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Speaker 2: Whoa one night's stand to this?

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Speaker 1: Whoa, whoa? Whoa good morrow? How fathy, old ladies. I'm

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Speaker 1: friends of indiscriminate agendas. This is our renaissance stream.

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Speaker 1: We were wearing matchingsance fits?

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Speaker 2: Yep, check it? Check it? Okay, look at Sophia's here,

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Speaker 2: Okay? All right? All right? Now, who's mine? I had

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Speaker 2: Yeah, we're going? When are we going? Are we going tomorrow?

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Speaker 1: Tomorrow, tomorrow? But today we're reading you okay that I

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Speaker 1: You lose your place? No I did. I just clicked Ofugh.

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Speaker 1: We are very very different people. I am from the

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Speaker 2: That happened to my mom.

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Speaker 1: She's over. She's a totally different person. She refuses to

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Speaker 2: Yeah, she said something like it hurts her stomach.

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Speaker 1: It hurts herr stomach just tolerated. Unbelievable.

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Speaker 1: All the time? What if it hurts? This should give

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Speaker 1: She is now one hundred percent vegan and gets extremely

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Speaker 1: She goes to yoga three times a week and cries

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Speaker 2: Do something fun with your mom.

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Speaker 1: Yeah. She suddenly doesn't like movies with violence or drugs

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Speaker 2: Mostly, I'm not mad at this, some mad.

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Speaker 1: Simmerlake's the Umbring and sexy. You can't listen to that

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Speaker 1: Appreciated that day. Thank you meets you move for the

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Speaker 2: We're whoever said the nice green screen? I see you,

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Speaker 1: This is all natural.

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Speaker 2: It is all natural that. Yeah, go to that tree

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Speaker 1: honestly feel bad for her. She keeps us up this

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Speaker 1: She spends all of her time checking out new cafes

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Speaker 1: I like a brunch spot. You spend all of your

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Speaker 1: Yeah. Her new friend group is like, you need to

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Speaker 2: Start doing more yoga.

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Speaker 2: I love brunches. Was do brunch all the time?

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Speaker 1: This is my conspiracy theory. Hat what?

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Speaker 1: Conspiracy theory. Oh, Dutchess Casana says midlife crisis. Patsy Wilson

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Speaker 1: The Sun Riley, just like we are conspiracy theory over

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Speaker 1: back to reality. Alrighty, I know how this started. She

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Speaker 1: But more willing to disrupt everything around her to fit

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Speaker 2: Oh wait, have you ever seen Black Mirror?

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Speaker 2: on how nice you are?

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Speaker 1: Oh? Yeah, okay, yeah, I know what you're talking about,

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Speaker 1: For who she is now, that's who she is now,

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Speaker 1: ten bucks. Worm Queen, I have a question for you

436
00:23:10,760 --> 00:23:12,399
Speaker 1: because I was not sure if you saw my question

437
00:23:12,440 --> 00:23:15,520
Speaker 1: on the discord? What are your favorite characters from has

438
00:23:15,600 --> 00:23:22,440
Speaker 1: been Hotel? I love Angel, Angel's great And let's read

439
00:23:22,520 --> 00:23:25,280
Speaker 1: some of your comments before we get into this update.

440
00:23:26,560 --> 00:23:28,760
Speaker 1: Katie lind says she doesn't sound like she knows the

441
00:23:28,800 --> 00:23:31,160
Speaker 1: definition of the term because she's been using it wrong,

442
00:23:31,280 --> 00:23:34,200
Speaker 1: as in the term gaslighting. Because yeah, it seems like

443
00:23:34,280 --> 00:23:38,880
Speaker 1: she's just throwing out a lot of like charge terms

444
00:23:40,080 --> 00:23:44,680
Speaker 1: but doesn't really know how to use them. Tiana Langvin

445
00:23:44,680 --> 00:23:48,159
Speaker 1: says magnesium can also help. I'm bipolar and anemic, so

446
00:23:48,359 --> 00:23:51,560
Speaker 1: I'm deficient in a lot of vitamins. Yesterday I finally

447
00:23:51,600 --> 00:23:54,280
Speaker 1: got prescribed what I need and can't wait to improve

448
00:23:54,320 --> 00:23:59,919
Speaker 1: physically and mentally. Congrats on getting prescribed. That's great, let's prescribe.

449
00:24:01,320 --> 00:24:03,120
Speaker 1: I don't know how to lead into that. Let's read

450
00:24:03,160 --> 00:24:07,520
Speaker 1: this new update. Figured I would update this with all

451
00:24:07,600 --> 00:24:12,720
Speaker 1: the craziness that happened. Wife had an absolute breakdown at

452
00:24:12,760 --> 00:24:16,200
Speaker 1: both me and my son and she basically ran away

453
00:24:16,320 --> 00:24:19,760
Speaker 1: and got wasted at a bar, then came back and

454
00:24:19,960 --> 00:24:22,000
Speaker 1: threatened to enter life with pills.

455
00:24:22,040 --> 00:24:24,120
Speaker 2: Oh my god, Wow, I.

456
00:24:24,040 --> 00:24:28,720
Speaker 1: Think she definitely needs like help from a therapist or

457
00:24:28,760 --> 00:24:29,280
Speaker 1: a doctor.

458
00:24:29,760 --> 00:24:30,879
Speaker 2: Sounds like an imbalance.

459
00:24:31,040 --> 00:24:36,240
Speaker 1: Yeah. Something called the police. They came, and by the

460
00:24:36,320 --> 00:24:38,639
Speaker 1: time they came, she was just crying on the couch

461
00:24:38,680 --> 00:24:41,120
Speaker 1: and the cops left. Didn't really know what to do.

462
00:24:41,320 --> 00:24:44,399
Speaker 1: My son was crying and everything. I told her she

463
00:24:44,520 --> 00:24:47,040
Speaker 1: has to go to a mental hospital or see a

464
00:24:47,080 --> 00:24:50,359
Speaker 1: doctor as soon as possible, and she then got even

465
00:24:50,440 --> 00:24:53,280
Speaker 1: more mad at me and went upstairs and started screaming

466
00:24:53,400 --> 00:24:57,840
Speaker 1: like an insane person. She did end up going to

467
00:24:57,920 --> 00:25:01,280
Speaker 1: the doctor who diagnosed her with B twelve deficiency at

468
00:25:01,280 --> 00:25:06,680
Speaker 1: a severe level, just like you guys said, Wow, Wow, Clutch,

469
00:25:06,840 --> 00:25:09,959
Speaker 1: that's I mean, like good on Reddit for letting him

470
00:25:10,040 --> 00:25:14,480
Speaker 1: know what's going on. But yeah, is crazy that all

471
00:25:14,520 --> 00:25:17,080
Speaker 1: of that could have been from a you know, a

472
00:25:17,119 --> 00:25:22,639
Speaker 1: deficiency in something. Wow, she's been taking pills and I

473
00:25:22,640 --> 00:25:25,320
Speaker 1: can't even describe what has changed in her. She went

474
00:25:25,359 --> 00:25:29,400
Speaker 1: from an absolute downward spiral into madness and controlling everything

475
00:25:29,880 --> 00:25:34,480
Speaker 1: to a just more clear minded, calm person. Bus you,

476
00:25:35,560 --> 00:25:38,439
Speaker 1: she sometimes feels weird about admitting just how wrong she

477
00:25:38,520 --> 00:25:41,320
Speaker 1: was about certain things, and she said she'd never realized

478
00:25:41,359 --> 00:25:43,440
Speaker 1: how blind she was to how horrible she was treating

479
00:25:43,480 --> 00:25:47,520
Speaker 1: the people around her. She said her anxiety over things

480
00:25:47,560 --> 00:25:50,600
Speaker 1: would sometimes spike through the roof, and she over relied

481
00:25:50,640 --> 00:25:53,040
Speaker 1: on blogs she read on the internet to help control

482
00:25:53,080 --> 00:25:55,800
Speaker 1: her life. I'm glad she's been able to admit to

483
00:25:56,200 --> 00:25:59,600
Speaker 1: these things. I honestly feel like some of it wasn't

484
00:25:59,800 --> 00:26:03,840
Speaker 1: entirely be twelve deficiency, or at least she might be

485
00:26:03,960 --> 00:26:06,280
Speaker 1: retracking a lot of the stuff she did and said

486
00:26:06,400 --> 00:26:09,800
Speaker 1: which had nothing to do with the deficiency, like you're

487
00:26:09,840 --> 00:26:12,720
Speaker 1: going vegan was a symptom of the original problem, not

488
00:26:12,800 --> 00:26:15,720
Speaker 1: like veganism is bad, but she was desperate to fit

489
00:26:15,760 --> 00:26:18,919
Speaker 1: in with a youth yuppie crowd. With a young yuppie crowd.

490
00:26:19,760 --> 00:26:22,119
Speaker 1: I'm not sure if she's purposely blaming all of her

491
00:26:22,119 --> 00:26:25,680
Speaker 1: old weird problems on B twelve deficiency, but that weird

492
00:26:25,680 --> 00:26:29,119
Speaker 1: stuff started before she went vegan, so I think there

493
00:26:29,200 --> 00:26:32,480
Speaker 1: was still some insecurity problems there. I'm just glad she's

494
00:26:32,520 --> 00:26:35,640
Speaker 1: spent the last two weeks realizing how problematic she's been.

495
00:26:36,119 --> 00:26:38,240
Speaker 1: She said she was like in a trance where she

496
00:26:38,359 --> 00:26:41,200
Speaker 1: thought the entire world was against her, and the thing

497
00:26:41,280 --> 00:26:43,480
Speaker 1: she read on the internet confirmed that there was some

498
00:26:43,680 --> 00:26:47,000
Speaker 1: global conspiracy, as she describes it, to make her be

499
00:26:47,160 --> 00:26:51,119
Speaker 1: a dependent person or something like that. I'm just so

500
00:26:51,280 --> 00:26:56,120
Speaker 1: glad she's back, So so glad, And there is an edit.

501
00:26:57,440 --> 00:27:00,920
Speaker 1: But Tildr, for however many people are here, I.

502
00:27:00,880 --> 00:27:04,399
Speaker 2: Still do sido.

503
00:27:04,600 --> 00:27:11,399
Speaker 1: Tildr. OPI's wife started acting had a very abrupt personality shift,

504
00:27:12,320 --> 00:27:14,840
Speaker 1: and Opie didn't know what to do, and eventually they

505
00:27:14,960 --> 00:27:17,880
Speaker 1: discovered that this was due to a B twelve deficiency.

506
00:27:17,960 --> 00:27:21,639
Speaker 1: But Opie is not sure that all of the personality

507
00:27:21,720 --> 00:27:27,800
Speaker 1: change was from that deficiency, and that is that entire thing,

508
00:27:27,840 --> 00:27:30,720
Speaker 1: and there is a little baby at EDIT. So I'll

509
00:27:30,760 --> 00:27:34,400
Speaker 1: read that and then I'll get into y'all's donations. Edit

510
00:27:35,080 --> 00:27:40,000
Speaker 1: is saying that British is ethic. Wait is saying that

511
00:27:40,000 --> 00:27:43,000
Speaker 1: that British is an ethnic group now somehow associated with

512
00:27:43,080 --> 00:27:46,520
Speaker 1: right wing politics. I am Pakistani living in London, born

513
00:27:46,560 --> 00:27:48,440
Speaker 1: in France. I might be born in Europe, but I'm

514
00:27:48,480 --> 00:27:51,600
Speaker 1: not European ethnically. That doesn't make me any less European

515
00:27:51,720 --> 00:27:55,840
Speaker 1: culture wise or in any other way. It just means ethnicity. Literally,

516
00:27:55,920 --> 00:27:59,040
Speaker 1: ninety nine percent of people know this somehow, except for you,

517
00:28:00,560 --> 00:28:02,560
Speaker 1: unless you have a problem admitting it because of your

518
00:28:02,600 --> 00:28:05,440
Speaker 1: own history from South Africa. Oh, this was I was like,

519
00:28:05,480 --> 00:28:07,520
Speaker 1: what does this have to do with that? Op commented

520
00:28:07,640 --> 00:28:12,119
Speaker 1: about someone saying that this post was fake. That's what

521
00:28:12,160 --> 00:28:14,800
Speaker 1: that was in referring to. But that is the end

522
00:28:14,800 --> 00:28:18,280
Speaker 1: of that story. That's it. I'm glad that they kind

523
00:28:18,280 --> 00:28:20,879
Speaker 1: of figured that out. Divina hurts. Thank you for the

524
00:28:21,119 --> 00:28:26,360
Speaker 1: eight bucks or the eight Australian dollars, appreciate it. Yeah,

525
00:28:26,720 --> 00:28:29,200
Speaker 1: I'm glad that they figured it out. And it wasn't

526
00:28:29,720 --> 00:28:32,920
Speaker 1: it wasn't unfixable.

527
00:28:33,440 --> 00:28:35,000
Speaker 2: Yeah, just more be twelve.

528
00:28:35,080 --> 00:28:36,840
Speaker 1: Yeah, just get gotta get that B twelve in there.

529
00:28:37,440 --> 00:28:39,680
Speaker 1: It is, it got significantly more sunny.

530
00:28:40,240 --> 00:28:43,080
Speaker 2: Yeah my mom my mom takes B twelve. Yeah, she

531
00:28:43,160 --> 00:28:46,560
Speaker 2: takes a lot of it at once, and he seems

532
00:28:46,680 --> 00:28:49,200
Speaker 2: like it. She seems to It helps her out and stuff.

533
00:28:49,360 --> 00:28:51,680
Speaker 1: Yeah, I've heard it's good. Heard it's good for you.

534
00:28:51,920 --> 00:28:52,960
Speaker 2: How's your B twelve doing?

535
00:28:53,320 --> 00:28:53,720
Speaker 1: I don't know.

536
00:28:53,760 --> 00:28:57,720
Speaker 2: I think it's fine cause like you don't you're not scitarian,

537
00:28:57,800 --> 00:28:58,880
Speaker 2: you're pescatarian. Yeah.

538
00:28:58,960 --> 00:29:00,800
Speaker 1: I still yeah, I still get my I still get

539
00:29:00,800 --> 00:29:04,280
Speaker 1: my iron intake in there. I have gone to get

540
00:29:04,280 --> 00:29:07,800
Speaker 1: my blood tests done fairly regularly. Really yeah, and they're

541
00:29:07,840 --> 00:29:14,520
Speaker 1: always good. Oh yeah for you? Yeah, thanks what you're good.

542
00:29:14,760 --> 00:29:15,880
Speaker 1: It's so sunny.

543
00:29:16,840 --> 00:29:19,479
Speaker 2: But you love the sun. You're always ley.

544
00:29:19,560 --> 00:29:23,600
Speaker 1: Get out in the sun, get open the windows. Boost

545
00:29:23,640 --> 00:29:26,400
Speaker 1: the Keita yancey, thank you for celebrating your one month

546
00:29:26,440 --> 00:29:32,120
Speaker 1: of membership. Been with okop for two months. But I drop,

547
00:29:32,320 --> 00:29:35,600
Speaker 1: but it dropped for a day. Yo, but I it

548
00:29:35,680 --> 00:29:36,959
Speaker 1: dropped for a day? What dropped for a day?

549
00:29:36,960 --> 00:29:37,920
Speaker 2: Membership? Drop for a day?

550
00:29:37,960 --> 00:29:41,680
Speaker 1: Oh no, fyi? My name is boost the Keita like

551
00:29:41,800 --> 00:29:44,960
Speaker 1: boost the rhyme, oh bust the Keita bus thea Keita

552
00:29:45,080 --> 00:29:48,000
Speaker 1: like Fuster rhymes after whom my web name was first

553
00:29:48,040 --> 00:29:51,600
Speaker 1: created back in nineteen ninety nine. Thank you for correct

554
00:29:51,720 --> 00:29:55,200
Speaker 1: We appreciate it. Uh. Style Davis says, I don't think

555
00:29:55,240 --> 00:29:57,880
Speaker 1: people do enough research when transitioning to any kind of

556
00:29:57,880 --> 00:30:01,960
Speaker 1: different diet as to how they'll get the nutrients their

557
00:30:01,960 --> 00:30:06,160
Speaker 1: new diet lacks. Yeah, sometimes people just go vegan abruptly

558
00:30:06,320 --> 00:30:09,520
Speaker 1: and you know, don't take iron pills and stuff, which

559
00:30:09,600 --> 00:30:11,880
Speaker 1: is dangerous. You can definitely do that diet, but you

560
00:30:11,960 --> 00:30:17,160
Speaker 1: have to know how to do it properly. Produce not pills,

561
00:30:17,160 --> 00:30:22,720
Speaker 1: says everybody should be supplementing B twelve. Oh wait, produce

562
00:30:22,800 --> 00:30:26,680
Speaker 1: not pills. But you're saying you're saying have produce not pills.

563
00:30:27,640 --> 00:30:30,640
Speaker 2: It makes even more sense because like she's like, you

564
00:30:30,680 --> 00:30:33,560
Speaker 2: should get be getting it from vitamins. Vitamins aren't pills,

565
00:30:34,840 --> 00:30:38,560
Speaker 2: aren't they They're not? Okay supplements, Okay.

566
00:30:38,280 --> 00:30:42,560
Speaker 1: I'm getting my vitamin d IF right now. Uh lol.

567
00:30:42,560 --> 00:30:45,400
Speaker 1: Elita says, give this worm queen some shades. I forgot

568
00:30:45,440 --> 00:30:47,360
Speaker 1: them upstairs. I was gonna bring them, but.

569
00:30:47,280 --> 00:30:47,840
Speaker 2: I need them.

570
00:30:48,360 --> 00:30:50,360
Speaker 1: I just need like a hat.

571
00:30:51,720 --> 00:30:54,120
Speaker 2: I don't what kind of hat could you wear?

572
00:30:54,240 --> 00:30:56,120
Speaker 1: I don't know if I had like a little sun hat,

573
00:30:56,160 --> 00:30:56,800
Speaker 1: that'd be perfect.

574
00:30:56,840 --> 00:30:59,200
Speaker 2: But you have us on that? No, someone in here

575
00:30:59,240 --> 00:31:00,840
Speaker 2: have us on that. I think Christian mind if you

576
00:31:01,440 --> 00:31:02,480
Speaker 2: bargain and Christian.

577
00:31:03,600 --> 00:31:07,360
Speaker 1: Oh, it's okay, I'll text Sham. Let's say help me.

578
00:31:09,000 --> 00:31:10,400
Speaker 1: But let's get into this story.

579
00:31:11,560 --> 00:31:12,160
Speaker 2: Next story.

580
00:31:12,160 --> 00:31:12,320
Speaker 1: Wait?

581
00:31:12,360 --> 00:31:13,280
Speaker 2: Wait, what was.

582
00:31:13,240 --> 00:31:17,320
Speaker 1: I supposed to say? Oh? Oh forgot? What are you

583
00:31:17,360 --> 00:31:20,680
Speaker 1: supposed to say? Pray thee?

584
00:31:21,760 --> 00:31:24,360
Speaker 2: Shall we ah that?

585
00:31:24,480 --> 00:31:29,720
Speaker 1: I'm looking? I'm looking everyone who hold I can't find it?

586
00:31:29,760 --> 00:31:30,320
Speaker 2: Shall we?

587
00:31:32,080 --> 00:31:35,000
Speaker 1: That's with a P? I think pray thee? Pray pray

588
00:31:35,080 --> 00:31:35,720
Speaker 1: proceed with?

589
00:31:36,000 --> 00:31:38,560
Speaker 2: Shall we proceed with the next story?

590
00:31:39,920 --> 00:31:44,600
Speaker 1: Yeah? Perfect, I did put sunscreen on. I will need

591
00:31:44,640 --> 00:31:48,960
Speaker 1: to reapply. I don't care if my dad is sick.

592
00:31:49,760 --> 00:31:54,560
Speaker 1: Am I the ahole? And this does come from our

593
00:31:54,640 --> 00:32:00,160
Speaker 1: slash okop show? Really yeah, which is so exciting. I

594
00:32:00,160 --> 00:32:03,200
Speaker 1: think I do need a hat. I'm gonna text Sam

595
00:32:03,240 --> 00:32:07,080
Speaker 1: everyone hold Riley entertained them entertain the people.

596
00:32:13,360 --> 00:32:18,080
Speaker 2: That was me juggling tomorrow. I'm so excited. So apparently

597
00:32:18,840 --> 00:32:21,760
Speaker 2: they got fencing, and they got bow and arrow, and

598
00:32:21,800 --> 00:32:25,080
Speaker 2: they got ax throwing, and I'm gonna act throwing fencing

599
00:32:25,240 --> 00:32:27,360
Speaker 2: and bow and arrow, so I get to get to

600
00:32:27,400 --> 00:32:28,880
Speaker 2: show it off to my girlfriend and.

601
00:32:28,800 --> 00:32:30,520
Speaker 1: Be like, look look at me.

602
00:32:31,960 --> 00:32:35,000
Speaker 2: And where this. I'm gonna get so many Brownie points.

603
00:32:35,960 --> 00:32:40,440
Speaker 2: It's gonna be so great. So excited. Yeah. Yeah. Also,

604
00:32:40,480 --> 00:32:42,400
Speaker 2: this is I'm excited to show you guys. This. This

605
00:32:42,480 --> 00:32:47,920
Speaker 2: is what I see whatever I do, Uh, the live stream,

606
00:32:47,960 --> 00:32:49,760
Speaker 2: this is what we show the people too, So you

607
00:32:49,800 --> 00:32:52,120
Speaker 2: guys see the chat. This is you guys talking. And

608
00:32:52,120 --> 00:32:54,680
Speaker 2: then I scroll up every time they're like, scroll this

609
00:32:54,720 --> 00:32:58,320
Speaker 2: is what I gotta do see and then uh, this

610
00:32:58,400 --> 00:33:03,680
Speaker 2: is like the the like donations and stuff, and then

611
00:33:03,680 --> 00:33:04,800
Speaker 2: that's the other thing.

612
00:33:04,880 --> 00:33:10,440
Speaker 1: Oh my gosh, Okay, Diana, Diana, all right, entertain enough. Wow,

613
00:33:10,600 --> 00:33:11,320
Speaker 1: look at that.

614
00:33:11,320 --> 00:33:19,240
Speaker 2: That's crazy. Oh my gosh, Diana, Diana say it. Do

615
00:33:19,240 --> 00:33:19,880
Speaker 2: you want me to read it?

616
00:33:19,920 --> 00:33:21,880
Speaker 1: Can you read it? Oh? I'll read it. Thank you

617
00:33:21,920 --> 00:33:25,520
Speaker 1: for the two hundred and forty three point forty three

618
00:33:25,840 --> 00:33:28,320
Speaker 1: buck tip. I'm going to have to leave soon, but

619
00:33:28,400 --> 00:33:31,240
Speaker 1: I want another hour. I'll watch the rest tomorrow. Love

620
00:33:31,240 --> 00:33:36,720
Speaker 1: you all, thank you, love you. Oh my gosh, you're sleighing, man.

621
00:33:36,880 --> 00:33:38,520
Speaker 2: I'm gonna definitely get a Sun ten now.

622
00:33:38,880 --> 00:33:43,160
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, and wait to them. Chloe Clark, thank you

623
00:33:43,160 --> 00:33:45,320
Speaker 1: for the ten bucks. Are you guys in your backyard?

624
00:33:45,480 --> 00:33:49,560
Speaker 1: Looks so nice outside we are in our backyard. It's hot.

625
00:33:49,760 --> 00:33:52,360
Speaker 1: It is nice, but it is hot. I was gonna

626
00:33:52,360 --> 00:33:54,520
Speaker 1: wear a long sleeve under the shirt, and I'm glad

627
00:33:54,560 --> 00:33:58,760
Speaker 1: that I am not too. Yeah, and then who's about that?

628
00:34:00,480 --> 00:34:03,280
Speaker 1: MG grow Thank you for the twenty bucks. Everybody should

629
00:34:03,280 --> 00:34:05,960
Speaker 1: get blood work to determine if they have a vitamin

630
00:34:06,040 --> 00:34:08,919
Speaker 1: D deficiency. Other than that, Hi, guys, it came in late.

631
00:34:08,960 --> 00:34:11,759
Speaker 1: So the costumes and location change are refreshing. How do

632
00:34:11,800 --> 00:34:14,279
Speaker 1: you like it? I do love it. I just all

633
00:34:14,320 --> 00:34:19,040
Speaker 1: I need the hot And then I'm like Golan, if

634
00:34:19,040 --> 00:34:22,600
Speaker 1: this was like, if this was how it was perfect?

635
00:34:23,200 --> 00:34:24,360
Speaker 1: But I'll get into the next story.

636
00:34:25,840 --> 00:34:28,080
Speaker 2: There we go, There we go. Thank you Diana again

637
00:34:28,160 --> 00:34:29,120
Speaker 2: for the extra hour.

638
00:34:29,480 --> 00:34:32,200
Speaker 1: Yes, thank you, appreciate you. I don't care if my

639
00:34:32,320 --> 00:34:35,160
Speaker 1: dad's sick. Am I the a hole? And as I said,

640
00:34:35,320 --> 00:34:36,959
Speaker 1: this is from our slash okop.

641
00:34:36,760 --> 00:34:38,959
Speaker 2: Show off the cough. What do you think?

642
00:34:39,320 --> 00:34:42,760
Speaker 1: Oh? I feel like that dad probably like sucks or something.

643
00:34:43,000 --> 00:34:50,520
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, that's my that's my instincts. So Mother of

644
00:34:50,600 --> 00:34:53,000
Speaker 1: Quails says, So this is going to be a long

645
00:34:53,040 --> 00:34:55,440
Speaker 1: one because I need to give all the info first,

646
00:34:55,600 --> 00:34:59,120
Speaker 1: and there is a lot of context history and if

647
00:34:59,160 --> 00:35:04,640
Speaker 1: mother of quails, if you you're here, announce yourself, show

648
00:35:04,719 --> 00:35:09,600
Speaker 1: yourself in the chat for context. I am thirty, female

649
00:35:09,680 --> 00:35:12,880
Speaker 1: and live in Europe. My dad fifty and my mom

650
00:35:13,080 --> 00:35:17,480
Speaker 1: fifty one met as preteens and fell in love. It

651
00:35:17,560 --> 00:35:18,080
Speaker 1: was what.

652
00:35:20,120 --> 00:35:21,280
Speaker 2: Now you're even cooler?

653
00:35:21,360 --> 00:35:27,319
Speaker 1: Now I'm giving like, uh, Indiana Jones, what this is?

654
00:35:27,320 --> 00:35:30,560
Speaker 1: My dad's hat is a fire hat? Yeah, this is

655
00:35:30,719 --> 00:35:31,200
Speaker 1: dad's hat.

656
00:35:31,560 --> 00:35:33,560
Speaker 2: He was like, get me a hat, and I'm like, this.

657
00:35:33,480 --> 00:35:35,680
Speaker 1: Is this is the one?

658
00:35:35,920 --> 00:35:36,440
Speaker 2: Wow?

659
00:35:37,480 --> 00:35:40,360
Speaker 1: Hey, all right, I'm ready Now, what the heck? I

660
00:35:40,400 --> 00:35:48,360
Speaker 1: can go for hours. Ew. My dad fifty and my

661
00:35:48,440 --> 00:35:51,319
Speaker 1: mom fifty one met as preteens and fell in love.

662
00:35:51,800 --> 00:35:54,000
Speaker 1: After a few years, my dad was left by his

663
00:35:54,040 --> 00:35:57,040
Speaker 1: family at an orphanage. Oh my god. Wow, and my

664
00:35:57,120 --> 00:36:00,480
Speaker 1: grandmother on my mom's side, let's call her Granny, chose

665
00:36:00,520 --> 00:36:02,960
Speaker 1: to foster my dad so my mom and him could

666
00:36:03,040 --> 00:36:07,479
Speaker 1: stay together. At nineteen, they moved out together to start

667
00:36:07,520 --> 00:36:11,439
Speaker 1: a life and got engaged, but never married. A few

668
00:36:11,480 --> 00:36:13,759
Speaker 1: months after they found out my mom was pregnant with me.

669
00:36:15,560 --> 00:36:17,720
Speaker 1: My mom didn't want to keep me, as they were poor,

670
00:36:17,760 --> 00:36:20,640
Speaker 1: young and in school. My dad convinced her to keep me,

671
00:36:21,120 --> 00:36:24,359
Speaker 1: and they had me not long after. All was well

672
00:36:24,360 --> 00:36:27,239
Speaker 1: for maybe a year, but then my dad started gambling

673
00:36:27,280 --> 00:36:31,000
Speaker 1: and excessive spending. My mom had to quit school to

674
00:36:31,040 --> 00:36:34,080
Speaker 1: support us. But in the end they lost their home

675
00:36:34,160 --> 00:36:36,080
Speaker 1: due to my dad's gambling debt, and they moved in

676
00:36:36,160 --> 00:36:39,520
Speaker 1: again with my grandma in her tiny apartment. Oh that's

677
00:36:39,640 --> 00:36:42,719
Speaker 1: very hot. That's hard. I'm sorry. But in the end,

678
00:36:43,560 --> 00:36:46,960
Speaker 1: not long after they had my brother, my mom got

679
00:36:47,000 --> 00:36:50,080
Speaker 1: postpartum depression. But my dad kept spending all of their

680
00:36:50,120 --> 00:36:53,759
Speaker 1: money and borrowed from whoever he could, leaving her to

681
00:36:53,800 --> 00:36:58,560
Speaker 1: work thirteen hour days. Oh this guy sucks. Oh my god.

682
00:36:59,320 --> 00:37:01,600
Speaker 1: He shortly after I told my mom that he never

683
00:37:01,640 --> 00:37:03,879
Speaker 1: wanted to be a dad and to escape at all,

684
00:37:04,040 --> 00:37:07,719
Speaker 1: he enlisted and went to war. That's the thing. She said,

685
00:37:07,800 --> 00:37:10,520
Speaker 1: she didn't want to have the baby, and he insisted

686
00:37:10,520 --> 00:37:13,640
Speaker 1: that they did. And now he's like, now I don't

687
00:37:13,640 --> 00:37:16,239
Speaker 1: want to be a dad. You can't. You have to.

688
00:37:16,719 --> 00:37:20,080
Speaker 1: You can't just take it back. Can't can't take back.

689
00:37:20,040 --> 00:37:22,600
Speaker 2: Children, can't pick take back children.

690
00:37:22,880 --> 00:37:27,920
Speaker 1: They're pretty permanent. We never heard from him again. So

691
00:37:27,960 --> 00:37:33,840
Speaker 1: he just went to war. He left us and my

692
00:37:33,880 --> 00:37:36,960
Speaker 1: Mom was heartbroken. Grannie used all of her savings to

693
00:37:36,960 --> 00:37:39,319
Speaker 1: get a house for us to live us for to

694
00:37:39,360 --> 00:37:41,919
Speaker 1: live in so my mom could relax a bit. Because

695
00:37:42,000 --> 00:37:45,320
Speaker 1: dad wasn't paying child support. Mom and Granny worked hard

696
00:37:45,400 --> 00:37:48,520
Speaker 1: as both single moms and supported each other. These are

697
00:37:48,560 --> 00:37:53,520
Speaker 1: the happiest moments of my childhood. About three years later,

698
00:37:53,680 --> 00:37:56,239
Speaker 1: my dad came back and begged my mom to give

699
00:37:56,320 --> 00:37:59,160
Speaker 1: him a second chance, and she did.

700
00:37:59,360 --> 00:37:59,480
Speaker 2: No.

701
00:38:00,040 --> 00:38:05,239
Speaker 1: Oh ah, he sucks. Though they got an apartment and

702
00:38:05,280 --> 00:38:08,200
Speaker 1: we moved out. They were always fighting and every time

703
00:38:08,200 --> 00:38:11,560
Speaker 1: my dad would disappear and show up again, my mom

704
00:38:11,640 --> 00:38:15,280
Speaker 1: was so depressed and cried a lot. She stopped eating, bathing,

705
00:38:15,440 --> 00:38:18,680
Speaker 1: and I had to step up. I was around seven

706
00:38:18,719 --> 00:38:19,279
Speaker 1: at this time.

707
00:38:19,360 --> 00:38:21,400
Speaker 2: Oh my gosh, Oh.

708
00:38:21,320 --> 00:38:23,000
Speaker 1: It's so hard when you have to be like the

709
00:38:23,080 --> 00:38:29,160
Speaker 1: adult at such a young age. Dad was still spending

710
00:38:29,239 --> 00:38:32,080
Speaker 1: and borrowing money when mom was working. He would leave

711
00:38:32,120 --> 00:38:34,680
Speaker 1: to go party or gamble and leave me alone with

712
00:38:34,760 --> 00:38:37,879
Speaker 1: my brother, often without any food or money. He would

713
00:38:37,960 --> 00:38:40,000
Speaker 1: yell at me and threaten me if I told on him.

714
00:38:40,400 --> 00:38:44,480
Speaker 1: With time he became more violent. He would love he

715
00:38:44,520 --> 00:38:46,919
Speaker 1: would love us out of the apartment. Oh, he would

716
00:38:46,920 --> 00:38:49,440
Speaker 1: love that we were out of the apartment, refused to

717
00:38:49,520 --> 00:38:53,279
Speaker 1: let us use the restroom and deny us food. That

718
00:38:53,520 --> 00:38:57,719
Speaker 1: is incredibly abusive, and I hope that he'd got CPS

719
00:38:57,719 --> 00:39:00,840
Speaker 1: called on him. I got the it as I have

720
00:39:00,920 --> 00:39:05,359
Speaker 1: ADHD autism and suffer from depression and anxiety. I got

721
00:39:05,400 --> 00:39:08,160
Speaker 1: diagnosed as an adult. He thinks it's a bad excuse.

722
00:39:08,680 --> 00:39:11,000
Speaker 1: As a child, I was very nervous and had a

723
00:39:11,000 --> 00:39:13,880
Speaker 1: lot of trouble understanding commands, so I got hit a

724
00:39:13,920 --> 00:39:15,600
Speaker 1: lot for not doing as I was told or for

725
00:39:15,719 --> 00:39:19,799
Speaker 1: understanding Oh my god. My parents broke up because my

726
00:39:19,880 --> 00:39:22,600
Speaker 1: mom found out he was cheating with her best friend

727
00:39:22,800 --> 00:39:27,080
Speaker 1: of ten plus years. Ooh oh yeah, no, just call

728
00:39:27,120 --> 00:39:29,880
Speaker 1: me Joe, says, opis not the a hole. No matter

729
00:39:29,920 --> 00:39:32,160
Speaker 1: how the rest of the story goes, one hundred percent,

730
00:39:32,280 --> 00:39:36,799
Speaker 1: this is not okay. Shortly after, oh, my dad got

731
00:39:36,800 --> 00:39:39,680
Speaker 1: mad and moved abroad, leaving my mom with a massive

732
00:39:39,719 --> 00:39:44,200
Speaker 1: debt he created. He's just making it worse for everyone.

733
00:39:45,239 --> 00:39:48,759
Speaker 1: Shortly I got into an accident and almost died. Oh

734
00:39:48,800 --> 00:39:51,080
Speaker 1: my god. But no matter how hard my mom begged,

735
00:39:51,160 --> 00:39:54,600
Speaker 1: he wouldn't come see us. Over the next five ish years,

736
00:39:55,520 --> 00:39:58,359
Speaker 1: they would still get back together. My dad would become

737
00:39:58,400 --> 00:40:02,400
Speaker 1: more and more controlling and paranoid, accusing her of cheating,

738
00:40:02,560 --> 00:40:06,000
Speaker 1: stalk her, record her, borrow money in her name, et cetera.

739
00:40:06,440 --> 00:40:08,400
Speaker 1: He would cheat and leave my mom worse than he

740
00:40:08,480 --> 00:40:11,800
Speaker 1: found her on repeat. Then, when I was a preteen,

741
00:40:12,000 --> 00:40:16,520
Speaker 1: they ended up together again. No, my dad forced me

742
00:40:16,560 --> 00:40:18,799
Speaker 1: to get a job as money was tight and he

743
00:40:19,080 --> 00:40:22,480
Speaker 1: was jobless. I started working and paying rent my own

744
00:40:22,520 --> 00:40:27,080
Speaker 1: foods and spendings clothes, school supplies, et cetera. Dad would

745
00:40:27,160 --> 00:40:29,680
Speaker 1: do nothing all day, eat my food, and leave the

746
00:40:29,719 --> 00:40:31,719
Speaker 1: house a mess for my mom when she came home.

747
00:40:32,600 --> 00:40:35,280
Speaker 1: Then he would be angry with her for being lazy

748
00:40:35,400 --> 00:40:38,680
Speaker 1: and yell. My grades started to slip and he would

749
00:40:38,680 --> 00:40:41,080
Speaker 1: scream at me for not doing well in school, saying

750
00:40:41,120 --> 00:40:43,080
Speaker 1: if I didn't get better grades, I would end up

751
00:40:43,080 --> 00:40:47,120
Speaker 1: a loser like my mom. You're the loser. You're the

752
00:40:47,120 --> 00:40:51,240
Speaker 1: only loser in the story. I worked hard to protect

753
00:40:51,239 --> 00:40:53,720
Speaker 1: my brother and keep the peace. I got good grades

754
00:40:53,760 --> 00:40:55,520
Speaker 1: and made sure my brother wouldn't need to get a

755
00:40:55,560 --> 00:40:58,480
Speaker 1: job by paying for everything he needed, like his birthday

756
00:40:58,480 --> 00:41:02,440
Speaker 1: parties and clothes. My dad would always take the credit

757
00:41:02,840 --> 00:41:07,280
Speaker 1: and even steal my savings from my piggy banks. Then,

758
00:41:07,600 --> 00:41:11,760
Speaker 1: when I turned nineteen, I got out. I got an apartment,

759
00:41:11,840 --> 00:41:14,920
Speaker 1: debt free, and moved out to get a more stable economy.

760
00:41:15,560 --> 00:41:18,120
Speaker 1: I just started UNI and was ready for a new start.

761
00:41:18,560 --> 00:41:20,440
Speaker 1: I was still paying for my brother's stuff so we

762
00:41:20,480 --> 00:41:22,880
Speaker 1: could focus on high school. I got him a PC,

763
00:41:23,120 --> 00:41:26,640
Speaker 1: paid for school trips and parties. My dad took all

764
00:41:26,719 --> 00:41:30,719
Speaker 1: the credit like always. I it's so amazing that you

765
00:41:30,719 --> 00:41:33,399
Speaker 1: stepped up for your brother, though, Like, no matter how

766
00:41:33,520 --> 00:41:38,080
Speaker 1: horrible your dad is, your brother is going to remember

767
00:41:38,840 --> 00:41:42,719
Speaker 1: the stuff that you did for him. Then, shortly after

768
00:41:42,760 --> 00:41:45,920
Speaker 1: I moved out, I got mail about debt collection. I

769
00:41:46,080 --> 00:41:49,399
Speaker 1: was so surprised, as I have never borrowed money and

770
00:41:49,480 --> 00:41:52,480
Speaker 1: would pay everything upfront. I did a lot of research

771
00:41:52,520 --> 00:41:55,160
Speaker 1: and found out my dad had been spending money in

772
00:41:55,239 --> 00:41:59,120
Speaker 1: my name for a year. At that point, I've had it.

773
00:41:59,440 --> 00:42:01,399
Speaker 1: I told them to pay it off or I would

774
00:42:01,480 --> 00:42:03,960
Speaker 1: call the cops. He paid it, and I cut him

775
00:42:03,960 --> 00:42:06,920
Speaker 1: out of my life, missing holidays with my family as

776
00:42:06,920 --> 00:42:09,919
Speaker 1: a result. Years later, my brother told me that dad

777
00:42:09,920 --> 00:42:13,080
Speaker 1: had changed and wanted to apologize. I didn't want to

778
00:42:13,080 --> 00:42:15,120
Speaker 1: believe him, but I have a soft spot for my brother,

779
00:42:15,360 --> 00:42:18,800
Speaker 1: who wanted us all to get along. We were invited

780
00:42:18,840 --> 00:42:21,719
Speaker 1: to my father's christening, and I went trying to be

781
00:42:21,760 --> 00:42:25,759
Speaker 1: the bigger person. Well it wasn't a christening, but his

782
00:42:25,880 --> 00:42:31,960
Speaker 1: marriage to his mistress. Oh oh man, oh man. I

783
00:42:32,080 --> 00:42:35,320
Speaker 1: was so shocked, but keptcom got a lot of evidence

784
00:42:35,360 --> 00:42:39,520
Speaker 1: and went straight to my mom. She was livid and

785
00:42:39,560 --> 00:42:42,960
Speaker 1: she finally left him for good. Way. Wait wait, he

786
00:42:43,080 --> 00:42:46,840
Speaker 1: was still with him. She was still with him, and

787
00:42:46,880 --> 00:42:49,839
Speaker 1: he got married to someone else and invited Ope. What

788
00:42:50,520 --> 00:42:52,359
Speaker 1: that is so stupid of him.

789
00:42:52,920 --> 00:42:53,640
Speaker 2: She won't find out.

790
00:42:53,840 --> 00:42:56,840
Speaker 1: She'll find out. Guys, don't tell her that I'm getting

791
00:42:56,880 --> 00:43:02,520
Speaker 1: married to someone else. That Wow, Wow, that's so stupid

792
00:43:02,600 --> 00:43:05,279
Speaker 1: of him. I mean, I know he's been stupid this

793
00:43:05,320 --> 00:43:10,839
Speaker 1: whole time, but that's pretty stupid. He was expecting to

794
00:43:10,960 --> 00:43:13,879
Speaker 1: keep living with my mom for some reason. I had

795
00:43:13,880 --> 00:43:16,000
Speaker 1: completely cut him out of my life and met my

796
00:43:16,080 --> 00:43:18,959
Speaker 1: husband twenty eight mal. I haven't heard from my dad

797
00:43:19,000 --> 00:43:22,200
Speaker 1: in ages. But the night I got engaged, he called

798
00:43:22,239 --> 00:43:25,200
Speaker 1: me and yelled at me for someone for marrying someone

799
00:43:25,239 --> 00:43:28,600
Speaker 1: that hadn't asked him for permission. You were the last

800
00:43:28,640 --> 00:43:32,280
Speaker 1: person that needs to be asked for permission. I blocked

801
00:43:32,320 --> 00:43:35,120
Speaker 1: him and didn't invite him to the wedding. He kept

802
00:43:35,120 --> 00:43:37,200
Speaker 1: telling everyone that I was being a bad daughter and

803
00:43:37,239 --> 00:43:39,960
Speaker 1: my husband was dumb and evil for not wanting anything

804
00:43:40,000 --> 00:43:42,760
Speaker 1: to do with him. My husband refuses to have anything

805
00:43:42,760 --> 00:43:45,400
Speaker 1: to do with my dad. I have no contact to

806
00:43:45,440 --> 00:43:48,719
Speaker 1: low contact relationship as I hate him and can't stand

807
00:43:48,719 --> 00:43:50,480
Speaker 1: the side of him, but won't let that get in

808
00:43:50,520 --> 00:43:53,640
Speaker 1: the way of seeing family at their important events. He

809
00:43:53,719 --> 00:43:55,839
Speaker 1: pastors me from time to time. I don't know how

810
00:43:55,840 --> 00:43:59,040
Speaker 1: he keeps getting my number. Most recently he got mad

811
00:43:59,080 --> 00:44:01,080
Speaker 1: that I didn't want to give him my social Security

812
00:44:01,160 --> 00:44:02,560
Speaker 1: numbers so he could get a divorce.

813
00:44:02,640 --> 00:44:03,440
Speaker 2: How does that work?

814
00:44:04,080 --> 00:44:06,680
Speaker 1: Why would you need your daughter's social security to get

815
00:44:06,680 --> 00:44:14,000
Speaker 1: a divorce? That that doesn't make sense. Every time he

816
00:44:14,080 --> 00:44:16,799
Speaker 1: goes through my family and convinces them that I am

817
00:44:16,840 --> 00:44:19,840
Speaker 1: to blame. Recently, my family has been nagging me to

818
00:44:19,880 --> 00:44:22,520
Speaker 1: forgive my father as he has gotten old and is

819
00:44:22,560 --> 00:44:25,480
Speaker 1: slowly dying from diabetes that he doesn't want to treat.

820
00:44:25,960 --> 00:44:28,520
Speaker 1: I refuse to let him into my life again and

821
00:44:28,600 --> 00:44:30,640
Speaker 1: told my mom and brother that I don't care if

822
00:44:30,640 --> 00:44:33,799
Speaker 1: he's sick and dying, to which my family is calling

823
00:44:33,840 --> 00:44:36,720
Speaker 1: me cold and an a hole. I don't think it's fair.

824
00:44:36,880 --> 00:44:39,160
Speaker 1: So now I come to this wonderful community to give

825
00:44:39,200 --> 00:44:43,319
Speaker 1: the whole story and await judgment. So am I the

826
00:44:43,360 --> 00:44:47,839
Speaker 1: a hole for refusing to forgive my dad and that

827
00:44:48,480 --> 00:44:53,879
Speaker 1: is the end of the story. Wow, No, you're not good.

828
00:44:54,200 --> 00:44:58,560
Speaker 1: You're not the a hole. That's oh. Lady Morgan says,

829
00:44:58,600 --> 00:45:02,000
Speaker 1: he and mom never married, but like, it's still wild

830
00:45:02,040 --> 00:45:03,839
Speaker 1: to me that he was planning on living with her

831
00:45:03,880 --> 00:45:07,279
Speaker 1: and just getting married to another person and expecting her

832
00:45:07,320 --> 00:45:08,239
Speaker 1: to be okay with that.

833
00:45:08,320 --> 00:45:09,440
Speaker 2: You didn't think that one through?

834
00:45:09,880 --> 00:45:15,400
Speaker 1: No, no, he did not. This is yeah, I'm so sorry. Ope,

835
00:45:15,640 --> 00:45:18,239
Speaker 1: that's really Yeah, your father sucks and you do not

836
00:45:18,400 --> 00:45:22,200
Speaker 1: owe him anything. So not the a hole, says a

837
00:45:22,320 --> 00:45:25,880
Speaker 1: Dane in darkness. Uh, And Lady Morgan says, did the

838
00:45:25,920 --> 00:45:28,759
Speaker 1: brother know about the wedding ahead of time? I don't know.

839
00:45:28,800 --> 00:45:31,799
Speaker 1: It seems like it it seems like the brother has

840
00:45:32,920 --> 00:45:36,120
Speaker 1: a little bit better relationship with the dad, maybe because

841
00:45:36,160 --> 00:45:41,920
Speaker 1: he's kind of lied about certain things. Yeah, because just

842
00:45:41,960 --> 00:45:43,960
Speaker 1: based off the way that he's like, oh, oh, pie,

843
00:45:44,080 --> 00:45:46,120
Speaker 1: like you should try and have a relationship with dad again.

844
00:45:48,200 --> 00:45:49,960
Speaker 1: And then Camp for the Wind says, wait, can you

845
00:45:50,000 --> 00:45:50,440
Speaker 1: score up?

846
00:45:50,480 --> 00:45:54,680
Speaker 2: Oh yeah, right, Camp for.

847
00:45:54,719 --> 00:45:56,680
Speaker 1: The Wind says, not the a hole, And I would

848
00:45:56,719 --> 00:46:00,600
Speaker 1: have even thrown hands for what he did. Probably wanted

849
00:46:00,640 --> 00:46:03,960
Speaker 1: the social to divorce his daughter from her husband. Oh

850
00:46:03,960 --> 00:46:08,120
Speaker 1: my god, did he do that? Probably that that would

851
00:46:08,120 --> 00:46:12,000
Speaker 1: be wild, Kimberly find says, OPI, your dad is trash

852
00:46:12,040 --> 00:46:16,520
Speaker 1: and empathy depletion is valid. Any grief over his presence

853
00:46:16,640 --> 00:46:19,560
Speaker 1: or lack thereof happened years ago, and he is undeserving

854
00:46:19,640 --> 00:46:23,279
Speaker 1: of holding any measure of space in your life. Very true.

855
00:46:23,320 --> 00:46:24,160
Speaker 2: Tell him Kimberly.

856
00:46:24,400 --> 00:46:27,560
Speaker 1: Yeah. Uh. And Gabby Bee says, send your family the

857
00:46:27,600 --> 00:46:30,880
Speaker 1: link to your story and expose him to everyone and

858
00:46:30,920 --> 00:46:33,400
Speaker 1: then go no contact acts. I think you need to

859
00:46:34,239 --> 00:46:38,600
Speaker 1: tell people about his behavior because it's unacceptable to blame you,

860
00:46:39,360 --> 00:46:40,759
Speaker 1: to blame you for things, and some of.

861
00:46:40,800 --> 00:46:46,480
Speaker 2: This YouTube blank and how bad of a person is.

862
00:46:46,680 --> 00:46:48,600
Speaker 1: Yeah, we'll tell him. We'll tell him to his face,

863
00:46:48,680 --> 00:46:49,200
Speaker 1: we'll tell him.

864
00:46:49,239 --> 00:46:49,799
Speaker 2: We'll tell him.

865
00:46:49,920 --> 00:46:51,120
Speaker 1: I'm gonna drink this water.

866
00:46:51,440 --> 00:46:54,440
Speaker 2: You can drink some water. And look at that. Wow,

867
00:46:54,560 --> 00:46:56,440
Speaker 2: she looks like she's ready for an adventure, isn't she.

868
00:46:56,800 --> 00:46:59,960
Speaker 2: I'm ready, He's ready, And I do have an umbrella

869
00:47:00,160 --> 00:47:01,960
Speaker 2: that have to be in the shade because I can't

870
00:47:02,000 --> 00:47:03,280
Speaker 2: let anything overheat.

871
00:47:03,400 --> 00:47:08,080
Speaker 1: So okay, putting more sunscreen.

872
00:47:08,360 --> 00:47:16,760
Speaker 2: Look at that. Wow, getting getting screened, it protected getting screened.

873
00:47:18,719 --> 00:47:21,640
Speaker 1: But that is the end of that story. And we

874
00:47:21,680 --> 00:47:24,879
Speaker 1: are at four hundred and seventeen likes out of five

875
00:47:24,960 --> 00:47:25,960
Speaker 1: hundred and how many people?

876
00:47:26,360 --> 00:47:27,879
Speaker 2: What do you want? What do you want to do?

877
00:47:28,200 --> 00:47:30,279
Speaker 2: I don't even have a will. I could go get it.

878
00:47:31,400 --> 00:47:32,960
Speaker 1: Well, they don't even deserve it yet.

879
00:47:33,040 --> 00:47:35,719
Speaker 2: They don't deserve it yet. What should we do? Though?

880
00:47:36,080 --> 00:47:36,920
Speaker 1: I don't know what's.

881
00:47:36,800 --> 00:47:38,320
Speaker 2: Some comments this? We're outside.

882
00:47:38,320 --> 00:47:39,920
Speaker 1: I think it's some creative Yeah, I can I can

883
00:47:39,960 --> 00:47:41,600
Speaker 1: do like a wheel or something.

884
00:47:41,760 --> 00:47:42,799
Speaker 2: Yeah, there we go, there we go?

885
00:47:44,320 --> 00:47:45,040
Speaker 1: Or can juggle?

886
00:47:47,000 --> 00:47:48,120
Speaker 2: She juggled yesterday?

887
00:47:48,160 --> 00:47:52,600
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, we went and played tennis yesterday time. But well,

888
00:47:52,600 --> 00:47:54,239
Speaker 1: I mean you could talk now. We haven't started the

889
00:47:54,239 --> 00:48:01,560
Speaker 1: next story. Why okay, story time. Riley, our other roommate,

890
00:48:01,600 --> 00:48:05,040
Speaker 1: and I went to go play tennis yesterday. It was

891
00:48:05,120 --> 00:48:08,959
Speaker 1: very fun. I I played tennis the day before too,

892
00:48:09,120 --> 00:48:12,600
Speaker 1: and my like forearm is so dead, like I can't

893
00:48:12,880 --> 00:48:14,759
Speaker 1: I can't use it. And so I was a lot

894
00:48:14,760 --> 00:48:18,640
Speaker 1: worse yesterday than I was two days ago. So Riley,

895
00:48:18,800 --> 00:48:20,959
Speaker 1: Riley was doing pretty good, all right, I'm.

896
00:48:20,880 --> 00:48:23,839
Speaker 2: Not I don't understand any of the fundamentals of.

897
00:48:25,480 --> 00:48:27,319
Speaker 1: You just got to hit a ball. That's the same thing,

898
00:48:27,960 --> 00:48:30,319
Speaker 1: Demona Kirsty says. Sophia looks like she's ready to raid

899
00:48:30,360 --> 00:48:33,279
Speaker 1: a temple. This is my tomb raider's outfit and or

900
00:48:33,480 --> 00:48:38,399
Speaker 1: Indiana Jones fit. I'm about to I'm about to find

901
00:48:38,440 --> 00:48:43,120
Speaker 1: the lost treasure. There we go. Yeah, but let's get in.

902
00:48:43,440 --> 00:48:45,840
Speaker 2: It's a joust.

903
00:48:46,360 --> 00:48:48,560
Speaker 1: We don't have any jousting material.

904
00:48:48,400 --> 00:48:50,680
Speaker 2: And I don't need sunscreen. I'm in the ship.

905
00:48:50,840 --> 00:48:53,520
Speaker 1: Yeah, it's true. Riley's completely in the shade. It's just

906
00:48:53,840 --> 00:49:00,080
Speaker 1: ha ha. But let's let's joust this next story. There

907
00:49:00,160 --> 00:49:08,239
Speaker 1: you go, let's to raid this next story. I don't know.

908
00:49:09,120 --> 00:49:11,680
Speaker 1: Am I the a hole for not respecting my husband's

909
00:49:11,880 --> 00:49:17,239
Speaker 1: need for a break? What do you think? What kind

910
00:49:17,239 --> 00:49:21,120
Speaker 1: of break? Riley? Do you need a break? I'm okay

911
00:49:21,200 --> 00:49:23,200
Speaker 1: right now because I wouldn't have respected it.

912
00:49:24,040 --> 00:49:26,640
Speaker 2: Oh wow, you know actually I was thinking about getting

913
00:49:26,640 --> 00:49:27,640
Speaker 2: like a five minute break.

914
00:49:27,760 --> 00:49:28,239
Speaker 1: Too bad?

915
00:49:28,840 --> 00:49:29,880
Speaker 2: Do you use the bathroom?

916
00:49:29,960 --> 00:49:31,440
Speaker 1: Nope? No breaks?

917
00:49:31,719 --> 00:49:34,360
Speaker 2: Wow? I thought Sam and John were bad. This is

918
00:49:34,400 --> 00:49:35,000
Speaker 2: even worse.

919
00:49:35,800 --> 00:49:39,680
Speaker 1: So Ashley zero four nine seven says, I twenty six

920
00:49:39,760 --> 00:49:42,800
Speaker 1: female and my husband twenty six male, have two kids,

921
00:49:42,920 --> 00:49:46,360
Speaker 1: four female and one female. We have been together almost

922
00:49:46,440 --> 00:49:48,960
Speaker 1: six years. He works full time while I stay home

923
00:49:48,960 --> 00:49:51,480
Speaker 1: with the kids. We're currently in the midst of our

924
00:49:51,560 --> 00:49:55,520
Speaker 1: biggest fight in a long time. Today is my husband's

925
00:49:55,600 --> 00:49:58,280
Speaker 1: day off. We only have one car and he doesn't

926
00:49:58,400 --> 00:50:00,640
Speaker 1: like for me to drive him to work, so I

927
00:50:00,760 --> 00:50:04,200
Speaker 1: usually plan to run Errand's on his days off. About

928
00:50:04,320 --> 00:50:08,640
Speaker 1: ninety percent of the time, I take the kids with me. Oooh,

929
00:50:09,440 --> 00:50:11,960
Speaker 1: today I needed to go to the DMV to update

930
00:50:11,960 --> 00:50:15,319
Speaker 1: my ID and then take four year old to the pediatrician.

931
00:50:15,880 --> 00:50:17,560
Speaker 1: We had them planned to go look at a couple

932
00:50:17,560 --> 00:50:19,520
Speaker 1: of houses. Oh, we had then planned to go look

933
00:50:19,520 --> 00:50:21,800
Speaker 1: at a couple of houses. We're trying to buy a house.

934
00:50:22,600 --> 00:50:25,560
Speaker 1: When I got back, I wasn't planning to take the

935
00:50:25,640 --> 00:50:28,080
Speaker 1: kids to the DMV with me, as that sounds like

936
00:50:28,239 --> 00:50:31,520
Speaker 1: literal hell and four year old has severe anxiety about

937
00:50:31,560 --> 00:50:34,279
Speaker 1: going to the doctor and needs my full attention, so

938
00:50:34,440 --> 00:50:36,440
Speaker 1: I wasn't going to take the baby with us to

939
00:50:36,520 --> 00:50:41,640
Speaker 1: her appointment. This was all communicated to my husband in advance,

940
00:50:42,320 --> 00:50:45,360
Speaker 1: but I guess it only hit him this morning that

941
00:50:45,440 --> 00:50:47,840
Speaker 1: this is all happening on the same day. That's not

942
00:50:47,920 --> 00:50:52,240
Speaker 1: his fault, that's his fault. I'm sensing where this is going. Uh,

943
00:50:52,280 --> 00:50:55,120
Speaker 1: and I'm sensing that OP is not the able and

944
00:50:55,160 --> 00:50:58,520
Speaker 1: this husband is a bad dad. That's what I'm sensing.

945
00:50:58,560 --> 00:51:01,040
Speaker 2: Way, how long ago did this person notified them about this?

946
00:51:01,239 --> 00:51:03,640
Speaker 1: It just says in advance, in advance, he agreed to

947
00:51:03,680 --> 00:51:06,080
Speaker 1: it in advance, and is now a day of seems

948
00:51:06,120 --> 00:51:08,600
Speaker 1: like he might be Okay, okay, might be.

949
00:51:09,000 --> 00:51:11,279
Speaker 2: I've seen a recent incident where someone let someone else

950
00:51:11,320 --> 00:51:14,040
Speaker 2: know in advance and something happened.

951
00:51:15,680 --> 00:51:21,040
Speaker 1: No, that doesn't that's different. That's different. Yeah, totally different scenario.

952
00:51:22,080 --> 00:51:24,160
Speaker 1: He came in the bathroom while I was getting ready

953
00:51:24,200 --> 00:51:26,319
Speaker 1: and asked if I was taking the kids with me

954
00:51:26,440 --> 00:51:30,400
Speaker 1: to the DMV. Admittedly this did immediately upset me, as

955
00:51:30,440 --> 00:51:32,480
Speaker 1: I knew he was going to ask, and felt that

956
00:51:32,640 --> 00:51:36,960
Speaker 1: even asking was ridiculous. I said no, and he went,

957
00:51:37,480 --> 00:51:43,440
Speaker 1: h really, which I didn't really respond to. Really, Oh,

958
00:51:43,560 --> 00:51:47,959
Speaker 1: you mean I have to take her my kids? That's

959
00:51:47,960 --> 00:51:48,680
Speaker 1: so unfair?

960
00:51:49,760 --> 00:51:50,680
Speaker 2: A better job.

961
00:51:52,640 --> 00:51:55,000
Speaker 1: A few minutes later, he went to start brushing his

962
00:51:55,040 --> 00:51:58,640
Speaker 1: teeth and said, verbatim, well, I can tell you right now,

963
00:51:59,000 --> 00:52:03,120
Speaker 1: if I'm watching your kids all day, we're not going

964
00:52:03,200 --> 00:52:06,960
Speaker 1: to be looking at houses tonight. What what do you

965
00:52:07,000 --> 00:52:07,760
Speaker 1: mean your kids.

966
00:52:07,880 --> 00:52:08,759
Speaker 2: What do you mean by that?

967
00:52:08,800 --> 00:52:10,000
Speaker 1: What do you mean your kids?

968
00:52:10,360 --> 00:52:13,640
Speaker 2: Also, why are you punishing you like? So watch kids?

969
00:52:13,800 --> 00:52:14,279
Speaker 2: We can't go.

970
00:52:14,400 --> 00:52:18,640
Speaker 1: We can't. That's sorry, benef it's both of you. Uh wait,

971
00:52:18,880 --> 00:52:21,760
Speaker 1: just eat out. The rich says, oh no, he needs

972
00:52:21,840 --> 00:52:23,400
Speaker 1: to babysit his kids.

973
00:52:23,440 --> 00:52:29,720
Speaker 2: Oh my god, who who changed their username to that?

974
00:52:31,800 --> 00:52:33,720
Speaker 1: I love it? That's why I wanted to say that comment.

975
00:52:34,880 --> 00:52:40,399
Speaker 1: Or Soma says, your kids, yeah, so strange, so whack man,

976
00:52:40,680 --> 00:52:44,759
Speaker 1: so whack get out of here. I don't know if

977
00:52:44,800 --> 00:52:46,960
Speaker 1: he meant oh uh yeah, I don't know if he

978
00:52:47,040 --> 00:52:50,480
Speaker 1: meant the your kids as a joke says he did,

979
00:52:50,840 --> 00:52:55,480
Speaker 1: but he looked angry and sounded angry. I said my kids,

980
00:52:56,080 --> 00:53:00,640
Speaker 1: and he doubled down on it. Your kids. I asked again,

981
00:53:00,680 --> 00:53:04,960
Speaker 1: to be sure my kids again, your kids?

982
00:53:05,480 --> 00:53:06,040
Speaker 2: Oh boy.

983
00:53:07,000 --> 00:53:09,800
Speaker 1: So then I was really pissed and I got patty.

984
00:53:10,400 --> 00:53:13,799
Speaker 1: I said, fine, I'll take my kids with me to

985
00:53:13,840 --> 00:53:16,360
Speaker 1: the DMV. I'll take them both with me to the

986
00:53:16,360 --> 00:53:20,480
Speaker 1: pediatrician too. Why should I expect help with my kids? Right?

987
00:53:20,880 --> 00:53:25,160
Speaker 1: God forbid their father take care of them. For some context,

988
00:53:25,400 --> 00:53:27,439
Speaker 1: this isn't the first time I've been made to feel

989
00:53:27,440 --> 00:53:29,319
Speaker 1: guilty for leaving the kids with him.

990
00:53:30,960 --> 00:53:32,440
Speaker 2: Come on, dude, you're a.

991
00:53:32,320 --> 00:53:33,840
Speaker 1: Father, You're a father.

992
00:53:34,400 --> 00:53:34,600
Speaker 2: Yeah.

993
00:53:34,640 --> 00:53:38,919
Speaker 1: Everyone's saying divorce, divorce. I'm saying divorce if this man

994
00:53:39,000 --> 00:53:42,560
Speaker 1: can't shape up and take care of his children and

995
00:53:42,640 --> 00:53:44,600
Speaker 1: be a father. Yeah.

996
00:53:44,760 --> 00:53:47,239
Speaker 2: Not a not a pro move, dude, not a.

997
00:53:47,120 --> 00:53:52,560
Speaker 1: Pro gamer move. You're an op. Wait, what's a what's

998
00:53:52,560 --> 00:53:55,400
Speaker 1: a I need to look up some renfare insults from me?

999
00:53:56,600 --> 00:54:03,160
Speaker 1: You li live the fool the cops some renfs. It's

1000
00:54:03,200 --> 00:54:05,080
Speaker 1: never been for more than a couple of hours, and

1001
00:54:05,239 --> 00:54:09,560
Speaker 1: net anything fun. It's always stuff like doctor's appointments. I

1002
00:54:09,600 --> 00:54:12,000
Speaker 1: take them with me, grocery shopping while he stays home

1003
00:54:12,040 --> 00:54:15,800
Speaker 1: by himself. He sucks. And I don't mind that the

1004
00:54:15,880 --> 00:54:19,040
Speaker 1: good kids and I enjoy taking them with me most places,

1005
00:54:19,280 --> 00:54:21,600
Speaker 1: and I do think he deserves his breaks and time

1006
00:54:21,640 --> 00:54:24,680
Speaker 1: to himself. But the little comments and huffs when I

1007
00:54:24,680 --> 00:54:27,759
Speaker 1: do have to leave them home are infuriating. And I

1008
00:54:27,840 --> 00:54:30,359
Speaker 1: have told him that even if I plan things during

1009
00:54:30,360 --> 00:54:33,160
Speaker 1: the baby's nap, he'll stay something like well what if

1010
00:54:33,239 --> 00:54:36,120
Speaker 1: she wakes up before you get back? Like, okay, are

1011
00:54:36,160 --> 00:54:39,840
Speaker 1: you not her dad? Ah? The raven says, I bite

1012
00:54:39,880 --> 00:54:40,959
Speaker 1: my thumb at you, sir.

1013
00:54:41,560 --> 00:54:44,799
Speaker 2: So true, you overcooked cabbage to leave.

1014
00:54:45,160 --> 00:54:48,440
Speaker 1: No, honestly that the the my kids your kids exchange

1015
00:54:48,480 --> 00:54:50,520
Speaker 1: where he was like any double down on at your kids?

1016
00:54:50,880 --> 00:54:53,360
Speaker 1: That gives like do you bite your thought at me?

1017
00:54:53,880 --> 00:54:56,279
Speaker 1: I do not buy my thumb at you? But did

1018
00:54:56,280 --> 00:54:58,360
Speaker 1: you buy your thumb from Shakespeare?

1019
00:54:58,560 --> 00:54:59,520
Speaker 2: Oh?

1020
00:55:00,280 --> 00:55:04,240
Speaker 1: That movie from It's from Romeo and Juliet.

1021
00:55:04,840 --> 00:55:07,640
Speaker 2: Oh love that movie.

1022
00:55:08,120 --> 00:55:10,360
Speaker 1: So you haven't watched it? Yeah, you're lying to me.

1023
00:55:13,400 --> 00:55:16,920
Speaker 1: So the fight spiraled. We both said some nasty things

1024
00:55:16,920 --> 00:55:19,840
Speaker 1: that I'm sure we didn't mean. He basically said that

1025
00:55:19,880 --> 00:55:22,160
Speaker 1: my life was a lot easier than his, and I

1026
00:55:22,200 --> 00:55:25,279
Speaker 1: don't appreciate him and everything he does. I said that

1027
00:55:25,360 --> 00:55:29,839
Speaker 1: I'm effing exhausted, never get a break, and the odd

1028
00:55:29,840 --> 00:55:32,640
Speaker 1: trip to the grocery store alone does not count. Yeah,

1029
00:55:32,640 --> 00:55:36,279
Speaker 1: it doesn't count if she's still doing work for the house. Yeah, love,

1030
00:55:36,360 --> 00:55:37,800
Speaker 1: Lebble says. And they're still married.

1031
00:55:38,120 --> 00:55:41,239
Speaker 2: But the baby you wanted to go to the grocery store, remember.

1032
00:55:41,040 --> 00:55:42,759
Speaker 1: Yeah, remember you said that you you had to go

1033
00:55:42,840 --> 00:55:45,000
Speaker 1: to the grocery stores. So that's like your that's like

1034
00:55:45,040 --> 00:55:45,840
Speaker 1: your break, right.

1035
00:55:45,719 --> 00:55:47,560
Speaker 2: Made a whole Listen, you asked me what I wanted

1036
00:55:47,560 --> 00:55:49,120
Speaker 2: to come on? You really wanted to go.

1037
00:55:49,400 --> 00:55:51,440
Speaker 1: Yeah, like I don't want to go to the grocery store,

1038
00:55:53,160 --> 00:55:57,320
Speaker 1: but you love doing that. He said that he didn't

1039
00:55:57,360 --> 00:56:00,960
Speaker 1: mean the not looking at houses tonight comment as a punishment,

1040
00:56:01,320 --> 00:56:04,120
Speaker 1: just that he'd be too tired after watching the kids

1041
00:56:04,120 --> 00:56:08,200
Speaker 1: all day. You meant it, You meant it, man, Oh man,

1042
00:56:09,000 --> 00:56:09,879
Speaker 1: I'm in the sun more.

1043
00:56:11,040 --> 00:56:11,160
Speaker 2: Uh.

1044
00:56:13,200 --> 00:56:15,359
Speaker 1: It's too much for him on his day off when

1045
00:56:15,400 --> 00:56:18,080
Speaker 1: he has to go back to work tomorrow. I said, Then,

1046
00:56:18,840 --> 00:56:22,279
Speaker 1: I said, then he admits that my job is hard too,

1047
00:56:22,880 --> 00:56:26,240
Speaker 1: that taking care of the kids all day is exhausting. Also,

1048
00:56:26,320 --> 00:56:28,600
Speaker 1: I don't believe he didn't mean it as a punishment.

1049
00:56:28,920 --> 00:56:34,319
Speaker 1: He was angry when he said that he was, and

1050
00:56:34,440 --> 00:56:37,120
Speaker 1: it felt like I was being punished. If he'd said

1051
00:56:37,160 --> 00:56:39,480
Speaker 1: something like, hey, this is a lot for one day,

1052
00:56:39,560 --> 00:56:42,520
Speaker 1: let's just look at houses another day, then fine. But

1053
00:56:42,600 --> 00:56:46,200
Speaker 1: he didn't. He yelled at me and said not to

1054
00:56:46,320 --> 00:56:49,239
Speaker 1: compare him to my father. How is he supposed to

1055
00:56:49,239 --> 00:56:51,960
Speaker 1: defend himself when I act like he's a deadbeat and

1056
00:56:52,040 --> 00:56:56,080
Speaker 1: bad father. I said that I never said anything like that,

1057
00:56:56,280 --> 00:56:59,040
Speaker 1: but he does act like any time he has to

1058
00:56:59,080 --> 00:57:02,279
Speaker 1: watch the kids is a huge inconvenience for him, and

1059
00:57:02,320 --> 00:57:04,080
Speaker 1: it makes me feel like I'm not allowed to do

1060
00:57:04,120 --> 00:57:07,600
Speaker 1: anything without them. He said, it is a huge inconvenience,

1061
00:57:07,600 --> 00:57:09,759
Speaker 1: and I said that it shouldn't be. It should be

1062
00:57:09,800 --> 00:57:13,480
Speaker 1: par for the course taking care of your children.

1063
00:57:14,400 --> 00:57:17,960
Speaker 2: See a simple solution for that? Would that would benefit

1064
00:57:18,400 --> 00:57:20,760
Speaker 2: both of you for not having to worry about the children.

1065
00:57:20,920 --> 00:57:26,200
Speaker 2: What adoption? I put them up for adoption. You don't

1066
00:57:26,240 --> 00:57:27,280
Speaker 2: have to worry about him anymore.

1067
00:57:27,360 --> 00:57:28,760
Speaker 1: Put the husband up for adoption.

1068
00:57:29,440 --> 00:57:33,480
Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, that's pretty fair. Yeah you could do that too. Yeah,

1069
00:57:33,560 --> 00:57:34,920
Speaker 2: do that actually, yeah.

1070
00:57:34,800 --> 00:57:37,000
Speaker 1: Get rid of him. I'm putting more soundscreen on.

1071
00:57:37,160 --> 00:57:41,160
Speaker 2: Do that because I feel like it's really interesting that

1072
00:57:41,160 --> 00:57:45,200
Speaker 2: the husband feels this way, and the fact that he

1073
00:57:45,240 --> 00:57:49,720
Speaker 2: brought up his father shows that he's doing some self

1074
00:57:49,760 --> 00:57:52,320
Speaker 2: reflecting and he kind of feels bad for what he

1075
00:57:52,400 --> 00:57:55,520
Speaker 2: said and is doing. He's like, I want to don't

1076
00:57:55,560 --> 00:57:56,320
Speaker 2: call me my father.

1077
00:57:56,560 --> 00:57:58,960
Speaker 1: No, he's just saying that. He's like, don't call me

1078
00:57:58,960 --> 00:58:01,760
Speaker 1: your father, because he knows that he's being like his

1079
00:58:01,840 --> 00:58:05,560
Speaker 1: father or or someone's father, her father, someone's dead beat father.

1080
00:58:05,680 --> 00:58:05,880
Speaker 2: Someone.

1081
00:58:06,720 --> 00:58:09,439
Speaker 1: Yeah. No, he's just like feeling insecure because he knows

1082
00:58:09,480 --> 00:58:10,280
Speaker 1: that he is doing that.

1083
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Speaker 2: What did he say?

1084
00:58:14,000 --> 00:58:16,080
Speaker 1: How is he supposed to defend himself when I act

1085
00:58:16,160 --> 00:58:19,280
Speaker 1: like he's a deadbeat, but he is. He's being a deadbeat.

1086
00:58:19,840 --> 00:58:22,560
Speaker 1: You can defend yourself if you're actually doing your dog.

1087
00:58:22,720 --> 00:58:27,640
Speaker 2: Compare him to my father. Yeah, oh, that's even worse.

1088
00:58:28,960 --> 00:58:31,320
Speaker 2: Oh my gosh.

1089
00:58:31,440 --> 00:58:34,320
Speaker 1: He stomped off to the bedroom and I never made

1090
00:58:34,360 --> 00:58:40,120
Speaker 1: it to the DMV. No, he's making this so hard. Obviously,

1091
00:58:40,240 --> 00:58:42,560
Speaker 1: this fight has been building for a while. I didn't

1092
00:58:42,560 --> 00:58:47,320
Speaker 1: realize how angry I was, though, And there is a

1093
00:58:47,400 --> 00:58:51,320
Speaker 1: little baby at it, but we'll get into that right away.

1094
00:58:52,240 --> 00:58:55,360
Speaker 1: He's a manager with an internet commer company. He does

1095
00:58:55,400 --> 00:58:57,560
Speaker 1: make good money with good benefits, and he's worked hard

1096
00:58:57,560 --> 00:58:59,880
Speaker 1: to get where he is. I'm not sure where everyone

1097
00:58:59,920 --> 00:59:01,640
Speaker 1: is getting the idea that he only gets one day

1098
00:59:01,680 --> 00:59:03,840
Speaker 1: off a week. It must be the way I worded it,

1099
00:59:03,880 --> 00:59:06,080
Speaker 1: which is my bad. But he gets two days off,

1100
00:59:06,240 --> 00:59:09,040
Speaker 1: although they are very based on scheduling, and he has

1101
00:59:09,200 --> 00:59:12,960
Speaker 1: PTO and six time at his disposal. He scheduled himself

1102
00:59:13,000 --> 00:59:15,240
Speaker 1: a six day vacation at the beginning of every month

1103
00:59:15,280 --> 00:59:19,080
Speaker 1: for the first part of the year. I think through August.

1104
00:59:19,440 --> 00:59:22,479
Speaker 1: Oh my god, every month, six days off.

1105
00:59:22,680 --> 00:59:23,600
Speaker 2: Let's go far.

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00:59:24,160 --> 00:59:26,800
Speaker 1: I think that's including the two days off he normally has, though,

1107
00:59:26,840 --> 00:59:29,960
Speaker 1: so it's an extra four days of PTO each month.

1108
00:59:30,440 --> 00:59:32,240
Speaker 1: The earliest he has to be at work is nine

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00:59:32,360 --> 00:59:35,520
Speaker 1: thirty am, barring the rre early morning meeting, and much

1110
00:59:35,520 --> 00:59:37,560
Speaker 1: of the time he doesn't have to be in until

1111
00:59:37,600 --> 00:59:41,320
Speaker 1: eleven or eleven thirty. I'm almost always up before him,

1112
00:59:41,440 --> 00:59:42,680
Speaker 1: or at least at the same time.

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00:59:42,840 --> 00:59:43,320
Speaker 2: Interesting.

1114
00:59:43,400 --> 00:59:47,320
Speaker 1: Yeah, he's just super not valuing her work as like

1115
00:59:47,360 --> 00:59:51,800
Speaker 1: a stay at home mom. Yeah, like it's a lot

1116
00:59:51,840 --> 00:59:53,720
Speaker 1: of work, and she's not asking him to take care

1117
00:59:53,720 --> 00:59:55,600
Speaker 1: of the children all the time. She's just saying, Hey,

1118
00:59:55,640 --> 00:59:58,240
Speaker 1: there are moments when I need to leave one child

1119
00:59:58,280 --> 01:00:00,680
Speaker 1: alone and I need you to step up and take

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01:00:00,720 --> 01:00:03,600
Speaker 1: care of them. A scooter kid says she needs to

1121
01:00:03,680 --> 01:00:06,200
Speaker 1: leave them asap and get child support. Yeah, he's not

1122
01:00:06,240 --> 01:00:13,760
Speaker 1: helping anyway, or Soma says. His kids are definitely watching

1123
01:00:13,800 --> 01:00:16,720
Speaker 1: his behavior and are taking notes. They will remember this

1124
01:00:16,800 --> 01:00:19,040
Speaker 1: when they're older. And how awful he was.

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01:00:19,240 --> 01:00:21,400
Speaker 2: Oh my gosh, I was about to say, because the

1126
01:00:21,440 --> 01:00:25,080
Speaker 2: way you're acting right now and respecting your wife and

1127
01:00:25,440 --> 01:00:28,120
Speaker 2: your attitude towards your own kids, that's what your kids

1128
01:00:28,120 --> 01:00:29,160
Speaker 2: are gonna do growing up.

1129
01:00:29,280 --> 01:00:31,600
Speaker 1: Well, they're two girls, so that's you know they're gonna

1130
01:00:31,640 --> 01:00:34,760
Speaker 1: be like, oh, that's what we deserve, which is not. No,

1131
01:00:35,240 --> 01:00:38,280
Speaker 1: you should show you should show your daughters that they

1132
01:00:38,320 --> 01:00:39,760
Speaker 1: deserve the best.

1133
01:00:40,000 --> 01:00:42,000
Speaker 2: Oh that's aang.

1134
01:00:42,760 --> 01:00:47,080
Speaker 1: Yeah. Online third party says he better prays she never

1135
01:00:47,120 --> 01:00:50,640
Speaker 1: gets sick or hospitalized. He will lose his mind raising

1136
01:00:50,720 --> 01:00:54,760
Speaker 1: her kids. Yeah, great point, and PTO is paid time

1137
01:00:54,800 --> 01:00:58,960
Speaker 1: off for the person asking. Christie Steal says I would

1138
01:00:59,000 --> 01:01:01,120
Speaker 1: put the kids in takecare, get a job, and get

1139
01:01:01,160 --> 01:01:04,840
Speaker 1: ready for divorce. Yeah, let's see, let's do a poll.

1140
01:01:04,960 --> 01:01:08,320
Speaker 2: Can we do polls may crash the system, but we'll

1141
01:01:08,360 --> 01:01:08,720
Speaker 2: try it.

1142
01:01:08,960 --> 01:01:10,960
Speaker 1: Okay, we might crash the system, but we're gonna try

1143
01:01:10,960 --> 01:01:17,600
Speaker 1: and do a pole divorce or nah, and Gielbo says

1144
01:01:17,640 --> 01:01:20,960
Speaker 1: they will. Hopefully they realize something I didn't. I can't

1145
01:01:20,960 --> 01:01:25,840
Speaker 1: see it. Hopefully they realize and never end up with

1146
01:01:25,960 --> 01:01:29,960
Speaker 1: someone like him. Yeah. Lady Morgan says he would be

1147
01:01:30,080 --> 01:01:32,840
Speaker 1: lost if op he had any type of emergency left

1148
01:01:32,840 --> 01:01:36,040
Speaker 1: her unable to care for her children. Yeah. And jac

1149
01:01:36,160 --> 01:01:38,959
Speaker 1: says many men, not all of course, see women taking

1150
01:01:39,000 --> 01:01:41,520
Speaker 1: care of kids as something they have to do, and

1151
01:01:41,560 --> 01:01:43,760
Speaker 1: it's not seen as a job to them. I hope

1152
01:01:43,800 --> 01:01:45,960
Speaker 1: she leaves them. Yeah. No, like a lot of people

1153
01:01:46,040 --> 01:01:49,480
Speaker 1: devalue stay at home moms and are like, oh, well

1154
01:01:49,520 --> 01:01:52,000
Speaker 1: she's not working, so she's actually not doing anything. But

1155
01:01:52,160 --> 01:01:54,360
Speaker 1: being a stay at home mom is a full time job.

1156
01:01:54,440 --> 01:01:56,120
Speaker 2: Yeah, dude, you're raising the future.

1157
01:01:56,720 --> 01:01:59,080
Speaker 1: Yeah, because a lot of parents will get babysitters, but

1158
01:01:59,200 --> 01:02:02,080
Speaker 1: usually a stay at home is doing that babysitting job,

1159
01:02:02,120 --> 01:02:03,480
Speaker 1: and that is work, dude.

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01:02:03,560 --> 01:02:07,000
Speaker 2: And the amount of money for babysitters and stuff like

1161
01:02:07,040 --> 01:02:08,800
Speaker 2: that that we've looked into, Yeah, you're.

1162
01:02:08,680 --> 01:02:12,400
Speaker 1: Getting hundreds of dollars and you're doing that for free,

1163
01:02:12,520 --> 01:02:17,439
Speaker 1: and your husband's not valuing you. No, no, no, Roxy says.

1164
01:02:17,440 --> 01:02:19,800
Speaker 1: The good thing is he hates him and does not

1165
01:02:20,000 --> 01:02:22,760
Speaker 1: take him as a good example. The other father is

1166
01:02:22,760 --> 01:02:26,720
Speaker 1: that wearsing. Marissa says one hundred percent divorce. Yeah, it

1167
01:02:26,720 --> 01:02:30,880
Speaker 1: seems like everyone's saying divorce, which I agree with.