WEBVTT - First Date Turns Into an ATM Request: Why Harper Ghosted Gabe

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<v Speaker 1>First Day to follow Up powered by the Advocates Injury

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<v Speaker 1>Attorneys online at Advocateslaw dot com.

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<v Speaker 2>Gabe is on the phone today for a first Day

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<v Speaker 2>follow up and he's getting ghosted by a woman named Harper.

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<v Speaker 2>So in a few minutes we'll call her and see

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<v Speaker 2>if she'll tell us why she's ghosting him and maybe

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<v Speaker 2>get him a second date. But first, Gabe, how long

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<v Speaker 2>has it been since you heard from.

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<v Speaker 3>Harper's been like a week. And I think I know

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<v Speaker 3>why I was ghosted. Oh really?

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<v Speaker 4>Oh sure?

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, Well, tell us about the date first, and then

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<v Speaker 2>tell us why you think you're getting ghosted.

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<v Speaker 4>I mean, for well, first of all, it was late

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<v Speaker 4>to the date, so right there. Oh yeah, it was

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<v Speaker 4>like thirty minutes late, and I know that's bad. But

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<v Speaker 4>so I was helping my neighbor move a couch and

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<v Speaker 4>the whole morning just slipped away, like I just lost

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<v Speaker 4>a sense of my sense of time. But I texted her.

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<v Speaker 4>I told her what was going on, and I apologized.

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<v Speaker 4>And when I ran to get there, like as soon

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<v Speaker 4>as I realized what the.

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<v Speaker 3>Time was, So okay, did she wait for you? Yeah?

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<v Speaker 3>She waited, which I did not expect.

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<v Speaker 4>I don't know if I would have done that half hour.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah. But okay, so you're trying to make up for

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<v Speaker 3>being late, and she waited for you.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah, she waited and she stayed and we had uh

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<v Speaker 4>so the day was we had we had coffee, this

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<v Speaker 4>cute little spot, and then after that she says, you

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<v Speaker 4>wanted to hit up this ping.

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<v Speaker 3>Pong bar nearby?

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah, and she's so into ping pong, Like I didn't

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<v Speaker 4>even know that was a thing. I think I had

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<v Speaker 4>never heard of ping pong bar. Like, she lit up

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<v Speaker 4>when we got there. We played a few games and

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<v Speaker 4>we got some prize, and honestly, I thought we were vibing,

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<v Speaker 4>like she was laughing.

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<v Speaker 3>She was.

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<v Speaker 4>She was so cute, she was trash talking.

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<v Speaker 3>It was really really cute.

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<v Speaker 4>She was cool. She's really cool, And I was trying

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<v Speaker 4>to redeem myself for being late, you know, like trying

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<v Speaker 4>to make up for it, right, I thought I did.

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<v Speaker 4>I don't know, though, because now she's not answer me,

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<v Speaker 4>and I can't stop thinking about her, because it's like

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<v Speaker 4>it's rare that I meet someone like her, Like she

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<v Speaker 4>has this great energy, she's smart. She didn't make me

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<v Speaker 4>feel like I had to be anything. I'm not, like

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<v Speaker 4>I was just who I was, which is so comfortable as.

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<v Speaker 3>Being late the reason you think you're getting ghosted.

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<v Speaker 5>Yeah, I did I just blow it beyond repair? Or

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<v Speaker 5>maybe she's just busy, Like I don't like, I was

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<v Speaker 5>helping my friend and I just lost track of time.

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<v Speaker 5>That's kind of careless. But I felt like I explained

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<v Speaker 5>it all well.

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<v Speaker 6>So then what else happened? So you guys played ping pong? Like,

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<v Speaker 6>did you guys kiss? Did you guys decide that you're

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<v Speaker 6>going to have another date?

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<v Speaker 4>No, was sort of just like talk to you soon?

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<v Speaker 2>Like did it end like you thought maybe she was

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<v Speaker 2>like upset or didn't really have a good time.

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<v Speaker 4>No, I don't. I didn't think she was upset. Like

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<v Speaker 4>if she did, it wasn't into me.

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<v Speaker 3>Why or did we go to the ping.

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<v Speaker 4>Pong bar and like we hung out there for a while.

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<v Speaker 6>I mean, unless you just used her to take her

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<v Speaker 6>to a ping pong bar. She really likes ping pong. Hey,

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<v Speaker 6>this guy doesn't know how to be on time, but

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<v Speaker 6>I'm gonna get some ping pong out of it.

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<v Speaker 4>Maybe maybe I didn't say that, though I don't know.

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<v Speaker 4>I just do not like even if I don't know,

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<v Speaker 4>it's been maybe she's busy, but that's also why I'm

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<v Speaker 4>calling you, guys, like, I just want to know because

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<v Speaker 4>it's it's the hard part about being ghosted is but

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<v Speaker 4>not knowing totally.

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<v Speaker 6>But did you reach out to her then, so like

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<v Speaker 6>this is an obvious ghosting? Or was the last time

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<v Speaker 6>you talked to her on the date?

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<v Speaker 4>That's the last time I talked to her was on

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<v Speaker 4>the date. Okay, it's been over a week, just over

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<v Speaker 4>and the last time I texted was yesterday.

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<v Speaker 3>Well, we'll see if we can figure it out for you.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, thank you, play a song, come back, and then

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<v Speaker 2>call her and see if she'll tell us why she's

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<v Speaker 2>ghosting you.

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<v Speaker 3>And maybe get you a second date. Thank you?

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<v Speaker 2>All right, we'll get your first day follow up next.

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<v Speaker 2>Right in the middle of today's first date follow up,

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<v Speaker 2>And if you're just joining us, Gabe is on the

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<v Speaker 2>phone and we're about to call Harper who's ghosting him,

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<v Speaker 2>and see if she'll tell us why she's ghosting him

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<v Speaker 2>and maybe get him a second date. But first, hey,

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<v Speaker 2>why don't you refresh our memory in your situation real quick?

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<v Speaker 3>Yes, I went out on a day with this awesome person.

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<v Speaker 4>She's super cool, she's super sweet. I thought we vibed,

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<v Speaker 4>but I was late to the date like half an hour,

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<v Speaker 4>and I felt bad about that, and I felt like

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<v Speaker 4>I tried to make up for it, but we hung

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<v Speaker 4>out for a while and now she won't answer my text, so.

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<v Speaker 3>I don't know what's going on. Okay, were you ready?

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah?

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<v Speaker 3>All right, here we go.

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<v Speaker 4>Hello.

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<v Speaker 3>Hi, man speaking to Harper? Please?

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<v Speaker 1>Hi.

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<v Speaker 3>This is Harper. Hey, Harper, how are you? This is

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<v Speaker 3>a radio show. It's called The Jewbill Show. Hi, Harper.

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<v Speaker 3>I'm Nina. Hi, I'm Victorian and my name is Jubal.

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<v Speaker 3>How are you.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm good, I'm confused. Good.

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<v Speaker 3>Have you ever listened to The Jubel Show before?

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah?

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<v Speaker 3>Oh cool? And I'm like, I don't know what you

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<v Speaker 3>could be calling me for.

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<v Speaker 2>Well, we do a segment on the show called the

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<v Speaker 2>First Date follow Up, where if you go out with

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<v Speaker 2>somebody and then you end up ghosting them, that person

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<v Speaker 2>can email us.

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<v Speaker 3>Familiar with that, I've heard it?

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, oh yeah, So is there anybody you can think

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<v Speaker 2>of that would email us about you?

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<v Speaker 3>Unfortunately? Yeah? What's their name? Gabe?

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<v Speaker 7>Right?

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<v Speaker 2>Yes it is, Yeah, Gabe emailed us told us a

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<v Speaker 2>little bit about your date. And says that he's very confused.

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<v Speaker 2>He liked you a lot. I thought you guys had

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<v Speaker 2>a great time. Would you mind telling us why you're

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<v Speaker 2>ghosting him?

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<v Speaker 1>I mean, yeah, I ghosted him, like I don't want

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<v Speaker 1>to be rude, but like, honestly, I didn't know what

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<v Speaker 1>else to do, like this, the whole situation just seemed

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<v Speaker 1>really scammy scare me.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, I mean okay.

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<v Speaker 1>So first he showed up thirty minutes late, which like rude,

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<v Speaker 1>but I can deal with it.

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<v Speaker 3>I get it. I run late sometimes too, and like if.

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<v Speaker 4>The vibes are there, it's fine.

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<v Speaker 3>Whatever.

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<v Speaker 1>And so we were hanging out, and then we decided

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<v Speaker 1>to go play ping pong and then we get there,

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<v Speaker 1>Oh my goodness, surprise, he lost his wallet trying to

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<v Speaker 1>get to this day. I get.

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<v Speaker 3>I don't mind paying.

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<v Speaker 7>I just just be upfront about it, be like I

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<v Speaker 7>you know it.

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<v Speaker 1>Don't like make it like I lost it, like oh

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<v Speaker 1>I you know, like I'm was running late. I left

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<v Speaker 1>it behind and it mean too, or like just be

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<v Speaker 1>like can you pay?

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<v Speaker 3>You know, don't make a think about it.

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<v Speaker 1>And so fine, whatever, I paid for everything because you

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<v Speaker 1>have any money on him, which is not the deal breaker.

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<v Speaker 3>The deal breaker wise, I mean it could be, but yeah.

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<v Speaker 1>No, no, no, no, there's more. On the way out, we're

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<v Speaker 1>like saying goodbye, and then he's like, oh my.

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<v Speaker 3>Gosh, I don't how many groceries at home?

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<v Speaker 7>Can you? Can you be one hundred dollars?

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<v Speaker 3>What dollars for groceries?

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<v Speaker 1>And he was like, I gotta feed myself and my cat.

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<v Speaker 1>I didn't even know that he had a cat. First off,

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<v Speaker 1>didn't mention the cat the entire time we were together,

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<v Speaker 1>but also like, what what can I use from a

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<v Speaker 1>grocery store?

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<v Speaker 3>Like, you know, did you give him the money? Who

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<v Speaker 3>asks for that?

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<v Speaker 1>I didn't give him one hundred dollars, I'm not stupid.

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<v Speaker 1>But I also was like I need to get out

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<v Speaker 1>of the situation, and like he's not gonna let up.

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<v Speaker 1>So I was like, I don't have one hundred dollars,

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<v Speaker 1>but like I have fifty.

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<v Speaker 3>You gave him fifty.

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<v Speaker 7>I had to get away.

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<v Speaker 3>I had to get away.

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<v Speaker 4>Okay, what you guys do?

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<v Speaker 3>Oh wow?

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<v Speaker 1>On the way home, like I just kept from playing everything,

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<v Speaker 1>I was like, are you serious?

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<v Speaker 3>He's wait, he doesn't have his wallet.

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<v Speaker 1>He asks for money, Like now I'm an ATM for

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<v Speaker 1>a stranger in there.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah. I've been used a lot for money in relationships. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>and I've never had anybody just ask for it on

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<v Speaker 2>the first date. It's a long game, you know.

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<v Speaker 3>Then you realize, oh, they're just they're just here. Something

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<v Speaker 3>gets to help my cat. You can't get the groceries.

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<v Speaker 3>I'm like, no, wow, okay, well thank you for telling us.

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<v Speaker 3>I'm sorry. And I don't know if you forgot or not.

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<v Speaker 3>But Gabe is on the phone and wants to talk

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<v Speaker 3>to you.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh I would love to hear what he has to say.

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<v Speaker 4>A Harper I okay, so that all sounds bad, Like no, Harber, No,

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<v Speaker 4>I'm sorry, Okay, no, don't harper me. Like, come on,

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<v Speaker 4>I just told Harbor. I told you I'd pay you

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<v Speaker 4>back with interest. I was just I was like in

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<v Speaker 4>a pinch, and you were like this angel who shows

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<v Speaker 4>up at the right time. An angel?

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<v Speaker 7>Wow?

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<v Speaker 1>What a like what a beautiful, like literally sparkly way

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<v Speaker 1>to say manipulation?

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<v Speaker 4>Come on, No, I just needed help. I even borrowed

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<v Speaker 4>money from my neighbor after that. I swear it was

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<v Speaker 4>not a setup.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, here's the thing, Like you could have gone home

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<v Speaker 1>and gotten your wallet. You could have gone like you

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<v Speaker 1>could have used apple Hay, like there were other options

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<v Speaker 1>that you could have done other than asking a woman

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<v Speaker 1>that you literally just met, were money, Like come on, wow.

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<v Speaker 4>Harbor, I guess I just didn't realize you're so materialistic,

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<v Speaker 4>care so much about money.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't care about money, but I care about like

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<v Speaker 1>I don't respect and like basic human decency, like I know,

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<v Speaker 1>I don't.

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<v Speaker 3>Understand why that's so hard.

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<v Speaker 4>Doctor said, I would pay you back.

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<v Speaker 3>Isn't that decent?

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<v Speaker 1>I don't need you to pay me back. Actually, you

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<v Speaker 1>can keep the money.

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<v Speaker 2>I just want to make sure, Harper, would you like

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<v Speaker 2>another day with Gabe? We will pay for it.

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<v Speaker 1>You get no, no, no, save your money, Save your money.

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<v Speaker 1>You can keep the fifty dollars. It's a donation to

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<v Speaker 1>the chaos that you have going on.

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<v Speaker 3>Oh my god, we'll find my Harper.

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<v Speaker 1>To get out of having to deal with that again.

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<v Speaker 7>So it's wine, it's money. Well off, all right, Well

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<v Speaker 7>find Harper. I was going to pay you back to

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<v Speaker 7>Chicky Bucks, but you gave me. But good luck finding

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<v Speaker 7>you're mister rich man or whatever you're looking for.

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<v Speaker 4>OA like a bank account person.

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<v Speaker 3>Thank you. People that have money in it yeah. Yeah.

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<v Speaker 3>Jubile's First Date follow up