WEBVTT - Second Date Update: Red Flag Test 0:00:00.120 --> 0:00:00.560 You did it. 0:00:00.560 --> 0:00:04.440 You made it through the Halloween weekend. We're so glad 0:00:04.440 --> 0:00:06.240 you were here. It's Brook and Jeffrey and this is 0:00:06.240 --> 0:00:09.000 your Second Date Update podcast. So thanks to listen to 0:00:09.039 --> 0:00:12.080 our full show yesterday, our Halloween show, which is always 0:00:12.160 --> 0:00:15.160 so fun. Yeah, you know, before we get to our 0:00:15.200 --> 0:00:17.439 brand new Second Date today, we do love to highlight 0:00:17.480 --> 0:00:18.080 some of your coment. 0:00:18.239 --> 0:00:21.800 Yes, Amelia said, this might sound creepy, but every day 0:00:21.840 --> 0:00:24.079 I sit in front of my laptop waiting until you 0:00:24.079 --> 0:00:26.880 guys upload a new episode. I'm a seventeen year old 0:00:27.000 --> 0:00:30.440 entrepreneur in Ireland and I genuinely can't focus until I 0:00:30.480 --> 0:00:31.760 hear you guys screaming in my. 0:00:31.760 --> 0:00:35.280 Ear organized chaos. 0:00:35.880 --> 0:00:38.760 Yeah, I love it. We'll keep her out there, Amelia. 0:00:38.800 --> 0:00:41.440 That's rad. Thank you, and your brand new Second Date 0:00:41.479 --> 0:00:42.120 starts right now. 0:00:42.240 --> 0:00:44.680 Sorry, I'd like to invest five dollars in your startup company. 0:00:44.720 --> 0:00:46.839 Oh yeah, I just want to put that up us right. 0:00:47.040 --> 0:00:50.040 Oh yeah, conversion, Never mind, I'm backing out of our deal. 0:00:52.800 --> 0:00:57.240 Second Date Update. Welcome back to Brook and Jeffrey in 0:00:57.280 --> 0:01:01.120 the morning, another Second Date Update, and just like many 0:01:01.200 --> 0:01:03.640 of our male listeners who come on to this segment, 0:01:04.200 --> 0:01:08.319 today's listener James says he has no idea if he 0:01:08.400 --> 0:01:10.000 did anything wrong on. 0:01:10.040 --> 0:01:13.520 His first I'm sure it was not his fault. 0:01:13.640 --> 0:01:17.160 No, probably not. She's like, well, he set my house 0:01:17.200 --> 0:01:20.199 on fire. And he's like, oh, wait a minute, I forgot. 0:01:20.440 --> 0:01:22.839 I forgot to tell him that that's a thing. 0:01:23.000 --> 0:01:25.560 But there is a gray area in there. That's why 0:01:26.040 --> 0:01:31.080 we're gonna implement this sound. Oh that's an RFA, a 0:01:31.120 --> 0:01:32.240 red flag alert. 0:01:32.440 --> 0:01:33.360 Oh I like it. 0:01:33.520 --> 0:01:36.520 Anytime you hear that noise, we need to stop what 0:01:36.560 --> 0:01:39.760 we're doing and discuss. Could she have maybe taken that 0:01:39.959 --> 0:01:41.160 okay the wrong way? 0:01:41.240 --> 0:01:43.479 Okay, who's in charge of the sound? You are, Jeff, 0:01:44.240 --> 0:01:45.080 that's a red flag. 0:01:45.360 --> 0:01:47.480 Don't question who's in charge in this room ever. 0:01:47.600 --> 0:01:50.840 Bro say the power is not in the right hand. 0:01:51.400 --> 0:01:54.080 Turn off Brooks mike for the next ten seconds. Thank you, 0:01:54.200 --> 0:01:57.600 let's welcome. Let's welcome James to the show. James, how 0:01:57.600 --> 0:02:01.680 you doing, man? You don't have to be afraid. 0:02:01.320 --> 0:02:03.520 Of I tried to hear what his voice sounded like 0:02:03.560 --> 0:02:05.320 before he decided if it was a red flag, you 0:02:05.400 --> 0:02:06.080 need to hit the button. 0:02:06.120 --> 0:02:07.320 I'm scared the button's going to go off. 0:02:07.520 --> 0:02:11.440 Don't say anything weird. His fingers literally on the buttons, 0:02:11.800 --> 0:02:14.560 no pressure, Just tell us how your date went with 0:02:14.720 --> 0:02:16.120 who are we calling today? 0:02:16.800 --> 0:02:18.360 I went on a date with Chelsea. 0:02:18.840 --> 0:02:21.400 Chelsea Okay, he remembered the name right away. I almost 0:02:21.480 --> 0:02:23.920 hit the hit the sound effects. But we're good on that. 0:02:24.120 --> 0:02:27.160 We have a green flag button. There we go. This 0:02:27.240 --> 0:02:31.480 is gonna get annoying, all right, So tell us how 0:02:31.639 --> 0:02:32.760 how did you meet Chelsea? 0:02:33.440 --> 0:02:36.360 Okay, so we met on a dating app. 0:02:38.080 --> 0:02:42.840 That's where people meet now, Jess, I agree, But which 0:02:42.960 --> 0:02:44.880 dating app we met on? 0:02:44.960 --> 0:02:45.400 Bumble? 0:02:45.880 --> 0:02:46.680 That's a green flag. 0:02:46.840 --> 0:02:50.080 That's all right, off the buttons. It's it's a medium. 0:02:50.080 --> 0:02:53.360 It's I'm always little questionable geting girls all the power. 0:02:53.440 --> 0:02:56.080 But let's keep going. What did you and Chelsea bond 0:02:56.160 --> 0:02:57.160 over when you first met? 0:02:57.560 --> 0:02:59.760 Yeah, things are like pretty natural right from the star. 0:03:00.120 --> 0:03:02.680 And one of the things we boughted over was hot sauce, 0:03:02.720 --> 0:03:05.120 Like we both love really spicy food. 0:03:07.840 --> 0:03:09.799 And I was like the recorder song we also have 0:03:10.040 --> 0:03:11.000 hot cross runs. 0:03:11.080 --> 0:03:15.519 Yeah, hot sau and such an easy transition to we 0:03:15.560 --> 0:03:17.600 need to go get spicy food together. 0:03:17.919 --> 0:03:19.520 Is that what you did? Did you lead it into 0:03:19.560 --> 0:03:21.200 like we should try some hot sauce somewhere? 0:03:21.880 --> 0:03:22.120 Yeah? 0:03:22.240 --> 0:03:27.320 Actually, and we went to this taco place sweet. It 0:03:27.440 --> 0:03:29.960 was great. It was great. Uh, there was live music, 0:03:30.120 --> 0:03:33.320 so it was like pus cool setting right off the bat. 0:03:33.560 --> 0:03:36.720 But it was really loud in there, and my hearing 0:03:36.840 --> 0:03:40.080 isn't the best because I've played drums in my past, 0:03:40.240 --> 0:03:42.480 like way too loud, and so my earring's kind of going. 0:03:42.800 --> 0:03:45.440 So I did ask the waiter if we could like 0:03:45.480 --> 0:03:47.160 move tables so I could hear her better. 0:03:47.320 --> 0:03:54.320 Yeah, you could come across as high maintenance former server. 0:03:54.560 --> 0:03:57.280 I think I remember people asking yes, and sometimes it's 0:03:57.320 --> 0:04:00.080 actually nice because he's been considered a hurt. Now that 0:04:00.160 --> 0:04:02.880 Jose approves it, I agree, that's flag. 0:04:05.200 --> 0:04:08.760 Okay, keep going, I want to hear something worse happen 0:04:08.840 --> 0:04:09.200 on the sha. 0:04:09.440 --> 0:04:11.600 Eventually you found a table that was quieter. 0:04:12.240 --> 0:04:15.480 Yeah, it was quieter, and we showed each other pictures 0:04:15.520 --> 0:04:18.480 of our dogs. Were both dog parents really nice. 0:04:18.720 --> 0:04:21.080 Okay, So I mean, you guys are vibing on all 0:04:21.080 --> 0:04:22.160 these different levels. 0:04:22.240 --> 0:04:23.600 I mean, was there anything awkward? 0:04:24.160 --> 0:04:26.880 Yeah? Exactly, Like I felt like we really connected and 0:04:26.920 --> 0:04:29.360 there wasn't anything awkward at all, at least not from 0:04:29.360 --> 0:04:31.960 what I could tell. That. She was super cute and 0:04:32.000 --> 0:04:34.560 we felt really comfortable talking to each other. I wasn't 0:04:34.600 --> 0:04:37.039 even like pretending and trying to be cool. I was 0:04:37.080 --> 0:04:38.000 just being myself. 0:04:40.640 --> 0:04:44.920 Yeah, Jeff's right, hits the button. I'm sorry. 0:04:45.480 --> 0:04:47.760 That is exactly what people want on a date. 0:04:47.880 --> 0:04:50.080 No, I know how it is. Once you get deeper 0:04:50.120 --> 0:04:53.120 into the relationship a year, two years in and the 0:04:53.279 --> 0:04:56.360 real you comes out, that's when everything turns over. 0:04:56.400 --> 0:04:58.719 Oh, that's when you know you're with the right person. 0:04:58.839 --> 0:05:02.200 Is when you feel like you can be fully yourself. 0:05:02.360 --> 0:05:05.120 And that's when your husband spits sunflower seeds all over 0:05:05.160 --> 0:05:05.559 the house. 0:05:05.680 --> 0:05:06.880 It's a habit that's annoying it. 0:05:08.360 --> 0:05:13.520 It's the real hymn. Tell us this, was there any 0:05:13.680 --> 0:05:16.799 romance happening between you, any flirtations, any kissing? 0:05:16.880 --> 0:05:20.120 There we go So unfortunately there wasn't a kiss, but 0:05:20.200 --> 0:05:21.320 not because I didn't try. 0:05:21.640 --> 0:05:23.200 Oh did you get turned down? 0:05:23.520 --> 0:05:24.960 Did she reject you? 0:05:25.040 --> 0:05:27.640 Not really? Like she drove me to my car because 0:05:27.640 --> 0:05:30.960 I kind of parked far away and I'm like a 0:05:31.000 --> 0:05:34.080 good bit taller than her. Though, as I was getting 0:05:34.080 --> 0:05:36.080 out of a car, like she moved her head toward 0:05:36.200 --> 0:05:39.880 mine and then like I leaned down and kissed like 0:05:39.920 --> 0:05:40.360 the top. 0:05:40.279 --> 0:05:40.800 Of her head. 0:05:41.000 --> 0:05:44.440 Oh was it awkward or cute because a forehead kiss 0:05:44.480 --> 0:05:45.200 could be cute. 0:05:45.400 --> 0:05:47.280 It wasn't really her forehead. It was like the top 0:05:47.279 --> 0:05:47.720 of her head. 0:05:47.720 --> 0:05:50.160 It's like hair. Oh my gosh, yeah, got so much 0:05:50.160 --> 0:05:50.880 hair in my mouth. 0:05:51.320 --> 0:05:54.320 Yeah, it's like you're kissing your kid before you send 0:05:54.360 --> 0:05:55.239 them off to school. 0:05:55.920 --> 0:06:00.400 That is an awkward ending. Totally, yeah awkward. 0:06:00.440 --> 0:06:02.599 Okay, sure, And I totally could have buzzed you for 0:06:02.680 --> 0:06:05.719 not doing valet parking yourself, but I didn't do that. 0:06:05.880 --> 0:06:07.839 I'm giving you credit there, give yourself. 0:06:07.560 --> 0:06:09.200 Agreement what taco spot has. 0:06:10.080 --> 0:06:13.960 Yeah, a good job, Jeff for being understanding of other 0:06:14.000 --> 0:06:19.440 people's plate. I feel really good about anyway, after the 0:06:19.520 --> 0:06:23.040 head kiss, how did you leave it? Like? 0:06:23.160 --> 0:06:25.440 I just walked back to my car. She drove off 0:06:25.880 --> 0:06:27.080 and I haven't heard from her. 0:06:27.160 --> 0:06:27.320 Then. 0:06:27.680 --> 0:06:29.880 Were you just walking back to your car being like God, 0:06:30.040 --> 0:06:31.120 why did I kiss. 0:06:30.920 --> 0:06:31.440 The top of. 0:06:33.279 --> 0:06:33.679 You? 0:06:33.440 --> 0:06:33.480 Know? 0:06:33.680 --> 0:06:35.600 You blew it, especially when you could have used tongue 0:06:35.640 --> 0:06:39.640 and you didn't. At least it shows that you're into it. 0:06:39.680 --> 0:06:40.520 I'm just gonna fix. 0:06:43.320 --> 0:06:43.400 It. 0:06:43.440 --> 0:06:44.440 Shows that you wanted it. 0:06:44.400 --> 0:06:47.600 But you missed red flag yourself. 0:06:48.880 --> 0:06:52.080 Green flag for effort. And how long has it been 0:06:52.120 --> 0:06:53.719 since the awkward top of the head kiss. 0:06:54.480 --> 0:06:59.960 It's been a solid two weeks flag finally when we 0:07:00.080 --> 0:07:03.720 agree on yeah, any communication at all? Uh No, she 0:07:03.920 --> 0:07:06.200 hasn't maken me back. That's why I am calling you guys. 0:07:06.200 --> 0:07:08.760 Hopefully you can help me. Like, did I somehow turn 0:07:08.800 --> 0:07:10.560 her off or offend her or something? 0:07:10.600 --> 0:07:11.080 I don't know. 0:07:11.320 --> 0:07:13.320 Well, the head's awkward, but that's not a deal breaker 0:07:13.400 --> 0:07:13.760 for sure. 0:07:14.560 --> 0:07:16.920 Will we not use the sounders when we call her? 0:07:17.080 --> 0:07:18.840 Well, at that point she's just going to be telling 0:07:18.960 --> 0:07:21.040 us what her red flags were, so it's not going 0:07:21.080 --> 0:07:24.160 to feel good to buzz it. But if she answers 0:07:24.200 --> 0:07:27.760 the phone on the first try, red flag, she should 0:07:27.840 --> 0:07:30.320 be Yeah, it's a little bit too over eager, could 0:07:30.320 --> 0:07:32.840 be a scammer calling her, and I don't trust that. 0:07:32.960 --> 0:07:35.640 So hopefully she doesn't pick up for a few times. 0:07:35.680 --> 0:07:40.160 But when she does, listen for second date update Red 0:07:40.240 --> 0:07:42.680 Flag edition, we'll do it right after this. Hold on 0:07:44.080 --> 0:07:48.160 second date update? Are you just joining us for the 0:07:48.200 --> 0:07:51.679 second date update? We played a little game of spot 0:07:51.760 --> 0:07:53.560 the possible red flags? 0:07:54.360 --> 0:07:56.840 Why would we not call it red flag? Green flag? 0:07:56.880 --> 0:07:59.280 And we it was you Yeah, whenever you want. 0:07:59.400 --> 0:08:03.080 It was a fun time, wasn't it? And several potential 0:08:03.160 --> 0:08:07.480 flags did come up one after they were seated, and 0:08:07.880 --> 0:08:10.560 James asked the waiter if they could move tables farther 0:08:10.640 --> 0:08:12.120 away from the live singer so. 0:08:12.040 --> 0:08:15.200 That he could actually hear her. I wanted to listen. 0:08:15.400 --> 0:08:18.560 Could have come across as he's a high maintenance guy. Also, 0:08:18.680 --> 0:08:22.440 maybe she thinks he hates music. Nobody wants to someone 0:08:22.440 --> 0:08:27.320 that's anti music. And the second possible red flag happened 0:08:27.320 --> 0:08:30.040 when he went to kiss her but she moved so 0:08:30.080 --> 0:08:33.360 his lips touched the top of her head aka the 0:08:33.440 --> 0:08:37.240 Proud Father kiss. Not a move you want to be pulling, 0:08:37.240 --> 0:08:39.760 at least not on a first date. And then two 0:08:39.840 --> 0:08:46.400 full weeks with zero communication from Chelsea not a good sign. Jeff, Yeah, 0:08:46.720 --> 0:08:47.040 I mean. 0:08:46.960 --> 0:08:49.280 The last two. I agree with Jeff, because even if. 0:08:49.200 --> 0:08:51.440 You don't like a guy at all, you'll at least 0:08:51.520 --> 0:08:54.600 drunk text him at two am one night, right, alexis. 0:08:54.280 --> 0:08:58.319 Yeah, probably high like a photo exactly. 0:08:58.840 --> 0:09:02.079 Slip up will happen. So we are officially though, we're 0:09:02.120 --> 0:09:06.720 going to retire the red flag alert. That's the last one. 0:09:06.760 --> 0:09:09.040 It had a good run for at least half a segment. 0:09:09.320 --> 0:09:11.200 But from now on, let's just try to use our 0:09:11.280 --> 0:09:14.240 voices to talk and communicate like humans. 0:09:13.840 --> 0:09:16.400 Do are ok Yeah, why are you saying. 0:09:16.120 --> 0:09:20.480 That it's a group thing. Let's all agree together, all right. 0:09:20.520 --> 0:09:23.200 I'm on an island. I will try to communicate all 0:09:23.240 --> 0:09:26.840 on my own. And I haven't heard at all from James. James, 0:09:26.840 --> 0:09:27.880 are you still on the phone. 0:09:28.640 --> 0:09:32.800 Yeah, I'm here, okay, Okay, he's listening to your monologue 0:09:32.840 --> 0:09:33.560 is what he was doing. 0:09:34.280 --> 0:09:37.200 Okay, green flag for being a good listener. 0:09:37.280 --> 0:09:38.760 That's why you wanted the quieter booth. 0:09:38.840 --> 0:09:41.480 All right, let's just call Chelsea. We'll see if she answers. 0:09:41.760 --> 0:09:52.319 Here we go, Hello, Hi, are we talking to Chelsea? 0:09:53.559 --> 0:09:55.239 Yeah? 0:09:55.400 --> 0:09:58.960 Hey, Chelsea. This is a radio show called Brooke and 0:09:59.040 --> 0:10:01.840 Jeffrey in the Morning, Chelsea. Fun time. 0:10:02.520 --> 0:10:04.000 Oh it feels forced. 0:10:04.320 --> 0:10:07.920 Okay, Hi, why are you calling me? 0:10:08.280 --> 0:10:09.680 This is part of a segment we do call the 0:10:09.720 --> 0:10:13.000 second Date Update, where we're trying to get some answers 0:10:13.040 --> 0:10:15.440 for one of our listeners about why he hasn't heard 0:10:15.480 --> 0:10:17.840 from you since you met up for a date and. 0:10:18.000 --> 0:10:19.200 It was like two weeks ago. 0:10:19.400 --> 0:10:19.480 Me. 0:10:20.040 --> 0:10:22.480 Yeah, yeah, a guy you went out with named James. 0:10:24.120 --> 0:10:28.560 Oh, okay, remember spicy James. 0:10:28.559 --> 0:10:29.480 It loves tacos. 0:10:29.760 --> 0:10:35.240 Yeah, especially he emailed us because he told us about 0:10:35.240 --> 0:10:38.720 your date, and honestly, he has no idea why you 0:10:38.760 --> 0:10:42.199 wouldn't be calling him back in the last couple of weeks. 0:10:42.880 --> 0:10:44.880 Wait, why why would I even tell you guys? Why 0:10:44.880 --> 0:10:46.319 would I go into this on the radio? 0:10:46.440 --> 0:10:48.800 This is so weird because he's like disappointed. 0:10:49.120 --> 0:10:51.360 I thought it was like such a cool compliment. He 0:10:51.400 --> 0:10:54.360 told us that he felt like he could fully totally 0:10:54.360 --> 0:10:55.920 be his authentic self around you. 0:10:58.640 --> 0:11:01.960 Yeah, okay, make sure did you feel like that was 0:11:02.000 --> 0:11:02.400 the case. 0:11:03.200 --> 0:11:07.240 Yeah, maybe he was his authentic self. If that authentic 0:11:07.280 --> 0:11:08.760 self is like pretty rude? 0:11:09.400 --> 0:11:14.559 Whoa rude? That's so interesting. He didn't come across his 0:11:14.679 --> 0:11:15.840 rude at all. 0:11:16.000 --> 0:11:19.600 I felt like he was too timid. Yeah, since we 0:11:19.640 --> 0:11:21.600 did hear a few things that happened on the date, 0:11:21.640 --> 0:11:23.760 can we ask was it when he asked to move 0:11:23.840 --> 0:11:26.560 tables to be far away from the singer that was 0:11:26.559 --> 0:11:31.880 annoying him? Well, I don't know. I'm leaving it open 0:11:31.880 --> 0:11:32.439 for to fill in. 0:11:32.360 --> 0:11:34.720 The blank, not leading the witness at all. 0:11:34.920 --> 0:11:38.040 No, No, Chelsea, was it that that was fine? 0:11:38.120 --> 0:11:38.920 That didn't bother me? 0:11:39.200 --> 0:11:40.080 Yeah, because that was sweet. 0:11:40.160 --> 0:11:41.839 He said he wanted to be able to hear you better, 0:11:41.960 --> 0:11:43.600 so you guys could have some good conversation. 0:11:44.280 --> 0:11:47.760 Yeah, but it wasn't good conversation because he made me 0:11:47.880 --> 0:11:48.880 kind of mad. 0:11:49.320 --> 0:11:51.960 Oh my god, I know he has no idea. 0:11:52.080 --> 0:11:54.640 Yeah, we didn't hear any like any moment like that 0:11:54.679 --> 0:11:55.560 come up on your date. 0:11:55.800 --> 0:11:58.160 So him and I had been getting to know each 0:11:58.200 --> 0:11:59.640 other for kind of a while. 0:12:00.080 --> 0:12:04.120 And the app and like we did bond over our 0:12:04.160 --> 0:12:08.280 dogs and we've been telling each other stories about our pets. Cute, 0:12:08.480 --> 0:12:11.360 And on the date with James, I started to tell 0:12:11.400 --> 0:12:14.000 him a story that I guess I had already told 0:12:14.040 --> 0:12:17.840 him and forgot, and he literally interrupted me and was like, 0:12:18.400 --> 0:12:21.080 sorry to interrupt you, but you've already told me this, 0:12:21.720 --> 0:12:24.920 And he wanted me to stop telling my story, Like 0:12:25.000 --> 0:12:26.000 that's so. 0:12:25.840 --> 0:12:29.959 Rude, that's interesting. Why do you think it's rude? 0:12:30.000 --> 0:12:30.280 Though? 0:12:30.480 --> 0:12:32.080 What do you mean why do I think it's rude? Yes, 0:12:32.120 --> 0:12:35.000 he interrupted me in the middle of my story and 0:12:35.440 --> 0:12:37.200 basically told me to stop telling the story. 0:12:37.679 --> 0:12:40.920 Oh, okay, okay, I mean Brook, would you like it 0:12:41.000 --> 0:12:42.719 if you were trying to tell someone a story and 0:12:42.720 --> 0:12:44.400 they were like, no, no, no, no, don't I already know. 0:12:44.360 --> 0:12:46.280 That's wy I appreciate it when people tell me I'm 0:12:46.320 --> 0:12:48.560 repeating myself. I tell the same stories all the time. 0:12:48.679 --> 0:12:51.320 I get it, but it's kind of weird when it's like, 0:12:51.400 --> 0:12:53.880 this is your first face to face meeting and they're like, yeah, 0:12:53.880 --> 0:12:54.520 I've already heard it. 0:12:54.559 --> 0:12:57.920 Okay, So I could see you being a little annoyed 0:12:57.960 --> 0:13:00.319 by that, but I can't imagine it being such a 0:13:00.360 --> 0:13:00.720 big deal. 0:13:00.720 --> 0:13:03.160 It's the whole reason you never want to see him again. 0:13:03.400 --> 0:13:06.440 Yeah, a big dealer or not. It made me mad. 0:13:06.600 --> 0:13:07.400 I thought it was rude. 0:13:07.440 --> 0:13:08.400 It gave me the ache. 0:13:08.600 --> 0:13:10.680 I hate interrupt, but you did already tell us that 0:13:10.720 --> 0:13:15.760 you made us mad. I'm just we're kind of short 0:13:15.760 --> 0:13:17.840 on time, is the only reason why, Because I have 0:13:17.880 --> 0:13:19.640 to let you know that James has been listening to 0:13:19.720 --> 0:13:22.319 this too on the other line and wants to talk 0:13:22.360 --> 0:13:22.520 to you. 0:13:22.640 --> 0:13:23.760 That's a new story she hasn't heard. 0:13:23.840 --> 0:13:26.400 Yeah, new information, right. 0:13:26.480 --> 0:13:27.920 Wait he just heard all of that. 0:13:28.200 --> 0:13:31.200 Yeah, yeah, theoretically if he was listening. James. 0:13:32.080 --> 0:13:39.120 Hey, Chelsea, I, oh my god, we're going to lead 0:13:39.160 --> 0:13:40.239 with their James. 0:13:40.720 --> 0:13:43.760 Sorry, I had to go this radio route, but I 0:13:43.840 --> 0:13:46.440 just couldn't hear back from you. I didn't know what 0:13:46.520 --> 0:13:48.800 was going on and upset. 0:13:49.320 --> 0:13:51.280 Yeah, James, did you hear the part where she didn't 0:13:51.320 --> 0:13:53.880 like that you interrupted her story and said, no, I've 0:13:53.880 --> 0:13:54.880 already heard that before. 0:13:55.840 --> 0:13:58.160 Yeah, but okay, it was a long story and I 0:13:58.160 --> 0:14:00.560 didn't want it to take like another ten minut. We're 0:14:00.559 --> 0:14:03.679 trying to have a good conversation, so. 0:14:03.720 --> 0:14:06.000 The story was too long for you' I was gonna say, 0:14:06.000 --> 0:14:07.480 if it was a long, boring story you already heard, 0:14:07.520 --> 0:14:08.480 I would cut someone off. 0:14:09.920 --> 0:14:11.400 But you have to think of a more creative way 0:14:11.440 --> 0:14:11.840 to do it. 0:14:11.920 --> 0:14:14.520 Yeah, you thought my story was too long and boring. 0:14:16.000 --> 0:14:18.560 Not boring is just so sad, like when you told 0:14:18.559 --> 0:14:21.800 me on the app about your dog you grew up 0:14:21.840 --> 0:14:24.920 with and what happened, Like it was really sad and 0:14:25.000 --> 0:14:25.560 I didn't. 0:14:25.320 --> 0:14:28.240 Want okay, but you should let all that finish the story. 0:14:28.440 --> 0:14:31.960 Like maybe I like to retell my stories sometimes because 0:14:32.520 --> 0:14:35.120 sometimes you're not listening to the full thing anyway every 0:14:35.160 --> 0:14:37.640 single time, so you're gonna get different Easter eggs every 0:14:37.680 --> 0:14:41.200 single time I tell it. 0:14:41.560 --> 0:14:43.560 I may remember another fact that I forgot lost time. 0:14:44.320 --> 0:14:46.400 Not only that, but if it's a sad story, you 0:14:46.440 --> 0:14:49.240 don't interrupt somebody who's being emotionally vulnerable. 0:14:49.320 --> 0:14:51.440 Lad like that that. 0:14:51.520 --> 0:14:55.560 I can see James where maybe that was a bad timing. 0:14:55.560 --> 0:14:58.240 But we were trying to have a good fun night, Like, 0:14:58.360 --> 0:14:59.520 why bring it down? 0:14:59.560 --> 0:15:01.960 I didn't want Yeah, and you ruined that. 0:15:03.600 --> 0:15:03.800 Yeah. 0:15:04.240 --> 0:15:06.640 It sounds like she was looking for like a safe 0:15:06.680 --> 0:15:09.480 space to tell her truth and you were like no 0:15:09.600 --> 0:15:10.080 room for that. 0:15:10.640 --> 0:15:12.800 And a green flag right now, James would be you 0:15:12.960 --> 0:15:16.400 just owning that mistake and apologizing, not trying to make 0:15:16.440 --> 0:15:19.520 excuses for it, right or downplay her feelings. 0:15:19.600 --> 0:15:22.120 Yeah, And Chelsea, can I ask you, is that the 0:15:22.160 --> 0:15:24.720 reason why at the end of the night you turned 0:15:24.760 --> 0:15:26.600 your head when he went in for a kiss and 0:15:26.720 --> 0:15:28.960 just got the top of your of your skull. 0:15:30.960 --> 0:15:31.240 Yeah. 0:15:31.320 --> 0:15:35.880 Actually, after he interrupted me from telling my story, I 0:15:35.920 --> 0:15:37.600 just got the complete egg and that. 0:15:37.640 --> 0:15:38.280 Was it for me. 0:15:43.840 --> 0:15:46.360 Okay, can you are you a person that has ever 0:15:46.360 --> 0:15:47.360 come back from an ick? 0:15:48.320 --> 0:15:48.640 No? 0:15:49.400 --> 0:15:52.160 If you agreed to listen to your story in its 0:15:52.400 --> 0:15:55.160 entirety the next time you met up just to make 0:15:55.240 --> 0:15:55.920 up for I mean. 0:15:56.560 --> 0:15:58.360 Then I would just be thinking the whole time. 0:15:58.920 --> 0:16:02.680 Have I told the story? Or is he bored? Or like, yeah, 0:16:02.760 --> 0:16:03.800 it's just not going to work. 0:16:03.880 --> 0:16:06.440 She keeps making points that I can see what she's say. 0:16:06.880 --> 0:16:09.800 Yeah, you know, I know I feel the same way. 0:16:09.800 --> 0:16:11.280 There's like nothing I can say here. 0:16:11.600 --> 0:16:14.440 Wow, say sorry, yeah, you never do it again. 0:16:14.640 --> 0:16:16.320 I know what I want to say. I want to 0:16:16.360 --> 0:16:18.760 ask if you two will go out on another date again, 0:16:18.880 --> 0:16:22.560 and we'd be willing to pay for it. But that's 0:16:22.600 --> 0:16:24.720 really comes down to you, Chelsea, if you're willing to 0:16:24.760 --> 0:16:25.960 give him one more chance. 0:16:26.960 --> 0:16:29.840 Yeah, No, it's no for me. I think you should 0:16:29.880 --> 0:16:32.360 just take it as a learning lesson for his next date. 0:16:32.720 --> 0:16:37.240 Okay, maybe maybe you should learn like how to read 0:16:37.240 --> 0:16:39.160 a room and not like bring the whole room down. 0:16:40.960 --> 0:16:42.040 You're not backing down. 0:16:43.160 --> 0:16:45.520 No, she's being rude to me. She's not even giving 0:16:45.520 --> 0:16:46.280 me another chance. 0:16:46.840 --> 0:16:50.040 Stories about like her childhood dog die, That's what it 0:16:50.120 --> 0:16:50.600 sounds like. 0:16:50.920 --> 0:16:53.080 No, I rescued him from a tree and then he 0:16:53.200 --> 0:16:53.920 fell and died. 0:16:54.080 --> 0:16:57.080 Oh Brook, why would you even bring that up? 0:16:58.840 --> 0:16:59.120 Brook? 0:16:59.640 --> 0:16:59.880 Yeah? 0:17:00.040 --> 0:17:03.160 Red flag for the segments that one. Yes, don't ask 0:17:03.320 --> 0:17:07.560 these questions ever again, Jeffrey in the morning. All right, listen, 0:17:07.600 --> 0:17:09.359 I'm sorry I had to bring back the red flag 0:17:09.400 --> 0:17:11.520 alert out of retirement at the end there, But Brooke 0:17:11.600 --> 0:17:14.200 crossed the line. We all agree we need yea. 0:17:14.560 --> 0:17:17.280 Yeah, No one else wanted to closure on what happened 0:17:17.280 --> 0:17:17.600 with No. 0:17:17.600 --> 0:17:19.400 No, I don't think we needed any more details. 0:17:19.440 --> 0:17:20.840 Id of trust that there was a reason to cut 0:17:20.840 --> 0:17:21.360 the story off. 0:17:21.560 --> 0:17:22.000 Yeah. 0:17:22.080 --> 0:17:24.000 Yeah, it was a little bit hard because I felt like, 0:17:24.359 --> 0:17:27.880 actually both of them had decent points in the conversation. 0:17:28.080 --> 0:17:30.080 I mean, if it was a debate like in high school, 0:17:30.280 --> 0:17:31.600 I think she won by one point. 0:17:31.640 --> 0:17:34.399 Oh yeah, you know it was a debate. 0:17:34.760 --> 0:17:36.680 Yeah, she came out on top. But I also think 0:17:36.720 --> 0:17:39.720 that they probably should have gone out again because it 0:17:39.720 --> 0:17:42.159 felt like something you could definitely work through if you 0:17:42.200 --> 0:17:43.840 talked about it. Yeah, totally. 0:17:43.920 --> 0:17:45.360