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Speaker 1: I hope my wife will have an open mind. Well,

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Speaker 1: I tell you what. I don't know what's in this letter.

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Speaker 1: ain't right din Stephen Shirley. I've been with my wife

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Speaker 1: six months ago, I joined an online date Now, okay,

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Speaker 1: It wasn't long before one special woman got my attention,

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Speaker 1: because she knows I'm married and it is wrong. But

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Speaker 1: I can't tell you to slippery slope your asses on.

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Speaker 1: Boy if you need Boy, if you could get out

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Speaker 1: this damn letter right, man, just bail out. I'm sorry, man,

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Speaker 1: Now we have this woman feels like the connection I

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Speaker 1: And I can't stop thinking that she could potentially be

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Speaker 1: ask you if I'm overthinking this and I sound ridiculous. Yes,

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Speaker 1: All right, my turn, here we go. So let's get

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Speaker 1: this straight. You're worried about your approach when you're gonna

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Speaker 1: for work. That's what you said. You've never cheated on

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Speaker 1: your wife, but six months ago you decided to join

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Speaker 1: this online online dating app to keep your marriage interesting.

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Speaker 1: I don't want to stand. How does a married man

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Speaker 1: join an online dating app? You are not available to date.

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Speaker 1: So you say that you and this woman have this

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Speaker 1: So now you say this connection is so strong that

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Speaker 1: it sounds like to me that I don't know, You're

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Speaker 1: How is that an option in your marriage? Like, that's

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Speaker 1: I hope my wife will have open mind. Brother, based

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Speaker 1: This fool then wrote a letter in explain to us

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Speaker 1: But the connection I had with this woman hit this.

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Speaker 1: This wouldn't let her get it real, damn stupid. Everything

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Speaker 1: here we go. We are all the same age and

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Speaker 1: I've never been in a fair time. I want to

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Speaker 1: damn stupid? You're the dumnest man that wrote into this show.

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Speaker 1: Now that's a stupid line. I'm not going to keep

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Speaker 1: So I'm praying that it all works out. Please don't

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