Speaker 1: You did it.
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Speaker 2: you were here. It's Brook and Jeffrey and this is
Speaker 2: your Second Date Update podcast. So thanks to listen to
Speaker 2: our full show yesterday, our Halloween show, which is always
Speaker 2: so fun. Yeah, you know, before we get to our
Speaker 2: brand new Second Date today, we do love to highlight
Speaker 2: some of your coment.
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Speaker 3: hear you guys screaming in my.
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Speaker 1: Yeah, I love it. We'll keep her out there, Amelia.
Speaker 1: That's rad. Thank you, and your brand new Second Date
Speaker 1: starts right now.
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Speaker 4: Second Date Update. Welcome back to Brook and Jeffrey in
Speaker 4: the morning, another Second Date Update, and just like many
Speaker 4: of our male listeners who come on to this segment,
Speaker 4: today's listener James says he has no idea if he
Speaker 4: did anything wrong on.
Speaker 1: His first I'm sure it was not his fault.
Speaker 4: No, probably not. She's like, well, he set my house
Speaker 4: on fire. And he's like, oh, wait a minute, I forgot.
Speaker 1: I forgot to tell him that that's a thing.
Speaker 4: But there is a gray area in there. That's why
Speaker 4: we're gonna implement this sound. Oh that's an RFA, a
Speaker 4: red flag alert.
Speaker 1: Oh I like it.
Speaker 4: Anytime you hear that noise, we need to stop what
Speaker 4: we're doing and discuss. Could she have maybe taken that
Speaker 4: okay the wrong way?
Speaker 1: Okay, who's in charge of the sound? You are, Jeff,
Speaker 1: that's a red flag.
Speaker 4: Don't question who's in charge in this room ever.
Speaker 1: Bro say the power is not in the right hand.
Speaker 4: Turn off Brooks mike for the next ten seconds. Thank you,
Speaker 4: let's welcome. Let's welcome James to the show. James, how
Speaker 4: you doing, man? You don't have to be afraid.
Speaker 2: Of I tried to hear what his voice sounded like
Speaker 2: before he decided if it was a red flag, you
Speaker 2: need to hit the button.
Speaker 1: I'm scared the button's going to go off.
Speaker 4: Don't say anything weird. His fingers literally on the buttons,
Speaker 4: no pressure, Just tell us how your date went with
Speaker 4: who are we calling today?
Speaker 5: I went on a date with Chelsea.
Speaker 4: Chelsea Okay, he remembered the name right away. I almost
Speaker 4: hit the hit the sound effects. But we're good on that.
Speaker 4: We have a green flag button. There we go. This
Speaker 4: is gonna get annoying, all right, So tell us how
Speaker 4: how did you meet Chelsea?
Speaker 5: Okay, so we met on a dating app.
Speaker 4: That's where people meet now, Jess, I agree, But which
Speaker 4: dating app we met on?
Speaker 5: Bumble?
Speaker 1: That's a green flag.
Speaker 4: That's all right, off the buttons. It's it's a medium.
Speaker 4: It's I'm always little questionable geting girls all the power.
Speaker 4: But let's keep going. What did you and Chelsea bond
Speaker 4: over when you first met?
Speaker 5: Yeah, things are like pretty natural right from the star.
Speaker 5: And one of the things we boughted over was hot sauce,
Speaker 5: Like we both love really spicy food.
Speaker 4: And I was like the recorder song we also have
Speaker 4: hot cross runs.
Speaker 2: Yeah, hot sau and such an easy transition to we
Speaker 2: need to go get spicy food together.
Speaker 4: Is that what you did? Did you lead it into
Speaker 4: like we should try some hot sauce somewhere?
Speaker 6: Yeah?
Speaker 5: Actually, and we went to this taco place sweet. It
Speaker 5: was great. It was great. Uh, there was live music,
Speaker 5: so it was like pus cool setting right off the bat.
Speaker 5: But it was really loud in there, and my hearing
Speaker 5: isn't the best because I've played drums in my past,
Speaker 5: like way too loud, and so my earring's kind of going.
Speaker 5: So I did ask the waiter if we could like
Speaker 5: move tables so I could hear her better.
Speaker 4: Yeah, you could come across as high maintenance former server.
Speaker 4: I think I remember people asking yes, and sometimes it's
Speaker 4: actually nice because he's been considered a hurt. Now that
Speaker 4: Jose approves it, I agree, that's flag.
Speaker 2: Okay, keep going, I want to hear something worse happen
Speaker 2: on the sha.
Speaker 4: Eventually you found a table that was quieter.
Speaker 5: Yeah, it was quieter, and we showed each other pictures
Speaker 5: of our dogs. Were both dog parents really nice.
Speaker 2: Okay, So I mean, you guys are vibing on all
Speaker 2: these different levels.
Speaker 1: I mean, was there anything awkward?
Speaker 5: Yeah? Exactly, Like I felt like we really connected and
Speaker 5: there wasn't anything awkward at all, at least not from
Speaker 5: what I could tell. That. She was super cute and
Speaker 5: we felt really comfortable talking to each other. I wasn't
Speaker 5: even like pretending and trying to be cool. I was
Speaker 5: just being myself.
Speaker 4: Yeah, Jeff's right, hits the button. I'm sorry.
Speaker 1: That is exactly what people want on a date.
Speaker 4: No, I know how it is. Once you get deeper
Speaker 4: into the relationship a year, two years in and the
Speaker 4: real you comes out, that's when everything turns over.
Speaker 2: Oh, that's when you know you're with the right person.
Speaker 2: Is when you feel like you can be fully yourself.
Speaker 4: And that's when your husband spits sunflower seeds all over
Speaker 4: the house.
Speaker 1: It's a habit that's annoying it.
Speaker 4: It's the real hymn. Tell us this, was there any
Speaker 4: romance happening between you, any flirtations, any kissing?
Speaker 5: There we go So unfortunately there wasn't a kiss, but
Speaker 5: not because I didn't try.
Speaker 1: Oh did you get turned down?
Speaker 4: Did she reject you?
Speaker 5: Not really? Like she drove me to my car because
Speaker 5: I kind of parked far away and I'm like a
Speaker 5: good bit taller than her. Though, as I was getting
Speaker 5: out of a car, like she moved her head toward
Speaker 5: mine and then like I leaned down and kissed like
Speaker 5: the top.
Speaker 2: Of her head.
Speaker 3: Oh was it awkward or cute because a forehead kiss
Speaker 3: could be cute.
Speaker 5: It wasn't really her forehead. It was like the top
Speaker 5: of her head.
Speaker 1: It's like hair. Oh my gosh, yeah, got so much
Speaker 1: hair in my mouth.
Speaker 4: Yeah, it's like you're kissing your kid before you send
Speaker 4: them off to school.
Speaker 1: That is an awkward ending. Totally, yeah awkward.
Speaker 4: Okay, sure, And I totally could have buzzed you for
Speaker 4: not doing valet parking yourself, but I didn't do that.
Speaker 4: I'm giving you credit there, give yourself.
Speaker 1: Agreement what taco spot has.
Speaker 4: Yeah, a good job, Jeff for being understanding of other
Speaker 4: people's plate. I feel really good about anyway, after the
Speaker 4: head kiss, how did you leave it? Like?
Speaker 5: I just walked back to my car. She drove off
Speaker 5: and I haven't heard from her.
Speaker 6: Then.
Speaker 1: Were you just walking back to your car being like God,
Speaker 1: why did I kiss.
Speaker 5: The top of.
Speaker 4: You?
Speaker 5: Know?
Speaker 4: You blew it, especially when you could have used tongue
Speaker 4: and you didn't. At least it shows that you're into it.
Speaker 4: I'm just gonna fix.
Speaker 6: It.
Speaker 4: Shows that you wanted it.
Speaker 1: But you missed red flag yourself.
Speaker 4: Green flag for effort. And how long has it been
Speaker 4: since the awkward top of the head kiss.
Speaker 5: It's been a solid two weeks flag finally when we
Speaker 5: agree on yeah, any communication at all? Uh No, she
Speaker 5: hasn't maken me back. That's why I am calling you guys.
Speaker 5: Hopefully you can help me. Like, did I somehow turn
Speaker 5: her off or offend her or something?
Speaker 2: I don't know.
Speaker 4: Well, the head's awkward, but that's not a deal breaker
Speaker 4: for sure.
Speaker 1: Will we not use the sounders when we call her?
Speaker 4: Well, at that point she's just going to be telling
Speaker 4: us what her red flags were, so it's not going
Speaker 4: to feel good to buzz it. But if she answers
Speaker 4: the phone on the first try, red flag, she should
Speaker 4: be Yeah, it's a little bit too over eager, could
Speaker 4: be a scammer calling her, and I don't trust that.
Speaker 4: So hopefully she doesn't pick up for a few times.
Speaker 4: But when she does, listen for second date update Red
Speaker 4: Flag edition, we'll do it right after this. Hold on
Speaker 4: second date update? Are you just joining us for the
Speaker 4: second date update? We played a little game of spot
Speaker 4: the possible red flags?
Speaker 1: Why would we not call it red flag? Green flag?
Speaker 1: And we it was you Yeah, whenever you want.
Speaker 4: It was a fun time, wasn't it? And several potential
Speaker 4: flags did come up one after they were seated, and
Speaker 4: James asked the waiter if they could move tables farther
Speaker 4: away from the live singer so.
Speaker 1: That he could actually hear her. I wanted to listen.
Speaker 4: Could have come across as he's a high maintenance guy. Also,
Speaker 4: maybe she thinks he hates music. Nobody wants to someone
Speaker 4: that's anti music. And the second possible red flag happened
Speaker 4: when he went to kiss her but she moved so
Speaker 4: his lips touched the top of her head aka the
Speaker 4: Proud Father kiss. Not a move you want to be pulling,
Speaker 4: at least not on a first date. And then two
Speaker 4: full weeks with zero communication from Chelsea not a good sign. Jeff, Yeah,
Speaker 4: I mean.
Speaker 1: The last two. I agree with Jeff, because even if.
Speaker 4: You don't like a guy at all, you'll at least
Speaker 4: drunk text him at two am one night, right, alexis.
Speaker 1: Yeah, probably high like a photo exactly.
Speaker 4: Slip up will happen. So we are officially though, we're
Speaker 4: going to retire the red flag alert. That's the last one.
Speaker 4: It had a good run for at least half a segment.
Speaker 4: But from now on, let's just try to use our
Speaker 4: voices to talk and communicate like humans.
Speaker 1: Do are ok Yeah, why are you saying.
Speaker 4: That it's a group thing. Let's all agree together, all right.
Speaker 4: I'm on an island. I will try to communicate all
Speaker 4: on my own. And I haven't heard at all from James. James,
Speaker 4: are you still on the phone.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I'm here, okay, Okay, he's listening to your monologue
Speaker 2: is what he was doing.
Speaker 4: Okay, green flag for being a good listener.
Speaker 1: That's why you wanted the quieter booth.
Speaker 4: All right, let's just call Chelsea. We'll see if she answers.
Speaker 4: Here we go, Hello, Hi, are we talking to Chelsea?
Speaker 7: Yeah?
Speaker 4: Hey, Chelsea. This is a radio show called Brooke and
Speaker 4: Jeffrey in the Morning, Chelsea. Fun time.
Speaker 1: Oh it feels forced.
Speaker 6: Okay, Hi, why are you calling me?
Speaker 4: This is part of a segment we do call the
Speaker 4: second Date Update, where we're trying to get some answers
Speaker 4: for one of our listeners about why he hasn't heard
Speaker 4: from you since you met up for a date and.
Speaker 1: It was like two weeks ago.
Speaker 5: Me.
Speaker 4: Yeah, yeah, a guy you went out with named James.
Speaker 2: Oh, okay, remember spicy James.
Speaker 1: It loves tacos.
Speaker 4: Yeah, especially he emailed us because he told us about
Speaker 4: your date, and honestly, he has no idea why you
Speaker 4: wouldn't be calling him back in the last couple of weeks.
Speaker 6: Wait, why why would I even tell you guys? Why
Speaker 6: would I go into this on the radio?
Speaker 1: This is so weird because he's like disappointed.
Speaker 2: I thought it was like such a cool compliment. He
Speaker 2: told us that he felt like he could fully totally
Speaker 2: be his authentic self around you.
Speaker 4: Yeah, okay, make sure did you feel like that was
Speaker 4: the case.
Speaker 6: Yeah, maybe he was his authentic self. If that authentic
Speaker 6: self is like pretty rude?
Speaker 1: Whoa rude? That's so interesting. He didn't come across his
Speaker 1: rude at all.
Speaker 4: I felt like he was too timid. Yeah, since we
Speaker 4: did hear a few things that happened on the date,
Speaker 4: can we ask was it when he asked to move
Speaker 4: tables to be far away from the singer that was
Speaker 4: annoying him? Well, I don't know. I'm leaving it open
Speaker 4: for to fill in.
Speaker 1: The blank, not leading the witness at all.
Speaker 4: No, No, Chelsea, was it that that was fine?
Speaker 6: That didn't bother me?
Speaker 1: Yeah, because that was sweet.
Speaker 2: He said he wanted to be able to hear you better,
Speaker 2: so you guys could have some good conversation.
Speaker 6: Yeah, but it wasn't good conversation because he made me
Speaker 6: kind of mad.
Speaker 1: Oh my god, I know he has no idea.
Speaker 4: Yeah, we didn't hear any like any moment like that
Speaker 4: come up on your date.
Speaker 6: So him and I had been getting to know each
Speaker 6: other for kind of a while.
Speaker 8: And the app and like we did bond over our
Speaker 8: dogs and we've been telling each other stories about our pets. Cute,
Speaker 8: And on the date with James, I started to tell
Speaker 8: him a story that I guess I had already told
Speaker 8: him and forgot, and he literally interrupted me and was like,
Speaker 8: sorry to interrupt you, but you've already told me this,
Speaker 8: And he wanted me to stop telling my story, Like
Speaker 8: that's so.
Speaker 1: Rude, that's interesting. Why do you think it's rude?
Speaker 5: Though?
Speaker 7: What do you mean why do I think it's rude? Yes,
Speaker 7: he interrupted me in the middle of my story and
Speaker 7: basically told me to stop telling the story.
Speaker 4: Oh, okay, okay, I mean Brook, would you like it
Speaker 4: if you were trying to tell someone a story and
Speaker 4: they were like, no, no, no, no, don't I already know.
Speaker 1: That's wy I appreciate it when people tell me I'm
Speaker 1: repeating myself. I tell the same stories all the time.
Speaker 4: I get it, but it's kind of weird when it's like,
Speaker 4: this is your first face to face meeting and they're like, yeah,
Speaker 4: I've already heard it.
Speaker 2: Okay, So I could see you being a little annoyed
Speaker 2: by that, but I can't imagine it being such a
Speaker 2: big deal.
Speaker 1: It's the whole reason you never want to see him again.
Speaker 7: Yeah, a big dealer or not. It made me mad.
Speaker 7: I thought it was rude.
Speaker 6: It gave me the ache.
Speaker 4: I hate interrupt, but you did already tell us that
Speaker 4: you made us mad. I'm just we're kind of short
Speaker 4: on time, is the only reason why, Because I have
Speaker 4: to let you know that James has been listening to
Speaker 4: this too on the other line and wants to talk
Speaker 4: to you.
Speaker 1: That's a new story she hasn't heard.
Speaker 4: Yeah, new information, right.
Speaker 6: Wait he just heard all of that.
Speaker 4: Yeah, yeah, theoretically if he was listening. James.
Speaker 8: Hey, Chelsea, I, oh my god, we're going to lead
Speaker 8: with their James.
Speaker 5: Sorry, I had to go this radio route, but I
Speaker 5: just couldn't hear back from you. I didn't know what
Speaker 5: was going on and upset.
Speaker 4: Yeah, James, did you hear the part where she didn't
Speaker 4: like that you interrupted her story and said, no, I've
Speaker 4: already heard that before.
Speaker 5: Yeah, but okay, it was a long story and I
Speaker 5: didn't want it to take like another ten minut. We're
Speaker 5: trying to have a good conversation, so.
Speaker 3: The story was too long for you' I was gonna say,
Speaker 3: if it was a long, boring story you already heard,
Speaker 3: I would cut someone off.
Speaker 1: But you have to think of a more creative way
Speaker 1: to do it.
Speaker 7: Yeah, you thought my story was too long and boring.
Speaker 5: Not boring is just so sad, like when you told
Speaker 5: me on the app about your dog you grew up
Speaker 5: with and what happened, Like it was really sad and
Speaker 5: I didn't.
Speaker 7: Want okay, but you should let all that finish the story.
Speaker 7: Like maybe I like to retell my stories sometimes because
Speaker 7: sometimes you're not listening to the full thing anyway every
Speaker 7: single time, so you're gonna get different Easter eggs every
Speaker 7: single time I tell it.
Speaker 4: I may remember another fact that I forgot lost time.
Speaker 2: Not only that, but if it's a sad story, you
Speaker 2: don't interrupt somebody who's being emotionally vulnerable.
Speaker 1: Lad like that that.
Speaker 2: I can see James where maybe that was a bad timing.
Speaker 5: But we were trying to have a good fun night, Like,
Speaker 5: why bring it down?
Speaker 4: I didn't want Yeah, and you ruined that.
Speaker 6: Yeah.
Speaker 4: It sounds like she was looking for like a safe
Speaker 4: space to tell her truth and you were like no
Speaker 4: room for that.
Speaker 2: And a green flag right now, James would be you
Speaker 2: just owning that mistake and apologizing, not trying to make
Speaker 2: excuses for it, right or downplay her feelings.
Speaker 4: Yeah, And Chelsea, can I ask you, is that the
Speaker 4: reason why at the end of the night you turned
Speaker 4: your head when he went in for a kiss and
Speaker 4: just got the top of your of your skull.
Speaker 5: Yeah.
Speaker 7: Actually, after he interrupted me from telling my story, I
Speaker 7: just got the complete egg and that.
Speaker 5: Was it for me.
Speaker 2: Okay, can you are you a person that has ever
Speaker 2: come back from an ick?
Speaker 1: No?
Speaker 4: If you agreed to listen to your story in its
Speaker 4: entirety the next time you met up just to make
Speaker 4: up for I mean.
Speaker 7: Then I would just be thinking the whole time.
Speaker 6: Have I told the story? Or is he bored? Or like, yeah,
Speaker 6: it's just not going to work.
Speaker 1: She keeps making points that I can see what she's say.
Speaker 5: Yeah, you know, I know I feel the same way.
Speaker 5: There's like nothing I can say here.
Speaker 1: Wow, say sorry, yeah, you never do it again.
Speaker 4: I know what I want to say. I want to
Speaker 4: ask if you two will go out on another date again,
Speaker 4: and we'd be willing to pay for it. But that's
Speaker 4: really comes down to you, Chelsea, if you're willing to
Speaker 4: give him one more chance.
Speaker 6: Yeah, No, it's no for me. I think you should
Speaker 6: just take it as a learning lesson for his next date.
Speaker 5: Okay, maybe maybe you should learn like how to read
Speaker 5: a room and not like bring the whole room down.
Speaker 4: You're not backing down.
Speaker 5: No, she's being rude to me. She's not even giving
Speaker 5: me another chance.
Speaker 1: Stories about like her childhood dog die, That's what it
Speaker 1: sounds like.
Speaker 7: No, I rescued him from a tree and then he
Speaker 7: fell and died.
Speaker 4: Oh Brook, why would you even bring that up?
Speaker 5: Brook?
Speaker 2: Yeah?
Speaker 4: Red flag for the segments that one. Yes, don't ask
Speaker 4: these questions ever again, Jeffrey in the morning. All right, listen,
Speaker 4: I'm sorry I had to bring back the red flag
Speaker 4: alert out of retirement at the end there, But Brooke
Speaker 4: crossed the line. We all agree we need yea.
Speaker 1: Yeah, No one else wanted to closure on what happened
Speaker 1: with No.
Speaker 4: No, I don't think we needed any more details.
Speaker 1: Id of trust that there was a reason to cut
Speaker 1: the story off.
Speaker 5: Yeah.
Speaker 4: Yeah, it was a little bit hard because I felt like,
Speaker 4: actually both of them had decent points in the conversation.
Speaker 2: I mean, if it was a debate like in high school,
Speaker 2: I think she won by one point.
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, you know it was a debate.
Speaker 4: Yeah, she came out on top. But I also think
Speaker 4: that they probably should have gone out again because it
Speaker 4: felt like something you could definitely work through if you
Speaker 4: talked about it. Yeah, totally.
Speaker 1: I think this girl has zero patients.
Speaker 4: She should have brought it up during the date and said, sorry,
Speaker 4: I think it's rude for you to interrupt me telling
Speaker 4: my story again, and they could have quashed it right
Speaker 4: there and moved on.
Speaker 1: Nobody likes doing that, jeff that's the confrontation.
Speaker 4: That's true. But if you want to hear all of
Speaker 4: our stories, the second day ones are awkward tuesdays. All
Speaker 4: of our content is up online. You can check it
Speaker 4: out wherever you get your podcasts at Brook and Jeffrey