WEBVTT - Joy Is A Choice Feat. Jared Brady

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, welcome back to Good Mom's Bad Choices. I'm Erica

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<v Speaker 2>and I'm Meila. Happy Wednesday by Happy hump Day. How

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<v Speaker 2>are you, my love? I'm good? How are you?

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<v Speaker 3>I'm good?

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<v Speaker 2>My hair is pink, guys, dyed my hair paint because

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<v Speaker 2>I'm going through a thirty life crisis. To me thirty

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<v Speaker 2>four years to do this finally, did it. I've always

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<v Speaker 2>wanted to do it, even back when I loved Chalise,

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<v Speaker 2>I wanted to do this. Yeah, it's giving me. My

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<v Speaker 2>mom wouldn't let me do it. But here I am

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<v Speaker 2>with pink hair. So make sure you subscribe to our

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<v Speaker 2>YouTube channel. If you have not yet, you're missing out.

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<v Speaker 2>We could be watching all of these beautiful, wonderful episodes

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<v Speaker 2>making news. Pink hair is in this pink hair. Pink hair.

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<v Speaker 1>So and I have long hair, so you should come

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<v Speaker 1>see We've had We've done the hair switch ups.

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<v Speaker 2>We're doing the hair switch up? Or is this a

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<v Speaker 2>thirty life crisis. I'm just kidding. Okay, you know it's.

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<v Speaker 1>Just BlackGirl magic.

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<v Speaker 2>I could change that. How are you? I'm doing good.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm doing good.

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<v Speaker 1>A lot is happening this week, and I'm just trying

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<v Speaker 1>to stay grounded and grateful and all of the things.

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<v Speaker 2>But I'm good. So you guys, you know it's June,

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<v Speaker 2>and all June, we have been highlighting the Zaddy.

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<v Speaker 1>We've blessed you this month with all the Zaddies, all

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<v Speaker 1>the fun zaddies we could find, hi love. We personally

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<v Speaker 1>sourced every single Zaddy in our friends circle and beyond

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<v Speaker 1>to bring you a blessed June.

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<v Speaker 2>Various ages, various people from all different walks of life.

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<v Speaker 2>We wanted to really highlight dads because.

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<v Speaker 1>And just the male perspective, because you know, we gotta

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<v Speaker 1>we have that little bit of balance over here, you.

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<v Speaker 2>Do, because we are just going in with the divine, and.

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<v Speaker 1>You know, the divine feminine really really requires the welcoming

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<v Speaker 1>and the opening for the divine masculine. It's very necessary.

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<v Speaker 1>We all have to hold space for each other.

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<v Speaker 2>Amen. So anyway, I'm happy to introduce Jared.

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<v Speaker 1>You guys doing.

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<v Speaker 2>He is the host of Enjoy the podcast. Yes I am,

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<v Speaker 2>and he is also our girl, sham Boudrum's baby daddy,

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<v Speaker 2>husband almost father of two.

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<v Speaker 3>Congratulations, your hair matches the light. That's the part of

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<v Speaker 3>the pink, you know. And my office is pink and green.

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<v Speaker 3>So oh it's like AKA colors. Yeah, we're all we're

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<v Speaker 3>all in lineming here, Okay.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, yeah. I think I was like, do I need

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<v Speaker 2>to start wearing pink? I was like, this kind of

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<v Speaker 2>goes with everything it does. It's neutral. I had purple

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<v Speaker 2>last week and I hated it. So originally started with

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<v Speaker 2>purple and then I said no.

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<v Speaker 1>The pink is definitely your legs. Purple was not it,

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<v Speaker 1>but this is it.

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<v Speaker 2>It was looking kind of gray.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know.

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<v Speaker 2>I was like, is this gray?

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<v Speaker 1>I don't I see like a little bit of the

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<v Speaker 1>purple still, like underneath a little bit. So it's kind

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<v Speaker 1>of giving ombree vibes.

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<v Speaker 2>Really, Oh my god. Okay, then I really am living

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<v Speaker 2>out my Collie dreams because she had a specific photo

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<v Speaker 2>like a.

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<v Speaker 1>Little orange and I see that like and she had

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<v Speaker 1>a little orange in it too.

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<v Speaker 2>Shout out to Kalise. Can we get Kalise on the show?

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<v Speaker 2>Someone who knows Kalise? Can you call her? Actually?

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<v Speaker 1>Last time, every time we asked for someone, someone's like,

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<v Speaker 1>oh I do know that person.

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<v Speaker 2>So yeah, color my god, I.

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<v Speaker 3>Hate you so much right now. I remember being you

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<v Speaker 3>consider that I love song.

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<v Speaker 2>I fucking loved that song. I considered a love song,

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<v Speaker 2>like you know, it was like a scorpio love song.

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<v Speaker 2>And also, uh, I just want to below with you.

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<v Speaker 2>Try me because I'll be the one that makes you happy.

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<v Speaker 3>Okay.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, that video was yeah when she was that was

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<v Speaker 1>the video. That's what I really remember.

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<v Speaker 2>It was all dirt. I don't want to know. Okay,

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<v Speaker 2>please someone find Kalise so we can sing it. Do

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<v Speaker 2>you go to her farm?

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<v Speaker 1>Oh my god, that'd be great. It's done already, did,

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<v Speaker 1>It's done?

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<v Speaker 2>Sorry?

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<v Speaker 3>Ared here, I'm enjoying it.

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<v Speaker 1>It's a show. It's a free show. I think those

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<v Speaker 1>songs might have been a little bit before your time outkay.

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<v Speaker 1>I mean, here's the thing.

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<v Speaker 3>Kalise was a moment in time, So even if it

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<v Speaker 3>happened before me, it's going to bleed over.

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<v Speaker 2>That's true. You got to go back to that every

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<v Speaker 2>time because.

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<v Speaker 1>You're hell are you?

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<v Speaker 3>I'm thirty years old?

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<v Speaker 2>When's your birthday?

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<v Speaker 3>October seventh?

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<v Speaker 2>Oh my October baby?

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<v Speaker 3>Is that good?

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah? I'm an October baby?

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<v Speaker 3>Okay? Sweet? So what Libra? And I am a Libra

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<v Speaker 3>the twenty fifth? I'm a scorpio, your scorpio. I'm a

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<v Speaker 3>cancer cancer. I'm asking. I know what they mean.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't.

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<v Speaker 2>You've never dated a bitch that told you all about

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<v Speaker 2>the sign.

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<v Speaker 1>Not even everybody.

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<v Speaker 3>It'll be online people, people will be you know, Oh,

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<v Speaker 3>you're a Libra. That means that you're this, You're that.

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<v Speaker 2>Into the stars and the moons. No oh, I feel

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<v Speaker 2>like I feel like she'd be.

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<v Speaker 3>Like, this is I'm not either.

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<v Speaker 2>It actually makes sense.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, I can see her.

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<v Speaker 2>She's a realist.

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<v Speaker 1>Matter of fact, I read a book about it and

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<v Speaker 1>don't it doesn't matter. No, she she doesn't.

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<v Speaker 3>She doesn't rock with it. I don't rock with it,

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<v Speaker 3>but I respect it because the way I look at

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<v Speaker 3>it is like, if the moon can create tides, it

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<v Speaker 3>probably does something to us. But does that mean that

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<v Speaker 3>I'm an asshole or I'm like balanced, I don't know.

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<v Speaker 3>I don't know.

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<v Speaker 2>I don't think an asshole is generally like a standard

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<v Speaker 2>description of a sign. I think people will make other assholes.

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<v Speaker 3>Every time that someone guesses my son or ask me

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<v Speaker 3>my sign is and I tell them libra, they always go, I.

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<v Speaker 1>Mean, honestly, my baby, my baby, that is his birthday

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<v Speaker 1>right before yours. You see, that's that's PSD.

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<v Speaker 2>I know some really great male libras, like they're all

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<v Speaker 2>you guys are you guys are kind of can navigate

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<v Speaker 2>at least I'm not going to read you. But this

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<v Speaker 2>is my experience with libras is that you guys navigate

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<v Speaker 2>alone really well, Like you can go out to the

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<v Speaker 2>movies by yourself, Like you can totally just like do

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<v Speaker 2>your own thing. You're fucking cool to just do that.

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<v Speaker 2>I feel like, uh, you guys are a little weird,

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<v Speaker 2>not weird, this could be any time. Like they're just odd.

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<v Speaker 2>There's some like oddities they're into, like some odd things

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<v Speaker 2>like I'm sure you.

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<v Speaker 1>Don't know you like your other stuff like your moon

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<v Speaker 1>and your.

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<v Speaker 3>Well, actually I was born on the eclipse and so

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<v Speaker 3>a libra libra. Yeah, so we had I had someone

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<v Speaker 3>read us our whole cast, and you know, they were

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<v Speaker 3>they were going in and talking all their ship about me,

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<v Speaker 3>and they say, uh, I couldn't understand it.

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<v Speaker 1>So I was telling them.

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<v Speaker 3>I was like, I don't know what you're saying right now,

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<v Speaker 3>because you're telling me all these things and your house

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<v Speaker 3>is here and this is that, and I was like,

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<v Speaker 3>I can't understand it. So I can't do anything with

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<v Speaker 3>the information that you're getting me.

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<v Speaker 2>They weren't explaining it. Well, you have to go to

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<v Speaker 2>someone that really knows how to break it down. Well,

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<v Speaker 2>because I agree because I've read the charts.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, what the fuck? What does this mean?

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<v Speaker 2>My seventh house is where? And why does this matter?

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<v Speaker 2>But we got a reading in Costa Rica. Shout out

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<v Speaker 2>to Sylvia and Cestra. She's actually going to be on

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<v Speaker 2>our retreat in Costa Rica natal chart readings, and she

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<v Speaker 2>was the first woman that really was able to break

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<v Speaker 2>down things for me in clear fashion, like this means

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<v Speaker 2>this is like this is your wound, this is like

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<v Speaker 2>what you're working through in this lifetime. And like I

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<v Speaker 2>think that was like my north node and like the

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<v Speaker 2>seventh House represents like emotions or this how you know

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<v Speaker 2>what I mean and broke it down in simpler terms.

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<v Speaker 2>It's like astrology for dummies.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, that's what I need right there. I need or

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<v Speaker 3>just tell me, just say, hey, watch out for this.

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<v Speaker 2>Well, how do you think you are?

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<v Speaker 3>Like?

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<v Speaker 2>Who do you like? How would you define yourself?

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<v Speaker 3>I would say that I'm emotional but creative. Also, I think.

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<v Speaker 2>You're like emotional. On what we're like sensitive or I.

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<v Speaker 3>Don't think I'm sensitive, but I feel a lot I have.

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<v Speaker 3>I can describe what I'm feeling. I have like a

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<v Speaker 3>really good conflict resolution, you know when disagreements happened. I'm

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<v Speaker 3>easy to work with. But I also feel that I

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<v Speaker 3>also have like a like an X factor about me

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<v Speaker 3>because it's like there will be something that somebody does

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<v Speaker 3>that would just turn me off from them, but it

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<v Speaker 3>could flip. So, yeah, well, like I'm nice and easy going,

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<v Speaker 3>I'm easy to work with, but then there's also a

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<v Speaker 3>part of me that's like a workhorse that will like,

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<v Speaker 3>if you're not showing up at the same level, I'll

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<v Speaker 3>probably like you'll see a different side of me, you know.

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<v Speaker 1>So I don't know. I don't know.

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<v Speaker 3>I don't know how to answer. That's a heavy question.

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<v Speaker 3>How would you describe yourself?

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<v Speaker 2>Are you asking me? Yeah, I would say that I

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<v Speaker 2>am hard working. I would say that I can be intense,

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<v Speaker 2>but I can also be very like airy, like I'm down,

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<v Speaker 2>I'm down for the adventure for me, Like I'm a realist, Like, yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>does this make sense? Yeah, Like, sometimes it doesn't always

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<v Speaker 2>have to make sense, but generally I like things to

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<v Speaker 2>make sense. Yeah. I think that I am very intuitive

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<v Speaker 2>and because of that, like my energy can shift a

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<v Speaker 2>lot constantly, So sometimes people find it hard to read me.

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<v Speaker 2>Sometimes I'm like really open, and sometimes I'm.

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<v Speaker 3>Like, is that in line with a scorpio? Yeah, I've

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<v Speaker 3>dated too scorpios before, shan one of them destroyed me,

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<v Speaker 3>one of them destroyed me.

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<v Speaker 2>Forget please forgive me? Do you know what? Though, Like,

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<v Speaker 2>I don't know this woman, and I don't know where

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<v Speaker 2>she was at the time. An unhealed scorpio, and granted

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<v Speaker 2>we're not all healed, but like the ones that are

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<v Speaker 2>really toxic, we have fucking nuts. Yeah, we are not

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<v Speaker 2>good people at all.

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<v Speaker 1>You hear that it's your fault.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, girl, I'm telling you it's it's true. Like we

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<v Speaker 2>can really be dark. Yeah.

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<v Speaker 3>So the second one was was great. She was like

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<v Speaker 3>the total opposite and I destroyed her. I wouldn't say

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<v Speaker 3>it was. It wasn't calculated, but she was the person

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<v Speaker 3>that did it after, so it could have been.

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<v Speaker 2>It was passive aggressive, it was sub conscious.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, maybe it wasn't. It wasn't premeditative, but yeah, it

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<v Speaker 3>was bad.

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<v Speaker 2>You know, my other Libra male friend, he's really good

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<v Speaker 2>at the cutoff game actually that I'm thinking about it,

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<v Speaker 2>Like when he's really he's emotional too, actually, but then

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<v Speaker 2>when he's done, he's like, yeah, I'm good.

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<v Speaker 3>It's like it's true.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, it's true. My mom's a Libra, but I think

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<v Speaker 2>men and women are different.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah. Maybe what Shan is a aries.

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<v Speaker 1>It makes sense very fire and air my m Yeah, okay,

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<v Speaker 1>will astrology's choices astrology we always ask all of our

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<v Speaker 1>guests to come with an affirmation. So, Jered, did you

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<v Speaker 1>bring an affirmation for us today?

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, I mean I don't know if it's an affirmation.

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<v Speaker 3>Actually I never actually given myself an affirmation. But what

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<v Speaker 3>I will say is that I do live by the

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<v Speaker 3>saying that I want to be synonymous with enjoy and

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<v Speaker 3>and know it sounds weird, but that what I mean

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<v Speaker 3>by that is that when you think of joy, when

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<v Speaker 3>you think of enjoying anything, I hope that I'm creeping

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<v Speaker 3>up in the back of your head when you think

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<v Speaker 3>of that word, you're like, Jared enjoys life. Jared is

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<v Speaker 3>enjoy you know. So I don't know if that's an affirmation.

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<v Speaker 2>I want to benonymous with enjoy. I really like that.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, thank you, Yeah, like yeah, she's enjoy Yeah.

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<v Speaker 3>You know. I want you have the picture in your

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<v Speaker 3>mind when you think of me, of me smiling.

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<v Speaker 1>It's like being synonymous with pleasure, you know, like, oh yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>like it's a pleasurable experience to be around that person.

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<v Speaker 1>They're always like pleasurable, theresure synonymous with pleasure. I want

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<v Speaker 1>to be synonymous with pleasure like that. I want to

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<v Speaker 1>be just always finding the pleasure and all the things.

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<v Speaker 1>And however, I'm moving through the world because there's just

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<v Speaker 1>so there's so much pleasure. Handle smells good, this sage

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<v Speaker 1>hanging with friends, drinking wine, taste good, laughing.

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<v Speaker 2>We had a good laugh earlier. Got good. Do you

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<v Speaker 2>feel like Because I now that you say that, I'm

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<v Speaker 2>taking note to all your brands and they always kind

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<v Speaker 2>of have that peace in it. The joy part is,

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<v Speaker 2>is that something that you've always found easy to access?

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<v Speaker 1>No, So I.

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<v Speaker 3>Came up with that, I guess affirmation when I did

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<v Speaker 3>a bag of mushrooms and I ate a bunch of

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<v Speaker 3>mushrooms and I was just chilling in my apartment and

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<v Speaker 3>I was just thinking about the word enjoy and my

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<v Speaker 3>life was shit like it was like terrible, poor broke,

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<v Speaker 3>you know, no, nothing going good in my life. And

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<v Speaker 3>something in my head kept telling me, you got to

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<v Speaker 3>enjoy this shitty time, like you have to enjoy this.

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<v Speaker 3>You have to enjoy this so that you can enjoy

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<v Speaker 3>when it's great. And it just made that word mean

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<v Speaker 3>so much to me because I used to think of

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<v Speaker 3>enjoy of like I'm only gonna feel enjoy when it

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<v Speaker 3>hits me. When I'm like, man, that was a good

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<v Speaker 3>that was a good experience. But now I'm like constantly

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<v Speaker 3>looking for the ways, like what do I enjoy? Or

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<v Speaker 3>if there's something in my life that I don't enjoy,

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<v Speaker 3>how do I get rid of it? You know? And

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<v Speaker 3>so from that point on, if I ever get into

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<v Speaker 3>a space where I'm like, I don't like what's happening

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<v Speaker 3>in my life, I'll write down a list of everything

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<v Speaker 3>that I like and what is stealing that joy from me,

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<v Speaker 3>and then I'll go through that list and be like,

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<v Speaker 3>what can I what is in my control to get

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<v Speaker 3>rid of. So if it's like a lot of people

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<v Speaker 3>don't like this, but if it's like, man, I don't

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<v Speaker 3>really like the way I look in the mirror, like

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<v Speaker 3>I need to start working out and that thing can

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<v Speaker 3>start to get off my list, or you know what,

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<v Speaker 3>I don't like the way that this part of my

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<v Speaker 3>creative process is going. Okay, let me change the steps here,

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<v Speaker 3>let me cross that out my list, and then just

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<v Speaker 3>kind of get and start eliminating anything that's stealing the

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<v Speaker 3>joy from me. And that's that's kind of like where

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<v Speaker 3>it came from. And I don't think I would have

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<v Speaker 3>thought that if I wasn't.

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<v Speaker 2>High Wow, that it all makes perfect sense.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, it does.

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<v Speaker 2>It sounds like it sounds like a.

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<v Speaker 1>Good system to eradicate the bullshit all the things that

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<v Speaker 1>don't bring your joy.

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<v Speaker 2>You know what, you have to be ready to face

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<v Speaker 2>that some of those things are like things you want

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<v Speaker 2>to change and you.

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<v Speaker 3>Can't keep, or the ones that you can't control, so

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<v Speaker 3>you have to like acknowledge like, Okay, there's certain things

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<v Speaker 3>like I don't like that I can't buy this car.

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<v Speaker 3>You're like, you can't control that completely, but you can

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<v Speaker 3>and you can make steps to like get to that space.

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<v Speaker 3>Or I don't like the way that my relationship is

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<v Speaker 3>with my mom, and it's like sometimes that's just the

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<v Speaker 3>relationship and you're either gonna have to find the good

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<v Speaker 3>things in it or or let it go. But as

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<v Speaker 3>long as you start to get on that list and

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<v Speaker 3>being like, there's there's things on here that I do

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<v Speaker 3>have control over, and if you start to control those things,

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<v Speaker 3>then you're like, Okay, now life is getting a little better.

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<v Speaker 2>You know, that relationship with your mom that you don't like,

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<v Speaker 2>you don't enjoy some of the what are the things

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<v Speaker 2>that you actually do enjoy and how do you cultivate

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<v Speaker 2>that and only allow those parts.

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<v Speaker 3>Into your the way your interaction with her is now,

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<v Speaker 3>It's like I love when we when we talk about food.

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<v Speaker 1>Let's just let's stay there, let's.

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<v Speaker 3>Just say let's do it.

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<v Speaker 1>I mean, if you know someone's trying to beer the

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<v Speaker 1>conversation and argue or some shit, I'm not talking to

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<v Speaker 1>you about that.

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<v Speaker 3>That's true exactly.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, you for sure. I recently I took a kind

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<v Speaker 2>of a break from them because I was kind of

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<v Speaker 2>avoiding mushrooms for a while. I don't know why. I

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<v Speaker 2>was like I felt like I was I was going

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<v Speaker 2>to face something I didn't want to face, or something

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<v Speaker 2>that's part of it, right, And it was like I

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<v Speaker 2>didn't know what it was, but I just kept avoiding it,

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<v Speaker 2>you know. And I was like, oh, you know. And

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<v Speaker 2>then actually the other night we went out and we

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<v Speaker 2>went to our girl's birthday and she was passing out

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<v Speaker 2>mushrooms after dinner, and like I knew it was coming

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<v Speaker 2>because she basically like was like, we're going to get

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<v Speaker 2>the mushroom debt and I was like, and then she

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<v Speaker 2>passed it and I was like, okay, I'll take a

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<v Speaker 2>little bit. It was barely any I swear to God,

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<v Speaker 2>but I ate it and it was it was chocolate

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<v Speaker 2>and usually.

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<v Speaker 3>Oh, I had those like chocolate bar thing and they

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<v Speaker 3>have like little squares.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, and like.

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<v Speaker 2>I've had chocolate before and generally I actually like chocolate

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<v Speaker 2>because I feel like it really helps mask the taste.

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<v Speaker 2>But this ship tasted so fucking nasty, like I ate

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<v Speaker 2>it and I was like, oh no, it tasted like

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<v Speaker 2>barf that it was really bad. But it was bad.

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<v Speaker 2>It tasted bad. Then I should have known that it

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<v Speaker 2>was really strong. It tastes so bad because I really

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<v Speaker 2>didn't take a lot and then and I had eaten

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<v Speaker 2>like dinner, and then we went outside and I was like, oh, yeah, okay,

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<v Speaker 2>and then I was like I'm still not going to

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<v Speaker 2>get jigging.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm going home.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, And I went home.

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<v Speaker 2>And then I like got in the car and I

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<v Speaker 2>was like, I started crying, and I was like, why

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<v Speaker 2>am I crying? I was like, this is I've been avoiding.

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<v Speaker 2>And I was like I need to just face the

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<v Speaker 2>mushrooms and face the music, and you face the mushrooms.

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<v Speaker 2>And so I recently decided that I'm going to start

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<v Speaker 2>microdosing because I was for a while, especially during COVID

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<v Speaker 2>and it helped me so much. Yeah, just to kind

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<v Speaker 2>of ease my anxiety, a help me be more present

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<v Speaker 2>because I struggle with being present always kind of.

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<v Speaker 3>Like, well, you got a business, you got the podcast,

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<v Speaker 3>you probably got you know, you got a full kid.

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<v Speaker 3>You know, you got a lot on your plate. So

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<v Speaker 3>it's hard to be in the moment with yourself when

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<v Speaker 3>you're your entire world is thinking about how do I

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<v Speaker 3>give to these things? Right, It's something I've battle with,

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<v Speaker 3>you know, doing all the things that we're trying to do,

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<v Speaker 3>and then while having a kid, it's like you're giving

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<v Speaker 3>everything to that kid and then you don't have anything

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<v Speaker 3>to give to yourself, and then you're getting lost in

0:20:11.119 --> 0:20:13.520
<v Speaker 3>that shuffle. So I can relate to that and like

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<v Speaker 3>something that I've been you know, talking to Shan with

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<v Speaker 3>like I don't want to get be that couple that

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<v Speaker 3>takes the love that started this whole thing and then

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<v Speaker 3>created this child and give it to the child. I

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<v Speaker 3>want to give it to the child, but pour everything

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<v Speaker 3>into the child, and now we have no love for ourselves.

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<v Speaker 3>They're no time for ourselves. And then you know, you

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<v Speaker 3>see all these people who once the kid gets older

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<v Speaker 3>and moves out, and does their own life.

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<v Speaker 1>They don't even know each other anymore. We're like, who

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<v Speaker 1>are we right? What are we even here for?

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<v Speaker 3>Now that now the kid's going, I don't know why

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<v Speaker 3>we're even still together. It's because they gave all their

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<v Speaker 3>love to the kid.

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<v Speaker 2>Well that's what we're supposed to do, like give it all.

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<v Speaker 1>And if you don't, like you're selfish and you're weird,

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<v Speaker 1>like God forbid, you go like take time for yourself,

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<v Speaker 1>like I'm doing some shit, you know, like I need this.

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<v Speaker 2>I mean, you actually love your kid more when you

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<v Speaker 2>do that too. So right, people always always like I've

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<v Speaker 2>had people judge me and say it is your kid,

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<v Speaker 2>your kid is number one, Like you know, you preach,

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<v Speaker 2>can you preach all this ship and da dah dah

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<v Speaker 2>da da. But like I'm like, yeah, yeah, she's not

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<v Speaker 2>number one. No, I love her and she is. She

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<v Speaker 2>has changed my trajectory. I've I've you know, she's my

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<v Speaker 2>best friend. However, I'm no good to her if I'm

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<v Speaker 2>not number one mutually and if my relationship or you know,

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<v Speaker 2>especially your marriage. I mean I don't know anything about marriage.

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<v Speaker 3>Ain't different. It ain't different. That's the thing too. People

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<v Speaker 3>got all confused. I don't know.

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<v Speaker 2>Anything about I guess coupled partnership and raising a human

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<v Speaker 2>because that's not my experience.

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<v Speaker 1>You don't get a break. Yeah, you're with you are

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<v Speaker 1>all together as a unit majority at the time when

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<v Speaker 1>we're in a place like we've done that, but it's

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<v Speaker 1>so far gone now, like we do get to drop

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<v Speaker 1>them off where you don't really get to have a

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<v Speaker 1>weekend and it's normal, like where the fuck.

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<v Speaker 3>Are you.

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<v Speaker 1>Exactly, whereas we have the opportunity to have the tapic

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<v Speaker 1>like oh, okay, oh this is me, this is what Oh,

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<v Speaker 1>this is what I do on my days off.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, what actually are some ways in which I think

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<v Speaker 2>I'm interested in the male perspective on this, Like what

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<v Speaker 2>are some ways that you are you kind of make

0:22:12.080 --> 0:22:14.800
<v Speaker 2>space in your relationship in that way?

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, it's all about intention Like we have to be

0:22:17.480 --> 0:22:22.840
<v Speaker 3>super aggressive and intentional about scheduling time for us, and

0:22:22.960 --> 0:22:25.280
<v Speaker 3>it's it gets to a place where you you got

0:22:26.200 --> 0:22:29.719
<v Speaker 3>you get so caught up in life that you don't

0:22:29.760 --> 0:22:34.320
<v Speaker 3>plan for yourselves and our situation. That's like getting a

0:22:34.359 --> 0:22:36.919
<v Speaker 3>babysitter on Thursday so that we can go out and

0:22:36.960 --> 0:22:39.960
<v Speaker 3>actually be together and not think about the child that

0:22:40.160 --> 0:22:45.520
<v Speaker 3>time right, or being intentional about that. It's it's I

0:22:45.600 --> 0:22:49.639
<v Speaker 3>usually say, you know, fighting back at life right because

0:22:50.040 --> 0:22:52.840
<v Speaker 3>life is trying to make you it's bitch, and be like, no,

0:22:53.200 --> 0:22:55.240
<v Speaker 3>you're not gonna have time for yourself. You're not gonna

0:22:55.280 --> 0:22:57.000
<v Speaker 3>have time for your wife, You're not gonna have time

0:22:57.040 --> 0:22:59.840
<v Speaker 3>for anything other than what I tell you you're gonna

0:22:59.840 --> 0:23:02.040
<v Speaker 3>have time for. And I used to fight back on

0:23:02.080 --> 0:23:03.960
<v Speaker 3>that and be like, all right, we just put the

0:23:04.080 --> 0:23:06.200
<v Speaker 3>kid to bed. I know we've been up since six.

0:23:06.520 --> 0:23:09.160
<v Speaker 3>I know that we've been going all day working doing

0:23:09.200 --> 0:23:12.520
<v Speaker 3>all these things and we're exhausted and the number one

0:23:12.520 --> 0:23:14.840
<v Speaker 3>thing that we want to sleep, but fuck that. Let's

0:23:14.880 --> 0:23:17.320
<v Speaker 3>stay up, Let's watch a movie, let's have some good sex,

0:23:17.400 --> 0:23:19.199
<v Speaker 3>and then we go to sleep. And that's like a

0:23:19.240 --> 0:23:21.840
<v Speaker 3>fight back on life because I'm like, I know I'm tired,

0:23:21.880 --> 0:23:23.520
<v Speaker 3>but life thing't gonna make me a bitch.

0:23:23.800 --> 0:23:31.040
<v Speaker 1>I'm tired. I'm gonna I don't forget this ship and

0:23:31.080 --> 0:23:32.400
<v Speaker 1>the reason this.

0:23:32.480 --> 0:23:34.600
<v Speaker 3>Yeah, No, I love that.

0:23:34.720 --> 0:23:37.520
<v Speaker 2>I feel that's really cool that that that you do that.

0:23:37.560 --> 0:23:40.760
<v Speaker 2>I think that it's hard to sometimes it feels you

0:23:40.840 --> 0:23:45.719
<v Speaker 2>really do have to fight because life will fucking make

0:23:45.800 --> 0:23:48.600
<v Speaker 2>you so exhausted. Yeah, I mean maybe, I mean my

0:23:48.680 --> 0:23:51.439
<v Speaker 2>relationship was gonna end regardless, but like there were moments

0:23:51.760 --> 0:23:53.760
<v Speaker 2>thinking about that, like I really didn't fight that much.

0:23:53.800 --> 0:23:56.400
<v Speaker 2>I was tired, and I was just like, and if

0:23:56.440 --> 0:23:59.000
<v Speaker 2>you don't have another partner that's also fighting, yeah, it

0:23:59.119 --> 0:24:01.720
<v Speaker 2>kind of makes it impossible or someone that's at least

0:24:01.800 --> 0:24:04.200
<v Speaker 2>gonna like, okay today I'm fighting. Yeah, like I got

0:24:04.200 --> 0:24:06.240
<v Speaker 2>this today. Okay, I got this, my baby, let's do this.

0:24:06.480 --> 0:24:11.040
<v Speaker 2>You know. I think that, uh, that's probably the secret

0:24:11.080 --> 0:24:11.600
<v Speaker 2>to marriage.

0:24:12.000 --> 0:24:16.000
<v Speaker 3>Yeah, well it's marriage is like I mean relationship, relationship. Yeah,

0:24:16.000 --> 0:24:18.679
<v Speaker 3>Like I feel like relationships, especially when you have another

0:24:18.720 --> 0:24:22.520
<v Speaker 3>life in the world, is all about if we're both

0:24:22.600 --> 0:24:27.680
<v Speaker 3>thinking how do I make your life easier? If we're

0:24:27.720 --> 0:24:30.840
<v Speaker 3>both thinking that our life is gonna be easy because

0:24:30.880 --> 0:24:33.639
<v Speaker 3>we're both doing things for each other, that is gonna

0:24:33.640 --> 0:24:35.480
<v Speaker 3>make the life easier for each other.

0:24:36.080 --> 0:24:39.439
<v Speaker 1>So simple for that guys, And I think people sometimes

0:24:39.440 --> 0:24:41.119
<v Speaker 1>think if you're making life easier for someone else, and

0:24:41.240 --> 0:24:44.520
<v Speaker 1>either like there's self sacrificial in ways, like maybe you're

0:24:44.560 --> 0:24:47.560
<v Speaker 1>not doing something for yourself, but if it's mutual, then

0:24:47.640 --> 0:24:50.320
<v Speaker 1>everyone's making sure we get taking care of as a unit.

0:24:50.440 --> 0:24:52.920
<v Speaker 3>Yeah, well you'll get that day. So like, well we'll

0:24:52.960 --> 0:24:56.320
<v Speaker 3>have talks to be like what's your what's your ideal schedule?

0:24:56.359 --> 0:24:58.560
<v Speaker 3>Looking like how much me time do you want? How

0:24:58.640 --> 0:25:00.320
<v Speaker 3>much us time do you want? And how much do

0:25:00.320 --> 0:25:03.080
<v Speaker 3>you want for like us as a family, And then

0:25:03.160 --> 0:25:05.280
<v Speaker 3>like Jo ask me the same question and I'll tell

0:25:05.280 --> 0:25:07.359
<v Speaker 3>her like this is my ideal schedule and this is

0:25:07.400 --> 0:25:09.439
<v Speaker 3>your ideal schedule. How do we make these work so

0:25:09.480 --> 0:25:12.240
<v Speaker 3>that we both get what we want? And in those

0:25:12.240 --> 0:25:16.280
<v Speaker 3>schedules are me time because like it's I can't love

0:25:16.359 --> 0:25:18.639
<v Speaker 3>you the right way if you don't give me space

0:25:18.680 --> 0:25:22.720
<v Speaker 3>to be independent. Yeah, everything we do is together, and

0:25:22.880 --> 0:25:25.800
<v Speaker 3>everything that you do is together with me, and it's

0:25:25.880 --> 0:25:29.000
<v Speaker 3>like we're just one person and that's not fine. And

0:25:29.040 --> 0:25:31.200
<v Speaker 3>I want to be with somebody that experiences life a

0:25:31.240 --> 0:25:32.600
<v Speaker 3>little bit different than me. I want to be with

0:25:32.640 --> 0:25:36.600
<v Speaker 3>someone that has their own experiences and independence. Like the

0:25:36.680 --> 0:25:38.840
<v Speaker 3>last thing I want is to own a human.

0:25:39.200 --> 0:25:40.359
<v Speaker 1>You know what I mean? Like I don't want to

0:25:40.440 --> 0:25:41.679
<v Speaker 1>You're not my woman.

0:25:42.119 --> 0:25:45.320
<v Speaker 3>You're a woman who loves me right, and I love you,

0:25:45.720 --> 0:25:47.920
<v Speaker 3>and so like you always hear that term like oh

0:25:47.960 --> 0:25:51.720
<v Speaker 3>my man, you're like I am because I choose, but like,

0:25:51.720 --> 0:25:54.200
<v Speaker 3>I'm not your man, you know what I mean, We're

0:25:54.240 --> 0:25:56.760
<v Speaker 3>both individual humans who are going through life together and

0:25:56.800 --> 0:25:58.919
<v Speaker 3>we just love each other, right, you know.

0:25:59.320 --> 0:26:01.400
<v Speaker 2>I think like you and Channe also, like you guys

0:26:01.560 --> 0:26:04.639
<v Speaker 2>have began your relationship with that idea too. Write I

0:26:04.680 --> 0:26:06.720
<v Speaker 2>remember watching a clip of you guys when you guys

0:26:06.720 --> 0:26:10.199
<v Speaker 2>were talking, or maybe Shan was talking about I think

0:26:10.240 --> 0:26:11.679
<v Speaker 2>it was right before you got married, and it was

0:26:11.680 --> 0:26:14.920
<v Speaker 2>like one plus one does an equal to it equals three? Yeah,

0:26:14.960 --> 0:26:17.320
<v Speaker 2>And I loved that concept of that idea, and I

0:26:17.440 --> 0:26:20.520
<v Speaker 2>never really like, I guess like imagine that in my

0:26:20.600 --> 0:26:22.200
<v Speaker 2>head and I was like, oh my god, this makes

0:26:22.240 --> 0:26:26.440
<v Speaker 2>total sense. Yeah, this becomes its whole new entity. Yeah,

0:26:26.480 --> 0:26:30.439
<v Speaker 2>and like I am still singularly my own person. You

0:26:30.560 --> 0:26:32.080
<v Speaker 2>and I don't die when you leave.

0:26:32.320 --> 0:26:32.720
<v Speaker 1>Yeah.

0:26:32.920 --> 0:26:37.520
<v Speaker 3>Yeah, it's like you and I the person that the

0:26:37.640 --> 0:26:40.199
<v Speaker 3>version of myself that I am from being in a

0:26:40.200 --> 0:26:43.400
<v Speaker 3>relationship with you would have never existed if we never

0:26:43.440 --> 0:26:46.159
<v Speaker 3>got together. So like, you're not we're not making like

0:26:47.040 --> 0:26:49.520
<v Speaker 3>we're not making one. It's just like a whole other entity.

0:26:50.119 --> 0:26:54.080
<v Speaker 3>And I did like that concept and it felt natural.

0:26:54.240 --> 0:26:56.119
<v Speaker 3>I mean, given the way that we started. We started

0:26:56.119 --> 0:26:59.479
<v Speaker 3>by just being fuck buddies. So the entire intent was

0:26:59.720 --> 0:27:02.440
<v Speaker 3>you are your own human, I'm my own human, and

0:27:02.480 --> 0:27:06.960
<v Speaker 3>we're just the thing that connected us was sexual chemistry,

0:27:07.119 --> 0:27:11.200
<v Speaker 3>you know, which was cool. It allowed us to approach

0:27:11.280 --> 0:27:15.240
<v Speaker 3>the relationship with like one hundred percent honesty without fear

0:27:15.560 --> 0:27:19.120
<v Speaker 3>of judgment because it was just kind of like, you're

0:27:20.000 --> 0:27:22.920
<v Speaker 3>I am not trying to impress you. You know, when

0:27:22.920 --> 0:27:24.639
<v Speaker 3>you meet someone that you're really in love with or

0:27:24.640 --> 0:27:26.359
<v Speaker 3>you're like, oh man, I really want to be with

0:27:26.400 --> 0:27:29.000
<v Speaker 3>this person, You're like propping up the best parts of

0:27:29.040 --> 0:27:31.520
<v Speaker 3>yourself and like hiding the worst parts, and you're like

0:27:31.920 --> 0:27:34.240
<v Speaker 3>trying to like how do I say everything correctly so

0:27:34.280 --> 0:27:36.199
<v Speaker 3>that she thinks I'm interesting or all this stuff, and

0:27:36.240 --> 0:27:38.960
<v Speaker 3>it's like, no, the thing that got you interested in

0:27:39.600 --> 0:27:42.440
<v Speaker 3>with me is just great sex. That's not going anywhere

0:27:42.480 --> 0:27:44.960
<v Speaker 3>whether you find anything about me that you don't like

0:27:45.280 --> 0:27:49.760
<v Speaker 3>that we have great sex. And so the willingness to

0:27:49.800 --> 0:27:52.359
<v Speaker 3>just put my entire self on top of that table

0:27:53.520 --> 0:27:56.040
<v Speaker 3>and her doing the same thing allowed us to like

0:27:56.359 --> 0:27:59.600
<v Speaker 3>grow a relationship of her knowing my authentic full self

0:27:59.640 --> 0:28:02.960
<v Speaker 3>from the jump, which made our relationship just way better.

0:28:02.960 --> 0:28:05.560
<v Speaker 3>It's like, I'm so tempted to give the people the

0:28:06.200 --> 0:28:09.840
<v Speaker 3>advice to like start with, but it is so.

0:28:10.000 --> 0:28:11.280
<v Speaker 1>Bad Starvest fuck buddies.

0:28:11.320 --> 0:28:14.760
<v Speaker 3>It will be a success, You'll be like, but if

0:28:14.760 --> 0:28:16.840
<v Speaker 3>it is hard, because I also know that there's there's

0:28:16.880 --> 0:28:19.840
<v Speaker 3>an evil side to that, to that story.

0:28:20.240 --> 0:28:23.280
<v Speaker 1>I don't know. I agree. I think like we talk

0:28:23.320 --> 0:28:26.600
<v Speaker 1>about this, like not starting with the expectation of forever,

0:28:26.880 --> 0:28:29.320
<v Speaker 1>you know what I mean, Like, yeah, I think the

0:28:29.320 --> 0:28:32.639
<v Speaker 1>most successful relationships are ones where you're like brutally honest,

0:28:32.680 --> 0:28:35.160
<v Speaker 1>like that's what I did last night, you know, because

0:28:35.200 --> 0:28:38.600
<v Speaker 1>you're right, they're inevitably like no matter how authentic you are,

0:28:39.040 --> 0:28:41.560
<v Speaker 1>when you go on a date and thinking someone's super

0:28:41.640 --> 0:28:44.920
<v Speaker 1>hot or they're impressive, you are ways are being performative.

0:28:44.960 --> 0:28:46.600
<v Speaker 1>You're not gonna put all the ship on the table,

0:28:46.760 --> 0:28:49.320
<v Speaker 1>like I mean, I don't really have a lot of

0:28:49.480 --> 0:28:53.400
<v Speaker 1>space because all our ships on Instagram. But we kind

0:28:53.400 --> 0:28:54.680
<v Speaker 1>of have to do that just so they are not

0:28:54.720 --> 0:28:58.880
<v Speaker 1>scared later. But let me show you some ship. But

0:28:59.080 --> 0:29:01.600
<v Speaker 1>I think people do that and they get into this routine.

0:29:01.760 --> 0:29:04.360
<v Speaker 1>You know, you like someone, you get all giddy for

0:29:04.400 --> 0:29:06.720
<v Speaker 1>each other, you spend all your time together because that's

0:29:06.720 --> 0:29:08.840
<v Speaker 1>what's fun in the beginning. But then they forget to

0:29:08.840 --> 0:29:11.400
<v Speaker 1>come up out of that like that warp and then

0:29:11.520 --> 0:29:13.480
<v Speaker 1>do their own thing. And so when someone starts to

0:29:13.480 --> 0:29:14.920
<v Speaker 1>do things outside of you, you're.

0:29:14.760 --> 0:29:16.760
<v Speaker 2>Like, hey, where are you going? Which, oh, I'm not

0:29:16.840 --> 0:29:17.720
<v Speaker 2>invited yeh.

0:29:17.800 --> 0:29:19.200
<v Speaker 1>But like last week I went to the game like

0:29:19.200 --> 0:29:21.600
<v Speaker 1>with the way like some ship like and then all

0:29:21.600 --> 0:29:25.120
<v Speaker 1>these like human you know, emotions come up that are

0:29:25.160 --> 0:29:28.000
<v Speaker 1>not really healthy because you've gotten so caught up in

0:29:28.040 --> 0:29:32.080
<v Speaker 1>this ritual of always being together and yeah, like and

0:29:32.120 --> 0:29:35.080
<v Speaker 1>it's ways performing and it is it's harder to like

0:29:35.160 --> 0:29:38.000
<v Speaker 1>start to like someone and being like kind of attracted

0:29:38.040 --> 0:29:39.760
<v Speaker 1>in love and have good sex and then be like okay,

0:29:39.800 --> 0:29:41.760
<v Speaker 1>let me let me just tell you, you know what

0:29:41.800 --> 0:29:43.520
<v Speaker 1>I mean. Like, it's it's much easier to be like

0:29:43.880 --> 0:29:45.560
<v Speaker 1>I don't give a fuck, like this is what it is.

0:29:45.720 --> 0:29:47.480
<v Speaker 1>You're having sex? You don't really, I'm not.

0:29:47.560 --> 0:29:49.440
<v Speaker 2>I'm not playing for you to keep me.

0:29:49.760 --> 0:29:52.320
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, And I think a lot of women especially have

0:29:52.440 --> 0:29:53.360
<v Speaker 1>to do that, like.

0:29:53.440 --> 0:29:55.720
<v Speaker 3>Well men do it too, But you know what, I

0:29:55.760 --> 0:29:57.560
<v Speaker 3>can't you know what this is.

0:29:57.720 --> 0:30:00.400
<v Speaker 2>This is a bad message, Jared. I know I don't

0:30:00.400 --> 0:30:04.200
<v Speaker 2>agree with this. That's first I want to say that

0:30:04.440 --> 0:30:07.280
<v Speaker 2>I think that dick good dick and good pussy, mostly

0:30:07.280 --> 0:30:09.240
<v Speaker 2>good dick. I think as women were just we're just

0:30:09.280 --> 0:30:12.320
<v Speaker 2>controlled by this our vaginas in ways.

0:30:13.240 --> 0:30:14.160
<v Speaker 1>I know you are, for.

0:30:14.120 --> 0:30:19.080
<v Speaker 2>Sure, but I know I feel like we get lost

0:30:19.080 --> 0:30:21.720
<v Speaker 2>in the sauce a little faster though, And so like

0:30:21.760 --> 0:30:23.960
<v Speaker 2>if you if you're, if you're fuck buddies and it's

0:30:23.960 --> 0:30:25.720
<v Speaker 2>purely based on sex. I think women have a way

0:30:25.720 --> 0:30:28.760
<v Speaker 2>of compartmentalizing. But over time, we're gonna start do I

0:30:28.800 --> 0:30:29.080
<v Speaker 2>love you?

0:30:30.120 --> 0:30:31.959
<v Speaker 3>Well? Why do you think that is so? So like

0:30:32.000 --> 0:30:33.680
<v Speaker 3>if we unpack it a little bit and we dive

0:30:33.680 --> 0:30:35.280
<v Speaker 3>a little bit deeper, like I agreed.

0:30:35.200 --> 0:30:39.400
<v Speaker 2>And accept certain toxicities, and reality is about that person

0:30:39.440 --> 0:30:41.840
<v Speaker 2>that they don't really shouldn't they shouldn't accept.

0:30:41.840 --> 0:30:43.960
<v Speaker 3>True, But like if you dive, if you keep going

0:30:44.040 --> 0:30:46.600
<v Speaker 3>underneath that, it's like, yes, there is stories of people,

0:30:47.040 --> 0:30:50.000
<v Speaker 3>you know, getting into fuck buddy relationships and then it

0:30:50.080 --> 0:30:53.560
<v Speaker 3>ending terribly right, But did they come into that in

0:30:53.600 --> 0:30:57.760
<v Speaker 3>the start thinking I actually am very interested in this guy,

0:30:57.800 --> 0:31:00.280
<v Speaker 3>and I'm going to accept being a fuck buddy because

0:31:00.280 --> 0:31:02.120
<v Speaker 3>that's what he says he wants so that I can

0:31:02.160 --> 0:31:06.640
<v Speaker 3>give him this good pussy so that he eventually and

0:31:06.680 --> 0:31:09.000
<v Speaker 3>then on top of that, get hurt. Yeah, and then

0:31:09.000 --> 0:31:10.640
<v Speaker 3>you get hurt. But on top of that, it's also like,

0:31:10.880 --> 0:31:13.200
<v Speaker 3>you know, I always have this thing of like the

0:31:13.240 --> 0:31:15.320
<v Speaker 3>times that I've been in toxic relationships and the times

0:31:15.320 --> 0:31:18.560
<v Speaker 3>that I've gotten into very bad situation is because I

0:31:18.680 --> 0:31:23.800
<v Speaker 3>was not completely healed in myself. Like there's times even

0:31:23.880 --> 0:31:27.520
<v Speaker 3>like recent like you know, there'll be like a vibe

0:31:27.520 --> 0:31:30.760
<v Speaker 3>between a woman and like there's something that I'll feel

0:31:31.000 --> 0:31:32.680
<v Speaker 3>or I'll see a red flag that I'll be like,

0:31:32.720 --> 0:31:34.560
<v Speaker 3>you know what, I'm not gonna I'm not gonna go

0:31:34.600 --> 0:31:37.400
<v Speaker 3>into this. Yeah, I'm not even gonna entertain this because

0:31:37.440 --> 0:31:40.240
<v Speaker 3>I have like a certain level of of I guess

0:31:40.280 --> 0:31:43.760
<v Speaker 3>healing that I'm not like subjecting myself to certain things

0:31:43.760 --> 0:31:46.880
<v Speaker 3>that I know might end terribly. And so I'm not

0:31:46.960 --> 0:31:51.880
<v Speaker 3>saying that that there's not obviously very manipultive dudes out there,

0:31:52.120 --> 0:31:54.320
<v Speaker 3>But if a dude comes and you guys are connecting

0:31:54.400 --> 0:31:57.959
<v Speaker 3>and he's just like this is what I am willing

0:31:58.040 --> 0:32:02.680
<v Speaker 3>to give is just X At certain point, is there

0:32:02.800 --> 0:32:05.000
<v Speaker 3>like accountability on the woman's side to be like I

0:32:05.040 --> 0:32:08.280
<v Speaker 3>don't really I'm not even allowing that. I don't want that.

0:32:08.760 --> 0:32:10.320
<v Speaker 1>Well, yeah, you have to be mature and have to

0:32:10.360 --> 0:32:12.200
<v Speaker 1>say I want this and you don't want that. Yeah,

0:32:12.320 --> 0:32:14.840
<v Speaker 1>because a lot of times we find secretly they're like okay,

0:32:15.160 --> 0:32:17.320
<v Speaker 1>and then they're getting hurt and like low key abused

0:32:17.320 --> 0:32:20.200
<v Speaker 1>because they're saying they can handle something. However, on the

0:32:20.000 --> 0:32:23.040
<v Speaker 1>on the opposite end, what I will say is, for sure,

0:32:23.080 --> 0:32:25.760
<v Speaker 1>bitches do that, like I'm aa cook, I'm gonna do this,

0:32:25.800 --> 0:32:28.080
<v Speaker 1>I'm gonna wash his clothes and then he's gonna fall

0:32:28.120 --> 0:32:30.000
<v Speaker 1>in love with me, and then Nick's Joe and they're mad.

0:32:30.080 --> 0:32:33.040
<v Speaker 1>But on the flip side, a guy will say, I

0:32:33.080 --> 0:32:34.120
<v Speaker 1>don't want to be your man.

0:32:34.560 --> 0:32:36.840
<v Speaker 4>You know, I'm just doing a boyfriend activity hunt all

0:32:36.920 --> 0:32:40.880
<v Speaker 4>day every day, doing all the things, showing pulling up

0:32:40.880 --> 0:32:43.920
<v Speaker 4>at the house every day, eating dinner with the family,

0:32:44.360 --> 0:32:46.480
<v Speaker 4>you know, like gifts for the kids, buying kids for

0:32:46.520 --> 0:32:46.800
<v Speaker 4>the kids.

0:32:46.920 --> 0:32:49.200
<v Speaker 3>Like yeah, like there is well he's doing boyfriend activity.

0:32:49.440 --> 0:32:49.760
<v Speaker 1>He's not.

0:32:49.800 --> 0:32:52.480
<v Speaker 3>He's not open holding his agreement from the jump.

0:32:52.560 --> 0:32:54.680
<v Speaker 1>So I think that's where, you know, and then when

0:32:54.680 --> 0:32:56.720
<v Speaker 1>the bitch starts catching feelings and you're like he's like

0:32:56.720 --> 0:33:00.000
<v Speaker 1>whoa who look at like wondering where you're leaving on Saturday,

0:33:00.280 --> 0:33:03.240
<v Speaker 1>not coming home like or whatever, the next day and

0:33:03.280 --> 0:33:04.720
<v Speaker 1>you're like, what you mean, I told you you know

0:33:04.760 --> 0:33:06.840
<v Speaker 1>what I'm saying. Like, I think it plays on both ends,

0:33:06.920 --> 0:33:09.600
<v Speaker 1>you know, it's I think, I don't know. We're all

0:33:09.640 --> 0:33:12.920
<v Speaker 1>parents agree that like humans are just like innately a

0:33:12.960 --> 0:33:14.560
<v Speaker 1>little manipulative.

0:33:14.240 --> 0:33:17.480
<v Speaker 2>One thousand percent one thousand percent, especially babies and children.

0:33:17.760 --> 0:33:21.440
<v Speaker 3>Oh that's their survival tactic. But like, no, I agree,

0:33:21.520 --> 0:33:24.920
<v Speaker 3>like there is there is that. But I think that,

0:33:25.400 --> 0:33:27.680
<v Speaker 3>I mean, maybe I could be completely naive to this,

0:33:27.920 --> 0:33:32.920
<v Speaker 3>and I just feel that I can't see myself getting

0:33:32.920 --> 0:33:37.479
<v Speaker 3>into a relationship today with somebody that I know is

0:33:37.680 --> 0:33:42.520
<v Speaker 3>pulling a super manipulative tactic. Right, that's like saying this thing,

0:33:42.560 --> 0:33:44.960
<v Speaker 3>but their actions are saying another thing. And I would

0:33:44.960 --> 0:33:46.600
<v Speaker 3>see that and be like, you know what, this may

0:33:46.640 --> 0:33:48.760
<v Speaker 3>not be a great agreement. The reason why Shannon and

0:33:48.800 --> 0:33:50.320
<v Speaker 3>I work so well in the beginning is because we

0:33:50.440 --> 0:33:55.120
<v Speaker 3>both upheld our agreement. I wasn't leaping over, we weren't cuddling,

0:33:55.480 --> 0:33:58.120
<v Speaker 3>we weren't pillow talking, we weren't talking about the future.

0:33:58.120 --> 0:34:00.640
<v Speaker 1>Shan totally seems like the type of moment listener fu buddies,

0:34:00.960 --> 0:34:03.320
<v Speaker 1>you leave, you leave after it, don't cuddle me.

0:34:03.440 --> 0:34:04.440
<v Speaker 2>Let's not talk about.

0:34:04.240 --> 0:34:06.520
<v Speaker 3>It all the way to the point where she would

0:34:06.520 --> 0:34:07.040
<v Speaker 3>never text me.

0:34:07.120 --> 0:34:09.560
<v Speaker 2>First she told you she was not gonna text you.

0:34:09.600 --> 0:34:12.480
<v Speaker 3>She tell me this, but but yeah, she never.

0:34:13.000 --> 0:34:14.120
<v Speaker 2>Rules of buddys.

0:34:14.680 --> 0:34:16.279
<v Speaker 1>She she knew what it was.

0:34:16.320 --> 0:34:19.240
<v Speaker 3>And so I and I've definitely been in fuck buddy

0:34:19.239 --> 0:34:22.759
<v Speaker 3>relationships prior Shan. That never worked out because neither one

0:34:22.760 --> 0:34:25.239
<v Speaker 3>of us are holding up thing to you to become more.

0:34:25.680 --> 0:34:29.920
<v Speaker 2>She become more appealing because thousand I told she got

0:34:29.920 --> 0:34:32.200
<v Speaker 2>to play the game I told.

0:34:32.480 --> 0:34:34.840
<v Speaker 3>I told Shan, I said, I said, this is terrible,

0:34:34.880 --> 0:34:36.920
<v Speaker 3>but like you know, she she know what it is.

0:34:37.920 --> 0:34:40.080
<v Speaker 3>I was like, you know, when we started having sex,

0:34:41.040 --> 0:34:44.040
<v Speaker 3>I didn't know that you would be like future. I

0:34:44.120 --> 0:34:46.400
<v Speaker 3>never looked at you that way. I looked at the

0:34:46.440 --> 0:34:50.040
<v Speaker 3>situation like dang, like there's a sex ologist. I'm about

0:34:50.040 --> 0:34:52.719
<v Speaker 3>to go and learn some few things. And then after

0:34:52.760 --> 0:34:55.440
<v Speaker 3>a few months, when this dwindles out, then I'm gonna

0:34:55.440 --> 0:34:56.319
<v Speaker 3>know a little bit.

0:34:56.200 --> 0:34:58.920
<v Speaker 1>More about sex. And then now my sex life is good.

0:34:59.719 --> 0:35:06.520
<v Speaker 3>I was trying well with two kids married, But.

0:35:06.960 --> 0:35:08.959
<v Speaker 1>It's a mutual exchange. I'm going to get some moves,

0:35:08.960 --> 0:35:11.960
<v Speaker 1>We're going to entertain each other. Then it's a mutual exchange,

0:35:11.960 --> 0:35:13.120
<v Speaker 1>just like we're using each other.

0:35:13.760 --> 0:35:16.080
<v Speaker 3>So and she used me to she was reading books

0:35:16.120 --> 0:35:17.960
<v Speaker 3>and doing things and she didn't get to do before,

0:35:18.000 --> 0:35:19.799
<v Speaker 3>and so she was trying out things, you know, she

0:35:19.880 --> 0:35:21.120
<v Speaker 3>was learning on the same time.

0:35:21.400 --> 0:35:26.840
<v Speaker 1>Her little like like, you know, it's so true because

0:35:26.880 --> 0:35:28.640
<v Speaker 1>I think I told this, like I have a fun

0:35:28.719 --> 0:35:32.840
<v Speaker 1>buddy and very same like very like minimal other stuff

0:35:32.840 --> 0:35:35.080
<v Speaker 1>other than sex, like we'll shoot the ship, I have

0:35:35.080 --> 0:35:37.480
<v Speaker 1>a drink. And I was like, all right, But one

0:35:37.480 --> 0:35:41.320
<v Speaker 1>time he did like sleepover and it was like iddled

0:35:41.400 --> 0:35:42.800
<v Speaker 1>me a little bit, and at first I was annoyed

0:35:42.840 --> 0:35:44.279
<v Speaker 1>and then like kissed me when he left, and I

0:35:44.320 --> 0:35:45.399
<v Speaker 1>was like, is he cool?

0:35:45.760 --> 0:35:53.160
<v Speaker 3>Yea, My mind started to tricks on me, which is understandable.

0:35:53.160 --> 0:35:56.360
<v Speaker 3>Though it's understandable, like it makes sense. And that's the

0:35:56.400 --> 0:35:58.880
<v Speaker 3>thing is, like I don't think that I'm ever trying

0:35:58.920 --> 0:36:00.919
<v Speaker 3>to demonize the person that falls for someone that's pulling

0:36:00.960 --> 0:36:04.000
<v Speaker 3>these manipultive tactics because they work, and they've been working

0:36:04.000 --> 0:36:04.680
<v Speaker 3>for centuries, you.

0:36:04.680 --> 0:36:05.120
<v Speaker 1>Know what I mean.

0:36:05.160 --> 0:36:08.200
<v Speaker 3>It doesn't it doesn't mean that you're a terrible person

0:36:08.280 --> 0:36:10.480
<v Speaker 3>or you're a person that just can't see red flags.

0:36:10.520 --> 0:36:12.160
<v Speaker 3>But at the end of the day, they're like dark

0:36:12.200 --> 0:36:14.880
<v Speaker 3>psychology for a reason. There's a reason why you know,

0:36:15.080 --> 0:36:18.319
<v Speaker 3>these tactics work. You know, do you.

0:36:18.320 --> 0:36:21.319
<v Speaker 1>Think that they're asking for myself? Do you think that

0:36:21.400 --> 0:36:26.279
<v Speaker 1>when we because okay, you said like dating someone and

0:36:26.280 --> 0:36:28.319
<v Speaker 1>then seeing red flags and be like, oh, I'm cool.

0:36:28.600 --> 0:36:30.319
<v Speaker 1>Do you think that when we see red flags and

0:36:30.320 --> 0:36:32.239
<v Speaker 1>we lean into it, it's like the unhealed parts of

0:36:32.239 --> 0:36:36.479
<v Speaker 1>ourselves Because I've seen such toxic red flags and I'm like, run,

0:36:36.560 --> 0:36:38.520
<v Speaker 1>run towards it, you know what I mean. Yeah, Like

0:36:38.520 --> 0:36:40.600
<v Speaker 1>but then you come in, but sure finally walk the

0:36:40.600 --> 0:36:42.839
<v Speaker 1>fuck away because and then that's where like that high high, high,

0:36:42.880 --> 0:36:45.239
<v Speaker 1>high high comes from. Because even you're talking about your

0:36:45.239 --> 0:36:46.960
<v Speaker 1>relationship with Shan, it's like I can imagine, like, so

0:36:47.000 --> 0:36:49.160
<v Speaker 1>it was a slow and steady build up. You are

0:36:49.320 --> 0:36:51.560
<v Speaker 1>like acting crazy, you know what I mean. It wasn't

0:36:51.600 --> 0:36:54.640
<v Speaker 1>some all the time thing obviously, So I think sometimes

0:36:54.680 --> 0:36:57.279
<v Speaker 1>like this, like the slow and easy love, like those

0:36:57.320 --> 0:36:58.640
<v Speaker 1>are what you need to look out for. It doesn't

0:36:58.640 --> 0:36:59.960
<v Speaker 1>have to be something high high more.

0:37:00.280 --> 0:37:04.040
<v Speaker 3>Sometimes, you know, toxic sex is fun, Like we can't

0:37:04.080 --> 0:37:08.120
<v Speaker 3>deny it. You know, facts is from scientific there's a

0:37:08.520 --> 0:37:10.640
<v Speaker 3>you know, I have this story where like you know,

0:37:10.800 --> 0:37:14.080
<v Speaker 3>me and my ex were getting to a crazy argument

0:37:14.120 --> 0:37:16.799
<v Speaker 3>and she hit me with a car. What after she

0:37:17.040 --> 0:37:19.840
<v Speaker 3>After she hit me with the car, we went up

0:37:19.880 --> 0:37:25.759
<v Speaker 3>and had sex. Whoa, and it was awesome sex. No,

0:37:25.800 --> 0:37:34.160
<v Speaker 3>it wasn't that I didn't get like ran over like words,

0:37:34.440 --> 0:37:37.160
<v Speaker 3>but but we were we were arguing. It was it

0:37:37.200 --> 0:37:38.520
<v Speaker 3>was in the car and I got out the car,

0:37:38.760 --> 0:37:40.359
<v Speaker 3>you know, you know how it is, get out the car,

0:37:40.480 --> 0:37:42.040
<v Speaker 3>like I ain't funk with this ship no more. Get

0:37:42.040 --> 0:37:44.160
<v Speaker 3>out the car. And then she's like trying to take off.

0:37:44.160 --> 0:37:46.160
<v Speaker 3>But I went to the front and not the back way,

0:37:46.320 --> 0:37:47.680
<v Speaker 3>and so when she took off, she hit me with

0:37:47.719 --> 0:37:48.560
<v Speaker 3>like she like bumped me.

0:37:48.640 --> 0:37:49.279
<v Speaker 1>You know what I'm saying.

0:37:49.320 --> 0:37:50.960
<v Speaker 2>So, no, I don't know that's crazy.

0:37:51.120 --> 0:37:53.240
<v Speaker 3>You're never like you trying to speed off in an argument.

0:37:53.520 --> 0:37:55.480
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, oh yeah, I know.

0:37:55.520 --> 0:37:57.359
<v Speaker 3>I'm not the only toxicigure in the room right now.

0:37:57.560 --> 0:37:59.960
<v Speaker 1>Careful, I'm like, I don't.

0:38:00.120 --> 0:38:01.680
<v Speaker 3>In the heat of the moment you met.

0:38:01.760 --> 0:38:03.560
<v Speaker 2>Pa Jared, I'm shocked you seem so calm.

0:38:03.640 --> 0:38:05.799
<v Speaker 1>You know we're talking about like exposing his toxicity. I

0:38:05.800 --> 0:38:08.880
<v Speaker 1>know everybody thinks like Jared is just you know, but

0:38:09.200 --> 0:38:11.640
<v Speaker 1>he confessed he's a little toxic.

0:38:12.200 --> 0:38:17.680
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<v Speaker 2>You, super healed or no, No.

0:39:22.520 --> 0:39:24.360
<v Speaker 3>I have talked to you know what it is?

0:39:24.400 --> 0:39:25.680
<v Speaker 1>You know? I got it. I got it.

0:39:25.719 --> 0:39:26.399
<v Speaker 3>I figured it out.

0:39:26.719 --> 0:39:32.960
<v Speaker 1>When we're in a disagreement, we have to end the argument.

0:39:33.520 --> 0:39:36.240
<v Speaker 3>Like I can't just let it go, Like we can't

0:39:36.280 --> 0:39:38.480
<v Speaker 3>like if we're like in a disagreement of like whatever

0:39:38.520 --> 0:39:41.120
<v Speaker 3>it may be, Like, it's really hard for me to

0:39:41.160 --> 0:39:42.880
<v Speaker 3>go to sleep mad, and it's really hard for me

0:39:42.920 --> 0:39:45.799
<v Speaker 3>to leave the argument, like without coming to some kind

0:39:45.840 --> 0:39:46.360
<v Speaker 3>of resolution.

0:39:46.480 --> 0:39:48.040
<v Speaker 1>Do you do you have to be right or do

0:39:48.040 --> 0:39:49.640
<v Speaker 1>you just want to come to a resolution resolution. I

0:39:49.640 --> 0:39:50.960
<v Speaker 1>don't have to be right every time.

0:39:51.520 --> 0:39:54.120
<v Speaker 3>It is because space is good.

0:39:54.440 --> 0:39:57.000
<v Speaker 2>It is toxic. The other person doesn't want that, like

0:39:57.040 --> 0:39:58.920
<v Speaker 2>they're not ready for that. And then it's being forced

0:39:58.960 --> 0:40:01.800
<v Speaker 2>upon you because I've experienced that because he was toxic

0:40:01.880 --> 0:40:04.279
<v Speaker 2>and he was crazy. But did you go to sleep man?

0:40:05.040 --> 0:40:05.799
<v Speaker 1>Go to sleep man?

0:40:05.880 --> 0:40:08.560
<v Speaker 2>Sometimes there's no resolution and you guys need to just

0:40:08.640 --> 0:40:09.360
<v Speaker 2>shut the fuck up.

0:40:09.480 --> 0:40:11.799
<v Speaker 3>Yeah, because now we start arguing about Now we're arguing

0:40:11.800 --> 0:40:14.560
<v Speaker 3>about shit that don't even matter. We started working about semantics.

0:40:15.080 --> 0:40:18.279
<v Speaker 3>You know, it starts getting into like you said this, now,

0:40:18.280 --> 0:40:21.279
<v Speaker 3>I said that. No, yesterday, two forty five, you said this,

0:40:21.560 --> 0:40:23.719
<v Speaker 3>and so it gets into the we're like what do

0:40:23.800 --> 0:40:26.880
<v Speaker 3>we We're not even arguing about that real issue anymore.

0:40:27.600 --> 0:40:30.760
<v Speaker 1>Well, so I'm curious because you went from like getting

0:40:31.000 --> 0:40:33.640
<v Speaker 1>hit by a car, like by a car to like

0:40:33.840 --> 0:40:36.840
<v Speaker 1>savage like toxic sects. And now you're like this evolved

0:40:36.920 --> 0:40:40.040
<v Speaker 1>version of yourself with Shan, and you like, you know,

0:40:40.200 --> 0:40:44.200
<v Speaker 1>like texology terms, you know, Like I'm curious, was it, like,

0:40:44.480 --> 0:40:47.600
<v Speaker 1>you know, maybe getting hit by the car or what

0:40:48.000 --> 0:40:50.400
<v Speaker 1>made you break away from your toxic Were you just tired?

0:40:50.480 --> 0:40:52.879
<v Speaker 1>He said, I'm this is not or like I need

0:40:52.880 --> 0:40:54.960
<v Speaker 1>to know what shifted or is that how you recognize

0:40:54.960 --> 0:40:59.120
<v Speaker 1>when Shan was totally fucking saying dealing with others?

0:40:59.480 --> 0:41:03.799
<v Speaker 3>No, it's funny because I don't think that, you know,

0:41:05.200 --> 0:41:10.200
<v Speaker 3>I have this struggle all the time of like you

0:41:10.200 --> 0:41:12.759
<v Speaker 3>get become alone and you heal and then you find

0:41:12.800 --> 0:41:15.919
<v Speaker 3>your person. But like I really found myself through that relationship,

0:41:15.960 --> 0:41:18.839
<v Speaker 3>through that, through that that type of interaction with Shan,

0:41:19.360 --> 0:41:21.040
<v Speaker 3>you know, I was already on track, you know what

0:41:21.080 --> 0:41:22.799
<v Speaker 3>I mean. I was I was at I was at

0:41:22.800 --> 0:41:25.160
<v Speaker 3>the place where I was honest. I was at the

0:41:25.200 --> 0:41:27.560
<v Speaker 3>place where I was like, I don't want a relationship.

0:41:27.600 --> 0:41:29.200
<v Speaker 3>I don't want to do this. But that's not all

0:41:29.239 --> 0:41:33.279
<v Speaker 3>the way healthy sometimes. But through the relationship with Shan,

0:41:33.400 --> 0:41:37.160
<v Speaker 3>it was like, oh, like we can be one hundred percent,

0:41:37.440 --> 0:41:41.359
<v Speaker 3>one hundred percent honest with each other and we're not

0:41:41.400 --> 0:41:44.959
<v Speaker 3>really arguing like that, like you're not really mad right now,

0:41:45.080 --> 0:41:48.560
<v Speaker 3>Like so it just became like healing. Like I would

0:41:48.560 --> 0:41:52.200
<v Speaker 3>say that I'm not this super evolved person that just

0:41:52.239 --> 0:41:54.600
<v Speaker 3>like magically changed. I think I'm very similar to where

0:41:54.600 --> 0:41:57.600
<v Speaker 3>I was. But I think the difference is that I'm

0:41:57.640 --> 0:42:01.040
<v Speaker 3>in a relationship that's not fun me out about the

0:42:01.040 --> 0:42:04.160
<v Speaker 3>toxic shit. That's kind of like it's getting ahead of

0:42:04.200 --> 0:42:07.320
<v Speaker 3>the toxic shit. You know, like we're we're talking about

0:42:07.320 --> 0:42:12.160
<v Speaker 3>it openly. You know, there's a level of transparency that

0:42:12.280 --> 0:42:14.200
<v Speaker 3>wasn't in prior relationships, right.

0:42:14.360 --> 0:42:16.600
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, you know, And I just had an epiphany.

0:42:16.640 --> 0:42:18.520
<v Speaker 1>I think, ladies, if you're listening, I think when you

0:42:18.560 --> 0:42:20.880
<v Speaker 1>get a get a man like that his later twenties,

0:42:21.040 --> 0:42:24.000
<v Speaker 1>right before the thirties, I'm feeling like, if they're smart,

0:42:24.000 --> 0:42:26.200
<v Speaker 1>if you get a young smart one, you can like

0:42:26.280 --> 0:42:28.200
<v Speaker 1>teach them and guide them, like Shandon.

0:42:28.120 --> 0:42:30.800
<v Speaker 2>Just fat out fact honestly.

0:42:30.400 --> 0:42:32.959
<v Speaker 1>Like Orlando's like when I met him was like twenty nine.

0:42:33.040 --> 0:42:35.399
<v Speaker 1>You know. Now i'e thirty one, strong, thirty one. He's

0:42:35.480 --> 0:42:38.239
<v Speaker 1>talking on podcasts. Podcasters are smart. They're doing a lot

0:42:38.239 --> 0:42:42.160
<v Speaker 1>of talking. I'm literallying daily, literally, I mean I told

0:42:42.239 --> 0:42:43.799
<v Speaker 1>you me andn't I don't have a conversation. And I

0:42:43.800 --> 0:42:45.160
<v Speaker 1>was like, why do you think this is so easy?

0:42:45.239 --> 0:42:47.440
<v Speaker 1>We're communicating all the time and talking about our feelings

0:42:47.680 --> 0:42:50.799
<v Speaker 1>exad because we're both podcasters. Baby, we're mature and we're

0:42:50.880 --> 0:42:52.560
<v Speaker 1>learning all the time. And I was like, you're right.

0:42:52.560 --> 0:42:55.640
<v Speaker 1>We're in the school of podcasting, it's independent podcast studies,

0:42:55.880 --> 0:42:58.600
<v Speaker 1>and we're always talking like, let's evolve.

0:42:58.640 --> 0:42:59.839
<v Speaker 2>What do you think about this relationship? Do you think

0:42:59.840 --> 0:43:00.160
<v Speaker 2>abot this?

0:43:00.160 --> 0:43:01.839
<v Speaker 1>What do you think about that? And it's like the

0:43:01.880 --> 0:43:06.319
<v Speaker 1>most like fucking annoying, talkative, fucking relationship. But here we are.

0:43:06.440 --> 0:43:07.640
<v Speaker 1>This is what you need to do. You need to

0:43:07.640 --> 0:43:12.200
<v Speaker 1>find an early thirties, late twenties podcast here and mold

0:43:12.280 --> 0:43:14.680
<v Speaker 1>them and tell them the game and they have to

0:43:14.719 --> 0:43:17.160
<v Speaker 1>be ready to absorb and then they get a husband.

0:43:20.280 --> 0:43:22.560
<v Speaker 3>There's some fuck boys that at forty years old though, So.

0:43:23.120 --> 0:43:26.480
<v Speaker 1>That's what I'm saying, that's why you get them when

0:43:26.520 --> 0:43:28.279
<v Speaker 1>they've been around, like they have a lot of young

0:43:28.280 --> 0:43:30.000
<v Speaker 1>peatures that are crazy and then now you're like, let

0:43:30.040 --> 0:43:32.080
<v Speaker 1>me show you the way. You know, you're like, let

0:43:32.120 --> 0:43:33.960
<v Speaker 1>me show you. When it's like I'm saying, I'm gonna

0:43:33.960 --> 0:43:35.480
<v Speaker 1>be honest, and then they'll be like, huh, this is

0:43:35.560 --> 0:43:36.080
<v Speaker 1>kind of cool.

0:43:36.280 --> 0:43:39.120
<v Speaker 3>Yeah yeah, mesmerized, you know.

0:43:39.600 --> 0:43:41.000
<v Speaker 1>I just I broke the code.

0:43:41.200 --> 0:43:51.759
<v Speaker 2>Yeah wow later only two hundred plus episodes, thank you.

0:43:52.760 --> 0:43:53.520
<v Speaker 3>Oh my god.

0:43:53.640 --> 0:43:56.160
<v Speaker 1>I never I never thought that I wanted to date

0:43:56.280 --> 0:43:57.600
<v Speaker 1>like someone who talked as much as me.

0:43:57.840 --> 0:43:59.400
<v Speaker 2>But you know, like get the content.

0:44:01.120 --> 0:44:04.200
<v Speaker 3>Do you talk a lot of off air? Uh?

0:44:04.840 --> 0:44:04.880
<v Speaker 2>No?

0:44:05.440 --> 0:44:07.200
<v Speaker 1>Sometimes we could be quiet, but if you talk a lot,

0:44:07.239 --> 0:44:09.200
<v Speaker 1>like in general, I do, especially when I get excited,

0:44:09.560 --> 0:44:11.799
<v Speaker 1>really excited about a topic. Yeah, sometimes I shut the

0:44:11.840 --> 0:44:16.160
<v Speaker 1>fuck up. Oh yeah, but sometimes after talking for so long,

0:44:16.239 --> 0:44:16.520
<v Speaker 1>I'm like.

0:44:16.520 --> 0:44:21.719
<v Speaker 3>Okay, yeah, see, I'm like, I like being quiet a lot,

0:44:21.880 --> 0:44:25.000
<v Speaker 3>like if I'm in social environments around people or you know,

0:44:25.040 --> 0:44:27.680
<v Speaker 3>but if I'm around like friends or or even chant,

0:44:27.719 --> 0:44:32.200
<v Speaker 3>sometimes she's like, fucking speak, yeah, talk, and I'm like,

0:44:32.239 --> 0:44:35.600
<v Speaker 3>you don't understand. Like, I just like watching you. I

0:44:35.719 --> 0:44:38.120
<v Speaker 3>like being in your presence because the way you just

0:44:38.880 --> 0:44:41.359
<v Speaker 3>atee that spaghetti, Like I learned so much about you.

0:44:41.520 --> 0:44:45.200
<v Speaker 3>I actually enjoy watching you do normal stuff. I enjoy

0:44:45.320 --> 0:44:48.680
<v Speaker 3>just sitting in silence with you, watching you blink, watching

0:44:48.680 --> 0:44:51.920
<v Speaker 3>you do things, because that just expresses things to me

0:44:52.680 --> 0:44:55.399
<v Speaker 3>that you can't even tell me and so, but she's

0:44:55.440 --> 0:44:57.520
<v Speaker 3>just like I hate it, Like I want to talk,

0:44:57.800 --> 0:44:59.799
<v Speaker 3>you know, but we talk too, but at the same time,

0:44:59.920 --> 0:45:02.200
<v Speaker 3>like I get the most time together when we're just

0:45:02.239 --> 0:45:04.280
<v Speaker 3>like chilling. Yeah.

0:45:04.440 --> 0:45:06.200
<v Speaker 2>I think I'm similar in that way too. It's like,

0:45:06.400 --> 0:45:08.359
<v Speaker 2>I mean obvious, I'm a podcaster, so I fucking talk

0:45:08.440 --> 0:45:12.960
<v Speaker 2>for a living. But I like silence. I'm definitely an observer.

0:45:13.840 --> 0:45:16.560
<v Speaker 2>If we can't sit in silence, then it makes me nervous.

0:45:17.120 --> 0:45:18.880
<v Speaker 2>I feel like I have to like, oh, yeah, you

0:45:18.920 --> 0:45:20.480
<v Speaker 2>have to be able to sit in silence, like I

0:45:20.520 --> 0:45:22.640
<v Speaker 2>have to keep talking now, like what I don't want

0:45:22.680 --> 0:45:24.480
<v Speaker 2>to talk? Yeah, And then I'm like, what the what

0:45:24.480 --> 0:45:25.719
<v Speaker 2>do you have to talk about? Shut the fuck up?

0:45:26.160 --> 0:45:30.640
<v Speaker 2>Like I just I just I feel like I feel

0:45:30.680 --> 0:45:34.680
<v Speaker 2>like if you can be still with someone and not

0:45:34.800 --> 0:45:36.799
<v Speaker 2>have to say much, you know, like.

0:45:36.880 --> 0:45:40.120
<v Speaker 3>It means more to me. I mean it's not for everyone, Yeah,

0:45:40.160 --> 0:45:43.360
<v Speaker 3>it means a lot. It's just dope. It just shows

0:45:43.400 --> 0:45:46.399
<v Speaker 3>me all the like small bits and pieces of you

0:45:46.880 --> 0:45:50.120
<v Speaker 3>that you probably don't even realize in yourself, you know.

0:45:51.440 --> 0:45:54.760
<v Speaker 2>So I know in your like you're married, our father

0:45:54.960 --> 0:45:57.160
<v Speaker 2>of you know too, Okay, do you know if you're

0:45:57.160 --> 0:45:57.960
<v Speaker 2>having another girl.

0:45:58.040 --> 0:45:58.920
<v Speaker 3>We're having a girl.

0:46:00.760 --> 0:46:02.120
<v Speaker 2>You're in the house the whole lady.

0:46:02.239 --> 0:46:05.560
<v Speaker 3>Yeah. Yeah, they out number me, know, yeah.

0:46:06.480 --> 0:46:11.320
<v Speaker 2>Woke little babies, a little woke baby, little feminists.

0:46:12.000 --> 0:46:14.480
<v Speaker 3>Yeah, they're they're they're they're deep right now.

0:46:14.880 --> 0:46:17.400
<v Speaker 2>But when you and Shan start as fuck budd you

0:46:17.400 --> 0:46:20.359
<v Speaker 2>guys are so entered into like an open relationship too, right, yep?

0:46:20.520 --> 0:46:22.600
<v Speaker 2>And then is your marriage open? Is that something that

0:46:22.680 --> 0:46:23.799
<v Speaker 2>you Yeah, it's weird.

0:46:23.840 --> 0:46:27.839
<v Speaker 3>It's like we're not like I'm not like we're not

0:46:27.880 --> 0:46:29.920
<v Speaker 3>doing anything right now because we're just so busy. You

0:46:29.960 --> 0:46:32.520
<v Speaker 3>got the baby and everything. But our relationship has not

0:46:32.719 --> 0:46:36.880
<v Speaker 3>changed since the start, just the titles, I guess and

0:46:36.960 --> 0:46:41.400
<v Speaker 3>the more that we share. You know, it's a long life.

0:46:42.360 --> 0:46:45.840
<v Speaker 2>Do you feel like it's shifts, Like obviously relationships go

0:46:45.880 --> 0:46:49.200
<v Speaker 2>through shifts, and like you might be more heavily you know,

0:46:49.640 --> 0:46:52.399
<v Speaker 2>active in your openness, you know, early on, and then

0:46:52.520 --> 0:46:55.400
<v Speaker 2>you know, you get do you find closeness and then

0:46:55.640 --> 0:46:58.040
<v Speaker 2>maybe kids get involved in things. Do you think that

0:46:58.560 --> 0:47:00.080
<v Speaker 2>I mean, this might be a silly question, but like

0:47:00.480 --> 0:47:04.359
<v Speaker 2>not practicing your openness makes you get farther and farther

0:47:04.440 --> 0:47:05.000
<v Speaker 2>away from it.

0:47:05.200 --> 0:47:06.000
<v Speaker 1>That's a good question.

0:47:06.239 --> 0:47:09.759
<v Speaker 3>Maybe I probably you know, it's like it's almost like

0:47:09.800 --> 0:47:11.839
<v Speaker 3>fighting for your relationship or like like we were talking

0:47:11.840 --> 0:47:14.879
<v Speaker 3>about earlier, like fighting to stay in this in this.

0:47:15.120 --> 0:47:16.479
<v Speaker 2>But what is fighting to stay open?

0:47:16.520 --> 0:47:24.600
<v Speaker 1>Like somebody? But I no, you know what it is.

0:47:24.719 --> 0:47:27.080
<v Speaker 3>I think when you're when we were younger, there was

0:47:27.080 --> 0:47:29.160
<v Speaker 3>a lot more opportunity to meet more people. There was

0:47:29.160 --> 0:47:31.879
<v Speaker 3>a lot. It was just there was more opportunity there.

0:47:32.200 --> 0:47:34.680
<v Speaker 3>I think right now with you know, even with going

0:47:34.680 --> 0:47:36.600
<v Speaker 3>through the pandemic and then now we have a child

0:47:36.640 --> 0:47:38.279
<v Speaker 3>and another one on the way, there's like a lot

0:47:38.320 --> 0:47:41.760
<v Speaker 3>more demanding at the home and what we are creating

0:47:41.800 --> 0:47:44.759
<v Speaker 3>together that I just don't think there's that as much opportunity.

0:47:45.200 --> 0:47:48.080
<v Speaker 3>But the idea and the fundamentals of our relationship is

0:47:48.080 --> 0:47:53.239
<v Speaker 3>still the same. So if if opportunity presented itself and

0:47:53.880 --> 0:47:56.359
<v Speaker 3>we both vibed with it, then it wasn't It's not

0:47:56.400 --> 0:47:57.120
<v Speaker 3>an issue.

0:47:57.719 --> 0:48:01.319
<v Speaker 1>Do you guys play together? Have you guys? We haven't

0:48:01.360 --> 0:48:03.200
<v Speaker 1>done anything together. We've talked about it.

0:48:03.239 --> 0:48:06.880
<v Speaker 3>There's been potentials, there's been you know, situations, but we

0:48:06.960 --> 0:48:11.000
<v Speaker 3>haven't actually both done something together with somebody.

0:48:11.520 --> 0:48:13.560
<v Speaker 1>Have you ever been to a sex party? No?

0:48:13.680 --> 0:48:17.080
<v Speaker 3>But we actually we almost went to one, but I

0:48:17.120 --> 0:48:20.799
<v Speaker 3>think what happened was like, because what happened we got

0:48:20.800 --> 0:48:22.640
<v Speaker 3>invited to one or maybe we looked one of the

0:48:22.640 --> 0:48:25.000
<v Speaker 3>all internet or something. I don't know have it, but

0:48:25.040 --> 0:48:26.759
<v Speaker 3>we found something we were going to go to one

0:48:26.840 --> 0:48:29.000
<v Speaker 3>early on when we were first started dating. But I

0:48:29.000 --> 0:48:30.920
<v Speaker 3>don't remember what happened. We ended up not going. We

0:48:30.960 --> 0:48:33.239
<v Speaker 3>always wanted to, we never just ended up going, though.

0:48:34.280 --> 0:48:37.280
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, I mean I think I think that relationships obviously

0:48:37.280 --> 0:48:38.560
<v Speaker 2>like they're lad. I don't want to make it sound

0:48:38.600 --> 0:48:40.640
<v Speaker 2>like you have to fight just keep your marriage open.

0:48:41.600 --> 0:48:43.720
<v Speaker 2>I was just curious. I was just curious how that works,

0:48:43.800 --> 0:48:46.040
<v Speaker 2>especially I mean now that you do have kids, and

0:48:46.440 --> 0:48:49.120
<v Speaker 2>it's not something that they maybe would be accustomed to

0:48:49.200 --> 0:48:51.799
<v Speaker 2>experience of you as parents, And I don't even know

0:48:51.840 --> 0:48:53.640
<v Speaker 2>like how you would navigate that. Maybe you've had that

0:48:53.640 --> 0:48:56.960
<v Speaker 2>conversation about how you would navigate openness as far as

0:48:57.040 --> 0:49:00.560
<v Speaker 2>like introducing like people to your children or if it's

0:49:00.760 --> 0:49:04.720
<v Speaker 2>be kept separately then like because you're not actively open

0:49:06.000 --> 0:49:08.400
<v Speaker 2>them them being like, wait, hold up, what is this

0:49:08.560 --> 0:49:08.880
<v Speaker 2>hold on?

0:49:09.280 --> 0:49:12.120
<v Speaker 3>Weird? I hear that, And it's something that people have

0:49:12.200 --> 0:49:15.200
<v Speaker 3>asked me before, you know, even before we even had kids.

0:49:15.239 --> 0:49:18.880
<v Speaker 3>They're like, but what are you children? And it's like yeah,

0:49:18.920 --> 0:49:23.040
<v Speaker 3>oh god, yeah, but it's like forbid, do do do

0:49:23.160 --> 0:49:26.319
<v Speaker 3>people who are not open? Oh? Thank you? Do people

0:49:26.320 --> 0:49:29.560
<v Speaker 3>who are not open do they like at a certain

0:49:29.600 --> 0:49:32.880
<v Speaker 3>age be like, so mommy and daddy are having sex,

0:49:33.560 --> 0:49:34.640
<v Speaker 3>you know what I mean, Like we're not.

0:49:34.719 --> 0:49:35.000
<v Speaker 1>I'm not.

0:49:35.239 --> 0:49:37.960
<v Speaker 3>We're not sharing our sex life with our kids like that,

0:49:38.360 --> 0:49:41.200
<v Speaker 3>you know what I mean. We're educating our kids on sex,

0:49:41.520 --> 0:49:44.440
<v Speaker 3>but we're not being Like so Mommy was.

0:49:44.680 --> 0:49:46.759
<v Speaker 2>Well, wouldn't be like necessarily sex, I mean just even

0:49:46.800 --> 0:49:50.080
<v Speaker 2>showing affection to you know, like other people, other people,

0:49:50.120 --> 0:49:52.000
<v Speaker 2>like you know, Like, I don't know, I don't know

0:49:52.000 --> 0:49:54.440
<v Speaker 2>how you guys navigate with just your regular friendships. So like,

0:49:54.880 --> 0:49:57.400
<v Speaker 2>do you like like hugging a woman, Like would it

0:49:57.400 --> 0:49:59.440
<v Speaker 2>be uncomfortable to see daddy hug a woman and give

0:49:59.760 --> 0:50:01.920
<v Speaker 2>her kiss on the mouth or even a kiss on

0:50:01.920 --> 0:50:03.280
<v Speaker 2>the cheek, Like is that awkward?

0:50:03.600 --> 0:50:03.880
<v Speaker 1>Yeah?

0:50:04.160 --> 0:50:04.600
<v Speaker 3>I don't know.

0:50:04.680 --> 0:50:05.120
<v Speaker 1>I don't.

0:50:05.120 --> 0:50:05.359
<v Speaker 2>I don't.

0:50:05.400 --> 0:50:07.040
<v Speaker 3>I haven't really thought about it. I mean I know

0:50:07.120 --> 0:50:10.759
<v Speaker 3>that that's just like I'm not like that right now,

0:50:11.000 --> 0:50:11.560
<v Speaker 3>you know what I mean.

0:50:11.680 --> 0:50:13.759
<v Speaker 1>Usually, if there was.

0:50:14.840 --> 0:50:17.000
<v Speaker 3>Something that was crossing a line, I usually would have

0:50:17.400 --> 0:50:20.200
<v Speaker 3>wouldn't even do that in front of you know, my kids.

0:50:20.239 --> 0:50:24.000
<v Speaker 3>But yeah, I'm not sure. I haven't really thought about that.

0:50:24.320 --> 0:50:25.200
<v Speaker 3>It's a great question.

0:50:25.920 --> 0:50:26.960
<v Speaker 2>What's your type?

0:50:27.960 --> 0:50:28.319
<v Speaker 4>I don't know.

0:50:28.320 --> 0:50:31.640
<v Speaker 2>I had a type, Like I'm going to be open

0:50:31.719 --> 0:50:36.600
<v Speaker 2>right now today, if you're gonna fight to keep it open.

0:50:37.719 --> 0:50:39.520
<v Speaker 3>You know what it is? I like, you know, I

0:50:39.600 --> 0:50:45.000
<v Speaker 3>like confident. You know, women who are sure what they

0:50:45.040 --> 0:50:46.880
<v Speaker 3>want and what they what they want to have in

0:50:46.960 --> 0:50:51.960
<v Speaker 3>the experience. It's I like older women. You know, not

0:50:51.960 --> 0:50:57.000
<v Speaker 3>nothing against younger women, but I just older. I mean

0:50:57.080 --> 0:50:58.800
<v Speaker 3>everybody out did has always been older.

0:50:58.560 --> 0:50:59.960
<v Speaker 1>Than me by how many years?

0:51:00.120 --> 0:51:01.600
<v Speaker 2>Like? What's the look five?

0:51:01.680 --> 0:51:03.560
<v Speaker 3>I mean, shen is I don't want to put it.

0:51:03.719 --> 0:51:04.520
<v Speaker 3>I don't even do that.

0:51:04.719 --> 0:51:05.640
<v Speaker 1>I go do that right now.

0:51:05.719 --> 0:51:09.520
<v Speaker 3>Oldest woman you've dated dated.

0:51:09.520 --> 0:51:12.560
<v Speaker 2>Okay whatever dated dated, dated dated.

0:51:12.640 --> 0:51:14.840
<v Speaker 3>I think the oldest was like six or seven years older.

0:51:18.719 --> 0:51:21.600
<v Speaker 3>When I was younger in high school, like I was,

0:51:22.600 --> 0:51:24.960
<v Speaker 3>there was like a thirty six year old that I

0:51:25.040 --> 0:51:25.920
<v Speaker 3>was messing with.

0:51:26.719 --> 0:51:29.040
<v Speaker 2>In high school. Yeah, you look like a baby now

0:51:29.239 --> 0:51:30.640
<v Speaker 2>right now, little baby.

0:51:32.080 --> 0:51:33.320
<v Speaker 1>No, I just graduated.

0:51:33.320 --> 0:51:33.880
<v Speaker 3>I was like eighteen.

0:51:33.920 --> 0:51:35.760
<v Speaker 2>I can still imagine you looking like a little baby.

0:51:35.800 --> 0:51:36.839
<v Speaker 3>I did, I did?

0:51:37.800 --> 0:51:38.040
<v Speaker 1>Was it?

0:51:38.080 --> 0:51:38.200
<v Speaker 3>Was it?

0:51:38.239 --> 0:51:38.720
<v Speaker 2>Your teacher?

0:51:39.320 --> 0:51:47.200
<v Speaker 3>Uh no, I don't no, no, no, not a teacher,

0:51:47.200 --> 0:51:48.680
<v Speaker 3>but it was a it was just a woman.

0:51:49.000 --> 0:51:49.840
<v Speaker 2>Where the did you mean?

0:51:50.840 --> 0:51:51.880
<v Speaker 1>Is this your porn category?

0:51:51.880 --> 0:51:53.400
<v Speaker 2>Are you like in MILFs and like teachers?

0:51:53.760 --> 0:51:56.759
<v Speaker 3>No? No, I When I was younger, I was definitely

0:51:56.920 --> 0:51:59.279
<v Speaker 3>was going into the older category. But I think that

0:51:59.800 --> 0:52:02.040
<v Speaker 3>now it's just it's more about like the maturity and

0:52:02.080 --> 0:52:05.000
<v Speaker 3>experience rather than the age, you know what I mean.

0:52:05.080 --> 0:52:07.000
<v Speaker 3>So I think that's what I was searching for when

0:52:07.000 --> 0:52:10.719
<v Speaker 3>I was younger, was just somebody guidance, guidance, you know,

0:52:10.800 --> 0:52:12.680
<v Speaker 3>but not even how don't even call it guidance, Just

0:52:12.680 --> 0:52:16.680
<v Speaker 3>something somebody with some maturity and experience. Yeah, that's something

0:52:16.719 --> 0:52:20.960
<v Speaker 3>that was just different than what I was experiencing at

0:52:20.960 --> 0:52:21.560
<v Speaker 3>the time.

0:52:22.440 --> 0:52:24.880
<v Speaker 1>Which were bitches that were maybe running over with you

0:52:24.960 --> 0:52:31.400
<v Speaker 1>off with cars. Yeah, well I can see different. I

0:52:31.400 --> 0:52:35.040
<v Speaker 1>don't care about none of these. I got no time,

0:52:37.320 --> 0:52:39.120
<v Speaker 1>you know. I feel like I'm learning so much about

0:52:39.160 --> 0:52:41.239
<v Speaker 1>you so quickly. I think we have a game that

0:52:41.239 --> 0:52:44.239
<v Speaker 1>we play with our guest called Trigger, so we get

0:52:44.239 --> 0:52:46.879
<v Speaker 1>to know you even quicker. I'm going to say one

0:52:46.880 --> 0:52:48.839
<v Speaker 1>word and then you respond the first thing that comes

0:52:48.840 --> 0:52:50.080
<v Speaker 1>to mind. You don't have to think about it. Too

0:52:50.160 --> 0:52:52.640
<v Speaker 1>much and be brutally honest. Even if it's toxic. We

0:52:52.680 --> 0:52:54.160
<v Speaker 1>accept you here, toxic or not.

0:52:55.239 --> 0:52:57.080
<v Speaker 3>I've been, I've been. I've been honest.

0:52:57.200 --> 0:52:57.920
<v Speaker 2>Think it okay?

0:52:58.560 --> 0:53:08.239
<v Speaker 1>Fatherhood, Uh, great monogamy, it's cool. Boxers or briefs, boxers, idole.

0:53:11.440 --> 0:53:11.960
<v Speaker 3>American.

0:53:14.600 --> 0:53:16.399
<v Speaker 2>Most spontaneous thing you've ever done?

0:53:18.719 --> 0:53:19.920
<v Speaker 3>Skinned up in ocean.

0:53:21.200 --> 0:53:24.960
<v Speaker 2>Kevin Samuel's. Yeah, bad habits.

0:53:26.320 --> 0:53:28.400
<v Speaker 3>Uh love McDonald's.

0:53:29.440 --> 0:53:34.560
<v Speaker 2>Fish filet. No, the only thing that on the menu.

0:53:35.880 --> 0:53:43.240
<v Speaker 1>Marriage It's great, Molly, I've done it.

0:53:45.040 --> 0:53:46.920
<v Speaker 2>Favorite Strand.

0:53:47.960 --> 0:53:52.440
<v Speaker 3>Indica Strand? Is that.

0:53:52.880 --> 0:53:57.400
<v Speaker 2>Strand strange? I'm like, is that a merger? Shannon?

0:53:57.920 --> 0:53:59.319
<v Speaker 3>You have to be like, does it have to be

0:53:59.360 --> 0:53:59.839
<v Speaker 3>like the name?

0:54:00.160 --> 0:54:00.319
<v Speaker 1>Hm?

0:54:00.760 --> 0:54:04.640
<v Speaker 2>Oh no, no, no, no, I I don't know. You

0:54:04.680 --> 0:54:07.799
<v Speaker 2>know it's it's a strange and yeah, it could be.

0:54:07.800 --> 0:54:09.600
<v Speaker 2>I guess could be either it's again.

0:54:12.480 --> 0:54:13.120
<v Speaker 3>You know you got.

0:54:14.520 --> 0:54:16.600
<v Speaker 1>I'm high from earlier and I'm about to keep getting high,

0:54:16.600 --> 0:54:17.560
<v Speaker 1>so I don't really need you.

0:54:17.719 --> 0:54:17.879
<v Speaker 2>Wait.

0:54:17.920 --> 0:54:19.439
<v Speaker 1>Can I tell the story about when I was high

0:54:19.680 --> 0:54:21.440
<v Speaker 1>and I ordered the coffee and I tell everybody that

0:54:22.320 --> 0:54:24.680
<v Speaker 1>you tell me, I'll tell you later.

0:54:24.719 --> 0:54:25.400
<v Speaker 2>It's so stupid.

0:54:26.560 --> 0:54:32.200
<v Speaker 1>Stay at home, dad, I'll do it. Black women love it.

0:54:32.840 --> 0:54:43.440
<v Speaker 1>Happily ever after. It's true white women, one time, one.

0:54:43.200 --> 0:54:47.080
<v Speaker 2>Time, one time, one time, I will even one in

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<v Speaker 2>my life. Really, you're from the valley?

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<v Speaker 3>No, well, my dad lived in the valley, but I

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<v Speaker 3>lived in the I e.

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<v Speaker 1>Not me being shocked really in the valley, Like I'm

0:54:56.120 --> 0:54:57.240
<v Speaker 1>not a black woman from the valley.

0:54:57.520 --> 0:54:59.160
<v Speaker 3>My brothers from the valley. He said he'd only been

0:54:59.160 --> 0:55:04.759
<v Speaker 3>with two. Where's your brother at brother? Really he's twenty three?

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<v Speaker 2>Turn on.

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<v Speaker 3>Aggressive mm hmm, turn off messy.

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<v Speaker 2>Favorite porn category.

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<v Speaker 3>The four women page? Part? Yeah, what do you mean?

0:55:22.760 --> 0:55:23.840
<v Speaker 2>The four women page?

0:55:24.040 --> 0:55:26.120
<v Speaker 3>There's a there's a section, there's a topic where it's

0:55:26.160 --> 0:55:28.280
<v Speaker 3>four women. It's just a little bit.

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<v Speaker 2>More uh less wrong?

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<v Speaker 3>No lighting, I like, I like it's important. It's important.

0:55:36.800 --> 0:55:40.239
<v Speaker 3>It's important. The lighting is good, you know what I'm saying.

0:55:40.440 --> 0:55:43.600
<v Speaker 3>They just they get cinematography. It gets like, you know, like,

0:55:43.680 --> 0:55:45.359
<v Speaker 3>have you ever watched like an Erica Left film?

0:55:45.880 --> 0:55:46.440
<v Speaker 2>No?

0:55:46.600 --> 0:55:50.440
<v Speaker 3>Okay, so she's a woman porn director.

0:55:50.440 --> 0:55:53.040
<v Speaker 1>I feel like I've heard of her.

0:55:53.320 --> 0:55:55.000
<v Speaker 3>She just makes better porn.

0:55:55.400 --> 0:55:57.360
<v Speaker 1>Okay, So now I can't wait to go home and

0:55:57.400 --> 0:56:03.759
<v Speaker 1>go to the women. Oh my god, that rose Okay,

0:56:05.640 --> 0:56:09.160
<v Speaker 1>favorite position I like.

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<v Speaker 3>I don't know what it's called. But when you're on top,

0:56:11.200 --> 0:56:12.879
<v Speaker 3>like I say, I'm on the edge of the couch

0:56:13.040 --> 0:56:14.920
<v Speaker 3>and you're on top, and I'm like holding your ass

0:56:14.960 --> 0:56:19.120
<v Speaker 3>here and I'm moving like this like a ride.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know if hold on.

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<v Speaker 3>Sorry, guys, moved the mic real quick.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know if it's a your like.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm on the edge your model.

0:56:28.360 --> 0:56:32.759
<v Speaker 1>Like this, like you have more leverage with your hands. Yeah, well,

0:56:32.800 --> 0:56:35.239
<v Speaker 1>like you could stand up like baby boy or you

0:56:35.239 --> 0:56:35.680
<v Speaker 1>could do that.

0:56:35.880 --> 0:56:41.680
<v Speaker 3>But yeah, I like to I like it like that.

0:56:42.120 --> 0:56:44.719
<v Speaker 2>Celebrity crush. You know.

0:56:44.800 --> 0:56:48.480
<v Speaker 3>I was just talking about this and we're empty right now.

0:56:48.800 --> 0:56:52.680
<v Speaker 3>What there's not one, there's not I haven't I was

0:56:52.880 --> 0:56:54.400
<v Speaker 3>just talking about this with a friend. I was like,

0:56:54.440 --> 0:56:56.560
<v Speaker 3>who if someone slitting your d MS, who would you

0:56:56.640 --> 0:56:57.239
<v Speaker 3>risk it all for?

0:56:58.080 --> 0:56:59.880
<v Speaker 1>And I don't.

0:57:00.480 --> 0:57:04.680
<v Speaker 3>I don't know. You think that was the first person

0:57:04.719 --> 0:57:06.320
<v Speaker 3>that came to mind, But it's like would I I

0:57:06.320 --> 0:57:07.560
<v Speaker 3>don't think I would would.

0:57:09.520 --> 0:57:12.640
<v Speaker 1>Everybody in this room would do it. Pregnant nine months.

0:57:14.800 --> 0:57:16.320
<v Speaker 3>I'm just the father that stepped up.

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<v Speaker 2>Single mom terrible.

0:57:22.400 --> 0:57:27.800
<v Speaker 3>That's not good. And on the guys side, what is

0:57:27.800 --> 0:57:35.160
<v Speaker 3>it good? Is it good to be a mom?

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<v Speaker 1>You do realize you're sitting but in our studio, like

0:57:42.120 --> 0:57:43.440
<v Speaker 1>we could jump you right?

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<v Speaker 3>No, no, but but but but no, why said it? Though?

0:57:49.680 --> 0:57:53.000
<v Speaker 1>Oh my god, that's what you think. It's going great trade.

0:57:53.040 --> 0:57:54.960
<v Speaker 1>We gotta put Jared in the trunk.

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<v Speaker 3>I wouldn't want that for anybody.

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<v Speaker 1>We don't know he ever got here.

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<v Speaker 2>We have.

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<v Speaker 1>Do we'll take care of him.

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<v Speaker 3>No, I don't mean that in like a disrespectful way,

0:58:10.120 --> 0:58:10.960
<v Speaker 3>if that makes me sense.

0:58:11.000 --> 0:58:14.800
<v Speaker 1>It's more like, what you're not making it better?

0:58:15.240 --> 0:58:16.479
<v Speaker 2>He said, what do you.

0:58:16.400 --> 0:58:17.920
<v Speaker 3>What do you think? What do you think I mean

0:58:17.960 --> 0:58:18.400
<v Speaker 3>by it? Though?

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<v Speaker 2>Wait, what's.

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<v Speaker 1>What do you think I mean by it?

0:58:23.480 --> 0:58:23.800
<v Speaker 2>He said?

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<v Speaker 1>Not even like that.

0:58:24.560 --> 0:58:28.000
<v Speaker 2>I mean I just mean like, what.

0:58:29.640 --> 0:58:30.640
<v Speaker 3>Do you think I mean by I don't know?

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<v Speaker 2>You tired fast? You feel bad?

0:58:32.280 --> 0:58:32.840
<v Speaker 1>Yeah?

0:58:32.640 --> 0:58:35.680
<v Speaker 3>Yeah, I feel bad if we if you have did

0:58:35.720 --> 0:58:36.240
<v Speaker 3>this single?

0:58:36.400 --> 0:58:40.840
<v Speaker 1>No help? This is our media needs to be better.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh my god, oh god.

0:58:43.800 --> 0:58:48.080
<v Speaker 3>Here's here's here's my thinking. Here's my thinking. Here's my thinking.

0:58:48.200 --> 0:58:49.360
<v Speaker 1>Not for the week of high but I don't know

0:58:49.360 --> 0:58:50.240
<v Speaker 1>if it's.

0:58:50.960 --> 0:58:55.000
<v Speaker 3>Here's my thinking. Here's my thinking. Shan Shan had COVID

0:58:55.040 --> 0:58:57.480
<v Speaker 3>for two weeks, so I'm having.

0:58:57.240 --> 0:59:00.000
<v Speaker 2>A single mom for ten days.

0:59:00.520 --> 0:59:01.280
<v Speaker 3>It was hard.

0:59:01.960 --> 0:59:04.400
<v Speaker 1>It was hard. Oh my god, this is fresh off

0:59:04.960 --> 0:59:06.240
<v Speaker 1>of a baby twenty four hours for.

0:59:09.160 --> 0:59:12.240
<v Speaker 3>Vibes, and that's where it's like, Oh, that's where that

0:59:12.240 --> 0:59:15.240
<v Speaker 3>that's where the side comes from. Oh my god. Well,

0:59:15.840 --> 0:59:18.600
<v Speaker 3>not not to say that it was not like a dish,

0:59:18.840 --> 0:59:21.800
<v Speaker 3>if that means I could see how it could be interpret.

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<v Speaker 2>That way, though, Mom is gonna come for you. Oh

0:59:25.400 --> 0:59:27.440
<v Speaker 2>my god, get you ready for your d m.

0:59:27.880 --> 0:59:30.360
<v Speaker 3>Well, my heart is good. It was coming from a

0:59:30.400 --> 0:59:33.720
<v Speaker 3>place because like that felt like it's hard.

0:59:33.800 --> 0:59:34.920
<v Speaker 2>You can't believe it.

0:59:35.000 --> 0:59:35.800
<v Speaker 3>It's hard.

0:59:37.240 --> 0:59:39.480
<v Speaker 1>I was actually just talking about I was trying to

0:59:39.480 --> 0:59:40.360
<v Speaker 1>be enjoy it.

0:59:41.440 --> 0:59:43.959
<v Speaker 3>I was just talking to Shan. I was like, I

0:59:44.040 --> 0:59:46.480
<v Speaker 3>don't know how single people do it. This is hard.

0:59:48.560 --> 0:59:53.160
<v Speaker 1>Oh my goodness, it's hard. You don't have a few

0:59:53.200 --> 0:59:59.840
<v Speaker 1>more sex magic. I never thought of that.

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<v Speaker 2>Infestation masturbation.

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<v Speaker 3>Masturbation is good. What is that? Like? You manifesting how

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<v Speaker 3>you masturbate?

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<v Speaker 1>Now you manifest what you want when you when you claim.

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<v Speaker 3>Oh I've never done that, Maybe I should try that

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<v Speaker 3>than therapy, it's good, you should do it.

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<v Speaker 2>Best advice you've ever gotten.

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<v Speaker 3>Uh, you're worried about the critics that ain't protocol and insecurity.

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<v Speaker 3>Everybody got it? M hm, you have an insecurity.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 3>I think my insecurity is that you won't I won't

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<v Speaker 3>be accepted by the people I look up to.

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<v Speaker 2>Is it like your family or those like?

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<v Speaker 3>No, Like let's say, I don't know, like because I

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<v Speaker 3>do music, so like there's there's artists that I look

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<v Speaker 3>up to, where there's artists that I that I like

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<v Speaker 3>study off of or learn from. And if they were

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<v Speaker 3>to hear any of my music and say, oh this

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<v Speaker 3>guys trash like that hurt your feeling that.

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<v Speaker 2>You're an artist and you're sensitive about your ship.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, yeah, words of I say.

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<v Speaker 2>I mean I used to feel that way a lot

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<v Speaker 2>about like wanting to have like the respect of my

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<v Speaker 2>I guess idols and ways and of course you want

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<v Speaker 2>them to it. It feels nice, but.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, but yes, it's the ultimate place that you want

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<v Speaker 3>to be in, you know, but it's still in security sometimes.

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<v Speaker 2>No, that was it?

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<v Speaker 3>You're still upset about that single life?

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<v Speaker 1>How about this? What if this is a learning moment?

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<v Speaker 1>What do you think?

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<v Speaker 3>What if this is a learning moment? What do you

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<v Speaker 3>think that What did you feel when I said that

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<v Speaker 3>it's were you raised my single mother or yeah, I

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<v Speaker 3>don't know.

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<v Speaker 1>It was like you say terrible. What did you think

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<v Speaker 1>when I think when I say single mom? Like, what

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<v Speaker 1>do you think of single moms? Like you could have

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<v Speaker 1>said strength?

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<v Speaker 3>Well, I was thinking about and so what that is

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<v Speaker 3>all true, But the thing that I thought of I

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<v Speaker 3>was like, man, when I was taking care of ru

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<v Speaker 3>for two weeks.

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<v Speaker 1>That's hard.

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<v Speaker 2>No, that was that was that was a real response.

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<v Speaker 2>It's true. It is hard, very difficult.

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<v Speaker 3>And more and it's powerful too. It's strength that those also.

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<v Speaker 1>I think also, I think we always talk about this

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<v Speaker 1>just in general. You know, single moms, particularly single black moms,

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<v Speaker 1>get labeled as struggle, as a heartache, you know, but

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<v Speaker 1>like we're well you know what I mean, like or

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<v Speaker 1>that there's.

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<v Speaker 3>So everything is reference point, right, So I think what's

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<v Speaker 3>cool and interesting is that when I say terrible and

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<v Speaker 3>that it's bad, that you were thinking of yourself in

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<v Speaker 3>that we're not yourself in the sense, but like the

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<v Speaker 3>single mom is who I'm talking about I was talking

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<v Speaker 3>about when I was saying it, I was thinking of

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<v Speaker 3>the dad who didn't want to hate, help take care.

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<v Speaker 3>I know, I got that. It was so funny because

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<v Speaker 3>that's where my mind went was like I was talking

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<v Speaker 3>to you know, the whole abortion laws and everything, and

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<v Speaker 3>one of our co hosts was saying that if the

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<v Speaker 3>guy says from the jump, I don't want to have

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<v Speaker 3>a baby, how much how responsible is he for the baby?

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<v Speaker 3>And I was like, yeah, but you're still thinking of

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<v Speaker 3>that baby from a selfish place. You're not thinking of

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<v Speaker 3>the baby from like the baby didn't ask to be here.

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<v Speaker 3>The baby didn't choose you to be her dad. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 3>and so like now that the baby's here, you still

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<v Speaker 3>have a responsibility to take care.

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<v Speaker 2>Of it, and she has to go through both experiences

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<v Speaker 2>either one, whether it's getting an abortion or having the baby.

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<v Speaker 3>Right, and so so at the end of the day,

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<v Speaker 3>let me just make a choice. Well, at the end

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<v Speaker 3>of the day, it's like that at the end of

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<v Speaker 3>the day, you can't think of the baby from a

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<v Speaker 3>selfish place. Even if I didn't want to have the

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<v Speaker 3>baby to begin with. Now it's not about me in

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<v Speaker 3>this moment. It's about what's the healthiest for the baby.

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<v Speaker 3>So that's where my mind was going. It's like, if

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<v Speaker 3>there's a single mom out there like that dad decided

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<v Speaker 3>I didn't want to be around, or he died or

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<v Speaker 3>that Okay, well, that's that's unfortunately.

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<v Speaker 2>I mean not that was dark because I'm dark, but

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<v Speaker 2>I was thinking, or.

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<v Speaker 3>That happened to that, that's unfortunate.

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<v Speaker 2>Or you've chosen to not or you know, women also

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<v Speaker 2>choose to just not have like have that person in

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<v Speaker 2>their life, like have that person have access to their kid.

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<v Speaker 2>There's so many scenarios as to why someone would be

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<v Speaker 2>a single parent, the father leaving.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah. Well, and that's the thing is like, if you're

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<v Speaker 3>if you're thinking of one word answers, you're not going

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<v Speaker 3>through scenario.

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<v Speaker 2>We're judging him.

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<v Speaker 1>You're going off the would say you're going off the

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<v Speaker 1>one scenario.

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<v Speaker 4>What I want you to say that that's that's that's

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<v Speaker 4>kind of.

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<v Speaker 1>I want you to react. No, we're kidding. We know

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<v Speaker 1>you're a nice guy. Some of it is that kind

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<v Speaker 1>of a nice guy.

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<v Speaker 3>No, I said, yes, some of some of it everybody

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<v Speaker 3>wants to be We all got a little scar in us.

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<v Speaker 2>Wow, that was deep. My daughter's gonna love that. Evil

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<v Speaker 2>people of the world. No, yeah, scarred, mufasa. You know

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<v Speaker 2>your friend, she was just very scarred today.

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<v Speaker 1>Just today you you pulled a tarot card.

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<v Speaker 2>I did, and you pulled strength.

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<v Speaker 1>The strength card represents strength, determination, and power like the chariot. However,

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<v Speaker 1>while the chariot signifies outer strength and will, the strength

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<v Speaker 1>card speaks to the inner strength and the human spirit's

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<v Speaker 1>ability to overcome any obstacle. Strength is about knowing you

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<v Speaker 1>can endure life's obstacles. You have great stamina and persistence

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<v Speaker 1>balanced with underlying patients and inner calm. You're committed to

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<v Speaker 1>what you need to do, and you go about it

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<v Speaker 1>in a way that shows your composure and maturity with

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<v Speaker 1>the strength tarot card appears. When the strength tarot card

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<v Speaker 1>appears in a reading, you're fueled by your inner strength,

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<v Speaker 1>personal power, strong will, and determination. You do not rule

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<v Speaker 1>by trying to control others. You quietly influence and persuade.

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<v Speaker 1>Others may underestimate your power because it is so invisible

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<v Speaker 1>that you should eat, but you should see that it

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<v Speaker 1>as an advantage. You can control a situation without excessive

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<v Speaker 1>outward force. No one knows it's you calling the shots

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<v Speaker 1>that Libra.

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<v Speaker 2>It kind of sounds like what you kind of I

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<v Speaker 2>don't know about Libra, but it sounds like kind of

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<v Speaker 2>this episode you're saying that, like I don't know, like

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<v Speaker 2>you have to. You're a watcher quiet you know what

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<v Speaker 2>I mean, And but that you still and that you nap,

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<v Speaker 2>but you still navigate and like you're a powerful force.

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<v Speaker 1>Wait, listen to this. Your strength gives you confidence to

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<v Speaker 1>overcome any growing fears, challenges, or doubts. Feel the fear

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<v Speaker 1>and do it anyway. If you have been going through

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<v Speaker 1>a rough time and are burnt out or stressed, the

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<v Speaker 1>strength car encourage you to find the power within yourself

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<v Speaker 1>to persevere. Hey, you have got what it takes to

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<v Speaker 1>see the situation through, so it is to its eventual end.

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<v Speaker 1>You're a loyal friend and a solid supporter, hey, and.

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<v Speaker 2>The loyal partner for and you're holding your wife down

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<v Speaker 2>even though as hard as fun. You made it through.

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<v Speaker 1>You made it a.

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<v Speaker 2>Strength card, strength card.

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<v Speaker 3>I didn't mean it that way. I'm sorry.

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<v Speaker 2>We are with you, but it's so good.

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<v Speaker 1>You might feel compelled to hold space for someone who

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<v Speaker 1>needs your strength and support, and it seems like you

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<v Speaker 1>do that very well. That's really like it.

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<v Speaker 2>Is balanced, that's beautiful.

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<v Speaker 3>You are cards.

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<v Speaker 2>Is that you against that too?

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<v Speaker 3>I don't know anything about it. Yeah, I got I

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<v Speaker 3>had my cards pulled one time in uh turks and caicos.

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<v Speaker 3>I don't remember what they said.

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<v Speaker 1>We asked you if you had a horri Oh yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>I do.

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<v Speaker 2>Really.

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<v Speaker 1>At first, I was like, Oh, I really do like

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<v Speaker 1>that applicator, So do you?

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<v Speaker 2>I do?

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<v Speaker 3>I do? Wait, so it's like it's an actual like.

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<v Speaker 2>It's like no, it's a vitamin. It looks like a

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<v Speaker 2>like a capsule and it has bork acid in it,

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<v Speaker 2>and bork acid is like a magical ingredient that helps

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<v Speaker 2>neutralize the vagina and a healthy ease.

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<v Speaker 3>Is it? Do you eat it or do you know

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<v Speaker 3>it's positive?

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<v Speaker 2>So you put this.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know I've ever seen a suppository like it's

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<v Speaker 1>like a tampon applicator.

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<v Speaker 3>Oh yeah, So you put.

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<v Speaker 2>The vitamin in there and then you put it in

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<v Speaker 2>your vagina and then you insert it and then you

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<v Speaker 2>can go to sleep. You go to sleep in the

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<v Speaker 2>next morning, your pussy's taking Wow.

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<v Speaker 3>It's like.

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<v Speaker 1>And basically they said, there's no fix. Yeah they can't,

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<v Speaker 3>Wow.

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<v Speaker 2>So anyway, tell us your hoary stories.

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<v Speaker 3>There was a time I was I used to like

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<v Speaker 3>bartend and used to also work for like different weddings,

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<v Speaker 3>And there was one time I was working a wedding

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<v Speaker 3>and this one woman that was part of the bridesmaid

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<v Speaker 3>was there. You know, we're talking, we're chopping it up,

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<v Speaker 3>and I was flirting with her, but I didn't really

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<v Speaker 3>expect nothing out of it. It was just flirting, you know,

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<v Speaker 3>throughout the whole night, flirt, flirt, flirt. As the night

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<v Speaker 3>started to end, I like threw a joke out there, like, hey,

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<v Speaker 3>why don't you come over to my house like I live, like,

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<v Speaker 3>you know, not too far away, come through, you know,

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<v Speaker 3>and she was like okay, and I was like, oh

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<v Speaker 3>you said, yeah, okay, And I like texting my room

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<v Speaker 3>at the time. I was like, hey, bro, you gotta

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<v Speaker 3>got dip man, go do something real quick. You know,

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<v Speaker 3>I'm gonna have to, you know, it's a new situation.

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<v Speaker 3>So she ended up coming over. We had sex, and

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<v Speaker 3>I at that time, like I never I would always

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<v Speaker 3>pull out. I was like, you know, pull out, and

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<v Speaker 3>for whatever reason, in this moment, I decided to pull

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<v Speaker 3>out and take the condom off and like ejaculate on her.

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<v Speaker 2>It was a porn show.

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<v Speaker 3>I wouldn't say it was just it wasn't like it

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<v Speaker 3>wasn't like disrespectful. It was just like, you know, here

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<v Speaker 3>and then after I got done, she was like, oh,

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<v Speaker 3>my turn and then she started going and squirted all

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<v Speaker 3>over me and I wasn't ready for it, and so

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<v Speaker 3>I remember after that time, I was like, this is

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<v Speaker 3>what it is. This is what it feels like.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh my god, your turn? Yeah?

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<v Speaker 2>How many?

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<v Speaker 1>Like, how long after the your turn did it come?

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<v Speaker 3>It was pretty quick. It was pretty quick. I thought

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<v Speaker 3>it was like I didn't fully understand what she said. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 3>until it happened. I was like, oh, she said your turn,

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<v Speaker 3>it's cold and uh and then she left. I like her,

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<v Speaker 3>I'm going to do that. I was like in my head,

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<v Speaker 3>I was like, dang, maybe I should ask next time.

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<v Speaker 1>Damn so violated.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh my god, that was great. Yeah yeah, Well can

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<v Speaker 2>you tell our people where they can find you?

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<v Speaker 1>Oh?

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<v Speaker 3>Enjoy Jared Brady all social platforms. Also, we have a podcast,

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<v Speaker 3>Enjoy the Podcast where we talk about everything he hasn't

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<v Speaker 3>told you yet. So anything he's hiding from you, we

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<v Speaker 3>probably said it on that podcast. Oh wow, spilling the tea,

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<v Speaker 3>like we've break the code a couple of times.

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<v Speaker 2>The secrets.

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<v Speaker 3>I wouldn't say secrets, but.

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<v Speaker 2>You hear that, lady. This show is for you. This

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<v Speaker 2>is for This is a show for women to find

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<v Speaker 2>out if their niggas age ship.

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<v Speaker 3>But you know there's times in that when we're telling

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<v Speaker 3>the truth that sometimes can ruffle some feathers or we're learning.

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<v Speaker 3>We're very open to learn.

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<v Speaker 2>The truth is the truth.

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<v Speaker 1>If that's how you feel, you got to tell us

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