Speaker 1: So I'm going on a trip and my daughter's coming
Speaker 1: with me, and I was just speaking to one of
Speaker 1: her friend's moms because I may bring someone, and the
Speaker 1: mom was talking to me about safety, and you know,
Speaker 1: I said, we would have at least one or two
Speaker 1: men if the girls would go get ice cream or something.
Speaker 1: The only thing that would be I said, like, I'll
Speaker 1: be with them. The only time that i wouldn't be
Speaker 1: with them is let's say I'm at a work thing
Speaker 1: and then there is one of the boat members, the
Speaker 1: crew members that would be with the girls to go
Speaker 1: get ice cream. They won't be alone. And she was like, yeah,
Speaker 1: because of trafficking, etc. And trafficking is a brutal concept.
Speaker 1: And there have been times when my daughter's been with
Speaker 1: friends and she's been like in the city and they're
Speaker 1: going to dinner and you know, or they're taking a
Speaker 1: daytime train from the suburbs into the city and like
Speaker 1: you just cringe a little, like you don't know how
Speaker 1: hard to go. You know what we did, but I
Speaker 1: think it's a different world and it's terrifying. And so
Speaker 1: you're trying to convey to your kids the fear, but
Speaker 1: also like they can't know what it's like until they
Speaker 1: feel scared about something. So like I always say to
Speaker 1: my daughter, you know, you don't know what it's like
Speaker 1: in Puerto Rico after an earthquake or a hurricane or something,
Speaker 1: when they've lost everything and they're waisted deep in filthy
Speaker 1: water and have no electricity. She can't understand that unless
Speaker 1: I take her, and I haven't yet taken her. The
Speaker 1: one time I was supposed to take her to North Carolina,
Speaker 1: she was a really little kid and she got sick
Speaker 1: and I was going to take her to Poland and
Speaker 1: it didn't work out. And I'm going to take her,
Speaker 1: and it's not late because I do this as a
Speaker 1: part of my life, but I'm going to take her.
Speaker 1: But I want her to feel it. And in the
Speaker 1: same way, it's almost like something happened recently with a
Speaker 1: friend group, and something happened where there was something occurred
Speaker 1: where there was like a she got a glimpse of fear,
Speaker 1: and I was also scared, but I was also happy
Speaker 1: because it was like getting in a car and spilling
Speaker 1: something at the beginning of the ride, like something's going
Speaker 1: to get spilled, let's just get it out of the way,
Speaker 1: meaning like I want her to feel a sense of
Speaker 1: fear so she knows that, like, the world isn't so
Speaker 1: innocent and pure. You want to keep them pure, but
Speaker 1: you also want them to have a little bit of
Speaker 1: neuro season anxiety about being alert, about being a target,
Speaker 1: about you know, all these kids they drink, that they vape.
Speaker 1: I don't know if the vaping is pot or what
Speaker 1: it is, but I don't know what goes on. You know,
Speaker 1: you want your kids to know, never put your drink down.
Speaker 1: And you have those testers, like how far do you
Speaker 1: go with it? You want your kids to know. I mean,
Speaker 1: I've said to my daughter. We were in Florida walking
Speaker 1: on the path and I looked down and I said
Speaker 1: that there's like a baggy there, which even if it's shiny,
Speaker 1: it looks like there's jewelry in it, it could be fentanyl.
Speaker 2: Like that. That's the scary world we live in, and
Speaker 2: I don't.
Speaker 1: Love that you have to kind of traumatize your kids,
Speaker 1: but there's really not much of an option, like this
Speaker 1: is what we have to do because the world is
Speaker 1: a scary place. And another thing is, you know, I
Speaker 1: watch the kids, my daughter's age, and I look at
Speaker 1: the outfits and like, no matter how fresh and cute
Speaker 1: and natural they are, they get into that phase where
Speaker 1: they want to wear like the slutty outfit or the
Speaker 1: boustille or the crop top or the short skirt or
Speaker 1: the dark color or whatever, and like, yes, it's self expression,
Speaker 1: but you kind of are looking at it like you
Speaker 1: are so beautiful, and yes you can like be flirty
Speaker 1: and cute even you know, I know young girls want
Speaker 1: to be older and they want to be sexy, but
Speaker 1: you know you're trying to say it so they don't
Speaker 1: rebel and then go do it right. And also and
Speaker 1: we've all been through it with the trends and different
Speaker 1: things like that. And also this is a big one.
Speaker 1: Listen as a woman my age, my age, I have
Speaker 1: been out with men and whether I've had somebody to
Speaker 1: drink or not, and felt like I don't really want
Speaker 1: to do anything physically with them, but you kind of
Speaker 1: just go for it because you sort of are worried
Speaker 1: about like you want to do something for them, or
Speaker 1: you're worried about what they're going to think. I'm a
Speaker 1: fifty something year old woman. Think about as a kid.
Speaker 1: A you're feeling good, your body's feeling something, b a
Speaker 1: guy could manipulate you and tell you anything about they
Speaker 1: really love you, or they really want to get to
Speaker 1: know you, or you're so beautiful. They could tell you
Speaker 1: anything because they only have one goal, and like in
Speaker 1: the moment, the game moves quickly. And if it's kids
Speaker 1: and they're drinking, and they have no judgment because we
Speaker 1: as adults do stupid things when we drink or take
Speaker 1: a smoke or take an edible or something, we do
Speaker 1: stupid things.
Speaker 2: We make bad decisions.
Speaker 1: Okay, so many adults there are politicians that have gotten DUIs, crashed, killed,
Speaker 1: people gone to jail. Like adults that are politicians, their
Speaker 1: entire lives been crafted. What do we expect from kids?
Speaker 1: So it's extremely hard to try to convey that to children.
Speaker 1: And the thing is, I told my daughter I would
Speaker 1: never name the names, but I remember the girls that
Speaker 1: were very promiscuous in high.
Speaker 2: School and college and after college.
Speaker 1: Like I distinctly remember their names and their reputations. I
Speaker 1: remember the girl I have her full name. I remember
Speaker 1: very few people's names, but I remember her name. Ninth grade,
Speaker 1: she had sex with her boyfriend, who I think was
Speaker 1: a year or two older than her. Don't remember his name,
Speaker 1: don't remember judging him. I mean, is it right?
Speaker 2: No?
Speaker 1: Is it what we all thought? Yes, because we heard
Speaker 1: that she had had sex at fourteen years old. Moving
Speaker 1: right along, there was another girl that was fifteen sixteen,
Speaker 1: but she two girls, pretty beautiful girls. They got reputations
Speaker 1: to this, and one of them was brilliant. I think
Speaker 1: she went on to be like a doctor, brilliant. I
Speaker 1: remember she got an almost perfect score. I remember her
Speaker 1: full name. I remember both their full names. Okay, this
Speaker 1: is really weird. I don't remember so many people's full
Speaker 1: names now. I remember the girl after college in our
Speaker 1: twenties that would be in New York City who like
Speaker 1: had been with everyone, and like, these people are adults
Speaker 1: now and it doesn't even matter if they went to
Speaker 1: Harvard Mit and cured an incurable disease.
Speaker 2: This is how I remember them.
Speaker 1: So I'm not saying people can't be sexually free and
Speaker 1: wear what they want and do what they want. I'm
Speaker 1: saying it's good to have choices in your life, and
Speaker 1: if you don't want that kind of a reputation to
Speaker 1: follow you around, not to mention the fact that like
Speaker 1: colleges and everyone hears everything now and you don't know
Speaker 1: how a college or a school or a camp or
Speaker 1: a program is going to judge you, and why they
Speaker 1: don't have to tell you exactly why they're not admitting you,
Speaker 1: but everything gets out, so you're you know you're gonna
Speaker 1: eventually want to go to an Ivy League school. Why
Speaker 1: wouldn't someone if you're if you're accepting people to a
Speaker 1: very coveted school, why wouldn't they look at some social
Speaker 1: media or google someone? You know? I've even I'm obviously
Speaker 1: I worry about it because I'm a public person, but
Speaker 1: at least like a lot of mine gets rinsed out
Speaker 1: because I have so such a volume of pr I'm
Speaker 1: just saying, this is something that you go through in
Speaker 1: high school, and you're trying to give the best possible
Speaker 1: advice but also not traumatize.
Speaker 2: And it's a dance, you know.
Speaker 1: I want to talk about staff and employees and work
Speaker 1: culture because I have learned so much through this move.
Speaker 1: So I am a fair tough employer, but I am
Speaker 1: very loyal and I never forget, like I never forget.
Speaker 2: I've shouted out before.
Speaker 1: The girl Sarah Katannic, who worked for me and we
Speaker 1: were going through multiple moves, and it was the pandemic,
Speaker 1: and she was a young girl and she worked her
Speaker 1: ass off and she I think had it. She had
Speaker 1: it the most difficult of any of my assistants under
Speaker 1: normal circumstances. Megan and Julia were there during my horrendous
Speaker 1: divorce and had like physical intimidation from another person, and
Speaker 1: like other types of things that I recognize. But one
Speaker 1: of the elements and dynamics and things that I think
Speaker 1: about the most is not how someone is when they
Speaker 1: start and when they perform, and when they're working for
Speaker 1: you and when you're currently paying them. When someone is leaving,
Speaker 1: what is their work ethic? Like people should finish the
Speaker 1: way they start. Are they leaving you high and dry?
Speaker 1: I gave my employees a long time notice because I
Speaker 1: knew I was leaving, And for some of them, I
Speaker 1: have made several phone calls to get them jobs with
Speaker 1: high profile people, with billionaires, with very successful employers, Like
Speaker 1: I'm not I'm not leaving here unless these people are solid.
Speaker 1: You know. There was a new employee that started to
Speaker 1: work for us, and like she sort of was sweet
Speaker 1: and she sweeped my dogs and sweep with the team,
Speaker 1: and she's been like watching stuff be moved, you know,
Speaker 1: in the first week. And she had not been here,
Speaker 1: She's been here months, not years. And I went up
Speaker 1: to her and I was like, you're not like you're
Speaker 1: not invisible, like you're watching people move around you. That
Speaker 1: must create anxiety. I'm gonna explain to you what's happening.
Speaker 1: But I'm gonna get you a better job than this one.
Speaker 2: I'm tough.
Speaker 1: I'm gonna get you a job with some unwealthier that
Speaker 1: has more normal like stability, meaning every day is not
Speaker 1: going to be like different, and I'm gonna hook you up,
Speaker 1: you know. And so I have three people that I'm
Speaker 1: really dedicated to helping financially that too, Like I mean,
Speaker 1: it depends on who you're employed by. But I'm a
Speaker 1: person who believes and chess not checkers, and some people
Speaker 1: play checkers and like just immediately react versus like wanting
Speaker 1: to sort of finish off really strong and it doesn't
Speaker 1: go unnoticed. And the people that are super loyal and
Speaker 1: ride or die to the end, they really this is
Speaker 1: just who they are. But what they don't realize is
Speaker 1: like I never forget, like this will all be like
Speaker 1: this is why these are the people that I'm calling
Speaker 1: up like actual powerful, successful, good people that happen to
Speaker 1: be extraordinarily wealthy, that never lose employees and give people
Speaker 1: a family and a life, And I'm going to get
Speaker 1: them these amazing jobs for the people that really recognize
Speaker 1: like that I'm in the midst of a move, and
Speaker 1: that I've been very generous and very good. And I
Speaker 1: feel broken hearted moving, like I feel like I'm abandoning people,
Speaker 1: you know, even though I know it's like breaking up
Speaker 1: with someone knowing they're going to have a better boy
Speaker 1: after you. Will it be as chaotic and as wild
Speaker 1: and as fun? And will they get as much free
Speaker 1: stuff and as much coffee makers and makeup and handbags
Speaker 1: and craziness and laughs and maaritas and inappropriateness and like
Speaker 1: Japanese melons? No, will it be solid? Will it be
Speaker 1: a good economical decision for them? Because I'm going to
Speaker 1: make sure they all get paid more than I paid them,
Speaker 1: which is I'm pretty fair to say the least, you know.
Speaker 1: And will I give them, you know, a financial reward
Speaker 1: when I leave for being so amazing and making sure
Speaker 1: that my move goes smoothly, so they're making sure that
Speaker 1: my move is going smoothly, and I'm making sure that
Speaker 1: their move is going smoothly. So I play the long game,
Speaker 1: and I'm always one that like. That's how I've always
Speaker 1: worked whenever I've worked for someone, which was a long
Speaker 1: time ago. Actually it's not because I do deals with
Speaker 1: partnerships and beauty brands and publishers and things like that.
Speaker 1: Whenever I work for someone, I give it my all. Now,
Speaker 1: in the housewives landscape, I was always on time, I
Speaker 1: always livered, I was always professional. Always when I worked
Speaker 1: in event production, I was always immaculate. I made the
Speaker 1: most money. I took it seriously, Like I believe in
Speaker 1: integrity and it's what you do and no one's looking.
Speaker 1: And I believe in like if you work hard, not hard,
Speaker 1: like work your fucking ass off to the twenty sixth mile.
Speaker 1: I'm gonna tell you why. If you work your ass
Speaker 1: off to the twenty fourth mile, the only thing anyone's
Speaker 1: gonna remember is the last two miles.
Speaker 2: That's it.
Speaker 1: I remember an employee that was excellent in so many
Speaker 1: ways because she was loyal, and she was sweet, and
Speaker 1: she was nice. She wasn't that capable, but there was
Speaker 1: a point during the job that she said please, I
Speaker 1: want this. I'm in because I'm like, if I'm going
Speaker 1: to train you and teach you everything, are you going
Speaker 1: to say? She said yes, and then she left six
Speaker 1: months later after I taught her everything, and I was
Speaker 1: very resentful in how she left. It didn't matter all
Speaker 1: the good, it really did it. That's the truth. It
Speaker 1: really didn't. And it's happening. It's happened recently with some
Speaker 1: people as well, like I feel differently about the way
Speaker 1: that they've chosen to depart, and I've also been surprised
Speaker 1: by other people in the way that they are departing.
Speaker 2: I just think you finish how you start.
Speaker 1: Even in relationships, I have one relationship of my entire
Speaker 1: life that is not clean right now. I have had
Speaker 1: many breakups and I still speak to many of those men.
Speaker 1: It should be clean, it should be respectful. It can
Speaker 1: have a little bit of, like obviously, tension and there's
Speaker 1: a wound when you break up. You're not a robot,
Speaker 1: but by and large, ultimately you know it should still
Speaker 1: be healthy. You know, I still have a healthy relationship
Speaker 1: with ninety nine point ninety nine to nine percent of
Speaker 1: the people I've ever been in a relationship with. Because
Speaker 1: how you start is how you finish
Speaker 2: To the