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Speaker 1: Like I don't like anyone in my body, in my purse,

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Speaker 2: Bad boys. Okay, there are different types of bad boys.

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Speaker 1: You chase the dog. The dog runs away, the dog

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Speaker 1: It's like men talking about that they're a very involved

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Speaker 1: Sudden, we're in the movie Goodwill Hunting when like Mini

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Speaker 1: like work at the rodeo And it's like you to

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Speaker 1: I'm never getting over this. And a fraternity party, how

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Speaker 1: How do I approach a girl out and about without

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Speaker 1: I would go basics, don't do something stupid like ask

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Speaker 1: You're having fun tonight? Whatever, like something normal. Just be normal.

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Speaker 1: And then if you don't get But if you don't

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Speaker 1: There is There are a few things besides divorce that

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Speaker 1: So we have reached a point where you will have

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Speaker 1: There are many ways to go planning the right proposal, though,

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Speaker 1: Make it a surprise. Fucking stick the landing. Google it,

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Speaker 1: But do a deep, deep dive, and you better make

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Speaker 1: It makes me jealous. How do I not act insecure?

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Speaker 1: to be in a relationship and be like too many

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Speaker 1: good guy friends.

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Speaker 2: It's a red flag. I'm going to commit a.

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Speaker 1: Relationship, but still thinking about other people doesn't mean it's

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Speaker 1: not right. It does in fact me and it's not right.

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Speaker 1: If you don't know yes, it's no, so just you know,

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Speaker 1: downgrade it in your mind. If you don't know a

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Speaker 1: resounding yes, it's a resounding no.

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Speaker 2: God, so hard.

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Speaker 1: To be so fucking smart, Just kidding that up