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Speaker 1: Yeah, they talk better than the excited.

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Speaker 2: Tell them about Tell me that these are the radio

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Speaker 2: blogs on the Fred Show. All right, it's like we're

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Speaker 2: writing in our diaries, except we say them aloud. We

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Speaker 2: call them blogs who decided to do anyone may, all right,

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Speaker 2: take it away, Thank.

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Speaker 1: You so much, dear blog.

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Speaker 3: See. I think everybody in this room either knows or

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Speaker 3: has like an old person in their life that just

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Speaker 3: does and says what they want at all costs, like

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Speaker 3: they don't care.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, okay, I'm that person. Oh but it's not because

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Speaker 1: I'm an.

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Speaker 3: Old lady, even though I am, you know, older and

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Speaker 3: old broad is what I call myself around the house

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Speaker 3: these days, you knows, a busy household. For me, it's

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Speaker 3: truly having a baby that changed a lot in me.

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Speaker 3: And I'm only like six weeks in. Guys, we're seven

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Speaker 3: weeks in. I'm only seven weeks in. But for me,

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Speaker 3: I feel like I've changed a lot in the sense

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Speaker 3: of like I really I mean I kind of already

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Speaker 3: done this before, but now I.

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Speaker 2: Really do it.

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Speaker 1: I just kind of say.

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Speaker 3: What I want to say, and like I just like

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Speaker 3: don't care and not a bad disrespect the way I

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Speaker 3: just like literally like I'm doing what I want to do.

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Speaker 1: I don't feel bad about stuff anymore.

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Speaker 2: Like, why do you think that happened? Because, yeah, I've

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Speaker 2: noticed this Paulina with my mom as she gets older. Yes,

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Speaker 2: I've noticed that she just gives fewer fs about really anything.

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Speaker 2: And she's the most lovely, kind, generous, giving person. It's

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Speaker 2: not that it's not like she's out here raging. No, no, no,

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Speaker 2: but she says exactly what she's thinking. She kind of

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Speaker 2: refuses to adapt to like social norms. I mean like

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Speaker 2: because she and I think the problem with my mom

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Speaker 2: is that, like in her mind, she knows what she means,

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Speaker 2: and she knows where she's coming from. Yes, but unfortunately

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Speaker 2: nobody takes into consideration context anymore. People just get mad

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Speaker 2: about whatever happened right now. They don't even consider the source.

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Speaker 2: So with age, I understand why it's happening. But why

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Speaker 2: do you think when the kid comes out that you

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Speaker 2: just decided to sort of let it all hang out?

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Speaker 1: I don't know.

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Speaker 3: I started thinking about that too, and I was like,

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Speaker 3: I wonder if it's just a different side of me,

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Speaker 3: because is.

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Speaker 1: It like empowerment?

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Speaker 2: Is it like I grew a baby inside of me

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Speaker 2: and it came from my loins. And now like all

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Speaker 2: of you can suck it.

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Speaker 1: You can't tell me nothing like I put you one

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Speaker 1: of the hardest things it is a human has to

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Speaker 1: go through. Maybe that's it. Yeah, and you're just like

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Speaker 1: no time anymore.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, right, I could do anything, and even like my

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Speaker 3: people pleasing has really gone down, and I.

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Speaker 1: Know, I know the day has come. I need to

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Speaker 1: have a baby.

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Speaker 2: You think it is, I think it's honestly, I think

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Speaker 2: it's that you now realize there's stuff way more important

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Speaker 2: than the stuff that you were worried about before, Like

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Speaker 2: those are the things that that that you were apologizing for,

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Speaker 2: the things that consumed you. Maybe I think you maybe

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Speaker 2: don't have the energy like to worry about fact which

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Speaker 2: real sort of needless stuff, because I mean you worry

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Speaker 2: about You used to worry about stuff and it would

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Speaker 2: be like Paulina like that no one, no one else

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Speaker 2: is worried about it, Like, don't worry about it.

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Speaker 1: Oh yeah, I mean still do, I feel, but not

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Speaker 2: There's only so much in the worry bank. And I

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Speaker 2: I gotta figure that you wake up every day and

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Speaker 2: you're like, I got to keep.

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Speaker 1: This human alive.

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Speaker 2: There's not enough time for me to worry about, right,

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Speaker 3: I'm mad at me, you know, who's not talking to

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Speaker 3: me today? Like yeah, the little things, you know, and

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Speaker 3: those are things are still important of course, Like I like,

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Speaker 1: You know, sometimes it depends. But I just feel like

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Speaker 1: I just the f's are going down.

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Speaker 3: And maybe it is because like I did one of

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Speaker 3: the hardest things in the world, and like you said,

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Speaker 3: I wake up every day and priorities are just so different,

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Speaker 3: like I have to keep a human alife, like this

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Speaker 3: is my responsibility.

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Speaker 1: And yeah, I just the people pleasing has gone down.

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Speaker 3: I'm like, you know, if I don't do this, like

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Speaker 3: no offense, but like I don't care if you're mad,

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Speaker 3: Like I don't care.

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Speaker 2: I really wish I had more of that because my

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Speaker 2: problem is I don't have anyone else to worry about

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Speaker 2: about myself, and I have so much idle time that

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Speaker 2: i'd leave here and I can just sit and just

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Speaker 2: think about everything, you know, and I mean listen, and

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Speaker 2: I don't maybe if I'm not saying I'm gonna go

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Speaker 2: have a baby, so I could minimize that. I just

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Speaker 2: think it's probably it would just be a different kind

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Speaker 2: of stress. But at least that stress is about enriching

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Speaker 2: a child, you know, and providing her with a great life,

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Speaker 2: as opposed to sitting around going why does this person

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Speaker 2: hate me? Why is this person talking about me? Because

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Speaker 2: that stuff doesn't matter.

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Speaker 1: No, it really doesn't.

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Speaker 3: And like you said, I just want to focus on

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Speaker 3: her and just like you know, her well being, making

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Speaker 3: sure she's taken care of, Like that's just all that

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Speaker 1: In a sense, I pray for having because I went

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Speaker 1: through the same situation like when Jess had actually and

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Speaker 1: it's just like, you know, that's the most important thing

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Speaker 1: in the world, and then you just fall like it's

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Speaker 1: just like anything you do is wrong.

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Speaker 2: No, No, I'm just.

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Speaker 3: Like's yeah, yeah, yeah, No one's gonna do it like me.

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Speaker 1: I'm sorry, I'm mom, No one's gonna do it like me.

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Speaker 1: So he does a good job, but yes he doesn't

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Speaker 1: hear it from me. That is true. But but but

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Speaker 1: then of the day, who's priority right now? It's a baby?

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Speaker 1: I'm her survival When she looks at me, she sees survival.

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Speaker 1: It's just the truth. No, you're right, No, she counts

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Speaker 1: on you for it, literally everything. And when she sees you.

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Speaker 2: I was holding her and when she heard your voice

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Speaker 2: and was like waking up, just looking for you.

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Speaker 1: So sweet. Oh it's my baby.

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Speaker 2: Yeah. And she's getting prettier as she gets older too.

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Speaker 2: And that hair, that hair on baby hair.

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Speaker 3: I know.

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Speaker 2: I think it all starts. Guys, we just need to

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Speaker 2: pop something out of our loins. Is that we need

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Speaker 2: to do, Like, yeah, that would be my first step

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Speaker 2: in caring less about a bunch of stuff that doesn't

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Speaker 2: it's just figuring out how to get a baby.

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Speaker 3: Oh, I just think like it just it just changed

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Speaker 3: it for me, you know what I mean? And I

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Speaker 3: didn't think it would. I was like, I'll never stop

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Speaker 3: people pleasing knowing me and the way my mental health

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Speaker 1: I'm like, this will never stop. But yeah, slowly but sure.

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Speaker 2: And I'm not even pandering, Like what you guys do

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Speaker 2: is superhuman honestly. Like the other what was it on

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Speaker 2: TikTok or Instagram or something somebody posted It was around

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Speaker 2: Mother's Day and it was like, be I think it

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Speaker 2: was Mark Chaseky works for the company. He said, make

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Speaker 2: sure you get your mom somebody from Mother's Day. And

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Speaker 2: it showed it was like a there was a piece

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Speaker 2: of wood with a bunch of circles cut out of

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Speaker 2: it to show like the centimeter dilation basically of like

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Speaker 2: a baby's head, and it showed like how what ten

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Speaker 2: centimeters looks like around I'm like, oh my.

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Speaker 1: God, that thing can do that.

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Speaker 2: Oh my god. I will never ever piss my mom

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Speaker 2: off ever again again now that I've seen that.