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Speaker 1: First Day to follow Up powered by the Advocates Injury

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Speaker 1: Attorneys online at Advocateslaw dot com.

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Speaker 2: Gabe is on the phone today for a first Day

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Speaker 2: follow up and he's getting ghosted by a woman named Harper.

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Speaker 2: So in a few minutes we'll call her and see

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Speaker 2: if she'll tell us why she's ghosting him and maybe

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Speaker 2: get him a second date. But first, Gabe, how long

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Speaker 2: has it been since you heard from.

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Speaker 3: Harper's been like a week. And I think I know

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Speaker 3: why I was ghosted. Oh really?

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Speaker 4: Oh sure?

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Speaker 2: Yeah, Well, tell us about the date first, and then

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Speaker 2: tell us why you think you're getting ghosted.

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Speaker 4: I mean, for well, first of all, it was late

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Speaker 4: to the date, so right there. Oh yeah, it was

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Speaker 4: like thirty minutes late, and I know that's bad. But

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Speaker 4: so I was helping my neighbor move a couch and

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Speaker 4: the whole morning just slipped away, like I just lost

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Speaker 4: a sense of my sense of time. But I texted her.

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Speaker 4: I told her what was going on, and I apologized.

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Speaker 4: And when I ran to get there, like as soon

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Speaker 4: as I realized what the.

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Speaker 3: Time was, So okay, did she wait for you? Yeah?

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Speaker 3: She waited, which I did not expect.

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Speaker 4: I don't know if I would have done that half hour.

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Speaker 3: Yeah. But okay, so you're trying to make up for

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Speaker 3: being late, and she waited for you.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, she waited and she stayed and we had uh

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Speaker 4: so the day was we had we had coffee, this

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Speaker 4: cute little spot, and then after that she says, you

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Speaker 4: wanted to hit up this ping.

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Speaker 3: Pong bar nearby?

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Speaker 4: Yeah, and she's so into ping pong, Like I didn't

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Speaker 4: even know that was a thing. I think I had

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Speaker 4: never heard of ping pong bar. Like, she lit up

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Speaker 4: when we got there. We played a few games and

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Speaker 4: we got some prize, and honestly, I thought we were vibing,

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Speaker 3: She was.

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Speaker 4: She was so cute, she was trash talking.

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Speaker 3: It was really really cute.

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Speaker 4: She was cool. She's really cool, And I was trying

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Speaker 4: to redeem myself for being late, you know, like trying

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Speaker 4: to make up for it, right, I thought I did.

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Speaker 4: I don't know, though, because now she's not answer me,

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Speaker 4: and I can't stop thinking about her, because it's like

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Speaker 4: it's rare that I meet someone like her, Like she

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Speaker 4: has this great energy, she's smart. She didn't make me

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Speaker 4: feel like I had to be anything. I'm not, like

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Speaker 4: I was just who I was, which is so comfortable as.

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Speaker 3: Being late the reason you think you're getting ghosted.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, I did I just blow it beyond repair? Or

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Speaker 5: maybe she's just busy, Like I don't like, I was

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Speaker 5: helping my friend and I just lost track of time.

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Speaker 5: That's kind of careless. But I felt like I explained

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Speaker 5: it all well.

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Speaker 6: So then what else happened? So you guys played ping pong? Like,

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Speaker 6: did you guys kiss? Did you guys decide that you're

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Speaker 6: going to have another date?

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Speaker 4: No, was sort of just like talk to you soon?

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Speaker 2: Like did it end like you thought maybe she was

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Speaker 2: like upset or didn't really have a good time.

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Speaker 4: No, I don't. I didn't think she was upset. Like

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Speaker 4: if she did, it wasn't into me.

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Speaker 3: Why or did we go to the ping.

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Speaker 4: Pong bar and like we hung out there for a while.

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Speaker 6: I mean, unless you just used her to take her

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Speaker 6: to a ping pong bar. She really likes ping pong. Hey,

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Speaker 6: this guy doesn't know how to be on time, but

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Speaker 6: I'm gonna get some ping pong out of it.

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Speaker 4: Maybe maybe I didn't say that, though I don't know.

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Speaker 4: I just do not like even if I don't know,

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Speaker 4: it's been maybe she's busy, but that's also why I'm

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Speaker 4: calling you, guys, like, I just want to know because

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Speaker 4: it's it's the hard part about being ghosted is but

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Speaker 6: But did you reach out to her then, so like

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Speaker 6: this is an obvious ghosting? Or was the last time

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Speaker 4: That's the last time I talked to her was on

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Speaker 4: the date. Okay, it's been over a week, just over

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Speaker 4: and the last time I texted was yesterday.

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Speaker 3: Well, we'll see if we can figure it out for you.

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Speaker 2: Okay, thank you, play a song, come back, and then

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Speaker 2: call her and see if she'll tell us why she's

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Speaker 3: And maybe get you a second date. Thank you?

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Speaker 2: All right, we'll get your first day follow up next.

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Speaker 2: Right in the middle of today's first date follow up,

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Speaker 2: And if you're just joining us, Gabe is on the

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Speaker 2: phone and we're about to call Harper who's ghosting him,

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Speaker 2: and see if she'll tell us why she's ghosting him

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Speaker 2: and maybe get him a second date. But first, hey,

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Speaker 2: why don't you refresh our memory in your situation real quick?

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Speaker 3: Yes, I went out on a day with this awesome person.

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Speaker 4: She's super cool, she's super sweet. I thought we vibed,

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Speaker 4: but I was late to the date like half an hour,

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Speaker 4: and I felt bad about that, and I felt like

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Speaker 4: I tried to make up for it, but we hung

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Speaker 4: out for a while and now she won't answer my text, so.

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Speaker 3: I don't know what's going on. Okay, were you ready?

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Speaker 4: Yeah?

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Speaker 3: All right, here we go.

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Speaker 4: Hello.

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Speaker 3: Hi, man speaking to Harper? Please?

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Speaker 1: Hi.

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Speaker 3: This is Harper. Hey, Harper, how are you? This is

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Speaker 3: a radio show. It's called The Jewbill Show. Hi, Harper.

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Speaker 3: I'm Nina. Hi, I'm Victorian and my name is Jubal.

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Speaker 3: How are you.

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Speaker 1: I'm good, I'm confused. Good.

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Speaker 3: Have you ever listened to The Jubel Show before?

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Speaker 4: Yeah?

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Speaker 3: Oh cool? And I'm like, I don't know what you

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Speaker 3: could be calling me for.

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Speaker 2: Well, we do a segment on the show called the

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Speaker 2: First Date follow Up, where if you go out with

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Speaker 2: somebody and then you end up ghosting them, that person

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Speaker 2: can email us.

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Speaker 3: Familiar with that, I've heard it?

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Speaker 2: Yeah, oh yeah, So is there anybody you can think

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Speaker 2: of that would email us about you?

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Speaker 3: Unfortunately? Yeah? What's their name? Gabe?

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Speaker 7: Right?

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Speaker 2: Yes it is, Yeah, Gabe emailed us told us a

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Speaker 2: little bit about your date. And says that he's very confused.

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Speaker 2: He liked you a lot. I thought you guys had

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Speaker 2: a great time. Would you mind telling us why you're

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Speaker 2: ghosting him?

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Speaker 1: I mean, yeah, I ghosted him, like I don't want

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Speaker 1: to be rude, but like, honestly, I didn't know what

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Speaker 1: else to do, like this, the whole situation just seemed

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Speaker 1: really scammy scare me.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I mean okay.

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Speaker 1: So first he showed up thirty minutes late, which like rude,

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Speaker 1: but I can deal with it.

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Speaker 3: I get it. I run late sometimes too, and like if.

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Speaker 4: The vibes are there, it's fine.

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Speaker 3: Whatever.

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Speaker 1: And so we were hanging out, and then we decided

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Speaker 1: to go play ping pong and then we get there,

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Speaker 1: Oh my goodness, surprise, he lost his wallet trying to

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Speaker 1: get to this day. I get.

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Speaker 3: I don't mind paying.

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Speaker 7: I just just be upfront about it, be like I

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Speaker 7: you know it.

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Speaker 1: Don't like make it like I lost it, like oh

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Speaker 1: I you know, like I'm was running late. I left

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Speaker 1: it behind and it mean too, or like just be

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Speaker 1: like can you pay?

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Speaker 3: You know, don't make a think about it.

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Speaker 1: And so fine, whatever, I paid for everything because you

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Speaker 1: have any money on him, which is not the deal breaker.

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Speaker 3: The deal breaker wise, I mean it could be, but yeah.

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Speaker 1: No, no, no, no, there's more. On the way out, we're

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Speaker 1: like saying goodbye, and then he's like, oh my.

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Speaker 3: Gosh, I don't how many groceries at home?

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Speaker 7: Can you? Can you be one hundred dollars?

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Speaker 3: What dollars for groceries?

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Speaker 1: And he was like, I gotta feed myself and my cat.

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Speaker 1: I didn't even know that he had a cat. First off,

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Speaker 3: Like, you know, did you give him the money? Who

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Speaker 1: I didn't give him one hundred dollars, I'm not stupid.

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Speaker 1: But I also was like I need to get out

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Speaker 1: So I was like, I don't have one hundred dollars,

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Speaker 1: but like I have fifty.

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Speaker 3: You gave him fifty.

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Speaker 7: I had to get away.

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Speaker 3: I had to get away.

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Speaker 4: Okay, what you guys do?

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Speaker 3: Oh wow?

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Speaker 1: On the way home, like I just kept from playing everything,

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Speaker 3: He's wait, he doesn't have his wallet.

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Speaker 1: He asks for money, Like now I'm an ATM for

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Speaker 1: a stranger in there.

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Speaker 2: Yeah. I've been used a lot for money in relationships. Yeah,

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Speaker 2: and I've never had anybody just ask for it on

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Speaker 3: Then you realize, oh, they're just they're just here. Something

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Speaker 3: I'm like, no, wow, okay, well thank you for telling us.

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Speaker 3: I'm sorry. And I don't know if you forgot or not.

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Speaker 3: But Gabe is on the phone and wants to talk

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Speaker 3: to you.

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Speaker 1: Oh I would love to hear what he has to say.

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Speaker 4: A Harper I okay, so that all sounds bad, Like no, Harber, No,

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Speaker 4: I'm sorry, Okay, no, don't harper me. Like, come on,

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Speaker 4: I just told Harbor. I told you I'd pay you

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Speaker 4: back with interest. I was just I was like in

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Speaker 4: a pinch, and you were like this angel who shows

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Speaker 4: up at the right time. An angel?

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Speaker 7: Wow?

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Speaker 1: What a like what a beautiful, like literally sparkly way

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Speaker 1: to say manipulation?

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Speaker 4: Come on, No, I just needed help. I even borrowed

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Speaker 4: money from my neighbor after that. I swear it was

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Speaker 4: not a setup.

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Speaker 1: Okay, here's the thing, Like you could have gone home

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Speaker 1: and gotten your wallet. You could have gone like you

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Speaker 1: could have used apple Hay, like there were other options

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Speaker 1: that you could have done other than asking a woman

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Speaker 1: that you literally just met, were money, Like come on, wow.

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Speaker 4: Harbor, I guess I just didn't realize you're so materialistic,

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Speaker 4: care so much about money.

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Speaker 1: I don't care about money, but I care about like

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Speaker 1: I don't respect and like basic human decency, like I know,

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Speaker 1: I don't.

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Speaker 3: Understand why that's so hard.

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Speaker 4: Doctor said, I would pay you back.

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Speaker 3: Isn't that decent?

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Speaker 1: I don't need you to pay me back. Actually, you

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Speaker 1: can keep the money.

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Speaker 2: I just want to make sure, Harper, would you like

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Speaker 2: another day with Gabe? We will pay for it.

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Speaker 1: You get no, no, no, save your money, Save your money.

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Speaker 1: You can keep the fifty dollars. It's a donation to

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Speaker 1: the chaos that you have going on.

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Speaker 3: Oh my god, we'll find my Harper.

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Speaker 1: To get out of having to deal with that again.

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Speaker 7: So it's wine, it's money. Well off, all right, Well

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Speaker 7: find Harper. I was going to pay you back to

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Speaker 7: Chicky Bucks, but you gave me. But good luck finding

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Speaker 7: you're mister rich man or whatever you're looking for.

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Speaker 4: OA like a bank account person.

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Speaker 3: Thank you. People that have money in it yeah. Yeah.

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Speaker 3: Jubile's First Date follow up