and really
Speaker 1: want people to feel like they can come and get
Speaker 1: a martini and where you know, I'm sweater weather, you
Speaker 1: know what I mean, in front of the fireplace, have
Speaker 1: an espressive martini, enjoy yourself, have some nice combo. You
Speaker 1: guys do have a liquor license that huh Yeah, we
Speaker 1: got a full air license. That was a very tedious process.
Speaker 1: So I mean it took like probably about four months
Speaker 1: and I'm still going through and now because as soon
Speaker 1: as I got the liquor license accepted, I needed to
Speaker 1: apply for a renewal for next year, so I had
Speaker 1: to like go through everything all over again, which they
Speaker 1: felt bad about, but they're like, hey, it's just the
Speaker 1: way it goes. I'm like, oh no, Worris. So it's
Speaker 1: been fun men, as you can hear, like my voice
Speaker 1: is a little rast probably right now. It's just been constant.
Speaker 1: But uh, and then of course, like still doing my life.
Speaker 1: I have a pregnant wife. You know, there's a lot
Speaker 1: going on right now, but it's all good things. A
Speaker 1: little overwhelming, but good things. Is that what you get
Speaker 1: for opening up a restaurant or a cafe lounge on
Speaker 1: December one instead of January one is having to do
Speaker 1: everything for twelve months and then renew it January one
Speaker 1: for the whole year pretty much. But it's yeah, I
Speaker 1: mean it's cool, man, it's fun. Like I love running
Speaker 1: on business, I love owning one. It's chaotic and it's
Speaker 1: it's crazy. There's people outside and they're running around trying
Speaker 1: to figure things out. And so we'll see. We'll get
Speaker 1: through it though, and it's gonna be fun. And and uh,
Speaker 1: I'm really proud of what we have those far, and
Speaker 1: everybody seems to be enjoying it thus far. Knock on
Speaker 1: wood obviously, like no thing is perfect. I've had I've
Speaker 1: had to deal with people who have like waited twenty
Speaker 1: five minutes for sandwich, has been like I can't wait
Speaker 1: any longer. Like I totally get it, Like I'll refund you, so,
Speaker 1: you know, definitely just customer service, we get it. You're
Speaker 1: proud of the cafe, as you should be. I got
Speaker 1: a question for you, though, what are you more out
Speaker 1: of cafe? What's it's? What's it called? Or help I
Speaker 1: suck a dating obviously? Help I such a dating bro?
Speaker 1: Come on, we've been doing this for years. Audrey has
Speaker 1: just opened up. That's the right answer. But if you
Speaker 1: were to go out in the Audrey's right now and
Speaker 1: somewhere we're to ask you that same question off the air,
Speaker 1: what would you answer be thousand percent? I'm so proud
Speaker 1: of Audrey's bro worked so hard and put so much
Speaker 1: investment in time into this place and help us like
Speaker 1: a dating allen do once a week. I just here's
Speaker 1: my concern, Jared. I just don't want you to get
Speaker 1: caught up in this pipe dream of yours, you know,
Speaker 1: Like I don't want you to forget us a little people,
Speaker 1: because you're you're blasting off in this outer space with Audrey's.
Speaker 1: You know, something tells me I'm not going to figure
Speaker 1: about my I Heart Radio podcast that I'm very grateful
Speaker 1: for having. So I'm saying, is man less work, less money, sure,
Speaker 1: but less works. More specifically, just an hour a week
Speaker 1: is all we oh, we need from you, so as
Speaker 1: long that that's all we need? Um All right, Well,
Speaker 1: we do have some hot talks, hot topics coming up,
Speaker 1: and we do have to answer some emails. But before
Speaker 1: we do that, let's take a quick break. All right, everybody,
Speaker 1: welcome back to help I suck at dating um lo
Speaker 1: and behold, we lost yet again. He's got his his
Speaker 1: his pipe dream to take care of over there in
Speaker 1: Rhode Island. So I guess we're gonna get in some
Speaker 1: hot topics, but before we do, because it's rare that
Speaker 1: we get Hannah and Easton as active participants in this podcast,
Speaker 1: active hosts, if you will. And Hannah knows first hand
Speaker 1: how much I despised the hot topics, not for any
Speaker 1: not for anything that she's done wrong. I just don't
Speaker 1: want to talk about machine gun Kelly and um and
Speaker 1: what's d Megan Fox. You know, I don't want to
Speaker 1: talk about toy Boy and it's eighty two year old
Speaker 1: over which is actually pretty interesting and maybe we should
Speaker 1: talk about that. But I just want to know what's
Speaker 1: going on with you guys. Can you guys give us
Speaker 1: some updates in your lives. I know Easton is a
Speaker 1: busy guy working on seacrest. I just got shipped a
Speaker 1: new box of carmel candy corn princess Um candy corn,
Speaker 1: right that what it's called caramel corn? I think they
Speaker 1: just sent you the regular popcorn. I don't think my
Speaker 1: my flavors in there. But but your that's like your
Speaker 1: caramel corner or do you just have like a special thing.
Speaker 1: I did a flavor with Thank you Popcorn. They're they're
Speaker 1: a popcorn company out of Massachusetts, and uh, they're they're
Speaker 1: very good stuff. It's they did a peppermint bark for
Speaker 1: the holidays. It's very good. I think they wanted you
Speaker 1: to to try it. What about you tell us what
Speaker 1: you've been up too lately? Please? You don't even want
Speaker 1: to know. I have such a boring life. I just work.
Speaker 1: I'm pretty sure you don't, because you're you're always traveling
Speaker 1: up and down the California coast. Be you work on
Speaker 1: a lot of amazing I heart radio podcasts, so there's
Speaker 1: gonna be some something's going on. Well, I am going
Speaker 1: to New York next week for a genle Ball, which
Speaker 1: I'm excited about, and then I'll be home with my family.
Speaker 1: I have. I have been going up north. I'm to
Speaker 1: northern California lot, just just because I can work as
Speaker 1: a remote or like spending time with my family. So
Speaker 1: I've been for it. If you can. I mean, I
Speaker 1: don't see why not? Um question for you guys. I know, uh,
Speaker 1: this podcast isn't live. But was there a jingle Ball
Speaker 1: in Los Angeles this December? Or is that only in
Speaker 1: New York? Yeah, there's a tour. They go all over
Speaker 1: the country. It's well, why the heck did why the
Speaker 1: heck did help I suck a dating not get invited.
Speaker 1: I even texted Amy and Danielle on the side. I said, hey, guys, um,
Speaker 1: Kaylin is really she really wants to go to a
Speaker 1: jingle ball? Can we make that happen? And I just
Speaker 1: got crickets. Wow. Yeah, Well so the jingle Ball in
Speaker 1: Los Angeles as we record this is tonight. Um and yeah,
Speaker 1: I mean Dean. I'm a I'm a valued employee of
Speaker 1: my Heart for Media. I've been with the company for
Speaker 1: ten years. I've worked on jingle Ball and Wayneo Tank,
Speaker 1: all these events. I sent a text sing, can I
Speaker 1: get Can my sister get a ticket too? I've never
Speaker 1: asked for tickets ever. I was like, can I my
Speaker 1: sister get a ticket? She loves do jaquet again crickets,
Speaker 1: So what's going on with that? It's a hard ticket
Speaker 1: this year. There's the line up for Los Angeles is very,
Speaker 1: very good, and I think, yeah, everybody wanted to go.
Speaker 1: What's the lineup? Can you guys fill us in on that?
Speaker 1: Oh my god, yes I can. Uh. This is like,
Speaker 1: this is a good way to shamelessly plug iHeart Radio
Speaker 1: and maybe get us some extra tickets for next year's
Speaker 1: stingle Ball in Los Angeles. Can send videos, don't worry, thanks,
Speaker 1: just post them on your stories. I'm sure I'll find
Speaker 1: a way to get to watching them. We're gonna plug
Speaker 1: an event that has happened already. H but if you're
Speaker 1: an East Coast listener, you can also go see it
Speaker 1: in New York next week. You know, even if you're
Speaker 1: not an East Coast listener. Let's plug it right now.
Speaker 1: The iHeart Radio jingle Ball presented by Capital One will
Speaker 1: be streaming live on the CW dot com and the
Speaker 1: c W app. That's this Friday, December. The lineup will
Speaker 1: be different from the Los Angeles one, but he who
Speaker 1: played in l A. We got ed Shearon bts, do Alipa,
Speaker 1: doj Cat, Lil nas X, the Kid Learoy, So Weedie,
Speaker 1: the Black Eyed Peas, Tate McCrae, Bozzi and TikTok Sensation,
Speaker 1: Dixie Demeleo And that's who was in l A New York,
Speaker 1: which will be broadcast live on the c W and
Speaker 1: the c W app starting at seven pm Eastern time. Uh.
Speaker 1: That lineup is I'm pulling it up here. Uh we
Speaker 1: got ed Sharon du Aalipa, the Jonas Brothers, doj Cat,
Speaker 1: Little nos X, Sweetie a j R. Kane Brown, Tate, McCrae, Bozzy,
Speaker 1: and once again Dixie Demeleo. That's who's playing in New York.
Speaker 1: I'm gonna go ahead and say it. I think the
Speaker 1: New York line it's just a little bit better. Yes,
Speaker 1: it's pretty big in the K pop scene. We actually
Speaker 1: met a nice young man last night. Who was a
Speaker 1: big BTS fan, And um, have you guys listen to
Speaker 1: the music? I'm sure you have, right like in wanting
Speaker 1: to work you're in. Yeah, I've listened to them alive.
Speaker 1: What's your take? Could you guys love K pop or no?
Speaker 1: I like aspects of K pop? I don't. I don't
Speaker 1: see the um fanatic appeal of it, and I'm wondering
Speaker 1: if I'm missing something. I think it's more geared towards uh,
Speaker 1: young girls than a third five year old man. But um,
Speaker 1: it's good. I mean I think Dynamites a hit song.
Speaker 1: I think Butter is a hit song. Those are songs
Speaker 1: by BTS for the uninitiated. But yeah, I'm not like
Speaker 1: a K pop stand by any means. I don't like
Speaker 1: anything about K pop Like wow, what why not? I
Speaker 1: just don't. It does seem like the fan base of
Speaker 1: K pop is like is like almost beatle like you
Speaker 1: know what I mean. Like they're there. I don't want
Speaker 1: to use the word insane, but they like go above
Speaker 1: and beyond what normal fans do. I feel like it's remarkable,
Speaker 1: it's it's really really I don't know, I've never seen
Speaker 1: anything like this in in over the years of working
Speaker 1: and pot music. I've never seen a fandom this fanatic
Speaker 1: and this uh loyal as the specifically BTS, Like there's
Speaker 1: are like like I shudder to think if BTS endorsed
Speaker 1: a political candidate, what would happen? You know, it's they
Speaker 1: could sway elections. I still certainly think that I don't
Speaker 1: know why this happened. I don't know why my TikTok
Speaker 1: algorithm thought that I wanted to see this. But there
Speaker 1: was like this fan account for BTS that was posting
Speaker 1: videos of Because I don't know the the details of
Speaker 1: the band, I think it's like four young cream kids
Speaker 1: right that singing dance and they were highlighting one of
Speaker 1: them band members and they were like, just look at
Speaker 1: this guy's moves. He's got so much swag. He's got
Speaker 1: so much like rhythm. And I was watching the video
Speaker 1: and I was like, damn, that guy does have a
Speaker 1: lot of rhythm. Like I watched I watched the video
Speaker 1: like nineteen times and I was like, this kid is
Speaker 1: so smooth, So I can I like kind of see
Speaker 1: like if I was like a fourteen year old girl
Speaker 1: or continue old girl, I'd be like obsessed with him absolutely,
Speaker 1: But yeah, I don't, I don't. I don't know. It's
Speaker 1: just weird just here like people because like I guess,
Speaker 1: BTS only plays like a couple of times a year
Speaker 1: all around the world. And so this kid that I
Speaker 1: was talking to yesterday, he was like, yeah, like people
Speaker 1: are flying in from like London and like other places
Speaker 1: in Europe just like watch BTS play, and like all,
Speaker 1: I don't know. It's just absolutely mind blowing to me.
Speaker 1: So I guess all that to say, I heart Radio
Speaker 1: Music Festival is going to have these guys. And if
Speaker 1: you're a big ky pop fan, you don't even have
Speaker 1: to be there, as you were saying, you can just
Speaker 1: stream live on the radio app. Yeah, just just watch
Speaker 1: the jingle ball in the Oh. No, actually they're not
Speaker 1: gonna be at the one you can watch live, So
Speaker 1: I just just enjoy the thought. Um. When last thing
Speaker 1: about BTS, I just think it's interesting. They came on
Speaker 1: the Seacrest Show a couple of years ago, and uh,
Speaker 1: you know, we have a lot of artists come through,
Speaker 1: and it's usually like the artists and like someone from
Speaker 1: the label and their manager. But BTS had all those people,
Speaker 1: and they had like three or four security guards that
Speaker 1: were like giant dudes with black suits and sunglasses, like
Speaker 1: they looked like Korean commandos or something like they had
Speaker 1: heat like those guys were. It was crazy. It was
Speaker 1: like the Secret Service had come through. I've never seen
Speaker 1: anything like that. Where was this. This is just that
Speaker 1: they came to the studio and Bourbank to be on
Speaker 1: with Seacrest and uh it was nuts. Like they had
Speaker 1: like a full security detail. Like I was like ear
Speaker 1: pieces and stuff and they're like, Okay, they're moving, they're moving, clear, clear,
Speaker 1: like that kind of thing. It was so cool. So
Speaker 1: you were breathing the same oxygen as BTS. That's amazing. Yes,
Speaker 1: And actually, you know something I want to test on it.
Speaker 1: I know you you pull the social clips for this show.
Speaker 1: Here's what we should do. I should pull some kind
Speaker 1: of clip. It doesn't even have to be this part,
Speaker 1: just some clip from this show and just say like
Speaker 1: hashtag BTS Army, we get into all things BTS. Uh,
Speaker 1: hashtag b Yes. That's all we have to say. And
Speaker 1: I think this episode will blow up. I'm just making
Speaker 1: if we could reach a fraction of the BTS fan
Speaker 1: base just to get to listen to this podcast. Hey,
Speaker 1: I know for a fact, we'd have listeners for life.
Speaker 1: B we would have probably the highest rated episode we've
Speaker 1: ever had, because even a small sliver of a fraction
Speaker 1: of the BTS fan base listening to this would um
Speaker 1: put us ten times over, I think our highest listener episode.
Speaker 1: So I agree, we're gonna hashtag BTS, hashtag BTS army,
Speaker 1: hashtag love BTS, all the things. I agree this should
Speaker 1: be a good little social experiment. I've never met them before,
Speaker 1: but I've I have breathed the same air as as RM,
Speaker 1: the rap Monster, he's the de facto leader. I've I've
Speaker 1: read the same are as John Cook, I've I've read
Speaker 1: the same are as all the guys. So can we can?
Speaker 1: We can we appeal to our BTS fans real quick?
Speaker 1: So what was it like being in their presence? Was
Speaker 1: there an aura about them that they emitted? Or yes,
Speaker 1: there was? It was incredible, it was it was tangible,
Speaker 1: it was it was it was fungible. This this aura
Speaker 1: that I that I felt. I it was like I
Speaker 1: was in the presence of of pop superstar gods. That's
Speaker 1: all I can see. And have you ever felt that
Speaker 1: way in the presence of anyone else? I'm sure you
Speaker 1: have no, no, no, no. You know, I've met a
Speaker 1: lot of big pop stars and none of them felt
Speaker 1: like BTS did. Because they're the best pop stars that
Speaker 1: I've ever lived and we'll ever walked the earth, and
Speaker 1: I love them. I would do anything for them. I
Speaker 1: heard they don't even walk, They just float. Everywhere they go.
Speaker 1: They materialize in front of you and just like because
Speaker 1: they don't exist on the same plane as us, they
Speaker 1: just merely take a form that we can comprehend as humans,
Speaker 1: and then they go on to the next, the next place.
Speaker 1: He said, I've got some questions for you, Well, just
Speaker 1: more specifically one question, because I I do show your opinion,
Speaker 1: especially when it comes to these types of things K
Speaker 1: pop in in general, I just fairly value your opinion.
Speaker 1: On Um, We're gonna go a little off K pop.
Speaker 1: There's this singer in Japan I believe, who is not
Speaker 1: even a real person. Do you know who I'm talking about? Yes,
Speaker 1: Hot Sunni Miiku. I know all about her. Can you
Speaker 1: can you just kill us like the debrief on that
Speaker 1: because I got a general understanding of who she is,
Speaker 1: but she is she's like the most popular singer in Japan, right, Yeah,
Speaker 1: she she's up there hot. Sunni Miiku is not a
Speaker 1: real person. She is an animated avatar and um, but
Speaker 1: she is treated like she's a real person. She's technically
Speaker 1: a hologram, I believe, and if if people out there
Speaker 1: want an entertaining experience. He got to look up when
Speaker 1: she was on the David Letterman Show because oh my god,
Speaker 1: he does not know how to react to this. And
Speaker 1: it is so funny. She's a she's an animated character,
Speaker 1: and she's a pop star and she sings, and she's
Speaker 1: played shows that like Arenas and stuff where it's just
Speaker 1: a screen of this, like you know, she looks like
Speaker 1: Sailor Moon or so she's just an anime character, but
Speaker 1: people go nuts for her, and um it's you know,
Speaker 1: my my brother in law is part of a project
Speaker 1: for another character named MICHAELA. And uh, Michaela I think
Speaker 1: is going to be a very big star. I can
Speaker 1: show you guys a photo. But um, it's it's a
Speaker 1: whole new generation of digital. Uh digital like celebrities, I
Speaker 1: guess is the only way I can I can describe it. Um.
Speaker 1: For the for the listeners at home, they're not gonna
Speaker 1: be able to see this but I'm gonna show you
Speaker 1: guys Michaela really quick. Here's what she looks like. Oh,
Speaker 1: she is like a Sailor Moon. Yeah, that's a real person.
Speaker 1: This is not a real person. They use a motion
Speaker 1: capture uh to animate this person and she has real
Speaker 1: relationships and like it's it's really it's really strange. And
Speaker 1: then um, here's a hot Suni miik you um and
Speaker 1: hot Miko's music is good. Uh, but she's not a
Speaker 1: she's not a real person. It's it's really an interesting
Speaker 1: you know. I don't know. I don't know why. I
Speaker 1: was expecting it to be a hologram of like a
Speaker 1: a looking person. But you're right, it does look like
Speaker 1: a Sailor Moon character. More Michaela looks looks more like
Speaker 1: like it's more noncanny value, Like she looks more like
Speaker 1: a human. But Hotsunimiku is like a hundred percent like
Speaker 1: a a cartoon. But it's a trip. It's it's it's
Speaker 1: really wild. Um. I just feel like it would be
Speaker 1: weird too. I know the gorillas kind of did this,
Speaker 1: but like it just feels weird to like spend money
Speaker 1: and go down to the stables center and then like
Speaker 1: watch a screen of a cartoon. But I mean people
Speaker 1: do it. But I guess, I guess if you think
Speaker 1: about it, like all concerts are, in a weird way,
Speaker 1: are very similar to that, right, Like you can pay
Speaker 1: a bunch of money to get packed into it in
Speaker 1: a big audience to like watch this little person on
Speaker 1: stage perform for you because you're you're always gonna be
Speaker 1: so far away, Like you're not gonna be so close
Speaker 1: to be able to touch hatsunimiku, Like not that you'd
Speaker 1: be able to touch he even if you were right
Speaker 1: at the same counter anyways. But um, I think, yeah,
Speaker 1: it's just in general, like you go to uh an
Speaker 1: event to sing the songs that you know with a
Speaker 1: bunch of people that already know the songs as well.
Speaker 1: It's just so interesting to me. Um, I don't know it.
Speaker 1: Uh with the world that we're living in, you know,
Speaker 1: crypt occurrency's taken off, so why can't digital performers take
Speaker 1: off as well? I don't know. It's crazy. Uh. Well,
Speaker 1: besides that, I hope you guys have a good time
Speaker 1: at jingle Ball in Los Angeles. I'm a little jealous
Speaker 1: you guys are gonna be there. But I will say though,
Speaker 1: The only reason I wanted to go was to make
Speaker 1: my girlfriend happy. Because a lot of the singers you
Speaker 1: guys mentioned, I only recognize like two or three of them, Um,
Speaker 1: and the rest I like, you know, it's just not
Speaker 1: It's just not my cup of tea. So I hope
Speaker 1: you guys have fun. Is Kalen a big pop fan?
Speaker 1: She is? She just like wants to see like Taylor
Speaker 1: Swift and uh Dixie Dale Dixie Dyelmo, she's going, she's going, no, no, not.
Speaker 1: I don't know who she wants to see. I think
Speaker 1: she just likes like she she's more of the top
Speaker 1: forty stuff than I am. Um, I am a little bummed.
Speaker 1: I had tickets to a concert last week, but I
Speaker 1: wasn't feeling well, so I didn't go to it. Uh,
Speaker 1: do you guys know who John Craigy is. I don't
Speaker 1: know John craig I know Johnny Craig. I don't know
Speaker 1: John Craigy. John Craigy is a real human being, believe
Speaker 1: it or not. It plays an instrument on stage. To
Speaker 1: believe it or not? God, yeah, right, and today's stand
Speaker 1: who to thunk? Uh, It's like he plays like really
Speaker 1: intimate settings so it was like a hunter person venue
Speaker 1: where you like sit at the table and listen to
Speaker 1: this guy perform um. And I had been obsessed with
Speaker 1: this music for like three years and then we finally
Speaker 1: got tickets and right when we got tickets for a show,
Speaker 1: he um, well not he, but like I got sick
Speaker 1: and like we couldn't go. So I was devastated. And
Speaker 1: so now we need to figure out how we're gonna
Speaker 1: do that. So all that to say, I hope you
Speaker 1: guys have fun. Um, thank you guys for for humoring
Speaker 1: me and letting us avoid the hot topic conversation, because
Speaker 1: this is way better than talking about uh Megan Fox
Speaker 1: and Machine Gun Kelly stabbing himself to impressed her. I guess, um,
Speaker 1: would you ever stab yourself, Hannah or Easton to impress
Speaker 1: your significant other? Absolutely not. What's the craziest thing you
Speaker 1: would do? What's the line that you would go up to.
Speaker 1: That's a good question. I think if you're significant other
Speaker 1: would be impressed by causing bodily harm, that's just you
Speaker 1: shouldn't be with that person. They've got some more issues
Speaker 1: they need to work through. Yeah, I find myself thinking
Speaker 1: that a lot. Uh not, not that I should stab
Speaker 1: myself to impress Klin by any means. But I find
Speaker 1: myself thinking, Um, if you need to do this like
Speaker 1: insane thing to impress this person, then that's just not
Speaker 1: your person, because like it's just you're you're right, Like,
Speaker 1: are you gonna keep stabbing yourself to keep impressing her?
Speaker 1: Probably not if you need to change, like in any
Speaker 1: major way. That's like not healthy for you to impress someone.
Speaker 1: Like obviously you just shouldn't be doing it. And I
Speaker 1: think a lot of people do that, and I don't
Speaker 1: think it's the most healthy thing in the world. But
Speaker 1: so we've established no one would stab themselves for their significanty.
Speaker 1: That's good, really quick, just at the at the risk
Speaker 1: of being called fake news, let's just clarify really quick.
Speaker 1: He did not. It wasn't like Machinern. Kelly was with
Speaker 1: Megan Fox and she's like, I want you to stab yourself,
Speaker 1: and he said, I'll do a baby. He was throwing
Speaker 1: a knife in the air trying to do a trick
Speaker 1: and like landed on his hand wrong and stabbed his
Speaker 1: like went through his hand. Oh I oh, I see.
Speaker 1: So he was doing a knife trick to impress her
Speaker 1: and then he accidentally stabbed himself, which again not something
Speaker 1: I have done, and that's not a good idea. Um.
Speaker 1: I used to do that thing where you put your
Speaker 1: hand on the table and then you take like a
Speaker 1: in this case of very sharp pencil and you go
Speaker 1: between your fingers really fast. That ended poorly for me.
Speaker 1: I was trying to impress some other boys. But yeah,
Speaker 1: what's the name of that? Because I've played it before
Speaker 1: as well, I don't know if that has a name.
Speaker 1: I mean, I don't know. I know it does, it does?
Speaker 1: I'm looking it up right now. It's called Oh darn it,
Speaker 1: I'm not gonna be able to remember what it's called.
Speaker 1: Oh five finger file at that's what it is. Baas.
Speaker 1: The only reason I know that is because in Red
Speaker 1: Dead Redemption you can play five finger flay and that's
Speaker 1: the only time I've ever played. It's on a video game.
Speaker 1: So uh, anyways, I'm a little bit embarrassed about that.
Speaker 1: All right, Well, that's gonna do it for this segment.
Speaker 1: Help my second dating. I want you guys to stick
Speaker 1: through the break because we're about to get to the
Speaker 1: best segment emails, So stay tuned. We'll be right back
Speaker 1: a right, everybody, welcome back to help I suck at
Speaker 1: dating time for my favorite segment. As always, we have
Speaker 1: our emails and we have the Incredible East and treat
Speaker 1: them for us. So let's get into him. We got
Speaker 1: a couple of for you guys. Actually today, I don't
Speaker 1: know if we're gonna get all four um, but we'll
Speaker 1: do our best to get too as many as we can. Uh.
Speaker 1: The Incredible East and thank you. I like that introduction. Uh.
Speaker 1: This first one is from Mia uh. Mia writes, two
Speaker 1: years ago, I met this guy and it was love
Speaker 1: at first sight. The only issue was he was a
Speaker 1: cop and the first time I saw him he was
Speaker 1: trying to arrest me and my friend at a college party.
Speaker 1: I know, not very romantic. After meeting him, I tried
Speaker 1: to forget about him because obviously nothing was going to happen.
Speaker 1: At least that's what I thought until I ran into
Speaker 1: him at a cafe earlier this year. He recognized me,
Speaker 1: and to my surprise, it wasn't painfully awkward. We talked
Speaker 1: for a while and there was this insane connection. We
Speaker 1: stayed in contact, and even though we never defined the relationship,
Speaker 1: we started hooking up. At this time we got really
Speaker 1: close us really quickly, and things just felt right with him.
Speaker 1: That'll ended six months later when I found out he
Speaker 1: was married. Yep, married. I broke things off with him.
Speaker 1: But his wife doesn't know about me or a relationship.
Speaker 1: Should I tell her? Is it not my place to
Speaker 1: say anything? UM? I just want to point out I
Speaker 1: appreciate whoever wrote this Mia if if you're a real
Speaker 1: person or if you're a Japanese digitalized artist, I really
Speaker 1: appreciate you taking the time to send us something. UM.
Speaker 1: I want to say, Oh, this is actually kind of
Speaker 1: a tricky one because you're right. Do you take the
Speaker 1: moral high ground and say something to the wife? Do
Speaker 1: you say something of the husband? I'm kind of torn,
Speaker 1: Like it's first and foremost, you didn't do anything wrong
Speaker 1: because you didn't know, so you should never harbor any
Speaker 1: guilt for what you did. Um, but do you get
Speaker 1: involved in this person's marriage? I like, my gut says yes,
Speaker 1: but also do you want my But do you also
Speaker 1: want to bring that upon yourself because you're then gonna
Speaker 1: be putting yourself in the middle of it. And thinks
Speaker 1: you get a little spy to see so I don't know.
Speaker 1: I like I want to hear what you guys think. First.
Speaker 1: You know, we get these questions all the time you
Speaker 1: find out you're the other person, and they ask should
Speaker 1: I content? I always say no, I don't think that,
Speaker 1: especially when this was like you had nothing, you didn't anything,
Speaker 1: you didn't do anything wrong. This wasn't your fault. This
Speaker 1: is his fault. But I think if you tell the wife,
Speaker 1: I don't think she'd believe you. Um. I think she
Speaker 1: would see you as some a woman trying to ruin
Speaker 1: their marriage. I don't think it would end very well
Speaker 1: for you, and I don't think it would give anyone
Speaker 1: any satisfaction. I think you just stay out of it
Speaker 1: and uh never speak to this person again and hopefully
Speaker 1: try not to get arrested by him in the future
Speaker 1: because things won't go as well. Let me ask you
Speaker 1: this though. Let's say you're married to someone, and I mean,
Speaker 1: I'm not even gonna say your current marriage because I
Speaker 1: don't want that to even be put out in the universe.
Speaker 1: Hypothetically you're married to someone they cheat on you, would
Speaker 1: you not want the person that they cheat on you
Speaker 1: with to come and tell you, or would you rather
Speaker 1: just be oblivious to the idea? For forever. I mean
Speaker 1: I would like to know. I would like to know
Speaker 1: from my partner, ideally, because when it's the other person,
Speaker 1: there's another like oh my god, you know, like did
Speaker 1: this really happen? And I don't know it's it's a
Speaker 1: it makes it messire. Um. So yeah, I guess i'd
Speaker 1: want to know. I guess that makes me a hypocrite,
Speaker 1: but I stand by that advice. I say, don't contact
Speaker 1: the life. I don't think that's a good what's your
Speaker 1: tax Since you're you're the you've got a better female
Speaker 1: perspective than we do. Of course I would. I would
Speaker 1: want to know if I if I'm putting myself in
Speaker 1: the the wife's shoes, I would want to know. Um.
Speaker 1: I do get that it's a sticky situation. But even if,
Speaker 1: like my current boyfriend was cheating on me and he
Speaker 1: wasn't telling me, I would appreciate it if someone came
Speaker 1: to me and let me know, because I wouldn't want
Speaker 1: to be in a relationship where somebody's cheating on me, right,
Speaker 1: I agree, that would be horrible. I think what you
Speaker 1: should do, Mia is instead of approaching the wife, approached
Speaker 1: the cop and say something and like you know, like
Speaker 1: like say, how dare you? How despicable are you? Blah
Speaker 1: blah blah um, and don't like threaten anything, but like
Speaker 1: at least make it known that you know that he
Speaker 1: uh was cheating on his wife. I think that uh
Speaker 1: is the first step because I don't think there's any
Speaker 1: like moral obligation that this person has, but it does
Speaker 1: feel like something that could weigh on someone's conscious, you know, like,
Speaker 1: but you're right, she like has no obligation. It's I
Speaker 1: don't know, it's tricky. It's definitely tricky. Obviously stopped looking
Speaker 1: up at the cop. It sounds like you already have UM.
Speaker 1: I would just go talk to the cop and be
Speaker 1: like this is unacceptable, etcetera, etcetera, and then see where
Speaker 1: it goes from there. Maybe the maybe the couple develops
Speaker 1: some sort of conscious doubtful but uh, and then maybe
Speaker 1: he'll go to his wife and tell her what's going on.
Speaker 1: But I don't know. That's what I think. And also
Speaker 1: when I first start reading the email, I was like,
Speaker 1: oh man, this guy is like hitting on someone that
Speaker 1: he like arrested. That's like not chilled too. That's what
Speaker 1: a boundary to cross. And then I saw the other.
Speaker 1: This guy has no boundaries at all. So it sounds
Speaker 1: like it sounds like the intro to like some Brawsers episode,
Speaker 1: you know, like uh for the undered formed. Sounds like
Speaker 1: a like a like a porn porn movie introduction, you know,
Speaker 1: like cop arrests kid. Kid is interested in the cop
Speaker 1: copsies kid again. They go back to cops house to
Speaker 1: hook up. Like it just seems it seems a little
Speaker 1: two story buck bad story book, the wrong storybook there.
Speaker 1: You don't have the story book you want to be in.
Speaker 1: But let me put this out there the listeners. If
Speaker 1: this email became penthouse for him or something like that,
Speaker 1: I would not have a problem with that. I'll be
Speaker 1: honest with you, guys. I was googling parts of those
Speaker 1: sentences because I was like, this can't be real. But
Speaker 1: I didn't find anything, so it could be very real. Wow.
Speaker 1: Uh anyway, let's see if I let's see if Kerry
Speaker 1: has something. Just a spicy um carry says. I have
Speaker 1: been with my boyfriend for three years now. For about
Speaker 1: two of those years, we've been talking about moving across
Speaker 1: the country to be closer to my family and a
Speaker 1: less expensive cost of living. We live in California. I
Speaker 1: hear that we're in a great relationship and I love
Speaker 1: him very much, but I'm not happy in the city
Speaker 1: we live in. A Few months ago, my boyfriend got
Speaker 1: a new job that he absolutely loves here in this city.
Speaker 1: It's the best job he's ever had, he loves his
Speaker 1: co workers. He's already up for promotion. However, I remain
Speaker 1: secretly miserable. I don't want to tear him away from
Speaker 1: a job that makes him happy that I'm at a
Speaker 1: point in my life where I'm ready to buy a
Speaker 1: house and settle into an area that will make me happy,
Speaker 1: and I simply can't see it being here. Help. Do
Speaker 1: I choose love or location? M hmm. I think I'll
Speaker 1: probably get some pushback on this, but I think you
Speaker 1: choose location because you're never gonna be happy with the
Speaker 1: person you love in a place you don't like. Well,
Speaker 1: I take that back. You're probably going to always have
Speaker 1: this like a little bit of remorse inside of you,
Speaker 1: eating way chipping away on a regular basis, being somewhere
Speaker 1: you don't want to be, even though you're with the
Speaker 1: person you want to be with. So I think location
Speaker 1: is just as important as the person that you're with,
Speaker 1: you could do what Kaylin and I did. We could
Speaker 1: you could get a place there and here and then
Speaker 1: bounce back and forth between the two of them if
Speaker 1: you want to do that. I don't know if if
Speaker 1: your situation allows for that, but I think location, like,
Speaker 1: for instance, even like, okay, let's pull back to The
Speaker 1: Bachelor real quick. We saw Joe and Kendall. That seems
Speaker 1: like they broke up because Joe wanted to be in
Speaker 1: the Midwest and kind of wanted to be on the
Speaker 1: West Coast, and uh, you know, they loved each other
Speaker 1: and obviously they had to break up, and I like
Speaker 1: feel like that's a very reasonable thing to do. So
Speaker 1: I think location, uh is a very important thing. And
Speaker 1: I think that if you really are miserable in the
Speaker 1: place that you're at, even though you're with the person
Speaker 1: you love, that it's time to make a change. For once.
Speaker 1: I agree with you. Yeah, yeah, is that the first time? No,
Speaker 1: not the first time. It's It's rare though, But I
Speaker 1: am curious how old these people are because I'm thinking
Speaker 1: about if I were in this situation. I've been with
Speaker 1: my boyfriend for over four years, and I would not
Speaker 1: move somewhere just because he wants to move there. Like
Speaker 1: we're doing long distance and he's asked me many times
Speaker 1: if I would move up to San Francisco so we
Speaker 1: could be closer. But I want to be in l
Speaker 1: A right now, and if I don't prioritize myself, then
Speaker 1: I'm not going to be happy in this relationship right
Speaker 1: And also, what's stopping him from moving back down to
Speaker 1: Los Angeles? Like exactly, it's and he has a job
Speaker 1: in San Francisco that he loves and that's great, and
Speaker 1: I want him to be happy and I want myself
Speaker 1: to be happy. So we're both happy and we can
Speaker 1: make it work, then that's fine. Granted we still are
Speaker 1: in the same state. It would probably be different if
Speaker 1: we lived on opposite sides of the country, but you
Speaker 1: never know. I just think it goes both ways, Like
Speaker 1: for instance, in this email with Kerry, like you want
Speaker 1: to live or you want to live and he wants
Speaker 1: to live where he has a great job, but like
Speaker 1: why can't he find a new job in the place
Speaker 1: that you want to live? And like I just think that,
Speaker 1: like if you're the one sacrificing everything to be in
Speaker 1: the relationship and you're living where he wants to live,
Speaker 1: and like, what else are you going to bend on?
Speaker 1: And how much less of your identity are you gonna
Speaker 1: have later on? So I think it's very important to
Speaker 1: like put your foot down and make these decisions. Yes,
Speaker 1: I agree, I agree, I agreed to Wow, I really
Speaker 1: thought I was gonna get a lot more pushback on that. Um,
Speaker 1: do you want to just do one more Eastern We
Speaker 1: can do Hunters email and then we can get out
Speaker 1: of here and you guys can go to jingle Ball.
Speaker 1: Sounds good to me. I still gotta do my hair
Speaker 1: and makeup and everything. Uh. This this is from Hunter
Speaker 1: as said. I met my girlfriend in college and we've
Speaker 1: been in a committed relationship for the past five years.
Speaker 1: But about a month ago I found out she cheated
Speaker 1: on me. She was out partying with some friends and
Speaker 1: ended up hooking up with this guy. She was upfront
Speaker 1: and honest with me and told me what happened right away.
Speaker 1: She said it was a mistake and that she still
Speaker 1: loves me and wants to try to make this work.
Speaker 1: It was a hard conversation, and I was obviously really
Speaker 1: angry and hurt. In the moment, we decided to take
Speaker 1: a break, but after thinking about things, I think or
Speaker 1: I know, I wanted to try and work through this
Speaker 1: and stay together. Most of my friends think I'm an
Speaker 1: idiot for even considering taking her back, but I literally
Speaker 1: can't imagine my life without her. Do you think you
Speaker 1: can ever move past cheating and relationships? Have you ever?
Speaker 1: Would you ever stay with someone that cheated on you? O?
Speaker 1: What's funny? We talked about what are we kind of
Speaker 1: talking about this earlier? A little bit? Oh with the
Speaker 1: husband with the cop in that that's right? Um? I
Speaker 1: would say, yeah, I would say that this is fine.
Speaker 1: She was upfront and honest with me and told me
Speaker 1: what happened right away. I think that's ah, that's the
Speaker 1: operative sentence there, you know, like as long as she's
Speaker 1: being forthright and honest with you. People make mistakes, especially
Speaker 1: when they're parties, especially when they're young, especially when they're drinking.
Speaker 1: So I think, uh, as bad as it is, just
Speaker 1: like I think, as long as you can find it
Speaker 1: in your heart to forgive her and like not hold
Speaker 1: it against her or hold it over her head ever, UM,
Speaker 1: I think that definitely could be something that's worked past.
Speaker 1: It's not a deal, but I think it happens more
Speaker 1: frequently than you think. Yeah, yeah, you know, Uh, I
Speaker 1: think it can definitely be moved past. And something I
Speaker 1: think a lot about is that the problem with um
Speaker 1: cheating is not so much the like physical connection, like
Speaker 1: like that intimate physical moment with another person. I think
Speaker 1: it's more the lying and the betrayal that comes with that.
Speaker 1: Uh So, the fact that you know she was upfront
Speaker 1: about it right away. You didn't give her like she
Speaker 1: didn't have an opportunity to lie because she just got
Speaker 1: it out in the open. I think that's a positive
Speaker 1: way to look at it. And I think that it's
Speaker 1: worth giving it another try. And uh, you know, there
Speaker 1: has to be some concessions. Now I don't know the
Speaker 1: details in which this cheating happened, but maybe they you know,
Speaker 1: maybe you don't hang out with that friend again or
Speaker 1: something like that, but you know, your relationship is not
Speaker 1: gonna be the same. But I definitely think it's you know,
Speaker 1: you can move on from this. That's my personal opinion. Yeah, Hannah,
Speaker 1: what do you think? This one is hard? Because I
Speaker 1: think that it is possible that people can move past
Speaker 1: cheating and relationships, but it depends on the type of person.
Speaker 1: That you are. I fear forgiving and understanding impatient. Sure,
Speaker 1: I don't think I could ever, especially if I was
Speaker 1: with someone for five years and then they decided to
Speaker 1: cheat on me. But I know people like some of
Speaker 1: my friends have been in relationships and similar situations have
Speaker 1: happened and they've worked through it and now they seem
Speaker 1: happy and they're still going strong. So I do think
Speaker 1: it's a possibility. Definitely. I will say that I do
Speaker 1: see your point. So when I was in high school,
Speaker 1: I was cheating it on pretty frequently by my high
Speaker 1: school girlfriend. And I remember after the first time I
Speaker 1: was cheated on, I was like, uh, the like the
Speaker 1: feelings and the emotions that I felt inside of me.
Speaker 1: I was like, I knew for a fact I would
Speaker 1: never be able to fully get over it. So like, imagine,
Speaker 1: you know, we stay together and four years later, they're
Speaker 1: still gonna be like this weird, festering emotion that I
Speaker 1: have because I know for a fact, like there's like
Speaker 1: the trust, the trust has been breached, and I'll never
Speaker 1: fully be able to regain all that trust. So I
Speaker 1: think as long as you're the kind of person that's
Speaker 1: going to be able to fully put it behind them.
Speaker 1: But you never want to be in a relationship where
Speaker 1: um where you're you're you're angry at the person NonStop,
Speaker 1: you know, or you resent them for any stretch, for
Speaker 1: for any reason because they cheated on you. So I
Speaker 1: think if you can put that all that behind you
Speaker 1: and move on and actually get over it, then you
Speaker 1: can definitely stay in a relationship with her. But if
Speaker 1: you can't and you're going to continue to like dwell
Speaker 1: on it and be piste off about it, then maybe
Speaker 1: it's best to not be in the relationship. I'm getting
Speaker 1: I'm getting two nods from you guys, so I'm gonna
Speaker 1: go ahead and say that was the right answer. Thank
Speaker 1: you very much Hunter for emailing us. Uh, keep emailing us.
Speaker 1: I suck a dating at i heeart media dot com.
Speaker 1: We have one more email, but we're not going to
Speaker 1: get to it this week. We're gonna save it for
Speaker 1: next week. So I'm sorry, ardent, but thank you for
Speaker 1: emailing us again. Email us at I suck at dating
Speaker 1: at i heeart media dot com. I want to go
Speaker 1: ahead and just take a second. I want to take
Speaker 1: a second, and I just wanted to thank Jared for
Speaker 1: for being here on this podcast with us. I want,
Speaker 1: I just want, I want everyone to know that Jared's
Speaker 1: presence today was just it was very appreciated. Jared walked
Speaker 1: away in a busy restaurant, left his zoom on, so
Speaker 1: you're I'm sorry, brother, I'm so sorry. I've literally we're
Speaker 1: signing off right now, are we? We are. If it
Speaker 1: wasn't for Jared, this episode would have it would have
Speaker 1: sank like a rock. But with him here, we were
Speaker 1: able to keep our head above water. So I just
Speaker 1: want to say I appreciate you, buddy. Hey, anytime, you know,
Speaker 1: I'm just really here to help the podcast or whatever.
Speaker 1: I can make sure that you guys are making money,
Speaker 1: staying organized on time. Uh yeah, just the little things really.
Speaker 1: Uh well, if anybody in Rhode Island please come to Audrey's,
Speaker 1: I appreciate it. You'll see me in the back making
Speaker 1: sandwiches or making drinks behind the bar. It will be
Speaker 1: fun times. I really appreciate. I love you all. Thank
Speaker 1: you so much for picking up the slack today. I
Speaker 1: really appreciate it. We got slammed right there and I'm
Speaker 1: pretty sure everybody was about to kill me, but was
Speaker 1: really fun. Hey, help, I suck at Dating, Baby Stuck Army,
Speaker 1: I'm here for you. I I need to be here more.
Speaker 1: This is ridiculous. I like how this podcast is just
Speaker 1: turned into one long plug for Aubrey's Lounge on Rhode
Speaker 1: Island before Rhode Island. I like Dean doesn't even know
Speaker 1: the name of Audrey's Audrey. I've gotta I've gotta knock
Speaker 1: you off your pedestal a little bit um Eastern Hannah,
Speaker 1: thank you guys so much for being such an important
Speaker 1: part of this episode. Do you want to do you
Speaker 1: want to sign us off? Hey? Just make sure you
Speaker 1: guys tune in next week, where hopefully Audrey sucks a
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