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Speaker 1: My partner, thirty one female, is very compassionate and good hearted,

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Speaker 2: Then why aren't she breaking up with your boys?

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Speaker 1: Why did you break it up? Come on? However, I

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Speaker 1: I mean, should be what the girlfriend is doing.

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Speaker 1: She's not available until she figures out what she wanted.

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Speaker 1: I'm excited, but cautious to avoid hurting her ex. She

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Speaker 2: I am also a person that always likes transparency. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: Yeah, like, oh, hey, I'm feeling.

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Speaker 2: By the way I emotionally cheated on you with this person.

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Speaker 1: You don't want to have to like at a certain point.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, we're huge conflicted. She chose to meet him downstairs.

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Speaker 1: That is weird.

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Speaker 2: It's weird. It's weird. You don't, Yeah, you don't. You

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Speaker 2: I lie. You're lying because you don't want to face

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Speaker 2: Today, shout out to you. Active in the chat, active

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Speaker 2: in the cars. Let me put it up on their

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Speaker 1: Yep.

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Speaker 3: I'm turning twenty four, guys. Twenty three is coming to

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Speaker 3: an end. Honestly, best year ever I was. I'm born

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Speaker 3: on September twenty third, so this is my platinum here

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Speaker 3: turning twenty three on September twenty third and twenty twenty three.

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Speaker 3: It's lived up to its name. I have legit at

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Speaker 3: the best year of my life. A lot has happened,

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Speaker 3: a lot of things lined up, very thankful.

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Speaker 1: Darn tune of a huge speech to give, well, don't

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Speaker 1: give it until I get there.

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Speaker 2: Also, righty, I've told you this, but I'm going to

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Speaker 2: be there for your actual birthday. But this I don't

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Speaker 2: know if I.

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Speaker 2: tell you soon.

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Speaker 1: I think it was on a text.

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