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Speaker 2: Gabe is on the phone today for a first Day
Speaker 2: follow up and he's getting ghosted by a woman named Harper.
Speaker 2: So in a few minutes we'll call her and see
Speaker 2: if she'll tell us why she's ghosting him and maybe
Speaker 2: get him a second date. But first, Gabe, how long
Speaker 2: has it been since you heard from.
Speaker 3: Harper's been like a week. And I think I know
Speaker 3: why I was ghosted. Oh really?
Speaker 4: Oh sure?
Speaker 2: Yeah, Well, tell us about the date first, and then
Speaker 2: tell us why you think you're getting ghosted.
Speaker 4: I mean, for well, first of all, it was late
Speaker 4: to the date, so right there. Oh yeah, it was
Speaker 4: like thirty minutes late, and I know that's bad. But
Speaker 4: so I was helping my neighbor move a couch and
Speaker 4: the whole morning just slipped away, like I just lost
Speaker 4: a sense of my sense of time. But I texted her.
Speaker 4: I told her what was going on, and I apologized.
Speaker 4: And when I ran to get there, like as soon
Speaker 4: as I realized what the.
Speaker 3: Time was, So okay, did she wait for you? Yeah?
Speaker 3: She waited, which I did not expect.
Speaker 4: I don't know if I would have done that half hour.
Speaker 3: Yeah. But okay, so you're trying to make up for
Speaker 3: being late, and she waited for you.
Speaker 4: Yeah, she waited and she stayed and we had uh
Speaker 4: so the day was we had we had coffee, this
Speaker 4: cute little spot, and then after that she says, you
Speaker 4: wanted to hit up this ping.
Speaker 3: Pong bar nearby?
Speaker 4: Yeah, and she's so into ping pong, Like I didn't
Speaker 4: even know that was a thing. I think I had
Speaker 4: never heard of ping pong bar. Like, she lit up
Speaker 4: when we got there. We played a few games and
Speaker 4: we got some prize, and honestly, I thought we were vibing,
Speaker 4: like she was laughing.
Speaker 3: She was.
Speaker 4: She was so cute, she was trash talking.
Speaker 3: It was really really cute.
Speaker 4: She was cool. She's really cool, And I was trying
Speaker 4: to redeem myself for being late, you know, like trying
Speaker 4: to make up for it, right, I thought I did.
Speaker 4: I don't know, though, because now she's not answer me,
Speaker 4: and I can't stop thinking about her, because it's like
Speaker 4: it's rare that I meet someone like her, Like she
Speaker 4: has this great energy, she's smart. She didn't make me
Speaker 4: feel like I had to be anything. I'm not, like
Speaker 4: I was just who I was, which is so comfortable as.
Speaker 3: Being late the reason you think you're getting ghosted.
Speaker 5: Yeah, I did I just blow it beyond repair? Or
Speaker 5: maybe she's just busy, Like I don't like, I was
Speaker 5: helping my friend and I just lost track of time.
Speaker 5: That's kind of careless. But I felt like I explained
Speaker 5: it all well.
Speaker 6: So then what else happened? So you guys played ping pong? Like,
Speaker 6: did you guys kiss? Did you guys decide that you're
Speaker 6: going to have another date?
Speaker 4: No, was sort of just like talk to you soon?
Speaker 2: Like did it end like you thought maybe she was
Speaker 2: like upset or didn't really have a good time.
Speaker 4: No, I don't. I didn't think she was upset. Like
Speaker 4: if she did, it wasn't into me.
Speaker 3: Why or did we go to the ping.
Speaker 4: Pong bar and like we hung out there for a while.
Speaker 6: I mean, unless you just used her to take her
Speaker 6: to a ping pong bar. She really likes ping pong. Hey,
Speaker 6: this guy doesn't know how to be on time, but
Speaker 6: I'm gonna get some ping pong out of it.
Speaker 4: Maybe maybe I didn't say that, though I don't know.
Speaker 4: I just do not like even if I don't know,
Speaker 4: it's been maybe she's busy, but that's also why I'm
Speaker 4: calling you, guys, like, I just want to know because
Speaker 4: it's it's the hard part about being ghosted is but
Speaker 4: not knowing totally.
Speaker 6: But did you reach out to her then, so like
Speaker 6: this is an obvious ghosting? Or was the last time
Speaker 6: you talked to her on the date?
Speaker 4: That's the last time I talked to her was on
Speaker 4: the date. Okay, it's been over a week, just over
Speaker 4: and the last time I texted was yesterday.
Speaker 3: Well, we'll see if we can figure it out for you.
Speaker 2: Okay, thank you, play a song, come back, and then
Speaker 2: call her and see if she'll tell us why she's
Speaker 2: ghosting you.
Speaker 3: And maybe get you a second date. Thank you?
Speaker 2: All right, we'll get your first day follow up next.
Speaker 2: Right in the middle of today's first date follow up,
Speaker 2: And if you're just joining us, Gabe is on the
Speaker 2: phone and we're about to call Harper who's ghosting him,
Speaker 2: and see if she'll tell us why she's ghosting him
Speaker 2: and maybe get him a second date. But first, hey,
Speaker 2: why don't you refresh our memory in your situation real quick?
Speaker 3: Yes, I went out on a day with this awesome person.
Speaker 4: She's super cool, she's super sweet. I thought we vibed,
Speaker 4: but I was late to the date like half an hour,
Speaker 4: and I felt bad about that, and I felt like
Speaker 4: I tried to make up for it, but we hung
Speaker 4: out for a while and now she won't answer my text, so.
Speaker 3: I don't know what's going on. Okay, were you ready?
Speaker 4: Yeah?
Speaker 3: All right, here we go.
Speaker 4: Hello.
Speaker 3: Hi, man speaking to Harper? Please?
Speaker 1: Hi.
Speaker 3: This is Harper. Hey, Harper, how are you? This is
Speaker 3: a radio show. It's called The Jewbill Show. Hi, Harper.
Speaker 3: I'm Nina. Hi, I'm Victorian and my name is Jubal.
Speaker 3: How are you.
Speaker 1: I'm good, I'm confused. Good.
Speaker 3: Have you ever listened to The Jubel Show before?
Speaker 4: Yeah?
Speaker 3: Oh cool? And I'm like, I don't know what you
Speaker 3: could be calling me for.
Speaker 2: Well, we do a segment on the show called the
Speaker 2: First Date follow Up, where if you go out with
Speaker 2: somebody and then you end up ghosting them, that person
Speaker 2: can email us.
Speaker 3: Familiar with that, I've heard it?
Speaker 2: Yeah, oh yeah, So is there anybody you can think
Speaker 2: of that would email us about you?
Speaker 3: Unfortunately? Yeah? What's their name? Gabe?
Speaker 7: Right?
Speaker 2: Yes it is, Yeah, Gabe emailed us told us a
Speaker 2: little bit about your date. And says that he's very confused.
Speaker 2: He liked you a lot. I thought you guys had
Speaker 2: a great time. Would you mind telling us why you're
Speaker 2: ghosting him?
Speaker 1: I mean, yeah, I ghosted him, like I don't want
Speaker 1: to be rude, but like, honestly, I didn't know what
Speaker 1: else to do, like this, the whole situation just seemed
Speaker 1: really scammy scare me.
Speaker 3: Yeah, I mean okay.
Speaker 1: So first he showed up thirty minutes late, which like rude,
Speaker 1: but I can deal with it.
Speaker 3: I get it. I run late sometimes too, and like if.
Speaker 4: The vibes are there, it's fine.
Speaker 3: Whatever.
Speaker 1: And so we were hanging out, and then we decided
Speaker 1: to go play ping pong and then we get there,
Speaker 1: Oh my goodness, surprise, he lost his wallet trying to
Speaker 1: get to this day. I get.
Speaker 3: I don't mind paying.
Speaker 7: I just just be upfront about it, be like I
Speaker 7: you know it.
Speaker 1: Don't like make it like I lost it, like oh
Speaker 1: I you know, like I'm was running late. I left
Speaker 1: it behind and it mean too, or like just be
Speaker 1: like can you pay?
Speaker 3: You know, don't make a think about it.
Speaker 1: And so fine, whatever, I paid for everything because you
Speaker 1: have any money on him, which is not the deal breaker.
Speaker 3: The deal breaker wise, I mean it could be, but yeah.
Speaker 1: No, no, no, no, there's more. On the way out, we're
Speaker 1: like saying goodbye, and then he's like, oh my.
Speaker 3: Gosh, I don't how many groceries at home?
Speaker 7: Can you? Can you be one hundred dollars?
Speaker 3: What dollars for groceries?
Speaker 1: And he was like, I gotta feed myself and my cat.
Speaker 1: I didn't even know that he had a cat. First off,
Speaker 1: didn't mention the cat the entire time we were together,
Speaker 1: but also like, what what can I use from a
Speaker 1: grocery store?
Speaker 3: Like, you know, did you give him the money? Who
Speaker 3: asks for that?
Speaker 1: I didn't give him one hundred dollars, I'm not stupid.
Speaker 1: But I also was like I need to get out
Speaker 1: of the situation, and like he's not gonna let up.
Speaker 1: So I was like, I don't have one hundred dollars,
Speaker 1: but like I have fifty.
Speaker 3: You gave him fifty.
Speaker 7: I had to get away.
Speaker 3: I had to get away.
Speaker 4: Okay, what you guys do?
Speaker 3: Oh wow?
Speaker 1: On the way home, like I just kept from playing everything,
Speaker 1: I was like, are you serious?
Speaker 3: He's wait, he doesn't have his wallet.
Speaker 1: He asks for money, Like now I'm an ATM for
Speaker 1: a stranger in there.
Speaker 2: Yeah. I've been used a lot for money in relationships. Yeah,
Speaker 2: and I've never had anybody just ask for it on
Speaker 2: the first date. It's a long game, you know.
Speaker 3: Then you realize, oh, they're just they're just here. Something
Speaker 3: gets to help my cat. You can't get the groceries.
Speaker 3: I'm like, no, wow, okay, well thank you for telling us.
Speaker 3: I'm sorry. And I don't know if you forgot or not.
Speaker 3: But Gabe is on the phone and wants to talk
Speaker 3: to you.
Speaker 1: Oh I would love to hear what he has to say.
Speaker 4: A Harper I okay, so that all sounds bad, Like no, Harber, No,
Speaker 4: I'm sorry, Okay, no, don't harper me. Like, come on,
Speaker 4: I just told Harbor. I told you I'd pay you
Speaker 4: back with interest. I was just I was like in
Speaker 4: a pinch, and you were like this angel who shows
Speaker 4: up at the right time. An angel?
Speaker 7: Wow?
Speaker 1: What a like what a beautiful, like literally sparkly way
Speaker 1: to say manipulation?
Speaker 4: Come on, No, I just needed help. I even borrowed
Speaker 4: money from my neighbor after that. I swear it was
Speaker 4: not a setup.
Speaker 1: Okay, here's the thing, Like you could have gone home
Speaker 1: and gotten your wallet. You could have gone like you
Speaker 1: could have used apple Hay, like there were other options
Speaker 1: that you could have done other than asking a woman
Speaker 1: that you literally just met, were money, Like come on, wow.
Speaker 4: Harbor, I guess I just didn't realize you're so materialistic,
Speaker 4: care so much about money.
Speaker 1: I don't care about money, but I care about like
Speaker 1: I don't respect and like basic human decency, like I know,
Speaker 1: I don't.
Speaker 3: Understand why that's so hard.
Speaker 4: Doctor said, I would pay you back.
Speaker 3: Isn't that decent?
Speaker 1: I don't need you to pay me back. Actually, you
Speaker 1: can keep the money.
Speaker 2: I just want to make sure, Harper, would you like
Speaker 2: another day with Gabe? We will pay for it.
Speaker 1: You get no, no, no, save your money, Save your money.
Speaker 1: You can keep the fifty dollars. It's a donation to
Speaker 1: the chaos that you have going on.
Speaker 3: Oh my god, we'll find my Harper.
Speaker 1: To get out of having to deal with that again.
Speaker 7: So it's wine, it's money. Well off, all right, Well
Speaker 7: find Harper. I was going to pay you back to
Speaker 7: Chicky Bucks, but you gave me. But good luck finding
Speaker 7: you're mister rich man or whatever you're looking for.
Speaker 4: OA like a bank account person.
Speaker 3: Thank you. People that have money in it yeah. Yeah.
Speaker 3: Jubile's First Date follow up