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Speaker 1: are we starting? Okay? Static with what the microphone? Yeah,

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Speaker 1: he ain't got static from the south. What's going on?

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Speaker 1: We don't say that. I didn't static day he was

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Speaker 1: the Rappers. It was on that song. Y'all remember static? Yet?

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Speaker 1: I think Satic was on Lollipop? Can we just go

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Speaker 1: back to what the your problem is? What's your problem with?

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Speaker 1: You got to be for us? Yeah?

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Speaker 2: So my problem is y'all said, I look like I

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Speaker 1: And you agree with it?

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Speaker 2: What somebody give thee yes?

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Speaker 1: If you was a little taller, you would be my man,

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Speaker 1: what are you talking about? I would never say you smell?

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Speaker 2: You literally started it off saying like he's the one

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Speaker 1: You do all the positive? Should I be preaching?

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Speaker 3: I definitely said that because I can feel like I

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Speaker 1: That now, bro, I'd be preaching positive. Show Booth doesn't

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Speaker 1: do that at all. No, he doesn't smell, but you

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Speaker 3: Okay, let me just say it like this, that's crazy handsome.

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Speaker 3: You're handsome. But the way that you talk and the

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Speaker 3: and aluminum is what we need to stay fro And

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Speaker 3: I feel like, if Doctor Browner's runs out in your house,

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Speaker 1: I feel like you would. You know what I'm.

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Speaker 4: Taking that might be too processed for one one. Nobody

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Speaker 1: Okay if I can clean my floors with it. Not

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Speaker 4: I don't think anybody should be bathing with something that

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Speaker 3: I do like Doctor Berner's, but it got in my

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Speaker 4: Membermint when you got to keep that shit away, Yeah,

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Speaker 3: It just literally came down from anyway. So what's the problem.

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Speaker 3: You feel like you look like you smell grape.

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Speaker 2: I feel like I look like, yeah, what you mean?

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Speaker 2: Absolutely absolutely, I look like I look like what I love.

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Speaker 1: Well, I don't like this. You're a bunch of men.

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Speaker 1: I would never say anything. You will agree with her

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Speaker 2: It was like he does, he does, he does, and

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Speaker 1: He was looking down. I'll who the said?

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Speaker 5: You?

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Speaker 1: This him? My friend? Why would you see here?

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Speaker 4: Calls beef the turmoil amongst the see this is what

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Speaker 1: Now and we don't have it's not gonna be ready,

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Speaker 3: And they're gonna say tonight Eden. They hired him cause

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Speaker 4: That's fine, Just so you know, that's a that's a

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Speaker 4: We're just not gonna give them any fun hell one,

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Speaker 1: All of them are bad, but that one particularly, oh.

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Speaker 3: Any all of them think I'm ugly with big teeth,

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Speaker 1: All of them think I'm ugly period.

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Speaker 4: Y'all, welcome to another episode of horrible fucking Decisions.

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Speaker 1: I'm your girl, Mandy b a k A.

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Speaker 4: Peg Bundy aka Peg Marcle aka Peg Motherfucker Stallion aka

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Speaker 1: If you too, I'm.

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Speaker 1: Actually, my man brought it up.

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Speaker 3: He was like, bro, it's kind of funny that Mandy

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Speaker 1: All are really Oh, I ain't gonna hold a different tooth.

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Speaker 4: I think you're gonna have the same struggle as me

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Speaker 1: Well, I'm looking forward to racist.

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Speaker 3: I feel like I'm gonna make them look cool. But

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Speaker 3: Race is gonna look cool. Also, they have gold braces.

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Speaker 3: I was like, oh, it's gonna be like a grill bitch.

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Speaker 3: They made a bracket to show me what it looks like.

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Speaker 3: My teeth looked yellow with gold and don't do that.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, basically I'm just getting plain silver, no colors, no

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Speaker 1: But what would it matter if they're outside?

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Speaker 4: I mean to me eight pubes again. But also I

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Speaker 1: I don't need you to not be on my team

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Speaker 3: I don't know, but I had a whole crying fit

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Speaker 1: I was like, I can't suck you dick anymore. He

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Speaker 3: But he encouraged me to get the braces because he

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Speaker 4: I'm I'm a part of investing in building with the

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Speaker 3: this episode. Well, I don't know if you plan on

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Speaker 5: Is he a good provider yes? Does he take good

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Speaker 1: I do believe this.

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Speaker 3: If I didn't believe this, I couldn't do this show

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Speaker 1: As a true believer of this.

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Speaker 3: Now being that person, I can still watch that doctor

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Speaker 1: She's fucking losing her mind. Now.

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Speaker 3: On the other end, I'm sitting there like damn bitch

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Speaker 3: Am I to tell you your man didn't deceive you,

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Speaker 4: And that's kind of what doctor Umar was leading into.

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Speaker 4: Desperation, and that's what I think a lot of people

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Speaker 3: Dialogue with my homegirl that's monogamous and we done with

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Speaker 4: I have friends right now that are heterosexual monogamous women.

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Speaker 3: Such toxicity is something that makes us feel value, right.

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Speaker 4: Y'all make y'all feel value, not me. Don't bring that

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Speaker 1: Not to call you out, but I believe that the

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Speaker 4: If you are watching all you bitch on, h tell me,

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Speaker 1: Well, no, we don't know. You think you don't like it.

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00:20:19,359 --> 00:20:20,240
Speaker 1: But you're responding.

437
00:20:20,359 --> 00:20:25,040
Speaker 4: We have not had the actual episode around the psychological

438
00:20:25,040 --> 00:20:28,119
Speaker 4: abuse of a narcissist. That was a part of the

439
00:20:28,160 --> 00:20:30,920
Speaker 4: dopamine that I wanted from the highs. I just wanted

440
00:20:30,960 --> 00:20:32,880
Speaker 4: to keep feeling that. But let's be very clear too,

441
00:20:33,240 --> 00:20:36,479
Speaker 4: in that moment, with it being my first relationship, I

442
00:20:36,640 --> 00:20:40,280
Speaker 4: also felt like going back. Like I thought love was hard,

443
00:20:40,400 --> 00:20:43,159
Speaker 4: relationships are hard work. I can't give up on this,

444
00:20:43,440 --> 00:20:46,680
Speaker 4: like that's when the he got the maddest when I

445
00:20:46,840 --> 00:20:48,920
Speaker 4: gave up and didn't want to fight over him anymore.

446
00:20:48,920 --> 00:20:52,000
Speaker 1: Like to me, that's in within. I didn't want that.

447
00:20:52,640 --> 00:20:55,520
Speaker 1: I absolutely I feel like a true rejection of it, though,

448
00:20:55,600 --> 00:20:58,240
Speaker 1: isn't it so to me? I finally walked aways, but

449
00:20:58,320 --> 00:20:59,680
Speaker 1: I did not want that. Let's be very clear.

450
00:21:00,000 --> 00:21:02,480
Speaker 3: I want it, but I was responding to it by

451
00:21:02,520 --> 00:21:05,240
Speaker 3: going back. I mean, but that means we people are

452
00:21:05,840 --> 00:21:08,760
Speaker 3: So maybe then the thing is not Maybe nobody likes

453
00:21:08,840 --> 00:21:10,520
Speaker 3: toxic relations toxic relationships.

454
00:21:10,520 --> 00:21:11,280
Speaker 1: Maybe they don't like it.

455
00:21:11,720 --> 00:21:16,719
Speaker 4: But the balloon shit niggas go on there and literally say, oh, no,

456
00:21:16,760 --> 00:21:18,320
Speaker 4: I need a bitch to argue with me a little

457
00:21:18,359 --> 00:21:20,520
Speaker 4: bit like I'm not arguing with nobody.

458
00:21:20,520 --> 00:21:21,840
Speaker 1: I'm not raising my voice me.

459
00:21:22,119 --> 00:21:24,600
Speaker 3: Like when not even toxic shit though, makes people feel

460
00:21:24,640 --> 00:21:27,359
Speaker 3: like they have something that's worthwhile.

461
00:21:26,880 --> 00:21:29,880
Speaker 4: And get I get that being maybe the majority sentiment

462
00:21:30,080 --> 00:21:32,440
Speaker 4: I'm saying, I don't want to argue with a man

463
00:21:32,640 --> 00:21:34,680
Speaker 4: as much as like we can get on this pod,

464
00:21:34,720 --> 00:21:36,560
Speaker 4: I can get in front of any camera and debate

465
00:21:36,600 --> 00:21:39,840
Speaker 4: people in my personal relationships, A nigga not gonna raise

466
00:21:39,880 --> 00:21:42,040
Speaker 4: his voice in me. I have not been in a

467
00:21:42,040 --> 00:21:44,439
Speaker 4: position where niggas ever laid his hands on me. I

468
00:21:44,480 --> 00:21:47,720
Speaker 4: am not in a position where if it gets to talk,

469
00:21:47,880 --> 00:21:50,520
Speaker 4: you can go like you can leave or all all

470
00:21:51,480 --> 00:21:54,520
Speaker 4: all exit, all stop the conversation. I'm not into doing

471
00:21:54,600 --> 00:21:55,920
Speaker 4: that with any lover of mine.

472
00:21:56,400 --> 00:21:57,480
Speaker 1: I hate arguing too.

473
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Speaker 3: And my last relationship wasn't necessarily very like intense verbal

474
00:22:02,760 --> 00:22:05,080
Speaker 3: like bashing or anything, but it was a lot of

475
00:22:05,160 --> 00:22:07,760
Speaker 3: up down, up down. To me, that's toxic, and for

476
00:22:07,800 --> 00:22:10,400
Speaker 3: some reason the high and low of it going back

477
00:22:10,480 --> 00:22:12,280
Speaker 3: felt good made me feel better.

478
00:22:12,280 --> 00:22:14,119
Speaker 4: But it ain't made me feel good. I'm gonna tell

479
00:22:14,119 --> 00:22:17,840
Speaker 4: you now them narcissists. I can't wait to really dig

480
00:22:17,960 --> 00:22:21,399
Speaker 4: into that. I think I'm still understanding like like you

481
00:22:21,440 --> 00:22:24,320
Speaker 4: guys heard like and it's funny because a lot of

482
00:22:24,400 --> 00:22:26,440
Speaker 4: y'all in the comments. When I talked about finally seeing

483
00:22:26,480 --> 00:22:30,000
Speaker 4: him a year later, y'all were like, ooh, uh, you're

484
00:22:30,040 --> 00:22:33,280
Speaker 4: still unhealed or ooh, you still are dealing with trauma.

485
00:22:33,359 --> 00:22:36,360
Speaker 4: Bro That relationship was traumatic. I would absolutely never get

486
00:22:36,359 --> 00:22:40,080
Speaker 4: myself back into a relationship like that again. The signs

487
00:22:40,119 --> 00:22:43,119
Speaker 4: of literally me not even wanting to confront him because

488
00:22:43,480 --> 00:22:45,560
Speaker 4: I told you of the thirteen times that we broke up,

489
00:22:45,880 --> 00:22:47,879
Speaker 4: he broke up with me eleven of those, but they

490
00:22:47,920 --> 00:22:50,640
Speaker 4: weren't even breakups, they were, oh, bit, you gonna question

491
00:22:50,720 --> 00:22:52,359
Speaker 4: me about what I'm doing. I don't like to be

492
00:22:52,440 --> 00:22:55,560
Speaker 4: questioned about my behavior. So I'm gonna put you on

493
00:22:55,600 --> 00:22:57,600
Speaker 4: ice and I'm gonna give you the silent treatment, and

494
00:22:57,600 --> 00:23:00,959
Speaker 4: now we're broken up, like I'd never had any control

495
00:23:00,960 --> 00:23:02,880
Speaker 4: over that. And it was just like, damn, I can't

496
00:23:02,960 --> 00:23:05,400
Speaker 4: tell you when you hurt me. I can't tell you

497
00:23:05,760 --> 00:23:08,359
Speaker 4: when your behavior is crazy, or I'm catching you in

498
00:23:08,400 --> 00:23:10,880
Speaker 4: a lie and I'm telling you I know that you're lying,

499
00:23:11,400 --> 00:23:15,960
Speaker 4: And instead of holding yourself accountable or even apologizing, you're like, oh, yeah,

500
00:23:15,960 --> 00:23:17,320
Speaker 4: I'm not doing this because you're not gonna tell me

501
00:23:17,400 --> 00:23:19,520
Speaker 4: I'm a bad person. This isn't working, and he would

502
00:23:19,520 --> 00:23:21,920
Speaker 4: break up with me every time. That was not at

503
00:23:21,960 --> 00:23:24,639
Speaker 4: all what I would So towards the end, I stopped

504
00:23:24,680 --> 00:23:27,280
Speaker 4: even bringing up the things that didn't make sense, like

505
00:23:27,320 --> 00:23:30,680
Speaker 4: bitch you and Panama pursuits. You don't have a fucking job,

506
00:23:31,000 --> 00:23:33,440
Speaker 4: you have a fucking funeral to go to every other week.

507
00:23:33,720 --> 00:23:36,399
Speaker 4: Ain't as many people dying in New York, nigga like,

508
00:23:36,800 --> 00:23:40,000
Speaker 4: and so instead of questioning him on that behavior, because

509
00:23:40,040 --> 00:23:43,560
Speaker 4: I just wanted to enjoy the happiness of our relationship,

510
00:23:43,960 --> 00:23:46,560
Speaker 4: I even stopped questioning him because if I questioned him,

511
00:23:46,600 --> 00:23:47,200
Speaker 4: he's gonna leave.

512
00:23:47,800 --> 00:23:50,520
Speaker 1: Like that didn't feel good to me, but I did.

513
00:23:50,600 --> 00:23:52,000
Speaker 1: I just enjoyed the highes of it.

514
00:23:52,040 --> 00:23:55,520
Speaker 4: But there was absolutely a psychological abuse that was happening

515
00:23:55,560 --> 00:23:58,439
Speaker 4: that when we talk about abuse in our relationship, we

516
00:23:58,480 --> 00:24:01,320
Speaker 4: don't talk about the psychological. We talk about emotional, we

517
00:24:01,359 --> 00:24:04,359
Speaker 4: talk about physical, we talk about sexual. That nigga was

518
00:24:04,480 --> 00:24:07,280
Speaker 4: fucking with my goddamn head, and like, that's why it

519
00:24:07,280 --> 00:24:09,399
Speaker 4: took me a year Bro, the fact that I couldn't

520
00:24:09,440 --> 00:24:11,440
Speaker 4: be touched by a nigga after him. I know, y'all

521
00:24:11,480 --> 00:24:14,679
Speaker 4: was making jokes of like my celibacy after Bro I

522
00:24:14,800 --> 00:24:18,600
Speaker 4: cried with three different niggas, like bro. I was with

523
00:24:18,640 --> 00:24:22,240
Speaker 4: Green Eyes in Atlanta shortly after, and I was on

524
00:24:22,280 --> 00:24:25,040
Speaker 4: my phone talking to like my agent. He was pumping

525
00:24:25,119 --> 00:24:26,720
Speaker 4: gas and he comes in the car and I put

526
00:24:26,760 --> 00:24:28,680
Speaker 4: it down and I'm like, I'm sorry, I'm texting my agent.

527
00:24:28,800 --> 00:24:30,480
Speaker 1: He was like, but you could be on your phone.

528
00:24:30,560 --> 00:24:33,040
Speaker 4: I didn't even realize like what he had done to me,

529
00:24:33,320 --> 00:24:36,000
Speaker 4: so like, nah, that wasn't anything that I would have

530
00:24:36,320 --> 00:24:39,199
Speaker 4: wanted to say in It was my first relationship, and

531
00:24:39,280 --> 00:24:42,600
Speaker 4: I was weak. I was not strong enough to feel

532
00:24:42,720 --> 00:24:45,240
Speaker 4: better about myself to leave that situation. Because he did

533
00:24:45,240 --> 00:24:47,080
Speaker 4: make me feel good and it felt good to finally

534
00:24:47,160 --> 00:24:49,440
Speaker 4: have a boyfriend, but it was fucking embarrassing and I

535
00:24:49,480 --> 00:24:51,840
Speaker 4: would never put myself in that type of relationships ever.

536
00:24:51,920 --> 00:24:54,400
Speaker 1: I don't blame ever again women when or.

537
00:24:54,440 --> 00:24:57,040
Speaker 3: And it's weird because like, you can't really shame women

538
00:24:57,080 --> 00:25:00,240
Speaker 3: when they want a relationship that bad, cause it does

539
00:25:00,320 --> 00:25:04,320
Speaker 3: feel good that not that someone shows you, right. I

540
00:25:04,320 --> 00:25:08,280
Speaker 3: actually think it's a different thing. We date so much,

541
00:25:08,760 --> 00:25:11,720
Speaker 3: everyone's so bad that when there's one that kind of

542
00:25:11,760 --> 00:25:15,040
Speaker 3: works out, you're like, ooh, finally, I don't even really

543
00:25:15,080 --> 00:25:17,680
Speaker 3: know if you are excited that you feel like you've

544
00:25:17,720 --> 00:25:20,399
Speaker 3: gotten chose. It's just kind of like, damn, I've been

545
00:25:20,400 --> 00:25:23,479
Speaker 3: playing this game so long and it's finally like, all right,

546
00:25:23,640 --> 00:25:25,600
Speaker 3: found someone that wants to be on the same type

547
00:25:25,600 --> 00:25:27,720
Speaker 3: of page. I really don't know if women are there,

548
00:25:27,720 --> 00:25:30,440
Speaker 3: like I got him and you didn't. I think it's

549
00:25:30,520 --> 00:25:33,240
Speaker 3: just like, oh, I feel relieved. I think that's my

550
00:25:33,359 --> 00:25:35,520
Speaker 3: different I see it's not always this thing of like

551
00:25:35,560 --> 00:25:36,960
Speaker 3: a woman is feeling that much.

552
00:25:36,880 --> 00:25:39,359
Speaker 1: Value more than they know they could just stop dating.

553
00:25:39,680 --> 00:25:41,680
Speaker 1: Dating is you know what's crazy?

554
00:25:41,800 --> 00:25:44,440
Speaker 4: So I feel the opposite right now, and that's we're

555
00:25:44,440 --> 00:25:47,439
Speaker 4: gonna get into the topic. So when you talked about

556
00:25:47,680 --> 00:25:50,760
Speaker 4: meeting that couple on the app and having the foursome,

557
00:25:51,680 --> 00:25:55,359
Speaker 4: a part of me with even having that conversation with

558
00:25:55,440 --> 00:25:58,959
Speaker 4: Jozzie and her saying I wasn't really gay, and you

559
00:25:58,960 --> 00:26:01,680
Speaker 4: know the fact that I really I was just head

560
00:26:01,680 --> 00:26:03,960
Speaker 4: a romantic bisexual.

561
00:26:04,640 --> 00:26:07,480
Speaker 1: I was heavily I joined.

562
00:26:07,200 --> 00:26:08,840
Speaker 4: The app to see if I can meet a couple,

563
00:26:09,080 --> 00:26:11,679
Speaker 4: especially because your couple was fine. I said, bitch, there

564
00:26:11,680 --> 00:26:14,679
Speaker 4: ain't fine couples out here looking for other people I am.

565
00:26:14,760 --> 00:26:19,199
Speaker 4: And so luckily Wezi didn't see the couple already I

566
00:26:19,280 --> 00:26:21,560
Speaker 4: was in the group chats and sent her the date

567
00:26:21,720 --> 00:26:25,399
Speaker 4: with me and them to Vinnie and all that. So

568
00:26:25,440 --> 00:26:29,040
Speaker 4: I get on this app and uh, it's you know what,

569
00:26:29,080 --> 00:26:30,240
Speaker 4: we ain't even gonna do vanilla shit.

570
00:26:30,280 --> 00:26:31,160
Speaker 1: We'll talk about that different.

571
00:26:31,160 --> 00:26:33,119
Speaker 4: Basically, I was gonna talk about the different ways to

572
00:26:33,160 --> 00:26:36,040
Speaker 4: meet couples, but I ended up getting into my throuttle.

573
00:26:36,160 --> 00:26:39,760
Speaker 4: I met them on field, and to me, I was

574
00:26:39,840 --> 00:26:45,720
Speaker 4: actively looking for people that were not only in kink

575
00:26:45,760 --> 00:26:48,679
Speaker 4: but in lifestyle. I loved that they put if they

576
00:26:48,680 --> 00:26:54,520
Speaker 4: were done the capital K. Yeah, so capit house. So

577
00:26:54,640 --> 00:26:57,199
Speaker 4: I met this couple. I ended up meeting a matching

578
00:26:57,280 --> 00:27:00,600
Speaker 4: with the guy, and of course she was tied to

579
00:27:00,720 --> 00:27:04,320
Speaker 4: the profile as well, so they both were like really

580
00:27:04,400 --> 00:27:06,720
Speaker 4: fucking good looking. And I was like, oh, so me

581
00:27:06,760 --> 00:27:08,600
Speaker 4: and him talked for about a week because when we matched,

582
00:27:08,640 --> 00:27:10,800
Speaker 4: I was in the d R, so I wasn't or

583
00:27:10,840 --> 00:27:12,679
Speaker 4: I was just about to leave the d R, and

584
00:27:12,760 --> 00:27:15,320
Speaker 4: so we kept talking even while I leave left to

585
00:27:15,359 --> 00:27:20,719
Speaker 4: the DR and was taking off all the boxes. I

586
00:27:20,760 --> 00:27:23,359
Speaker 4: was like, just so you know, I'm dumb, like and

587
00:27:23,440 --> 00:27:25,720
Speaker 4: I see that you're in a d d LG DDLG.

588
00:27:25,840 --> 00:27:27,800
Speaker 1: For those of you who do not know? Is daddy

589
00:27:27,840 --> 00:27:31,200
Speaker 1: dom little girl dynamic? And so his woman was very

590
00:27:31,240 --> 00:27:34,320
Speaker 1: sub He's a black guy, she's Asian.

591
00:27:34,760 --> 00:27:37,800
Speaker 4: I was already coming in with the stereotypes like, I

592
00:27:37,840 --> 00:27:40,320
Speaker 4: don't know how I'm fit the motherfucking mat I don't care.

593
00:27:40,680 --> 00:27:41,600
Speaker 1: There's a stereotypes.

594
00:27:45,640 --> 00:27:50,080
Speaker 4: So so basically we get into the app and.

595
00:27:51,600 --> 00:27:55,240
Speaker 1: He immediately puts us in a three way. Uh you

596
00:27:55,280 --> 00:27:56,880
Speaker 1: want to go ahead? Oh? Look, she's like, bitch, bring

597
00:27:56,960 --> 00:28:00,520
Speaker 1: my car free. God. So I liked it.

598
00:28:00,560 --> 00:28:03,120
Speaker 4: I think meeting on the app allowed us to kind

599
00:28:03,160 --> 00:28:07,960
Speaker 4: of talk explicitly about what we wanted, and that's another reason.

600
00:28:07,720 --> 00:28:08,919
Speaker 1: Why I matched him.

601
00:28:09,040 --> 00:28:12,760
Speaker 4: So on his page he said not looking for ons os,

602
00:28:12,840 --> 00:28:13,800
Speaker 4: y'all is one nice stand.

603
00:28:14,359 --> 00:28:17,640
Speaker 1: He said, not looking for ons and looking for a girlfriend. Oh,

604
00:28:17,920 --> 00:28:20,840
Speaker 1: let's you wanted to say unicorn girlfriend. Let's get into that. Yes,

605
00:28:21,200 --> 00:28:22,560
Speaker 1: Oh I talked about that.

606
00:28:22,640 --> 00:28:27,320
Speaker 3: No, No, we said we were going to So a unicorn, specifically,

607
00:28:27,440 --> 00:28:31,679
Speaker 3: by definition, is a single woman looking to join a

608
00:28:31,680 --> 00:28:33,399
Speaker 3: couple just for sex.

609
00:28:33,720 --> 00:28:33,920
Speaker 1: Yeah.

610
00:28:33,920 --> 00:28:37,639
Speaker 3: The word throuple has become a phenomenon because it's really

611
00:28:38,200 --> 00:28:39,040
Speaker 3: a couple that.

612
00:28:38,880 --> 00:28:41,960
Speaker 1: Brings us all want to grow with both people, that.

613
00:28:41,960 --> 00:28:45,440
Speaker 3: Brings them in to join in in their dynamic and union. Now,

614
00:28:46,240 --> 00:28:48,280
Speaker 3: I would say in the case that you were talking,

615
00:28:48,320 --> 00:28:50,840
Speaker 3: so you asked about my thropple earlier, Yeah, mine was

616
00:28:50,960 --> 00:28:56,200
Speaker 3: definitely like everybody is together, right, we were really sharing

617
00:28:56,360 --> 00:28:57,080
Speaker 3: every day?

618
00:28:57,360 --> 00:29:00,760
Speaker 1: Were they allowed to see each other with what? Yes?

619
00:29:00,880 --> 00:29:04,280
Speaker 3: Yes, yes, So that's my point, right, thanks Dave. So

620
00:29:04,440 --> 00:29:08,440
Speaker 3: basically in my throttle free Palestine.

621
00:29:07,920 --> 00:29:10,320
Speaker 1: Yeah, because it's not the choice. We want to make sure.

622
00:29:11,000 --> 00:29:13,680
Speaker 4: I mean, these niggas, we know who they support. Bitch,

623
00:29:13,800 --> 00:29:14,680
Speaker 4: but I'm gonna be honest.

624
00:29:14,760 --> 00:29:17,719
Speaker 3: Maybe if I find out Zaara is pro Israel too,

625
00:29:17,720 --> 00:29:18,520
Speaker 3: I'm gonna be fucked.

626
00:29:18,640 --> 00:29:21,959
Speaker 4: Oh I'm not. I mean, I'm a hypocrite. I'm bisexual

627
00:29:22,000 --> 00:29:23,120
Speaker 4: and fucking eat Chick fil A.

628
00:29:23,240 --> 00:29:26,080
Speaker 1: I don't know what to tell you. I'm a part

629
00:29:26,120 --> 00:29:26,720
Speaker 1: of the alphabelt.

630
00:29:26,840 --> 00:29:29,239
Speaker 3: The day that they listened the companies, I was like,

631
00:29:29,280 --> 00:29:30,800
Speaker 3: I'm gonna act like I see Starbucks.

632
00:29:32,400 --> 00:29:34,960
Speaker 1: But anyway, but it goes to my delta miles. The

633
00:29:35,000 --> 00:29:37,880
Speaker 1: stocks are plumbing. That's made them take off the pins

634
00:29:38,560 --> 00:29:41,480
Speaker 1: we want all he's got a fucking Okay, So.

635
00:29:43,080 --> 00:29:46,960
Speaker 3: I'm sorry you know where about uh long story short,

636
00:29:47,920 --> 00:29:50,320
Speaker 3: So I was in a relationship with a woman. For

637
00:29:50,320 --> 00:29:51,920
Speaker 3: those of you who have been listening to Horrible. Yes,

638
00:29:51,960 --> 00:29:54,520
Speaker 3: this is already a story that's been told, but I

639
00:29:54,520 --> 00:29:57,240
Speaker 3: think it's important to note. Yes, I was in a

640
00:29:57,280 --> 00:29:59,840
Speaker 3: relationship with a woman. We were looking for a male

641
00:29:59,880 --> 00:30:03,040
Speaker 3: you in a korn. Once that male unicorn came into play,

642
00:30:03,080 --> 00:30:07,320
Speaker 3: we realized we really liked this dynamic and wanted a boyfriend.

643
00:30:08,040 --> 00:30:11,400
Speaker 3: From there, we proposed it and became a throutle in

644
00:30:11,480 --> 00:30:15,280
Speaker 3: our throttle. We were all pretty much equal, even though

645
00:30:15,320 --> 00:30:17,440
Speaker 3: her and I had a very strong face of being

646
00:30:17,480 --> 00:30:20,800
Speaker 3: in love and we were there before him. Everyone was

647
00:30:20,800 --> 00:30:23,560
Speaker 3: allowed to see each other separately. Everyone was allowed we

648
00:30:23,600 --> 00:30:27,239
Speaker 3: had separate relationships. And by that I mean her and

649
00:30:27,320 --> 00:30:31,480
Speaker 3: I with her eye and him was all different. Me

650
00:30:31,560 --> 00:30:33,120
Speaker 3: and him had a differ relationship for me and her,

651
00:30:33,400 --> 00:30:35,880
Speaker 3: they had a separate relationship that even I had to

652
00:30:35,920 --> 00:30:38,200
Speaker 3: learn to appreciate. I remember the day I knew it

653
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Speaker 3: was real real. I called him and I was like, nigga,

654
00:30:42,440 --> 00:30:43,680
Speaker 3: let me tell you about it, and he was like, yo,

655
00:30:43,720 --> 00:30:45,040
Speaker 3: hold on, I got to call you back because she

656
00:30:45,040 --> 00:30:47,480
Speaker 3: had a really bad day at work. And I was like, oh,

657
00:30:48,000 --> 00:30:52,200
Speaker 3: that'd be like call me. But in that moment, she

658
00:30:52,360 --> 00:30:54,640
Speaker 3: just wanted maybe to be coddled by him. Maybe he

659
00:30:54,640 --> 00:30:58,160
Speaker 3: has a different energy than me. Fine, and we really.

660
00:30:57,920 --> 00:30:58,760
Speaker 1: Shared each other.

661
00:30:59,160 --> 00:31:01,840
Speaker 3: Decisions were made in our relationship each other, including when

662
00:31:01,880 --> 00:31:03,920
Speaker 3: her and I felt like we weren't working out anymore

663
00:31:04,200 --> 00:31:05,240
Speaker 3: and we had to break up.

664
00:31:05,520 --> 00:31:06,960
Speaker 1: Him and I just kind of fell.

665
00:31:07,160 --> 00:31:09,840
Speaker 4: So, I mean, I'm realizing I might be leaning more

666
00:31:09,920 --> 00:31:15,600
Speaker 4: into considering a poly dynamic because this was I mean,

667
00:31:15,640 --> 00:31:20,240
Speaker 4: clearly since my relationship. I'm looking for intimacy and romance.

668
00:31:20,400 --> 00:31:23,600
Speaker 3: So they said that they wanted a girlfriend.

669
00:31:23,720 --> 00:31:26,360
Speaker 4: But so I was like, this is perfect, great, and

670
00:31:27,000 --> 00:31:29,520
Speaker 4: me and him were one hundred percent on the same page.

671
00:31:29,840 --> 00:31:32,440
Speaker 1: He brings her in and it seems like we're all

672
00:31:32,480 --> 00:31:34,360
Speaker 1: on the same page. So then we date.

673
00:31:34,440 --> 00:31:36,520
Speaker 4: If you guys want to listen as well, we went

674
00:31:36,600 --> 00:31:39,160
Speaker 4: on multiple dates and we went to the sex club together.

675
00:31:39,440 --> 00:31:41,280
Speaker 4: If you guys want to hear about the sex club,

676
00:31:41,680 --> 00:31:45,719
Speaker 4: please join our Patreon because I share that experience on

677
00:31:45,800 --> 00:31:48,800
Speaker 4: our town hall for the month of August, and baby

678
00:31:48,920 --> 00:31:50,720
Speaker 4: was wild and I did something that I thought I

679
00:31:50,720 --> 00:31:54,920
Speaker 4: would never do. Here shut up, so just go listen

680
00:31:55,120 --> 00:32:01,920
Speaker 4: on Patreon. The bitch is not there, it's o Patreonamn.

681
00:32:02,040 --> 00:32:03,080
Speaker 1: No, but too much.

682
00:32:03,120 --> 00:32:04,640
Speaker 4: No, I'm trying to get them know, just go on

683
00:32:04,640 --> 00:32:08,840
Speaker 4: pat comback Slasha to hear about the blood. There wasn't

684
00:32:08,840 --> 00:32:13,400
Speaker 4: even blood, bro shut up. So anyways, so we have

685
00:32:13,520 --> 00:32:16,720
Speaker 4: this dynamic. It's great, it's perfect. I'm liking it, and

686
00:32:16,720 --> 00:32:19,400
Speaker 4: I'm like, this is what I want. Also, out the gate,

687
00:32:19,440 --> 00:32:21,240
Speaker 4: I let them know I'm not cutting off any.

688
00:32:21,040 --> 00:32:21,760
Speaker 1: Of my niggas.

689
00:32:22,000 --> 00:32:24,520
Speaker 4: So one of the things that I really wanted to

690
00:32:24,520 --> 00:32:27,160
Speaker 4: bring up before getting into our kinky sex and these

691
00:32:27,200 --> 00:32:33,480
Speaker 4: boundaries with Thuffols was the conversation around getting tested immediately,

692
00:32:33,760 --> 00:32:36,560
Speaker 4: Like we're talking about Lincoln and he's like, okay, let's

693
00:32:36,560 --> 00:32:39,200
Speaker 4: do Jersey City. And I was like, ooh, if I

694
00:32:39,320 --> 00:32:41,240
Speaker 4: like you, I might have to bring my overnight bag.

695
00:32:41,280 --> 00:32:44,960
Speaker 4: And he was like, hold your horses before we do anything,

696
00:32:45,200 --> 00:32:47,720
Speaker 4: like I need recent results. I was like, oh, say,

697
00:32:47,800 --> 00:32:50,000
Speaker 4: let's so we had planned a fucking meet on Monday.

698
00:32:50,040 --> 00:32:53,120
Speaker 4: I couldn't get into get tested until Thursday, so I

699
00:32:53,200 --> 00:32:55,040
Speaker 4: knew the first time we met we weren't going to

700
00:32:55,080 --> 00:32:56,560
Speaker 4: have sex. It was just gonna be a date because

701
00:32:56,600 --> 00:32:59,880
Speaker 4: I didn't have my recent results. And I wanted to

702
00:33:00,240 --> 00:33:03,080
Speaker 4: this up specifically because the internet I don't even know

703
00:33:03,120 --> 00:33:04,080
Speaker 4: which camera is mine.

704
00:33:04,600 --> 00:33:05,920
Speaker 1: The conversations with my.

705
00:33:05,920 --> 00:33:11,440
Speaker 4: Friends in the internet around getting tested has been disgusting,

706
00:33:12,160 --> 00:33:14,880
Speaker 4: Like I had other partners of.

707
00:33:14,840 --> 00:33:16,280
Speaker 1: Mine at even Alex.

708
00:33:16,320 --> 00:33:19,440
Speaker 4: When we read at dinner bro Alex asked me if

709
00:33:19,480 --> 00:33:21,720
Speaker 4: I had AIDS because I wouldn't got tested and got

710
00:33:22,200 --> 00:33:23,000
Speaker 4: got prepped.

711
00:33:23,160 --> 00:33:24,240
Speaker 1: He was like, do you have AIDS?

712
00:33:24,640 --> 00:33:30,400
Speaker 4: And I'm just like the conversation around requiring your your

713
00:33:30,480 --> 00:33:34,800
Speaker 4: partners to get tested, especially if you're non exclusive, especially

714
00:33:34,840 --> 00:33:37,360
Speaker 4: if you're casually dating or having sex with multiple people,

715
00:33:37,680 --> 00:33:40,040
Speaker 4: especially if you don't notice bitch from a can of paint.

716
00:33:41,200 --> 00:33:43,720
Speaker 4: When I told my friends that they wanted test results

717
00:33:43,720 --> 00:33:46,160
Speaker 4: and I was like, bitch, immediately made my appointment and

718
00:33:46,280 --> 00:33:48,600
Speaker 4: was like, say, let's I don't mind going to get

719
00:33:48,600 --> 00:33:52,080
Speaker 4: tested like I get tested, especially like when I was

720
00:33:52,120 --> 00:33:54,480
Speaker 4: with my ex bitch. We fucked enough bitches and was

721
00:33:54,520 --> 00:33:56,440
Speaker 4: at the sex club enough bitch. I was getting tested

722
00:33:56,480 --> 00:33:58,880
Speaker 4: even with that nigga. So if you don't think I'm

723
00:33:58,880 --> 00:34:01,040
Speaker 4: not gonna get tested for a new that requires that,

724
00:34:01,360 --> 00:34:04,400
Speaker 4: y'all are crazy. But my friends made me feel dirty

725
00:34:04,800 --> 00:34:08,680
Speaker 4: or made me feel like I was like doing something

726
00:34:08,680 --> 00:34:10,480
Speaker 4: I shouldn't be doing because I was going to get

727
00:34:10,520 --> 00:34:13,759
Speaker 4: recent test results or what I should expect them to

728
00:34:13,800 --> 00:34:16,000
Speaker 4: be dirty, because why are they expecting you know, I

729
00:34:16,040 --> 00:34:18,080
Speaker 4: was like mine, both of them sent me their test

730
00:34:18,120 --> 00:34:20,840
Speaker 4: results like they had just gotten tested three weeks before

731
00:34:20,880 --> 00:34:21,279
Speaker 4: meeting me.

732
00:34:21,719 --> 00:34:23,480
Speaker 1: So I'm just like, but how they make you feel

733
00:34:23,480 --> 00:34:23,680
Speaker 1: that way?

734
00:34:24,120 --> 00:34:26,680
Speaker 4: They made me feel that way because it's something that

735
00:34:26,719 --> 00:34:29,799
Speaker 4: they don't do with their partners, and they're like, why

736
00:34:29,880 --> 00:34:31,600
Speaker 4: is that something that's being asked of?

737
00:34:31,760 --> 00:34:35,120
Speaker 1: Like is there an outbreak? Is there something that looks wrong?

738
00:34:35,280 --> 00:34:38,520
Speaker 4: Like niggas, I think assume that you should only be

739
00:34:38,600 --> 00:34:40,799
Speaker 4: getting tested if there's a smell or an itch or

740
00:34:41,200 --> 00:34:44,200
Speaker 4: a fucking bump somewhere. And I'm just like the fact

741
00:34:44,239 --> 00:34:47,000
Speaker 4: that this becomes an uncomfortable conversation. I just also saw

742
00:34:47,040 --> 00:34:49,400
Speaker 4: a tweet where someone was like, yo, I asked this

743
00:34:49,480 --> 00:34:51,600
Speaker 4: nigga for his test results and he started a argument

744
00:34:51,640 --> 00:34:51,880
Speaker 4: with me.

745
00:34:51,920 --> 00:34:55,360
Speaker 1: What does that mean? I mean, let's be very clear.

746
00:34:55,640 --> 00:34:58,400
Speaker 4: One of the reasons I got with my motherfucking uh,

747
00:34:59,440 --> 00:35:03,680
Speaker 4: my fucking an x is because during COVID, I remember

748
00:35:03,719 --> 00:35:06,040
Speaker 4: twenty four to seven hitting me up and wanted me

749
00:35:06,080 --> 00:35:08,600
Speaker 4: to go see him and me asking him like, you

750
00:35:08,600 --> 00:35:11,680
Speaker 4: ain't got no symptoms of COVID, right, He made it

751
00:35:11,680 --> 00:35:13,840
Speaker 4: seem like I asked if he was a motherfucking monkey

752
00:35:13,960 --> 00:35:17,600
Speaker 4: or something. I really people don't like the conversation around

753
00:35:17,960 --> 00:35:19,440
Speaker 4: like just making sure they're healthy.

754
00:35:19,480 --> 00:35:21,879
Speaker 1: They see it as an insult, like bitch, you think

755
00:35:21,920 --> 00:35:22,440
Speaker 1: I'm dirty.

756
00:35:22,600 --> 00:35:26,200
Speaker 3: My partner and I've been tested twice, I mean since

757
00:35:26,239 --> 00:35:28,520
Speaker 3: being in a committic relationship. This is before when we

758
00:35:28,520 --> 00:35:31,319
Speaker 3: were just dating, no, but since being in a committed relationship.

759
00:35:32,160 --> 00:35:35,279
Speaker 3: And I remember when he got tested and sent it

760
00:35:35,320 --> 00:35:37,560
Speaker 3: to me. He kind of laughed about it, like you

761
00:35:37,600 --> 00:35:39,919
Speaker 3: have you now, and I'm like, yo, I really wasn't

762
00:35:39,920 --> 00:35:42,479
Speaker 3: accusing you anything. I want this to become regular, yes,

763
00:35:42,840 --> 00:35:44,800
Speaker 3: And he was like, yeah, of course I understand.

764
00:35:44,840 --> 00:35:45,000
Speaker 1: Bill.

765
00:35:45,040 --> 00:35:47,960
Speaker 3: I'm like with that little comment, I know you probably

766
00:35:48,000 --> 00:35:51,560
Speaker 3: think I think that you dirt has something. Yes, And

767
00:35:51,680 --> 00:35:54,000
Speaker 3: I just want us to keep on this together.

768
00:35:54,120 --> 00:35:57,959
Speaker 4: That's why I would love to start forming in some way,

769
00:35:58,000 --> 00:36:00,760
Speaker 4: even with this pod, with our social post, with something

770
00:36:01,160 --> 00:36:04,239
Speaker 4: just initiatives like get tested week, Like.

771
00:36:04,320 --> 00:36:06,919
Speaker 1: Oh, side of this is making me think of something.

772
00:36:08,160 --> 00:36:12,120
Speaker 3: So we were talking about how our friends made us feel, yes,

773
00:36:12,280 --> 00:36:14,960
Speaker 3: and what your friends just made you feel away. When

774
00:36:14,960 --> 00:36:18,560
Speaker 3: I called him, I'm like, yo, I feel like almost

775
00:36:18,560 --> 00:36:21,400
Speaker 3: everybody in my life that isn't like in this lifestyle,

776
00:36:21,600 --> 00:36:26,160
Speaker 3: must think this of me, like I'm accepting cheating, right, Niggas.

777
00:36:25,760 --> 00:36:30,239
Speaker 4: Think I'm easy and I really like the.

778
00:36:29,280 --> 00:36:32,640
Speaker 1: Because it makes me feel like you really think I'm ugly?

779
00:36:33,320 --> 00:36:34,080
Speaker 1: Wait what wait?

780
00:36:34,239 --> 00:36:37,440
Speaker 3: What I really believe And I'm not saying I'm Beyonce

781
00:36:37,560 --> 00:36:40,239
Speaker 3: or anything like that, but I really believe I can

782
00:36:40,280 --> 00:36:43,160
Speaker 3: get anything I want. I believe money wise, I believe

783
00:36:43,960 --> 00:36:46,680
Speaker 3: anything health. I believe I'll have whatever the fuck I want,

784
00:36:47,040 --> 00:36:49,040
Speaker 3: including niggas, even if it's yours.

785
00:36:49,440 --> 00:36:51,759
Speaker 1: I believe I can have it. Oh, I'll be honest

786
00:36:51,760 --> 00:36:52,000
Speaker 1: with you.

787
00:36:52,080 --> 00:36:56,719
Speaker 4: And so hold on Instagram, baby, it's too easy. Like

788
00:36:56,800 --> 00:36:59,120
Speaker 4: my friend said, bit you gotta chill, bitch. I will

789
00:36:59,160 --> 00:37:03,520
Speaker 4: watch a movie on HBO Netflix, look up the cast yep,

790
00:37:03,680 --> 00:37:06,440
Speaker 4: going like a couple of this niggas pictures in this

791
00:37:06,520 --> 00:37:08,239
Speaker 4: movie like he he and my dms.

792
00:37:08,440 --> 00:37:09,560
Speaker 1: Bitch, it's that easy.

793
00:37:09,800 --> 00:37:12,000
Speaker 3: I really and not even and I'm not even an

794
00:37:12,000 --> 00:37:14,439
Speaker 3: ig like meet people people like I just really feel

795
00:37:14,480 --> 00:37:16,560
Speaker 3: like there's nothing as a no bitch like you think

796
00:37:17,200 --> 00:37:19,840
Speaker 3: that's anything that stually got me tight because I was

797
00:37:19,880 --> 00:37:24,120
Speaker 3: like that nigga got me too, Like this is a

798
00:37:24,160 --> 00:37:24,920
Speaker 3: lot of the lit niggas.

799
00:37:24,960 --> 00:37:26,640
Speaker 1: Don't get me wrong. Mine is the greatest.

800
00:37:26,760 --> 00:37:30,680
Speaker 3: But if anything went wrong, I would not feel.

801
00:37:30,280 --> 00:37:33,480
Speaker 1: Like the world was over. No me neither. Now.

802
00:37:34,880 --> 00:37:37,920
Speaker 3: With that said, when we're on the phone talking about this,

803
00:37:38,000 --> 00:37:40,200
Speaker 3: I'm like, Bro, I really hate this notion that like

804
00:37:41,200 --> 00:37:44,360
Speaker 3: I'm doing something wrong. He's like, listen, we have so

805
00:37:44,520 --> 00:37:47,439
Speaker 3: much communication. He's like, think about when you find somebody

806
00:37:47,480 --> 00:37:49,920
Speaker 3: attractive and you tell me and we laugh about it,

807
00:37:50,000 --> 00:37:51,960
Speaker 3: or I could act jealous, or you can have a feeling,

808
00:37:52,040 --> 00:37:54,000
Speaker 3: like think about how much we're talking.

809
00:37:54,480 --> 00:37:57,600
Speaker 1: How much are monogamous couples talking a lot about.

810
00:37:57,360 --> 00:38:01,000
Speaker 3: Their inner thoughts, about their feelings about sexual thoughts other people.

811
00:38:00,920 --> 00:38:03,880
Speaker 4: Which monogamous couples can't even like other people's pictures own,

812
00:38:04,239 --> 00:38:07,000
Speaker 4: Like they can't even say what celebrity hall passes.

813
00:38:07,040 --> 00:38:09,520
Speaker 1: They might have like what do you mean?

814
00:38:09,920 --> 00:38:11,880
Speaker 4: Like it goes straight into a day and be like, hey,

815
00:38:11,880 --> 00:38:13,440
Speaker 4: if you're gonna be mad that I less super met

816
00:38:13,480 --> 00:38:15,359
Speaker 4: the man, we can't be together And we could end

817
00:38:15,360 --> 00:38:18,120
Speaker 4: this now because a bitch is gonna want to hop

818
00:38:18,200 --> 00:38:19,399
Speaker 4: on Jason Momoa's face.

819
00:38:19,440 --> 00:38:20,600
Speaker 1: Bro, what are you talking about?

820
00:38:20,640 --> 00:38:23,839
Speaker 3: There's so there's such a big like disparity in what

821
00:38:23,880 --> 00:38:25,520
Speaker 3: we think respect is and he says to me like,

822
00:38:26,239 --> 00:38:28,640
Speaker 3: I don't want you to feel this way because we

823
00:38:28,800 --> 00:38:31,279
Speaker 3: over talk the check ins that we have, like even

824
00:38:31,400 --> 00:38:33,920
Speaker 3: last week, I'm having like such a depressing week just

825
00:38:33,960 --> 00:38:36,399
Speaker 3: with like family stuff and whatever. And I'm like, Okay,

826
00:38:36,400 --> 00:38:38,640
Speaker 3: we gotta close it right now, like you need a break.

827
00:38:39,120 --> 00:38:42,080
Speaker 3: I feel so bad for the foursome couple because I've

828
00:38:42,080 --> 00:38:43,640
Speaker 3: been dodging them, But it's not even like I don't

829
00:38:43,680 --> 00:38:46,040
Speaker 3: want to do anything with them again. I just I

830
00:38:46,080 --> 00:38:49,920
Speaker 3: can't right now, you know. But yeah, it's such an

831
00:38:49,960 --> 00:38:52,640
Speaker 3: open diamic And he told me, I have felt like

832
00:38:53,200 --> 00:38:56,040
Speaker 3: monogamy has been based on lies. For me, it is

833
00:38:56,520 --> 00:38:59,640
Speaker 3: like so that's so, that's why I got on this app,

834
00:38:59,800 --> 00:39:01,000
Speaker 3: and a part of me.

835
00:39:01,120 --> 00:39:04,120
Speaker 1: Loved that everyone was open. Baby.

836
00:39:04,280 --> 00:39:06,840
Speaker 4: I'm we date separate but together, but this is the

837
00:39:06,880 --> 00:39:09,240
Speaker 4: love of my life. I'm not leaving her, but I'm

838
00:39:09,280 --> 00:39:11,879
Speaker 4: open to dating other people everybody that I know on

839
00:39:12,840 --> 00:39:15,520
Speaker 4: Hinge and Twitter and all these Let's be very clear.

840
00:39:15,840 --> 00:39:18,080
Speaker 4: I know that there's a saying, right and I think

841
00:39:18,080 --> 00:39:21,120
Speaker 4: I said this to you well too, there's we all

842
00:39:21,160 --> 00:39:23,680
Speaker 4: have one life to live, except for these niggas.

843
00:39:23,840 --> 00:39:26,040
Speaker 1: They be living multiple lives. May be having a.

844
00:39:26,000 --> 00:39:29,399
Speaker 4: Wife, a girlfriend, a baby mama. They hold on, they

845
00:39:29,400 --> 00:39:31,480
Speaker 4: have different, different friend groups.

846
00:39:31,200 --> 00:39:34,880
Speaker 1: They do. These niggas have multiple lives. Yet no, no, no,

847
00:39:34,960 --> 00:39:36,800
Speaker 1: I ain't gonna hold no no, I love my truth.

848
00:39:37,080 --> 00:39:39,680
Speaker 4: These niggas will have whole new I told you my

849
00:39:39,719 --> 00:39:41,799
Speaker 4: ex was going by his first, middle and last name.

850
00:39:42,200 --> 00:39:44,319
Speaker 4: Nigga had three different lives. He was out here living

851
00:39:44,960 --> 00:39:49,280
Speaker 4: like bro. No, no, no, don't do that. I go by Mandy.

852
00:39:49,320 --> 00:39:51,160
Speaker 4: I ain't even out here living as a Manda unless

853
00:39:51,200 --> 00:39:52,759
Speaker 4: I'm paying a bill or booking a flight.

854
00:39:52,840 --> 00:39:54,080
Speaker 1: Okay, I am me.

855
00:39:54,640 --> 00:39:58,000
Speaker 4: These motherfuckers will be on a dating app talking about, oh,

856
00:39:58,160 --> 00:40:02,040
Speaker 4: I'm only here traveling for work all the time, his

857
00:40:02,120 --> 00:40:05,480
Speaker 4: wife lived forty minutes down the street. He just acting

858
00:40:05,560 --> 00:40:08,960
Speaker 4: like he only in town for work. And these are

859
00:40:09,000 --> 00:40:12,359
Speaker 4: real life stories, okay. Or the niggas you meet will

860
00:40:12,400 --> 00:40:14,120
Speaker 4: spend a whole weekend with you, love you and MB

861
00:40:14,480 --> 00:40:16,319
Speaker 4: and then go goes talking about man, I was just

862
00:40:16,480 --> 00:40:18,880
Speaker 4: working all my mental health. No, it was your wife's

863
00:40:19,200 --> 00:40:21,360
Speaker 4: and it was all the anniversary. Nigga and y'all went

864
00:40:21,400 --> 00:40:22,200
Speaker 4: on a trip together.

865
00:40:22,880 --> 00:40:29,759
Speaker 1: Fuck you mean I did want to get into the

866
00:40:30,160 --> 00:40:30,719
Speaker 1: hoar derve.

867
00:40:31,080 --> 00:40:33,880
Speaker 4: I want to talk about this throttle and the boundaries

868
00:40:33,920 --> 00:40:38,640
Speaker 4: and why it was grand opening, grand clothing. So before

869
00:40:38,680 --> 00:40:42,040
Speaker 4: we get into what went wrong or not what we're wrong,

870
00:40:42,520 --> 00:40:45,600
Speaker 4: just how it ended. I did want to share our

871
00:40:45,760 --> 00:40:50,080
Speaker 4: full experience having sex together because it was different. It

872
00:40:50,160 --> 00:40:52,480
Speaker 4: was different in a way that I hadn't experienced it before,

873
00:40:53,000 --> 00:40:54,479
Speaker 4: and I want to share with you guys.

874
00:40:54,520 --> 00:40:58,880
Speaker 1: So again, they're in a DDLG relationship. I came in.

875
00:40:58,960 --> 00:41:01,920
Speaker 4: It was like, Nigga, I'm a dom that's it. I

876
00:41:01,960 --> 00:41:04,719
Speaker 4: don't mind switching, but I'm a switch when I take dick,

877
00:41:04,760 --> 00:41:08,000
Speaker 4: but everything else, I'm pretty dominant in the bedroom. So

878
00:41:08,360 --> 00:41:13,719
Speaker 4: this was the most different type of fucking threesome I've

879
00:41:13,760 --> 00:41:18,000
Speaker 4: ever had. So first off, she got us matching outfits.

880
00:41:19,520 --> 00:41:22,600
Speaker 4: If that wasn't a start to it. So we both

881
00:41:22,600 --> 00:41:25,000
Speaker 4: take a shower together after we come back from the beach.

882
00:41:25,440 --> 00:41:27,960
Speaker 4: So we had a whole per day on the Jersey Shore.

883
00:41:28,800 --> 00:41:29,680
Speaker 1: It was so cute.

884
00:41:29,680 --> 00:41:32,759
Speaker 4: We played video games together, we were competing against each other,

885
00:41:33,360 --> 00:41:34,360
Speaker 4: winning prizes.

886
00:41:34,560 --> 00:41:36,560
Speaker 1: It was super fucking cute. Let me put this in

887
00:41:36,600 --> 00:41:36,919
Speaker 1: my notes.

888
00:41:37,800 --> 00:41:41,080
Speaker 4: Take to beach. Oh the Jersey Shore was it? So

889
00:41:41,120 --> 00:41:43,960
Speaker 4: we go to the pier, we come back to the house, bitch.

890
00:41:44,520 --> 00:41:46,719
Speaker 4: She We take a shower together, me and her, and

891
00:41:46,760 --> 00:41:48,640
Speaker 4: then she's like, wait, let me find this. I bought

892
00:41:48,680 --> 00:41:53,680
Speaker 4: us outfits, so literally bought us matching outfits.

893
00:41:55,320 --> 00:41:56,240
Speaker 1: Fish net outfits.

894
00:41:56,280 --> 00:41:59,480
Speaker 4: I was like, well this niggas do this, nigga spoiled.

895
00:42:00,120 --> 00:42:03,960
Speaker 4: So we get dressed, we go to the couch, and

896
00:42:04,280 --> 00:42:07,040
Speaker 4: immediately we start making out with each other. So we

897
00:42:07,120 --> 00:42:10,040
Speaker 4: start making out. She starts rubbing on me, and then

898
00:42:10,160 --> 00:42:14,000
Speaker 4: I immediately go to licking her nipples, going down and

899
00:42:14,000 --> 00:42:17,360
Speaker 4: eating her out. So he's watching me and her play

900
00:42:17,360 --> 00:42:21,120
Speaker 4: on the couch. Now she is very sub and only sub.

901
00:42:21,640 --> 00:42:22,160
Speaker 1: That is it.

902
00:42:22,520 --> 00:42:24,880
Speaker 4: They don't even have a switch dynamic. But me and

903
00:42:25,000 --> 00:42:27,359
Speaker 4: him have already talked about how I come in as

904
00:42:27,360 --> 00:42:28,919
Speaker 4: a dom. She knows I'm dumb.

905
00:42:29,480 --> 00:42:31,160
Speaker 1: So we go.

906
00:42:31,200 --> 00:42:35,640
Speaker 4: From I'm eating her pussy and then he goes and

907
00:42:36,000 --> 00:42:39,160
Speaker 4: also where they've been together for a year condoms. They

908
00:42:39,160 --> 00:42:41,120
Speaker 4: still use condoms, which I like because I let them

909
00:42:41,160 --> 00:42:43,920
Speaker 4: know I didn't want any children. So even though I

910
00:42:43,960 --> 00:42:46,560
Speaker 4: got fully tested, I was still going to require a condom.

911
00:42:46,960 --> 00:42:48,960
Speaker 4: So I hear him putting on I was like, oh, okay,

912
00:42:48,960 --> 00:42:50,880
Speaker 4: I'm about to fill the dick. I'd already sucked it

913
00:42:50,880 --> 00:42:52,320
Speaker 4: because we went to the sex club together.

914
00:42:52,680 --> 00:42:55,239
Speaker 1: So I was ready to take it. I was ready

915
00:42:55,239 --> 00:42:55,640
Speaker 1: to take it.

916
00:42:55,680 --> 00:42:58,600
Speaker 4: I already sucked it. I already sucked it. And so

917
00:42:58,960 --> 00:43:01,399
Speaker 4: how was this dick? The dick was good. The dick

918
00:43:01,520 --> 00:43:06,160
Speaker 4: was good. The dick was good. But still in his mind,

919
00:43:06,280 --> 00:43:08,920
Speaker 4: I know, he's focusing on being a dom, so he's

920
00:43:08,960 --> 00:43:12,600
Speaker 4: still very interactive with her, and this is where the

921
00:43:12,719 --> 00:43:16,319
Speaker 4: dynamic change. So he goes, he starts fucking me, then

922
00:43:16,360 --> 00:43:19,480
Speaker 4: he sits down. I bounce on him while he has

923
00:43:19,560 --> 00:43:21,640
Speaker 4: her like eating my pussy the whole time. He has

924
00:43:21,680 --> 00:43:25,360
Speaker 4: her working the whole time, and I'm like, oh, whoa,

925
00:43:25,440 --> 00:43:27,440
Speaker 4: this is like, this is this is kind of hot,

926
00:43:27,560 --> 00:43:30,080
Speaker 4: like and then it gets to the part where he

927
00:43:30,160 --> 00:43:30,680
Speaker 4: fucks her.

928
00:43:31,400 --> 00:43:35,759
Speaker 1: He goes full on into fucking her anally. He liked

929
00:43:35,760 --> 00:43:36,440
Speaker 1: anal sex.

930
00:43:36,840 --> 00:43:39,680
Speaker 4: So I'm watching this cuz y'all know I only do

931
00:43:39,719 --> 00:43:44,200
Speaker 4: handle once a quarter. That bitch don't had a goddamn

932
00:43:44,239 --> 00:43:46,439
Speaker 4: dildo on her ass the whole time, getting her ass

933
00:43:46,480 --> 00:43:48,680
Speaker 4: ready to take his fucking dick anally.

934
00:43:48,719 --> 00:43:51,400
Speaker 1: And I'm like, whoa, Okay, we're really being kinky with

935
00:43:52,239 --> 00:43:52,720
Speaker 1: the condom.

936
00:43:53,320 --> 00:43:56,080
Speaker 4: Even the toys had condoms, don't they nump together. No, no, no,

937
00:43:56,320 --> 00:43:57,160
Speaker 4: they don't live together.

938
00:43:57,480 --> 00:43:58,440
Speaker 1: When when you had ask.

939
00:43:58,360 --> 00:44:00,440
Speaker 4: Me, I had assumed because when we had been in

940
00:44:00,480 --> 00:44:02,720
Speaker 4: a group chat, she was sending me pictures of them together.

941
00:44:02,880 --> 00:44:04,759
Speaker 1: She just goes to his house a lot, So they

942
00:44:04,760 --> 00:44:05,440
Speaker 1: don't live together.

943
00:44:05,560 --> 00:44:05,640
Speaker 5: No.

944
00:44:06,040 --> 00:44:08,960
Speaker 4: So anyways, he's just really kind of yeah, and I

945
00:44:09,040 --> 00:44:10,320
Speaker 4: was like, you know, I like that. I love the

946
00:44:10,320 --> 00:44:12,160
Speaker 4: little niggy and got a force to put on a condom.

947
00:44:12,480 --> 00:44:15,800
Speaker 4: So baby, it was great.

948
00:44:15,920 --> 00:44:18,480
Speaker 1: So he's fucking her Analie, and I'm like, oh, this

949
00:44:18,560 --> 00:44:20,480
Speaker 1: is hot. So I go behind him.

950
00:44:20,640 --> 00:44:24,000
Speaker 4: And start look at his balls while he's fucking her.

951
00:44:23,880 --> 00:44:27,399
Speaker 4: He ass but this is where the dynamic gets crazy, right,

952
00:44:27,920 --> 00:44:30,200
Speaker 4: So finally we get into okay, he.

953
00:44:30,200 --> 00:44:31,040
Speaker 1: Don't fuck both of us.

954
00:44:31,120 --> 00:44:33,600
Speaker 4: Now we get in into oral sex, and this is

955
00:44:33,600 --> 00:44:37,440
Speaker 4: where bitch my dammeter turns on and this just feels

956
00:44:37,640 --> 00:44:42,399
Speaker 4: real crazy damn meter. So he's very verbal to her,

957
00:44:42,760 --> 00:44:45,560
Speaker 4: telling her. So she's now down sucking the fuck out

958
00:44:45,560 --> 00:44:48,560
Speaker 4: of his dick. We're making out. He is a fucking

959
00:44:48,560 --> 00:44:53,120
Speaker 4: phenomenal kisser. So while we're kissing, though, he keeps stopping

960
00:44:53,440 --> 00:44:55,959
Speaker 4: to tell her what the fuck to do, Like, bitch,

961
00:44:56,000 --> 00:44:57,719
Speaker 4: sucked this dick, you know put it all that, bitch,

962
00:44:58,120 --> 00:45:01,600
Speaker 4: Oh oh all that? Like what bitch like she is

963
00:45:01,600 --> 00:45:07,759
Speaker 4: a full cook subish. So he's talking too much for me, So, bitch,

964
00:45:07,760 --> 00:45:09,759
Speaker 4: I started slapping him in the face. Then I take

965
00:45:09,800 --> 00:45:13,480
Speaker 4: his motherfucking mouth while he's like trying to like push

966
00:45:13,680 --> 00:45:15,680
Speaker 4: her head down on his dick, and I take his

967
00:45:15,800 --> 00:45:18,400
Speaker 4: face and I hold it like this, and I start

968
00:45:18,400 --> 00:45:21,279
Speaker 4: smacking him and I open your mouth and I start

969
00:45:21,320 --> 00:45:23,680
Speaker 4: spitting in his mouth and making him do spit bubbles

970
00:45:23,680 --> 00:45:25,320
Speaker 4: with my spit bitch, and he loved it because he

971
00:45:25,360 --> 00:45:30,040
Speaker 4: talked about it. So I literally literally start like so

972
00:45:30,120 --> 00:45:33,799
Speaker 4: I'm literally like smacking him while he's because now he's

973
00:45:33,840 --> 00:45:34,840
Speaker 4: talking too much for me.

974
00:45:35,239 --> 00:45:37,200
Speaker 1: And I'm like, oh, you like how she's sucking your dick?

975
00:45:37,280 --> 00:45:38,879
Speaker 4: Yeah, I like how she And then he goes back

976
00:45:38,880 --> 00:45:40,759
Speaker 4: to talking to her, and it's like you're talking too

977
00:45:40,840 --> 00:45:43,359
Speaker 4: much again, So bitch, I stand up and fucking sit

978
00:45:43,440 --> 00:45:46,919
Speaker 4: on his fucking face like while he's fucking trying.

979
00:45:47,040 --> 00:45:48,040
Speaker 1: So now he's trying to talk.

980
00:45:50,000 --> 00:45:52,640
Speaker 4: Now now he's literally still trying to talk like because

981
00:45:52,640 --> 00:45:55,480
Speaker 4: he's and I'm like rubbing my fucking pussy all on

982
00:45:55,480 --> 00:45:58,279
Speaker 4: his face, like you're talking too fucking much for me, Like,

983
00:45:58,360 --> 00:46:01,640
Speaker 4: shut the fuck up. So I'm riding his fucking face

984
00:46:02,000 --> 00:46:03,680
Speaker 4: and I don't know if the shroom kicked in right

985
00:46:03,719 --> 00:46:08,240
Speaker 4: at this moment. Bitch, that nigga made me come so God, bitch,

986
00:46:08,320 --> 00:46:10,040
Speaker 4: my legs locked.

987
00:46:10,040 --> 00:46:11,960
Speaker 1: I ain't even gonna hold you. I'm never gonna get

988
00:46:11,960 --> 00:46:14,720
Speaker 1: my pussy eight standing up again. Bitch. I almost fell

989
00:46:15,120 --> 00:46:16,600
Speaker 1: broke an ankle or something. Bitch.

990
00:46:16,680 --> 00:46:19,520
Speaker 4: I had to focus so hard on not collapsing on

991
00:46:19,560 --> 00:46:20,240
Speaker 4: that fucking nigga.

992
00:46:20,280 --> 00:46:24,240
Speaker 1: You hear me, I was like, good, that'slly. Just the hold.

993
00:46:24,239 --> 00:46:26,080
Speaker 3: You know sometimes when you're in group sex and you're like,

994
00:46:26,800 --> 00:46:28,520
Speaker 3: everything is such sexual, Bitch.

995
00:46:28,320 --> 00:46:29,120
Speaker 1: It was so sexual.

996
00:46:29,120 --> 00:46:32,640
Speaker 4: I got downe and I was like, bitch, I'm breathing heavy,

997
00:46:32,920 --> 00:46:35,480
Speaker 4: and he immediately turns right back into the dom you see.

998
00:46:35,480 --> 00:46:37,000
Speaker 4: I made her come, you like I made her come

999
00:46:37,040 --> 00:46:39,279
Speaker 4: while you sucked my fucking dick and went right back

1000
00:46:39,320 --> 00:46:40,319
Speaker 4: into doming her.

1001
00:46:40,600 --> 00:46:44,520
Speaker 1: And I was like, oh boy, wow, how's it ending?

1002
00:46:44,680 --> 00:46:46,799
Speaker 1: So it ends with all of that was way too

1003
00:46:46,880 --> 00:46:48,520
Speaker 1: much for this bitch, So let's get into the horse.

1004
00:46:50,200 --> 00:46:52,200
Speaker 1: We all just came. We all just came. I end

1005
00:46:52,280 --> 00:46:54,200
Speaker 1: up going back. Did he come on both your face?

1006
00:46:55,800 --> 00:46:59,279
Speaker 4: Where did he come. Oh no, he came up, so

1007
00:46:59,440 --> 00:47:02,200
Speaker 4: he goes. By the time I come, bitch, I'm good.

1008
00:47:03,040 --> 00:47:05,680
Speaker 4: Oh yeah, I got it down. Okay, look good, good deeds,

1009
00:47:05,680 --> 00:47:07,640
Speaker 4: because I'm like, wait, how did he? He came on

1010
00:47:07,640 --> 00:47:11,040
Speaker 4: both of our faces. So she was down there second,

1011
00:47:11,040 --> 00:47:12,720
Speaker 4: and Dick and I went down there to join her.

1012
00:47:13,640 --> 00:47:15,719
Speaker 4: And then he's like, oh, I'm gonna come, and he

1013
00:47:15,760 --> 00:47:17,640
Speaker 4: wanted he wanted to come just on her face, and

1014
00:47:17,680 --> 00:47:19,959
Speaker 4: I was like, bitch, I took it off her face

1015
00:47:20,000 --> 00:47:22,160
Speaker 4: and put it on mine. I was like, I was

1016
00:47:22,200 --> 00:47:23,000
Speaker 4: like rubbing my handy.

1017
00:47:23,440 --> 00:47:23,879
Speaker 2: I was like.

1018
00:47:26,840 --> 00:47:30,360
Speaker 1: My face, Oh no, I want some food.

1019
00:47:31,760 --> 00:47:33,839
Speaker 4: And so then I start taking it off her neck

1020
00:47:33,880 --> 00:47:35,040
Speaker 4: because bitch, he came all over.

1021
00:47:35,239 --> 00:47:36,839
Speaker 1: So then I start taking it off her.

1022
00:47:36,760 --> 00:47:39,120
Speaker 4: Neck and putting it like this and making her eat

1023
00:47:39,120 --> 00:47:41,560
Speaker 4: it off her neck. And then I just put in

1024
00:47:41,600 --> 00:47:43,759
Speaker 4: and we just started kissing with his nut all over

1025
00:47:43,800 --> 00:47:45,640
Speaker 4: both of our faces.

1026
00:47:46,920 --> 00:47:48,279
Speaker 1: And then yeah, we sat.

1027
00:47:48,560 --> 00:47:51,560
Speaker 4: Then we sat, uh, we got some water, and then

1028
00:47:51,560 --> 00:47:54,400
Speaker 4: we started watching watching drunk History.

1029
00:47:55,800 --> 00:47:58,359
Speaker 1: Literally, she had never watched drunk History before. Did you sleep?

1030
00:47:59,200 --> 00:47:59,799
Speaker 1: I slept it?

1031
00:48:00,200 --> 00:48:02,440
Speaker 4: God, they had a fucking king bed, because baby, when

1032
00:48:02,440 --> 00:48:04,480
Speaker 4: we all slept in my house and my queen, it

1033
00:48:04,520 --> 00:48:05,120
Speaker 4: was given.

1034
00:48:05,360 --> 00:48:06,359
Speaker 1: You guys at your house.

1035
00:48:06,600 --> 00:48:08,759
Speaker 4: They stayed in my house after after the sex cluff

1036
00:48:08,760 --> 00:48:10,239
Speaker 4: that y'all could hear on our Patreon.

1037
00:48:10,560 --> 00:48:14,120
Speaker 1: Yes, but house. We were in a full fucking relationship for.

1038
00:48:14,120 --> 00:48:16,800
Speaker 4: The last two and a half weeks and it recently

1039
00:48:16,800 --> 00:48:21,040
Speaker 4: came to an end because, uh, we heavily did everything together,

1040
00:48:21,080 --> 00:48:23,000
Speaker 4: which we've done brunch, we've done the peer We've done

1041
00:48:23,239 --> 00:48:26,000
Speaker 4: bar hopping, we've done dinner, like, we've been on dates.

1042
00:48:26,040 --> 00:48:28,799
Speaker 4: Like this is like, oh, I'm in love. I this

1043
00:48:28,880 --> 00:48:32,719
Speaker 4: is what I love. She's sexy, He's sexy as fuck.

1044
00:48:33,280 --> 00:48:35,359
Speaker 4: He like we have Me and him had so much

1045
00:48:35,400 --> 00:48:39,160
Speaker 4: in common. I'm learning about her and then I'm like, kinky, wise,

1046
00:48:39,480 --> 00:48:43,600
Speaker 4: this is just great and it's like intimate, like what

1047
00:48:43,760 --> 00:48:45,240
Speaker 4: the professions.

1048
00:48:45,480 --> 00:48:53,000
Speaker 1: Without Uh he owns real estate properties and then he's

1049
00:48:53,040 --> 00:48:54,760
Speaker 1: also in finance, and then.

1050
00:48:54,680 --> 00:48:59,680
Speaker 4: She is a teacher cute and so let's get into

1051
00:49:00,160 --> 00:49:02,839
Speaker 4: sub mind you do, mind you? So we all we

1052
00:49:02,920 --> 00:49:07,000
Speaker 4: all sleep together like we're I'm like, this is great,

1053
00:49:07,239 --> 00:49:09,680
Speaker 4: this is great. I just I came. I'm having a

1054
00:49:09,760 --> 00:49:14,680
Speaker 4: good fucking vombit like it was huh. So basically the

1055
00:49:14,760 --> 00:49:17,560
Speaker 4: next day, mind you, we have not really She was

1056
00:49:17,680 --> 00:49:21,200
Speaker 4: very clear on our first meeting that the last girl

1057
00:49:21,239 --> 00:49:23,680
Speaker 4: that they tried to date it ended because she was

1058
00:49:23,760 --> 00:49:28,359
Speaker 4: overly facetiming him and was more interested in him than them.

1059
00:49:28,480 --> 00:49:30,799
Speaker 4: And I was like, oh yeah, bitch, I kind of

1060
00:49:30,840 --> 00:49:32,680
Speaker 4: like both of y'all, so don't worry about that. So

1061
00:49:32,960 --> 00:49:35,360
Speaker 4: I I to not make her uncomfortable. I was like,

1062
00:49:35,840 --> 00:49:38,000
Speaker 4: I'm not not gonna speak to him outside of spot

1063
00:49:38,040 --> 00:49:38,520
Speaker 4: speaking to you.

1064
00:49:39,719 --> 00:49:40,359
Speaker 1: So here we go.

1065
00:49:42,000 --> 00:49:45,640
Speaker 4: I go against the grain and sidebar with her. Okay,

1066
00:49:45,719 --> 00:49:48,239
Speaker 4: So I sidebar with her to check in with her

1067
00:49:48,600 --> 00:49:52,040
Speaker 4: because now we've had a few dates, we're texting every

1068
00:49:52,120 --> 00:49:54,919
Speaker 4: day as a group. We just had a whole nother

1069
00:49:55,040 --> 00:49:59,040
Speaker 4: date we had full blown sex. Let me check in

1070
00:49:59,080 --> 00:49:59,320
Speaker 4: with you.

1071
00:50:01,640 --> 00:50:06,279
Speaker 1: She pretty much told me she a lot of me

1072
00:50:06,320 --> 00:50:07,719
Speaker 1: and him make her uncomfortable.

1073
00:50:08,000 --> 00:50:10,640
Speaker 4: How did you do you want me to go through this?

1074
00:50:10,640 --> 00:50:14,160
Speaker 4: Because I want to know we checked will because I

1075
00:50:14,200 --> 00:50:15,680
Speaker 4: wonder if you had to read between no one. I

1076
00:50:15,719 --> 00:50:18,040
Speaker 4: do also want to tell you guys too, what I

1077
00:50:18,080 --> 00:50:22,160
Speaker 4: also love and what I'm learning from because clearly I

1078
00:50:22,440 --> 00:50:25,640
Speaker 4: fucked up in the past. I did ask for both

1079
00:50:25,640 --> 00:50:29,319
Speaker 4: of their permissions to share details on the pod. Are

1080
00:50:29,320 --> 00:50:32,480
Speaker 4: you guys comfortable with me, like if you guys were

1081
00:50:32,520 --> 00:50:34,560
Speaker 4: on Twitter. I know I put emojis over their faces,

1082
00:50:34,840 --> 00:50:38,239
Speaker 4: but they were even open, like you can openly share us.

1083
00:50:38,239 --> 00:50:40,680
Speaker 1: I'm sorry, I'm joining this. I checked in and asked

1084
00:50:40,680 --> 00:50:42,080
Speaker 1: for if like what they were.

1085
00:50:42,280 --> 00:50:44,080
Speaker 4: They were like, you could share whatever, We don't give

1086
00:50:44,080 --> 00:50:46,359
Speaker 4: a fuck, And I really appreciated that. But I am

1087
00:50:46,440 --> 00:50:49,400
Speaker 4: checking in and asking my partners now, like what I

1088
00:50:49,480 --> 00:50:51,960
Speaker 4: can and cannot share on the pod. My band made

1089
00:50:51,960 --> 00:50:55,799
Speaker 4: it clear he's like dick, So so you know, I

1090
00:50:55,920 --> 00:50:59,200
Speaker 4: just thanked her for sharing that experience with me. Thanks

1091
00:50:59,200 --> 00:51:02,120
Speaker 4: for allowing me. You're amazing. Thank you for your patience.

1092
00:51:02,560 --> 00:51:06,759
Speaker 4: She immediately goes into it's not easy being a sub sexually,

1093
00:51:06,880 --> 00:51:09,480
Speaker 4: goes into the psychology of it and all those things.

1094
00:51:09,640 --> 00:51:12,120
Speaker 4: Mind you, now she's dealing with two doms, so we

1095
00:51:12,160 --> 00:51:14,480
Speaker 4: immediately go into where she's at psychologically.

1096
00:51:15,480 --> 00:51:17,600
Speaker 1: Care for her. Oh yeah, we Oh, we.

1097
00:51:17,440 --> 00:51:20,759
Speaker 4: Were cuddling like I for what I believe after care

1098
00:51:20,800 --> 00:51:23,840
Speaker 4: to be. Everyone got water, like he gave both of

1099
00:51:23,880 --> 00:51:25,760
Speaker 4: us water specific to her, though.

1100
00:51:25,800 --> 00:51:27,319
Speaker 1: I mean that, I'm not sure.

1101
00:51:27,400 --> 00:51:30,920
Speaker 4: We hadn't talked about what aftercare specifically is needed and wanted.

1102
00:51:30,960 --> 00:51:34,640
Speaker 1: But we both changed into regular clothes. We hugged each other, He.

1103
00:51:34,680 --> 00:51:38,280
Speaker 4: Got us both water, he was heating up the food

1104
00:51:38,280 --> 00:51:42,200
Speaker 4: that we had gotten earlier. They checked in without me,

1105
00:51:42,880 --> 00:51:45,000
Speaker 4: so I assumed it was fine, and then me and

1106
00:51:45,040 --> 00:51:47,480
Speaker 4: her cuddled watching drunk history. Like me and her were

1107
00:51:47,480 --> 00:51:48,680
Speaker 4: more under the covers together.

1108
00:51:48,840 --> 00:51:51,480
Speaker 1: But you did up rubbing her head. I mean I

1109
00:51:51,520 --> 00:51:53,920
Speaker 1: was pushing her head down too, to be honest with you.

1110
00:51:54,120 --> 00:51:58,400
Speaker 4: Yeah, before you read this, yep, as he's an experienced

1111
00:51:58,400 --> 00:52:00,560
Speaker 4: dom Yeah, hundred percent.

1112
00:52:01,120 --> 00:52:04,399
Speaker 3: I already think that's a fail. What is you bring

1113
00:52:04,440 --> 00:52:06,919
Speaker 3: another woman in? I'm sucking your dick while you're eating

1114
00:52:06,920 --> 00:52:09,560
Speaker 3: her pussy. You're calling me a bitch, talking to me crazy.

1115
00:52:10,200 --> 00:52:13,439
Speaker 3: This is super intense scene and it wasn't all about

1116
00:52:13,480 --> 00:52:15,440
Speaker 3: me right after, like I need.

1117
00:52:15,840 --> 00:52:16,720
Speaker 1: Well, No, they did.

1118
00:52:16,760 --> 00:52:18,680
Speaker 4: They wouldn't change. They were in the kitchen. I went

1119
00:52:18,680 --> 00:52:21,160
Speaker 4: into the back like they had their alone time. So

1120
00:52:21,280 --> 00:52:23,279
Speaker 4: I don't know what after care looks like to her.

1121
00:52:23,480 --> 00:52:25,120
Speaker 4: I wouldn't say it was a fail because I wasn't

1122
00:52:25,120 --> 00:52:27,680
Speaker 4: around them fully after. But then once they got done

1123
00:52:28,520 --> 00:52:30,839
Speaker 4: checking in with each other however they normally do, because

1124
00:52:30,880 --> 00:52:33,080
Speaker 4: again I don't know what that normally looks like. Me

1125
00:52:33,160 --> 00:52:36,440
Speaker 4: and her absolutely checked in. We changed clothes, and then

1126
00:52:36,760 --> 00:52:38,840
Speaker 4: me and her cuddled and I rubbed her. I was

1127
00:52:38,920 --> 00:52:42,440
Speaker 4: rubbing her shoulders, I kissed her like and that I did.

1128
00:52:42,520 --> 00:52:44,279
Speaker 4: I thought I did my part in that because I.

1129
00:52:44,239 --> 00:52:46,920
Speaker 3: Feel like, yeah, you probably did, but if you weren't

1130
00:52:46,920 --> 00:52:49,279
Speaker 3: the one that dominated her in a new dynamic, I.

1131
00:52:49,520 --> 00:52:51,879
Speaker 1: Did a little bit too. Okay, I dominated both of them.

1132
00:52:51,920 --> 00:52:54,840
Speaker 3: I feel like for if I would have just experienced that,

1133
00:52:55,360 --> 00:52:57,680
Speaker 3: Like I just got dominated really hard this weekend by

1134
00:52:57,680 --> 00:53:01,520
Speaker 3: my man, like real bad, like I was asking for everything.

1135
00:53:01,560 --> 00:53:04,320
Speaker 3: By the way, there was almost like a mark from slapping,

1136
00:53:04,960 --> 00:53:07,400
Speaker 3: and like after it, he had to hold me really tight,

1137
00:53:07,520 --> 00:53:10,440
Speaker 3: like constant rubbing, like massaging, talking about how much he

1138
00:53:10,520 --> 00:53:11,480
Speaker 3: loved me, like I ain't gonna live.

1139
00:53:11,480 --> 00:53:12,640
Speaker 1: I didn't have that, I would have died.

1140
00:53:12,760 --> 00:53:16,720
Speaker 4: I think that's a conversation that if you're in those

1141
00:53:17,320 --> 00:53:19,120
Speaker 4: dynamics in a room, like because we've talked about it,

1142
00:53:19,200 --> 00:53:23,319
Speaker 4: like they have such I don't want to call it

1143
00:53:23,400 --> 00:53:27,880
Speaker 4: violent sex, but it's such. It's aggressive sex that literally

1144
00:53:27,960 --> 00:53:30,720
Speaker 4: she's said she's cried sometimes he enjoys seeing her cry.

1145
00:53:30,880 --> 00:53:33,440
Speaker 4: There's another guy that I'm talking to now that literally

1146
00:53:33,560 --> 00:53:36,200
Speaker 4: enjoys seeing bitch's cry during sex and.

1147
00:53:36,200 --> 00:53:37,719
Speaker 1: I don't let him know. Yeah, when we have it,

1148
00:53:38,200 --> 00:53:40,280
Speaker 1: I'm gonna let you stop before I start crying. Bitch.

1149
00:53:40,320 --> 00:53:42,279
Speaker 4: I don't want to motherfucker cry to your sex unless

1150
00:53:42,280 --> 00:53:44,120
Speaker 4: I'm on shrooms and it feels so good and not

1151
00:53:44,239 --> 00:53:46,440
Speaker 4: and came and squirted all over the place that my

1152
00:53:46,480 --> 00:53:47,480
Speaker 4: os was water bro.

1153
00:53:47,400 --> 00:53:50,120
Speaker 1: I cried too, and what's crazy? I want to cry?

1154
00:53:50,239 --> 00:53:52,040
Speaker 1: That's the only I didn't feel like I needed a

1155
00:53:52,080 --> 00:53:52,520
Speaker 1: safe word.

1156
00:53:52,640 --> 00:53:54,960
Speaker 3: So I don't know if anyone's experiences, but the way

1157
00:53:54,960 --> 00:53:56,920
Speaker 3: that I could explain the cry that happened to me,

1158
00:53:58,040 --> 00:54:00,480
Speaker 3: I started crying in the middle of it, from the

1159
00:54:00,480 --> 00:54:02,440
Speaker 3: slapping and the spitting on me and the shit talking.

1160
00:54:02,960 --> 00:54:04,439
Speaker 3: And I was like, am I crying because I don't

1161
00:54:04,480 --> 00:54:06,080
Speaker 3: like because I was turned on? I was getting widder

1162
00:54:06,080 --> 00:54:08,920
Speaker 3: and wedder. Am I crying because this matches the scene?

1163
00:54:09,440 --> 00:54:11,680
Speaker 3: Or am I crying because of what's happening? Like I

1164
00:54:11,719 --> 00:54:14,120
Speaker 3: did not want it to stop, But at the same time,

1165
00:54:14,200 --> 00:54:14,920
Speaker 3: I was crying, and.

1166
00:54:14,920 --> 00:54:17,880
Speaker 1: I was like, what does this mean? Sex is weird?

1167
00:54:18,239 --> 00:54:20,759
Speaker 1: So okay? So we get into he said it's not

1168
00:54:20,760 --> 00:54:22,120
Speaker 1: easy being a sub yes.

1169
00:54:22,920 --> 00:54:27,719
Speaker 4: And she ends it with she said she's navigating how

1170
00:54:27,760 --> 00:54:31,440
Speaker 4: comfortable she is sharing her partner in casual vanilla spaces

1171
00:54:31,480 --> 00:54:33,440
Speaker 4: as well as the bedroom. She said, I just want

1172
00:54:33,440 --> 00:54:35,440
Speaker 4: to say I appreciate you, And I said, trust me,

1173
00:54:35,480 --> 00:54:38,040
Speaker 4: I can only imagine I enjoy my time with y'all

1174
00:54:38,080 --> 00:54:40,520
Speaker 4: outside the sexual space and excited to spore more there

1175
00:54:40,520 --> 00:54:42,880
Speaker 4: with you guys in a dynamic that is new but

1176
00:54:42,920 --> 00:54:45,719
Speaker 4: also pleasurable. Feel free to be open with me. I

1177
00:54:45,920 --> 00:54:48,399
Speaker 4: gave her the floor and did I said, feel free

1178
00:54:48,440 --> 00:54:50,520
Speaker 4: to be open with me. I'm not here to compete

1179
00:54:50,520 --> 00:54:53,080
Speaker 4: with you or make you feel like any more of

1180
00:54:53,120 --> 00:54:57,040
Speaker 4: the giver than you already are, because, oh girl, and

1181
00:54:57,120 --> 00:55:01,480
Speaker 4: I wanted like, because as a sub you are taking

1182
00:55:01,480 --> 00:55:04,160
Speaker 4: in a lot, but you're a giver innately, you might

1183
00:55:04,200 --> 00:55:06,120
Speaker 4: not feel like you can speak out for yourself.

1184
00:55:07,760 --> 00:55:11,680
Speaker 1: Listen, listen, here go. My best was like, she was like, bitch,

1185
00:55:11,680 --> 00:55:12,400
Speaker 1: you need to be a teacher.

1186
00:55:12,400 --> 00:55:14,239
Speaker 4: I said, bit, how A'm teaching a couple how to

1187
00:55:14,239 --> 00:55:15,560
Speaker 4: treat me when they're not comfortable.

1188
00:55:15,680 --> 00:55:16,800
Speaker 1: You need to be a teacher because you're doing a

1189
00:55:16,800 --> 00:55:17,879
Speaker 1: better job to get right now.

1190
00:55:17,960 --> 00:55:19,520
Speaker 4: So she did say that it's hard for me to

1191
00:55:19,520 --> 00:55:22,719
Speaker 4: figure out how our dynamic is supposed to look like

1192
00:55:23,160 --> 00:55:25,960
Speaker 4: when in this space. I said it's new for me too,

1193
00:55:26,000 --> 00:55:28,839
Speaker 4: but I guess that we can customize it. Then we

1194
00:55:28,880 --> 00:55:32,160
Speaker 4: get into I'm not sure what you guys discussed initially,

1195
00:55:33,600 --> 00:55:39,600
Speaker 4: but I wasn't looking for an actual polythrup over romantic relationship,

1196
00:55:40,320 --> 00:55:43,520
Speaker 4: and I said, damn, wish I didn't.

1197
00:55:43,880 --> 00:55:46,560
Speaker 1: I deactivated that bitch. I thought I found you. I

1198
00:55:46,600 --> 00:55:49,239
Speaker 1: ain't need to be on the AB. No, MO deactivated it.

1199
00:55:49,480 --> 00:55:51,160
Speaker 4: Stop looking because I was like, oh, I'm in a

1200
00:55:51,200 --> 00:55:53,560
Speaker 4: dynamic that I want to put focus into. Let me

1201
00:55:53,600 --> 00:55:55,040
Speaker 4: not sit here and feel like I have to keep

1202
00:55:55,040 --> 00:55:59,160
Speaker 4: going on dates. So I literally asked her. Then I said,

1203
00:55:59,160 --> 00:56:01,359
Speaker 4: what is it? What is it you want?

1204
00:56:01,400 --> 00:56:01,680
Speaker 1: Really?

1205
00:56:02,040 --> 00:56:04,360
Speaker 4: I just know his page said that he wasn't looking

1206
00:56:04,400 --> 00:56:06,240
Speaker 4: for O and S and that y'all.

1207
00:56:06,080 --> 00:56:07,440
Speaker 1: Were both looking for a girlfriend.

1208
00:56:07,800 --> 00:56:11,000
Speaker 4: Clearly after the convos we have all had, it seems blurred,

1209
00:56:11,239 --> 00:56:13,520
Speaker 4: is what I told her, because I'm like, I'm thinking

1210
00:56:13,520 --> 00:56:15,600
Speaker 4: we're all on the same page. We don't went on dates,

1211
00:56:15,840 --> 00:56:19,000
Speaker 4: we're at brunch talking about boundaries, we're doing all these

1212
00:56:19,040 --> 00:56:21,279
Speaker 4: things together, and I guess I didn't pick up that

1213
00:56:22,000 --> 00:56:25,080
Speaker 4: because they're in this DDLG. I'm thinking he's speaking for them,

1214
00:56:25,120 --> 00:56:28,480
Speaker 4: and I not realizing she may just feel like she's

1215
00:56:28,800 --> 00:56:31,600
Speaker 4: along for the ride with what he wants.

1216
00:56:32,160 --> 00:56:34,319
Speaker 1: So what he wants and what she wants is a

1217
00:56:34,320 --> 00:56:34,840
Speaker 1: bit different.

1218
00:56:35,400 --> 00:56:39,480
Speaker 4: So she said, he said he was looking for our girlfriend.

1219
00:56:40,280 --> 00:56:42,239
Speaker 4: I didn't notice, and then I told him to change

1220
00:56:42,239 --> 00:56:44,600
Speaker 4: it to no one night stands. I've always told him,

1221
00:56:44,600 --> 00:56:46,640
Speaker 4: I daily, I'd want to be in a committed romantic

1222
00:56:46,719 --> 00:56:50,279
Speaker 4: relationship and marriage with a fun and interesting sex life

1223
00:56:50,719 --> 00:56:54,600
Speaker 4: with friends that we consider genuine friends that we play with.

1224
00:56:55,600 --> 00:56:57,840
Speaker 4: She also went into the fact that, and let me

1225
00:56:57,880 --> 00:57:00,960
Speaker 4: go down to this her big here we go, Her

1226
00:57:00,960 --> 00:57:03,560
Speaker 4: big problem was the term girlfriend.

1227
00:57:04,200 --> 00:57:05,080
Speaker 1: So where he's.

1228
00:57:05,000 --> 00:57:08,279
Speaker 4: Now already because she's calling me a girlfriend, She's like,

1229
00:57:09,840 --> 00:57:12,040
Speaker 4: I can see how that can look like a girlfriend,

1230
00:57:12,320 --> 00:57:15,960
Speaker 4: But to me, a girlfriend, which I am now is

1231
00:57:16,080 --> 00:57:20,080
Speaker 4: much deeper than that. It's love, it's building, it's family

1232
00:57:20,120 --> 00:57:22,800
Speaker 4: and friends are involved, et cetera. So it doesn't sit

1233
00:57:22,920 --> 00:57:25,840
Speaker 4: same for how casual he makes a girlfriend feel.

1234
00:57:26,200 --> 00:57:28,080
Speaker 1: So I could also see there's a.

1235
00:57:28,120 --> 00:57:31,440
Speaker 4: Dynamic where now you're looking to place a hierarchy on

1236
00:57:31,480 --> 00:57:36,480
Speaker 4: this because because now the term entitle of a girlfriend

1237
00:57:36,560 --> 00:57:38,400
Speaker 4: means so much to you that you don't want me

1238
00:57:38,440 --> 00:57:38,800
Speaker 4: to have it.

1239
00:57:40,400 --> 00:57:42,360
Speaker 1: Yeah, But to be honest, I get it.

1240
00:57:42,400 --> 00:57:46,720
Speaker 3: But like, I know, our girlfriend to me does sound playful,

1241
00:57:46,760 --> 00:57:51,240
Speaker 3: not to diminish, right, but you're looking right, I'm just saying, it's.

1242
00:57:51,160 --> 00:57:54,200
Speaker 1: I'm y'all's girlfriend. I'm not just his. But then that's

1243
00:57:54,200 --> 00:57:55,120
Speaker 1: where I get it.

1244
00:57:55,360 --> 00:58:02,280
Speaker 4: Then she started going I told him, oh, this is

1245
00:58:02,320 --> 00:58:04,880
Speaker 4: about being cooked. He wants to be he wants her

1246
00:58:04,880 --> 00:58:08,200
Speaker 4: to be a complete sub and then he she pretty

1247
00:58:08,280 --> 00:58:12,040
Speaker 4: much goes into Then it made me uncomfortable when y'all

1248
00:58:12,080 --> 00:58:14,240
Speaker 4: were kissing. It made me uncomfortable that he was showing

1249
00:58:14,280 --> 00:58:16,720
Speaker 4: affection to you on the pier, like I don't want

1250
00:58:16,720 --> 00:58:19,520
Speaker 4: you to talk to him the peer, And because I

1251
00:58:19,520 --> 00:58:21,480
Speaker 4: had already known she didn't want me to kiss him

1252
00:58:21,800 --> 00:58:22,800
Speaker 4: outside of the bedroom.

1253
00:58:23,080 --> 00:58:25,520
Speaker 1: It was like his arm was around my lower back.

1254
00:58:25,760 --> 00:58:27,480
Speaker 1: We might have her at the same time.

1255
00:58:27,600 --> 00:58:29,840
Speaker 4: Yes, it was he He was the one is such

1256
00:58:29,840 --> 00:58:32,040
Speaker 4: a great fucking job bro. I was like, oh, I

1257
00:58:32,080 --> 00:58:35,640
Speaker 4: love this. She didn't want me to receive any affection.

1258
00:58:36,520 --> 00:58:38,240
Speaker 4: She just kind of wanted me there. And I was like,

1259
00:58:38,320 --> 00:58:40,840
Speaker 4: everything that you're describing is placing me as a unicorn.

1260
00:58:40,960 --> 00:58:44,400
Speaker 4: But also it feels like you feel there's a competition

1261
00:58:44,640 --> 00:58:47,640
Speaker 4: or an insecurity around how he may show up for

1262
00:58:47,720 --> 00:58:49,000
Speaker 4: me and that's not okay for me.

1263
00:58:49,040 --> 00:58:50,320
Speaker 1: Does she acknowledge that? Oh?

1264
00:58:50,600 --> 00:58:53,040
Speaker 4: Oh, I said, also, because then she's like, well, we

1265
00:58:53,040 --> 00:58:54,760
Speaker 4: can still be friends and hang out, And I said, oh, bitch,

1266
00:58:54,800 --> 00:58:55,040
Speaker 4: I got.

1267
00:58:55,000 --> 00:58:58,080
Speaker 1: Friends and I hang out with people to know you bitch,

1268
00:58:58,080 --> 00:59:00,600
Speaker 1: you got me fucked up? You want me to read it?

1269
00:59:00,640 --> 00:59:04,520
Speaker 1: I bitch. Hold on, bitch, you go. I am very

1270
00:59:04,520 --> 00:59:07,880
Speaker 1: clear with what I want right now. I think, so,

1271
00:59:08,000 --> 00:59:08,520
Speaker 1: she said.

1272
00:59:09,200 --> 00:59:13,040
Speaker 4: She said, I think to be safe in a sexual relationship,

1273
00:59:13,040 --> 00:59:14,880
Speaker 4: there needs to be honest into your in paracy, says

1274
00:59:14,880 --> 00:59:17,200
Speaker 4: his name king. Community are more inclined to be honest,

1275
00:59:17,240 --> 00:59:21,120
Speaker 4: I said, I agree they are. Are you okay with hangouts, friendships,

1276
00:59:21,160 --> 00:59:25,040
Speaker 4: and occasional physical experience, no pressure, but whenever the time

1277
00:59:25,320 --> 00:59:27,959
Speaker 4: time allows us to hang I said, I'm entirely fine

1278
00:59:27,960 --> 00:59:30,680
Speaker 4: with that. I'm not pressuring or forsing anything that's not

1279
00:59:30,760 --> 00:59:34,440
Speaker 4: there and don't want to sell myself or convince someone

1280
00:59:34,720 --> 00:59:38,000
Speaker 4: of anything else. Hold on, She goes back into I

1281
00:59:38,000 --> 00:59:39,840
Speaker 4: wanted to share, where I say, no, I don't need that.

1282
00:59:42,480 --> 00:59:42,720
Speaker 1: Oh.

1283
00:59:42,760 --> 00:59:46,320
Speaker 4: So she goes back again me explaining the difference between

1284
00:59:46,320 --> 00:59:50,280
Speaker 4: younicorner relationships. She said, so the casual hangouts and friendship

1285
00:59:50,360 --> 00:59:53,160
Speaker 4: isn't something you would want. Sounds like you're more interested

1286
00:59:53,200 --> 00:59:56,120
Speaker 4: in polyamory. And that's what I realized with our conversation too.

1287
00:59:56,520 --> 01:00:00,880
Speaker 4: We're literally dissecting labels and titles. This is a poly

1288
01:00:01,080 --> 01:00:03,920
Speaker 4: relationship you want. You don't want to be a unicorn,

1289
01:00:03,960 --> 01:00:06,600
Speaker 4: but you so we're the girlfriend title. We're literally just

1290
01:00:06,640 --> 01:00:09,760
Speaker 4: dissecting our meanings of these words. So I said, I

1291
01:00:09,800 --> 01:00:13,080
Speaker 4: need affection. I have a lot of friends and colleagues

1292
01:00:13,280 --> 01:00:16,160
Speaker 4: and casually hang out with people every day. In any

1293
01:00:16,200 --> 01:00:19,720
Speaker 4: sexual relationship I have, I need the affection and intimacy,

1294
01:00:19,920 --> 01:00:22,640
Speaker 4: and it seems like those things I cannot get from

1295
01:00:23,280 --> 01:00:26,480
Speaker 4: his name her man. I would want those things from

1296
01:00:26,480 --> 01:00:28,960
Speaker 4: the both of you. We can absolutely continue hanging, but

1297
01:00:29,000 --> 01:00:31,479
Speaker 4: I wouldn't want to be sexual with y'all. Then I said,

1298
01:00:31,560 --> 01:00:33,920
Speaker 4: I haven't been Polly before, so I can't say that's

1299
01:00:33,960 --> 01:00:35,000
Speaker 4: what I want entirely.

1300
01:00:35,360 --> 01:00:38,000
Speaker 1: But I don't like getting hung up on titles and labels.

1301
01:00:38,400 --> 01:00:39,360
Speaker 1: She then.

1302
01:00:40,800 --> 01:00:42,480
Speaker 4: She then wrote I appreciate it so much that Da

1303
01:00:42,560 --> 01:00:45,760
Speaker 4: Dada the next morning wrote both of them, thanks guys,

1304
01:00:45,760 --> 01:00:48,080
Speaker 4: this was a great experience. I'm gonna let y'all get

1305
01:00:48,080 --> 01:00:48,680
Speaker 4: on the same page.

1306
01:00:49,640 --> 01:00:51,800
Speaker 1: Let me give you a lot to see. So yeah,

1307
01:00:51,880 --> 01:00:52,520
Speaker 1: that's where we're at.

1308
01:00:52,640 --> 01:00:57,080
Speaker 4: So basically, this whole dynamic, I think is being introduced

1309
01:00:57,080 --> 01:01:00,400
Speaker 4: into a relationship. I think because she's a sub, she's

1310
01:01:00,440 --> 01:01:03,520
Speaker 4: down to try it out, but she's not fully comfortable

1311
01:01:03,520 --> 01:01:05,440
Speaker 4: in voicing herself to her partner, and I think wants

1312
01:01:05,520 --> 01:01:08,320
Speaker 4: to do this to just make to please him, And

1313
01:01:08,360 --> 01:01:10,120
Speaker 4: for me, it would have been a waste of my

1314
01:01:10,240 --> 01:01:14,360
Speaker 4: time because if I'm coming into a dynamic where you're

1315
01:01:14,400 --> 01:01:17,800
Speaker 4: so insecure about me growing my own relationship with the man,

1316
01:01:18,040 --> 01:01:20,200
Speaker 4: but yet you and I can kiss in public, you

1317
01:01:20,240 --> 01:01:21,720
Speaker 4: and I can sidebar, you and I can do all

1318
01:01:21,760 --> 01:01:24,280
Speaker 4: these things, but you're limiting me to doing that with

1319
01:01:24,360 --> 01:01:26,919
Speaker 4: the man. Bitch, I may as well just go out

1320
01:01:26,920 --> 01:01:29,280
Speaker 4: and be a hoe and charge niggas for this experience.

1321
01:01:29,680 --> 01:01:32,880
Speaker 4: I'd rather fucking sleep with a couple in Fiji or

1322
01:01:33,000 --> 01:01:33,920
Speaker 4: Aruba or.

1323
01:01:33,960 --> 01:01:37,280
Speaker 1: Borrow vacation then fucking New Brunswick. Are you kidding me?

1324
01:01:38,720 --> 01:01:41,840
Speaker 4: Like, bitch, I would rather be a third for a

1325
01:01:41,880 --> 01:01:44,880
Speaker 4: couple that the bitch let me say this.

1326
01:01:45,280 --> 01:01:48,280
Speaker 1: Yeah, so when Mandy said this to me yesterday.

1327
01:01:48,480 --> 01:01:50,520
Speaker 4: I love that you want to try to call cap

1328
01:01:50,520 --> 01:01:52,480
Speaker 4: all my messages, Yeah, bitch, I told her I don't know.

1329
01:01:52,480 --> 01:01:54,600
Speaker 4: I don't believe I got friends. I got friends, so

1330
01:01:55,360 --> 01:01:56,160
Speaker 4: I hang out already.

1331
01:01:56,320 --> 01:02:02,000
Speaker 3: I was so annoyed with this because of the conversation

1332
01:02:02,680 --> 01:02:06,720
Speaker 3: with my homegirl about me accepting cheating, because she's like,

1333
01:02:06,760 --> 01:02:10,120
Speaker 3: I've met so many women that do this and they

1334
01:02:10,200 --> 01:02:11,680
Speaker 3: end up not being happy years down the road.

1335
01:02:11,680 --> 01:02:14,440
Speaker 1: And I was like, bro, I'm really not that bitch,

1336
01:02:15,520 --> 01:02:17,200
Speaker 1: and this bitch no offense.

1337
01:02:17,560 --> 01:02:19,760
Speaker 4: Don't call my bitch because that's just so y'all know

1338
01:02:19,880 --> 01:02:22,640
Speaker 4: I'm talking about to both of them. And I said, uh,

1339
01:02:22,880 --> 01:02:24,479
Speaker 4: once you'll figure out and get on the same page.

1340
01:02:24,480 --> 01:02:27,360
Speaker 4: I would like to be reconsidered. Yes, like I really

1341
01:02:27,400 --> 01:02:28,720
Speaker 4: like objiction.

1342
01:02:28,600 --> 01:02:33,120
Speaker 3: Just like, but this bitch basically entered into something that won.

1343
01:02:33,240 --> 01:02:35,840
Speaker 3: You can tell they didn't communicate enough. They thought it

1344
01:02:35,880 --> 01:02:38,400
Speaker 3: was hot, they thought they were kinky enough. I don't

1345
01:02:38,400 --> 01:02:39,240
Speaker 3: know who's to blame.

1346
01:02:39,320 --> 01:02:41,640
Speaker 1: I think both of them, they both. I think mainly

1347
01:02:41,760 --> 01:02:43,400
Speaker 1: him because.

1348
01:02:43,600 --> 01:02:46,520
Speaker 3: You know your bitch and you know what I'm saying,

1349
01:02:46,600 --> 01:02:48,200
Speaker 3: and as you're them, let.

1350
01:02:48,040 --> 01:02:49,360
Speaker 1: Me get it at Your bitch was because of the

1351
01:02:49,400 --> 01:02:50,600
Speaker 1: dom that dynamic.

1352
01:02:51,040 --> 01:02:53,800
Speaker 3: That's what I mean as a dom. If you are

1353
01:02:53,840 --> 01:02:56,960
Speaker 3: a true experienced domb, you are full. You have so

1354
01:02:57,120 --> 01:03:00,000
Speaker 3: much language around what that stub is comfortable with you

1355
01:03:00,200 --> 01:03:02,400
Speaker 3: reading cues, body language, you.

1356
01:03:02,360 --> 01:03:03,720
Speaker 1: Are having constant conversation.

1357
01:03:03,880 --> 01:03:06,600
Speaker 3: You may be a great dom in sex, but you

1358
01:03:06,680 --> 01:03:09,240
Speaker 3: took this somewhere else and involved another person. To me,

1359
01:03:09,400 --> 01:03:12,120
Speaker 3: this is no different than a nigga doing girlfriendshit with

1360
01:03:12,160 --> 01:03:13,880
Speaker 3: me and then telling me they don't want a girlfriend.

1361
01:03:14,040 --> 01:03:17,320
Speaker 3: And I really did not like hearing this because when

1362
01:03:17,600 --> 01:03:20,000
Speaker 3: I spoke to you about this, the first thing anyone

1363
01:03:20,080 --> 01:03:21,720
Speaker 3: that I said, really they want a girlfriend? This is

1364
01:03:21,720 --> 01:03:23,800
Speaker 3: at your studio, and you said, yes, they do. They

1365
01:03:23,840 --> 01:03:25,440
Speaker 3: said girlfriends said girl said it like.

1366
01:03:25,440 --> 01:03:26,400
Speaker 1: Two or three times.

1367
01:03:26,680 --> 01:03:29,919
Speaker 3: And so now what I actually feel she didn't really

1368
01:03:29,920 --> 01:03:32,840
Speaker 3: do anything wrong by communicating what she couldn't handle. But

1369
01:03:32,920 --> 01:03:35,480
Speaker 3: I will be honest by saying I think she should

1370
01:03:35,480 --> 01:03:39,000
Speaker 3: have dealt with her jealousy alone first reevaluated it, had

1371
01:03:39,000 --> 01:03:42,360
Speaker 3: a conversation with him about it before even saying that

1372
01:03:42,440 --> 01:03:45,640
Speaker 3: to you, because I feel like she tried to sidebar

1373
01:03:45,800 --> 01:03:48,080
Speaker 3: to get you to be a unicorn without fully telling

1374
01:03:48,200 --> 01:03:50,480
Speaker 3: him how that made her feel. I do not think

1375
01:03:50,720 --> 01:03:53,080
Speaker 3: she let him know how jealous she was feeling. I

1376
01:03:53,120 --> 01:03:56,240
Speaker 3: also think it was super unfair for her to continue

1377
01:03:56,280 --> 01:03:59,680
Speaker 3: on in seeing you in different relationships and different scenes

1378
01:03:59,680 --> 01:04:00,000
Speaker 3: and differ.

1379
01:04:00,400 --> 01:04:02,680
Speaker 4: To be fair, I do believe they sidebarred that night

1380
01:04:02,760 --> 01:04:04,480
Speaker 4: after our sidebard. I don't think she told him that

1381
01:04:04,720 --> 01:04:08,440
Speaker 4: because well because she she The next morning, when we

1382
01:04:08,640 --> 01:04:11,360
Speaker 4: pretty much broke up with each other, she texts me,

1383
01:04:11,760 --> 01:04:14,400
Speaker 4: I appreciate you so much and I'm so sorry for

1384
01:04:14,440 --> 01:04:18,680
Speaker 4: all the misc miscommunication slash confusion with us. We are

1385
01:04:18,720 --> 01:04:20,720
Speaker 4: on the same page when it comes to the ultimate

1386
01:04:20,760 --> 01:04:23,280
Speaker 4: goal of what we want in life. That level of

1387
01:04:23,320 --> 01:04:26,240
Speaker 4: affection and intimacy that you want is understandable, but I

1388
01:04:26,240 --> 01:04:27,440
Speaker 4: don't think it's something we can get.

1389
01:04:27,520 --> 01:04:30,320
Speaker 3: They never had a three some before, they've never had

1390
01:04:30,320 --> 01:04:30,760
Speaker 3: a three sex.

1391
01:04:30,880 --> 01:04:33,880
Speaker 1: I don't think she was And this is why I.

1392
01:04:33,960 --> 01:04:36,840
Speaker 3: Literally have told people friend of mine that just got married,

1393
01:04:36,880 --> 01:04:38,400
Speaker 3: they were like talking about a threesome right.

1394
01:04:38,800 --> 01:04:39,480
Speaker 1: One of her.

1395
01:04:39,360 --> 01:04:43,120
Speaker 3: Homegirls is a vibe and like wants to fuck them

1396
01:04:43,160 --> 01:04:44,800
Speaker 3: and it's super respectful of boundaries.

1397
01:04:45,040 --> 01:04:47,160
Speaker 1: I'm like, God, you cannot do this.

1398
01:04:47,800 --> 01:04:50,880
Speaker 3: You have to see how you feel with a random

1399
01:04:50,920 --> 01:04:53,560
Speaker 3: bitch first. You have to go have a sex worker,

1400
01:04:53,640 --> 01:04:56,320
Speaker 3: suck as dick, be around him, see what things are

1401
01:04:56,560 --> 01:04:57,800
Speaker 3: are making you feel away.

1402
01:04:58,160 --> 01:05:00,320
Speaker 1: Don't just involve someone, especially when.

1403
01:05:00,240 --> 01:05:03,040
Speaker 3: You care about and then later you're like, oh, now

1404
01:05:03,080 --> 01:05:05,760
Speaker 3: you lost a friend and you fucking made this whole

1405
01:05:05,760 --> 01:05:08,680
Speaker 3: thing awkward. I do not think people should be involving

1406
01:05:08,680 --> 01:05:11,920
Speaker 3: someone to that level. I can tell already from her

1407
01:05:11,920 --> 01:05:15,320
Speaker 3: feeling jealous from a kiss during bro that kisses the

1408
01:05:15,400 --> 01:05:16,640
Speaker 3: kids during set.

1409
01:05:16,480 --> 01:05:20,240
Speaker 1: And oh, but I called you. We was kissing that

1410
01:05:20,440 --> 01:05:22,640
Speaker 1: niggas kiss We was kissing, kissing. What was she doing

1411
01:05:22,640 --> 01:05:23,320
Speaker 1: when you were kissing?

1412
01:05:23,720 --> 01:05:26,560
Speaker 4: Bitch sucking his dick like she was fucking pleasamb And

1413
01:05:26,840 --> 01:05:29,640
Speaker 4: I was up there like and we were. And then

1414
01:05:29,640 --> 01:05:33,120
Speaker 4: I'd go from like the long sensual kisses to slapping

1415
01:05:33,200 --> 01:05:36,440
Speaker 4: him his motherfucking face and spitting his motherfucking mouth and

1416
01:05:36,520 --> 01:05:37,560
Speaker 4: tell him get nigg.

1417
01:05:37,560 --> 01:05:39,760
Speaker 3: I think that this is just sad thing about it though, Well,

1418
01:05:40,040 --> 01:05:44,680
Speaker 3: is a sub really just felt powerless? And to me,

1419
01:05:45,520 --> 01:05:48,960
Speaker 3: that is never where the sub should go, Like when

1420
01:05:49,000 --> 01:05:51,040
Speaker 3: I'm asking to be slapped in the face or called

1421
01:05:51,040 --> 01:05:53,080
Speaker 3: a bit or be spit on or whatever. These are

1422
01:05:53,440 --> 01:05:55,880
Speaker 3: things I'm talking about before, and I just can't see

1423
01:05:55,880 --> 01:05:58,880
Speaker 3: a world where they really talked about I just don't

1424
01:05:58,920 --> 01:05:59,360
Speaker 3: believe it.

1425
01:05:59,440 --> 01:06:02,360
Speaker 4: I mean, I don't know. I think that we're the

1426
01:06:02,360 --> 01:06:05,439
Speaker 4: things that they've done. How they've expressed their sex life

1427
01:06:05,480 --> 01:06:07,680
Speaker 4: to me, it seems kinky, it seems.

1428
01:06:07,480 --> 01:06:09,720
Speaker 1: Enjoyable, but it doesn't pleasurable.

1429
01:06:10,720 --> 01:06:14,880
Speaker 4: But I also think that this is another thing that

1430
01:06:14,960 --> 01:06:20,080
Speaker 4: I realized, and I wonder this. She's a complete sub

1431
01:06:20,320 --> 01:06:23,040
Speaker 4: and she's saying that that takes a toll on her psychologically.

1432
01:06:23,640 --> 01:06:27,720
Speaker 4: And I wonder if the way he kissed me, the

1433
01:06:27,720 --> 01:06:31,919
Speaker 4: way he reacted to me made her uncomfortable because those

1434
01:06:32,000 --> 01:06:34,440
Speaker 4: that's not a dynamic he sees from her, like.

1435
01:06:34,800 --> 01:06:40,200
Speaker 6: Even like, like, even though she's a complete sub, maybe

1436
01:06:40,200 --> 01:06:41,920
Speaker 6: there's a maybe she wants to be more of a

1437
01:06:41,960 --> 01:06:44,520
Speaker 6: switch but feels like she's too much into the sub

1438
01:06:44,600 --> 01:06:46,240
Speaker 6: role where now it can't be changed.

1439
01:06:46,240 --> 01:06:47,600
Speaker 3: I don't think it's that she wants to be a switch.

1440
01:06:47,600 --> 01:06:49,880
Speaker 3: I think what really can transpire from being a sub

1441
01:06:51,440 --> 01:06:54,000
Speaker 3: is a little bit of humiliation. Like I don't know

1442
01:06:54,000 --> 01:06:55,439
Speaker 3: if I could be subbed the fuck out in front

1443
01:06:55,440 --> 01:06:56,000
Speaker 3: of someone else.

1444
01:06:56,880 --> 01:06:59,720
Speaker 1: Ah, Like that's what I'm talking about with I told

1445
01:06:59,720 --> 01:07:02,360
Speaker 1: her she did a good job. That's not enough. I

1446
01:07:02,360 --> 01:07:04,720
Speaker 1: mean it can be condescending. I mean, no it was.

1447
01:07:04,960 --> 01:07:05,280
Speaker 1: I didn't.

1448
01:07:05,320 --> 01:07:08,840
Speaker 4: I'm not saying yeah, But how psychologically I get that

1449
01:07:08,880 --> 01:07:12,959
Speaker 4: it can be a lot because to be fair, bitch,

1450
01:07:12,960 --> 01:07:13,520
Speaker 4: couldn't be me.

1451
01:07:14,480 --> 01:07:15,480
Speaker 1: I couldn't be.

1452
01:07:15,480 --> 01:07:18,800
Speaker 3: Could be either, And I'm a sub sub. Most of

1453
01:07:18,920 --> 01:07:21,520
Speaker 3: my stories in the book we wrote bro have to

1454
01:07:21,560 --> 01:07:22,720
Speaker 3: do with subshit.

1455
01:07:22,520 --> 01:07:24,240
Speaker 4: Like we went, we went and we got oysters, we

1456
01:07:24,240 --> 01:07:26,200
Speaker 4: had to wait while he goes went and got keys made.

1457
01:07:26,240 --> 01:07:30,920
Speaker 1: One time and she talked about she talked about.

1458
01:07:30,720 --> 01:07:35,080
Speaker 4: You know sometimes the dom sub doesn't turn off, and

1459
01:07:35,360 --> 01:07:37,320
Speaker 4: you know the ways that sometimes he talks to her.

1460
01:07:37,320 --> 01:07:38,480
Speaker 1: And I was like, oh, yeah, he ain't gonna talk

1461
01:07:38,760 --> 01:07:39,960
Speaker 1: talk to you in no way around me.

1462
01:07:40,040 --> 01:07:41,360
Speaker 4: I said, I'm gonna let you know that right now,

1463
01:07:41,360 --> 01:07:43,560
Speaker 4: because niggas don't talk crazy like around me.

1464
01:07:43,840 --> 01:07:46,080
Speaker 1: And she was just like, but I don't know if

1465
01:07:46,080 --> 01:07:47,479
Speaker 1: also just that talking like.

1466
01:07:47,680 --> 01:07:51,040
Speaker 4: She saw a different part of him or he acted

1467
01:07:51,080 --> 01:07:53,160
Speaker 4: differently when we were both around him, that maybe also

1468
01:07:53,160 --> 01:07:56,080
Speaker 4: made her uncomfortable, like damn, you're changing around this other bitch.

1469
01:07:56,200 --> 01:07:59,760
Speaker 4: But it's because my energy, my personality, how I show

1470
01:07:59,840 --> 01:08:01,760
Speaker 4: up demands.

1471
01:08:01,280 --> 01:08:04,560
Speaker 3: You know, happy to be saying, just so you know,

1472
01:08:05,240 --> 01:08:08,240
Speaker 3: I do not like couples that can't figure their shit out, that.

1473
01:08:08,360 --> 01:08:09,240
Speaker 1: Want you involved.

1474
01:08:09,360 --> 01:08:11,880
Speaker 4: Well, I think it was just a whole different dynamic.

1475
01:08:11,880 --> 01:08:14,640
Speaker 4: They've been together for a year. I really hope they

1476
01:08:14,640 --> 01:08:17,000
Speaker 4: get it right. I would reconsider joining them again if

1477
01:08:17,000 --> 01:08:19,080
Speaker 4: she gets it because I like her and I like

1478
01:08:19,160 --> 01:08:23,080
Speaker 4: this really a turnoff though, like I still fucking both. No,

1479
01:08:23,160 --> 01:08:26,400
Speaker 4: it's a turnoff for me to hear that, Like, I

1480
01:08:26,560 --> 01:08:31,320
Speaker 4: just don't like hearing when people that are exploring different

1481
01:08:31,360 --> 01:08:35,519
Speaker 4: types of sex involve other people. And then to me,

1482
01:08:35,920 --> 01:08:42,160
Speaker 4: to be clear, none of us have family members have

1483
01:08:42,880 --> 01:08:47,280
Speaker 4: been taught classes like he's forty, she's thirty two, I'm

1484
01:08:47,320 --> 01:08:50,240
Speaker 4: thirty three, Like they still ask for a girl. But no,

1485
01:08:50,320 --> 01:08:54,439
Speaker 4: But what I'm saying is none of us really know yet,

1486
01:08:54,479 --> 01:08:56,559
Speaker 4: and the same way I said, well, let's customize what

1487
01:08:56,600 --> 01:08:58,840
Speaker 4: works for us. This is all very different for a

1488
01:08:58,840 --> 01:09:02,600
Speaker 4: lot of people to even be having the ability an

1489
01:09:02,640 --> 01:09:06,680
Speaker 4: authority to explore these types of relationships without like it

1490
01:09:06,760 --> 01:09:09,600
Speaker 4: being awkward with their families now having to know, like

1491
01:09:09,640 --> 01:09:11,800
Speaker 4: it takes a lot for people even our age the

1492
01:09:12,080 --> 01:09:14,200
Speaker 4: same way your friends even want to be judging about

1493
01:09:14,240 --> 01:09:16,519
Speaker 4: you and how you navigate shit, This takes a lot

1494
01:09:16,560 --> 01:09:19,439
Speaker 4: for people to be like, actually, I'm not monogamous and

1495
01:09:19,479 --> 01:09:20,320
Speaker 4: I really want this.

1496
01:09:20,280 --> 01:09:21,760
Speaker 1: Type of lifestyle and take a lot.

1497
01:09:21,960 --> 01:09:24,760
Speaker 3: And I'm not saying that her expressing her feelings is wrong.

1498
01:09:25,160 --> 01:09:28,960
Speaker 3: I'm just saying for people that can get on this app,

1499
01:09:29,000 --> 01:09:31,080
Speaker 3: for people that are ethically no monogamous, for people that

1500
01:09:31,360 --> 01:09:33,479
Speaker 3: can do all that you don't.

1501
01:09:33,520 --> 01:09:35,640
Speaker 1: They don't sound like they're great communicator with each other.

1502
01:09:35,760 --> 01:09:36,200
Speaker 1: They wouldn't.

1503
01:09:36,640 --> 01:09:39,040
Speaker 4: But it's what you said too, like or someone's like, damn,

1504
01:09:39,040 --> 01:09:39,840
Speaker 4: you wasted your time.

1505
01:09:39,880 --> 01:09:40,559
Speaker 1: I don't see it.

1506
01:09:40,520 --> 01:09:43,599
Speaker 4: That way my time, And then I think you text

1507
01:09:43,640 --> 01:09:47,600
Speaker 4: something like damn. I wonder who's more wrong, And I

1508
01:09:47,640 --> 01:09:49,920
Speaker 4: think I responded to you, bro. I don't think anyone's wrong.

1509
01:09:50,160 --> 01:09:52,200
Speaker 4: I think she's entitled to feel how she feels. I'm

1510
01:09:52,200 --> 01:09:54,720
Speaker 4: glad that she expressed it to me. I knew I

1511
01:09:54,800 --> 01:09:59,400
Speaker 4: wasn't someone that wanted to tiptoe around what that dynamic

1512
01:09:59,400 --> 01:10:01,639
Speaker 4: could look like, because I really wanted a strong dynamic

1513
01:10:01,680 --> 01:10:04,960
Speaker 4: with him as well, and I exided I think that

1514
01:10:04,960 --> 01:10:07,800
Speaker 4: that's the problem when we date people, monogamous or not.

1515
01:10:08,520 --> 01:10:09,920
Speaker 1: A person will tell you exactly what.

1516
01:10:09,840 --> 01:10:12,280
Speaker 4: They're looking for or what they don't want, and instead

1517
01:10:12,320 --> 01:10:14,559
Speaker 4: of listening to them, you might try to shape shift

1518
01:10:14,600 --> 01:10:15,840
Speaker 4: into making it work for you.

1519
01:10:16,800 --> 01:10:18,040
Speaker 1: That wouldn't have worked for me.

1520
01:10:18,040 --> 01:10:19,479
Speaker 4: And I was just glad that she was able to

1521
01:10:19,520 --> 01:10:22,040
Speaker 4: tell me what made her comfortable and uncomfortable because a

1522
01:10:22,040 --> 01:10:23,720
Speaker 4: lot of people don't know how to express that in

1523
01:10:23,840 --> 01:10:25,280
Speaker 4: dating or in sex.

1524
01:10:25,320 --> 01:10:28,360
Speaker 3: Well, I actually think she knew that before, though, So

1525
01:10:28,439 --> 01:10:31,559
Speaker 3: that's kind of what's annoying to me. I think someone

1526
01:10:31,560 --> 01:10:35,840
Speaker 3: that couldn't handle watching you kissed during sex knew they

1527
01:10:35,880 --> 01:10:38,120
Speaker 3: couldn't handle She just went with it.

1528
01:10:39,680 --> 01:10:41,160
Speaker 1: And that's why I kind of all, fuck it. I'm

1529
01:10:41,240 --> 01:10:42,120
Speaker 1: kind of okay.

1530
01:10:42,200 --> 01:10:45,080
Speaker 3: That's why you're taking this down.

1531
01:10:47,400 --> 01:10:48,840
Speaker 1: With you would not feel that way.

1532
01:10:48,920 --> 01:10:52,120
Speaker 4: I'm okay with actually being I guess this ain't gonna

1533
01:10:52,120 --> 01:10:54,639
Speaker 4: sound great. I'm okay with being a guinea pig. I'm

1534
01:10:54,680 --> 01:10:57,920
Speaker 4: okay with going into a dynamic where they're still trying

1535
01:10:57,920 --> 01:11:00,559
Speaker 4: to figure it out. Me and my ex figuring it

1536
01:11:00,600 --> 01:11:02,640
Speaker 4: out to where, oh, bitch, I don't I knew. I

1537
01:11:02,720 --> 01:11:04,360
Speaker 4: didn't want to throuble with him. Bit ch'all want a

1538
01:11:04,439 --> 01:11:06,160
Speaker 4: unicorns where I didn't even remember bitch his name is.

1539
01:11:06,160 --> 01:11:09,000
Speaker 4: The next day, go suck my nigga dick and be gone,

1540
01:11:09,040 --> 01:11:10,639
Speaker 4: suck my nigga dick, sleep on the floor.

1541
01:11:10,840 --> 01:11:12,360
Speaker 1: I didn't want all that affection of dating.

1542
01:11:12,400 --> 01:11:14,080
Speaker 4: I used to tell you that when you and your

1543
01:11:14,120 --> 01:11:15,960
Speaker 4: ex would go out and you're like, oh, I want

1544
01:11:15,960 --> 01:11:17,599
Speaker 4: to go on a date first. Now, bitch, we're gonna

1545
01:11:17,600 --> 01:11:19,240
Speaker 4: go to a sex club. Fuck this bitch and be out.

1546
01:11:19,520 --> 01:11:22,280
Speaker 4: Like I knew that that's what I wanted. So like

1547
01:11:22,360 --> 01:11:25,360
Speaker 4: to me a couple figuring out what works for them

1548
01:11:25,439 --> 01:11:28,559
Speaker 4: when including other people. I don't mind a little bumps

1549
01:11:28,560 --> 01:11:31,719
Speaker 4: along the road. I just happened to come across where

1550
01:11:32,040 --> 01:11:35,519
Speaker 4: they didn't really uh what I are not the pavement,

1551
01:11:35,600 --> 01:11:37,360
Speaker 4: yet they still had a little bit of crass in

1552
01:11:37,360 --> 01:11:39,760
Speaker 4: our foundation. I'm fine with that being a thing as

1553
01:11:39,760 --> 01:11:41,200
Speaker 4: long as they're able to work through it.

1554
01:11:41,760 --> 01:11:43,840
Speaker 3: Well, if you guys want to be my unicorn, I'll

1555
01:11:43,840 --> 01:11:45,280
Speaker 3: tell you I won't put you through any of that shit.

1556
01:11:45,600 --> 01:11:49,320
Speaker 4: Well, no, it's consensual. I'm not just making a bit

1557
01:11:49,360 --> 01:11:51,720
Speaker 4: sleep on the floor. I'm not talking about okay, oh no, no, no,

1558
01:11:51,720 --> 01:11:55,720
Speaker 4: no you did. I'm talking about oh God, like you

1559
01:11:55,720 --> 01:11:58,120
Speaker 4: want a unicorn though you wouldn't get back into a throuble.

1560
01:11:58,160 --> 01:12:00,639
Speaker 1: You want a unicorn. I'll tell you that oop. If

1561
01:12:00,640 --> 01:12:03,400
Speaker 1: you guys are interested, my nick is fine, and.

1562
01:12:04,960 --> 01:12:07,559
Speaker 3: I think for me unicorn, but not unicorn like you

1563
01:12:07,560 --> 01:12:09,160
Speaker 3: have to like dip out, will never see you again

1564
01:12:09,200 --> 01:12:11,240
Speaker 3: one night. All the type shit, I'm not ever going

1565
01:12:11,280 --> 01:12:12,320
Speaker 3: to be in a throutfle again.

1566
01:12:12,960 --> 01:12:18,200
Speaker 4: Okay, but wait to end it all, I actually still

1567
01:12:18,200 --> 01:12:19,120
Speaker 4: would love a thruffle.

1568
01:12:19,760 --> 01:12:20,840
Speaker 1: So even though this.

1569
01:12:20,880 --> 01:12:25,679
Speaker 4: Experience was a little shaky, I'm looking for a throatfle.

1570
01:12:25,760 --> 01:12:28,280
Speaker 4: Y'all both gotta be fine. I'm telling you that now,

1571
01:12:28,840 --> 01:12:30,640
Speaker 4: and preferably he has money because I'm too dumb. I

1572
01:12:30,840 --> 01:12:32,360
Speaker 4: realized I was trying to pick up too much of

1573
01:12:32,400 --> 01:12:34,240
Speaker 4: the shots and shit, I was like, let me let

1574
01:12:34,320 --> 01:12:36,760
Speaker 4: him do everything. I'm still a sub one. I don't

1575
01:12:36,960 --> 01:12:39,639
Speaker 4: want you to let me do Yeah, but why.

1576
01:12:39,439 --> 01:12:41,320
Speaker 1: Would you never do a throutle again before we got

1577
01:12:41,320 --> 01:12:41,720
Speaker 1: out of here?

1578
01:12:42,120 --> 01:12:45,120
Speaker 3: So uh, at this juncture in my life, I don't

1579
01:12:45,120 --> 01:12:47,439
Speaker 3: want to do a th throutle again because, Okay, my

1580
01:12:47,600 --> 01:12:51,120
Speaker 3: relationship is really solid, okay, and I don't really need

1581
01:12:51,160 --> 01:12:54,040
Speaker 3: outside energy fucking up my foundation, especially when.

1582
01:12:53,960 --> 01:12:58,320
Speaker 4: So like fucking threesomes. Doesn't that that doesn't count as

1583
01:12:58,320 --> 01:12:59,000
Speaker 4: outside energy?

1584
01:12:59,160 --> 01:13:01,439
Speaker 3: No, no, no, I mean like being able to take on

1585
01:13:01,439 --> 01:13:05,120
Speaker 3: someone else's emotions, emotions, things like that, like to me throuble.

1586
01:13:05,400 --> 01:13:07,360
Speaker 3: But again, I was in a thruple where we were

1587
01:13:07,400 --> 01:13:09,920
Speaker 3: all really indebted to each other. I'm not looking for that.

1588
01:13:10,240 --> 01:13:12,960
Speaker 3: I mean, I told him recently, like, I really don't

1589
01:13:13,040 --> 01:13:14,680
Speaker 3: just want to fucking bitch. What I would love is

1590
01:13:14,960 --> 01:13:17,920
Speaker 3: we're dating someone we fuck her. I would love to

1591
01:13:17,920 --> 01:13:19,360
Speaker 3: get to the point because I'm in LA every other

1592
01:13:19,400 --> 01:13:21,280
Speaker 3: week where maybe they can have sex without me and

1593
01:13:21,280 --> 01:13:23,880
Speaker 3: I'm feeling comfortable. I'm not at that level of comfortability yet,

1594
01:13:24,120 --> 01:13:25,720
Speaker 3: but I would love to get there again because I

1595
01:13:25,840 --> 01:13:26,799
Speaker 3: was there in my last thrupple.

1596
01:13:26,880 --> 01:13:29,200
Speaker 4: No, she didn't even want me texting that nigga on

1597
01:13:29,200 --> 01:13:31,160
Speaker 4: the side. He was like, well, what if you can't

1598
01:13:31,200 --> 01:13:32,960
Speaker 4: be free? And she was like, nope, y'all can't hang

1599
01:13:32,960 --> 01:13:34,720
Speaker 4: out without me either. She ain't want none of that,

1600
01:13:34,760 --> 01:13:36,000
Speaker 4: and so that's why I was like.

1601
01:13:36,000 --> 01:13:37,559
Speaker 3: Right now, I'm not ready for that, but I want

1602
01:13:37,560 --> 01:13:41,640
Speaker 3: to grow there. Okay, Okay, I think I'm the opposite.

1603
01:13:41,920 --> 01:13:45,320
Speaker 4: I think the reason why coming into a couple made

1604
01:13:45,360 --> 01:13:49,040
Speaker 4: sense to me was because I felt like I could

1605
01:13:49,280 --> 01:13:52,040
Speaker 4: give less of myself, which I think is where I'm at. Yeah,

1606
01:13:52,240 --> 01:13:55,200
Speaker 4: I can't give one person my all. I don't want

1607
01:13:55,479 --> 01:13:59,120
Speaker 4: someone super highly focused on where I'm at what I'm doing.

1608
01:13:59,400 --> 01:14:03,519
Speaker 4: Would like I like the idea that bitch y'all go

1609
01:14:03,640 --> 01:14:05,840
Speaker 4: have fun like or that I just didn't have to

1610
01:14:05,880 --> 01:14:08,120
Speaker 4: give too much to someone. I'm in a place right

1611
01:14:08,160 --> 01:14:10,080
Speaker 4: now where maybe I ain't got a lot to give.

1612
01:14:10,360 --> 01:14:12,599
Speaker 4: And when I if we can make plans and do that,

1613
01:14:12,600 --> 01:14:14,840
Speaker 4: that feels good. But a part of me is just

1614
01:14:14,880 --> 01:14:16,559
Speaker 4: not at a place where I think I could fully

1615
01:14:16,600 --> 01:14:19,519
Speaker 4: be with one person right now give that energy to

1616
01:14:19,560 --> 01:14:20,120
Speaker 4: just one person.

1617
01:14:20,160 --> 01:14:21,920
Speaker 1: So I'm giving the energy and I can't give it

1618
01:14:21,960 --> 01:14:23,920
Speaker 1: to too Yeah, that's what I'm saying. It's too much.

1619
01:14:24,479 --> 01:14:26,639
Speaker 3: But yeah, you know, you can slide on my DMS.

1620
01:14:26,680 --> 01:14:28,759
Speaker 3: Let me know if you're in the New York area,

1621
01:14:29,160 --> 01:14:33,759
Speaker 3: slide in mine. We are healthy. Not baxed, but waxed

1622
01:14:34,439 --> 01:14:37,599
Speaker 3: and shout out to Wolf not boxed.

1623
01:14:39,520 --> 01:14:42,280
Speaker 4: But I knew your mother, like your car was faked

1624
01:14:42,280 --> 01:14:43,800
Speaker 4: when we got back on tour. But I ain't gonna

1625
01:14:43,800 --> 01:14:44,280
Speaker 4: say nothing.

1626
01:14:45,000 --> 01:14:47,000
Speaker 1: I know it was. I told like, oh yeah I

1627
01:14:47,000 --> 01:14:50,720
Speaker 1: got my car, bitch, bitch a closure was he here

1628
01:14:50,760 --> 01:14:50,960
Speaker 1: I go.

1629
01:14:51,200 --> 01:14:53,479
Speaker 4: That was one of our breakups that Nigga broke up

1630
01:14:53,479 --> 01:14:55,120
Speaker 4: with me because I went and got baxed without talking

1631
01:14:55,120 --> 01:14:57,840
Speaker 4: to him. He said, you're making those decisions. That was

1632
01:14:57,880 --> 01:15:00,200
Speaker 4: one of our breakups. He broke up with me because

1633
01:15:00,200 --> 01:15:02,679
Speaker 4: I want to got the COVID, the COVID vaccination.

1634
01:15:02,760 --> 01:15:03,639
Speaker 1: I was like, kovid.

1635
01:15:03,800 --> 01:15:05,280
Speaker 4: I said, nigga, we about to go back on tour

1636
01:15:05,320 --> 01:15:07,799
Speaker 4: and I need my money. Shoot me up with whatever. Nigga,

1637
01:15:08,080 --> 01:15:09,679
Speaker 4: you just took acid and you mad.

1638
01:15:09,720 --> 01:15:12,559
Speaker 1: I got a goddamn COVID vaccine. Bitch. We'll be on

1639
01:15:12,640 --> 01:15:15,680
Speaker 1: drugs every fucking week and you mad. Bruh.

1640
01:15:15,800 --> 01:15:17,880
Speaker 3: But then just gave me four xanax and I only

1641
01:15:17,920 --> 01:15:19,640
Speaker 3: need it one. Right, My nigga was like, let me

1642
01:15:19,640 --> 01:15:20,280
Speaker 3: throw out the rest.

1643
01:15:20,320 --> 01:15:21,480
Speaker 1: Throw out.

1644
01:15:21,840 --> 01:15:24,400
Speaker 3: Oh that's all no that anyway, we don't well, let

1645
01:15:24,439 --> 01:15:27,479
Speaker 3: me keep going going sometime manifested my men. Let me

1646
01:15:27,520 --> 01:15:31,600
Speaker 3: manifest our girlfriend. So I would love it if you

1647
01:15:31,680 --> 01:15:33,160
Speaker 3: like to go out for Dan like Dan. That's what

1648
01:15:33,240 --> 01:15:35,160
Speaker 3: we do every weekend. We love dancing every weekend. I

1649
01:15:35,240 --> 01:15:37,920
Speaker 3: like to eat, bitch, I like making breakfast. You know,

1650
01:15:37,960 --> 01:15:41,439
Speaker 3: you gotta like Nina. But yeah, I'm not necessarily comfortable

1651
01:15:41,479 --> 01:15:44,760
Speaker 3: with dating without each other at the moment, but I

1652
01:15:44,760 --> 01:15:47,559
Speaker 3: would love to get there. So you know, if you

1653
01:15:47,600 --> 01:15:51,120
Speaker 3: just want to fucking fineance nigga and me, damn me.

1654
01:15:52,080 --> 01:15:54,720
Speaker 4: And if you want to hear more about my two

1655
01:15:54,800 --> 01:15:58,200
Speaker 4: and a half week thruble relationship, uh, join us on

1656
01:15:58,240 --> 01:16:02,559
Speaker 4: Patreon cuz we did go to the sex club together

1657
01:16:03,200 --> 01:16:06,320
Speaker 4: and had a really really good, interesting time, So I'm

1658
01:16:06,320 --> 01:16:09,280
Speaker 4: gonna share those details on the Patreon. You guys can

1659
01:16:09,320 --> 01:16:13,080
Speaker 4: also hear about our first date. I recorded with Wheezy

1660
01:16:13,160 --> 01:16:15,400
Speaker 4: and shared what our first date was like. So go

1661
01:16:15,479 --> 01:16:18,440
Speaker 4: on over to our patreon. That's patreon dot com Backslash

1662
01:16:18,560 --> 01:16:22,519
Speaker 4: Horrible Decisions. Also, if you're checking us out on YouTube,

1663
01:16:22,600 --> 01:16:26,800
Speaker 4: make sure you hit that subscribe button. Drop some comments below.

1664
01:16:26,880 --> 01:16:30,080
Speaker 4: If you had a successful or non successful throttle, we'd

1665
01:16:30,080 --> 01:16:30,960
Speaker 4: love to hear it below.

1666
01:16:31,400 --> 01:16:33,519
Speaker 1: Tell us who you agree with, disagree with, who's wrong,

1667
01:16:33,560 --> 01:16:35,880
Speaker 1: who's right? I don't fucking know y'all be arguing every

1668
01:16:35,920 --> 01:16:36,680
Speaker 1: week about.

1669
01:16:36,400 --> 01:16:40,200
Speaker 3: Something yeah, oh no, yeah, what's the girl? Justin what

1670
01:16:40,400 --> 01:16:43,760
Speaker 3: do you agree with me? And saying Nigga's right?

1671
01:16:44,120 --> 01:16:47,519
Speaker 1: I agree. They weren't ready, which is why I bound out.

1672
01:16:47,520 --> 01:16:50,759
Speaker 3: I know they have three I don't you know, because

1673
01:16:50,760 --> 01:16:53,479
Speaker 3: if they did, they would have known about the kissing bony. Yeah,

1674
01:16:53,479 --> 01:16:55,120
Speaker 3: they didn't really know their boundaries, and I was just

1675
01:16:55,200 --> 01:16:58,320
Speaker 3: willing to, like, Okay, well let's create them. I mean,

1676
01:16:58,439 --> 01:17:00,560
Speaker 3: me and my ex created our boundaries. We went, you know,

1677
01:17:00,640 --> 01:17:01,880
Speaker 3: when me and my nigga was talking about it. I

1678
01:17:01,920 --> 01:17:03,719
Speaker 3: was like, oh shit, Mandy and the couple broke up already.

1679
01:17:03,720 --> 01:17:06,160
Speaker 3: He's like, what happened? So we started talking about jealousy,

1680
01:17:06,200 --> 01:17:08,559
Speaker 3: and I was like, you know what's crazy. I feel

1681
01:17:08,600 --> 01:17:10,880
Speaker 3: like beauty wouldn't make me jealous because like I want

1682
01:17:10,880 --> 01:17:12,720
Speaker 3: to fuck a bitch that's bad as fuck right right.

1683
01:17:13,000 --> 01:17:14,840
Speaker 3: But I was like, Manny thick and that girl lint

1684
01:17:15,160 --> 01:17:16,920
Speaker 3: and I was like, nah, she has a nice azed body,

1685
01:17:16,920 --> 01:17:19,000
Speaker 3: though I mean you thick. And I was like, I

1686
01:17:19,040 --> 01:17:21,240
Speaker 3: feel like if we fucked a thick bitch because my

1687
01:17:21,320 --> 01:17:23,120
Speaker 3: nigga like a big bud. I was like, that might

1688
01:17:23,160 --> 01:17:25,599
Speaker 3: make me be like really not in a way where

1689
01:17:25,600 --> 01:17:27,120
Speaker 3: like I would be like, oh, we can never fuck her,

1690
01:17:27,120 --> 01:17:28,880
Speaker 3: are going to be super insecure, but I would try.

1691
01:17:28,880 --> 01:17:30,160
Speaker 1: I was really trying to think of the things that

1692
01:17:30,200 --> 01:17:34,320
Speaker 1: would make me feel slight jealousy. I think definitely something

1693
01:17:34,360 --> 01:17:35,120
Speaker 1: I don't have.

1694
01:17:35,680 --> 01:17:37,400
Speaker 3: You know, I feel very confident in who I am

1695
01:17:37,400 --> 01:17:39,840
Speaker 3: and what I look like, but ass I may never

1696
01:17:39,880 --> 01:17:40,280
Speaker 3: get there.

1697
01:17:41,760 --> 01:17:44,040
Speaker 4: Like even the nigga that I told you like, did

1698
01:17:44,040 --> 01:17:45,960
Speaker 4: we talk every day, like the one I don't really

1699
01:17:46,000 --> 01:17:48,479
Speaker 4: talk to about on this podcast much. When we had

1700
01:17:48,520 --> 01:17:50,679
Speaker 4: a threesome, and it was a threeesome of a bitch

1701
01:17:50,760 --> 01:17:54,599
Speaker 4: like that wasn't even white girl skinny, not at all

1702
01:17:54,640 --> 01:17:55,280
Speaker 4: anything like me.

1703
01:17:56,120 --> 01:17:57,800
Speaker 1: The only thing I asked was who gave better head?

1704
01:17:59,080 --> 01:18:01,759
Speaker 4: I just said because I couldn't even fuck so because

1705
01:18:01,760 --> 01:18:03,400
Speaker 4: I was on my period, so he fucked her.

1706
01:18:03,439 --> 01:18:05,240
Speaker 3: I didn't feel any type of fucking jealousy. I was

1707
01:18:05,240 --> 01:18:07,240
Speaker 3: like that bit, yeah, don't feel jalous. During this said

1708
01:18:07,240 --> 01:18:08,599
Speaker 3: I'm trying to think of what I would I.

1709
01:18:08,560 --> 01:18:12,200
Speaker 4: Mean, I realized though too, that ended as well with

1710
01:18:12,280 --> 01:18:14,920
Speaker 4: the double face come shot. That must be the way

1711
01:18:14,960 --> 01:18:15,920
Speaker 4: that I enjoyed three.

1712
01:18:15,920 --> 01:18:18,799
Speaker 3: So I think that's what niggas want. That's the dream

1713
01:18:18,920 --> 01:18:20,840
Speaker 3: in a well, I like it. I have to come

1714
01:18:20,880 --> 01:18:22,400
Speaker 3: on their face to have a three.

1715
01:18:22,520 --> 01:18:24,880
Speaker 1: Yeah. I might actually fill away if you fucking her

1716
01:18:24,960 --> 01:18:28,040
Speaker 1: and come? Where is it for me? I want to

1717
01:18:28,080 --> 01:18:30,160
Speaker 1: see it? Goddamn anyway, see you next week, See you

1718
01:18:30,160 --> 01:18:33,400
Speaker 1: guys next week. This has been another episode of Horrible.

1719
01:18:36,560 --> 01:18:42,680
Speaker 4: Chob Please child, please welcome to a bonus episode of

1720
01:18:42,800 --> 01:18:45,040
Speaker 4: Patreon kind of improm too.

1721
01:18:45,120 --> 01:18:47,720
Speaker 1: So I'm gonna let Weezy lead this. Where were we going?

1722
01:18:47,760 --> 01:18:50,120
Speaker 1: Didn't you say you wanted to update them on? We

1723
01:18:50,200 --> 01:18:52,240
Speaker 1: knew we was recorded last year. Yeah, but no there

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Speaker 1: was no outline since so.

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Speaker 3: Oh, I mean we're catching up the Busterny's gonna have

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Speaker 3: a fucking goddamn seizure this helllining delivered.

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Speaker 1: I'm gonna start doing a fake outline. I don't put

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Speaker 1: ketchup must times.

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Speaker 4: Kind of what they do be every time you do

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Speaker 4: a outline, we really don't stick to it.

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Speaker 3: I just don't find the need to when I know

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Speaker 3: that we can have a good conversation, like be super regimented.

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Speaker 1: I know maybe what I want to talk about as

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Speaker 1: far as the juice goes.

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Speaker 3: But I mean, I maybe this may help explain it

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Speaker 3: a little better now, especially in my life with making

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Speaker 3: different shows, with having another show, even with for fact's sake,

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Speaker 3: I kind of have higher expectations of being able to

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Speaker 3: go on the fly with you.

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Speaker 1: Not saying it's on you. But I don't need it.

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Speaker 3: I've said this so many times with different conversations, or

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Speaker 3: even if we're talking about a project with somebody else,

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Speaker 3: I just don't need it with you. We just did

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Speaker 3: someone else's podcast. I didn't really see her instructive question

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Speaker 3: too often at all. I just don't find that it's

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01:19:47,880 --> 01:19:51,720
Speaker 3: that necessary, and sometimes my most favorite conversations with you

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Speaker 3: were the ones that were impromptu, Like I have an

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Speaker 3: idea of what I want to talk about with you

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01:19:55,320 --> 01:19:57,719
Speaker 3: today and opinions I want from you, But I also

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01:19:57,760 --> 01:20:00,479
Speaker 3: feel more relaxed and less pressured on a Patreon episode

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01:20:00,520 --> 01:20:03,560
Speaker 3: to do so. Patreon has become home for me a

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01:20:03,600 --> 01:20:06,120
Speaker 3: little bit. When it comes to doing an episode, I like, oh, well,

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01:20:06,160 --> 01:20:10,040
Speaker 3: hope they know that's changing. Not really, it's still going

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Speaker 3: to make me feel more comfortable to be on Patreon

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01:20:12,000 --> 01:20:12,799
Speaker 3: with what's changing.

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Speaker 1: Okay, you know what do you think?

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Speaker 3: Well, what episodes have been some of your favorites that

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Speaker 3: you've seen in conversations with Andy and I over the years.

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Speaker 1: I definitely see it both ways.

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Speaker 2: I do enjoy impromptu. I think sometimes there's a certain

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Speaker 2: magic that comes from just like on the fly, you

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01:20:29,320 --> 01:20:30,880
Speaker 2: know what I mean. But then I also have seen

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Speaker 2: plenty of moments where the structure is needed, not necessarily.

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Speaker 3: And we have the structured show so that can't die

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Speaker 3: like and I think that's probably why I don't feel so.

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Speaker 1: I know we got our hord drive, I know we're

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Speaker 1: going to talk about news.

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Speaker 3: So even if there's nothing there, I already in my

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Speaker 3: brain knows something I want to talk about that happened

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Speaker 3: in the news right.

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Speaker 4: But to me, I would like to see that because

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Speaker 4: a part of me likes to come in either a

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Speaker 4: little bit more researched or coming in with an opinion

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Speaker 4: that I can sit with for a little bit, especially

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Speaker 4: because niggas don't like my opinions anyway, I don't feel

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Speaker 4: as prepared to explain myself in the quickness that I

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Speaker 4: may need to, or to combat your questions to my

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Speaker 4: opinion with hearing about it right in the moment. So

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Speaker 4: for me, it's a comfortability thing of going in knowing

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Speaker 4: where I stand on a topic and being able to

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Speaker 4: defend my opinion knowing you may disagree and come back.

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Speaker 1: At me with why do I feel this way?

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Speaker 4: I mean, I think even that was that was very

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Speaker 4: prevalent in me just sharing how I was enthralled at

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Speaker 4: seeing Chris Brown on stage and seeing the power that

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Speaker 4: he has and us immediately going into discussing supporting a

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Speaker 4: domestic abuser Like to me, that frozzled me because well,

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Speaker 4: I wasn't ready to stand on that being my opinion,

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Speaker 4: but I.

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Speaker 1: Didn't have to research while you're supporting him.

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Speaker 4: No, no, no, no, no, that was just an excuse, not

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Speaker 4: an excuse.

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Speaker 1: That was an example. I'm sorry.

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Speaker 4: So that's an example if I know I'm coming in

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Speaker 4: talking about JD. Vance and the political landscape and what

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Speaker 4: thought like to me, just I yes, but even that,

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Speaker 4: I wasn't ready to get into the conversation about domestic

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Speaker 4: violence because it wasn't on the outline. So to me,

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Speaker 4: on topics that are just strong like that, not where

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Speaker 4: we're just giving comedic relief, I because I have such

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Speaker 4: insecurity with my ability to explain my point in a

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Speaker 4: fast paced thing being questioned being why do you stand

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Speaker 4: on this opinion? To me, I want to come in

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Speaker 4: and be firm about my opinion, knowing that it may

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Speaker 4: not be one that most people have or will agree with.

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Speaker 4: So to me, I just I see so many times

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Speaker 4: where I'm like, damn, I could have explained that better,

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Speaker 4: or Damn I wish I said this, Damn I wish.

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Speaker 4: So when it's those well we have outlines or the

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Speaker 4: outline structure. To me, it's even why I ask you, hey,

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Speaker 4: I haven't gotten the outline yet.

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Speaker 3: Well, if you are also cool with doing ketchup and mustards, no, no, no,

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Speaker 3: I know that.

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Speaker 1: So this is what this episode is. Oh, I didn't

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Speaker 1: know that because we've done three. I just didn't know. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: I didn't know. You just had a Patreon episode. I

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Speaker 1: didn't know this was a ketchup a Mustard.

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Speaker 4: But I'm just saying, if it's a ketchup at Mustard,

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Speaker 4: I love that I get to explain why having that

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Speaker 4: outline a few hours before or a couple of days

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Speaker 4: before we record an up. So it is important to

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Speaker 4: me because this has been quite the insecurity that I've

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Speaker 4: had in getting into deeper conversations on this show where

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Speaker 4: I know we're gonna have different opinions because I do

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Speaker 4: have an insecurity with my ability to form fucking sentences.

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Speaker 4: I know I do this for a living now, but

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Speaker 4: I just want to have a strong stance in my

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Speaker 4: opinion where I can explain it effectively.

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Speaker 1: That's all, Like you.

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Speaker 4: Feel me like, that's really That's really where I've gotten into.

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Speaker 4: And yes we have, we've both done all these other projects.

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Speaker 4: To me, even pre production was a really big thing

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Speaker 4: with a commility. So you just called a segment from

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Speaker 4: our bonus content over on Patreon.

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01:23:40,520 --> 01:23:44,600
Speaker 3: We have so much more bonus content, BTS, live episodes,

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Speaker 3: hundreds of hours.

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