WEBVTT - “I GOT DUMPED FOR AN INTERNET GF” 0:00:00.320 --> 0:00:01.520 Paul from Jen. 0:00:03.120 --> 0:00:08.680 Hello, Hi Jen, is that you? Yes? 0:00:08.840 --> 0:00:09.600 This is Jen. 0:00:10.400 --> 0:00:17.600 Well, Jen, it's an honor, a privilege, and an honor 0:00:17.680 --> 0:00:19.720 to talk to you. How's it gone? 0:00:21.120 --> 0:00:21.880 Not that great? 0:00:23.640 --> 0:00:25.439 Well? Do you want to talk about it? Or do 0:00:25.480 --> 0:00:28.320 you want to talk about something else to distract from it? 0:00:30.320 --> 0:00:32.000 I mean, I guess I kind of want to get 0:00:32.040 --> 0:00:37.839 your input on it, to be honest. So, like, I 0:00:37.960 --> 0:00:42.720 just recently went through a breakup, and so this guy 0:00:42.760 --> 0:00:46.159 I was with for seven years actually left me for 0:00:46.280 --> 0:00:51.080 someone he says he met online that he met like 0:00:51.720 --> 0:00:56.760 in two weeks, and she actually lives in a different 0:00:56.800 --> 0:00:59.640 country on top of that, so it's kind of like 0:01:00.920 --> 0:01:02.040 hard to get over it. 0:01:04.160 --> 0:01:08.959 Well, here's the thing. When a guy says he met 0:01:09.000 --> 0:01:12.640 a woman on the internet in a foreign country, there's 0:01:12.920 --> 0:01:16.440 I'm gonna say, realistically, I could give a funnier number, 0:01:16.440 --> 0:01:21.319 but I'm gonna give a realistic number, A tw fifteen 0:01:21.400 --> 0:01:29.280 percent chance twenty twenty twenty. All people meet each other 0:01:29.319 --> 0:01:32.640 online pretty frequently these days, twenty percent chance she's not 0:01:32.680 --> 0:01:33.319 a real person. 0:01:34.920 --> 0:01:38.800 It's crazy because, like throughout our breakup, he kept saying that, 0:01:39.040 --> 0:01:42.720 like he's never fell in love like the one he 0:01:42.800 --> 0:01:46.559 has with her. And like all he could really think 0:01:46.600 --> 0:01:49.120 of is imagining her face and her voice while he 0:01:49.160 --> 0:01:52.760 was at work and mine to you be like, like 0:01:52.840 --> 0:01:56.000 I said, seven years together, he had a ring, he 0:01:56.080 --> 0:01:59.080 was ready to propose, we were like planning on having 0:01:59.200 --> 0:02:01.880 kids to I'm just like, what the fuck? 0:02:03.280 --> 0:02:06.440 Oh my gosh, Well, I'm sorry, I'm sorry that things 0:02:06.480 --> 0:02:14.000 didn't work out. Man, hmmm hmmm. 0:02:15.880 --> 0:02:19.040 Yeah, It's definitely one of those things because like he 0:02:19.400 --> 0:02:21.880 told me too, that he told his parents before me 0:02:21.960 --> 0:02:24.079 that he was going to break up with me out 0:02:24.080 --> 0:02:24.560 of the blue. 0:02:26.560 --> 0:02:28.240 He told his parents before you that he was going 0:02:28.280 --> 0:02:34.400 to break up with you. Yeah, how long ago was 0:02:34.440 --> 0:02:36.120 all this? 0:02:36.120 --> 0:02:39.000 This was like the week of Thanksgiving on top of 0:02:39.040 --> 0:02:39.320 all that. 0:02:40.160 --> 0:02:41.360 What have you been doing since? 0:02:43.919 --> 0:02:48.040 Definitely still going through it emotionally because you know, obviously 0:02:48.080 --> 0:02:49.760 this is someone who I thought I was going to 0:02:49.800 --> 0:02:54.000 build a life with, and you know, he was very 0:02:54.080 --> 0:02:57.880 like emotionally abusive throughout the whole process, you know, kind 0:02:57.880 --> 0:03:01.600 of like different, completely different person from what I meant. 0:03:01.760 --> 0:03:05.720 And so it's definitely like something you would think that 0:03:05.800 --> 0:03:07.440 you would probably be like, you know what, like I 0:03:07.480 --> 0:03:09.240 need to move on, Like this is not who I 0:03:09.360 --> 0:03:12.520 was with, But you know, when you plan a future 0:03:12.560 --> 0:03:14.639 with someone's kind of hard to forget all that. 0:03:16.800 --> 0:03:22.919 Bro, life's fucking crazy, it really is. Yeah, it's fucking crazy. 0:03:23.280 --> 0:03:29.320 I don't know. I'm oh, I'm like it's so hard 0:03:29.400 --> 0:03:37.600 to uh, I guess, like trust people, you know, Like 0:03:37.720 --> 0:03:40.040 I don't know. I mean you should be able to, 0:03:41.480 --> 0:03:42.120 but it's hard. 0:03:42.400 --> 0:03:47.280 Definitely, yeah, Because like it really was like someone ripping 0:03:47.320 --> 0:03:51.080 a rug from underneath you kind of scenario because it 0:03:51.320 --> 0:03:53.960 just happened out of nowhere, and like he was just like, 0:03:54.520 --> 0:03:56.839 we need a break up. I'm not in love with you, 0:03:56.920 --> 0:03:58.960 and you know, I want to break up with you 0:03:59.040 --> 0:04:01.760 before I meet the one, before I can open my 0:04:01.800 --> 0:04:05.160 heart to someone. Mind you be he's already talking to 0:04:05.240 --> 0:04:09.000 someone these last those last two weeks, well going on. 0:04:10.160 --> 0:04:12.600 Well look here's the thing, And I know it's hard. 0:04:12.680 --> 0:04:15.360 This is a difficult perspective to tap into it at 0:04:15.400 --> 0:04:19.080 this very moment. But it's it's like these like breakups 0:04:19.080 --> 0:04:23.359 and ship they're kind of always a good thing mm hmmm, 0:04:23.800 --> 0:04:29.520 because like you know, if you're gonna if you're gonna be, 0:04:29.800 --> 0:04:33.960 if you gonna marry a fucking guy and have kids 0:04:34.200 --> 0:04:37.920 and get a house and really just you know, do 0:04:38.040 --> 0:04:46.080 a intertwine your existences and you know, with a kid 0:04:46.160 --> 0:04:49.960 and just just really fuck your lives together, you know, 0:04:50.200 --> 0:04:55.120 like a Barbie and a Ken Doll. Right then then 0:04:55.360 --> 0:05:00.080 then it should be somebody who's who's who's sure about you? 0:05:00.760 --> 0:05:00.960 Right? 0:05:02.040 --> 0:05:02.840 Yeah? 0:05:03.080 --> 0:05:05.240 And if if this guy is not sure about you, 0:05:05.960 --> 0:05:08.240 then it's I think it's a good thing that you guys. 0:05:08.760 --> 0:05:10.640 I mean, it's a it's a it's quite a relief. 0:05:11.200 --> 0:05:16.120 I think that you know, at least this happened, you know, 0:05:16.240 --> 0:05:18.560 the timing of this is a lot fucking better than 0:05:18.560 --> 0:05:20.080 it could have been. And it could have been, you know, 0:05:20.120 --> 0:05:23.880 because you don't want to be you don't want to 0:05:23.920 --> 0:05:27.920 you don't want to have this conversation after Thanksgiving dinner 0:05:27.960 --> 0:05:32.720 with the whole family and kids house, Right, So I 0:05:32.720 --> 0:05:36.160 mean count that as a as as a good aspect 0:05:36.200 --> 0:05:38.120 of all of this, even though there's there's you know, 0:05:38.320 --> 0:05:40.920 I'm sure you're I'm sure you're in a state of turmoil. 0:05:42.839 --> 0:05:45.160 What so I I look, I know it's all fresh, 0:05:45.200 --> 0:05:47.919 but are we are we gonna? Are we gonna go 0:05:48.000 --> 0:05:52.840 find ourselves? Of fucking European hunk? Now he's got his. 0:05:55.440 --> 0:05:59.640 Like I obviously like I'm not like him. So like 0:06:00.080 --> 0:06:02.279 seven years. To me, it's seven years, so like I'm 0:06:02.320 --> 0:06:04.719 still madly in love even though he's freed me over. 0:06:04.839 --> 0:06:07.840 But like on top of all this, you know, when 0:06:07.839 --> 0:06:10.120 I was trying to find this girl's number to talk 0:06:10.160 --> 0:06:12.440 to her, I ended up finding out he was talking 0:06:12.440 --> 0:06:16.000 to a dude back in August, and me and this 0:06:16.080 --> 0:06:19.360 guy started talking, and he apparently told this guy that 0:06:19.400 --> 0:06:22.600 he's been single for three years and that my car 0:06:22.760 --> 0:06:25.960 was his car, and all these stuff that I bought him, 0:06:26.360 --> 0:06:29.160 Like was apparently think he bought himself, when that's not 0:06:29.200 --> 0:06:31.919 even true. So he was trying to select at the 0:06:31.960 --> 0:06:35.480 same time, so. 0:06:35.560 --> 0:06:40.719 He was flexing. He's a little gay and he's got 0:06:41.240 --> 0:06:42.960 an international lady. 0:06:44.000 --> 0:06:47.480 I yeah, everyone, well, how how how old is this guy? 0:06:47.480 --> 0:06:48.280 How is this guy? 0:06:48.839 --> 0:06:49.960 He's twenty eight? 0:06:50.839 --> 0:06:53.960 Okay, he's going through like a he's you know what 0:06:54.120 --> 0:06:57.919 is unfortunate. He's going through a midlife crisis. That's what 0:06:58.320 --> 0:07:02.200 people think. People think midlife crisises happened at like fifty, 0:07:02.279 --> 0:07:04.760 but no one lives to one hundred. That's ridiculous. This 0:07:04.800 --> 0:07:08.440 guy's probably gonna you know, you know a lot of 0:07:08.480 --> 0:07:10.840 people die at sixty. I don't know when this guy's 0:07:10.840 --> 0:07:13.800 gonna die. I'm not gonna say anything, but it sounds 0:07:13.840 --> 0:07:16.280 like he's going through a crazy midlife crisis or something 0:07:16.320 --> 0:07:16.640 like that. 0:07:17.520 --> 0:07:19.640 Yeah, because everyone was telling me that, like are you 0:07:19.680 --> 0:07:22.440 sure he's not drugs or something or what is he doing? 0:07:22.520 --> 0:07:26.560 Because like it's just so weird, because like he was 0:07:27.040 --> 0:07:30.680 literally all of a sudden being a homophobe like towards 0:07:30.680 --> 0:07:33.720 the end, and so I'm thinking, like maybe he's like 0:07:34.280 --> 0:07:37.720 I can't find himself sexually, like I don't know, and 0:07:37.840 --> 0:07:41.800 like it's just such a weird scenario. Like in my head, 0:07:41.920 --> 0:07:43.920 it feels like a movie, but it's not. 0:07:45.040 --> 0:07:47.480 You said he was being a homophobe towards the end. 0:07:48.440 --> 0:07:51.000 Yeah, Like you know, we went to the gym and 0:07:51.080 --> 0:07:53.840 like one day and like he came coming out of 0:07:53.880 --> 0:07:55.880 the bathroom and I'm so pissed, and he was like 0:07:56.360 --> 0:07:59.800 I can't believe like all these people are doing rich 0:08:00.320 --> 0:08:02.800 in the sauna and I'm like, dude, like dropping, you 0:08:02.800 --> 0:08:05.080 don't have to look like if they're doing their stuff 0:08:05.080 --> 0:08:07.480 and go like blessing, be right. 0:08:07.480 --> 0:08:11.080 It sounds like he was. It sounds you know, this 0:08:11.160 --> 0:08:16.280 guy is like you know what, I feel bad because 0:08:16.320 --> 0:08:17.640 I'm about to get I don't know. I don't know 0:08:17.720 --> 0:08:19.840 what I'm about to say is giving him the benefit 0:08:19.880 --> 0:08:25.560 of the doubt. But it sounds as though this guy like, ah, fuck, 0:08:25.640 --> 0:08:27.600 I don't I don't know. I don't know how confident 0:08:27.600 --> 0:08:29.480 I am about to say. But he was like he 0:08:29.480 --> 0:08:34.720 he wanted to do the thing. He wanted to stick 0:08:34.760 --> 0:08:36.679 with the plane, he wanted to stick with the plan. 0:08:37.720 --> 0:08:40.320 But then he started having all these like gay thoughts, 0:08:40.960 --> 0:08:45.360 and he started he met this girl in Guatemala, and 0:08:45.760 --> 0:08:48.360 just life started to overtake and he tried to fight 0:08:48.440 --> 0:08:50.319 it a little bit, and that's why he was going 0:08:50.360 --> 0:08:54.840 off on these people in the sauna and shit. But 0:08:54.840 --> 0:08:57.000 but it just it, it took him in. And I 0:08:57.040 --> 0:08:59.360 don't know why all those things are happening. I don't 0:08:59.400 --> 0:09:02.320 know why he felt this crazy desire to make like, 0:09:03.559 --> 0:09:07.440 uh a left turn and and and and discuss, you know, 0:09:08.280 --> 0:09:12.640 discover things about himself that maybe he he he hadn't 0:09:13.200 --> 0:09:17.040 dived into previously. And it's it's a fucking damn shame 0:09:17.160 --> 0:09:23.920 that you are an innocent, uh, casualty in all of it, 0:09:24.720 --> 0:09:30.360 you know. Yeah, But whatever that's for his therapy, get 0:09:30.400 --> 0:09:31.560 go call this is yours. 0:09:32.200 --> 0:09:37.200 So it's funny too, because like I actually took this 0:09:37.280 --> 0:09:40.400 guy to confront him because he wanted closure and why 0:09:40.480 --> 0:09:44.920 he ghosted him. So we when we confronted him about it. 0:09:45.000 --> 0:09:48.160 Wait wait wait you wait. So the guy wait wait, 0:09:48.200 --> 0:09:51.680 the guy that he was flirting with you and him 0:09:51.760 --> 0:09:53.800 got together to confront your ex. 0:09:54.120 --> 0:09:57.440 He knew where we lived because he googled his name, 0:09:57.679 --> 0:10:00.520 so he knew where we lived. He knew the apartment number, everything. 0:10:00.720 --> 0:10:02.439 He just asked if it was cool, if he can 0:10:02.480 --> 0:10:06.800 meet up. Then I was like, sure, that's fucking nuts, man, 0:10:07.320 --> 0:10:09.480 you just that's what I'm saying. It's like a movie. 0:10:10.640 --> 0:10:14.280 What happened when you confronted him and his wife and 0:10:14.320 --> 0:10:18.120 the guy from uh that he's cheating on her with 0:10:18.240 --> 0:10:19.720 fucking show up? What did he say? 0:10:19.920 --> 0:10:22.200 So we showed up at his dad's house because he 0:10:22.240 --> 0:10:25.440 would not come over to the apartment anymore, and so 0:10:25.960 --> 0:10:28.160 we knocked on the door and I told him, I 0:10:28.200 --> 0:10:31.040 was like, I brought you a friend. So he like 0:10:31.800 --> 0:10:34.760 he looked all surprised, and then he pretty much told 0:10:34.760 --> 0:10:36.480 the guy like the guy didn't not want to even 0:10:36.520 --> 0:10:38.720 look at him, and he told the guy like, hey, 0:10:38.760 --> 0:10:41.760 you know what, we had cool conversations. It was all cool, 0:10:41.840 --> 0:10:43.960 but then just the thought of doing anything with you 0:10:44.040 --> 0:10:44.880 just disgusted me. 0:10:46.760 --> 0:10:48.520 Oh he said that to the guy that he was 0:10:48.520 --> 0:10:49.120 started with. 0:10:49.880 --> 0:10:53.640 Yeah, dude, wild right. 0:10:55.640 --> 0:11:00.319 Well, I mean, listen back to you. What's your name again, Jen? 0:11:00.720 --> 0:11:00.960 Jen? 0:11:01.559 --> 0:11:01.800 Jen? 0:11:02.320 --> 0:11:02.840 Back to you? 0:11:03.000 --> 0:11:03.240 Jen? 0:11:04.559 --> 0:11:06.880 When's the last time he talked to your ex? 0:11:09.040 --> 0:11:13.280 This was on maybe like two weeks ago on Thursday, 0:11:13.320 --> 0:11:15.840 because we made plans on him taking up his stuff 0:11:15.840 --> 0:11:20.000 from storage and while my brother went with me because 0:11:20.000 --> 0:11:22.000 this is when he was having a screaming battle with 0:11:22.040 --> 0:11:24.480 me on the song about me being a psycho and 0:11:24.520 --> 0:11:27.680 being crazy and all this stuff. Because I told his 0:11:27.880 --> 0:11:32.440 current girlfriend, now they're official, I told her, hey, like 0:11:32.480 --> 0:11:34.680 if you really know the truth about him, like these 0:11:34.720 --> 0:11:36.920 are all the things that were leading up to the breakup, 0:11:37.040 --> 0:11:39.080 and like we were still seeing each other and sleeping 0:11:39.080 --> 0:11:42.160 with each other. And she was like, hey, you know 0:11:42.200 --> 0:11:44.160 what he told me he was single. Why are you 0:11:44.200 --> 0:11:46.240 making it like my fam. I'm like, I'm not blaming you, 0:11:46.280 --> 0:11:49.640 I'm telling you what happened towards the end. And so 0:11:49.720 --> 0:11:52.199 he got all upset and called me and started screaming 0:11:52.200 --> 0:11:54.600 at me. And then that's when he was like, I 0:11:54.640 --> 0:11:56.600 need to take my stuff out of storage, which is fine. 0:11:57.160 --> 0:12:00.960 Then he shows up to storage with cops because he 0:12:01.040 --> 0:12:04.600 wanted the engagement ring back as well. So I gated 0:12:04.720 --> 0:12:06.840 back to him, and I was just kind of like 0:12:07.080 --> 0:12:10.040 wearded out because this is a guy too who's apparently 0:12:10.200 --> 0:12:12.760 like hates the cops, but he's been calling the cops 0:12:12.800 --> 0:12:13.400 lately on me. 0:12:16.000 --> 0:12:17.800 Crazy dude. 0:12:18.320 --> 0:12:20.880 Yeah, And this is a guy too that says he's 0:12:20.920 --> 0:12:23.600 going through a spiritual journey because he wants to connect 0:12:23.640 --> 0:12:23.960 to God. 0:12:25.720 --> 0:12:27.839 What is he going to, like live with this woman 0:12:27.880 --> 0:12:30.960 in her country or is she coming to the US? 0:12:31.640 --> 0:12:33.839 I don't know. He can't afford a plane ticket to 0:12:33.880 --> 0:12:36.120 the Philippines to go see her, so I don't know 0:12:37.040 --> 0:12:38.120 what his plans are. 0:12:41.360 --> 0:12:44.920 Well, look again, I'll say that's for that guy's therapy. 0:12:44.960 --> 0:12:51.280 Getto call what so? I mean you and you guys 0:12:51.320 --> 0:12:53.240 don't okay, And you guys don't have any kids or anything, 0:12:53.520 --> 0:12:58.440 and you never were married, so there's no divorce. Crazy crap. 0:12:59.480 --> 0:13:03.960 So okay, No, So what do you let me ask 0:13:04.000 --> 0:13:09.160 you this jen seven years? What's something you just ended? 0:13:09.280 --> 0:13:12.360 This one thing? What's something you always wanted to do 0:13:12.720 --> 0:13:16.280 but you couldn't because you had this boyfriend. 0:13:18.679 --> 0:13:22.319 I really wanted to work in the music business, and 0:13:22.400 --> 0:13:25.080 I definitely will admit I kind of put that on 0:13:25.120 --> 0:13:30.240 the back burner because of him and his insecurities, and 0:13:30.320 --> 0:13:33.800 so like right now, like I want to try to 0:13:33.960 --> 0:13:37.760 refocus myself on that again, but it's you know, it 0:13:37.920 --> 0:13:41.160 still feels fresh and like the holidays are happening, so 0:13:41.200 --> 0:13:42.520 it just even sucks. 0:13:47.240 --> 0:13:49.400 What were his insecurities about you working in the in 0:13:49.440 --> 0:13:51.600 the music industry? 0:13:51.640 --> 0:13:55.040 So I had friends in bands and you know, stuff 0:13:55.080 --> 0:13:58.960 like that, So it's just as insecurities as like, you know, 0:13:59.000 --> 0:14:01.880 you're around all these guys eyes and like, you know 0:14:02.000 --> 0:14:04.280 what if they hit on you? Stuff. And I told him, like, 0:14:04.360 --> 0:14:06.600 if I wanted to be with someone like that, I 0:14:06.679 --> 0:14:09.760 could have. I have had the opportunity, but a lot 0:14:09.800 --> 0:14:12.960 of them aren't really the best boyfriend materials, and like 0:14:13.520 --> 0:14:18.800 I couldn't see myself with someone like that, but he 0:14:18.920 --> 0:14:20.160 just couldn't get over it. 0:14:23.600 --> 0:14:28.000 M So, are you going to try to pursue something 0:14:28.080 --> 0:14:28.320 like that. 0:14:31.640 --> 0:14:36.280 I'm in the process of continuing my career path on that, 0:14:36.440 --> 0:14:38.920 but is just you know, I'm living in a fantasy 0:14:39.000 --> 0:14:42.520 land right now where like we would get back together, 0:14:42.760 --> 0:14:44.720 even though in my mind I know it's not the 0:14:44.760 --> 0:14:46.600 best idea in the sky. 0:14:47.560 --> 0:14:50.120 Mm hmm. I. 0:14:50.520 --> 0:14:53.240 I look, you were with this guy for seven years. 0:14:53.760 --> 0:14:59.920 You planned a whole life with him. I understand why, 0:15:00.280 --> 0:15:03.560 And this only happens like a couple of weeks ago. 0:15:03.880 --> 0:15:08.359 It sounds so I understand while you're living in fantasyland. 0:15:08.560 --> 0:15:11.280 From my perspective and the perspective of the people listening, 0:15:11.440 --> 0:15:14.120 it's like, why would you ever want to talk to 0:15:14.160 --> 0:15:17.680 this guy again? But I'm not. I'm not. I won't 0:15:17.680 --> 0:15:19.920 be ignorant enough not to understand that, yes, you were 0:15:19.920 --> 0:15:22.240 with him for seven years and that that's going to 0:15:22.320 --> 0:15:28.160 take a while. But I'm fairly confident that after some 0:15:28.240 --> 0:15:33.560 time you will join the side of defence that I 0:15:34.160 --> 0:15:37.600 and the people listening likely are sitting on when they 0:15:37.640 --> 0:15:44.880 when they view this relationship. Yeah, but this is exciting. 0:15:44.920 --> 0:15:46.320 I mean, I mean, okay, you want to work in 0:15:46.320 --> 0:15:47.800 the music industry? Is there anything else? 0:15:49.920 --> 0:15:54.520 Just pretty much traveling, to be honest, because that's something 0:15:54.960 --> 0:15:57.240 I still have planned and you know we both have 0:15:57.400 --> 0:15:59.840 planned it. But like at this point, I don't want 0:15:59.880 --> 0:16:02.160 to stop just because I'm not with him anymore. 0:16:02.200 --> 0:16:04.480 Please, please, dear God, oh my God, the best thing, 0:16:04.680 --> 0:16:06.440 the best thing you could possibly do is if you 0:16:06.480 --> 0:16:11.280 and your partner had travel plans together, don't cancel him 0:16:11.320 --> 0:16:15.480 go where'd you get? Where are you planning? 0:16:16.600 --> 0:16:20.680 Well, I've always wanted to go to Spain, you know, Hawaii, 0:16:22.080 --> 0:16:26.960 like just places like that, like you know, adventuring, go. 0:16:27.040 --> 0:16:29.600 To Spain, go to Hawaii. There's hot, there's hot. But 0:16:30.480 --> 0:16:33.960 I mean, jen, the hunk population of Hawaii, it's about 0:16:34.440 --> 0:16:39.000 three hundred thousands, you know, just go by yourself and 0:16:39.000 --> 0:16:41.520 and and get hunked. 0:16:42.640 --> 0:16:49.760 Right, just see what he is? You know, Yeah, it 0:16:49.880 --> 0:16:51.920 just sucks. But you know, I don't know how people 0:16:51.960 --> 0:16:54.600 can just get over a relationship, especially. 0:16:54.280 --> 0:16:57.360 After it's not gonna I understand. I'm just I'm I'm I. 0:16:57.600 --> 0:17:00.400 I know I'm ignorant to your your particular don't know, 0:17:00.680 --> 0:17:08.800 but you know, I think I think eventually, hopefully time 0:17:08.880 --> 0:17:17.159 will will heal the wounds, you know, time hunks hunks, 0:17:17.160 --> 0:17:24.199 he'll Yeah, But are you still are you still friends 0:17:24.240 --> 0:17:28.600 with the with the with the guy like the. 0:17:27.440 --> 0:17:30.600 The guy he was hitting Funny, that guy just hits 0:17:30.640 --> 0:17:34.520 me up to see like if I'm in contact with 0:17:34.560 --> 0:17:37.119 my ex and if I have his number, and so 0:17:37.320 --> 0:17:39.679 I kind of just erased him off my phone because 0:17:40.400 --> 0:17:45.240 it just seemed like he's still won't isn't over whatever 0:17:45.320 --> 0:17:46.240 happened between them. 0:17:46.680 --> 0:17:48.960 I mean I kind of think, I mean listen, I mean, Jen, 0:17:49.080 --> 0:17:51.119 call me crazy, but I think that YouTube might be 0:17:51.359 --> 0:17:56.000 needing to plan a trip to Hawaii. Now that would 0:17:56.040 --> 0:17:58.439 be tell me, that wouldn't be a movie. That's a 0:17:58.480 --> 0:18:03.840 movie right there. You that guy going to Hawaii getting 0:18:03.920 --> 0:18:06.280 hunked out. That's a movie right there that I would watch. 0:18:08.880 --> 0:18:10.520 We're gonna have to figure out the script. 0:18:11.600 --> 0:18:15.440 That's a Jett Appatow movie. You you're Leslie Man, who's 0:18:15.480 --> 0:18:26.679 the guy whatever? Who cares? Anyway? Well, Jen, how do 0:18:26.720 --> 0:18:28.119 you how do you? How do you feel? 0:18:30.119 --> 0:18:30.679 How do I what? 0:18:31.280 --> 0:18:32.080 How do you feel? 0:18:33.400 --> 0:18:36.919 I feel great after this conversation. I mean, like I 0:18:37.080 --> 0:18:40.840 definitely you know, needed to let it out because it's 0:18:40.840 --> 0:18:43.639 funny because he actually introduced me to you to like 0:18:43.720 --> 0:18:44.520 your podcasts. 0:18:45.000 --> 0:18:48.400 Okay, Well, I hope that when you think of this part, 0:18:48.400 --> 0:18:50.800 I hope that now that you have been introduced and 0:18:50.840 --> 0:18:55.760 he's in the Philippines and he's listening to, you know, 0:18:55.880 --> 0:19:02.520 other crazy podcasts, I hope I hope that you can 0:19:02.560 --> 0:19:10.000 associate this podcast yourself with it not being associated with him, 0:19:10.640 --> 0:19:13.800 so that you can keep listening and maybe buy a 0:19:13.840 --> 0:19:16.160 T shirt from my merch store at therapy Gecko dot 0:19:16.160 --> 0:19:17.400 com at some point. 0:19:17.760 --> 0:19:20.320 Oh for sure, that's on my Christmas list. 0:19:22.000 --> 0:19:23.480 Jane, is there anything else you want to say to 0:19:23.480 --> 0:19:24.720 the people of the computer before we go? 0:19:26.359 --> 0:19:29.240 I mean, thanks for all your guys' advice, for sure, 0:19:29.359 --> 0:19:31.560 because I definitely need it. 0:19:32.680 --> 0:19:33.920 All right, take care, Jen. 0:19:34.920 --> 0:19:47.360 Awesome, Thank you, hunk City All from. 0:19:47.400 --> 0:19:48.320 My name is Omar? 0:19:49.520 --> 0:19:49.960 Hello? 0:19:50.240 --> 0:19:50.480 Hello? 0:19:51.600 --> 0:19:52.320 Is this Omar? 0:19:53.400 --> 0:19:53.800 What's up? 0:19:54.359 --> 0:19:55.560 Omar? What's going on? 0:19:56.160 --> 0:19:59.639 Just ship getting high? Playing City star lives, making like 0:19:59.720 --> 0:20:01.480 little people move around the only. 0:20:01.440 --> 0:20:03.280 Screen you're playing? 0:20:03.320 --> 0:20:08.119 What that game is? Like? Fucking sim City and just 0:20:08.200 --> 0:20:10.760 like make cities sounds. It's sucking sick. 0:20:11.600 --> 0:20:13.320 You're getting high and playing SimCity? 0:20:14.560 --> 0:20:16.400 Hell? Yeah? 0:20:16.440 --> 0:20:19.840 Wow? What made you want to interrupt such a beautiful 0:20:21.560 --> 0:20:23.440 life experience just to call me? 0:20:25.000 --> 0:20:26.480 I don't know. I wanted to hear what you have 0:20:26.600 --> 0:20:29.520 to say about life. You seem pretty wise, but someone I. 0:20:29.480 --> 0:20:31.320 Want to hear what I have to say about life? 0:20:31.640 --> 0:20:37.320 What do I have to say about life? Sometimes I 0:20:37.480 --> 0:20:40.760 I wonder sometimes I'm I've been going back, you know, 0:20:40.760 --> 0:20:42.159 I've been think about a lot, but going back and 0:20:42.200 --> 0:20:47.400 forth about whether life is easy or hard? Oh yeah, yeah, 0:20:47.440 --> 0:20:50.680 Because sometimes I'm like, wait, this is this is easy, 0:20:50.720 --> 0:20:53.160 and then other times I'm like, wait, this is really hard. 0:20:54.000 --> 0:20:55.919 Did you get born into an easy life or a 0:20:55.920 --> 0:20:56.520 hard life? 0:20:56.920 --> 0:20:59.160 You say, born into an easy life or a hard life? 0:20:59.560 --> 0:21:00.359 Did you did you? 0:21:00.800 --> 0:21:04.919 Which one did you get? Say? Where are you from? 0:21:06.400 --> 0:21:07.200 I'm from London. 0:21:07.680 --> 0:21:10.320 Oh okay, that's why your phone is a little shitty 0:21:11.320 --> 0:21:14.920 and your accent is a little shitty too, so I 0:21:15.400 --> 0:21:17.680 can sort of only barely understand what you're saying. 0:21:18.760 --> 0:21:21.359 That's fair enough. I'll try and articulate a little bit harder. 0:21:21.800 --> 0:21:23.600 Mm hmm. Okay, So what did you just say? 0:21:25.200 --> 0:21:26.920 Did you get an easy life or a hard one? 0:21:26.960 --> 0:21:28.240 Which one did you get born into? 0:21:28.320 --> 0:21:30.359 It's fun to make fun of British people because you 0:21:30.359 --> 0:21:37.240 know they're also just white, all right? So oh fuck? 0:21:37.640 --> 0:21:41.880 Sorry did you get did you get an easy life 0:21:41.960 --> 0:21:43.439 or did you get a hard one? Which one did 0:21:43.440 --> 0:21:44.200 you get born into? It? 0:21:44.640 --> 0:21:45.160 Born into? 0:21:45.160 --> 0:21:45.360 Oh? 0:21:45.400 --> 0:21:48.240 I mean fu comparatively easy? God damn. I mean it 0:21:48.280 --> 0:21:57.880 depends on it depends on uh uh, your perspective, because 0:21:57.880 --> 0:21:59.399 I mean all my I mean, because look, here's the thing. 0:21:59.400 --> 0:22:03.000 I think the right the bar for an easy life 0:22:03.359 --> 0:22:06.240 to me in consideration to all of the lives that 0:22:06.280 --> 0:22:09.720 are out there, is like if if you're born into 0:22:09.760 --> 0:22:11.920 a life where, like, you know, your parents don't beat 0:22:11.960 --> 0:22:14.800 the shit out of you, and you can eat food 0:22:14.880 --> 0:22:17.479 and drink water, that's pretty good. I don't know if 0:22:17.480 --> 0:22:20.120 it's necessarily easy, but it's just pretty good. 0:22:20.680 --> 0:22:23.600 You know. Yeah, it's pretty sweet. 0:22:25.960 --> 0:22:27.040 What about you? What do you think? 0:22:28.520 --> 0:22:30.879 Yeah? I hell, yeah, dude, I'm privileged out. I got 0:22:30.920 --> 0:22:33.199 a three life. I grew up in Asia now I 0:22:33.240 --> 0:22:37.399 live in London. I'm living it up, living that dream. 0:22:37.760 --> 0:22:40.440 Where are you from? Where in Asia are you from? 0:22:40.720 --> 0:22:43.040 No? I grew up in Singapore. 0:22:44.160 --> 0:22:46.639 Oh I've heard of Singapore. Singapore is? Singapore is kind 0:22:46.640 --> 0:22:47.840 of rich, isn't it. 0:22:48.640 --> 0:22:51.359 Yeah, it's pretty cool when you're under eighteen, it's pretty cool. 0:22:52.240 --> 0:22:54.159 Why is it cool when you're under eighteen but not 0:22:54.200 --> 0:22:55.040 cool when you're over. 0:22:54.920 --> 0:23:01.200