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Speaker 1: you here. It is bro Mary Letter Well, Shelley's not

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Speaker 1: here everybody, So we're gonna do it a little bit

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Speaker 1: different today. I'm gonna read it, and I guess we're

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Speaker 1: gonna How are we doing this today? Carler? You read it?

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Speaker 1: Here we go subject. I should curse him out and

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Speaker 1: call his wife, Dear Steven Shirley. I've been married for

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Speaker 1: through a lot, but we're still together. I have a

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Speaker 1: situation that I need help with and it doesn't involve

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Speaker 1: my husband. A year ago, a guy at the gym

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Speaker 1: it was all hugs and kisses, but then it escalated

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Speaker 1: to sex. We were intimate on several occasions, and each

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Speaker 1: a real problem, though, because now I can't get this

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Speaker 1: I will admit that he's charming, so I gave in

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Speaker 1: a few more times, but that was it. Though now

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Speaker 1: I need him to understand that it has to stop.

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Speaker 1: God warned me of the consequences of my actions, and

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Speaker 1: he has been too good. He has been too It

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Speaker 1: word missing. I thought about reporting my ex lover to

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Speaker 1: anything to hurt his family. I told one of my good,

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Speaker 1: good girlfriends what was going on, and she suggested that

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Speaker 1: I curse him out real loud, make a scene, and

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Speaker 1: be turned on by all that. Jesus, I just wanted

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Speaker 1: him to leave me alone? How about threatened to call

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Speaker 1: this before you answer. Caller, Lord Jesus. Okay, for real.

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Speaker 1: I'm you know, the only way out of this situation

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Speaker 1: is to cut all ties with this man. Number One,

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Speaker 1: you need to change gems, that's number one. Number two,

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Speaker 1: no social media. You have to resist all the urges

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Speaker 1: and all the temptations to get with this man. I'm

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Speaker 1: talking on friend him on Facebook, on tweet, his Twitter,

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Speaker 1: block him on the Graham. I'm nothing, no contact with

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Speaker 1: this man at all. You need to figure out what's

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Speaker 1: going on in your marriage. Why are you getting with

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Speaker 1: instead of your husband? Twenty five years you've been married

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Speaker 1: to this man. What is it? Are you bored? This

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Speaker 1: is a fantasy for you. This is just not cool.

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Speaker 1: You are making some very very bad decisions. You're lying,

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Speaker 1: and you're cheating, and you're in a full blown affair

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Speaker 1: and your husband. It will destroy him. It will destroy

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Speaker 1: temptation to see this man because you know, and the letter, Steve,

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Speaker 1: it was like she was just so, you know, we kids,

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Speaker 1: This is nothing to be taken lightly. You have to

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Speaker 1: this is crazy. Yeah, because he's sister. I don't really

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Speaker 1: too much. You've been married twenty five, so you gotta

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Speaker 1: you say, after all that, I'll admit he's charming, So

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Speaker 1: He was good till your foe you did it. We'll

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Speaker 1: be back, all right, Steve, Today's Strawberry letter. You want

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Speaker 1: to recap this, this foolishness. Here, This woman been married

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Speaker 1: twenty five years ago, messing around with this dude. It's

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Speaker 1: And he'd been too good to me to keep doing

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Speaker 1: Whether God has been good to you or not, which

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Speaker 1: this man is wrong. So now you want to act

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Speaker 1: don't sound like you do. Then she said, I thought

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Speaker 1: about reporting my ex lover to management at the gym.

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Speaker 1: What what? What? What's that gonna do? He don't work

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Speaker 1: at the gym, He just go to the gym. Management.

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Speaker 1: Ain't got nothing to do with this, got to do

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Speaker 1: with what the hell is the gym? Sir? Sir? What

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Speaker 1: you know you can just end it. But then you said,

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Speaker 1: real hard and custom out. That's an ignorant ass response.

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Speaker 1: Then you said, knowing this man, he gonna be turned

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Speaker 1: on by all of that. Now, obviously you've hit him

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Speaker 1: doing some mo. Yeah, that's what's happening. Called this is this?

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Speaker 1: That's what that means? Yeah? Uh, I just want him

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Speaker 1: Leave me along? Carlinson to change gems and stop messing

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Speaker 1: wouldn't actually do it, but do you think it would work? Oh? Yeah,

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Speaker 1: it'll work. Call his wife. He'll leave you a loan then,

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Speaker 1: But like Carlin said, his wife's gonna call your husband.

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Speaker 1: for him because you liked the attention. Stop playing. You're

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Speaker 1: happened is you keep meeting his ass somewhere at the motown. YEA, yeah,

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Speaker 1: stop man, y'all do it. Y'all doing your jim work

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Speaker 1: out down that can double tree. See ye see that

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Speaker 1: one's happening all y'all workouts down at the day double Tree. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: you're keeping so now, don't don't don't come to me

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Speaker 1: with all of this righteous stuff you got going on,

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Speaker 1: the grown women know how to end relationships. Y'all know

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Speaker 1: how to do it. And this is not a game.

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Speaker 1: We don't have no advice for you. Just do what

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Speaker 1: That's all I got to say about it. Well, thank you, Steve,

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Speaker 1: you said it one comments on today's Strawberry Letter. Think

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