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Speaker 1: Lisa Lampanelli is not a licensed therapist or life coach.

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Speaker 1: She is a meddling advice giving yana and know it all,

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Speaker 1: and her words come from her head, her heart, and

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Speaker 1: often out of her ass. This podcast should not be

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Speaker 1: misconstrued as therapy. I should be taking with a huge

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Speaker 1: grain of salt for entertainment purposes only.

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Speaker 2: These.

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Speaker 3: You need help, You're the problems. Come on, come down, lamb,

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Speaker 3: take a pill. I think you're insane. Do what I said,

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Speaker 3: dumb ass, listen to me. You you doude man my

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Speaker 3: energy I was browing out for a second, lost your god,

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Speaker 3: no care seats thing Westen. Everybody welcome to shrink this

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Speaker 3: with Lisa Lambinelli. I'm your house, Lisa Lambinelli. And that's

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Speaker 3: the other guy, Nick and nobody. Where's my camera? No

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Speaker 3: one wants to see you. We're loaded for bear. We

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Speaker 3: I feel like we've been up very early today.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I'm up early most days, but today I.

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Speaker 3: Was on an invitation for you to talk. It was

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Speaker 3: just like a pause, a meaningful pause. No, I know

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Speaker 3: you are up early every day because despite your looks,

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Speaker 3: you're a personal trainer. Isn't that ironic? It's like having

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Speaker 3: a smoking nurse. It just shouldn't be a thing.

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Speaker 2: Personality high for sure.

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Speaker 3: You sure are. You're the one who like distract them

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Speaker 3: and tell them they're pretty. Speaking of which, by the way,

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Speaker 3: that's well, that would get us into our subject today.

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Speaker 3: But if anyone would like to send me a letter

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Speaker 3: and we will give you the advice to the best

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Speaker 3: of our ability, email us your question. That Shrink This

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Speaker 3: show at gmail dot com. That Shrink This sho at

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Speaker 3: gmail dot com. This is the podcast where we give

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Speaker 3: you all the answers you need to live your life

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Speaker 3: in a truly meaningful, fun way. But you'll ignore because

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Speaker 3: you're stupid and don't want any advice, much like any

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Speaker 3: twenty two year olds who think she has it together

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Speaker 3: just saying not naming names. Hi, Celia, that's our producer,

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Speaker 3: and I do say that in quotes. Bitch pushes a button.

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Speaker 3: Yeah that sounds hard many ones in your clit.

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Speaker 2: She's still drugged from girl?

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Speaker 3: No? Yeah ten months later?

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Speaker 4: Yeah you Southern right, you're both so dumb. You're both

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Speaker 2: All I need to know is Celia is a Southern whore?

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Speaker 1: Yes?

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Speaker 3: Yes, such true. Well, isn't there a show called Southern

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Speaker 3: charm that you're addicted to and you should do on

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Speaker 3: Southern wers.

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Speaker 5: I belong on Southern No.

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Speaker 3: You don't. You're neither southern nor charming. Now, Nick, the

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Speaker 3: reason I say what you said before about that you're

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Speaker 3: a personality higher, I was going to say it was

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Speaker 3: a compliment to you. And because today's episode is about compliments,

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Speaker 3: why they're so difficult to take, Why they're so easy

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Speaker 3: to give to others but difficult to take in. How

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Speaker 3: to handle compliments when we use them for the wrong reasons,

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Speaker 3: like manipulations, which I constantly do because I need to

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Speaker 3: get what I want all the time. Celia, you are

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Speaker 3: so pretty. See she finally started paying attention when I

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Speaker 3: this she can't do. Okay, So let's start from the beginning.

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Speaker 3: Compliments are a very heated subject because they're very difficult

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Speaker 3: for some people to take. They either shirk them off

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Speaker 3: take them in maybe too much. Like I remember back

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Speaker 3: when I went from how what was my weight? Thirteen

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Speaker 2: It, and you never peak? Was it that your peak?

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Speaker 3: Well, here, let's put it this way. I went to

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Speaker 3: started eating like I had nine rectums because I said,

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Speaker 3: So I remember when people would say you look great,

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Speaker 3: fine either way, nice try bitch, m but you could compliment.

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Speaker 3: And I don't think that's the exact way to act either.

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Speaker 3: You know? So, Nick, you personally you must have a

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Speaker 3: You hate yourself, or at least you should.

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Speaker 3: But that is true both of them. But one thing,

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Speaker 3: Oh god, they fish pumped on camera. So what what

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Speaker 3: do you think gets in the way? Like right now, honestly,

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Speaker 3: you look much better than you did six months ago.

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Speaker 3: mind money spirit approach, and do take it all in

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Speaker 3: the act. And if I say to you, hey, Nick,

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Speaker 2: to a joke. I'd like it's depression, you know exactly?

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Speaker 3: I would immediately right, So how do you think that

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Speaker 2: They probably go, what the hell's wrong with this guy?

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Speaker 2: Or why can't you just I'm trying to be nice here?

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Speaker 3: It's almost like if we take the compliment correctly, we're

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Speaker 3: oh wow, you saw me, and I'm like kind of

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Speaker 3: honoring that, and I think that's great you said it.

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Speaker 3: So the deflection is kind of where everybody gets fed up.

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Speaker 3: You know. So do you inarguably think you look better

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Speaker 2: Oh?

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Speaker 3: Yeah, just you've done a lot of.

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Speaker 2: Internal for sure. No, it's definitely, like I mean, it's

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Speaker 2: But no, I do feel better, but I think I'm

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Speaker 2: that like it goes yeah, but I got it, you.

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Speaker 3: Know, yeah, but I got it. That's what you That's right,

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Speaker 3: that is what you do. You go, Yeah, you do

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Speaker 3: And I think it's just like a general we generally

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Speaker 3: we invent a fucking time machine because we can't that.

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Speaker 2: It's actually now. It just reminds me of a story

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Speaker 2: this happened to me recently. One of my clients is

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Speaker 2: when I first met him, I was at don't worry

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Speaker 2: But when I first met him, I was at my

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Speaker 2: heaviest personal trainer.

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Speaker 3: Oh, by the way, we don't say heavy anymore. In

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Speaker 3: the fat community has taken back the word fat. Heavy.

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Speaker 3: Furniture is heavy. People are fat, We are fat. So

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Speaker 3: you were at yours.

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Speaker 2: I was fat tits McGee.

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Speaker 3: Yep, you were fat and things fatty fat.

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Speaker 2: And I saw him like three weeks ago and he

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Speaker 2: goes it looks at me. He goes, do you look good?

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Speaker 2: You leaning out a little bit? And before I even

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Speaker 2: say thank you, I just went, yeah, man, I was disgusting.

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Speaker 2: I go, how do you think I felt training you

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Speaker 2: like we were dying laughing right, And and then he said,

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Speaker 2: But I was like, yeah, man, I was. I couldn't

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Speaker 2: I had to hard. I had to go to this

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Speaker 2: whole diet tribe about when I first met you, I

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Speaker 2: was at my fattest. How do you think I felt?

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Speaker 2: It was awful?

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Speaker 3: Yeah? So you like offloaded on him. Oh yeah, But

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Speaker 3: I think you knew today's episode was going to be

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Speaker 3: on compliments, So I think you kind of know how

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Speaker 3: to behave, so I said to you, and I got like, seriously, Nick,

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Speaker 3: I know I manipulate you sometimes with compliments because I'll

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Speaker 3: often like say he has the greatest driving and it's

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Speaker 3: actually true. But I don't know what I'm trying to manipulate.

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Speaker 3: I'm trying to manipulate him into a good mood or

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Speaker 3: is that stuff? But yeah, I don't like that. I'm

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Speaker 3: also for the Spanish men, but I don't like to

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Speaker 5: So?

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Speaker 3: But I was like, Nick, you're gonna think I'm manipulating you.

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Speaker 3: I just want to really say, you've just in the

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Speaker 3: past six months to a year, just you've come so

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Speaker 3: far as far as your attitude and used to be

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Speaker 3: deflecting all the time with humor and it's so much better.

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Speaker 3: And I think you knew you had to behave and

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Speaker 3: a little and then you go, hey, thanks, that means

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Speaker 3: a lot. And that's kind of all people want to know,

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Speaker 3: is they're validated and what they're saying that we're not blind.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, that's because I think what you asked. When someone

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Speaker 2: does that to me, I start to like, this is

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Speaker 2: so annoying to say, but it's just true. I'll I'll

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Speaker 2: like get a little emotional and tier tier up.

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Speaker 3: That's good.

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Speaker 2: Well, I know it's good, but I'll push it away.

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Speaker 3: No, I get it.

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Speaker 2: I'm very I'll stiff arm that shit.

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Speaker 4: Well.

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Speaker 3: Even yesterday, I was with two of my arguably most

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Speaker 3: have a friend I do outfit of the day every

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00:21:57,320 --> 00:21:59,320
Speaker 3: day and I send it to two friends just to

432
00:21:59,560 --> 00:22:02,000
Speaker 3: keep myself in a better mood by getting dressed up

433
00:22:02,000 --> 00:22:04,159
Speaker 3: every day. It's just as good for mentally. I have

434
00:22:04,320 --> 00:22:07,320
Speaker 3: fun with it. It's cute. I use all my vintage

435
00:22:07,359 --> 00:22:09,080
Speaker 3: and at the rift stop, so I have a good

436
00:22:09,119 --> 00:22:11,600
Speaker 3: time with it, and I have my friends are both

437
00:22:11,680 --> 00:22:15,040
Speaker 3: kind of woke, these two, so they always say like, oh,

438
00:22:15,160 --> 00:22:20,359
Speaker 3: those pants are so flattering and PSI I'm like, just

439
00:22:20,560 --> 00:22:23,600
Speaker 3: say you look good in those pants or oh those

440
00:22:23,640 --> 00:22:26,680
Speaker 3: obviously fit better now than they did twenty pounds ago.

441
00:22:27,119 --> 00:22:29,000
Speaker 3: So I'm of the age group that will take that

442
00:22:29,119 --> 00:22:33,440
Speaker 3: fucking compliment. Like for you, if somebody said you, hey,

443
00:22:33,520 --> 00:22:35,680
Speaker 3: you lost weight, would you be like, how dare you?

444
00:22:35,960 --> 00:22:37,960
Speaker 5: No? Because this actually did happen to me. I've lost

445
00:22:38,040 --> 00:22:39,840
Speaker 5: like a pretty significant amount of weight in like the

446
00:22:39,960 --> 00:22:44,679
Speaker 5: last year, and I don't see my home friends too often.

447
00:22:44,760 --> 00:22:46,800
Speaker 3: So like when I was just home one, did you

448
00:22:46,840 --> 00:22:49,719
Speaker 3: say your homo friends home? Oh? I guess the homeost

449
00:22:49,760 --> 00:22:52,760
Speaker 3: can be bitchy. Go ahead, They're brutally honest and honestly,

450
00:22:52,760 --> 00:22:54,040
Speaker 3: I would love that. I love it too.

451
00:22:54,280 --> 00:22:55,879
Speaker 5: One of my girlfriends came up to me and she

452
00:22:56,080 --> 00:22:58,000
Speaker 5: was like she was definitely drunk, but she was like

453
00:22:59,040 --> 00:23:01,560
Speaker 5: and she was like a little southern accent. She's like,

454
00:23:02,000 --> 00:23:04,800
Speaker 5: you look like so tiny, I can't even lie.

455
00:23:05,000 --> 00:23:08,600
Speaker 3: And I was like, stop it is. I love it.

456
00:23:08,880 --> 00:23:11,760
Speaker 5: But I also had that moment where I was like, actually,

457
00:23:11,800 --> 00:23:14,320
Speaker 5: I feel humongous right now, and I feel like a

458
00:23:14,640 --> 00:23:16,600
Speaker 5: water buffalo and like I want to just put on

459
00:23:16,760 --> 00:23:17,760
Speaker 5: like sweatpants.

460
00:23:18,080 --> 00:23:20,479
Speaker 3: Why because I did. That's how I felt, you mean,

461
00:23:20,920 --> 00:23:23,480
Speaker 3: because of the compliment. No, I just like you just

462
00:23:23,560 --> 00:23:24,680
Speaker 3: at the moment that way.

463
00:23:24,760 --> 00:23:26,960
Speaker 5: Yeah, and so but she told me that and I

464
00:23:27,080 --> 00:23:28,879
Speaker 5: was like, but that is still very nice, and like

465
00:23:28,960 --> 00:23:30,359
Speaker 5: I thought about it the next day and I was like,

466
00:23:30,520 --> 00:23:32,040
Speaker 5: I felt good to hear that.

467
00:23:32,280 --> 00:23:34,080
Speaker 3: Like did you just say thanks to her or did

468
00:23:34,160 --> 00:23:35,159
Speaker 3: you tell her?

469
00:23:35,400 --> 00:23:36,959
Speaker 5: I was like, no, I feel like shit right now,

470
00:23:37,240 --> 00:23:37,800
Speaker 5: Like I mean.

471
00:23:37,680 --> 00:23:39,359
Speaker 3: I don't think that's a bad thing to be like, No,

472
00:23:39,520 --> 00:23:42,000
Speaker 3: I personally feel like shit. Not you're wrong. Yeah, And

473
00:23:42,080 --> 00:23:42,720
Speaker 3: I said thank you.

474
00:23:43,080 --> 00:23:45,000
Speaker 5: I did. I was like, thank you, but I actually

475
00:23:45,040 --> 00:23:48,080
Speaker 5: feel disgusting right now, like because I've just been drinking

476
00:23:48,200 --> 00:23:49,080
Speaker 5: for days and eating.

477
00:23:49,119 --> 00:23:52,439
Speaker 3: Okay, you're just a drunken horn. Yeah, say I may

478
00:23:52,480 --> 00:23:55,000
Speaker 3: be thin, but I'm a drunken horn. Yeah I'm not thin.

479
00:23:55,119 --> 00:23:57,120
Speaker 3: But I was just like, well, thank you well because

480
00:23:57,200 --> 00:24:01,080
Speaker 3: honestly with you, I've definitely noticed body change with you,

481
00:24:01,560 --> 00:24:03,159
Speaker 3: and I'm like, I don't know if I'm allowed to

482
00:24:03,240 --> 00:24:03,960
Speaker 3: compliment people.

483
00:24:04,720 --> 00:24:05,600
Speaker 5: And that's actually happened.

484
00:24:05,800 --> 00:24:07,240
Speaker 3: Oh thank god, because all I wanted to say to

485
00:24:07,240 --> 00:24:09,439
Speaker 3: you is you like less like a water buffalo than

486
00:24:09,480 --> 00:24:12,960
Speaker 3: you used to? How dare you put that phrase? And

487
00:24:13,080 --> 00:24:15,119
Speaker 3: that's fucked up, dude, I always say that, or like

488
00:24:15,200 --> 00:24:17,680
Speaker 3: a cow on the beach. But but do you I

489
00:24:17,760 --> 00:24:20,840
Speaker 3: don't think you're this person. Will you ever look at

490
00:24:20,960 --> 00:24:24,320
Speaker 3: someone who was the size you were and be likeugh?

491
00:24:25,400 --> 00:24:25,800
Speaker 5: I know?

492
00:24:26,240 --> 00:24:29,120
Speaker 3: So we speak like ship to ourselves but not about them.

493
00:24:29,440 --> 00:24:31,800
Speaker 3: Like I'll see fat influencers all the time and I'm like,

494
00:24:32,240 --> 00:24:34,520
Speaker 3: why are you? Why would you laugh? Did I say

495
00:24:34,600 --> 00:24:41,760
Speaker 3: the end world? But there it's literally a category fat influencer.

496
00:24:42,000 --> 00:24:43,679
Speaker 5: Well, they call them plus size.

497
00:24:43,920 --> 00:24:47,160
Speaker 3: No, the real ones are the real ones. They don't

498
00:24:47,240 --> 00:24:49,080
Speaker 3: like because they're like plus what size? You can to

499
00:24:49,119 --> 00:24:55,479
Speaker 3: go deeper into the fat woke, politically correct chain. No, seriously,

500
00:24:55,600 --> 00:24:57,800
Speaker 3: anyone I follow is just like owns the word fat,

501
00:24:58,160 --> 00:25:00,800
Speaker 3: so they're just like, we've taken it back, but any

502
00:25:01,000 --> 00:25:02,720
Speaker 3: might fall. I'm like, oh my gosh, she looks so good.

503
00:25:02,760 --> 00:25:05,879
Speaker 3: Why couldn't I have figured that out? How Why am

504
00:25:05,960 --> 00:25:09,040
Speaker 3: I so old and can't get that? I looked okay

505
00:25:09,200 --> 00:25:12,840
Speaker 3: back then? So you just wonder I could. I would

506
00:25:12,840 --> 00:25:14,879
Speaker 3: never say to them, oh you fact hunt, Yeah, but

507
00:25:14,920 --> 00:25:16,920
Speaker 3: I would say it to myself easily back in the day.

508
00:25:17,080 --> 00:25:19,960
Speaker 5: Or I wouldn't see someone like on the beach, for example,

509
00:25:20,040 --> 00:25:22,000
Speaker 5: and be like, oh my god, they look disgusting. In

510
00:25:22,080 --> 00:25:25,720
Speaker 5: that I would, but if I saw myself, I would

511
00:25:25,720 --> 00:25:27,399
Speaker 5: be like, ew, like she's nasty.

512
00:25:27,520 --> 00:25:29,280
Speaker 3: Agreed, you know what I mean? No, I get it.

513
00:25:29,440 --> 00:25:32,000
Speaker 3: And it's just so sad the things we're not saints.

514
00:25:32,119 --> 00:25:36,120
Speaker 3: We would make fun of people, but not for that day. Yeah,

515
00:25:36,280 --> 00:25:39,680
Speaker 3: but we would kind of. But but it's just kind

516
00:25:39,720 --> 00:25:42,399
Speaker 3: of sad the way we do it to us instead,

517
00:25:42,400 --> 00:25:45,000
Speaker 3: And why is that any better? It's arguably worse. Yeah,

518
00:25:45,040 --> 00:25:48,000
Speaker 3: I agree. I get ready to jerk some guys off

519
00:25:48,080 --> 00:25:53,879
Speaker 3: and take compliments. Nick, I'm ready. I stop looking at

520
00:25:53,920 --> 00:26:05,800
Speaker 3: the camera you have since we've fixed you and you've

521
00:26:05,920 --> 00:26:08,080
Speaker 3: helped the cause and your a little tiny slip of

522
00:26:08,160 --> 00:26:10,840
Speaker 3: a girl. Go ahead, Nick, do we have some questions

523
00:26:10,880 --> 00:26:16,960
Speaker 3: for our idiotic viewers? Slash readers got some letters, man, okay, bitch.

524
00:26:17,440 --> 00:26:22,360
Speaker 2: First one Dear Lisa. Last week a friend of mine

525
00:26:22,359 --> 00:26:24,200
Speaker 2: who I hadn't seen since the summer and told me

526
00:26:24,359 --> 00:26:27,680
Speaker 2: I look great, oh, and asked if I've been working out.

527
00:26:27,760 --> 00:26:30,840
Speaker 2: I said, oh, it must be the shirt Black is slimming.

528
00:26:31,280 --> 00:26:32,359
Speaker 3: True though, which is.

529
00:26:32,359 --> 00:26:35,320
Speaker 2: The name of my autobiography. Ye, black is slimming. The

530
00:26:35,480 --> 00:26:37,840
Speaker 2: truth is I did lose ten pounds and have been

531
00:26:37,920 --> 00:26:40,320
Speaker 2: working out. But if I said thank you, it would

532
00:26:40,359 --> 00:26:42,879
Speaker 2: feel weird, like look at me, I'm so great. Do

533
00:26:42,960 --> 00:26:46,360
Speaker 2: you think my response was Okay, thank you and yes,

534
00:26:47,280 --> 00:26:50,080
Speaker 2: oh Barbara, Woodland Hills, California.

535
00:26:50,240 --> 00:26:53,840
Speaker 3: Oh oh, that's where my bank is anyway, ty Barbara,

536
00:26:53,920 --> 00:26:57,680
Speaker 3: that's my account, Barbara, and she has a back hunt. No, Barbara,

537
00:26:57,920 --> 00:27:01,480
Speaker 3: he isn't say the sends again if I said thank you?

538
00:27:01,760 --> 00:27:04,560
Speaker 2: What if I said thank you, it would feel weird, like,

539
00:27:04,880 --> 00:27:06,400
Speaker 2: look at me, I'm so great.

540
00:27:06,560 --> 00:27:09,280
Speaker 3: When did thank you equate to look at me I'm

541
00:27:09,359 --> 00:27:13,080
Speaker 3: so great? Because I mean, imagine, like my mother when

542
00:27:13,200 --> 00:27:16,600
Speaker 3: we were growing up, they'd kill themselves in that kitchen

543
00:27:17,080 --> 00:27:21,880
Speaker 3: for Christmas, for every holiday, Easter, Thanksgiving, and like five courses,

544
00:27:21,960 --> 00:27:24,359
Speaker 3: seven courses on Thanksgiving and the plates would be on

545
00:27:24,520 --> 00:27:26,640
Speaker 3: salt china, and you can't put it in the dishwasher

546
00:27:26,640 --> 00:27:30,520
Speaker 3: because dishwashers hadn't been invented yet. And if we said

547
00:27:30,560 --> 00:27:33,200
Speaker 3: to her, this was a great meal and she said

548
00:27:33,320 --> 00:27:37,520
Speaker 3: thank you, like that's an appropriate response versus, oh, I

549
00:27:37,560 --> 00:27:39,359
Speaker 3: don't know, the chicken was a little dry. Oh do

550
00:27:39,440 --> 00:27:44,600
Speaker 3: you think it's thank you? Shouldn't be misinterpreted as like, oh,

551
00:27:45,080 --> 00:27:48,320
Speaker 3: you're full of yourself. So and also the blackest slimming

552
00:27:48,440 --> 00:27:52,639
Speaker 3: thing is true correct, but it's defaulting to humor and

553
00:27:52,760 --> 00:27:55,920
Speaker 3: it's kind of not taking any credit. And it's the

554
00:27:56,000 --> 00:27:59,400
Speaker 3: kind of thing where I remember when I first realized

555
00:27:59,440 --> 00:28:02,640
Speaker 3: I was really good comic, and people would come backstage

556
00:28:03,440 --> 00:28:05,920
Speaker 3: and be like, oh my god. And this is like

557
00:28:06,800 --> 00:28:09,480
Speaker 3: twenty years in, so I already had built up confidence.

558
00:28:10,040 --> 00:28:13,080
Speaker 3: And at first, in the early days, they'd be like,

559
00:28:13,160 --> 00:28:14,800
Speaker 3: that was such a great set, and I'd go, yeah,

560
00:28:14,840 --> 00:28:18,639
Speaker 3: that audience was great. Well, twenty years later, when I

561
00:28:18,760 --> 00:28:20,560
Speaker 3: know I'm nailing it, you don't do the tiny show

562
00:28:20,600 --> 00:28:24,520
Speaker 3: thirteen times and not be decent at least And someone

563
00:28:24,560 --> 00:28:26,920
Speaker 3: would come backstage and always be a friend or a

564
00:28:27,000 --> 00:28:30,640
Speaker 3: relative and they'd go, oh my god, that audience was great,

565
00:28:30,720 --> 00:28:34,040
Speaker 3: and I'd literally say, you know why they were great

566
00:28:34,520 --> 00:28:37,600
Speaker 3: because I was fucking great, Because that audience would have

567
00:28:37,600 --> 00:28:40,080
Speaker 3: sat there like a bump on a cunt if I

568
00:28:40,400 --> 00:28:43,280
Speaker 3: had not been good. So why don't you rephrase that

569
00:28:43,480 --> 00:28:46,120
Speaker 3: fucking compliment and direct it right here? Like I would

570
00:28:46,120 --> 00:28:48,960
Speaker 3: get mad and I think I'm right, and he's a

571
00:28:49,080 --> 00:28:52,160
Speaker 3: star lady, So really, what they should have just said

572
00:28:52,280 --> 00:28:54,880
Speaker 3: was you were so good, and I would have been like, yeah, man,

573
00:28:55,640 --> 00:28:58,920
Speaker 3: and then i'd pro and weirdly enough, i'd probably then go, yeah,

574
00:28:58,960 --> 00:29:01,120
Speaker 3: I was good, brol So that was on fire. So

575
00:29:01,200 --> 00:29:03,440
Speaker 3: if I'm looping him in, So I don't think it

576
00:29:03,520 --> 00:29:07,400
Speaker 3: necessarily makes you sound conceited to give yourself a little credit.

577
00:29:07,760 --> 00:29:09,320
Speaker 3: Even if she said, oh my god, I'm so happy

578
00:29:09,320 --> 00:29:11,320
Speaker 3: you noticed because I've been working out and I lost

579
00:29:11,360 --> 00:29:13,240
Speaker 3: about ten pounds and I know weight isn't the goal,

580
00:29:13,360 --> 00:29:15,600
Speaker 3: but I feel better. That's a freaking nice way to

581
00:29:15,680 --> 00:29:20,960
Speaker 3: accept a compliment. Yeah, God, Barbara, get your shit together. Yeah,

582
00:29:21,160 --> 00:29:25,200
Speaker 3: fuck you, Celia can you can't? I mean, Celia's a

583
00:29:25,320 --> 00:29:28,200
Speaker 3: great lesson, and if she can do it, I mean

584
00:29:28,280 --> 00:29:32,440
Speaker 3: like anyone can. Literally, like literally, there's a lot wrong there.

585
00:29:32,720 --> 00:29:34,600
Speaker 5: Literally got dropped on a mirror as a baby.

586
00:29:34,880 --> 00:29:38,400
Speaker 3: I mean, did you look in it? Go ahead. Nick's

587
00:29:38,440 --> 00:29:40,040
Speaker 3: second letter, just.

588
00:29:40,160 --> 00:29:45,080
Speaker 2: Kidding broke Okay, So hey, Lisa, Oh my name is

589
00:29:45,160 --> 00:29:47,080
Speaker 2: Kelly from Milwaukee, Wisconsin.

590
00:29:47,840 --> 00:29:51,400
Speaker 3: I think a home of Arthur Fonzarelli, who could not

591
00:29:51,600 --> 00:29:54,320
Speaker 3: say the words I'm sorry. He could no, no, actually

592
00:29:54,400 --> 00:29:58,040
Speaker 3: he couldn't say I'm wrong. You can't say I'm sorry.

593
00:29:58,160 --> 00:29:59,480
Speaker 3: Me and Nick kep to work on the fact that

594
00:29:59,520 --> 00:30:04,320
Speaker 3: he can't apologize. Arthur Fonzarelli from Happy Days from Milwaukee.

595
00:30:07,080 --> 00:30:10,520
Speaker 3: She did, I did, Oh my god, you know, but

596
00:30:11,040 --> 00:30:14,800
Speaker 3: adding literally nothing to what I'm saying, both you and

597
00:30:14,960 --> 00:30:16,760
Speaker 3: Nick have to say I'm sorry to me right now?

598
00:30:16,840 --> 00:30:19,480
Speaker 3: Go ahead? Nick, Sorry, No, look me in the eyes

599
00:30:19,480 --> 00:30:23,840
Speaker 3: and that click you mean it? He makes the camera.

600
00:30:24,120 --> 00:30:29,400
Speaker 3: But do you even know where the camera is? How

601
00:30:29,520 --> 00:30:31,520
Speaker 3: is it my showing? I don't know where the cameras

602
00:30:31,560 --> 00:30:37,120
Speaker 3: are because I'm not conceded. There be no podcast about me.

603
00:30:38,840 --> 00:30:39,200
Speaker 2: Anyway.

604
00:30:39,240 --> 00:30:43,720
Speaker 3: So Arthur Fonzarelli could not say I was wrong. There

605
00:30:43,800 --> 00:30:49,160
Speaker 3: was many episodes where Richie Cunningham would say, but you

606
00:30:49,280 --> 00:30:51,400
Speaker 3: have to admit you're wrong, and he goes, okay, I

607
00:30:53,400 --> 00:30:56,280
Speaker 3: and he could never say the words why did I

608
00:30:56,320 --> 00:31:03,640
Speaker 3: bring this up? Because Milwaukee home of Henry Winkler fons

609
00:31:03,720 --> 00:31:07,800
Speaker 3: of Relly couldn't say they lost their trend of thought

610
00:31:07,920 --> 00:31:11,400
Speaker 3: like I just did. But that's not a thing. That's

611
00:31:11,440 --> 00:31:14,120
Speaker 3: hard to say. Thank you, no, and fuck? And I

612
00:31:14,320 --> 00:31:15,600
Speaker 3: was wrong. I need to write a book.

613
00:31:15,880 --> 00:31:16,280
Speaker 2: You should.

614
00:31:16,720 --> 00:31:19,160
Speaker 3: I don't want to. So who is it? Who's a

615
00:31:19,240 --> 00:31:19,640
Speaker 3: letter from?

616
00:31:20,400 --> 00:31:21,280
Speaker 2: It's from Kelly?

617
00:31:21,520 --> 00:31:21,640
Speaker 3: Oh?

618
00:31:21,720 --> 00:31:23,800
Speaker 2: Hi, Kelly from Milwaukee, Wisconsin.

619
00:31:23,960 --> 00:31:25,720
Speaker 3: Oh wait, didn't you go to school there? Oh no?

620
00:31:25,840 --> 00:31:27,640
Speaker 3: That was mad? I said, added nothing.

621
00:31:28,000 --> 00:31:30,960
Speaker 2: Go ahead, blowjobs? All right? I think I am fishing

622
00:31:31,480 --> 00:31:33,960
Speaker 2: for compliments and I don't know how to stop it.

623
00:31:34,560 --> 00:31:36,360
Speaker 2: I'm a little overweight and I was just on a

624
00:31:36,840 --> 00:31:39,760
Speaker 2: ski trip with my friends. When we all get dressed

625
00:31:39,800 --> 00:31:41,440
Speaker 2: for the hot tub each day, I would look around

626
00:31:41,480 --> 00:31:43,680
Speaker 2: and see all my skinny friends and couldn't help but

627
00:31:43,800 --> 00:31:47,160
Speaker 2: say to them, uhugh, I'm so fat. Then when none

628
00:31:47,200 --> 00:31:49,880
Speaker 2: of them would say no, you aren't, I couldn't help

629
00:31:49,920 --> 00:31:52,560
Speaker 2: but feel upset. And then I felt annoying. I know

630
00:31:52,680 --> 00:31:54,600
Speaker 2: this is wrong, but I'm not sure how to stop it.

631
00:31:54,880 --> 00:31:57,520
Speaker 3: Oh my god. Okay, so I can relate a little

632
00:31:57,960 --> 00:32:02,040
Speaker 3: because I remember I was in this month long food

633
00:32:02,200 --> 00:32:07,680
Speaker 3: rehab in Wickenberg, Arizona. I checked myself in Wickenberg area

634
00:32:07,720 --> 00:32:11,960
Speaker 3: though I checked myself in for compulsive eating treatment, and

635
00:32:12,400 --> 00:32:15,240
Speaker 3: this is so many years ago, and like everyone else

636
00:32:15,360 --> 00:32:17,200
Speaker 3: in the thing, I was the only fat ass. Everyone

637
00:32:17,240 --> 00:32:20,360
Speaker 3: else was an anorexic. And let's be honest, anorexics looks

638
00:32:20,520 --> 00:32:23,160
Speaker 3: really good in bathing suits. That's why you shouldn't compliment

639
00:32:23,320 --> 00:32:25,000
Speaker 3: people on weight loss, by the way, because you could

640
00:32:25,000 --> 00:32:28,320
Speaker 3: be encouraging that. So I remember they'd all be sitting

641
00:32:28,360 --> 00:32:32,400
Speaker 3: in the pool and I'd amber over to that fuck

642
00:32:32,600 --> 00:32:35,440
Speaker 3: and I'm wattle over there, look at like a water

643
00:32:35,640 --> 00:32:39,760
Speaker 3: buffalo in a Delta Burke swimsuit. And You're just like,

644
00:32:40,040 --> 00:32:42,760
Speaker 3: I'm not getting compliments. I'm not nailing it. So like

645
00:32:42,840 --> 00:32:45,160
Speaker 3: I can relate, and it feels like othered and you

646
00:32:45,280 --> 00:32:49,080
Speaker 3: feel like left out. But okay, I was thinking about this.

647
00:32:50,680 --> 00:32:54,800
Speaker 3: If some person who's inarguably in a bigger body, as

648
00:32:54,840 --> 00:32:59,840
Speaker 3: they say, said oh I'm so fat, I'm not gonna

649
00:32:59,880 --> 00:33:03,480
Speaker 3: disagree with them because it's not true. I would say,

650
00:33:04,600 --> 00:33:06,320
Speaker 3: what if I was one of those skinny cunts, I

651
00:33:06,360 --> 00:33:08,960
Speaker 3: would be like, Wow, I wish you wouldn't talk about

652
00:33:08,960 --> 00:33:11,440
Speaker 3: yourself that way. But I'm not gonna jump and say

653
00:33:11,480 --> 00:33:14,360
Speaker 3: you're not fat because you're fucking fat. And I don't

654
00:33:14,360 --> 00:33:16,640
Speaker 3: think it does anyone to deserve it. I think doesn't

655
00:33:16,680 --> 00:33:20,520
Speaker 3: do anyone as service to deflect from the issue. And

656
00:33:20,560 --> 00:33:23,560
Speaker 3: the real issue is the internalized hatred she has for herself.

657
00:33:24,080 --> 00:33:27,920
Speaker 3: And look who loses her because she ended up feeling embarrassed,

658
00:33:28,280 --> 00:33:31,200
Speaker 3: She felt needy, she felt like she was fishing. Nothing

659
00:33:31,240 --> 00:33:35,400
Speaker 3: feels worse than dealing my dress. Somebody like your dress,

660
00:33:35,600 --> 00:33:38,880
Speaker 3: like say, you know, actually I don't love it, right,

661
00:33:39,360 --> 00:33:41,760
Speaker 3: but I'm glad you do. That's a trick I learned,

662
00:33:42,160 --> 00:33:44,280
Speaker 3: No literally, my stylist one said. I said to the

663
00:33:44,360 --> 00:33:46,920
Speaker 3: stylist ones, what do you say to someone if they go,

664
00:33:47,000 --> 00:33:49,880
Speaker 3: do you like my hair? You just go, I'm so

665
00:33:50,080 --> 00:33:53,400
Speaker 3: glad you do. And it's just like, I know it's

666
00:33:53,400 --> 00:33:56,440
Speaker 3: really hard to tell, well, but are you really supposed

667
00:33:56,440 --> 00:33:59,360
Speaker 3: to lie? I lie to an old lady, a little

668
00:33:59,440 --> 00:34:02,360
Speaker 3: kid and a dog. A dog's cute, no matter what,

669
00:34:02,600 --> 00:34:04,920
Speaker 3: even if it's an ugly cute like Sarah Jessica Parker

670
00:34:05,040 --> 00:34:09,400
Speaker 3: ugly cute. But that's why Parker's named after Sarah Jessica

671
00:34:09,520 --> 00:34:12,359
Speaker 3: Parker my dog, because they're both ugly cute and way

672
00:34:12,440 --> 00:34:16,400
Speaker 3: five pounds. So, I mean, I don't know, what do

673
00:34:16,480 --> 00:34:19,160
Speaker 3: you think, Nick, I think it's hard. I think she

674
00:34:19,360 --> 00:34:22,560
Speaker 3: felt bad about herself and maybe if she'd say it

675
00:34:22,640 --> 00:34:26,280
Speaker 3: in a more genuine way and maybe they could focus

676
00:34:26,360 --> 00:34:29,040
Speaker 3: the conversation on her fixing the internal stuff, it would work.

677
00:34:29,440 --> 00:34:31,440
Speaker 2: Yeah. I mean, I've definitely done this, especially in my

678
00:34:31,719 --> 00:34:34,240
Speaker 2: chubby state that I'm in right now. Anytime I do anything,

679
00:34:34,560 --> 00:34:37,160
Speaker 2: especially at work or whatever, I'll be like, oh God,

680
00:34:37,200 --> 00:34:37,480
Speaker 2: I'm so.

681
00:34:37,680 --> 00:34:39,840
Speaker 3: Fat, and what do you wait? But what are you

682
00:34:40,040 --> 00:34:41,080
Speaker 3: hoping comes of that?

683
00:34:42,800 --> 00:34:45,759
Speaker 2: I don't know. I just say it intuitively. I think

684
00:34:45,800 --> 00:34:48,040
Speaker 2: it's like a like again, a deflection of like not

685
00:34:48,120 --> 00:34:50,880
Speaker 2: being able to take a compliment like affection of like

686
00:34:51,120 --> 00:34:53,120
Speaker 2: oh you look good, oh well blah blah blah, like

687
00:34:53,320 --> 00:34:55,560
Speaker 2: me just I'm getting to the punchline before you.

688
00:34:56,160 --> 00:34:58,920
Speaker 3: Like, yeah, I'm but it doesn't sound like you do

689
00:34:59,040 --> 00:35:01,480
Speaker 3: it for fishing. I don't like I could imagine you.

690
00:35:01,560 --> 00:35:03,719
Speaker 3: I bet like you know how You're really terrible in

691
00:35:03,800 --> 00:35:06,799
Speaker 3: bed from what I've heard. Like if a girl says, oh,

692
00:35:06,920 --> 00:35:10,319
Speaker 3: that was the best true that that was the best

693
00:35:10,360 --> 00:35:13,920
Speaker 3: sex of my life, and then you would deflect with

694
00:35:14,360 --> 00:35:17,800
Speaker 3: I could have done better, Like, and you're looking to

695
00:35:18,000 --> 00:35:19,360
Speaker 3: pull the cop of and I think it makes you

696
00:35:19,440 --> 00:35:22,279
Speaker 3: feel dirty? Sure, yeah, so I think that's what this

697
00:35:22,440 --> 00:35:24,759
Speaker 3: poor chick is up to. So I would tell her

698
00:35:25,239 --> 00:35:26,960
Speaker 3: to like look in word a little and be like,

699
00:35:27,040 --> 00:35:30,400
Speaker 3: why did I actually say that? Because ps, even if

700
00:35:30,440 --> 00:35:32,480
Speaker 3: they said no, you're not, it's not going to make

701
00:35:32,520 --> 00:35:34,560
Speaker 3: you feel better. No, because you're going to think they're

702
00:35:34,640 --> 00:35:35,280
Speaker 3: lying anyway.

703
00:35:35,400 --> 00:35:36,280
Speaker 2: Yeah, nothing changes.

704
00:35:36,520 --> 00:35:40,320
Speaker 3: Yeah, so I would say, don't go on ski trips

705
00:35:40,360 --> 00:35:43,560
Speaker 3: with skinny cunts. Yeah, find yourself some fet pitches and

706
00:35:43,680 --> 00:35:44,319
Speaker 3: hang out with them.

707
00:35:44,719 --> 00:35:47,480
Speaker 2: Stop living in Wisconsin. Yeah, just cut it out.

708
00:35:47,719 --> 00:35:49,000
Speaker 3: Just what I hate her?

709
00:35:49,000 --> 00:35:51,120
Speaker 2: If you want to go to college there, fine, no

710
00:35:51,160 --> 00:35:51,719
Speaker 2: one likes you.

711
00:35:54,400 --> 00:35:56,160
Speaker 3: Back to wait. We got one more, go ahead and.

712
00:35:56,160 --> 00:36:01,600
Speaker 2: No more last one, Dear Lisa. I wore this cool

713
00:36:01,680 --> 00:36:02,960
Speaker 2: shirt I bought on eBay.

714
00:36:03,040 --> 00:36:06,800
Speaker 3: Oh I love eBay now that I'm into sustainable fashion,

715
00:36:06,960 --> 00:36:11,640
Speaker 3: I totally really god Oh sorry, I don't wear the

716
00:36:11,680 --> 00:36:15,280
Speaker 3: same black T shirt every baby because black slimming.

717
00:36:16,280 --> 00:36:19,719
Speaker 2: Not really, I guess. I wore this cool shirt I

718
00:36:19,760 --> 00:36:23,040
Speaker 2: bought on eBay yesterday and so many people complimented me

719
00:36:23,120 --> 00:36:26,319
Speaker 2: on it every time I said, thanks, it's twenty five

720
00:36:26,360 --> 00:36:28,799
Speaker 2: dollars on eBay. Yeah, why do I have to point

721
00:36:28,840 --> 00:36:30,719
Speaker 2: it out that it was cheap? Am I bragging? I

722
00:36:30,800 --> 00:36:32,600
Speaker 2: know I'm not the only one who does this. Thanks

723
00:36:32,840 --> 00:36:35,280
Speaker 2: Sophia from Boston, Massachusetts.

724
00:36:35,320 --> 00:36:37,400
Speaker 3: Oh, that put a whole different spin on it, of

725
00:36:37,520 --> 00:36:39,719
Speaker 3: Bostonian because she's racist.

726
00:36:40,280 --> 00:36:40,480
Speaker 2: Right.

727
00:36:41,080 --> 00:36:44,680
Speaker 3: No, here's what I think. I don't think that's bad,

728
00:36:44,719 --> 00:36:47,720
Speaker 3: and I'll tell you why. Yes, it is deflecting a little.

729
00:36:48,440 --> 00:36:51,600
Speaker 3: And did she say she says thanks first? Thanks, I

730
00:36:51,640 --> 00:36:52,680
Speaker 3: got it on eBay.

731
00:36:52,480 --> 00:36:52,960
Speaker 2: Says.

732
00:36:54,280 --> 00:36:57,359
Speaker 3: I think she's covered because I think the twenty five

733
00:36:57,480 --> 00:36:59,920
Speaker 3: The thank you says thank you, You've said the right thing,

734
00:37:00,560 --> 00:37:03,480
Speaker 3: and I hear your compliment. The other part is like

735
00:37:04,400 --> 00:37:07,439
Speaker 3: showing what a thrifty good shopper you are. I don't

736
00:37:07,440 --> 00:37:10,600
Speaker 3: think it's cheap. I think it's really fun. I love

737
00:37:10,719 --> 00:37:13,480
Speaker 3: to brag about buying secondhand because it makes me look

738
00:37:13,560 --> 00:37:16,600
Speaker 3: more woke and I want everyone to know that I

739
00:37:16,840 --> 00:37:19,400
Speaker 3: am like as blue as my fucking hair, So I

740
00:37:19,640 --> 00:37:22,520
Speaker 3: want them to know that sustainability is a blue trait,

741
00:37:22,640 --> 00:37:25,360
Speaker 3: so you know, you know your politics, you see it

742
00:37:25,440 --> 00:37:27,680
Speaker 3: coming when it comes to me. So I think maybe

743
00:37:27,760 --> 00:37:30,640
Speaker 3: with her, it's just a cool brag on her part.

744
00:37:30,680 --> 00:37:32,320
Speaker 3: I love a little humble brag.

745
00:37:32,520 --> 00:37:34,120
Speaker 2: Yeah, blue hair and blue balls over.

746
00:37:34,920 --> 00:37:36,840
Speaker 3: No, you were thinking of that and not listening to

747
00:37:36,920 --> 00:37:39,960
Speaker 3: what I said. React to what I said, You freaking dopey.

748
00:37:40,040 --> 00:37:43,000
Speaker 3: Here's the word blue and has like he's the first

749
00:37:43,040 --> 00:37:47,080
Speaker 3: one to ever have that fucking reference. God almighty, it's new. No,

750
00:37:47,239 --> 00:37:49,319
Speaker 3: but don't you think she's just adding like a good

751
00:37:49,400 --> 00:37:52,000
Speaker 3: trait of herself, like frugality and like, oh my god,

752
00:37:52,040 --> 00:37:54,360
Speaker 3: look at how I get proud when I search for

753
00:37:54,480 --> 00:37:58,160
Speaker 3: something and find it, Like say, Nick was even gayer

754
00:37:58,200 --> 00:38:00,719
Speaker 3: than we think he is, and he like gayer even

755
00:38:00,840 --> 00:38:03,359
Speaker 3: still for Sabrina Carpenter and I found him a kick

756
00:38:03,440 --> 00:38:08,200
Speaker 3: ass Sabrina Carpenter tore t shirt in a size xxxxxxx

757
00:38:08,440 --> 00:38:10,879
Speaker 3: L and I was like, oh my god, Nick, look

758
00:38:10,920 --> 00:38:13,120
Speaker 3: twenty five on eBay. I got it for you. Like

759
00:38:13,280 --> 00:38:15,560
Speaker 3: that's a brag on me, Like, look at how I

760
00:38:15,760 --> 00:38:16,160
Speaker 3: nailed it.

761
00:38:16,400 --> 00:38:18,320
Speaker 2: Yeah, I think it'd be worse if she was like,

762
00:38:18,480 --> 00:38:20,239
Speaker 2: oh my god, I love this shirt like thanks, it

763
00:38:20,320 --> 00:38:21,759
Speaker 2: was actually two hundred dollars.

764
00:38:22,160 --> 00:38:25,799
Speaker 3: That down, thank you. That's the shitty person. I used

765
00:38:25,800 --> 00:38:27,960
Speaker 3: to have a friend who would always do that. He

766
00:38:28,040 --> 00:38:30,319
Speaker 3: would go like, oh my god, I like your shoes

767
00:38:30,360 --> 00:38:32,400
Speaker 3: and he need'd go Gucci and I'd be like that

768
00:38:32,640 --> 00:38:37,840
Speaker 3: totally takes away from the compliment. Plus it makes you

769
00:38:38,000 --> 00:38:40,760
Speaker 3: appear like you can only if you have to brag

770
00:38:40,840 --> 00:38:43,480
Speaker 3: you're wearing Gucci. That's the one pair you can afford.

771
00:38:43,800 --> 00:38:46,680
Speaker 3: And you should never buy a pair of Gucci shoes.

772
00:38:46,719 --> 00:38:50,719
Speaker 3: If you can't afford ten, you're obviously out outside of

773
00:38:50,800 --> 00:38:54,080
Speaker 3: your league. You're actually just devaluing everything.

774
00:38:54,840 --> 00:38:56,840
Speaker 2: I couldn't spend six hundred tow one thousand dollars on

775
00:38:56,880 --> 00:38:59,040
Speaker 2: a pair of sneakers. That's fucking insane.

776
00:38:59,239 --> 00:39:03,720
Speaker 3: Certainly not the subject of anything we're talking about. I'm sorry.

777
00:39:06,320 --> 00:39:07,560
Speaker 3: Gucci shoes are a lot more than that.

778
00:39:07,760 --> 00:39:10,320
Speaker 2: No, I know, but like even that, what the what

779
00:39:10,360 --> 00:39:11,040
Speaker 2: are we doing here?

780
00:39:11,200 --> 00:39:13,799
Speaker 3: Well? No, I as someone who like has been through

781
00:39:13,880 --> 00:39:15,719
Speaker 3: all that and knows you get no meaning out of it.

782
00:39:16,280 --> 00:39:19,719
Speaker 3: I know it's all bullshit and it doesn't fix anything internally,

783
00:39:19,880 --> 00:39:22,920
Speaker 3: Like it's literally you could put what do they call

784
00:39:23,560 --> 00:39:26,320
Speaker 3: a silk purse on a You can't make a silk

785
00:39:26,360 --> 00:39:29,040
Speaker 3: cat on a pig. It's a silk cat on a pig.

786
00:39:29,719 --> 00:39:33,120
Speaker 3: Like you still hate yourself despite your You're a well

787
00:39:33,320 --> 00:39:39,400
Speaker 3: dressed asshole in a Gucci star gunt.

788
00:39:41,320 --> 00:39:44,200
Speaker 2: You know why, let's start a gunt.

789
00:39:44,719 --> 00:39:49,879
Speaker 5: I will not stand for the hate for my favorite sustainable.

790
00:39:50,760 --> 00:39:57,279
Speaker 3: It's not sustainable. I open that you guys aren't gonna

791
00:39:57,280 --> 00:40:00,640
Speaker 3: know what we're talking about. But miss things Celia labeled

792
00:40:00,760 --> 00:40:02,959
Speaker 3: up the other day and you have a big fat

793
00:40:03,080 --> 00:40:06,279
Speaker 3: ghani across her fucking big tits, And I'm like, why

794
00:40:06,360 --> 00:40:08,319
Speaker 3: do I have to be drawn to look there? First

795
00:40:08,320 --> 00:40:11,360
Speaker 3: of all, I'm a woman hat. Second again one.

796
00:40:11,280 --> 00:40:14,960
Speaker 2: Not better, not better, old hat, titsilly.

797
00:40:16,200 --> 00:40:19,120
Speaker 3: Titsy hat. Her tits are as big as her head

798
00:40:21,480 --> 00:40:23,320
Speaker 3: than they used to be. Is that a compliment? I

799
00:40:23,440 --> 00:40:26,680
Speaker 3: guess I think it is just say thank you. Oh

800
00:40:26,800 --> 00:40:29,399
Speaker 3: my god, our tits are shrinking over here. Oh my god.

801
00:40:29,480 --> 00:40:33,360
Speaker 3: We have nothing, we have learned nothing. We have learned

802
00:40:33,520 --> 00:40:36,480
Speaker 3: to say fucking thank you to fucking If you've bought

803
00:40:36,560 --> 00:40:39,640
Speaker 3: something cheap and want to brag about it, enjoy yourself.

804
00:40:48,640 --> 00:40:50,880
Speaker 3: We also, at the end of most episodes, we have

805
00:40:51,000 --> 00:40:53,239
Speaker 3: time do Lisa's fuck up of the week, and I

806
00:40:53,360 --> 00:40:56,880
Speaker 3: was like searching my head. I'm like, I'm so perfect physically,

807
00:40:56,960 --> 00:41:00,480
Speaker 3: emotionally and spiritually. What good? What a course? Then I

808
00:41:00,560 --> 00:41:02,440
Speaker 3: have to do something on our break that is like, oh,

809
00:41:02,480 --> 00:41:06,800
Speaker 3: I fucked up. There's a girl here who works in

810
00:41:06,920 --> 00:41:13,640
Speaker 3: promotion and iHeart who's super hot and sexy, and I

811
00:41:14,000 --> 00:41:16,640
Speaker 3: know that Nick has a little thing for her. But

812
00:41:16,760 --> 00:41:19,480
Speaker 3: instead of letting it unfold naturally, when she comes in

813
00:41:19,560 --> 00:41:21,480
Speaker 3: to say hi and be like, oh do you remember Nick,

814
00:41:21,520 --> 00:41:22,840
Speaker 3: I go, he has a crush out and you he

815
00:41:22,920 --> 00:41:26,839
Speaker 3: really like and stop him like I it's like, then

816
00:41:27,440 --> 00:41:30,400
Speaker 3: puts it like where Now it's jokey and like if

817
00:41:30,440 --> 00:41:32,680
Speaker 3: you really wanted a chance to flirt, maybe I fucked

818
00:41:32,680 --> 00:41:35,759
Speaker 3: it up, So I apologize. Did I fuck up? Was

819
00:41:35,800 --> 00:41:37,600
Speaker 3: that having a fuck up on my part? Do you think?

820
00:41:37,760 --> 00:41:40,160
Speaker 3: Or did I make it lighter? Or what do you think?

821
00:41:40,760 --> 00:41:42,279
Speaker 2: Tune in next week we'll find that.

822
00:41:42,680 --> 00:41:45,399
Speaker 3: No, do you think, Celia, do you think it's bad

823
00:41:45,520 --> 00:41:48,759
Speaker 3: to like sort of be like he likes You'll really?

824
00:41:49,560 --> 00:41:52,719
Speaker 3: Oh so I'm just being hard on myself. Yes, And

825
00:41:52,840 --> 00:41:54,840
Speaker 3: would you say that I'm like so perfect?

826
00:41:55,040 --> 00:41:55,200
Speaker 5: Yes?

827
00:41:55,760 --> 00:41:56,800
Speaker 3: Oh my good? Thank you?

828
00:41:58,600 --> 00:42:01,959
Speaker 2: Speaking of yourself be gonna get in hard.

829
00:42:03,320 --> 00:42:06,680
Speaker 3: Do you see how we illustrated nicely in exchange of

830
00:42:06,760 --> 00:42:09,800
Speaker 3: a nice compliment and a thank you. Let's do it

831
00:42:09,880 --> 00:42:12,520
Speaker 3: again for the people who didn't hear because Nick was

832
00:42:12,560 --> 00:42:17,160
Speaker 3: deflecting with his rare brand of blue humor. So would

833
00:42:17,200 --> 00:42:22,120
Speaker 3: you say I'm emotionally and physically nailing it, Celia? I

834
00:42:22,400 --> 00:42:28,239
Speaker 3: absolutely would thank you, You're welcome, but really I'm still

835
00:42:28,239 --> 00:42:32,200
Speaker 3: working on it. That's definitely Nick. All Right, you guys,

836
00:42:32,320 --> 00:42:37,200
Speaker 3: listen if you agree that I'm emotionally, physically and universally

837
00:42:37,320 --> 00:42:41,760
Speaker 3: and bilaterally and intellectually perfect, Tune in again next episode

838
00:42:41,800 --> 00:42:45,000
Speaker 3: for Shrink This with Lisa Lampinelli and Nick once again.

839
00:42:45,080 --> 00:42:46,640
Speaker 3: Where can the people find y'all?

840
00:42:47,239 --> 00:42:51,040
Speaker 2: You could follow me at nick Scopes on Instagram and

841
00:42:51,239 --> 00:43:00,480
Speaker 2: TikTok and it's all one app is you know what?

842
00:43:00,680 --> 00:43:02,800
Speaker 3: Because don't you sometimes jerk off in your food and

843
00:43:02,840 --> 00:43:08,200
Speaker 3: eat it? Order cock? I mean, if you type in

844
00:43:08,320 --> 00:43:10,799
Speaker 3: cock onub, I wonder what comes up.

845
00:43:10,880 --> 00:43:12,799
Speaker 2: It's gotta be an Asian place, Chicken place.

846
00:43:13,280 --> 00:43:15,840
Speaker 3: That's a fair. If you mean dick, what do you

847
00:43:15,920 --> 00:43:19,239
Speaker 3: think comes up a dick somewhere?

848
00:43:19,719 --> 00:43:20,560
Speaker 2: Egg plant parm?

849
00:43:21,400 --> 00:43:25,400
Speaker 3: Egg plant parm? God, Nick, this is why look how funny?

850
00:43:26,880 --> 00:43:27,640
Speaker 3: How funny?

851
00:43:28,239 --> 00:43:28,520
Speaker 5: What are you.

852
00:43:28,480 --> 00:43:29,120
Speaker 3: Supposed to say?

853
00:43:30,200 --> 00:43:30,560
Speaker 2: Funny?

854
00:43:34,440 --> 00:43:37,560
Speaker 3: I give up, he's learned nothing. Nick, say our lovely

855
00:43:37,719 --> 00:43:40,120
Speaker 3: outro for the show that I really am above the

856
00:43:40,160 --> 00:43:41,239
Speaker 3: pay grade of saying all.

857
00:43:41,200 --> 00:43:43,759
Speaker 2: Right, thanks for listening. Be sure to email us your

858
00:43:43,880 --> 00:43:46,240
Speaker 2: questions at shrink the Show at gmail.

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Speaker 3: You know I got to interrupt. You always sound like

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Speaker 3: half a fucking numbskull. You read like I thought you said.

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Speaker 2: I was, okay, spider better falling it?

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Speaker 3: Okay, well, freeballing and I'll see if you have all.

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Speaker 2: For listening, be sure to email us at shrink This

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Speaker 2: don't care.

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Speaker 3: We don't care as long as you do the iHeart

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