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Speaker 2: The number one health and wellness podcast Ja Shetty J,

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Speaker 2: Sheddy One Only Sheddy, Cardi B. Welcome to on Purpose.

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Speaker 2: Oh my gosh. I have to tell you something, and

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Speaker 2: I mean this. You can go back six years when

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Speaker 2: And I'll tell you why. I'll tell you why because

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Speaker 2: We're just so different externally, but I believe there's a

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Speaker 1: You know what's so funny. I saw a video of

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Speaker 1: you and I definitely want I was like, I want

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Speaker 1: and it's like, oh my gosh, he really, It's like,

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Speaker 2: Did you send it to? Did you send it to?

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Speaker 2: What did he say?

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Speaker 1: He was like yeah, exactly, And I was like, yeah, exactly.

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Speaker 2: I love it. I love it. I wanted to ask you.

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Speaker 2: First of all, I heard that you have a hidden

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Speaker 1: I can't go it comes and go, it comes and go.

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Speaker 1: I just know a lot of weird different facts about presidents,

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Speaker 1: But all the kids, how many kids do you want?

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Speaker 1: But it's not, It really is not. It's a it's

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Speaker 1: It's it's a challenge. Is to keep your mental health right.

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Speaker 1: It works so hard. You have to work hard to

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Speaker 1: tell you that you don't deserve the success that you

431
00:22:31,520 --> 00:22:35,160
Speaker 1: have and you don't deserve to do what you do

432
00:22:35,880 --> 00:22:39,479
Speaker 1: after you put in so much work, that's with you

433
00:22:39,520 --> 00:22:39,920
Speaker 1: for real?

434
00:22:40,400 --> 00:22:42,480
Speaker 2: What makes you feel like that every day? What are

435
00:22:42,520 --> 00:22:46,480
Speaker 2: the things that make you feel like there's people constantly

436
00:22:46,520 --> 00:22:49,159
Speaker 2: coming at you? What does that look like in your life?

437
00:22:49,520 --> 00:22:51,480
Speaker 1: I tell you something that has been going on for

438
00:22:51,600 --> 00:22:56,440
Speaker 1: like a hot minute, right, Like a lot of people

439
00:22:57,640 --> 00:23:01,760
Speaker 1: think that I put out music then and put out

440
00:23:01,800 --> 00:23:04,639
Speaker 1: an album that I don't be putting out this and

441
00:23:04,680 --> 00:23:07,320
Speaker 1: that because I don't know. They always say that, like

442
00:23:07,359 --> 00:23:09,840
Speaker 1: I'm always getting pregnant all the time. But I don't

443
00:23:09,840 --> 00:23:14,400
Speaker 1: think people follow timelines when it comes to having kids.

444
00:23:15,160 --> 00:23:19,840
Speaker 1: I'm very seasoned by no, I'm very seasoned right now

445
00:23:20,560 --> 00:23:24,240
Speaker 1: when I had my child. At the beginning, I canceled

446
00:23:24,240 --> 00:23:26,719
Speaker 1: going on a tour with Bruno Mars because it was

447
00:23:26,760 --> 00:23:30,520
Speaker 1: my first time having a kid. I did not know anything.

448
00:23:30,560 --> 00:23:33,159
Speaker 1: I didn't have no nanny, no night nurse. I was

449
00:23:33,200 --> 00:23:37,680
Speaker 1: figuring out all by myself. I was figuring out postpartum.

450
00:23:37,720 --> 00:23:41,399
Speaker 1: I was figuring out everything right. But even when I

451
00:23:41,440 --> 00:23:45,359
Speaker 1: had a child, it didn't stop me. Three months after

452
00:23:45,800 --> 00:23:48,840
Speaker 1: I gave birth, I was going. I was doing shows,

453
00:23:48,880 --> 00:23:54,720
Speaker 1: four or five shows a week into COVID. Then COVID

454
00:23:54,840 --> 00:23:58,240
Speaker 1: happened and I put out this big record Wop, and

455
00:23:58,240 --> 00:24:01,439
Speaker 1: I put up up. Then I got pregnant and people

456
00:24:01,520 --> 00:24:03,920
Speaker 1: thought that I didn't put out an album because I

457
00:24:03,960 --> 00:24:06,199
Speaker 1: got pregnant. But the reason why I didn't put out

458
00:24:06,200 --> 00:24:08,520
Speaker 1: an album is because I didn't have a body of work.

459
00:24:09,320 --> 00:24:10,879
Speaker 1: I just didn't have a body of work. So I

460
00:24:10,880 --> 00:24:12,600
Speaker 1: couldn't put out no music because I didn't have a

461
00:24:12,600 --> 00:24:18,359
Speaker 1: body of work. Then last year I was planning to

462
00:24:18,400 --> 00:24:21,679
Speaker 1: have an album. I was planning to put out an album,

463
00:24:22,840 --> 00:24:26,920
Speaker 1: but I couldn't focus. I felt in the deepest depression

464
00:24:27,640 --> 00:24:31,720
Speaker 1: that I had ever had, and with that depression, I

465
00:24:31,760 --> 00:24:34,919
Speaker 1: couldn't function. I couldn't function on nothing. And when I

466
00:24:34,920 --> 00:24:37,640
Speaker 1: talk about function, it's not even like, oh, just working.

467
00:24:38,000 --> 00:24:42,000
Speaker 1: I couldn't eat, I couldn't sleep, I couldn't do nothing.

468
00:24:42,240 --> 00:24:49,200
Speaker 1: So that just halted everything that I had. So it's

469
00:24:49,240 --> 00:24:52,560
Speaker 1: not really because of having a baby. Sometimes too, I

470
00:24:52,560 --> 00:24:56,320
Speaker 1: don't be wanting to put music because I love being

471
00:24:56,320 --> 00:24:58,639
Speaker 1: in the studio and I love creating music and I

472
00:24:58,680 --> 00:25:01,960
Speaker 1: love perfecting my craft. And that's like baking a cake.

473
00:25:02,280 --> 00:25:04,199
Speaker 1: You bake a cake, you practice baking a cake, you

474
00:25:04,280 --> 00:25:07,440
Speaker 1: practice baking a cake, and then when you put out

475
00:25:07,480 --> 00:25:11,240
Speaker 1: the songs, sometimes it'd be good, and sometimes like for

476
00:25:12,480 --> 00:25:15,840
Speaker 1: people would just be like, we hate it and she

477
00:25:15,840 --> 00:25:18,240
Speaker 1: shouldn't be doing this. And that's like you're baking a cake.

478
00:25:18,440 --> 00:25:20,760
Speaker 1: You bake a cake. You bake a cake, and people

479
00:25:20,760 --> 00:25:22,760
Speaker 1: eat the cake and then people be like, this is

480
00:25:22,800 --> 00:25:25,560
Speaker 1: the worst cake ever, and they splat it. Have you

481
00:25:25,560 --> 00:25:29,400
Speaker 1: ever seen the Simpson shit when they splat the cake.

482
00:25:29,720 --> 00:25:31,960
Speaker 1: That's how I be feeling, And it's like that is

483
00:25:32,040 --> 00:25:36,080
Speaker 1: the worst feeling ever. That's like a guy can you

484
00:25:37,560 --> 00:25:39,040
Speaker 1: and you think you have the best pussy in the

485
00:25:39,080 --> 00:25:41,119
Speaker 1: world and they tell you your pussy's trash. You should

486
00:25:41,119 --> 00:25:44,080
Speaker 1: never nobody no more. That's just how I feel like.

487
00:25:44,520 --> 00:25:46,119
Speaker 1: You work your work, you work, you try it on

488
00:25:46,200 --> 00:25:49,040
Speaker 1: your best to perform perfect your craft, and somebody just

489
00:25:49,080 --> 00:25:51,440
Speaker 1: tell you like, you shouldn't be doing this, you should

490
00:25:51,520 --> 00:25:55,320
Speaker 1: never do this ever in your life. It brings you

491
00:25:55,520 --> 00:25:58,520
Speaker 1: down so much and if which your mental so much

492
00:25:58,880 --> 00:26:00,800
Speaker 1: that it's like, this is why I kind of avoid it,

493
00:26:01,280 --> 00:26:04,240
Speaker 1: just for a piece of mind, Just for a piece

494
00:26:04,320 --> 00:26:11,080
Speaker 1: of mind. I've been okay for almost a year. Like

495
00:26:11,119 --> 00:26:14,399
Speaker 1: after I gave birth to my daughter, I was a

496
00:26:14,440 --> 00:26:18,600
Speaker 1: little happy. I was going outside, I started dating, I

497
00:26:18,640 --> 00:26:22,280
Speaker 1: started feeling really good. Sometimes I have bad days. Sometimes

498
00:26:22,280 --> 00:26:25,400
Speaker 1: I have good days because I feel like I'm resetting

499
00:26:25,440 --> 00:26:28,560
Speaker 1: in life. Last week, when I put out a song

500
00:26:29,760 --> 00:26:32,280
Speaker 1: and it's not really the criticism in the song, the

501
00:26:32,359 --> 00:26:35,320
Speaker 1: way that people ate me up, tore me up, chewed

502
00:26:35,359 --> 00:26:39,280
Speaker 1: me up just because of one song, I feel like

503
00:26:39,359 --> 00:26:41,840
Speaker 1: I didn't deserve that, especially for a song that I

504
00:26:41,840 --> 00:26:45,480
Speaker 1: put so much work in that I just was like,

505
00:26:45,760 --> 00:26:50,239
Speaker 1: this is why I don't really put music out like this,

506
00:26:50,400 --> 00:26:53,639
Speaker 1: because I remember how this used to feel. This is

507
00:26:53,680 --> 00:26:58,240
Speaker 1: a very terrible feeling to have. This is a very

508
00:26:58,320 --> 00:27:00,960
Speaker 1: terrible feeling to have and tell yourself like it's like

509
00:27:01,359 --> 00:27:03,680
Speaker 1: a lot of these people that are telling you these

510
00:27:03,720 --> 00:27:06,840
Speaker 1: type of things, don't have no jobs, don't have no titles,

511
00:27:06,880 --> 00:27:10,320
Speaker 1: don't have no this. But when it's millions and millions

512
00:27:10,359 --> 00:27:13,080
Speaker 1: and hundreds of thousands of people, like, it's like, not

513
00:27:13,080 --> 00:27:15,880
Speaker 1: only are they criticizing the song, they're criticizing you as

514
00:27:15,880 --> 00:27:18,160
Speaker 1: a whole. It's been like, this is why I don't

515
00:27:18,200 --> 00:27:21,560
Speaker 1: really put things up too much, because it's just like

516
00:27:21,640 --> 00:27:27,480
Speaker 1: the mental health, the peace of mind is it's so much,

517
00:27:28,080 --> 00:27:31,840
Speaker 1: it's you just gotta ask yourself some times, is it

518
00:27:31,880 --> 00:27:35,080
Speaker 1: even worth it? Is it even worth it? Because I

519
00:27:35,080 --> 00:27:39,040
Speaker 1: haven't felt down like last week for a very long time,

520
00:27:39,240 --> 00:27:42,360
Speaker 1: for almost like almost like a year, almost like a year.

521
00:27:42,520 --> 00:28:03,159
Speaker 2: Wow, talk to me about that depression for you, as

522
00:28:03,560 --> 00:28:06,080
Speaker 2: confident as you are, as bold as you are, to

523
00:28:06,119 --> 00:28:08,240
Speaker 2: be so vulnerable and I'm so sorry you went through that,

524
00:28:08,359 --> 00:28:11,080
Speaker 2: But to be so honest and open about the fact

525
00:28:11,080 --> 00:28:14,040
Speaker 2: that a year ago you were in this dark depression,

526
00:28:14,359 --> 00:28:16,879
Speaker 2: it seems like the worst that had ever been. Yeah,

527
00:28:16,960 --> 00:28:19,560
Speaker 2: what got you there? Why are you feeling so low?

528
00:28:20,520 --> 00:28:24,120
Speaker 1: It was just a lot of pressure from my career,

529
00:28:26,000 --> 00:28:30,879
Speaker 1: and I also felt like my marriage, like I felt

530
00:28:30,920 --> 00:28:37,399
Speaker 1: the love dying from may end from from from may end,

531
00:28:37,480 --> 00:28:41,280
Speaker 1: from his end. I was very lonely because I chose

532
00:28:41,320 --> 00:28:43,560
Speaker 1: to be lonely, choose to be lonely. I was saying, like,

533
00:28:43,600 --> 00:28:46,200
Speaker 1: you know what, I can't go through this anymore. I

534
00:28:46,280 --> 00:28:48,480
Speaker 1: have to put a stop to it. But when I

535
00:28:48,560 --> 00:28:50,400
Speaker 1: said I was going to put a stop to it,

536
00:28:50,440 --> 00:28:52,320
Speaker 1: because you could say you're gonna put a put a

537
00:28:52,320 --> 00:28:54,760
Speaker 1: stop to it, and you could. You could go a

538
00:28:54,880 --> 00:29:00,640
Speaker 1: month without being around somebody, It's not it's not unto you.

539
00:29:01,000 --> 00:29:06,120
Speaker 1: It's not when you say so, it's when your heart says.

540
00:29:06,160 --> 00:29:10,440
Speaker 1: So I kept telling myself, I will not contact this

541
00:29:10,480 --> 00:29:13,400
Speaker 1: person for a month. I will not give in. I

542
00:29:13,440 --> 00:29:16,840
Speaker 1: will not forgive this easy. I will not go back,

543
00:29:17,200 --> 00:29:19,480
Speaker 1: I will not go to the patterns. I will not

544
00:29:19,560 --> 00:29:22,520
Speaker 1: go through it. But I was crying every day. I

545
00:29:22,640 --> 00:29:25,240
Speaker 1: was hurt every day I was out here in La

546
00:29:25,440 --> 00:29:27,960
Speaker 1: and imagined by myself. I was thinking about it every

547
00:29:28,000 --> 00:29:31,720
Speaker 1: single day. And when your heart is not done, your

548
00:29:31,720 --> 00:29:40,480
Speaker 1: heart is not done. Then I told myself, I'm pregnant.

549
00:29:45,920 --> 00:29:52,440
Speaker 1: I'm going to accept the I'm gonna accept my flaws,

550
00:29:52,480 --> 00:29:55,320
Speaker 1: the flaws that I bring in this marriage. I'm gonna

551
00:29:55,360 --> 00:29:59,760
Speaker 1: apologize for it, and I'm gonna work on it. And

552
00:30:00,520 --> 00:30:05,240
Speaker 1: when I take accountability and you take advantage of me

553
00:30:05,400 --> 00:30:10,479
Speaker 1: taking accountability, and you take that as a see, I

554
00:30:10,520 --> 00:30:13,960
Speaker 1: know she'd be back instead of me taking accountability and

555
00:30:14,000 --> 00:30:17,880
Speaker 1: you taken advantage of that, it really just killed everything.

556
00:30:18,600 --> 00:30:23,520
Speaker 1: And while it was dying, I had a human growing

557
00:30:23,600 --> 00:30:27,080
Speaker 1: in me and I just had and I just kept thinking, like,

558
00:30:27,120 --> 00:30:31,080
Speaker 1: it's like, what's life going to be without this person?

559
00:30:31,640 --> 00:30:36,600
Speaker 1: What life going to be without raising my last child?

560
00:30:36,640 --> 00:30:39,520
Speaker 1: Without this person? What's life going to be with that

561
00:30:39,560 --> 00:30:43,600
Speaker 1: person not being my friend anymore? Without nothing. When you

562
00:30:43,640 --> 00:30:46,680
Speaker 1: have those type of thoughts, it would make you sad,

563
00:30:47,000 --> 00:30:51,800
Speaker 1: It will get you depressed, it will have you lost.

564
00:30:52,320 --> 00:30:58,440
Speaker 1: But I overcame that and I am the strongest that

565
00:30:58,560 --> 00:31:01,680
Speaker 1: like I have ever been, and like I almost feel

566
00:31:01,880 --> 00:31:07,080
Speaker 1: like when was I ever my strongest. I felt my

567
00:31:07,120 --> 00:31:09,360
Speaker 1: strongest when I was twenty two, twenty three, twenty four.

568
00:31:09,800 --> 00:31:11,959
Speaker 1: That's when I feel like my strongest. And I was

569
00:31:12,000 --> 00:31:14,240
Speaker 1: like living in a power, and that's how I feel

570
00:31:14,280 --> 00:31:16,280
Speaker 1: right now, like I feel like I live in a power.

571
00:31:17,280 --> 00:31:23,600
Speaker 1: And it took months for the heart to say you're done.

572
00:31:24,040 --> 00:31:27,200
Speaker 1: Instead of my mouth and my brain, my heart had

573
00:31:27,240 --> 00:31:29,840
Speaker 1: to be like you're done, because you could say it

574
00:31:30,120 --> 00:31:33,400
Speaker 1: and you could take actions. But even if you take actions,

575
00:31:33,440 --> 00:31:35,479
Speaker 1: if you're not done, you're not done. Like I kept asking,

576
00:31:35,960 --> 00:31:38,160
Speaker 1: like around that time, I was working with Shakiro, and

577
00:31:38,200 --> 00:31:40,960
Speaker 1: I was like, how did you over overcame this? Like?

578
00:31:41,680 --> 00:31:44,040
Speaker 1: How did you overcame this? And it's like it's going

579
00:31:44,080 --> 00:31:47,560
Speaker 1: to happen and it's like it will never happen. And

580
00:31:47,600 --> 00:31:53,720
Speaker 1: it happened. It took some crying, it took some thoughts,

581
00:31:53,720 --> 00:32:00,160
Speaker 1: scary thoughts. What I'm here, Yeah, I'm here and long

582
00:32:00,200 --> 00:32:03,320
Speaker 1: as I've been, and I'm just.

583
00:32:04,920 --> 00:32:06,480
Speaker 2: I love hearing that m.

584
00:32:08,320 --> 00:32:09,160
Speaker 1: But it was hard.

585
00:32:09,280 --> 00:32:11,080
Speaker 2: I can tell. I could tell, I could see it

586
00:32:11,600 --> 00:32:14,800
Speaker 2: as I'm speaking to you. It's it's not easy. And

587
00:32:14,840 --> 00:32:17,160
Speaker 2: I think those moments in all of our lives are

588
00:32:17,240 --> 00:32:19,479
Speaker 2: the most difficult moments. What did you do for your

589
00:32:19,480 --> 00:32:22,280
Speaker 2: mental health at that time? What did you do? What

590
00:32:22,360 --> 00:32:24,960
Speaker 2: actions did you take? What did you have to do

591
00:32:25,160 --> 00:32:27,920
Speaker 2: to keep yourself together and come back the strongest you

592
00:32:27,960 --> 00:32:29,720
Speaker 2: are right now? I think there are so many people

593
00:32:29,720 --> 00:32:32,800
Speaker 2: who are listening who've probably been through similar things, who

594
00:32:33,080 --> 00:32:37,600
Speaker 2: feel broken, feel hurt, feel lost and confused. What works

595
00:32:37,640 --> 00:32:40,520
Speaker 2: for you that helped you come back the strongest you've

596
00:32:40,560 --> 00:32:40,960
Speaker 2: ever been.

597
00:32:41,440 --> 00:32:43,520
Speaker 1: I don't know if it was just time because I

598
00:32:43,600 --> 00:32:46,760
Speaker 1: kind of did a little bit of everything, Like I

599
00:32:47,280 --> 00:32:53,120
Speaker 1: did do therapy at this at this or therapist. She's

600
00:32:53,160 --> 00:32:55,480
Speaker 1: really good. By the way. It was like on Zoom

601
00:32:56,080 --> 00:32:58,640
Speaker 1: and it was like I was telling myself like I

602
00:32:58,680 --> 00:33:02,080
Speaker 1: was like, I can't believe you. I'm telling a whole

603
00:33:02,120 --> 00:33:06,960
Speaker 1: stranger my feelings, my thoughts, my personal business for three

604
00:33:07,520 --> 00:33:15,800
Speaker 1: hours straight. What then am I doing? That just feels

605
00:33:15,840 --> 00:33:19,520
Speaker 1: so weird. I was in I did therapy for I

606
00:33:19,520 --> 00:33:25,520
Speaker 1: did a couple accessions. They gave me no nothing. I

607
00:33:25,560 --> 00:33:31,520
Speaker 1: was on Spring all summer recording. It just wasn't like enough.

608
00:33:32,440 --> 00:33:34,240
Speaker 1: I just felt like I just had to let it

609
00:33:34,320 --> 00:33:38,480
Speaker 1: die on its own. Let things die on its own.

610
00:33:38,640 --> 00:33:40,280
Speaker 1: And the bad thing about it is that it's like

611
00:33:40,320 --> 00:33:44,080
Speaker 1: now only am I dealing with that? That's my personal life.

612
00:33:44,280 --> 00:33:48,520
Speaker 1: I was also dealing with fans putting pressure on me

613
00:33:49,640 --> 00:33:51,960
Speaker 1: because they want, you know, they want album, they want

614
00:33:52,000 --> 00:33:55,400
Speaker 1: products from me. I had people that don't like me

615
00:33:56,240 --> 00:33:59,520
Speaker 1: talking down on me, and then I had peers trying

616
00:33:59,520 --> 00:34:03,720
Speaker 1: to start pounds with me and all of that while

617
00:34:03,720 --> 00:34:08,200
Speaker 1: I was going through a mental sking breakdown at home.

618
00:34:08,800 --> 00:34:11,799
Speaker 1: So it was just a lot it was like, I'm

619
00:34:11,840 --> 00:34:16,320
Speaker 1: trying to work it, I'm trying to sleep it. After

620
00:34:16,360 --> 00:34:21,439
Speaker 1: I gave birth to my daughter, my baby girl, I

621
00:34:21,480 --> 00:34:25,960
Speaker 1: was just like, get take a break from work, and

622
00:34:26,000 --> 00:34:30,560
Speaker 1: I was just going out every weekend with my friends.

623
00:34:31,040 --> 00:34:35,320
Speaker 1: It was scary talking to somebody else and giving them

624
00:34:35,640 --> 00:34:38,120
Speaker 1: a little piece of me, not just out my heart,

625
00:34:38,239 --> 00:34:39,160
Speaker 1: just a little piece of me.

626
00:34:41,440 --> 00:34:43,600
Speaker 2: And but.

627
00:34:46,800 --> 00:34:51,440
Speaker 1: I overcame that and I just that's why I feel

628
00:34:51,440 --> 00:34:53,799
Speaker 1: like I just became a little bit more better, Like

629
00:34:53,960 --> 00:34:54,680
Speaker 1: just resetting.

630
00:34:55,000 --> 00:34:57,839
Speaker 2: Yeah, it's good. It's a good reminder that time is

631
00:34:57,840 --> 00:35:02,560
Speaker 2: the ultimate reset, and time does have a healing power

632
00:35:02,960 --> 00:35:06,440
Speaker 2: that we you know, the cliche of time heals or wounds,

633
00:35:06,800 --> 00:35:08,680
Speaker 2: but it's the truth. But it's true. It's a cliche

634
00:35:08,760 --> 00:35:11,239
Speaker 2: because there's truth in it. Yeah, there's some reality in

635
00:35:11,280 --> 00:35:15,799
Speaker 2: it that time and distance and being patient enough I was.

636
00:35:16,320 --> 00:35:20,799
Speaker 2: I was working with a client recently who was going

637
00:35:20,800 --> 00:35:24,399
Speaker 2: through a breakup, and when we would speak, in the

638
00:35:24,440 --> 00:35:28,279
Speaker 2: first month, she would tell me every single day that

639
00:35:29,000 --> 00:35:31,800
Speaker 2: she couldn't stop thinking about the guy she was breaking

640
00:35:31,880 --> 00:35:34,200
Speaker 2: up with that broke up with her, And then the

641
00:35:34,239 --> 00:35:38,520
Speaker 2: second month she'd tell me every other day, and then

642
00:35:38,560 --> 00:35:41,000
Speaker 2: the third month she'd tell me once a week. Yeah,

643
00:35:41,000 --> 00:35:42,480
Speaker 2: and then the fourth month she was just telling me

644
00:35:42,520 --> 00:35:45,000
Speaker 2: once a month, and I was like, you don't see it,

645
00:35:45,040 --> 00:35:47,920
Speaker 2: but I see, yeah, that it's affecting you less and

646
00:35:47,960 --> 00:35:50,640
Speaker 2: less and less as time goes on. But when it's you,

647
00:35:50,640 --> 00:35:52,719
Speaker 2: you feel like you're just still stuck there. And so

648
00:35:53,239 --> 00:35:55,560
Speaker 2: it's such a great reminder that time is the ultimate

649
00:35:55,600 --> 00:35:56,839
Speaker 2: reset and time does heal.

650
00:35:57,560 --> 00:36:01,560
Speaker 1: And just because time heal, like in the meantime, don't

651
00:36:02,520 --> 00:36:04,520
Speaker 1: think that like you shouldn't like try to get help

652
00:36:05,200 --> 00:36:09,279
Speaker 1: because it's like therapy didn't really help me, like that

653
00:36:09,400 --> 00:36:12,040
Speaker 1: I didn't work for you, not as much. Well maybe

654
00:36:12,040 --> 00:36:15,759
Speaker 1: because maybe because I didn't get to the park of

655
00:36:15,840 --> 00:36:19,000
Speaker 1: where you get the help. I mean I did do

656
00:36:19,080 --> 00:36:24,920
Speaker 1: this like six sessions, I don't know how long. Like

657
00:36:25,000 --> 00:36:28,160
Speaker 1: sometimes when I give advice to girls, I be like, bitch,

658
00:36:28,320 --> 00:36:32,080
Speaker 1: boss up, boss up, quote to word, get pretty. But

659
00:36:32,160 --> 00:36:34,160
Speaker 1: even when I was doing that, I had like a

660
00:36:34,239 --> 00:36:37,280
Speaker 1: pain in my heart. And sometimes when I was going

661
00:36:37,320 --> 00:36:39,520
Speaker 1: out with my friends and I was having a good time,

662
00:36:40,200 --> 00:36:43,719
Speaker 1: it will always be like around four thirty am when

663
00:36:43,760 --> 00:36:47,839
Speaker 1: it's time to go home and I'm drunk and I'm

664
00:36:47,840 --> 00:36:52,680
Speaker 1: thinking to myself, I am alone. I don't have nobody

665
00:36:52,760 --> 00:36:55,279
Speaker 1: to talk to, and it feels really weird, and it

666
00:36:55,320 --> 00:37:01,560
Speaker 1: feels very lonely, especially when you're used to that. However,

667
00:37:02,880 --> 00:37:07,520
Speaker 1: don't don't avoid that, don't like, don't avoid that. But

668
00:37:07,600 --> 00:37:10,560
Speaker 1: it will be time that will heal it. It will

669
00:37:10,600 --> 00:37:13,160
Speaker 1: be time. Time just heals everything.

670
00:37:13,760 --> 00:37:15,920
Speaker 2: When you said again last week, you're saying, when you

671
00:37:15,920 --> 00:37:18,560
Speaker 2: put new music out, it was kind of the lowest

672
00:37:18,600 --> 00:37:22,600
Speaker 2: you'd felt in another year. What's the hardest part for

673
00:37:22,680 --> 00:37:25,359
Speaker 2: you to take that criticism? Because, like you said, you're

674
00:37:25,440 --> 00:37:28,839
Speaker 2: quick with it, You've got responses, You've lived in a

675
00:37:28,880 --> 00:37:31,080
Speaker 2: place where you had people coming at you. Why is

676
00:37:31,120 --> 00:37:33,319
Speaker 2: it so hard to put out something you love. It

677
00:37:33,320 --> 00:37:36,200
Speaker 2: seems like you've really put your heart into your work. Yeah,

678
00:37:36,200 --> 00:37:38,720
Speaker 2: and so when you put that out, is that why

679
00:37:38,960 --> 00:37:41,600
Speaker 2: the criticism hurts the most? Because you put so much

680
00:37:41,600 --> 00:37:43,480
Speaker 2: heart and soul into your work.

681
00:37:43,800 --> 00:37:47,480
Speaker 1: Yes, because I put it like a lot. I always

682
00:37:48,000 --> 00:37:50,200
Speaker 1: I don't like what like. I'm not a lazy person,

683
00:37:50,840 --> 00:37:53,959
Speaker 1: and I do understand my flaws. Well, it's not really

684
00:37:53,960 --> 00:37:55,959
Speaker 1: my flaws because a lot of people who say something

685
00:37:56,000 --> 00:37:59,360
Speaker 1: about my accent, right, But it's funny because my accent

686
00:37:59,440 --> 00:38:02,160
Speaker 1: to some people might be my flaw, but it's also

687
00:38:03,000 --> 00:38:06,560
Speaker 1: my superpower and what makes me unique. Some people say

688
00:38:06,560 --> 00:38:08,719
Speaker 1: that I have a Spanish a Spanish accent, but I

689
00:38:08,760 --> 00:38:10,880
Speaker 1: really don't really have a Spanish accent. I have a

690
00:38:11,000 --> 00:38:16,480
Speaker 1: very unique accent. I talk very unique. When you try

691
00:38:16,520 --> 00:38:21,880
Speaker 1: your best to like perfect your accent, perfect your flows,

692
00:38:22,239 --> 00:38:25,319
Speaker 1: perfect everything. I always trying to perfect everything that I'm

693
00:38:25,320 --> 00:38:27,040
Speaker 1: doing at the time. I always trying to perfect it.

694
00:38:27,520 --> 00:38:29,920
Speaker 1: Like even when I was a stripper, I just like, Okay,

695
00:38:31,080 --> 00:38:34,080
Speaker 1: I'm a stripper, but I'm gonna be the best poll

696
00:38:34,160 --> 00:38:37,760
Speaker 1: dancer in here, and I'm a fucking bust my ass,

697
00:38:37,840 --> 00:38:42,560
Speaker 1: bust my knees, get practice every day and to be

698
00:38:42,640 --> 00:38:45,680
Speaker 1: the best at it. That's the same with music. I'm

699
00:38:45,680 --> 00:38:50,120
Speaker 1: gonna perfect it. That's the same with my marketing, I'm

700
00:38:50,120 --> 00:38:53,359
Speaker 1: gonna perfect it. That's the same with my business. I'm

701
00:38:53,360 --> 00:38:56,160
Speaker 1: gonna perfect it. I like to perfect things, and if

702
00:38:56,200 --> 00:38:59,120
Speaker 1: it's not the best things, if I'm not the best

703
00:38:59,160 --> 00:39:01,640
Speaker 1: at it, I said that I tried to be and

704
00:39:01,680 --> 00:39:03,640
Speaker 1: I worked my ass off to be and I didn't

705
00:39:03,680 --> 00:39:07,640
Speaker 1: make it easy for myself. So when people just throw

706
00:39:07,680 --> 00:39:12,040
Speaker 1: it in your face and then make other narratives on

707
00:39:12,160 --> 00:39:16,640
Speaker 1: top of it. With that it's like that is so mean.

708
00:39:16,840 --> 00:39:20,239
Speaker 1: And it's also like different narratives of you, Like it's like, Wow,

709
00:39:20,320 --> 00:39:23,560
Speaker 1: you don't even know me. You don't even know me,

710
00:39:23,640 --> 00:39:26,960
Speaker 1: and you're making all these story scenarios, all this this

711
00:39:28,320 --> 00:39:32,440
Speaker 1: over one song. Like for example, when I did this

712
00:39:32,560 --> 00:39:35,920
Speaker 1: song and people didn't like this song so many people

713
00:39:36,040 --> 00:39:40,319
Speaker 1: was like they just car Carty never deserved to be

714
00:39:40,360 --> 00:39:42,960
Speaker 1: a rapper. They just made it so easy for her.

715
00:39:43,600 --> 00:39:46,279
Speaker 1: And it's funny because it's like this shit was not

716
00:39:46,520 --> 00:39:50,440
Speaker 1: given to me. I worked my ass off for me,

717
00:39:51,040 --> 00:39:53,040
Speaker 1: and I planned it just like you see when I

718
00:39:53,080 --> 00:39:56,000
Speaker 1: was a little girl used to plan everything. I plan

719
00:39:56,760 --> 00:40:01,480
Speaker 1: every step, every single step. And I might even be

720
00:40:01,640 --> 00:40:06,600
Speaker 1: inspirational to other artists coming up because for a long time,

721
00:40:06,680 --> 00:40:10,040
Speaker 1: since I have such a big personality, people just felt like,

722
00:40:11,600 --> 00:40:13,879
Speaker 1: she's funny. She's funny, she's funny. So it was really

723
00:40:13,920 --> 00:40:16,720
Speaker 1: hard for labels to take me serious. And some labels

724
00:40:16,719 --> 00:40:21,000
Speaker 1: were trying to give me scraps to do a slavering

725
00:40:21,120 --> 00:40:26,520
Speaker 1: record deal. And even when I was on TV and

726
00:40:26,600 --> 00:40:28,400
Speaker 1: I thought that was gonna be my big break for

727
00:40:28,719 --> 00:40:32,600
Speaker 1: people to recognize me as an artist, it wasn't. I

728
00:40:32,640 --> 00:40:37,240
Speaker 1: was doing good numbers on my mixhape. It wasn't enough.

729
00:40:37,440 --> 00:40:41,239
Speaker 1: So the money that I was getting for partying and hostings,

730
00:40:41,640 --> 00:40:45,759
Speaker 1: I took that money. I made my own concerts, and

731
00:40:46,040 --> 00:40:48,520
Speaker 1: the best thing about it is that everything is documenting.

732
00:40:48,800 --> 00:40:53,440
Speaker 1: I did my own concerts five hundred to four hundred

733
00:40:53,440 --> 00:40:58,040
Speaker 1: people in New York. Eight hundred people came out singing

734
00:40:58,080 --> 00:41:01,520
Speaker 1: my songs. And I went to the label and I

735
00:41:01,600 --> 00:41:03,719
Speaker 1: was like, this is why you need to sign me.

736
00:41:04,600 --> 00:41:10,480
Speaker 1: It's not just the Instagram. It is real life. And

737
00:41:10,520 --> 00:41:12,600
Speaker 1: the fifteen thousand dollars that I used to get for

738
00:41:12,680 --> 00:41:17,640
Speaker 1: hosting parties, I used it to rent cars, ramt buses,

739
00:41:18,440 --> 00:41:23,080
Speaker 1: rent venues, to perform my songs, to show these labels

740
00:41:23,120 --> 00:41:26,399
Speaker 1: like it's like I'm the one. This shit ain't fake.

741
00:41:27,880 --> 00:41:30,879
Speaker 1: This shit ain't a personality thing, this ain't a love

742
00:41:30,920 --> 00:41:33,360
Speaker 1: and hip hop thing. This is this is what my

743
00:41:33,440 --> 00:41:36,359
Speaker 1: music is doing. This is the people singing it, doing

744
00:41:36,400 --> 00:41:41,239
Speaker 1: all of that and not being this far after you

745
00:41:41,400 --> 00:41:45,680
Speaker 1: plan everything and people will tell you that you don't

746
00:41:45,719 --> 00:41:47,640
Speaker 1: deserve it and you got it because of this this

747
00:41:47,840 --> 00:41:52,600
Speaker 1: and that that pisces me the off because everything, everything

748
00:41:52,640 --> 00:41:56,200
Speaker 1: that I did is documented. This shit wasn't given to me.

749
00:41:56,560 --> 00:42:00,560
Speaker 1: I didn't open my legs for it neither. So that's

750
00:42:00,600 --> 00:42:02,600
Speaker 1: the type of ship that be getting me angry, Like

751
00:42:02,640 --> 00:42:04,520
Speaker 1: it's I don't tell me that I didn't put the

752
00:42:05,000 --> 00:42:07,840
Speaker 1: work in. When I put the work in. There's days

753
00:42:07,840 --> 00:42:11,600
Speaker 1: that I miss, I miss birthdays, I miss I miss birthdays,

754
00:42:11,600 --> 00:42:15,400
Speaker 1: I miss family events. This ship has gotten in the

755
00:42:15,440 --> 00:42:20,240
Speaker 1: way of like my my, my personal relationships, marriage and everything,

756
00:42:20,840 --> 00:42:23,680
Speaker 1: just for somebody told me, somebody that never did shit

757
00:42:23,760 --> 00:42:25,880
Speaker 1: in their mother life told me that I don't deserve it.

758
00:42:26,719 --> 00:42:27,440
Speaker 1: Got here.

759
00:42:28,880 --> 00:42:32,839
Speaker 2: Absolutely. I mean, you know what, though, I also find

760
00:42:32,880 --> 00:42:37,000
Speaker 2: that Instagram and TikTok or whatever platform. It is the

761
00:42:37,080 --> 00:42:40,799
Speaker 2: comments that are negative are just loud because you can

762
00:42:40,840 --> 00:42:44,320
Speaker 2: literally go to someone's comments section and see negativity or whatever.

763
00:42:44,400 --> 00:42:46,600
Speaker 2: But then, like you said, you go to an arena

764
00:42:46,640 --> 00:42:48,840
Speaker 2: and everyone in the arena screaming their name and singing

765
00:42:48,880 --> 00:42:52,200
Speaker 2: their songs, and so it is this really weird thing

766
00:42:52,239 --> 00:42:56,080
Speaker 2: that happened that happens for the mind where you're watching

767
00:42:56,840 --> 00:42:59,000
Speaker 2: your page or you're watching yourself on someone else's page,

768
00:42:59,000 --> 00:43:01,279
Speaker 2: and there's criticism and actually there's all these other people

769
00:43:01,280 --> 00:43:03,480
Speaker 2: that love you. The negativity and the hate is just

770
00:43:03,520 --> 00:43:06,600
Speaker 2: so loud. It is people say stuff. Yeah, whereas the

771
00:43:06,600 --> 00:43:08,960
Speaker 2: people I love you, they just press the heart right.

772
00:43:09,040 --> 00:43:10,880
Speaker 2: So it's always like that weird thing where I'm like,

773
00:43:11,760 --> 00:43:16,640
Speaker 2: the mind just overvalues negative feedback and undervalues the positive

774
00:43:16,680 --> 00:43:20,520
Speaker 2: feedback because the negative feedback is just so critical and

775
00:43:20,560 --> 00:43:22,719
Speaker 2: loud and heavy. When you reflect on it and after

776
00:43:22,760 --> 00:43:25,080
Speaker 2: you think about it for a week, do you think

777
00:43:25,160 --> 00:43:27,480
Speaker 2: I want to prove them wrong? Or do you go, actually,

778
00:43:27,480 --> 00:43:29,600
Speaker 2: who cares about them? Where do you end up after

779
00:43:30,040 --> 00:43:31,319
Speaker 2: a week of reflecting on it?

780
00:43:32,200 --> 00:43:37,000
Speaker 1: Like last week, right, I was in tears and I

781
00:43:37,040 --> 00:43:40,160
Speaker 1: was telling myself. I was telling myself like it's like

782
00:43:41,000 --> 00:43:43,680
Speaker 1: not only myself, I told this to my friend. Actually

783
00:43:44,560 --> 00:43:47,320
Speaker 1: I told this to my friend. I was like, sometimes

784
00:43:47,320 --> 00:43:50,680
Speaker 1: people say, don't let the devil win, but what happens

785
00:43:50,680 --> 00:43:53,440
Speaker 1: if you let the devil win? Maybe I need to

786
00:43:53,560 --> 00:43:54,919
Speaker 1: let the devil win so I can have a piece

787
00:43:54,960 --> 00:43:57,759
Speaker 1: of mind. And then I'm like thinking to myself, like,

788
00:43:57,800 --> 00:44:00,000
Speaker 1: why the fuck would I ever say let the devil win?

789
00:44:00,080 --> 00:44:06,520
Speaker 1: In imagine praying to God on your knees every single night,

790
00:44:07,160 --> 00:44:11,080
Speaker 1: asking God, God, please bless me with this. God, please

791
00:44:11,120 --> 00:44:13,759
Speaker 1: give me that. God, please give me this, Please give

792
00:44:13,800 --> 00:44:15,799
Speaker 1: me that, Please bless me with this. Please bless me

793
00:44:15,800 --> 00:44:19,719
Speaker 1: with that, just so you could, like everything that God

794
00:44:19,840 --> 00:44:23,040
Speaker 1: gave you, tell the devil here you can have it,

795
00:44:24,719 --> 00:44:30,800
Speaker 1: because he's sending Sometimes the devil sends evil and human

796
00:44:30,880 --> 00:44:36,000
Speaker 1: forms and human mouths and human's tongue, just so you

797
00:44:36,000 --> 00:44:38,759
Speaker 1: could tell the devil to have it. Like imagine how

798
00:44:38,840 --> 00:44:44,640
Speaker 1: God feels. Imagine God be like, all right, baby, all right, girl, here, here, here, here,

799
00:44:44,719 --> 00:44:47,600
Speaker 1: have this. You wanted this, here, here's what you get.

800
00:44:48,400 --> 00:44:53,600
Speaker 1: And then it's that he's giving you something. And then

801
00:44:53,640 --> 00:44:56,440
Speaker 1: you go to school and they'd be like, that's ugly

802
00:44:56,680 --> 00:44:58,440
Speaker 1: and that's something that you've been asking him for a

803
00:44:58,440 --> 00:44:59,880
Speaker 1: long time, and now you don't like it because some

804
00:45:00,120 --> 00:45:03,640
Speaker 1: he told you that it's ugly. And it's like, how

805
00:45:03,800 --> 00:45:07,239
Speaker 1: almost let the devil win. And I was telling myself that.

806
00:45:07,320 --> 00:45:09,880
Speaker 1: I was telling myself that, and like I said, I

807
00:45:09,920 --> 00:45:12,320
Speaker 1: was telling it. But sometimes you got to have believe

808
00:45:12,320 --> 00:45:14,239
Speaker 1: it from the heart. Because your mind could tell you it,

809
00:45:14,520 --> 00:45:16,759
Speaker 1: your moth could say it, you gotta believe it from

810
00:45:16,800 --> 00:45:19,239
Speaker 1: the heart. This week, though, I feel so much better

811
00:45:19,320 --> 00:45:21,040
Speaker 1: and I feel so much confident, and I was like,

812
00:45:21,600 --> 00:45:24,120
Speaker 1: I'm not gonna let the devil win. I'm not going

813
00:45:24,160 --> 00:45:25,920
Speaker 1: to be like you know what I was telling my

814
00:45:25,960 --> 00:45:27,680
Speaker 1: team like, I was like, you know what, I just

815
00:45:27,719 --> 00:45:30,600
Speaker 1: need some days off. And it's like, how the are

816
00:45:30,640 --> 00:45:32,439
Speaker 1: you going to take some days off when your team

817
00:45:32,520 --> 00:45:35,160
Speaker 1: been planning all of these all of these things that

818
00:45:35,200 --> 00:45:37,640
Speaker 1: you have to do for your album roll out because

819
00:45:37,680 --> 00:45:41,120
Speaker 1: of these people that are spewing things that the devil

820
00:45:41,200 --> 00:45:45,160
Speaker 1: wants you to think of yourself, I almost let this

821
00:45:45,239 --> 00:45:45,879
Speaker 1: mother win.

822
00:45:46,520 --> 00:45:50,080
Speaker 2: Don't let the devil win, because how you.

823
00:45:50,000 --> 00:45:55,920
Speaker 1: Think God feel, How think God feel? CARDI gave you

824
00:45:55,960 --> 00:46:00,400
Speaker 1: all this ship you wereen asking for it forever just

825
00:46:00,440 --> 00:46:02,759
Speaker 1: so you could say that. That really pissed me off

826
00:46:02,800 --> 00:46:04,480
Speaker 1: about myself, because I can't believe I said that.

827
00:46:05,000 --> 00:46:06,719
Speaker 2: Well, no, I think it's human. I mean, even as

828
00:46:06,760 --> 00:46:09,920
Speaker 2: I'm listening to I'm thinking everyone will be relieved because

829
00:46:10,760 --> 00:46:12,799
Speaker 2: you know when someone is confident and as bold as

830
00:46:12,840 --> 00:46:15,400
Speaker 2: you are and as outspoken as you are, which is

831
00:46:15,480 --> 00:46:18,200
Speaker 2: which are all amazing qualities. The truth is, though, that

832
00:46:18,640 --> 00:46:21,799
Speaker 2: we all have these human moments. Yeah, and it's not

833
00:46:21,840 --> 00:46:25,040
Speaker 2: a weakness. It's natural for all of us to feel pain,

834
00:46:25,239 --> 00:46:29,320
Speaker 2: to experience, sadness, to experience and it humanizes you in

835
00:46:29,360 --> 00:46:31,439
Speaker 2: a good way. It makes me feel like, oh wow,

836
00:46:31,480 --> 00:46:35,000
Speaker 2: if CARDI feels that, then hey, I can feel that too.

837
00:46:35,080 --> 00:46:37,480
Speaker 2: You know, like if she goes through those days and

838
00:46:37,520 --> 00:46:39,759
Speaker 2: she gets out of them and a week later she's

839
00:46:39,800 --> 00:46:42,040
Speaker 2: feeling better, and a year ago she was in a

840
00:46:42,080 --> 00:46:44,560
Speaker 2: real mess and she's feeling better, then then maybe I

841
00:46:44,600 --> 00:46:45,919
Speaker 2: can take something from that as well.

842
00:46:46,200 --> 00:46:49,920
Speaker 1: I'm not a perfect person. I'm not a perfect person,

843
00:46:50,000 --> 00:46:51,960
Speaker 1: and sometimes I'm a little bit misunderstood.

844
00:46:52,360 --> 00:46:53,720
Speaker 2: How do you think you're misunderstood?

845
00:46:55,560 --> 00:46:57,200
Speaker 1: I don't even want to bring this up again, but

846
00:46:57,320 --> 00:47:00,880
Speaker 1: is that I can tell you how I misunderstood. I

847
00:47:00,880 --> 00:47:04,799
Speaker 1: actually got dragged for weeks because of this, so I

848
00:47:04,920 --> 00:47:09,960
Speaker 1: made this. I think I'm just a little misunderstood sometimes

849
00:47:10,040 --> 00:47:11,719
Speaker 1: I could be I don't have a dog. I'm not

850
00:47:11,760 --> 00:47:15,440
Speaker 1: a dark humor person. I'm not a dark humor person,

851
00:47:15,800 --> 00:47:18,640
Speaker 1: but sometimes like my humor could be a little rough,

852
00:47:19,200 --> 00:47:20,919
Speaker 1: and I feel like my humor could be a little

853
00:47:21,000 --> 00:47:25,280
Speaker 1: rough because, like you know, like I said, like boys

854
00:47:25,280 --> 00:47:28,640
Speaker 1: in the Bronx, they will make really tough jokes on you.

855
00:47:28,719 --> 00:47:30,200
Speaker 1: And then on top of that, like it's like like

856
00:47:30,239 --> 00:47:33,839
Speaker 1: a family like mine, We're always cracking jokes on each other.

857
00:47:34,360 --> 00:47:39,000
Speaker 1: Like it's like like being Caribbean careban people like if

858
00:47:39,040 --> 00:47:41,360
Speaker 1: you're too skinny. They'll be like, girl, you shape like candle,

859
00:47:41,760 --> 00:47:45,160
Speaker 1: Like you shape like a candle, just small like a candle,

860
00:47:45,200 --> 00:47:47,920
Speaker 1: like a white candle, or like Dominicans like where you

861
00:47:48,040 --> 00:47:50,520
Speaker 1: shape like big from the top and small and be

862
00:47:50,520 --> 00:47:55,439
Speaker 1: like what what you got. It's a certain type of yam.

863
00:47:56,640 --> 00:47:59,480
Speaker 1: And it's like it's rude, but it's like it's just

864
00:47:59,480 --> 00:48:01,520
Speaker 1: something that it is, like people just joke around that

865
00:48:01,600 --> 00:48:04,319
Speaker 1: it's just so naturally. So sometimes my jokes might be

866
00:48:04,440 --> 00:48:07,839
Speaker 1: a little bit not for everybody. And when I make

867
00:48:07,960 --> 00:48:11,080
Speaker 1: certain jokes, like like I made a joke the other

868
00:48:11,160 --> 00:48:13,960
Speaker 1: day with my fans because they they literally started the

869
00:48:14,040 --> 00:48:17,360
Speaker 1: joke and then I continue the joke and because of

870
00:48:17,400 --> 00:48:21,000
Speaker 1: the joke and I refuse to apologize for it, people

871
00:48:21,160 --> 00:48:23,440
Speaker 1: was just saying that I'm just such a mean person

872
00:48:24,040 --> 00:48:26,080
Speaker 1: that I was trying to bully people, that I'm hurt

873
00:48:26,080 --> 00:48:28,239
Speaker 1: for the people. But it's like I wasn't even trying

874
00:48:28,239 --> 00:48:31,439
Speaker 1: to hurt nobody. My intent wasn't to hurt nobody. It's

875
00:48:31,520 --> 00:48:36,400
Speaker 1: just like everybody naturally jokes with their friends, Everybody naturally

876
00:48:36,480 --> 00:48:40,719
Speaker 1: jokes with their peers. Everybody just might say not not

877
00:48:40,880 --> 00:48:44,440
Speaker 1: the most nicest jokes or stuff like that. However, like,

878
00:48:44,880 --> 00:48:46,600
Speaker 1: I'm not trying to hurt nobody. I don't want to

879
00:48:46,680 --> 00:48:50,840
Speaker 1: hurt nobody, and so many people criticize me because of

880
00:48:50,840 --> 00:48:52,920
Speaker 1: that or like judge my character because of that. But

881
00:48:52,960 --> 00:48:56,000
Speaker 1: it's like, I'm not this evil, mean person that people

882
00:48:56,080 --> 00:48:59,400
Speaker 1: think that I am. I'm very actually compassionate. I'm too

883
00:48:59,520 --> 00:49:03,000
Speaker 1: compassion That's why I cry for There's something that might

884
00:49:03,040 --> 00:49:05,320
Speaker 1: be going on on the other side of the world,

885
00:49:05,360 --> 00:49:06,920
Speaker 1: I'm crying for it. And it's like, why am I

886
00:49:07,000 --> 00:49:10,120
Speaker 1: crying for this? Like this is crazy. I'm very compassionate

887
00:49:10,400 --> 00:49:13,560
Speaker 1: and I'm very understanding, and I'm a libra, so I

888
00:49:13,600 --> 00:49:16,920
Speaker 1: see always two sides of the scale. I always have

889
00:49:17,000 --> 00:49:20,440
Speaker 1: sympathy just a little. I even have sympathy for bitches.

890
00:49:21,440 --> 00:49:25,879
Speaker 1: I have sympathy for bitches that my men and they

891
00:49:25,920 --> 00:49:28,200
Speaker 1: have taken a family loss. I'm like, damn, I feel

892
00:49:28,239 --> 00:49:32,080
Speaker 1: bad for her. That's how sympathetic I am.

893
00:49:33,040 --> 00:49:34,799
Speaker 2: Why do you feel sympathy for them? Like where does

894
00:49:34,840 --> 00:49:36,560
Speaker 2: that come from? Or what do you feel?

895
00:49:37,680 --> 00:49:38,040
Speaker 1: I don't know.

896
00:49:38,120 --> 00:49:40,720
Speaker 2: It's just it's just how you made.

897
00:49:40,880 --> 00:49:43,120
Speaker 1: Just how i'm. That's just how I made and stuff

898
00:49:43,120 --> 00:49:47,279
Speaker 1: like That's just how I am. However, people just have

899
00:49:47,400 --> 00:49:50,040
Speaker 1: this thought of me. And that's because my mouth is

900
00:49:50,080 --> 00:49:52,719
Speaker 1: so rough, Like I'm a little rough and I curse

901
00:49:52,840 --> 00:49:59,319
Speaker 1: like a sailor. And I give advice very strong. But

902
00:49:59,360 --> 00:50:02,759
Speaker 1: everybody in my family give advice very strong. And I

903
00:50:02,800 --> 00:50:06,839
Speaker 1: don't have yes man's neither. So my friends will give

904
00:50:06,920 --> 00:50:11,479
Speaker 1: me advice in the most rudest way. And it's like, damn, bitch,

905
00:50:11,520 --> 00:50:15,680
Speaker 1: do you like me? But it's the truth, and that's

906
00:50:15,719 --> 00:50:17,759
Speaker 1: just how I am. That's how I'm going to talk

907
00:50:17,800 --> 00:50:19,520
Speaker 1: to you. And that's just how I am because it's

908
00:50:19,520 --> 00:50:19,960
Speaker 1: the truth.

909
00:50:20,160 --> 00:50:22,880
Speaker 2: And you're like that with everyone. It doesn't change for anyone.

910
00:50:23,239 --> 00:50:24,440
Speaker 1: And I'm like that with everyone.

911
00:50:25,080 --> 00:50:27,080
Speaker 2: How about the kids, I'm like that.

912
00:50:28,320 --> 00:50:32,480
Speaker 1: I'm like that when my kids too, Like, God, damn it,

913
00:50:32,520 --> 00:50:37,480
Speaker 1: I'm tired. But you can tell me I'm a bad mom.

914
00:50:37,880 --> 00:50:40,520
Speaker 1: I'm a great mom if I'm good at something as

915
00:50:40,560 --> 00:50:43,560
Speaker 1: being a mom, But sometimes like get the you little

916
00:50:43,800 --> 00:50:48,960
Speaker 1: get the God damn it, I'm sick of you. That's

917
00:50:49,040 --> 00:50:53,240
Speaker 1: how I talk. Does that make me a bad mom?

918
00:50:53,640 --> 00:50:57,000
Speaker 1: I don't think I'm a bad mom. Shit, I give

919
00:50:57,040 --> 00:50:57,680
Speaker 1: them too much.

920
00:50:59,719 --> 00:51:01,520
Speaker 2: It's funny you say that. I was. I was talking

921
00:51:01,560 --> 00:51:04,200
Speaker 2: to a parenting expert on the podcast a few weeks ago,

922
00:51:04,719 --> 00:51:08,080
Speaker 2: and she was saying that parenting is the most inconvenient thing.

923
00:51:08,560 --> 00:51:12,120
Speaker 2: She goes, you love them, but they're inconvenient, Like it's hard,

924
00:51:12,160 --> 00:51:14,600
Speaker 2: like if you're honest about it. And so, yeah, there's

925
00:51:14,600 --> 00:51:17,880
Speaker 2: a real feeling about how tough being a mom is.

926
00:51:18,280 --> 00:51:21,759
Speaker 2: How do you balance being a superstar and being a mom?

927
00:51:21,840 --> 00:51:25,200
Speaker 2: Like how do you make it? You said it yourself,

928
00:51:25,239 --> 00:51:26,480
Speaker 2: you want to be the best at everything. When you

929
00:51:26,560 --> 00:51:27,920
Speaker 2: do something, you want to be the best at it.

930
00:51:28,040 --> 00:51:30,439
Speaker 2: So I assume that applies to being a mom too. Yeah,

931
00:51:30,480 --> 00:51:31,800
Speaker 2: and so it's like, how do you do that? What

932
00:51:32,239 --> 00:51:33,799
Speaker 2: is it to you? What makes you a great mom?

933
00:51:33,840 --> 00:51:35,880
Speaker 2: What are the parts that you focus on? And how

934
00:51:35,880 --> 00:51:38,000
Speaker 2: do you balance those two crazy worlds?

935
00:51:38,520 --> 00:51:41,839
Speaker 1: I think that what makes me. I think that what

936
00:51:41,920 --> 00:51:44,800
Speaker 1: makes me like a girl mom. I don't give my kids.

937
00:51:44,960 --> 00:51:47,160
Speaker 1: It's not that I give my kids everything, but they

938
00:51:47,280 --> 00:51:50,479
Speaker 1: just think I'm so funny. Like even when I curse

939
00:51:50,520 --> 00:51:52,319
Speaker 1: at them, they just think I'm so funny. It's like

940
00:51:53,080 --> 00:51:56,120
Speaker 1: I'm being serious with y'all. But they just love me.

941
00:51:56,600 --> 00:51:58,360
Speaker 1: I don't know why they I mean, of course I

942
00:51:58,360 --> 00:51:59,640
Speaker 1: know why they love you, but it's like why I

943
00:51:59,719 --> 00:52:02,919
Speaker 1: love you so much. I guess I have a good

944
00:52:02,920 --> 00:52:05,520
Speaker 1: mom because they love me so much. They just think

945
00:52:05,520 --> 00:52:08,399
Speaker 1: I'm so entertaining. They think I'm so fun. Even when

946
00:52:08,400 --> 00:52:10,080
Speaker 1: we're just laying in bed, they just want to lay

947
00:52:10,080 --> 00:52:12,399
Speaker 1: in bed with me. Ain't no target. We ain't gonna

948
00:52:12,400 --> 00:52:14,760
Speaker 1: know they got damn target. We ain't going to target

949
00:52:14,920 --> 00:52:18,600
Speaker 1: to ask you got them roadblocks. That's exactly how don't

950
00:52:18,600 --> 00:52:21,000
Speaker 1: come here asking me for the rocks. You asked me

951
00:52:21,040 --> 00:52:23,280
Speaker 1: one more time for an iPad for one of your cousins.

952
00:52:23,400 --> 00:52:25,880
Speaker 1: We're gonna have a problem. This is exactly how I

953
00:52:25,880 --> 00:52:29,239
Speaker 1: talk to my kids. And they still love me. They

954
00:52:29,320 --> 00:52:31,040
Speaker 1: just love me. I don't know, they love me for

955
00:52:31,080 --> 00:52:33,120
Speaker 1: who I am. They love me. I don't even know

956
00:52:33,160 --> 00:52:37,800
Speaker 1: how to explain it. I do. I do give them everything, though,

957
00:52:38,120 --> 00:52:41,840
Speaker 1: But now giving them everything doesn't always make you the

958
00:52:41,960 --> 00:52:45,520
Speaker 1: greatest mom, because it's like you've seen. You've seen cases

959
00:52:45,520 --> 00:52:48,160
Speaker 1: where like the parents work so hard, they give their

960
00:52:48,280 --> 00:52:50,840
Speaker 1: kids everything and it's not enough. Like them two brothers,

961
00:52:51,000 --> 00:52:55,400
Speaker 1: they call it, oh yeah, yeah, you could give them everything,

962
00:52:55,480 --> 00:52:57,520
Speaker 1: But if they don't love you, they just don't love you.

963
00:52:58,120 --> 00:53:00,960
Speaker 1: And I don't know, they just just love me. I

964
00:53:01,040 --> 00:53:03,200
Speaker 1: just always remind them that I love them, but I

965
00:53:03,200 --> 00:53:04,160
Speaker 1: will curse them out though.

966
00:53:21,880 --> 00:53:24,759
Speaker 2: What's a quality or a skill that you have that

967
00:53:24,800 --> 00:53:27,279
Speaker 2: you really want them to learn and develop and grow

968
00:53:27,320 --> 00:53:29,600
Speaker 2: as they get older. I know they're young right now.

969
00:53:29,400 --> 00:53:33,680
Speaker 1: But please don't be a bumb. Please don't be a bumb.

970
00:53:34,920 --> 00:53:41,480
Speaker 1: Please don't be lazy. Some people are some people have

971
00:53:42,239 --> 00:53:47,359
Speaker 1: the look, the intelligent, the talent. Some people really have that,

972
00:53:48,520 --> 00:53:53,720
Speaker 1: but they don't go nowhere because you're lazy. Don't be lazy.

973
00:53:54,480 --> 00:53:57,759
Speaker 1: Don't just be all your parents are this and that. No,

974
00:53:58,080 --> 00:54:01,600
Speaker 1: be your own person, be your own human, Be something,

975
00:54:02,800 --> 00:54:05,279
Speaker 1: be something, Be something that you could be proud of.

976
00:54:05,960 --> 00:54:10,719
Speaker 1: My mom she was not. She was a lunch lady practically.

977
00:54:11,160 --> 00:54:13,880
Speaker 1: But I am very proud of my mom because she

978
00:54:14,000 --> 00:54:15,799
Speaker 1: used to work her ass off. She could have went

979
00:54:15,880 --> 00:54:18,359
Speaker 1: to my grandma like, I'm going through a tough time

980
00:54:18,480 --> 00:54:21,160
Speaker 1: right now, can you raise my kids for a year

981
00:54:21,360 --> 00:54:26,200
Speaker 1: or two. She never did that. My grandmother's as well.

982
00:54:27,360 --> 00:54:29,000
Speaker 1: One of them got ten kids, the other one got

983
00:54:29,040 --> 00:54:34,759
Speaker 1: thirteen kids. They work every day. My grandma from my

984
00:54:34,880 --> 00:54:37,600
Speaker 1: dad's side, she gave birth on her kids in her

985
00:54:37,640 --> 00:54:40,160
Speaker 1: wooden house and then a couple of days later she

986
00:54:40,320 --> 00:54:42,799
Speaker 1: working back in the farm, and she brong all her

987
00:54:42,840 --> 00:54:46,960
Speaker 1: kids to America one by one different time, saying with

988
00:54:47,080 --> 00:54:49,400
Speaker 1: my grandma she had from my mom's side, she had

989
00:54:49,440 --> 00:54:53,000
Speaker 1: thirteen kids. She used to cook, cook, cook, cook self food,

990
00:54:53,040 --> 00:54:56,040
Speaker 1: sell food, self food. She brung all her thirteen kids

991
00:54:56,080 --> 00:54:58,919
Speaker 1: over here, Like there's no excuse, but I could say

992
00:54:58,920 --> 00:55:01,120
Speaker 1: that because they did that, And you're gonna be able

993
00:55:01,200 --> 00:55:03,279
Speaker 1: to say that about me, Like it's like my mom

994
00:55:03,360 --> 00:55:06,320
Speaker 1: worked every day. I seen my mom work every day.

995
00:55:06,719 --> 00:55:09,560
Speaker 1: Be that, be that one day. You're gonna have kids

996
00:55:09,600 --> 00:55:11,520
Speaker 1: one day, and you want your kids to say that

997
00:55:11,560 --> 00:55:14,680
Speaker 1: about you, that you worked hard every day, that everything

998
00:55:14,680 --> 00:55:17,240
Speaker 1: you got you deserved it, that you made it, nobody

999
00:55:17,280 --> 00:55:19,840
Speaker 1: gave it to you. You don't want to be like, oh,

1000
00:55:19,960 --> 00:55:23,360
Speaker 1: you're just successful because you're a whole man. Like I

1001
00:55:23,400 --> 00:55:27,120
Speaker 1: have son, I have a son. You don't want nobody

1002
00:55:27,160 --> 00:55:33,359
Speaker 1: said that you fly and you fire because you're somebody's son. No,

1003
00:55:33,440 --> 00:55:35,880
Speaker 1: I'm fly because I'm my own man. I made myself

1004
00:55:35,920 --> 00:55:38,719
Speaker 1: a man. I work my ass off. You're gonna have

1005
00:55:38,760 --> 00:55:41,160
Speaker 1: a bitch one day. You don't want your bitch to

1006
00:55:41,200 --> 00:55:44,719
Speaker 1: be like, oh, he a mama boy, he a daddy's No,

1007
00:55:45,680 --> 00:55:48,440
Speaker 1: I'm a hard working man. Baby girl, you go on

1008
00:55:48,600 --> 00:55:51,120
Speaker 1: saying with my daughters, you know, nigger gonna roll you

1009
00:55:51,160 --> 00:55:53,960
Speaker 1: over because you got your own shit. You're more than

1010
00:55:54,000 --> 00:55:58,440
Speaker 1: just a pretty face. Be a boss, Be something. Please,

1011
00:55:58,840 --> 00:56:02,080
Speaker 1: I don't give a fuck what they do whatever, Just

1012
00:56:02,080 --> 00:56:04,319
Speaker 1: just do not have that lazy bone on you, Like,

1013
00:56:05,680 --> 00:56:07,919
Speaker 1: ain't no way that I'm busting my ass for you, mother,

1014
00:56:08,160 --> 00:56:11,320
Speaker 1: this just so you could end up not being ship.

1015
00:56:12,120 --> 00:56:15,520
Speaker 1: I'm giving y'all everything every even when, even when they're

1016
00:56:15,560 --> 00:56:18,399
Speaker 1: eighteen and stuff like that, and it's time to leave.

1017
00:56:18,920 --> 00:56:21,560
Speaker 1: If you want an apartment, if you want to if

1018
00:56:21,600 --> 00:56:25,360
Speaker 1: you want a car, I'll give it to you. But please,

1019
00:56:26,239 --> 00:56:31,320
Speaker 1: please become something. Don't be nothing. Please don't be nothing.

1020
00:56:32,120 --> 00:56:34,879
Speaker 1: That would be the worst disappointment they could ever do.

1021
00:56:34,880 --> 00:56:37,879
Speaker 1: Don't disappoint me like that. What if y'all do, just

1022
00:56:37,960 --> 00:56:39,440
Speaker 1: don't be a nothing.

1023
00:56:40,400 --> 00:56:42,239
Speaker 2: If you give it to them the journey you think

1024
00:56:42,239 --> 00:56:44,440
Speaker 2: they'll be lazy then because if you give them an

1025
00:56:44,480 --> 00:56:46,640
Speaker 2: apartment and you give them a car, then they'll feel like, well,

1026
00:56:46,640 --> 00:56:48,239
Speaker 2: I don't need to work because Mom's got me.

1027
00:56:49,120 --> 00:56:52,560
Speaker 1: No, because it's like like, all right, for example, I

1028
00:56:53,120 --> 00:56:55,680
Speaker 1: want to call I went to college, right, but I

1029
00:56:55,719 --> 00:56:57,840
Speaker 1: had to drop by the college because I had to

1030
00:56:57,880 --> 00:57:01,200
Speaker 1: work to just feed myself. If you got a crib

1031
00:57:01,480 --> 00:57:05,960
Speaker 1: and if you could maneuver to college, or you probably

1032
00:57:06,520 --> 00:57:08,719
Speaker 1: want to open up a business or something. If you

1033
00:57:08,760 --> 00:57:11,080
Speaker 1: can maneuver, you don't got to worry about a bill,

1034
00:57:12,080 --> 00:57:15,879
Speaker 1: then it becomes easier for you. But don't get don't

1035
00:57:15,920 --> 00:57:18,560
Speaker 1: make me give you an apartment or a fucking car,

1036
00:57:19,000 --> 00:57:21,600
Speaker 1: and you're just out here not doing shit. I better

1037
00:57:21,640 --> 00:57:24,520
Speaker 1: every sooner time my face SOMEI you better be doing something.

1038
00:57:24,800 --> 00:57:30,040
Speaker 1: If you were in bed at twelve pm. Yeah, ain't

1039
00:57:30,080 --> 00:57:32,480
Speaker 1: that car under my name? Or it's coming with me?

1040
00:57:33,520 --> 00:57:34,920
Speaker 1: You need you need the real world.

1041
00:57:35,600 --> 00:57:36,080
Speaker 2: You need you.

1042
00:57:36,520 --> 00:57:38,600
Speaker 1: I'm gonna have to and don't go to your daddy.

1043
00:57:39,720 --> 00:57:43,440
Speaker 1: Let me go to your daddy. I will take the

1044
00:57:43,480 --> 00:57:46,120
Speaker 1: ship away. I don't play that. You ain't gonna be nothing.

1045
00:57:47,640 --> 00:57:49,200
Speaker 2: Yeah, you're caring with yourself.

1046
00:57:49,680 --> 00:57:51,840
Speaker 1: You got two feet, you got two hands, you got

1047
00:57:51,840 --> 00:57:53,720
Speaker 1: a brain. You better do some ship.

1048
00:57:54,440 --> 00:57:57,200
Speaker 2: Yeah, for sure. I found. I found like I started

1049
00:57:57,200 --> 00:58:00,000
Speaker 2: working when I was fourteen. I used to deliver newspaper

1050
00:58:00,160 --> 00:58:02,120
Speaker 2: at the time, and then I started working in a

1051
00:58:02,120 --> 00:58:03,880
Speaker 2: grocery store. I used to work at the back and

1052
00:58:03,880 --> 00:58:06,720
Speaker 2: stack the shelves, pick up all the palettes, bring all

1053
00:58:06,760 --> 00:58:09,240
Speaker 2: the goods in work back of house. And then I

1054
00:58:09,280 --> 00:58:12,440
Speaker 2: worked and sold jeans at some jeans shop. It's like

1055
00:58:12,680 --> 00:58:16,120
Speaker 2: I found working since I was fourteen is what made

1056
00:58:16,120 --> 00:58:18,800
Speaker 2: me realize the value of work. And I've been working

1057
00:58:18,800 --> 00:58:21,200
Speaker 2: hard ever since. And it's if I didn't start working

1058
00:58:21,240 --> 00:58:23,520
Speaker 2: hard at fourteen, I feel like my parents didn't have

1059
00:58:23,560 --> 00:58:26,320
Speaker 2: anything to give me either. Yeah, but I feel like

1060
00:58:26,400 --> 00:58:28,360
Speaker 2: that work ethic has to start early.

1061
00:58:29,040 --> 00:58:31,200
Speaker 1: It do have to start early. And that's why it's

1062
00:58:31,240 --> 00:58:34,120
Speaker 1: like like sometimes when my parents, here comes my parents.

1063
00:58:34,120 --> 00:58:36,400
Speaker 1: Sometimes my parents, they were getting my nerve sometimes, like

1064
00:58:36,480 --> 00:58:39,320
Speaker 1: they be getting my nerve sometimes because like my kids,

1065
00:58:39,320 --> 00:58:42,960
Speaker 1: they have school to three pm right and after school,

1066
00:58:43,200 --> 00:58:45,919
Speaker 1: I don't care and I don't want you at home

1067
00:58:46,000 --> 00:58:48,040
Speaker 1: talking about like I'm a little tough and shit, I

1068
00:58:48,040 --> 00:58:50,920
Speaker 1: don't give this is what I'll work hard for. After school,

1069
00:58:51,240 --> 00:58:55,120
Speaker 1: my kids four times a week they have tutoring, reading

1070
00:58:55,200 --> 00:59:00,160
Speaker 1: man whatever, they have tutoring mandatory in my house. Then

1071
00:59:00,720 --> 00:59:04,000
Speaker 1: culture have piano or she got gym class, wave, he

1072
00:59:04,080 --> 00:59:07,240
Speaker 1: got sports class, and he still gotta do the tutoring.

1073
00:59:07,760 --> 00:59:10,800
Speaker 1: And I don't sleepy, I don't I don't want to

1074
00:59:10,840 --> 00:59:12,840
Speaker 1: hear that shit. I don't want to hear that shit.

1075
00:59:13,280 --> 00:59:16,160
Speaker 1: It's disciplined. It gotta be in you, and you have

1076
00:59:16,280 --> 00:59:18,080
Speaker 1: to be better than me. I want you to be

1077
00:59:18,080 --> 00:59:21,840
Speaker 1: better than me. There's things that I cannot do them

1078
00:59:21,960 --> 00:59:24,080
Speaker 1: I want my kids to do. I don't know how

1079
00:59:24,080 --> 00:59:29,960
Speaker 1: to swim. I would love to swim, but the one

1080
00:59:29,960 --> 00:59:32,720
Speaker 1: time I went to a pool in Highbridge, there was

1081
00:59:32,760 --> 00:59:36,440
Speaker 1: a crazy fight that broke out. People was getting cut

1082
00:59:36,520 --> 00:59:39,200
Speaker 1: left to right. So I couldn't go swimming because I

1083
00:59:39,280 --> 00:59:41,600
Speaker 1: had no pool. If I have a pool, you're gonna

1084
00:59:41,640 --> 00:59:43,880
Speaker 1: learn how to swim. You're gonna take your swimming classes.

1085
00:59:45,040 --> 00:59:48,240
Speaker 1: I'm not really good with my feet, so you're gonna

1086
00:59:48,240 --> 00:59:50,640
Speaker 1: take dance classes because if you want to, if you

1087
00:59:50,720 --> 00:59:52,920
Speaker 1: ever want to be a superstar, that you're gonna be

1088
00:59:52,960 --> 00:59:55,160
Speaker 1: in you. Then you are an answer. I want you

1089
00:59:55,200 --> 01:00:00,120
Speaker 1: to be smarter than me, like I could read down,

1090
01:00:00,240 --> 01:00:02,560
Speaker 1: but my grandma's not that great. I want you to

1091
01:00:02,600 --> 01:00:06,000
Speaker 1: be not perfect because you cannot make your kids perfect,

1092
01:00:06,000 --> 01:00:08,120
Speaker 1: and you don't want you to put pressure on your

1093
01:00:08,160 --> 01:00:10,800
Speaker 1: kids perfect. But I want you to be a hundred

1094
01:00:10,880 --> 01:00:14,400
Speaker 1: times better version than me. And I'm gonna install that

1095
01:00:14,480 --> 01:00:16,720
Speaker 1: in you, and you're gonna be mad and you're gonna

1096
01:00:16,720 --> 01:00:20,040
Speaker 1: be crying, but you're gonna appreciate that one day because

1097
01:00:20,040 --> 01:00:23,800
Speaker 1: I wish. I wish the things that that out put

1098
01:00:23,840 --> 01:00:26,440
Speaker 1: on my kids. That there's somebody put in me when

1099
01:00:26,480 --> 01:00:28,920
Speaker 1: I was younger. But they couldn't put that in me

1100
01:00:28,960 --> 01:00:30,760
Speaker 1: when I was younger because they couldn't afford it, and

1101
01:00:30,800 --> 01:00:34,800
Speaker 1: they couldn't really have time to be like Buckley's Buckley's

1102
01:00:34,800 --> 01:00:38,600
Speaker 1: Blockles Henessey Hennessey Hennessy because they had to work. I

1103
01:00:38,720 --> 01:00:42,680
Speaker 1: have to work, but the class for it. Grab me something, boy,

1104
01:00:43,000 --> 01:00:45,520
Speaker 1: grab me something girl. I'm playing with y'all.

1105
01:00:46,480 --> 01:00:49,120
Speaker 2: I love it. I love it. Your success is so

1106
01:00:49,200 --> 01:00:50,920
Speaker 2: much of who you are and who you breathe. It's

1107
01:00:50,920 --> 01:00:54,560
Speaker 2: what you do what makes CARDI be happy.

1108
01:00:55,880 --> 01:00:59,440
Speaker 1: It's like little little elements like my kids make me

1109
01:00:59,560 --> 01:01:03,040
Speaker 1: very happy. They're just so cute and funny, like it's

1110
01:01:03,120 --> 01:01:08,040
Speaker 1: just and they say stupid stuff like it's like they

1111
01:01:08,120 --> 01:01:13,880
Speaker 1: say the things that is like, girl, what it's funny

1112
01:01:15,000 --> 01:01:17,960
Speaker 1: And it's funny seeing your kids grow and develop a

1113
01:01:17,960 --> 01:01:20,920
Speaker 1: little character. And I'm like, when my baby she'd be

1114
01:01:21,000 --> 01:01:23,520
Speaker 1: hitting her brother and her sister, it'd be so fun

1115
01:01:23,560 --> 01:01:26,680
Speaker 1: of me because it's like a baby and she's there

1116
01:01:26,880 --> 01:01:28,760
Speaker 1: and they're just there taking it. So to me, the

1117
01:01:29,120 --> 01:01:34,320
Speaker 1: little things like that is funny and makes me happy. Romance,

1118
01:01:34,600 --> 01:01:36,720
Speaker 1: you know what I'm saying. When I'm in love and

1119
01:01:36,760 --> 01:01:38,840
Speaker 1: when we're having a go you know, we're having a

1120
01:01:38,880 --> 01:01:42,200
Speaker 1: go week. When you're showing that you care, that makes

1121
01:01:42,240 --> 01:01:47,360
Speaker 1: me happy. You know. Actually, when I just saw a

1122
01:01:47,440 --> 01:01:50,800
Speaker 1: piece of an interview with Selena Gomez and you when

1123
01:01:50,840 --> 01:01:56,160
Speaker 1: she said I might have a fourteen hour day and

1124
01:01:56,400 --> 01:01:59,960
Speaker 1: just one phone call and when somebody's there for you,

1125
01:02:00,280 --> 01:02:02,680
Speaker 1: it's a good feeling. That's a good feeling as well.

1126
01:02:04,120 --> 01:02:07,160
Speaker 1: What else is a good feeling for me? When I'm

1127
01:02:07,200 --> 01:02:09,880
Speaker 1: with my cousins, When I'm with my family and we

1128
01:02:09,880 --> 01:02:13,000
Speaker 1: were just cracking jokes and it just feels it feels

1129
01:02:13,040 --> 01:02:18,080
Speaker 1: like it feels like childhood. It makes me happy. Music

1130
01:02:18,160 --> 01:02:22,600
Speaker 1: makes me very happy. I love music. Where me and

1131
01:02:22,640 --> 01:02:26,560
Speaker 1: my team we plan something, we put in so much

1132
01:02:26,640 --> 01:02:30,320
Speaker 1: work and it goes good. That makes me happy. That

1133
01:02:30,360 --> 01:02:33,880
Speaker 1: makes me happy, the team happy, and it motivates me

1134
01:02:34,000 --> 01:02:37,200
Speaker 1: and then motivates my team and it's just like we

1135
01:02:37,240 --> 01:02:40,280
Speaker 1: did it. So stuff like that, stuff like that makes

1136
01:02:40,320 --> 01:02:44,520
Speaker 1: me happy. Seeing all the work that you do and

1137
01:02:45,360 --> 01:02:48,040
Speaker 1: the time that you put, the process, the progress that

1138
01:02:48,080 --> 01:02:51,120
Speaker 1: you put, and it's like it hits, it's successful. That

1139
01:02:51,160 --> 01:02:53,280
Speaker 1: makes me really happy, Like it's like, oh, thank God,

1140
01:02:53,320 --> 01:02:55,680
Speaker 1: thank you Jesus. It makes you want to keep going.

1141
01:02:56,400 --> 01:02:57,760
Speaker 2: Just say that's a good list.

1142
01:02:57,880 --> 01:02:59,160
Speaker 1: Yeah, that's a good list.

1143
01:02:59,240 --> 01:03:02,360
Speaker 2: I like it so connection. It's all real. It's human,

1144
01:03:02,440 --> 01:03:06,880
Speaker 2: it's love, it's family, it's friends, it's intimacy, it's it's

1145
01:03:06,960 --> 01:03:08,800
Speaker 2: it's all the it's all. It is all the most

1146
01:03:08,800 --> 01:03:11,960
Speaker 2: beautiful things that we're all looking for. How do you

1147
01:03:12,000 --> 01:03:14,160
Speaker 2: see love now? Like, how do you define love?

1148
01:03:15,240 --> 01:03:19,440
Speaker 1: Effort? It's not going to always be perfect. Effort is

1149
01:03:19,920 --> 01:03:22,320
Speaker 1: like a lot to me. It means a lot to me,

1150
01:03:22,400 --> 01:03:27,120
Speaker 1: like calling me, studying me personality as well. I love

1151
01:03:27,160 --> 01:03:30,400
Speaker 1: me a joke, I love me a you know what

1152
01:03:30,400 --> 01:03:33,120
Speaker 1: I'm saying, Like if you, if I if I come

1153
01:03:33,160 --> 01:03:36,040
Speaker 1: to you and I'm in tears, when was the last

1154
01:03:36,040 --> 01:03:40,919
Speaker 1: week I saw I saw my low boyfriend. I saw

1155
01:03:40,960 --> 01:03:43,400
Speaker 1: my boyfriend and I was in tears. I was like,

1156
01:03:43,480 --> 01:03:46,600
Speaker 1: it's so much pressure on me, Like, it's so much

1157
01:03:46,640 --> 01:03:51,960
Speaker 1: pressure on me, and just one little joke like my tears.

1158
01:03:52,720 --> 01:03:54,440
Speaker 1: I kind of forgot the joke, but it was so

1159
01:03:54,520 --> 01:03:57,439
Speaker 1: funny and like it's not coming out of my nose

1160
01:03:57,480 --> 01:03:59,680
Speaker 1: and it's like men laught. It just made me feel good,

1161
01:03:59,680 --> 01:04:01,400
Speaker 1: and it's it's like, you know what things are going.

1162
01:04:01,320 --> 01:04:05,200
Speaker 2: To be, Okay, someone you can, someone you can, someone

1163
01:04:05,240 --> 01:04:07,840
Speaker 2: who can make you laugh, cry, and someone who can

1164
01:04:08,480 --> 01:04:11,440
Speaker 2: be there for you when you're crying. Real heart tis Yeah.

1165
01:04:11,480 --> 01:04:13,479
Speaker 2: I like that, and I I like what you said

1166
01:04:13,560 --> 01:04:16,240
Speaker 2: study you. Yeah that was really interesting. Now I've never

1167
01:04:16,240 --> 01:04:18,280
Speaker 2: heard that before, but I like it. The idea that

1168
01:04:18,280 --> 01:04:20,520
Speaker 2: if someone loves you, they study you. What is what

1169
01:04:20,560 --> 01:04:21,840
Speaker 2: does that mean to you? Tell me about that. I

1170
01:04:21,920 --> 01:04:22,600
Speaker 2: like that one a lot.

1171
01:04:23,120 --> 01:04:25,240
Speaker 1: Certain things are just the obvious, you know what I'm saying.

1172
01:04:25,240 --> 01:04:27,800
Speaker 1: Like certain things is like are you really studying me?

1173
01:04:27,920 --> 01:04:30,120
Speaker 1: Or is just the obvious? Like for example, if you

1174
01:04:30,160 --> 01:04:32,720
Speaker 1: get me a purse, if you get me a Berken

1175
01:04:32,840 --> 01:04:36,600
Speaker 1: or a Kelly, right, it makes me happy, of course,

1176
01:04:36,680 --> 01:04:41,040
Speaker 1: like who don't which which women don't bag make them happy?

1177
01:04:41,840 --> 01:04:44,040
Speaker 1: But you know that that's what I like. So it's

1178
01:04:44,080 --> 01:04:46,040
Speaker 1: not like you study it, it's that you see it

1179
01:04:46,120 --> 01:04:49,560
Speaker 1: on my page. But like when you do things that

1180
01:04:50,160 --> 01:04:53,080
Speaker 1: you don't normally do, but you're doing it because you

1181
01:04:53,320 --> 01:04:56,520
Speaker 1: heard me talk about this like like when you run

1182
01:04:56,560 --> 01:04:58,760
Speaker 1: a castle and I know you don't want to be

1183
01:04:58,840 --> 01:05:03,200
Speaker 1: in this old dass castle that you literally gotta go

1184
01:05:03,400 --> 01:05:05,440
Speaker 1: up and down the stairs just so you could pee,

1185
01:05:05,960 --> 01:05:09,240
Speaker 1: and it's hot and there's no air conditioner. When you

1186
01:05:10,080 --> 01:05:13,320
Speaker 1: rent a castle out just so you could just because

1187
01:05:13,360 --> 01:05:16,560
Speaker 1: you you keep saying like I can't wait, I can't

1188
01:05:16,600 --> 01:05:19,320
Speaker 1: wait to have a day off in Paris so I

1189
01:05:19,320 --> 01:05:22,720
Speaker 1: could go to Versailles. I'm obsessed with castles. I'm obsessed

1190
01:05:22,760 --> 01:05:25,440
Speaker 1: with kings. I'm obsessed with queens. And it's like you

1191
01:05:25,560 --> 01:05:28,280
Speaker 1: listen to that and you like, do your restu make

1192
01:05:28,280 --> 01:05:32,840
Speaker 1: it happen. It's like it's like little things like that.

1193
01:05:34,120 --> 01:05:34,560
Speaker 2: Clues.

1194
01:05:35,200 --> 01:05:37,080
Speaker 1: It's not even like leaving clothes. It's just like me.

1195
01:05:38,520 --> 01:05:43,320
Speaker 1: It's me talking. It's like it means stuff to me

1196
01:05:43,880 --> 01:05:45,960
Speaker 1: and stuff like that when you get to know my

1197
01:05:46,000 --> 01:05:52,880
Speaker 1: personality too and get to study me, okay, because I'm

1198
01:05:53,320 --> 01:05:55,440
Speaker 1: I think I'm a hard person to figure out. Some

1199
01:05:55,480 --> 01:05:59,640
Speaker 1: people just see me and think certain things until you

1200
01:05:59,760 --> 01:06:03,000
Speaker 1: really get to figure me out and crack me so

1201
01:06:03,080 --> 01:06:04,840
Speaker 1: I might give you what I want to give you.

1202
01:06:05,800 --> 01:06:06,720
Speaker 1: You haven't cracked me.

1203
01:06:06,800 --> 01:06:12,080
Speaker 2: Yet, Will anyone ever crack you? Is it possible.

1204
01:06:13,200 --> 01:06:17,720
Speaker 1: Yeah, little by little, I open up and I show

1205
01:06:17,800 --> 01:06:20,800
Speaker 1: more of myself, my real self.

1206
01:06:21,240 --> 01:06:25,320
Speaker 2: Yeah, it's been it's been seven years since you released

1207
01:06:25,320 --> 01:06:29,240
Speaker 2: new music, and you've talked to me about releasing it.

1208
01:06:29,480 --> 01:06:31,480
Speaker 2: The hard work that went into it, the journey that

1209
01:06:31,520 --> 01:06:35,280
Speaker 2: got you there, Why you waited? What finally made you

1210
01:06:35,320 --> 01:06:37,320
Speaker 2: feel confident that you had the right piece of work?

1211
01:06:37,360 --> 01:06:39,480
Speaker 2: What did you put into it? How did you know

1212
01:06:40,200 --> 01:06:42,400
Speaker 2: that now was the right time and the work was ready?

1213
01:06:42,640 --> 01:06:49,080
Speaker 1: Because it feels good, it feels good, Like it's like this,

1214
01:06:49,320 --> 01:06:52,880
Speaker 1: I feel like people are missing this. It feels good.

1215
01:06:53,120 --> 01:06:56,640
Speaker 1: I feel good. I feel confident about it. I feel

1216
01:06:56,720 --> 01:06:59,480
Speaker 1: very confident about it, to be honest with you, So

1217
01:06:59,800 --> 01:07:01,800
Speaker 1: that that's why. That's why I'm like, it's time.

1218
01:07:02,360 --> 01:07:05,200
Speaker 2: Yeah, where where did the name? Am? I? The drama?

1219
01:07:05,800 --> 01:07:09,400
Speaker 2: What inspired that? What's what's the subtext? What's the hidden

1220
01:07:09,480 --> 01:07:10,400
Speaker 2: meanings behind it?

1221
01:07:10,480 --> 01:07:11,840
Speaker 1: I don't want to keep saying when I was a

1222
01:07:11,880 --> 01:07:14,760
Speaker 1: little girl, but it's funny, Like it's like.

1223
01:07:15,000 --> 01:07:16,720
Speaker 2: Say it, I love it. I love knowing that you

1224
01:07:16,840 --> 01:07:18,360
Speaker 2: manifested this. It's beautiful.

1225
01:07:18,560 --> 01:07:20,880
Speaker 1: No, because it's like, ever since I was a little girl,

1226
01:07:23,200 --> 01:07:27,680
Speaker 1: I always get in trouble and it don't really be me.

1227
01:07:28,680 --> 01:07:30,920
Speaker 1: Like it's like if we having a sleepover, me and

1228
01:07:30,960 --> 01:07:34,160
Speaker 1: my cousins, I would be the one that the aunt

1229
01:07:34,480 --> 01:07:36,600
Speaker 1: is pulling their ears because it's like, yeah, I know

1230
01:07:36,720 --> 01:07:39,400
Speaker 1: this was your idea, but even was, it wasn't even

1231
01:07:39,480 --> 01:07:42,120
Speaker 1: my idea. Sometimes when I used to go to school

1232
01:07:42,440 --> 01:07:44,680
Speaker 1: and I used to fight, my mom used to be like,

1233
01:07:44,960 --> 01:07:47,120
Speaker 1: then I tell you to avoid the fight, and it's like, Mom,

1234
01:07:47,400 --> 01:07:50,680
Speaker 1: I swear to God, it is not me. It's these girls.

1235
01:07:50,720 --> 01:07:53,440
Speaker 1: They keep trying me. That's why I keep getting into fights.

1236
01:07:54,840 --> 01:07:56,920
Speaker 1: And when I was in school too, like it's like

1237
01:07:57,400 --> 01:07:59,600
Speaker 1: when I do get in trouble just because I'm being

1238
01:07:59,640 --> 01:08:04,120
Speaker 1: mischie it's just like like my friend's mom used to

1239
01:08:04,120 --> 01:08:06,280
Speaker 1: be like, it's because of her, it's because of it's

1240
01:08:06,320 --> 01:08:08,360
Speaker 1: because of Beccles. I know it's her, and it's like

1241
01:08:08,720 --> 01:08:11,720
Speaker 1: it don't really be me. It really don't be me.

1242
01:08:12,240 --> 01:08:14,120
Speaker 1: And that's just how it is for my life. Like

1243
01:08:14,160 --> 01:08:17,280
Speaker 1: it's like, Yo, I'm always in a scandal, I'm always

1244
01:08:17,280 --> 01:08:20,880
Speaker 1: in some bullshit. I'm always in some beef, and it's

1245
01:08:20,960 --> 01:08:24,040
Speaker 1: like no matter how much I avoid it, it comes

1246
01:08:24,120 --> 01:08:29,840
Speaker 1: to me. Am I the fucking drama isn't me. Jesus

1247
01:08:30,439 --> 01:08:34,800
Speaker 1: isn't me, no matter how much I avoid it, no

1248
01:08:34,840 --> 01:08:37,280
Speaker 1: matter how much I think I'm in a bubble, And

1249
01:08:37,320 --> 01:08:41,080
Speaker 1: it's like, Nope, that bubble is always gonna pop. Something's

1250
01:08:41,080 --> 01:08:41,960
Speaker 1: always gonna find you.

1251
01:08:42,080 --> 01:08:42,320
Speaker 2: Girl.

1252
01:08:43,960 --> 01:08:48,360
Speaker 1: But that's why I like am I the drama? Why

1253
01:08:48,360 --> 01:08:51,760
Speaker 1: am I always in some ship? Whether it's good or bad?

1254
01:08:51,840 --> 01:08:53,160
Speaker 1: Why am I always in some ship?

1255
01:08:54,040 --> 01:08:54,839
Speaker 2: What's the answer?

1256
01:08:55,960 --> 01:09:02,240
Speaker 1: Am I? That's the that's the answer is to the

1257
01:09:02,360 --> 01:09:08,479
Speaker 1: question am I? Am I? Only one person can answer that,

1258
01:09:09,080 --> 01:09:13,320
Speaker 1: and that's Jesus, Because God, Why I'm always in some ship?

1259
01:09:14,760 --> 01:09:19,120
Speaker 1: When is the boat gonna start smooth sailing? Why are

1260
01:09:19,120 --> 01:09:21,280
Speaker 1: we always in the ocean in the middle of the

1261
01:09:21,280 --> 01:09:23,960
Speaker 1: ocean and the roughest we in the We're in the

1262
01:09:23,960 --> 01:09:25,320
Speaker 1: Pacific Ocean all the time.

1263
01:09:28,040 --> 01:09:30,799
Speaker 2: I love that. It's a great question. It's a great question,

1264
01:09:31,400 --> 01:09:34,400
Speaker 2: lends up for a great album. It's it's it's such

1265
01:09:34,400 --> 01:09:37,040
Speaker 2: a great name. It's such a great such a great energy.

1266
01:09:37,080 --> 01:09:39,200
Speaker 2: Even just hearing you talk about it is such a

1267
01:09:39,200 --> 01:09:42,400
Speaker 2: great vibe. What's the I mean, how does it feel

1268
01:09:42,439 --> 01:09:45,360
Speaker 2: when that drama gets televised and then it's all over TikTok?

1269
01:09:45,360 --> 01:09:46,160
Speaker 2: How does that feel?

1270
01:09:46,880 --> 01:09:49,639
Speaker 1: Yep? Sometimes it's girl. Sometimes it's bad.

1271
01:09:50,400 --> 01:09:52,519
Speaker 2: You always show up looking fabulous, But I'm like, how

1272
01:09:52,760 --> 01:09:54,479
Speaker 2: does that feel when, like, you.

1273
01:09:54,479 --> 01:09:57,639
Speaker 1: Know, well, I try to come and here having eyes

1274
01:09:57,720 --> 01:10:02,000
Speaker 1: like you, but one of one of the contacts wasn't cooperating,

1275
01:10:02,520 --> 01:10:04,760
Speaker 1: so I'm like, I'm not taking this other contact off.

1276
01:10:04,960 --> 01:10:05,840
Speaker 2: So that's why we have.

1277
01:10:05,880 --> 01:10:08,080
Speaker 1: The and that's why we got three blue eyes and

1278
01:10:08,160 --> 01:10:08,639
Speaker 1: on set.

1279
01:10:10,920 --> 01:10:13,479
Speaker 2: I love it. I love it. I love it. So

1280
01:10:14,080 --> 01:10:16,680
Speaker 2: how does it feel when when your drama is televised, Like,

1281
01:10:16,720 --> 01:10:18,840
Speaker 2: when that is televised, how does that feel?

1282
01:10:19,040 --> 01:10:22,479
Speaker 1: It just feels Sometimes it feels okay because there's gonna

1283
01:10:22,479 --> 01:10:25,080
Speaker 1: be people that's gonna cheer for you. And sometimes it's

1284
01:10:25,080 --> 01:10:30,439
Speaker 1: gonna be very overwhelming, like and very stressful, very annoying.

1285
01:10:30,960 --> 01:10:37,240
Speaker 1: And then it's like, unlike other celebrities, you know, a

1286
01:10:37,280 --> 01:10:39,599
Speaker 1: lot of people be wanting me to be like certain

1287
01:10:39,640 --> 01:10:43,519
Speaker 1: celebrities and stuff like that, Like they just want me

1288
01:10:43,600 --> 01:10:46,200
Speaker 1: to be like the type of person that just don't respond,

1289
01:10:46,760 --> 01:10:51,920
Speaker 1: they don't tell my feelings. And they were thinking that

1290
01:10:52,040 --> 01:10:58,360
Speaker 1: some of these celebrities like the perfect which there are amazing,

1291
01:10:58,800 --> 01:11:01,519
Speaker 1: but don't think they're not going through what I'm going through.

1292
01:11:01,760 --> 01:11:04,599
Speaker 1: Don't think they don't feel like what the pressure they

1293
01:11:04,760 --> 01:11:10,200
Speaker 1: that I go through. Don't think they're not saying, yeah,

1294
01:11:10,479 --> 01:11:13,360
Speaker 1: I hate you mother, because what you think you are

1295
01:11:13,400 --> 01:11:15,640
Speaker 1: to tell me that I'm this? This who if you

1296
01:11:15,760 --> 01:11:18,479
Speaker 1: take you this? And I'm just the person that tells it.

1297
01:11:20,160 --> 01:11:25,040
Speaker 1: So it's a blessing and occurs because sometimes I feel

1298
01:11:25,040 --> 01:11:27,760
Speaker 1: like I speak for them. And that's why when a

1299
01:11:27,800 --> 01:11:31,000
Speaker 1: lot of celebrities see me, they be like, yo, You'll

1300
01:11:31,000 --> 01:11:34,479
Speaker 1: be saying what I want to say. But then sometimes

1301
01:11:34,680 --> 01:11:37,120
Speaker 1: like a curse because sometimes people be like it's like, oh,

1302
01:11:37,160 --> 01:11:38,920
Speaker 1: you're the only one that do that. You're the only

1303
01:11:38,960 --> 01:11:41,040
Speaker 1: one to do that. And it's like, well, I'll be

1304
01:11:41,120 --> 01:11:43,599
Speaker 1: the one that do that. I can't do it all

1305
01:11:43,640 --> 01:11:45,719
Speaker 1: the time though, because then people gonna think I'm just crazy,

1306
01:11:45,880 --> 01:11:47,840
Speaker 1: but I'll be the one to do that. Y'all need

1307
01:11:47,880 --> 01:11:50,759
Speaker 1: to leave sing people alone. Y'all think because that celebrity,

1308
01:11:50,840 --> 01:11:52,320
Speaker 1: we make a little money and we make a little

1309
01:11:52,360 --> 01:11:56,160
Speaker 1: this like it's that bitch. I feel it's too hope,

1310
01:11:57,680 --> 01:12:03,439
Speaker 1: I ain't no chop liver h So maybe that's what

1311
01:12:03,560 --> 01:12:06,200
Speaker 1: I sometimes like the punching bags and sometimes people be like,

1312
01:12:06,400 --> 01:12:08,280
Speaker 1: you need to stop doing that. You need to stop

1313
01:12:08,320 --> 01:12:10,439
Speaker 1: being this, you need you need to be more like them,

1314
01:12:10,479 --> 01:12:12,559
Speaker 1: and it's like they feel the same way I feel too.

1315
01:12:12,600 --> 01:12:16,400
Speaker 1: They want to tell these people, yea, you are your

1316
01:12:16,400 --> 01:12:22,120
Speaker 1: mom here, your dad and your whole bloodline. You're talking

1317
01:12:22,120 --> 01:12:26,639
Speaker 1: on me. You trust me. They want to say that.

1318
01:12:27,160 --> 01:12:28,080
Speaker 1: They want to say that.

1319
01:12:28,160 --> 01:12:29,080
Speaker 2: I think everyone does.

1320
01:12:29,960 --> 01:12:32,240
Speaker 1: But I'll be the one to say it. But that's

1321
01:12:32,280 --> 01:12:35,519
Speaker 1: because sometimes it do feel good to say it. Thank you,

1322
01:12:40,600 --> 01:12:45,479
Speaker 1: bitch you. I'll be the one now all the time,

1323
01:12:45,520 --> 01:12:46,240
Speaker 1: but I'll be the one.

1324
01:12:46,560 --> 01:12:49,040
Speaker 2: Yeah. Yeah, I could see that from all the clips

1325
01:12:49,040 --> 01:12:52,120
Speaker 2: that I've seen, Like you're always yourself, Like you're never

1326
01:12:52,200 --> 01:12:56,799
Speaker 2: not yourself wherever you are, the climb, the looks, the fashion,

1327
01:12:57,000 --> 01:12:59,320
Speaker 2: the wigs, the everything that comes out of your mouth.

1328
01:12:59,360 --> 01:13:02,680
Speaker 2: It's like you're never uh, you're never filtering yourself no

1329
01:13:02,680 --> 01:13:06,160
Speaker 2: matter the environment. You're trust ah you do.

1330
01:13:08,200 --> 01:13:10,960
Speaker 1: Sometimes I feel like the who the am? I? Who

1331
01:13:11,280 --> 01:13:14,080
Speaker 1: have I become? Because I used to have no filter?

1332
01:13:14,280 --> 01:13:15,400
Speaker 1: Now it's just like I'll be like all.

1333
01:13:17,000 --> 01:13:21,760
Speaker 2: But still, though, where do you feelter yourself? If you

1334
01:13:21,800 --> 01:13:23,400
Speaker 2: ever do? Where do you feel to yourself?

1335
01:13:29,000 --> 01:13:32,719
Speaker 1: This mouth? I could be a piranha?

1336
01:13:35,320 --> 01:13:39,120
Speaker 2: What are we today at? Shock? No? Today's no today?

1337
01:13:39,120 --> 01:13:41,000
Speaker 2: I will goldfish Okay today fish.

1338
01:13:41,160 --> 01:13:44,800
Speaker 1: I said nothing bad today. Today'd be really nice today.

1339
01:13:44,920 --> 01:13:45,799
Speaker 2: You have been wonderful.

1340
01:13:46,040 --> 01:13:48,439
Speaker 1: But it's like sometimes I'll be seeing people and I'll

1341
01:13:48,439 --> 01:13:53,880
Speaker 1: be like, I could get really nasty. This all facts.

1342
01:13:53,920 --> 01:13:55,240
Speaker 1: I could get really nasty.

1343
01:13:55,680 --> 01:13:57,559
Speaker 2: You hold back sometimes I hold back.

1344
01:13:57,439 --> 01:14:00,920
Speaker 1: So much, hold I hold back so much, so much science.

1345
01:14:03,720 --> 01:14:06,120
Speaker 1: I really you know what I really did change the life.

1346
01:14:06,120 --> 01:14:08,320
Speaker 1: I don't know what changed me. Maybe maybe the age,

1347
01:14:09,120 --> 01:14:11,479
Speaker 1: maybe the kids, maybe life.

1348
01:14:12,479 --> 01:14:13,479
Speaker 2: You softened up a bit.

1349
01:14:14,560 --> 01:14:17,120
Speaker 1: I always been soft, but I could. I could really

1350
01:14:17,120 --> 01:14:20,200
Speaker 1: give it to you and I watched up, but I

1351
01:14:20,240 --> 01:14:21,160
Speaker 1: stopped this work?

1352
01:14:24,040 --> 01:14:26,000
Speaker 2: Is it? The age is the kids? Which one is?

1353
01:14:26,360 --> 01:14:26,840
Speaker 2: All of them?

1354
01:14:26,960 --> 01:14:31,200
Speaker 1: All of their birth is a combination? Age? Really wise

1355
01:14:31,240 --> 01:14:35,160
Speaker 1: in you? Why isn't you? And make you afraid?

1356
01:14:36,040 --> 01:14:41,280
Speaker 2: Yeah, got more to lose that. I think that plays

1357
01:14:41,280 --> 01:14:44,080
Speaker 2: a big part. When you're young and you're dreaming and

1358
01:14:44,080 --> 01:14:46,599
Speaker 2: you want all these things, no one ever tells you

1359
01:14:46,840 --> 01:14:50,160
Speaker 2: the cost that it comes at, Yeah, and how much

1360
01:14:51,320 --> 01:14:54,759
Speaker 2: it tests you and brings all sorts of other challenges

1361
01:14:54,800 --> 01:14:59,280
Speaker 2: into your life. Yeah. Yeah, You've talked about how money

1362
01:14:59,280 --> 01:15:04,240
Speaker 2: doesn't fix every thing and success doesn't solve everything, and

1363
01:15:04,640 --> 01:15:06,400
Speaker 2: it almost feels like when you don't have those things

1364
01:15:06,439 --> 01:15:08,880
Speaker 2: you think it will, yeah, and then when you get it,

1365
01:15:08,880 --> 01:15:11,320
Speaker 2: you realize, oh wait, there's all this other stuff that

1366
01:15:11,600 --> 01:15:30,280
Speaker 2: we haven't figured out yet. What is something that you're

1367
01:15:30,320 --> 01:15:35,120
Speaker 2: still trying to figure out learn solve in your own life?

1368
01:15:35,560 --> 01:15:37,960
Speaker 2: What's the part of your life you're like working on,

1369
01:15:38,240 --> 01:15:41,599
Speaker 2: dreaming and visioning, imagining to be better and different?

1370
01:15:42,479 --> 01:15:45,240
Speaker 1: I mean life in general, all of it, all of it.

1371
01:15:45,280 --> 01:15:47,920
Speaker 1: To be honest with you, life just doesn't get I

1372
01:15:47,960 --> 01:15:50,919
Speaker 1: wonder when life is going to do start getting easier

1373
01:15:51,479 --> 01:15:54,280
Speaker 1: because life is just hard no matter if you have

1374
01:15:54,360 --> 01:15:58,040
Speaker 1: money or not. You got problems when you're poor, you

1375
01:15:58,120 --> 01:16:03,559
Speaker 1: got problems when you're rich. He's always just trying to

1376
01:16:03,600 --> 01:16:05,680
Speaker 1: figure every single day. I feel like people is just

1377
01:16:05,720 --> 01:16:07,680
Speaker 1: trying to figure it out, trying to figure themselves out,

1378
01:16:08,000 --> 01:16:10,679
Speaker 1: trying to figure life out. And it just will never stop.

1379
01:16:11,520 --> 01:16:13,479
Speaker 1: It will never stop. I think one would do will

1380
01:16:13,520 --> 01:16:15,720
Speaker 1: stop when you're sixty. But even when you're sixty, you're

1381
01:16:15,720 --> 01:16:22,240
Speaker 1: gonna start having other problems, like back problems, and it's

1382
01:16:22,280 --> 01:16:24,400
Speaker 1: like another thing, another problem do you got to figure out?

1383
01:16:24,560 --> 01:16:25,920
Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying, Like, it's like it's just

1384
01:16:26,000 --> 01:16:26,799
Speaker 1: will never stop.

1385
01:16:27,040 --> 01:16:27,240
Speaker 2: Yeah.

1386
01:16:27,720 --> 01:16:30,240
Speaker 1: The older you get, the more people you lose more

1387
01:16:30,320 --> 01:16:32,240
Speaker 1: kids who have the more things you have to worry about,

1388
01:16:32,840 --> 01:16:35,600
Speaker 1: the more money you have, the more you have to

1389
01:16:36,680 --> 01:16:40,720
Speaker 1: learn about managing. You have a partner or you don't

1390
01:16:40,760 --> 01:16:42,360
Speaker 1: have a partner. You got to figure out how you

1391
01:16:42,680 --> 01:16:44,479
Speaker 1: if you want to how you want to deal with

1392
01:16:44,640 --> 01:16:47,120
Speaker 1: being alone when you have a partner. It's like how

1393
01:16:47,240 --> 01:16:49,080
Speaker 1: you got to figure out how to be the peace

1394
01:16:49,800 --> 01:16:53,880
Speaker 1: and everything? And I really don't want people thinking neither

1395
01:16:53,920 --> 01:16:55,800
Speaker 1: that is like just because you have money, like it's

1396
01:16:55,840 --> 01:17:00,400
Speaker 1: that you live the easy life. Everybody that they have money,

1397
01:17:00,560 --> 01:17:04,160
Speaker 1: that are successful, that are good at what they do.

1398
01:17:05,200 --> 01:17:07,679
Speaker 1: If you notice a pattern, they work their asses off.

1399
01:17:08,640 --> 01:17:11,400
Speaker 1: Thing that Beyonce gotta can vote and imagine and this

1400
01:17:11,439 --> 01:17:15,640
Speaker 1: and that because she's just Beyonce. No, she worked her

1401
01:17:15,680 --> 01:17:17,880
Speaker 1: ass off. She's one of the most hardest people ever.

1402
01:17:18,320 --> 01:17:20,679
Speaker 1: Why people cannot get to her level? White people cannot

1403
01:17:20,680 --> 01:17:23,040
Speaker 1: this and that because they just she just have an

1404
01:17:23,080 --> 01:17:30,040
Speaker 1: insane work ethic, insane time. And my partner he works

1405
01:17:30,120 --> 01:17:32,840
Speaker 1: up every day at five thirty six am and leave

1406
01:17:32,880 --> 01:17:35,920
Speaker 1: work at seven pm. And then you got people that

1407
01:17:36,000 --> 01:17:37,680
Speaker 1: hate on him and it's like, well, why he's so

1408
01:17:37,800 --> 01:17:42,800
Speaker 1: good because he works hard? Why am i here after

1409
01:17:42,840 --> 01:17:48,040
Speaker 1: seven years because I'm every day, every day, working every day.

1410
01:17:48,120 --> 01:17:52,320
Speaker 1: What we're doing next? Hello, what y'all doing? Wake up?

1411
01:17:52,400 --> 01:17:53,920
Speaker 1: I got a sad and plan. I just I just

1412
01:17:53,920 --> 01:17:56,280
Speaker 1: thought of something. I just had a dream of something.

1413
01:17:56,280 --> 01:17:59,280
Speaker 1: We gotta make it happen. And working hard. You could

1414
01:17:59,280 --> 01:18:01,320
Speaker 1: stay working hard. And it sounds like working hard, but

1415
01:18:01,400 --> 01:18:03,720
Speaker 1: it's like it's hours and hours and hours. It's time

1416
01:18:03,760 --> 01:18:09,320
Speaker 1: in his body's brain. I'm exhausted. I'm really exhausted right now.

1417
01:18:09,920 --> 01:18:13,400
Speaker 1: Back hurt, but her, I'm sleepy as ship. I got

1418
01:18:13,400 --> 01:18:15,920
Speaker 1: a headache on the right side of my head when

1419
01:18:15,920 --> 01:18:19,400
Speaker 1: I'm working. After this, I got to do a promo

1420
01:18:19,439 --> 01:18:21,880
Speaker 1: shoot and then I go into the studio and then tomorrow.

1421
01:18:21,880 --> 01:18:25,240
Speaker 1: I gotta do something else every single day, every single day,

1422
01:18:25,240 --> 01:18:27,040
Speaker 1: every single day. If you want it, you gotta do it.

1423
01:18:27,400 --> 01:18:28,439
Speaker 1: No complain, no crying.

1424
01:18:28,520 --> 01:18:33,400
Speaker 2: Ship. In this conversation, you've talked about Jesus, you talked

1425
01:18:33,400 --> 01:18:35,000
Speaker 2: about the devil. Do you talk to God in law?

1426
01:18:35,120 --> 01:18:37,160
Speaker 2: Do you pray every day every day?

1427
01:18:38,320 --> 01:18:43,920
Speaker 1: I feel like I have a very deep spiritual connection

1428
01:18:44,040 --> 01:18:48,599
Speaker 1: with God. And it's not even like about praying, it's

1429
01:18:48,640 --> 01:18:50,640
Speaker 1: like talking. Like even when I talk to God, I

1430
01:18:50,680 --> 01:18:52,720
Speaker 1: talk to him, just like I'm talking to you, I'll

1431
01:18:52,760 --> 01:18:56,639
Speaker 1: be cursing, crying because people be like, oh, cursing is bad.

1432
01:18:56,640 --> 01:18:59,080
Speaker 1: But it's like God knows, God knows, God knows who

1433
01:18:59,120 --> 01:19:01,720
Speaker 1: I am. God knows, God knows how I be. Like.

1434
01:19:01,760 --> 01:19:04,120
Speaker 1: It's like it's almost like I'm talking to a friend,

1435
01:19:05,040 --> 01:19:09,720
Speaker 1: and I really do believe in my weird mind, in

1436
01:19:09,760 --> 01:19:13,320
Speaker 1: my weird universe that I made, like I have, I

1437
01:19:13,360 --> 01:19:16,200
Speaker 1: have angels. I really do believe that God gave me

1438
01:19:16,240 --> 01:19:20,360
Speaker 1: angels and I believe in them. I feel like God

1439
01:19:20,439 --> 01:19:22,439
Speaker 1: is here, and I feel like you got your angels here,

1440
01:19:22,520 --> 01:19:27,640
Speaker 1: then you got your other religions here. I believe in

1441
01:19:27,720 --> 01:19:32,000
Speaker 1: God so much it's not even funny. And you know

1442
01:19:32,080 --> 01:19:33,880
Speaker 1: some people might not believe in God. But it's like,

1443
01:19:34,680 --> 01:19:38,280
Speaker 1: don't try. Like it's like, I'm not gonna convince nobody

1444
01:19:38,760 --> 01:19:40,840
Speaker 1: to believe in what I believe in. But if it,

1445
01:19:41,920 --> 01:19:44,559
Speaker 1: how you expect me not to believe on the person

1446
01:19:44,600 --> 01:19:47,240
Speaker 1: that I've been praying to my whole life and gave

1447
01:19:47,240 --> 01:19:47,960
Speaker 1: me what I wanted.

1448
01:19:49,160 --> 01:19:51,360
Speaker 2: That little girl was talking to God in that dream.

1449
01:19:51,439 --> 01:19:55,519
Speaker 1: Always all the time. It's like the imaginary friend, the

1450
01:19:55,600 --> 01:19:58,320
Speaker 1: voice in your head. Do you think it's your friend,

1451
01:19:58,360 --> 01:20:01,559
Speaker 1: do you think it's your your your voice, that that's

1452
01:20:01,640 --> 01:20:03,880
Speaker 1: just was That was just you talking to God the

1453
01:20:03,880 --> 01:20:06,600
Speaker 1: whole time. That was just you talking to God the

1454
01:20:06,640 --> 01:20:10,200
Speaker 1: whole time. I love him. I believe in him. I

1455
01:20:10,280 --> 01:20:12,280
Speaker 1: always tell this to somebody like it's like the most,

1456
01:20:12,560 --> 01:20:14,880
Speaker 1: the most, the most I could give you, the most

1457
01:20:14,920 --> 01:20:17,519
Speaker 1: powerful thing that could give you is me praying on you.

1458
01:20:18,439 --> 01:20:20,840
Speaker 1: If I pray on you for you, it's because I

1459
01:20:20,880 --> 01:20:25,800
Speaker 1: love you. It's the most powerfulest thing. And I do

1460
01:20:25,920 --> 01:20:31,160
Speaker 1: feel like when you pray together, miracles happen. I love him.

1461
01:20:31,360 --> 01:20:33,439
Speaker 1: I love you so much. Why do you love me

1462
01:20:33,520 --> 01:20:38,200
Speaker 1: so much? Why do you love you already? I'm like

1463
01:20:38,200 --> 01:20:42,680
Speaker 1: one of your favorite kids. Tell them Jesus Lord, tell

1464
01:20:42,760 --> 01:20:47,760
Speaker 1: these people I'm one of your favorites, a lot of them.

1465
01:20:47,800 --> 01:20:52,439
Speaker 2: That's beautiful, Cardy. You've been so so generous with your time,

1466
01:20:52,479 --> 01:20:55,760
Speaker 2: your energy, your heart. I really felt, you know, this

1467
01:20:55,960 --> 01:20:58,800
Speaker 2: surpassed every one of my expectations that I had of

1468
01:20:58,800 --> 01:21:02,960
Speaker 2: meeting you and getting to interview. I knew, I knew

1469
01:21:03,000 --> 01:21:04,800
Speaker 2: there was so much spirit. I knew there was some soul.

1470
01:21:04,880 --> 01:21:07,639
Speaker 2: I knew there was there was just this energy inside

1471
01:21:07,680 --> 01:21:11,160
Speaker 2: that that I'm really grateful you let share today and

1472
01:21:11,479 --> 01:21:14,120
Speaker 2: people get to know you a bit more deeply. We

1473
01:21:14,120 --> 01:21:17,160
Speaker 2: we end every episode with the final five. These questions

1474
01:21:17,240 --> 01:21:20,439
Speaker 2: have to be answered in one word, one sentence maximum.

1475
01:21:20,600 --> 01:21:22,519
Speaker 2: So CARDI B. These are your final five.

1476
01:21:23,200 --> 01:21:26,320
Speaker 1: You know I talk a lot. You can you can

1477
01:21:26,479 --> 01:21:27,439
Speaker 1: answer one word.

1478
01:21:27,680 --> 01:21:30,920
Speaker 2: I'm giving you permission you can, all right? So question

1479
01:21:31,040 --> 01:21:32,840
Speaker 2: number one we asked these every guest who's been on

1480
01:21:32,880 --> 01:21:35,639
Speaker 2: the show, what is the best advice you've ever heard

1481
01:21:35,720 --> 01:21:36,440
Speaker 2: or received?

1482
01:21:37,320 --> 01:21:40,559
Speaker 1: Well, I'm going to go with one advice that I

1483
01:21:40,600 --> 01:21:43,360
Speaker 1: heard today. No, I didn't heard it today, I heard

1484
01:21:43,360 --> 01:21:50,520
Speaker 1: it yesterday. I asked the difficult questions. The difficult questions

1485
01:21:51,880 --> 01:21:56,240
Speaker 1: make the relationship stronger. It could break it, it could

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01:21:56,320 --> 01:22:00,439
Speaker 1: make it, but you still have an understanding. If you

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01:22:00,560 --> 01:22:03,920
Speaker 1: become that understanding, then yeah, it might become stronger.

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Speaker 2: You said it better. You said it better. Whoever said it?

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01:22:06,640 --> 01:22:09,920
Speaker 2: You said it better? Question number two, what is the

1490
01:22:09,960 --> 01:22:12,280
Speaker 2: worst advice you've ever heard or received?

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01:22:15,040 --> 01:22:19,160
Speaker 1: I think you've heard a lot sometimes when somebody told

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01:22:19,200 --> 01:22:21,559
Speaker 1: me to wear a certain outfit, or when somebody told

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01:22:21,600 --> 01:22:24,640
Speaker 1: me to drop a certain songs. You never know. Go

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01:22:24,720 --> 01:22:25,320
Speaker 1: from here to that.

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01:22:27,160 --> 01:22:31,000
Speaker 2: Question number three. Finish the sentence. One thing I'll never

1496
01:22:31,080 --> 01:22:32,120
Speaker 2: apologize for.

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01:22:32,479 --> 01:22:38,080
Speaker 1: Is may not vain and nain and mate. My mouth. Well,

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01:22:38,360 --> 01:22:41,519
Speaker 1: sometimes I'm apologizing for my mouth. Sometimes I might maybe

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01:22:41,520 --> 01:22:44,640
Speaker 1: I'm a little to war. I don't know. I'll apologize

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01:22:44,640 --> 01:22:46,320
Speaker 1: for my mouth sometimes, but not all the time.

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Speaker 2: Question number four, what's something that you used to value

1502
01:22:51,520 --> 01:22:52,759
Speaker 2: that you don't value anymore.

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01:22:55,040 --> 01:23:00,280
Speaker 1: I happen to have, like the streets, I valuate a

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01:23:00,360 --> 01:23:03,559
Speaker 1: lot and I don't. I valuate because it made me

1505
01:23:04,160 --> 01:23:07,839
Speaker 1: and it gave me a certain mentality. But I wouldn't

1506
01:23:07,840 --> 01:23:12,360
Speaker 1: want to advise, advise dad too, people that I love,

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01:23:12,400 --> 01:23:15,759
Speaker 1: people that I care, or to young kids, two young boys,

1508
01:23:15,840 --> 01:23:19,519
Speaker 1: to young girls, because it don't always lead you to

1509
01:23:19,560 --> 01:23:22,120
Speaker 1: where you think it's going to lead you. It's very grimy.

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01:23:22,640 --> 01:23:24,439
Speaker 1: Don't love you back ever.

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01:23:26,479 --> 01:23:28,599
Speaker 2: And fifth and final question we asked just every guest

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01:23:28,720 --> 01:23:31,200
Speaker 2: has been on the show, if you could create one

1513
01:23:31,360 --> 01:23:33,960
Speaker 2: law that ever in the world had to follow, what

1514
01:23:34,000 --> 01:23:39,679
Speaker 2: would it be if I was law?

1515
01:23:39,840 --> 01:23:41,519
Speaker 1: I'm not sure. I got to come back to that.

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01:23:42,920 --> 01:23:48,599
Speaker 1: Matter of fact. If you hurt children, you gotta get

1517
01:23:48,920 --> 01:23:52,719
Speaker 1: what's that thing when they clip you, cash you size,

1518
01:23:52,840 --> 01:23:55,320
Speaker 1: whatever it is called, you just got to be clipped.

1519
01:23:55,320 --> 01:23:57,360
Speaker 1: And if you're a woman, they need to burn it

1520
01:23:58,360 --> 01:23:59,280
Speaker 1: if you hurt kids.

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01:23:59,479 --> 01:23:59,679
Speaker 2: Wow.

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01:23:59,760 --> 01:24:03,080
Speaker 1: Yeah, that should be a mandatory thing all over the world. Wow,

1523
01:24:03,200 --> 01:24:06,759
Speaker 1: because kids are so precious. They're so precious, they so innocent.

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01:24:07,360 --> 01:24:10,040
Speaker 1: Well some of them, some of them are kind of evil.

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01:24:10,040 --> 01:24:14,320
Speaker 1: They're wont with the devils, you see, Doug Mry. Some

1526
01:24:14,320 --> 01:24:16,920
Speaker 1: of them was like, who was born to the who

1527
01:24:17,000 --> 01:24:20,240
Speaker 1: was born to your dob Jesus, Jesus upon.

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01:24:20,120 --> 01:24:25,920
Speaker 2: Your chair CARDI b everyone. The album is called am

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01:24:25,920 --> 01:24:28,479
Speaker 2: I the Drama. I'm so excited for everyone to hear it.

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01:24:28,880 --> 01:24:31,479
Speaker 2: Love your energy, love your spirits. So grateful to spend

1531
01:24:31,479 --> 01:24:34,960
Speaker 2: this time together and all the best. God bless and

1532
01:24:35,000 --> 01:24:38,080
Speaker 2: I hope that you continue to succeed and win at

1533
01:24:38,120 --> 01:24:40,920
Speaker 2: life and keep being the energy and forced that you are.

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01:24:41,040 --> 01:24:43,880
Speaker 2: So thank you, so much, thank you, thank you. If

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01:24:43,920 --> 01:24:47,760
Speaker 2: you love this episode, you'll really enjoy my episode with

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01:24:47,840 --> 01:24:51,920
Speaker 2: Selena Gomez on befriending your inner critic and how to

1537
01:24:51,960 --> 01:24:54,240
Speaker 2: speak to yourself with more compassion.

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Speaker 1: My fears are only going to continue to show me

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01:24:58,439 --> 01:25:01,639
Speaker 1: what I'm capable of. The more that I face my fears,

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01:25:01,680 --> 01:25:05,320
Speaker 1: the more that I feel I'm gaining strength, I'm gaining wisdom,

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Speaker 1: and I just want to keep doing that,