WEBVTT - The Blaze 0:00:13.680 --> 0:00:19.439 Here we go again. We're rolling. We know parenting is back. 0:00:20.160 --> 0:00:24.080 You thought it wouldn't be, but it is. Yeah. Everyone 0:00:24.120 --> 0:00:26.960 thought this podcast was just going to end abruptly after 0:00:27.120 --> 0:00:31.360 last week, but it didn't. Peter McNerney here, Beth Newell 0:00:31.440 --> 0:00:37.239 here reporting, reporting live from parenthood. Um, hey, are you 0:00:37.280 --> 0:00:40.559 new to the podcast? If you are, um, that's who 0:00:40.600 --> 0:00:43.200 we are. We are parents, we are married, we have children. 0:00:43.320 --> 0:00:46.800 We've stopped explaining this a long time ago. But for 0:00:46.880 --> 0:00:49.800 those of you who, maybe for those of you just 0:00:49.880 --> 0:00:51.800 joining us us at the part of the podcast where 0:00:51.800 --> 0:00:56.960 we ramble into a vague intro of our parenting podcast, 0:00:57.160 --> 0:01:03.240 we have a five year old named Bryns Nuts this week, 0:01:03.400 --> 0:01:07.760 and Maven is three, and she's a goof. Maven's Maven's 0:01:07.760 --> 0:01:13.920 embracing her goof hood this week. She's a give She's 0:01:13.920 --> 0:01:18.440 always been a goof, yeah, but she's she's a self 0:01:18.480 --> 0:01:22.440 aware goof. So there's a lot of silly dances. There's 0:01:22.440 --> 0:01:25.840 a lot of farts, there's a lot of look at me? 0:01:26.400 --> 0:01:32.560 Is that funny? It's costume season as well as scorpio season. 0:01:33.200 --> 0:01:39.800 Well they go hand in hand. Everyone's really in a mood. 0:01:40.120 --> 0:01:43.039 Did you notice what's on this chair over here. What 0:01:43.319 --> 0:01:49.760 is it permanent marker? What? Maven has tucked in several 0:01:49.760 --> 0:01:55.440 of her stuffed animals under her blanket. She's really into 0:01:55.880 --> 0:01:58.560 taking care of things and putting them to bed. This 0:01:58.640 --> 0:02:01.640 is really new for her to play with dolls in 0:02:01.680 --> 0:02:07.840 a in like an affectionate girly way. Yeah, for sure. Um, 0:02:07.880 --> 0:02:10.760 it seems on schedule she's going to get a baby 0:02:10.800 --> 0:02:14.240 cousin and she's going to be like, I'm the mom. 0:02:14.360 --> 0:02:18.280 I mean, yeah, she's as We've talked about this a 0:02:18.320 --> 0:02:22.520 million times, but you know, we didn't. We didn't particularly 0:02:22.639 --> 0:02:26.880 give her girly stuff. She found it, and she found pink, 0:02:26.919 --> 0:02:29.480 and it's her identity. She seeked it out. But she 0:02:29.560 --> 0:02:35.120 hasn't really ever been that into the like stereotypical like 0:02:36.000 --> 0:02:39.680 mom toys like baby dolls and kitchen sets. Like she's 0:02:39.720 --> 0:02:45.880 not like obsessed with like it's performing womanhood. Oh that's true. 0:02:45.960 --> 0:02:50.400 She means she's obsessed with unicorns and pink and princesses. 0:02:51.240 --> 0:02:53.440 But that's true. So the baby thing is new. The 0:02:53.520 --> 0:02:56.840 baby thing is new, but she's she's actually more she 0:02:57.120 --> 0:02:58.959 has been doing that with animals for a while, like 0:02:59.000 --> 0:03:02.440 stuffed animals. She'll like I'm the doctor. She did. She 0:03:02.480 --> 0:03:06.760 gave me a very convincing portrayal of a doctor when 0:03:06.760 --> 0:03:11.200 she was playing with her docmic Stephen's veterinarian set and 0:03:11.320 --> 0:03:13.600 with the animals, and she would take like the blood 0:03:13.600 --> 0:03:16.720 pressure thing and like put it on very carefully, and 0:03:16.760 --> 0:03:19.520 she was like giving me a checkup. And she was 0:03:19.600 --> 0:03:22.680 just so calm and casual, casual about it in a 0:03:22.680 --> 0:03:24.880 way where I was like, this is exactly how a 0:03:25.000 --> 0:03:29.280 nurse is in the room. She was just like and 0:03:29.560 --> 0:03:31.440 I just have to tap this on the side of 0:03:31.480 --> 0:03:35.680 your face and like, but it was like not um, 0:03:35.880 --> 0:03:38.080 real doctor check up stuff she was doing. But it 0:03:38.120 --> 0:03:43.400 all felt very like she plays for herself and Bryn 0:03:43.560 --> 0:03:50.560 plays to the room. Yeah, boy, Bryn has He's a 0:03:50.720 --> 0:03:56.000 just peak argument. Everything is an argument. He's been a 0:03:56.000 --> 0:03:58.800 little bit of a nightmare this week. I'm like, well, 0:03:59.200 --> 0:04:01.400 I was like, well, they the bathroom in your classroom, right, 0:04:01.480 --> 0:04:06.120 He's like, no, there's no bathroom in my classroom. I'm like, well, 0:04:06.160 --> 0:04:09.200 I've been there, I've seen it. And he goes, your 0:04:09.240 --> 0:04:12.800 teacher said that there was a bathroom in the classroom. Um, 0:04:14.040 --> 0:04:17.840 she was kidding, daddy, there's no bathroom in the classroom. 0:04:19.960 --> 0:04:23.520 School is so boring. He's been cranky, He's been saying 0:04:23.520 --> 0:04:26.120 school is boring. I was telling a friends they were 0:04:26.160 --> 0:04:28.599 like someone was talking about how mean their kid is 0:04:28.640 --> 0:04:31.200 to them, which is like everyone says that, but like 0:04:32.279 --> 0:04:34.760 when kids are like really mean, the things they find 0:04:34.760 --> 0:04:37.920 to say are like so cutting and burned with. I 0:04:38.000 --> 0:04:39.599 was laughing about it because I was like, where did 0:04:39.640 --> 0:04:41.720 you come up with this? But like yesterday I was 0:04:41.720 --> 0:04:44.080 trying to get him to brush his teeth or something, 0:04:44.120 --> 0:04:47.960 and he was like, you're a bad mommy. He's like 0:04:48.000 --> 0:04:50.080 you're like he basically was like you're a bad mother, 0:04:50.440 --> 0:04:53.000 like and it was like, I cannot believe you came 0:04:53.080 --> 0:04:56.800 up with that. Like, I mean, it's a pretty simple 0:04:56.839 --> 0:04:58.640 thing to say. I know, I know, but it just 0:04:58.680 --> 0:05:04.800 like feels so cut singing. This is my greatest fear. 0:05:04.920 --> 0:05:06.520 When I was hanging on my friend in l A 0:05:06.520 --> 0:05:09.160 a couple of weeks ago, her daughter, who's Maven's age, 0:05:09.240 --> 0:05:11.400 turned to her like in the middle of playing, it 0:05:11.480 --> 0:05:15.440 was just like, mommy, I can't stop. And then she 0:05:15.560 --> 0:05:18.320 like continued she like went on and like it did 0:05:18.360 --> 0:05:21.240 something else. We were like, whoa, that was like chilling, 0:05:21.400 --> 0:05:24.800 Like she just like out of nowhere. It was connected 0:05:24.800 --> 0:05:30.120 to nothing. She was just thinking about time and growing. 0:05:30.600 --> 0:05:37.360 I can't stop, mommy, so I should continue goodbye. Um 0:05:37.360 --> 0:05:41.880 so mayven. So I tell you this a couple of 0:05:41.960 --> 0:05:43.880 nights ago, I don't know. We're getting ready for bed 0:05:44.560 --> 0:05:48.680 and Maven comes running in. I'm getting I'm pulling out 0:05:48.720 --> 0:05:54.000 some jammies because they're obviously not taking the initiative. And 0:05:54.040 --> 0:05:58.600 Maven comes running into the room completely naked. She was daddy, daddy, 0:05:58.680 --> 0:06:05.480 and she leans to own and just opens up, uh 0:06:05.640 --> 0:06:10.640 everything down there and goes, what's this bump? And I 0:06:10.680 --> 0:06:14.000 had to, without laughing a straight face, day, um, that's 0:06:14.040 --> 0:06:19.640 your clatoris And she went what and laughed at me 0:06:19.800 --> 0:06:23.200 and shook her head and walked out of the room. 0:06:23.240 --> 0:06:26.320 I'm impressed that you dealt with it so calmly. I 0:06:26.360 --> 0:06:29.120 was like, well, I don't. I don't want. I don't 0:06:29.120 --> 0:06:32.760 want to treat this like it's a funny thing, because 0:06:33.360 --> 0:06:34.880 you don't want to give any way to the moment 0:06:34.880 --> 0:06:37.080 where they're like, is it funny if I show off 0:06:37.120 --> 0:06:39.320 my genitals to the room, Like you don't want to 0:06:40.160 --> 0:06:44.520 create any sort of any reward. I'm going to give 0:06:44.560 --> 0:06:48.640 you a very clinical I didn't say it serious. I 0:06:48.680 --> 0:06:52.520 didn't say it goofy. I just said it, and she 0:06:52.760 --> 0:06:56.000 could feel that there was something like naughty about it. 0:06:57.480 --> 0:07:00.320 She's very into like talking about her but lately, oh 0:07:00.400 --> 0:07:03.119 my god, have you seen her? But because she's happy 0:07:03.160 --> 0:07:05.800 to show it to you and any other part of her. 0:07:07.160 --> 0:07:10.480 Um okay, So my funniest Maven moment of the weekend 0:07:10.720 --> 0:07:14.000 it was she had been in the other room playing 0:07:14.000 --> 0:07:18.600 with the scissors and she walked into the kitchen and goes, um, 0:07:18.640 --> 0:07:23.320 my hair looks a little bit cutted, and of course 0:07:23.360 --> 0:07:26.800 she had cut her bangs. Luckily she only cut like 0:07:26.880 --> 0:07:30.600 the tiniest piece of her bangs. For clarity, these are 0:07:30.640 --> 0:07:33.520 like the safety scissors, Yeah, yeah, they're Yeah. She had 0:07:33.520 --> 0:07:36.160 been cutting paper with like like kids scissors, and she's 0:07:36.200 --> 0:07:38.760 actually very careful with that sort of thing. So I 0:07:39.080 --> 0:07:41.880 but I was like, I cannot leave these out now 0:07:41.920 --> 0:07:45.120 because she's they're they're both just like fiends, like you 0:07:45.160 --> 0:07:49.480 never know what the pens anymore. They see what they 0:07:49.520 --> 0:07:53.040 did at antique table. The more I tell them about 0:07:53.400 --> 0:07:55.920 how permanent markers are not for them, the more they 0:07:56.200 --> 0:08:00.120 crave permanent markers every second of the day. I needed 0:08:00.160 --> 0:08:03.520 to sharp to write my name on this thin piece 0:08:03.520 --> 0:08:06.520 of paper. On top of this, we're gonna need to 0:08:06.560 --> 0:08:11.200 get like a lockbox or something for literally everything we own. Um, 0:08:11.320 --> 0:08:14.160 but just oh, Beth, we could put them in a 0:08:14.200 --> 0:08:19.240 lock box. I mean, she's more practical. Yeah. Oh. So 0:08:19.280 --> 0:08:21.920 then I was like, I was like, oh, may then don't. 0:08:21.960 --> 0:08:23.680 You're not supposed to. Kids are not supposed to cut 0:08:23.680 --> 0:08:25.280 their hair. And I hadn't even seen the damage, and 0:08:25.400 --> 0:08:28.600 I was just like, you can't do that, and she 0:08:28.920 --> 0:08:35.040 burst into tears so passionately. She had been really tired, 0:08:35.160 --> 0:08:36.600 and I was just like, oh my god. I was like, 0:08:36.679 --> 0:08:41.680 it's okay. I'd like comfort her. She was so she 0:08:41.840 --> 0:08:44.320 felt so guilty. I do think she was just I 0:08:44.360 --> 0:08:45.920 think there's a part of her that she was like, 0:08:46.480 --> 0:08:52.520 my beautiful hair, what have I done? I had well? 0:08:52.559 --> 0:08:55.200 And then because she also her face was covered in chocolate, 0:08:55.320 --> 0:08:59.760 like inexplicably, like she was like, no, I don't know 0:09:00.000 --> 0:09:04.600 you like that. There's that chocolate hummus from Trader Joe's around. Yeah. 0:09:04.640 --> 0:09:08.720 That that that makes me nervous. I can't wrap my 0:09:08.760 --> 0:09:12.040 brain around kee and chocolate chickpeas. It's like they're eating beans. 0:09:12.120 --> 0:09:15.480 That's good for them chocolate. Yeah I didn't try it 0:09:15.520 --> 0:09:22.000 beans um. But anyway, so she was so upset and 0:09:22.040 --> 0:09:26.360 then I calmed her down and yeah, here we are, here, 0:09:26.400 --> 0:09:34.560 we are. Um. We went to a big event this weekend. 0:09:35.360 --> 0:09:38.800 Should we talk about it? A very big event, big deal. 0:09:39.320 --> 0:09:43.640 Halloween is this Thursday. Yeah, okay. So for those of 0:09:43.679 --> 0:09:47.640 you who don't live in Westchester County, New York, there 0:09:47.760 --> 0:09:52.480 is something called the Great Jack o' Lantern Blaze, sometimes 0:09:52.480 --> 0:09:55.720 called just the Pumpkin Plaze, sometimes called the Pumpkin Place. 0:09:55.840 --> 0:09:58.520 If you're Brandon, you want to correct your daddy when 0:09:58.679 --> 0:10:01.800 daddy says jack'lina bla. But what you need to know 0:10:02.760 --> 0:10:04.520 is that when it comes to Westchester, this is like 0:10:04.600 --> 0:10:07.920 the event of the year, Like this is the bless 0:10:08.320 --> 0:10:12.160 a scene for you. There's nothing more important to west 0:10:12.280 --> 0:10:15.199 Chester in If you're a mom, a dad, a kid 0:10:15.520 --> 0:10:19.280 in Westchester, a living, breathing human being, you're going to 0:10:19.320 --> 0:10:24.079 be seen at the Blue Blaze. So the Blaze is 0:10:24.120 --> 0:10:29.040 where they carve I think it's like over a thousands. 0:10:29.720 --> 0:10:32.360 Their claim to famous that these are all hand carved pumpkins, 0:10:32.360 --> 0:10:35.640 which means they're not all living pumpkins. Some of them 0:10:35.640 --> 0:10:40.120 are hand carved like pumpkins something I mean, don't get 0:10:40.200 --> 0:10:44.680 us wrong. There's a tremendous number of very real pumpkins. Yeah, 0:10:45.240 --> 0:10:48.040 it's impressive. And they have you know, they have different 0:10:48.280 --> 0:10:51.400 gimmicky pumpkins, dinosaur podkas. I just want to pause right 0:10:51.440 --> 0:10:55.160 here and admit that so far how we've described it 0:10:55.200 --> 0:10:58.720 doesn't sound cool. But just wait if you were to 0:10:58.760 --> 0:11:03.119 behold the speck to gill of pump pumpkins and mass 0:11:03.720 --> 0:11:07.480 lit before you through a child's eyes who's witnessing them 0:11:07.480 --> 0:11:10.760 in the dark, a child who never stays up at night. 0:11:11.120 --> 0:11:14.520 And we're also talking about tremendous lighting design up into 0:11:14.559 --> 0:11:18.960 the trees, tremendous, tremendous they have. So this is in 0:11:19.040 --> 0:11:21.719 Croton on Hudson, which is near Sleepy Hollow. So it's 0:11:21.760 --> 0:11:26.840 like the home of the Headless Horsemen basically was born. 0:11:27.080 --> 0:11:29.120 And so they have a path of pumpkins that leads 0:11:29.160 --> 0:11:31.960 deep into the woods where you just look spookily down 0:11:32.040 --> 0:11:38.320 this creepy path. It's very it's very autumnal. It is 0:11:38.880 --> 0:11:44.360 aggressively autumn. It's also set on a historical site where 0:11:44.400 --> 0:11:46.280 I do think a ghost tried to get into my 0:11:46.320 --> 0:11:50.760 body at one point of course, but it's the historical buildings. 0:11:50.800 --> 0:11:54.680 It's very spooky. So anyway, these pumpkins. They build a 0:11:54.800 --> 0:11:58.600 giant replica of the Brooklyn Bridge out of pumpkins. They 0:11:58.600 --> 0:12:00.760 make a statue liber out of pumpkin. They have big 0:12:00.800 --> 0:12:05.240 creepy Jack in the box made out of pumpkins, and 0:12:05.280 --> 0:12:07.720 then a giant scary jack lantern pops out of it 0:12:07.760 --> 0:12:13.400 and scares our kids. They have every zodiac sign fully 0:12:13.440 --> 0:12:18.480 created in pumpkins. Um they have, so I think we've 0:12:18.480 --> 0:12:21.400 paid it a picture for you of how amazing it is. 0:12:21.600 --> 0:12:27.240 And every section has a pumpkin pun based name. But 0:12:27.280 --> 0:12:29.800 I gotta say my greatest achievement of the weekend was 0:12:29.880 --> 0:12:33.319 that they said the Pumpkin Bridge for the Brooklyn Bridge, 0:12:34.040 --> 0:12:36.640 and I was like, that's the lamest. They couldn't have 0:12:36.760 --> 0:12:42.920 gone with the gored Washington Bridge for the pumpkin z bridge. 0:12:43.880 --> 0:12:47.000 No hold on, we're gonna let everybody applaud from my 0:12:47.080 --> 0:12:53.680 joke because they're they're all falling over in their seats 0:12:51.679 --> 0:12:59.599 for the gorge Washington Bridge. Okay, I was I was 0:12:59.760 --> 0:13:02.240 really a really trying to hire to think of a 0:13:02.240 --> 0:13:04.520 good pumpkin punt for a bridge, and when I came 0:13:04.559 --> 0:13:06.680 out with that one. I was like, we can go 0:13:06.760 --> 0:13:11.440 home now. I feel good. We didn't. I just need 0:13:11.440 --> 0:13:16.600 to stop the podcast to underline that joke. Um, and 0:13:16.640 --> 0:13:18.640 now we went with your sister and her friend and 0:13:18.640 --> 0:13:22.480 it was delightful. It was great. We really so we 0:13:22.520 --> 0:13:26.040 went to a restaurant beforehand where our kids were insane 0:13:26.040 --> 0:13:28.760 and literally trying to like throw their glasses around on 0:13:28.800 --> 0:13:32.400 the table. Were you proud of me? So we gave 0:13:32.440 --> 0:13:36.200 them phones, which is like a big thing. We don't 0:13:36.240 --> 0:13:39.000 do it, but you know what, that's why we don't 0:13:39.000 --> 0:13:42.800 give them phones, so that when we have to it 0:13:42.920 --> 0:13:46.079 really works. Well. This is really like underlying my theory 0:13:46.080 --> 0:13:48.280 that most of them when they're being horrible, they're like 0:13:48.559 --> 0:13:52.800 starving and tired, like they're just because we were on 0:13:52.920 --> 0:13:55.080 the way to dinner and they were so fine in 0:13:55.120 --> 0:13:57.680 the car and then as soon as we sat down 0:13:57.840 --> 0:13:59.960 and I had snacks in the car ready to get 0:14:00.000 --> 0:14:01.400 of them, but they didn't want them. But it was 0:14:01.440 --> 0:14:03.960 like it was something about the second we sat down, 0:14:03.960 --> 0:14:08.120 they just snapped into like rage starving monsters and they 0:14:08.120 --> 0:14:12.240 were like, let's try to throw our glasses around on 0:14:12.280 --> 0:14:16.640 the table. This is just what's so, you know, I 0:14:17.040 --> 0:14:20.800 picked them up most days, and when we picked them 0:14:20.920 --> 0:14:25.200 up from after school, you know, it's you know, five o'clock, 0:14:26.240 --> 0:14:29.560 it's the worst hour. It's what they're the most upset. 0:14:29.680 --> 0:14:33.960 They're tired, they're hungry, and so it's every day we're 0:14:34.040 --> 0:14:36.880 learning to hate each other. Well, I think if we 0:14:36.960 --> 0:14:39.440 had better work life balance, we could pick them up 0:14:39.480 --> 0:14:44.920 at like make a trillion dollars and then we'll do 0:14:44.960 --> 0:14:48.960 it and you'll be a house husband. Yes, I would 0:14:49.040 --> 0:14:52.960 love that. We've talked about this before. I'm I'm halfway there. 0:14:53.680 --> 0:14:57.240 Just just make you want to be like maybe part 0:14:57.280 --> 0:15:03.640 time husband, like part time a dad. No, I don't 0:15:03.680 --> 0:15:05.800 want to be a full house husband. I have too 0:15:05.800 --> 0:15:10.200 many things to do. But maybe just for a few months, 0:15:10.320 --> 0:15:13.840 I'd like to sexy role play. Oh yeah, that I 0:15:13.920 --> 0:15:19.480 will do. Hey, honey, sorry, I gotta run out and 0:15:20.600 --> 0:15:24.560 get some new wipes. There's like a movie version of 0:15:24.600 --> 0:15:27.880 this where we you lose a job and you're like, 0:15:28.200 --> 0:15:30.280 you know what, I'm just gonna be a house husband 0:15:30.280 --> 0:15:32.520 and I'm like, you know what, go for it, and 0:15:32.560 --> 0:15:35.680 it's like smooth sailing for like five weeks, and then 0:15:35.720 --> 0:15:40.320 you just crash and you're like, I get this is 0:15:40.360 --> 0:15:46.640 called Mr Mom and made this movie six it's my guest. 0:15:47.960 --> 0:15:56.040 I've never seen it. Um anyway, boy, our pumpkins are ablaze? 0:15:56.240 --> 0:15:58.520 Can I say it's something? The best thing I've learned 0:15:58.520 --> 0:16:01.400 from the pumpkin Blaze, the best thing the Jack Lanner 0:16:01.480 --> 0:16:08.520 blaze is don't cut the top of your pumpkin. You 0:16:08.520 --> 0:16:12.600 know Pelee always cut the top out from the blaze. Yeah, 0:16:12.960 --> 0:16:16.120 because I just realized none of them have holes on 0:16:16.160 --> 0:16:18.960 the top. Everyone, all of them there they cut a 0:16:19.000 --> 0:16:22.400 hole in the bottom. Uh, And so I was like, 0:16:22.600 --> 0:16:25.000 that's a good idea. We cut the bottom out, scooped 0:16:25.040 --> 0:16:27.400 it out, and then the little piece that it creates, 0:16:27.920 --> 0:16:31.480 I dug a little circle into it. That's a perfect 0:16:31.520 --> 0:16:36.840 size for the little tea uh candles, tea can what 0:16:36.920 --> 0:16:41.200 is it called? They called tea candles? Tea light? Do 0:16:41.280 --> 0:16:43.960 you light um? And then that fits right in there. 0:16:44.040 --> 0:16:45.640 Then you light that and then you just put the 0:16:45.680 --> 0:16:47.760 jack Lanner on top of it so you don't have 0:16:47.840 --> 0:16:50.480 to light it and then stick your hand down and 0:16:50.520 --> 0:16:54.360 burn your hand. Have I talked on the podcast about 0:16:54.400 --> 0:16:57.160 my neighbor across the street growing up on how obsessed 0:16:57.240 --> 0:17:01.400 she was with Halloween. No, Um, I had a neighbor 0:17:01.440 --> 0:17:03.360 cross the street who was when I was a kid. 0:17:03.480 --> 0:17:07.200 She was probably like fifty something, which seemed very old, 0:17:07.359 --> 0:17:11.879 but she, you know, she wasn't um and she was 0:17:11.920 --> 0:17:14.520 obsessed with Halloween and she was a witch every year, 0:17:14.680 --> 0:17:17.080 and she would decorate her whole front yard with like 0:17:17.280 --> 0:17:21.240 strobe lights and like black lights, and she had like 0:17:21.240 --> 0:17:25.440 a witch over a cauldron with like steam coming out 0:17:25.480 --> 0:17:30.040 of it. And she's great and like and she'd like 0:17:30.200 --> 0:17:33.040 makes something new every year and have grave stones and 0:17:33.080 --> 0:17:35.120 like hands coming out and like. So I would go 0:17:35.240 --> 0:17:37.400 over while she was setting up and I'd like check 0:17:37.440 --> 0:17:39.560 it out, and I was like, I'm sure. I thought 0:17:39.560 --> 0:17:41.800 I was like very mature, and I'd be like, oh, yeah, 0:17:41.840 --> 0:17:44.480 what are you doing this year? Like you know, like hey, 0:17:44.560 --> 0:17:49.040 calf looking good this year? And you know, I love crafts, 0:17:49.200 --> 0:17:51.440 so I was always just like, oh, yeah, yeah, you 0:17:51.440 --> 0:17:53.720 should probably do it that way. Like it it's like 0:17:53.920 --> 0:17:58.240 very invested. And I so I now still feel like 0:17:58.280 --> 0:18:00.800 Halloween is one of the few holidays where I'm like, 0:18:00.800 --> 0:18:04.480 I understand really going all out for this holiday. Oh 0:18:04.520 --> 0:18:08.360 my gosh, should we go all out? This? It makes 0:18:08.400 --> 0:18:10.560 me wish I had a house because my friend was 0:18:10.600 --> 0:18:12.960 buying like a fall wreath, and I was like, there's 0:18:13.000 --> 0:18:16.920 nothing about our apartment that is worth decorating for the public, 0:18:18.119 --> 0:18:20.200 do you know? I mean, oh yeah, you know what. 0:18:20.480 --> 0:18:23.879 The idea of having a house on Halloween made me 0:18:23.920 --> 0:18:27.439 more excited than any other time you've you've suggested or 0:18:27.480 --> 0:18:29.159 put the picture in my head of us if I 0:18:29.359 --> 0:18:32.199 had a house for Halloween, it would be definitely like 0:18:32.359 --> 0:18:37.119 cobwebs and it's in my house. But first we have 0:18:37.160 --> 0:18:41.960 to redo our bathroom. Oh oh yeah, that is the 0:18:41.960 --> 0:18:44.639 big news. Should we make a segment of a segment. 0:18:44.680 --> 0:18:59.719 We'll be right back with renovation news. And now it's 0:18:59.760 --> 0:19:05.760 time for we knows, we knows Reyna's I was gonna say, 0:19:05.760 --> 0:19:09.080 we knows how expensive it is to fix the leak 0:19:09.119 --> 0:19:12.960 in your shower when it expands into a full bathroom renovation. 0:19:15.200 --> 0:19:21.159 I liked my title, bettering um, your title has a 0:19:21.200 --> 0:19:25.800 better chance of being reused than mine. So we've decided, 0:19:26.400 --> 0:19:29.399 for various reasons, including the fact that everything in our 0:19:29.440 --> 0:19:33.920 bathroom is falling apart, our hand has been forced, we've 0:19:34.040 --> 0:19:37.800 decided to renovate our bathroom in our apartment. In our 0:19:37.840 --> 0:19:41.840 apartment which only has one bathroom. So so when we 0:19:41.880 --> 0:19:50.480 moved in the shower was the least um not disgusting. 0:19:52.200 --> 0:19:56.800 Now it looked kind of gross, the least not discussing 0:19:56.920 --> 0:20:00.680 that's double negative, right, is the grossest are when we 0:20:00.880 --> 0:20:04.399 moved in, our shower had like black grow like moldy 0:20:04.440 --> 0:20:08.720 grow that it. It appeared to be uncleanable, but has 0:20:08.760 --> 0:20:14.000 since slowly worn away through three five years of cleaning. Yes, 0:20:14.680 --> 0:20:19.920 but the window sill, the corner of it was rotted away, 0:20:20.359 --> 0:20:24.280 just soft so the window sills running away. And then 0:20:24.560 --> 0:20:28.720 there was a a soap holder, a soap dish built 0:20:28.760 --> 0:20:32.200 into the tile which at some point got ripped off 0:20:32.240 --> 0:20:35.159 the wall of you put your foot on it, shaping 0:20:35.200 --> 0:20:39.199 your legs. Is that true? I don't remember. That's what 0:20:39.320 --> 0:20:43.400 you told me. Blame it on me, not your fault. 0:20:43.400 --> 0:20:47.880 It was not installed securely, so at one point I 0:20:47.960 --> 0:20:52.160 pulled the entire windows still out, um, and I cut 0:20:52.160 --> 0:20:56.120 out the infected piece and I was like, well, here's 0:20:56.119 --> 0:20:59.679 a temporary solution. And I pumped this thing full of 0:21:00.040 --> 0:21:04.480 hawk and sealed it all up as best as a 0:21:04.520 --> 0:21:08.159 YouTube video could teach me. And you know what, I 0:21:08.200 --> 0:21:12.040 did a pretty good job. Um. But I did a 0:21:12.119 --> 0:21:16.760 job that lasted maybe for two months, before it started, 0:21:16.800 --> 0:21:21.600 the paint started chipping, and it's yeah, so are that's 0:21:21.640 --> 0:21:26.600 been in various stages of decay, and then our toilets 0:21:26.640 --> 0:21:31.480 started running weird. Fixed that that is fixed. That is fixed, 0:21:31.480 --> 0:21:35.520 at least temporarily. We have another weird temporary fix going on. Oh, 0:21:35.600 --> 0:21:38.480 I got the perfect length on that chain. Finally, I 0:21:38.520 --> 0:21:41.560 don't know that's how that's been messing up. I stand 0:21:41.600 --> 0:21:47.440 by my toilet um. But downstairs neighbors that started leaking. 0:21:47.440 --> 0:21:49.760 We got a call from the super But that part 0:21:49.760 --> 0:21:52.280 of that problem is that if you if our blinds 0:21:52.320 --> 0:21:57.520 are not closed in our shower, then water gets through 0:21:57.520 --> 0:22:01.679 the window somehow. Yeah, it weeks out to the wall 0:22:01.920 --> 0:22:04.600 to through the brick wall on the outside of the build. 0:22:04.640 --> 0:22:07.679 And I don't even think our bathroom renovation budget includes 0:22:07.720 --> 0:22:10.280 a new window. That's one of the questions that is 0:22:10.400 --> 0:22:12.480 yet to be at The window is not the problem. 0:22:12.520 --> 0:22:15.520 It's the window still and I've talked to him specifically 0:22:15.520 --> 0:22:18.480 about it. We're getting a stone window skill. I think 0:22:18.520 --> 0:22:20.199 that's why it was leaking them because the days that 0:22:20.200 --> 0:22:25.680 our neighbor complained the blinds were up. We'll get into it. 0:22:26.760 --> 0:22:29.600 I've I've been in there the whole thing is full 0:22:29.600 --> 0:22:32.959 of false the whole thing is okay. Well anyway, I 0:22:32.960 --> 0:22:37.159 hope everyone is who's listening is riveted by this David 0:22:37.240 --> 0:22:41.160 description are decaying bathroom. But it was one of those things. 0:22:41.160 --> 0:22:43.159 We brought it in in a guy and he was like, 0:22:43.200 --> 0:22:47.199 I could patch this hole this much money, but the 0:22:47.200 --> 0:22:49.959 whole wall is sort of crappy, so I can't promise 0:22:49.960 --> 0:22:52.480 that I won't be back. And he's like, we could 0:22:52.480 --> 0:22:55.639 do the shower, and of course we could do the 0:22:55.640 --> 0:22:57.920 whole thing. And at the time I was like, just 0:22:58.640 --> 0:23:00.840 give me a quote for the whole and get maybe 0:23:00.880 --> 0:23:02.960 give me a hold for the shower, and then later 0:23:03.040 --> 0:23:04.840 and now I was like, we're not going to do 0:23:04.960 --> 0:23:08.359 half a bathroom. No you can't, not with the tile 0:23:08.480 --> 0:23:12.000 covering like the whole bathroom. So we got it a 0:23:12.080 --> 0:23:15.800 second guy who never emailed us back, which made it 0:23:15.840 --> 0:23:19.479 easy to decide, I'm going to the first guy. I 0:23:19.520 --> 0:23:21.960 think listeners should write in and tell us how to 0:23:22.160 --> 0:23:25.679 redo our bathroom. Please give us tips, because I feel 0:23:27.080 --> 0:23:29.520 sort of like I don't want to spend a ton 0:23:29.560 --> 0:23:31.520 of money on this, but I also want to like 0:23:31.760 --> 0:23:35.320 it too, not be a crappy thing. I have to 0:23:35.359 --> 0:23:39.359 live with forever. We we did this in our old place, 0:23:39.520 --> 0:23:41.880 and you designed it and you did an incredible job, 0:23:41.920 --> 0:23:45.000 I know, but what in retrospect, like our contractor was 0:23:45.240 --> 0:23:48.879 shitty and the materials could have been better, and like, 0:23:49.000 --> 0:23:50.879 there's a lot of things that I would do differently. 0:23:51.240 --> 0:23:53.679 I think it was only the contractor. It was like 0:23:53.760 --> 0:23:59.920 at least contractor, But there was also like like howel 0:24:00.160 --> 0:24:02.040 rods and stuff I bought where I was like, oh 0:24:02.080 --> 0:24:04.960 my god, why did I assume that this fancy, expensive 0:24:05.000 --> 0:24:08.600 restoration hardware stuff would be good because it's not restoration 0:24:08.680 --> 0:24:13.680 or hardware is ship. It's not all ship. But like 0:24:13.800 --> 0:24:17.800 it's that couch that we bought that deteriorated so quickly, 0:24:18.119 --> 0:24:21.800 not always solid, and at lamp that we bought fell 0:24:21.880 --> 0:24:25.720 over and just snapped in that couch's defense, like we 0:24:25.840 --> 0:24:29.040 really gave it beating. Are those life fixtures from restoration 0:24:29.080 --> 0:24:32.360 hardware on the wall? No, those are from pottery Barn. 0:24:32.400 --> 0:24:40.240 I think we have very exquisite diversities. We run the 0:24:40.280 --> 0:24:43.840 gamut from pottery Barn all the way to restoration hardware. Yeah, 0:24:44.240 --> 0:24:47.760 we talked about our Joybird couch. Still great, Still great. 0:24:47.760 --> 0:24:50.640 If you haven't listened to our Joybird episode. I don't 0:24:50.640 --> 0:24:52.800 remember if it's good, but we talked about joy Bird. 0:24:54.200 --> 0:24:57.520 That's where our couches from. I love it anyway. If 0:24:57.520 --> 0:24:59.520 you're listening and you want to give us free stuff, 0:24:59.640 --> 0:25:02.919 where always open to it. Really, this segment is called 0:25:03.320 --> 0:25:08.199 do you knows how to give us? Give us? Um? 0:25:09.000 --> 0:25:12.880 Are you the owner of a warehouse full of subway tiles? Now? 0:25:12.920 --> 0:25:14.919 But okay, here's the questions that have yet to be 0:25:14.960 --> 0:25:18.880 answered that I am just dreading having to research. Is like, 0:25:19.040 --> 0:25:22.880 we have a tiny bathroom. The current sink is like 0:25:23.040 --> 0:25:26.000 not even a pedestal, it's just connected to the wall 0:25:26.000 --> 0:25:29.720 with a basin, so there's no cabinet or anything there. 0:25:30.480 --> 0:25:32.760 I think the responsible thing to do is always to 0:25:32.800 --> 0:25:35.159 add in like a cabinet under the sink so you 0:25:35.200 --> 0:25:38.159 can throw like storage is good the only spot in 0:25:38.200 --> 0:25:42.919