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Speaker 1: First Date follow Up powered by the Advocates Injury Attorneys

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Speaker 1: online at advocatesla dot com.

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Speaker 2: Sabrina is on the phone today for a first date

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Speaker 2: follow up and she's getting ghosted by a guy named

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Speaker 2: Darren so in a few minutes. So we're gonna call

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Speaker 2: him and see if you'll tell us why he's ghostinger

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Speaker 2: and maybe get her another date. But first, Sabrina, how

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Speaker 2: long has it been since you heard from Darren?

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Speaker 3: It's been about a week. Yeah, seventies actually of digital silence.

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Speaker 4: Have you reached out to him? I?

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Speaker 3: Yeah, actually yesterday I did. I asked him if he

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Speaker 3: wanted to get wine drunk and make bad decisions.

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Speaker 4: But nothing. That's a great text. I love that. But okay,

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Speaker 4: it'd be awesome text to get. Were there any other

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Speaker 4: messages you attent before that one?

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Speaker 3: Yeah? Last week I texted him like immediately after a date.

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Speaker 3: I said hey, I had a great time and asked

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Speaker 3: if he wanted to do something again, But still nothing.

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Speaker 4: Why don't you tell us about the date?

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Speaker 3: So it was super cute. We went to post the

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Speaker 3: place like that actually made homemade pasta and my god,

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Speaker 3: the RIGATONI was to die for. Yeah, he picked the

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Speaker 3: spot out so points for great taste. He wore this

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Speaker 3: button up that looks like he had ironed it, which

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Speaker 3: is pretty rare these days. Like we talked for hours

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Speaker 3: on top of that, like he and I just went

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Speaker 3: on and up until closing time. Like the server literally

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Speaker 3: started vacuuming around us. Yeah, you know, I said like,

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Speaker 3: let's maybe get up and go, and he kind of

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Speaker 3: didn't initiate it. But once we did walk to the

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Speaker 3: parking garage together, I mean, we had this moment I

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Speaker 3: almost like he was going to kiss me, but he

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Speaker 3: just hugged me instead and like held me really tight

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Speaker 3: for a moment and then said dry space. It was

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Speaker 3: really intentional.

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Speaker 4: Okay. Did he say anything about seeing you again after that?

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Speaker 3: No, nothing really got broke, like brought up or planned.

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Speaker 3: You know, It's just kind of I felt we left

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Speaker 3: on a great note.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, and then just nothing after the date.

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Speaker 3: Yeah. I mean like we did great turn taking with

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Speaker 3: talking and I just felt like, okay, I felt like

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Speaker 3: the ball was in his court after he said drive safe,

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Speaker 3: Like okay, that kind of meant the follow up was

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Speaker 3: to come the next day.

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Speaker 4: But nothing. Yeah, I feel that too.

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Speaker 5: I Mean, it sounds like everything went really well, especially

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Speaker 5: since you closed the restaurant down. I mean, he could

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Speaker 5: have tried to leave at any time at that point.

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Speaker 5: Is there anything that could have happened though, that would

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Speaker 5: be the reason why he's ghosting you.

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Speaker 3: I have a tendency to overshare, like just this smidge

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Speaker 3: and we got on the topic of X's which I

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Speaker 3: didn't bring up, by the way, but I accidentally mentioned

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Speaker 3: to answer one of his questions that I do have

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Speaker 3: a sad too.

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Speaker 6: And it's my ex's name.

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Speaker 3: Okay, yeah, totally due to a kill of the old weekend.

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Speaker 3: I mean, bad decisions all around.

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Speaker 5: You're not the only person that's accidentally gotten the wrong tattoo.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, I mean it was right at the time, and I.

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Speaker 3: Made it really clear to him that I hate that

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Speaker 3: X right now and I'm in the process of getting

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Speaker 3: it removed. I mean, I'm just not the type of

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Speaker 3: person that gets the name tattooed on them. But, like

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Speaker 3: I said, bad decision. I feel pretty embarrassed by it.

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Speaker 3: But I am also pretty embarrassed. I even like shared

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Speaker 3: about it.

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Speaker 4: Okay, he's a cute little nugget.

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Speaker 5: You know, if you were to see parts of your

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Speaker 5: body at some point behind it right.

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Speaker 6: I guess that's good.

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Speaker 3: To be honest, it's the best policy.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, all right, Well we'll see if there's the tattoo

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Speaker 2: that is the reason you're getting ghosted. We'll play a

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Speaker 2: song come back, and then call him and see if

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Speaker 2: you'll tell us why he's ghosting you and maybe get

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Speaker 2: you a second date if you still want one.

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Speaker 4: Okay, all right, thank you. Well, okay, we'll get your

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Speaker 4: first day follow up right after.

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Speaker 1: This first date follow up powered by the Advocates Injury

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Speaker 2: Right in the middle of your first day follow up

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Speaker 2: if you're just joining us. Sabrina is on the phone

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Speaker 2: and she's getting ghosted by a guy named Darren. So

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Speaker 2: in a second we're gonna call him see if he'll

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Speaker 2: tell us why he's ghosting her and maybe get her

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Speaker 2: a second date. But first, Sabrina, why don't you break

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Speaker 2: down your date again one more time?

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Speaker 4: Yeah?

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Speaker 3: I felt like it was a great date, and we

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Speaker 3: were talking until the restaurant was closing, I mean, and

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Speaker 3: had this moment outside in the parking garage. I just

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Speaker 3: don't know what went wrong, other than I could have

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Speaker 3: possibly spilled too much about my tattoo that is of

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Speaker 3: my ex's name.

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Speaker 4: Geo, would you care?

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Speaker 2: Probably not. I don't think I would care. It depends

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Speaker 2: where the tattoo was, how big it was, you know,

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Speaker 2: so you're not going.

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Speaker 4: To talk to Maybe that was a bad example. Yeah.

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Speaker 2: I also can't judge because I have tattoos that Yeah,

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Speaker 2: so the yeah that I want to get rid of it.

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Speaker 2: But anyway, well we hope it's not that. Yeah, we'll

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Speaker 2: see if it is. All right, are you ready for

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Speaker 2: us to call him?

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I'm definitely ready for that.

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Speaker 4: Okay, here we go. Hello, Hi, man, I speak to

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Speaker 4: Darren please.

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Speaker 6: Yeah, this is Darren.

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Speaker 2: Hey, Darren, how are you. This is a radio show.

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Speaker 2: It's called The Jewbill Show.

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Speaker 4: Hi Darren. I'm Nina. Hi, I'm Victoria. My name is Jubel.

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Speaker 6: Okay.

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Speaker 4: Have you ever heard the show before?

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Speaker 6: Yeah? Yeah, so I'm I'm guessing this is about Sabrina. Huh,

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Speaker 6: yes it is.

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Speaker 2: It's the first date follow up, you know, the segment

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Speaker 2: where if you go somebody, they can email us to

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Speaker 2: call you and find out why are you ghosting them? Sabrina

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Speaker 2: emailed us about you. We talked to her and she

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Speaker 2: said that she thought everything was cool. She really liked you,

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Speaker 2: but now you're ghosting her. Do you have a minute

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Speaker 2: to tell us why? Y?

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Speaker 6: Yeah, she ate off my plate with her bare hands.

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Speaker 4: That's it.

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Speaker 6: What do you mean that's it? Yeah.

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Speaker 7: She reached across the table mid sentenced, grabbed a meat

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Speaker 7: ball with her fingers and said, just one bite, then

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Speaker 7: popped it in her mouth like it was a tictac

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Speaker 7: and lickt her fingers.

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Speaker 2: She grabbed a meatball with her bare hands. Okay, gotta

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Speaker 2: love a meatball. That's enough to go somebody, though.

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Speaker 7: Uh for me, it was like watching someone Sancho flied

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Speaker 7: mid air, no warning, just boom ball gone.

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Speaker 2: Okay, though you can do that, Like, I mean, that's

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Speaker 2: impressive to pop a meatball about that quick.

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Speaker 5: But Darren, she told us you guys like hung out

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Speaker 5: to the restaurant closed. Did you just, I don't know,

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Speaker 5: decide to put that in the back of your mind

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Speaker 5: until the end of.

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Speaker 6: The day, honestly, Yeah, because I wanted to dessert because

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Speaker 6: she ate my food.

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Speaker 2: Okay, okay, okay, And that's the only reason is the

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Speaker 2: meatball tictac incident.

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Speaker 6: You know, I feel like that's a pretty significant thing,

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Speaker 6: Like y'all don't think that's the big deal.

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Speaker 2: I think I would be annoyed if somebody didn't ask

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Speaker 2: and they just reached across and grab my off my plate.

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Speaker 6: But not only did she not ask, she did it

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Speaker 4: Maybe it's not really comfortable with you.

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Speaker 6: I guess.

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Speaker 7: But I didn't even know how to react. I just

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Speaker 7: stared at my plate like it betrayed me.

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Speaker 4: That's a good point. I don't know how I react either.

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Speaker 5: Like French fries, that's fine, like you assume people would

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Speaker 5: grab those, But to take a whole meatball with.

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Speaker 4: Your fingers meat ball is an interesting chi. It's a

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Speaker 4: little messy.

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Speaker 6: I don't even want anyone touching my French fries.

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Speaker 2: Darren, you might already know this, but Sabrina's on the

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Speaker 2: phone and she's been listening and wants to talk to you.

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Speaker 3: Oh my god, Hi Darren.

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Speaker 6: Uh Hey, Sabrina. Hey.

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Speaker 3: Like, honestly, it was a meat ball that was the

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Speaker 3: that was the final trigger for you.

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Speaker 6: Look, you didn't even use a pork, You just counce

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Speaker 6: like a lion.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I mean it was one metfall.

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Speaker 6: I was just being playful, playful. You were shoveling food

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Speaker 3: Oh no, I was not. I was being like sexy

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Speaker 3: with the meatball and drawing attention to my mouth with it.

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Speaker 3: You got a caveman from that.

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Speaker 7: That was not sexy at all. That was probably the

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Speaker 7: most unsexy thing I've ever seen.

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Speaker 3: Are you like not into girls? Because I would think

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Speaker 3: any guy would think that's sexy.

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Speaker 7: Look, I mean I am into girls, and you are.

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Speaker 7: You're beautiful and you're nice. But it was definitely a

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Speaker 7: boundary violation. And honestly, I'd barely barely known you an

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Speaker 3: I mean, honestly, that's going far boundary violation. Like, come on, seriously,

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Speaker 3: it was just cute.

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Speaker 6: I mean, if you.

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Speaker 3: Need me too, I'll get you. Word mean fall.

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Speaker 6: It's not about the meatball. It's about trust.

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Speaker 7: It's about sabrina and hygiene.

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Speaker 3: This is ridiculous hygiene, Like, honestly, because I use my hands,

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Speaker 3: they were clean and it was going into my mouth.

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Speaker 3: There's nothing unhygienic about it.

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Speaker 6: That's why we have forks. You didn't even use a fork,

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Speaker 6: would you.

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Speaker 4: Still be ghosting? Or if she would have used a

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Speaker 4: fork instead of her hands.

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Speaker 7: Well, if she had asked first if she could have

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Speaker 7: a meatball and then use her fork, Yeah, that would

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Speaker 7: be a totally different story. Wow.

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Speaker 5: Uh so if she promises to use forks from here

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Speaker 5: on out, does that change that for you?

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Speaker 4: Or is it correct?

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Speaker 6: You know, I just have some trauma unpack with that

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Speaker 6: stolen meatball.

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Speaker 4: Clearly like another date with Sabrina will pay for it. Hmm.

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Speaker 8: Let me think, do I want to go on another

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Speaker 8: date with the woman who used her bare hand and

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Speaker 8: to grab food off of my plate, risking all sorts

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Speaker 8: of disease and end of the world fiascas?

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Speaker 6: No, I'm good, No, no, darn again.

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Speaker 3: If it was the meatball, then good luck finding someone

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Speaker 3: who can handle your deep emotions to use the need

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Speaker 3: of having a fork use every time.

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Speaker 6: And good luck learning how to use one.

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Speaker 4: Ju Will's first date follow up