Speaker 1: We've counted, we've talented, and we came up with some numbers.
Speaker 1: All right, Yeah, the top ten second date updates of
Speaker 1: twenty twenty five. These are the most downloaded, the most loved,
Speaker 1: the most commented on.
Speaker 2: Yay, So they came up with the numbers.
Speaker 3: Yeah, he did, got it, got it stretch for us, Yes,
Speaker 3: but today we're on to number eight in our countdown.
Speaker 4: And for sure, the most annoying part of the dating
Speaker 4: apps isn't the constant scrolling or the inappropriate DMS, or
Speaker 4: even coming across Brooks secret cougar match profile again and
Speaker 4: again and again.
Speaker 5: I don't have that, Jeff.
Speaker 6: Every time.
Speaker 4: The thing is, it's all the wasted energy you have
Speaker 4: to put in getting to know somebody only to never
Speaker 4: actually meet up with them in person. And one of
Speaker 4: our listeners is on the phone saying he's been there
Speaker 4: way too many times. So now he has a method
Speaker 4: to eliminate that headache for good.
Speaker 2: You're gonna hear it in your number eight second date
Speaker 2: update of the year. Yeah, next second date of day.
Speaker 4: If you ask me and Brook you'll probably agree with this.
Speaker 4: The dating world needs more ultimatums.
Speaker 5: No job, yes, no, not ever.
Speaker 2: Good.
Speaker 4: I think maybe we need them because the more listeners
Speaker 4: we talk to, everybody seems so indecisive, so wishy washy, like,
Speaker 4: oh maybe I'll date her, or maybe that other hot girl,
Speaker 4: or maybe I'll just stick with my wife.
Speaker 2: I don't really know what fence here? Ultimatum suddenly sounding good?
Speaker 5: Stick to your wife? What is happening?
Speaker 4: That's why I appreciate somebody who's actually willing to lay
Speaker 4: all their cards down on the table and say this
Speaker 4: is it, Take it or leave it. And apparently that's
Speaker 4: how our listener, Dustin rolls ultimatum style.
Speaker 2: Well that's the vibe I got from his email, Dustin,
Speaker 2: Welcome to the show.
Speaker 6: Hey, how's it going on?
Speaker 1: You sound like such a nice guy for being such
Speaker 1: a badasshole.
Speaker 5: It's a made a maker.
Speaker 2: Yeah, tell me if I was wrong.
Speaker 4: But it sounds like you like to play the dating
Speaker 4: game a little bit more straightforward.
Speaker 6: Yeah, totally, let's go, man. I mean I don't have
Speaker 6: that much time left. I'm not going to sit down
Speaker 6: and text all day.
Speaker 2: Okay, what I want to extend?
Speaker 7: Do you do this?
Speaker 6: Here's my new rule. Now when I talk to people,
Speaker 6: it's like if I don't meet up with them, right away,
Speaker 6: it pretty much just kind of sizzles out.
Speaker 1: Okay.
Speaker 5: I mean I can see how that could happen.
Speaker 4: If you don't do that, you'll get strung along for
Speaker 4: weeks and months and maybe never even any person.
Speaker 5: What is right away to you? What does that mean?
Speaker 6: Yeah? I think like forty eight to seventy two hours,
Speaker 6: we should at least have like some kind of plan
Speaker 6: to hang out. But like if that plan's not established,
Speaker 6: and it's probably never gonna work out.
Speaker 7: Okay, that's actually kind of a rule.
Speaker 1: I kind of like that rule, like it's respecting everybody's time.
Speaker 4: Yeah, dating runs on deadlines, and so that's good. Jess
Speaker 4: you gave Jessica the dating deadline?
Speaker 6: Well, I don't know. She I ended up just getting
Speaker 6: her number and then I pretty much like kind of
Speaker 6: took the conversation elsewhere off the app and then started
Speaker 6: texting from there.
Speaker 3: I feel like that's an important step because otherwise the app,
Speaker 3: you don't open it, you know, you don't reply check.
Speaker 2: So once it got off of the apps, how did
Speaker 2: you and Jessica vibe?
Speaker 6: She's really really funny, So she pretty much was just saying, like, hey,
Speaker 6: one time, no chat.
Speaker 1: Okay, Okay, did you turn it into an in person
Speaker 1: date pretty quickly?
Speaker 6: Yeah, we went out for pizza. I love pizza. Oh
Speaker 6: you want to know the crazy part about that?
Speaker 5: Yes, that's the only part I want to know.
Speaker 2: We'll start with the crazy part first. Start there.
Speaker 6: She looked really different from the photos that one on
Speaker 6: the profile. Different, not like a cat fish. I mean
Speaker 6: she was still like super cute, like for sure, but
Speaker 6: like different, different, like different.
Speaker 1: Wait again, no, do you mean like she colored her
Speaker 1: hair a different color.
Speaker 2: Maybe a full face tattoo that wasn't there before.
Speaker 6: No, nothing like that, but that would have been like
Speaker 6: totally cool.
Speaker 4: Okay, overall though you liked what you saw in person.
Speaker 6: Yeah, she was cute, it was just different than what
Speaker 6: I expected. But could this be my perspective? A lot
Speaker 6: of the photos she had she was wearing sunglasses, so
Speaker 6: it could be misjudged through that.
Speaker 4: Oh yeah, sunglasses now cover like seventy percent of the
Speaker 4: face they are.
Speaker 2: So now that we've covered.
Speaker 5: The crazy eyes, that was the crazy part.
Speaker 4: Now that we've covered all the crazy parts of the date,
Speaker 4: bring us to the boring, you know, mushy stuff.
Speaker 2: Oh yeah, yeah, that's my favorite. Jose wants to know
Speaker 2: how the rest of the date went.
Speaker 6: Everything was normal about the date, but then there was
Speaker 6: like this one part that was really weird.
Speaker 2: Oh okay, going back to crazy again.
Speaker 6: It wasn't like super crazy, but it was just like
Speaker 6: one of those another different things.
Speaker 5: And I thought, okay, what happened.
Speaker 6: Well, on her profile, like she talks about like pilates,
Speaker 6: and a bunch of like Pilates stuff is on her profile,
Speaker 6: all right, Yeah, so I was kind of I thought
Speaker 6: that was kind of cool about her. But every time
Speaker 6: I would talk to her about Pilates, I swear she
Speaker 6: would just kept redirecting the conversation into something else.
Speaker 5: Huh.
Speaker 1: So it's either like you no, it feels like she
Speaker 1: either lied on her bio or you're talking to a
Speaker 1: different person than what you're thinking.
Speaker 7: That's what.
Speaker 5: I mean confusing girls.
Speaker 4: But Alexis you put stuff in your profile that you
Speaker 4: don't actually care much about.
Speaker 2: It's more of like a I love sports. I do
Speaker 2: like a.
Speaker 1: Collegiate athletes, more athletic than you, Jack.
Speaker 4: But she also says that she enjoys baseball even though
Speaker 4: she thinks it has a halftime. I enjoyed the half
Speaker 4: times in the game accurate halftime in the second inning, Jen,
Speaker 4: I'm just saying maybe she isn't fully into pilates as
Speaker 4: much as she claims on.
Speaker 2: Easier to put on there.
Speaker 1: Yeah, and I will say there is there is a
Speaker 1: phenomenon right now that if you aren't a die hard
Speaker 1: fan of something, you're not allowed to say that you
Speaker 1: like it.
Speaker 2: How long has it been since you last spoke to Jessica.
Speaker 6: It's been like six days.
Speaker 5: Oh no, which is a long time.
Speaker 1: When you were moving so quick, you know, you had
Speaker 1: a pacing going, and it's dead.
Speaker 6: I don't understand because we both had such a great time.
Speaker 6: She said she had a great time. I had a
Speaker 6: great time. You know.
Speaker 2: Let's try and keep the great times going.
Speaker 4: And we come back and we give this girl another ultimatum, saying,
Speaker 4: I am it's either go out with Dustin now or
Speaker 4: lose him forever.
Speaker 5: Well that's always the Yeah, that's just like or not.
Speaker 4: Yeah, it just sounds more scary if you say ultimatum.
Speaker 4: We're going to come back and do it with your
Speaker 4: second date right.
Speaker 2: After this one.
Speaker 4: Today's second date update begs the question can you fully
Speaker 4: trust what you see in someone's dating profile? Because our
Speaker 4: listener Dustin met up with a woman from Bumble who
Speaker 4: looked a little different than her picture.
Speaker 5: Not bad though, just different.
Speaker 2: Yeah, like a good, good different.
Speaker 4: And even though her bio talked about pilates a lot,
Speaker 4: she didn't really want to discuss it much on their date,
Speaker 4: which is.
Speaker 2: Kind of strange.
Speaker 4: To be fair, My old dating profile said I'm Jewish,
Speaker 4: but any woman who met up with me would discover
Speaker 4: I'm not kosher and not good with money, so probably
Speaker 4: equally confusing. That's a really good point, Jeff, Yeah, I
Speaker 4: mean you can't trust it fully from the dating profile.
Speaker 4: The good news is Dustin, despite the differences, really had
Speaker 4: a good time with her. He felt like they vibed
Speaker 4: in ways he hasn't in the two years that he
Speaker 4: has spent on this half before.
Speaker 1: God, I really want this to work out for you,
Speaker 1: justin just because you've put in the time and the
Speaker 1: effort and you seem like a good guy.
Speaker 6: Yeah, thanks a lot, Brooke. I really do appreciate that
Speaker 6: about Youah.
Speaker 4: Oh, you appreciate that she compliments you well her her
Speaker 4: fingers are crossed right now when she said that.
Speaker 5: So yeah, you wanted to tell everybody everything.
Speaker 4: Okay, God, I feel like there is some part of Brook,
Speaker 4: that really is rooting for you today.
Speaker 5: Jess Yeah, I am.
Speaker 1: I think this is going to be a simple like
Speaker 1: miscommunication or something.
Speaker 6: You know, I mean, yeah, possibly, I mean, I don't know,
Speaker 6: as long as you guys get me another date.
Speaker 4: Yeah, all right, all right, Well, let's style Jessica right now.
Speaker 4: We'll see if she picks up and hopefully has a
Speaker 4: simple explanation for why she hasn't hit you back colin
Speaker 4: her right now here we go.
Speaker 7: Huo, hey is this Jessica?
Speaker 3: Yeah?
Speaker 7: Hey, Joe, she's so cute. I know.
Speaker 4: It's so nice to talk to someone who's like positive
Speaker 4: and perky when we're talking to them. Because we're doing
Speaker 4: a second Date Update.
Speaker 2: Most of our listeners are like, who is this?
Speaker 5: Yeah, I'm sorry what.
Speaker 4: Yeah, Sorr, I've got threw a lot at you. We're
Speaker 4: a radio show called Brook and Jeffrey in the Morning,
Speaker 4: which you're on right now. Congratulations. Hi, okay, Hi, And
Speaker 4: this segment is called second Date Update. I don't know
Speaker 4: if you've heard it before, but it's a thing where
Speaker 4: if somebody blows you off and you're not sure why,
Speaker 4: we can try to call that person for you to
Speaker 4: maybe figure out if there's a reason for it.
Speaker 3: Okay, I didn't blow anyone off.
Speaker 1: What Yeah, I mean I guess talking she said sick.
Speaker 1: I mean he said six days. So maybe that's not
Speaker 1: blowing someone off to you. Maybe that's not enough time.
Speaker 4: Yeah, because six days ago you went out with a
Speaker 4: guy who, at least according to him, felt like you
Speaker 4: had a really good connection. Afterwards, he feels like you've
Speaker 4: been pulling away a little bit.
Speaker 2: His name is Dustin.
Speaker 6: Oh my gosh, I.
Speaker 5: Forgot about that one. Huh.
Speaker 2: Oh my gosh.
Speaker 3: I'm not trying to blow him off. I just don't
Speaker 3: know what to do.
Speaker 5: I think it's pretty simple. You should text him and
Speaker 5: go out with him again.
Speaker 3: No, I mean, like I don't know how much she
Speaker 3: told you or what you know. But I actually matched
Speaker 3: with Dustin a year and a half ago.
Speaker 1: A year and a half, he said that you guys
Speaker 1: just met on the app.
Speaker 3: And that you Yeah. So when I got a text
Speaker 3: from him like a week ago, I was kind of
Speaker 3: confused because it was like, wait, this is weird, just
Speaker 3: kind of out of the blue. But I was just
Speaker 3: like whatever, and I was just like, long time to chat.
Speaker 5: Oh yeah. He said that you made a joke that
Speaker 5: you were joking because you had just been chatting with him.
Speaker 3: It wasn't a joke. It really was a long time.
Speaker 2: Oh my god, confused.
Speaker 1: So you hadn't talked to Dustin in a year and
Speaker 1: a half on an app at all, is what you're saying.
Speaker 3: Right, it was just a half ago. You never replied
Speaker 3: to one of my texts, and then all of a sudden, Yeah,
Speaker 3: I get a text from him.
Speaker 5: And then you guys went to pizza, right, you did
Speaker 5: meet up?
Speaker 6: Right?
Speaker 3: We got pizza, And I was kind of like, I
Speaker 3: wonder why all of a sudden he wants to talk
Speaker 3: to me now, But I was like, I remember he
Speaker 3: and I got along really well on Bumble, and so
Speaker 3: I was just like, yeah, sure, let's get pizza.
Speaker 5: And is it you're in a coma for a year
Speaker 5: and a half and he doesn't remember told us he
Speaker 5: went from the ap to that, Yes, he made a
Speaker 5: year and a half.
Speaker 2: And that seems like a big miscommunication. What about that?
Speaker 5: It has to be the same person.
Speaker 3: It's the same He kept talking about pilates and how
Speaker 3: like he kept asking about it, and I was like plate,
Speaker 3: He's like, I don't have that in my bio.
Speaker 2: That's the other girl.
Speaker 3: Yeah. Oh no, But then I was like, oh my gosh,
Speaker 3: Jessica is a really common name and thinking about it,
Speaker 3: and I was like, oh, shoot.
Speaker 4: You think that he went out with the wrong Jessica
Speaker 4: or texted the wrong Jessica in his fea.
Speaker 2: I mean, it makes sense.
Speaker 3: It could have been another Jessica from Bumble.
Speaker 6: Wait.
Speaker 5: Wait, then you have him as Dustin Bumble.
Speaker 2: He probably has multiple Jessica Bumbles. That makes so much sense.
Speaker 5: Did you have fun with them? I did?
Speaker 4: Yeah, No, I had a lot of fun with him,
Speaker 4: even though you had to keep dodging his questions about pilates.
Speaker 6: Yeah.
Speaker 3: I mean, honestly, I didn't know what to say. I
Speaker 3: was kind of embarrassed, but like, we were really enjoying ourselves.
Speaker 4: So this makes sense why Dustin told us that she
Speaker 4: didn't look like the pictures from the girl that he
Speaker 4: matched with a.
Speaker 2: Couple of weeks.
Speaker 1: Wait he said that, yeah, but he added that you
Speaker 1: were super cute. Oh, it's not like it was a disappointment.
Speaker 1: I think that's important to know.
Speaker 4: I also say, you're both in the same spot, because
Speaker 4: he's like, I don't know where to go from here,
Speaker 4: and she just said, I don't know where to go
Speaker 4: from here.
Speaker 2: Yeah, they're both in limbo.
Speaker 7: This is kind of perfect.
Speaker 2: Well, yeah, I guess that's it. Sorry, No, she tell her.
Speaker 5: Jeff tell her. She doesn't know how to tell him,
Speaker 5: and now she doesn't even have to.
Speaker 2: I guess the other option is if you are interested.
Speaker 2: Dustin has been listening to this call on the other
Speaker 2: phone line.
Speaker 5: Yeah, he knows everything.
Speaker 2: Oh my gosh, if he hasn't fainted already, Dustin you there.
Speaker 6: Holy I can't believe this happened. I'm such an idiot.
Speaker 5: I'm such an idiot.
Speaker 6: You guys were talking about it. I was looking through
Speaker 6: my phone and I saw all the different Jessica bumbles.
Speaker 3: Oh how many Jessica even talking to I don't know.
Speaker 6: I mean, I'm embarrassed though, I mean, I'm I'm so sorry. Yeah.
Speaker 3: When you cut springing up Pilates, I was like, what
Speaker 3: why did he bringing this up?
Speaker 6: Like?
Speaker 3: Did you want to see him move? I wasn't sure
Speaker 3: what you're talking about, But I.
Speaker 6: Know, I know now. I just I thought it was
Speaker 6: very interesting at the time, that's all.
Speaker 4: He was only asking because he thought that you were
Speaker 4: super interested in it.
Speaker 2: But that was a different Jessica Bumble.
Speaker 1: I mean, now you need to maybe tell him what
Speaker 1: are your hobbies in interest because he has no idea.
Speaker 3: I actually love soccer and I love hiking and I
Speaker 3: speak a little French and.
Speaker 6: Yeah, I think I remember that from a year and
Speaker 6: a half ago.
Speaker 4: Or was that the other Jessica Bumble like Jessica Bumble
Speaker 4: number four?
Speaker 2: Oh, that's right.
Speaker 1: You could have saved so much time and headache in
Speaker 1: your life if you would have just gone out a
Speaker 1: year and a half ago.
Speaker 6: Brooke, You're so right again. I'm just such an idiot.
Speaker 4: Women do like hearing that, So that's a good thing
Speaker 4: for you to start saying. So, now that we've cleared
Speaker 4: up the big misunderstanding and you realize who each other are,
Speaker 4: you like each other at least it seems that way
Speaker 4: from our perspective, we'd like to offer to send you
Speaker 4: out on another date, Jessica, and we would pay for
Speaker 4: it if you say yes.
Speaker 6: Maybe this could be like a mistake that was meant
Speaker 6: to be.
Speaker 5: See, that's why you need to turn it around. Come on, Dustin.
Speaker 3: I want to hear something from Dustin, and depending on
Speaker 3: what he says, maybe.
Speaker 6: I'll say yes, Oh, what is it?
Speaker 3: Out of all those Jessica's which one do you like best?
Speaker 4: If he's tough an answer here, he's like Jessica eighteen.
Speaker 6: Well, to be honest, Look to be honest, Jessica, You're
Speaker 6: the only Jessica I had a real connection with all
Speaker 6: the other jessicays I never even hung out with.
Speaker 5: Look at that, you're the od.
Speaker 2: You're the only one that would talk to me.
Speaker 7: He's too honest.
Speaker 2: Did that answer your question?
Speaker 3: Jessica, it did. Yeah, I'll go out again.
Speaker 5: I think they're so cute.
Speaker 4: Well, congratulations you two. You're going out again, and it's
Speaker 4: probably a good lesson for you.
Speaker 2: Dustin. You got to put the year that you matched with.
Speaker 4: The person next to their names in your contact I'm always.
Speaker 1: Like today, I'm hoping after this he doesn't have any
Speaker 1: more matches like this is it.
Speaker 6: I think after this, I'm not going to use the
Speaker 6: dating apps for a while.
Speaker 2: Yeah, after two years, bro you need a break.
Speaker 6: Yes, Brooke and Jeffrey in the morning.
Speaker 4: See, that's why we do the second date updates. Jessica
Speaker 4: said she didn't.
Speaker 2: Know what to do.
Speaker 4: She was caught mid date with a guy who thought
Speaker 4: that she was somebody else.
Speaker 5: That is so it's my worst nightmare.
Speaker 4: It would be a turn off obviously, but it was
Speaker 4: like super awkward, Like, how do you even bring that up?
Speaker 4: The thing is that she wasn't a total stranger. They'd
Speaker 4: matched eighteen months before then, and like we heard, they
Speaker 4: seemed to be actually pretty cute together.
Speaker 5: I mean, sometimes it's all about timing. You know, maybe
Speaker 5: eighteen months ago he would have thought, oh, I just
Speaker 5: got on the dating apps, it's gonna be awesome, And
Speaker 5: then now he's two years in, he's like, wait, it's
Speaker 5: not yah.
Speaker 4: Is there a part of me that thinks Dustin is
Speaker 4: texting the other Jessica right now, the one that he
Speaker 4: ghosted a week ago?
Speaker 5: How dare you even bring that up?
Speaker 4: Let's remember he is a guy, and we're addicted to
Speaker 4: the chase. Hey, hopefully he can just focus on the
Speaker 4: current Jessica and the good thing that they have going.
Speaker 5: Why would you even put that in his head? If
Speaker 5: he's listening, if.
Speaker 2: You're listening, change the other Jessica's to do, not text?
Speaker 5: Yeah, just for now, just delete their number. That's even easier.
Speaker 4: You never know, never say never, but remember you can
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