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Speaker 1: First date follow Up powered by the Advocates Injury Attorneys

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Speaker 1: online at Advocateslaw dot com.

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Speaker 2: Mari is on the phone today for a first day

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Speaker 2: follow up, and she's getting ghosted by a dude named Evan.

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Speaker 2: So in a few minutes, we're gonna call him and

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Speaker 2: see if he'll tell us why he's ghosting her and

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Speaker 2: maybe get her a second date. But before we do that, Mari,

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Speaker 2: tell us about your date with Evan. How long has

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Speaker 2: it been since you talked to him?

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Speaker 1: It's been four days.

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Speaker 3: Our date was four days and your say, you're getting

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Speaker 3: ghosted already?

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Speaker 1: Yeah?

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Speaker 4: Are you sure?

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Speaker 1: I feel like if you don't follow up the day

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Speaker 1: after a date, they're never gonna text you.

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Speaker 3: Oh, I mean usually a dead date you do get

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Speaker 3: to follow up bad.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, but it's pretty sea. But I will say, like,

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Speaker 1: what if he's just busy or like things just got

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Speaker 1: a little crazy.

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Speaker 3: I don't know.

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Speaker 1: I think four days is a little bit too long

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Speaker 1: to leave the morning I did follow up with him

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Speaker 1: after so to not get a response to Okay.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, all right, So tell us about the date.

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Speaker 1: It was amazing, like honestly too good to be true

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Speaker 1: for a first date. Maybe we went to this cozy,

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Speaker 1: little candle light restaurant. It was so cute, one of

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Speaker 1: those cozy booths where you there's no way to not touch,

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Speaker 1: so our knees are tups, we're drinking wine, we're sharing apps. Oh.

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Speaker 1: I think we both I know, it felt so romantic

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Speaker 1: and so just calm, which I think is odd for

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Speaker 1: a first date. You don't always feel so steady. You

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Speaker 1: feel nervous, but there was just this like calmness about

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Speaker 1: the whole night, no like worry about eye contacting. We

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Speaker 1: just felt so connected. It felt safe honestly, and yeah,

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Speaker 1: we're sharing food, and I think we both kind of

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Speaker 1: acknowledged that this could be something because at the end

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Speaker 1: of the night and it was just sweet. It wasn't

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Speaker 1: rush or for no awkward like will they won't say

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Speaker 1: it just it all sucks.

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Speaker 4: So right, what could the problem be?

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Speaker 5: Then? I mean, that does sound great, and especially if

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Speaker 5: you guys are feeling safe and comfortable that it's not

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Speaker 5: easy to come by.

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Speaker 4: So what could have happened?

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Speaker 1: The only thing that I can think of, and I

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Speaker 1: think that this would be a silly reason not to

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Speaker 1: text me back, But he said that he was going

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Speaker 1: to be snowboarding the next day, so he needed to

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Speaker 1: leave at eleven. We were having so much fun and

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Speaker 1: at eleven, I don't know, I'm just feeling kind of silly,

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Speaker 1: so I kind of put my hands on my Head's like,

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Speaker 1: if you go home right now, you're never gonna see

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Speaker 1: me again. And it works like he stayed for like

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Speaker 1: a bit longer. She ended up leaving at midnight with

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Speaker 1: so I'm like, not too late. But he kissed me

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Speaker 1: goodbye and he said that he would call. And the

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Speaker 1: next day I texted him and I was just like,

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Speaker 1: I can't wait to hear about all the adventure, like

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Speaker 1: have fun snowboarding. And that was four days ago.

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Speaker 6: And I got on land.

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Speaker 5: Okay, maybe he's like on a boys trip, like a

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Speaker 5: boy's trip snowboarding.

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Speaker 4: But did he tell you he was going on a

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Speaker 4: boys trip or was it just like a day?

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Speaker 1: Well, I assumed it was for the weekend. And he

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Speaker 1: has a full time job.

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Speaker 3: Okay, all right, Okay.

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Speaker 2: Marie is on the phone and she's getting ghosted by

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Speaker 2: a dude named Evan, So we're about to call him

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Speaker 2: Nancy ifa tell us why he's ghosting her and maybe

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Speaker 2: get her a second date. But before we do that, Mari.

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Speaker 2: Why don't you break down your date with Evan again

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Speaker 2: for us real quick?

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Speaker 1: So I land on the first date with Evan. It

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Speaker 1: was really calm, quiet, romantic, intimate, so sweet.

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Speaker 6: We kished.

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Speaker 1: I asked him to stay out past his bedtime, and

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Speaker 1: now he hasn't called me back.

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Speaker 4: Oh bad influence.

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Speaker 2: Well are you ready for us to call him and

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Speaker 2: see if he'll tell us why he's ghosting you?

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Speaker 1: Yeah?

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Speaker 3: All right, here we go. Hello, Hi, man, I speak

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Speaker 3: to Evan please.

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Speaker 7: Uh, this is hey Evan.

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Speaker 3: How are you? This is a radio show. It's called

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Speaker 3: The Jebel Show.

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Speaker 4: Hi, Evan, I'm Nina.

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Speaker 3: Hi, I'm Victoria and my name is JEBELLL. What's up?

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Speaker 7: Is the radio show? No way?

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Speaker 1: Yeah?

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Speaker 3: Have you ever listened to The Jebel Show before?

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Speaker 7: I have? Actually?

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Speaker 5: Yah?

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Speaker 3: Okay here, I've streamed it, like on your phone or anything,

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Speaker 3: because you can stream it too. Side note, yeah stream Yeah. No,

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Speaker 3: that's not why I'm calling.

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Speaker 2: I'm calling you today because we do a second on

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Speaker 2: the show called the First Day follow Up, where if

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Speaker 2: you go out on a date with somebody and they

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Speaker 2: end up ghosting you, they can email us to get

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Speaker 2: you on the phone and ask why you're ghosting them,

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Speaker 2: and we got an email about you.

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Speaker 7: Evan, you really? Okay?

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Speaker 2: Any idea who would email us asking us to call

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Speaker 2: you to find out why you're ghosting them?

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Speaker 6: I mean, I have an idea, but I want to

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Speaker 6: hear what you got to say.

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Speaker 3: Okay. Her name is Marika. Okay, and you went out

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Speaker 3: on a date with her about four days ago.

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Speaker 7: I did. Yeah, but I'm not This is funny. I'm

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Speaker 7: not ghosting anybody. I dislocated my shoulder snowboarding recently.

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Speaker 3: Oh no, okay, so you're not ghosting Mark.

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Speaker 7: Yeah. I mean no.

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Speaker 6: I dissipated my shoulder and wipe got pretty bad.

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Speaker 7: I've been healing.

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Speaker 6: But she emailed you guys saying I've been ghosting her

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Speaker 6: for four days.

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Speaker 3: Yeah. So you you've just been healing up because you

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Speaker 3: hurt your shoulder.

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Speaker 7: Yeah. Yeah, I mean it was a pretty bad accident.

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Speaker 4: I'm sorry about your accident. But she did text you.

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Speaker 6: Yeah she did. But I've been healing from an injury

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Speaker 6: for four days.

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Speaker 7: Like I don't. I don't know, I don't. I haven't

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Speaker 7: even responded to my mom, you know.

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Speaker 3: Okay, All right, Well did you like her?

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Speaker 1: Well?

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Speaker 4: Can you handle that right now, you've been healing for

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Speaker 4: four days?

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Speaker 7: Well, yeah, I like her, but.

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Speaker 6: This is kind of feeling weird, feeling like a little

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Speaker 6: ganged up on, And this is you know, I don't

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Speaker 6: think four days.

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Speaker 7: Is a long time.

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Speaker 2: Well, if you're feeling ganged up on right now, Evan,

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Speaker 2: Maria is on the phone and wants.

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Speaker 7: To talk to you, She's she's here, yep.

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Speaker 3: And she wants to talk to you.

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Speaker 7: I ean, Hey, what's up.

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Speaker 1: Thanks, I'm sorry to hear about your snowboarding injury, but

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Speaker 1: you ignored my text.

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Speaker 7: Yeah, I'm sorry. I'm injured though, and I've been dealing

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Speaker 7: with a lot.

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Speaker 1: Oh well, maybe do you need some help? Could I

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Speaker 1: come over?

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Speaker 7: Maybe? What? No, No, I'm not us No this what?

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Speaker 6: No, I'm I'm thank you that I appreciate your concern

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Speaker 6: and want to take care of me. But I'm I'm

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Speaker 6: really best when I heal on my own by myself.

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Speaker 6: I mean, it's not I'm not I'm not trying to

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Speaker 6: be funny like it's you know, that's just who I am. Okay,

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Speaker 6: you guys are laughing at me too.

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Speaker 2: You know, if you sound like you're very awkward about

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Speaker 2: this situation, you don't want her to come over and

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Speaker 6: No, would you want someone to come over after a

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Speaker 6: first date while you're liking the worst situation in life,

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Speaker 6: Like I don't look good. I probably haven't showered, not

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Speaker 1: I mean, if you're hurting, I want to be there

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Speaker 1: to help you. That's what happens in a relationship. I

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Speaker 1: don't care.

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Speaker 6: You're you're you're really sweet, but we're not in a relationship.

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Speaker 6: And I feel weird talking about this other radio frond

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Speaker 6: of strangers.

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Speaker 1: I know that, but that's where we're heading, isn't it.

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Speaker 6: Like you could have sent me another text and I

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Speaker 6: could have probably gotten, like, you know, through like the

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Speaker 6: cloudedness of being on meds, probably been like upfront and

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Speaker 6: been like, hey, maybe in a couple of weeks. Like, honestly,

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Speaker 6: I don't think I'm ready to go on a date

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Speaker 6: for a really long time. I'm not in a good

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Speaker 6: I'm not myself. Don't take it personally, but maybe not

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Speaker 6: do this to the next person. I think you need

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Speaker 6: to maybe.

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Speaker 1: Wait, I can just come over, like I don't need a.

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Speaker 7: Lot, Oh no, no, thank you. I made a.

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Speaker 1: Really good chicken noodle soup. And my dad was in

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Speaker 1: an accident when I was a kid. I know how

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Speaker 1: to take care of people.

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Speaker 7: Uh huh.

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Speaker 1: You said that you didn't text your mom back. I

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Speaker 1: can text her for you. I can handle all that

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Speaker 1: for you. Just give me your mom's number.

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Speaker 3: Oh no, no boundaries?

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Speaker 7: Yeah? Just are you being serious? Are you just like

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Speaker 7: doing this for show? At this point, I'm being serious.

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Speaker 1: I love you and you're hurt.

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Speaker 7: I want to see it.

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Speaker 6: Hey, okay, guy, I gotta go, Mari goodbye.

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Speaker 3: Oh no, yeah, he's gone. He hung up. Mari. Mari.

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Speaker 1: Sorry, that's just how he is.

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Speaker 2: Guys, but you hurt.

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Speaker 1: We'll go out in a couple of weeks and it'll

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Speaker 1: be good. Thank you so much for getting us back

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Speaker 1: in con Do.

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Speaker 3: You have good s you can call?

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Speaker 5: I think it's a time to have a conversation with

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Speaker 5: somebody that can just, you know, really flesh this out

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Speaker 5: with you.

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Speaker 3: We have an honest conversation.

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Speaker 1: What do you mean?

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Speaker 7: Yeah?

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Speaker 3: Ju Will's first day follow up