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Speaker 1: e subject My fiance is for the streets. Dear Stephen, Shirley,

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Speaker 1: I'm a twenty nine year old, hardworking mother of two

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Speaker 1: and I've been engaged for almost a year. I won't

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Speaker 1: set a date with this man because He's not the

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Speaker 1: man I thought he was. My fiance is for the streets,

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Speaker 1: and he's disrespectful with it. When we first started dating

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Speaker 1: three years ago, I developed a great relationship with his

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Speaker 1: mom and sisters, but recently they take up for him

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Speaker 1: when he's messing around on me. He uses them as

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Speaker 1: his alibi, and if I call them while he's out

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Speaker 1: at night, they won't answer their phones. This is not

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Speaker 1: their problem, but I still stopped speaking to all of

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Speaker 1: them after the last time he disappeared on me. We

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Speaker 1: were planning to go to Miami for Easter weekend, and

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Speaker 1: the day before he was washing his clothes and he

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Speaker 1: over the kind of laundry detergent I bought, and I

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Speaker 1: know that he had plans all along to desert me

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Speaker 1: and our plans. He kept yelling and then said he

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Speaker 1: needed to get out for a while to clear his head.

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Speaker 1: He left the house, and then I noticed his suitcase

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Speaker 1: started calling him. He didn't answer. He came home three

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Speaker 1: days later, like nothing happened. This is the second time

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Speaker 1: he's done it, and he knows. I'm not talking to

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Speaker 1: his family and I don't have any of his friends numbers,

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Speaker 1: so there was no way to find him. So I

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Speaker 1: went to his mother's house and told his mother and

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Speaker 1: his sisters that I was tired of his cheating in

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Speaker 1: their lies. His mother looked at me in my face

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Speaker 1: and said that my fiance is a good man and

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Speaker 1: he's not cheating on me. Do I believe his mother

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Speaker 1: or call off my wedding and move out now? Really? Really,

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Speaker 1: you know you did not have to call Steve and

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Speaker 1: I for this answer because you already know. Oh, you

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Speaker 1: already know what's up. He disappeared on you before this

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Speaker 1: time for three days, came back like nothing happened. I mean,

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Speaker 1: you believe what you what you know in your head

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Speaker 1: and in your heart. That's it. That's what you should believe, period.

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Speaker 1: I mean, how many times does he have to lie

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Speaker 1: this is what he does? And what are you waiting

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Speaker 1: around for? It's only going to be more of the

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Speaker 1: same if you stay with this guy. And please Lord,

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Speaker 1: do not marry this man. Okay, give him back to

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Speaker 1: his engagement ring and get on with your life. He's

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Speaker 1: all wrong for you, and you can't let your kids

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Speaker 1: see you continuing to go through this. The babies don't

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Speaker 1: his mom when she says you know he's a good

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Speaker 1: know what a good man is and this is not it. Well,

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Speaker 1: maybe you don't know what a good man is. I'll

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Speaker 1: tell you this is not it. Okay. No good man

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Speaker 1: would do this to you, and you can't continue to

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Speaker 1: allow them to. No matter how great your relationship you

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Speaker 1: they're always gonna be on his side. So dump him.

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Speaker 1: He is not for you. Let him go and let

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Speaker 1: you and your kids. You can do way better, Steve.

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Speaker 1: know what else you need here. Your fiance is for

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Speaker 1: the streets. That's your letter. Yeah, okay, you said nothing

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Speaker 1: redeeming in this letter at all about him twenty nine

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Speaker 1: you've been engaged to this guy, but you won't set

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Speaker 1: So you know this, he uses them as an alibi.

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Speaker 1: How many times he hasn't done this? Okay? Then we

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Speaker 1: what is this our smell? Come on as a dog? Baby, baby, baby,

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Speaker 1: this ain't time. M chill to hear you buy Cheerful

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Speaker 1: in the streets. They all watched the cheer was on sale.

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Speaker 1: I don't give a damn on sale. I'm on time.

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Speaker 1: I want you new pods. Just don't make no damn

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Speaker 1: since you're watching it, chill when you know I'm gonna hear, well,

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Speaker 1: I like time. I got to get the hell out

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Speaker 1: I got gonna clear my head all this tied up

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Speaker 1: in it. Hold on, Steve, hold on, we'll coming up

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Speaker 1: All right, come on, Steve, let's recap today's strawberry letters.

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Speaker 1: Subject to my fiance is for the street. Twenty nine

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Speaker 1: with this guy. This guy is not understanding what's happening here.

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Speaker 1: and the sisters. They take up for him. They don't

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Speaker 1: she's upset. She to quit speaking to the mom and

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Speaker 1: the sisters. Then they was planning to go to Miami.

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Speaker 1: Justice passed Easter weekend, he pulled out his luggage and

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Speaker 1: picked a fight with her over the detergent. No man

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Speaker 1: picks a fight over no damn detergent. There's not a

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Speaker 1: man nowhere that kel what detergent is in there? All right?

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Speaker 1: So then you returned the same same negative energy, and

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Speaker 1: kept yelling, and he said he needed to get out

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Speaker 1: and then you notice after he left, his suitcase was gone.

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Speaker 1: This is the one y'all was packing for to go

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Speaker 1: to Miami. Right. I gave him a few hours and

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Speaker 1: you started calling him. He announced he came home three

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Speaker 1: days later like nothing had happened? What came came to?

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Speaker 1: What home? Right? Three days later? Like nothing had The

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Speaker 1: ain't checked on the kids? Came back in the house, like,

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Speaker 1: ain't nothing happened, girl? I said, hey girl, Oh damn,

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Speaker 1: you're still tripping. So now this is the second time

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Speaker 1: he's done it, and he knows I'm not talking to

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Speaker 1: his family, and I don't have any of his friends numbers.

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Speaker 1: the second time he'd do it, and he know you

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Speaker 1: you can't call them. What that's the conclusion. This man

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Speaker 1: on yours for three days, this should have been a rap.

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Speaker 1: So that was no way to find him. The hell

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Speaker 1: you gotta find somebody going for three days if you're

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Speaker 1: that word about him, that's the police report. Once they

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Speaker 1: So I went to his mother's house and told his

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Speaker 1: he's not cheating on me. His mama don't know. His

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Speaker 1: mama don't know right she defended him. This her son

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Speaker 1: thedn't move out? Girl, girl, Listen to me. A man

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Speaker 1: What do you think a wedding is gonna change in

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Speaker 1: get married, what what? What? What's supposed to make him

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Speaker 1: ac right now? He's not ready to get married? This

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Speaker 1: or girlfriend over some damn deturgent. Now we're gonna talk

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Speaker 1: going over my mama's house or your mama's house. That

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Speaker 1: movie we're gonna see in the movie this week. Yeah, okay,

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Speaker 1: Yeah I'm not I'm gonna just go watching a little

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Speaker 1: Poor Games movie. Whatever you want to see, whatever you want.

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Speaker 1: I'm not even argue about you. Boy, what restaurant we

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Speaker 1: want to go to? Happy Wife, Happy Life? You want

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Speaker 1: to go down to Crusoe's. We're going to Crusoe's. I

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Speaker 1: Crusoe down the street for tournament. We've been driving through

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