1 00:00:01,320 --> 00:00:04,600 Speaker 1: Hey, lady, is doctor dom here. If you like this 2 00:00:04,720 --> 00:00:07,240 Speaker 1: show and you want to make your own, let me 3 00:00:07,280 --> 00:00:10,840 Speaker 1: tell you about the free platform Anchor. It's a creation 4 00:00:11,000 --> 00:00:13,800 Speaker 1: tool that allows you to record and edit your podcast 5 00:00:13,920 --> 00:00:17,280 Speaker 1: right from your phone or computer. You can add songs 6 00:00:17,280 --> 00:00:21,000 Speaker 1: from Spotify and create any type of content that you 7 00:00:21,079 --> 00:00:24,400 Speaker 1: are looking for. 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If you are in 45 00:02:33,880 --> 00:02:36,560 Speaker 2: California and you're looking for a therapist, you can visit 46 00:02:36,600 --> 00:02:41,680 Speaker 2: doctor Dom's website doctor Dominique Broussard dot com and you 47 00:02:41,680 --> 00:02:45,680 Speaker 2: can schedule a fifteen minute consultation to see if you 48 00:02:45,720 --> 00:02:47,840 Speaker 2: all will be a good fit. All right, So now 49 00:02:47,880 --> 00:02:49,760 Speaker 2: that we have the logistics squad away, we're going to 50 00:02:49,840 --> 00:02:53,600 Speaker 2: jump into our conversation. And what we do here is 51 00:02:53,880 --> 00:02:56,440 Speaker 2: we typically will have a conversation for about ten minutes, 52 00:02:56,520 --> 00:02:58,600 Speaker 2: usually my co host and I, and then we'll open 53 00:02:58,720 --> 00:03:00,840 Speaker 2: up the floor at the end so that folks can 54 00:03:00,840 --> 00:03:02,840 Speaker 2: share their feedback. So be sure to be in the 55 00:03:02,960 --> 00:03:05,560 Speaker 2: chat in the meantime so that we can also get 56 00:03:05,560 --> 00:03:08,760 Speaker 2: your feedback there. All right, So our quote of the day, 57 00:03:08,800 --> 00:03:11,120 Speaker 2: we actually have two quotes of the day. Our first 58 00:03:11,160 --> 00:03:14,560 Speaker 2: quote is I am thankful for my struggle because without 59 00:03:14,600 --> 00:03:17,960 Speaker 2: it I wouldn't have come across my strengths. And that 60 00:03:18,040 --> 00:03:21,880 Speaker 2: quote is from Alex l. And the second quote is, 61 00:03:22,080 --> 00:03:26,040 Speaker 2: don't confuse who you are with where you are in 62 00:03:26,080 --> 00:03:29,400 Speaker 2: your journey. I'm going to say that one more time. 63 00:03:30,120 --> 00:03:34,320 Speaker 2: Don't confuse who you are with where you are in 64 00:03:34,320 --> 00:03:34,960 Speaker 2: your journey. 65 00:03:35,960 --> 00:03:36,080 Speaker 1: Now. 66 00:03:36,120 --> 00:03:38,920 Speaker 2: I don't know about you, but I've had my share 67 00:03:38,960 --> 00:03:42,880 Speaker 2: of obstacles, and there were many times in my journey 68 00:03:43,280 --> 00:03:46,120 Speaker 2: when I asked the question, why me? Why do I 69 00:03:46,160 --> 00:03:49,160 Speaker 2: have to struggle? Why am I in this situation? If 70 00:03:49,160 --> 00:03:51,160 Speaker 2: you've ever been there, just drop my thumbs up in 71 00:03:51,200 --> 00:03:53,680 Speaker 2: the chat, just so I know that my people are here. Okay, 72 00:03:54,200 --> 00:03:56,240 Speaker 2: drop a thumbs up if you're listening live in the chat, 73 00:03:56,240 --> 00:03:58,080 Speaker 2: and if you're catching the replay, you can just go 74 00:03:58,120 --> 00:04:01,200 Speaker 2: to our latest social media post on Instagram. That's where 75 00:04:01,240 --> 00:04:03,640 Speaker 2: we hang out most at her Space podcast and just 76 00:04:03,640 --> 00:04:05,720 Speaker 2: give us a thumbs up and say, yes, girl, and 77 00:04:05,760 --> 00:04:07,960 Speaker 2: I know exactly what you're talking about. I see Chuck 78 00:04:08,000 --> 00:04:09,600 Speaker 2: gave me a thumbs up. I see asked we with 79 00:04:09,640 --> 00:04:12,800 Speaker 2: a thumbs up. All right, now, let me tell you 80 00:04:12,840 --> 00:04:14,240 Speaker 2: a little bit about my story, just to give you 81 00:04:14,280 --> 00:04:16,920 Speaker 2: some context here. So, I grew up in poverty and 82 00:04:16,960 --> 00:04:20,720 Speaker 2: my family struggled a lot. We were homeless, my siblings 83 00:04:20,720 --> 00:04:23,279 Speaker 2: and I. We couldn't wear the latest, you know fashion. 84 00:04:23,320 --> 00:04:26,120 Speaker 2: We shopped at thrift stores and hand me downs were 85 00:04:26,120 --> 00:04:27,920 Speaker 2: exciting for us. I don't know why, you be hand 86 00:04:27,960 --> 00:04:30,440 Speaker 2: me downs were exciting. It was like it was like 87 00:04:30,480 --> 00:04:31,920 Speaker 2: a shop is free for us when we got hand 88 00:04:31,960 --> 00:04:34,919 Speaker 2: me downs. And church was a big part of my 89 00:04:35,040 --> 00:04:38,400 Speaker 2: upbringing and where my sense of hope came from. And 90 00:04:39,160 --> 00:04:40,800 Speaker 2: I also had a chance to build a lot of 91 00:04:40,800 --> 00:04:43,880 Speaker 2: great relationships with mentors at church. And I had this 92 00:04:44,040 --> 00:04:47,160 Speaker 2: mentor named Miss Glow, and she had a cleaning business 93 00:04:47,360 --> 00:04:48,760 Speaker 2: and I would hang out with her every once in 94 00:04:48,800 --> 00:04:50,760 Speaker 2: a while and we'd go to rich people's houses, rich 95 00:04:50,800 --> 00:04:54,479 Speaker 2: people's houses and we clean them. Now, this one particular day, 96 00:04:54,839 --> 00:04:57,520 Speaker 2: we were at this rich white couple's house and we 97 00:04:57,640 --> 00:05:00,400 Speaker 2: drove up into the driveway and I'm pretty sure they 98 00:05:00,400 --> 00:05:03,680 Speaker 2: lived in like brenmar Pa on the mainline, so a 99 00:05:03,880 --> 00:05:06,599 Speaker 2: very very nice home. Was probably a mansion actually, And 100 00:05:06,680 --> 00:05:09,839 Speaker 2: we drive up to the driveway and I'm just like, wait, 101 00:05:09,880 --> 00:05:12,680 Speaker 2: there's more, Like there's more to the house, there's more here. 102 00:05:13,160 --> 00:05:17,000 Speaker 2: And we got inside and they had these big, beautiful dogs. 103 00:05:17,320 --> 00:05:22,279 Speaker 2: They had this huge swimming pool, an indoor swimming pool 104 00:05:23,040 --> 00:05:26,360 Speaker 2: in their bottom level. They had an elevator, they had 105 00:05:26,400 --> 00:05:31,280 Speaker 2: a gym. Yes, yes, Pa, Pa ashually, I'm a Pa girl, 106 00:05:31,279 --> 00:05:34,840 Speaker 2: Philly girl over here. And Dominique at doctor Dom is 107 00:05:34,880 --> 00:05:39,160 Speaker 2: from Nola. She's from New Orleans and so we get 108 00:05:39,240 --> 00:05:41,240 Speaker 2: up in the house and I'm just like, this is amazing. 109 00:05:41,560 --> 00:05:42,960 Speaker 2: I don't know if this makes sense to you, but 110 00:05:43,000 --> 00:05:45,920 Speaker 2: like it smelt like wealth. Okay, it smelt like a 111 00:05:45,960 --> 00:05:49,400 Speaker 2: wealth in the environment. The husband had like this man cave. 112 00:05:49,440 --> 00:05:52,320 Speaker 2: It was massive. The elevator went up from the kitchen 113 00:05:52,400 --> 00:05:54,800 Speaker 2: up to the man cave, and he had a Maserati 114 00:05:55,520 --> 00:05:59,400 Speaker 2: user manual. And I remember thinking to myself, I might 115 00:05:59,440 --> 00:06:01,880 Speaker 2: be the help today, right because I'm cleaning these rich 116 00:06:01,880 --> 00:06:07,159 Speaker 2: people's houses. I might be the help today to the 117 00:06:07,200 --> 00:06:10,919 Speaker 2: folks that I'm around since I'm cleaning their house. But 118 00:06:11,040 --> 00:06:14,200 Speaker 2: this is just a snapshot of where I am, and 119 00:06:14,320 --> 00:06:17,120 Speaker 2: I know it's not my final destination. And there were 120 00:06:17,200 --> 00:06:19,920 Speaker 2: many instances like this in my life that I experienced 121 00:06:19,920 --> 00:06:24,880 Speaker 2: where what I was experiencing in the moment it had 122 00:06:24,920 --> 00:06:30,240 Speaker 2: the potential to make me limit who I thought I was. Okay, 123 00:06:30,279 --> 00:06:32,200 Speaker 2: So I want to give you another example. So when 124 00:06:32,200 --> 00:06:33,920 Speaker 2: I moved to the Bay Area a couple of years ago. 125 00:06:33,960 --> 00:06:35,800 Speaker 2: My husband and I moved here about six years ago, 126 00:06:36,279 --> 00:06:37,960 Speaker 2: and I was trying to find a job and it 127 00:06:38,040 --> 00:06:41,520 Speaker 2: was so challenging, and I learned that this is the 128 00:06:41,640 --> 00:06:44,640 Speaker 2: area where you got to know somebody that know somebody 129 00:06:44,640 --> 00:06:46,640 Speaker 2: that know somebody, right, if you can relate to that, 130 00:06:46,720 --> 00:06:48,520 Speaker 2: just drop a fire emoji in the chat. I feel 131 00:06:48,560 --> 00:06:51,560 Speaker 2: like I've been there before. And so I had the 132 00:06:51,640 --> 00:06:55,839 Speaker 2: hardest time. The rejection was real, and I remember getting 133 00:06:55,960 --> 00:06:58,760 Speaker 2: you know how you send those emails out and you 134 00:06:58,800 --> 00:07:01,400 Speaker 2: apply for a job and they're like, thank you for applying. 135 00:07:01,480 --> 00:07:04,080 Speaker 2: But we decided to go in a different direction. And 136 00:07:04,120 --> 00:07:06,640 Speaker 2: I literally like it seemed like those messages someone was 137 00:07:06,640 --> 00:07:08,160 Speaker 2: playing a prank on me. I would get them back 138 00:07:08,200 --> 00:07:10,520 Speaker 2: to back to back, and so I kept on trying, 139 00:07:11,200 --> 00:07:13,640 Speaker 2: and I was depressed at some points. There were times 140 00:07:13,680 --> 00:07:15,600 Speaker 2: where I was like, I know that I have so 141 00:07:15,600 --> 00:07:17,200 Speaker 2: many gifts and talents, Like I know that I have 142 00:07:17,200 --> 00:07:18,960 Speaker 2: a lot to bring to the table. I just wish 143 00:07:19,040 --> 00:07:20,640 Speaker 2: someone would take a chance on me. I see the 144 00:07:20,680 --> 00:07:23,160 Speaker 2: fire emojis in the chat. I just wish that someone 145 00:07:23,200 --> 00:07:26,280 Speaker 2: would take a chance on me. And I kept with it. 146 00:07:26,320 --> 00:07:28,280 Speaker 2: I stuck with it, and I kept applying for jobs 147 00:07:28,480 --> 00:07:30,720 Speaker 2: and I found an opportunity at this one tech company. 148 00:07:31,120 --> 00:07:33,480 Speaker 2: And the thing was, at this point in my journey, 149 00:07:33,520 --> 00:07:36,080 Speaker 2: I had a master's degree, right, and so I was 150 00:07:36,160 --> 00:07:40,840 Speaker 2: qualified for some pretty good roles. But because people just 151 00:07:40,880 --> 00:07:43,640 Speaker 2: were not willing to give me a chance. I kind 152 00:07:43,640 --> 00:07:45,120 Speaker 2: of had to go to the entry level route, and 153 00:07:45,120 --> 00:07:48,320 Speaker 2: so I decided to apply for this entry level role. 154 00:07:48,400 --> 00:07:50,000 Speaker 2: I got the role, and I said to myself, you 155 00:07:50,080 --> 00:07:55,080 Speaker 2: know what, one foot in is better than having or 156 00:07:55,160 --> 00:07:57,000 Speaker 2: it's better than being outside of the door, right, It's 157 00:07:57,000 --> 00:07:59,320 Speaker 2: better than having both feet outside of the door. And 158 00:07:59,400 --> 00:08:03,280 Speaker 2: so I decided to take the role. I see Justin's 159 00:08:03,560 --> 00:08:07,840 Speaker 2: fire gift in the chat, and so I got the job. 160 00:08:08,000 --> 00:08:10,000 Speaker 2: I worked my butt off, and what I noticed is 161 00:08:10,040 --> 00:08:12,520 Speaker 2: that in that entry level role, there were people who 162 00:08:12,600 --> 00:08:14,160 Speaker 2: treated me a certain way. You know how you kind 163 00:08:14,160 --> 00:08:16,080 Speaker 2: of get that vibe where someone's kind of you know, 164 00:08:16,120 --> 00:08:18,240 Speaker 2: they might be looking down upon you, or they might 165 00:08:18,320 --> 00:08:22,120 Speaker 2: just believe that all you are is what you are 166 00:08:22,440 --> 00:08:25,320 Speaker 2: showcasing at that moment. I truly believe that we all 167 00:08:25,320 --> 00:08:27,880 Speaker 2: have so much potential within us, and I don't believe 168 00:08:27,920 --> 00:08:30,400 Speaker 2: that we are defined by where we are in this moment, right, 169 00:08:30,640 --> 00:08:32,720 Speaker 2: And so I was showing up in that entry level role. 170 00:08:33,200 --> 00:08:36,280 Speaker 2: I worked so hard. I worked as if I was 171 00:08:36,360 --> 00:08:38,800 Speaker 2: in leadership, like I really put my on onto the role, 172 00:08:39,200 --> 00:08:40,760 Speaker 2: and a few years later I was able to work 173 00:08:40,760 --> 00:08:43,160 Speaker 2: my way up into the company and become a thought 174 00:08:43,200 --> 00:08:46,160 Speaker 2: leader in the industry, and I gained a level of 175 00:08:46,720 --> 00:08:49,480 Speaker 2: I guess you could say, I don't know, recognition, and 176 00:08:49,520 --> 00:08:51,400 Speaker 2: folks would come to me and they want to collaborate. 177 00:08:51,400 --> 00:08:52,920 Speaker 2: All of a sudden, right, folks would come to me 178 00:08:52,960 --> 00:08:54,800 Speaker 2: and they wanted to ask for advice, they wanted to 179 00:08:54,800 --> 00:08:58,080 Speaker 2: work with me. And I saw how people around me changed, 180 00:08:58,559 --> 00:09:01,040 Speaker 2: but I stayed the same. I was the same person, right, 181 00:09:02,120 --> 00:09:06,600 Speaker 2: And so in these situations, I personally valued the journey 182 00:09:06,640 --> 00:09:09,960 Speaker 2: because it gave me skills that I needed to allow 183 00:09:10,080 --> 00:09:12,800 Speaker 2: me to succeed in the next phase of the journey. 184 00:09:13,160 --> 00:09:13,400 Speaker 1: Right. 185 00:09:13,840 --> 00:09:16,400 Speaker 2: So when I was cleaning the homes of you know, 186 00:09:16,400 --> 00:09:18,320 Speaker 2: the rich people, and when I was a service worker, 187 00:09:18,360 --> 00:09:21,840 Speaker 2: you know, at different odd jobs and whatnot, I believe 188 00:09:21,880 --> 00:09:26,080 Speaker 2: that those roles developed and meet empathy and respect for 189 00:09:26,200 --> 00:09:28,080 Speaker 2: all people, no matter what their current role is. So 190 00:09:28,080 --> 00:09:30,120 Speaker 2: when I go out to eat, right, I'm giving the 191 00:09:30,200 --> 00:09:33,360 Speaker 2: server whoever the hostesses, the utmost respect because I know 192 00:09:33,400 --> 00:09:35,839 Speaker 2: that they are not defined by that role that they're 193 00:09:35,880 --> 00:09:38,120 Speaker 2: in today. And I know that for me, when I 194 00:09:38,160 --> 00:09:43,120 Speaker 2: had those what people might consider menial jobs, I knew 195 00:09:43,120 --> 00:09:45,000 Speaker 2: that I was literally the same person. I am today, 196 00:09:45,040 --> 00:09:47,680 Speaker 2: even though I'm more outwardly successful, right, And so that 197 00:09:47,800 --> 00:09:49,360 Speaker 2: may have been a lesson that I needed to know. 198 00:09:49,960 --> 00:09:53,640 Speaker 2: And the second thing was, many times I remember wishing 199 00:09:53,679 --> 00:09:55,920 Speaker 2: that I had more success. I remember wishing that I 200 00:09:55,960 --> 00:09:58,360 Speaker 2: had more clients and more customers. But I have a 201 00:09:58,400 --> 00:10:00,880 Speaker 2: question for you, wherever you are in phase, in the 202 00:10:00,880 --> 00:10:03,600 Speaker 2: phase of your journey right now, if tomorrow you were 203 00:10:03,640 --> 00:10:07,600 Speaker 2: to wake up and you had one thousand or maybe 204 00:10:07,600 --> 00:10:08,920 Speaker 2: that's not a big enough for you, What if you 205 00:10:08,960 --> 00:10:12,800 Speaker 2: had one hundred thousand new clients tomorrow? Like people literally 206 00:10:12,800 --> 00:10:16,480 Speaker 2: are in your email inbox right trying to I see 207 00:10:16,520 --> 00:10:18,560 Speaker 2: we have mister all Things black Hair. They're trying to, 208 00:10:19,200 --> 00:10:21,920 Speaker 2: you know, get your audio services. They're trying to listen 209 00:10:21,920 --> 00:10:24,679 Speaker 2: to your podcast, right, They're trying to buy your book, 210 00:10:24,880 --> 00:10:27,559 Speaker 2: they're trying to book you first speaking engagement. If that 211 00:10:27,600 --> 00:10:30,240 Speaker 2: would happen tomorrow, And this is not to put me 212 00:10:30,280 --> 00:10:31,679 Speaker 2: by your own blast, right, because we're all in a 213 00:10:31,720 --> 00:10:34,200 Speaker 2: different phase of our journey, but would we be ready 214 00:10:34,280 --> 00:10:37,360 Speaker 2: for that type of increase tomorrow? Right? And I know 215 00:10:37,440 --> 00:10:40,040 Speaker 2: for me there were many times where my answer would 216 00:10:40,040 --> 00:10:43,040 Speaker 2: be absolutely not. I'm not ready for one thousand people 217 00:10:43,080 --> 00:10:45,079 Speaker 2: to come to me. And start working for me. At 218 00:10:45,080 --> 00:10:48,640 Speaker 2: that point, I see Laron is like, nope, and there's 219 00:10:48,640 --> 00:10:52,080 Speaker 2: no judgment, right. But the thing is, wherever we are 220 00:10:52,080 --> 00:10:54,320 Speaker 2: in this phase of our journey right now, I truly 221 00:10:54,360 --> 00:10:58,560 Speaker 2: believe that there's purpose in that, and there's a reason 222 00:10:58,600 --> 00:11:00,880 Speaker 2: for it, and it's allowing us to build up the skills, 223 00:11:01,200 --> 00:11:04,200 Speaker 2: build up the infrastructure, build up what we need, the 224 00:11:04,240 --> 00:11:08,800 Speaker 2: foundation right so that when that increase does come, we're good. 225 00:11:08,920 --> 00:11:11,800 Speaker 2: We're chilling because we have everything in order, right and 226 00:11:11,840 --> 00:11:14,320 Speaker 2: today I do now have infrastructure a place where that 227 00:11:14,440 --> 00:11:16,360 Speaker 2: is to happen. I'll be so excited, right if that 228 00:11:16,400 --> 00:11:19,400 Speaker 2: were to happen in one day, but I have something 229 00:11:19,400 --> 00:11:23,319 Speaker 2: in place that will allow me to support that, right. 230 00:11:24,960 --> 00:11:28,400 Speaker 2: And so the main message of today is don't confuse 231 00:11:28,440 --> 00:11:30,520 Speaker 2: who you are with where you are in your journey. 232 00:11:30,559 --> 00:11:33,160 Speaker 2: We all have to start somewhere, and every step of 233 00:11:33,160 --> 00:11:35,600 Speaker 2: the journey, even the low points, even the hard parts, 234 00:11:35,960 --> 00:11:40,960 Speaker 2: it really does allow us to succeed when we are 235 00:11:41,000 --> 00:11:46,120 Speaker 2: in our moment or our season of celebration and elevation, right, 236 00:11:46,400 --> 00:11:49,320 Speaker 2: So really cherish those moments of being in obscurity. I 237 00:11:49,320 --> 00:11:52,199 Speaker 2: don't know about you, but one of my biggest fears ever, 238 00:11:52,720 --> 00:11:54,760 Speaker 2: and this was really primarily when I was building up 239 00:11:54,760 --> 00:11:58,200 Speaker 2: my speaking engagement career. One of my biggest fears was 240 00:11:58,240 --> 00:12:01,439 Speaker 2: that someone would hand me the microphone, whether it's on stage, 241 00:12:01,679 --> 00:12:04,080 Speaker 2: whether it's on a podcast, whether it's like a news station, 242 00:12:04,600 --> 00:12:07,600 Speaker 2: and I would not have anything to say. And so 243 00:12:07,640 --> 00:12:10,440 Speaker 2: I worked so diligently. I was that person that was 244 00:12:10,480 --> 00:12:13,440 Speaker 2: preparing speeches in the mirror with just me and me, 245 00:12:13,600 --> 00:12:15,440 Speaker 2: making sure that I was ready for the big stage. 246 00:12:15,760 --> 00:12:17,880 Speaker 2: I was, you know, talking to my younger siblings and 247 00:12:17,920 --> 00:12:20,920 Speaker 2: they were my first audience. So really, just prepare yourself 248 00:12:20,960 --> 00:12:24,280 Speaker 2: today because your increase is coming right, you just want 249 00:12:24,320 --> 00:12:27,280 Speaker 2: to make sure that you're ready. So what I'd love 250 00:12:27,320 --> 00:12:28,960 Speaker 2: for you to do we have a little activity that 251 00:12:28,960 --> 00:12:31,040 Speaker 2: we have before we open up the floor. I would 252 00:12:31,120 --> 00:12:36,760 Speaker 2: love for you to just think about what the experiences 253 00:12:36,800 --> 00:12:40,160 Speaker 2: that you have today, what are they and how are 254 00:12:40,160 --> 00:12:46,200 Speaker 2: they preparing you for what you desire? How are the 255 00:12:46,280 --> 00:12:49,280 Speaker 2: experiences that you have today, how are they preparing you 256 00:12:49,800 --> 00:12:52,839 Speaker 2: for what you desire in the future. And then I 257 00:12:52,880 --> 00:12:55,559 Speaker 2: would love to open up the floor to see who 258 00:12:55,640 --> 00:12:57,760 Speaker 2: has feedback about this topic. What have you learned in 259 00:12:57,800 --> 00:13:01,400 Speaker 2: your journey around not confusing and who you are with 260 00:13:01,600 --> 00:13:05,640 Speaker 2: where you are right now, feel free to request to speak, 261 00:13:05,679 --> 00:13:07,600 Speaker 2: and before you do, I want to make sure that 262 00:13:07,640 --> 00:13:11,560 Speaker 2: you share your name where you're tuning in from, and 263 00:13:11,800 --> 00:13:16,280 Speaker 2: keep your advice valuable. Also, keep it concise, and make 264 00:13:16,280 --> 00:13:19,640 Speaker 2: sure you're in acquired environment if possible, because we want 265 00:13:19,679 --> 00:13:21,960 Speaker 2: to make sure that those that are tuning in they 266 00:13:22,000 --> 00:13:24,880 Speaker 2: have a great listening experience. And also we would love 267 00:13:24,880 --> 00:13:27,360 Speaker 2: for you to shy away from coming in here to 268 00:13:27,440 --> 00:13:30,280 Speaker 2: heavily promote we really are trusting you when we open 269 00:13:30,360 --> 00:13:31,960 Speaker 2: up the stage. And again, we want to make sure 270 00:13:32,000 --> 00:13:34,760 Speaker 2: this is not a spamming conversation and that we're getting 271 00:13:34,760 --> 00:13:37,319 Speaker 2: folks an opportunity to get some value in gems because 272 00:13:37,760 --> 00:13:39,839 Speaker 2: I know you have something valuable offers. So feel free 273 00:13:39,880 --> 00:13:42,880 Speaker 2: to request to speak and we'll get you on stage. 274 00:13:46,559 --> 00:13:48,240 Speaker 2: I'm just taking a look at the comments as we 275 00:13:48,320 --> 00:13:53,440 Speaker 2: wait for a speaker to come on up. I love 276 00:13:53,640 --> 00:13:57,560 Speaker 2: that DJ Joe said Kingdom perspective. We are kings and 277 00:13:57,640 --> 00:14:01,400 Speaker 2: queens serving kings and queens serving one another. That's right. 278 00:14:01,920 --> 00:14:06,280 Speaker 2: I love it. Justin said that's right. There's no such 279 00:14:06,400 --> 00:14:09,959 Speaker 2: thing as a lousy job. Only a lousy man from 280 00:14:10,040 --> 00:14:19,600 Speaker 2: Atlas shrug. Absolutely, I would agree with that wholeheartedly. Great feedback, 281 00:14:20,320 --> 00:14:22,680 Speaker 2: all right, I don't think we have any other feedback here. 282 00:14:22,720 --> 00:14:25,040 Speaker 2: We have some fire emojis in the chat, but no 283 00:14:25,080 --> 00:14:27,280 Speaker 2: one else wants to speak. Should I just call on 284 00:14:27,320 --> 00:14:30,040 Speaker 2: someone and see if have feedback? It was right on time. 285 00:14:30,040 --> 00:14:31,640 Speaker 2: Thank you, Luna. Let me know if you want to share. 286 00:14:32,240 --> 00:14:36,320 Speaker 2: I would love love to hear your feedback. So one 287 00:14:36,360 --> 00:14:38,120 Speaker 2: thing that my co host and I talk about on 288 00:14:38,160 --> 00:14:43,160 Speaker 2: the podcast a lot is really each of our journeys, right, 289 00:14:43,200 --> 00:14:46,680 Speaker 2: We each have very We both had very challenging upbringings 290 00:14:46,720 --> 00:14:49,320 Speaker 2: where we were perventified at young at a young age. 291 00:14:49,400 --> 00:14:52,560 Speaker 2: And I know that sometimes when you're going through especially 292 00:14:52,560 --> 00:14:56,640 Speaker 2: a traumatic situation, it can be really difficult for you 293 00:14:56,760 --> 00:15:04,120 Speaker 2: to understand and to make sense of the pain. Right. 294 00:15:04,160 --> 00:15:07,640 Speaker 2: It can be really challenging for you to turn that 295 00:15:07,680 --> 00:15:10,800 Speaker 2: pain into purpose, especially when it's very traumatic. And I 296 00:15:10,840 --> 00:15:13,600 Speaker 2: remember when I lost my dad when I was seventeen, 297 00:15:14,040 --> 00:15:16,640 Speaker 2: my bonus dad, a month before I went away to college. 298 00:15:17,360 --> 00:15:20,200 Speaker 2: When something is so fresh and you're experiencing that loss, 299 00:15:20,280 --> 00:15:22,080 Speaker 2: you don't really want to hear someone say you know, 300 00:15:22,400 --> 00:15:25,000 Speaker 2: there's a purpose for your pain, or everything's going to 301 00:15:25,040 --> 00:15:26,960 Speaker 2: be okay. You know what I mean, like the timing 302 00:15:27,040 --> 00:15:30,600 Speaker 2: is everything. But this is coming from a person who 303 00:15:30,880 --> 00:15:35,720 Speaker 2: is an abuse survivor, a domestic abuse survivor. This is 304 00:15:35,760 --> 00:15:38,920 Speaker 2: coming from someone who has struggled with suicidal ideation, someone 305 00:15:38,960 --> 00:15:42,680 Speaker 2: that has struggled with depression, low self esteem. I've had 306 00:15:42,720 --> 00:15:46,560 Speaker 2: a very, very tough life. But what I will say 307 00:15:46,680 --> 00:15:48,680 Speaker 2: is that at this stage of the journey, I'm on 308 00:15:48,800 --> 00:15:51,720 Speaker 2: the other side. And although there are still struggles in life, 309 00:15:51,720 --> 00:15:53,840 Speaker 2: there are things still, things that I, you know, am 310 00:15:53,840 --> 00:15:56,480 Speaker 2: insecure about and things that I struggle with. Today, I 311 00:15:56,520 --> 00:15:59,440 Speaker 2: can honestly say that all the adversity that I've experienced, 312 00:15:59,760 --> 00:16:02,640 Speaker 2: it really did make me a better person. Like I 313 00:16:03,800 --> 00:16:06,200 Speaker 2: was saying this on my Instagram story the other day, 314 00:16:06,880 --> 00:16:11,200 Speaker 2: I developed so many skills and so many character traits 315 00:16:11,600 --> 00:16:16,120 Speaker 2: via the adversity that I can't even I don't even 316 00:16:16,120 --> 00:16:17,920 Speaker 2: know where I would have been able to develop them, 317 00:16:17,920 --> 00:16:19,680 Speaker 2: like I can't. I wouldn't have been able to read 318 00:16:19,680 --> 00:16:21,720 Speaker 2: a book and develop that same level of character, right, 319 00:16:21,760 --> 00:16:24,880 Speaker 2: I wouldn't have been able to go to an Ivy 320 00:16:24,960 --> 00:16:27,840 Speaker 2: League school and get the gems that I learned by 321 00:16:27,880 --> 00:16:32,400 Speaker 2: way of that adverse situation that I experience. And so 322 00:16:32,760 --> 00:16:36,280 Speaker 2: I really do believe that if we look at our story. 323 00:16:36,840 --> 00:16:38,360 Speaker 2: Of course you want to be mindful of where you 324 00:16:38,400 --> 00:16:40,200 Speaker 2: are in your journey, because sometimes you gotta let some 325 00:16:40,240 --> 00:16:42,880 Speaker 2: time pass. Sometimes you have to go to therapy right 326 00:16:42,960 --> 00:16:46,200 Speaker 2: sometimes you have to give yourself space to grieve. But 327 00:16:46,600 --> 00:16:50,160 Speaker 2: if we look at our story, there really are stepping 328 00:16:50,200 --> 00:16:53,880 Speaker 2: stones today that will allow us to succeed later. So 329 00:16:53,960 --> 00:16:57,240 Speaker 2: I want to thank you for tuning in to our 330 00:16:57,400 --> 00:17:02,800 Speaker 2: green Room chat today. You being active and live and 331 00:17:02,920 --> 00:17:04,919 Speaker 2: the chat, and I do want to let you know 332 00:17:05,000 --> 00:17:07,760 Speaker 2: that you can find us, same time, same place, every 333 00:17:07,800 --> 00:17:12,560 Speaker 2: week at one thirty pm Pacific time, four thirty pm 334 00:17:12,600 --> 00:17:16,000 Speaker 2: Eastern time, right here in green Room. We are the 335 00:17:16,080 --> 00:17:20,399 Speaker 2: Cultivating her Space podcast. My co host is actually on 336 00:17:20,480 --> 00:17:22,760 Speaker 2: vacation right now. She's traveling, but she will be here 337 00:17:22,800 --> 00:17:25,280 Speaker 2: every Friday with me, and we would love for you 338 00:17:25,320 --> 00:17:27,320 Speaker 2: to just keep in touch. We release episodes on our 339 00:17:27,359 --> 00:17:31,000 Speaker 2: podcast every single Friday, lock clock work, and we have 340 00:17:31,040 --> 00:17:39,080 Speaker 2: episodes about imposter syndrome, narcissism, mommy issues, daddy issues, and fertility. 341 00:17:39,720 --> 00:17:42,360 Speaker 2: We have topics about we have a few guests coming 342 00:17:42,359 --> 00:17:44,960 Speaker 2: on talking about sex. We have literally everything, So be 343 00:17:45,040 --> 00:17:48,400 Speaker 2: sure to tune in, tap in and get inspired. With us. 344 00:17:48,440 --> 00:17:50,000 Speaker 2: Thank you so much for tuning in. I hope you 345 00:17:50,040 --> 00:17:53,080 Speaker 2: have a lovely weekend and I'll see you next week.