1 00:00:01,920 --> 00:00:05,359 Speaker 1: Wind Down with Janet Kramer and I'm Heeart Radio podcast. 2 00:00:07,560 --> 00:00:10,240 Speaker 2: This week's special guest, We've got Hilaria Baldwin coming on. 3 00:00:10,320 --> 00:00:13,400 Speaker 2: She is on Nation's Dumbest, but she is not at all, 4 00:00:13,520 --> 00:00:14,360 Speaker 2: so let's get her on. 5 00:00:15,240 --> 00:00:16,560 Speaker 3: Hi, you look beautiful. 6 00:00:16,920 --> 00:00:19,439 Speaker 4: I've had a full, a full day of press. 7 00:00:19,239 --> 00:00:21,680 Speaker 2: A full you just I feel like whenever I do 8 00:00:21,720 --> 00:00:24,000 Speaker 2: press day, it's it's it's Actually my husband and I 9 00:00:24,040 --> 00:00:26,279 Speaker 2: were talking about this the last time I went to 10 00:00:26,280 --> 00:00:29,920 Speaker 2: New York to do press and I was like, I'm exhausted, 11 00:00:29,960 --> 00:00:30,440 Speaker 2: and He's like. 12 00:00:30,360 --> 00:00:31,400 Speaker 3: You got to have so much fun. 13 00:00:31,600 --> 00:00:33,600 Speaker 2: I'm like, yeah, but like you talk all day long 14 00:00:33,640 --> 00:00:35,839 Speaker 2: that I'm like I I when I when I got home, 15 00:00:35,880 --> 00:00:37,279 Speaker 2: I was like, I don't want to talk to anybody. 16 00:00:37,720 --> 00:00:39,480 Speaker 1: Yes, And at the same time, I feel like, because 17 00:00:39,479 --> 00:00:42,440 Speaker 1: I have so many kids, I love the opportunity to 18 00:00:42,479 --> 00:00:43,720 Speaker 1: talk to adults. 19 00:00:44,040 --> 00:00:45,760 Speaker 3: Yes, Okay, yeah that makes sense. 20 00:00:46,000 --> 00:00:49,080 Speaker 1: So I feel like I don't know, I don't know. 21 00:00:49,120 --> 00:00:53,600 Speaker 1: And it's also like fun when it's like a fun project. So, now, 22 00:00:54,080 --> 00:00:54,920 Speaker 1: now where do you live. 23 00:00:55,920 --> 00:00:58,840 Speaker 2: I'm in Nashville right now. I've I moved to Nashville 24 00:00:58,880 --> 00:01:01,440 Speaker 2: from Los Angeles twenty nineteen. 25 00:01:01,600 --> 00:01:05,600 Speaker 1: Time I know so many people who have either moved 26 00:01:05,640 --> 00:01:07,520 Speaker 1: there or they've. 27 00:01:07,280 --> 00:01:08,480 Speaker 4: Lived there for a long time. 28 00:01:08,959 --> 00:01:12,120 Speaker 1: I was doing one of my shows with the with 29 00:01:12,200 --> 00:01:16,800 Speaker 1: the Christies, they're there, Caitlin Bristow, I did a show 30 00:01:16,800 --> 00:01:18,960 Speaker 1: with her. She was she's there part of the time 31 00:01:19,040 --> 00:01:22,840 Speaker 1: now she's here in New York. And then on Nations, 32 00:01:22,920 --> 00:01:24,000 Speaker 1: Demi Stevo's there. 33 00:01:24,400 --> 00:01:26,479 Speaker 3: Okay, yep, yeah, I mean. 34 00:01:26,360 --> 00:01:29,720 Speaker 1: It's apparently it's me. I've never been, but apparently it's amazing. 35 00:01:30,080 --> 00:01:30,280 Speaker 4: Yeah. 36 00:01:30,360 --> 00:01:32,039 Speaker 2: No, I love it and I've got three kids and 37 00:01:32,080 --> 00:01:34,720 Speaker 2: it's a it's a great I loved Los Angeles, but 38 00:01:34,760 --> 00:01:37,520 Speaker 2: I love I love living here. And we'll just jump 39 00:01:37,640 --> 00:01:41,000 Speaker 2: right into it, because girl, we actually have something in common. 40 00:01:41,120 --> 00:01:43,959 Speaker 2: We shared a dance partner on Dancing. 41 00:01:45,200 --> 00:01:48,080 Speaker 4: Him. I was texting him right before this. He's like, say, 42 00:01:48,160 --> 00:01:48,680 Speaker 4: I say hi. 43 00:01:49,600 --> 00:01:50,680 Speaker 3: Oh did he really say that? 44 00:01:50,680 --> 00:01:53,120 Speaker 2: Though, because a couple of podcasts ago, I was like, 45 00:01:53,800 --> 00:01:54,600 Speaker 2: I are. 46 00:01:54,800 --> 00:01:56,440 Speaker 3: I was like, I didn't like the way he taught. 47 00:01:57,680 --> 00:01:59,960 Speaker 1: Oh really no, no, he literally he said he wrote, 48 00:02:00,080 --> 00:02:02,600 Speaker 1: and they're like, let's go tell her. 49 00:02:02,680 --> 00:02:04,880 Speaker 4: I say hi. I think that was a quote. 50 00:02:05,040 --> 00:02:08,160 Speaker 2: So sweet. That's sweet. Yeah, No, I mean I haven't 51 00:02:08,160 --> 00:02:09,800 Speaker 2: talked to him in a minute, but yeah. I mean no, 52 00:02:10,280 --> 00:02:14,080 Speaker 2: there's no bad blood there obviously, but I'm curious because 53 00:02:14,160 --> 00:02:18,000 Speaker 2: you you did. Actually I think you were fourth right. 54 00:02:18,160 --> 00:02:21,040 Speaker 1: Fourth week out, I was whatever Disney week, dressed up 55 00:02:21,080 --> 00:02:23,040 Speaker 1: like Princess Leah and crying my eyes out. 56 00:02:23,160 --> 00:02:23,960 Speaker 4: That was my week. 57 00:02:24,240 --> 00:02:26,160 Speaker 3: Well, the thing is, I feel like you got so much. 58 00:02:26,600 --> 00:02:27,720 Speaker 3: I don't want to I don't want to say hey, 59 00:02:27,800 --> 00:02:28,160 Speaker 3: I hate that. 60 00:02:28,360 --> 00:02:33,520 Speaker 2: I dislike that word like unnecessary backlash because there's so 61 00:02:33,600 --> 00:02:35,640 Speaker 2: many people that go on that show that already have 62 00:02:35,760 --> 00:02:38,959 Speaker 2: dance experience. Yes that I'm like, and i was just 63 00:02:39,000 --> 00:02:41,360 Speaker 2: talking to Sharna about this because I'm like, as a 64 00:02:41,400 --> 00:02:45,120 Speaker 2: non dancer, like, yeah, it's frustrating of course when someone 65 00:02:45,120 --> 00:02:47,440 Speaker 2: comes on and they've got the backgrounds of X, Y 66 00:02:47,440 --> 00:02:49,640 Speaker 2: and Z. But at the same time, like so many 67 00:02:49,680 --> 00:02:52,840 Speaker 2: people have. I think athletes have a like a you know, 68 00:02:52,880 --> 00:02:57,480 Speaker 2: gymnast like people in like, yes, you've had training, you 69 00:02:57,520 --> 00:02:59,720 Speaker 2: were a dancer, but so were so many other people 70 00:02:59,760 --> 00:03:02,000 Speaker 2: like Lin Bristow for example, like you brought up. So 71 00:03:02,040 --> 00:03:05,919 Speaker 2: I'm like, yeah, why why did you just get the backlash? 72 00:03:06,919 --> 00:03:08,720 Speaker 1: I think it's like, I think it's a combination of 73 00:03:08,760 --> 00:03:11,119 Speaker 1: different things. I mean, I think in fairness to the backlash. 74 00:03:11,120 --> 00:03:13,480 Speaker 1: I always like to start with like selfwareness in fairness. 75 00:03:13,720 --> 00:03:15,920 Speaker 1: One of the reasons I never wanted to do the 76 00:03:15,960 --> 00:03:22,000 Speaker 1: show before was because I knew that that was going 77 00:03:22,080 --> 00:03:26,360 Speaker 1: to be a thing sure, and so it was like yeah, no, 78 00:03:26,440 --> 00:03:30,400 Speaker 1: I mean I loved watching like Andy, you know who 79 00:03:30,840 --> 00:03:31,240 Speaker 1: this is. 80 00:03:31,360 --> 00:03:33,280 Speaker 4: He is was not a dancer and now he is 81 00:03:33,320 --> 00:03:35,680 Speaker 4: a dancer, and he was just a joy to watch. 82 00:03:36,200 --> 00:03:39,520 Speaker 1: Right, So it's not this show isn't about finding necessarily 83 00:03:39,560 --> 00:03:43,080 Speaker 1: the best dancer. This show is about watching people's journey, 84 00:03:43,600 --> 00:03:46,800 Speaker 1: and that I think was very important. Now the problem 85 00:03:46,800 --> 00:03:48,640 Speaker 1: for you, for me to keep one, the problem is 86 00:03:49,000 --> 00:03:50,840 Speaker 1: you know how intense it is, and like for me 87 00:03:50,880 --> 00:03:53,240 Speaker 1: who danced before and then it suddenly I don't know 88 00:03:53,240 --> 00:03:54,720 Speaker 1: if you know this, but I suddenly had to stop 89 00:03:54,720 --> 00:03:55,640 Speaker 1: because they broke my hip. 90 00:03:56,120 --> 00:03:58,080 Speaker 4: And so it was like like this really. 91 00:03:57,840 --> 00:04:02,120 Speaker 1: Traumatic ending to something that I did very seriously. And 92 00:04:03,240 --> 00:04:06,240 Speaker 1: so it was just like this like magical reunion. And 93 00:04:06,640 --> 00:04:09,040 Speaker 1: it just just frustrating when you have like people at 94 00:04:09,040 --> 00:04:12,840 Speaker 1: home who are just being controls and like sitting on 95 00:04:12,880 --> 00:04:15,520 Speaker 1: their couches and just like being able to manipul because 96 00:04:15,600 --> 00:04:17,880 Speaker 1: I don't know what was explained to me, what they 97 00:04:17,920 --> 00:04:23,080 Speaker 1: do is they'll all decide as a collective in this 98 00:04:23,160 --> 00:04:26,680 Speaker 1: like troll group who they want to get kicked out, 99 00:04:27,000 --> 00:04:31,040 Speaker 1: and then they'll vote for all the other dancers and 100 00:04:31,120 --> 00:04:34,359 Speaker 1: so like suppresses your vote. So they've learned how to 101 00:04:34,400 --> 00:04:37,200 Speaker 1: game the sestem, which kind of sucks, but you know what, 102 00:04:37,240 --> 00:04:40,320 Speaker 1: I'm grateful for it. I loved every single person on 103 00:04:40,360 --> 00:04:44,120 Speaker 1: the show. It was it was a good experience and 104 00:04:44,120 --> 00:04:47,240 Speaker 1: and you know what I did, Like, I mean, I 105 00:04:47,279 --> 00:04:49,919 Speaker 1: loved dancing with Gleb. I thought it was really fun 106 00:04:50,480 --> 00:04:53,000 Speaker 1: for me, especially because he is so well ballroom trained 107 00:04:53,000 --> 00:04:57,120 Speaker 1: and I don't know, you know about you know, previous, 108 00:04:57,160 --> 00:04:59,840 Speaker 1: like what his life was before he was in on 109 00:05:00,040 --> 00:05:02,000 Speaker 1: As with the Stars. Him and Val are some of 110 00:05:02,000 --> 00:05:06,960 Speaker 1: the best ballroom dancers that ever like watch this earth. 111 00:05:07,480 --> 00:05:10,040 Speaker 1: So like for me to go there and be able 112 00:05:10,080 --> 00:05:12,560 Speaker 1: to have that experience just as a dancer myself was 113 00:05:12,920 --> 00:05:15,880 Speaker 1: a huge treat and I had a great time. 114 00:05:16,560 --> 00:05:19,000 Speaker 2: Oh I love that. And I didn't know. I didn't 115 00:05:19,080 --> 00:05:21,240 Speaker 2: know that there was like a whole troll system. I 116 00:05:21,640 --> 00:05:24,000 Speaker 2: did the show ten years ago, so I mean that 117 00:05:24,120 --> 00:05:25,520 Speaker 2: was before a lot of the. 118 00:05:26,200 --> 00:05:29,559 Speaker 4: Right, I mean, it is what it is. I'm great. 119 00:05:29,600 --> 00:05:33,080 Speaker 1: I'm grateful for it, and I definitely I have zero 120 00:05:33,200 --> 00:05:37,080 Speaker 1: regrets and so and I wish you could, like I 121 00:05:37,080 --> 00:05:38,240 Speaker 1: could do it again and again. 122 00:05:38,640 --> 00:05:41,159 Speaker 2: I actually I feel that like I wish I could 123 00:05:41,839 --> 00:05:44,000 Speaker 2: go back, or not go back. I wish I could 124 00:05:44,040 --> 00:05:47,440 Speaker 2: do it again now having like lived it and then 125 00:05:47,520 --> 00:05:49,200 Speaker 2: in like a better place, because I wasn't in the 126 00:05:49,240 --> 00:05:53,280 Speaker 2: best place when I did it either. But you get 127 00:05:53,320 --> 00:05:56,760 Speaker 2: the call, I'm sure it's agent manager whoever calls you 128 00:05:56,800 --> 00:05:58,919 Speaker 2: and they're like, hey, you get they're asking you to 129 00:05:58,920 --> 00:06:04,520 Speaker 2: be on nations dumbest? Are you kind of like oh uh, 130 00:06:04,720 --> 00:06:06,799 Speaker 2: because I think i'd be a little offended at first, 131 00:06:06,800 --> 00:06:09,320 Speaker 2: but I kind of ride by defense. 132 00:06:10,400 --> 00:06:10,960 Speaker 4: I don't know. 133 00:06:11,120 --> 00:06:12,800 Speaker 1: You know, it's so funny because that's a question I've 134 00:06:12,839 --> 00:06:16,720 Speaker 1: been asked a lot on Precess, like what did you like? 135 00:06:16,760 --> 00:06:17,679 Speaker 4: What were you thinking? 136 00:06:18,560 --> 00:06:21,800 Speaker 1: And I think that if there's like a takeaway about me, 137 00:06:22,160 --> 00:06:24,559 Speaker 1: which it makes me perfect for Nation's demasts, I don't 138 00:06:24,640 --> 00:06:27,760 Speaker 1: usually think things through, like even when Dancing with the Stars, 139 00:06:27,800 --> 00:06:30,320 Speaker 1: like they called me, and it was a little bit 140 00:06:30,320 --> 00:06:32,840 Speaker 1: of like a last minute thing and I was like okay, 141 00:06:32,920 --> 00:06:34,680 Speaker 1: and like a couple of days later I was on 142 00:06:34,760 --> 00:06:37,279 Speaker 1: a plane. Yeah, And so the Nation's dumbest. I mean, 143 00:06:37,360 --> 00:06:40,359 Speaker 1: I don't take myself very seriously anyway. I've been through 144 00:06:40,720 --> 00:06:43,160 Speaker 1: a lot, as many people have, and the way that 145 00:06:43,240 --> 00:06:44,839 Speaker 1: I've dealt with that is I'm just gonna be like 146 00:06:44,880 --> 00:06:47,520 Speaker 1: even more campy, even more silly, even more whatever. So 147 00:06:47,680 --> 00:06:49,800 Speaker 1: a show where you can go and like laugh at yourself, 148 00:06:49,920 --> 00:06:53,120 Speaker 1: especially when I've been painted as like, oh, look like 149 00:06:53,160 --> 00:06:55,240 Speaker 1: the workout girl a little is just so many kids 150 00:06:55,240 --> 00:06:56,919 Speaker 1: are married to alec, you know what I mean, Like 151 00:06:56,920 --> 00:06:58,479 Speaker 1: if people really get to know me, I'm a big 152 00:06:58,520 --> 00:07:01,480 Speaker 1: hot mess a lot of the time. And so I 153 00:07:01,560 --> 00:07:03,640 Speaker 1: just thought it would be a fun thing to do. 154 00:07:03,760 --> 00:07:06,680 Speaker 1: Now that being said, I have ADHD and dyslexia, So 155 00:07:06,760 --> 00:07:09,680 Speaker 1: this actually brought up a lot of very As much 156 00:07:09,680 --> 00:07:11,800 Speaker 1: as this is like a silly, fun show, on a 157 00:07:11,800 --> 00:07:14,840 Speaker 1: personal level, it actually was like there were really hard 158 00:07:14,880 --> 00:07:17,680 Speaker 1: moments where I had was like, I don't think I 159 00:07:17,720 --> 00:07:23,320 Speaker 1: should have done this because I have told myself my 160 00:07:23,440 --> 00:07:26,840 Speaker 1: entire life that I'm dumb and this system has supported 161 00:07:26,920 --> 00:07:29,880 Speaker 1: and now I'm going back into the system and it 162 00:07:30,040 --> 00:07:33,440 Speaker 1: just solidifies that I am dumb. You know. 163 00:07:33,480 --> 00:07:37,040 Speaker 2: It's that that's such like our So I don't know 164 00:07:37,080 --> 00:07:39,400 Speaker 2: where because I think we all receive messages from people 165 00:07:39,440 --> 00:07:42,800 Speaker 2: like mine where I feel dumb or stupid is from 166 00:07:43,440 --> 00:07:45,920 Speaker 2: the relationships that I've been in what they've told me. 167 00:07:46,040 --> 00:07:47,920 Speaker 2: But then also when I read comments, they're like, Oh, 168 00:07:47,960 --> 00:07:49,920 Speaker 2: she's so stupid, She's so dumb, And then I start 169 00:07:49,920 --> 00:07:52,280 Speaker 2: to believe. I'm like maybe I am, Like maybe I 170 00:07:52,320 --> 00:07:54,880 Speaker 2: am so stupid and so dumb that I was so 171 00:07:54,960 --> 00:07:58,440 Speaker 2: blinded by this or that, And it's like you almost 172 00:07:58,440 --> 00:07:59,960 Speaker 2: start to believe it, and then I can, I can 173 00:08:00,040 --> 00:08:02,880 Speaker 2: and see how that doing that? You go, why am 174 00:08:02,920 --> 00:08:05,720 Speaker 2: I now feeding into what who they think that I am? 175 00:08:05,840 --> 00:08:09,080 Speaker 2: But like it's almost like a different way to reframe 176 00:08:09,120 --> 00:08:11,960 Speaker 2: that too, is like you're almost like in on the joke. 177 00:08:11,840 --> 00:08:12,880 Speaker 3: Because you know you're not dumb. 178 00:08:12,960 --> 00:08:15,120 Speaker 2: You're a mom of six, Like you're you've been through 179 00:08:15,160 --> 00:08:18,040 Speaker 2: a lot seven sorry seven. 180 00:08:18,000 --> 00:08:20,280 Speaker 1: Eight plus my step to I mean, trust me, I 181 00:08:20,680 --> 00:08:21,680 Speaker 1: miscount them. 182 00:08:21,280 --> 00:08:22,920 Speaker 4: I'm that bomb where. 183 00:08:22,680 --> 00:08:24,960 Speaker 1: Like somebody is doing something, I'm like I go through 184 00:08:25,000 --> 00:08:26,920 Speaker 1: all the other names and find I'm like, you know, 185 00:08:27,080 --> 00:08:28,760 Speaker 1: whoever you are, stop doing what you're doing. 186 00:08:29,560 --> 00:08:30,640 Speaker 3: Yeah, like just to stop. 187 00:08:30,720 --> 00:08:32,760 Speaker 2: I know, like I've only have three kids and I'm 188 00:08:32,800 --> 00:08:36,240 Speaker 2: like calling yeah, but but yes, but I mean I 189 00:08:36,320 --> 00:08:40,800 Speaker 2: just think too, it's like when we get it, I 190 00:08:40,880 --> 00:08:42,760 Speaker 2: sit in that when I'm stuck on. 191 00:08:44,320 --> 00:08:45,240 Speaker 3: Trying to be like. 192 00:08:47,320 --> 00:08:49,040 Speaker 2: Trying not to be the person that people say that 193 00:08:49,040 --> 00:08:50,520 Speaker 2: I am in the comments like I know who I am? 194 00:08:50,559 --> 00:08:52,320 Speaker 2: What's in my husband who says like what's in the 195 00:08:52,320 --> 00:08:54,280 Speaker 2: four walls? Like who are you? And it's like, you 196 00:08:54,360 --> 00:08:57,320 Speaker 2: know you're not dumb, Like we've all done dumb shit 197 00:08:58,000 --> 00:09:00,760 Speaker 2: right before. Yeah, but that is make you dumb? 198 00:09:01,400 --> 00:09:02,559 Speaker 4: No, I think I don't. 199 00:09:02,400 --> 00:09:06,360 Speaker 1: Think it's it's I mean, I am trying, and of course, 200 00:09:06,400 --> 00:09:08,560 Speaker 1: like trying is not always about getting it right every 201 00:09:08,600 --> 00:09:10,800 Speaker 1: single time, but I'm trying to get out of like 202 00:09:10,880 --> 00:09:13,040 Speaker 1: the prove it business and it too, I'm just gonna 203 00:09:13,040 --> 00:09:15,360 Speaker 1: like live my life and the people who are asking 204 00:09:15,360 --> 00:09:19,400 Speaker 1: you to prove it anyway, like they're never gonna want 205 00:09:19,440 --> 00:09:22,720 Speaker 1: you to win. So like I I am out of 206 00:09:22,720 --> 00:09:26,960 Speaker 1: that business and I'm into the business of like let's 207 00:09:27,080 --> 00:09:29,040 Speaker 1: just have fun, let's lean into it. 208 00:09:29,080 --> 00:09:31,360 Speaker 4: There's so much more positivity than there is negativity. 209 00:09:31,360 --> 00:09:33,960 Speaker 1: There's the negative gets at us, it goes under our 210 00:09:34,000 --> 00:09:36,960 Speaker 1: skin and they can feel very loud, but like I'm 211 00:09:37,000 --> 00:09:40,760 Speaker 1: trying every single day to practice that let's just like 212 00:09:40,840 --> 00:09:43,120 Speaker 1: lean into the good people. Let me find the good people. 213 00:09:43,400 --> 00:09:45,920 Speaker 1: And that's true, that you give other people the permission 214 00:09:45,960 --> 00:09:46,240 Speaker 1: to do. 215 00:09:46,240 --> 00:09:46,800 Speaker 4: The same. 216 00:10:00,120 --> 00:10:04,600 Speaker 2: Comes exhausting to being what like exactly those people in 217 00:10:04,600 --> 00:10:07,920 Speaker 2: those comments, they're gonna whether you change every piece of 218 00:10:07,920 --> 00:10:09,800 Speaker 2: what they don't like about you, they're still gonna nitpick 219 00:10:09,880 --> 00:10:12,240 Speaker 2: something else they don't like about you, you know. And 220 00:10:12,280 --> 00:10:15,000 Speaker 2: so it's like it becomes so exhausting because I started 221 00:10:15,000 --> 00:10:16,280 Speaker 2: to do it. I started to be like, Okay, I'm 222 00:10:16,440 --> 00:10:18,160 Speaker 2: I'm to this, or I'm posting too much of this. 223 00:10:18,200 --> 00:10:19,520 Speaker 2: Oh my god, I'm showing my boobs too much. They 224 00:10:19,520 --> 00:10:21,120 Speaker 2: think I'm a lot like so I'm like I'm covering 225 00:10:21,120 --> 00:10:22,960 Speaker 2: everything up and like and I'm like, this is so 226 00:10:23,080 --> 00:10:26,600 Speaker 2: exhausting trying to like make these people like me when 227 00:10:26,640 --> 00:10:28,800 Speaker 2: I'm like, I just am who I am, and they're 228 00:10:28,800 --> 00:10:30,520 Speaker 2: gonna hate me regardless. 229 00:10:30,320 --> 00:10:34,560 Speaker 1: Exactly exactly, And it just feeds into a toxic cycle 230 00:10:34,640 --> 00:10:37,880 Speaker 1: that I think mostly women suffer from. And by the way, 231 00:10:38,120 --> 00:10:40,360 Speaker 1: like I don't know about your base, Like I find 232 00:10:40,360 --> 00:10:42,240 Speaker 1: that it's other women that are typically doing it. 233 00:10:42,120 --> 00:10:45,319 Speaker 2: To me one hundred percent, it's all women. Yeah, well 234 00:10:45,360 --> 00:10:48,760 Speaker 2: I'm not saying it's there's a many women that are 235 00:10:48,760 --> 00:10:51,520 Speaker 2: so supportive and so incredible on my page. But the 236 00:10:52,480 --> 00:10:55,560 Speaker 2: women that are mean are also they're women. Those are 237 00:10:55,559 --> 00:10:57,680 Speaker 2: the ones that are in the comments and being really nasty. 238 00:10:58,200 --> 00:10:59,880 Speaker 4: Same and what I mostly feel. 239 00:11:00,000 --> 00:11:04,600 Speaker 1: I had a really interesting experience that you know, proves 240 00:11:05,040 --> 00:11:06,839 Speaker 1: the opposite of what I was just trying to say. 241 00:11:07,320 --> 00:11:09,320 Speaker 1: But I had a woman reach out to me after 242 00:11:09,480 --> 00:11:13,160 Speaker 1: dancing and she's like, I was one of those trolls, 243 00:11:13,240 --> 00:11:15,760 Speaker 1: and I want to tell you that I'm so sorry. 244 00:11:16,000 --> 00:11:17,079 Speaker 4: I thought it was fun. 245 00:11:17,400 --> 00:11:20,320 Speaker 1: I thought like all this crazy stuff that like there's 246 00:11:20,360 --> 00:11:21,640 Speaker 1: a lot of like weird. 247 00:11:21,360 --> 00:11:23,920 Speaker 4: Like very like tinfall hat stuff of like I never 248 00:11:23,960 --> 00:11:24,480 Speaker 4: had any. 249 00:11:24,400 --> 00:11:27,440 Speaker 1: Of my kids and I have a bad relationship with 250 00:11:27,480 --> 00:11:29,840 Speaker 1: my stepdaughter, which we have like the most amazing relationship 251 00:11:29,920 --> 00:11:31,840 Speaker 1: ever fought on was like just stuff that people just 252 00:11:31,920 --> 00:11:33,120 Speaker 1: randomly make up. 253 00:11:33,040 --> 00:11:36,439 Speaker 4: The zero zero grain of truth. 254 00:11:36,720 --> 00:11:39,680 Speaker 1: And I actually didn't know a lot about this until 255 00:11:39,800 --> 00:11:42,360 Speaker 1: you know, more recent I'm like, wait, are you kidding me? 256 00:11:42,559 --> 00:11:44,040 Speaker 4: Like this isn't a joke, But. 257 00:11:44,080 --> 00:11:46,640 Speaker 1: She basically was like I saw that, and then I 258 00:11:46,679 --> 00:11:51,439 Speaker 1: saw this really beautiful post that your stepdaughter Ireland had 259 00:11:51,960 --> 00:11:56,200 Speaker 1: written about me, and and it was and I was like, 260 00:11:56,240 --> 00:11:58,199 Speaker 1: I realized that these people are just full of shit, 261 00:11:59,160 --> 00:12:01,120 Speaker 1: and I'm so sorry, right, And I sat TOI, I said, 262 00:12:01,240 --> 00:12:06,400 Speaker 1: I don't want an apology from you because I believe 263 00:12:06,480 --> 00:12:09,679 Speaker 1: that you and I are victims of the same system. 264 00:12:09,960 --> 00:12:14,640 Speaker 1: I understand why you would feel that way about me, 265 00:12:14,679 --> 00:12:18,439 Speaker 1: because we have been taught to like see each other 266 00:12:18,480 --> 00:12:20,440 Speaker 1: as the enemy, and we're not. 267 00:12:21,160 --> 00:12:24,000 Speaker 4: We're not. So I appreciate I'd like, I do appreciate 268 00:12:24,040 --> 00:12:26,480 Speaker 4: your sentiment. I love that we can like now be friends. 269 00:12:26,520 --> 00:12:27,360 Speaker 4: We exchange phone. 270 00:12:27,200 --> 00:12:30,960 Speaker 1: Numbers, we like text now, yeah, like we I appreciate that. 271 00:12:31,120 --> 00:12:33,720 Speaker 1: But at the same time, I don't want you to 272 00:12:33,800 --> 00:12:36,560 Speaker 1: feel that you have to apologize to me because I understand. 273 00:12:37,080 --> 00:12:40,880 Speaker 1: I understand where that came from and that you haven't 274 00:12:41,080 --> 00:12:42,079 Speaker 1: you haven't hurt me. 275 00:12:42,600 --> 00:12:43,960 Speaker 3: Yep, yeah, yeah. 276 00:12:43,960 --> 00:12:45,760 Speaker 2: And it's so interesting too, and you actually because I've 277 00:12:45,800 --> 00:12:48,280 Speaker 2: had a few combos similar to that, and it's so 278 00:12:48,960 --> 00:12:50,960 Speaker 2: nice to see actually what you do have in common 279 00:12:50,960 --> 00:12:52,560 Speaker 2: at the end of the day, you know, and it's 280 00:12:52,600 --> 00:12:54,760 Speaker 2: like people just don't know what they don't know, you know, 281 00:12:54,800 --> 00:12:56,640 Speaker 2: And it's like and you don't have to keep proving 282 00:12:56,679 --> 00:12:59,640 Speaker 2: that anything about your husband or anything about you. And 283 00:12:59,640 --> 00:13:02,000 Speaker 2: I remember one of the things that I read, I remember, 284 00:13:02,760 --> 00:13:04,760 Speaker 2: you know, I'll sometimes see the headlines and I just 285 00:13:04,800 --> 00:13:08,840 Speaker 2: I literally was like, this is so silly, because I'm like, 286 00:13:09,720 --> 00:13:12,120 Speaker 2: who cares if she sounds different one and at the 287 00:13:12,120 --> 00:13:15,040 Speaker 2: next one of my very good friends is Australian. Yeah, 288 00:13:15,080 --> 00:13:16,960 Speaker 2: one of my very good friends is Australian, and like, 289 00:13:17,040 --> 00:13:19,480 Speaker 2: sometimes it's really thick, and sometimes I'm like, she sounds 290 00:13:19,480 --> 00:13:22,800 Speaker 2: like me. Like and I'm like and my husband like, 291 00:13:22,920 --> 00:13:25,440 Speaker 2: he's he's Scottish, right, so like, yes, he's a very 292 00:13:25,520 --> 00:13:29,360 Speaker 2: thick Scottish accent, but like he's getting more Americanized now 293 00:13:29,400 --> 00:13:31,400 Speaker 2: he's saying things that are and his friends make fun 294 00:13:31,440 --> 00:13:33,000 Speaker 2: of him. And then when he's with his buddies and 295 00:13:33,040 --> 00:13:35,800 Speaker 2: his parents, like he sounds way more Scottish. And I'm 296 00:13:35,800 --> 00:13:39,720 Speaker 2: like the fact that we're even commenting on someone's where 297 00:13:39,760 --> 00:13:42,719 Speaker 2: they're from and how maybe their voice is changed, I'm like, I. 298 00:13:42,520 --> 00:13:44,240 Speaker 3: This is this is just so silly. 299 00:13:44,640 --> 00:13:46,600 Speaker 2: But I'm like, yeah, I did think of you in 300 00:13:46,640 --> 00:13:49,400 Speaker 2: that moment, going like why is this even a thing? 301 00:13:49,960 --> 00:13:53,840 Speaker 1: Because people were bored, and it was during COVID and 302 00:13:53,880 --> 00:13:56,840 Speaker 1: my husband was on SNL and that pissed a lot. 303 00:13:56,800 --> 00:14:00,520 Speaker 4: Of people off. What he was doing and up. 304 00:14:00,400 --> 00:14:05,679 Speaker 1: Being because he was he played a particular person and 305 00:14:06,360 --> 00:14:10,000 Speaker 1: so it was like just like a whole very strategic 306 00:14:10,080 --> 00:14:10,920 Speaker 1: thing that was done. 307 00:14:11,160 --> 00:14:13,319 Speaker 4: But like at the same time, you just get to 308 00:14:13,360 --> 00:14:14,200 Speaker 4: a point where you're like. 309 00:14:15,400 --> 00:14:18,000 Speaker 1: Literally from your like even if you don't speak another language, 310 00:14:18,040 --> 00:14:21,360 Speaker 1: like an example of your husband, it's just normal, you know, 311 00:14:21,760 --> 00:14:22,760 Speaker 1: it literally. 312 00:14:22,440 --> 00:14:24,800 Speaker 4: Is just normal, and it's actually a good thing. 313 00:14:24,960 --> 00:14:26,960 Speaker 2: Yeah, Like listen, I say, I used to sing country 314 00:14:27,000 --> 00:14:28,480 Speaker 2: music and I had a little bit of a twang 315 00:14:28,600 --> 00:14:31,280 Speaker 2: like sometimes I like put yeah whatever, like that's what 316 00:14:31,360 --> 00:14:32,280 Speaker 2: I grew up listening to. 317 00:14:32,800 --> 00:14:36,239 Speaker 4: And it's also like, is that is Are you stealing? 318 00:14:36,600 --> 00:14:39,840 Speaker 4: Are you? Are you? Are you hurting anybody? No? Even 319 00:14:39,880 --> 00:14:40,320 Speaker 4: so funny. 320 00:14:40,360 --> 00:14:43,640 Speaker 1: My I was just with my family who actually lives 321 00:14:43,680 --> 00:14:44,680 Speaker 1: in Spain. 322 00:14:45,520 --> 00:14:48,120 Speaker 4: But I just got that brought my seven kids over 323 00:14:48,200 --> 00:14:48,840 Speaker 4: right now, look at that. 324 00:14:48,880 --> 00:14:51,200 Speaker 2: Oh yeah, you's traveled by yourself. I'm like, I don't 325 00:14:51,560 --> 00:14:52,359 Speaker 2: by myself. 326 00:14:52,400 --> 00:14:54,040 Speaker 1: It was insane, but I'm proud of myself. It was 327 00:14:54,080 --> 00:14:56,080 Speaker 1: one of those like very much like growing up experiences, 328 00:14:56,360 --> 00:14:57,240 Speaker 1: but it was so funny. 329 00:14:57,240 --> 00:14:58,040 Speaker 4: So my my. 330 00:14:58,120 --> 00:15:05,520 Speaker 1: Nephew, who's twenty one, he speaks obviously Spanish and English, 331 00:15:05,560 --> 00:15:08,880 Speaker 1: and he speaks uh he also speaks Catalan, and then 332 00:15:08,880 --> 00:15:09,960 Speaker 1: there's a version. 333 00:15:09,720 --> 00:15:11,880 Speaker 2: Of sorry that was too that was too much of 334 00:15:11,880 --> 00:15:14,040 Speaker 2: an accent. Now you're just putting her and canceled again. 335 00:15:14,800 --> 00:15:16,160 Speaker 4: Catalin he speaks or Quane. 336 00:15:16,480 --> 00:15:18,880 Speaker 1: His mom is from Valencia, so he speaks Valenciano. 337 00:15:19,400 --> 00:15:21,640 Speaker 4: I mean, so when those are versions of Catalan. But 338 00:15:22,120 --> 00:15:24,560 Speaker 4: it's like, it's so funny because he talks a lot. 339 00:15:24,640 --> 00:15:26,680 Speaker 1: He's like, you know, people always saying to me, like 340 00:15:26,960 --> 00:15:30,560 Speaker 1: where am I from? And this is a kid who's 341 00:15:30,960 --> 00:15:33,960 Speaker 1: you know, born and raised for the most part in Spain, 342 00:15:34,680 --> 00:15:37,160 Speaker 1: but he has such an interesting experience and like my 343 00:15:37,200 --> 00:15:39,920 Speaker 1: mom during that entire time, she's like, is this a 344 00:15:39,960 --> 00:15:42,080 Speaker 1: problem with Ilaria or is this a problem with the 345 00:15:42,200 --> 00:15:45,600 Speaker 1: Laria of Baldwin? And she's like, this hasn't never been 346 00:15:45,640 --> 00:15:47,920 Speaker 1: a problem your entire life, but this is a problem 347 00:15:47,920 --> 00:15:51,360 Speaker 1: now Why because it's clickbait? Why And it was like 348 00:15:51,760 --> 00:15:53,640 Speaker 1: just putting all that stuff into perspective, and then again 349 00:15:53,680 --> 00:15:56,160 Speaker 1: at the end of the day, maybe people get more 350 00:15:56,280 --> 00:15:58,760 Speaker 1: educated about what it's like to spend time in multiple laces, 351 00:15:58,760 --> 00:16:01,800 Speaker 1: speak multiple languages, or even you know what I mean. 352 00:16:01,800 --> 00:16:03,960 Speaker 1: You look at look at alec alec here. But on 353 00:16:04,000 --> 00:16:07,600 Speaker 1: long Island when he gets mad, ooh that sounds I'm like, 354 00:16:07,680 --> 00:16:09,360 Speaker 1: I don't even understand what you just said to me. 355 00:16:09,440 --> 00:16:11,200 Speaker 4: It's like the thickest long Island accent. 356 00:16:11,720 --> 00:16:13,800 Speaker 1: And then he goes and like does like the voice 357 00:16:13,800 --> 00:16:16,520 Speaker 1: for the Philharmonic or like like, I mean, it literally was. 358 00:16:17,080 --> 00:16:19,160 Speaker 4: It was the stupidest thing. You're absolutely right you started 359 00:16:19,160 --> 00:16:20,560 Speaker 4: about it, right. It was dumb. 360 00:16:21,000 --> 00:16:22,760 Speaker 1: It was dumb, and but it did hurt my feelings 361 00:16:22,800 --> 00:16:25,680 Speaker 1: and I was very very core. Yeah, I went to 362 00:16:25,720 --> 00:16:26,560 Speaker 1: speech therapy. 363 00:16:26,960 --> 00:16:28,920 Speaker 2: See, that's just like that's where it's like, I don't 364 00:16:28,960 --> 00:16:32,280 Speaker 2: think people realize how hurtful their comments are because that's 365 00:16:32,800 --> 00:16:33,400 Speaker 2: that's it with you. 366 00:16:33,400 --> 00:16:35,440 Speaker 3: I mean, you're going to speech that. I mean, come on, like. 367 00:16:35,560 --> 00:16:38,200 Speaker 4: Yeah, now, I used to listen to myself. 368 00:16:38,280 --> 00:16:41,200 Speaker 1: I was doing a project that time where I was recorded, 369 00:16:41,680 --> 00:16:43,640 Speaker 1: and I would say, I listen and I would make 370 00:16:43,720 --> 00:16:46,920 Speaker 1: myself redo little bits of it of where. 371 00:16:46,760 --> 00:16:48,720 Speaker 4: I was like, I know, maybe that sounds not right. 372 00:16:49,840 --> 00:16:51,520 Speaker 1: No, I'm just like, you know what, I don't have 373 00:16:51,560 --> 00:16:53,920 Speaker 1: the energy for it, and so and it's just it's again, 374 00:16:53,960 --> 00:16:56,440 Speaker 1: it's just it's ignorance, it's dumb, and it's mean. 375 00:16:56,760 --> 00:16:58,600 Speaker 4: But like at the end of the day. I'm like, 376 00:16:58,720 --> 00:17:01,960 Speaker 4: I literally can sleep with myself at night. 377 00:17:02,440 --> 00:17:05,240 Speaker 3: Yeah, it's fine. 378 00:17:17,000 --> 00:17:19,800 Speaker 2: Are you one of those couples who say, like, we've 379 00:17:19,880 --> 00:17:24,480 Speaker 2: never fought before, we've never gotten into an arm because 380 00:17:24,520 --> 00:17:27,240 Speaker 2: I'm always like, tell me, like what that like, I'm 381 00:17:27,480 --> 00:17:29,080 Speaker 2: because I mean, yes, my my husband and I we 382 00:17:29,119 --> 00:17:31,720 Speaker 2: have disagreements. But like for you guys, okay, thank you 383 00:17:31,800 --> 00:17:33,639 Speaker 2: for you know, being a part of the norm. But 384 00:17:34,480 --> 00:17:36,919 Speaker 2: for you, like, how how do you handle conflict? Like 385 00:17:36,960 --> 00:17:39,720 Speaker 2: what is like your best tip for handling conflict? Like 386 00:17:39,800 --> 00:17:42,080 Speaker 2: for my husband and I, we have we have check 387 00:17:42,080 --> 00:17:46,280 Speaker 2: ins that have been really beneficial to us, not living 388 00:17:46,320 --> 00:17:48,720 Speaker 2: with any resentment or letting things build up. 389 00:17:49,119 --> 00:17:51,240 Speaker 1: I mean it sounds like you guys are way more 390 00:17:53,119 --> 00:17:55,240 Speaker 1: in a in a better in a better therapy than 391 00:17:55,280 --> 00:17:58,840 Speaker 1: we are. We I mean, Alec and are both extreme 392 00:17:59,000 --> 00:18:03,560 Speaker 1: extremely fine okay, And so we'll have like this like 393 00:18:05,000 --> 00:18:07,960 Speaker 1: and then usually we just kind of get over it 394 00:18:08,000 --> 00:18:10,920 Speaker 1: for the most more, most of the stuff that we 395 00:18:11,040 --> 00:18:16,479 Speaker 1: like bicker about is stupid and it doesn't need a 396 00:18:16,560 --> 00:18:20,880 Speaker 1: giant conversation. And and we also get each other like 397 00:18:21,160 --> 00:18:24,000 Speaker 1: he lets me, I'm very much, I believe, and I 398 00:18:24,040 --> 00:18:26,160 Speaker 1: think he would he would say this I'm not even thinking. 399 00:18:26,160 --> 00:18:26,359 Speaker 4: I know. 400 00:18:26,400 --> 00:18:29,960 Speaker 1: I'm all i'mlike the alpha parent. Like there's certain things 401 00:18:30,160 --> 00:18:32,159 Speaker 1: that he knows he has to ask my permission for 402 00:18:32,320 --> 00:18:34,920 Speaker 1: with them, you know what I mean. And so it's 403 00:18:34,960 --> 00:18:37,520 Speaker 1: like like, oh, can they have this whatever? And I'm like, no, 404 00:18:37,560 --> 00:18:38,639 Speaker 1: they cannot have this rightever? 405 00:18:38,720 --> 00:18:41,720 Speaker 4: Can they go? No, No they cannot, And so that 406 00:18:41,880 --> 00:18:43,160 Speaker 4: is like good. And then there's other. 407 00:18:43,040 --> 00:18:46,639 Speaker 1: Things like are like social schedule where like he gets 408 00:18:46,680 --> 00:18:48,760 Speaker 1: to choose that more so, like we have like our 409 00:18:49,520 --> 00:18:52,280 Speaker 1: hats that we wear. Usually it's like I want to 410 00:18:52,320 --> 00:18:54,199 Speaker 1: change something around the house, I just do it anyway. 411 00:18:54,280 --> 00:18:56,680 Speaker 1: I'm not going to ask him, and like he gets 412 00:18:56,680 --> 00:18:58,040 Speaker 1: mad at me for like a day and then he's 413 00:18:58,119 --> 00:19:00,320 Speaker 1: like he likes it. So it's like, but I think 414 00:19:00,359 --> 00:19:01,960 Speaker 1: that because we both love each other so much, we 415 00:19:02,000 --> 00:19:03,840 Speaker 1: spend so much time with each other, we know that 416 00:19:03,880 --> 00:19:06,520 Speaker 1: we want the best for each other, it doesn't get 417 00:19:06,600 --> 00:19:08,639 Speaker 1: to be like so crazy, but we bigger. We like 418 00:19:08,640 --> 00:19:10,360 Speaker 1: poke at each other, we like. I think it's also 419 00:19:10,400 --> 00:19:11,600 Speaker 1: our like flirtation as well. 420 00:19:12,080 --> 00:19:16,480 Speaker 2: Yeah, no for sure, And I feel like with that, 421 00:19:16,680 --> 00:19:18,879 Speaker 2: like the age difference for you guys, like it's not 422 00:19:19,400 --> 00:19:21,320 Speaker 2: I don't see it as I mean again from an 423 00:19:21,359 --> 00:19:24,679 Speaker 2: outsider standpoint, I'm like, you guys just look like you 424 00:19:24,720 --> 00:19:26,800 Speaker 2: just fit together, you know, like you're like you said, 425 00:19:26,800 --> 00:19:30,119 Speaker 2: like personality energy. I've never met Alec before, but I 426 00:19:30,119 --> 00:19:30,480 Speaker 2: don't know. 427 00:19:30,880 --> 00:19:33,159 Speaker 1: I think one of the key things for us, at 428 00:19:33,240 --> 00:19:35,280 Speaker 1: least with our big age difference because they're twenty six 429 00:19:35,320 --> 00:19:38,679 Speaker 1: years apart, is that the idea that age is just 430 00:19:38,720 --> 00:19:39,200 Speaker 1: a number. 431 00:19:39,240 --> 00:19:40,840 Speaker 4: I don't buy into that. 432 00:19:41,280 --> 00:19:44,800 Speaker 1: I think age does make a difference, just as like 433 00:19:45,400 --> 00:19:50,960 Speaker 1: maybe different religions or from different places, it's a cultural difference. 434 00:19:51,640 --> 00:19:54,240 Speaker 4: And I think that when you for. 435 00:19:54,320 --> 00:19:57,040 Speaker 1: Us again this other for different other people, but for us, 436 00:19:57,080 --> 00:19:58,880 Speaker 1: when you call it what it is and be like, yeah, 437 00:19:59,160 --> 00:20:01,400 Speaker 1: I like when I was having when we were having 438 00:20:01,480 --> 00:20:04,160 Speaker 1: kids at the beginning, I wanted him to be such 439 00:20:04,160 --> 00:20:07,560 Speaker 1: a millennial, like I do fifty, you do fifty, Like 440 00:20:07,880 --> 00:20:10,760 Speaker 1: he was when he was born. His father didn't even 441 00:20:10,800 --> 00:20:13,800 Speaker 1: go to the hospital with his mom. He stayed at 442 00:20:13,800 --> 00:20:17,040 Speaker 1: home and like get a call later about like it 443 00:20:17,080 --> 00:20:17,520 Speaker 1: was it a boy? 444 00:20:17,640 --> 00:20:18,160 Speaker 4: Was it a girl? 445 00:20:18,200 --> 00:20:20,960 Speaker 1: And like he has like vivid memories because he's second 446 00:20:20,720 --> 00:20:23,760 Speaker 1: in the line of six. Like that his dad would 447 00:20:23,840 --> 00:20:25,760 Speaker 1: like tab one head or the other to be like 448 00:20:25,840 --> 00:20:26,320 Speaker 1: is it a boy. 449 00:20:26,320 --> 00:20:26,760 Speaker 4: Or a girl. 450 00:20:27,160 --> 00:20:29,440 Speaker 1: And for me, I was like I made the horrible 451 00:20:29,440 --> 00:20:32,080 Speaker 1: mistake of like he'd be like coming to my ob 452 00:20:32,200 --> 00:20:33,719 Speaker 1: appointments and I'm like, I want you in the room 453 00:20:33,720 --> 00:20:35,359 Speaker 1: while I get a pelvic exam because I want you 454 00:20:35,400 --> 00:20:37,920 Speaker 1: to see what it's like. And it caused such stress 455 00:20:37,960 --> 00:20:38,800 Speaker 1: because he's a boomer. 456 00:20:38,800 --> 00:20:39,520 Speaker 4: I'm a millennial. 457 00:20:39,520 --> 00:20:41,960 Speaker 1: And once I realized that I was just doing it 458 00:20:42,040 --> 00:20:45,520 Speaker 1: because I felt like it was embarrassing not to I mean, like, oh, 459 00:20:45,600 --> 00:20:48,520 Speaker 1: my husband doesn't respect me. I realized I'm a Capricorn. 460 00:20:48,520 --> 00:20:52,080 Speaker 1: I like my independence, and I was able to like 461 00:20:52,200 --> 00:20:54,960 Speaker 1: let him be him, maybe me feel like I was 462 00:20:55,000 --> 00:20:57,399 Speaker 1: respected and feel like things were going better. 463 00:20:58,080 --> 00:21:01,240 Speaker 2: I love that question for you about dyslexia and my 464 00:21:01,320 --> 00:21:06,840 Speaker 2: daughter's dyslexic. As you know, she got diagnosed like a 465 00:21:06,840 --> 00:21:09,920 Speaker 2: little over a year ago. But what's one thing that's 466 00:21:09,960 --> 00:21:11,800 Speaker 2: like really helped you, Like did you get diagnosed when 467 00:21:11,800 --> 00:21:13,359 Speaker 2: you were a kid or was it later in life? 468 00:21:13,560 --> 00:21:13,760 Speaker 1: Yeah? 469 00:21:13,800 --> 00:21:14,800 Speaker 4: So I was. 470 00:21:14,920 --> 00:21:17,639 Speaker 1: I did all this testing when I was around eight, Okay, 471 00:21:17,880 --> 00:21:20,360 Speaker 1: and unfortunately back. 472 00:21:20,200 --> 00:21:23,359 Speaker 3: Then I think we're the same age, I'm forty two. 473 00:21:23,760 --> 00:21:26,119 Speaker 3: Same yeah Okay, Yeah, it. 474 00:21:26,080 --> 00:21:33,160 Speaker 4: Wasn't I wasn't as nurtured and understood as is now. 475 00:21:33,760 --> 00:21:35,439 Speaker 1: So I kind of was in a little bit of 476 00:21:35,480 --> 00:21:38,440 Speaker 1: therapy for it, like a few times, and then the 477 00:21:38,800 --> 00:21:40,760 Speaker 1: thing was just like you just got to figure it 478 00:21:40,800 --> 00:21:43,240 Speaker 1: out and you just just work harder, or like I'm 479 00:21:43,240 --> 00:21:45,040 Speaker 1: not going to talk about it and you just gotta 480 00:21:45,560 --> 00:21:48,359 Speaker 1: I tried to. I leaned into perfectionism, and I became 481 00:21:48,560 --> 00:21:50,280 Speaker 1: like I was not the most social person because I 482 00:21:50,280 --> 00:21:53,560 Speaker 1: had to work so much harder. So I actually, once 483 00:21:53,640 --> 00:21:56,520 Speaker 1: one of my kids was diagnosed with ADHD, that's a 484 00:21:56,560 --> 00:22:00,600 Speaker 1: handful of years ago, is when I started renting with 485 00:22:00,680 --> 00:22:04,440 Speaker 1: it because I was like, I can't be a good 486 00:22:04,560 --> 00:22:08,560 Speaker 1: parent with all of the like the tools that are 487 00:22:08,600 --> 00:22:11,119 Speaker 1: out there now if I'm just like pretending that this 488 00:22:11,280 --> 00:22:15,399 Speaker 1: is not a thing. And so what I found is like, 489 00:22:15,520 --> 00:22:17,720 Speaker 1: first of all, lean into it as a superpower. 490 00:22:18,680 --> 00:22:19,560 Speaker 4: That was I. 491 00:22:19,520 --> 00:22:22,679 Speaker 1: Didn't even know that that was a thing until my 492 00:22:23,080 --> 00:22:26,120 Speaker 1: first child was diagnosed with ADHD, and. 493 00:22:26,400 --> 00:22:28,000 Speaker 4: I was like, I felt so guilty. 494 00:22:28,400 --> 00:22:31,560 Speaker 1: I was like, how do I tell this to them? 495 00:22:31,840 --> 00:22:33,959 Speaker 1: And I just looked online and I was like, what 496 00:22:34,000 --> 00:22:37,600 Speaker 1: are the benefits of ADHD? And by the way, saying 497 00:22:37,640 --> 00:22:42,560 Speaker 1: with dyslexia, it's like creativity you're resilient, you think about 498 00:22:42,600 --> 00:22:46,840 Speaker 1: things outside of the box, typically very funny. There's so 499 00:22:47,080 --> 00:22:49,960 Speaker 1: much wonderful things that can come with it. So I think, 500 00:22:50,400 --> 00:22:53,280 Speaker 1: you know, leaning into that it's a positive thing gives 501 00:22:53,359 --> 00:22:55,600 Speaker 1: kiss a sense of pride rather than feeling like there's 502 00:22:55,600 --> 00:22:56,560 Speaker 1: something wrong with us. 503 00:22:57,520 --> 00:23:01,399 Speaker 2: Absolutely no, I love that. What's next after this? So 504 00:23:01,440 --> 00:23:04,240 Speaker 2: you've got this airing the nation's dumbest. 505 00:23:04,480 --> 00:23:05,440 Speaker 4: I have this airing. 506 00:23:05,680 --> 00:23:10,560 Speaker 1: I have a show for Amazon coming out first quarter 507 00:23:10,680 --> 00:23:11,440 Speaker 1: of next year. 508 00:23:11,480 --> 00:23:12,960 Speaker 4: I don't know what that means. 509 00:23:12,960 --> 00:23:15,919 Speaker 2: Oh, I know. I was asked to do that and 510 00:23:15,960 --> 00:23:18,000 Speaker 2: I ended up not doing it. 511 00:23:17,760 --> 00:23:18,920 Speaker 4: It would have been so fun. 512 00:23:19,000 --> 00:23:21,159 Speaker 2: I was told that it was going to be more 513 00:23:21,560 --> 00:23:23,600 Speaker 2: fun and healing, but I heard it was a lot 514 00:23:23,640 --> 00:23:24,240 Speaker 2: more dramatic. 515 00:23:24,400 --> 00:23:24,879 Speaker 3: Is that true. 516 00:23:25,200 --> 00:23:27,520 Speaker 4: I think it was all of the things. 517 00:23:27,720 --> 00:23:30,320 Speaker 1: And I think, look, I am not well versed like 518 00:23:30,359 --> 00:23:33,040 Speaker 1: the other, like most of the other cast members in 519 00:23:34,280 --> 00:23:40,960 Speaker 1: the reality woman situation, so I came in very much 520 00:23:41,000 --> 00:23:44,440 Speaker 1: as like I think the most like what do they say, 521 00:23:44,480 --> 00:23:46,560 Speaker 1: green behind the years whatever? Whatever they say, like the 522 00:23:46,800 --> 00:23:49,119 Speaker 1: like the baby of the field, even though I was 523 00:23:49,200 --> 00:23:53,840 Speaker 1: not young, young baby, but they I thought that there 524 00:23:53,880 --> 00:23:55,320 Speaker 1: was a lot of healing. I think that there was 525 00:23:55,359 --> 00:23:57,360 Speaker 1: a lot of together or there was the drama. Of course, 526 00:23:57,400 --> 00:24:00,760 Speaker 1: it was eleven women's like living together, sleeping under the 527 00:24:00,800 --> 00:24:05,320 Speaker 1: same roof, our beds. But I do think that the 528 00:24:05,359 --> 00:24:12,560 Speaker 1: producers were amazing and they wanted to encourage difference than 529 00:24:12,600 --> 00:24:14,840 Speaker 1: what you would typically expect. 530 00:24:15,320 --> 00:24:17,760 Speaker 3: It kind of show got it well. 531 00:24:17,800 --> 00:24:21,760 Speaker 2: I look forward to watching that, and I look forward 532 00:24:21,800 --> 00:24:23,439 Speaker 2: to watching what you're on too. I think it's going 533 00:24:23,520 --> 00:24:24,600 Speaker 2: to be fun, and I think it's going to be 534 00:24:24,600 --> 00:24:27,479 Speaker 2: fun to see you, you know, be in on it 535 00:24:27,520 --> 00:24:30,479 Speaker 2: and you knowing that you're not the dumbest you really are. 536 00:24:30,720 --> 00:24:32,080 Speaker 2: This is fun, thank you know. 537 00:24:32,160 --> 00:24:35,040 Speaker 1: I mean, I think Nation's Dumbest is very is very 538 00:24:35,080 --> 00:24:38,320 Speaker 1: special because even though it is just a silly show 539 00:24:38,400 --> 00:24:41,919 Speaker 1: and we're competing to not be the dumbest, I think 540 00:24:43,200 --> 00:24:47,040 Speaker 1: they also it sort of shows what the system is 541 00:24:47,080 --> 00:24:51,240 Speaker 1: because you have twelve people who are we're all successful. 542 00:24:51,240 --> 00:24:53,119 Speaker 1: We wouldn't be on the show if we weren't successful, 543 00:24:53,680 --> 00:24:56,080 Speaker 1: and it kind of allows you to look at the 544 00:24:56,119 --> 00:24:58,840 Speaker 1: system and being like, Okay, if we can't get these 545 00:24:58,880 --> 00:25:01,360 Speaker 1: things right. I hope that you guy at home who 546 00:25:01,440 --> 00:25:03,760 Speaker 1: might feel like I did growing up, of like I'm 547 00:25:03,760 --> 00:25:07,040 Speaker 1: not the smartest, success comes in so many different ways, 548 00:25:07,040 --> 00:25:09,840 Speaker 1: and it might just not be trivia and school stuff. 549 00:25:10,440 --> 00:25:13,160 Speaker 1: So I think that. I think it's a special show. 550 00:25:13,240 --> 00:25:17,600 Speaker 1: It's fun, it's lighthearted. The cast tell you we have like. 551 00:25:17,520 --> 00:25:19,280 Speaker 4: A group chat. We're like buddies. 552 00:25:19,640 --> 00:25:20,280 Speaker 3: I would do it. 553 00:25:20,359 --> 00:25:22,159 Speaker 2: I mean special Forces. I've said note of that a 554 00:25:22,200 --> 00:25:24,480 Speaker 2: couple of times because I'm not jumping off buildings, but 555 00:25:24,520 --> 00:25:25,679 Speaker 2: I'll do something silly like that. 556 00:25:25,960 --> 00:25:28,200 Speaker 3: So I'm like, sign me up. That sounds. I can't 557 00:25:28,240 --> 00:25:29,160 Speaker 3: wait to watch you in it. 558 00:25:29,160 --> 00:25:30,760 Speaker 4: It was a lot of fun. I recommend it. 559 00:25:31,040 --> 00:25:31,440 Speaker 3: Awesome. 560 00:25:31,440 --> 00:25:33,360 Speaker 2: Well, I'm good luck with the rest of your press day, 561 00:25:33,440 --> 00:25:36,040 Speaker 2: and thank do you ever in Nashville let me know 562 00:25:36,359 --> 00:25:36,760 Speaker 2: I will. 563 00:25:36,760 --> 00:25:38,600 Speaker 4: And if you're ever in New York City, let's go out. 564 00:25:38,880 --> 00:25:41,320 Speaker 3: Okay, love it all right, bye girl. Hye yah.