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Speaker 2: Zach is on the phone today for a first date
Speaker 2: follow up and he's getting ghosted by Leah. So in
Speaker 2: a few minutes we'll call her and see if she'll
Speaker 2: tell us why she's ghosting him and maybe get him
Speaker 2: another date. But first, Zach, how long has it been
Speaker 2: since you heard from Leah?
Speaker 3: It's been about a week.
Speaker 2: Okay.
Speaker 4: That's kind of a sweet spot where people start to
Speaker 4: panic a little bit, you know, I get that, though.
Speaker 4: Have you tried to reach out to her?
Speaker 3: I have and honestly just going straight to voicemail.
Speaker 2: Oh man, Oh that's got to hurt. Yeah, anyway, tell
Speaker 2: us about your date.
Speaker 3: Well, we didn't do anything too crazy. I cooked her
Speaker 3: dinner at my place, and like, I really can cook,
Speaker 3: so it was a good time. We played some Monopoly
Speaker 3: and how long was the date?
Speaker 2: Like seven hours? Monopoly takes forever.
Speaker 3: Came over for dinner around seven, We started playing around
Speaker 3: a thirty. She didn't leave for a long time.
Speaker 2: Yeah, it was a joke, really, but that's okay.
Speaker 4: It sounds like you guys are really enjoying each other's
Speaker 4: company ish.
Speaker 3: Yeah. No, Like I even let her be the car,
Speaker 3: so clearly she's winning. L I well, uh, we messed
Speaker 3: around a little bit. It was fun.
Speaker 2: Like when you say messed around a little bit, you
Speaker 2: don't have to give us like details, but what's a
Speaker 2: little bit, Like did you guys hook up all the way?
Speaker 5: That is details?
Speaker 2: Yeah, like all the details. We had a good time, Okay.
Speaker 3: You know at the end, I thought we were we were
Speaker 3: gonna like hang out because she said, you know, let's
Speaker 3: do this again, and I thought that was not facetious.
Speaker 3: And I haven't really heard back.
Speaker 4: Did anything happen like during monopoly or while you guys
Speaker 4: were messing around? That may be a reason why.
Speaker 3: No, Like so like during monopoly, everything was going great.
Speaker 3: We're connecting and you know, everything like flowed really really well,
Speaker 3: and like he's probably the most beautiful woman I've ever
Speaker 3: seen in my life.
Speaker 2: And oh okay.
Speaker 3: It had me like wondering, like do I just have
Speaker 3: bad lighting in my house? And like is it like
Speaker 3: a nightclub in there? But like the only thing I
Speaker 3: could think of is I have a picture of my
Speaker 3: son by the door, and uh, I noticed that she
Speaker 3: glanced at it, but she didn't say anything, and uh,
Speaker 3: maybe that preaks her out.
Speaker 4: Did she already know that you have a son?
Speaker 3: No? Like, I didn't really know how to bring it up.
Speaker 2: Okay, so you didn't tell her you have a kid?
Speaker 3: No, not yet.
Speaker 2: See, I think I'll be gold if you were dating,
Speaker 2: if you're a single dad, I feel like that'd be good.
Speaker 4: I mean some people are super into it. Meybing one
Speaker 4: of those people behind me. Yeah, well, so did you
Speaker 4: notice her like looking at it? Was there a moment
Speaker 4: that was kind of weird with that?
Speaker 3: No, she glanced at it, and you know, move forward.
Speaker 3: Everything seemed fine, nothing really changed. She asked me anything
Speaker 3: about it, So I didn't think that there was anything there.
Speaker 2: It could also be that you didn't mention it.
Speaker 3: Yeah, you know something you're just better left to be discovered.
Speaker 2: Right, But I mean for her, she might be like, oh,
Speaker 2: he didn't tell me he had a kid, like he's
Speaker 2: hiding things.
Speaker 3: Yeah, I mean maybe I should have just been led
Speaker 3: with that.
Speaker 2: Yeah.
Speaker 4: I wouldn't lead with it, but there's definitely a place
Speaker 4: where maybe that would come up in conversation, especially if
Speaker 4: she's at your house with a picture. But did that
Speaker 4: happen at the end of the night, in the middle
Speaker 4: of the night. I'm just trying to see, like if
Speaker 4: her mood shifted it all night.
Speaker 3: Okay, all right, well.
Speaker 2: We'll see if that is the reason. We'll play a song,
Speaker 2: come back and call her and see if she'll tell
Speaker 2: us why she's ghosting you and maybe get you another date. Okay,
Speaker 2: thank you, all right, play a song, come back. Get
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Speaker 2: Zach is on the phone and he's not getting a
Speaker 2: call back from Leah. So we're about to call her
Speaker 2: and see if she'll tell us why she's ghosting him
Speaker 2: and maybe get them another date. But before we do that, Zach,
Speaker 2: refresh our memory about your day with Leah.
Speaker 3: So she came over to my place. I made her dinner,
Speaker 3: We played Monopoly. We had an amazing time. I think
Speaker 3: she's the prettiest girl I've ever seen. And I've been
Speaker 3: getting ghosted for about a week now.
Speaker 4: Why was it again that you think you might be
Speaker 4: getting ghosted?
Speaker 3: I mean, before she walked out, she noticed the picture
Speaker 3: of my son on the wall, and I'm not sure
Speaker 3: that freaked her out.
Speaker 4: A little bit because you didn't tell her.
Speaker 3: Yeah yeah, I mean I didn't really know her to
Speaker 3: put that in a first date conversation.
Speaker 2: You ready for us to call her?
Speaker 3: Yeah?
Speaker 2: All right, here we go. Hello, Hi, man speak to Leah. Please,
Speaker 2: this is hard.
Speaker 5: I'm not going to have you.
Speaker 2: Leah was up. This is a radio show. It's called
Speaker 2: The Jewbil Show. How are you, hi, Leah.
Speaker 4: I'm Nina.
Speaker 2: Hi, I'm Victoria and my name is Jewbel.
Speaker 5: Oh my god. I didn't I think people actually did
Speaker 5: this in real life.
Speaker 6: I mean, like you hear clips online, but I didn't
Speaker 6: know it was actually real.
Speaker 2: So you actually have heard of the show?
Speaker 5: Oh yeah, totally sweet.
Speaker 2: Great. Well, Leah, do you know why we're calling.
Speaker 5: I'm hoping I won something.
Speaker 2: Oh, I'm hoping you did too. We do a segment
Speaker 2: called the First Day follow Up this where if you
Speaker 2: go on a date with someone and you ghost them,
Speaker 2: they can email us to call you and ask why
Speaker 2: you're ghosting them. Oh, I'm not telling you that for
Speaker 2: no reason. That's the reason we're calling. He's you're ghosting
Speaker 2: somebody and they emailed us because they're wondering why you're
Speaker 2: not calling them back, more specifically, why you're just sending
Speaker 2: him to the voicemail when they call you.
Speaker 5: Okay, well it's definitely zact then huh.
Speaker 2: Yes it is. Oh, can you tell us why you're
Speaker 2: ghosting him? He really wants to know.
Speaker 5: Okay, the date was great. He's clearly a nice guy.
Speaker 6: I think we had a lot of fun, but someone
Speaker 6: has definitely been there beside me, and I think she
Speaker 6: was cooking, like right before you you mean, I mean,
Speaker 6: I wouldn't be surprised.
Speaker 7: Like his place is immaculate, like it looks amazing.
Speaker 6: And I'm talking like this is not guys stuff, right,
Speaker 6: Like there's perfectly arranged flowers, decorative pillows literally everywhere, and.
Speaker 3: I don't know.
Speaker 4: Somewhere they've been usually been taught.
Speaker 6: And I guess that's what I'm saying, is like it
Speaker 6: felt like I've walked into Pinterest. It's doing it and
Speaker 6: it was very nice, and he just kind of so
Speaker 6: this is where it gets this where it's word. So
Speaker 6: I mentioned that I'm like, wow, your place is really beautiful,
Speaker 6: and he goes He just like casually says, yeah, my
Speaker 6: ex was an interior designer and still brings me fresh
Speaker 6: flowers and decorates every once in a while.
Speaker 4: She still brings him fresh flowers.
Speaker 5: I guess, and I'm twice a week.
Speaker 2: Wait, lea, that's Zach. He's actually on the phone list thing.
Speaker 2: I wants to talk to you.
Speaker 8: Oh okay, I didn't know you were high.
Speaker 4: So let's pick back up, Zach, your experts. Flowers still
Speaker 4: to your house.
Speaker 3: It's not like that. Like she's just an interior designer
Speaker 3: and she likes arranging stuff and it's the project for her,
Speaker 3: and we haven't been together in forever, and there's nothing
Speaker 3: that's going on between us. Zac.
Speaker 5: There are throw pillows.
Speaker 6: No man has that many simos I do unless someone
Speaker 6: else is acting.
Speaker 2: I've got a lots throw pillows. Yeah, I can couch stuff.
Speaker 5: I like it though, Okay, I mean yeah, I mean
Speaker 5: I like having a nice place, and like, I guess,
Speaker 5: maybe flowers and pillows are a bit much.
Speaker 3: But like she's not living there, Like I can't just
Speaker 3: have a little bit of taste and appreciate some pressed
Speaker 3: flowers here in there.
Speaker 4: I don't even know that it's because you have a
Speaker 4: nice playsack. It almost seems like this is her way
Speaker 4: of being like, what's the deal with your ex?
Speaker 6: Yeah, you can have flowers. I think they're cool. It's
Speaker 6: clearly pretty, but they're coming from your ex.
Speaker 3: All right. Wait, so this is absolutely nothing to do
Speaker 3: with the g sing a photo of my son?
Speaker 5: What son?
Speaker 3: The picture that I saw you glancing at on the wall.
Speaker 8: So you lied to me twice, Your ex decorates your house,
Speaker 8: and you have a kid that you never mentioned. I
Speaker 8: feel like those good things to just skip over.
Speaker 3: Okay, Okay, I get where you're coming from. Hill for
Speaker 3: a second, it looks like reset. Okay, let's just start fresh. Hey,
Speaker 3: I have a son. I have a good relationship with
Speaker 3: his mom. She's an interior designer, and she keeps the
Speaker 3: place nice for him, not me. She has a boyfriend,
Speaker 3: by the way, and she's supported of whoever I choose
Speaker 3: to date.
Speaker 4: Wait, so backup, So your ex is also your baby mom?
Speaker 3: Yeah, okay, that's why she's still over. She brings my
Speaker 3: son over and she brings a few things, and like,
Speaker 3: it's probably for him to feel more comfortable, so that
Speaker 3: his place that he's staying in with her is similar
Speaker 3: to my place. She doesn't want me to look bad
Speaker 3: in front of our kid, and like it creates a
Speaker 3: more comforting environment. So I'm open towards having my place
Speaker 3: have some thrill pillows and some flowers, as long as
Speaker 3: it makes my son happy.
Speaker 6: I mean, look, Zach, that's all well and good, but
Speaker 6: I don't see why you couldn't have told me that sooner.
Speaker 5: I really don't feel like this was when I should
Speaker 5: have been, you know.
Speaker 7: I mean, like, that's not something you just drop on
Speaker 7: someone after a date, and like, I just feel like
Speaker 7: it feels like you held out on that, like you
Speaker 7: kept it a secret for me or something.
Speaker 3: No. Like, listen, you're the first person I've gone on
Speaker 3: a day with in a very very long time. I
Speaker 3: did intentionally. I'm actually interested in you. It's just I
Speaker 3: didn't really know how to bring that up into the conversation.
Speaker 3: I thought that was more of like a second day conversation.
Speaker 3: I thought the first day was just to see how
Speaker 3: we connect without complicating the scenario. It's not really something
Speaker 3: I did intentionally, And I'm sorry if you feel like
Speaker 3: that was what's helped for me, But that wasn't one.
Speaker 5: Of those things.
Speaker 6: Just weird because when you asked me about my family,
Speaker 6: I definitely mentioned everyone in it.
Speaker 5: I didn't skip a child.
Speaker 3: Listen, I would really love to like see you again
Speaker 3: and take you out again. And you know, if you're
Speaker 3: open towards it, you know, it's just I didn't know
Speaker 3: how to bring that up in a conversation. This is
Speaker 3: You're the first person I've got on a date with
Speaker 3: since Lea.
Speaker 2: Would you like to go on another day with Zach?
Speaker 2: Will pay for it?
Speaker 5: My heart wants to say yes, but I feel like
Speaker 5: I should say no. I've had this happen to me before.
Speaker 7: I've had an ex who held out that he had
Speaker 7: kids and it did not go well.
Speaker 5: Like, so, yeah, he had two and he didn't tell me.
Speaker 7: Until like four months into dating, which like obviously way worse.
Speaker 5: But like, this just gives me bad vibes.
Speaker 3: I'm not comfortable the fact that after a first day
Speaker 3: you found out I have a kid. You're not comfortable.
Speaker 3: I mean, I guess if you don't want to be
Speaker 3: around a kid. I mean, I don't think I liked you.
Speaker 3: I didn't. I didn't bring up something I did asked.
Speaker 7: About your family, and you didn't mention a child, Like
Speaker 7: that's longing, it's lying by omission.
Speaker 3: I didn't lie to you. I just what's held the trip?
Speaker 6: You sound like a delight. Yeah no, that's just like lying,
Speaker 6: but with wrapping paper on it.
Speaker 3: I guess we can agree disagreement if.
Speaker 6: That's why you want to put it, fine, but yeah no,
Speaker 6: mm hmmm, not doing that again. I'm not going down
Speaker 6: that road twice.
Speaker 3: And that's the last time I let somebody win a monopoly.
Speaker 2: Wow.
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