Speaker 1: Kay thinks she Beyonce.
Speaker 2: Dead ass. I was in that home Stockholm, Sweden that was.
Speaker 3: For the first show maybe dead ass. Hey, I'm Kadeen
Speaker 3: and I'm Devout and we're the Ellis's.
Speaker 1: You may know us from posting funny videos with.
Speaker 2: Our boys and reading each other publicly as a form
Speaker 2: of therapy.
Speaker 1: Wait, I make you need therapy most days? Wow?
Speaker 2: Oh and one more important thing to mention, we're married.
Speaker 1: Yes, sir, we are. We created this podcast to open
Speaker 1: dialogue about some of Li's most taboo topics, things.
Speaker 2: Most folks don't want to talk about.
Speaker 4: Through the lens of a millennial married couple. Dead ass
Speaker 4: is a term that we say every day. So when
Speaker 4: we say dead ass, we're actually saying facts one hundred
Speaker 4: the truth, the whole truth, and nothing but the truth.
Speaker 4: Were about to take philosof to our whole new level.
Speaker 3: Dead ass starts right now.
Speaker 1: This episode is dedicated to I'm still smiling, my queen.
Speaker 3: Do you see me over here?
Speaker 4: Yo?
Speaker 1: Yo?
Speaker 4: I got so much guys stuff to tell y'all about
Speaker 4: this girl. I have I ever told you all about
Speaker 4: how she refused to talk to Beyonce when we was
Speaker 4: at the studio opening I'll tell y'all that.
Speaker 1: But that's not what we talk about today. The first
Speaker 1: a we're gonna do.
Speaker 2: I didn't refuse to talk to be. I just got
Speaker 2: cold feet.
Speaker 1: You refuse to talk to yo. I'm not gonna jump
Speaker 1: to that story.
Speaker 4: I'm gonna.
Speaker 3: Today is gonna be a fun episode because we're just
Speaker 3: recapping the opening show for the Renaissance tour in Stockholm, Sweden,
Speaker 3: and how I got there.
Speaker 1: Yes, all right, y'a.
Speaker 3: So getting my hair done at home. Deval is in
Speaker 3: Toronto filming, Yes, and my girl Essen shout out to Essence,
Speaker 3: was putting in my full lox because I was getting
Speaker 3: ready to go to Cabo and actually know she was
Speaker 3: taking out my full lock.
Speaker 2: Yes, that's what it was.
Speaker 3: So she's taking out my phon lox and Deval and
Speaker 3: you know, he calls me and he's just like, hey, okay,
Speaker 3: I'm like what but you know TP is about to
Speaker 3: call you. Make sure your answer phone. He's going to
Speaker 3: ask you if you want to go to Sweden. And
Speaker 3: I was like, excuse me. He's like, he's gonna ask
Speaker 3: you if you want to go to Sweden. Just make
Speaker 3: sure you just say yes.
Speaker 1: So just this is this is a funny story.
Speaker 4: I had sent Tyler a video of you doing the
Speaker 4: cufet challenge.
Speaker 1: I believe we were on vacation. You had the whole catamaran.
Speaker 4: Yes, that, and he was just like he was just like,
Speaker 4: your wife loved Beyonce that much.
Speaker 1: And I had told him the story. Oh that's how
Speaker 1: it ended up.
Speaker 3: And then I'm wondering if y'all know the actual Beyonce
Speaker 3: story for us years ago.
Speaker 2: So we're gonna have to unpack up in this episode.
Speaker 4: There's a lot of sixty degrees of separation because that
Speaker 4: story also includes Tyler Perry.
Speaker 3: It does right, you're right. So he said, you've got
Speaker 3: to answer your phone. So I'm like, okay, got you copy.
Speaker 3: So I'm still thinking that that was probably delusional because
Speaker 3: he's been on set for like sixteen hours at this
Speaker 3: point up in Toronto. It's day maybe forty two for him.
Speaker 3: I'm like, hey, he's over it. I'm like, Teller's about
Speaker 3: to call my phone. I looked down at my phone.
Speaker 3: I missed the call from Tyler Perry and I was like, oh, shoot.
Speaker 3: So he texts me shortly after and pretty much was
Speaker 3: just like.
Speaker 4: Oh, which is crazy to me because you always have
Speaker 4: your phone on you. You always missed the important calls that
Speaker 4: I'm sending through to you. I call her, she missed
Speaker 4: the call. Tell me he gonna call that you missed
Speaker 4: the call, but you always have your phone.
Speaker 2: I missed the call.
Speaker 3: The phone was on my lap and I probably didn't
Speaker 3: feel it vibrate or whatever. So then I get a
Speaker 3: text mention from him pretty much just like you got
Speaker 3: about one more time before I call you, you and not
Speaker 3: answer your phone.
Speaker 2: So I was just like, oh shoot, let me call
Speaker 2: him back.
Speaker 3: So I called him back and I said, Bro, you
Speaker 3: know I'm over here playing single mom because your boys
Speaker 3: up in Toronto. Filman left me with these kids for
Speaker 3: six weeks. I don't know if I'm coming to going
Speaker 3: to what date is? So you have to forgive me
Speaker 3: for my answer in the first phone call. So we
Speaker 3: laugh and we chitchat catch up for a little bit,
Speaker 3: and he's like, yeah, there's a rumor going around that
Speaker 3: Beyonce is going to be performing in Stockholm, Sweden next week.
Speaker 2: And I was like, oh yeah, oh yeah, there's a room.
Speaker 3: So I'm starting to sweat at this point right because
Speaker 3: the downstairs was freezing. I had the ac oncause I
Speaker 3: was taking my hair out. Bruh, I'm sweating at this point.
Speaker 3: So I was like yeah, and he was just like yeah,
Speaker 3: I mean, if you're available with something, we could roll
Speaker 3: out or you know whatever.
Speaker 1: I was like, well, if.
Speaker 3: The rumor happens to be true, keeping in the loop,
Speaker 3: That's pretty much what I said. And yeah, and before
Speaker 3: I knew it, I was on a plane, not a plane,
Speaker 3: his plane to Stockholm.
Speaker 1: So this is the crazy part wild.
Speaker 4: He he called me first and he was just like, YO,
Speaker 4: how would you feel if your wife went to Sweden
Speaker 4: to go see Beyonce?
Speaker 1: I was like I will feel. Please please this a
Speaker 1: week before Mother's Day?
Speaker 4: Like, yo, like give us something that's small about she's
Speaker 4: been with them kids by herself for almost.
Speaker 1: Six weeks now to do please save her?
Speaker 4: And he was like now, I just calling, you know,
Speaker 4: to make sure it's appropriate, and I'm like, t make ahead,
Speaker 4: Like do your think I think she would enjoy it?
Speaker 1: That was him. Yeah, he told me he had a
Speaker 1: group going, but he knew that you loved Beyonce.
Speaker 2: And I didn't know that he knew.
Speaker 3: That's how thought that that just that's a small testimony
Speaker 3: to how amazing. This man isn't thoughtful because here I
Speaker 3: didn't even think he still remembered me. But now that's true.
Speaker 3: We have developed a really cute relationships. So yeah, y'all,
Speaker 3: I was in that hell.
Speaker 1: So question no matter of fact, I ask this question
Speaker 1: when we come back KAO.
Speaker 2: Talk because listen, I've been humming and singing.
Speaker 1: We got yo.
Speaker 3: Literally, I told you, I told the val back in
Speaker 3: twenty twenty two, when the year ended, I said, all right,
Speaker 3: I think we could put the Covert Challenge to rest
Speaker 3: at this point, right, I think it's fair to say
Speaker 3: that we've all had our fair share of the cover
Speaker 3: of challenge. However, the minute she announced that there was
Speaker 3: a tour coming up, I said, oh baby, we're gonna
Speaker 3: have to crank that shit back up. So I made
Speaker 3: sure I still had my one too, So I was
Speaker 3: on the plane and everything we were practicing and all
Speaker 3: that good stuff. I had TP practicing and whatever. He
Speaker 3: left me hanging and you left me hanging out. We
Speaker 3: got to see it Beyonce in America now, So that
Speaker 3: way we can actually do the Coffin Challenge together.
Speaker 1: This is evidence that is never enough.
Speaker 3: It is never that's not it I'm just saying, he
Speaker 3: owes me the Covert Challenge, but I owe you anything.
Speaker 1: The man took you on a private jet to Sweden.
Speaker 2: No, I'm saying.
Speaker 1: Beyond shows, and now you're talking about something you owe me.
Speaker 2: No, this is proof.
Speaker 3: You just owe me the cover of challenge together with
Speaker 3: me simultaneously five six, ready ad together bye, but never enough.
Speaker 2: That's it. You can even come do it at my
Speaker 2: doorstep and I'd be satisfied. We wouln't even go the
Speaker 2: god to go see the show again.
Speaker 3: But no. We have a lot of songs that we
Speaker 3: could pick, but I'm going to sing one in particular
Speaker 3: that has been a staple I think for this show.
Speaker 3: Karaoke time. Okay, Baby, there's like a whole. I can
Speaker 3: tell y all about the whole, like all the songs
Speaker 3: that say she sings, I can pull one from the show.
Speaker 3: But I feel like at this point, you know, since
Speaker 3: this is dead ass Podcast and Beyonce essentially wrote a
Speaker 3: song for us and for me, this was the song
Speaker 3: that I came out to at every live show if
Speaker 3: you came to a live show this last leg and
Speaker 3: even back in what was it August or September when
Speaker 3: we did two shows, yes the Yeah yeah a guest.
Speaker 3: So if you were any of these shows, you knew
Speaker 3: that this was the song, right, go ahead. I'm not nervous.
Speaker 3: I'm not saying. But the funny thing is I had
Speaker 3: there's not really a song part to it. It's I'm
Speaker 3: that girl. But she says, I'm dead ass, dead ass,
Speaker 3: I'm in now.
Speaker 1: So that's why you kept saying that.
Speaker 3: It's not the diamonds, it's not the pearls.
Speaker 1: Oh man, I'm that girl.
Speaker 2: Oh man, I'm that girl.
Speaker 4: Yes, I would help you sing that, but I'm not singing.
Speaker 4: I'm that girls.
Speaker 3: Stopping me, These montherfuckers stopping me these months, stoping me,
Speaker 3: these mothers, stop at me.
Speaker 1: I have a question.
Speaker 2: You could pick up that part.
Speaker 4: Well, I just got to know, like what is it
Speaker 4: about Beyonce that makes you women go crazy?
Speaker 1: Like? What is it?
Speaker 2: She's an amazing performer. It's the performance for me.
Speaker 3: If I could see Beyonce in concert all the time,
Speaker 3: that's what I would do all the time, Like just
Speaker 3: do that. Since I'm not I don't need to buy
Speaker 3: your products. I don't need to buy I just want
Speaker 3: to watch you perform over and over again and that's
Speaker 3: just it. And I will play your album on repeat
Speaker 3: and I'm support in that way.
Speaker 2: But that is it for me. Beyonce the performer.
Speaker 1: I've seen my wife act like this.
Speaker 4: You are acting like how Jackson would act if he
Speaker 4: messed that Curry.
Speaker 1: That's how you act essentially.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I mean she's she's mom, she's fly.
Speaker 3: Everything that they've been able to do with Beyonce and
Speaker 3: her image and just keep her so pristine. I love that.
Speaker 3: It's aspirational for me. And in my next lifetime I'm
Speaker 3: a singing dance just like that.
Speaker 1: So here you can sing and dance. Now, why you
Speaker 1: gotta wait till your next lifetime?
Speaker 2: Saying did you just hear carry out leotard?
Speaker 1: Go in that room and go I'm on that hole,
Speaker 1: dead ass, I'm mad girl, I'm mad girl.
Speaker 2: Stopping me, stopping me.
Speaker 1: We're gonna take a break.
Speaker 2: Like my shirt too.
Speaker 1: She's been wearing that shirt for two weeks.
Speaker 4: She ain't never watched it because she wore that shirt
Speaker 4: and beyond you see it got makeup stings on.
Speaker 2: Just now because I put it on after the fact.
Speaker 4: She ran to put that shirt on old fast, didn't
Speaker 4: look look mess the shirt up my face.
Speaker 1: Look all right, your face looks great.
Speaker 3: I don't give a damn no how So anyway, let's
Speaker 3: go pay these bills and we'll be back.
Speaker 1: So we're back.
Speaker 2: All right, We're back, y'all.
Speaker 1: So let's let's dive in at a time. Let's dive in.
Speaker 4: Okay, first we have to talk about this connection Beyonce,
Speaker 4: you me, Tyler Perry, all right, First and foremost, in
Speaker 4: twenty twelve is when the big argument happened with Kadeen
Speaker 4: and I on that clip that went viral on the
Speaker 4: Cherry Sheppard show.
Speaker 3: Oh yeah, so it was told at a podcast show
Speaker 3: or whatever.
Speaker 4: That Cherry shepperd show about Kadeen going crazy because and
Speaker 4: y'all probably heard it too, because I did also do
Speaker 4: told that story in l A, And I told the
Speaker 4: story in LA after you came out.
Speaker 2: That's what.
Speaker 1: Surprise. But I couldn't get these tickets.
Speaker 4: For Beyonce for the Beyonce tour in twenty twelve, and
Speaker 4: that was because Kadeen had ran up the credit card
Speaker 4: and we.
Speaker 1: Was broke, and I didn't have the money to get
Speaker 1: the tickets broke broke.
Speaker 4: So fast forward to twenty and nineteen, we're at the
Speaker 4: Tyler Perry studio opening here in East Point, and we're
Speaker 4: walking down this red carpet into our right.
Speaker 1: It's Diddy. It wasn't Ludacris. It was Diddy. Oh Diddy,
Speaker 1: it was Ludacris.
Speaker 4: T I was there and they were all looking around,
Speaker 4: and it was just like, Yo, this is crazy because
Speaker 4: the studio opening was ridiculous. It was like black Excellence
Speaker 4: on a thousand. It was a three hundred yard red
Speaker 4: carpet fifty six yonds wide. But to our left, my gosh,
Speaker 4: to our left was jay Z and Beyonce. And I'm
Speaker 4: from Brooklyn, so you already know what jay Z means
Speaker 4: to me. Kay love Beyonce. It's a lot of noise
Speaker 4: going on over there. Tripple was playing with toys over
Speaker 4: there earlier. Now she's slamming bottles on the floor.
Speaker 2: I don't know if y'all hear talking a Siri, but.
Speaker 4: I look over there and say, Okay, that goes Beyonce.
Speaker 4: Kay doesn't even turn her head that direction, and she goes,
Speaker 4: I know who's over there. I'm like, yo, I know
Speaker 4: who's You gotta go talk to Beyonce's talk to Beyonce.
Speaker 4: I can't talk to Beyonce. I'm just like, yo, just
Speaker 4: go talk to Beyonce, like and she was like, fine,
Speaker 4: you go talk to jay Z. So I'm like, fine,
Speaker 4: I'm gonna go holler Hole real quick. So I walk
Speaker 4: over the whole you know what I'm saying, what's up?
Speaker 3: Man?
Speaker 4: He was like what's up? And I was just like, yeah,
Speaker 4: I'm from Brooklyn to you know what I'm saying, grew
Speaker 4: up in Flat Bud. She was like, Oh, that's what's up.
Speaker 4: This is nice. This is very very nice what Todd
Speaker 4: is doing for everybody. It's very nice. I was like, yup.
Speaker 4: So I look back over Kate still standing where I
Speaker 4: left her, Beyonce nowhere in sight.
Speaker 1: So I said, I'll be right back, Hole, I'll be
Speaker 1: right I go back. I said what happened? She was
Speaker 1: like next time.
Speaker 2: I was like, my dress is pretty. Though. That's the
Speaker 2: one interaction we had.
Speaker 1: She said, your dress was pretty, your dress is nice.
Speaker 4: Thanks, and you didn't even you probably didn't say you
Speaker 4: probably didn't even say thanks.
Speaker 3: You probably was just staying at In my mind, I
Speaker 3: said thanks, but I might have just froze.
Speaker 2: That's probably why I'm staying there by myself.
Speaker 4: Yes, So the funny thing is I told Tyler that story,
Speaker 4: did you I did. He was laughing because he knows
Speaker 4: how much of a personality you have, just like like
Speaker 4: Kadeen Froze, I'm like yes. So then when I sent
Speaker 4: him the video and then he called me back and
Speaker 4: I sent him the video like months ago.
Speaker 1: I sent the video on twenty twenty two.
Speaker 4: Then when he called me bout it, I was just like, Oh,
Speaker 4: this is definitely gonna be a thing. And I said
Speaker 4: this in a bunch of interviews, like Tyler has become
Speaker 4: more like a mentor than just an employer. You know,
Speaker 4: he knows that I have a lot of stuff going
Speaker 4: on with the podcast, towards the Patreon, the book, towards
Speaker 4: all the things that he has done as a media mogul.
Speaker 4: He's watched me, you know, have successes in these areas,
Speaker 4: so he helps me, you know, through those things. So
Speaker 4: our relationship is not just you know, boss employee. You
Speaker 4: know your boss and your employer your employee. It's more like, Yo,
Speaker 4: you're trying to do these things and get to this
Speaker 4: level in life. Sure I can help you. I can
Speaker 4: do this. So we built that type of relationship.
Speaker 3: So it's great and he speaks the same kind of
Speaker 3: life into me as well too, which I really appreciate
Speaker 3: and I really don't take for granted the times in
Speaker 3: the moments that we've had like along with him where
Speaker 3: we can just really just learn, learn, and I'm literally
Speaker 3: like a sponge in those moments just listening to his wisdom,
Speaker 3: and it's what an awesome, awesome human.
Speaker 2: Yeah, he's a really great human.
Speaker 4: So yeah, so yeah, So after the whole Sherry Sheppard thing,
Speaker 4: now Kadeen got to actually go to the Beyonce concert.
Speaker 4: But not only just go, she had to fly in style.
Speaker 4: There was a carcane picked her up, took her to
Speaker 4: the private airport. She got a private jet with a
Speaker 4: couple other people.
Speaker 3: Yeah, we had a dope crew with us too. It
Speaker 3: was really really fun. We had a good time, I
Speaker 3: mean just there.
Speaker 1: Yeah.
Speaker 3: You know, Stockholm is a beautiful I mean that city
Speaker 3: is probably one of the cleanest I've been to ever,
Speaker 3: Like it looks like they powerwashed the floors every night.
Speaker 3: So it was great because during the day of course,
Speaker 3: we got to walk around, we got to shop, and
Speaker 3: not only did we get to see the show for
Speaker 3: the first night, which was the opening night, he was like, yeah,
Speaker 3: we can just stay for like the second night. So
Speaker 3: we didn't even know that he had shows or tickets
Speaker 3: for both nights, which is crazy, which is crazy back
Speaker 3: to back shows. So it was an insane time. Yea
Speaker 3: insane time. Got ready. Uh Eva called me last minute
Speaker 3: and was like, hey, we were wearing all black to
Speaker 3: the Catser. I was like, girl, way to let me
Speaker 3: know this now as I'm literally packing for us to
Speaker 3: go away, So we were not all black, trying to
Speaker 3: make it a vibe. Mister Perry was in white and
Speaker 3: it was It was dope. We had a really good time.
Speaker 3: It was great to see me back on stage after
Speaker 3: not seeing because while a while I've been to Yeah,
Speaker 3: i've been to two of them. Actually my best friend
Speaker 3: Tiffany had taken me a couple of years back.
Speaker 2: I forget which one that was, but.
Speaker 3: We were in the behive so funny story with this
Speaker 3: one now. So I had all these like micro moments
Speaker 3: would Beyonce that I feel like, at some point it's
Speaker 3: going to be in a moment where homeword is gonna
Speaker 3: be like sitting on the couch with me, that where.
Speaker 2: We're gonna be like, that's where it's gonna be eventually.
Speaker 3: It's gonna be there eventually because I've had so many
Speaker 3: micro moments with her that's not gonna.
Speaker 2: Be shut up.
Speaker 1: Yeah listening, y'all can't see me on Frozen? You can
Speaker 1: you hear my? Y'all? Can I hear me Frozen?
Speaker 2: Broh?
Speaker 3: So Tiffany is like, yo, I have tickets where we
Speaker 3: can either be in the seats or we can be.
Speaker 2: In the hive.
Speaker 3: So I was like, hive me, hive me, because on
Speaker 3: her stage, if you've been to Beyonce show, she always
Speaker 3: has the hives on either side, like the left and
Speaker 3: the right of the stage. So we were stage left
Speaker 3: at this point and I'm in there. And this was
Speaker 3: shortly after her hair got caught in the fan.
Speaker 2: Do we remember that?
Speaker 3: I don't know if you remember it with you ont
Speaker 3: me know, but you only knowing all the Beyonce te
Speaker 3: But anyway, her hair had gotten caught in the fan
Speaker 3: because you know, Beyonce is known for having her face.
Speaker 1: Oh, yes, see the disrespect I gotta deal with though
Speaker 1: I don't be knowing the t yo. You can't tell
Speaker 1: a Beyonce and nothing about Beyonce. They claim to know everything.
Speaker 4: Edge of the stage, going like, this is a fig
Speaker 4: got caught in the fan.
Speaker 1: I knew that. I knew that.
Speaker 2: You're gonna stay in my camera. I knew that why
Speaker 2: are you gonna stay in my camera?
Speaker 3: You could have said that your camera, bring my camera back,
Speaker 3: let me finish my story.
Speaker 2: Soll Yeah. So this was shortly after.
Speaker 3: Her hair got caught in the fan and I had
Speaker 3: actually I had my curly weaven kind of like this right.
Speaker 2: It was a middle park situation going on.
Speaker 3: I was like, yes, I was giving Beyonce vice with
Speaker 3: the hair and whatnot, and I'm literally standing close to
Speaker 3: one of her stage fans.
Speaker 1: So let me guess you put your hand the fan.
Speaker 3: So fan, right, So I'm getting some of the residual
Speaker 3: wind and I'm having my own moment over there because
Speaker 3: I'm just like, clearly like I'm Beyonce in this moment.
Speaker 2: As I'm watching.
Speaker 1: Everybody don't get that, no.
Speaker 3: Exactly, And I'm like, is it like pulling the crossover
Speaker 3: wind from Beyonce to me?
Speaker 2: Maybe you know what I'm saying.
Speaker 3: So we're in the hive or whatever, and she comes
Speaker 3: over to the hive now because she's interacting with the
Speaker 3: high now, and I have my hair. Okay, baby, So
Speaker 3: it's just the hair is flowing, and I'm like, oh
Speaker 3: my god. Girl. She reaches down to me, grabs my
Speaker 3: hand and says, you better watch your hair on that fan.
Speaker 2: And I was like, okay, she spoke to me. She
Speaker 2: spoke to me, and I was fine for the rest
Speaker 2: of the show.
Speaker 3: She grabbed my hand and was like, girl, you better
Speaker 3: watch your hair on that fan, like she said it
Speaker 3: in the mic.
Speaker 1: Touched my hand.
Speaker 4: You never wash that hand. Everything sticky ass. I knew
Speaker 4: there was a reason why that hand was sticky. Don't
Speaker 4: wash your hand, nasty.
Speaker 3: But yeah, that was a moment where I was just like, ohoot.
Speaker 3: So I had been to that show before. And then
Speaker 3: there was another show I had been to. I want
Speaker 3: to say it was at the Barclay Central Madison Square Garden.
Speaker 2: I don't believe, but it was when we were in New York.
Speaker 3: So I finally feel like I was able to slowly
Speaker 3: redeem myself over the years after you so blatantly told
Speaker 3: me that you were going to not let me go
Speaker 3: to that show in Brooklyn.
Speaker 4: After I so blatantly told you, or after you so
Speaker 4: blatantly didn't pay the credit card build or we didn't.
Speaker 1: Have the money for the credit cards.
Speaker 3: For those of y'all who have not heard the story yet, yo,
Speaker 3: I was making payments on the credit card, senty dollars
Speaker 3: more than the minimum. If the minimum is thirty nine dollars,
Speaker 3: and I paid sixty dollars to me, is giving more
Speaker 3: than the minimum? Yo, Okay, it's not my fault that
Speaker 3: the interest rate was Wow.
Speaker 4: Crazy, It's terrible. We're supposed to be speaking to people
Speaker 4: about financial literacy. That is not how financial literacy works.
Speaker 3: Guys. This is also Kadeen postpartum depressed after Jackson.
Speaker 4: This is what year now, twenty twelve. This is a
Speaker 4: Beyonce fanatic. There's no listen. They are so deluded. They
Speaker 4: are so delusional that she expected me to find a
Speaker 4: way to get these tickets although she had spent the
Speaker 4: money for the tickets.
Speaker 1: I was going to buy the way.
Speaker 2: We're planning for the Beyonce tickets.
Speaker 3: If I had known then, I would have put a
Speaker 3: little bit more on the minimum.
Speaker 4: Also that that would have been the reason you put
Speaker 4: more on the minimum for the Beyonce tickets, not because
Speaker 4: it's just responsible.
Speaker 3: That was a sacrificial learning moment because in that moment.
Speaker 2: Now I had to. Then, in that moment, it clicked
Speaker 2: to me.
Speaker 1: What clicked that You wasn't seeing literacy, That's what it was.
Speaker 2: Yes, that's different. She told me a lesson. You taught
Speaker 2: me a lesson on how to be a little bit more.
Speaker 1: Yo yo, Beyonce, get credit for everything.
Speaker 2: It was a group. It was a group effort between you.
Speaker 1: You don't get no credit for that. I had to
Speaker 1: pay that bill off. But I'm sorry.
Speaker 4: Listen, I love Beyonce too, I love jay Z, but
Speaker 4: you're not getting credit for me paying a credit card
Speaker 4: bill that she ran.
Speaker 3: Now, I'm talking about my mindset at that point, I
Speaker 3: was just like, oh shoot, Like this was something that
Speaker 3: I really wanted to do that I could not do
Speaker 3: because I did not have a way to do it
Speaker 3: because I was not being fiscally responsible.
Speaker 2: Now I'm being physically responsible.
Speaker 3: If I could think about a moment in time where
Speaker 3: the tides turned for me, that was it.
Speaker 1: That was the moment. I'll receive that.
Speaker 4: But I'm glad you brought that up, because since we're
Speaker 4: talking about being fiscally responsible, I got a bone to
Speaker 4: pick with FedEx. Feel all that part bone to pickle,
Speaker 4: So listen to this.
Speaker 1: I know it was in the news. They've been talking
Speaker 1: about this.
Speaker 2: Before you did this. Can I take something real quick?
Speaker 3: So I had done a TikTok video right of me,
Speaker 3: acting as if I was texting Tyler Perry to say
Speaker 3: I'm gonna need to.
Speaker 2: Be to get raised and some time off so I
Speaker 2: can get.
Speaker 1: Yes. Yes, yes.
Speaker 3: Oh so I didn't know so pretty much you had
Speaker 3: me all set up in this.
Speaker 2: I had not because when he hit me, I was like,
Speaker 2: how does he even know that? I like piance like that.
Speaker 2: I didn't even know, like what the deal was.
Speaker 4: Now you posted on TikTok. I had posted it on
Speaker 4: my Instagram. I remember I tagged him in it.
Speaker 1: He was laughing.
Speaker 2: He was laughing. Yeah, so I'm just like, listen, this
Speaker 2: is what we gotta do.
Speaker 3: So after doing that, I was like, man, I was
Speaker 3: really like hoping to get some tickets. And then we
Speaker 3: fell into this situation that Deval was going to explain
Speaker 3: to y'all.
Speaker 1: Now, yeah, so.
Speaker 4: You know how they say, these motherfuckers ain't stopping me.
Speaker 4: These No, these motherfuckers stopped us. They stopped us dead ass.
Speaker 4: So the day the tickets came out, we were on
Speaker 4: tour right. My driver said it was just like yo,
Speaker 4: he's from d C. He was like, yo, I got
Speaker 4: an end with FedEx Phil. I got box seats because
Speaker 4: I'm a season ticket holder, I can get the Beyonce tickets.
Speaker 1: I'm like, say less.
Speaker 2: Literally in the green room about to go on to.
Speaker 4: The Today's Show. Right, how much is the boxing? He
Speaker 4: goes twenty thousand dollars? I said, oh, man, So I'm like,
Speaker 4: man said, like the fuck?
Speaker 2: He started blinking like that.
Speaker 1: Yeah.
Speaker 4: I was blinking because I almost had a stroke just
Speaker 4: thinking about all that money to go see Beyonce.
Speaker 1: I was like okay.
Speaker 2: Because it was a box that held ten ten.
Speaker 4: I was like, okay, So if I invite ten people
Speaker 4: and it's gonna be food and drinks, it's gonna be
Speaker 4: including stuff like that.
Speaker 1: I'm gonna charge people because I'm getting my money back.
Speaker 4: One thing I'm gonna do is I'm gonna make a
Speaker 4: business out of something, Right, I'm gonna get a tour
Speaker 4: bus or something, and I'm gonna invite people and I'm
Speaker 4: gonna charge them to come on this fucking trip. This
Speaker 4: is all I'm thinking, right, But I just wanted to
Speaker 4: make sure I had a seat for me and my baby.
Speaker 4: Because I was like, I just told the story on
Speaker 4: the Sherry Shepherd Show, and these tickets is available and
Speaker 4: had I went to the behive thing through American Express,
Speaker 4: I got weightlisted. I went through my city car, got weightlisted.
Speaker 4: So I was like, this is my only opportunity. Fine,
Speaker 4: I'm gonna invest in this opportunity.
Speaker 3: Y'all had to see the confidence with which Javal had
Speaker 3: his laptop, like, I'm not to go tickets right now.
Speaker 4: If y'all watching a Patreon The minute them tickets and
Speaker 4: I seen I was looking for ways and they said
Speaker 4: city card.
Speaker 1: I said, that's the same card.
Speaker 2: That I paid it off.
Speaker 1: Yes, yes, I paid it off. I said, this is
Speaker 1: the sign. This is a sign I gotta get this.
Speaker 1: I got my computer.
Speaker 2: I was like he literally was like that he was.
Speaker 4: It was like it was like he was like, babe, no,
Speaker 4: don't worry about knowing. I said, Yo, don't tell me,
Speaker 4: no Streuss, your man got you? Yo, didn't I say
Speaker 4: I got you? Don't I get shit done? Don't I
Speaker 4: get shit done? And she was just like, yeah, you
Speaker 4: get see done. Daddy gets So I was like, I
Speaker 4: get ship done and I put this stuff in and
Speaker 4: I said, I'm gonna get an email on Monday. They
Speaker 4: know who I am. I'm a city car holder for
Speaker 4: fifteen years. I'm gonna get period tickets. Period email comes
Speaker 4: on Monday. I seen the joint pop up with the
Speaker 4: Beyonce on the horse thing all that. I said, Okay,
Speaker 4: I got that email. Open that bitch up. He said,
Speaker 4: you've been waitlisted. I was like, these motherfuckers, so that
Speaker 4: all that happened to me twice. So now said tells
Speaker 4: me he can get tickets. I go, boom, What I
Speaker 4: gotta do? He said, you just gotta put the money
Speaker 4: down for the box and it's yours, like you got
Speaker 4: the tickets for August August Fair fakes Field, August August Fils.
Speaker 3: I went so much as to scope out of ear
Speaker 3: B and B book that joint say we're gonna have
Speaker 3: a whole house party with whoever we invite to come along.
Speaker 1: Was prepared. We was prepared.
Speaker 2: But it was going to be a moment. Man, it
Speaker 2: was gonna be a moment.
Speaker 3: I was making personalized Beyonce boxes for everyone in attendance.
Speaker 4: Yep, yep, she was. She was like so focused, and
Speaker 4: I was. I was excited to be able to have
Speaker 4: that full circle moment with you. So I was ready
Speaker 4: to like, I was gonna do the behind thing with
Speaker 4: her and do with the dance bred I was gonna
Speaker 4: do all of that.
Speaker 1: I was gonna do everything right.
Speaker 2: You were really gonna do it? Yes, rehearsal schedule too,
Speaker 2: you have rehearsal.
Speaker 1: I did I kid you not. She gets to call
Speaker 1: from Tyler and I'm like, dang, I got these tickets.
Speaker 1: It's twenty thousands.
Speaker 3: You know what.
Speaker 4: She can go with Tyler watching in Sweden. We're gonna
Speaker 4: come back, make an experience of it for ourselves. While
Speaker 4: she's away, I get a call from Said and I
Speaker 4: see it sets calling. I don't know why he's called.
Speaker 4: I start call him back. A couple of days go by,
Speaker 4: A couple of days go by. Kay finally comes back.
Speaker 4: She tells me everything is happening, and I say, let
Speaker 4: me call Said back.
Speaker 1: Let me see you know why he called me. He
Speaker 1: called me back. He goes, Yo, we got a problem.
Speaker 1: What's the problem.
Speaker 4: FedEx Field is now saying that the tickets that they
Speaker 4: sold for the box for Beyonce is no longer going
Speaker 4: to be available. They're going to refund or they're going
Speaker 4: to allow people who already have the boxes to keep
Speaker 4: their boxes if they're willing to pay two times the price.
Speaker 4: I'm like, what, bruh, what like what kind of business
Speaker 4: is this? And he was just like, this is the
Speaker 4: business of Beyonce. Everybody else is trying to make so
Speaker 4: much money off of Beyonce that they're doing all of this.
Speaker 4: Un Like, this is like morally wrong, Like we we
Speaker 4: booked these tickets months ago. What if we booked plane tickets?
Speaker 4: Uh Airbnb's what? Like what if we had plans? And
Speaker 4: now you're telling me you're just going to either refund
Speaker 4: me my money or I got to pay two times
Speaker 4: more for the tickets.
Speaker 3: It was it like some fine print or something in
Speaker 3: there that you have because that doesn't seem like it's
Speaker 3: even ethically allowed, Like is that even a thing?
Speaker 2: Can people do that?
Speaker 1: To be honest us, they can because they're doing it.
Speaker 1: I mean that's why NBC.
Speaker 3: Like, I'm surprised they wouldn't have like lawsuits or like something,
Speaker 3: because that's that's essentially.
Speaker 2: Not scalping.
Speaker 1: But that's the key gouging.
Speaker 4: Yeah, tickey gouging sounds like it's me but I guess
Speaker 4: this is a private event. It's not a sporting event.
Speaker 4: They reserve the rights to, you know, do whatever they
Speaker 4: want to do.
Speaker 1: I don't. I don't know what the legal thing is.
Speaker 1: I'm gonna be honest.
Speaker 4: I didn't look into it that much because you would
Speaker 4: already went to go see Beyond, right, So I was like,
Speaker 4: fuck fed Xfield.
Speaker 1: I'm not giving them no.
Speaker 4: More my money, you know what I'm saying. At first,
Speaker 4: I was trying to figure out a way, but I was.
Speaker 2: It's all good.
Speaker 3: I mean, if we were to be blessed enough to
Speaker 3: stumble upon another opportunity where we can't go and like,
Speaker 3: because I wanted also for us to make it an
Speaker 3: experience with some of our closest friends too, You and
Speaker 3: I you know bus for a long time.
Speaker 1: But it won't be Field though. No, I'll tell.
Speaker 2: You that we'll find somewhere else to go.
Speaker 1: Like that pissed me up.
Speaker 2: Somebody else to do it.
Speaker 4: And when they say you can't, ain't stopping me them,
Speaker 4: Nigga shot me sure, because I ain't paying forty thousand dollars.
Speaker 1: I don't care how close I am to that damn fan.
Speaker 3: And you wouldn't even have been close to the fan
Speaker 3: because like for example, in Stockholm, we were in the suite,
Speaker 3: but the suite is of course all at the very top,
Speaker 3: and then we had access to the Ace of Spades platform.
Speaker 2: But I'm assuming down low.
Speaker 1: But I'm assuming that's what it is.
Speaker 4: If you buy a shoe, it gives you access to
Speaker 4: you know what I'm saying, You get access.
Speaker 1: To certain things.
Speaker 2: Now that makes sense.
Speaker 4: Now we're not going to be in the Bee High,
Speaker 4: but will be in that Ace of Spades lounge or
Speaker 4: some other lounges.
Speaker 1: Because just because you're in the suite don't mean you
Speaker 1: stay up there.
Speaker 4: You can still go down into the concert right right,
Speaker 4: And that's that's what I was hoping for.
Speaker 2: Right and I was literally in a suite right next to.
Speaker 1: Blue and Root, Me and Jay, So you felt like family.
Speaker 2: It was it was given family, It was given Auntie.
Speaker 2: It was.
Speaker 1: Well.
Speaker 3: Beyonce was busy. It was her first show. I understand this,
Speaker 3: it was your first show. Lots of press. I know
Speaker 3: that we couldn't connect in that moment. I'm gonna let
Speaker 3: you rock. You know what I'm saying, because I understand
Speaker 3: what it's like. You know what I'm saying. It's a
Speaker 3: lot going on. You got a press room.
Speaker 2: On tour.
Speaker 1: I understand international pop stars.
Speaker 2: I never said that.
Speaker 3: I am saying I can empathize with what I can
Speaker 3: imagine the pressure is like.
Speaker 2: So it's all good. The kids were good.
Speaker 1: Let me tell you right now.
Speaker 2: Jay was cool.
Speaker 3: You know down your mama mss Tina was there in
Speaker 3: full effect on the Ace of Spades platform having a
Speaker 3: random time, having a random time.
Speaker 4: Kay went out with the family after listen.
Speaker 2: She's like, girl, lear can you sit that is? I
Speaker 2: got you.
Speaker 1: I'm not gonna watch you. I'm not gonna watch you.
Speaker 4: I hope to God that I am successful enough as
Speaker 4: an artist, as an actor to have the type of
Speaker 4: fans that Beyonce has like that. In all honesty, yo,
Speaker 4: I hope people ride for me the way the behive
Speaker 4: rides for Beyonce, because.
Speaker 1: There's a difference. There's a difference, you know, there's a difference.
Speaker 1: Beyonce was on the.
Speaker 4: Horse Kadeen being a leotard on me, glitter and everything.
Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying, I'm in that hope. I'll
Speaker 1: be in that hope all the way in there.
Speaker 4: Four boys came out that hope too, So that's.
Speaker 3: The fact, take a break, nobody, nobody else.
Speaker 2: It's coming, without doubt. But you're gonna have that baby.
Speaker 3: And you know why it's gonna be even great, right,
Speaker 3: because you're just so relatable, so personable. You're just like
Speaker 3: a good dude. You're a bomb ass dude that your
Speaker 3: bomb Yes, shout out to TPS. TPS made it happen
Speaker 3: for me too, man.
Speaker 4: Psy, I said, look, Yo, because of you, I ain't
Speaker 4: had nothing on Mother's Day. Yo.
Speaker 3: I texted them and said the same thing too. I
Speaker 3: was just like when everybody asked me what I want
Speaker 3: for Mother's Day?
Speaker 1: Nothing nothing. She want nothing.
Speaker 2: I didn't want anything. All I did.
Speaker 3: All I wanted on Mother's Day was to sit at
Speaker 3: home with my husband, my boys, Mom and dad were here.
Speaker 3: Y'all grilled for me, made dinner, made lunch. The kids
Speaker 3: were in the pool. It was the first official pool
Speaker 3: day of the year.
Speaker 4: She split my American Express card in Sweden shopping, So
Speaker 4: don't forget that though for somebody who ain't want nothing
Speaker 4: came back with a lot of bags.
Speaker 1: It's only because you're looking around.
Speaker 3: To me, because I got some deals out there and
Speaker 3: it's tax free, so I got the tax back taxes
Speaker 3: coming back to the car. So you know I'm you know,
Speaker 3: I'm a frugal shopper. I'm gonna fign me a deal
Speaker 3: and I'm gonna make it make sense. And I'm a
Speaker 3: ball on a budget period.
Speaker 1: Kadeen, dead ass Kadeen. And now a couch? See a couch? Right?
Speaker 4: She would buy a couch for twelve thousand dollars. And
Speaker 4: I'll say, Kadean, why you buy this twelve thousand dollars couch?
Speaker 4: It was on sale?
Speaker 1: It used to be twelve thousand, five hundred. How could
Speaker 1: I beat that sale? The foul? And I'll be like,
Speaker 1: and that be her face right there, this demonic last.
Speaker 3: Right would you be to same one? Throw me over
Speaker 3: that couch? And I'm like, see it's so comfy. It's
Speaker 3: the right height, your leverage perfect.
Speaker 1: I'm glad you. That's all I looked at.
Speaker 2: That's all I'll be thinking.
Speaker 1: The couch is the right height so that I could throw.
Speaker 3: You firmness, you know, absorb the shock, give you give.
Speaker 1: She's been this happy ever since she's been bad. Episode.
Speaker 2: I love that for us, and I love that for
Speaker 2: y'all who are listen.
Speaker 4: This is how happy she's been she's she walking around skipping,
Speaker 4: making lunches and dinners.
Speaker 3: And shit, and I g le's go put some energy
Speaker 3: on these bills and now we'll be back. All right,
Speaker 3: listen to letters. We are back and I'm going to
Speaker 3: dive into this first room right here. Hi, kending and vow.
Speaker 3: I love y'all, Love you back, man. I'm just so happy, y'all. Okay,
Speaker 3: go ahead. I just wanted to know, after being together
Speaker 3: for twenty years, how do you become so obsessed with
Speaker 3: each other?
Speaker 2: Chill?
Speaker 3: I'm asking because my previous relationships never worked out. And
Speaker 3: during the relationship, I became tired of my partner. I
Speaker 3: guess because he was and emotionally abusive. I think that'll
Speaker 3: do it for you. There were legitmy days where I
Speaker 3: did not want to be in his presence because it
Speaker 3: was that bad. I want marriage one day, but a
Speaker 3: part of me is scared. What if I get tired
Speaker 3: of my partner? Vice versa. Any help would be appreciated.
Speaker 1: My advice is never the advice people want to hear.
Speaker 4: That every time I give people this advice, men and women,
Speaker 4: they always get upset.
Speaker 1: But it is just a fact.
Speaker 2: What is it?
Speaker 4: Well, first of all, is make sure your kids don't
Speaker 4: be screaming in the background when you're trying to do
Speaker 4: a podcast.
Speaker 1: That's the first advice.
Speaker 3: The number of cameos that Coda has probably made y'all
Speaker 3: have to forgive us. You know, we working from home
Speaker 3: parents take our kids to work every day type shit.
Speaker 4: Yeah, this is always my advice, right, And it's contrary
Speaker 4: to what people are preaching. Right, Okay, people always preach except.
Speaker 1: Me as I am. There's going to be change. There's
Speaker 1: going to be this in this Sener.
Speaker 4: You gotta deal with me the whatever the way I am, right,
Speaker 4: I don't believe in that. I honestly believe that Kadeen
Speaker 4: fell in love with me, lusted for me, and became
Speaker 4: infatuated with me a certain way. And that was when
Speaker 4: I was healthy, I was working out, I was doing everything,
Speaker 4: you know, I looked a certain way. I feel like
Speaker 4: it's my responsibility to continue to strive to be that
Speaker 4: version of.
Speaker 1: Myself even through the change.
Speaker 4: Of course, I'm getting older, my mind changes, the things
Speaker 4: I like change and stuff like that. But if there
Speaker 4: are things that I can control that you like, I
Speaker 4: wanted to keep myself that way, and I would want
Speaker 4: you to do the same thing. For example, when you
Speaker 4: met me, I was a Division one elite athlete, so
Speaker 4: I was ripped, I had abs, you know what I'm saying.
Speaker 4: I worked out a lot. I was I was always
Speaker 4: motivated to do more. I want to always be that person,
Speaker 4: no matter how old I get, because I know that
Speaker 4: that's what intrigued you. So not just the physical but everything,
Speaker 4: the fact that I'm always going to keep going. Like
Speaker 4: even people say, like, why do you go so hard?
Speaker 4: I go so hard because that's who I was when
Speaker 4: my part and fell in love with me. That's who
Speaker 4: I was when I was trying to be the best
Speaker 4: version of myself. Just because I found someone doesn't mean
Speaker 4: that I stopped trying to be the best version because
Speaker 4: I'm comfortable. So ultimately, my message to people is stop
Speaker 4: being comfortable. You meet someone, you fall in love, and
Speaker 4: you get comfortable, and you just say they're gonna accept
Speaker 4: me this way, I'm staying here. No, that person met
Speaker 4: you on a journey of you trying to be the
Speaker 4: best version, so you should continue to try to be
Speaker 4: the best version for that person throughout your life, not settling.
Speaker 4: And it's the same thing I want for k which
Speaker 4: is why I think I'm still so infatuated with K.
Speaker 4: The last couple of months, I watched K say, you
Speaker 4: know what, you gotta respect me. I don't have to
Speaker 4: have kids no more. I'm no longer worried about getting pregnant.
Speaker 4: I'm about to put everything I can into being the
Speaker 4: best version of myself.
Speaker 1: You work out more, You work out days.
Speaker 4: I've never there's been days where I was going to
Speaker 4: take a day off and I seen K walking on
Speaker 4: a treadmill, and I was like, I can't take a
Speaker 4: day off if she's working.
Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying. I've watched you just work.
Speaker 4: I've watched you up into this laptop and focus on
Speaker 4: booking more deals and doing more content and just being
Speaker 4: the go getter that you were when I met you
Speaker 4: when we were the teens.
Speaker 2: You're right, that actually makes so much sense.
Speaker 4: That made me, That makes me just fall like, that
Speaker 4: keeps me my fire going, like look at her goal.
Speaker 1: Yeah, that's what it is.
Speaker 3: You're right, because both of us when we met had
Speaker 3: a lot of stuff going on.
Speaker 2: Yeah you know, I had just won a pageant.
Speaker 3: You were just getting into football, and well you did
Speaker 3: it in high school, but you just got a scholarship
Speaker 3: to have ship. Well, you walked on you earned it.
Speaker 3: I loved from day one the drive that you had.
Speaker 3: And I think for me to answer her question, were
Speaker 3: you done with your thoughts? Sorry, yeah, I'm done, go ahead, okay,
Speaker 3: for her to answer her question, like, what is it
Speaker 3: that keeps me?
Speaker 1: Like?
Speaker 3: So it's the doing life with someone having set so
Speaker 3: many goals and watching the dreams unfold and strategizing. There's
Speaker 3: a fun for me in that strategizing on how we
Speaker 3: can actually achieve these things, and the curiosity that also
Speaker 3: lingers when I think about who this man is becoming. Right,
Speaker 3: So the growth, the growth and seeing him evolve in
Speaker 3: different phases of our life from being a husband and
Speaker 3: then being a father. Seeing you as a father, for
Speaker 3: me is probably some of the biggest turn ons, Like
Speaker 3: when you don't even know because I'm just watching you
Speaker 3: in a different facet other than just being devoured my
Speaker 3: friend or devout my partner, devout my lover. I'm seeing
Speaker 3: you as devour the father and how much you pour
Speaker 3: into our sons, and that in itself is exciting. So
Speaker 3: there's just all these moments of excitement over our life
Speaker 3: that I just can't wait to see what you're going
Speaker 3: to do next, and that's just me, you know, along
Speaker 3: for the ride with you, but also to being a
Speaker 3: spectator in a sense that for me is just like
Speaker 3: it's everything. Her saying that she was emotionally and physically
Speaker 3: verbally and abused, like, yeah, that's that girl.
Speaker 2: That was exactly what it is like at.
Speaker 4: Some point when someone's doing something to you that you
Speaker 4: don't want, you're gonna get tired of it, so that
Speaker 4: I wouldn't even consider that someone that you should try
Speaker 4: to keep the fire burns.
Speaker 1: You got to remove yourself from that situation.
Speaker 4: But as far as keeping the fire going, you did
Speaker 4: bring up a good point about how we keep setting
Speaker 4: new goals for ourselves.
Speaker 1: And this will going on.
Speaker 4: Don't mind sharing with y'all having friends who are in
Speaker 4: a different point of life than you, who are doing
Speaker 4: better than you, and those lives it has always been
Speaker 4: inspiration for Kadeen and I.
Speaker 1: For example, and this is the truth.
Speaker 4: Kadeen's best friend Tiffany, who took you to Beyonce the
Speaker 4: first time, was married to one of my best friends,
Speaker 4: Steven Bowen, who played in the NFL and was making
Speaker 4: five million dollars a year as a defensive lineman for
Speaker 4: the Redskins and us going to events and looking at
Speaker 4: their life was inspirational for us, and it made us
Speaker 4: get together in the car rides home coming from their
Speaker 4: million dollar mansion in Leesburg, Virginia, and look at each
Speaker 4: other and be like, Yo, we're gonna get there. And
Speaker 4: I think about it now, Tyler Tay making you on
Speaker 4: a private jet and then you're coming back home and
Speaker 4: we're having these talks. We look at each other and
Speaker 4: we go, we're gonna get there.
Speaker 3: It's like the parallels there, you know, parallel. Like we
Speaker 3: would leave our apartment in Brooklyn and Crown Heights with Jackson.
Speaker 3: He was a baby at the time, didn't have Cairo
Speaker 3: and Kaza. Jackson was maybe like two three, and we
Speaker 3: do road trips to visit them in Virginia and we
Speaker 3: just pull up to.
Speaker 2: The house and be like, oh, yep.
Speaker 3: I remember the first time I pulled up to their
Speaker 3: house and I was like, look at this house. I
Speaker 3: mean huge, it was like eight bedrooms. It was a huge,
Speaker 3: huge backyard, beautiful everything. And then we would spend a
Speaker 3: weekend having a great time with our friends, and then
Speaker 3: we would drive back home and then you know, turn
Speaker 3: the key to the apartment and be like, damn one day.
Speaker 1: Yeah we but one.
Speaker 4: The thing is, though, we would be with them and
Speaker 4: always talk business. Boat was playing football, but Tiffany always
Speaker 4: had an entrepreneural mindset and she and I would sit
Speaker 4: down and talk about like what would be next, like
Speaker 4: what are we doing.
Speaker 2: At the time the next business.
Speaker 4: I was focused on TV film and Kadeen was doing makeup,
Speaker 4: so she was starting Harlem hookah and opening other businesses.
Speaker 1: Haven't been definitely a staple in Harlem.
Speaker 2: Great finger foods and who could all that drinks?
Speaker 4: We used to go there enjoy festivities. But it was
Speaker 4: the inspiration from seeing a lifestyle that you don't see
Speaker 4: growing up being from Brooklyn. So I say all that
Speaker 4: to just be like, if you're with somebody and you
Speaker 4: want to figure out how to keep the fire burning,
Speaker 4: set goals with your partner right once again, shameless plug
Speaker 4: We Over Me. The main premise of We Over Me
Speaker 4: was the way it started was Kadeen said to me,
Speaker 4: what do you want to do with your life? I said,
Speaker 4: I wanted to do that. Martin was on TV. She said,
Speaker 4: how are we going to get there? That gave us
Speaker 4: her common goal, and that always gave us something to
Speaker 4: work on.
Speaker 1: So even when we're at our worst or when we're
Speaker 1: like not.
Speaker 4: Feeling each other, we would always sit down and be like,
Speaker 4: don't you want to be able to do this? We
Speaker 4: can do this. We could be out in the middle
Speaker 4: of an argument and business comes around. We find a
Speaker 4: way to work together to make it work. And that's
Speaker 4: allowed us to continue to push through those rough times,
Speaker 4: and after a while, the rough times are fewer and
Speaker 4: smaller and farther in between. That's the fact, and that's
Speaker 4: just where we are now, like, and it.
Speaker 3: Just becomes a testimony or an added piece of the
Speaker 3: story of how you got it, And that makes the
Speaker 3: road so much sweeter when I really think about it. Absolutely,
Speaker 3: Like in those moments, a lot of the denies and
Speaker 3: the nose and everything, you question things like why am
Speaker 3: I even doing this?
Speaker 2: Or am I even on the right path?
Speaker 3: Or we should maybe not be you know, thinking of
Speaker 3: these dreams that we had set out right, and then
Speaker 3: it just makes sense it just wasn't the right time,
Speaker 3: or you know, everything has to happen, even some things
Speaker 3: that we have in the works now. I'm like Deval
Speaker 3: we weren't prepared for these things absolutely, so always trust
Speaker 3: God's timing. That's off topic, but on topic.
Speaker 1: Yes, l'am all right. I hope that helps you.
Speaker 2: Yes, you want to read this? Sext one is just
Speaker 2: no longer, but number two.
Speaker 4: Hey, Davalen Kadeen. First off, I love y'all and you
Speaker 4: guys are doing amazing. Thank you so much. More wins
Speaker 4: for sure speaking into existence. So I previously wrote to y'all,
Speaker 4: but this is an edits. I have been with my
Speaker 4: boyfriend for about six months now. I love you, guys.
Speaker 4: I love this guy so much, and he loves me.
Speaker 4: I can feel it, and I know everything is going amazing.
Speaker 4: He supports me more than anyone ever has. We're literally
Speaker 4: each other's hype man, know what that's like. He's twenty
Speaker 4: four and I'm twenty. We're currently both in school. He's
Speaker 4: in aviation and I'm studying for my bachelor's degree. Hopefully
Speaker 4: we're both done by this year. He wants us to
Speaker 4: get married by next year. I want that too, but
Speaker 4: I'm really conflicted because I feel financially he's not doing well.
Speaker 4: He pays his fees for school and other expenses. I'm
Speaker 4: accustomed to a certain way of life, and I want
Speaker 4: him to be secured financially before marriage. I don't know
Speaker 4: if I'm being selfish, but he doesn't make an effort
Speaker 4: to spoil me with even the least amount of money.
Speaker 4: We split bills on almost everything, even the small things.
Speaker 4: Sometimes it's awkward that I want to pay everything, but
Speaker 4: I don't want to.
Speaker 1: Hurt his ego. He makes some slight jokes, like I'm
Speaker 1: rich and got money when I tried to pay for
Speaker 1: some stuff for me or both of us. I see
Speaker 1: that as a red flag. I see a lot of
Speaker 1: potential in him.
Speaker 4: I want to stick around, but what if things keep
Speaker 4: going on this way even when he makes a lot
Speaker 4: of money one day? To be honest, I love seeing
Speaker 4: I love to be honest. I see love as giving,
Speaker 4: but don't see him doing as much. What do y'all
Speaker 4: think about this? Thank you joy?
Speaker 3: She's twenty four, child twenty four and twenty and year twenty.
Speaker 3: Now you might be spoiled by your parents, families, somebody else,
Speaker 3: you know. I don't know who you've been spoiled by
Speaker 3: in your twenty years of life, But twenty four, syst
Speaker 3: if I looked.
Speaker 2: At and judged Deval.
Speaker 3: On the number of the amount of money that he
Speaker 3: made at twenty four, granted, and what he was doing
Speaker 3: in his mindset, Like, granted, it was a little different
Speaker 3: for him because you did have your short stand in
Speaker 3: the end, but then lost everything and we went back
Speaker 3: to being broke in Brooklyn and having to rebuild.
Speaker 2: You cannot base your entire.
Speaker 3: Idea of what life will be like with him at
Speaker 3: twenty four.
Speaker 2: Are you in it to build with him? Or are
Speaker 2: you being in it to see what he can give?
Speaker 2: Now that's what it sounds like to me. Yeah, so
Speaker 2: that's you guys.
Speaker 3: Are Yeah, career girl, Where is he supposed to be
Speaker 3: getting this money from If he's trying to put himself
Speaker 3: through school and he's paying his school bills and whatnot,
Speaker 3: that's exactly what he should be doing. If he's paying
Speaker 3: his bills now, is it to avoid having debt later
Speaker 3: having to repay loans? Like? What does that look like?
Speaker 3: I think we need to practice a little patience here,
Speaker 3: give him a little grace. And Deval has said time
Speaker 3: and time again on this podcast that men have it hard,
Speaker 3: particularly because in their twenties they don't have it all together.
Speaker 3: You can't expect for anyone in their twenties, male or female.
Speaker 2: To have it all together.
Speaker 3: So I would say to you, sis, if you feel
Speaker 3: like there's a connection there.
Speaker 2: You guys love each other. It's very much giving.
Speaker 3: De Val and I when we were kid bro where
Speaker 3: if I had it, he had it, and vice versa
Speaker 3: if he had I mean, there were so many moments
Speaker 3: where it flip flopped.
Speaker 1: Can I just I just this is what I don't.
Speaker 2: And I didn't feelin way about it.
Speaker 4: He's twenty four, she's twenty. There both in school when
Speaker 4: you were twenty, I was twenty. We were both in school.
Speaker 4: It never crossed my mind to be able to pay
Speaker 4: for things for you. I just didn't have it. I
Speaker 4: was in school and you never asked me if anything.
Speaker 4: We lived off of the stipend you got from your
Speaker 4: ra bonus yep, to get food and when we when
Speaker 4: we went to your plan and my meal plan.
Speaker 1: Yeah, and the money I got from my dad.
Speaker 4: I got one hundred dollars a month, and my brother
Speaker 4: sent half of his pel check, so it was one
Speaker 4: thousand dollars I got for the entire year, which gave
Speaker 4: me an additional one hundred dollars, So I got about
Speaker 4: two hundred.
Speaker 2: Dollars a month gas money.
Speaker 1: That was good gas money we would go to Fridays.
Speaker 1: I will put it on my credit card.
Speaker 4: But I don't remember this whole idea of who pays
Speaker 4: for what in our twenty we will build him this
Speaker 4: generation is I don't get it.
Speaker 1: But it's all about what can I get? Who is
Speaker 1: paying for what?
Speaker 3: You're paying for what? Yes, a lot of that going on.
Speaker 3: Just don't get it, like I need all of this
Speaker 3: right now. Showing me means purchasing these things or giving
Speaker 3: me this lifestyle. I mean, it's unfortunate because I just
Speaker 3: look at I know social media has a lot to
Speaker 3: do with it. We saying time and time again, like
Speaker 3: the standards that people have around what it looks like
Speaker 3: to be courted and wooed in this time is just
Speaker 3: very skewed.
Speaker 1: It is.
Speaker 2: It's very skewed.
Speaker 4: I what's crazy is she says, I want him to
Speaker 4: be financially responsible before we get married. Right, he pays
Speaker 4: for his school and stuff, but he doesn't splurge on me,
Speaker 4: or he doesn't do anything special for me. I'm like,
Speaker 4: what if he's being responsible by saving whatever money he has,
Speaker 4: or he can propose and buy a ring because she
Speaker 4: doesn't have to buy You know, I'm not even getting
Speaker 4: to this.
Speaker 1: I've said this so many times. Yeah, I feel like men.
Speaker 4: Are responsible to do all of these things and we
Speaker 4: have to do it on your time. When you get
Speaker 4: to sit back and say, well, I'm waiting, I'm waiting,
Speaker 4: lay sis.
Speaker 3: Don't lose out on a potentially great man who you
Speaker 3: could build with far into your twenties and thirties and
Speaker 3: beyond because you're concerned about what he can do for
Speaker 3: you now in this moment. If he's a good person,
Speaker 3: if you guys are connected, if you love him, if
Speaker 3: you see ambition and drive, like Dval didn't.
Speaker 1: Have nothing, I had nothing in I had.
Speaker 3: Ambition, he had drive, he had charisma. I was like, oh,
Speaker 3: he's going to be like we could do this together.
Speaker 3: It wasn't about what he could have done for me
Speaker 3: in that moment.
Speaker 4: Not to cut you off, I wonder if we grew
Speaker 4: up in this generation, would we have made it because
Speaker 4: I had nothing and if your mindset was I need
Speaker 4: to be with somebody who can do for me in my.
Speaker 1: Twenties because not for you.
Speaker 3: My parents we didn't live a lavish lifestyle, but I
Speaker 3: was able to get more than when I needed, I
Speaker 3: got what I wanted, I was able to do extra.
Speaker 2: So I came into it thinking like, Okay, well my
Speaker 2: mom and dad can do it for me. But it
Speaker 2: never crossed my mind like, oh well my mom and
Speaker 2: dad were able to do all these things for me.
Speaker 2: So there for you at twenty.
Speaker 4: Crazy, Yeah, that's that's crazy. I'm going to pray for you.
Speaker 4: It sounds like y'all have a great relationship, and I
Speaker 4: hope that you put the basis of your relationship on
Speaker 4: what you guys are building now and not on who
Speaker 4: pays for what and what time.
Speaker 2: And that keeping.
Speaker 1: Yeah, that's that's rough.
Speaker 3: Yeah, And it's a lot of pressure to put on
Speaker 3: anybody in their twenties, male or female.
Speaker 2: Like, that's a lot. So just some food for thoughts,
Speaker 2: is you know?
Speaker 1: Yeah, some food for thought.
Speaker 2: Yeah, all right, y'all.
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Speaker 3: That's right, cause why these motherfuckers ain't stop you. These
Speaker 3: motherfuckers ain't stopping you. Dead ass. Okay, sorry, I had
Speaker 3: a moment with y'all came back to me as a
Speaker 3: moment of truth.
Speaker 2: Time.
Speaker 1: Here's my moment of truth. You got your I got
Speaker 1: my moment.
Speaker 4: My moment of truth. First of all is fuck FedEx Field. Okay,
Speaker 4: that's number one. That's okay. I ain't never been a
Speaker 4: Redskins fan. Well now a Commander's fan. Shout out to
Speaker 4: my boy boy. I know you played for them, Hatch.
Speaker 4: I know you played for them, my boy bag, I
Speaker 4: know you played for them. You know I love y'all.
Speaker 4: Fuck FedEx Field. That's my moment of truth. And one
Speaker 4: number two, I've realized that being a fan of someone
Speaker 4: who was great right also gives you inspiration to be great.
Speaker 1: In your own right. Oh my goodness, When I look.
Speaker 4: At how much Beyonce made you smile, going to the
Speaker 4: event made you smile, it inspired me to work harder,
Speaker 4: to be able to create the type of lifestyle that
Speaker 4: you can do that all the time. And then I
Speaker 4: got stole this. We be on the same thing, on
Speaker 4: the same It's always about the biggest I look at
Speaker 4: where we was then and how it inspired us to
Speaker 4: get here. Now, I look at where we are now
Speaker 4: and how it's inspiring us to go further. And I
Speaker 4: say that because I know that people say that we
Speaker 4: are inspiration for them, and I hope when they listen
Speaker 4: to this they realize that you are inspired by people
Speaker 4: who are continuously looking for inspiration from others.
Speaker 2: A fact.
Speaker 4: And the funny thing is the inspiration isn't Beyonce. The
Speaker 4: inspiration was Tiff and Steve at that time. The inspiration
Speaker 4: is now Tyler, and the inspiration is also Beyonce for
Speaker 4: you because it's like I get to see someone who
Speaker 4: is doing something great and it's like, wow, if she
Speaker 4: can go out there and be brave and do her
Speaker 4: things great. And these other people who are bringing me
Speaker 4: to these things are inspiring me to live a life
Speaker 4: stule to be great, I can do.
Speaker 2: That too, absolutely.
Speaker 4: So that's my moment of truth is continuous, continuously be inspired,
Speaker 4: Find people who inspire you, work to be in their
Speaker 4: presence and work to be who they are in those
Speaker 4: moments so that you can continue to ascend in life.
Speaker 2: That's great.
Speaker 3: Yeah, I was gonna say it's funny because it was
Speaker 3: kind of overlapping with your idea of that. But I
Speaker 3: was going to say, as my moment of truth that
Speaker 3: it's bigger than Beyonce. Right, It's bigger than just seeing
Speaker 3: her in concert, meeting her a couple of times that
Speaker 3: I did in passing. For me, it was what I
Speaker 3: took away from that moment, having that experience with Tyler
Speaker 3: and some friends. It just made me so invigorated to
Speaker 3: come back and find ways to be able to do
Speaker 3: that for me and my friends.
Speaker 2: You know what I'm saying. I want to be able
Speaker 2: to do that, and I.
Speaker 3: Has to share these experiences with the people who I
Speaker 3: love and be an inspiration to other people the way
Speaker 3: they inspire me. So it's bigger than going to Sweden
Speaker 3: on a private jet. Is bigger than seeing Beyonce perform,
Speaker 3: It's bigger than all of that. It's ultimately boiling down
Speaker 3: to surrounding yourself with people who are doing better than you,
Speaker 3: who are smarter than you, and not looking at that
Speaker 3: as a failure because you're not there yet, but find
Speaker 3: it yet.
Speaker 2: Just finding ways to get there. Because since that trip.
Speaker 3: Since TP's opening up the studio, there's been so many
Speaker 3: moments where you and I were just like, Yo, this.
Speaker 2: Is this is feasible.
Speaker 1: It feasible. See it.
Speaker 2: This is feasible. We see it like, we can do this,
Speaker 2: you know.
Speaker 3: So if there's nothing else that I took away from
Speaker 3: this entire experience is that I can do it.
Speaker 2: We can do it, and I love that I have
Speaker 2: a partner I can do it with.
Speaker 1: So let's get it.
Speaker 3: Let's do a baby, all right, y'all, be sure to
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