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Speaker 1: The Jewels show on demand jubils dirty Little Secret. Well, hello, hello, hello, Hey,

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Speaker 1: what's up? You have a dirty little secret? I sure do, Hey,

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Speaker 1: one that I'm dying to tell people because I can't

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Speaker 1: tell anyone I know. But if you're dying to tell it,

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Speaker 1: guess what I'm living to hear it. So let's do it,

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Speaker 1: all right. So, um my Ganda is adopted and has

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Speaker 1: zero interest in finding out whose original biological parents were work.

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Speaker 1: But um I ended up having some neurological problems that

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Speaker 1: might have been genetically related. So I ended up doing

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Speaker 1: some DNA testing and they said, hey, do you want

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Speaker 1: to you know, throw on you know, find out where

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Speaker 1: you're from at the same time. So this was one

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Speaker 1: second sorry, this was like legit DNA testing. I mean,

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Speaker 1: I'm not saying that ancestry dot com isn't legit, but

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Speaker 1: you didn't just pick your finger and mail it somewhere

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Speaker 1: and then they told you that you have a bunch

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Speaker 1: you're from the Netherlands or something, right, No, No, this

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Speaker 1: was for medical reasons. And so anyway, what happened is

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Speaker 1: it came back and they said, do you want to

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Speaker 1: share the DNA with like ancestry and twenty three and

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Speaker 1: me and all that other stuff, and I'm like, yeah, whatever.

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Speaker 1: So out of the blue, about a week later, I

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Speaker 1: get an email from a lady telling me, you know,

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Speaker 1: who are you? I know all my family blah blah blah,

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Speaker 1: and I'm like, oh, this is crazy. My dad's adopted

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Speaker 1: so it's probably related. And the girl could not believe it.

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Speaker 1: So the only person that could have been related, because

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Speaker 1: it tells you if you're on if it was from

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Speaker 1: the mother's side or the father's side, that the relationship

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Speaker 1: was was her older sister. So she went to her

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Speaker 1: older sister and was like, yo, you gets something to

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Speaker 1: tell me. And because no one knew about my dad

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Speaker 1: and a long story short, turns out, she got pregnant

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Speaker 1: and back in the late forties, what would happen? They

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Speaker 1: just send the girl away, had the baby come back,

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Speaker 1: Like nothing ever happened. My dad got adopted out, she

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Speaker 1: got sent away, and so no one knew about it.

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Speaker 1: She finally confessed. Her sister said, yeah, this is what happened,

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Speaker 1: and that must obviously behind the any matches. But she said,

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Speaker 1: I don't want any contact, horrible memory that, please don't

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Speaker 1: contact me further about it. At the homeline yards. Dang,

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Speaker 1: you know, you know who your dad's mom is, but

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Speaker 1: he doesn't. Oh yeah, but that's not the juicy part.

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Speaker 1: Juicy part is at the same at the same time,

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Speaker 1: the same thing happened on my father's side or his

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Speaker 1: father's side, And so now I was able to find

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Speaker 1: out exactly who my dad's biological father was. And I

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Speaker 1: know and I've spoken to my dad and sister, which

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Speaker 1: he doesn't know about. But yeah, because they didn't have

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Speaker 1: DNA testing back in mid day. Yeah, but at this

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Speaker 1: point the guy is like se nile and on the

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Speaker 1: other side, I can't say anything. And then what am

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Speaker 1: I supposed to do with my dad? Say? Hey, guess what.

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Speaker 1: By the way, you didn't want to find your family,

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Speaker 1: but I ended up finding him, So I'm stuck. Now

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Speaker 1: that is crazy. That's crazy information to have, and I

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Speaker 1: really know what to do with it. Yeah. The way

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Speaker 1: it connects it to me is that my dad's adopted

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Speaker 1: I needed medical information related to the DNA. He doesn't

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Speaker 1: know who his parents are. I ended up doing DNA

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Speaker 1: testing through that process, I ended up finding out who

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Speaker 1: his parents were, and so now I know who both are.

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Speaker 1: The girl doesn't want anything to do with my dad

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Speaker 1: in any way, shape or form. Her husband has no

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Speaker 1: idea she ever had a baby kids, So he's got

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Speaker 1: brothers and sisters out there that have no idea he exists.

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Speaker 1: And so now I'm stuck with knowing exactly who my

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Speaker 1: dad's family is and can't tell anybody. I think the

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Speaker 1: thing that you could do, maybe for yourself, is accept

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Speaker 1: the fact that you can't do anything with the information.

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Speaker 1: Don't wrestle with it. Just accept it. Hey, um, okay,

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Speaker 1: and then give your dad a hug and let him

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Speaker 1: know that he's loved. If there's any other updates, yeah, yeah,

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Speaker 1: you know it now, it's definitely I mean, yeah, I

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Speaker 1: can't look at all of your dad. Thank you love

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Speaker 1: your dad. Yeah, of course, I'm okay. I'm just making

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Speaker 1: sure because so, yeah, like, dude, just to have a

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Speaker 1: good relationship with your dad, right, and just make peace

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Speaker 1: with the fact that you'll never be able to tell

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Speaker 1: him and just you know, you don't have to shove

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Speaker 1: that stuff way down, but just make peace with it

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Speaker 1: that you never will and if every time you think

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Speaker 1: about it, reach out to your dad and say hi

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Speaker 1: and talk to him. Oh yeah, Well, the funny thing

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Speaker 1: is is now that my DNA is in my system.

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Speaker 1: If any of his unknown brothers or sisters ever do

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Speaker 1: a DNA test, it's gonna paint, so it might inevitably

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Speaker 1: happen elsewhere. Well yeah, well good, yeah, well thank you

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Speaker 1: for telling us you're a little secret man. That's a

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Speaker 1: crazy one. Yeah yeah, definitely, all right, take care of it,

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Speaker 1: all right? Did you? Will show on demand