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Speaker 1: First date of follow up powered by the Advocates Injury

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Speaker 2: Andy is on the phone today for our first day

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Speaker 2: follow up and he's getting ghosted by a girl named Serena.

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Speaker 2: So in a few minutes we're gonna call her and

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Speaker 2: see if she'll tell us why she's ghosting her and

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Speaker 2: maybe get him another date. But first, Andy, how long

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Speaker 2: has it been since you heard from Serena?

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Speaker 3: It's been two weeks.

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Speaker 4: Have you been counting?

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Speaker 1: Yeah?

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Speaker 5: Yeah, okay, that's so frustrating. Have you reached out to her?

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I've reached out. I've I've sent her some texts

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Speaker 3: and stuff, But yeah, I'm not. I'm not. I haven't

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Speaker 3: heard anything back.

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Speaker 4: Why don't you go back and tell us about the date?

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Speaker 4: How did you meet her?

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Speaker 6: So we met him bumble, and we spent a few

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Speaker 6: weeks talking and facetiming before we actually met up the

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Speaker 6: first time.

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Speaker 3: So it's like, I feel like we got to know

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Speaker 3: each other a little bit.

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Speaker 6: We eventually planned to meet at a cafe that we

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Speaker 6: both are into, and we were going to do a

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Speaker 6: mike ride and drink slater and stuff, and I was

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Speaker 6: really excited to meet her in person, but he yeah,

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Speaker 6: she never ended up being able to show up.

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Speaker 4: Did not actually have the date?

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Speaker 6: No, actually, because about twenty minutes before I was you know,

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Speaker 6: I've been sending way to get the coffee shop, and

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Speaker 6: she sent me a text that her dog was sick

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Speaker 6: and something got sicked so she needed.

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Speaker 3: To take them to the vet.

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Speaker 6: And I never ended up happening, and I and I

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Speaker 6: was really excited, Like I ended up wearing a T shirt,

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Speaker 6: these plaid shorts and sneakers that she you know, she's

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Speaker 6: kind of like telling me to wear beforehand so that

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Speaker 6: she could find me.

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Speaker 3: But you know, I was I was happy, you.

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Speaker 5: Were happy, So she told you what to wear. You

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Speaker 5: guys planned this whole date. And then so her dog

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Speaker 5: got sick. Did she ever give you an update on

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Speaker 5: her dog?

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Speaker 4: Like what happened with that after that?

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Speaker 1: Yeah?

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Speaker 3: I haven't. I honestly haven't really heard.

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Speaker 6: So that's where, yeah, I'm trying to figure it out.

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Speaker 4: How did you respond to that text?

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Speaker 6: Cause oh, yeah, yeah, sorry, yeah, yeah, no, when she's

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Speaker 6: sent me that, I that's okay. So I responded like

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Speaker 6: I just kind of said bummer, and I said, hope

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Speaker 6: your dog is okay, because I was.

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Speaker 3: I was really sad at the time, But I don't know.

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Speaker 6: I've looked back and I've read that text a million times,

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Speaker 6: and I feel like, maybe I maybe I wasn't a

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Speaker 6: little cold.

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Speaker 4: Would she have expected you to say more?

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Speaker 3: Maybe?

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Speaker 1: Maybe?

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Speaker 3: Uh, maybe I should offer to go with her.

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Speaker 5: So has anything happened then between that text message and

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Speaker 5: maybe all those face times? You know, like if you

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Speaker 5: were talking for the past couple of weeks, you kind

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Speaker 5: of start to build what is it about her that

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Speaker 5: makes you want to see her again? Like if this

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Speaker 5: girl just disappears, like, don't you kind of feel like

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Speaker 5: screw you?

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Speaker 2: Then?

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Speaker 6: Yeah? I mean I think she's first of all beautiful,

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Speaker 6: and I felt like our personalities kind of balanced each

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Speaker 6: other out. And you know, she seems like she does

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Speaker 6: once and I'm happy to give that to her.

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Speaker 4: So okay, okay.

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Speaker 2: And so she just ghosted you basically for the date,

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Speaker 2: like she didn't show up and then hasn't responded to

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Speaker 2: you since, saying that she couldn't make it because her

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Speaker 6: Right, And yeah, again, like I don't know if I

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Speaker 3: Enough, but hopefully hopefully we can get it worked out.

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Speaker 4: What if, like something really bad happened to her dog.

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Speaker 3: That's also a concern of mine too.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, would I be mad at a bummer?

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Speaker 5: I think if somebody responds bummer if your dog sick,

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Speaker 5: I mean maybe I would have been like, Okay.

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Speaker 2: Maybe, yeah, you know, maybe that's what she's like. Bummer

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Speaker 2: is more than a bummer?

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Speaker 4: Yeah? Maybe? All right, Andy, Well we'll try to figure

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Speaker 2: We'll play a song and then come back and call

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Speaker 2: her and see if she'll tell us why she's ghosting

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Speaker 2: you and maybe get you another date.

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Speaker 3: Okay, all right, thank you.

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Speaker 4: All right, we'll get your first day follow up next.

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Speaker 4: Right in the middle of today's first date follow up,

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Speaker 4: if you're just.

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Speaker 2: Joining us, Andy is on the phone and he's getting

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Speaker 2: ghosted by Serena. So in a second we're going to

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Speaker 2: call her and see if she'll tell us why she's

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Speaker 2: ghosting him and maybe get him another date. But first, Andy,

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Speaker 2: why don't you catch everybody up on your situation?

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Speaker 3: Yeah, so I met Serena on Bumble.

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Speaker 7: We've spent a few weeks talking facetiming before we finally

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Speaker 7: met or plans to meet up in person. And then

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Speaker 7: during that time, you know, I wore a T shirt,

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Speaker 7: plaid shorts, white shoes that she told me to pick out.

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Speaker 7: I was waiting for her and I got a text

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Speaker 3: So the date never happened, and I haven't heard from

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Speaker 3: her sex.

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Speaker 4: And it might be because he responded, bummer, All right, Andy,

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Speaker 4: are you ready to call her?

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Speaker 3: Yeah?

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Speaker 4: Okay, here we go. Hello, Hi, man speak to Serena.

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Speaker 3: Please m.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, Hi Serena. My name is Jewbell. I host so

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Speaker 4: Rato show. It's called the Jewbel Show. Hi, Serena, I'm Nina.

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Speaker 4: The whole show's here. Hi, and I'm Victoria.

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Speaker 3: How are you.

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Speaker 1: Hi? I'm good.

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Speaker 4: We're calling you today because we got an email about

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Speaker 4: you from somebody who listens to the show and they

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Speaker 4: wanted us to call you. Okay, So we do a

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Speaker 4: segment on the show. It's called the first Date follow Up.

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Speaker 4: What that is is if you go out on a

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Speaker 4: date with somebody and then you end up ghosting them,

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Speaker 4: they can ask us to get you on the phone

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Speaker 4: and ask why you're them. So a dude named Andy

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Speaker 4: emailed us. He told us about your date. Well, the

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Speaker 4: date that didn't happen, and then asked if we could

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Speaker 4: call you and ask why are you ghosted him?

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Speaker 1: Wow, that's really cute. You know, he's that far to

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Speaker 1: see what happened, so.

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Speaker 4: You think it's cute. Is your dog? Okay?

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Speaker 1: No, no, I didn't. He's just not what I thought

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Speaker 4: And uh, the dog, no, Andy, Andie, do you have

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Speaker 4: a dog?

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Speaker 1: Even? Whoa? I mean we chatted for a while in

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Speaker 1: a bumble. It was nice getting to know him. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: and he also like, I actually don't have a dog.

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Speaker 4: I figured that's where it was going.

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Speaker 1: Yeah. So when I walked up to go to the

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Speaker 1: date they we didn't go on, I saw him sitting

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Speaker 1: there like a puppy dog. He had like a rose

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Speaker 1: and some dirty white sneakers, and I'm just like, I'm

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Speaker 1: not busy, but Helena keeps up the sneakers just kind

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Speaker 4: Lot, you know, So it's the dirty shoes.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, Like I don't know, just it wasn't. He didn't

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Speaker 4: Wait, but he had a rose there, yeah, but he

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Speaker 4: just like I was just sitting.

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Speaker 1: There like a like a bad puppy dog.

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Speaker 5: Like it just like, I don't know, you felt like

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Speaker 5: you could bulldozehim. I mean sometimes sometimes that's sometimes that's

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Speaker 5: the thing. I mean it sounds a little shallow, but

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Speaker 1: Yeah, and if I did have a dog and he

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Speaker 1: replied a bummers or your dogs like come on, okay.

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Speaker 5: So it was because he was sitting like a puppy

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Speaker 5: dog and he had dirty sneakers. Oh so what did

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Speaker 4: Man to you?

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Speaker 1: I mean, come on, it's the first day. If you

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Speaker 4: Like wear some like, come on, like was it a nice,

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Speaker 1: I mean I wasn't a fatty restaurant. It was just

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Speaker 1: like a caffe. But still, come on, like, come on,

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Speaker 1: just at least wash your shoes or buy a new

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Speaker 5: I get presenting yourself nicely. I wouldn't And we don't

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Speaker 4: I do. I try not to wear dirty shoes if

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Speaker 1: Well I cared, and I was just sitting there with

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Speaker 1: like a rose. Now it's really wimpy, you know.

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Speaker 2: Well okay, well, thank you for telling us. And now, Serena,

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Speaker 2: I'll let you know that Andy is actually on the

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Speaker 2: phone listening and wants to talk to you.

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Speaker 3: What say, I'm a whimp because I have dirty shoes

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Speaker 3: and a rose. You lied about having a sick dog.

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Speaker 1: I mean.

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Speaker 3: I was wearing when you told me to wear. I

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Speaker 1: And you know, come on, first impressions or kind of

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Speaker 1: big Well, I went out and.

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Speaker 6: Bought a new shirt and plaid shorts because I didn't

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Speaker 3: I'm sorry.

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Speaker 1: Oh that's a bummer.

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Speaker 3: So you so you saw me sitting there, and instead

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Speaker 6: Like an adult, you just walked away and hid lied

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Speaker 6: about having a dog that was sick, and you're saying

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Speaker 6: that I'm aware, yeah, I mean a little bit.

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Speaker 1: And you don't even look like your pictures, so.

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Speaker 3: You know what, you didn't look like your pictures either.

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Speaker 3: You didn't look evil.

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Speaker 2: Well, I think that was the appropriate time to ask Serena,

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Speaker 2: would you like to go on another day with Andy?

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Speaker 4: We'll pay for it.

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Speaker 1: No, thank you, no.

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Speaker 3: Good luck, though I wish you the best.

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Speaker 4: Candy, somebody's gonna appreciate your rose.

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Speaker 3: Thank you. I think I'm dodging a bullet, you know what.

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Speaker 6: Well, I'll pay attention to if you ever do end

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Speaker 6: up getting a dog, and I'm gonna call a spc

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Speaker 6: I on you, because yeah, you shouldn't be owning an animals.

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Speaker 4: Jubile's first Date follow up