WEBVTT - What to do while others watch TV

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<v Speaker 1>Welcome to Before Breakfast, a production of I Heart Radio.

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<v Speaker 1>Good Morning, This is Laura, Welcome to the Before Breakfast podcast.

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<v Speaker 1>Today's tip is that just because your partner or kids

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<v Speaker 1>are watching TV, you don't have to watch TV yourself.

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<v Speaker 1>You can spend time in other people's presence while still

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<v Speaker 1>doing another activity if you'd prefer. Watching TV is generally

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<v Speaker 1>not the most satisfying way to spend your leisure time. Really,

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<v Speaker 1>there's various time use research asking people how happy they

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<v Speaker 1>are at various moments, and I can promise you you

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<v Speaker 1>will be happier doing creative hobbies exercising, reading, or interacting

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<v Speaker 1>with friends, then you will be while watching TV. But

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<v Speaker 1>not everyone has read that research or cares And if

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<v Speaker 1>other people in your household like to relax while watching TV,

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<v Speaker 1>you can face a bit of a dilemma. You want

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<v Speaker 1>to spend time with them in their presence. It's nice

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<v Speaker 1>to sit together on the sofa, but then you wind

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<v Speaker 1>up spending all your leisure time watching TV rather than

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<v Speaker 1>doing other activities that you might prefer. Fortunately, this is

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<v Speaker 1>not inevitable. It is indeed possible to spend time in

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<v Speaker 1>people's presence without watching TV yourself. If you like to read.

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<v Speaker 1>One of the simplest options is to sit next to

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<v Speaker 1>your TV watching loved ones and read your book with

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<v Speaker 1>headphones in your ears. That way, you get the cuddling

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<v Speaker 1>and the warmth, and you don't have to waste an

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<v Speaker 1>hour of your life watching something you don't care for.

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<v Speaker 1>Just listen to instrumental music or white noise so you

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<v Speaker 1>can still concentrate on what you're reading. If the other

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<v Speaker 1>person is up for it, and this might be easier

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<v Speaker 1>to foist on your kids than a partner, they can

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<v Speaker 1>wear headphones to watch their show. Think of a kid

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<v Speaker 1>on an iPad with headphones watching a cartoon while you

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<v Speaker 1>snuggle next to them and read your book. If wearing

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<v Speaker 1>headphones feels awkward or unfriendly, I would encourage you to

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<v Speaker 1>move past that. But if you feel you can't do this,

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<v Speaker 1>you could choose to read a book that doesn't require

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<v Speaker 1>full concentration. You might page through an art book or

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<v Speaker 1>a decorating book while the TV is on. I love

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<v Speaker 1>to do one thousand piece puzzles, and for many people

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<v Speaker 1>that would be doable with the TV on two. In

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<v Speaker 1>my case, I do my puzzles in another room. But

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<v Speaker 1>if you don't mind the TV background noise. A table

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<v Speaker 1>in the corner could be a great way for you

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<v Speaker 1>to be in your loved one's presence while still doing

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<v Speaker 1>something that you prefer. Or you could grab a book

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<v Speaker 1>of number puzzles or crossword puzzles, or a deck of

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<v Speaker 1>cards to play solitaire. Adult coloring books could hit the

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<v Speaker 1>spot too. Lots of people are able to craft while

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<v Speaker 1>the TV is on. Knitting, needle point, embroidery, even sketching

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<v Speaker 1>with charcoal or pastel's could work well. I would not

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<v Speaker 1>encourage you to do chores while your family watches TV.

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<v Speaker 1>That sounds like no fun. Sometimes that impulse is about

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<v Speaker 1>doing something physical rather than vegging out. If that's the

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<v Speaker 1>case and you're a person who has a lot of energy,

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<v Speaker 1>use that energy to do something like stretching or yoga

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<v Speaker 1>or strength training. Just don't position yourself between the people

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<v Speaker 1>on the couch and the screen. In any case, when

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<v Speaker 1>you get pressure from other family members to be part

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<v Speaker 1>of their screen time, or if you just feel like

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<v Speaker 1>you should be there, try to get at what you

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<v Speaker 1>are actually desire. Ring. Do you all want to engage

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<v Speaker 1>in the plot of a show together, That is one thing,

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<v Speaker 1>But if it's a football game or maybe a kid's cartoon.

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<v Speaker 1>The other person probably just wants your presence and not

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<v Speaker 1>so much your attention, So see if there is a

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<v Speaker 1>way to give your presence without giving up the activities

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<v Speaker 1>that you would prefer to do with this time. I

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<v Speaker 1>would point out that often people use this time to

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<v Speaker 1>scroll on their phones when they are not engaged in

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<v Speaker 1>the show and the TV watching loved ones don't usually

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<v Speaker 1>complain so much about that. I am just suggesting doing

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<v Speaker 1>something a little more purposeful. If you do another activity

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<v Speaker 1>while your family watches TV, I'd love to hear about it.

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<v Speaker 1>You can let me know at Laura at Laura Vanderkamp

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<v Speaker 1>dot com. In the meantime, this is Laura that thanks

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<v Speaker 1>for listening, and here's to making the most of our time. Hey, everybody,

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